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  • Опубликовано: 10 мар 2024
  • Step into the pages of romance with Chantal Heide in our cozy library interview! 📚 Tune in as she shares juicy dating tips, spices up the bedroom talk, and reveals secrets to finding your literary soul mate. Get ready for a storybook of love wisdom! 💕
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  • @andrewkoontz8206
    @andrewkoontz8206 3 месяца назад +10422

    Derek really just calls people into a library and then trauma dumps on them

    • @gavinclark6891
      @gavinclark6891 3 месяца назад +89

      living the dreeeeaam

    • @oConshien
      @oConshien 2 месяца назад +40

      "...I'm gonna hate myself"
      "right, as you should"
      lmao Now That's What I Call Therapy, Volume 37

    • @nperez4080
      @nperez4080 Месяц назад +1

      New to this channel but im sold

  • @borabora169
    @borabora169 3 месяца назад +9445

    “she wasn’t into you, she was into her tip” is genuinely the funniest thing ive heard someone say about one of his rejections 😭😭😭

    • @pween_
      @pween_ 3 месяца назад +247

      his reply too 😭😭 the joke landed so well

    • @ChantalheideCanadasDatingCoach
      @ChantalheideCanadasDatingCoach 3 месяца назад +39

      LOL. Someone had to tell him!😂

    • @borabora169
      @borabora169 3 месяца назад +4

      @@ChantalheideCanadasDatingCoach! LOVE U GIRLIE 🫶🏼

    • @wowoboo767
      @wowoboo767 3 месяца назад

      OMG YESS

    •  3 месяца назад +4

      This took me out 🤣

  • @Kate-pl6ho
    @Kate-pl6ho 3 месяца назад +6712

    I BET IT MOVED BAHAHHAHH

    • @otaku11bts23
      @otaku11bts23 3 месяца назад +121

      I’m so glad you caught that 😂

    • @sillycatvidoes
      @sillycatvidoes 3 месяца назад +78

      literally what i scrolled down for 😭😭

    • @K0dakHalfBlack
      @K0dakHalfBlack 3 месяца назад +52

      I SCREAMED LMAO

    • @uslph.
      @uslph. 3 месяца назад +39

      immediately went to the comments 😂😂

    • @jakebrowning2373
      @jakebrowning2373 3 месяца назад +20

      15:50

  • @camiys9597
    @camiys9597 3 месяца назад +4897

    lovee her saying “boys are easy” while side eyeing the camera

    • @Juston-tz8zi
      @Juston-tz8zi 2 месяца назад

      Girls are too just not as easy as boys

    • @c2pcake738
      @c2pcake738 2 месяца назад

      Rich Amiri - One Call

  • @poutinepack
    @poutinepack 3 месяца назад +4719

    "do you know who else is uncomfortable with sharing?"
    "who? ...God?"
    "-toddlers."
    😭😭😭

    • @999danae
      @999danae 3 месяца назад +48

      not God lmaooo made me crack

    • @mrryuk9208
      @mrryuk9208 3 месяца назад +43

      Put me in my play pin then

    • @z3r0davi43
      @z3r0davi43 2 месяца назад +2

      I heard muscle man's voice for a sec

    • @younghex9577
      @younghex9577 Месяц назад

      10:58

    • @therais50
      @therais50 11 дней назад

      💀💀💀💀

  • @EM-vk5rn
    @EM-vk5rn 3 месяца назад +7952

    not derek admitting he wants to date elle omg ❤

    • @charliemiddleton1731
      @charliemiddleton1731 3 месяца назад +256

      I was gonna comment the same thing

    • @33nbb19
      @33nbb19 3 месяца назад +35

      maybe not

    • @chileferguson6978
      @chileferguson6978 3 месяца назад

      if you look at the CC's, when he says "she", it is CC'd as "elle" :') (10:37) @@33nbb19

    • @akira1205
      @akira1205 3 месяца назад +267

      Based on her Twitch, it seemed like she’s (Elle) with someone. There seems to be good chemistry between Derek and Elle, but don’t get stuck on her. I’ve been down a kind of similar situation (not OF, just a crush) and nothing really came of it. It was mostly infatuation on my part and a lack of options.
      Also, I agree with the Castle in the sky analogy. It’s what I went through in that same situation.

    • @clarafernandes4590
      @clarafernandes4590 3 месяца назад +2

      Yeah, right???

  • @ChantalheideCanadasDatingCoach
    @ChantalheideCanadasDatingCoach 3 месяца назад +3995

    Thanks fro having me! I enjoyed our chat!😊

    • @floatingclouuds
      @floatingclouuds 3 месяца назад +118

      Loved you in this program, it was very insightful. Hope we can have you both again in another video 💗

    • @emmafoley7413
      @emmafoley7413 3 месяца назад +48

      You’re my favorite so inspiring! Just bought one of your books (:

    • @gavinclark6891
      @gavinclark6891 3 месяца назад +20

      goated

    • @ChantalheideCanadasDatingCoach
      @ChantalheideCanadasDatingCoach 3 месяца назад

      @@emmafoley7413 love love love this!!

    • @salem-li6ub
      @salem-li6ub 3 месяца назад +18

      we need more info on negotiating farting!! (just kidding but I absolutely loved this interview, your advice was amazing)

  • @ItsRegnier
    @ItsRegnier 3 месяца назад +2900

    "so much baggage, they wouldn't let me on the plane" I felt that one deep down

    • @TVC15ohoh
      @TVC15ohoh 3 месяца назад +12

      It's a great line. And I'm stealing it.

  • @breydbeauty7
    @breydbeauty7 3 месяца назад +2920

    This needed to be an hour! She’s so good!

    • @ChantalheideCanadasDatingCoach
      @ChantalheideCanadasDatingCoach 3 месяца назад +115

      You're sweet! Thank you!!

    • @aa-xy4hg
      @aa-xy4hg 3 месяца назад +38

      huh..? she told her it's immature to not wanna SHARE your partner with other people 😭

    • @wurst2952
      @wurst2952 3 месяца назад +34

      And that body count doesn’t matter cause who I did is not who I am.
      Yeeeeah if you did it with 900 people though I get a gist of what kind of person you are 💀

    • @h.w.4482
      @h.w.4482 3 месяца назад +22

      yeah her whole story of meeting her husband after 20 years of being a stripper story made me able to guess what her answers were gonna be before she said them, using like half of this stuff as advice is bad

    • @TheLokee6
      @TheLokee6 3 месяца назад +6

      @@ChantalheideCanadasDatingCoach Agreed! Please return to the show : )

  • @Nuhcole
    @Nuhcole 3 месяца назад +1241

    “I would hate myself” “as you should” broooo 😂

  • @juliaaarmada
    @juliaaarmada 3 месяца назад +3042

    HAHAHAH she said “10 second seizure”

  • @cosmickisses
    @cosmickisses 3 месяца назад +2414

    10:32 not him writing elle's name in the captions 😭

    • @elektrastanley9748
      @elektrastanley9748 3 месяца назад +53

      i literally saw this😂😂

    • @Rrrka11
      @Rrrka11 3 месяца назад +64

      I knew he was talking about her, saw this comment and had to go back to check that 🤭
      Aaawww que cute🫶🏼

    • @Sokira14
      @Sokira14 2 месяца назад +4

      We allll see that 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @herewegoagain9619
    @herewegoagain9619 3 месяца назад +1640

    15:55 “i bet it moved” 😭

    • @coby7696
      @coby7696 3 месяца назад +26

      Mi shit moved with

    • @skii1410
      @skii1410 2 месяца назад +10

      It definitely moved 😂 I laughed for like 5 minutes at his reaction

  • @Piasays
    @Piasays 3 месяца назад +1209

    She cooked this whole episode. 😮‍💨

  • @lilturtle6143
    @lilturtle6143 3 месяца назад +1862

    the fact that every video is a therapy for him is cute
    or like, a 'women's pov in life' class
    every dudes should learn btw

  • @alexsfc
    @alexsfc 3 месяца назад +912

    This is my favorite talk so far, she had witty responses and gave some good advice

  • @shampoo_bamboo9789
    @shampoo_bamboo9789 3 месяца назад +528

    5:45 The way Derek thinks about the question like it's actually a math problem

  • @timothychaIamet
    @timothychaIamet 3 месяца назад +885

    "I BET IT MOVED" IS CRODONKULOUS I CANT

  • @IAmJxxb
    @IAmJxxb 3 месяца назад +486

    “Of course you wanna hop on for your 10 second seizure” this is a queen, and I need her on every episode 😂

  • @chlooooe
    @chlooooe 3 месяца назад +872

    Whoever typed your closed captions deserves a raise

    • @drewm8848
      @drewm8848 3 месяца назад +35

      closed captions lowkey got me weak

    • @kouiaz7452
      @kouiaz7452 3 месяца назад +24

      They’re so subtle but get me everytime

  • @Nvsh07
    @Nvsh07 3 месяца назад +638

    I wish it was longer. She was lovely❤

  • @karimareyes3992
    @karimareyes3992 3 месяца назад +233

    I truthfully love how casual this is. There’s literally no stupid questions
    because there are so many preconceived notions..and she is answering them by acknowledging where he is coming from and sincerely metin him where he is at in his sexual journey and insecurities then empower him through sound advice and
    Also deconstructing prior biases or notions. I wish my college sexual experience class was taught by this woman.

  • @divynemarie
    @divynemarie 3 месяца назад +409

    “I think you would send me down like a 6-month spiral” 😭😭😭😭😭

  • @middlesaint
    @middlesaint 3 месяца назад +401

    this was the best episode yet. PLEASE bring her back again!!!!

  • @Lukeormaybenath
    @Lukeormaybenath 3 месяца назад +102

    "Let me show you what I like" is incredibly powerful. Wow!

  • @freyalookinglessugly6944
    @freyalookinglessugly6944 3 месяца назад +286

    Omg her voice is so relaxing

  • @PandaMan-et4kr
    @PandaMan-et4kr 3 месяца назад +364

    “what are bollywockles?” 😭

  • @BKJibas
    @BKJibas 3 месяца назад +125

    “I bet it moved” is WIIILD

  • @jayyy8229
    @jayyy8229 3 месяца назад +319

    15:56 “i bet it moved” LMAOO 😭😭😭

  • @bloodevoir4575
    @bloodevoir4575 3 месяца назад +197

    "She wasn't into you...she was into your tip" I AUDIBLY GASPED

    • @smokeytaboo1756
      @smokeytaboo1756 18 дней назад +2

      Into her tip... meaning what she'll earn as a server if she's nice to him...

  • @genesprouts
    @genesprouts 3 месяца назад +184

    not him typing it in word for word💀 17:21

    • @KYLETISZAI
      @KYLETISZAI 3 месяца назад +5

      I thought that was so cute 😂😂😂

  • @floorbutter9672
    @floorbutter9672 3 месяца назад +173

    that last car analogy was perfect i loved it so much

  • @s.mcgirl
    @s.mcgirl 2 месяца назад +98

    Derek: "I feel like and idiot", Dating coach: "that is stupid"🤣

  • @ReubenNinan
    @ReubenNinan 3 месяца назад +161

    This episode was educational and funny af. Chantal should totally come back. A very wise and open woman!

  • @Xinallao
    @Xinallao 3 месяца назад +183

    FOR YOUR TEN SECOND SEIZURE I CANTTTT AKDJSKSJSB

  • @joetality5296
    @joetality5296 Месяц назад +14

    This woman validated without overly praising, and is so well spoken and charismatic. She’s nice, knows this field to the T, confident in her words, and seems comfortable (truly comfortable) within herself. Her alone speaking cleared up a few worries in regards to myself and dating. Thank you Chantel :)

  • @ChantalheideCanadasDatingCoach
    @ChantalheideCanadasDatingCoach 3 месяца назад +98

    @Canada’s Dating Coach ♥️: If you want to know, my book is No More Asshloes 🥰

    • @Jay_490
      @Jay_490 3 месяца назад +4

      We all love you 🇨🇦🇨🇦

    • @KydraExhale
      @KydraExhale 8 дней назад

      But I thought girls liked assholes

  • @K3n_R0y
    @K3n_R0y 3 месяца назад +233

    wtf is this only 25 minutes short?? awesome episode btw

  • @burton7767
    @burton7767 10 дней назад +9

    this is literally your greatest video ever, bring HER BACK

  • @ricedolce2114
    @ricedolce2114 3 месяца назад +106

    When he said “only a couple” the captions wrote “ only a thousand” . Had me dying 😢😢😂

  • @noimkat
    @noimkat 3 месяца назад +84

    the castle in the sky metaphor….. my life is forever changed i need that book omg

  • @kristypacheco4435
    @kristypacheco4435 3 месяца назад +58

    love how self aware he is but still ask if it’s wrong 😭

  • @_LuciferLuvs
    @_LuciferLuvs 3 месяца назад +106

    This is another great video especially for my generation. What she said about going from talking to sexual was so true and is probably why younger generations have terrible dating experiences. I love this channel

    • @brianclark4040
      @brianclark4040 2 месяца назад

      Who you did is exactly who you are. If women can judge men based on their watch or shoes or car as indicators, then who you had s3x with is definitely indicative of your values.

  • @esp_09
    @esp_09 3 месяца назад +151

    The knowing smile after « she wasn’t into you, she was into her tip” lmao

  • @lkaelyn
    @lkaelyn 3 месяца назад +184

    thank you for finally posting i was getting withdrawals 😞🙏

  • @CarlSinon
    @CarlSinon 3 месяца назад +53

    bring her back this was lovely

  • @l.grays.2689
    @l.grays.2689 3 месяца назад +88

    this was one of the funniest eps so far😭😭

  • @imsospaghettiful
    @imsospaghettiful 2 месяца назад +22

    derek's eyes widening after hearing "10 sec seizure" is hilarious
    great guest btw!!

  • @krystalmarie3932
    @krystalmarie3932 2 месяца назад +44

    "of course you want to hop on me of your 10 second seizure" OH MY GODDDDDD

  • @bliblihere1377
    @bliblihere1377 3 месяца назад +19

    i loved the way ella give the straight explanation when people don't show you love so they don't loved you
    hitting me soooo harddddd

  • @laraiplikje4619
    @laraiplikje4619 3 месяца назад +39

    Her voice is extremely soothing, she'd make great asmr videos

  • @shailaprol6587
    @shailaprol6587 День назад +1

    This lady is so polite, so well put together. I come back to this video time and time again. She gives huge ASMR vibes

  • @romanangeles5860
    @romanangeles5860 3 месяца назад +40

    Just them breaking the 4th wall, made this 100x more personable *chefs kiss 💋

  • @melajae6246
    @melajae6246 3 месяца назад +34

    “i bet it moved” WHAAAAAATTT😭😭😭😭

  • @lilliancastanera6814
    @lilliancastanera6814 3 месяца назад +98

    WRITE THAT DOWN WRITE THAT DOWN LMAO

  • @andrademaca
    @andrademaca 3 месяца назад +15

    This must be THE BEST interview out of all the series, part 2 is a need

  • @emilyfae6683
    @emilyfae6683 3 месяца назад +33

    “Of course you wanna hop on me for your ten second seizure” I’m deceased

  • @alexisfelice
    @alexisfelice 14 дней назад +4

    Her answers were no bullshit and said in a way that really made sense to me. I appreciated that!!

  • @Jxrdan513
    @Jxrdan513 3 месяца назад +60

    Her essentially trying to guilt trip him into wanting to ‘share’ Elle hypothetically 😭 jus got me weak

  • @hopeangelica7971
    @hopeangelica7971 3 месяца назад +16

    She is such an ICON! Wow, the amount of patience & clarity. Every Gen-Z boy needs to watch this and do as she says! 👏

    • @aswinkrishna5042
      @aswinkrishna5042 3 месяца назад

      She told him to go date an OF girl
      Nah I'm good

  • @Novau.u
    @Novau.u 3 месяца назад +17

    I absolutely love this channel! All theses interviews are the perfect blend between seriousness and comedy!

  • @myahgloom4717
    @myahgloom4717 3 месяца назад +10

    This woman needs to be my life coach. I love everything about her!

  • @Piplup10416
    @Piplup10416 3 месяца назад +47

    21:52-23:04 i saw this part as an ig reel, really needed that reality check

    • @Mellokitty7711
      @Mellokitty7711 3 месяца назад +5

      Yeah I ended up here looking for a clip of it bc I couldn’t download the instagram reel

    • @IsraelLlerena
      @IsraelLlerena 3 месяца назад +1

      I watch her lives on TikTok all the time. She’s genuinely a really intelligent person

  • @highmeoweldergod8371
    @highmeoweldergod8371 3 месяца назад +44

    13:25 that dap up had me dead

    • @divynemarie
      @divynemarie 3 месяца назад +3

      Literally died lmao

  • @eliasramirez2410
    @eliasramirez2410 3 месяца назад +39

    There needs to be a part two!

  • @maggaayy
    @maggaayy 3 месяца назад +10

    This is so insightful! I appreciate Derek's self-awareness.

  • @fca3464
    @fca3464 3 месяца назад +7

    this was actually so insightful and funny. im glad Chantal has a beautiful sense of comedy and compassion

  • @nuthinbutnikk17
    @nuthinbutnikk17 3 месяца назад +14

    I was suposed to fall asleep to this but ended up enthralled by the conversation. Lots of things to learn. And these two are funny in their own different way haha.

  • @skii1410
    @skii1410 2 месяца назад +20

    “And Elle has like a seperate business” bro I saw that caption 😂

  • @evamm3213
    @evamm3213 3 месяца назад +16

    We need a part 2!! She is amazing!!

  • @qtnayeli3013
    @qtnayeli3013 2 месяца назад +8

    WE WANT MORE OF HERRR 🩷🩷🩷

  • @bettycastillo143
    @bettycastillo143 3 месяца назад +5

    I love this episode! Hope there's a part 2! 💕

  • @leaguillermo4454
    @leaguillermo4454 3 месяца назад +105

    9:40 we’re thinking the same person now aren’t we ..

    • @Nvsh07
      @Nvsh07 3 месяца назад +37

      He wrote her name on the subtitles 😂

    • @dbradford259
      @dbradford259 3 месяца назад +8

      I'm guessing he's talking about the corn star he had on twice.

    • @jh-who
      @jh-who 3 месяца назад +21

      Having the subtitles on for his videos definitely add onto the experience 😂

    • @Caitlin87616
      @Caitlin87616 3 месяца назад

      @@dbradford259elle

    • @marshmallowniriri2326
      @marshmallowniriri2326 3 месяца назад

      He literally told in the subtitles it's Elle 😂

  • @CHROMIUMHEROmusic
    @CHROMIUMHEROmusic 3 месяца назад +5

    I like this channel and the conversations. Show clearly has his flaws, but is trying to work on them and that's the main thing. As a fellow guy with flaws who is trying to work on them, it is refreshing and reassuring to see conversations where people dont try to be perfect but just better themselves

  • @hannah-eg5tc
    @hannah-eg5tc 3 месяца назад +2

    omg i was so excited for another episode and this did not disappoint, please bring her back

  • @Riddhex
    @Riddhex 3 месяца назад

    CANNOT WAIT FOR PART 2!! This was so good

  • @amber_alertz
    @amber_alertz 3 месяца назад +11

    the “i bet it moved” took me out ☠️☠️

  • @alexiapacheco8381
    @alexiapacheco8381 3 месяца назад +7

    I loved this episode! she’s amazing please have her back!!

  • @livwalz9329
    @livwalz9329 3 месяца назад +14

    She is both Holly and Jan from The Office

    • @liabw05
      @liabw05 3 месяца назад +2

      Omg 💀

  • @elle1107
    @elle1107 2 месяца назад +1

    I like how she says "Okay" to any question he asks. Just an acknowledgement of what's been said without placing judgement on it yet. Very interesting.

  • @BoxOfAwesomeInAJar
    @BoxOfAwesomeInAJar 3 месяца назад +22

    Chantal has so much wisdom wow

  • @alyssaaguirre5666
    @alyssaaguirre5666 3 месяца назад +3

    Never watch your show but i watch her live everyday! I love yall for this ❤

  • @Sammy-sm4yg
    @Sammy-sm4yg 2 месяца назад +1

    I’m going through a terrible break up right now where my boyfriend behind my back, cheated on me and got engaged to somebody else, and I found out when I talk to her mother and it was a nine year long relationship. I still cannot wrap my head around the fact why would somebody do this to me? However, while I try to calm myself down and trying to keep myself alive. This library show episode really healed something in me. When she said that the person who actually loves, you shows you that they love you and no amount of condition can break that. And that’s I guess what I needed to hear in order for myself to understand that whatever happened did not happen because of me but because eventually they wanted to do something like this. it’s scary to go back to the world where you feel lonely and scared after such a long time of being with someone you feel like you have to re-learn how to walk again without a support. True love is indeed, very very hurtful and very very calming. At the same time depends upon the other person, how they use it for themselves.. I wish I could do so many things again which I did wrong but one thing I know for sure time heals everything for everyone and I am grateful that I found this episode in the time of need. I will definitely keep coming back to this to remind myself to be grateful and that there is better things waiting for me

  • @fqtae
    @fqtae 3 месяца назад

    I love this! Need a part 2 with Chantal!

  • @serene4961
    @serene4961 3 месяца назад +14

    The sharing analogy she can’t really compare polygamy with an undeveloped ability to share like a toddler. It’s normal to not want to share your partner intimately, that’s the whole point of monogamy. But that doesn’t mean you won’t share other things like your food, space, items etc.

    • @stevemattero1471
      @stevemattero1471 13 дней назад +1

      True... the fact is, if he's open to casual sex, why is he looking for monogamy? He sleeps around but doesn’t like a partner who does OF thats very hypothetical

    • @serene4961
      @serene4961 13 дней назад

      @@stevemattero1471 oh I thought he was looking for monogamy but open to accepting the fact she is a sw as a job, if he’s not monogamous himself then thats just stupid

  • @faithmacharia6075
    @faithmacharia6075 3 месяца назад +15

    The intro made me love her already

  • @mikomaralit6352
    @mikomaralit6352 3 месяца назад

    Your back YES😭, thank you I've been patiently waiting i love your videos.
    Your videos was like a therapy treatment for me cause I'm currently depressed since last year so thank you thank you so much🙏love your videos man❤

  • @c.t.5017
    @c.t.5017 3 месяца назад

    Yaaaaayy thank you for coming back!!

  • @laurenjauregui8833
    @laurenjauregui8833 3 месяца назад +4

    WE NEED MORE OF HER PLEASE

  • @raeischilling4159
    @raeischilling4159 3 месяца назад +3

    i loved watching this vid, made me deeply introspective and there were a bunch of great points. i’m glad i found it

  • @Kingman1359
    @Kingman1359 3 месяца назад +1

    Ngl, the last 5 minutes were the best. Very informative and great pacing. Good job, much love brother

  • @lesslyruiz2139
    @lesslyruiz2139 3 месяца назад +2

    Omg I’m currently reading her book right now !! So amazing to watch you too ❤️

  • @amanitillman2953
    @amanitillman2953 3 месяца назад +19

    this is hilarious. she had some nice oneliners 😁loved tagging along to derek'a therapy session

  • @crescentcoop
    @crescentcoop 3 месяца назад +5

    this genuinely helped me decide things

  • @janinek5258
    @janinek5258 2 месяца назад +1

    She's awesome. Shes so kind and so blunt!!

  • @kristenm9080
    @kristenm9080 3 месяца назад +11

    Holy shit. Best interview I have seen in a long time! My first video of yours and I’ll definitely be watching more

  • @tle90
    @tle90 3 месяца назад +8

    This was genuinely helpful

  • @baileyever8134
    @baileyever8134 3 месяца назад +4

    I legit love her so much this makes me wanna buy her book

  • @linds1986
    @linds1986 3 месяца назад +1

    We need more Chantal! She is fantastic.

  • @Daniella407
    @Daniella407 3 месяца назад +13

    This one is so good! I hate how so many tik tok accounts are impersonating you and reposting your clips. You deserve all the views and credit