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Many men have gained the world but lost their soul. They have the car, the house, the girl, but have lost themselves along the way. External results mean nothing without the inner peace and integration to enjoy them. The outer trappings and achievements just become the icing on the cake, not the cake itself.
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CHRIST HAS A NEW NAME AND HAS BEGUN HIS RULE AND HAS A NEW NAME AND SO DO HIS PEOPLE.
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What music is that?
people are basically good? bible says opposite bro
@@hillbillyhank-h9x That assumption is what leads to indulgence.
@@Josh-sz8ip alrighty then
Man it’s like you spoke right to me. I’ve been sitting here in tears with a gun to my head. I just hit my 30s and have nothing to show for it. I feel like my life is over or even if I do get it turned around nobody will care. Our world has become so separated these days nothing even makes sense anymore. I am battling constant pain everyday. I can’t leave my place I can’t talk to people. Some traumatic stuff happened over the past 10 years and tonight I just snapped. I picked up my phone to see if anyone responded to my texts. Nobody did but I saw the RUclips app and thought maybe a funny video will take me out of this dark headspace. Funny videos only made it worse. Then I saw your video and clicked. You saved my life tonight man.
It's not an accident this video found you in the timing that it did. The Divine (you can call it God, The universe, it doesn't matter) is with you brother. It transcends religion, opinions, and everything we think we know about reality. I've been at the end of my rope... Deep suffering is what ultimately brought me to the place of healing, love, and the clarity I have today... Your purpose is bigger than you know. Once I felt like I had nothing to lose, and lost my fear of death, I started to live fully, fearlessly, unapologetically... I thought I wanted to die physically, because my ego was dying, in a sense. Turns out the death of my ego was actually freedom to be my authentic self. An easy actionable step for you, a small place to start:
Start taking long daily walks, with headphones while listening to the audio book "The Power of Now" by Eckart Tolle. Listen with an open heart. Sending you infinite love my friend. You are not alone in any of this, even in the darkest of times.
Brother, you are not an accident. Life can be difficult, but there is hope as long as you choose to keep living. I am 35 years old, $80k in debt, and all my best friends are married with kids and own houses. I've self-isolated for the past decade and own nothing except an old car. My father was never around and worked all the time, and my mom projected her life trauma onto all her kids. Every day is a struggle, but somehow i am hopeful everyday and videos like these help keep my hope alive.
Life can be lonely, tough, and downright miserable, but we often forget that it can also be beautiful. Find a community of men, maybe at church, a volunteer group, or a sports team. We are meant to be part of communities. Trust me, I know it's hard, but it is worth it. Despite being one of the worst communicators, my best friends have deemed me worthy of their friendship.
Unplugging from social media, work out everyday, daily journaling, WATCH VIDEOS LIKE THESE FIRST THING IN THE MORNING AND AT NIGHT and positive affirmations are helpful. I hope and pray that you find peace in your heart and mind. The internet makes it seem like life is a terrible place, but it is not.
@@TheConsciousMan143thanks for everything. Can you make a video on how to leave a girl when you are afraid of loneliness or you feel guilty to breakup because she's really supporting and caring? thank you
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Don’t feel so bad…I’m almost 50 and have nothing to show for it. But suicide is never a thought.
Left the gym yesterday and felt depressed walking back to my truck. I knew a long and lonely weekend was ahead of me. I love the gym and eating real food. Got up this morning to make my first meal but put everything back in the refrigerator and got back in the bed. The loneliness and depression is too much sometimes. I'll just play videogames today. 40 year old AF Vet here.
Thinking about joining the military at 19, did you enjoy what you did?
@@Johnhargrove18don’t be willing to die for a country that doesn’t care about you.
go to sex workers its a little help then go to the gym, eat well, paint chairs, sign up to paddle
Have you considered volunteering?
@@g_eric333What is a country? Are you implying that we’re entitled to something from said country? Explain.
We men hurt in silence
The silence alone is painful.
Hi, I’m not saying men don’t, I know for a fact that they do. After 40+ years I found my brothers suicide letter. I had no idea it even existed. When my mom died, I found it in her things. I also had no idea that he was in such emotional pain. I wish he would’ve let me know what he was feeling. I was only 15 when he died but I loved him more than anyone else in my family. But he always had his game face on. Fast forward to the last 10 yrs. or so and that permits me to say I can totally relate to suffering in silence and btw, I’m a female. The only one that I open up to is God. He’s the only one that I have that I can talk to. I may not hear his replies but at least I’m releasing some of my pain out into the cosmos and not totally keeping everything bottled up.
Dude think about it, just sit back and search for this same exact topic. I bunch of dudes going on about life like it's over. Seek help man, Don't give up 🙏
There's a reason why we men say the things we do ,and not many know how to listen other than themselves ,so yeah . Society ,men and woman choose to not care about there neighbors ,let the truth set us free
So true
Eat. Work. Eat. Workout. Eat. Sleep. Videogames. RUclips. Repeat until dead. Fuck.
You can break the pattern if you want to. You are the creator of your reality my friend. Victimhood will say otherwise, because a part of humanity enjoys being a victim. We can wake up. Many have... many are.
My routine pretty much
It's your choice to not have a hobby or read books or exercise...no one is threatening you with violence or incarceration for putting your electronics down.
forgot the 'masturbate' part after each one of those
@@Null4evawhat if you don't enjoy any of it tho
Self deletion rate of men at 80%
* women most affected *
some women are happy that men are the most on suicide, (feminist)
that's fucked up
Yeah. The media will say women most affected but we all know they don't care at all.
The 5u1c1de rate is everyone on the planet while the 80% *of* that rate is men
this camera style outside the car is a unique way to film. got me watchin lol
I appreciate it!
Yeah, it's very cinematic!
he is not ok coz he still search for a charger 😂
I think he's being ironic lol..Great vi d tho
Shit feel like a movie 😂🔥
I don’t care how bad it gets. I’m NOT becoming a statistic
Yea me neither
Fir me it's pure spite at this point "I want this to end but telling fate to go fuck itself makes me feel better!"
@@demon-hunter1498why is this actually good motivation wtf
You'll still be a statistic, just not one of the "bad" statistics.
Amen.
What kills me is that even if tomorrow my life changed 1000% for the better, and everything was perfect, I still wouldn’t have the one thing I wanted from childhood; to meet my girl while we were young, and grow old together with a lifetime of memories. At best I’ll meet someone also in their late 30s, and share half a life together starting when we are already in the early stages of being old.
And that’s best case scenario, if someone my life miraculously became perfect tomorrow as opposed to the more likely never
It would be better if it was never because you’re always going to be resentful. Not everyone gets to procreate, nor should they, the reason so many men are struggling is they are products of relationships where the woman didn’t get to do her role of picking good genes to pass down. Y’all need to stop fighting it and stop relying on women and just find a way to be happy, find a different goal and cause for yourself. Women aren’t your property and they can’t fix you either. You keep using the word perfect but nothing and nobody is perfect you can’t rely on others to be perfect and will always be disappointed. Perhaps if you weren’t looking for perfection you would have found what you wanted but at 30? Give up.
Your perspective is completely wrong. You COULD have died at 12 and not ever gotten to be with someone at all.
Think of it this way. If you lost your mom or father but could gain even a single day back with them, would you not take it? So why would you think a “late” relationship is suddenly “game over”?
I was on a 5 year relationship in my 20’s. That ended, were those years “wasted” because it didn’t last until my death? No. I lived and learned.
Go and live and stop concerning yourself with the past. You’re living for today and if today means you waking up to someone you love - go for it. Best part is you’ll be making someone else happy in the process.
@@Xarkom89 I lost my mom and dad before I was 20. There’s no if.
If you focus on the things you cannot have then of course you will be unhappy. You need to think about the things you do have and be thankful for that.
Btw many of you seem to think if you could just meet a woman then you’d be happy. Relationships are a lot of hard work for results that may not even be that great. Plus, be fortunate you didn’t marry young as you could be divorced right and stuck with alimony
Getting married young, living happily together, and dying old together, is a pipedream. Not many married couples at all remain happy, despite what they say to other parties, and there's no guarantees you'll make it to old age either.
I'm sixty years old, no children, never married, recently lost my job. For the last few weeks, I've been thinking about how the remainder of life will be and it doesn't look good. If I live too long all I have to look forward to is living in "retirement home" having someone wipe my a$$. That is my biggest fear, being a burden to someone, not going to happen under my watch.😐
Pretty much the same circumstance brother......it's an odd feeling that I tuck away.
I wipe those asses for a living, from what I observe it's really not so bad because you make friends with people in the same boat. You can still enjoy several more years with good people & share so many stories and similar experiences with people in your same demographic & from the same era with the same great memories....be present in that and soak up what you can from your surroundings. I've done this for a year & I've never cried so much in my life which is really strange for me but I accept it for what it is which is just another experience in life. I cry because I get to know people and when it's their time to die it's very very sad....
You know, i cant really give good advice on how to get a job, but what I’ve learned from the shit ive been too is just to not think about it. Some things cant be changed, no matter how hard you try so why bother yourself over them. but keep on going and treat yourself sometimes. Wishing you the best
Why don't we all just make our own family with eachother? Seems like that's could be a start!
Even as someone just 21, I lament at the thought of being a burden to someone like that, as my days being numbered. I would rather live by the sword, and die by the sword, before that ever happens.
I'm 49 yrs old 50 in August fingers crossed I score this job from KFC its a 5 minute walk from home 🎉
Congrats. That's a good beginning, but not the end. You got this!
Fuck yeah! 🙌🏽
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You got it.
That’s awesome! Good job, my man!!
Men live a life of quiet desperation
Nah you guys actually have real friends to help you lmao.
@@FoxyWhispers yeah okay. Talk some more shit.
@JiMMY-my1ds If I wanted to diss you then I'd call you all chauvinistic pigs.
Can't handle the truth?
Idgaf. Cope some more.
@@JiMMY-my1ds Men are more universally liked. Cope harder.
@@JiMMY-my1ds Cope harder.
There is enormous pressure for Men to provide for a family, always be there and never show any emotion what so ever.
you're right. i decided at a young age that i'll never marry or have kids.
@@xx-thenightrider bingo
Shut up people care 😂
@@abrahamloch8682 they don’t. All my supposed friends abandoned me when I broke my back, I was left alone for 3 months. Not a single friend visited me
I want to provide for a family very badly, I've never been more lonely in my entire life
My mother used to beat me up, because my father decided to not like me.
I broke contact & i am developing in my personal areas. Also i understand my past traumas more.
I realized i can generate value outside family circle.
I hear you brother. If you have't already check out the video "men need to heal this," ... it pertains to what you mentioned here. ruclips.net/video/Dpbsu5PSmzQ/видео.htmlsi=gR8iXJXiiMHYzt39
@@TheConsciousMan143 Thank you greatly
I wish you all the best, Shilo. Childhood trauma takes a lifetime to heal completely. But hey, you're HEALING right now, friend. All love
@@thatgreencat7978 Yeah it takes time. I worth it though.
I feel that my brother.
I'm a suicide survivor,it's been 12 years since I've put a blade onto my own skin and it'll NEVER happen again. What breaks my heart is a lot of people don't get help in time but we do the best that we can to reach them.
I’m glad you’re still with us brother, may Christ be with you and may you draw near to him
Amen love Jesusbamen lobe Yahusja and may the Holu Spirit fill u witb joy accept him n u will be fine halleluYah amen praise Yahusha amsn haleluYah amem
I am a woman who developed a romantic friendship with a guy friend. We're kind of fwb but i feel we are more deep friends. When we first started hanging out on a personal level, he started opening up to me right away. His eyes ststted glistening. He said i was asking the right questions and thats why he always opens up to me.
I couldn't figure out his energy when we first started dating. Then months ago, i realized it was his inner child asking me to care for him. When he was a kid, his parents neglected him. He had no one to turn to. He was lonely.
Last year i decided to be his friend. I decided to be there for him, listen when he needs to talk. I make him premade meals so he has homemade dinner. Sometimes i tidy up his place. A lot of the time i rub his back to give him human contact. I never want him to think no one was there when he needed someone.
On the girl he liked and needed friend zoned him lol you just proved a lot of red pill guys right and don’t even realize it
Women like you are the problem. Hint: fwb
@@justinsmith9851that's way to little context for you to comment about it mate so stfu
That's impressive. I hope that more people can extend empathy like this. Thanks for your empathy and dedication 🙏
You'll get bored of him in 2 weeks and he'll be alone again
Compassionate, conservative woman here. I am thinking and praying for all of you men.
Mentally all of us are being tested.
I choose to be alone after what I’ve gone through and I do not cause trouble for anyone else. I wish everyone the best but I have to keep my distance because technology, traumas, and lack of real parents have isolated a large number of us.
We can turn this around! I’m reading books trying to work through my PTSD (former first responder, adoptee, and rape victim x2), so far The Body Keeps The Score has really made the connection with my body that I lacked.
Love you bros!
@@NikosM112 I thought there was an adequate audience here... not little Andrew Tate's fanboys
Please stay safe and stay strong, Madam.
I just got into ems, you rock!
I’m sorry I’ve been so hard on myself, no one has been as cruel to me as I have been.
With ya on that one my mans
Trigger warning:
My uncle committed suicide a few years ago right after covid. We were close, small family, only uncle. My family doesn't talk about it. It's kind of been eating me up inside honestly. I won't delve into it here, so suffice to say I'm grateful to see you and other people talk about this very important and sensitive topic from a place of love and understanding and acceptance. Thank you for the reminder of the importance of vulnerability in this healing journey. Peace, love, and insense
My dad passed when I was 9, my older brother when I was 18. And my mom just a few years ago, when I was 38. I’ve lost my marriage, my son lives on the other side of the country now. I’ve lost whom I consider to be the love of my life. In fact, she wants nothing to do with me. Over 90% of everyone that’s ever been close to me is gone, and I’m not even 41 yet. The only things that have been able to help me feel better in my day to day life is meditation and mindfulness. Observing your thoughts. Quieting the mind. I’m learning to stop listening to all this bs my ego is trying to keep me obsessed about. Not anymore, I’m coming up.
I see you brother, and I’m genuinely proud of you… stay the course. You are infinitely loved even in the darkest of times. You are being forged.
I’m really sorry for your loss
Social media is driving people apart, has been for years. Maybe I see it because I was born in 77 and spent til my mid twenties socializing the old fashion way. Telling y’all, social media plays a huge part into our loneliness and isolation!!
I was born in 2004 I grew up poor had no Internet or anything like till 13 I completely agree but there's layers to it a lot
@@hippient7108 ik it’s not as cut and dry as I said. It allows communication like we are doing right now, but replaces the actual thing. If you are experiencing a lack of friends (as I am currently, all moved away, and I just feel too old to go out friend shopping again, plus money is too tight for a woman atm) then something like YT and X are healthy imo. It keeps you engaged with mostly anonymous people but that is better than total loneliness. FB, IG, and Tik Tok are mostly gloating, braggadocios platforms. I always felt if I really want to get in contact with someone I will just call them, so I never really bought into those platforms. However, I do love YT and X, spend a lot of my free time on YT and it’s free lol. I get what you’re saying!! I shouldn’t have generalized all social media like I did in my OP!
I'm not sure social media are the cause, much in the same way when you go get an MRI for a fracture, the MRI isn't the cause of it. It is just showing to you a pre-existent problem that requires a solution.
And, to my experience, part that problem is that the mental health of the average human being is atrocious, for many reasons.
@@talscorner3696 fair point, I thought about it deeper and Social media actually helps lonely people because you can at least interact anonymously like this. I just got old and all my friends have moved away, but if I wanted I could go out and make new friends, which I plan on doing just trying to get through some health issues atm!! I do agree with what you say, about mental health. Also it’s not hard to avoid the negatives of social media. Thought about deleting my original comment, but decided to leave it just to see what replies I got. Anyway, thanks for replying
@@Loop1977 I'm glad you didn't delete the comment ^^
It really bothers me that everyone is being constantly divided into groups. We should care about all people as humans and not just because of what they have between their legs. For all my brothers and sisters out there struggling. Know you are loved.
I am a man in my middle 20s. Been verbally abused, shouted mocked blamed and neglected by both parents. Both of them gaslight and tell me I am in the wrong.
I am deeply traumatized and get dreams about these people every now and then ruining my day.
I am on welfare as I have a lot of issues with trusting people and functioning socially. I cut ties with all of my friends since all of them had toxic traits that were similar to me.
I cut ties with all of my family because they keep lying and behave in a competitive narcissistic way. My father never cared nor did my mother.
(Funny how my father suddenly wanted to fix his anger issues when he started to get health issues but not when it ruined mine...)
As a result I'm alone and have no one to trust or talk to. I cry alone and even then hate myself for doing it I feel so weak and emasculated so I bottle it up.
Life feels like an endless needle and it just won't stop pricking.
I am really sorry 😞 to hear about your predicament
That’s twinny
I'm sorry your parents ruined you like that. You didn't ask to be brought to them in this life. I hope you find your peace. You deserve love and I truly believe you will get that love. ❤❤❤
24yo
Best of luck brother, Strength is peacefully distancing from them, your parents, your friends. Youll find new friends if you want. Youll have a partner if you want. Youll have kids if you want. Love yourself, your too hard on yourself. Be safe.
I'm sorry, my friend, I understand you. I advise you to look towards nature, towards animals, have a dog for example, preferably from an abandoned animal center, they have also suffered and when you treat them well and with affection their love for you is unconditional, even if they lack the ability to speak, their energy envelopes you and you create a bond together in which you help and heal each other. When you least expect it, good people come into your life. You'll see
This is the future of masculinity. Hope the algorithm gets this one out, Great video.
It got pushed to me, it resonates with me too much. Nearly crying rn.
It is an incredible message.
I've had it so easy compared to many of you. I got so much love from my parents. Great childhood.
It was in my 20's that it all fell apart. Got into a marriage with no preparation or ability to keep hold of myself. Thought I was responsible for someone else's happiness and I drowned in the weight of it. All the trauma was as an adult.
Became seriously suicidal twice. The thoughts still linger at times. But all of us can rise from the ashes. We're fearfully and wonderfully made, and we are enough. Thanks for what you do.
Pro tip: "Hostile others" actually do exist.
Women
That's the most first world thing I've ever heard
@@ILoveMaths07Men too. Monsters lurk in the hearts of many.
I am already in peace that I will stay single until the day I die. This seriously feels like the end of times are coming slowly.. The loneliness is unbearable, even if you are in a crowd of people
I despise most people. Evil little elves
Damn. this is me. I’m happy I’m not alone
@@wattsnottaken1 It's not your or mine fault brother. The world became this way
Hey, we deal the cards we're dealt one day at a time. We may be lonely, but if you think about it, we can all be lonely together.
Politely, screw you, unless you choose to not change a little, you can find Somebody.
Best wishes ❤
This video needs more views, more men need to see this
And women
Why women? They don't give a shit. As long ad most (invisible) men keep society running for their benefit that's all that matters
it absolutely needs more women viewers id say. if interesting how we are deemed the empathetic sex, yet the degradation of men in recent years is utterly appalling and still applauded. it shocks me to my core.
I am a 40 year old man, I work insane hours in order to avoid my depression I face as a normal man. This video hit me hard, especially since I have no wife or kids, feels like my life is a waste.
Thanks for this video
There’s a lot of pressure on men because generations prior to them married and had children and didn’t have many problems to find a partner. But on the flip side of that, it only happened because women were practically subjugated and forced into relationships with men they didn’t love. A lot of those men were miserable too. I think you need not to put so much pressure on having a wife and kids, that really isn’t what life is about.
You're way better off without a woman in your life.
@@jaybee4288thank you
I understand your point of view but being un married is a blessing. Your life is your own. You are totally free to do whatever you want.
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I am old, and when I start feeling down and depressed, I climb onto my motorcycle and ride. It's like a time machine, I'm 17 again. And after a couple of hours I return home feeling reborn. I am lucky to have a wife who encourages me to ride, because she sees that it does me good.
Same experience here, my brother. The motorcycle works better than any therapist I've had...
It’s just a universal experience isn’t it. I don’t ride motorcycles, but I feel the same way about the road. It’s one of the last places left where we can forget about life for a while.
Guys, I think I have a theory.. We have archetypes right? I think we missed one out: the wanderer. We become introspective when we are just moving, no place to go but just in motion.. And when we snap out of our thoughts we place down our bags and set up shop there for a while. Then when we've done our bit we move on again.
In times of antiquity and before globalisation people used to travel, work and move on. These individuals were usually people carrying a lot of baggage, in the metaphorical sense.
I think this is an archetype because it's a form of universal catharsis.
Peace, brothers.
I think you prevented me from making a big mistake today. Thank you, brother
So throughout my lonely, 28 year long existence I've cried myself to sleep multiple times alone in my dark room. I really don't have any more tears to shed, I think I've become a souless husk now. Is that better than finding a rope and a chair and hanging myself on the ceiling fan? Plenty of other men didn't think so and now their story will be lost to time. We all will fade away into obscurity but those men are the quickest to disappear from human memory :(
Ever think about putting lights in your room? I'm not saying that to mock you or anything, but serious question. If you room is dark, why not light it? If you're alone, why not change that by getting roommates or just going somewhere where there are people? I'm not sure how it gets to the point where people feel hopeless. It isn't hard to change small things to make things better. Being in a dark room is really a choice.
@MySimDied It really depends on how they feel and react to their environment. It's like having a constant cold that never goes away and gets worse over time as life goes on. The people who don't do anything have their will stripped from them, resulting in the hopelessness rutt. A never ending cycle of damnation that but almost no means gets better, only a legit miracle could save them for their suffering. Many don't make it out, as you notice how many people are bitter angry, and sad.
@@CPB4444 Well that's kinda why I commented, I have a constant sinus issue that never goes away and is worse over time. I open windows and buy inhalators and do everything to make it as comfortable as I can for myself. I don't understand why someone wouldn't. Sure we can't all obtain our biggest hope and dreams, but when it's such little things making us unhappy like the lighting, that's simple to change, and I just think once you fix that, you can then look at the next issue and the next issue and then you're closer to that original hope or can find a different one. People shouldn't give up on themselves.
@MySimDied When their's a will their's a way. When their's a will their's a way. If you can't get out of your rut the cold gods must be playing tricks on ya. But seriously we all need the need the real need ya know. Which is the one True God. The coming basilisk.
@@MySimDied Biased opinions are the only opinions we can count on. Which means we dont know everything, we just think we know. However far the truth may seem just know once your gone the truth and you become one. To have nothing is to have everything. To think you have nothing is to have something negative. Just remember nothing is something too, so in In layman's terms you have it, unless you think you don't. Those who dont won't those who do will. Those who choose will choose. Does the dog wag the tail? Or does the tail wag the dog? Do I have free will? Or does free will have me?
I am almost 34 years old, dropped out of trade school 11 years ago, started doing drugs, stealing from my friends and family, got kicked out of my house. Became homeless for years, from 26 to 29 i was in jail or on the streets and recovery homes. I finally got my act together around 30 years old, its been almost 4 years and i still havent made a whole lot of money, dont have a girlfriend or even any friends and i feel like a loser, ashamed of myself. Thinking about ending it quite often.
Just keep going bro and put your faith in Jesus.
Your not a loser, that's just things that drugs made you do. Drugs made me do things that I normally wouldn't do and I hate about myself too.
But deep down I'm sure your a good person and life will have many blessings for you if you stay strong brother.
Just pray in Jesus name 🙏
I only smoke weed, but it helps me with loneliness or a miller high life
Why you guys gotta throw jesus in there every instance like it's some fail safe cure for everything, please don't act like it is@@peterbaini8752
This is exactly why in conversation I refer to any man as brother. We are all brothers and sisters in the eyes of God.
Don't talk about God here ever again.
@@AspieGamer1986you aight?
@@AspieGamer1986are you ok man?
@@AspieGamer1986 Smd heathen
God is not the cause of pain and suffering in life, sin is. We live in a fallen world, but God is always there to help you.
I am a woman watching this, and I just want to say, despite a lot of women saying disgusting things, and treating men badly, which I see it all, zero respect, keep going. She’s out there 💗, and keep going, because it’s not all that matters. There are forms of love in nature, in helping strangers, and loving yourself and the things you do.
I’m 41 and just now learning from books I’m reading since I didn’t like school. I was in special education from 6-12 and didn’t go to college after I graduated, but now like I said I’m reading and I like it a lot.
Man this community hit me by surprise, I needed to hear this. I’m 34 years old and became an alcoholic when my mother passed. I pushed away 2 amazing women because of my disease and most of my friends. It’s so hard to not suffer from guilt and remorse, the loneliness is killer. I feel as if I’m existing and not living. It really is so hard to wake up every day, it’s almost as if I’ve given up. Listening to thee videos definitely helps. Thank you
You are not alone brother. I know the pain of losing a parent. You can rise above all of this, and choose to heal. The guilt and shame is a self induced, and unconscious addiction of the mind. You don't need it.
Start with taking walks and listening to "the power of now," ... listen with the deeper part of yourself, even as the mind freaks out and tries to guilt/shame you. Observe the mind and realize it isn't you.
Much love
402 days sober. God came to me one night after hearing my call. I knew it was time to get help and take life back. There's light on the other brother. I promise you can get there. No regrets. The suffering will subside. It's never too late.
When I was 3 months old my birth mother became no longer relevant in my life. This experience traumatized my father and poisoned his brain. He then met my step mother and stayed married for 16 years. That is until my father developed severe paranoia after my step mother also cheated on him, and the result was a miserable living situation for me where I would panic at the slightest voice raising due to the multiple fights and suicide attempts. He moved out of that house to live temporarily with my grandmother, where he passed away of sudden cardiac failure about a week in. My step mother and siblings showed that they do not love me recently as well by allowing me to starve because "I only talk to them when I need something", despite the fact that I am simply their mechanic and that's it. Bear in mind, that I had to walk 4 miles to get a little bit of food despite the fact they were 9 miles away with a car. At this moment, I have two family members left, and I live with them in a toxic and not taken care of home (Walls dripping with nicotine, no trash service, compost toilet). Currently trying to get out of it, but it feels impossible...Vermont is an awful state. Awful. Unless you are privileged with money, this state is out to kill you. I can't leave because I make 15/hr at an auto parts store, and apartments are uncommon and expensive. I feel infinitely stuck.
I worked for the coroner’s office in my city for a year. In that year I responded to 14 suicides. 13 men, 1 woman. This was 2022-2023.
Thanks for making this.
1:12 I'm sure the person you're referring to previously is excited to hear about that statistic. They celebrate it.
I’ve listened to this man speak for less than 2 minutes and I love him so much
Is it just me or do you speak, often when you are full of emotion or on the verge of tears? I don't mean to come across as rude, I really like what you do but, I always feel that and in turn, it makes me emotional too. P.S. calling your viewer buddy while they may not have any really makes them feel like they are not alone and that they have someone, so thank you.
He is saying them with very strong intention, meaning his entire mind and soul is behind what he's saying. I consider myself a conscious man, and it happens to me quite often when I'm sharing thoughts/feelings from deep within with a person I'm close with.
@@RawdawgSpeedStunts Yeah I really see that in him and I think that's one reason that drew me to his channel. I love the drive talks setup
Nah I think that’s cayenne pepper in his fingers
Funny you say that, I do find myself tearing up quite a bit these days. Not necessarily from sadness, but just from the sheer profundity of existence and even gratitude. It is a gift to feel deeply... many men don't allow themselves to go deeper into these sensations. It's where we often times find our deeper selves, and find God.
Much love.
@@TheConsciousMan143 Absolutely agree. For me it's a sign that you're genuine. Yeah I always thought it was more moving emotion rather than sadness more akin to melancholy of happy memories kind of thing. Thanks for all the work you do brother.
I recently separated from my wife, 4 kids involved and there was zero help out there for me. Nada.
I decided to heal myself and then make it my life’s mission to help men. There is too many of us killing themselves when they can be saved.
The separation showed the stereotype that people have of men in separation/divorces. You can see it in there eyes “oh what did he do”. My ex had an affair, I moved out to give myself that space to heal, not to make things toxic for my 4 kids. I made those decisions for my kids. No one sees that but I genuinely do not care.
Anyone reading this and needs to talk, please reach out and we can. You deserve to be heard
Sorry to hear you recently separated from your wife because of an affair. I can relate because my exgirlfriend of 6 years and I also broke things off because of an affair on her part.
Ive been going through it ...
Courageous bro. God loves you.. I hope you can hear Him during this crazy time.
I see you brother. And proud of you for being willing to do that healing inner work. It is not for the faint of heart ... Keep at it no matter how long it takes, and be patient.
You will help others automatically simply from your presence as a healed individual when the time comes.
Stay strong my friend.
Hi brother thanks for your words. I need to leave my girlfriend but she's so sweet and caring and idk how to do this. i'm 40 and she's 38 and we have lost a child to abortion. I'm so sad i don't love her anymore
Don’t cheat, don’t lie. Just tell her straight up how u feel in a soft voice. And offer support.
Your video hits like ive had an older brother that I never had. After so many negative experiences with people, being bullied and made fun of non stop, even from my own family. I hold out hope that good people are still out there who have empathy and are willing to listen even for a moment. Thank you!
This is why I distanced myself from those people. They may have changed, but it doesn't undo the damage.
My father turned himself into a transgendered woman in my childhood... My mom went crazy after the divorce and was very psychologically abusive towards me. I've since fallen into homelessness during the pandemic. My mom died of cancer, and my dad moved to Arizona. I'm all alone now, just drowning in problems and overdue bills. My life is an absolute trainwreck. I don't want to live on this planet anymore.
Stay strong friend 🙏🏻
To everyone that is in the dark place… everything will be alright ❤
For a woman yes, not men.
@@NikosM112The grass isn’t greener. Women get massively depressed too. It’s not a gender thing. A lot of humans are broken from trauma, etc and don’t know how to fix themselves.
@@Kaia6485 Women have people to talk to. Men are always silenced when trying to open up. So take your bs comment to some other ignorant fool.
Thank you for this man! This video will mean a lot for many guys out there, I know it meant a lot to me. Love you my dudes, take care, don't despair, I know it's fucking terrible but we have to keep going forward, no matter what.
I am very grateful your video came on my feed. You are an angel my man, I don’t have anyone to talk to about my depression or loneliness I just pretend I’m a strong man to my family and friends. It’s wearing me down. I feel stuck and lost. I’ll be joining the community hoping to chat with you soon brother 💪🏼
These vids are for you brother.
I needed to hear this man the past 5 years of my life have been absolutely hell. No friends, extremely introverted but at the same time very lonely but no urge to go meet and socialize with people. Lost my home, job, dog, and became addicted to a substance called kratom causing me to get into a bunch of financial debt. Think about ending my life everyday but I am trying my hardest
My brother in Christ. Thank you. I needed this and I didn't know I did.
"I love men, No not like that"
Goddamn it he beat me to it
What gripes me here is that I believe almost every human that has crossed this earth will inevitably be wounded, as much as I do try to be forgiving and understanding just because you are wounded doesn’t mean to seek out hurting others. I’ve been hurting for years about many events and struggles that I’ve encountered and have endured but NEVER and I mean “never” hurt others when I am down. In fact I hate hurting others because how much pain I’ve been pressed on by so many different individuals that came to my life. I’m even friendly to my enemies because the way how everyone treats each other and you feel that evil seep out of them it’s like a plague, it spreads and opens doors to other people wanting to commit those same evils that others make them feel. “If you can’t win be like your enemy” or “fight fire with fire” is how see this spiritual battle I see countless times when I’m around many different people. I give love to those that give hate but it’s a strange dichotomy of good and evil when I feel immensely alone on giving kindness to your fellow human being without wanting anything in return. I’ve had people I’ve given everything ive had to them just for them to bring so much hell spawn or better yet hell raise my present if that makes any sense but I’ve definitely had my fair share of moral principles being conflicted.
I never cry when watching your videos but this did it. Thank you, Brother. I appreciate you.
Get used to those tears brother. It's how we heal, so try and surrender to them when they happen. Sending love you way
@@TheConsciousMan143ty man
Please make this video famous, every man should share this.
Thank you Sir, this is what I believe in, and you gave an amazing synopsis of what makes the Western Society so special and successful, but we need to keep working for it to stay that way ❤️
The consequences of women in politics and the workforce
Thank you for the video. The last few years of my life were dark I felt cursed, hurt, unlucky and hopeless (still do sometime) Your video made me cry which is a rare thing for me and I greatly appreciate that your words triggered something in me to let something out. Just realized im only 19 and I still have a lot to live for. I'l try to keep moving forward and improve everyday. I wish everyone reading this inner peace. If you had thoughts about ending your life or feelings of impending doom know your not alone.
When I was 6, my mother hung herself in front of me, so I raised my sister. I don’t value myself at all, aside from my goal for making the world a better place for her.
If I do nothing else in this world, hopefully I helped her have a better experience.
Also, I’m 28 and haven’t cried in like 14 years. As soon as you brought up spirituality I felt tears. Idk why because I’m not extremely spiritual. But I needed this.
I'm 25 now, basically lost in life rn. Black sheep of my own family, the only time they'll contact me is literally when they need me to do something for them. I was battling depression in the past but nowadays it's mostly anger. Had to move away for the safety of others, when I was sitting in the parking lot of my job armed and contemplating on committing a mass shooting. I'm not saying I'm in a better spot now but I am doing my best to defeat my demons. It's hard to be a good man in this day and age but i know it's worth the fight to be one.
There are genuinely good people out there, do not get me wrong, they are rare but they do exist. If you continue to work on fighting your demons it will be easier and easier to not only find those people but have them stick around. Keep up the good work and do not let the bad interactions you have color your personality let them pass over you and you will find good people and they will want to be part of your life.
U didn't answer the question
I'm in a constant battle to not be part of this statistic. Everything is overwhelming and meaningless. Whether I'm here or not makes absolutely no difference. Your value as a man is not inherent. You are not a child or a woman. You are as valuable as what you can provide to family/society. Even if that is untrue, that is how you as a man will be treated by almost everyone in your life once you reach an age where you're supposed to have it figured out. No one cares about your struggles, your situation, your feelings. Everyone has their own shit going on and cannot stop just for you. You're in this alone man.
I really like your content. The aesthetic is very pleasing and your delivery is great!
Amazing man. I laughed with you when you said "once you feel the essence of who you are you'll be like, what the fuck was that". That's exactly spot on the words haha
If you know, you know
I lost my teenaged daughter to suicide last year. As a father, as a man, as a human, I feel like I have lost everything.
I hate that men "aren't allowed" to talk about it. I'm glad to see more creators like this opening up to create a safe space for us to let it.
Sending peace and love to every one of my brothers here.
Non judgment is a high frequency that means you have come a long journey in your spiritual journey. You should be proud of yourself of brother.
Broooo. You're speaking from a very healed place. A place of love for the down trodden. God bless you. You're saving a life with your words.
A few days ago my wife asked me for a divorce, I gave up house when we got married and all my stuff and just moved in with her, noe I'm 47yrs old, soon to be homeless and divorced from the one human that ever made me feel like I meant something to someone. I was listening to your video and it's like you were telling my story. I just realized that I'm too messed up and it's too late in life to ever get better and find happiness again but I want to thank you for helping me understand why I'm so messes up. I'm so tired, I'm done fighting just lose over and over. I've had enough
Brothers you're not alone, we're not alone. We got to come together. Lift each other up in these times. We got the shit end of the stick but don't give up.
from ETHIOPIA Thank you my brother ☺☺
What's an Ethiopian doing here, I thought people there are always happy? My dad is Ethiopian
They say you can open up and share, but then they tell you to stop complaining and annoying them. I don't think anyone truly cares..
ALL people are damaged from their childhood. You cannot undo (heal) what has been done. All you can do at this point is become the best person you can. Realize that hurt people hurt people. Be careful who let let in your life. Once someone tells or shows you who they are, believe them and make an exit plan. If you don't you are not a victim of that person you became a willing participant. Get comfortable being by yourself. Loneliness will find you in between the wrong and the right. This applies to both men and women.
I’m a woman and a survivor of suicide attempt, but I forever lost my left leg below the knee.
If your a father, your kids NEED YOU. Life can change in a split second and you may be all that's left for your child. I know from experience.....
For anyone looking for a reason to not do something stupid, I love you bro, you don't get to quit. I once heard that quitting doesn't solve your pain it just transfers it to someone else. I am 49 years old, I have spent my life as the wounded little boy and I have contemplated what you are thinking about right now. On the other side of that pain and suffering is an amazing world, is it perfect, nope, but at the end of the day be grateful for what you have, get your head out of the internet and news, grind out your life and make it the best possible life you can. I don't know you, but I have been you, I promise that if you just keep getting up, keep putting one foot in front of the other, the pain will grow more quiet. It never hurts less, it only hurts less often and you become better at dealing with it. Stay up gentleman, the world needs your strength.
What a beautiful and meaningful message ❤
As a kid at school we were tasked to write a short essay about how we’d spent our summer holidays, I had so many ideas as I had done so much, was swimming camping and loads more. I was stumped and couldn’t start as I couldn’t spell “I”, so I asked my teacher, she laughed and got up and wrote an I on the blackboard and by then the whole class was laughing at me. I was eight or so, couldn’t even begin to explain the frustration I was feeling because I was much more than a I… I was so much more than a I. Today at 58 years of age I am still asking myself the same question.. today I am terminally ill with life, shit I’m sick and tired of it.. I gave it my all, and was found lacking in so many ways, don’t get me wrong, I have had led a full life until my wife and children were unfaithful to me and replaced me 11 years ago. Since the I have been surviving from day to day, no longer living or thriving in this life. So back to the I’am thing, for me today it’s more of an I was…for the last decade I haven’t been much of anything to anyone, not even to myself. I was a faithful loving and honest husband and father, I worked harder than most, as an immigrant who had to learn more than the job but the language I was busy all the time, but alas I was not good enough, so I became an I was… I’m guessing now, but the reason why I’m still here is because although I hate the life I still have as it’s empty and fruitless I have decided to let god decide when he wants me to go home to heaven. The last few years have been hard for me, seeing my friends die of or with one illness or another, seeing their families and friends grieve for them, and here I am, damn if I was to die in my sleep tonight it’d probably be weeks before I was found.. Expectations, are disappointments in the making.. I shouldn’t be living this way, I should have my loving family around me.. I did everything right.. I guess that expecting others to do the right thing is one step beyond their capabilities and capacities.. Madness, is hereditary, some suffer from it, others enjoy it. I no longer date, as I don’t want to rob other people of the time of their lives, as the clock 🕰️ ticks for all of us… gnite.. God bless you all, and he will..
Please continue to love each other. If men love each other you all will be able to love yourself as a man I hope. I have met so many men that don’t love themselves. Society does a terrible job with males no real sense of responsibility no learning and practicing decision making skills etc women are burdened to death from birth with all that leaving men as forever children it’s a disservice to us all. It’s all way complex but thank goodness the answer to it all is compassion. Sending all of you love and I’m very proud so many men are supporting each other and positively. Thank you all
Recently, as a teenager, I've been through some shit.I was silent for 3 years until I broke last year, in which I got the help I needed to rebuild my confidence and deal with my metal health. I was basically living day by day before then, but the one thing that kept me going was the love I have for my family. I understand many people unfortunately do not have that opportunity, but finding love and compassion from anyone or anything (like hobbies and activities) will help. I have also started to purposely make an effort to avoid loneliness, contacting old friends, spending more time with family and even finding new friends which has been of a massive help.
One message I have: talk your thoughts and feelings to anyone you know (even pets); its not a weakness to address your emotions or share your insecurities, but rather just natural human healing process that shouldn't be judged.
i just 30 and the pandemics destroyed me with chronic isolation and there i really understanded how lonely i am and nobody cares :(
I am very lonely too 😢
@@tiffanygafner9780why don't you hook up with Jasper 😏👆
I understand the weight of life’s struggles can feel unbearable at times. But remember, even in the darkest moments, there is strength within you. Life is difficult, and pain is real, but each of us has the power to find meaning in our trials. Hold on, not just for yourself, but for those who care about you. Seek out support, lean on others, and let your resilience guide you through. You’re not alone in this journey.
we'll be okay, we will believe in ourselves,
❤❤
Someone who i grew up with just committed suicide last night.. Dude used to kind of bully me in high school. Used to walk around talking crap about me. Found out cuz i overheard him calling me giraffe neck.. never liked him after that. regardless of our past, i wish i knew he had so much pain inside. I would have reached out to him. I would have tried to help. The world isnt black and white. Someone inflicting pain on another could very easily be going through just as much. Wish i had realized that in high school. Amazing skiier. He was literally a sponsored professional. Was the best cook in our culinary class. Man... rest in peace Tridge. Idk what you were going through dude, but everyone around you liked you. Had that dope aura that everyone wanted.
You look like you're in a videogame. Trippy.
Gta.
@@TheCulloususYeah watching this video felt like driving with your friend in GTA online or smth.
glad I found your channel I seriously needed it, going through really hard times
One day I woke in an uncomfortable bed in jail with the light that would dim but never go out and I realized at that moment I couldn't run anymore even if I wanted to I had to face my demons. I realized much later that what I thought were my demons were actually traumas I carried with me since I was a young boy. From the first time I was forced to wear a mask being told the same mantras every other man is told I was forced to wear a mask and every time I tried to remove that mask I was forced back into it until I was faced with the truth.
At the end of the day I'm still that little boy so desperate for love and attention that it hurt. I have pains on my back that have hurt since I was in middle school and I learned they are from trauma. I still hurt both emontinally and physically but I see now that I am not a mistake or unwanted or even the monster they all claimed I was. I am simply me a young boy in a mans body trying to heal.
Remember kings through God all things are possible even the impossible you can and will heal.
I’m a little late to this video, not sure if you will see this comment, but this also came at the right time for me but for different reasons… I have been on the self improvement grind for some years now and I’m reaching the phase where I’m drifting from my hometown friends. Which has led to me feeling resentful & bitter, it’s led to some verbal fights but how you framed everything through the lens of people being damaged children with unresolved trauma… it helped alleviate that resentment and put me in a place of understanding. I’m still upset about what’s transpired but I realize now that it’s not my fault… or theirs necessarily. Just this crazy thing we call life
I know this doesn't have much to do with the content of the video, but i love this camera angle. Good job!
You deserve millions of subscribers my friend, thank you for your content this is gold🙏
I appreciate you brother
Thank you for speaking up. A lot of people act like men's mental health is a joke, when obviously it's not. Thank you for bringing more light to it. We're in this together, brother.
Hey, brother these 20 minutes were definitely worth watching. water didn’t hit my face, though I could feel it moving behind my pupil.
While it has been a new decade, there has been a window of these things coming out, like people talking about their experiences, motivation, hard times, waking up to the reality of the realness of it all.
As I was watching this video, I was mostly was touched by when you talked about the 80% rate of men dying from taking their lives, as I have lost a couple of friends, in separate years, from November 2020, and another this year in April 2024, though the beginning of this year hit hard for me, I was with a phone call of a friend who was opening up to me on being suicidal. I was deeply listening to my friend talking, and then I heard his heart aching cries, I stayed talking with him the best of my ability, it was rough, he is doing okay. I often keep in touch with him, even now and then, I suck at keeping in touch with others. The part when you discussed about the “perpetuate separation” like the men vs women, liberal vs Democrat. The abusive politics for society today in general is a cancer, it sucks. What also sucks too is the stigma that “men opening up about their emotions” known as a weakness hasn’t died, yet. And we need to acknowledge that men are more than just what people and the rule of life expect us to be, we are a human seed. Us men deserve better, and this is not to compete with other species who are opposite of us, it is tough when we often reconcile for one to understand and being aware, men are beyond more than the image interpreted due to the normality of perception, which is projected by society. As someone who is still grieves for the loss of my friend who is not physically here, as I hold him in my heart, I face head on to speaking up when it comes to mental health awareness, especially for men, I myself am a man, and I’m happy with who I am. Like talking to my friend through the phone who was suicidal, if I had not called his number, I never would want to imagine the unthinkable. The future is uncertain..
Since 2020, while the world was going through it, I had recently been openly sharing on my Snapchat to people on my stories in texting words about the things like spreading positive energy, kindness, enthusiasm, motivational words from the heart and soul, hard, and hurtful truths to grasp onto, and other things that’s negatively impacting, and socially leaving those in ruins, the world from never improving and I had been messaging for us to becoming better people for the sake of this lifetime that shouldn’t drain people out of their existence. This world deserves better. 💔
God bless you, brother! 🫶
As a senior on the autism spectrum mild i cant tell u what i have went through with not being accepted used in relationships i tried to drown in with the gym which helped but i cant tell u how many times i wanted to off myself since the 6th grade for being laughed at for not being able to write like others ect i still carry those wounds with me to this day 💔 and my narcissistic girlfriend cheating on me and laughing about it self improvement is there yes but for a lot of us its nothing but a mask
If you don't have tears in your eyes while watching the video you don't understand it.
Hard to do when I cant cry
It's nice to finally someone who speaks on a personal level and not make it a just do it Nike campaign.
Feminist aren't a better option so I appreciate the difference in perspective it's honestly a breath of fresh air they tell men there garbage all the time it is refreshing to see someone be the trendsetter! Keep up the good work man I've got admiration for people like you!
I’m still standing. I try to help any people they come my way. I’m 35.. it’s definitely rough out here. I have young 20 year old coworkers.. I try to pick them back up.
Hey man, just wanted to say thanks. Im happy right now man! I don't know if anybody wants or needs to hear this but i just went to a 120kg (265lbs) deadlift set. I have only been training for 3 years now and its paying off in a huge way! If you alsked me even 3 year ago if i could ever do that? No way.
Juat goes to show that hard work and self trust and self love go a long way and you can do it to!
All this hurt comes from a lack of God in our lives and we try to fill the void with money, sex status, men, women and honestly it's just never gonna be enough.
Amen🫡
That's not the issue.
@@ILoveMaths07 It most certainly is the issue
Some versions of God will mess you up.
@@jpowers7320 what do you mean?
Man sometimes you just gotta be tough, stick it out, even if it doesnt get better, u had good moments, i cant speak for everyone, but a lot of you are able bodied men, there is real heartache out there, ive lost a lot, and i dont have much, but i sure as hell got more than some other poor bastard, i want to help. I want to be the best i can be, and that doesnt happen with sulking. Every depressed thought i have is a thought i wasted, i could have thought of the love i still have, or could have. The things im nostalgic about and miss will probably always outweight the things i look forward to, and its hard to stay focused, your not alone in this world. I was always jealous of the man with shoes as i had none, until i saw the man with no feet. Stay strong, stay tough boys
44. Never married. No kids. Stopped dating 7 years ago now after witnessing how disgusting women had become
Lived alone most of my adult life. Been quite depressed lately from not working & having too much time reanalyzing my life, finances, job, desires.
Since I no longer see a way out or a place to facilitate it as Amerizuela goes down the drain but thoughts had briefly begin to win & I wondered if this should be the end.
Got on TRT & got a hair transplant today to see if I can return to my prior self & get that fire back again.
Pray for me brothers.
how's it been going bro
When i feel like i've been born on a wrong planet and everyone has an obstructed view on life.. And i watch a video like this, which aligns with my thinking; importance of authenticity and true self, with less material focus, and climb the ladder of life; outlook, it gives hope. Gives hope that more men can find inner peace; self worth and put less value into external validation of "self".
Dope camera angle man so sick
June: Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month.