There are people who are naturally bad, hateful and jealous for no reason and unfortunately this is very common. And there is no clear solution to this actually
I have just retired and I have worked in lots of places. I will tell you this. Be very careful in the workplace. Toxic people aren't always obvious and the ones trying to befriend you and are trying to get you to talk about the workplace and your private life are usually up to something. Just do this. Don't trust anyone. Keep your thoughts to yourself. Keep work and your private life apart. If the actual job is rubbish. keep it to yourself, look for another job, and then leave. Don't give people ammunition to go and tell management what you think of the company. I retired at 54 which was as soon as I could to get out of working due to all the toxicity I had encountered.
I agree with you 💯 we all been through this situation but it only matters how you are going to handle this regardless of your emotions. Thus we should manage our emotions first!?
@@rachelr8837 I invested in my workplace pension when I was 19. I had a Final Salary pension so I knew I was on to a winner. I hated working and I knew early retirement was my only option. The real answer is to work to be debt free. I paid everything off and once you do this you then realise you don't need that much money. Upon retirement I had got everything I wanted. I don't need to buy anything else. I took 25% of my pension tax free (I have other pensions BTW) and I'm going to travel the World starting next year.
Bullying and toxic co workers are not in our head. It happens. There are people who are naturally bad and hate you for no reason at all. It is reality.
@@deutschmitpurple2918 Don't be. If you hate them for no real reasons, you are just like them. They are just a part of society to balance out. There's no ideal world where everyone is always friendly and kind to each other.
take legal action ,talk to your well wishers do anything possible but not let the negativity derail you from your target of achieving what you deserve in the life.nice topic but end statement is not good
I have one that yells and scolds me over the tiniest of mistakes that are easily fixable in minutes. He's been reported many times by various people and they don't do anything about it. He scold people like an abusive dad to kids or something. He's not a manager or anything he's just a worker
i have worked with people just like that. Management wont care believe me and if u report an issue 9/10 they'll just try to get u fired cuz "ur a disturbance"
Thank You! I had to do this last month. I had a Lead that was bullying, Gaslighting, etc. I had told her that we could speak respectfully to one another, and I had asked if I had done anything to her and apologized just in case. She was also raging and doing a problem dump. I told her that we all have problems and that we can be empowered to find solutions. She got angrier, so I gave her space. She was looking for a fight. I continued to do my job. She kept trying to trigger me. I finally told her that the behavior was toxic and that it would be my last night working there. I saw her smack a resident on the hand a couple of times, I have no proof, BUT she was trying to set me up to lose my job. It was a toxic work environment with high turnover. The red flags were there at day 1. I made sure that all of the work was completed. One of the nurses told me that there were a couple of complaints about her and that I should report them. I did, but did not return and I do not regret leaving, it would have only gotten much worse with time. They can deal with their Lead hire.
Being assertive and speaking up is exceptionally important!!!! Call it out! Do not allow anyone to bully you or think they can bully you. Know how to hold your OWN power and OWN IT! ❤ Be extremely selective about your energies. Observe everyone sharply. Don’t give away your trust to ANYONE freely. Everyone should earn it! Prove they are worth your trust! On priority protect your own honesty and integrity. Really really really KNOW your WORTH and enhance it!
The challenging part is that often the entire workplace is toxic and not just one person. Moreover, its enacted by the management which have authority over you. Thus setting boundaries and creating distance is very hard to do. Typically, this leads to becoming passive and submissive which is their exact intention. Yet another challenge is that such workplaces are associated with high workload, unclear roles & responsibilities, lack of support, continuous yet cunning ad subtle gaslighting etc. which will drain you over time both physically and emotionally. Upon reaching this point you are basically burnt down, developed PTSS or other mental issues which pretty much makes it impossible to remain emotionally unreactive in toxic encounters.
This is my first time being in a toxic work environment. What happened to me was I didn’t engage in the shit talking of other coworkers so I became a target 😂 They are so pathetic and mad I can think for myself.
The last part where she mentions that you might be attracting toxicity is very true. If you don't respect yourself, you end up attracting people who would not respect you. If you don't love yourself, you attract people who won't love you.
The easiest way to attract toxicity is simply to be "more" than someone at something- or at least they have to believe that you are "more". Jealousy is an ugly thing, and unless you are the biggest loser in every single category in life, you WILL bump into someone at some point who just can't stand you for whatever that one "more" thing is.
This was a great video. My daughter called me crying at work yesterday because a lady who was on leave came back and is upset because my daughter has been praised for her high quality work. My daughter has been given more hours and discussed possible promotions with her boss. The toxic person came to her and challenged her as to why she is getting the things she (the toxic one) had asked for. My daughter just got transferred to that branch from another location so she is still building relationships. My daughter is young 20s and very kind and I know she felt personally attacked and she has nothing to do with the decision. I will forward this video to her. It says everything I told her plus more ways to take control of the situation. Thank you! ❤
I am nothing like my toxic coworker and do not see myself in them at all. They are incredibly insecure and use bullying tactics to undermine me and other coworkers abilities.
yeah, I had this in mind since many days. Now, from hearing from you, it is confirmed that only I can eliminate toxic environment away from me by working on myself, creating boundaries becoming assertive and rising above it. Thank you so much,a
I can’t thank you enough Shadeya. I work as a healthcare worker and deal with many people daily who are stressed out. Your videos have been helpful for me to feel heard and empowered to respond in a classy way. ❤
@@juliusl5211 I also work as a care aide and I have this one coworker that doesn't like me at all. He is very jealous of me. I felt it a while ago. It finally came out but he put his foot in his mouth and said the wrong thing to me but he thought that I wouldn't be intelligent enough to respond he thought that I would react and make things worse but I responded in the way that I should have and he ended up apologizing. I have everything on paper. I will keep a paper trail.
My coworkers on construction always mock me. Yes I’m not really fast at thinking but every time I try to get better at my job they always keep their first impressions. It’s so frustrating. There are so many narcissistic people in the company
A trait of these workplace jerks is also to make you feel 'it is all in your head'. Emotional Distancing yourselves in conversations is a great idea, enaging with them in hopes of making them see the reason almost never works. Also watch out for tactics to form groups and isolate etc.
1. It could be on your head. (Recognizing your power is the best place to start.) 2. Set limits and establish boundaries. 3. Rise above the Toxicity. 4. Manage your Emotions. 5. Know your Worth. (Be Assertive and Speak Up)
Your first point reminded me of Stephen Covey's words, "Seek first to understand, then to be understood." I know from experience that that's a wise way of handling things. Your second point reminded me of Stephen Covey's words too, "The deepest hunger of the human heart is to be understood." Your third point was something new to me, that's really an out of the box strategy; I have downloaded it into my heart for a rainy day! Your fourth point was something new to me too, what a holistic approach! Your fifth point taught me that having inner self-confidence makes me unbreakable. Your bonus point taught me that there's a civilized, peacemaking way of speaking up to toxic people. Your last point reminded me of the lyrics to Katy Perry's hit song, "Unconditionally," "Acceptance is the key to be truly free." Thank you so much Shadé, for educating us! 💛💛
Hi Shadezahrai, Great tip. I experienced the same.I have been a victim of two egoistic people . They used me as puppet. I don't know what pleasure they get when hurting people.
Such an insightful video!! Can't thank you enough for sharing these tips with us. I recently experienced something similar (as mentioned in the video) at my workplace with one specific colleague. And this time I didn't let this person control my emotions, instead, I pulled myself out of the situation and gave time to cool it down. Then I immediately noticed my growth and development. Thanks again!
The intangible property of human emotions makes it extremely deceptive and the true strength of an individual is in learning how it functions and harnessing the positive elements of it's functionalities while letting go of the negatives. Amazing tips.....you definitely have my subscription.👍
I have worked with a few people like this and not a one of them were top performers .They were not cable of focusing in on results or not capable either. When I was an Account Executive on co worker noted at a meeting they had signed seven new accounts in two weeks. I stopped our regional managers office ( our old DM) told his assistant this news and then asked him if this made any sense. The next morning he was fired for falsifying records. As a Leader I do not beleive no matter the education level people have a hard time understanding work in the end is about results and exceeding those results. Provided the goals our reasonable and attainable.
Took some good notes from this video. I have a team lead who has been triggering me all week since our manager is out. She's a micromanager who is new to the role. But I recognize I have my own negative bias towards myself since this role is not a good fit. I am capable and able to do this job, but my work style does not mesh with the team (workaholism for it's own sake). After watching this video I've come to the conclusion we both have some opportunities for improvement.
Hi Shadè, Thanks for addressing another important topic. I want to share my experience also... there may also be another toxicity at home as well. Sometimes you've difference of opinions WITHIN HOME as well. And I've found that in this type of toxicity, one should not always try to change others. There's only one person in this world who can be changed.... that is... ONESELF. And the things become better.... Change which can't be accepted OR accept what can't be changed. Regards, Dr. Kalsi
Shade has gone to next level on guiding professionals,killing two birds with one stone 😊 Very well explained to avoid toxic person as well as personal development, Excellent video as always, Cheers
Toxic people /co workers are exist in everywhere. We just need to tackle from our own ability. I have experienced during my role as a Branch Manager, where toxic co workers always do backfighting about work but they dont show such behaviour directly. Sometimes, they use another co worker as mediator for creating such environment where the supervisor will be in a position and state of mind where he/she may have the confusion what to do or what not to do. The toxic people/ co worker always want to make failure to BM or his/her supervisor.
I'm new to your channel and I've seen a few of your videos, a lot of good tips. The way I deal with toxic people is I just kill them with kindness. It took me a while but I just do that. Works for me. Thanks and God bless Shade
I feel like it's easy to say those techniques are good, but I also believe that they're not applicable to real life challenges. Setting boundaries is one of the most important yet challenging one to apply. Once we do it, the person starts to revenge back. You usually talk about actions, but not reactions and side-effects of those challenges.
I have personally experienced a situation where i was deemed to be toxic and in fact the last point of Yours was true it was the negative behavier towards the work, I was team lead.
Public comment. Life is awesome when you empower your self with positive thoughts and actions base on how you procieve life journey begins with you . Self realization is the key to success.
It is certainly not easy to deal with a bully, especially when that person is your manager. It can take a toll on your mental health and productivity, which is why it's important to take action and protect yourself. One solution could be to confront the bully in a professional manner and express how their behaviour is impacting you. This may involve documenting specific incidents and bringing them up in a private meeting with your manager or HR representative. However, if you feel that the bully is unlikely to change and the situation is not improving, it may be time to consider finding a new job. Your mental health and well-being should be a top priority, and being in a toxic work environment can be detrimental to both. Before leaving, it's important to have a plan in place and ensure that you have another job lined up or sufficient savings to support yourself during your job search. It's also important to be honest in your job interviews about why you're leaving your current position, but try to focus on the positive aspects of what you're looking for in a new job. Remember that you deserve to work in an environment that respects and values you, and sometimes that means making the difficult decision to move on from a toxic situation.
There's this woman at work. Experienced & very efficient. She has relatives that work on a different shift and so, unfortunately, she has quite a lot of unofficial clout. She is also one of the most horrible human beings I have ever met. She is like a cancer in our team because she never ceases backstabbing, slandering, criticizing and attempting to triangulate people. I have finally determined that when she sees people interacting well & enjoying each other's company and when the team chemistry has been consistently positive for an extended period, she will create a problem. She will slander one team member to others with comments like"Look how hard you three are working while 'the other one' is just mucking around." She'll shake her head and falsely praise her dupes then eventually make her way over to this 'other one' and say something like "Man. Sarah was just moaning about how much works she's got on while you're just over here chilling." Seed of discontent is sewn. That example is lightweight though, she has done much worse. She uses the term "other one" to refer to whoever is absent, so as to identify them but not risk being overheard saying their name. Whenever there is conflict, or gossip or whatever, if you look closely enough, you'll find her fingerprints at the scene somewhere. She is a master of lulling people into a false sense of security and trust, feigning friendship or empathy, simply to turn around and repeat every word you've said, twisting them slightly to make you look worse. As our team is quite small and she's a lifer, there's no getting away from her. I've put in a few years now, been promoted etc but as much as I hate to say this, I'm thinking about quitting my job to get away from her poisonous aura. She's told me things about nearly everyone else in our team & some of these things are extremely personal. I have been tempted to publicly 'out' her on so many occasions, just to assassinate her character completely but won't because I don't want to hurt any of my other colleagues. I know this second hand info because, obviously, once upon a time she weaseled her way into my good graces too. She got her Intel and then promptly betrayed me and attempted to slander me in the exact same manner. Not sure why I typed all that really. Venting my spleen maybe or furiously ranting, it doesn't matter I guess. Would be interested to hear anyone else's thoughts on this situation. Opinions, advice or similar tales would be appreciated. ✌🏻
I know exactly what you're talking about. It's called narcissism. These people aren't toxic, they are the toxin itself in its most concentrated form. Good that you vented it.
All of this is simply not possible. It’s best to just leave. If you’d tag too long it will affect your physical and mental health and loss of confidence. Leave immediately.
You are incredible person Shade. Your tipps and your videos always motivate me. You are my idol and I love your style. I will never forget your advices because they are so valuable for me. Love from Turkey.
Shadé, sorry for getting your name wrong in the last comment. I knew it was wrong, but I just cannot remember people’s names so I just go for it. You’re the best!
@Shade Zahrai Many Thanks for sharing these amazing tips about handling toxicity at workplace... May God Bless You and Give More Power To You... 👍🤲 Stay Safe, Take Care and Keep Smiling... 🙂🙂🙂
We had a team in a supermarket that couldn’t get along so they transferred the woman who complained about the two overbearing men….so I was the replacement with a little longer commute I wasn’t too happy about
Almost everybody around you at the workplace is ambitious and you become the catch if you are naturally or situationally vulnerable. Power, gender, disability and other marginalisation are the conditions which make a person vulnerable. This is definitely not in the head of the victimised one. It is rather in the head in the ones who are privileged with one or the other kind of power and A ballistic tools. We need an environment which is more conducive for the weakest and not for the strongest. you are obsessed with speed at workplace, we ought to revise our notions of proficiency. Slowing down universally, having policies which helps us breathe, which understand the importance of taking a pause. Systemic redesigning is needed before we lose a bigger chunk of our fellow mates.
There are people who are naturally bad, hateful and jealous for no reason and unfortunately this is very common. And there is no clear solution to this actually
Ignore them like they don't exist.
I have just retired and I have worked in lots of places.
I will tell you this. Be very careful in the workplace. Toxic people aren't always obvious and the ones trying to befriend you and are trying to get you to talk about the workplace and your private life are usually up to something.
Just do this. Don't trust anyone. Keep your thoughts to yourself. Keep work and your private life apart.
If the actual job is rubbish. keep it to yourself, look for another job, and then leave. Don't give people ammunition to go and tell management what you think of the company.
I retired at 54 which was as soon as I could to get out of working due to all the toxicity I had encountered.
I agree with you 💯 we all been through this situation but it only matters how you are going to handle this regardless of your emotions. Thus we should manage our emotions first!?
Sage advice.
@@Autonomous1969 How did u start the retirement process? I'm ready and have a meeting with a banker next week...
@@rachelr8837 I invested in my workplace pension when I was 19. I had a Final Salary pension so I knew I was on to a winner.
I hated working and I knew early retirement was my only option.
The real answer is to work to be debt free.
I paid everything off and once you do this you then realise you don't need that much money.
Upon retirement I had got everything I wanted. I don't need to buy anything else.
I took 25% of my pension tax free (I have other pensions BTW) and I'm going to travel the World starting next year.
Lucky you.. I just got out of college to deal with craxxxx people
Bullying and toxic co workers are not in our head. It happens. There are people who are naturally bad and hate you for no reason at all. It is reality.
I totally agree with you. I hate all of them
@@deutschmitpurple2918 Don't be. If you hate them for no real reasons, you are just like them. They are just a part of society to balance out. There's no ideal world where everyone is always friendly and kind to each other.
These kinds of people are possessed one
take legal action ,talk to your well wishers do anything possible but not let the negativity derail you from your target of achieving what you deserve in the life.nice topic but end statement is not good
That so true
You're describing a coworker I have perfectly like she just walks around with negativity and is always looking for a target to unload onto
I have one that yells and scolds me over the tiniest of mistakes that are easily fixable in minutes. He's been reported many times by various people and they don't do anything about it. He scold people like an abusive dad to kids or something. He's not a manager or anything he's just a worker
i have worked with people just like that. Management wont care believe me and if u report an issue 9/10 they'll just try to get u fired cuz "ur a disturbance"
Toxicity in the workplace is consistent for me. It's not just a one time event, it's every day.
Thank You! I had to do this last month. I had a Lead that was bullying, Gaslighting, etc. I had told her that we could speak respectfully to one another, and I had asked if I had done anything to her and apologized just in case. She was also raging and doing a problem dump. I told her that we all have problems and that we can be empowered to find solutions. She got angrier, so I gave her space. She was looking for a fight. I continued to do my job. She kept trying to trigger me. I finally told her that the behavior was toxic and that it would be my last night working there. I saw her smack a resident on the hand a couple of times, I have no proof, BUT she was trying to set me up to lose my job. It was a toxic work environment with high turnover. The red flags were there at day 1. I made sure that all of the work was completed. One of the nurses told me that there were a couple of complaints about her and that I should report them. I did, but did not return and I do not regret leaving, it would have only gotten much worse with time. They can deal with their Lead hire.
@@ShalomShock im so sorry that happened to u💗, keep it up
Being assertive and speaking up is exceptionally important!!!! Call it out! Do not allow anyone to bully you or think they can bully you.
Know how to hold your OWN power and OWN IT! ❤
Be extremely selective about your energies. Observe everyone sharply.
Don’t give away your trust to ANYONE freely. Everyone should earn it! Prove they are worth your trust!
On priority protect your own honesty and integrity.
Really really really KNOW your WORTH and enhance it!
The challenging part is that often the entire workplace is toxic and not just one person. Moreover, its enacted by the management which have authority over you. Thus setting boundaries and creating distance is very hard to do. Typically, this leads to becoming passive and submissive which is their exact intention. Yet another challenge is that such workplaces are associated with high workload, unclear roles & responsibilities, lack of support, continuous yet cunning ad subtle gaslighting etc. which will drain you over time both physically and emotionally. Upon reaching this point you are basically burnt down, developed PTSS or other mental issues which pretty much makes it impossible to remain emotionally unreactive in toxic encounters.
People who seem to derive satisfaction from undermining and hurting others: sadist.
Some co workers are so toxic no matter what you do the result is still zero! But great video, thanks!
I know right.. what worked us when I just simply avoid them and tell themIm busy and hang out with others just ignore their existence
Then it maybe you are the toxic one
This is my first time being in a toxic work environment. What happened to me was I didn’t engage in the shit talking of other coworkers so I became a target 😂 They are so pathetic and mad I can think for myself.
The last part where she mentions that you might be attracting toxicity is very true. If you don't respect yourself, you end up attracting people who would not respect you. If you don't love yourself, you attract people who won't love you.
Very true
Shade I love your videos but you are talking too fast, can you reduce your speed of talking
The easiest way to attract toxicity is simply to be "more" than someone at something- or at least they have to believe that you are "more". Jealousy is an ugly thing, and unless you are the biggest loser in every single category in life, you WILL bump into someone at some point who just can't stand you for whatever that one "more" thing is.
@@shellieperreault6262 honestly sometimes I feel like go and live on a farm away from people.
Bullying is sucks. Its happening also in health care industry. They are nurses and health personer bullying other at work.
This was a great video. My daughter called me crying at work yesterday because a lady who was on leave came back and is upset because my daughter has been praised for her high quality work. My daughter has been given more hours and discussed possible promotions with her boss. The toxic person came to her and challenged her as to why she is getting the things she (the toxic one) had asked for. My daughter just got transferred to that branch from another location so she is still building relationships. My daughter is young 20s and very kind and I know she felt personally attacked and she has nothing to do with the decision. I will forward this video to her. It says everything I told her plus more ways to take control of the situation. Thank you! ❤
I am nothing like my toxic coworker and do not see myself in them at all. They are incredibly insecure and use bullying tactics to undermine me and other coworkers abilities.
yeah, I had this in mind since many days. Now, from hearing from you, it is confirmed that only I can eliminate toxic environment away from me by working on myself, creating boundaries becoming assertive and rising above it. Thank you so much,a
Excellent message. Toxic people are real hazard and should be away from them.
True 👍👍
I can’t thank you enough Shadeya. I work as a healthcare worker and deal with many people daily who are stressed out. Your videos have been helpful for me to feel heard and empowered to respond in a classy way. ❤
@@juliusl5211 I also work as a care aide and I have this one coworker that doesn't like me at all. He is very jealous of me. I felt it a while ago. It finally came out but he put his foot in his mouth and said the wrong thing to me but he thought that I wouldn't be intelligent enough to respond he thought that I would react and make things worse but I responded in the way that I should have and he ended up apologizing. I have everything on paper. I will keep a paper trail.
My coworkers on construction always mock me. Yes I’m not really fast at thinking but every time I try to get better at my job they always keep their first impressions. It’s so frustrating.
There are so many narcissistic people in the company
A trait of these workplace jerks is also to make you feel 'it is all in your head'. Emotional Distancing yourselves in conversations is a great idea, enaging with them in hopes of making them see the reason almost never works. Also watch out for tactics to form groups and isolate etc.
1. It could be on your head.
(Recognizing your power is the best place to start.)
2. Set limits and establish boundaries.
3. Rise above the Toxicity.
4. Manage your Emotions.
5. Know your Worth.
(Be Assertive and Speak Up)
Thank you for that
Your first point reminded me of Stephen Covey's words, "Seek first to understand, then to be understood." I know from experience that that's a wise way of handling things.
Your second point reminded me of Stephen Covey's words too, "The deepest hunger of the human heart is to be understood."
Your third point was something new to me, that's really an out of the box strategy; I have downloaded it into my heart for a rainy day!
Your fourth point was something new to me too, what a holistic approach!
Your fifth point taught me that having inner self-confidence makes me unbreakable.
Your bonus point taught me that there's a civilized, peacemaking way of speaking up to toxic people.
Your last point reminded me of the lyrics to Katy Perry's hit song, "Unconditionally," "Acceptance is the key to be truly free."
Thank you so much Shadé, for educating us! 💛💛
Hi Shadezahrai,
Great tip. I experienced the same.I have been a victim of two egoistic people . They used me as puppet. I don't know what pleasure they get when hurting people.
The way you express & explain your content along with your personal experiences is very relatable & engaging ... 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
You are awesome!
Such an insightful video!! Can't thank you enough for sharing these tips with us. I recently experienced something similar (as mentioned in the video) at my workplace with one specific colleague. And this time I didn't let this person control my emotions, instead, I pulled myself out of the situation and gave time to cool it down. Then I immediately noticed my growth and development. Thanks again!
I cut out a lot of ambition killers and now they’re trying to surround me because I became a millionaire in the stock market.
You are the definition of BEAUTY ! Take care ! Cheers and Peace !
The problems when the boss is toxic!!
The intangible property of human emotions makes it extremely deceptive and the true strength of an individual is in learning how it functions and harnessing the positive elements of it's functionalities while letting go of the negatives. Amazing tips.....you definitely have my subscription.👍
I have worked with a few people like this and not a one of them were top performers .They were not cable of focusing in on results or not capable either. When I was an Account Executive on co worker noted at a meeting they had signed seven new accounts in two weeks.
I stopped our regional managers office ( our old DM) told his assistant this news and then asked him if this made any sense.
The next morning he was fired for falsifying records.
As a Leader I do not beleive no matter the education level people have a hard time understanding work in the end is about results and exceeding those results.
Provided the goals our reasonable and attainable.
Thank you for sharing it's so inspiring
I hope one day they will have expert in the companies to teach all coworkers emotional intelligence
This channel is seriously underrated. Thank you Shadé!
Took some good notes from this video. I have a team lead who has been triggering me all week since our manager is out. She's a micromanager who is new to the role. But I recognize I have my own negative bias towards myself since this role is not a good fit. I am capable and able to do this job, but my work style does not mesh with the team (workaholism for it's own sake). After watching this video I've come to the conclusion we both have some opportunities for improvement.
Hi Shadè, Thanks for addressing another important topic. I want to share my experience also... there may also be another toxicity at home as well. Sometimes you've difference of opinions WITHIN HOME as well. And I've found that in this type of toxicity, one should not always try to change others. There's only one person in this world who can be changed.... that is... ONESELF. And the things become better....
Change which can't be accepted OR accept what can't be changed.
Regards,
Dr. Kalsi
Shade has gone to next level on guiding professionals,killing two birds with one stone 😊
Very well explained to avoid toxic person as well as personal development,
Excellent video as always,
Cheers
No killing please. ☹️
Toxic people /co workers are exist in everywhere. We just need to tackle from our own ability. I have experienced during my role as a Branch Manager, where toxic co workers always do backfighting about work but they dont show such behaviour directly. Sometimes, they use another co worker as mediator for creating such environment where the supervisor will be in a position and state of mind where he/she may have the confusion what to do or what not to do.
The toxic people/ co worker always want to make failure to BM or his/her supervisor.
I'm new to your channel and I've seen a few of your videos, a lot of good tips. The way I deal with toxic people is I just kill them with kindness. It took me a while but I just do that. Works for me.
Thanks and God bless Shade
This is the best thing I saw today!!
Does throwing them out the window count as distance? 🤔
😂😂😂
🤣
It's weird being around of such toxicness 😎
Yes, these types of people are living surrounding us.
Shadé you are always on point. Cant stop listening to you
Another amazing video, Shadé. God bless you
Spot on.. very much appreciate your insightful approach. Not ignoring our own responsibility to the situation. Cheers.
Every now and then, I come back to these gems😎😎🤗🤗
I love the way you simply simplify the info and the explanation, keep it going up
One of your true followers 💐🙏
hello dear do you need any help I. can help you out it worked for me.. whtsap me let's chat better
I feel like it's easy to say those techniques are good, but I also believe that they're not applicable to real life challenges. Setting boundaries is one of the most important yet challenging one to apply. Once we do it, the person starts to revenge back. You usually talk about actions, but not reactions and side-effects of those challenges.
As always Shadé, , , Very practical solutions 🤩👏
I wish I could’ve seen these tips before. Very helpful in my workplace.
Right now I'm unemployed but I actually have to deal with toxic people in my family.
I have personally experienced a situation where i was deemed to be toxic and in fact the last point of Yours was true it was the negative behavier towards the work,
I was team lead.
It had better call them incurably sick than toxic!
Public comment. Life is awesome when you empower your self with positive thoughts and actions base on how you procieve life journey begins with you . Self realization is the key to success.
I so needed to hear this I appreciate this videos. Thank you for sharing
Omg ! You dont no how much i needed this ! Literally 🙄
Thank You for sharing your knowledge.
Thank you very much for your kind educational videos. You can still drees decent for you middle eastern viewers sake, i.e., less skin!
According to your words
All faults belong to person who is under toxicity
Amazing pointers Shadé.im grateful for you on sharing your wisdom.More power and love to you.💗👏
Perfect solution to deal with toxic people thank u ..☺️
It is certainly not easy to deal with a bully, especially when that person is your manager. It can take a toll on your mental health and productivity, which is why it's important to take action and protect yourself.
One solution could be to confront the bully in a professional manner and express how their behaviour is impacting you. This may involve documenting specific incidents and bringing them up in a private meeting with your manager or HR representative.
However, if you feel that the bully is unlikely to change and the situation is not improving, it may be time to consider finding a new job. Your mental health and well-being should be a top priority, and being in a toxic work environment can be detrimental to both.
Before leaving, it's important to have a plan in place and ensure that you have another job lined up or sufficient savings to support yourself during your job search. It's also important to be honest in your job interviews about why you're leaving your current position, but try to focus on the positive aspects of what you're looking for in a new job.
Remember that you deserve to work in an environment that respects and values you, and sometimes that means making the difficult decision to move on from a toxic situation.
advice is free ... actually on the ground what cook we only know
i happy to know you shade
you make me feel strong and confident ❤
The world is filled up with such negative ppl
Every word you speak is gold.. the content on this channel is just amazing.. thanks for sharing.. hope to keep learning from u❤🙏
All points covered by you were awesome and more practical.
Thank You Shade Zahrai...GOD BLESS YOU...THANK YOU SHADE
Absolutely LOVED this. Wonderful work. 👍🏾
I needed to hear this, I’m going through this now
What if my boss is the toxic one.
your lovely talk is expellant bahut danyavaad
There's this woman at work. Experienced & very efficient. She has relatives that work on a different shift and so, unfortunately, she has quite a lot of unofficial clout. She is also one of the most horrible human beings I have ever met. She is like a cancer in our team because she never ceases backstabbing, slandering, criticizing and attempting to triangulate people. I have finally determined that when she sees people interacting well & enjoying each other's company and when the team chemistry has been consistently positive for an extended period, she will create a problem. She will slander one team member to others with comments like"Look how hard you three are working while 'the other one' is just mucking around." She'll shake her head and falsely praise her dupes then eventually make her way over to this 'other one' and say something like "Man. Sarah was just moaning about how much works she's got on while you're just over here chilling." Seed of discontent is sewn. That example is lightweight though, she has done much worse. She uses the term "other one" to refer to whoever is absent, so as to identify them but not risk being overheard saying their name. Whenever there is conflict, or gossip or whatever, if you look closely enough, you'll find her fingerprints at the scene somewhere. She is a master of lulling people into a false sense of security and trust, feigning friendship or empathy, simply to turn around and repeat every word you've said, twisting them slightly to make you look worse. As our team is quite small and she's a lifer, there's no getting away from her. I've put in a few years now, been promoted etc but as much as I hate to say this, I'm thinking about quitting my job to get away from her poisonous aura. She's told me things about nearly everyone else in our team & some of these things are extremely personal. I have been tempted to publicly 'out' her on so many occasions, just to assassinate her character completely but won't because I don't want to hurt any of my other colleagues. I know this second hand info because, obviously, once upon a time she weaseled her way into my good graces too. She got her Intel and then promptly betrayed me and attempted to slander me in the exact same manner.
Not sure why I typed all that really. Venting my spleen maybe or furiously ranting, it doesn't matter I guess. Would be interested to hear anyone else's thoughts on this situation. Opinions, advice or similar tales would be appreciated. ✌🏻
I know exactly what you're talking about. It's called narcissism. These people aren't toxic, they are the toxin itself in its most concentrated form. Good that you vented it.
@@YatoDharmaTatoJaya Thanks Samyra 🙏🏻
most people don't like you because you have a good quality that they wish they had I view them as a friend I haven't met yet
All of this is simply not possible. It’s best to just leave. If you’d tag too long it will affect your physical and mental health and loss of confidence. Leave immediately.
Great Points. (Afghanistan)
I agree with some of your points Shade
You are incredible person Shade. Your tipps and your videos always motivate me. You are my idol and I love your style. I will never forget your advices because they are so valuable for me. Love from Turkey.
Shadé, sorry for getting your name wrong in the last comment. I knew it was wrong, but I just cannot remember people’s names so I just go for it. You’re the best!
@Shade Zahrai Many Thanks for sharing these amazing tips about handling toxicity at workplace... May God Bless You and Give More Power To You... 👍🤲 Stay Safe, Take Care and Keep Smiling... 🙂🙂🙂
Many thanks Abdul Razzak! 🙏🏽 I hope the tips help. Blessings and happiness to you too!
Thank you Shade) This video found me on time. Much love
Glad it helped!
My coworker is insecure and once I figure that out. She don’t bother me anymore
Thank you so much Shade!
it really happens, unfortunately
To anyone going to work everyday with toxic coworkers remember
You are not alone.
Thnks shade.
Excellent video. Thank you.
Seek your peace at work and you'll be fine
Thank you Soooo much for this awesome video , it was well needed. Also the last two points were Soooo relatable. 🙏🦋🙏
Maybe you are famous but I can bet that you could be world famous. You could make long documentaries.
Thank you so much ma'am
We had a team in a supermarket that couldn’t get along so they transferred the woman who complained about the two overbearing men….so I was the replacement with a little longer commute I wasn’t too happy about
Thanks for the tips!
Almost everybody around you at the workplace is ambitious and you become the catch if you are naturally or situationally vulnerable.
Power, gender, disability and other marginalisation are the conditions which make a person vulnerable.
This is definitely not in the head of the victimised one. It is rather in the head in the ones who are privileged with one or the other kind of power and A ballistic tools.
We need an environment which is more conducive for the weakest and not for the strongest. you are obsessed with speed at workplace, we ought to revise our notions of proficiency. Slowing down universally, having policies which helps us breathe, which understand the importance of taking a pause. Systemic redesigning is needed before we lose a bigger chunk of our fellow mates.
So thoroughly addressed like always.. 👌👌👌
Very fruitful and practical.🙏🙏🙏
Thanks a lot! Enjoy 😊
Thank you for sharing good thoughts.
I have not idea how i ended up here, but very good video and useful tips, and very nice voice by the way.
I work in government, so toxicity is a requirement of the job
You are so engaging. :)