Women Discuss Decentering Men From Their Lives PT2
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Women discuss decentering men from their lives.
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I'm 45.
I wish talking about de-centering men, and these tiktoks, were a thing when I was in my 20s, instead of Sex and the fucking City.
God.
That show is terrible, it paints a picture that single women are supposed to be desperate and crying.
I am 61 love. I have never ever centered men.
I graduated from college, then focused on building a career, started traveling the world, then bought a house and remodeled it, sold it, bought a bigger house and remodeled that. Now, the focus is building wealth, with a goal of helping financially challenged women pay for college. And if I have enough for a second home in the Hamptons, that's cool too.
Men are a distraction from the project at hand. 😘
@@Hilary945 Agreed.
@@mizzmolly7649thank you for your hard work. I aspired to give back when I can and your actions are inspiring.
Amen sister!
"Mens' sexual desire is abundant and of low-value". Running away with that one!
A gem fr
You can't even give away penus for free
And it is 100% true. Morgues normally don’t hire men because they **** the corpses 😭 We are literally competing with cadavers. The bar is in HELL
You are wise men will sleep with any woman, even the ones they don't care about.
They all say "It was just s*x." Sisters let's unite. Sisters let's stop giving them s*x without marriage 😊
It’s crazy how when a woman says she is content and happy while being single and childless, men simply cannot fathom that. Like they think that there’s no way a woman is happy without a draining man and 5 energy sucking kids 😭
Because these women do NOT seem happy at all that's the problem. These single women are literally terrorizing the world this shit is insane
Men are scared to be alone. They don't do well alone. That's why they project, to try and scare women, who thrive alone, into being with a man. They don't improve with age either. Who male's are as adolescents is who they are for life. Women mature, evolve and learn. Male's believe they're perfect as they are and that women are the problem, so they lack the capacity for self improvement.
THISSSSSS
Cause our society have told men they are the main character and women and children are just accessories on the side. Thats why.
@@cccwomensempowerment so then what's wrong with being single forever. Why do yall have to complain about being single?? It's so weird
Look how women from all backgrounds reunite to talk about our common experiences. Men have tried to divide us for so long so that we couldn’t realize that it’s a worldwide issue amongst them
Your full of lies
Yay technology
Waiting for that guy to pop in saying "we gave you that" lol
Men "divided" "us" LMAO what a joke. Learn some real history rather than tumblr history
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
I also find it creepy they were only nice and fun when we were kids/teens. As a fully grown woman, they act like we are just disgusting to them...
Maybe kids but teen boys treat girls like trash
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They like the inexperienced ones because they can pull all kinds of weird s*** and get away with it
@@bootscooty yep then after that you're damaged goods 🙄
@@EbonyHoopGyalThen they never acknowledge the fact that THEY’RE the reason why we’re “damaged”
Some men have a sick fetish for ruining women's lives and robbing them of their youth and beauty and then abandoning them. I agree with the first young lady in the video. DO NOT BE IN A RUSH TO GET A MAN. Wait. Make yourself the priority, learn who you are and what you like and don't like. Put your happiness and your mental health 1st.
not to ruin lives, just selfish too.
This. I watched this guy purposely go after a much younger girl only to leave her with 2 kids. She was a vibrant, happy and successful young lady before him. Now all she does is post depressing quotes on Facebook about waiting for her Russell. She’s still pretty but now she comes with 2 babies and an abusive baby daddy. A man WILL ruin your life and leave you with kids knowing that it will be much harder for you to find a decent man after him. This is exactly why they seek out girls in their early 20s.
Aka my sperm giver who was 20 years older than my mom.
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
But it is not about hatred toward men but decentering them. Why wont you just do the same? Put yourself first?
I had no idea how many women never focus on themselves and their hobbies and their hopes and dreams. To me, it was always common sense to be selfish in that sense. This is GREAT how so many more women are waking up.
Shit is insane
Agreed !!!
Agreed. I didn't know being selfish in that way was less common than I realized. Glad women are focusing on themselves (what they want and feel).
We have as women ALL been socially conditioned to BELIEVE we NEEDED men to exist in this world.
Me 2 and I have 3 kids and have been married before. I just don't care what men like 🤷🏾♀️
They want slaves, not wives! Im single and childfree! Can not describe how happy i am!
😭❤️❤️
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
youre just overweigth thats it
Who are „they“? As a man, what can I do to identify and stop „them“? What is „their“ end-goal?
@@marvin2678they are also bitter they can’t get mommy 2.0😂
First girl is 100%. I followed that philosophy myself. Met the man of my fucking dreams while living my best life abroad in South Korea. We've been married 7 years and PLEASE HEAR ME: THE CHERRY ON TOP OF AN ALREADY FULL LIFE IS DEEPLY MOVING LIFE CHANGING LOVE THAT LEVELS UP EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU. IT IS A BEST FRIEND YOU DIDNT KNOW VOULD EXIST. IT IS WORTH HOLDING OUT FOR. DONT LET THESE BOYS IN YOUR YOUNGER YEARS WASTE YOUR TIME. RAISE YOUR STANDARDS THROUGH THE STRATOSPHERE!
You should also tell young women that a lot of finding the so called person of your dreams is just luck. You can do all the right things society says to do and never find them. The point is that’s ok. You create a full life for yourself where you are the cherry on top.
@@SE-gs6gdhonestly I think the man purpose is to love yourself. Once you love yourself you will be contempt with just you alone
hmm
STANDARDS TO THE STRATOSPHERE!!!!
Yea I don't like comments like this cuz it creates this "false hope". I don't want Women to decenter males for the thought that "The one" is going to come along. We are the cherries on top.
The Asian woman around 6 + mins - she was spot on! Wow. Distracting myself from making career decisions by entertaining men who I know are emotionally unavailable.
Read this comment while listening to her and making this realization. Mind blown.
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
Myyyyy God. It’s some type of sermon in this 🤣 Fr I can resonate.
same i literally lost 3 semester
The first chick gotta good point
They will, until they'll want a man, and he's not there
They need to being back couples dances
Aldo, women could help men, and women
BY NOT HELPING MEN..
the older generations KNEW THIS
Her TikTok is excellent
@@kathleenking47you missed the point
@@solrosenberg4529 I disagree. I find men are usually at their "best" when they have gotten a bit older. They are more successful, mature, know women better, & are almost always better lovers z
@@solrosenberg4529not in my experience. In fact IME the men in their late 40's-50's are very much pursuing women in their mid to late 30's & older, esp if they have a successful career.
I'm getting the distinct feeling youre a man who WANT these assertions to be true but the reality doesn't reflect what you're saying
Growing up, my neighborhood had problems and I watched far too many girls I knew deal with the aftermath of things that went horribly wrong. Out of fear and frustration I avoided boys and it just became a lifestyle. I’ve dated here and there, but never let things get physical because that’s when men start overstepping bounds.
I’m pleased to say, focusing on my life instead of boys helped me get into great schools and a great career, see the world, and learn a lot about myself. I HIGHLY recommend doing the same before letting men come into your life and drag you down with their usual BS.
@@BeeZy-rp5pxmen are more of a problem. Let’s leave it at that
@@BeeZy-rp5pxCompletely missed the point. Women do not center other women in their lives like they do for men. But just keep acting clueless.
Ur brilliant u accomplished ur goals tgese weirdo men these days r full of drama can cost us our lives I was victim of dv almost got k from the stalking and in addition the vast majority of men have ZERO SUBSTANCE THESE DAYS GOOD KUCK TO ALL B SAFE 💜🙏
You ain’t lying!!! I fell into the trap! Been in long relationships all my life literally and now I’m 23 today and idc about these niggas
@@SupachosenI was abused by women and completely disagree.
I truly don’t feel safe around men. I’ve decentered them since I was around 23-25!
Most people don't, even men don't trust each other.
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
so less black children ?
you sound bitter. 1st gf sounds predatory..try therapy. @@nothingnewunderthesun4292
So I decentered and there wasn't a word for it at the time but each guy I was dating got worse and worse so I just stopped. And now I can never go back. I see the red flags so clearly now even before there's any time spent together. It's hard feeling all that peace knowing your life is going to be more stressful now. Unless he can make my life better than what it is now, I'm not dating.
This💯💯💯💯
Same, I stopped dating back in '07 and just quietly decided to prioritize myself. I didn't announce anything, didn't label it, didn't talk about it...just focused on other parts of my life. Can't say I made a bad choice 🤷
No, there was already a word for it, "decentering men" is literally the MGTOW movement repackaged for women. But, when men did it, it was called "hateful" and "misogynistic".😂
@@PriinsuYou should “go your own way” to a space where your input is more appreciated. That space isn’t here.
@@nasha4everr310you are absolutely right
Cheers to all women,childfree, single,moms , married, single moms lets include everyone in this movement, even moms and married women can hugely benefit from this message.
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
Gosh all of this, had I learned this at 23, I'd be suppppper rich by now, literally wasted so much energy on men. Now at 43, divorced, single and childfree I'm literally living my best life. Nothing wrong with be in a relationship, but ladies please choose, approve and love yourself first ❤❤
Whats wrong couldnt get chad to like you now you hate all men oooo podaseto the world is so hard for you cry me a river your old anyway
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
I’m currently 23, still working on the super rich part. Honestly I commend you, because a lot of aunties are truly stuck in the bad programming, and I honour you for doing something good for yourself ! Wishing you the best, you still have time! And you’re tres GORG
Didn't center a man for 15 years and am happy I was raised to do so... well, somewhat. My immigrant parents wanted me to focus on getting an education and my career. Now they're like, "When are you getting married? You need to have kids soon." Child... my boyfriend and I are taking our time. I do prioritize our relationship, BUT HE IS NOT MY WORLD but a part of it... I have friends, hobbies, and me time, lol. Started dating at 30 and that has been a blessing, honestly.
we have the same life... after my career im now ok with having a partner
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
"De-value men's sexual desire for you"
Yes, that's a big one! It's low-value attention that doesn't mean anything since it's given out abundantly. Trying to satisfy fickle and flakey people isn't worth it.
I love that piece of advice.
We choose what we find valuable to us and we always have the upper hand in that.
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
I think the issue is idolizing marriage and motherhood. It may happen or not, and your worth is not determined by it.
And if you force it with a bad mate you'll be recovering for decades. ❤
@@HolisticManifestingIF you even recover at all that is
No! It’s Not!
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
They make you get stressed out because they don't communicate well.
Get a dog or cat. They love and validate you, unconditionally. ❤
I'm tired of trying to figure out if a man wants to love me or use me?
After being in a couple of relationships with men who never loved me and did everything to screw me over, I'm just done.
I now have major trust issues thanks to men.
Everything I have I got myself and no thanks to anyone.
Same! I have no interest or time to be experimenting with dating people, and they even abuse platonic relationships if you let them in. It’s accounted for a lot of wasted time and heartache. I like myself just fine, and I provide for myself exclusively, why walk myself into unnecessary pain?
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
I’m a gay guy but I still find these videos so comforting and helpful. I hate how much male validation controlled my self worth, I’m really happy people are speaking on this😭
As a woman, gay men are the only men I get along with!
God bless you bc I've met MANY gay Men who ALSO don't like Women. Heck, I've met transWomen who literally are jealous of Us and believe We are worthless and that they do it BETTER. I've been on the receiving end of that kind of rant from a friend girl's transSister. Super surreal. Anyway, thanks for actually seeing Us as people❤
@@summersday7894maybe they hate women for the same reason women hate men?
@@sonatestd2085 i'm not trans yet even i can see that certain women overly focus on trans females feeling all treathened by a minority in a minority acting like their men whenever it fits their interest, it's pathetic forcing trans women to conform wont give self love.
@@cocosnow-rv2np has nothing tp do with my comment
I’ve been doing this for years. It has brought nothing but peace, fulfillment and absolute abundance. 💛🥂
I need this❤
I bet your miserable men still win points up for the men team no points for the girl team men up hoes down
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
Men = Distractions. I don’t have time
I guess for the first two decades of my life I involuntarily decentered men because I was not deemed attractive or sought after. Now that I’m 25 and CHOOSING to de center men, I thank the lord everyday that I was not “chosen” by the man I thought I wanted or any man at all. My “ugliness” shielded me from a lot of heartache and mental turmoil. All of my “pretty” friends or classmates went through hell and back with men that “chose” them and ended up with serious issues or just a lot of mental and emotional baggage for someone so young.
Girl, so true with My weight lol it has been My shield. I'm ready to live healthy and fit now but for ME. So that I can live My best life ever and also do good to others and encourage them to live their best life ever. WHY are We so angry and sad? Let's change that together ❤
You are right, beauty is a cross to bear, I've seen it happen many, many times
All the pretty popular girls I went to school with are all fat, single mothers. You dodged a huge bullet love. Now you can glow up and elevate in piece. ❤
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
😂😂😂 I never understood why some women have this need to have a man. I can't understand it.
Société
or better said
SOCIETY
😂
They tied their ability to have children with having a man in the center of their life. They bought into the shame of becoming moms without husbands. They could have had kids on purpose as single women and cut out the stress of a relationship with a man.
I HAVE NEVER UNDERSTOOD IT EITHER
Becuz we lack self love, look for a man to give us the love we need to give ourselves; I’m slowly but surely coming out of it.
It’s because we’re socialized from young to obtain a man unfortunately. It has these men out here thinking theyre the prize😂
I never wanted kids either, I'm in my 40's and it's the best decision I've made in my life, 'cause all my married friends are miserable
Thank god your genetics wont continue
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
Your also miserable!! Just in a different way !worse actually
I opt-ed out years ago and I have been sooo successful.... I'm selfish...I luv my own company.. I don't want 2 share myself w/anyone..I have peace..happiness and have a discernment.. In TODAY'S dating climate knowing how 2 read the room is vital
You're not selfish for wanting to live your own life
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
Once I decentered men I have been able to heal my mental health,I was able to eliminate a boat load of stress.I started a new job that pays much better omg so much peace. I wear less makeup and started treating and taking care of my skin I'm so excited that I stop feeling like I needed it ,my skin is glowing. I do one major nice thing for myself Once a month as a gift.I also start therapy sessions next month I know this will benefit my mental health I'm setting realistic short term goals for myself giving myself the opportunity to grow I'm definitely in a better head space 😊😊
As someone who is trying to do the same I would like to ask: How to de-center men without giving up my sex life? It's very difficult for me to have sex without developing feelings. The other issue is that I've only had 2 sexual partners until now and honestly, I feel embarrassed about that. I'm in my mid 30s and I want to have more experience in that area, which is impossible without male validation because I'm a straight woman. I don't like that I can only have sex while in a relationship because it keeps my sex life dependent on someone else and on whether or not I have found the "right person". I'm stuck in a catch 22. Can you give me any advice?
@@yb32Be demanding in the bedroom. Mel Hamlett explores this topic.
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
They sure are suddenly intensely hateful. Just random dudes on the street and uber drivers. Like damn can i go to the grocery store😂
the fact that we are happier without them makes them SO insecure🤣
THE LESBIANS KNEW THE WHOLE TIME
Yesss
Sure in tf did 😂
Ladies, the answer is to build woman and children communities where women support each other and children.
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Hello. I was pushed away by every person that I met. They used my body like a rag then didn't want to deal with me. I turned my whole life around. I completed my education. I stopped needing anyone since I was a baby. I saw how I was treated by others as a child, and this became my role model. I learned a lot about myself. I also learned that people in general have a low tolerance for others. They care about the newest, and shinniest for a bit then it's time for dumping. This is what gives others power over you. This is how they keep you in shackles. Being a slave to others is a real thing. I learned the hard way. Don't believe fantasies that others place in front of you. Through harsh experiences you will learn.
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
I honestly can't with misogynists.
I'm done.
Men seem to compartmentalize women. They descentre us so this movement to me is doing the same, put career, health and non romantic relationships first
As it should has always been💖
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
Soul mates and love at first sight is a lie. They are trauma responses.
I’m at 30f and never had a bf and at this point I probably never will and I am learning to accept that reality. Dating is only getting worse and I can’t imagine what the next 10 yrs will look like
Don't feel bad nearing 26 and the same for me! At this point it's about bettering myself and exploring the world while chasing my dreams and never having to put myself on hold for anyone! 💗💗💗
@@popdiva848 I see what you mean but I do get lonely and I desire a healthy male partner. The problem is that not enough of them are qualified… good men do exist but they get taken young so it is just a depressing reality
If you're not aro or ace . Lower your standards when it comes to dating . You don't have to comprise but not everyone is gonna fix exactly in the mold . I've had bfs . And tbh a lot of them were too shy to speak with me so I had to speak to them first. I'm 27 got out of a 3 year relationship because I'm not ready to settle. It just makes me sad when women feel they can't find relationships. Hell my friends mom divorced her man and found the love of her life and she's in her 60s . Please don't give up !
I've been single celibate for a few years now. I like it although it sometimes does get lonely. Every guy wants to have sx immediately,and when you decline the want nothing to do with you. Even a night walk where I just wanted to enjoy the moonlight and quiet night. I was followed by foreign taxi drivers. Disgusting world we live in.
I focus more on money and women friendship. But met a guy after months messages I'm slowly spending little time with him
I'm 31f (32 soon) and same. When I think about the current dating world I'm like "no thanks", i like my peace
I'm glad these young women are talking about this.. it can save them a lot of trouble
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
@nothingnewunderthesun4292 I'm sorry you've experienced that with the females in your life that's definitely not kool but good thing you have male guidance and friends to talk to.. us females have a hard time making friends with each other unfortunately so I am applauding these women who have been through bad experiences with men for showing support and being vulnerable with each other. No one is better than the other..the only thing we can do on both sides is have a 0 tolerance for non-sense and have those boundaries in place.
My mother made sure we were never centering romance but having straight-up unfiltered discussions of what men are like. And secondly, I observed my father and how he treated my mother's concerns and needs and I learned very early this important lesson: most men only perceive women as resources and secondary characters in their life story, and they will never center you or give consideration to how things will affect you if it's in their interest to take a certain path. You also kind of get hints of these things when you read scriptures such as Ephesians where men are told to "love their wives just as they love themselves," because apparently you have to be *told* to love the person that will risk their lives to continue your bloodline in a lot of cases (pregnancy has historically been the #1 reason for a woman dying, after partner unaliving and pestilence). So there are a lot of indications that men are not conditioned to look at women or understand them as different types of *human beings* just as men are, they view "females" like they like to call them as a separate and sometimes subhuman species. You're just a resource for for them and they're more concerned about the services you can provide then who you are as a person.
That's some bs right there lady
@@easymode678 I don't care. Shrug.
@@easymode678you can’t argue with the scriptures bruh 😂 look it up for yourself! The woman was speaking facts 😊
100% spot on and you were lucky to have that talk with your mother. You basically need to look out for yourself . Some men can be a lot of fun and bring a lot of joy in your life, but remember you are first
they say female as code for femoid, female humanoid, it's dehumanising
Man, it’s really unfortunate that it’s ingrained in us from such a young age that in order to be happy, we must be attached to the hip of a man all the time. It’s not healthy to give away your power like that. My grandmother always told us that relationships can ADD to your happiness, but YOU make yourself happy first.
There is so much to enjoy and experience in this life. We need to put ourselves on the pedestal and decide that we create our own “happily ever after,” whether a man is present or not. You make your own life exciting by having a routine, hobbies and interests, things to do, friendships to nourish, goals, exploring and traveling, etc. Spend time with yourself and those important in your life, develop a relationship with God (if you are a believer) and soon enough, thoughts of men will wither away because you’ll have so much love in your life already, that you don’t need to focus on them anymore.
I wish I knew this 20 years ago. 40 and 3 failed marriages and abuse later. We were lied to
My girl, you're only 40, you have your entire life ahead. I Tell you this, im 32 and I see so many people in their 50s, 60s who are incredibly healthy, good looking, with good income, single or some of them dating, enjoying their lifes. So in our 30s and 40s we're still young and it's never too late! I send you I huge hug from Spain ❤😊
My mom and her mom and past generations of women aged fast
Got unhealthy ugly and miserable because they did what they were told to do as women what their duty was told to be thank goodness
That's all changing so we don't have to be horrible ugly miserable look like we're 50 when we're barely 30 like our moms and their moms did
Lol what?! Why are you so vein? 😬
@@Whoamiiiiiiiiiiii because it's connected to health both physical and mental
@@daysoftheboo some people can look healthy on the outside but are dying on the inside..
@@Whoamiiiiiiiiiiii the stress the unhealthy lifestyle the high expectations throwing away their youth to be wives and to serve a man and cater to him and the children all aged them rapidly , they never had a chance to be young and free and besides all that looks do matter
@@daysoftheboo I don’t understand your point. I’ve seen plenty of middle aged women who have families that live by me and they look great. As long as you have time and money to take care of yourself, then having a family shouldn’t be an excuse not to…
Marriage is high risk and very low reward. Staying single im low risk and reaping high rewards❤
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Yea until you can dicorce the man and take half of his earnings.. how is it high risk??? How is it low reward? That’s delusional
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
As a bisexual, I'm de-centering romance
The struggle sis
Only a few understand
What's was wrong when dating women? For the other we get it
absolutely nothing- its just time and energy you could be putting into yourself
Im straight and I like idea of decentering romance 🥴 and men too
The gagg is they want to mess you up later in life too smh…
Right …. Men in every age group hate women and female success
AND THEY DO! I know that for a fact!! I have a really pretty aunt who spent her life alone working as a teacher and lived REALLY GOOD! I mean... she looked 20 years younger, traveled,eat healthy,exercise, did her hair and nails,bought long dresses... had friends... like... amazing such as she looked younger than all her married friends cause time did nothing to her! Married at 50 the... he supports her and so on but is abusive towards her older sister and changed my aunt's life in every aspect of it! I remember being sit on her bed soon before her wedding and the guy was CHECKING HER CLOTHING and demanding changes such as... cutting her long dresses to a pathetic size that made her look like she was going to enter a river to fish SIMPLY BECAUSE HE DIDN'T LIKE LONG DRESSES! she gain weight cause his eating habits became her watijg habits,stop exercises,did not do her hair and nails such as before because she found it to be superficial LOL did not buy whar she wantef to buy,did not drive her car anymore, did not traveled with her friends anymore alone and so on.... even her mother's house que altered, i cannot even get inside anymore cause he does not like for me facing him when they got married 8 years ago... i will be single for good
They sure do. Women get stealthed in their 30s and 40s too. XYs also start looking for nurses with purses and hospice care wives too. XYs use, abuse and manipulate women and girls from womb to tomb!
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
Had I decentered boys back in the 90’s I would have cared more about school, gotten better grades, had more time for friends, made more money later in life (generally comes with better grades and more focus on school) and been in a much better place mentally. So glad my 21 year old niece, who could totally get lots of guys because she is gorgeous, is focusing on school and career. She was focused during HS and is now focused during college. She travels, both personal travel and with the football team at her school because she is has the top recruiting job for the team. She WILL move on to a great career because she is focused on herself and not some guy who won’t bring her the financial freedom she can bring herself. My sister and her my nieces dad are still married so the manosphere can not. Lame this one on single moms. My nieces dad supports her completely and is glad to see her not spending her precious time chasing guys who don’t deserve her.
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
One of the women made a good point. I never really centered men as a teen and even now (I’m almost 26). So, it would be kind of hard to center them now as I move into my late twenties and early 30s. I don’t want to be in one but it would be hard. I always centered getting good grades to fill me up and me feel good. That also wasn’t healthy. I prioritized school so much that I didn’t even make any time for my physical and mental well-being. However, I’m doing a lot better now.
I’m also an only child and I don’t have any cousins around my age so maybe that’s also why I don’t really mind being alone.
Oh. I didn’t grow up in a family full of men either. Most of the my relatives are women and most of the men are in laws. And there are also not a lot of them. Thankfully, no one told me that I should get a man or that I should do certain things to get a man.
@@octopussy888what freedom You've had ❤
Same and ppl around would say I was boring because I love books but because I love getting good grades and working hard for me I retired in my 20s so in 3 and a half years when Im in my 30s I'm going to keep building for my nieces and nephews so they don't have do anything if they don't want to since I already traveled every where I want them to do the same only had them 4 summers where I got there passports well the last two needed passports since I did for the first two since they were babies lol plus my first niece is just like me and I love it so I already brought her the Audi truck she wanted but I got cursed out because she's only 12 but she deserves it so I'm going to keep spoiling them cause I'm not having any their portfolios looking better than mine lol
@@shaypope4732 it’s nice that you can take of them. You just have to do what’s best for you.
My (ex)husband was angry I got a job when our kids were in school full-time. He said, "You have a job now, you pay the bills." As he threw the bills at me. There was no conversation before hand- he walked in angry that I was working.
I hope you walked away from that man with your sanity intact. Please value yourself and peace of mind. Be safe.
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
I hope you left those bills right where he threw them. ❤
Women are waking up all over the world and what dose this tell you about men the happiest I been is when I’m single men are just too much to deal with
I can totally relate to the first tiktok and the one where the woman was talking about decentering as a late bloomer. I also kinda just do not care about relationships with men. Almost every single interaction I had with a male that went into a "romantic" direction was utterly disappointing.
I guess I like men in theory, but not in practice.
They have shown their true colors. I don't want that and I'm happy without that.
Are you me? I honestly can't say romantic relationships brought me happiness or joy. I think society wrongly overlooks rewarding relationships with family, friends, and pets, and put romantic relationships on a pedestal for no reason.
@@lorrilewis2178THISSS omg. it took me so long to realize that I get more satisfaction and happiness from family relationships, friendships, and pets WAY more than any relationship with a man, especially romantic. it just doesn’t do as much for me, even though I’m definitely attracted to men. they are just such a burden, can’t even wash their own ass right. god I wish I was a lesbian😂
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
They drain your energy. Stay single and work on yourself, love your friends and be true to yourself ❤❤❤
Bingo
sex does not benefit women, instant gratification , long term consequences
marriage does not benefit women, instant gratification (wedding), long term consequences (marriage)
relationships benefits women, family, friendships, romantic relationships (without sex), platonic relationships, friendzoning potential suitors, co workers, communities, neighbor's, healthy platonic relationships.
women's purpose is to nurture and love; plants and animals 😊
But does divorce benefit women?
Eventually yes
@@MissiSIMPiyep
Sex does benefits me A WHOLE LOT! Lol i like it a lot, so.... but you have to make it safe, for sure... and be sure that dude is not a psycho because men usually become psychos when confronted with a lady that only wants "to sit and shake" lol i've been asked the most insane questions right away cause the dude would get mad with my sexual freedom like in a judgmental way "how many guys did you sleep with?!?!?"Kkkk não
@@gabrieleruediger957 I think they’re referring to women not being satisfied with intimacy. men are usually the ones in control during intimacy because we’re taught that only their pleasure matters. “traditional” intimacy, the majority of it, only benefits men. intimacy lasts as long as *they can last* and it goes at *their* rhythm. women are never taught how to truly feel pleasure, it’s something we have to find out on our own, so men *definitely* are not taught how to bring pleasure to us. you say you’ve had men question you on your choices, that tells me the men are properly shocked you enjoy intimacy. it’s like a sad expectation for men to be the only ones enjoying it. I honestly theorise we’re taught to be dissatisfied with it all the time so that we don’t crave it from other men in the same way they crave it from other women. a control tactic basically. although what I do find funny about all of this is that when women *do* sleep around, most men assume it’s because those men have bigger bits. it shows so much about how they know so little.
Hello, ladies. I'm in my 50's and I grew up NEVER wanting to be a wife. And you have all the reasons why. Just so that you know... It doesn't get any better or easier when you reach my age. I am so very happy and comfortable in my skin. Way more than I was half my age ago when I just wanted to be able to have a man because of my sex drive and fear of being infected with a deadly sexual disease. But now, I'm just over it. Cuz even if I did have a HIM, he would still put me in that way of harm because they have a problem with monogamy while expecting it from me. So Just be happy with you and get over being what they want. they don't have a want outside of making themselves blissfully happy. So, adopt that ideal and make yourselves blissfully happy 😊
Im 19 going 20 in 13 days and im glad i did this way before it was a thing because it has opened my eyes to how messed up some men are .I had this one guy from church call me and tell me that i was beautiful. When i told him "i know" he had the AUDACITY to ask me "who told you that?" Like ,I look in the mirror every morning and evening and evrytime i go to the bathroom! I look at my soul amd i radiate energy that keeps people gravitating towards me ! I'm not supposed to wait for some random dude to tell me that to believe it !! Girl,focus on yourself because you are the only PERMANENT THING IN YOUR LIFE .BELIEVE IN YOURSELF,INVEST TIME,MONEY AND FAITH IN YOURSELF !!!
I may not have come from a family that believed in me and my beauty but i made the decision to BE that person for myself ! It wasnt easy but i did it and YOU CAN TOO BECAUSE EVEN IF YOU DON'T REALIZE IT NOW ;YOURE A TOUGH COOKIE .
Burn bright on your own so that when a man comes into your life ,he knows from the get-go that you know what you want and if he isnt ready to step up ,his ass getting kicked to the curb.PERIOD
I love what the first girl said. We need to find happiness on our own. Your happiness should not be based on a man being interested in you. If a man comes into your life, he should make it better. And if he doesn’t, it is not worth it!
YUP
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
I love how intelligent these young women are, as an older women who’s been through the ringer with men from abusive, controlling, insecure men who do exactly what this young women said they will sabotage your success because their insecure. Ex. my ex told me to quit college because if I became successful I wouldn’t need him anymore & if I didn’t he said he would divorce me. Needless to say I’m divorced!
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Yess so smart, stunning and brave, demonizing an entire gender! Amazing!
I'm so excited that that women from all nationalities agree on this!!! We finally come together on something and agree as a collective!! OMG about time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
10 yrs ago. When I decided that dealing with men is mentally, emotionally, sexually and psychology exhausting, i decentered them. And its been the best thing I ever did. I have more $, more time for myself, more energy, Ive taken several vacations and had soooo much fun on each one..and..im living my best life...I love it!!!❤❤❤❤
Your probably old any more copes to cope
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
I am divorced, 54 and going to recenter away from men. Thank you, smart women here !
After 5 long years in a toxic relationship I still struggle, but omg... the idea of having a fulfilled life without anyone else in it makes me a little less suicidal.
I didn’t even realize I was decentering men but it’s definitely a journey it’s not easy especially coming from somebody who always had a boyfriend I mean middle-high. But I got so tired of the mind games & being crazy asf I just don’t deal with them anymore I been so peaceful! I just want to thank God! I’m glad I went through everything I been through
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Truth. Our mom's did not birth us to spend our whole adult lives giving to a man we put on a pedastal. Pursue your passion, hobbies, and health, first!! Fill your own cup and then decide whether you want to be part of a mutually fulfilling relationship.
Girl, my desire used to be a husband and children. These days, I'm not sure anymore. 🙄
Oof, good luck lol ❤
Not worth it
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
@@nothingnewunderthesun4292 so you expirienced what all women expirience.
Now you know why most women avoid male "friends". Now you know what it's like to be betrayed for xes. I really hope that those female friends accused you of friendzone after that and made you a villain. This is what always happens with male "friends".
This is the funniest time to be alive. Look at all these men's faces when theyre nit the center of the world lol
😂😂
I wish these lessons were available in my 20’s. The young women now are so lucky! Get therapy and find out your attachment style before looking for a partner.
It's so much better now. ❤
We are here to
1. Be happy on our own terms
2. Live how we want to
3. Reach our potential and purchase our dreams
4. Live for ourselves
5. Be comfortable in our own skin
Applies both to men and women
And my family was also matriarchal. We had my mom my sister my grandmother and my aunt. My dad took off for some other woman and my grandfather tried to kill everybody by locking the family in a room and trying to burn down the house.
What’s it like being in a matriarchal family?
@@Supachosen I thought I'd missed my dad when I was young. But I actually realize as an adult I've benefited from him not being in the family and us having to serve him like he was a baby king. I learned self-sufficienty and that I needed to have a career and to make a life of my own and that if I was going to have kids, I should really freaking think about it. They're very expensive and they take all of your time and it's very likely you're going to raise them by myself.
They're crae
And they really expect us NOT to angry and bitter" with the shit they pull.
That's beautiful women centred excluding the chaos of course. I find it interesting that men usually think the family will go downhill once they leave.
Men and society complimenting women is simply another version of keeping women subjugated. Dress up well only for yourself. Be happy with how you look for yourself. IMO minimal effort but mindful dressing is the way to go.
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
I AM THE OBJECTIVE, I AM WHY I LIVE MY LIFE!!
💯🌻🌺
"save men for later" lmao
Keep coping
The second girl telling us to book a dentist appointment 😭
Wow. Well I decentered men before it was a thing 6 years ago. I focused on me for an entire year. When i felt ready I joined a dating app and i found my soon to be husband there. He is such a high value man i love him so much! He is so wonderful he freaking LOVED the Barbie movie. He plays I'm just Ken on loop 😂😂😂 I told myself I wouldn't date unless i found someone worth it and i found him on the first day i joined the app. 😂 bravo. Im SO happy women are realizing we deserve soo much better!
High value men don’t need to use dating apps.
@@solrosenberg4529 That one did and it seems to be working out 🤷🏾♀️
Yo husband likes the Barbie movie?! Oh yeah he's a weak beta male simp for sure
😂😂😂😂
Which app was it may i ask LOL
Oooh if I had grown up hearing this, my life would have been so different now😢 So I say this to my daughter, hoping she doesn’t repeat the same mistake that I made.
I grew up decentering men because my father, regardless of gender, encouraged us to dream big when it came to our careers. I pretty much focused on that mindset through graduate school. I do feel, however, that the communities in which I engaged, work, church, social friends, family circles made it a priority to remind me that I was essentially nothing if I wasn't claimed by some man as his.
I can think of so many instances where people reached out to me only to gleefully dismiss me when they learned that I was not married.
Social media essentially expanded my world to allow me to identify the communities that empowered and nutured my interests. Life is too short not to focus on the activities and connections that bring me joy.
I wish I knew this earlier!!!!!I learned by 45.
Men were never at the center of my life, ever!!!! I’m 24 and LOVE my solitude, working on myself to be ready for a relationship later in my 20s
Man I love that God bless you.🎉 And may you enjoy your life and later on have a healthy relationship god bless
@@uu-kq6mn thank you I appreciate that all the love back at you
I bet the dude you wanted didn't like you man i love it when women catch Ls
@@sub-zero5983 thanks! But I don’t have any problems in that department, have a beautiful day
@@sub-zero5983we found the incel🤡
The girl about lying to strangers? 😂 I used to do that when I was younger and YES it is harmless and definitely fun, I used to say to guys at the bars my name was “Sea” like “the body of water” and I was from Paris, France but was only fluent in German, and that I had a book published as a kid that was about cats that sang Christmas songs, etc etc etc stupid things that mean nothing. Those guys *weren’t* listening to what I said anyway and we (women) all knew they weren’t so what harm? Play silly games while you’re young and laughing and before men have spent a decade or more trying to “tame” you or tear you down
Not being called out cause I need a teeth cleaning.
I feel attacked!
Literally have my appointment in two days 😂
Im really proud that females are waking up. Its important to focus and heal what was middinh inside to cause us to focus outside of ourselves.
Wow when I was growing up every thing was about getting a man learn how to cook or you will never get a man ,how are you going to get a man if you don't learn how to clean and do laundry and and and and, lose weight, do your hair nails feet everything for a man to look at me.this is what I heard growing up, what are you going to add to his household,it was never about me and who I was as a person. Now at 40 I'm just now understanding this after all my life has been centered around men and is in shambles as a result. Like kids and a husband was the beginning and end of me.
To add to that ,the less attractive you are perceived the more you are told to center men, cause apparently you ugly more when you age.😂
“ALL MEN ARE A LITTLE BIT BAD! no offense, sir” 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Do not forget that men aren't only the boys we date but our fathers, brothers, bosses, doormen, strangers, handymen, little boys too.
Why are they spelling Men like 'M*N" on TikTok? Dont tell me that word is banned and you cant talk about them???
I guess the males are in their feelings now
I just came back from watching Barbie, I get it now lol @@user-ol9bo2ei1r
Yes it has become that why because men run tiktok and RUclips. Why you think so many female content creator's keep getting reported?
no, it's a way of censoring the word like it's derogatory, like the way men say females instead of women, women said "m*n" instead of Men.
aha, I see, I get it, thanks! @@veronicajata3121
As a woman in her 30s absolutely. Being single and childless is not an insult. I am married and love my husband but he adds on to it. And if it doesn’t work, that’s fine because he’s been absolutely lovely. In a nutshell, fill your life up with whatever you want and however you want and when love does come knocking , you are ready to welcome it into your “home” with grace.
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
No but hating men and demonizing an entire gender is an insult
Decentered men and replace it with Jesus Christ!!!! I know what true love is now. & I get to create a blossoming life, void of self-sabotaged and depression that was due to men-debauchery.
I just wanna show this to girls that talk about their bfs all day..just obsessed .
I do my nails for me. No one else.
7:06 She is absolutely right!!! I’m so proud of her and the women that have their eyes open..
I love the lady telling me to steal. Rat girl summer!
i’ve never centered men in my life, because Im just not interested in it and honestly life is going very well
I appreciate these women's perspectives. It's so refreshing to see women decentering men!❤
Hell! That's already crossed off my list.
Since I've been decentering men for years.
Nobody wants you anyway keep coping
She is so on point about staying alone when you are in the transitional period of your life moving up getting into your career or really investing time to make your business successful because these dudes are so jealous and intimidating for real
I don’t blame her I don’t want a man at this point anymore its tiring to get hurt over and over. This guy i was with hes older im 22 he complained he wanted a woman finished with school after i told him my mom i had to take care of is why I couldn’t finish ..he knew my situation at this point I’m done.. with the whole relationship.. like he brags about his exes stay mad at me and lies to me rn i don’t need men right now.. he was too quick to give up at this point im asexual. Men are not for me
The snip bit of the video where the guys says “just treat them like sh$t” is enough reason to decenter men and collectively work towards changing that narrative. Don’t tolerate disrespect. I have actively disengaged from men and any toxic behavior.
Be a great human, be happy, focus on your life. Be a good friend, don’t let any old wolf come into your life and take your heart. Stop encouraging bad behavior.
This video struck me so hard, it's not even funny. I'm having regrets about my choices as a young girl and woman, but it brings me so much joy to know that I can change and even more so, that I have other women who are familiar with what I've gone through and are changing too. I've never felt more girl power in my life.
Also, no lie, it feels good knowing women who look prettier and hotter and sexier than me are saying this because if THEY are also dealing with the same flesh bags of stupid then I know it's not just me and my ugliness going through it 😅
@@roxy4325 You're not ugly; this terrible world we live in is :/
I only ever was looking for love, nothing else. I kinda lost hope, to find it. I am 25 years old and a man. I believe I had found the love of my life, until from one day to the other, it was just over.
I invite all of you to please tell me what I did wrong. If you guys are claiming that all men suck and are at fault all the time, please tell me what my mistake was or my mistakes were. I am open for criticism.
My ex-gf introduced herself to me on a public bus, twice starting the convo in two times meeting each other over two months, separate occasions. The second time I asked her out on a date & from then on, we got together very quickly.
One day, maybe around 2 months or a bit less into us being together, she shows me a video on her phone. I see myself sitting in said public bus, being filmed from a seat looking the opposite way but around 4 rows of seats down from my own. The camera followed me a bit outside even and when I walked out of view, not once even looking into its direction, the video stopped.
I obviously was baffled, but importantly, I looked at the date: the video was taken two whole years before she had even talked to me once.
So she admitted by herself to filming me on that day and from then on, having s**ual fantasies about me / us for over two years before finally talking to me. Now it’s about what she did after filming me, for the whole two years she had been „watching“ or „observing“ me ;
she would start writing down when / where I‘d get off / on the bus and sometimes run or wait for an earlier / later bus to see me as often as possible, (which means she‘d sometimes wait for half an hour up to an hour because the bus line only drives this frequent, just to eventually see me), she was able to describe my friends well enough for me to know exactly who she saw me with, she would frequent spots or places in the city more often when / if she saw me there, especially multiple times, like in the library, lastly she would mirror me, if I was waiting for the train on one side of the tracks, she would basically stand face to face to me, vis-a-vis and when I would walk she’d do the same on the opposite side
all of the above for two years from the first day she had seen me on said bus, until talking to me at all
And again that’s just what she admitted by herself. Also she kept admitting to say one detail of the above, then check for my reaction, even being amused at my surprise etc, then reveal something new, so I found out about all details in the period of 1-2 weeks of her telling me bit by bit
She told me she was looking for a serious long-term, loving relationship as well, just as I was, told me she loved me more than anything or anyone every day and that she was sure about wanting the relationship, then broke up with me when her mother passed away, from one day to the other: „Sorry, I just can’t Imagine us spending time together without having s**“ „Idk why but I just lost my feelings for you and even if I knew why and we had a solution for the problem, I would still not want to continue because I just don’t feel like it anymore“ „Most of the relationship was good, at least I’m not afraid of s** anymore“ and lastly „Just look at our relationship as if it was an expired phone contract“
She wanted to spend almost all the time we spent together in private in bed, yk „exercising“ not just chilling, apart from family gatherings, going shopping & eating maybe once (to be fair it was covid time when we started dating but still) before, then going back home and immediately engage in bed sports again. She only wanted to meet me once a week in person, visiting usually from around 2-3 am until 9-10 in the evening, then go home, she never slept in the same bed with me even tho I really wanted to. For the record, I let her decide by our agreement what we did since her mother was in her last states of dying from cancer, so I just wanted to be there for her & I would lie if I said I didn’t enjoy it either but even for me, at that time 21 years old( she was 20 yrs old) and with almost no prior experiences, it was a bit much at times. We would facetime pretty much every evening tho and snap/text a lot during the day and even then, 70% or more of what we texted/ snapped and / or talked about, she would turn s**ual at some point. I mean I had 200+ nu.des of her in less than 3 months of dating & being together.. plus the s**ting plus the FaceTime sessions..
Also my friends were the ones actually caring about me, helping me. My MALE friends. My best female friend immediately started hitting on me once my ex had left, then when I was not interested in her advances, threatened to end our friendship. My male friends were there to talk to me for hours about my emotions and feelings, they were the ones not getting tired or annoyed of my repetitions. Meanwhile my female friends couldn’t even listen to the story more than one single time without visibly getting flustered and I was able to see how they immediately lost respect for me as a man, because I showed emotion. So what is a man supposed to do, show emotion? Be cold? We are gonna get left, made fun of etc by you guys either way.
All women ever wanted from me was one out of three things: 1. my body & sex, for example my ex-gf 2. money, for example my „best friend“ 3. attention, basically every other female friend whenever their bf had broken up, came to my shoulder to cry on.
That’s my experience, yes, I was there for them not the other way around. Me, a man, imagine you hypocrites.
Cry more about being soooo unfortunate
And being brave little angels, keep believing all women are good and all men are evil, then you will surely NEVER get backstabbed by a woman or demonize any innocent man in your entire life, right?
Stop the gender war, stop the hatred! Realize both genders are the problem, or in other words, society and individuals of it. You are not helping anyone, certainly not yourselves.
@@nothingnewunderthesun4292 If anyone sounds full of hate right now, it's you. My comment is all about self-reflection, growth, and accountability. I'm aware that bad people exist, whether they are male or female.
I'm not sure if you're upset about the video itself, or my comment, but I assure you I don't want any part of whatever you are trying to stir up.
What fills up the "space" is getting to know, love and respect yourself! Dang!!!
I was married for 9 years w 3 kids but after separating life got so peaceful and I have the freedom to wrap my life around my kids, priorities and goals- no compromises. Sure, full time parenting is a full time job+ full time studies and ev full time work means a lot of work. But I get to do it on my terms without the random rescheduling of dinner/tasks/my work life/ my studies around the the partner. Now that the kids are older, I have been able to take upp horse back riding, have traveled on my own in China, Russia(before the war shut that option down), Europe and to India w my sister. I can build my life on my terms in reasonable harmony w my teenagers/adult kids. The only stress from undone chores is my own. My best life!❤. If I meet someone that can improve on this with their mature and real precence, then it's awesome. But if not, I'm loving my life as it is!
My nieces is only 12 and 9 said why are men so lazy,nasty, annoying,liars,gross, disrespectful, unruly, un attentive, deceptive, impatient mean and don't listen/bad lol if something is wrong with them or there brains and if boys who are 25(around my age) the same way cause papa (my dad)isn't like that smh I said papa use to be worst and still have his moments but realized if he acts up momma will leave him alone with the kids and he can't afford that either they said they can't wait to live a life were they(men) don't exist because it would be peaceful and I honestly agreed
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Watching this after I saw a Reddit post about a wife finding out from her husbands friends( one happened to be her step brother) when she was 18 and they were 26 they made a bet on who can sleep with her and humble her since she was so smart for her age, dude is now her husband. So even at 26 men are still less mature than an 18 year old 🫠
I've found everyone seems immature for their age at 25. I've tried dating, but hardly any of the women I've met seem anywhere near emotionally mature enough for me. I've done the work to be emotionally open, safe, mature, and vulnerable. I need a woman who isn't going to scream when angry or split or anything like that. I need someone who will share their emotions because I'm 100% capable of respectfully sharing mine. I've met a few very mature friends through dating though and that's been nice, it just didn't click romantically with them so we're just friends. Always down for more friends.
тнaт ѕтory jυѕт pυт мy тeeтн on edge... тнaтѕ a relaтιonѕнιp rυιnιng revelaтιon....
@@goosewithagibusyeah we’re tired, you just got here, we’ve been here for years.