S1: THIS is why when you're going thru relationship/marriage turmoil u always record conversations wherever legal. Imagine having that convo for evidence in divorce/custody hearings
S1: At this point, the OP should just divorce the wife. He should go to "counseling" but, it would have to be on the grounds that the wife tells every, and I mean EVERYTHING (including the STI). The OP should also have the sessions recorded.
Man.....these lil college kids need to stop using the word *marriage* as a basic-everyday-word!!! I'm an early 90s child and I've never heard anything said in front of the word marriage EXCEPT for "Happy marriage" and "when's marriage?" Now, it's like, "open marriage" "f*** marriage" or whatever the hell it's called now and days...stop ruining the word "MARRIAGE!!!"
She has a habit of cheating and lying about it until he has proof. A polygraph is not proof, they're easy to game, but she hedged her bets by admitting to one more, so any questions that come up about more will be because of that one in her mind, so when she fails because of the whole college football team, she can say it was only the one she admitted to. OP needs to be so far gone that she's not even in his rear view mirror.
OP in story 2 brought this upon himself. He knew the type of person she was and he married her anyway. She's been trickle truthing the whole time. If he believes that this won't happen again then he's an idiot
How ? He was the only one making money in the house and still tried to help with the baby , he made everything work for them to be comfortable but she wants to make him jealous by saying someone flirted with her and threw her words back at her , he's the selfish one ? Your reasoning is stupid.
@@Heiura very simple. In a mature relationship, partners should be able to be vulnerable and share when they're struggling, why, and how. Why do I care if someone tried to flirt with my partner? I've never been surprised by that because she's attractive. However, if she comes to me and says, there's something wrong in our relationship because someone else's attention felt good, after my initial surprise, I would be grateful that she cares enough about our relationship to raise a flag and ask for help to fix the issue. The guy knew she was married, so she evidently had maintained her boundaries and let him know. She also didn't reciprocate and did nothing wrong and OP admits he had been neglecting her. She's simply communicating outcome of said neglect and asks him to work together to fix things. Strong couples focus on winning against the problem or challenge, not each other. This guy's brittle ego won't allow him to do that and blurting out 'I want a divorce' is proof of that.
@@neutechnicaafter reading that I don't believe you understand how money and time works. The flirting part is besides the point that was obviously out of the wife's control, the human was more concerned that the wife felt like reciprocating which is completely reasonable, he didn't make any drastic decisions and it's completely understandable for anyone to be upset or hurt by that. The neglecting part you make it seem like it was done on purpose, to afford a mortgage and 3 people one being a child is not easy, so of course he had to work long hours so they could survive what would you have done in that situation not work with the excuse being spending more time with the family. Even with that he still tried his best to be there for the family when not at work until the wife started the new job which conflicted with his hours. This is a matter of perspective you're focusing too much on the wife but realistically wouldn't the husband also feel neglected because what she's going through he's basically going through as well but he also has to lift heavy shit for hours a day with that in order to provide for his family.
@@typhinsamaFeedback is always appreciated. Here are my thoughts. Was it valid for him to feel upset in the moment? I wouldn't but I can definitely understand how he might. However, in my opinion, OP flew past concerned directly to irate is my point. Just as OP can't help how his emotions were impacted by her story, was his wife able to control what she immediately felt when her coworker flirted with her? And instead of keeping it a secret or reciprocate, she calmly raised the concern with her husband, her go to guy, her number 1. I'm not saying she was perfect but I don't think his wife could have handled it any better. At the same time, I think OP is the one who is hyper-focused on all of the material things he's done for her and how could she ever betray me like this, yada yada yada. To his credit, OP does seem to have come to his senses a bit but he's still bitter and butt hurt. I'm not sure he's truly learned his lesson that just because you're paying the bills, doesn't mean you're taking care of your relationship in all the ways it needs to be. What I've learned in life is that money, jobs, and possessions come and go, but a good woman(who's not materialistic) will stick to you if you're taking care of her emotionally and spiritually. Beyond understanding how money and time work, I have experienced how a successful relationship can thrive despite life's inevitable challenges. Edit to add: I saw a short the other day where a man asked his wife if she would ever cheat on him. Her reply was 'absolutely, yes'. They both went on to discuss how, if you allow the right circumstances to fester, infidelity is bound to happen in most any relationship. Sometimes we go on auto-pilot or bear with scenarios that we know aren't healthy for months on end because we think its only temporary so our partner can just bear with it, until surprise, a wheel falls off.
@@neutechnica @neutechnica I do appreciate you explaining your point even further without anything unnecessary statements, that seems to be rare on the Internet these days. I do agree with your opinion on materialistic goods, I believe having a partner is more important that such thing in the grand scheme of things. However OP did state how he was trying to with their hours at home conflicting, even though it didn't work out the way he wanted. I also agree that just because you provide for your family it doesn't mean you're taking care of your relationship, but if we go back to when they purchased their home OP stated that it was too big and his wife was the one who insisted they purchased it which eventually caused him to have to take those extra hours. Overall there were mistakes on both sides, and time and communication were the problem, which they eventually fixed in the end. The husband opened up about how he felt which was understandable and the wife also opened up about how she felt underappreciated as well. I do get why OP would feel that way after working so hard and i get why the wife would react that way, i dont believe shes bad since she did pring it up so they could resolve it. Its just a matter of unfortunate circumstances, you can do nothing wrong and still be punished in certain ways, human emotions are all over the place 😅
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S1: THIS is why when you're going thru relationship/marriage turmoil u always record conversations wherever legal. Imagine having that convo for evidence in divorce/custody hearings
S1: At this point, the OP should just divorce the wife. He should go to "counseling" but, it would have to be on the grounds that the wife tells every, and I mean EVERYTHING (including the STI). The OP should also have the sessions recorded.
Man.....these lil college kids need to stop using the word *marriage* as a basic-everyday-word!!! I'm an early 90s child and I've never heard anything said in front of the word marriage EXCEPT for "Happy marriage" and "when's marriage?" Now, it's like, "open marriage" "f*** marriage" or whatever the hell it's called now and days...stop ruining the word "MARRIAGE!!!"
S1: The wife already cheated or she will cheat as long as she is in proximity to the other guy. It’s virtually guaranteed.
2nd story the second she blamed it on him should've been his clue to leave.
She has a habit of cheating and lying about it until he has proof. A polygraph is not proof, they're easy to game, but she hedged her bets by admitting to one more, so any questions that come up about more will be because of that one in her mind, so when she fails because of the whole college football team, she can say it was only the one she admitted to.
OP needs to be so far gone that she's not even in his rear view mirror.
OP in story 2 brought this upon himself. He knew the type of person she was and he married her anyway. She's been trickle truthing the whole time. If he believes that this won't happen again then he's an idiot
s1 is so weak
He states it from the jump, dude has physical and mental issues
is he actually thinking of forgiving her why this op an idiot get a lawyer already
She needs help
Yisus Craig's 💀
Story 3: OP is an egotistical dodo bird.
How ? He was the only one making money in the house and still tried to help with the baby , he made everything work for them to be comfortable but she wants to make him jealous by saying someone flirted with her and threw her words back at her , he's the selfish one ? Your reasoning is stupid.
@@Heiura very simple. In a mature relationship, partners should be able to be vulnerable and share when they're struggling, why, and how. Why do I care if someone tried to flirt with my partner? I've never been surprised by that because she's attractive. However, if she comes to me and says, there's something wrong in our relationship because someone else's attention felt good, after my initial surprise, I would be grateful that she cares enough about our relationship to raise a flag and ask for help to fix the issue. The guy knew she was married, so she evidently had maintained her boundaries and let him know. She also didn't reciprocate and did nothing wrong and OP admits he had been neglecting her. She's simply communicating outcome of said neglect and asks him to work together to fix things. Strong couples focus on winning against the problem or challenge, not each other. This guy's brittle ego won't allow him to do that and blurting out 'I want a divorce' is proof of that.
@@neutechnicaafter reading that I don't believe you understand how money and time works. The flirting part is besides the point that was obviously out of the wife's control, the human was more concerned that the wife felt like reciprocating which is completely reasonable, he didn't make any drastic decisions and it's completely understandable for anyone to be upset or hurt by that. The neglecting part you make it seem like it was done on purpose, to afford a mortgage and 3 people one being a child is not easy, so of course he had to work long hours so they could survive what would you have done in that situation not work with the excuse being spending more time with the family. Even with that he still tried his best to be there for the family when not at work until the wife started the new job which conflicted with his hours. This is a matter of perspective you're focusing too much on the wife but realistically wouldn't the husband also feel neglected because what she's going through he's basically going through as well but he also has to lift heavy shit for hours a day with that in order to provide for his family.
@@typhinsamaFeedback is always appreciated. Here are my thoughts. Was it valid for him to feel upset in the moment? I wouldn't but I can definitely understand how he might. However, in my opinion, OP flew past concerned directly to irate is my point. Just as OP can't help how his emotions were impacted by her story, was his wife able to control what she immediately felt when her coworker flirted with her? And instead of keeping it a secret or reciprocate, she calmly raised the concern with her husband, her go to guy, her number 1. I'm not saying she was perfect but I don't think his wife could have handled it any better.
At the same time, I think OP is the one who is hyper-focused on all of the material things he's done for her and how could she ever betray me like this, yada yada yada. To his credit, OP does seem to have come to his senses a bit but he's still bitter and butt hurt. I'm not sure he's truly learned his lesson that just because you're paying the bills, doesn't mean you're taking care of your relationship in all the ways it needs to be. What I've learned in life is that money, jobs, and possessions come and go, but a good woman(who's not materialistic) will stick to you if you're taking care of her emotionally and spiritually. Beyond understanding how money and time work, I have experienced how a successful relationship can thrive despite life's inevitable challenges.
Edit to add: I saw a short the other day where a man asked his wife if she would ever cheat on him. Her reply was 'absolutely, yes'. They both went on to discuss how, if you allow the right circumstances to fester, infidelity is bound to happen in most any relationship. Sometimes we go on auto-pilot or bear with scenarios that we know aren't healthy for months on end because we think its only temporary so our partner can just bear with it, until surprise, a wheel falls off.
@@neutechnica @neutechnica I do appreciate you explaining your point even further without anything unnecessary statements, that seems to be rare on the Internet these days. I do agree with your opinion on materialistic goods, I believe having a partner is more important that such thing in the grand scheme of things. However OP did state how he was trying to with their hours at home conflicting, even though it didn't work out the way he wanted. I also agree that just because you provide for your family it doesn't mean you're taking care of your relationship, but if we go back to when they purchased their home OP stated that it was too big and his wife was the one who insisted they purchased it which eventually caused him to have to take those extra hours. Overall there were mistakes on both sides, and time and communication were the problem, which they eventually fixed in the end. The husband opened up about how he felt which was understandable and the wife also opened up about how she felt underappreciated as well. I do get why OP would feel that way after working so hard and i get why the wife would react that way, i dont believe shes bad since she did pring it up so they could resolve it. Its just a matter of unfortunate circumstances, you can do nothing wrong and still be punished in certain ways, human emotions are all over the place 😅
Go and find out wow this guy is and go and have a talk with in a hard way!!!!