So excited to share this video with you all today! I love doing videos with my wife and so many of you have been asking to have her on the channel more often. Well, today we share a conversation we had about Christian women working in the home. If you enjoy this video and would like to join my wife for a monthly Bible study, you can learn more at letsequip.com/community. We launched a new community where I do a monthly Bible study for everyone and my wife does one for the women. I hope you enjoy this video and join us in our exciting new online Christian community!
@Caribbean Ín The House I was told that you have to submit to your husband, so if the husband wants his wife to work, she has to work, BUT if the children and home are neglected as a result, it's the husband's fault.
I was telling my husband how I desire so much to be a stay at home wife & mom. We just can’t afford one income yet. But I feel so strongly that it’s my next step in life. I pray it becomes possible for us.
Because she chose not to be a feminist, empowered, career woman and chose to marry in her heart to her hooby fully, and actually be a wife and mother. Married women glow!
@@aramisy.cajigas744 Your comment is actually disrespectful to Allen's wife. She clearly knows how to handle a lot of things and is very intelligent. You do know women can multitask away from just being a wife and mother, right? Your comment is disrespectful to all the work she put in for herself to improve herself/challenge herself FOR herself before, during, and while she has been married. Yes, she is empowered. She is empowered because of HER not because she is married. I'm sure it was all of her wonderful qualities that she already had that attracted her husband to her.
I homeschooled, taught exercise at the Y and could bring my kids with me. Staying home with my kids was top priority for us. Now my kids are grown and I am so grateful we made the sacrifice.
Yes! Any job that allows us to bring our kids with us is perfect. I believe being a mother should be our number one priority. I currently work in the ER on the days my husband doesn't have to work and I work the nightshift to be available for my kids during the day, but after we buy a house, I would like a job I can do from home.
@@thewifelife007 I taught classes, so I could teach for an hour or so. The kids would use the Y computer room or classes. It’s not always easy to find, but there are jobs like that.
This is a great and valuable conversation. As an attorney, many people expect me to focus on being a high powered career woman. But i have made choices to be in a position where my family can come first. The schedule is flexible and the maternity leave is top tier. My job knows my boundaries and I know when to say no so my family can come first. For me, it’s not whether or not a wife should work. It’s whether family can still be first. My career doesn’t give me identity, it is the means by which my husband and I can work together and balance work, life, and ministry but always putting the marriage ministry first.
Thanks for sharing. Is it possible for a 30 year old to go to law school.. work until 36 ..then have children and manage her house and children? I’m debating if I still should become a lawyer. Please advise ;)
@@nataliesal342 anything is possible. But I would examine why you have a desire to be a high powered career woman. Is that God telling you what He has for you, or is that your ego? There’s no judgment in that question. If that’s what God has for you, excellent. But I realized after law school and being an attorney for 5 years nothing is as important as my family. And a lot of us think you can just have a kid when you’re ready. But I’m 32, and after trying for 2 years, I would say putting off trying to build a family for a career,..That’s not what God wants for me. It could be what He wants for you. But it’s a question you should be asking.
My fiancé and I are engaged to be married and we just got saved! I’d love a video with you and your wife on pre-marriage tips, how to keep God inside of the engagement/marriage, fighting temptations, etc. we already have a child together that is 4 years old, so this walk is brand new for us! Thankful God is making it possible ❤️
Welcome to the family! I recommend checking out his bible study videos on the book of Song of Solomon. The series is great and I highly recommend to anyone who wants to start courting or wants to get married. Hope this helps!
This video helps out immensely. My wife and I are 8 weeks pregnant, I know the Lord has called her to be a stay at home mom. I’m really trying not to be stressed out for when the time comes (financially wise). I’m currently in school to be a teacher and working right now as a Resident Substitute Teacher in California. Trusting and knowing that God is our provider above all.
I love this! As a former career woman and now a stay-at-home wife, I'm struggling about my worth, identity and purpose. My husband explicitly told me that he doesn't prefer me to work full-time again since he's working and I need to focus on managing our home. I have started making art crafts for business but I don't earn as much as I did when I was an employee. And with our society and country's culture where being a housewife or a stay-at-home mother isn't considered a profession, I kinda felt unaccomplished, belittled and insecure. From your insights, God has reminded me to always seek my worth and purpose in Him. My value isn't dependent on what I do, but on what He has done for me. And I need to live according to how He has called me. Thank you so much, Mr. and Mrs. Parr. ✨
@@animekinglovesanime I am not a mom yet. My husband and I are trying though. May the Lord bless us with children whom we could mold into God's love and godly contentment. I can't wait to raise children that would serve God as well. Will you include me in your prayers too? Thank you so much!!
Our society is backwards. Career should be FOR the family… so if you get to be a stay at home mom, you are very blessed. Nobody on their death bed wishes they spent more time in the office… they wish they spent it with their family.
As a person that has raised her family and in the empty nest stage, I had a similar path and I don’t regret staying at home and homeschooling one bit. We don’t have much in the way of financial gain due to that decision but God has always provided and done so abundantly!!
Finances are a struggle and have been for most of my adult life. As I look back I realize that most of the time and still even now I have to get creative with how I can earn some extra money and how I can save extra money. So I tutored other kids I watched other kids I cleaned offices at night after my husband came home. I traded daycare with friends so that I could work a part-time job and my husband took on a lot of extra hours as well. There was definitely an Ebb and flow and there were a few years in there where I did not have to work that much and other years that I had to work more. You just take it one year at a time and then break it down to one day at a time. And every day I still praise the Lord
I've had to give up luxuries in order to stay home and homeschool. We live in an old, small home, have one vehicle, and have cut out things that aren't necessary. It's not easy, but I believe it will be worth it in the end. The Lord is our provider and He will make a way if you feel like you should be home.
@@rh10033 Absolutely. And the rewards will far outweigh all the sacrifices. You will never get to raise your children again And if you’re not doing it somebody else is. Good job!!
It feels like this whole video is saying that women should not have visions of their own and lives of their own outside their marriage and their kids. Allen said this video would look at both sides but it felt like Jennifer insinuated that if you are a woman who's thriving at work and you don't feel any "mommy guilt", there's something wrong with you. I think this topic requires voices that come from different ways of life because honestly if you're gonna be a Pastor's wife, you're not really gonna have ambitions of your own outside your husband's ministry cause being a Pastor is a lot of work. His vision becomes your vision. But I am gonna speak and say this, I was raised by a single mom, and she keeps excelling in the work place, my aunt is studying to become a nurse practitioner and her marriage is as strong as a rock, my other aunt is studying to obtain her Masters in Pediatrics. The last one I mentioned lives in Zimbabwe, she's studying so hard and she works so hard so that she can find a job in a Western country and give her family a better life. I think Jennifer should have stressed the importance of Wisdom and being able to find a balance cause I don't believe it's God's desire that every woman stays at home.
I love this comment and I agree!! Being wife to a Pastor is a whole different scenario than your husband not being in ministry. Nevertheless, I also think it’s a cultural thing. I believe you’re African based on your comment on your family member in Zimbabwe; I’m Nigerian. And I’ve observed that African women (at least here in America since that’s where I live) tend to excel in their work while prioritizing their domestic responsibilities. I can personally attest to the fact that my mom worked various schedules as a nurse and my dad traveled a lot, but despite that, my mom always ensured all our needs were met. We had cooked meals everyday, our assignments were done on time, she spent time helping us read, she played with us, like my mom did what any typical “stay at home mom” would do apart from homeschooling us. And since I want to be medical doctor, she told me that no matter how high climb up the ladder in my profession, never neglect the responsibility I have to my family because my family affairs are first before any job. And my dad never wanted to have a stay at home wife either (I asked because of this topic) so it honestly depends. I think as long as your home is in order and God is still being glorified in your home and marriage, then do what suits you. There’s no one size fits all to having a marriage, so there’s none for running a family either.
Read your Bible!! Titus 2:3-5 says women are to be keepers at home. Also, if you are married you are now your husband’s helpmeet. If you don’t have a desire to be your husband’s helpmeet and if you can glorify God being single and serving Him then do so. Our lives are not to be self centered but service to God. Women have been told lies over and over again of finding something outside the home and finding fulfillment outside of it. Gods ways are best and they are perfect!!! I can tell you as a woman who is married and has children I am so fulfilled to be at home serving my husband and children because I do it into the Lord and this is His will. Read proverbs 31. Her husband and her children rise up and call her blessed!!! What woman wouldn’t want to hear that kind of praise coming from the lips of her own husband and children? Let me tell you! You are replaceable in the workforce no matter how much they may praise you at work but you are not replaceable as a wife and a mother.
@@tracknation7285 So true ! I think having a career is laybe difficult with kids. But a regular job is very possible I think ! Especially knowing that even with a perfect husband he can still lose his job, get ill or even die. So I think a woman should stay self reliant while prioritising her relationships and especially her family. It is possible !
This was so good! I am 61 years old. I left a thriving career at the age of 40 and became a stay at home wife and mom. It was hard to leave my job, but God spoke clearly that this was His purpose for me. I have no regrets! At 61, my husband still works, my children are adults with their own children. I’m so glad this was God’s plan for my family.
Same here! I resigned from a promising career at 32 and became a stay at home mom when we became pregnant with our first child. So thankful to God for leading us in this decision and to my Husband for his support. My Husband was/is on board with me being the keeper of our home and to raise our daughter.
Wow thank you for sharing!!! In 2020 God spoke to me clearly during private prayer and worship. 1)’Give me your doctors uniform’ I saw my entire career flash before me and how I had not been pointing the patients/ staff to Christ. How many had I told that they needed to repent and put their trust in the Lord? I immediately handed over my scrubs to the Lord and I wept. 2)’Will you remain my golden candle?’ 3)’You better go and declare yourself a missionary’. And since then to the glory of God I have been a stay at home mum as well as an Intercessor and a street preacher. I have even had the great privilege of leading former patients to Christ!!! 🕊 Praaaaaise the Lord!!! I have also had the privilege of writing and directing a Christian film. 🎥 🍿 I can’t thank God enough for giving me a supportive ( really patient ) and loving husband who works full time and supports what I do. THANK YOU JESUS!!!! PS: In the book of revelation 1:20 it explains the meaning of golden candlesticks…In case anyone wants clarification… “The mystery of the seven stars which thou sawest in my right hand, and the seven golden candlesticks. The seven stars are the angels of the seven churches: and the seven candlesticks which thou sawest are the seven churches.” Thank you and may God bless you as you pray, listen to His voice and obey. Amen.
The Proverbs 31 woman was a wife, who ran several businesses. If a woman is able to parent her children properly and work at the same time, there is nothing wrong with contributing financially to the family by having a job or a business.
Coming back to this video to report that I have decided to quit my full time job to be more available to my husband and kids. I am a nurse who does well so its no small decision but I'm believing in my obedience God will take care of us.
And indeed He will take care of you. Just trust Him. In 2020 God spoke to me clearly during private prayer and worship. 1)’Give me your doctors uniform’ I saw my entire career flash before me and how I had not been pointing the patients/ staff to Christ. How many had I told that they needed to repent and put their trust in the Lord? I immediately handed over my scrubs to the Lord and I wept. 2)’Will you remain my golden candle?’ 3)’You better go and declare yourself a missionary’. And since then to the glory of God I have been a stay at home mum as well as an Intercessor and a street preacher. I have even had the great privilege of leading former patients to Christ!!! 🕊 Praaaaaise the Lord!!! I have also had the privilege of writing and directing a Christian film. 🎥 🍿 I can’t thank God enough for giving me a supportive ( really patient ) and loving husband who works full time and supports what I do. THANK YOU JESUS!!!! PS: In the book of revelation 1:20 it explains the meaning of golden candlesticks…In case anyone wants clarification… “The mystery of the seven stars which thou sawest in my right hand, and the seven golden candlesticks. The seven stars are the angels of the seven churches: and the seven candlesticks which thou sawest are the seven churches.” Thank you and may God bless you as you pray, listen to His voice and obey. Amen.
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My Lord! Mr. Allen I bless the name of the Lord for what he has done for you- particularly your wife and the rest of family. What she says at 24:00 --> 24:20 is one of the deepest things I would ever get to hear a married woman say as a Christian. God bless you Mrs. Parr.
I am only 16 years old but this helps me plan better and wiser for my future . I didn’t grow up with a father in the home the only father that I had was God “ which is way better “ . But this puts things in to perspective for me so thank you Alan parr and to your wife . So of topic but her skin is gourgous lol god bless ❤️❤️
Oh my! This is an amazing testimony! Jennifer, I feel your heart and your experience. My job became an idol for me, I was very, very good at it, and like Jennifer I too received a lot of affirmation. It ultimately was a mistake to place it above God and my family. I'm so glad Jennifer ultimately did what was best for her relationship with God. Unfortunately for me, my husband died of a major heart attack, and I regret not adjusting sooner. Our children are adults now with families and I have resigned from my job. I now am focusing on my relationship with God and allowing whatever God has for me to do or become I say yes. Ya'll have me in tears. I am so grateful for your ministry. Praise God!!
Thank you for sharing your story. I was struggling with going back to work or stay home with my sickly husband. God show me as I was reading your story, the stress my husband would feel if i weren't their with him could trigger another heart attack, I'm not saying that happened to your husband, but my husband talks to no one but me, he never go out, unless it's to the doctor, he has made it quite clear he doesn't do well when I'm out all the time. And my husband also depend on me for his spiritual food. I keep God in his face by sharing with him things God is showing me, that he can see is true. I think God has been showing me it's time for me to retire, but since my husband's health wasn't good, I just wanted to work a little longer. But I think the real reason I want to go out to work is because I want more time to myself doing what I want to do. And if I loss my husband I wouldn't be able to work anymore. I'm 65 and I think I will go ahead and draw my retirement to help pay off the house, and obey God.
This is just amazing, she is not just saying words she is telling her story and how God helps her to find back her identity in him instead of work or family 🙏.
I'm 47 years old. I've been married since I was 25. My Dad when I was 18, taught me about being "a keeper at home" like the Bible says too. So before I met my husband this teaching was already ingrained in my mind.
Thats why its important to be raised by a God fearing father. I highly regret my life choices, i wonder if i will ever have a settled heart. God bless you
@@indriadrayton1132 I mean, youre so hom0phobic that the hate literally quells out of yourself: You just threw hom$exuality in a discussion that had nothing to do with that and was not talking about it. THATS how much it bothers you all the time, thats how much it is on youre silly, immature mind: You have to bring it up RANDOMLY and SUDDENLY.
I love my family and I love my job, the Lord called me to be a mental health therapist and I enjoy my work. Is it difficult to do both, absolutely but with a supportive husband and with the Lord at the head, it can be done!
How do you know God called you to be a mental health therapist? I want to know my calling. I felt like being a mom was more important than a career when I had my first child, but I am open to know what other people think about Christian mothers working outside the home.
@@thewifelife007 Consistent daily prayer. Keep talking to God, keep asking about your destiny and guidance. Have faith he will answer. Repentance, thanksgiving and praise. Maybe also include fasting sometimes as well. Get in the word as well. But the importance of prayer is key. Spending time talking to the father, giving your heart to him. Asking him about things but also asking him for spiritual things like a softer heart, etc.
@@jesusisking3722 I study the Bible a lot and the verses about young women says we should be keepers at home. I feel like a lot of people just do what they want to do and they say God called them to do it. A lot of the time, God is calling us to do something that our flesh doesn't want to do.
You can tell a lot about a man as you listen to his wife and watch her interaction with him. Happy to see Allen’s bride. Surprised your only married for 3’years. I just buried my bride of 27 years and praise God for her impact upon my life, home and ministry. The Lord blessed is with 5 children. Sadly, I buried her Dec. 18th. It looks like you two have a great future ahead of you. Keep up the good work Allen. Glad to see you guys are bi-vocational. We see the same for most of our marriage. I believe a Christian woman’s first priority should and must be her home. Husband first, then children. This creates true legacy and provides so many ways to Glorify the Lord. Thanks sister Parr for your transparency. You loved your job and got affirmation from it. Yet realized that affirmation should come from the Lord and your call to the home - first. At the same time, I understand the challenge for so many families to survive or live on one income. Yet, the Lord blessed this sacrifice. My wife was able to homeschool our 3 older children (age 24-26). I believe their homes and families will be eternally impacted by this sacrifice by my wife. I believe when God’s people walk by faith, based on a biblical understanding of scripture, He blesses. Sister Parr’a comments at the 18:09 mark is something every woman of God and every Christian family should understand and appreciate. When we see how much time and effort it takes to raise children that fear God, using the prescription is Deut. 4, 6 and 11, most of us don’t have enough to fight against the negative and sinful influences of the world. NOTE: Deut 6 for example: When you talk, sit, lie down or rise up… This sounds like 24/7. And can be why there is so much failure in Christian.homes. Statistics show that more than 90% of children raised in “Christian homes” walk away from the things of God, by college. Deu 6:5 And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might. Deu 6:6 And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: Deu 6:7 And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. Thanks for this video. I pray it’s helpful to many.
@@misss7758 Yes. Christian married women. Good catch. Though I would add being single there are many things that can be learned from Godly married women. No need to wait for marriage to change thinking and make adjustments.
I would love to see Jennifer do Women’s ministry when she has the time, I would love to participate with her. I think she has a lot to offer in that, and can be inspirational to a lot of women that are in her situation!!
OK. What should then be done is any lady that joins the group turns out to be gay? What about accountability if that takes place? The church IS "a a haven for sinners."
@@LuvDet6564 yes but take that verse in context: it is referring to the TYPE of women that have the mentality of “ my way, or the highway” and refuse to listen to the opinion of others. I know this for a fact because my dad married a woman like that after my mom died and after the divorce he unfortunately was attracted to those type of women.
This is too stressful for me. I'm happy to be in school, I just finished my 4th year in med school and will start my residency with Mayo Clinic in a few weeks. I'm honestly really proud of my accomplishments and much happier overall than when I was dating my ex partner who wanted me to drop out and rely on him entirely. If I die alone, so be it. God walks with me always. ♥️
Yes, not everyone is called to be married. If you are single, doing schooling, honoring God, representing Christ, then do it. Sending love and support.
I’m so glad you didn’t drop out for him. A partner should support your aspirations, not discourage them. And it’s not like you had kids to raise, so wanting you to drop out just to rely on him is a bit odd. Congrats on your achievements so far!
Wow! This was right on time, God bless you all. I struggle with being home with my children because of the judgment and assumptions but I do feel that this is where God wants me to be. ❤️
I know exactly what you mean. We must do what's best for our family and block out all that outside noise. Keep praying and taking care of your household cus God gone take care of the rest.🙏
I believe when your children are little. You should try to stay home. Because it’s very hard to work outside the home with small children. I was happy to be able to stay home with my children. I understand with the inflation is hard. Just pray about it. God knows our hearts ♥️
@@liciaann8877 only you and hubby know the answer. If you can afford it. Yes. If not. Part time. Hope you make a good decision for your family. Pray 🙏🏻 about it.
God knows in your heart you do not trust Him if you make a decision to be obedient off of financial prosperity or need. God promises to provide all we need. So we don't base our obedience on that. Obedience comes at a cost but also a reward. But you should never base a decision on anything other than what God says. If a husband tells his wife to work, God says to obey Him and we have to trust in the Lord. If we stay home knowing we are commanded to and the husband degrees, you need to do that despite what happens financially. But in my case, God has abundantly blessed and provided without college degrees and with my husband making $9 an hour when we had our first child in 2012. And as we have had more children, God has increased us our income and we live in California. You can trust God but most Christians do not and we and others suffer the Earthly consequences.
@@liciaann8877 - Your W-2 paycheck would just be paying the daycare bill so what’s the point? If I were you, I’d babysit 2 kids & charge. Even better is to be a graveyard shift babysitter 6pm - 6am. You feed the kids dinner, put them to bed at 8pm & they’re asleep the entire night. There’s a need for this service.
This is great! My husband and I just had this conversation last night. I’m in a season where my job ended abruptly, and I’m torn between returning to the workforce or staying home. Thank you Holy Spirit for leading the Parrs to create this video and post it at this time.
I'll be honest, I was going to skip this one. However, Jennifer's word to the three types of women (single in my case) really spoke to me (as did the rest of the video). Thanks for your obedience.🙏🙌
As a man, it’s hard when you have to have a two income family to make ends meet. I prayed and prayed for a financial breakthrough so my wife could stay home with our kids but it didn’t work out that way. It definitely makes me feel that I’ve failed by not being able to be the sole provider. But I’m happy for those who can do this.
You have not failed. Look at the other areas in your life where you provide stability, nurturing, role model and other aspects to your family. Finances is just one way of providing for your family.
This was just amazing. It felt like Jen was talking to me. I also left the work force 7 years ago to be a stay at home and I've never been happier. I'm glad that you mentioned that our identity should be found in Christ alone. Well Done guys. 🙂🙂
If a wife is subject to her husband ( who is the head) and my husband does not complain about me working or working too much and I am functioning in the will of God, no man or woman has any right to dictate what I ought to do for my household except my husband. If the head of my household has qualms with me working then I need to address it but if he doesn’t and is okay with it and we are partnering together then I am still functioning within the confines of God. We have to consider economics nowadays if a husband is laid off or life happens ( perishes or gets in an accident) then what? we become homeless because I wanted to stay home? You should seek the face of the Lord and apply wisdoms and discernment. For some it is okay to do so but for some it is not so easy. Great talk and beautiful couple!
Good point. It's so hard to get a job, especially for older people nowadays. So if you don't have much of a work history, then all of a sudden you NEED a job, then good luck. The Lord does provide, but I would think He expects us to put the work in for ourselves first.
Exactly. I know many women myself included that faltered when her husband could not work or left and she had no work history. You have to be WISE. And seek God
YES! This right here. What you do in he home is between your spouse and God. People will have a lot to say. If God tells you to work, stay home, etc. you're balanced, husband is okay with it. You're coming home at a good time, not pulling a bunch of night hours, what's the crime? I'm with you. Use God + Wisdom + Discernment. I think many Christians I've met usually don't use the last two: wisdom and discernment. My mom told me, "Some things don't need prayer. God already told you what to do. You're just not being wise and using discernment." Changed my views on life.
Also want to add you said HUSBAND, not BOYFRIEND. A boyfriend shouldn't dictate a girlfriend to stop working (yes, I had one do this before). He cannot exercise authority. He's not married to her.
Never had the support to stay at home, and I really needed to be with my young kids. Unfortunately, I received a lot of judgment from my husband and in-laws. It's SO important to be equally yoked and on one accord with your spouse, and make the decision together. Once my kids were older and I started working a great job, I received more respect from them and could support myself. I wish I could have stayed home without feeling condemned for doing so. Thankfully, I have a really balanced life, and make time for My Savior, church, volunteering, family, and work. I strive to draw closer to Jesus/God everyday. That's the priority.
I hear you. I was condemned too for leaving my career in my 30s to care for the kids. Now that my kids are late teens I am nearly finished studying for a new career. I hope to work, God willing, within a year or 2. I know only then will my husband and others, give me respect. But he professes Christ in front of others. I know God is taking care of me, and one day will help me in what new path He has in store regardless of husband's thoughts.
@@minnielou1259 I posted a question for Allan and his wife similar. I have a lot of guilt about having to work outside the home instead of being there for my kids. Hope they can make an attempt at helping me. There isn't really anything that covers my predicament.
Thank you so much for the testimony. When she said, that joy should come from God, I started crying as I never cried. I have always been a working wife, and mother. I had to go to the office, and at that time, I was unhappy, because I was missing everything about my kids. Then, I started working from home 100%. no more day care I said. I was happy for a few weeks, but the reality came back. I was home but busy working. Then, I took 2 weeks without working, to see how it would feel. That is when I realized what Jennifer said: I was putting my faith and basing my happiness on something else than God. Now, I still try to manage working at home (for now), and raising the kids, and homeschooling then, and taking care of my husband and my house. But for sure, we are not perfect. It is important to focus on God and be thankful for what he allows us to do each day. But I agree completely with Jennifer, guarding our home is THE JOB, THE BEST JOB. Now, I am looking forward to being a complete stay-at-home mother (no more too much computer :) ). I like something Voodie Baucham said in one preaching: even if a married woman works, she needs to make sure her job does not prevent her from doing her TRUE JOB God called her for (all those points Jennifer pointed from Titus). Of, course, same for men. their job or business should not prevent them from performing their other JOBs and responsibility that God called them to do for their family. But the society today has made marriage a toxic place, where men are not there, and women are not there. Especially, us women, it seems like we are not there anymore, where we are supposed to be.
I think this is something that every woman should consult the LORD about directly. I used to think that all Christian women should be stay at home wives and was prepared to accept that reality for myself (this was partly influenced by what certain well respected pastors had said). However, as I began to seek the LORD for myself He revealed to me that my calling was to have a career and that I would bring Him glory through this particular career. There are many examples of woking women in the Bible, including the Proverbs 31 woman who had a business and Deborah who was a wife and a judge. Each woman should diligently seek the LORD for herself concerning this issue - some are called to be stay at home wives/mums and some are called to have careers. Both are absolutely fine.
Well, I guess it depends on your marital status. If you are married with children, you are called to be at home. Only single women with no supportive father or women who are done raising their children should work outside the home, tbh. And we are also called to submit to our own husbands, as unto the Lord.
@@daisiesandpandas1218 It's in the Bible that wives should submit to their husbands and be keepers at home. When I gave birth to my 1st child, I naturally didn't want to go back to work. I no longer cared about a career. I cared about protecting my son from harm.
@@thewifelife007 I'm a single woman who has both a supportive father and mother. Also, like I mentioned, the Proverbs 31 woman was married with children while also having her own business and buying property with her own money. Also, who says you can't submit to your husband and have a career at the same time?
You have no idea how perfect the timing of this is in my life. I have been praying on this exact topic. Thank you so much Mr. and Mrs. Parr for being so open and honest.
I was very challenged by this. My mom and dad both worked ~50 hrs a week yet I never felt neglected and I was blessed with parents that loved each other and the Lord. I guess where I struggle with this video is that I feel a lot of what Jennifer shared can be said about a husband who works a corporate job. I know a mother is naturally more nurturing but why should a woman sacrifice her desire to work and provide but a husband is enabled in his pursuits? I feel like this was more geared towards making sure your identity isn’t in a job but in God and his desires in your life. I would’ve appreciated more insight on why there seems to be more initiative on the wife to be the protector of a family. I know scripture says this and I will take scripture as ultimate authority but I would appreciate to know whether there was more benefit in having Jennifer nurturing the children more than Allen and more insight on why there is more focus on the wife being the keeper of the home.
I like what you type. I feel there is more to this. My husband's home as a child was the opposite and I see the Love of God in his parents home. I guess it depends on each couple what works.Its just really gave the vibe that someone had to give up a dream to help another's dream.Her job could have propelled this show far bc of the connections she have. Well to each their own. They know what is best for them and who are we to say different.
Enabled in his pursuits, maybe, but yet his responsibility is immense-to provide for his family in all areas. Where he gets a reprieve a bit, is the wife taking care of the home and children while he’s out working. He can come home to love and comfort. I see God’s plan as the absolute best.
@@Mary-gc2py according to scripture, what is God’s will for a wife? That should be our main concern, regardless of what we think or feel. Titus 2 gives a clear blueprint, and can be fleshed out differently in each marriage since each marriage is unique. But that’s a good starting place.
I chose to stay home and raise my children, we didn’t have a lot of money but my husband supported that decision for me to stay home. I eventually opened a home daycare to add to our household income and still be able to be home and raise my children until they were teens.
Awesome message especially in these times. I love that you guys BOTH decided what is best for your family this way there is no resentment. My husband and I decided the same thing and we happy, have lots of time and energy for intermicy. I'm a full time Mom and home maker, supporting my husband in his business. I Love being his helper and he Loves spoiling me. God bless you all.
This is good. Sometimes parents can groom their sons/daughters to be very ambitious and go getters in society without making them aware of how this can negatively impact their spouses or children This has lead to severe competition with women and men in the work force and infidelity in marriages. Ambitions are great when they line up with God’s plan
My my my have the blindfolds been removed from this amazing couple, it takes courage to stand up for what is right and true. Thank you Alan for this, God is good.
It's good to see you and your wife discussing such a sensitive issue, however, it's okay to work outside the home but you have to be able to have worklife balance. You must be able to leave work at work and not bring it home especially taking it in the bedroom.
Work-life balance is especially important. If you're working that hard for that many hours because you need it in order for the famly to survive. Then fine, but still not preferrable. But if youre doing that by choice when you clearly dont need the money, that is an issue. And that goes for men and women.
Brother Allen, your facial expressions and reactions said so much. You didn't hide your pain when she talked about times you wished she was around more. Yet it's also very clear you love your wife very much. I appreciate the complete honesty from both sides in this video. Looking forward to seeing more of the two of you together.
I so much fought this too and l got to learn that homemaking is a ministry, serving your family is an assignment from God and we have to know that we still have gifts that we can use from home( not easy but with God's guidance,we can). So heartfelt. Please sir please bless us with your wife once in a while 😁
I've been a stay-at-home mom now for 22 years. My children are on their way out of our home, so the season is coming to an end. Staying home was not a easy desision to make and sometimes really hard because you get no validation from society. What is the first thing people ask you when you meet? " So, what do you do?" And if you answer "I'm at home with my kids", I've many times found, people think you're a bit dumb. Like you can't do a "real job". Anaway, looking back I feel extremely privileged, espessialy knowing there are many women out there who would love to stay at home but can't. And with my kids starting to leave my home, I have absolutely no regrets of the sacrifices we made! It was absolutely worth it.
I go through this all the time, especially since I only have one kid and he's in school now. But I really need that break (he's autistic and can really try my patience sometimes). But we're looking into fostering since our adoption plans never went anywhere and we want more kids. I hope I can feel some relief from the external pressure if I'm foster parenting (not that I'm doing it to relieve pressure, it will come with lots of stress of it's own, but I hope that it's an added bonus)
its not an honour, not everyone wants that, what if his job ends unexpectedly and you have no job experience or qualifications ? its never safe to fully depend on sm1's money
great discussion and much food for thought. Sir Allen, you have an absolutely beautiful wife who is helping you fulfill the call on your life. That smile would warm any dark and cloudy day. God bless you both and your children as you press forward
Just listened to this episode as I am in the same season with my family. I love the refocus on the fact that our identity is in Him. Thank you for your testimony!
Loved this conversation. Thanks for bringing your gorgeous wife on the show to offer some insight that many Christian households face. Blessings always!
The two of you are wonderful role models and examples. Thank you for being vulnerable and putting your own person thoughts and obstacles out there. Jennifer, coming from a woman that was so well said.
Thank you for sharing this encouraging video. I've been a WAH, homeschooling mom to our 5 kids for 20+ years. As they moving into adulthood I can look back and not regret being home with my kids.
This video really touched me--even being in a totally different season/career-type. The Holy Spirit always majorly uses Jennifer to speak to a special part of my soul---and I know that is true for so many other women. Thank you both, so much, for this amazing interview!
I am a single woman and this was soooo encouraging. I am grateful for your message and Jennifer is so beautiful seemingly effortlessly but obviously it’s the matching heart too. ❤️
@@ryanmessano1895 The cost of living keeps rising. Even Walmart prices are getting high and they used to be the low priced leader but that's starting to not be the case anymore! Not every family can afford to live on one income anymore and there aren't that many work-at-home jobs that aren't gimmicks/scams. It is what it is.
I’m currently pregnant with my first child and I’ve been going back and forth with this topic. My husband has a child from a previous relationship and he pays child support which means that my income is important to our household even now that it’s mostly just the two of us. We both have decent jobs and I work 40 hrs a week, but it isn’t a guarantee that I will be working from home. I’ve always had the desire to stay home with my children and homeschool them but the further along I am in my pregnancy, I see that this idea I’ve had about being a SAHM is becoming more of a fantasy and less of a reality. I’ve talked to my husband about this and I know he doesn’t say it outright but he needs my income even after this baby comes. I loved this video and I will continue to pray and remind myself that my identity is in Christ, always and forever. Many blessings to the Parr family ❤️
Dacee Lee, I know from personal experience that if you trust God and do it His Way, HE will make a way. We have no idea what God will do until we totally (100%) turn everything over to him. I'm praying for you, dear.
I pray God directs your heart to fulfill your purpose. Just remember its not for you to make up for the income loss by the support. That's your husband's job. Even if he has to find another job or side business to make it work. Just continue to pray about it God will give you the desires of your heart if you stay close to Him.
I can relate to you. My husband has 3 other children and pays child support and we have 3 children together. It is difficult but God has provided me with a job I can do from home but it still pulls me away from the kids and my husband is gone at work all day everyday and only has Sundays off. But we are making it work for now. I pray your situation will work out where you can be home with your baby. God bless.
@@crystalrose4296 thank you love. I’ll be praying for you as well I appreciate the encouragement and the understanding. May God continue blessing you and your family.
I don’t think this is very applicable in certain parts of the world where the economy is bad and both parties need to work just to put food on the table. Also sending the children to better schools is expensive. Ild love to hear more on how to balance work life as a woman with being a present wife and mother.
I would love for the Parr’s to cover how can single women find their purpose? What are the steps? Also another one, when you feel stuck emotionally and spiritually what can you do? This was amazing and hi Mrs. Parr you and hubby are doing God’s work with this ministry and I’m so excited to be apart of it!
Hon, read your Bible and pray to God. If you are a Believer, the Holy Spirit will lead you and guide you into all truths. Do not lean on any one man or woman before you have consulted your ultimate Guide. A single woman's purpose is no different than a married woman or man. We are all to serve and care for our own bodies and care for others and tend to our relationship with our Heavenly Father. In a married woman's case, she serves her family and herself and the body same thing as a husband. You just serve in a different sector and your singleness is a gift as Paul says as you can have your heart devoted to God, as all married people should as well. But often marriage is a vehicle of distraction, especially if it is a good marriage. A bad marriage can make some run to God.
i dunno if there are "steps" which sound formulaic. i would say that scripture already gives us so much to do in our day to day. i would start by doing those things while praying and fasting that God gives you wisdom in the midst of your obedience to what He had already said.
People tend to stress tooo much on “purpose.” You NEED to continue to seek and nurture your relationship with the Holy Spirit. As you do that He will guide you in All Truth. Your purpose maybe on your job being the Light in the dark places. Don’t stress. Just spend time strengthening your spirit man and cultivating your relationship with Jesus.🙂
I loved this interview! Hearing from Jennifer was so refreshing. We do need to examine our identity in Christ first while laying aside all of the trappings of the world. I would love to hear more about what that looks like after you’ve dismantled all of the distractions.
Bro. Allen and Sis. Jennifer, I really enjoyed this! Thank you! I'm a working mum who is constantly balancing the scales of mum, wife, and working girl life and I pray I continue to hear from God about this. Thanks once again and stay blessed!
I love you guys doing this together!! You are a beautiful couple. This video was so helpful for the married people, especially myself as I am going through this same situation. Good video for singles too, looking to get married and start families!!
All I can say is “To God all the Glory” and praise! I thank God for your obedience to share this word and experience with all of us and I am so thankful for this message because it is an one time word! Confirmation from the Holy Spirit 🎯
I feel so blessed to have found a balance between work and motherhood. God directed my path to a career that allows me to work part time so that I have the capacity to "do it all." My husband is happy with our arrangement, my children are healthy and happy. I am so blessed. Of course the daily stressor are still there. But in reality I do have that balance and capacity and am so thankful to Jesus!
Off subject, your wife is STUNNING and this was so insightful. I wholeheartedly appreciate this message. Thanks for this reminder from your wife and you as well.
I’ve been a stay at home mom and homeschooler for 3 years now. I’ve just recently started getting restless and probably not feeling self worth in what I’m doing, also doubting if what I do for my kids is what they need fully. This video couldn’t have been posted at a better time.
I want to pray that God continue to strengthen your walk with him and your marriage. I’m truly encouraged by everything you said Jennifer. I am affirmed that my call to be home with the children that God gave me, was ordained by God. The verse that kept coming to me was, seek ye first my kingdom… May God bless you both and may others be blessed by your walk with Christ.
Such an important conversation to have and I LOVE that you brought Jennifer on for this topic. I want to encourage any single moms who are watching this video, that you are not alone in your struggle to juggle family and work. I also want to encourage you that if you seek the Lord and ask Him to give you the ability to prioritize family, He will make a way. It won't come without sacrifices, but they will be worthwhile. I am testament of God's provision for 7 years as a single, homeschooling mom who is able to only work part-time. He has been SO faithful!
She’s beautiful! Love her spirit! And this is right on point! I’ve been a stay at home mom for 6 years and never plan to go back! It feels amazing to be in alignment with the Lord and His divine order ♥️
I love you, guys, Allen and Jennifer. Thank you for sharing with us. This is so important and it's a big decision to share family and marital vulnerabilities for the purpose of teaching and training others. Thank you so much for being faithful!
Perfect conversation perfect timing. I'm not married nor have kids yet but halfway in a degree that is a time consuming career. I've really been thinking of kids and how my career would possibly interfere with my children's stages where they would need me the most. I'm puzzled at the moment but I know God will plant me where he wants me.
Wow thank you for sharing!!! In 2020 God spoke to me clearly during private prayer and worship. 1)’Give me your doctors uniform’ I saw my entire career flash before me and how I had not been pointing the patients/ staff to Christ. How many had I told that they needed to repent and put their trust in the Lord? I immediately handed over my scrubs to the Lord and I wept. 2)’Will you remain my golden candle?’ 3)’You better go and declare yourself a missionary’. And since then to the glory of God I have been a stay at home mum as well as an Intercessor and a street preacher. I have even had the great privilege of leading former patients to Christ!!! 🕊 Praaaaaise the Lord!!! I have also had the privilege of writing and directing a Christian film. 🎥 🍿 I can’t thank God enough for giving me a supportive ( really patient ) and loving husband who works full time and supports what I do. THANK YOU JESUS!!!! PS: In the book of revelation 1:20 it explains the meaning of golden candlesticks…In case anyone wants clarification… “The mystery of the seven stars which thou sawest in my right hand, and the seven golden candlesticks. The seven stars are the angels of the seven churches: and the seven candlesticks which thou sawest are the seven churches.” Thank you and may God bless you as you pray, listen to His voice and obey. Amen.
You can still serve God as an attorney, people are ignoring how women can serve God in their workplace too - they’re acting like work is just secular and has nothing to do with serving God, very incorrect view. God called me to work with teenagers, so should I feel guilty for obeying God’s call?! (I don’t have my own kids, so maybe I’m a sinner there too lol).
So excited to share this video with you all today! I love doing videos with my wife and so many of you have been asking to have her on the channel more often. Well, today we share a conversation we had about Christian women working in the home. If you enjoy this video and would like to join my wife for a monthly Bible study, you can learn more at letsequip.com/community. We launched a new community where I do a monthly Bible study for everyone and my wife does one for the women. I hope you enjoy this video and join us in our exciting new online Christian community!
If my husband told me right now to stay home. I will jump on it. Jaja
@Caribbean Ín The House I was told that you have to submit to your husband, so if the husband wants his wife to work, she has to work, BUT if the children and home are neglected as a result, it's the husband's fault.
@Caribbean Ín The House yes I know. But there’s a slight problem. I’m the bread winner 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Great example of a loving and godly couple.
God bless you both
So excited to see you and your BEAUTIFUL wife together on screen! Looking forward to watching this with my girls.
Aw. Thanks my sister! Yes this was great to be able to do together! We look forward to doing more!
Yes she's so beautiful 😍 😭
Yes she is beautiful
Love this.
I love that you guys are having this conversation! this is so essential to unpack in long form!
Thanks Rus! Didn’t you do one on this recently?
Yeah I thought yall coordinated this but now that I've listened I see this has been coming for the Parrs for a while. Ok then... speak Lord!
@@thebeatagp 😂😂😂he did actually, I thought of him immediately when I saw the video on the suggestions, then bam!! He is on the comments 😂😂
@@RaeiFlames lol so do I. I’d love to see their input on stay at home dads though!
I did watch your video on this topic. I like the approach you took on this topic. I'm going to see what the Parr 's family have to say about it too.
I was telling my husband how I desire so much to be a stay at home wife & mom. We just can’t afford one income yet. But I feel so strongly that it’s my next step in life. I pray it becomes possible for us.
Oh me too. I pray you can re-budget and find a way.
Trust the LORD sister! The LORD has abundantly provided for our family! He will provide for yours ❤️
She responded to not being able to afford it ruclips.net/video/0Ht_Jwm097A/видео.html
Would you be able to work remotely? That way, you can stay at home, and bring in income. Remote jobs are very common these days.
Jennifer SKIN IS glowing my love! This was a GREAT video.
@▫️THĘ BEAT by Allen Parr▫️ why lie about who u are
Because she chose not to be a feminist, empowered, career woman and chose to marry in her heart to her hooby fully, and actually be a wife and mother. Married women glow!
@@aramisy.cajigas744 Your comment is actually disrespectful to Allen's wife. She clearly knows how to handle a lot of things and is very intelligent. You do know women can multitask away from just being a wife and mother, right? Your comment is disrespectful to all the work she put in for herself to improve herself/challenge herself FOR herself before, during, and while she has been married. Yes, she is empowered. She is empowered because of HER not because she is married. I'm sure it was all of her wonderful qualities that she already had that attracted her husband to her.
@@lisacox3750 Ego-driven momma, calm down and learn from Mr. Parr's wife how to overcome ego.
It’s called youth. And lotion. Lol.
I homeschooled, taught exercise at the Y and could bring my kids with me. Staying home with my kids was top priority for us. Now my kids are grown and I am so grateful we made the sacrifice.
Yes! Any job that allows us to bring our kids with us is perfect. I believe being a mother should be our number one priority.
I currently work in the ER on the days my husband doesn't have to work and I work the nightshift to be available for my kids during the day, but after we buy a house, I would like a job I can do from home.
@@thewifelife007 I taught classes, so I could teach for an hour or so. The kids would use the Y computer room or classes. It’s not always easy to find, but there are jobs like that.
@@thewifelife007 If you’re a nurse, healthcare insurance companies has excellent positions that will allow you to WAH and still be with your kids.
This is a great and valuable conversation. As an attorney, many people expect me to focus on being a high powered career woman. But i have made choices to be in a position where my family can come first. The schedule is flexible and the maternity leave is top tier. My job knows my boundaries and I know when to say no so my family can come first. For me, it’s not whether or not a wife should work. It’s whether family can still be first. My career doesn’t give me identity, it is the means by which my husband and I can work together and balance work, life, and ministry but always putting the marriage ministry first.
Perfect mindset I wish more women from this culture could understand that. You hit it right on the nail
Thanks for sharing. Is it possible for a 30 year old to go to law school.. work until 36 ..then have children and manage her house and children? I’m debating if I still should become a lawyer. Please advise ;)
@@nataliesal342 anything is possible. But I would examine why you have a desire to be a high powered career woman. Is that God telling you what He has for you, or is that your ego? There’s no judgment in that question. If that’s what God has for you, excellent. But I realized after law school and being an attorney for 5 years nothing is as important as my family. And a lot of us think you can just have a kid when you’re ready. But I’m 32, and after trying for 2 years, I would say putting off trying to build a family for a career,..That’s not what God wants for me. It could be what He wants for you. But it’s a question you should be asking.
Such a great view!
You are me, I do feel pressured to want to move up in corporate but I know the truth deep down.
My fiancé and I are engaged to be married and we just got saved! I’d love a video with you and your wife on pre-marriage tips, how to keep God inside of the engagement/marriage, fighting temptations, etc. we already have a child together that is 4 years old, so this walk is brand new for us! Thankful God is making it possible ❤️
Welcome to the family!
They’ve done a couple joint videos on his channel already
@Sophie I’ll have to go look!
Welcome to the family of God sister!
🙂
Welcome to the family! I recommend checking out his bible study videos on the book of Song of Solomon. The series is great and I highly recommend to anyone who wants to start courting or wants to get married. Hope this helps!
This video helps out immensely. My wife and I are 8 weeks pregnant, I know the Lord has called her to be a stay at home mom. I’m really trying not to be stressed out for when the time comes (financially wise). I’m currently in school to be a teacher and working right now as a Resident Substitute Teacher in California. Trusting and knowing that God is our provider above all.
I love this! As a former career woman and now a stay-at-home wife, I'm struggling about my worth, identity and purpose. My husband explicitly told me that he doesn't prefer me to work full-time again since he's working and I need to focus on managing our home. I have started making art crafts for business but I don't earn as much as I did when I was an employee. And with our society and country's culture where being a housewife or a stay-at-home mother isn't considered a profession, I kinda felt unaccomplished, belittled and insecure. From your insights, God has reminded me to always seek my worth and purpose in Him. My value isn't dependent on what I do, but on what He has done for me. And I need to live according to how He has called me. Thank you so much, Mr. and Mrs. Parr. ✨
I had a similar experience and I agree with believers finding their worth in our obedience to God.
We are superheroes...... especially when we read Bible stories to our kids
@@animekinglovesanime I am not a mom yet. My husband and I are trying though. May the Lord bless us with children whom we could mold into God's love and godly contentment. I can't wait to raise children that would serve God as well. Will you include me in your prayers too? Thank you so much!!
Our society is backwards. Career should be FOR the family… so if you get to be a stay at home mom, you are very blessed. Nobody on their death bed wishes they spent more time in the office… they wish they spent it with their family.
@@gigahorse1475 To each their own.
As a person that has raised her family and in the empty nest stage, I had a similar path and I don’t regret staying at home and homeschooling one bit. We don’t have much in the way of financial gain due to that decision but God has always provided and done so abundantly!!
So what . Good for you. Not every woman has that luxury 🙄
@Kim that's the struggle. Meeting the financial obligations.
Finances are a struggle and have been for most of my adult life. As I look back I realize that most of the time and still even now I have to get creative with how I can earn some extra money and how I can save extra money. So I tutored other kids I watched other kids I cleaned offices at night after my husband came home. I traded daycare with friends so that I could work a part-time job and my husband took on a lot of extra hours as well. There was definitely an Ebb and flow and there were a few years in there where I did not have to work that much and other years that I had to work more. You just take it one year at a time and then break it down to one day at a time. And every day I still praise the Lord
I've had to give up luxuries in order to stay home and homeschool. We live in an old, small home, have one vehicle, and have cut out things that aren't necessary. It's not easy, but I believe it will be worth it in the end. The Lord is our provider and He will make a way if you feel like you should be home.
@@rh10033 Absolutely. And the rewards will far outweigh all the sacrifices. You will never get to raise your children again And if you’re not doing it somebody else is. Good job!!
An example of a healthy relationship. Communication, evaluation and honesty. We need more videos like this 👏🏽 Thank you for sharing
They are communicative and reasonable. I love their style of conversing.
It feels like this whole video is saying that women should not have visions of their own and lives of their own outside their marriage and their kids. Allen said this video would look at both sides but it felt like Jennifer insinuated that if you are a woman who's thriving at work and you don't feel any "mommy guilt", there's something wrong with you. I think this topic requires voices that come from different ways of life because honestly if you're gonna be a Pastor's wife, you're not really gonna have ambitions of your own outside your husband's ministry cause being a Pastor is a lot of work. His vision becomes your vision. But I am gonna speak and say this, I was raised by a single mom, and she keeps excelling in the work place, my aunt is studying to become a nurse practitioner and her marriage is as strong as a rock, my other aunt is studying to obtain her Masters in Pediatrics. The last one I mentioned lives in Zimbabwe, she's studying so hard and she works so hard so that she can find a job in a Western country and give her family a better life. I think Jennifer should have stressed the importance of Wisdom and being able to find a balance cause I don't believe it's God's desire that every woman stays at home.
Thank you for this!!!! ❤❤❤
I love this comment and I agree!! Being wife to a Pastor is a whole different scenario than your husband not being in ministry. Nevertheless, I also think it’s a cultural thing. I believe you’re African based on your comment on your family member in Zimbabwe; I’m Nigerian. And I’ve observed that African women (at least here in America since that’s where I live) tend to excel in their work while prioritizing their domestic responsibilities. I can personally attest to the fact that my mom worked various schedules as a nurse and my dad traveled a lot, but despite that, my mom always ensured all our needs were met. We had cooked meals everyday, our assignments were done on time, she spent time helping us read, she played with us, like my mom did what any typical “stay at home mom” would do apart from homeschooling us. And since I want to be medical doctor, she told me that no matter how high climb up the ladder in my profession, never neglect the responsibility I have to my family because my family affairs are first before any job. And my dad never wanted to have a stay at home wife either (I asked because of this topic) so it honestly depends. I think as long as your home is in order and God is still being glorified in your home and marriage, then do what suits you. There’s no one size fits all to having a marriage, so there’s none for running a family either.
Read your Bible!! Titus 2:3-5 says women are to be keepers at home. Also, if you are married you are now your husband’s helpmeet. If you don’t have a desire to be your husband’s helpmeet and if you can glorify God being single and serving Him then do so. Our lives are not to be self centered but service to God. Women have been told lies over and over again of finding something outside the home and finding fulfillment outside of it. Gods ways are best and they are perfect!!! I can tell you as a woman who is married and has children I am so fulfilled to be at home serving my husband and children because I do it into the Lord and this is His will. Read proverbs 31. Her husband and her children rise up and call her blessed!!! What woman wouldn’t want to hear that kind of praise coming from the lips of her own husband and children? Let me tell you! You are replaceable in the workforce no matter how much they may praise you at work but you are not replaceable as a wife and a mother.
@@steffa648Once I have children and my children are grown I will go back to work and follow my hopes and dreams, thank you. ❤
@@tracknation7285 So true ! I think having a career is laybe difficult with kids. But a regular job is very possible I think ! Especially knowing that even with a perfect husband he can still lose his job, get ill or even die. So I think a woman should stay self reliant while prioritising her relationships and especially her family. It is possible !
This was so good! I am 61 years old. I left a thriving career at the age of 40 and became a stay at home wife and mom. It was hard to leave my job, but God spoke clearly that this was His purpose for me. I have no regrets! At 61, my husband still works, my children are adults with their own children. I’m so glad this was God’s plan for my family.
Same here! I resigned from a promising career at 32 and became a stay at home mom when we became pregnant with our first child. So thankful to God for leading us in this decision and to my Husband for his support. My Husband was/is on board with me being the keeper of our home and to raise our daughter.
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Thanks for sharing.
Wow thank you for sharing!!!
In 2020 God spoke to me clearly during private prayer and worship.
1)’Give me your doctors uniform’
I saw my entire career flash before me and how I had not been pointing the patients/ staff to Christ. How many had I told that they needed to repent and put their trust in the Lord? I immediately handed over my scrubs to the Lord and I wept.
2)’Will you remain my golden candle?’
3)’You better go and declare yourself a missionary’.
And since then to the glory of God I have been a stay at home mum as well as an Intercessor and a street preacher.
I have even had the great privilege of leading former patients to Christ!!! 🕊
Praaaaaise the Lord!!!
I have also had the privilege of writing and directing a Christian film. 🎥 🍿
I can’t thank God enough for giving me a supportive ( really patient )
and loving husband who works full time and supports what I do.
THANK YOU JESUS!!!!
PS: In the book of revelation 1:20 it explains the meaning of golden candlesticks…In case anyone wants clarification…
“The mystery of the seven stars which thou sawest in my right hand, and the seven golden candlesticks. The seven stars are the angels of the seven churches: and the seven candlesticks which thou sawest are the seven churches.”
Thank you and may God bless you as you pray, listen to His voice and obey. Amen.
The Proverbs 31 woman was a wife, who ran several businesses. If a woman is able to parent her children properly and work at the same time, there is nothing wrong with contributing financially to the family by having a job or a business.
Yes.
I love staying home and taking care of my family. I feel this is the role that God has given me.
I feel this is role God gives most women according to the Bible.
You go girl. Do what you need to do for your family 🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻
It is definitely a calling
Coming back to this video to report that I have decided to quit my full time job to be more available to my husband and kids. I am a nurse who does well so its no small decision but I'm believing in my obedience God will take care of us.
And indeed He will take care of you.
Just trust Him.
In 2020 God spoke to me clearly during private prayer and worship.
1)’Give me your doctors uniform’
I saw my entire career flash before me and how I had not been pointing the patients/ staff to Christ. How many had I told that they needed to repent and put their trust in the Lord? I immediately handed over my scrubs to the Lord and I wept.
2)’Will you remain my golden candle?’
3)’You better go and declare yourself a missionary’.
And since then to the glory of God I have been a stay at home mum as well as an Intercessor and a street preacher.
I have even had the great privilege of leading former patients to Christ!!! 🕊
Praaaaaise the Lord!!!
I have also had the privilege of writing and directing a Christian film. 🎥 🍿
I can’t thank God enough for giving me a supportive ( really patient )
and loving husband who works full time and supports what I do.
THANK YOU JESUS!!!!
PS: In the book of revelation 1:20 it explains the meaning of golden candlesticks…In case anyone wants clarification…
“The mystery of the seven stars which thou sawest in my right hand, and the seven golden candlesticks. The seven stars are the angels of the seven churches: and the seven candlesticks which thou sawest are the seven churches.”
Thank you and may God bless you as you pray, listen to His voice and obey. Amen.
⏱ 8:28 - “We make time for what we care about.” So true! 👏
Many Christians have unfortunate Bias against Atheist-RUclipsrs, not even caring to try them.
This is very sad.
If you wanna be better and not live in an echo-chamber full of nothing but 'youre own people agreeing with you', then try the video 'Creationist kent Hovind Challenges Me, I Respond' from Genetically Modified Sceptic. If that video cant show you how polite and mature he is, then i dont know which can.
That RUclipsr has countless christian-fans and i hope you give him a Try.
My Lord! Mr. Allen I bless the name of the Lord for what he has done for you- particularly your wife and the rest of family.
What she says at 24:00 --> 24:20 is one of the deepest things I would ever get to hear a married woman say as a Christian. God bless you Mrs. Parr.
Your wife has a radiance about her.
I am only 16 years old but this helps me plan better and wiser for my future . I didn’t grow up with a father in the home the only father that I had was God “ which is way better “ . But this puts things in to perspective for me so thank you Alan parr and to your wife . So of topic but her skin is gourgous lol god bless ❤️❤️
Oh my! This is an amazing testimony! Jennifer, I feel your heart and your experience. My job became an idol for me, I was very, very good at it, and like Jennifer I too received a lot of affirmation. It ultimately was a mistake to place it above God and my family. I'm so glad Jennifer ultimately did what was best for her relationship with God. Unfortunately for me, my husband died of a major heart attack, and I regret not adjusting sooner. Our children are adults now with families and I have resigned from my job. I now am focusing on my relationship with God and allowing whatever God has for me to do or become I say yes. Ya'll have me in tears. I am so grateful for your ministry. Praise God!!
Oh my! That is devastating. I am so sorry to hear of that. Wow. I can't imagine your pain.
Thank you for sharing your story. I was struggling with going back to work or stay home with my sickly husband. God show me as I was reading your story, the stress my husband would feel if i weren't their with him could trigger another heart attack, I'm not saying that happened to your husband, but my husband talks to no one but me, he never go out, unless it's to the doctor, he has made it quite clear he doesn't do well when I'm out all the time. And my husband also depend on me for his spiritual food. I keep God in his face by sharing with him things God is showing me, that he can see is true. I think God has been showing me it's time for me to retire, but since my husband's health wasn't good, I just wanted to work a little longer. But I think the real reason I want to go out to work is because I want more time to myself doing what I want to do. And if I loss my husband I wouldn't be able to work anymore. I'm 65 and I think I will go ahead and draw my retirement to help pay off the house, and obey God.
Jennifer you are adorable! thank you for your refreshing honesty. May the LORD continue to Bless you both and your children.
This is just amazing, she is not just saying words she is telling her story and how God helps her to find back her identity in him instead of work or family 🙏.
I'm 47 years old. I've been married since I was 25. My Dad when I was 18, taught me about being "a keeper at home" like the Bible says too. So before I met my husband this teaching was already ingrained in my mind.
Yeah, thats an excellent show that you got indoctrinated young to casually accept casual s-ism, hun.
Thats why its important to be raised by a God fearing father. I highly regret my life choices, i wonder if i will ever have a settled heart. God bless you
@@slevinchannel7589 i guess being indoctrinated on being gay in this ungodly society is a whole lot better....
@@indriadrayton1132 I mean, youre so hom0phobic that the hate literally quells out of yourself:
You just threw hom$exuality in a discussion that had nothing to do with that and was not talking about it.
THATS how much it bothers you all the time, thats how much it is on youre silly, immature mind: You have to bring it up RANDOMLY and SUDDENLY.
@@slevinchannel7589 whats the difference between what you initially said (in that particular context) and what he/she said.
I love my family and I love my job, the Lord called me to be a mental health therapist and I enjoy my work. Is it difficult to do both, absolutely but with a supportive husband and with the Lord at the head, it can be done!
Preach sieter..
How do you know God called you to be a mental health therapist? I want to know my calling. I felt like being a mom was more important than a career when I had my first child, but I am open to know what other people think about Christian mothers working outside the home.
‘Amen’ so true
@@thewifelife007 Consistent daily prayer. Keep talking to God, keep asking about your destiny and guidance. Have faith he will answer. Repentance, thanksgiving and praise. Maybe also include fasting sometimes as well. Get in the word as well. But the importance of prayer is key. Spending time talking to the father, giving your heart to him. Asking him about things but also asking him for spiritual things like a softer heart, etc.
@@jesusisking3722 I study the Bible a lot and the verses about young women says we should be keepers at home. I feel like a lot of people just do what they want to do and they say God called them to do it. A lot of the time, God is calling us to do something that our flesh doesn't want to do.
You can tell a lot about a man as you listen to his wife and watch her interaction with him. Happy to see Allen’s bride. Surprised your only married for 3’years. I just buried my bride of 27 years and praise God for her impact upon my life, home and ministry. The Lord blessed is with 5 children. Sadly, I buried her Dec. 18th.
It looks like you two have a great future ahead of you. Keep up the good work Allen. Glad to see you guys are bi-vocational. We see the same for most of our marriage.
I believe a Christian woman’s first priority should and must be her home. Husband first, then children. This creates true legacy and provides so many ways to Glorify the Lord.
Thanks sister Parr for your transparency. You loved your job and got affirmation from it. Yet realized that affirmation should come from the Lord and your call to the home - first.
At the same time, I understand the challenge for so many families to survive or live on one income. Yet, the Lord blessed this sacrifice. My wife was able to homeschool our 3 older children (age 24-26). I believe their homes and families will be eternally impacted by this sacrifice by my wife.
I believe when God’s people walk by faith, based on a biblical understanding of scripture, He blesses.
Sister Parr’a comments at the 18:09 mark is something every woman of God and every Christian family should understand and appreciate.
When we see how much time and effort it takes to raise children that fear God, using the prescription is Deut. 4, 6 and 11, most of us don’t have enough to fight against the negative and sinful influences of the world.
NOTE: Deut 6 for example:
When you talk, sit, lie down or rise up…
This sounds like 24/7. And can be why there is so much failure in Christian.homes. Statistics show that more than 90% of children raised in “Christian homes” walk away from the things of God, by college.
Deu 6:5 And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might.
Deu 6:6 And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart:
Deu 6:7 And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.
Thanks for this video. I pray it’s helpful to many.
You mean christian married women. I dont have a family or kids. My job is to work with under proviledged kids. I have taught for 20 years.
@@misss7758 Yes. Christian married women. Good catch. Though I would add being single there are many things that can be learned from Godly married women. No need to wait for marriage to change thinking and make adjustments.
I would love to see Jennifer do Women’s ministry when she has the time, I would love to participate with her. I think she has a lot to offer in that, and can be inspirational to a lot of women that are in her situation!!
I don't think they believe in women being in ministry.
OK. What should then be done is any lady that joins the group turns out to be gay? What about accountability if that takes place? The church IS "a a haven for sinners."
She leads the women's bible study in the program Allan parr offers called let's equip.
No 1 Tim. Usurp authority over men is a no no
@@LuvDet6564 yes but take that verse in context: it is referring to the TYPE of women that have the mentality of “ my way, or the highway” and refuse to listen to the opinion of others. I know this for a fact because my dad married a woman like that after my mom died and after the divorce he unfortunately was attracted to those type of women.
This is too stressful for me. I'm happy to be in school, I just finished my 4th year in med school and will start my residency with Mayo Clinic in a few weeks. I'm honestly really proud of my accomplishments and much happier overall than when I was dating my ex partner who wanted me to drop out and rely on him entirely. If I die alone, so be it. God walks with me always. ♥️
Yes, not everyone is called to be married. If you are single, doing schooling, honoring God, representing Christ, then do it. Sending love and support.
I’m so glad you didn’t drop out for him. A partner should support your aspirations, not discourage them. And it’s not like you had kids to raise, so wanting you to drop out just to rely on him is a bit odd. Congrats on your achievements so far!
Exactly. I am still young and I always want to prepare for the possibility of never being married so I must know how to provide for myself.
Wow! This was right on time, God bless you all. I struggle with being home with my children because of the judgment and assumptions but I do feel that this is where God wants me to be. ❤️
I know exactly what you mean. We must do what's best for our family and block out all that outside noise. Keep praying and taking care of your household cus God gone take care of the rest.🙏
@@Jessica-ob9zp Amen
I'm single. I work to support myself, that's it. My purpose is to glorify God and enjoy Him forever.
God called me to a youth work career, helping teenagers. According to many Christians, I’m sinful for obeying God’s call on my life.
I believe when your children are little. You should try to stay home. Because it’s very hard to work outside the home with small children. I was happy to be able to stay home with my children. I understand with the inflation is hard. Just pray about it. God knows our hearts ♥️
I needed this I’ve been struggling with this should I get a job to help my husband because I have a 2 year old🥺
@@liciaann8877 only you and hubby know the answer. If you can afford it. Yes. If not. Part time. Hope you make a good decision for your family. Pray 🙏🏻 about it.
God knows in your heart you do not trust Him if you make a decision to be obedient off of financial prosperity or need. God promises to provide all we need. So we don't base our obedience on that. Obedience comes at a cost but also a reward. But you should never base a decision on anything other than what God says. If a husband tells his wife to work, God says to obey Him and we have to trust in the Lord. If we stay home knowing we are commanded to and the husband degrees, you need to do that despite what happens financially. But in my case, God has abundantly blessed and provided without college degrees and with my husband making $9 an hour when we had our first child in 2012. And as we have had more children, God has increased us our income and we live in California. You can trust God but most Christians do not and we and others suffer the Earthly consequences.
@@ASmith-jn7kf this is so true ❤️
@@liciaann8877 - Your W-2 paycheck would just be paying the daycare bill so what’s the point? If I were you, I’d babysit 2 kids & charge. Even better is to be a graveyard shift babysitter 6pm - 6am. You feed the kids dinner, put them to bed at 8pm & they’re asleep the entire night. There’s a need for this service.
This is great! My husband and I just had this conversation last night. I’m in a season where my job ended abruptly, and I’m torn between returning to the workforce or staying home. Thank you Holy Spirit for leading the Parrs to create this video and post it at this time.
The respect and love you have for each other is so beautiful
I'll be honest, I was going to skip this one. However, Jennifer's word to the three types of women (single in my case) really spoke to me (as did the rest of the video). Thanks for your obedience.🙏🙌
As a man, it’s hard when you have to have a two income family to make ends meet. I prayed and prayed for a financial breakthrough so my wife could stay home with our kids but it didn’t work out that way. It definitely makes me feel that I’ve failed by not being able to be the sole provider. But I’m happy for those who can do this.
Aww God sees your heart you’re amazing ♥️
Feel no shame. You're providing for your family. Many men don't. God sees your hard work and love for your family.
Keep praying keep seeking and have faith
You have not failed. Look at the other areas in your life where you provide stability, nurturing, role model and other aspects to your family. Finances is just one way of providing for your family.
You are not a failure
If I May, ‘Blessings’ to you both for your transparency of your marriage and your dedication towards each other. Blessings.
This was just amazing. It felt like Jen was talking to me. I also left the work force 7 years ago to be a stay at home and I've never been happier.
I'm glad that you mentioned that our identity should be found in Christ alone. Well Done guys. 🙂🙂
If a wife is subject to her husband ( who is the head) and my husband does not complain about me working or working too much and I am functioning in the will of God, no man or woman has any right to dictate what I ought to do for my household except my husband. If the head of my household has qualms with me working then I need to address it but if he doesn’t and is okay with it and we are partnering together then I am still functioning within the confines of God. We have to consider economics nowadays if a husband is laid off or life happens ( perishes or gets in an accident) then what? we become homeless because I wanted to stay home? You should seek the face of the Lord and apply wisdoms and discernment. For some it is okay to do so but for some it is not so easy. Great talk and beautiful couple!
Good point. It's so hard to get a job, especially for older people nowadays. So if you don't have much of a work history, then all of a sudden you NEED a job, then good luck. The Lord does provide, but I would think He expects us to put the work in for ourselves first.
Exactly. I know many women myself included that faltered when her husband could not work or left and she had no work history. You have to be WISE. And seek God
YES! This right here. What you do in he home is between your spouse and God. People will have a lot to say. If God tells you to work, stay home, etc. you're balanced, husband is okay with it. You're coming home at a good time, not pulling a bunch of night hours, what's the crime? I'm with you. Use God + Wisdom + Discernment. I think many Christians I've met usually don't use the last two: wisdom and discernment. My mom told me, "Some things don't need prayer. God already told you what to do. You're just not being wise and using discernment." Changed my views on life.
Also want to add you said HUSBAND, not BOYFRIEND. A boyfriend shouldn't dictate a girlfriend to stop working (yes, I had one do this before). He cannot exercise authority. He's not married to her.
Never had the support to stay at home, and I really needed to be with my young kids. Unfortunately, I received a lot of judgment from my husband and in-laws. It's SO important to be equally yoked and on one accord with your spouse, and make the decision together. Once my kids were older and I started working a great job, I received more respect from them and could support myself. I wish I could have stayed home without feeling condemned for doing so. Thankfully, I have a really balanced life, and make time for My Savior, church, volunteering, family, and work. I strive to draw closer to Jesus/God everyday. That's the priority.
I hear you. I was condemned too for leaving my career in my 30s to care for the kids. Now that my kids are late teens I am nearly finished studying for a new career. I hope to work, God willing, within a year or 2. I know only then will my husband and others, give me respect. But he professes Christ in front of others.
I know God is taking care of me, and one day will help me in what new path He has in store regardless of husband's thoughts.
@@minnielou1259 I posted a question for Allan and his wife similar. I have a lot of guilt about having to work outside the home instead of being there for my kids. Hope they can make an attempt at helping me. There isn't really anything that covers my predicament.
Thank you Jennifer! I love hearing from wives of successful men.
Thank you so much for the testimony. When she said, that joy should come from God, I started crying as I never cried. I have always been a working wife, and mother. I had to go to the office, and at that time, I was unhappy, because I was missing everything about my kids. Then, I started working from home 100%. no more day care I said. I was happy for a few weeks, but the reality came back. I was home but busy working. Then, I took 2 weeks without working, to see how it would feel. That is when I realized what Jennifer said: I was putting my faith and basing my happiness on something else than God.
Now, I still try to manage working at home (for now), and raising the kids, and homeschooling then, and taking care of my husband and my house. But for sure, we are not perfect. It is important to focus on God and be thankful for what he allows us to do each day. But I agree completely with Jennifer, guarding our home is THE JOB, THE BEST JOB. Now, I am looking forward to being a complete stay-at-home mother (no more too much computer :) ). I like something Voodie Baucham said in one preaching: even if a married woman works, she needs to make sure her job does not prevent her from doing her TRUE JOB God called her for (all those points Jennifer pointed from Titus). Of, course, same for men. their job or business should not prevent them from performing their other JOBs and responsibility that God called them to do for their family. But the society today has made marriage a toxic place, where men are not there, and women are not there. Especially, us women, it seems like we are not there anymore, where we are supposed to be.
This was absolutely PRICELESS!! Thank you both for sharing. May the Father continue to bless ya'lls marriage and ministry. Thanks again.
S-ist though. Blatantly so.
“Not every good thing that happens to you, comes from God.”
Whew, I felt that in my soul because it tricks you.
I think this is something that every woman should consult the LORD about directly. I used to think that all Christian women should be stay at home wives and was prepared to accept that reality for myself (this was partly influenced by what certain well respected pastors had said). However, as I began to seek the LORD for myself He revealed to me that my calling was to have a career and that I would bring Him glory through this particular career. There are many examples of woking women in the Bible, including the Proverbs 31 woman who had a business and Deborah who was a wife and a judge. Each woman should diligently seek the LORD for herself concerning this issue - some are called to be stay at home wives/mums and some are called to have careers. Both are absolutely fine.
Perspective noted and receptive.
Well, I guess it depends on your marital status. If you are married with children, you are called to be at home. Only single women with no supportive father or women who are done raising their children should work outside the home, tbh. And we are also called to submit to our own husbands, as unto the Lord.
@@thewifelife007 May God open your eyes and break you away from the rules humans have added to his words.
@@daisiesandpandas1218 It's in the Bible that wives should submit to their husbands and be keepers at home. When I gave birth to my 1st child, I naturally didn't want to go back to work. I no longer cared about a career. I cared about protecting my son from harm.
@@thewifelife007 I'm a single woman who has both a supportive father and mother. Also, like I mentioned, the Proverbs 31 woman was married with children while also having her own business and buying property with her own money. Also, who says you can't submit to your husband and have a career at the same time?
I love how Allen listens and gives attention to his wife during the conversation. God bless them both. Peace, love and blessings from New Zealand🕊
You have no idea how perfect the timing of this is in my life. I have been praying on this exact topic. Thank you so much Mr. and Mrs. Parr for being so open and honest.
I was very challenged by this. My mom and dad both worked ~50 hrs a week yet I never felt neglected and I was blessed with parents that loved each other and the Lord.
I guess where I struggle with this video is that I feel a lot of what Jennifer shared can be said about a husband who works a corporate job. I know a mother is naturally more nurturing but why should a woman sacrifice her desire to work and provide but a husband is enabled in his pursuits? I feel like this was more geared towards making sure your identity isn’t in a job but in God and his desires in your life. I would’ve appreciated more insight on why there seems to be more initiative on the wife to be the protector of a family. I know scripture says this and I will take scripture as ultimate authority but I would appreciate to know whether there was more benefit in having Jennifer nurturing the children more than Allen and more insight on why there is more focus on the wife being the keeper of the home.
It’s not about her desire but God’s will.
I like what you type. I feel there is more to this. My husband's home as a child was the opposite and I see the Love of God in his parents home. I guess it depends on each couple what works.Its just really gave the vibe that someone had to give up a dream to help another's dream.Her job could have propelled this show far bc of the connections she have. Well to each their own. They know what is best for them and who are we to say different.
Enabled in his pursuits, maybe, but yet his responsibility is immense-to provide for his family in all areas. Where he gets a reprieve a bit, is the wife taking care of the home and children while he’s out working. He can come home to love and comfort. I see God’s plan as the absolute best.
@@Mary-gc2py Facts and sometimes you can tell that the woman is so uncomfortable bc they want more.
@@Mary-gc2py according to scripture, what is God’s will for a wife? That should be our main concern, regardless of what we think or feel. Titus 2 gives a clear blueprint, and can be fleshed out differently in each marriage since each marriage is unique. But that’s a good starting place.
I chose to stay home and raise my children, we didn’t have a lot of money but my husband supported that decision for me to stay home. I eventually opened a home daycare to add to our household income and still be able to be home and raise my children until they were teens.
Thats Dope!
God knows everything.
Awesome message especially in these times. I love that you guys BOTH decided what is best for your family this way there is no resentment. My husband and I decided the same thing and we happy, have lots of time and energy for intermicy. I'm a full time Mom and home maker, supporting my husband in his business. I Love being his helper and he Loves spoiling me. God bless you all.
God first, spouse (s) second. Nothing and No one should ‘never’ divide the aforementioned two. Blessings
Who are you when the things you cling to are taken away?
I’m Parr-aphrasing here 22:58, but this is powerful. Reminds me of Job!
This is good.
Sometimes parents can groom their sons/daughters to be very ambitious and go getters in society without making them aware of how this can negatively impact their spouses or children
This has lead to severe competition with women and men in the work force and infidelity in marriages.
Ambitions are great when they line up with God’s plan
Well said 👏
I’m going to share your comment on social media. It’s beautifully written. Thank you.
@@xmochix604 appreciate that… all praises to God
Wow!! This is very accurate
My my my have the blindfolds been removed from this amazing couple, it takes courage to stand up for what is right and true. Thank you Alan for this, God is good.
It's good to see you and your wife discussing such a sensitive issue, however, it's okay to work outside the home but you have to be able to have worklife balance. You must be able to leave work at work and not bring it home especially taking it in the bedroom.
Work-life balance is especially important. If you're working that hard for that many hours because you need it in order for the famly to survive. Then fine, but still not preferrable. But if youre doing that by choice when you clearly dont need the money, that is an issue. And that goes for men and women.
Brother Allen, your facial expressions and reactions said so much. You didn't hide your pain when she talked about times you wished she was around more. Yet it's also very clear you love your wife very much. I appreciate the complete honesty from both sides in this video. Looking forward to seeing more of the two of you together.
I so much fought this too and l got to learn that homemaking is a ministry, serving your family is an assignment from God and we have to know that we still have gifts that we can use from home( not easy but with God's guidance,we can). So heartfelt. Please sir please bless us with your wife once in a while 😁
Yay! So nice to meet your beautiful wife!
I've been a stay-at-home mom now for 22 years. My children are on their way out of our home, so the season is coming to an end. Staying home was not a easy desision to make and sometimes really hard because you get no validation from society. What is the first thing people ask you when you meet? " So, what do you do?" And if you answer "I'm at home with my kids", I've many times found, people think you're a bit dumb. Like you can't do a "real job".
Anaway, looking back I feel extremely privileged, espessialy knowing there are many women out there who would love to stay at home but can't. And with my kids starting to leave my home, I have absolutely no regrets of the sacrifices we made! It was absolutely worth it.
I go through this all the time, especially since I only have one kid and he's in school now. But I really need that break (he's autistic and can really try my patience sometimes). But we're looking into fostering since our adoption plans never went anywhere and we want more kids. I hope I can feel some relief from the external pressure if I'm foster parenting (not that I'm doing it to relieve pressure, it will come with lots of stress of it's own, but I hope that it's an added bonus)
Thank you for this message.
This truly is a God given wisdom.🙏
Family is such an important ministry! Honored to be a full time mother and wife 💖🙌🏾
Praise the Lord. It's a great privilege in doing God's will.
God bless you!!
its not an honour, not everyone wants that, what if his job ends unexpectedly and you have no job experience or qualifications ? its never safe to fully depend on sm1's money
@curlycurls7954 I could work and take care of my family if wanted to. The point is I don't have to nor want to 🤗
great discussion and much food for thought. Sir Allen, you have an absolutely beautiful wife who is helping you fulfill the call on your life. That smile would warm any dark and cloudy day. God bless you both and your children as you press forward
So grateful to you for your message celebrating housewives snd stay-at-home moms.
Just listened to this episode as I am in the same season with my family. I love the refocus on the fact that our identity is in Him. Thank you for your testimony!
Loved this conversation. Thanks for bringing your gorgeous wife on the show to offer some insight that many Christian households face. Blessings always!
Love your transparency. Your desire to help others in their marriage is such a blessing!
God bless you ❤
She's such a sweetheart. I wanna see more of her. I have no topic suggestions though haha, I just want to see more of her!
The two of you are wonderful role models and examples. Thank you for being vulnerable and putting your own person thoughts and obstacles out there. Jennifer, coming from a woman that was so well said.
Thank you for sharing this encouraging video. I've been a WAH, homeschooling mom to our 5 kids for 20+ years. As they moving into adulthood I can look back and not regret being home with my kids.
Please cover how a husband should submit, treat and support his wife
I second this that will be good one
This video really touched me--even being in a totally different season/career-type. The Holy Spirit always majorly uses Jennifer to speak to a special part of my soul---and I know that is true for so many other women. Thank you both, so much, for this amazing interview!
The Lord bless you both in abundance along with your precious children and families!! We luv❤❤ you.
I am a single woman and this was soooo encouraging. I am grateful for your message and Jennifer is so beautiful seemingly effortlessly but obviously it’s the matching heart too. ❤️
Christian women can and should work based on their specific situation and circumstances. That's my two cents.
Amen. Every situation and/or marriage is different.
False. Stop conforming to the world.
@@ryanmessano1895 The cost of living keeps rising. Even Walmart prices are getting high and they used to be the low priced leader but that's starting to not be the case anymore! Not every family can afford to live on one income anymore and there aren't that many work-at-home jobs that aren't gimmicks/scams. It is what it is.
I agree.
I agree.
THIS WAS A GREAT VIDEO, THANK YOU MR. MRS.PARR FOR SHARING..CONTINUED BLESSINGS🙏🙏🙏🙏😊😊💕💕💞💞
I’m currently pregnant with my first child and I’ve been going back and forth with this topic. My husband has a child from a previous relationship and he pays child support which means that my income is important to our household even now that it’s mostly just the two of us. We both have decent jobs and I work 40 hrs a week, but it isn’t a guarantee that I will be working from home. I’ve always had the desire to stay home with my children and homeschool them but the further along I am in my pregnancy, I see that this idea I’ve had about being a SAHM is becoming more of a fantasy and less of a reality. I’ve talked to my husband about this and I know he doesn’t say it outright but he needs my income even after this baby comes. I loved this video and I will continue to pray and remind myself that my identity is in Christ, always and forever. Many blessings to the Parr family ❤️
Dacee Lee, I know from personal experience that if you trust God and do it His Way, HE will make a way. We have no idea what God will do until we totally (100%) turn everything over to him. I'm praying for you, dear.
I pray God directs your heart to fulfill your purpose. Just remember its not for you to make up for the income loss by the support. That's your husband's job. Even if he has to find another job or side business to make it work. Just continue to pray about it God will give you the desires of your heart if you stay close to Him.
@@HerbGal Very encouraging; this encouraged me in my situation too
I can relate to you. My husband has 3 other children and pays child support and we have 3 children together. It is difficult but God has provided me with a job I can do from home but it still pulls me away from the kids and my husband is gone at work all day everyday and only has Sundays off. But we are making it work for now. I pray your situation will work out where you can be home with your baby. God bless.
@@crystalrose4296 thank you love. I’ll be praying for you as well I appreciate the encouragement and the understanding. May God continue blessing you and your family.
It's great to see you guys together in this video! Thanks so much and your wife is so beautiful, many blessings to your family!
I don’t think this is very applicable in certain parts of the world where the economy is bad and both parties need to work just to put food on the table. Also sending the children to better schools is expensive. Ild love to hear more on how to balance work life as a woman with being a present wife and mother.
Can I just say, I love how Allen looks at Jennifer 🥰🥰. He’s smitten.
Awww it's so lovely to see Jennifer on the channel. Can't wait to watch. ❤
Adorable couple. God bless your home and ministry
She is beautiful! God blessed you!
I would love for the Parr’s to cover how can single women find their purpose? What are the steps? Also another one, when you feel stuck emotionally and spiritually what can you do? This was amazing and hi Mrs. Parr you and hubby are doing God’s work with this ministry and I’m so excited to be apart of it!
Thank you. Im over here like finally someone asked the question i wanted to know
Hon, read your Bible and pray to God. If you are a Believer, the Holy Spirit will lead you and guide you into all truths. Do not lean on any one man or woman before you have consulted your ultimate Guide. A single woman's purpose is no different than a married woman or man. We are all to serve and care for our own bodies and care for others and tend to our relationship with our Heavenly Father. In a married woman's case, she serves her family and herself and the body same thing as a husband. You just serve in a different sector and your singleness is a gift as Paul says as you can have your heart devoted to God, as all married people should as well. But often marriage is a vehicle of distraction, especially if it is a good marriage. A bad marriage can make some run to God.
i dunno if there are "steps" which sound formulaic. i would say that scripture already gives us so much to do in our day to day. i would start by doing those things while praying and fasting that God gives you wisdom in the midst of your obedience to what He had already said.
People tend to stress tooo much on “purpose.” You NEED to continue to seek and nurture your relationship with the Holy Spirit. As you do that He will guide you in All Truth. Your purpose maybe on your job being the Light in the dark places. Don’t stress. Just spend time strengthening your spirit man and cultivating your relationship with Jesus.🙂
@@bobbiharwell you're right. Im a bus driver. I meet so many people that i pray for bc they are so depressed, broken, addicted, and hurting.
I loved this interview! Hearing from Jennifer was so refreshing. We do need to examine our identity in Christ first while laying aside all of the trappings of the world. I would love to hear more about what that looks like after you’ve dismantled all of the distractions.
Bro. Allen and Sis. Jennifer, I really enjoyed this! Thank you! I'm a working mum who is constantly balancing the scales of mum, wife, and working girl life and I pray I continue to hear from God about this. Thanks once again and stay blessed!
I love you guys doing this together!! You are a beautiful couple. This video was so helpful for the married people, especially myself as I am going through this same situation. Good video for singles too, looking to get married and start families!!
Beautiful conversation. Thank you so much brother, Allen. Love this. So excited to see more of Jennifer on here. ❤️
All I can say is “To God all the Glory” and praise! I thank God for your obedience to share this word and experience with all of us and I am so thankful for this message because it is an one time word! Confirmation from the Holy Spirit 🎯
Love how authentic these conversations are. Keeps things feeling real and not up for comparison.
I feel so blessed to have found a balance between work and motherhood. God directed my path to a career that allows me to work part time so that I have the capacity to "do it all." My husband is happy with our arrangement, my children are healthy and happy. I am so blessed. Of course the daily stressor are still there. But in reality I do have that balance and capacity and am so thankful to Jesus!
Off subject, your wife is STUNNING and this was so insightful. I wholeheartedly appreciate this message.
Thanks for this reminder from your wife and you as well.
I’ve been a stay at home mom and homeschooler for 3 years now. I’ve just recently started getting restless and probably not feeling self worth in what I’m doing, also doubting if what I do for my kids is what they need fully. This video couldn’t have been posted at a better time.
I can relate. Thank you for sharing.
I want to pray that God continue to strengthen your walk with him and your marriage. I’m truly encouraged by everything you said Jennifer. I am affirmed that my call to be home with the children that God gave me, was ordained by God. The verse that kept coming to me was, seek ye first my kingdom… May God bless you both and may others be blessed by your walk with Christ.
Such an important conversation to have and I LOVE that you brought Jennifer on for this topic. I want to encourage any single moms who are watching this video, that you are not alone in your struggle to juggle family and work. I also want to encourage you that if you seek the Lord and ask Him to give you the ability to prioritize family, He will make a way. It won't come without sacrifices, but they will be worthwhile. I am testament of God's provision for 7 years as a single, homeschooling mom who is able to only work part-time. He has been SO faithful!
She’s beautiful! Love her spirit! And this is right on point! I’ve been a stay at home mom for 6 years and never plan to go back! It feels amazing to be in alignment with the Lord and His divine order ♥️
This is really good. I am a single Christian woman, and I love this interview and the part she gave each different type of woman an encouraging word.
I love you, guys, Allen and Jennifer. Thank you for sharing with us. This is so important and it's a big decision to share family and marital vulnerabilities for the purpose of teaching and training others. Thank you so much for being faithful!
Perfect conversation perfect timing. I'm not married nor have kids yet but halfway in a degree that is a time consuming career. I've really been thinking of kids and how my career would possibly interfere with my children's stages where they would need me the most. I'm puzzled at the moment but I know God will plant me where he wants me.
I love this video. Jennifer is so sweet and Allen looks so proud of his wife 💗
This was so beautifully done. I’m an attorney and feeling the conviction hard to be home with my husband and son. But I will be in prayer!
Wow thank you for sharing!!!
In 2020 God spoke to me clearly during private prayer and worship.
1)’Give me your doctors uniform’
I saw my entire career flash before me and how I had not been pointing the patients/ staff to Christ. How many had I told that they needed to repent and put their trust in the Lord? I immediately handed over my scrubs to the Lord and I wept.
2)’Will you remain my golden candle?’
3)’You better go and declare yourself a missionary’.
And since then to the glory of God I have been a stay at home mum as well as an Intercessor and a street preacher.
I have even had the great privilege of leading former patients to Christ!!! 🕊
Praaaaaise the Lord!!!
I have also had the privilege of writing and directing a Christian film. 🎥 🍿
I can’t thank God enough for giving me a supportive ( really patient )
and loving husband who works full time and supports what I do.
THANK YOU JESUS!!!!
PS: In the book of revelation 1:20 it explains the meaning of golden candlesticks…In case anyone wants clarification…
“The mystery of the seven stars which thou sawest in my right hand, and the seven golden candlesticks. The seven stars are the angels of the seven churches: and the seven candlesticks which thou sawest are the seven churches.”
Thank you and may God bless you as you pray, listen to His voice and obey. Amen.
You can still serve God as an attorney, people are ignoring how women can serve God in their workplace too - they’re acting like work is just secular and has nothing to do with serving God, very incorrect view. God called me to work with teenagers, so should I feel guilty for obeying God’s call?! (I don’t have my own kids, so maybe I’m a sinner there too lol).