Whenever I feel like my life is punishing me, I just try to think of myself in comparison to other victims and I see how lucky I really am. I haven’t watched my children starve to death, I don’t have to walk a mile for clean water and I haven’t been forced into a refugee camp. Things could always be MUCH worse and somehow reminding myself that other people have much more challenging issues everyday helps me remain grateful.
For those who don't believe it is possible, my life experience is testament that this works. My whole childhood was traumatic. I suffered every kind of abuse, my parents divorced, my siblings split up & I & my younger brother lived with our grandma. I lived yearning for my mom, was sexually,physically, verbally abused, witnessed my aunt beaten to a pulp, constant violence & toxicity around me, distrust, fear, silent anger & a longing to end it all, while the family showed a facade of good christian community role models. It wasn’t easy, Im 48 and still healing, but I've flipped the narrative and I love with an open heart and attract good things & good people. My past does not define my worth. Other people's actions do not define who I am. Life is beautiful and magical.
My take: The story we tell/narrate about ourselves of the past define our perspective on life itself. Choose to remember and narrate positive incidents of yourself and others connected with you . Thank you lady
I am happy 100% with my life, though I don't have enough success to tell about, still I feel I didn’t do anything wrong to anybody in this world and could love everybody and could stublish myself at the same time as a singer and a teacher thus a youtuber.
It is been an absolute pleasure having people like you with all this value.Thank you for the immense effort you put into this work. You are absolutely killing it and in top of that you give what really we want as individuals to understand and reshape our thinking.
Wow so many new notions and technical words. I used to think I am a word warrior, but after listening to this, I have to start learning my vocabulary from scratch. I will take this lesson and spread it around me. Lady you are proving again that we never stop learning. Thank you.
Thank you! This is exactly what I needed to hear. What was holding me back from believing I was worth more...everything. Re-write, re-frame and the future is renewed!
Every person darkside ot trauma is the most strong n creative n untapped resource part of his emotions, if channeled in the right positive course...its very effective
Your videos are becoming so addictive. I listen to them everyday before going to bed and every morning once I wake up. This is more than something motivational. Your contents are awesome. You are a guiding stars for women like us out there. Thank you so much Shade 💓
Dr Joe Dispenza says- your personal reality eventually becomes your personality. It the what you experience, but the how you frame it and narrative you create. I have found this to be true
Narrative Identity is a powerful resource for making life changes. We can all reflect on our self-talk and make changes if needed. Negative self talk can become a habit and we firstly need awareness to change it...
I needed this today! Exactly what my husband and I were discussing. I complain, compare, negative, beat myself up, play victim, no purpose. I want to stop. I want to just be happy!
Thank you! Your words feel like those of an elder sister who has experienced life and now guides her younger siblings in navigating it. (Though you might actually be younger than me😃.)
This video is exactly what I needed to see at this time. I was dwelling in a frustrated and contaminated mindset due to a challenge at work. While I have learned to pivot and see things differently, this really hit home and guided me to fully accept, rewrite and move forward. Thank you so much.
I was very toxic, till I began to listen to helpful individuals like you. It's funny, we like to place ourselves as a victim,some times we do it to self or led ourselves into that very predicament and begin the stories. We all have had, failure, trauma, set backs. Instead of stepping back look from another set of eyes and beautiful mind.
This is exactly what I needed to hear today. It was a godsend to a question. I’ve been asking for the past few days. Perfect. I will move forward and continually placed this into practice. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
This video is like a treasure for every person who is on the path of self improvement. Changing the narrative can really redefine our whole life and how we perceive it. Shadè you are amazing.
This is exactly what i was needed this time ... I was feeling so low .. thinking I'm the most toxic person and i hurt everyone and want to relive everything to make things right ... but that's not how things work ... i can't relive but surely can rewrite my story in my head.... and use that for my growth ... I've learned alot and should feel take that as a win ... can't relate more to this ... Thank you for making my mind simpler an thoughtful
Beautifully conceptualized.... Ultimately it is "interpretation" That matters..... This video could be life changing for many... Big thanks to you for helping contaminated lives .... 👍
I carry the attitude of gratitude with me every day the past is just a story we tell ourselves rarely do we think of the power we hold for ourselves as authors and narrator ❤
Thanks for the lovely advice! You explain like a life teacher. It's not how challenging our situations are, it's how we learn from it even if something one feels it's not upto the mark. I tend to perceive everything as negative because I try everything to do as perfect as possible, when that does not happen, I feel that others are better, I am not suitable for this. I should perceive it as a learning experience.
A VERY well thought-out and structured episode on changing the stories we tell ourselves to change our lives. I deeply believe in this for quite some time. This is incredibly valuable for people. Thank you for sharing and helping people change their lives for the better, Shadé Zahrai!
You are simply fabulous. I think you prepare a lot before you appear on the camera. If it is just spontaneous, just can't believe! Your every word in this and other few, i watched, are treasures for self improvement. Hats off to you! May God bless you!
Shadé, what a great sharing you gave to us. Yes, it's right, what we narrate ourselves is important, it shapes our minds, being more positive, happy or depressed. Thanks for ur sharing.
Shade you are truly changing Lives,No Words... Thank you from the Core of My Heart Your All Videos are Commendable & Thoughtful! Lots of Love & Keep up the Good Work!!!
I must say that after watching much of your practical advice I just got some results. I am a retired Physics professor and always have too many ideas (scientific) to report to Journals and I feel that I have very little time left on this planet. I always used and still do multitask and write about 5 different papers at once. When I concentrate on one to complete sometimes something comes up in the journals that make my priorities change. But I get things done but when one paper is published I immediately start the next one. Sometimes I get 10 different articles in the press. I don't feel the joy of getting published. From now on I will reward myself and enjoy once a project is completed. Basically, I always felt that if I do not get the ideas before too long, nobody ever will. THANK YOU.
Your videos really work as booster dose to recycle my negative vibes into positive ones. You are blessed with immense knowledge and you keep sharing your thoughts so beautifully with us that one just keep longing for more to come .
I feel so previliged to find you. The precision in your presentation is awesome. Stay blessed for everything you do for unlifting us. Love you!❣️"The way we communicate with ourselves and others determine the quality of our life" Tony Robins, Unlimited Power
Your tone of narrating story is so powerful and so touching that anyone once watch your videos will for it. ..thank you for being so kind for making such a wonderful videos and helping people enriching the experience to live their life
spot on, and more importantly it's timely for me! this differs constructive thinking, that allows further growth, from positive thinking, that tends to ignore what happens. many thanks Shadé
Shade Zahrai, I was totally stucked before I start listening you. I was thinking why these things are happening with me? Why I have been through this? But, when I started to listen you now I am feeling more confident, back to track and progressing alhmdulilah. More power to you
Great insight, synthesized from multiple, authentic sources 👏🏽 . Grateful for the effort and the message, Shadè 🙏🏽. I am hopeful of following the steps and reaping the benefits 😃.
I'm so grateful that I found your channel Shade. What you shared is so helpful as I'm practicing in my life now whatever is useful to me when I need it the most. Thank You 🙇
I really appreciate your content Shade, you really did a great job by not only motivating people like me but, you also counsel and telling the meaning of live a happy life. Living Krishna you are❤️🙏
You are full of wisdom in your trade. I enjoy listening watching ur channel. Keep them Coming. Thanks you so much. More power to you. We need people like you to help people be better in facing life challenges and accomplishments. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I grew so much from my pain, it is insane and I developed great stability over the deacdes. Since trauma keeps happening to me it now gets harder and harder to again and again seek appreciation or meaning in there. I think the great trap I fell into is that I assumed to find a better future if I only remain strong, learn, grow and find appreciation for all the hardship of the past. But the future may be even worse. Life obvously isn´t here to be better or to be improve. It is only for the experience.
Thanks for sharing life changing vidoes to make our lifes happier and better if we also take our responsibility. It is so blessing having a amazing sister like you, Zahrai.
Shade, Thank you for your commitment, dedication, and hard work. Today..... has been a very hard and painful day.🥺😢💔 Personally, I need this one today.👏💜❗️ God Bless you.💜❗️
Jazak Allah Shade’ for all kind words and precious advice to decontaminate one’s story ….every one will benefit from your knowledge ….stay blessed…❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
It’s me.. I have everything a person can think of. I am smart , confident n technical strong n maintain good working relationships but complaint alot. Blame my husband of every hardwork I have to do. I got a great idea from this video 🥰🥰 My husband only shared this video with me
Thank you for this amazing experience you brought it and how any situation can bring about a positive life approach in dealing with bigger challenges and struggles
Very Nice. I have slight different view. 1 . Meditate 2. Have less desires 3 Have more clarity about yourself (who you truly are ) and your world around you.
You are unbelievably superb pack of knowlegde. What you deliver is awesome. Trust me, I needed to hear this video today Shade. Keep up with the work and I promise that I will pass this knowledge to the next required person. Keep up with this work plz. The world needs more of this or at least people like me need such videos a lot. In a world where there are almost never ending content, it is really good to see people like you making a geniune effort for mankind. I am very emotional and falling short of words to describe the gratitude towards you. Thanks again Shade!!!!!!!
I carry the attitude of gratitude with me every day. The past is just a story we tell ourselves, rarely do we think of the power we hold for ourselves as authors and narrators of our own lives. There are endless ways we can look at the story of our own lives. In our lives the perspective is forced somewhat involuntarily. But there are ways to be more mindful and intentional about your story and force a chosen perspective instead. What is the value in that? Thank you for helping us to our journey of life.
Whenever I feel like my life is punishing me, I just try to think of myself in comparison to other victims and I see how lucky I really am. I haven’t watched my children starve to death, I don’t have to walk a mile for clean water and I haven’t been forced into a refugee camp. Things could always be MUCH worse and somehow reminding myself that other people have much more challenging issues everyday helps me remain grateful.
For those who don't believe it is possible, my life experience is testament that this works. My whole childhood was traumatic. I suffered every kind of abuse, my parents divorced, my siblings split up & I & my younger brother lived with our grandma. I lived yearning for my mom, was sexually,physically, verbally abused, witnessed my aunt beaten to a pulp, constant violence & toxicity around me, distrust, fear, silent anger & a longing to end it all, while the family showed a facade of good christian community role models. It wasn’t easy, Im 48 and still healing, but I've flipped the narrative and I love with an open heart and attract good things & good people. My past does not define my worth. Other people's actions do not define who I am. Life is beautiful and magical.
My take: The story we tell/narrate about ourselves of the past define our perspective on life itself. Choose to remember and narrate positive incidents of yourself and others connected with you . Thank you lady
I am happy 100% with my life, though I don't have enough success to tell about, still I feel I didn’t do anything wrong to anybody in this world and could love everybody and could stublish myself at the same time as a singer and a teacher thus a youtuber.
It is been an absolute pleasure having people like you with all this value.Thank you for the immense effort you put into this work.
You are absolutely killing it and in top of that you give what really we want as individuals to understand and reshape our thinking.
Thank you Khalid, we're so glad that the content is of value!
Wow so many new notions and technical words.
I used to think I am a word warrior, but after listening to this, I have to start learning my vocabulary from scratch.
I will take this lesson and spread it around me.
Lady you are proving again that we never stop learning.
Thank you.
Yeah,I am the same way.I have a lot of pain in my left hip.
Thank you! This is exactly what I needed to hear. What was holding me back from believing I was worth more...everything. Re-write, re-frame and the future is renewed!
Every person darkside ot trauma is the most strong n creative n untapped resource part of his emotions, if channeled in the right positive course...its very effective
Your videos are becoming so addictive. I listen to them everyday before going to bed and every morning once I wake up. This is more than something motivational. Your contents are awesome. You are a guiding stars for women like us out there. Thank you so much Shade 💓
Thank you Shade! Your assistance to the mental health of this world is truly the work of a light being!
Going through a transition right now. This comes at a right time…♥️❤️♥️
Dr Joe Dispenza says- your personal reality eventually becomes your personality. It the what you experience, but the how you frame it and narrative you create. I have found this to be true
Narrative Identity is a powerful resource for making life changes. We can all reflect on our self-talk and make changes if needed. Negative self talk can become a habit and we firstly need awareness to change it...
Super Useful Guidelines for the office.. real behavioral science ... Thank you from South Africa 🇿🇦 ❤
I needed this today! Exactly what my husband and I were discussing. I complain, compare, negative, beat myself up, play victim, no purpose. I want to stop. I want to just be happy!
Thank you! Your words feel like those of an elder sister who has experienced life and now guides her younger siblings in navigating it. (Though you might actually be younger than me😃.)
This video is exactly what I needed to see at this time. I was dwelling in a frustrated and contaminated mindset due to a challenge at work. While I have learned to pivot and see things differently, this really hit home and guided me to fully accept, rewrite and move forward. Thank you so much.
Glad it was helpful and timley!
Shade you are a super star.
I was very toxic, till I began to listen to helpful individuals like you.
It's funny, we like to place ourselves as a victim,some times we do it to self or led ourselves into that very predicament and begin the stories.
We all have had, failure, trauma, set backs. Instead of stepping back look from another set of eyes and beautiful mind.
Thank you Shade. This is of high value to me on a professional identity crisis.
I'm going on holiday and I'll enjoy doing these exercises ❤
A potentially painful concept, beautifully and gently delivered. Thank you 🙏
I am grateful for these nine minutes that I spend on this video. Ty Shade
Thank you so much for this video. I feel like this is God’s touch for me to rewrite my story for the better. Thank you so much!!! ❤❤❤
This is exactly what I needed to hear today. It was a godsend to a question. I’ve been asking for the past few days. Perfect. I will move forward and continually placed this into practice. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
I love these serendipitous moments. Thank you for sharing and delighted this little video was of some small service.
This video is like a treasure for every person who is on the path of self improvement. Changing the narrative can really redefine our whole life and how we perceive it. Shadè you are amazing.
This is exactly what i was needed this time ... I was feeling so low .. thinking I'm the most toxic person and i hurt everyone and want to relive everything to make things right ... but that's not how things work ... i can't relive but surely can rewrite my story in my head.... and use that for my growth ... I've learned alot and should feel take that as a win ... can't relate more to this ... Thank you for making my mind simpler an thoughtful
Good one ma'am 👍🏻
I came across this concept for the first time.
I voted the most important person in RUclips right now is this iron young lady kudos my mentor and all the very best
Beautifully conceptualized.... Ultimately it is "interpretation" That matters..... This video could be life changing for many... Big thanks to you for helping contaminated lives .... 👍
Couldn't agree more!
Exactly
I carry the attitude of gratitude with me every day the past is just a story we tell ourselves rarely do we think of the power we hold for ourselves as authors and narrator ❤
It really is about looking outside yourself, seeing it from a different angle and learning from it. It really can be an awakening imho
Thanks for the lovely advice! You explain like a life teacher. It's not how challenging our situations are, it's how we learn from it even if something one feels it's not upto the mark. I tend to perceive everything as negative because I try everything to do as perfect as possible, when that does not happen, I feel that others are better, I am not suitable for this. I should perceive it as a learning experience.
A VERY well thought-out and structured episode on changing the stories we tell ourselves to change our lives. I deeply believe in this for quite some time.
This is incredibly valuable for people. Thank you for sharing and helping people change their lives for the better, Shadé Zahrai!
Thank you, Shadé! Very, very helpful. May the light you share always bless you!
You are so welcome Ana! Thank you for the kind words. 🙏🏽
Concept is crafted in another level... It's opportunity to re write our story and to have spark to our perspective... Simply superb
You are simply fabulous. I think you prepare a lot before you appear on the camera. If it is just spontaneous, just can't believe! Your every word in this and other few, i watched, are treasures for self improvement. Hats off to you! May God bless you!
Thank you, great concept... adding an example would have been nice...👍
I am so messed up and screwed up my life. I can’t let go and move on. It just leads to more pain and suffering.
@@alexfinn7989 she is giving you a tremendous gift on how to move forward. Is your responsibility to accept this gift and do something with it?
Shadé, what a great sharing you gave to us. Yes, it's right, what we narrate ourselves is important, it shapes our minds, being more positive, happy or depressed. Thanks for ur sharing.
I coped with my severe trauma the same way as you explained. And it transformed my thinking.
Shade you are truly changing Lives,No Words...
Thank you from the Core of My Heart
Your All Videos are Commendable & Thoughtful!
Lots of Love & Keep up the Good Work!!!
I must say that after watching much of your practical advice I just got some results. I am a retired Physics professor and always have too many ideas (scientific) to report to Journals and I feel that I have very little time left on this planet. I always used and still do multitask and write about 5 different papers at once. When I concentrate on one to complete sometimes something comes up in the journals that make my priorities change. But I get things done but when one paper is published I immediately start the next one. Sometimes I get 10 different articles in the press. I don't feel the joy of getting published. From now on I will reward myself and enjoy once a project is completed. Basically, I always felt that if I do not get the ideas before too long, nobody ever will. THANK YOU.
Thank you dear Shade for this amazing session! Lots to learn from this short yet highly impactful session! Thanks again.
Your videos really work as booster dose to recycle my negative vibes into positive ones. You are blessed with immense knowledge and you keep sharing your thoughts so beautifully with us that one just keep longing for more to come .
Really This woman is inspiring to me and never forget seeing her video
I feel so previliged to find you. The precision in your presentation is awesome. Stay blessed for everything you do for unlifting us. Love you!❣️"The way we communicate with ourselves and others determine the quality of our life" Tony Robins, Unlimited Power
Your tone of narrating story is so powerful and so touching that anyone once watch your videos will for it. ..thank you for being so kind for making such a wonderful videos and helping people enriching the experience to live their life
Thanks Shade' - much appreciation from South Africa and Zimbabwe
You're welcome Jika. Beautiful part of the world!
Brilliant Insight Shade Zahari...God Bles You... Thank You Shade...
It's been a pleasure listening to all that you have to teach us ... You make us learn from our own experience, a whole new perspective... Thanks a ton
spot on, and more importantly it's timely for me! this differs constructive thinking, that allows further growth, from positive thinking, that tends to ignore what happens. many thanks Shadé
Never thought a nine minute video can deliver that Enormous amount of value👏👏🙌🙌..
keep this spirit straight up to sky and thanks a lot🙏 namaste
Miss you are outstanding. Thanks for this work. Please! Pray for Us.
Shade Zahrai, I was totally stucked before I start listening you. I was thinking why these things are happening with me? Why I have been through this? But, when I started to listen you now I am feeling more confident, back to track and progressing alhmdulilah. More power to you
I really needed to listen to this again and again to remember to be postive and attract positivity..thank you 🙏
Great insight, synthesized from multiple, authentic sources 👏🏽 . Grateful for the effort and the message, Shadè 🙏🏽. I am hopeful of following the steps and reaping the benefits 😃.
I'm so grateful that I found your channel Shade. What you shared is so helpful as I'm practicing in my life now whatever is useful to me when I need it the most.
Thank You 🙇
Very beautifully explained. I have heard this so many times from others. Haven't understood so deeply earlier. Grateful to you.
Great motivational and challeng provoking session.thanks for giving new dimensions....Ali from Pakistan.
Thank you for this important information.
Taking lessons from past experiences and applying them in order to grow and develop and prosper .
Great teaching !!! ❤
I really appreciate your content Shade, you really did a great job by not only motivating people like me but, you also counsel and telling the meaning of live a happy life.
Living Krishna you are❤️🙏
I love and admire your thoughts, ma'am.
This world needs a women like you to encourage others. 👌✌️
Shade' voice is everything.
Shade, you are a wonderful person and doing a wonderful job! Thank you so much for the video! Watching you is a therapy.
Thank you! So glad that these videos are helpful. 😊
I have post traumatic growth, It's craze how I am attracted to pain. this video helped me understand , Thank You
You nailed it. Thank you for sharing. Indebted to you for your clarity.
You are full of wisdom in your trade. I enjoy listening watching ur channel. Keep them
Coming. Thanks you so much. More power to you. We need people like you to help people be better in facing life challenges and accomplishments. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Kya baata hai, 👍 👌 👍 👌 👍 👌 👍 great video explain well every time thanku 🙏
This channel has changed my life!
Thanks Shade for life lesson you are my best motivational speaker
I live RUclips and your channel!
Thank you for the tips.
Thanks mam, to make all of us author of our life.
WHEN YOUR BODY, MIND, SOUL SINK WITH ONE ANOTHER AND SPEAK ONE LANGUAGE. MAGIC STARTS.
I grew so much from my pain, it is insane and I developed great stability over the deacdes. Since trauma keeps happening to me it now gets harder and harder to again and again seek appreciation or meaning in there. I think the great trap I fell into is that I assumed to find a better future if I only remain strong, learn, grow and find appreciation for all the hardship of the past. But the future may be even worse. Life obvously isn´t here to be better or to be improve. It is only for the experience.
Thanks for this. I am writing these question on my notebook and trying to evaluate and re-author my narrative.
Thanks for sharing life changing vidoes to make our lifes happier and better if we also take our responsibility. It is so blessing having a amazing sister like you, Zahrai.
Shade,
Thank you for your commitment, dedication, and hard work.
Today..... has been a very hard and painful day.🥺😢💔
Personally, I need this one today.👏💜❗️
God Bless you.💜❗️
I was having trouble rewriting my story and your video helped me a lot. You helped to focus on how to do it correctly. Thank you❤
Excellent addition of lots of great advices
Jazak Allah Shade’ for all kind words and precious advice to decontaminate one’s story ….every one will benefit from your knowledge ….stay blessed…❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
It’s me.. I have everything a person can think of. I am smart , confident n technical strong n maintain good working relationships but complaint alot. Blame my husband of every hardwork I have to do. I got a great idea from this video 🥰🥰
My husband only shared this video with me
I am really greatful to watch every single your episods. I am awotness that how you define yourself have great impact on your personal idetity.
Thank you for helping people rewrite thier story.
Such a wonderful video. We need more people like you on this earth seriously. Please keep posting more. God bless.
Taking ownership is one thing I am practicing and striving to work on it tenaciously...
Very nice and useful.
Thank you from my deep heart , you enlighten the collective mind with great positivity ❤
Your contribution to our lives is really great.Hope you will meet Sadguru and grow even higher🙏
The right content at the right time helps you work harder for a better you. Wonderful video.
Thank you for this! I will rewrite my story. The story of Captain Steve Rogers
Thank you for this amazing experience you brought it and how any situation can bring about a positive life approach in dealing with bigger challenges and struggles
Stay Blessed Thank You 🙏
I strongly agree with your analysis thanks!
loved it! How thinghs change in the moment we see ourselves as protagonist instead victims, thanks for sharing!
Thanks dear.....actually needed guidance on this topic...God bless you!!!!
Very Nice. I have slight different view. 1 . Meditate 2. Have less desires 3 Have more clarity about yourself (who you truly are ) and your world around you.
Thankyou !! This video is a voice of hope.
You are unbelievably superb pack of knowlegde. What you deliver is awesome. Trust me, I needed to hear this video today Shade. Keep up with the work and I promise that I will pass this knowledge to the next required person. Keep up with this work plz. The world needs more of this or at least people like me need such videos a lot. In a world where there are almost never ending content, it is really good to see people like you making a geniune effort for mankind. I am very emotional and falling short of words to describe the gratitude towards you. Thanks again Shade!!!!!!!
I carry the attitude of gratitude with me every day. The past is just a story we tell ourselves, rarely do we think of the power we hold for ourselves as authors and narrators of our own lives. There are endless ways we can look at the story of our own lives. In our lives the perspective is forced somewhat involuntarily. But there are ways to be more mindful and intentional about your story and force a chosen perspective instead.
What is the value in that?
Thank you for helping us to our journey of life.