I dated a string of men who all had to sleep with the TV on. Despite me telling them it disrupts MY sleep, and sometimes I'd wake up in the middle of the night and cry bc I couldn't go back to sleep. Now I sleep in blissful, sweet silence with a fan blowing on me and my cat purring by my ear.
You can set up a timer in a tv, to switch off and in case youre noise sensitive you can use ear plugs or the partner can use headphones. Of course they should listen to your request and take your needs into consideration and ie. watch tv in a different room, ideally with head set (green flag!), but I am not very sure if this is a huge deal breaker. If they did ignore other requests - then yes. If it was only that... Hmm. For instance my and my ex had a PC in a bedroom, in our very small apartment. Sometimes he wanted to watch something or play at night which was disturbing my sleep. So I asked him to wear a headset or use laptop instead and go to the other room. Sometimes he also played with the phone in bed and the screen light was to bright for me. So he did dim it out and I also asked him to roll over so his head would cover the screen, so that minimal amount of light would hit my eyes. I also did roll over, and we lied back to back. And it was okay. We did split but not because of him watching movies in the evening. Sometimes of course I wanted him yo go sleep with me and cuddle, which he also did.
Knowing what you know now, you don't have to sleep with a guy before you have enough information. You can just ASK a man if there's a TV or a computer monitor or other device in his bedroom. Ask other questions about his sleep habits. Housekeeping habits. If you are looking to get married (I don't know your goals), avoid dating men who have no intention of ever getting married. And just because a man says he will get married some day, it doesn't mean he plans to marry the woman he's currently dating.
Yeah, i only want to self optimize, to invest time in my family and my only friend, and find friends who are doing better than me so i can learn something from them… but romantical relationships… are yall serious… cringe. Sorry..
As a flight attendant, I can say that being single is amazing. Being able to be out and about as I please, gone for as long as I want to, peacefully sleeping on these hotel beds, going on girl trips over and over again... Doing all of these and so much more without having someone nagging about "you're always away" or "I cheated because I felt lonely", that's another level of amazingness. I'm so at peace!! Don't get me wrong, going on a baecation is nice and all but going on a trip with my besties and having inside jokes for centuries is WAYYYY BETTER!!!! 😂😂😂
That's the thing. Men say " you'll hit the wall, you don't really want to be single" but they don't realize we ACTUALLY are happy and they are SCARED to be alone.
I can eat a large meal & pig out in peace without someone watching me eat unapologetically 😭 and after pigging out I can go straight to sleep without some man begging me for sex on a full stomach 😌
I’ve never met a man I’ve wanted a committed relationship with 😂 ever. That’s says a lot because I meet a lot of men, and have children. Relationships are overrated, women do all the sacrificing. There’s no such thing as two people becoming one.
I truly believe they need us way more than we will ever need them and they know it, but still they believe they are so entitled to us... Uhmm no sir you're not, we're doing just fine here thank you very much..... 😅
Being alone was kind of forced upon me as a child, through parental emotional neglect and bullying. But nowadays, I've learned to appreciate not only being single but being alone. It's no longer lonely. it's peaceful.
@@candylove49same, my siblings feel like strangers to me. I love being alone and always did. When I went to University I remain here for 4 years. I never went home for holidays because I was already feeling at home.😊
My great grandmother, grandmother, and mother were all single for 30 to 50 years before they passed on. I'm going to continue the tradition. Also an only child
I chose to be single, and what I discovered, first off. Was loneliness. Something that I was determined to see through, and I did. On the other side of loneliness was relief and contentment. That surprised me. Like looking at a new world. Finding my purpose, etc. Being single has been great.
15:25 I didn't need to date anyone terrible but watching my parents relationship and growing up with a volatile father - all I have ever wanted is peace, quiet and autonomy.
I’ve been asked to be in 2 exclusive relationships this year and I turned down both. Dating is fine but I’m a sovereign woman. When I asked one of the guys why, he stated that having a partner in life is very important but to me it isn’t. I’m not a woman who feels the NEED to be partnered. I am the happiest I’ve ever been choosing me.
You did the right thing... They were needy which to me is a turnoff and a red flag anyways, but you're not and I'm not either... So that would never have worked, they would have wanted to own you... Been there done that learned from that... I loveee being single and free too, living my best life now and not ready to change that for anyone..... ❤
Dating is exhausting. I hate every second of it. It was draining, dissatisfied and full of disappointment . However being single is just amazing 🤩. I can live like this forever and ever. This is my happily ever after. 4B for life 💃💃💃
I’ve always been happier being alone except during the “love bombing” phase of relationships. The male always turns on me whenever he believes he “has” me and starts acting out and exposing his narcissism. They demand I give up my music, sports, clothes that I like, etc. to please them, and I’m just not happy when I’m not “allowed” my autonomy. I don’t need to be chopped down either which is what the male specializes in.
@@thepragmatist I don't either. My ex husband told me 15 days into the marriage, "You need to be brought down a few notches." Can you imagine? That was the gist of the entire 6 years of the marriage, and at the time, I thought to annul the marriage, but it was 1999, and things were different back then. I believed in "love" and that it made us all better people. LOL. IDIOT, I was.
@@toscadonna I think the more talented you are, the harder (a contingent of men) go at you. It's like shooting a bird out of the sky for some. All the best to you.
Yes. I keep it at that dating/courting stage. It's literally the only fun part. They always get shocked when they pull back and I don't pursue them or ask them 'why'. Its because I've seen it many times before...that's why 😂😂😂
Thats a good plan take care of yourself and take time to do the stuff you enjoy and to heal I was single for 6 years after I lost my husband I am married now for a vew months and I kind of miss being alone 😂
Whenever I get into relationships I lose myself & become so consumed with the person I’m dating. Then after we breakup I feel lost & mad at myself for losing myself in them. I’m staying single until I learn how to not do that anymore because it’s a toxic cycle that I don’t want to be in anymore. I actually like being single now in my 30’s but I absolutely loathed it in my 20’s. In my years of being single I’ve learned so much about myself, my likes/dislikes, moved to several different jobs, improved my credit score, & I’m still learning & working on myself.
The only bitter note i got from those videos was : „ Enjoy being single as long as you can!“ i think the first video mentioned that and then someone else. It sounds like someday some women are gonna give up feeling good for… a man who seems great first but then you live with him for years and years and years and you cant be alone anymore? Bruh. I‘m staying single… forever.
Hahaha I don't blame you. Do what feels good for you mentally, physically and spiritually long-term. No one is worth destroying your peace over. If a man (or anyone) doesn't make your life better, they don't need a place in it. 💜👏🏽
Being happy alone is so important to establish whilst single. I’m engaged and I still go on solo dates, I mean getting nicely dressed, going out for a meal and having a glass of wine, still go on girls trips abroad and I let my partner know this would not stop once we were together/married. He loves it for me. When you establish these things whilst single, you make it a non negotiable. I wouldn’t have it any other way and I’m so glad I stayed single for 5 years before finding the one. I’m glad I was picky and held on to my personal standards. We are both very happy.
I love this so much for the ones who are getting it early. Im 44 with two children and hella trauma to unpack, but dear God, I finally made it to this space. Its so nice
Being single for many years, I’ve found out SO MUCH about myself: wants, needs, desires, hobbies, passions etc being in a relationship can be such a drag 😭 I’m about to book a flight to Italy just because and I won’t have anyone to answer to! Sure. relationships are cool but worrying about someone else’s emotions is draining & being at peace, comfortable, happy and aligned with myself is sooooo much cooler
This reminds me of the character on bridgerton named Lady Danbury. She had been married to a man that made her stomach turn. She had 4 children with him and she hated the whole situation. When he died she said she would never do that again. She said she didn't even know how to breathe by herself because she had never been without him or on her own.
Omg. I love it . Can't explain the kind of peace I have . No more relationships for me after he left and abandoned our child, that was me done and dusted. I went no contact and blocked him for good and lived my life to the full like he never existed. I was more lonely in that toxic relationship than I was already single and lonely. He was emotionally absent and unavailable especially towards our child. So when he left, I didn't cry I was happy and went about living my life to the full with my kids 😊. It's 1am and am in my room awake watching tv and enjoying my peace. Also I grew up with emotional unavailable parents so I've been single since childhood. Being alone for me brings me enormous peace and drama free environment for me and my kids . ❤
Lady @ 3:04 has great advice: anything you want from a lover give it to yourself. That way you are not lacking and looking for "Something" from someone else. You can love yourself like only you can.
I started being intentionally single in early 2021 and i have to tell y'all that's the best thing i ever did for myself. It was utterly boring and lonely when I began but if you hang in there you reach a point where you tend to enjoy your company and space a little too much that you don't really need company anymore and you will be very selective about who you let into your life.
As an openly (Single) gay man. I learn so much from these reactions videos & so much from the ladies that share their experiences dealing with men. My favorite song is by a lady name Natasha Bedingfeild called -"Single"- It came out probably around 2006, 2007 ☺️
I'm 65; been single for 6 years. I could relate to the young lady who talked about being in a horrid relationship and am so glad it's done. My last relationship did some damage, not going to lie. I have no more heartbreaks left in me at this stage of the game. I also could relate to the lady that talked about Soul Work; healing Childhood Wounds as that is what I have been doing. Hours and Hours on RUclips watching videos; probably $100,000 worth of therapy for free; very grateful for some of the best content creators. My only complaint, if you want to call it that, is that all my friends are in relationships. Some good; some that make me happy I'm Single.
Literally in the same position. I'm so happy to hear others with the same experience. My friends are in serious relationships too but after exiting an emotionally abusive relationship and limiting contact with family I've not desired to get into any relationship. This video has made me realize why I felt some distance (not in a negative way) between my friends and I and I've sold myself short on believing I can have friends who are at the same place in their journey to build relationships with! I've been so deep in therapy, group therapy, RUclips, self help books, childhood trauma healing, and seeking God that I hadn't considered that it's okay to meet others who can relate to me where I'm at. I'd really like to get out there and create new friendships in communities where I can connect back to the world and feel authentic about it.
THIS. One of my top favorite benefits of being single that isn’t talked about enough. The amount of work it takes to stay groomed like that takes lots of time, energy and money. I’d rather save than shave, lol!
I think we are living our great grandmothers dream life. Probably even our grandmothers and mother. Because we have rights ( unfortunately not everywhere on this planet) we can buy our own stuff, house and/or car. You can do whatever you want… I think that all my female ancestors having their mind blown in the afterlife watching me do my manless stuff. 😆
This is good advice for anyone. Male or female. Make sure you are a complete person before attempting a relationship. I cringed when I heard the words, " You complete me," in the movie Jerry Maguire. I'd rather be wanter than needed. Unless it's my cat kneading on my lap.
There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; each one is special. What makes one person happy might not make another person happy. But I've realized that there's always a way to solve problems. Five years ago, my wife and I were almost getting divorced because we had problems in our marriage, but we managed to sort things out. It was a difficult time, but we got through it.
I genuinely want to be happy as well. I'm in a relationship, and even though we're apart, I can't think of life without her; my love for her is solid. I really want her back, and I'm committed to making it work. We've tried different things, like therapy, to mend things.
Learning to let someone you love go is always a tough journey, but in my case, I had the wisdom of a spiritual mentor who kept my marriage from crumbling. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
As a single guy that has not dated for around three years, it's nice to find this channel and see a different POV from the MGTOW kind of videos that crowd RUclips. I don't think women are at fault for the current dating environment, like so many of single men videos try to push. I think that men and women are cats and dogs; they are completely different creatures. It's just that simple. Cheers.
Agreed! Men and women have an inverse relationship. Patriarchy brainwashed marriage and long term relationships between men and women. It’s not working because it’s not natural.
Men nowadays are so entitled, they all want to know what YOU bring to the table, and it’s like they want you to be the man in the relationship. It’s just exhausting and I’ve had enough.
After some careful introspection and reflection I realize that I find XYs downright annoying, even in the infatuation stage of a relationship/dating they get on my damn nerves as I find them to be too needy. As an untrammeled woman they ALWAYS get in their feelings and throw mantrums when they can’t get me to behave in whatever way they deem acceptable. I find so little ROI in dealing with them that even sex with them isn’t worth it for any significant length of time for those who know what they are doing 🤷🏾♀️
i never thought at 25 when i was dating seriously that id crave being alone and "bored" at home, in my garden, going out with friends, reading books at the park. having this alone time was the actual healing and rest i needed.
This is all good advise, not just for women but for men as well. I've been single for about 12 years now and I've never been happier. The restraints of long term relationships force you to change into the person your partner thinks you should be and not who you really are.
At almost 40, I honestly never want to be partnered again. Yes I can love a man but my life is mine and I want to do whatever the hell I want to do! I just want to be free.
You don't have to go through a horrible relationship to create a better life. Just observing ladies dating bad men makes you more careful about avoiding the worst men. It's unnecessary to purposely date a vampire to become grateful.
Being lonely and being single is the difference between viewing the world through a dirty lens and changing my lens to recognise the dirt in the world. Everyday I fall more in love with myself
The part of dating that exhausts me the most is having to explain myself all over again to someone that doesn't know anything about me. Having to be learned all over again, and not only that, but having to try to be accepted and prove you're a good person and would make a great partner. Also the anxiety about how they actually see you, whether something you said put them off, whether they have secretly categorized you as "for recreational use only" and you'll never know. It's dehumanizing and humiliating. I'm staying celibate and single until someone proves to ME for a change that they're good enough, not the other way around.
I agree with the 8th reel about friendship. When I became single a few years ago, I prioritized myself and started wanting to go out more. I realized though that most of my friends (locally) were either in a relationship, married and had kids. They are great friends, but we are just on completely different paths right now. I can't relate to them completely and they can't to me. I realized I need more single friends who can have more relatable and fulfilling conversations with and who I can actually hang out with and go on trips with. You don't need to dump your friends in relationships or with kids, but I highly recommend you make more singe friends. This goes for people in the opposite as well. It's just a part of life and it is more fulfilling to surround yourself with people you can easily relate to as well.
The way my life looks right now, I’m blessed enough to pay my bills, but I’m not living comfortable. But I know that the only way to change my situation is to find better employment and to get a handle on my finances. A partner could help me, financially, but ultimately, if I never was in another relationship in my life, I believe God would make sure I’m doing well enough to handle everything in need to do and provide for me to do the things I desire to do as well.
16:37 what she's saying is TRUE‼️ Once you date an energy vampire or a mental case, you'll pray for peace & appreciate it if it ever comes around again 🙌🏽
Not being ok with being alone allows people who don't deserve access to you to disturb your life in all aspects. And the baby helping Mom get ready is too cute 🥰🤣.
I’ve been single 4 yrs now tried dating but I stop. I have girl friends but they in a relationships.. so I’m still learning myself and excited for my life now!! lol .. my children grown
It's EXTREMELY EASY. I was great with my besties for 4 yrs straight. But...then a good relationship with a dude kind of just happened and it'll be 1yr in a little under 1 month. It only seems hard to be single for more than a few months if you don't like yourself and/or are not comfortable with yourself and/or don't find much validation in your existence outside of a romantic relationship.
"My kitchen keeps BANKERS HOURS, thank you very much.. 😏 💅🏾!" I STANN ✊🏾for the 7 Reasons I Love Being Single lady!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Please what is her Tictoc??
I met the love of my life when I was 23 and he was 41 (I'm 58 now). We were only together a short time but he was everything to me. He made me feel seen and beautiful and precious and the s3x was mind blowing. He left and I was devastated and from that heartbreak, every man who came after him didn't measure up and I felt empty and sad. This went on for years. At the time, I failed to learn the lessons he imparted on me but if I had, life would have been much easier than it's been up until now. I realise now it never would have worked between us long term. But with the wisdom of age and hindsight, I feel grateful for the time that we were together. After all the failures with men over the years, I've broken my generational curses and I feel peaceful and happy with how my life is going. I've discovered that I don't need or want another "love of my life" guy. Being single is just wonderful and I'm thankful that even though it took me a long time with many missteps, I'm right where I need to be and life is awesome.
I was only ever in one long term relationship. He was an ab*ser who yelled at me for no reason at all, plus I wasted so much money going to stupid events that he wanted to go to but I didn't. I love peace, quiet and spending my money on me! People act like having an XY helps you out financially but in reality they are usually the biggest drain on your bank account and energy.
As a person who has had up to 5 year longs stints being single, there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting affection, connection, and stimulation in the form of a romantic relationship. Of course it is wise to learn to give yourself those things, but humans are social beings and are hard-wired to desire romantic relationships just like most other animals.
The males of today of absolutely horrible. I've seen myself and tons of women go through narcissistic men who's only goal is to destroy everyone they meet. The reality of that keeps me grounded.
Very happy being single, I will never marry anyone in this country or continent. So I will enjoy being single untill I start traveling far and wide. It's so easy and now I concentrate mostly on Jesus Christ and myself, personal growth
Im buying a hoyse and making it a dream home closets make up room furnished basement pretty blankets and charcuterie boards hair salon . Bright colors sparkly things 🎉🎉
I can get super stoned and go out to my fav restaurant and watch something on my phone while I inhale my food. Without a man judging me or demanding my attention. Then I can go home and shove snacks in my face while I play video games. Reeeally hard for a man to compete with my selfish Sunday date night 😂. Oh and I can go out with my girls on Saturday. The fun just don’t stop when you’re single! Men are such a chore.
I completely agree, I think men and women don't need each other anyways. I think people should focus on maximizing the profits of the companies they work for, my bottom line is suffering right now.
I agree, regardless of all these videos i still desire partnership. love, affection,reciprocation i just feel it’s a matter of finding the one, your soulmate and not settling for someone who only meets your minimum requirements
I dated a string of men who all had to sleep with the TV on. Despite me telling them it disrupts MY sleep, and sometimes I'd wake up in the middle of the night and cry bc I couldn't go back to sleep. Now I sleep in blissful, sweet silence with a fan blowing on me and my cat purring by my ear.
Why not just have seperate rooms❤❤❤
@@katiepop3442you don’t get it….
Many women haven’t had a good night’s sleep in decades, simply because of their partner.
You can set up a timer in a tv, to switch off and in case youre noise sensitive you can use ear plugs or the partner can use headphones. Of course they should listen to your request and take your needs into consideration and ie. watch tv in a different room, ideally with head set (green flag!), but I am not very sure if this is a huge deal breaker. If they did ignore other requests - then yes. If it was only that... Hmm. For instance my and my ex had a PC in a bedroom, in our very small apartment. Sometimes he wanted to watch something or play at night which was disturbing my sleep. So I asked him to wear a headset or use laptop instead and go to the other room. Sometimes he also played with the phone in bed and the screen light was to bright for me. So he did dim it out and I also asked him to roll over so his head would cover the screen, so that minimal amount of light would hit my eyes. I also did roll over, and we lied back to back. And it was okay. We did split but not because of him watching movies in the evening. Sometimes of course I wanted him yo go sleep with me and cuddle, which he also did.
Knowing what you know now, you don't have to sleep with a guy before you have enough information. You can just ASK a man if there's a TV or a computer monitor or other device in his bedroom. Ask other questions about his sleep habits. Housekeeping habits. If you are looking to get married (I don't know your goals), avoid dating men who have no intention of ever getting married. And just because a man says he will get married some day, it doesn't mean he plans to marry the woman he's currently dating.
Relationships are a distraction from my life goals
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This..... 😊
Same and I don't get as much opportunities either. Its like I get bad luck or something 😅
Yeah, i only want to self optimize, to invest time in my family and my only friend, and find friends who are doing better than me so i can learn something from them… but romantical relationships… are yall serious… cringe. Sorry..
It's the peace for me. No arguing, no cheating, no shenanigans. 😌
As a flight attendant, I can say that being single is amazing. Being able to be out and about as I please, gone for as long as I want to, peacefully sleeping on these hotel beds, going on girl trips over and over again... Doing all of these and so much more without having someone nagging about "you're always away" or "I cheated because I felt lonely", that's another level of amazingness. I'm so at peace!!
Don't get me wrong, going on a baecation is nice and all but going on a trip with my besties and having inside jokes for centuries is WAYYYY BETTER!!!! 😂😂😂
Love that for youuuu❤
Amen girl. Blessings love ❤
gah this is SO gonna be me after i turn 18 omg
@@LACHRYMA yes hun and you will love every single minute of it 😉
That's the thing. Men say " you'll hit the wall, you don't really want to be single" but they don't realize we ACTUALLY are happy and they are SCARED to be alone.
I can eat a large meal & pig out in peace without someone watching me eat unapologetically 😭
and after pigging out I can go straight to sleep without some man begging me for sex on a full stomach 😌
🤣 Great points!
Yes that part. Please leave me alone I don’t want to have S*x after I eat or before or any time 😂
If you don’t want to have sex with him, just overfeed him. Bring him a plate of seconds and he will be too full to want sex.
Not to mention farting in peace as much as you want 😌
Sex on a full stomach is the worst😂
This makes me so happy for the younger Ladies! Women are FINALLY realizing their worth and not romanticizing relationships. I LOVE that for all of Us!
“Your life belongs to you.”
What wise words! 🙏🏾
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I’ve never met a man I’ve wanted a committed relationship with 😂 ever. That’s says a lot because I meet a lot of men, and have children. Relationships are overrated, women do all the sacrificing. There’s no such thing as two people becoming one.
Facts. A lot of males always ask for so much for so little😊
I truly believe they need us way more than we will ever need them and they know it, but still they believe they are so entitled to us... Uhmm no sir you're not, we're doing just fine here thank you very much..... 😅
Exactly! Relationships are so overrated 😮
I’ve been single for 6 years now and I’m 42. I was married 13 years. I am free to live the life I want to live ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I’m 43 now 😂I forgot lol I don’t even have anyone reminding me that I’m getting older 😅
@@mashiralee1I’m 53 and have been single for 14 years.. so much peace…
Being alone was kind of forced upon me as a child, through parental emotional neglect and bullying. But nowadays, I've learned to appreciate not only being single but being alone. It's no longer lonely. it's peaceful.
I’m right there with you on the emo neglect front. I started to see it as a blessing, as I’m now my own best friend ❤(& my dog ofc🤣)
Me too I think I have adhd so I love being alone and not stressed out.
Same ❤
My favourite thing is throwing unfrozen meat back to the freezer because I've changed my mind about cooking. 💅
YES. I love to cook. But not always. And sometimes I want to make something extra, and other times I wanna make that extra dish..... Another day. 😂
Deadass 👏 👏. I felt that.
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🎉🎉🎉 Girlllll! Let's see how tomorrow goes...
Omg lol I’ve had girl dinner for the past 4 weeks in a row and I’m LOVING it
I'm an only child,so being alone is 2nd nature😂 being single
Same.
I’m not an only child but, grew up in a volatile household. I always WISHED to be an only child so badly. I’m happy to be single ❤
@@candylove49same, my siblings feel like strangers to me. I love being alone and always did. When I went to University I remain here for 4 years. I never went home for holidays because I was already feeling at home.😊
I'm the middle....almost same difference to me lol.
My great grandmother, grandmother, and mother were all single for 30 to 50 years before they passed on. I'm going to continue the tradition. Also an only child
I chose to be single, and what I discovered, first off. Was loneliness. Something that I was determined to see through, and I did. On the other side of loneliness was relief and contentment. That surprised me. Like looking at a new world. Finding my purpose, etc. Being single has been great.
It is called freedom
@@kantik2118 Exactly
Wow I literally had the same experience! Amazing to be out the other side ❤
@@bm5_5_5 So agree
15:25 I didn't need to date anyone terrible but watching my parents relationship and growing up with a volatile father - all I have ever wanted is peace, quiet and autonomy.
I have been single no relationship for 2 years and I'm never going back. I don't even crave a man.
You won🏆
I’m a free spirit an introvert, I literally enjoy my own company single for life 👍🏽❤️
I call being single, independentlly owned and operated.
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I’ve been asked to be in 2 exclusive relationships this year and I turned down both. Dating is fine but I’m a sovereign woman. When I asked one of the guys why, he stated that having a partner in life is very important but to me it isn’t. I’m not a woman who feels the NEED to be partnered. I am the happiest I’ve ever been choosing me.
You did the right thing... They were needy which to me is a turnoff and a red flag anyways, but you're not and I'm not either... So that would never have worked, they would have wanted to own you... Been there done that learned from that... I loveee being single and free too, living my best life now and not ready to change that for anyone..... ❤
Same!!
Dating is exhausting. I hate every second of it. It was draining, dissatisfied and full of disappointment . However being single is just amazing 🤩. I can live like this forever and ever. This is my happily ever after. 4B for life 💃💃💃
"My kitchen keeps banking hours" 🔥 🔥
I’ve always been happier being alone except during the “love bombing” phase of relationships. The male always turns on me whenever he believes he “has” me and starts acting out and exposing his narcissism. They demand I give up my music, sports, clothes that I like, etc. to please them, and I’m just not happy when I’m not “allowed” my autonomy. I don’t need to be chopped down either which is what the male specializes in.
Yeah...the whole "chopping down" part. I just don't get it.
@@thepragmatist I don't either. My ex husband told me 15 days into the marriage, "You need to be brought down a few notches." Can you imagine? That was the gist of the entire 6 years of the marriage, and at the time, I thought to annul the marriage, but it was 1999, and things were different back then. I believed in "love" and that it made us all better people. LOL. IDIOT, I was.
@@toscadonna I think the more talented you are, the harder (a contingent of men) go at you. It's like shooting a bird out of the sky for some. All the best to you.
Yes. I keep it at that dating/courting stage. It's literally the only fun part. They always get shocked when they pull back and I don't pursue them or ask them 'why'. Its because I've seen it many times before...that's why 😂😂😂
@@gailainsley6939 That's a good idea.
I love being single as a 51 year old women the freedom is phenomenal❤️
Being alone helps me build my relationship with the most high God, NOT MAN.
I’m single after being widowed. I’ve been making a priority of taking care of myself. Im good with staying single!
Thats a good plan take care of yourself and take time to do the stuff you enjoy and to heal I was single for 6 years after I lost my husband I am married now for a vew months and I kind of miss being alone 😂
The peace of mind...I cook what I like...I keep my home the way I like...nice and clean....no stress 😊👌
Whenever I get into relationships I lose myself & become so consumed with the person I’m dating. Then after we breakup I feel lost & mad at myself for losing myself in them. I’m staying single until I learn how to not do that anymore because it’s a toxic cycle that I don’t want to be in anymore. I actually like being single now in my 30’s but I absolutely loathed it in my 20’s. In my years of being single I’ve learned so much about myself, my likes/dislikes, moved to several different jobs, improved my credit score, & I’m still learning & working on myself.
Aww I love this for you!! 😊
It's amazing to grow and learn yourself!❤
The only bitter note i got from those videos was : „ Enjoy being single as long as you can!“ i think the first video mentioned that and then someone else. It sounds like someday some women are gonna give up feeling good for… a man who seems great first but then you live with him for years and years and years and you cant be alone anymore? Bruh. I‘m staying single… forever.
Hahaha I don't blame you. Do what feels good for you mentally, physically and spiritually long-term. No one is worth destroying your peace over. If a man (or anyone) doesn't make your life better, they don't need a place in it. 💜👏🏽
Being happy alone is so important to establish whilst single. I’m engaged and I still go on solo dates, I mean getting nicely dressed, going out for a meal and having a glass of wine, still go on girls trips abroad and I let my partner know this would not stop once we were together/married. He loves it for me. When you establish these things whilst single, you make it a non negotiable. I wouldn’t have it any other way and I’m so glad I stayed single for 5 years before finding the one. I’m glad I was picky and held on to my personal standards. We are both very happy.
Being in peace is a gift. You can be single and still bring chaos and drama around you.
Well thats doing single wrong! Therapy is needed for sure....
I love this so much for the ones who are getting it early. Im 44 with two children and hella trauma to unpack, but dear God, I finally made it to this space. Its so nice
Being single for many years, I’ve found out SO MUCH about myself: wants, needs, desires, hobbies, passions etc being in a relationship can be such a drag 😭 I’m about to book a flight to Italy just because and I won’t have anyone to answer to! Sure. relationships are cool but worrying about someone else’s emotions is draining & being at peace, comfortable, happy and aligned with myself is sooooo much cooler
Been single my whole life just focusing on my peace, health, career, finances and goals 💪🏼
As you should 💜
I just have companionship. That's what I value the most above marriage. I want to be single and be child free.
Single on purpose for a purpose.
This reminds me of the character on bridgerton named Lady Danbury. She had been married to a man that made her stomach turn. She had 4 children with him and she hated the whole situation. When he died she said she would never do that again. She said she didn't even know how to breathe by herself because she had never been without him or on her own.
I call it being FREE!!!! As in FREEDOM....
Omg. I love it . Can't explain the kind of peace I have . No more relationships for me after he left and abandoned our child, that was me done and dusted. I went no contact and blocked him for good and lived my life to the full like he never existed. I was more lonely in that toxic relationship than I was already single and lonely. He was emotionally absent and unavailable especially towards our child. So when he left, I didn't cry I was happy and went about living my life to the full with my kids 😊. It's 1am and am in my room awake watching tv and enjoying my peace. Also I grew up with emotional unavailable parents so I've been single since childhood. Being alone for me brings me enormous peace and drama free environment for me and my kids . ❤
Lady @ 3:04 has great advice: anything you want from a lover give it to yourself. That way you are not lacking and looking for "Something" from someone else. You can love yourself like only you can.
I used to be such a sweet person. And then have worn me down and destroyed me. I don't want anything to do with them.
Same girl, same. Im trying to get myself back but I promise you I will spend that sweetness on everyone and everything EXCEPT NEM.
I started being intentionally single in early 2021 and i have to tell y'all that's the best thing i ever did for myself. It was utterly boring and lonely when I began but if you hang in there you reach a point where you tend to enjoy your company and space a little too much that you don't really need company anymore and you will be very selective about who you let into your life.
As an openly (Single) gay man. I learn so much from these reactions videos & so much from the ladies that share their experiences dealing with men. My favorite song is by a lady name Natasha Bedingfeild called -"Single"-
It came out probably around 2006, 2007 ☺️
Cool 😎 ❤
I'm 65; been single for 6 years. I could relate to the young lady who talked about being in a horrid relationship and am so glad it's done. My last relationship did some damage, not going to lie. I have no more heartbreaks left in me at this stage of the game.
I also could relate to the lady that talked about Soul Work; healing Childhood Wounds as that is what I have been doing. Hours and Hours on RUclips watching videos; probably $100,000 worth of therapy for free; very grateful for some of the best content creators.
My only complaint, if you want to call it that, is that all my friends are in relationships. Some good; some that make me happy I'm Single.
Literally in the same position. I'm so happy to hear others with the same experience. My friends are in serious relationships too but after exiting an emotionally abusive relationship and limiting contact with family I've not desired to get into any relationship. This video has made me realize why I felt some distance (not in a negative way) between my friends and I and I've sold myself short on believing I can have friends who are at the same place in their journey to build relationships with! I've been so deep in therapy, group therapy, RUclips, self help books, childhood trauma healing, and seeking God that I hadn't considered that it's okay to meet others who can relate to me where I'm at. I'd really like to get out there and create new friendships in communities where I can connect back to the world and feel authentic about it.
I love not having to shave legs/pits/bikini area because men freak out over female body hair 😂
THIS. One of my top favorite benefits of being single that isn’t talked about enough. The amount of work it takes to stay groomed like that takes lots of time, energy and money. I’d rather save than shave, lol!
I agree!!
When u get away from a person and get to do what you want again. It is truly anazing
I think we are living our great grandmothers dream life. Probably even our grandmothers and mother. Because we have rights ( unfortunately not everywhere on this planet) we can buy our own stuff, house and/or car. You can do whatever you want… I think that all my female ancestors having their mind blown in the afterlife watching me do my manless stuff. 😆
Honestly I’m single because there isn’t anyone near me that I want to date. If he ain’t my dream guy I don’t want it
I’ve been doing this before it was popular😅
You're a visionary.👏🏽👏🏽
This is so incredible… I literally just shared my thoughts on this topic and similar things that I’m realizing as a single 28 year old on my channel.
This is good advice for anyone. Male or female. Make sure you are a complete person before attempting a relationship. I cringed when I heard the words, " You complete me," in the movie Jerry Maguire.
I'd rather be wanter than needed. Unless it's my cat kneading on my lap.
There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; each one is special. What makes one person happy might not make another person happy. But I've realized that there's always a way to solve problems. Five years ago, my wife and I were almost getting divorced because we had problems in our marriage, but we managed to sort things out. It was a difficult time, but we got through it.
I genuinely want to be happy as well. I'm in a relationship, and even though we're apart, I can't think of life without her; my love for her is solid. I really want her back, and I'm committed to making it work. We've tried different things, like therapy, to mend things.
Learning to let someone you love go is always a tough journey, but in my case, I had the wisdom of a spiritual mentor who kept my marriage from crumbling. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I'll quickly search for her online. Thanks. I'm hopeful that adopting this strategy will also bring me the results I desire; I miss her greatly.
Welcome... You should.
Not everything is fixable, my friend. Violence, betrayal, immaturity, addiction, money... Sometimes you just have to move on.
16:15 She spoke facts! Life becomes brighter after a heart break
I also like having no Television in my bedroom, I hated that he had to have the Television on all night while we slept.
I am my person and my son is the love of my life... Couldn't be happier and more complete..... ❤️🦋🌞
As a single guy that has not dated for around three years, it's nice to find this channel and see a different POV from the MGTOW kind of videos that crowd RUclips. I don't think women are at fault for the current dating environment, like so many of single men videos try to push. I think that men and women are cats and dogs; they are completely different creatures. It's just that simple. Cheers.
Agreed! Men and women have an inverse relationship.
Patriarchy brainwashed marriage and long term relationships between men and women.
It’s not working because it’s not natural.
Men nowadays are so entitled, they all want to know what YOU bring to the table, and it’s like they want you to be the man in the relationship. It’s just exhausting and I’ve had enough.
After some careful introspection and reflection I realize that I find XYs downright annoying, even in the infatuation stage of a relationship/dating they get on my damn nerves as I find them to be too needy. As an untrammeled woman they ALWAYS get in their feelings and throw mantrums when they can’t get me to behave in whatever way they deem acceptable. I find so little ROI in dealing with them that even sex with them isn’t worth it for any significant length of time for those who know what they are doing 🤷🏾♀️
i never thought at 25 when i was dating seriously that id crave being alone and "bored" at home, in my garden, going out with friends, reading books at the park. having this alone time was the actual healing and rest i needed.
It's so amazing to me that this is a revelation to some people. I think as an extreme introvert this is just life lol.
This is all good advise, not just for women but for men as well. I've been single for about 12 years now and I've never been happier. The restraints of long term relationships force you to change into the person your partner thinks you should be and not who you really are.
At almost 40, I honestly never want to be partnered again. Yes I can love a man but my life is mine and I want to do whatever the hell I want to do! I just want to be free.
You don't have to go through a horrible relationship to create a better life. Just observing ladies dating bad men makes you more careful about avoiding the worst men. It's unnecessary to purposely date a vampire to become grateful.
Being lonely and being single is the difference between viewing the world through a dirty lens and changing my lens to recognise the dirt in the world.
Everyday I fall more in love with myself
Love this 💜
A man cannot complete me, a man would only deplete me
I literally didnt need men I just wanna be alone with my dog. Can’t wait to be single again.
It is a peaceful time. Enjoy it. Your doggy is so cute 😍
The part of dating that exhausts me the most is having to explain myself all over again to someone that doesn't know anything about me. Having to be learned all over again, and not only that, but having to try to be accepted and prove you're a good person and would make a great partner. Also the anxiety about how they actually see you, whether something you said put them off, whether they have secretly categorized you as "for recreational use only" and you'll never know. It's dehumanizing and humiliating. I'm staying celibate and single until someone proves to ME for a change that they're good enough, not the other way around.
You are no longer completely free when you're in a relationship. It may be subtle but there is a gilded cage around you.
With the right person the cage doesn't exist
I agree with the 8th reel about friendship. When I became single a few years ago, I prioritized myself and started wanting to go out more. I realized though that most of my friends (locally) were either in a relationship, married and had kids. They are great friends, but we are just on completely different paths right now. I can't relate to them completely and they can't to me. I realized I need more single friends who can have more relatable and fulfilling conversations with and who I can actually hang out with and go on trips with. You don't need to dump your friends in relationships or with kids, but I highly recommend you make more singe friends. This goes for people in the opposite as well. It's just a part of life and it is more fulfilling to surround yourself with people you can easily relate to as well.
The way my life looks right now, I’m blessed enough to pay my bills, but I’m not living comfortable. But I know that the only way to change my situation is to find better employment and to get a handle on my finances. A partner could help me, financially, but ultimately, if I never was in another relationship in my life, I believe God would make sure I’m doing well enough to handle everything in need to do and provide for me to do the things I desire to do as well.
The wrong partner can deplete you if your finances and make your life worse.
i am my own soul mate no man can ever love me more than i love me im my own person no man wanted or needed at this time
16:37 what she's saying is TRUE‼️ Once you date an energy vampire or a mental case, you'll pray for peace & appreciate it if it ever comes around again 🙌🏽
i really loved this video. thank you for helping women 💚
Not being ok with being alone allows people who don't deserve access to you to disturb your life in all aspects. And the baby helping Mom get ready is too cute 🥰🤣.
I’ve been single 4 yrs now tried dating but I stop. I have girl friends but they in a relationships.. so I’m still learning myself and excited for my life now!! lol .. my children grown
It's EXTREMELY EASY. I was great with my besties for 4 yrs straight. But...then a good relationship with a dude kind of just happened and it'll be 1yr in a little under 1 month. It only seems hard to be single for more than a few months if you don't like yourself and/or are not comfortable with yourself and/or don't find much validation in your existence outside of a romantic relationship.
"My kitchen keeps BANKERS HOURS, thank you very much.. 😏 💅🏾!"
I STANN ✊🏾for the 7 Reasons I Love Being Single lady!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Please what is her Tictoc??
I just downloaded your book. I’m looking forward to reading it.
Thank you so much!! I hope you enjoy it 💜
16:00 😂 you see everything more clearly like high definition tv. It’s a beautiful life enjoy 😉
I met the love of my life when I was 23 and he was 41 (I'm 58 now). We were only together a short time but he was everything to me. He made me feel seen and beautiful and precious and the s3x was mind blowing. He left and I was devastated and from that heartbreak, every man who came after him didn't measure up and I felt empty and sad. This went on for years. At the time, I failed to learn the lessons he imparted on me but if I had, life would have been much easier than it's been up until now.
I realise now it never would have worked between us long term. But with the wisdom of age and hindsight, I feel grateful for the time that we were together. After all the failures with men over the years, I've broken my generational curses and I feel peaceful and happy with how my life is going. I've discovered that I don't need or want another "love of my life" guy. Being single is just wonderful and I'm thankful that even though it took me a long time with many missteps, I'm right where I need to be and life is awesome.
🥺💜💜
I was only ever in one long term relationship. He was an ab*ser who yelled at me for no reason at all, plus I wasted so much money going to stupid events that he wanted to go to but I didn't. I love peace, quiet and spending my money on me! People act like having an XY helps you out financially but in reality they are usually the biggest drain on your bank account and energy.
As a person who has had up to 5 year longs stints being single, there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting affection, connection, and stimulation in the form of a romantic relationship. Of course it is wise to learn to give yourself those things, but humans are social beings and are hard-wired to desire romantic relationships just like most other animals.
The males of today of absolutely horrible. I've seen myself and tons of women go through narcissistic men who's only goal is to destroy everyone they meet.
The reality of that keeps me grounded.
Thanks for this pep talk 😂🫶🏽
Very happy being single, I will never marry anyone in this country or continent. So I will enjoy being single untill I start traveling far and wide. It's so easy and now I concentrate mostly on Jesus Christ and myself, personal growth
I love this ❤❤❤❤
Im buying a hoyse and making it a dream home closets make up room furnished basement pretty blankets and charcuterie boards hair salon . Bright colors sparkly things 🎉🎉
Some of these women had me laughing! I love these clips!
I've been single for 6 years and although I love my own company I still want a lover and I'm sad that it may never happen.
12:09 Bumble marketing department at work 😂
Hilarious and NEEDED
I love solo dates.
8:52 Her skin 😍😍😍
I love being elon...💝
I can get super stoned and go out to my fav restaurant and watch something on my phone while I inhale my food. Without a man judging me or demanding my attention. Then I can go home and shove snacks in my face while I play video games. Reeeally hard for a man to compete with my selfish Sunday date night 😂. Oh and I can go out with my girls on Saturday. The fun just don’t stop when you’re single! Men are such a chore.
15:22 said it all
I completely agree, I think men and women don't need each other anyways. I think people should focus on maximizing the profits of the companies they work for, my bottom line is suffering right now.
At least they got careers and Money in self-care.
I dont have to bath the whole day lol
My ex boyfriend slept with a warehouse big ass fan that made the loudest sound. Like being in a warehouse.
Never again.
Who’s the last woman at 19:15 I love her I need to see her other tik toks!
She is so refreshing and I want to be her 😂❤
She is so refreshing and I want to be her 😂❤
I watch a lot of these videos. I'm starting to feel like there's something wrong with me for wanting a partner.
I agree, regardless of all these videos i still desire partnership. love, affection,reciprocation i just feel it’s a matter of finding the one, your soulmate and not settling for someone who only meets your minimum requirements