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  • On today's episode of #LetsTalkAboutIt, we're providing ways to help someone who has an eating disorder.
    Instead of just confronting someone saying, "hey, it looks like you've lost a few pounds," come at it from the angle of saying "I've noticed a change in your personality."
    We we'll break it all down and provide tips alongside our partners at Equip.
    Kristina Saffran [CEO + co-founder] and Dr. Erin Parks [chief clinical officer + co-founder] share the importance of having the entire family involved, and setting rules so they don't act on their 'urge to purge.'
    Family-based treatment is important when treating an eating disorder because there is an ambivalence to give it up.
    The more you can equip them with care, education, and resources, the better!
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Комментарии • 87

  • @dilfheeseung
    @dilfheeseung 3 года назад +211

    I think my friend has a eating disorder and won't let me know...I want to watch this and educate myself and help my friend and know I'm here for her 🤧thanks for the vid

    • @k-vy5nt
      @k-vy5nt 3 года назад

      me and my friends have been talking to our friend about her not eating now she’s mad at us but normal to everyone else
      idk what to do someone help

    • @gabrielasharpfish7869
      @gabrielasharpfish7869 3 года назад +1

      Thank you for being a good friend. They are very lucky to have you. Coming from someone who has friends that are ignoring that issue or just don’t care. Thank you for educating yourself.

    • @danh7647
      @danh7647 2 года назад

      This comment & comments to it were a year ago, im in the same position as this guy and I want to help her until she's doing it on her own. Im trying to put together some sheets of what kinds of things to eat and when, and motivate her to go on runs with me. How can I do this?

    • @Taureanfitness
      @Taureanfitness Год назад

      What makes you think she has an ED? I have one so maybe I can give you more specific details you won't find on here

    • @Taureanfitness
      @Taureanfitness Год назад

      @@Baraodojaguary tell your school guidance counselor & they by law have to do something they'll get the parents involved

  • @Aridontexist
    @Aridontexist 3 года назад +78

    My 11 year old sister started to count calories and wont eat she said she just "diet" but i really worried about her. I told her to not do that but she keep saying its non of my business. As an older sibling i really want to help her. Im really worried that she might had eating disorders

    • @PsychHub
      @PsychHub  3 года назад +11

      Thank you for saying something, that's the first step to getting help. Please talk to a trusted adult that can help you and give support. You can also call the National Eating Disorder Association Hotline at 1-800-931-2237, Monday-Thursday 11 am-9 pm, Friday 11 am-5 pm ET, and their online chat option can be located here: www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/help-support/contact-helpline. For 24/7 support, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255 or text the Crisis Text Line (they can be reached for any kinds of mental health concerns), text TALK to 741741.

  • @PianoMusicbyEri
    @PianoMusicbyEri 3 года назад +66

    The “hey I haven’t seen you smile lately.” Is so helpful!

  • @csaurex388
    @csaurex388 2 года назад +73

    My sister, 16, has been struggling with an ED for a little over a year and it’s been really rough watching her go through everything. Thanks for this, I’ve always felt helpless.

    • @PsychHub
      @PsychHub  2 года назад +3

      Thank you for sharing your lived experience. You are taking the first step to dispelling stigma for us all. For support and resources on mental health, the NAMI National Warmline Directory is a great resource, unlike a hotline for those in immediate crisis, warmlines provide early intervention with emotional support that can prevent a crisis - and a more costly 911 call or ER visit. The lines are typically free, confidential peer-support services staffed by volunteers or paid employees who have experienced mental health conditions themselves. For a list of where to find this service in your area please check out the link here -> www.nami.org/NAMI/media/NAMI-Media/BlogImageArchive/2020/NAMI-National-HelpLine-WarmLine-Directory-3-11-20.pdf
      You can also call the National Eating Disorder Association Hotline at 1-800-931-2237, Monday-Thursday 11 am-9 pm, Friday 11 am-5 pm ET, and their online chat option can be located here: www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/help-support/contact-helpline. For 24/7 support, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255 or text the Crisis Text Line (they can be reached for any kinds of mental health concerns), text TALK to 741741.
      We hope you will continue to watch our videos to learn more about mental health, self-care, and ways to support others.

  • @rodrigomonteromiguez6684
    @rodrigomonteromiguez6684 3 года назад +36

    Thank you so much, I’ve been trying my best to help my loved one, but I seem to mess up each time I try to help…

  • @vittoria.lopiccolo7504
    @vittoria.lopiccolo7504 2 года назад +21

    I am sure my friend has an ed, she vomits in order to lose wait and be “as pretty as the other girls” and often tells me she is insicure about her body although I often tell her it’s beautiful, I don’t really know what to do

  • @theaartjourney
    @theaartjourney 3 года назад +9

    I have a friend who stopped eating and passed out today. She just got back from the hospital and told them she “passed out cus of stress”. She said to me that its Healthy and shes being released in a few minutes. She doesn’t see that she needs help, how can I get her to see that?

  • @k-vy5nt
    @k-vy5nt 3 года назад +19

    my friend has barely been eating for 10 days, she’s sad all the time, mad at me and our two other friends but normal to everyone else, she drinks so much water, she played four soccer games and almost passed out and only ate two salads a few fries and some chicken over that whole weekend. we talked to the school counselor and she has only had us observe but i don’t think it’s enough anymore
    my one friend is reacting in an angry way and i’m reacting in a sad way idk how our other friend is reacting but our friend is taking a toll on us
    HELP

    • @busty_crustacean_lady7602
      @busty_crustacean_lady7602 3 года назад +2

      Educate your angry friend about how their approaching it wrong then just try to give your eating disorder friend an overbearing amount of support and hugs

    • @PsychHub
      @PsychHub  3 года назад +5

      Thank you for saying something, that's the first step to getting help for your friend. Please talk to a trusted adult that can help your friend and give them support. You can also call the National Eating Disorder Association Hotline at 1-800-931-2237, Monday-Thursday 11 am-9 pm, Friday 11 am-5 pm ET, and their online chat option can be located here: www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/help-support/contact-helpline. For 24/7 support, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255 or text the Crisis Text Line (they can be reached for any kinds of mental health concerns), text TALK to 741741

  • @Taureanfitness
    @Taureanfitness Год назад +7

    Family based treatment is not always appropriate. I think that it might work for young people if the family themselves are getting therapy and they're willing to get healthy as a family unit. But I think it causes mental strain on their relationships And can really tear a riff and break trust and it's going to be a lot of fighting.

  • @mushroomv5636
    @mushroomv5636 2 года назад +72

    My partner has an eating disorder and they make jokes abt it but I know deep down it hurts them (obviously) so I don’t want to say or do the wrong things. I love them so much

  • @CarlsCozyCorner
    @CarlsCozyCorner 3 года назад +14

    My friend came out to me and another friend as anorexic. I'm here to learn how to help her. Thank you.

    • @PsychHub
      @PsychHub  3 года назад +1

      Thank you for saying something on behalf of your friend, that's the first step to getting her .help. Please talk to a trusted adult that can help both of you and give you support. You can also call the National Eating Disorder Association Hotline at 1-800-931-2237, Monday-Thursday 11 am-9 pm, Friday 11 am-5 pm ET, and their online chat option can be located here: www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/help-support/contact-helpline. For 24/7 support, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255 or text the Crisis Text Line (they can be reached for any kinds of mental health concerns), text TALK to 741741.

  • @sakibartneck
    @sakibartneck 2 года назад +10

    I have a friend who mentioned to me before that they had a eating disorder but no they are having a relapse, they say its just a diet to keep themselves fit for the sports they do and they always talk about wanting to get the summer body, me and my friend have tried to talk to them in the past about it but it never worked out as they always said that they don't have one, I have a sick feeling in my stomach whenever I think about how i feel like im not doing enough to help her, I care for them so much but idk what to do because they keep saying that nothings going on

  • @SuccuberryVT
    @SuccuberryVT 3 года назад +14

    Thank you. Do you guys have Twitter where you post tips and what not to say to someone who has an eating disorder?

  • @lolsf0rlif397
    @lolsf0rlif397 2 года назад +9

    My girlfriend has bulimia and I really want to help her in any way I can. I do my best to check on her all the time and tell her how proud of her I am for her progress and congratulate her for eating. This video talks a lot about family based treatment, but her family makes it worse and doesn’t think of it as an actual problem. They’re actually one of the reasons she developed the eating disorder. Does anyone have any tips for me to help her out more.

    • @PsychHub
      @PsychHub  2 года назад +4

      Thank you for reaching out! Asking for help is a vital step of recovery.
      We recommend checking out the resources in the description of our video that can help you find treatment and support.
      Here’s a quick link to a list of hotlines that can connect you to resources, support, and treatment: psychhub.com/hotlines/
      We hope you will continue to watch our videos to learn more about mental health, self-care, and ways to support others.

  • @joselynramirez9365
    @joselynramirez9365 3 года назад +8

    i’m starting school in 3 weeks and my anxiety is so bad that i can’t eat in the mornings or at school so i need help. i need it bc i’m scared and i want it to go away please

    • @alayciaearl4142
      @alayciaearl4142 3 года назад +5

      It's gonna be okay, just take it one say at a time, nobody is supposed to have everything figured out, I had a lot of anxiety about starting this school year as well, marching band camp has really helped me get a little over it, if you are in any clubs or sports, or anything you enjoy, really focus on that, I wish you the best of luck💖💖💖

  • @faithfraser3843
    @faithfraser3843 2 года назад +1

    My boyfriend has an eating disorder and I try my best to support him and help him when I’m with him but once he goes home I have no way to be there and the cycle just continues. I don’t know what to do because all I want is for him to get better.

    • @PsychHub
      @PsychHub  2 года назад

      Thank you for saying something, that's the first step to getting help. Please talk to a trusted adult that can help you and give support. You can also call the National Eating Disorder Association Hotline at 1-800-931-2237, Monday-Thursday 11 am-9 pm, Friday 11 am-5 pm ET, and their online chat option can be located here: www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/help-support/contact-helpline. For 24/7 support, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255 or text the Crisis Text Line (they can be reached for any kinds of mental health concerns), text TALK to 741741

  • @iggy_horrortime2642
    @iggy_horrortime2642 2 года назад +4

    My girlfriend has a eating disorder, I was small at first back when we were friends she just skipped breakfast and lunch and then.. she started purging and evenchily she would tell me what food was Easy to purge. She is geting better and I'm trying to encourage her but I need hellp to make sure I'm doing it right. I wanna be a good partner for her

  • @meandonlyme9047
    @meandonlyme9047 2 года назад +5

    I really need help. My twin sister is my best friend and I don't know what to do at this point. I suspected her of having an*rexia (I didn't know if this is supposed to be censored or not) around may of 2021, she started to over exert herself in exercise and eat very little, I tried to subtly that I'm worried about it but she's stubborn so she didn't really listen. Around July I saw on her phone that she was in a pro-ana discord chat so I asked her about it and she denied, eventually she told me she was lying to me and promised she would stop, but late July we went to our grandparents house for a couple weeks and I realize after every meal she was throwing it up ( she would lock herself in the bathroom for 5 minutes, after meals, her eyes were watery when she exited, ect), I confronted her about it and she denied it, so I let it go, assuming I was just seeing things. Back in early September my mom saw my sister's notes app open and she had a throwing up log. My mom threatened to send her to a rehab center but my sister promised her she wouldn't do it again, and my mom caved. Lately she has went vegetarian ( she still eats fish but I didn't know how to spell the word for it) so she won't have to eat as much,but today, I saw her eat this cinnamon croissant, and then about 5 minutes later I was sweeping the stairs and I saw her go into the bathroom and lock the door ( which she never does and wouldn't need to do that because she is the only one on the second floor besides me who is sweeping the stairs) the I heard the plopping sound of vomit. Unless she had solid diarrhea, I doubt I heard something else. So now she's throwing up again and I don't know what to do. Do I confront her? Do I tell my mom? Should I gather more information than hearing what I did? I really don't know, she clearly doesn't want to get better, she once told me that her goal weight is 83 pounds which is dangerous for her age and height. Please help me.

    • @sakibartneck
      @sakibartneck 2 года назад +6

      im so sorry to here that omg, although im not a professional therapist, maybe you can try and talk to your parents or a family member, maybe your mum again about how you think she still has one so you can get her to go to a rehab center, i feel that your mum shouldnt be threatening her to go to rehab center because thats a negative way to do it, i think you and your mother maybe should confront her one more time and tell her how much you love and care for her and how you want her to get help, tell her all the negative mental and physical consequences of a eating disorder. and from what you commented she seems to be in a very dangerous situation rn bc vomiting is incredibly unhealthy to do on a daily basis, so although being forced to do anything isnt nice, you kind of have to force her to go to rehab so she can get the treatment that she needs, i hope that helped and I really hope that your sister will get better

  • @sadiyalagayan7730
    @sadiyalagayan7730 2 года назад +3

    My gf has food disorder I’m so worried abt her so imma watch this so that i can help her

  • @LuandPenny
    @LuandPenny 3 месяца назад

    My friend has an wasting disorder and she says she is to far gone and stuff and idk how to help her. ❤

  • @bellacataline8506
    @bellacataline8506 Год назад +3

    I had a young friend a while ago, and just recently reunited with her and her family. She has said many things that signal to me that she is struggling with this, and her actions are glaringly obvious. Her parents don't seem to know or care. I'm not sure how to help her or what to say. We are rarely alone and she doesn't have a phone. I think it is a means of control.

    • @PsychHub
      @PsychHub  Год назад

      Thank you for saying something, that's the first step to getting help. Please talk to a trusted adult that can help you and give support. For 24/7 support, call or text 988. If you or someone else is in danger, please call 911 or go to your nearest emergency department. You are not alone!

  • @andreamiller1285
    @andreamiller1285 3 года назад +3

    So you have to bring someone in. okay, what if the person suffers from agoraphobia and does not have anyone in their life. I'm incredibly curious can you treat them regardless?

    • @CarlsCozyCorner
      @CarlsCozyCorner 3 года назад +1

      There are a lot of organizations that can probably help

  • @eyeofthenile
    @eyeofthenile 2 года назад +3

    I’ve had an eating disorder my entire life.. I am 31 now. I don’t think taking away my control such as using the bathroom freely would have helped me but I could be wrong.

    • @wolfyqueenn1409
      @wolfyqueenn1409 2 месяца назад

      How would someone help so you can feel more content about yourself?

  • @samiraheltahir304
    @samiraheltahir304 3 года назад +6

    This is so helpful.. Thank you so much ❤❤

    • @PsychHub
      @PsychHub  3 года назад

      Glad it was helpful!

  • @Pretentiousforever
    @Pretentiousforever 3 года назад +2

    Hello my friend doesn’t accept any help of even let me and my other friend discus what’s going on without being angry or crying and walking away. I really want to tell her mam as she can actually do someting about it but my friend said if I tell she will be really sad with me please help !

    • @PsychHub
      @PsychHub  3 года назад +1

      Thank you for saying something, that's the first step to getting help. Please talk to a trusted adult that can help your and give her support. You can also call the National Eating Disorder Association Hotline at 1-800-931-2237, Monday-Thursday 11 am-9 pm, Friday 11 am-5 pm ET, and their online chat option can be located here: www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/help-support/contact-helpline. For 24/7 support, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255 or text the Crisis Text Line (they can be reached for any kinds of mental health concerns), text TALK to 741741.

  • @kaleigh5630
    @kaleigh5630 2 года назад +2

    I’ve had an eating disorder since I was 12, I’m 23 now. Definitely have some good years/bad years but currently I’m on a bad streak. My bf has been the most amazing support but sometimes he says “come on you really need to start eating more” or “you really need to start gaining more weight” which I know I do, however at this moment it feels like it’s the only thing I have control of &&&&& I just feel embarrassed when he points it out.

    • @PsychHub
      @PsychHub  2 года назад

      Thank you for saying something, that's the first step to getting help. Please talk to a trusted adult that can help you and give support. You can also call the National Eating Disorder Association Hotline at 1-800-931-2237, Monday-Thursday 11 am-9 pm, Friday 11 am-5 pm ET, and their online chat option can be located here: www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/help-support/contact-helpline. For 24/7 support, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255 or text the Crisis Text Line (they can be reached for any kinds of mental health concerns), text TALK to 741741.

  • @fandujapon
    @fandujapon 5 месяцев назад

    I'm almost 100% sure my friend has an eating disorder and I wish I could do something so he feels less guilty when eating food but unfortunately he lives abroad and I can't really be with him a lot :
    So I wanted to know if someone had any tips for that?
    Also the things to say or to not say to someone with this kind of disorder?

  • @talialawee5997
    @talialawee5997 2 года назад

    But can I tell them something that will help?

  • @thereaper3569
    @thereaper3569 3 месяца назад

    Please answer this my girlfriend lives in a private school/Residencial and shes going through a rough time with this eating disorder she tells me she wants to die she has low self esteem she is stubborn, and she gets very sad when someone talks about it or tries to help I need advice what I should do as her boyfriend should I stand up for her or should I leave it be cud this is hard on me how they approach her makes me upset my teacher talks to her in a annoyed tone of voice and I try to tell my teacher that approach nicer but she always gets above me. So should I stand up for her or should I leave it be????

  • @unaizabaletaaldaz3435
    @unaizabaletaaldaz3435 3 года назад +3

    Thanks for the info :)

  • @TheTesuji
    @TheTesuji Год назад

    Hm. I caught a very dear friend to me, throwing up in the bin room outside my flat. When I did that, I said "thats OK but please just use my bathroom, you are not at fault". After that she did it only once and thanked me for my understanding (5 meals in). With her I calculated the calories she ate, and she realised, that the meal would not change her body. We started talking about why she is doing it, and it is because she hates herself. Now. I do not to stop people from purging. I want to stop people hating themselves. Why is this not mentioned? In my eyes and from personal experience (yes talking about myself), helping people not hate themselves is a wonderful solution!

  • @krisdied
    @krisdied 2 года назад

    My online friend doesnt have a real life support(?)
    Some people of their environment stereotype and just basically dont understand the seriousness of the disorder...
    As i cant physically be with them and we both have a very busy schedule, how can i help them?

  • @xXHuntrzMoonXx
    @xXHuntrzMoonXx 4 месяца назад

    Im not going to disclose my age for safety reasons, but I am a minor and in school
    Every day my friend will come in, barely eat anything, and ask to go to the bathroom to throw it back up
    Shes stated multiple times that it's not only because she's insecure but because she's suicidal
    I've been trying my best to get her help but we don't want to tell her family because she doesnt live with her dad and her mom is neglectful and she's said she's hit her a few times before and doesn't care much for her mental health so we feel like if we were to tell her mom most she'd do is just ground her and yell at her for it instead of trying to help
    I've been trying to look into ways of helping with the situation and this video did help a little so thank you ❤

  • @bevneesam7994
    @bevneesam7994 2 года назад

    My 12 year old grandaughter been self harming several months an stopped eating 1 month ago. Crux is her self image of belief of fat n stupid n ugly,she was drawing herself at 10 like this. Thankyou so much fir this

  • @kayeurbano
    @kayeurbano Год назад

    My friend used to have an eating disorder. And now that it is break she has gotten worse and she has been going back to the same path she has been on before. Idk how to help her. I don’t know how to comfort her

  • @imfromtambunan
    @imfromtambunan 3 года назад +2

    thank you for this

    • @PsychHub
      @PsychHub  3 года назад

      You're very welcome!

  • @Thexdsquad22
    @Thexdsquad22 Год назад

    I have anorexia bulima. I feel so out of control .how do I help myself please

  • @caitlyntrott30
    @caitlyntrott30 2 года назад

    for the one with blonde hair please go get your thyroid checked!

  • @LACteam08
    @LACteam08 Год назад

    What if I’m trying to help someone with ED and they’re pushing back? What if I’m far away I.E. not in the same household/state as the person dealing with ED?

    • @PsychHub
      @PsychHub  Год назад

      Thank you for your comment and for seeking help for someone in your life. The National Eating Disorder Association Hotline is a great resource and they can be reached at 1-800-931-2237, Monday-Thursday 11 am-9 pm, Friday 11 am-5 pm ET, and their online chat option can be located here: www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/help-support/contact-helpline. For 24/7 support, call or text 988, the Crisis Text Line (they can be reached for any kinds of mental health concerns).

  • @miyagameplays28
    @miyagameplays28 Год назад

    What if their family woudnt be so supporting of it? My friend is struggling with ED and doesnt want to ask for help cause she thinks they will only make it worse. What should I do about this ? We are both minors and there isnt really much I can do to help her :(

    • @PsychHub
      @PsychHub  Год назад

      Thank you for saying something, that's the first step to getting help. Please talk to a trusted adult that can help you and give support. For 24/7 support, call or text 988. If you or someone else is in danger, please call 911 or go to your nearest emergency department. You are not alone!

  • @amelieciel
    @amelieciel 2 года назад

    Hey, i have a question.
    There‘s this girl at my school, i‘m pretty sure she has an eating disorder. I don‘t know her at all, but i want to help her. It looks like nobody cares about her ed. What can i do?

    • @PsychHub
      @PsychHub  2 года назад

      Thank you for saying something, that's the first step to getting help. Please talk to a trusted adult that can help you and give support. You can also call the National Eating Disorder Association Hotline at 1-800-931-2237, Monday-Thursday 11 am-9 pm, Friday 11 am-5 pm ET, and their online chat option can be located here: www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/help-support/contact-helpline. For 24/7 support, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255 or text the Crisis Text Line (they can be reached for any kinds of mental health concerns), text TALK to 741741.

  • @luliwant
    @luliwant 2 года назад

    my partner has and ed and theyre falling back into old habits and im not even there bc of long distance. last time they were close to organ failure and its so much worse this tjme. they are already at an 0 cal limit a day mindset. im only 16 and im so helpless

    • @PsychHub
      @PsychHub  2 года назад

      Thank you for saying something, that's the first step to getting help. Please talk to a trusted adult that can help you and give support. You can also call the National Eating Disorder Association Hotline at 1-800-931-2237, Monday-Thursday 11 am-9 pm, Friday 11 am-5 pm ET, and their online chat option can be located here: www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/help-support/contact-helpline. For 24/7 support, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255 or text the Crisis Text Line (they can be reached for any kinds of mental health concerns), text TALK to 741741.

  • @Thebuffestgal
    @Thebuffestgal 2 года назад

    How do you help someone who doesn't want to recover?

  • @snugglebear5583
    @snugglebear5583 2 года назад

    hello! i wanted to talk to you about my cousin, jake. we have been very close
    since birth, as we are of similar ages!
    my whole life, i've noticed his avoidance
    to most foods (at the moment, i've only
    ever seen him eat unhealthy foods)
    even when he does have a meal (almost
    always chicken tenders/chicken
    nuggets with a side of jello), he doesn't
    even eat all of it. when it comes to
    dinner time, our family normally goes
    out to dinner. jake always tries to take
    the subject away from him eating (ex:
    the entirety of the day he'll be moody,
    rude, and ignore us, and when dinner
    time comes he'll begin talking to us to
    avoid attention being brought towards
    him not eating.) also, when i asked him
    about it, he informed me the pills he is
    taking for his adhd caused it. his family
    decided that instead of trying any sort of
    therapeutic tools to help his adhd or
    anything like that, they jumped straight
    to medication. these pills cause him to
    not feel hungry, therefore when it's time
    to eat, he only eats a selection of foods. his mindset has become increasingly more unhealthy and concerning. it worries me if this will affect him once he becomes older! any suggestions on how i can help?

    • @PsychHub
      @PsychHub  2 года назад +1

      Thank you for saying something, that's the first step to getting help. Please talk to a trusted adult that can help you and give support. You can also call the National Eating Disorder Association Hotline at 1-800-931-2237, Monday-Thursday 11 am-9 pm, Friday 11 am-5 pm ET, and their online chat option can be located here: www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/help-support/contact-helpline. For 24/7 support, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255 or text the Crisis Text Line (they can be reached for any kinds of mental health concerns), text TALK to 741741.

  • @Chorochronchotor
    @Chorochronchotor 3 года назад

    Well, how can I do that when it's my wife? She had had the worst of it before we met, she was hospitalized for a long time, it went south and she nearly died of blood poisoning on account of being so weak her immune system was unable to cope with the infection, probably from contaminated iv. We met when she was stable and quite well, fell in love usual stuff... then we had our first child. Pregnancy was awesome, she looked well and cared properly for our unborn child (we were not making love often during that time on account of my fear of harming the child - I know it's not strictly rational but I somehow can't bear the possibility) she knew the reason and seemed OK with it. Sometime after giving birth to our first boy it got bad though and she fell into her old habit of losing weight and purging and all the usual stuff common for anorexia. On top of it, she was adamant about breastfeeding as long as she would be able. I and both our families tried to snap her out of her old habit to no avail. It got bad quite fast, she weight under 37kg (81.571 pounds) Then it got suddenly better during the time her father was dying and after he died... I guess she forgot to hate herself during that time, she had to be strong for him... (she is quite selfless and sensitive) when it was all over she was good enough physically that she could start to heal mentally. That is at least my interpretation of the events, This account might not be entirely correct, but that is how I remember it and how I explain it to myself - it has been some time. Then everything was okay for over 3 years until our second son was born. It was quite eventful. Due to covid restrictions, we did not manage to get to the hospital in time and our baby was born at a gas station on the way there. But that episode probably brought us even closer if anything. I love her very much. After she gave birth to our second son it was great for a brief time, we made love passionately and often for some time and lived a happy life, but for some reason, her anorexia started to creep back in again. I did not realise it for some time since it's normal for the female body to change after pregnancy and also she was a happy and loving mother and wife so I was unable to imagine the more unlikely situation to fall back into her old habits. But well it happened and now, 8 months later she weighs under 40kg again. She knows I know, she knows our families know and that we are all very worried about her, her health and about our children. she herself dreams about having a daughter and even pinned a mantra on our fridge that says " I have to eat healthily so I might be given my beloved dreamed of daughter one day." But she does not act on it. She does not eat enough, she purges often, claiming it to be out of stress induced by having to keep the house in order and kids well looked after. She looks for every reason not to eat, and would rather wash the flor several times a day than have a meal. Nothing can wait but her meals. I have to admit I'm getting quite angry with her and I'm barely able to control my temper. I love her very much but she is also the mother of my children and they deserve a healthy mom and frankly need Her far more than a shiny flor or well-cleaned room. She makes it even harder by constantly caring about my diet and forcing the food down my throat while she is vanishing in front of my eyes day by day. I'm well over twice the weight of my whole family combined so I would rather lose some weight but I can't because it would make her go ballistic. I don't know what to do. I'm exhausted. I can not watch her all the time since I have to go to work and provide (I'm the only earner in the family). She is at home with children ad can do whatever and I would never know. I'm tired of asking because I hate her lying to me. I can't get her to enter a programme because she has a small kid and barely a toddler to care for and she would not go anyway, I tried to involve the wider family, but its reach is limited bordering with nonexistent. We don't make love anymore because it is just painful to me to see her like this. Even though she is very attractive when "in remission" she is quite repulsive like this. I'm sorry for the strong word but she looks like a draped over skeleton and I can't make myself feel otherwise even though I still love her and want to just hug her. It's so difficult to not just see, but also to feel how far she has gone. I'm afraid she will die. I'm the one who should take the bullet, it's my job to protect the family but I feel so useless in this situation. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm grasping at straws, like strangers wherever online for a piece of advice that would give me the slightest hope. I know it's not very probable you could say anything to help, well Hope is the last to die I guess...

    • @MrTruthAddict
      @MrTruthAddict 2 года назад

      I've been through that with an ex. She needs to be admitted to a hospital that specializes in this. When they are this deep into it they need full time monitoring. This disorder is a monster that takes over. She can't fight it herself. You need to get her into a program and get her hospitalized

  • @17anthony
    @17anthony 2 года назад

    My gf has one and idk what to do:(

    • @PsychHub
      @PsychHub  2 года назад

      Thank you for taking the first step and expressing your struggle. By asking for help for your girlfriend, you are taking the first step to dispelling stigma for us all. We hope you will check out the links to the resources in the description box for where to learn more and where to get treatment and support.
      For support and resources on mental health, the NAMI National Warmline Directory is a great resource, unlike a hotline for those in immediate crisis, warmlines provide early intervention with emotional support that can prevent a crisis - and a more costly 911 call or ER visit. The lines are typically free, confidential peer-support services staffed by volunteers or paid employees who have experienced mental health conditions themselves. For a list of where to find this service in your area please check out the link here -> www.nami.org/NAMI/media/NAMI-Media/BlogImageArchive/2020/NAMI-National-HelpLine-WarmLine-Directory-3-11-20.pdf

  • @bevneesam7994
    @bevneesam7994 2 года назад

    Thank you 😊 💓

  • @yeri8018
    @yeri8018 3 года назад +1

    My family doesn't support me at all,, one time that i told my sister about my eating disorder ,, i didn't know that she gonna make fun of me in front of everyone literally .... I didn't expect that,, now no one with me and everyone i loved make fun of the idea that i went to diet,, i have no one now im struggling alot,, someone help me i don't want to die please 😭😭😭

    • @totallynormalcat8048
      @totallynormalcat8048 3 года назад +1

      Its hard to overcome just take things slow and think about what will make you happy. Don’t let other people define your happiness if they make fun of you then it isnt your fault just know that even if you dont believe it, there are people who understand what your going through.

  • @pita_1oy245
    @pita_1oy245 Год назад

    pls answer me this i have crazy genes i wouldve been atleast 6'3 if i ate good in my childhood and every day but i have severe eating disorder and im 16 and 5'9 i am starting to eat healthier and im noticing pain all over my body is that a sign that im growing? and money is a problem too with my parents working alot to get money so they cant make food and i cant make ood when i dont know how to make food when we aint got food at home and im its only now im making a lil money and i can make food here and there but its only when i eat consistent for like 2 days and ill slack a bit for 3 days barely eating its so hard cause i need energy for when im playing basketball too but its hard so i cant play when im a little guy on the court

    • @PsychHub
      @PsychHub  Год назад

      Thank you for saying something, that's the first step to getting help. Please talk to a trusted adult that can help you and give support. You can also call the National Eating Disorder Association Hotline at 1-800-931-2237, Monday-Thursday 11 am-9 pm, Friday 11 am-5 pm ET, and their online chat option can be located here: www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/help-support/contact-helpline. For 24/7 support, call or text 988, the Crisis Text Line (they can be reached for any kinds of mental health concerns).

  • @chicksgrowtoo
    @chicksgrowtoo 2 года назад

    I wish you would do a video on how to lovingly confront someone that’s dying before your eyes. And I wish I was exaggerating, but I’m not. 😭

    • @PsychHub
      @PsychHub  2 года назад

      Thank you for saying something, that's the first step to getting help. You can call the National Eating Disorder Association Hotline at 1-800-931-2237, Monday-Thursday 11 am-9 pm, Friday 11 am-5 pm ET, and their online chat option can be located here: www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/help-support/contact-helpline. For 24/7 support, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255 or text the Crisis Text Line (they can be reached for any kinds of mental health concerns), text TALK to 741741.