How an eating disorder affects the way a person thinks
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- Опубликовано: 20 дек 2012
- In this video, Renee Hoste, Ph.D., discusses how an eating disorder affects the way a person thinks.
The University of Michigan Comprehensive Eating Disorders Program provides individualized, compassionate, evidence-based care for patients age 8-24 with eating disorders.
We recognize that eating disorders are complicated illnesses caused by genetic, psychological and psychosocial factors, and that neither our patients nor their families are responsible for having developed an eating disorder.
Our program was designed to honor the importance of families in the recovery process, and is built on the principles of family-based treatment, also known as the Maudsley Approach, adapted for both partial hospitalization and intensive outpatient treatment settings.
We provide a safe and therapeutic environment where nutritional restoration and behavior change can occur. Our focus is to help patients, families, and others recognize their own strengths and empower them to take control of symptoms.
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Recovery is so difficult because you want to get better and be able to live free of an ed but the thought of having normal eating habits is terrifying.
I promise you that recovery is worth it. It feels like hell but i heard someone say once that if you get anxiety from the food-choices you make, you are probably making the right food-choices because your ED wants the opposite of whats good for you and therefore makes you anxious when you are making good choises for you body. I hope you are in a better place and thta you ED is long gone but if it is not i hope that you can recover safely and never fall back into this lifestyle. Wish you the best!!
@@martagustafsson5749 I dont think thats correct.. I get anxious about the food I know is most unhealthy.. when my friends order pizza, when Im at a birtday party and there are lots of sweats there. People w eating disorder pretty much know how many calories each food has and how unhealthy something is. So most people feel anxious eating the most unhealthy food - that definitely doesnt make that food suddently healthy. That view is just incorrect
@Bangtan I think you misunderstood me. I am not saying that food magically becomes healthy but the truth is that eating disordes are different for everyone experienceing it and your mind tells you what is a "bad" food and what is a "good" food. Ed is not a friend and it wants you to destroy yourself by for an example telling you that it's too much calories in that or sametinget else and that is what i mean with if you get anxiety by food, that's your ED telling you that you are eating "bad" food and therefore you are bad. But there is no "bad" food and you are not bad for eating food. I know it's hard. I've been struggling for 6 years and it's differemt for everyone. I hope all good for you and that you recover as well.
@@martagustafsson5749 yeah that makes sense. I guess Im still in that phase where I actually listen to my Ed and cant rlly distinguish it from the reality. Thank you I hope all the best for you too
THIS! I related to this:(
Anorexia recovery for me kinda feels like killing your best friend
I wish your recovery the best
I know right
someone finally put it in words. good luck with your recovery, i'm on the same boat lol
YES!! The reason I refuse to recover. It’s the only friend I have, the only thing I can turn to.
exactly how i feel. good luck b.
It’s like my eating disorder makes me feel less lonely, like there’s always someone with me when I’m hungry
Wow I felt the same I didn't need my friends and family I had anorexia as my company I had someone to spend time with and we had something to do which is trying to eat less as possible, I thought I was crazy 🤣
Exactly!! I feel like if I try to talk about it nobody would even come CLOSE to understanding what I'm going through. It sucks because these disorders MAKE me isolated and what's worse is when I'm in that state I don't ever want to be helped cause I just feel like I'll never be able to get out of this. It's literally not curable and it never will be. I'm fucked.
Bro you really did put it into words. . .
Gabriel Gherasim I didn’t even realize that I thought the same way as you!
What
It wasn’t even about being skinny for me, I didn’t like to look at myself because I thought I looked like a skeleton and I hated how just walking up the stairs made me feel like I was going to pass but at the same time I loved it, it was like an addiction just instead of taking drugs I was not eating. Thankfully after a lot of arguments and screaming fits my mum managed to get me help and I’m not there yet but I can no longer see my bones and I am eating at least two full meals (breakfast and dinner) a day. It is possible to get better it may take some time but it’s worth the struggle
SAME! Also it was a ”purity ” thing for me, idk how to explain it really but eating made me feel sinful and dirty. If I did eat I wasn’t allowed to enjoy it, which is why recovering in the ward was better for me since I could justify eating because I was forced = did not want or enjoy the food. Anyways, recovery is def worth it!!
Wait if your parents think its a joke and not worth their time.
Sundial please reach out to get some sort of medical help! I’m not sure what country you’re in, but try looking into eating disorder hotlines, or contact a doctor/hospital/counsellor/psychologist, etc. Best of luck ❤️
Same!! I can’t even look in the mirror bc all I see is a skeleton. I wanna get better so bad but everyday it’s like I can’t even bring myself to eat a full 3 meals plus some snacks or whatever a normal person eats in a regular day.. it’s hard and really discouraging. I wish I could just look healthy
@@user-dg2vd4el3m i can relate to the purity thing
I know I need to recover. I know my eating disorder is bad. I know it’s unhealthy. But I don’t want to recover. I want to keep on restricting and never give up and no one understands
That is what your ED is telling you. You can recover and even though you don't want to you probably know that it's what's best for you. At least give recover a try. I promise you that there is a life without the bad thoughts
@@martagustafsson5749 i’m now eating all my meals and even snacks and gained 20lbs back i still have moments of starving and breaking down because of my body but i’d say i’m mostly recovered
I feel the same way :/♡
@@l0vejasp How are you doing?
@@tclphone2392 i’ve relapsed so many times and my body is absolutely fucked from it all i have bowel issues and metabolism issues and my heart rate is all weird but right now i’m eating alright. at least i’m trying my hardest i’m eating healthy which hopefully won’t form into bad habits. the thoughts are there but i’m eating
I felt like my “depressed” mental state was my true and real mental state. I felt like my eating disorder helped me cope as punishment for doing bad things and not being good enough
You’re more than good enough!
Don’t punish yourself please
I feel it
Best alternative for this is to delude yourself extremely by making yourself believe you're life is super good ( say extremely positive things from your mouth even if you don't mean it even if it's going bad rn but just try this for a day or 2 ) and eventually the delusion will somehow turn out to be true your body will believe your delusion. I can't guarantee but still worth a try
can you actually recover? i feel like even if i kind of recovered physically, i’ll never recover mentally..
@Allie me sitting over who had Bulimia and B.E.D (B.E.D stands for Binge Eating Disorder) (anyways I'm over my eating disorders but I'm afraid that I might end up with Anorexia) (also to me having B.E.D is like having Bulimia and Anorexia both but like a mix of the two) (also I'm still addicted to sugar but it's been two days since I ate anything junk food or sweet food related including fruit) (I once went two whole months trying to avoid most fatty foods and would sneak things like red meat to the trash and just try to fill up on veggies and then I decided that I wanted a cheat day so I ate two strawberry poptarts for breakfast and had aglass of milk one night if I didn't eat too many cookies and other fatty foods I wouldn't have gained so much weight in the first place also I have to get my carbs from potatoes because I'm wheat intolerant)
Yes you can. Trust me. It takes time and effort but im living my best life now. Stay strong.
that’s what scares me :( i think to a certain extent it’s always gonna be in the back of my mind, maybe not an everyday thing, but it’s never gonna truly leave me
@@dew348 I have been suffering from eating disorders my entire life. I have never gotten any help because my doctor just ignored it. I don't know how I should improve. I literally look like a walking stick.
@@Ivyblac How old are you?
I owe Renee my life. I was her patient right around this time
I really hope you are getting better, I don't know who you are but rock on
My name is Hannah too, I have anorexia. It feels like I'm becoming such a fat, lazy slob who is eating way more than I need (I'm in recovery right now.) Do you have any advice?
Ilir Cami
Thanks for asking. I’m still good! Working with Renee changed everything
Hannah Morgan it’s okay to eat a lot right now. Your body needs it after so long of depriving it of food and life
It’s like this feeling of everyday being a goal. The goal is to feel hungry. Be hungry. And when all of my fingers fit around my wrist I’ve won. When I look at an old photo of me and I can see a difference it’s a win. But that win is never enough. And when ppl say your skinny, it’s at first a compliment, until it stops being that way. But it doesn’t stop you from wanting that feeling of empty. And trying to take that away from you is like ripping away a security blanket. And in this case, the security blanket will break you, but that still seems to happen while you take it away. It’s like a forever scar. And it never heals quite right. The calculations through the day. And that feeling of when something isn’t going right but you don’t know why bc you don’t know what is happening to you and you just think your brain is buffering or something. And then when all of a sudden that will to live leaves the second the scale doesn’t say what you want it to, the reality sets in.
It's really sad and very hard to recovery from because, for example, with other drug related disorders, you gotta stop taking drugs, but you literally can't stop eating so it's just a constant battle.
It isnt a addiction like drugs or alcohol, its a mental disorder. Its a lot harder to recover. Hope the best for u💞stay safe
I went from Anorexia to bulimia and tbh bulimias much worse and harder to recover from
I smell children what is bulimia?
Anahi Ortega it’s where a person binge eats and purge after
I have so much respect for you and I wish you the best of luck in recovery. 💗 That being said, I don't think that we should put one eating disorder on a pedestal by saying ones worse than the other. In this case, there is no "better" or "worse." Whether you're suffering from anorexia or bullimia, recovery is hard and shouldn't be overlooked because one can be considered "worse." Like I said before, I don't mean to bash you in any way, please be safe. ❤️
I had anorexia, then bulimia with a binge/purge starve cycle, got diabulimia, then i recovered, then went to classic bulimia, stopped purging but kept bingeing, gained a ton of weight, and all i want is to get back to anorexia or be skinny and healthy idek. I am 23 right now and I’m still dealing with this shit. 8 years, of which i wasted so much time and energy on food. And what fucking for... im so done with this shit
no eating disorder is worse than another. i dont want to come off rude but everyone is different :)
sometimes I wanna recover but then other times I don’t cause then I’ll feel like I literally have no one, my eating disorder is something I’ve had for the past 6 years, without it idek who I am, I feel as I am just my eating disorder
It was more about wanting to have control because of some stuff and it helped take my mind off stuff because i was thinking about food all the time
same for me. Felt like I could control something in my life & it shifted my attention from the stuff that stressed me out
Renee puts it quite well in that "the eating disorder protects itself", and it does, because together with the burden that the person carrying it around has to shoulder (which is the suffering that is the usually unseen chief cause of an eating disorder), it forms its own little "bubble" inside, which is impenetrable to our everyday logic and motivations. This is essential to understand if you wish to get the ED to go away - you cannot force it out, no matter how good your intentions are, being either a parent or friend.
neglesaks what about w people who eating disorders in ways such as not wanting to eat and feel sick after eating any amount of food?
@@dilanstubbins6599 Do you mean a Binge ED? (aka BED).
i don’t want to get rid of it i can’t imagine life without it
I just wanted to get abs and to get better in my sport but it got out of control.
same
A girl I Have a crush on that I have known for a long time texted me yesterday that she had an eating disorder and I was the only person she could trust she said that she had gone to councelers but it has jus gotten worse she is scared that she might die I have been watching and reading all these videos about it trying to help her
You are a great person
I’m glad we have people like you in this world
That’s sweet
@Tiltêd Theelyn thanks
Imagine someone caring this much 🥺
She made so many great points I'm shocked this was made in 2012- I've suffered with anorexia for the last 3 years and it unfortunately really does become a part of you. I want to get better and be able to eat normally, but every time I try I panic because I can't fathom eating more than I do and I can't imagine who I'd be without my eating disorder. And they really do have no rationality... I have a slew of health complications because of my ED and despite them my mind still urges me not to get better. I get good grades, exercise regularly and have a lot of friends, yet I also struggle to pay attention, am in near-constant physical pain as a result of under-eating, and struggle to even enjoy my own interests.
And as a double whammy, my parents, unlike concerned parents of other children, have no concern. My mother is a dieter who displays ED behaviour and it's partially where I learned it from. I remember when I told her I didn't like my stomach when I was 7 she told me to suck it in because she didn't like hers either. And my father is a traditional over-eater (he's like a grandparent who will try to give you food even when you've eaten so much you're sick) Neither have healthy relationships with food or nutrition and therefore see nothing concerning in me.
Unfortunately, there aren't a lot to ways to prevent eating disorders. But parents, I urge you to have healthy relationships with food for your children.
When I was 3 and 4 years into bulimia ages 16 -17,I asked my mother for help and what she told me was,"just quit"nothing else.I needed her to help me and she just ignored it and I kept going like I never brought it up to her and she didnt ask again.I also went to my highschool counselor and asked for help after he brought it up to me ,that I looked thin and he directed me to a counselor outside of school,which we couldn't afford and he never brought it up again.Looking back, he had to say something cause he was a mandated reporter ,but never asked me about it again and I looked up to this counselor and I felt like he let me down.It took me 7 years of bulimia to just quit one day on my own.I might have quit sooner had I had help.I also felt let down by my mother.I hope you all can get the help you need.
Yeah same thing with my mom. Everyone acknowledges it but has never tried to get me help or even asked if I’m okay. I think it’s kind of funny. Makes me realize just how alone I am.
@@xdwatertheflower8058 I'm sorry you are going through this. It's a lonely thing to suffer from.But , if I could do it ,anyone can.How old are you?
I was 13 when I get to know that I was going through eating disorder now I'm going to be 18 and it's getting worse day by day I'm trying to tell my mom but she is saying its normal noo it's not I feel so irritated because of this sometime I hate food sometime I feel like screaming Idk it's getting hard for me
Sometimes the childs eating disorder is a coping mechanism from a bad childhood or household, at least thats what mine was from...
Shrek Gang a thought hat can trigger it, there is a genetic component to it.
My mom would always call me fat so i think that's the issue
A lot of the times u do have to wait for the child to wanna get better cause if u force them to recover they can fake a recovery and start lying to u and that is the last thing u want, if they get really bad them ofc admit them to a hospital but i personally had to wanna get better and when people were making me recover and forcing me to eat I just wanted to eat less and I told everyone I was getting better when really I was getting worse
mikeywaysknees -
Yeah exactly. I think that’s what’s happened with Eugenia Cooney.
Sometimes you gotta force recovery if they’re in danger of dying due to the illness, like if they’re severely underweight. Sure, they might start lying, but getting pounds on will give more time to actually help them.
mikeywaysknees - this is exactly how I am....i hope I will find the strength and a reason to recover
I was forced to recover and I swung wildly the other way into binge eating, but no one ever interfered with that because it was more socially acceptable to be fat like I had always been than it was to be skinny
I've been fat and thin in my life and both times it didn't make me any happier or sadder. However when I sorted out my mental health it made a huge diffences and what's on the inside is what matters.
I have an eating disorder and it got to the point where I couldn't move, walk, sit, lay anything...all I wanted to do was lose some weight...I felt bad after what I did, so I started to eat again...I still have an eating disorder and finding it very hard to eat...but atleast im trying my best...
Just being able to feel my ribs and my bones made me so happy and I hate my parents for taking that away
if you’ve come to the comments, just know you are not alone in your battle. i’m sending u love & support. use the comments for a groupchat
I’ve had an eating disorder for so long now. Thank you for this very helpful video.
I’m going through this for the second time. As someone with Asperger’s, these thoughts always pop up when something changes in my life and it’s like a method of gaining control back
I just binged and im crying sm rn idk what to do
She refers to children a lot buttttt.... I’m 21 and sick as heck 😂a lot of people I know with Ed’s are adults actually
True. I'm 32 and been struggling with it for 12 years now
it often starts in childhood and carries into adulthood.
I wondered the same thing but I looked in the description and it’s because the program she is a part of treats children and young adults age 8-24 with eating disorders. So it’s a video to parents trying to help they’re kids.
But I think she should have titled the video that way because yeah, it makes older sufferers feel invalid. It’s not her fault, eating disorders are inherently irrational, but I still think a different title could’ve avoided having adult sufferers feel that way.
bruhhh Im 27 :/
True - my aunt got down to 79 pounds and ended up being hospitalized in her late 40s. She still has some issues, but far healthier in her 70s. My mother is 74 and still can get far too thin ... she has battled anorexia for 50 years.
I have a friend who struggles with eating. She doesn't want to and she finally came to me with this iddue. I'm trying to understand and am going to do as much research as I can. I love this person unconditionally. This person literally saved my life twice. I mean literally so this is the most important person in my life for that and also this person has dedicated themselves to true altruism. I i love her so deeply. Can anyone help me better understand her please. She is such a kind and sweet person. Compassionate too. I just want to hug her and tell het it's okay and help her with this but I feel helpless right now. Please. Any advice would be great.
@Katie Johnson She told me and now things have gotten wierd. She asked me to act like we never talked about it and is trying to sweep it under the rug. Our friendship will never go away I'm not concerned about that but she is acting strange and I think she regrets telling me. She feels like I don't think highly of her anymore which I've repeatedly told her is not true. She helped me through drug addiction I she's not just some person to me. She means the world to me and now I'm a little depressed over all of this. She basically told me she eats about 800 calories a day if even that. She said she doesnt force herself to throw up but has thought about it. She is 39 and has been doing this since 14. She was a runner but just had a serious knee injury. She probably will never be the same and that scares her. Her surgery was a week ago and I don't think shes been eating much at all. She doesnt like meat and when she does it its usually a salad. She told me she starves herself and food makes her sick which I know a little bit about. The tummy gets to small to fit food and eating makes you sick.She said she gets hungary but is disiplined in just not eating. I believe the thought of food after so many years of doing this probably kind of makes her sick. Thank you and I'd do anything to help her. She saved my life. If you can help I'd be beyond grateful and I'm more then happy to awnswer any questions if it will help. She said she will do it on her own and asked me to not talk about it and I know I can force her. That just makes it worse but I just want to better understand this so I can at least help her as much as possible. She's my mentor and ex high school teacher so I play the role of the student so I think she feels like she let me down but I'm 30 and I understand addiction and how everyone is messed up in their own way and I thought it was big of her to admit it and tell me.Her cousin also has the same issue. I think that's the only person she really talks to about it. Please help me. This is destroying me on the inside and I'm not okay. I have to act like I'm fine for my family but I truly care about this person and would do literally anything for her. Thank you once again and just getting your message has helped since I can't talk to anyone about this. I'll also say as a guy I really don't understand this meaning I've never delt with it and I'm sure men also have eating disorders but you never hear of it because the shame and stigma it would bring so ive literally never dealt with this in my past. Ive seen a lot as a opiate addict but I don't know anything about this
Just listen....Don't advise, Don't reassure... Just try to be there for her and love her unconditionally.
How is it going so far?
@@timelkin838 I'm so sorry that you've been going through this with someone you love. I'm an opioid addict in recovery for years and for me, it's my 16 yr old niece who has the eating disorder. I love her with all my heart and would do anything for her. She started asking to visit me at my home last fall and I put out a scented candle, got a blanket and wrapped her up and just let her talk. To my amazement, she began telling me about her eating disorder. I understand addiction but I'm really new to the specifics and nuances of this disease and over time I realized she didn't want to talk about it that much. She just needs someone who she feels safe with and her parents don't cut it. Maybe your dear friend is embarrassed now, just as we would be if we told someone about our drug addiction and then that person kept asking questions about it, you know? The fact that she told you is huge. I wish you and your friend all the best. Peace.
Everyone deserves to love and take care of themselves. 💕 :)
I don’t even know if I have one (I don’t think I do) but all I know is I have a problem with food and as much as I want to get better it’s like a drug, an addiction, something that gives me instructions on how to live and go about each and every day. It tells me what I have to do to earn that piece of food and even from time to time I have said I enjoy being this way but on other days I cry and cry and cry because I just can’t live like this any more but I know that if someone tries to take it away, it’s like taking a whole part of me away. It’s like taking away a necessity I need to live and without it I wouldn’t know what to do, how to feel or live. It’s the one thing that consumes my mind, I can’t go a minute without thinking about it or make a choice without it having some say in it and I’m not sure what to do anymore. I want to get rid of this problem but at the same time it’s like my life support and I find my self going back to it every time.
I was bullied for my weight in the past but now that I barely eat anything at all I am slim enough but I get extremely anxious when I eat a small bite of food. I want to get even more skinnier even if it means I don’t eat anything for a week straight , last week I did not eat anything for 3 days and it made me light headed.
My self starvation/ED has been a coping mechanism... A recent breakup... a heart shattering experience, was so much for me to try and process. Like losing a part of myself... The huge gave me something else to focus on... and control... Down 6 pounds in the last 3 days. I don't see a way of life without him... I deserve this suffering.
I was going through the same thing and a bad breakup is actually what kickstarted my ED the first time. You don’t deserve to suffer at all. Everything is a learning experience; even relationships. Feel the feelings, cry if you need to cry, but you have to eat, baby. You can even start off small by eating healthier things or light frequent portions to work your way to regular eating. And before you know it, you will be good again. Ik this was a year ago so I really hope things have gotten way better for you! You’ll find someone again! There’s way too many people in this world to give up hope but just know so many people understand what you’re going through and there are so many communities out there🙏🏾❤❤
I have bullimia for almost 6 years,
i used to be junkie before the bullimic things, then when i got sober i start bullimia in 2015 bc i don't want to gain weight,
I never thought my addiction to bullimia is way more worst than my addiction to meth.
i've had going to therapy but it didn't work, i just can't stop and idk what to do.
Thank you!! I just clicked the button for the alliance and called- got through and felt heard understood and am ready for help!
it’s sad that she doesn’t really consider the binge eating side of eating disorders
I had anorexia but then when I tried to get better I started eating and throwing up my food. I stopped for a while and now I’m relapsing with anorexia, I’m not looking forward to this ):
My cousin has anorexia and she is obsessed with staying that way. Worst part is that non of my family members ever try to help her..
Idk how to put it but ik exactly whats healthy and what isnt, how a person should live and eat and move in order to get their health to the fullest potential their body and mind allows them to. Its just that my eating disorder doesnt give a F, its the first priority for me. "Ik what im doing is wrong but i dont care." I put losing weight, my eating disorder, how i perceive myself in the mirror, how i look in clothes, how small i am, how other ppl tell me "wow ur so skinny and small i wish i looked like that" before my own health and all these aspects (esp comments on weight loss) just seem to feed my eating disorder.
I have struggled for 4 years, i just recently started trying to get better, it took months for my family and friends to make me eat and not erase my food. I am slowly recovering and have been for almost 2 weeks now. Eating disorders are deadly and an unhealthy way to deal with your body image, be kind to yourself! Youre beautiful and always remember when you feel alone and down that there is someone out there who is going to love you for you so dont change a thing! Youre perfectly imperfect and so is everyone else it will be okay and it will get better. Keep holding on and treat yourself with kindness its going to be okay hang in there♡︎
Hi Ava, not sure if you'll read this but my daughter has not been eating for weeks and losing pounds every few days. How did you get on the right track? How can I support her? She says she can't swallow that it hurts and that applies to liquids as well. My wife and I feel helpless trying to find the right program. I sure hope your doing better. Hang in there as well. Thanks for sharing your struggle.
@@pointvicente123 Hi i apologize for not seeing this sooner but i will help the most i can. How i started getting back on track is just eating healthy foods all around so that when i did eat i wouldn't feel bad about what i ate, adventually i started eating more regular foods and trying to just be nicer to myself when i felt bad about the things i ate. for you as a parent i think the best way to support her is just being there for her, let her know you're there for her if she ever needs or wants to talk and if she doesn't want to talk yet dont force her, she will come around if you give her time. But just make sure you know what meals shes ate and try not to let her eat alone because when i ate alone i would tear myself apart for eating and usually end up barely eating anything. i really hope this helps and if not let me know ill try to reword and think of different ways. i really hope your daughter is doing better!
@@AvaD-hr2oo Thank you Ava for responding. She is doing better. After her endoscopy the doctor could only determine that her esophagus was slightly swelling. She hasn't gained much wait since than but she most definitely is able to eat solid foods. This whole thing still is a mystery. As we find out more I'll will try to share. It may be the beginning of acid reflex since her mom has it.
@@pointvicente123 oh wow i hope she gets better soon!
I used to be bulimic and I still battle with it. Whenever I overeat, I try not to purge but then I start to have an anxiety attack and I just start crying so hard. Idk how to help this.
I work in an eating disorder hospital in a domestic role and have seen different levels of the disorder in children and adults, I find it hard to understand, but can relate as I grow up with social anxiety disorder, became alcoholic, and have been hospitalised over the years on more than one occasions due to drinking and seen more than one phycologist so on, I'd love to ask the patients how effects them but I cant
I am just so exhausted and drained by constantly checking calories and eating smallest portions of food ..i just want to eat freely like i did before but i am too scared of feeling the fullness by eating food ..i am too scared of feeling the weight gain..i am too scared of normal looking and finished meals..i am just too scared
A very interesting perspective from Dr. Renee. Eating disorder usually stems from low self-esteem and should be treated. The first step towards treating it is through self-love. A workbook like A Self Help Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Workbook for Eating Disorders by Portia Cruise can be a very handy companion to track your progress, stay motivated, and stay healthy.
Strange thing with me i usually have pains in my ankles, calfs, knees, hips, shoulders and wrists so ive gotten really good at ignoring my body so i can go all day without eating then im like oh shit haven't eaten today almost like the realisation that i almost forgot to do homework i dont mean to forget but it just happens, i know i should eat but im just that forgetful that i need to remind myself to eat
i looked at a picture from a year ago and i couldnt recognize myself and really hated myself for doing cruel things to my body
it literally pained me and my heart was racing
to just see myself look so different and mentally confused with myself
but hey i fixed it
This video explained ED’s exeptionally well, coming from someone who struggles.
I’m 18 now, been struggling since my early teens. No one knows clearly how much I’m struggling and have struggled for the past few years, and for that reason I’ve never been to treatment nor anything like that either.
Just as the video explains, I know I could recover and live a relatively normal life if I just tried to, but I just feel like I’m not willing nor ready to give up my ED, if that makes sense. I know that I’ll probably never be ”ready”, but like the video explains, the ED that has been with me for so long has now become a sort of comfort and like a best friend to me, that I obviously don’t wanna let go of.
I’m so aware that I have a problem with eating, and should open up to someone and seek help, too, but it’s crazy how the ED controls one’s thoughts and behaviour when you actually think that *you* have the control over it😅
My brother was at Rhodes Farm ridgeway and it has changed him and my family for the rest of his life. Its a very complex condition and I am disappointed with the information here and on other videos.
I'm in recovery and it's so terrifying to deal with the fact that from eating nothing or under 100/200 calories a day for years all of a sudden you have to eat a lote parents tells nothing will happen you won't get fat then again I know eating more means gaining weight that's my ed talking alawes in my hed every day I cry when I eat after I eat I fill so bad I fill like giving up but I have to stay strong its like somewhere I know its dangerous but the voice in my hed is way stronger I'm constantly suffering to deal with this thought then again when I was my lowest people saw bones but I still was not satisfied now I'm gaining weight and it's so hard to deal with that voice in your hed when people says your so lucky how skinny you are and parents can't understand "just eat" isn't gonna work it's my mind but I'm trying my best to stay strong 🙏
I don’t even feel hungry, I just don’t eat and my body adapts
I was asked by my grandfather to eat a piece of chicken for $200 and I turned it down because I was afraid, my family is now seeking help and I hope it will make me better for the future
My best friend ana is there for me when no one else is
I struggled with my relationship with food for 5 years straight but I never got help for it. It worsen over the years and just recently, I just got diagnosed with Anorexia Nervosa and now I'm in an eating disorder outpatient program. My intake would be 500 calories or lower everyday and it's sooo difficult to have a whole meal because I feel my stomach is gonna burst because I am eating too much and I'm stretching out my stomach (literally).
for me it started as a weight thing. I got bullied real bad by someone I really trusted for my weight and thats when it started but now its not even about weight its about control. I can control this and I can prove to myself that I don't need food to survive (which is stupid. obviously) but the feeling of hunger is so comforting and even though it can be painful its addicting and I cant just let it go...
I’m the opposite, I like being full.. The comfort of food makes me feel soo good while I’m eating it but I feel sad and agitated afterwards but I keep doing it anyway.. The entire situation makes me feel like an idiot but I still want to do it anyway..
i have bullimia and binge eating, people except my family dont know, everyday i actually feel disgusting with this problem, i just want to change and eat like a normal person. it have been two years, and i really want to stop. but, i still can't fight it. hope i will get better someday
i've struggled with bulimia a few years ago and i really got better, gained weight and lived without any unhealthy eating habits but lately i can't eat without constantly counting calories and monitoring what i eat. when i eat that guilt comes back. i've purged a few times in the last few weeks again and i just don't know why? it came out of nowhere and is just so frustrating, being able to live and eat without constantly thinking about it was so good and now its back and i feel like shit. i want to get better but now i'm afraid that it'll just come back in a few years even if i recover
I completely feel you at that point. I’ve been also struggling with blumia for 2.5 years now and I feel like puking is kind of a friend which affects you bad but you can’t just let that friend go easly. Idk how but it repeats periodically. Hope you get rid of it permanently🙌🏿❤️
It's hard to deal with relatives affected by anorexia. In my case I was raised by a mum affected by anorexia.
I feel the same way.
For some reason, I can’t stand that empty feeling in my stomach, it feels so painful for some reason.
I Been want a perfect body about 2 years now, what I experience is that more & more keep trying to get it, all it does make me really saddened. I do relate with video a lot. Very scary to tell anyone about.
I thought it was just me but it's kinda a relief because i am not really alone. I am kinda naturally skinny and gain a little weight since i am still a teenager needing some development. I didn't mind about my change at first but then people started to tell me that i was putting on weight, which gradually leads to my obssession with being skinny. And tbh i can:t have proper meals and i have constipation as a chronical disease :(
the problem is i know that i'm developing an eating disorder but when i try to give it up or just eat more, there's that voice inside my head that stops me from doing so. wish that it would just go away so that i can go back to my normal life.
I struggle with my eating disorder since I was 13 untill I was 23 i got help from a mental health professional eating and throwing all these years did my body some serious damage
I just threw up today,now I just feel scared to fall into this rabbit hole but at the same time I'm not happy w who I am
For me I want to not lose anymore weight because I don’t want to be dangerously underweight bc I already am, but thinking about going back to eating normally and possible gaining back weight is really scary so I don’t know what to do
i tried to speak to my mum about it today and she told me she wishes i could just have issues with something else bc it’s basically stupid
My issue is that i have it really easy to gain weight and i've been struggling for the last 7-8 years with gaining weight, losing weight, gaining weight again and now back to losing weight, i've not been at the same weight for a long time. Im 185cm and now i weigh 72 kgs, 18 months ago or so i was at almost 100 kgs but the thing is now at 72 kgs im more miserable than ever, im pretty happy with how i look but im so terrified of gaining weight again that i get so obsessed with what i eat and its making me so tired mentally, i even obsess with how much volume of food i eat even when that food is low in calories because im scared that the next morning the scale is gonna go up even if its just water weight and not actual fat gain
I wonder if someone else has suffered or is suffering from being scared of consuming food in high volume(even if that food is really healthy) and if so can give me some advice on how to stop worrying about it? Im really trying,i havent weighed myself in 2 days atleast which is an improvement because usually i weigh myself multiple times a day.
they never talk about that void you want to fill/ignore. and that you can get fatter or fitter from eds. it's monstrous and tbh i'd rather be the cliché anorexic because at least you're somewhat taken seriously
I have been trying for years. Over 10 years now. I relapse constantly. Not sure what to do anymore.
What if, you just dont want to eat but you dont have a lot of those symptoms
Lol sometimes I think imagine how I could change my mindset into a healthy one, the same way I bullied myself into having a bad one
I feel guilty while eating and i feel foggy and sleepy and i think so much while eating
I wanna get better , I wanna let myself eat when I’m hungry, I wanna stop the binge urges , I wanna stop that excitement when I don’t eat enough, I wanna stop eating till I feel like exploding , but those thoughts and emotions I used to think they were mine but I don’t think so anymore . Idk whose those thoughts r but I don’t want them. And for fucks sake it’s hard to recover when people outside comment on ur body and call u fat . I just wanna take a break I want a clear mind , healthy relationship with food . I’m tired
I think I'm kinda developing an eating disorder
Don't.
@@thejazzman4770 I can't control what goes on in my mind or the fact that I don't feel hungry . I don't even eat that much I can't focus myself to eat if I'm Not hungry
@@kathleenburke3172 I know, it's just eating disorders are awful and if you can seek help fast, you are valid and deserve help, don't let it consume you
Kathleen Burke Anorexia doesn’t make you not hungry. I’m fucking starving.
Kathleen Burke If you think you are or worry you might be PLEASE, PLEEEEASE seek help as soon as you can. The first step is recognizing it, then you have to make the decision to get help. Eating disorder treatment can be very effective if it’s done as early as possible in the progression of the illness.
Don’t listen to anyone who says eating disorders are/aren’t this. You depot be happy and if you suspect a problem there’s a good chance you’re correct.
I’m here if you want to talk.
My doctor told me “you don’t control the eating disorder, the eating disorder controls you”
When eating disorder is your best friend
i cant do this anymore
There is no escaping a eating disorder.
I suffer from bulimia, I thought that it wasn’t that bad but I’ve been b/p for for many days in a row and I’m commenting because I’m scared to actually talk about my problem with someone , so this day was the last day of b/p because I hate this lifestyle I still hate myself and + that I have headaches all the time and I don’t want to fuck up my teeth so Im gonna wake up tomorrow and start eating helathy foods and if I have sweets or smth imma try to not throw all that shit up
I don't know why, and could use a friend if there is 1
My sister in law have an eating disorder but she is also verbally abusive . She accuses people of doing bad things that are not true . She is very controlling and calls you every name under the sun . She is very cruel . She was diagnosed
with Bulimia Nervosa and psychosis . There is no reasoning with her . She doesn’t think that there is anything wrong with herself and doesn’t want to believe that she is mentally I’ll .
I'm scared of eating food and especially anything I know is even remotely high in carbs/sugar/fat because I'm worried about my face getting fat. I always feel so bad about myself whenever my fam orders something from outside and I am forced to eat it cuz that's the only option. I always see myself as chubby or fat whereas my friends say I'm fine. is it possible that I have ED
Eating disorders affect all ages. Period.
My sister 15&1/2 has had it for 2 years now she is dug in and fighting still, we don't know what to do, my mom can barely handle the fights the debates the screaming and the childish behavior HELP ME!
How is it going?
@@tclphone2392 Well my sister has recovered mostly, is making her own food and eating well, the 2 years of yelling and insanity took a toll on all of us though
@@luckygames2558 Sorry for what you and your family had to go through and glad she's doing better. Wish somebody helped when you posted though
I wish I can go back and not develop this disorder
Holy shit I thought depression was hard. I’m truly sorry to everyone who has/is going through this. Our brains are assholes.
I think my friend has anorexia and idk what to do?
Talk to her, inform yourself about it and talk to a teacher or her parents ... this is searious eating disorders are the mental illnes with the highest mortality rat(yes even higher than Depression etc)
anni I did and I lost 3 friends over it because she said it was her business and they agreed.The nurse called her parents and she got in trouble by her parents. I have 3 friends lost and almost half of the class turned against me because “my friend”was popular.I should have let her starve.
@@gwendalynnalvarado8277 Hello.
Please don't say that. You really did the right thing even though it may feel like you did the opposite. They'll be hard on you. I was too, with my friend. It's just the feeling of losing the control she has. She's scared shitless and she will thank you eventually. I also am very thankful for the people who saved my life, even though it didn't seem like it back then. It's the eating disorder speaking, not your friend.
Never say that you should have let her starve. It isn't worth it and they all know that. They're just more ignorant than you are in this scenario. Your other friends who followed her, clearly don't know how serious shit like this is.
They'll come by eventually. Now you can make new friends. I'm sure you'll find your people 'cause you seem like a really good caring person.
Hope you're doing okay x
Azra Aktas I won’t say that anymore I’m sorry.She is still mad but I hope eventually in her adult life that I will have helped her.Have a nice day.
You should talk to their parents and be with her or he during treatment
Idk if it manifests in children this way too but you are also extremely moody as well. For me I also became distant from people
I have been struggling with my eating since I was 16 and I'm 19 now and I'm still not getting help for it
Ive been struggling for aall 5 years now
oh...and anyone else 2019...?
Dark Pheonix lmao 2020
when everyone says i have an eating disorder but i disagree with everything renee says. = lol
i’m anorexic and i’m not getting any help. my mom just yells at me everyday saying "you have to eat" and i just keep saying "i already ate” even tho i didn’t 🥺
Amber foley uh do you want help?
That's nuts.
When you do eat, does meat and offal trigger you, or are those less of a problem for you? I've never been anorexic so I don't know what that's like, or how that works. So please, educate me.
Your mum's not helping though imo. She's making you associate eating with drama. Which will just make you not want to eat.
I've heard hypotheses from (frankly quack-) doctors like Natasha Campbell-McBride (such a British name, but she's Russian) that malnutrition (such as an improperly formulated vegetarian diet) can cause anorexia in some. Which is why I ask if offal like liver, possibly kidney (i'll admit to not having gone beyond liver) treats you good.
Sometimes I worry I've given my behavioral interventionist bulimia with the fasting part of the Atkins régime that has worked for my brain health and both his and my metabolism because he fasts all day if he's weight increased and eats by night, and sometimes has mild binges.
i told my mom that i had an bul*mia and she yelled at me
Ellenor Bjornsdottir sorry i’m late 😬 but basically every time i eat i feel sooo guilty and i feel like i’m doing something very wrong and no matter what i eat i feel like i’m gonna gain sooo much weight. it’s scary
Talk to a doctor. I don't actually know the best strategies because I never went to an actual doctor.
I dont want to tell my parents im scared too like what will they think!!!???!??!? I cant
You should never feel scared to tell your parents anything, but if you just can’t do it, reach out to someone else that you feel you can trust (teacher, therapist/counselor, school nurse, a friend, a friend’s parent, aunt/uncle, grandparents etc). Once you reach out to someone, they can help you talk to your parents so it’s not so scary. Your parents love you and should always want the best for you; sometimes, they can’t see the struggles you are going through. Try to find the strength and courage to reach out to someone. Love and support is what will get you on your way to recovery. Sending you lots of love 💛
how can you tell the ED voice vs a rational voice??
I am recovering from an eating disorder every tome the scale number goes up i just wish i could go back to starving myself.And eating once a day.Telling myself i that the scale is lieing i did not loose 23 pounds.Im still fat is what im thinking.Im doing better gained 7 pounds.Was 93 know 100 pounds.
I spend money as soon I get paid so I make sure I have no money to buy food. I buy things that will make me prettier. Makeup, clothes smaller than my current size, skincare and exercise equipment etc.
I feel so good once I fit into my small clothes I bought.
I only feel beautiful when I'm hungry ✨
I felt ashamed the way she referred ED to children only! Anyways as an adult I don’t see it as a friend but rather a helpful coping mechanisms with way so many functions that makes it so hard to replace with other coping mechanisms.
Pls help my brother when we moved to a new home in January and when he got his own room he hasn't been the same he's attitude got ruder he never goes outside or hangs out with me or his friends and is always rude and keeps saying how he hates me and our parents and now he hasn't eaten anything for the past 2 days and passed out today please help