men have seen me struggling to pay 5 cents at the cash register and holding up the line, they wont even offer to pay 5 cents when im struggling but im supposed to support them when they come around for their stuff, f them
How come you blaming the man who didn't give you 5 cent for the things the men you choose to lay with did? Why don't you take accountability for the fact that you choose shitty men based on superficial standards like how much he makes and what he looks like.
Yet you’re photo indicates your have plenty of funds to invest on your superficial appearance. Next time create a budget or get a 2nd job so you can have the required 5 cents to pay for the items You’re buying instead of holding up the damn line thinking a man should jump in a save You. Ridiculous
@@tonimartin8547 Yeah. Like wtf. Then again no one had to pay for someone else either way. I occasionally do but that is only because I know what it is like to have little.
Decentering men also means that women have to acquire the skills like home and car mentainance that we rely on men for. There is a tool, technique or device to solve most problems. Learning self defense skill is also important, for one thing, it boosts self confidence. Learn also to have fun alone, with friends or even virtually. Go where you want to go and do what you want to do. Dont wait on someone who may never come.
Yes! I will be learning more in depth car skills soon! (YT is the biggest source) as for my home I do everything myself if it’s too big of a project I call the specialist for that particular trade
Ya know. I was talking to a guy on a dating app & texts for hours. Everything seemed to be going fine. He was a bit younger & admitted he doesn’t have much money & he hesitates to date because of it. I said that’s fine. He’s a strict Christian (I’m not - I’m a free spirit) and he was talking about gender roles or whatever. I’m still iffy on that, but I was agreeing with him because he’s cute & I thought it’d get somewhere. We started talking about going to church & I said I don’t go to church. He asked if I’d ever be a Christian again (I grew up as one), and I said idk I can’t say. I like to study and read all kinds of spiritual texts. Welp…too bad for me. That was a dealbreaker for him. INSTANTLY I got a lightbulb as big as the sun. I’m giving men all this ROOM to be imperfect and not my ideal, when all I gotta do is one thing not aligned with what they want and they’re done?!?! My perspective changed that day.
Wow, what an interesting perspective. When I think about it, that’s exactly how they are. Being in a relationship with them is exhausting unless he does a lot right.
I genuinly laughed when you talked about the fact that we as women are conditioned to think that we will be happy once were in a relationship or have children. 😅 The incongruency is so funny, but I guess its more tragic than anything...
This video is so on point. I can’t tell you how many women I’ve heard go on and on about how wonderful/ amazing their boyfriend/ husband/ partner is and literally all he did to earn the title was the equivalent of taking out the trash or emptying the dishwasher once in a while. Women do all these things and so much more but no one praises us for it. You’re definitely right, for men, the bar is very low.
I LOVE this video and content you're creating. We center men way too much in our lives and our ideals around them limit us from exploring and reaching our higher purpose. Thank you so much!
LOVE LOVE LOVE. Im a lesbian and i STILL centered men! I didn't even know I did it until I realized I was always thinking about how I looked from a males point of view, and not my own. I also realized all the interactions I had with them were one sided, always them talking and me pretending to give a shit and laugh at their stupid ass jokes. Once I stopped that, I felt myself lighten up and feel FREE. It's so freeing!
This feels like the advice from the older sis, auntie, cousin, mama that I NEVER had! What a blessing to be able to hear this, thanks a million for sharing
"perhaps they don't know how to communicate with humans" YES lol that was the majority of my experience on dating apps. I'd get thousands of likes but it would just depress me because when you message these guys, they are so BORING. The ones that could actually carry a conversation, show genuine interest in me as a person, my interests, my life, etc....well they got a lot further but turns out they can't act right either. It's depressing tbh. You grow up thinking the biggest challenge will be to attract a mate; but then you become an adult and realize attracting people is easy, it's finding one that is a fully fleshed out and decent human being that's a struggle.
My favorite part was BE REALISTIC …….. Like BE for real foreal 😂😂😂😂 Im so blessed that at 30 years old i am no longer under the trance. Im not impressed. When I saw men for what they were I freed myself from the Matrix. Its so freeing to not be in the game anymore. All these women spiriting out of control having nervous breakdowns ….. GOD Bless. Now back to this money and this life of luxury I’m creating.
"the love, the kindness, the patience, the lessons that you wish you had from your caretakers - you are assuming or placing that desire on men" you totally nailed the root of what we are seeking in men in that sentence. And most men in the dating pool have low emotional intelligence/empathy. It's disappointing and lonely and tired of being seen as an object instead of a woman/human being. Great video, will be watching more
"There is no insentive in this society to push them to be better" Facts. Many of them only want sex with no emotion and they can get that easily these das, so the value of genuine love and companionship is almost non existent.
Definitely needed and makes so much sense. I felt like I was at a pause waiting for this ideal man and then I could continue on to other aspects of my life. I still desire to be a wife but I'm no longer centering my life around that aspect.
Please understand that desiring to be a wife is not about what you have seen in movies is false. A wife is a free cook, janitor, caretaker, nanny, babysitter, decorator, $ex machine even if you are not always enjoying it. And you will be doing most of these things by YOURSELF!! Let’s stop glamorizing being a wife as some kind of special privilege when it’s actually about $lavery basically glamorized $lavery
Wow this amazing. I mean I say men aint shit every day but you came with the receipts! I am on the journey of decentering men. I'm just bored and disappointed.
hahahaa, that boredom ain't no joke, but you will have to start bringing excitement to yourself outside of men and dating. It will help in the long-term.
Charlie u woke up and chose to eat me up today !!! I love this , our relationship with ourselves is tarnished at such a young age as black women. Thanks for the Tools !!
haha! I said come get this lesson right now!! But you are right. society harms us and our community continues to reify those messages. So, as the great learners we are, we adapt these lessons that do more harm than good.
The truth is a lot of the time we seek happiness, fulfillment, and adoration in relationships and get hurt, depressed, lower self worth. They never meet expectations. Most of the time you are just settling anyway. I will just speak for myself. I am really interested in decentering men. I have been in a lot of environments where relationships and men are very censored and you can feel very bad if your experience isn't good.
Lovely to finally see a face to the content that I've been loving for a while now! Excited to continue to grow w/ you. Your message is spot on and necessary.
CHARLIE!!!!!!! You are beautiful! To finally see your face really brings me joy. You had me at your tweets alone and I’m so thankful to witness your journey. Thank you so much for sharing your gifts with us. You’ve changed my life.
My mum said that to me so much I grew up looking for someone who will accept me the way I was cox I never felt perfect enough, now I’m learning to be my own person without them.
I'm a man and when I first heard of this concept, I thought y'all just hate us. But it turns out this concept is actually very sensible and I wish more men would also live like this. We also focus too much on getting validation from women, proving our masculinity to them. The endgoal is always to be in a relationship, and then, society tells us, we are supposed to be happy. But we don't do anything to be happy ourselves, and when we work on ourselves, it's only to get women. This goal is toxic, because you can't control if other people like you, so you are setting yourself up for failure. It just makes you dependent on women. Really great stuff!
Yeah, it's sensible but I am a bit worried that people will misunderstand this and turn it into something that it isn't e.g. some kind of man-hating movement. The sensible thing about this is that it should in theory help foster women confidence in what they actually want. Most of these women I see have had some realization that their whole life goal should not centre only around men, honestly young men often fall into this same trap but I can see how it is much easier for women to fall into this because of culture. Fulfilment in life is about so much more than just finding a man/woman to be with, and honestly most people who are like this rarely last in relationships because they have no personality of their own and their partners get bored or they themselves get bored because they have no other goals etc. Honestly people need to be more picky across both genders.
Just found you. Please more on this. My soul is crying for the fact that I’m losing my bf of four years because he SA’d me a few days before my birthday. I suggested we go to couples therapy because I was willing to work through it, understanding his boyish tendency to not listen or want to comprehend how I feel. It’s been 7 months since then. He’s resisted therapy (once he even threatened to turn himself in to the police & tell his whole family that he SA’d me instead of just going to therapy) and has since ghosted me for the past week. I feel so alone and distraught about this. Reflecting on the countless times he’s told me that I’ve changed his life in major ways for the better. But won’t lean in to make me feel better about the trauma he’s caused me. 😢
Hey I’m so sorry you went through this, I hope you are doing better now! I just wanted to let you know that you are worth more than that man. Even giving him the chance to come back into your life through therapy was too much for him. He should be locked up. I hope you are doing better now and growing and healing without him 💕xx
How to Decenter Men: 1. Be realistic about men 2. Go Beyond the statistics, the bar for men is SO low 3. Take the steps to be happy NOW 4. Expand your imagination 5. You are the main character
Disclaimer: I love men and always enjoy them. Now comment on video. Thank you for this good video. It is eye-opening. Society has its expectations of women, just for them to be able to take good care of men and their families. But no demands to very few demands are made for men to be good husbands. Men get away with a lot of things coz we women are taught to tolerate the men. When a man cheats it's not that bad but when a woman cheats its bad. We need more videos like this one. Let's make this video viral to all women and little girls on the planet.
I was never a girl or a woman who paid too much mind to real men. I've never dated even (more than like two weeks once) but I hate internalised male gaze that I really struggle with. And also I'm afraid of men and center my life in a way around them but backwards, I always try to stay on their good side or be invisible. I just want to care a little less but how
I love all your content!!!! Beautiful inside & out. So glad you decided to reveal the face behind the brand. I’m sure it’s only going to open more opportunities 💕💕
Echoing everyone else in that it's so amazing to finally see your face! Truly a beautiful person! Beautiful voice, beautiful content! Your content has definitely gotten me into a better place!
I am so sorry to hear that love! However, I totally believe you do have you. I know for sure you can be the love of your life. Take some time with my content and ask me as many questions as you desire.
This is similar to me also. I’m making progress though. I’m almost 2 years abstinent and don’t date. Every day I find another reason for why I never want to date or have sex again. Me being an empath is a challenge on its on. I don’t need to be with another human being 24/7. It’s so draining.
lol I didn't know that so many women have this problem with idealizing men. I am the opposite (I have male nickname but I am a woman) I have never liked men so I wasn't popular girl I have always felt that something is wrong with male brain. I mean sociopaths, alcoholics, abusers, rapists, murderers, pedos, autistic people, homeless people etc. like 90% or more of them are men... I thought about it even as a young girl I couldn't understand why in bible god hated women it was weird to me to be religious and be seen as less worthy and believe in imaginary not proven god. I have always kind of feared men or was disgusted, embarassed by them and I don't like talking with men at all. I have problems because of that I am seen as cold or some shit because I don't smile all the time and don't talk with men about my private life. I am also introvert so it can be extravert/introvert issue but even with very different extraverted women sometimes I like to talk (if I have energy) but I don't like talking with men at all there is nothing to talk about also most men are ugly. I don't know why women even think about men, men are just trash. I am like radical feminist since I was 9 :D I don't get why women don't see men as predators. I see men what they are and they are fuc*ing creeps, predators, sociopaths etc.
God doesn't hate women; you can think and write and talk and taste good food, etc, because of Him. As for men being 'trash,' the technology you used to make that public comment was created by men. Think about this.
Same here, I had the exact same thoughts even as a 7 year old. My intuition told me the truth, even then. All my hardships are because of men. And female hating women who feel threatened by my sheer existence. All of them. Men never protected or helped me in any way or even made me feel safe and good. It was always other females who helped me or it was MYSELF! I am a very attractive person (even modelled) and and have a very well paying job and nice life. As soon as I have anything to do with men I feel ILL and have to defend and protect myself because men bring trauma and drama into my life!! And yes, IF there is a god (from that made up bible) he definitely is a man-child hating females. Men only want to penetrate our female parts, they DON'T CARE ABOUT US!
So trueeeee… You would be suprise some women suffered from low self esteem and low self worth. I did especially when I was in my early 20’s but now I see men for who they truly are.
I’m bisexual and just broke up with my partner of 2 years I’m taking a huge break from dating but I know for sure I’m never dating men again and I’m super excited about it
Omgg I listen your podcasts but never saw your face! I didn’t even realize it was you until I notice the voice resemblance and looked at the channel title! ❤🎉
Whewwww that is deep purgatory. Whewwwww exactly . The purgatory is real. Wow i have a 35!year old girlfriend that refuses to buy a home because ahe thinks some man is going to buy her a home. 😂😂😂 im like ok sis like BE FOR REAL you just never gonna invest in a home for yourself because your waiting for a man that doesn’t even exsist??? Llike women especially blk women are ending up homeless due to things like gentrification and you looking for a man ……. I fckng cant.
It's sitting down with yourself and being honest about what you truly want and never giving up until you get it. You deserve it and no matter how much your mind may try to manage you down, you have to overwrite those thoughts with a deep down knowing that you deserve it.
How do you deal with a boyfriend who is clingy? Every day I have off he expects me to drive to his and gets sad when I don’t? I want to decenter him but how do you do it where he doesn’t notice 😅I want my life back and he makes it all about himself. He has good qualities but unfortunately his bad quality is he can be selfish and thinks I’m only here for his existence, TIA!
You need to have stronger boundaries and not care if he gets upset. I am sorry if that sounds harsh. If he doesn’t respect your life and wishes then maybe he’s not mature enough to be in a relationship. Why can’t he drive to you?
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men have seen me struggling to pay 5 cents at the cash register and holding up the line, they wont even offer to pay 5 cents when im struggling but im supposed to support them when they come around for their stuff, f them
How come you blaming the man who didn't give you 5 cent for the things the men you choose to lay with did? Why don't you take accountability for the fact that you choose shitty men based on superficial standards like how much he makes and what he looks like.
Yet you’re photo indicates your have plenty of funds to invest on your superficial appearance. Next time create a budget or get a 2nd job so you can have the required 5 cents to pay for the items You’re buying instead of holding up the damn line thinking a man should jump in a save You. Ridiculous
True true sista!
Were there no women on that line as well?
@@tonimartin8547 Yeah. Like wtf.
Then again no one had to pay for someone else either way. I occasionally do but that is only because I know what it is like to have little.
Decentering men also means that women have to acquire the skills like home and car mentainance that we rely on men for. There is a tool, technique or device to solve most problems. Learning self defense skill is also important, for one thing, it boosts self confidence. Learn also to have fun alone, with friends or even virtually. Go where you want to go and do what you want to do. Dont wait on someone who may never come.
Yes! I will be learning more in depth car skills soon! (YT is the biggest source) as for my home I do everything myself if it’s too big of a project I call the specialist for that particular trade
true and I have no problem paying and hiring a man to do something
we rely is they key word, your reliance was born of convenience, you made that choice
Sadly us women in poverty don’t have the same privileges you upper class women have. Y’all never address this
@@MB-xv7er then work to get there. You arent the first or last person to struggle
Ya know. I was talking to a guy on a dating app & texts for hours. Everything seemed to be going fine. He was a bit younger & admitted he doesn’t have much money & he hesitates to date because of it. I said that’s fine. He’s a strict Christian (I’m not - I’m a free spirit) and he was talking about gender roles or whatever. I’m still iffy on that, but I was agreeing with him because he’s cute & I thought it’d get somewhere. We started talking about going to church & I said I don’t go to church. He asked if I’d ever be a Christian again (I grew up as one), and I said idk I can’t say. I like to study and read all kinds of spiritual texts. Welp…too bad for me. That was a dealbreaker for him. INSTANTLY I got a lightbulb as big as the sun. I’m giving men all this ROOM to be imperfect and not my ideal, when all I gotta do is one thing not aligned with what they want and they’re done?!?! My perspective changed that day.
Wow, what an interesting perspective. When I think about it, that’s exactly how they are. Being in a relationship with them is exhausting unless he does a lot right.
I genuinly laughed when you talked about the fact that we as women are conditioned to think that we will be happy once were in a relationship or have children. 😅 The incongruency is so funny, but I guess its more tragic than anything...
Right?! it is tragic
This video is so on point. I can’t tell you how many women I’ve heard go on and on about how wonderful/ amazing their boyfriend/ husband/ partner is and literally all he did to earn the title was the equivalent of taking out the trash or emptying the dishwasher once in a while. Women do all these things and so much more but no one praises us for it. You’re definitely right, for men, the bar is very low.
crazy!!!
I LOVE this video and content you're creating. We center men way too much in our lives and our ideals around them limit us from exploring and reaching our higher purpose. Thank you so much!
exactly! we need to know what we like and not do what we think men like.
LOVE LOVE LOVE. Im a lesbian and i STILL centered men! I didn't even know I did it until I realized I was always thinking about how I looked from a males point of view, and not my own. I also realized all the interactions I had with them were one sided, always them talking and me pretending to give a shit and laugh at their stupid ass jokes. Once I stopped that, I felt myself lighten up and feel FREE. It's so freeing!
I love this and I am so happy for you! We all deserve to have our own thoughts occupy our mind.
❤❤❤❤
U spoke for me here. That's my entire life until I've come to the point where I feel as if I can't anymore.
Wow, if even lesbian women are in danger of being infected by this insidious ideology, the “straight” women never stood a chance.
It's literally in EVERYTHING you just can't escape it! All you can do is take a step back and look and see it. It's disgusting isn't it?
This feels like the advice from the older sis, auntie, cousin, mama that I NEVER had! What a blessing to be able to hear this, thanks a million for sharing
no problem! and I love this comment so much!
"perhaps they don't know how to communicate with humans" YES lol that was the majority of my experience on dating apps. I'd get thousands of likes but it would just depress me because when you message these guys, they are so BORING. The ones that could actually carry a conversation, show genuine interest in me as a person, my interests, my life, etc....well they got a lot further but turns out they can't act right either. It's depressing tbh. You grow up thinking the biggest challenge will be to attract a mate; but then you become an adult and realize attracting people is easy, it's finding one that is a fully fleshed out and decent human being that's a struggle.
Datingapps are full of avoidants and narcs.
Normal healthy men dont go there.
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My favorite part was BE REALISTIC …….. Like BE for real foreal 😂😂😂😂 Im so blessed that at 30 years old i am no longer under the trance. Im not impressed. When I saw men for what they were I freed myself from the Matrix. Its so freeing to not be in the game anymore. All these women spiriting out of control having nervous breakdowns ….. GOD Bless. Now back to this money and this life of luxury I’m creating.
Isn’t it so relaxing? It’s like something clicks and you are like no I don’t want this!
Focusing on myself is one of the best moves I have made so forth❤the rest will follow. Thanks for your video.
I love this for you!
"the love, the kindness, the patience, the lessons that you wish you had from your caretakers - you are assuming or placing that desire on men" you totally nailed the root of what we are seeking in men in that sentence. And most men in the dating pool have low emotional intelligence/empathy. It's disappointing and lonely and tired of being seen as an object instead of a woman/human being. Great video, will be watching more
Thank you! and you are absolutely right.
Am I mistaken, or is this the first face reveal? You’re gorgeous! Thank you for this video and all your content. Excited to see this channel grow!!
yes, it is! thank you for the compliment and I am excited as well. Can't wait to really connect with you all.
I see an articulate Black woman, I stop every other videos and I click. Like always I was blessed with inspiring insights ❤❤❤❤
Happy to hear it!!
"There is no insentive in this society to push them to be better" Facts. Many of them only want sex with no emotion and they can get that easily these das, so the value of genuine love and companionship is almost non existent.
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Definitely needed and makes so much sense. I felt like I was at a pause waiting for this ideal man and then I could continue on to other aspects of my life. I still desire to be a wife but I'm no longer centering my life around that aspect.
love to hear it!
Please understand that desiring to be a wife is not about what you have seen in movies is false. A wife is a free cook, janitor, caretaker, nanny, babysitter, decorator, $ex machine even if you are not always enjoying it. And you will be doing most of these things by YOURSELF!! Let’s stop glamorizing being a wife as some kind of special privilege when it’s actually about $lavery basically glamorized $lavery
Wow this amazing. I mean I say men aint shit every day but you came with the receipts! I am on the journey of decentering men. I'm just bored and disappointed.
hahahaa, that boredom ain't no joke, but you will have to start bringing excitement to yourself outside of men and dating. It will help in the long-term.
i love how you think. please keep creating. women need more women like you
will do!
Thank you. I am de-centering men going forward into my 30s !
Best of luck!
Charlie u woke up and chose to eat me up today !!! I love this , our relationship with ourselves is tarnished at such a young age as black women. Thanks for the Tools !!
haha! I said come get this lesson right now!! But you are right. society harms us and our community continues to reify those messages. So, as the great learners we are, we adapt these lessons that do more harm than good.
Pl 111iqik
The truth is a lot of the time we seek happiness, fulfillment, and adoration in relationships and get hurt, depressed, lower self worth. They never meet expectations. Most of the time you are just settling anyway. I will just speak for myself. I am really interested in decentering men. I have been in a lot of environments where relationships and men are very censored and you can feel very bad if your experience isn't good.
Lovely to finally see a face to the content that I've been loving for a while now! Excited to continue to grow w/ you. Your message is spot on and necessary.
Thank you so much!!
CHARLIE!!!!!!! You are beautiful! To finally see your face really brings me joy. You had me at your tweets alone and I’m so thankful to witness your journey. Thank you so much for sharing your gifts with us. You’ve changed my life.
thank you, Jasmine! you are the one who inspired me to put myself out there! thank you for all you do!
Wow, thank you. ❤️
That 'how do you plan to keep a man" message triggered me! I block black men from my dating apps, cant deal!
look!!!! same
I don't keep them anymore❤
My mum said that to me so much I grew up looking for someone who will accept me the way I was cox I never felt perfect enough, now I’m learning to be my own person without them.
I'm a man and when I first heard of this concept, I thought y'all just hate us. But it turns out this concept is actually very sensible and I wish more men would also live like this. We also focus too much on getting validation from women, proving our masculinity to them. The endgoal is always to be in a relationship, and then, society tells us, we are supposed to be happy. But we don't do anything to be happy ourselves, and when we work on ourselves, it's only to get women. This goal is toxic, because you can't control if other people like you, so you are setting yourself up for failure. It just makes you dependent on women.
Really great stuff!
This is a great perspective and an excellent bridge to use to talk to men.
Yeah, it's sensible but I am a bit worried that people will misunderstand this and turn it into something that it isn't e.g. some kind of man-hating movement. The sensible thing about this is that it should in theory help foster women confidence in what they actually want. Most of these women I see have had some realization that their whole life goal should not centre only around men, honestly young men often fall into this same trap but I can see how it is much easier for women to fall into this because of culture. Fulfilment in life is about so much more than just finding a man/woman to be with, and honestly most people who are like this rarely last in relationships because they have no personality of their own and their partners get bored or they themselves get bored because they have no other goals etc. Honestly people need to be more picky across both genders.
Just found you. Please more on this. My soul is crying for the fact that I’m losing my bf of four years because he SA’d me a few days before my birthday. I suggested we go to couples therapy because I was willing to work through it, understanding his boyish tendency to not listen or want to comprehend how I feel.
It’s been 7 months since then. He’s resisted therapy (once he even threatened to turn himself in to the police & tell his whole family that he SA’d me instead of just going to therapy) and has since ghosted me for the past week.
I feel so alone and distraught about this. Reflecting on the countless times he’s told me that I’ve changed his life in major ways for the better. But won’t lean in to make me feel better about the trauma he’s caused me. 😢
So sorry to hear that! Glad you are getting help.
Hey I’m so sorry you went through this, I hope you are doing better now! I just wanted to let you know that you are worth more than that man. Even giving him the chance to come back into your life through therapy was too much for him. He should be locked up. I hope you are doing better now and growing and healing without him 💕xx
I'm so sorry this happened to you. I hope you're in a better place now.
I’m so sorry you went through this. Please go seek professional help (therapy/counseling or finding a healthy outlet)
I’m so sorry you went through this. Please go seek professional help (therapy/counseling or finding a healthy outlet) also report him
Arrived here 2 years later and this is just as relevant. I literally have my notebook out now and I'm taking notes!
happy to hear it!
I am seriously so grateful I found you! You really articulated a lot that was on my mind! Thank you so much for making this💕💕
This advice spoke straight to my soul
love to hear it!
How to Decenter Men:
1. Be realistic about men
2. Go Beyond the statistics, the bar for men is SO low
3. Take the steps to be happy NOW
4. Expand your imagination
5. You are the main character
thank you!
I Struggle with this at 44 years old, I hate that society looks down on single women
It sucks, but our community is going so strong and we are all starting to see through the BS.
Being chosen by one is being chosen to be their housekeeper
Correct!
I love this perspective! All women should hear and understand this
I really enjoyed this I feel like I need to listen to this again
you can listen as many times as you need to lol
Disclaimer: I love men and always enjoy them. Now comment on video. Thank you for this good video. It is eye-opening. Society has its expectations of women, just for them to be able to take good care of men and their families. But no demands to very few demands are made for men to be good husbands. Men get away with a lot of things coz we women are taught to tolerate the men. When a man cheats it's not that bad but when a woman cheats its bad. We need more videos like this one. Let's make this video viral to all women and little girls on the planet.
Thank you!
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I was never a girl or a woman who paid too much mind to real men. I've never dated even (more than like two weeks once) but I hate internalised male gaze that I really struggle with. And also I'm afraid of men and center my life in a way around them but backwards, I always try to stay on their good side or be invisible. I just want to care a little less but how
I feel you! it's a process that we all are trying desperately to do. I will circle back on the how. Maybe in a video.
I love all your content!!!! Beautiful inside & out. So glad you decided to reveal the face behind the brand. I’m sure it’s only going to open more opportunities 💕💕
I hope so too!
Echoing everyone else in that it's so amazing to finally see your face! Truly a beautiful person! Beautiful voice, beautiful content! Your content has definitely gotten me into a better place!
This drives me. I am so happy that I've helped in that way and thank you!
You are so wise…
An inspiration for me…
On my journey to reclaim my power..
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You can do it!
@@charliestoolbox thanks lovely….feeling it more and more every day!!!!!
I have been following you for a minute on twitter, glad to be part of the community here!!
So happy to have you!!
Oh I love this.. read THE GAME- 41 shades of men
I have zero self esteem and am an empath. I know that I do this and it sickens me. I have to STOP. I’ve got me.
I am so sorry to hear that love! However, I totally believe you do have you. I know for sure you can be the love of your life. Take some time with my content and ask me as many questions as you desire.
This is similar to me also. I’m making progress though. I’m almost 2 years abstinent and don’t date. Every day I find another reason for why I never want to date or have sex again. Me being an empath is a challenge on its on. I don’t need to be with another human being 24/7. It’s so draining.
I'm right along with you ♥️
Please keep doing videos - just found your channel. Love the content.
You’re so pretty!
will do! and thank you!
This is so good. So so good.
Thank you dear!
Incredible information. Absolutely top tier info that much more people need to consider to increase their quality of life by atleast 3x
This video was great! I needed to hear a lot of these points
Glad it was helpful!
You are so profound 🙈 Thank you
No problem!!
Charlie!!! You're gorgeous! Thank you for all your content. It's amazing in all aspects. ♡ So happy to see youuu.
Thank you so much!!
Beautiful content ❤
thank you!
Can we get a video of how to decentralize men while in a long term committed relationship with one? 👀
I'm always hesitant on this one. Let me think about it and come back to you, but thank you for this suggestions!
lol I didn't know that so many women have this problem with idealizing men. I am the opposite (I have male nickname but I am a woman) I have never liked men so I wasn't popular girl I have always felt that something is wrong with male brain. I mean sociopaths, alcoholics, abusers, rapists, murderers, pedos, autistic people, homeless people etc. like 90% or more of them are men... I thought about it even as a young girl I couldn't understand why in bible god hated women it was weird to me to be religious and be seen as less worthy and believe in imaginary not proven god. I have always kind of feared men or was disgusted, embarassed by them and I don't like talking with men at all. I have problems because of that I am seen as cold or some shit because I don't smile all the time and don't talk with men about my private life. I am also introvert so it can be extravert/introvert issue but even with very different extraverted women sometimes I like to talk (if I have energy) but I don't like talking with men at all there is nothing to talk about also most men are ugly. I don't know why women even think about men, men are just trash. I am like radical feminist since I was 9 :D I don't get why women don't see men as predators. I see men what they are and they are fuc*ing creeps, predators, sociopaths etc.
God doesn't hate women; you can think and write and talk and taste good food, etc, because of Him. As for men being 'trash,' the technology you used to make that public comment was created by men. Think about this.
Same here, I had the exact same thoughts even as a 7 year old. My intuition told me the truth, even then. All my hardships are because of men. And female hating women who feel threatened by my sheer existence. All of them. Men never protected or helped me in any way or even made me feel safe and good. It was always other females who helped me or it was MYSELF! I am a very attractive person (even modelled) and and have a very well paying job and nice life. As soon as I have anything to do with men I feel ILL and have to defend and protect myself because men bring trauma and drama into my life!! And yes, IF there is a god (from that made up bible) he definitely is a man-child hating females. Men only want to penetrate our female parts, they DON'T CARE ABOUT US!
So trueeeee… You would be suprise some women suffered from low self esteem and low self worth. I did especially when I was in my early 20’s but now I see men for who they truly are.
I’m bisexual and just broke up with my partner of 2 years I’m taking a huge break from dating but I know for sure I’m never dating men again and I’m super excited about it
IKDR!
Hehehe thank you!@@charliestoolbox
It is a treat finding your content! Thank you for sharing your wisdom 💐
You are so welcome! also sorry for the late response. For some reason I did not see this comment.
Yay! I love that you’re doing this. Please keep it up! I look forward to more content from you 🥰
More to come!
world need QUEENS
Love this ❤
Ahhh hi Charlie! Been following you since the beginning of your IG, so wonderful to see you and thank you for all your incredible work! ♥️
thank you! I am so happy you are here. I can't wait to chat with you all more.
Thank you for this video
My pleasure
Omgg I listen your podcasts but never saw your face! I didn’t even realize it was you until I notice the voice resemblance and looked at the channel title! ❤🎉
ahhh welcome!!
New subbie!!! Thank you! This was amazing. I had to watch a few tikes & take notes! A blessing 🙌🏽✨💫
Hey love! Glad you enjoyed it.
Thank you so much
Glad it helped!
This is so powerful 🌌 Thank you for the download
No problem! happy it helped.
I literally went to a different high-school and a different college because I liked certain men near them or at them.
Wow
Just subscribed !!!
Welcome!
I already decentered men too much. I am literally an evil witch now and it makes me happy😊
You are beautiful! I had to subscribe immediately. I love the content on your podcast (and tweets), so it was a no-brainer!
thank you so much! I am so happy you love it
Whewwww that is deep purgatory. Whewwwww exactly . The purgatory is real. Wow i have a 35!year old girlfriend that refuses to buy a home because ahe thinks some man is going to buy her a home. 😂😂😂 im like ok sis like BE FOR REAL you just never gonna invest in a home for yourself because your waiting for a man that doesn’t even exsist??? Llike women especially blk women are ending up homeless due to things like gentrification and you looking for a man ……. I fckng cant.
Pausing your life for men is always a bad idea.
I hope she’s woke up by now.
Wow beautiful
Thank you so much
Thank you for this video 🙏🏼✨
You're so welcome!
2024❤ depuis l’Afrique la France et Monaco 🙌🏾👩🏾💼
Thank you !!
You're welcome!
I decentered men many years ago.
I want a delicious life😮 how do I get one of those?
It's sitting down with yourself and being honest about what you truly want and never giving up until you get it. You deserve it and no matter how much your mind may try to manage you down, you have to overwrite those thoughts with a deep down knowing that you deserve it.
Exactly!
How do you deal with a boyfriend who is clingy? Every day I have off he expects me to drive to his and gets sad when I don’t? I want to decenter him but how do you do it where he doesn’t notice 😅I want my life back and he makes it all about himself. He has good qualities but unfortunately his bad quality is he can be selfish and thinks I’m only here for his existence, TIA!
To be honest, tell him that you can't do it and explain your reasons why. Or end it and date someone who is compatible.
You need to have stronger boundaries and not care if he gets upset. I am sorry if that sounds harsh. If he doesn’t respect your life and wishes then maybe he’s not mature enough to be in a relationship. Why can’t he drive to you?
Your boyfriend sounds like the draining men I meet on dating apps. I usually chase them off one way or another. Can’t stand selfish men
Btw I hope you know he doesn’t see you as a person….
The "getting sad" when you don't come over sounds manipulative
Also someone can be a good person but a bad match for you personally.
you’re so beautiful damn
thank you!
7:50 !!
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Oh babes, you are so beautiful 😍
thank you love!
BTW Mammies deffinately need this.. lmao
you forgot chris brown lol
Love this 💞
Love this ❤