I have been doing my own inner work progressively for years and years and years. Each time I have ended up with a different version of toxic man that didn't match any of the patterns I had already logged. At this point, I have to choose whether I'm willing to sacrifice the journey on the way to a healed, evolved man and all the opportunity costs that go along with it or opt out and prioritize myself. I choose myself. No man has ever made my life any better, ALL of them have only made it worse, and even the best man can't make up for what it takes to get to them. I would rather just stay single forever.
I dont mean to sound rude or pretentious but I am happy that I decentered men long ago before this got into trend. Im so happy to see women doing the same.
I've been saying this...I'm Bi and I'm just DONE BEING ABUSED!!!! When are AMAZING when they WORK TOGETHER & APPRECIATE EACH OTHER (not compete with each other)
I've been married almost 10 years to my wife. Let's be honest. Everyone needs someone in their life. Loneliness is at a all time high. That being said, individuality is very important. My wife is a individual and I am who I am. She's everything I'm not and vice versa. She's deeply into anime and I'm deeply into tech but we both love horror movies and true crime. Just because you are married and or in a relationship doesn't mean you need give up on yourself. No man should stop you from being you and vice versa. Sure marriage has compromise but it should never be for things that make you who you are. Love, Communication, empathy goes much further. But remember, don't ever get into a relationship if you haven't learned to love yourself first.
@@Empowering_Femininity24 I'm not to sure to be honest, But I'll say this. We should do our best to not set ourselves up for failure. We should use the right words when we try to convey the right things to do for ourselves and others. Try not to use antagonistic language like "we don't need no man to be happy" which is true on the surface, you shouldn't need a man to be happy or significant other for that matter. I feel a better way to say this is "learn to love yourself and be a strong individual and when the right person comes along be sure their ideals and beliefs align with yours so you can form a healthy foundation for a good relationship to prosper". I have 3 daughters and I would never want them to submit to a man or build their personality around one. I just think both men and women nowadays have become to aggressive against one another and we really need to learn to have conversations again instead of this tribal nature. Let's face it, Men and Women need some form of companionship. Sorry for the long message lol
@@candygirl1990 because I don't believe in echo chambers. Even though I'm a leftist, I watch conservative content to see how they think and feel about things so if I ever find myself in a conversation I can actually see where they are coming from.
@@candygirl1990they’re always watching what we’re doing. He probably cheats on his wife and getting asked by the women to give them money, so he’s looking to see what’s changed
This truly is befuddling. Aren't you your own person, before you have a man? Dont you have a life before you have a man? It seems like the women that have to "decenter men" from their life did that because they had to fill a void in themselves. Yes. You are youre own individual, like everyone else, like every other man, like every other woman. If you have to go out of your way to actively realign yourself from men specifically, you truly need help. Especially since men and women need each other and are made to coexist. Shits wild.
I have never really dated that much, and I have done a lot of things for myself and by myself. After a while I thought I really want to know what it would be like to have a boyfriend. When I found one I liked I got played which put him as the center just because I was constantly scanning and trying to avoid getting played again so even though it was not an identity issue the game playing made me question my self esteem therefore decentering men really helped me.
Women are naturally the helpmates of men so it’s pretty much their life purpose to have a man (biologically) which includes having and raising children too. Men don’t have this issue as much because many men throughout history accomplished things alone and women were never a part of their journeys, but it’s absurdly rare to find the same thing with women. Women are naturally boy crazy, far more than men are girl crazy. I think what these women could do is find genuinely good men with good *souls* that aren’t gonna play them so they don’t repeatedly end up in this cycle and this endless pursuit of trying to suppress their inner instincts. But many have already said this and there are rarely any changes. Women today NEED to go to Christ and start pursuing him instead and allow men to take a backseat for a year or 2. This decentering thing stems from bad choices, deep pain, and a gambling mindset. Go to Christ and all things will be added unto you, ladies.
Some of us had kids before we even know how much growing we had left to do. And decentering men doesn't mean abandon the desire for connection. It means find healthy connection that doesn't come at the expense of your soul.
This is about how under patriarchy we all live in a SYSTEM where we are socialized from birth to center men's comforts, convenience, and preferences over our own wellbeing in ALL of society. Not just romantic relationships.
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I have been doing my own inner work progressively for years and years and years. Each time I have ended up with a different version of toxic man that didn't match any of the patterns I had already logged. At this point, I have to choose whether I'm willing to sacrifice the journey on the way to a healed, evolved man and all the opportunity costs that go along with it or opt out and prioritize myself. I choose myself. No man has ever made my life any better, ALL of them have only made it worse, and even the best man can't make up for what it takes to get to them. I would rather just stay single forever.
I dont mean to sound rude or pretentious but I am happy that I decentered men long ago before this got into trend. Im so happy to see women doing the same.
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I've been saying this...I'm Bi and I'm just DONE BEING ABUSED!!!! When are AMAZING when they WORK TOGETHER & APPRECIATE EACH OTHER (not compete with each other)
Yes, since males already do😈
When they do you he be a mantrum and get hemotional
No. I blame them for not listening. Then once I'm free, I'm no longer going to worry about any man ever again.
You are free and not a slave. Go forth!
I've been married almost 10 years to my wife. Let's be honest. Everyone needs someone in their life. Loneliness is at a all time high. That being said, individuality is very important. My wife is a individual and I am who I am. She's everything I'm not and vice versa. She's deeply into anime and I'm deeply into tech but we both love horror movies and true crime. Just because you are married and or in a relationship doesn't mean you need give up on yourself. No man should stop you from being you and vice versa. Sure marriage has compromise but it should never be for things that make you who you are. Love, Communication, empathy goes much further. But remember, don't ever get into a relationship if you haven't learned to love yourself first.
If more men were like you do you think women would be complaining?
@@Empowering_Femininity24 I'm not to sure to be honest, But I'll say this. We should do our best to not set ourselves up for failure. We should use the right words when we try to convey the right things to do for ourselves and others. Try not to use antagonistic language like "we don't need no man to be happy" which is true on the surface, you shouldn't need a man to be happy or significant other for that matter. I feel a better way to say this is "learn to love yourself and be a strong individual and when the right person comes along be sure their ideals and beliefs align with yours so you can form a healthy foundation for a good relationship to prosper". I have 3 daughters and I would never want them to submit to a man or build their personality around one. I just think both men and women nowadays have become to aggressive against one another and we really need to learn to have conversations again instead of this tribal nature. Let's face it, Men and Women need some form of companionship. Sorry for the long message lol
If you are married why watch this? Lucky you it's a crap time to try and find someone
@@candygirl1990 because I don't believe in echo chambers. Even though I'm a leftist, I watch conservative content to see how they think and feel about things so if I ever find myself in a conversation I can actually see where they are coming from.
@@candygirl1990they’re always watching what we’re doing. He probably cheats on his wife and getting asked by the women to give them money, so he’s looking to see what’s changed
This truly is befuddling. Aren't you your own person, before you have a man? Dont you have a life before you have a man? It seems like the women that have to "decenter men" from their life did that because they had to fill a void in themselves. Yes. You are youre own individual, like everyone else, like every other man, like every other woman. If you have to go out of your way to actively realign yourself from men specifically, you truly need help. Especially since men and women need each other and are made to coexist. Shits wild.
I have never really dated that much, and I have done a lot of things for myself and by myself. After a while I thought I really want to know what it would be like to have a boyfriend. When I found one I liked I got played which put him as the center just because I was constantly scanning and trying to avoid getting played again so even though it was not an identity issue the game playing made me question my self esteem therefore decentering men really helped me.
Men need women, women don't need men. That's why you rage at us and tell us to go live in the woods when we say that, because it's true
Women are naturally the helpmates of men so it’s pretty much their life purpose to have a man (biologically) which includes having and raising children too. Men don’t have this issue as much because many men throughout history accomplished things alone and women were never a part of their journeys, but it’s absurdly rare to find the same thing with women.
Women are naturally boy crazy, far more than men are girl crazy. I think what these women could do is find genuinely good men with good *souls* that aren’t gonna play them so they don’t repeatedly end up in this cycle and this endless pursuit of trying to suppress their inner instincts. But many have already said this and there are rarely any changes.
Women today NEED to go to Christ and start pursuing him instead and allow men to take a backseat for a year or 2. This decentering thing stems from bad choices, deep pain, and a gambling mindset. Go to Christ and all things will be added unto you, ladies.
Some of us had kids before we even know how much growing we had left to do. And decentering men doesn't mean abandon the desire for connection. It means find healthy connection that doesn't come at the expense of your soul.
This is about how under patriarchy we all live in a SYSTEM where we are socialized from birth to center men's comforts, convenience, and preferences over our own wellbeing in ALL of society. Not just romantic relationships.