We, humans, are braver than we realise - we were just never taught how wonderful we are in school - so that is why I made my course, so people (when they are ready) can learn how to reprogram themselves the way they should have been when they were kids! It is never too late to find courage, calmness and self-worth! :-) www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
I replaced my OCD in thoughts with cognitive awareness.... now I'm an expert at it. I was given a dose of 30mil of escitalopram (dangerous dosage) by a psychiatrist and weaned myself off them completely. Brazilian jiu-jitsu saved my life, now I'm complementing it with yoga, breathwork, walks in the park, eating clean, high water intake, less caffeine. I'm not a master of my own mind yet, but I will be some day. Breathwork (at least) should be a part of every person's daily routine. The mind can be conquered peeps, the intrusive thoughts can be irradicated and mental freedom can easily be enjoyed.
Please try daily deep breathing and meditation. It will cure you. It will be hard in start, but Don't give up. There is proof of brain scans that meditation can rewire our brains withing just 6 weeks. There are many types of meditation. Since you're a beginner, you should do some easy meditation, like transcendental meditation. I started it as a beginner and it was very good for instant focus.
I know, it soul destroying and exhausting isn't it? But there is much you can do if you get the right information. Perhaps check these videos out too? Best wishes John Video 1 ruclips.net/video/nXk75ezkRK4/видео.html Video 2 ruclips.net/video/yHejSfrg_iE/видео.html Video 3 ruclips.net/video/zf1J4Vwjg9Y/видео.html
A small tip... "Defy yourself!" Don't do what your brain tells you. "Disobey!" Show yourself the middle finger and grab a cool drink and chill like a boss...
As someone who has suffered and currently battling with ocd for 20 solid years there are a few things that have really helped out: 1. Fluoxetine medication 2.Meditation 3.walking/hiking 4.magnesium 5.vitamin D 6.zinc 7.calming Tea 8.this video
Please try daily anulom vilom and meditation. It will cure you. It will be hard in start, but Don't give up. There is proof of brain scans that meditation can rewire our brains withing just 6 weeks. There are many types of meditation. Since you're a beginner, you should do some easy meditation, like transcendental meditation. I started it as a beginner and it was very good for instant focus.
YOU ARE and absolute genius !! YOU...described MY OCD almost to a TEE and...for the FIRST TIME in MY ENTIRE LIFE, gave me a NEW perspective on this miserable condition I have had most of my adult life !! You, are a TRUE GIFT and your pointing out that anxiety IS the ROOT cause and that ADDRESSING anxiety is the BEST way to get this miserable condition O-U-T of ones life is just PRICELESS !! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU !!!!!!!!!!
Thank you Dave. When you separate the underlying anxiety from the OCD, good things happen. You then find the values and beliefs you have that are supported by the OCD and let them go too!
Yeap. I was AMAZED as I keep feeling like no one gets me and no one can help. I feel trapped and in a loop. I cried so much to this. I wish my partner could understand
I have been in John's patreon course for the last 7 months and just have to say how much of a positive change it has made to me, before finding it I really thought that I was stuck with OCD. I am now anxiety free 95% of the day and my obsessive thinking has almost disappeared, they still come up but now with Johns teaching I know I don't have to try and find a solution, the solution is not thinking! I feel like a whole new person, it really is such an in depth and brilliant course and John makes so easy to watch and learn from! If you are feeling stuck and hopeless, give it a go! you really can make the changes you want!
@@azerty3557 my therapist told me this that it's our own critical voice. You need to stop listening to it and have faith in your own understanding of yourself
I recently went through terrible trauma and have noticed the development of these obsessive thoughts (first intrusive thoughts) in my mind. Initially, I wanted to admit myself to a hospital or something- I thought I was an awful human being for even considering harming someone I care about, even if I would never on my life go through with it. Then, with the help of videos like these, I started to regain a level of control and comfort over my reactions to these thoughts that I cannot control. Thank you for broaching this topic, and to anyone reading, YOU ARE NOT CRAZY! You are simply going through a period of difficulty and it WILL GET BETTER! Sending all the love your way!!
Without any doubt this is one of the best video's I have ever seen on this subject. Your explanation is accurate and to the point. Really enjoyed watching it.
Brilliant. Best ever explanation of OCD. Here are some methods that work (long but very useful): When your own mind, which knows your darkest secrets turns on you, because it forgets to love itself (a basic characteristic of all living beings), it can bring untold misery - an enemy that knows more about you than you. Unconditional self-love works like a charm against OCD. Self-love brings unconditional security, which kills anxiety like light removes darkness. Love yourself unconditionally. OCD either forces you to a life of suffering or it makes you a liberal saint. OCD gives you your own deep embedded sociopath self out to sabotage you. But this personal inner sociopath melts at the touch of kindness, security and intimacy. Every animal, however ferocious with other animals, is always gentle with itself. Then why not you? Love yourself, be secure, and befriend your subconscious scheming sociopath monster with love. Hating him/her will only feed its manipulations and motivations. Embrace thy enemy. Ask "why? and "for whose benefit?" when the monster accuses and suggests crimes. Even the most sociopathic monster child breaks down in the face of unrelenting self-love. Absence of fear is fearlessness. But the opposite of fear is security and love. Shower yourself with it, all your selves, outer to innermost, innermost first, including the sociopath. Works like magic. Unconditional self-forgiveness is a major component of unconditional self-love. Digging up the past is repeating the same thought crimes. No human court or logical system does that. Why you? Guilt-tripping is half the disorder. Too much fake accusation and too much forced guilt where you are not guilty. Shaming and making you feel guilty is half the joy of the sociopath inside. Ask him/her why all the scheming, when everything is otherwise ok? It then boils down to perceiving wrongly pain as joy. Which is the the backbone of the socioapth's motivations. A normal self-loving sociopath does not inflict pain on himself/herself. Tell that to your inner sociopath. Talk to the inner sociopath every day. He/she can be reformed quickly with security and love.
The Daves I Know thank you thank you so much for sharing, I really needed this and I’ll try to take into full consideration everything that you’ve written down 😁💯🤗
This is the best short video I have come across on ocd. It explains so much and makes complete sense. It made me think about things I hadn't considered problems before. Excellent!
This is so well made! Finally someone who says something like “Pull yourself together”. I don’t have OCD myself but I’ve dealt with a lot of intrusive thoughts. So thank you!
thank you so much for this, like genuinely this has really given me such a better perspective on OCD and the roots of it, i literally began crying because of how nice it is to just hear someone talk about it who actually understands what it’s like to go through something so tough. thank you so much
You are so very welcome! There are more free videos in my youtube channel and I have a whole OCD course too (should you be interested?). Best wishes John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
This, even though I'm not diagnosed with OCD, was really helpful for dealing with some of my paranoia and vivid intrusive thoughts. Plus, this video calmed me down because you have a really soothing voice. Thank you so much!
That is very kind of you to say, thank you. I am working on lots more videos that will be released over the coming months at www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
When I was a kid I was so confused why am I like this. Then I learned about OCD and I realized it's actually a thing and I'm not alone in this journey. There are people who understands me. I'm still going through it but I'm being more kind to myself than before.
I love you for putting this video up. I have terrible anxiety and after having children I had horrible thoughts. I'm exhausted fighting it everyday. Thank you
Yes, this is common and very scary just before or just after child birth fearing you may harm the child in some way. It's just OCD fear through your exhaustion from worrying too much. Check out my other videos as they will give you ideas to calm your mind. John
@@TheCalmnessinMindProcess thank you so much your video helped me get a therapist at the age of 35. I googled you but I'm in scotland and your so far away x
I hope they can help, if not, I work via Skype (all over the world) as there are not too many people who specialise in OCD or have overcome it themselves. Glad you are getting help, best wishes John
Thank you so much for this amazing and informative content. I honestly learned more from watching your 18-minute long video than I learnt in 6 years of 'therapy'. Thank you so much and God bless 🙏
@@TheCalmnessinMindProcess I wanted to know if my friend can contact you? He had OCD many times and needed help, I think he had already contacted you on this video but he wanted me to try as I guess he didn't receive response. please let me know
For almost three years I've been doing OCD type stuff. I have a hard time believing in myself and my body. I clean everyday and disorder scares me. I hate going out for fear of something bad happening. This video has opened my eyes to the fact that this is not normal. Thank you so much and God bless.
Glad it helped - I have a range of other videos too Video 1 ruclips.net/video/nXk75ezkRK4/видео.html Video 2ruclips.net/video/yHejSfrg_iE/видео.html Video 3 ruclips.net/video/zf1J4Vwjg9Y/видео.html John
you're a g for this my guy. suffering from this condition since a young age has taken a tremendous toll on my brain. i've had to learn so much to not live in misery, like i'm sure many people do unknowingly because they don't understand OCD. thank you!
] There is a way to rise above the conditioning of OCD and if you follow the course amazingly positive things can happen - www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
I have been dealing with this OCD for awhile now and it's nice to know that I'm not just no matter what a horrific person. These thoughts have tortured me and when I have had them I just break down and it's great that we have people who know about these mental disorders. Thank you!
Thank you so much for this video. My whole immediate family deals with OCD and I always told myself I didn't deal with it, but it really effects my day to day life in a way I never realized. So many people joke about it and don't seem to understand that it's more than just wanting things a certain way.This video was very informative and I really truly appriciate it.
Perhaps you and your family might like to watch these other videos together and discuss them? Video 1 ruclips.net/video/nXk75ezkRK4/видео.html Video 2 ruclips.net/video/yHejSfrg_iE/видео.html Video 3 ruclips.net/video/zf1J4Vwjg9Y/видео.html John
I stumbled across this video while researching something for myself and I am sitting here, jaw hanging slack, absolutely dumbfounded. Over the last 15 years or so I have been gradually losing my younger sister to a cluster of the most perplexing, upsetting, frustrating, hurtful, and bizarre set of behaviors and speech. I feel like she has gradually morphed into something completely unrecognizable from the happy, goofy kid I grew up with. This video just gave me hope that she is not completely lost. Oh my goodness. I can’t believe I never saw it before. It explains EVERYTHING. The grumpy, harsh, worrying, controlling/presumptuous behavior, bizarrely abnormal, religiously influenced stiff and rigid way of talking and thinking, germ, cleanliness, and health obsessions, difficulties with work, difficulties with her husband, myself, and our parents, difficulties making and keeping friends, actual health problems and pain, overthinking, worrying about EVERYTHING.... It’s plain as day to me now that my little sister has OCD. I have taken notes on the video and sent it to my mom and I trepidatiously await morning so that I can approach my sister. Thank you SO MUCH for this practical and clear presentation. I hope and pray that she is receptive. She has been suffering so badly for so long. Thank you again.
I hope your sister can find help as OCD can be managed with the right program, i have other videos in my channel that explain how to understand OCD that she might find useful. Best wishes John.
After going to therapy i realized that since my childhood and early teens i developed ocd, it just wasn't life altering, i though it was normal to be like this, when my dad passed and witnessing him leaving us i went into a deep depression that somehow made my ocd explode, at the time i did not know what was going on and believed everything my ocd told me, i was going crazy, considered ending my life because the thought's where so strong and horrible and i believed i was transforming into this monster so i just could not live with that. After reading a lot on the subject, listening to podcast and most important, going to therapy i feel much better but i still have a long way to go. I love my life, love my wife, pets, job,traveling, surfing, camping,etc and ME and YOU dont deserve this!!!. If you are reading this there is hope, hold on to your life and your freedom, we will get through. There is a line in a song called Brain Damage by Pink Floyd that says "there is someone in my head but its not me" it perfectly describes whats going on but remember its NOT YOU, calm down, let the thought's in, dont give a fuck about them, go to therapy, its hard, some times the anxiety will sky rocket, but its way worth it.
I had ocd few years ago after treatment i was finally able to get rid of it. But during this lockdown its comming back. But your voice is very relaxing.Thank you.
WOW WOW WOW THIS IS THE BEST THING EXPLAINED TO ME EVER! ITS LIKE I WANT TO DO STUFF LIKE TRAVEL WHEN IM OLDER AND I CANT WAIT LIKE I REALLY WANT TO GO PLACES BUT IM TOO SCARED AND ITS ANNOYING BUT OMG THIS HAS HELPED SO MUCH!!! THANK YOU!!!
So here’s what I have learned you. Can cope. It is possible. I’ve never had this but after university, holy wow. Did this just ever come about.... I really think it boils down to circumstances of stress... because from what I can understand, stress creates anxiety which creates OCD. So keep yourself calm know that you will are in charge and will not do anything; because you do not have to believe everything your mind thinks.
Your brain can be rewired - by facing fears (whilst 'consciously' pretending to be calm) repeatedly. You have to (consciously) talk slowly and softly, whilst relaxing your body, whilst facing your fears, repeatedly. Repeatedly. Repeatedly. Repeatedly. Repeatedly. Repeatedly. Repeatedly. www.johnglanvill.com
Good for you - you are just a complex personality and need to understand yourself better - that is what my course teaches if you are interested? John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Very helpful video ! I have been battling with OCD for a while now and been trying to figure out a way to get rid of it , little did I know I was doing everything wrong , this video really helped me a lot ! Thank you so much ! Will keep watching your videos so I can better understand myself and OCD
Our daughter developed OCD and intrusive thoughts more as she learned things during school. What we learn we can become afraid of and it depends on the person. When you were a toddler you'd walk off the edge of a skyscraper because you weren't aware of the danger. As we mature, what we learn can affect certain people and cause anxiety. That "fear" of certain things eventually causes more anxiety and OCD becomes a way for the brain to try and cope with it. You must understand your fears and work with a therapist to uncover why you have anxiety. Then, the OCD goes away, but it takes time to retrain the way you think. GET HELP as soon as you can because life should be fun! Like he mentioned in this video, find someone understands anxiety/OCD and begin a program. You will have to know your fears and expose those fears and once you know those things will not harm you, the fears will fade and so will the OCD. OCD is basically a common learned behavior that became a conditioned way of life due to fears. You can do this! Conquer your fears and enjoy the world around you. When you were a child you were probably fearless. Find that again. :)
Thanks for this video I’m really REALLY struggling with my ocd during this lockdown - more so than I ever remember before. The same thought keep whirling around in my head and has been for weeks - since lockdown started. I’ve ruminated, I’ve researched, I’ve analysed every freaking detail of it and then analysed it again until I’ve observed the thought from every conceivable angle. Then I’ll think of a NEW angle to analyse it from and it will start all over again. It’s driving me absolutely nuts and it won’t stop. I’m exhausted, and because I’m not working I have nothing to distract myself from the thought and it’s just there. All. The. Time. Then of course the compulsions and rituals arise, which tire me out even more. I’ve never been so tired in my entire life.
So frustrating isn't it? try these videos, they will give you a better idea of where you thoughts are coming from. John Video 1 ruclips.net/video/nXk75ezkRK4/видео.html Video 2 ruclips.net/video/yHejSfrg_iE/видео.html Video 3 ruclips.net/video/zf1J4Vwjg9Y/видео.html
My personal experience tells me that you CAN ABSOLUTELy get over OCD. I expereinced it for 3 years. After that I lived the best 3 years of my whole life. However, after a very stressful year, and breaking up with my girlfriend (well, ex girlfriend), I have relapsed, and as the video says at the end, OCD makes you doubt EVERYTHING, and it will make you doubt about even the things you love the most... At first I experienced fear of being gay (when I was 17)... Now, I am obsessed with my past... The possitive part of this relapse is that I am getting to know myself even more and more. I am doubting things that, of course, are stupid... But my problem has been that my therapists don't adress my anxiety, they refuse to give me medication, which I think is very important: in my case, if there's no anxiety, there are fewer chances for me to start the process of thinking and thinking and thinking. I don't have physical compulsions, they are just mental, cheking if what I remember is actually true. I am obsessed with whether I really loved my ex-gf... And makes me suffer so much. However I want to tell you (and myself) that you can get over this, and when you get over it you will enjoy life more than other people, you will find the value of little thigns, trust me, YOU WILL GET OVER IT, AND IT WILL BE AMAZING!
Iyan Eki hey bro!! Of course we're not. As I said I got over that. You can get over it. I haven't had a thought like that for almost 4 years now. Now my obsession is different, I doubt of my past... I have to constantly check if what I remember is true.... so what I'm sayisng is that it's all OCD. You will doubt. Just doubt. No matter what. We have to learn to let our thoughts come and go.... thoughts don't mean anything. It seems easy but it's actually very difficult hehe. Sorry but I prefer not to share my insta. Greetings!
My brain is constantly flooded with negative thoughts... If I'll not touch the switch then maybe the electrical appliance will catch fire... I'm constantly worrying about my loved one's life... That they may get depressed about something I did and they'll die and I'll not be able to get over that (whether it's my mistake or not)... It's just a whole mess in my brain I need constant reassurance... Help
Classic OCD negative thinking. This scenario usually has associated perspectives such as, feeling excessive responsibility, low self-esteem and co-dependency. Rather than working on the OCD (which is a symptom) you need to be working on those other aspects of your personality if you want real change in your life. John
I had OCD from around age 16 making sure everything was turned off in my home when I leave because of the fear of a fire starting and the animals I own burning to death because of actions I didn't take to protect them. Recently I've developed pure o and have been having the most disturbing instrusive thoughts. Thoughts that went against my morals and made me feel depressed and eventually caused a mental breakdown. I've been meditating recently and learning to not believe every thought that occurs in my mind and only choose thoughts that empower me. Once you start living in the present moment life becomes alot clearer.
Good for you, the quicker you get help the sooner you can get out of this fearful way for thinking and behaving. John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
It explains what is OCD, tries to be as broad as possible then points to their patreon if you want to get help. That feels scammy since they are targeting a susceptible group, like a MLM or coaches, if we are sesrching this kind of video it usually means we are easily manipulated people.
Sorry you feel this way. I am trying to provide a resource for $3 per month for people who cant afford professional therapy or help with OCD. The first three videos are free (links in notes under video) - I would welcome your thoughts on them and on my plan the help people. Thank you, John.
Thank you so much, I am trying to make a living from doing this, but keeping the cost as low as possible so nearly everybody can join. I am also, trying to live my life inline with these videos (as best I can) so my anxiety and OCD never returns - so far, so good!
If a person has OCD it means they are being easily manipulated by their own unconscious thoughts - I find this more scary and the pace to start when you are looking for change. John
I appreciate having stumbled upon this. Having been socialised in religious/spiritual communities, I was taught that "my thoughts manifest my reality" without any real context on my obsessive thoughts reflecting underlying anxiety and unconscious patterns of behaviour. Telling my mind that it is the sole creator of my life resulted in me trying desperately to control my thoughts with other thoughts. It's been exhausting, and I'm grateful for this sort of insight.
Well - sad thoughts generate sad emotions and happy thought generate happy emotions, regardless of the truth of what is happening around you. However, anxious people need the world to be different so they feel good. Happy people have an attitude of happiness, optimism and trust. Did you watch videos 1, 2 and 3 in my youtube channel? They start to explain how this works. Best wishes John.
What most people fail to recognise about the law of attraction are... Firstly, the level of consciousness of the person affects how much energy is available for them to collapse the waveform of potentiality into actuality. And secondly, the person needs to be at a corresponding consciousness for what they are asking for. It's no use asking for a confident and funny partner if you are an anxious and nervous person. The best person to explain this is Dr David R Hawkins and his map of consciousness, it is fascinating and explains so much! Best wishes. John
@@TheCalmnessinMindProcess hi again John. I am going through your videos and I've found them super helpful so thank you 🙏 with regards to your response on my earlier comment, I completely hear you. It is only that, when you have anxiety that pops up as obsessive and deeply upsetting thoughts, it's quite disturbing for people to tell you to "quickly switch them off otherwise they will come true". So I totally hear and value your response, and your videos have, in fact, helped me to begin to turn my thoughts around. Baby steps 😅 but knowing, as you put it, that I am not my thoughts (as my thoughts themselves suggest), really puts me at ease. I get a bit panicked when this happens, out of the need to control my thoughts, but I'm quite chuffed to be able to push through those moments! 😊
I have all of these symptoms. currently trying to make an appointment w a therapist. I can’t live like this anymore, it’s been a decade. thank you for this video. makes me feel less like a freak.
Thank you for bringing confidence into my life. Thank you for helping us through your videos. Stay healthy. May your life be filled with peace and happiness. 😊
What a calming voice this man has ✅ I’ve had a lot of therapy and I have learned a lot from this video! I have had OCD since being a child and I struggle even after therapy - even with the ‘tools’. Most people aren’t aware that OCD is about intrusive thoughts/compulsions - they assume you have to be cleaning a lot. I do clean a lot - I always wondered why but it’s just been clarified. I clean because it keeps my mind busy and therefore free from OCD (that’s the plan), and to take energy up (away from OCD), and lastly because I need (or the OCD does) order. The question I’ve always had is - why do I have OCD? I guess it’s different for most people but there must be a general reason. I have a narcissistic mother who has made my life hell and still tries to even though I’m 49, I think this is my reason. I had an unhappy childhood full of anxiety and stress and fear. I also suffer badly with chronic pain, caused by a dentist 10 years ago and subsequently have fibromyalgia. Any kind of emotional stress makes the pain worse yet I can’t stop the OCD. This video will help me, thank you very much.
Hi - thanks for you nice words. Here is a video from my OCD course that might interest you? The topic is very contentious (so please keep an open mind) but it may answer some very deep questions, especially with respect to your pain - John Video 12 from the OCD recovery Course - ruclips.net/video/RTCU-tWcWDM/видео.html
@@TheCalmnessinMindProcess Thank you for your reply 😊 I’ve watched the video it’s very helpful, also I am very empathic! I didn’t explain - the dentist damaged my jaw, I have a bad case of tmj - extreme head pain, even talking starts it off. The doctors explained that being in severe pain, my brain re-wired itself hence fibromyalgia. I also have migraine, they’re hell but this head pain leaves them standing and at least they go with the prescriptions. That aside, I believe and agree with all you say, I think I could somehow help ease the pain - stress makes it worse, but nothing magical happens when I’m calm!! I appreciate your help very much. I would like my life back so very much, what’s left of it!! I think fibromyalgia will be detected at some point - diabetes wasn’t detected in Victorian times for example, and fibro was called rheumatism for a long time. Thank you again, mindset is very important, I’m so pleased I stumbled on you 😊
Glad it makes some sense - nobody has all the answers! My course is only $3 per month and there are 19 videos in there (just writing the 20th one this week) I am trying to make it as affordable as possible as good therapy is so expensive these days! It may give you new ways to ease your anxiety? John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Thank you for giving me a new way of thinking, ocd is just so painful and time consuming i cant handle those thoughts, brain is just a thing in your head. Take what is good leave else
Like I replied to someone else on this forum, close your eyes and count how many thoughts happen in your head in 30 seconds. Let's say you count 8. So, who are you? The one making the thoughts or the one counting the thoughts? Of course, you are the observer of the thoughts!
Thanks John I had OCD as an adolescent but was able to get therapy to help me deal with underlying anxieties and emotional conflict that was giving rise to it. I am now a psychotherapist that helps people with this disorder. You are definitely on the right track here. I saw a video recently that told people that there was nothing they could do to stop OCD thoughts and they just had to live with them and observe them. This was without giving them any advice about anxiety or emotional trauma that would be giving rise to the condition. I thought the video was traumatising. I'm glad your out there.
Thanks Philip - I am trying to put all my knowledge into a very low cost video series to help people who can't afford to pay for therapy. John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Psychedelic is the answer to most severe anxiety and depression...The use of magic mushrooms completely helps one get over depression and makes you feel like yourself...I used antidepressants for some years but it only made me feel like a zombie but with immediate use of mushroom 🍄 in few months I feel like I'm living a whole new Life.
Please does anyone know where I can get them? I put so much on my plate and it really affects my stress and anxiety level .I would love to try to shrooms.
I live in Michigan….suffering for awhile now but didnt realize how serious I may have it until recently - probably bc of @self medicating” with alcohol
I'm glad myco_louiis is mentioned... I've been having severe depression for years now but I had to hit him up and got some of his products...they work like magic.
I'm kind of exhausted of normal people trying to protect the feelings of the mentally ill by saying "oh it's not a disorder its just different", it's a disorder because your brain isnt working the way it should be and it causes you immense discomfort. I'd love to see some healthy guy try out having OCD for a day and then seeing if he still doesnt think it's a disorder.
I had OCD and depression and thought it was a disorder, I was wrong, it is a condition. Until people wake up to this they will always be in a victim perspective and something outside of you will need to be added to fix you! By thinking and reacting to life differently it actually changes your internal chemistry - it is well proven and simple to explain. Check it out www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
Aidan McHendry it’s not a disorder you’re just scared of your thoughts we need to fix that! My husband gets them too and he is not bother by them ! I am because I am a control freak lol
I am an ocd patient. But trying to cope with it. It made me happy to know that i reallh had a problem and my problem is recognised the first time i shared it with my psychiatrist.
Glad it helped a little. I have many many more videos in my course that may help accelerate your recovery - Best wishes John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Plus you can help the Lord by learning more about yourself - so his work can act faster on you :-) Video 1 ruclips.net/video/nXk75ezkRK4/видео.html Video 2 ruclips.net/video/yHejSfrg_iE/видео.html Video 3 ruclips.net/video/zf1J4Vwjg9Y/видео.html John
Anxiety & OCD Discernment I didn’t want to watch those videos because of fear, but I did anyways, Nd it helped me a bit. How can we get more information?
Good for you, that took a lot of faith. I have another 11 videos (plus I add a new one each month) here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist Best wishes John
It's just an organ in your head, not you. It thinks it is helping you but it is the wrong kind of help. Watch my other numbered videos (links in the notes section under the video) and they will show you what is happening. Best wishes John
Luke, walk for 45 minutes a day ,don't run ,jog in the start. Just walk(45 minutes and cycle (15 minutes ) ,if yiu don't have have cycle don't worry but just walk for 45 minutes and slowly increase 5 minutes a day
@@Ajayhanand Great advice, I have some pretty bad ocd myself. Exercise is the one thing that has helped me. I find myself calmer and less anxious after exercise.
I have G.A.D ( Generalized ANXIETY Disorder ) I would rather go out than stay home ,. I talk to people ,have coffee ,ect. Getting out of the house actually relieves my ANXIETY, because I'm not constantly thinking...
Hi! This are just a thought. Don't make such such thoughts real. U have identified yourself with such thought. So stop making this type of thought and don't believe in such thought because they are not real. Now whenever such type of thought came then don't do what thought tells u to do. Just observe the thought without reacting to it and u will see that if u dont react to the the thought then after sometime the thought will go away. Just don't believe in the thought and don't make this thought real. Always have positive thinking because what u think that u become so if u want positive changes in your life then think positive thoughts only.
What you need to understand is - the unconscious is trickable, even though the conscious mind knows it is not true, this is how placebo works and it is the route out of OCD. For example, the amygdala in the brain (fear response) has learnt to fear an OCD type thing, it needs to be tricked back into calmness, that is what ERP does. This process really works. John
They just need to be shown the right techniques - this is what I teach here Video 1 ruclips.net/video/nXk75ezkRK4/видео.html Video 2 ruclips.net/video/yHejSfrg_iE/видео.html Video 3 ruclips.net/video/zf1J4Vwjg9Y/видео.html and the whole course is here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
I’ve had OCD, especially intrusive thoughts of harming people when I never would want to for YEARS; I’m not a violent person and have never been in a physical fight or anything like that my whole life. I went to the doctors and was told I have mild OCD, anxiety and depression but I feel like it’s much more since I have really bad thoughts. I’ve thought about just ending it when it gets really bad like tonight, then the possibility of me acting on these thoughts one day are gone but I really don’t want to die either. . .I want no-one to die and I’m 20 years old. Getting help is hard :( and getting accurate help is even harder. It’s currently 5am and I haven’t slept yet due to fear of hurting someone because at my core I’m the complete opposite and never would. I would go to therapy but I’m scared something would happen to me because of my intrusive thoughts, maybe they’d think I was dangerous or crazy? I’d NEVER talk to anyone I know personally about my intrusive thoughts because they’d become scared of me. Reading comments like mine under this video has made me feel less guilty and threatened with my thoughts though. No one I know has OCD and whenever anyone talks about it it’s the cleaning kind which I personally don’t experience, mine are just the very scary thoughts of harming people but also thoughts like if I don’t wash my face 5 times or someone I love will be hurt. There’s even been times I’ve been washing my hands or dishes and my brain will tell me to hold my hand under the hot water for a certain number pf seconds (my go to numbers are normally multiples of 2 or 5) my sister has anxiety and panic attack episodes that my family find hard to ignore and are always aware of but when it comes to me, I’m quite quiet and they think my mental health is fine since my battle is my thoughts and actions I can hide. As for where I think my OCD came from I grew up in a very traumatic household with abuse, moving around to hide from it a lot, my dad cheating and even being kidnapped by him once then divorce when child services finally got involved. Childhood definitely does affect who we become. Thank you for making these videos, you’re giving us information and a community.
Hi Chloe, this is classic OCD and sounds like you are well entrenched within its grasp. But there is much you can do about it when you are ready. My whole course is available for only $3 per month www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist Best wishes John
You might be very surprised that people will understand - everybody is at least to some degree pretty messed up, even if they are acting like they are not!
If you have OCD (compulsions and/or intrusive thoughts) do these two things consequently and your compulsions and intrusive thoughts WILL 100% get better or maybe even completely vanish if you do it long enough: Meditate daily (ideally 30-60+ minutes, I recommend Vipassana, which is simply putting your Awareness on your breath) and constantly practice Awareness throughout the entire day. Practicing Awareness means simply observing your thoughts and compulsions in a distanced and detached way. You have to realize that you ARE the observer/the Awareness and not the observed thoughts and compulsions. Do not identify with your thoughts and compulsions and simply observe them from a distance. Intrusive thoughts and compulsions are randomly generated and you have absolutely 0 control over them, but you have the power of being able to ignore them and not worry about them. Fully accept and welcome all thoughts and compulsions, no matter how strange or disturbing they may be. Never feel ashamed, disgusted or shocked, this fuels intrusive thoughts and compulsions immensely. Compulsions and intrusive thoughts thrive on the attention and meaning you give to them. Meditating is gonna be extremely hard at first, but don't be discouraged, it will become easier and easier the more you meditate and practice Awareness. The goal would be to remain in Awareness 24/7, which would make you completely invulnerable to all compulsions and intrusive thoughts. Wishing you all the best 😊❤
I have Autism.and I think I have OCD I constantly double check things,worry too much,stutter talking to people,always nervous around people.and I tend to be by myself.and don’t like being in pictures.
Yes, did you watch my other video here ruclips.net/video/5G16zAxHNbI/видео.html ? Due to (or beneath) these conditions are always self-worth or self-confidence issues - learning how to overcome these is key. There are many people with Autism and Anxiety - who still function well because they are ok with who they are and don't let their own identity define or confine them. I talk about this in my program www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
Thanks, Barbara, although I am not making a video on responsibility OCD (because this is a symptom) my patreon video course does teach you how to work on the causes, which in your case is probably guilt.
Well, guilt is a huge topic. Basically, it is the difference between what you do (or think) compared with what you think (or were trained to think) you "ought" to do in any moment. Then you beat yourself up for not doing what you think you "ought" to do! Which is basically self-abuse because nobody is making that comparison except yourself. Plus, when you are doing the beat yourself up guilt trip, the thing you did (or didn't do) has already been done. So, really it is a self-abusive waste of time trying to live up to somebody else's expectation of who you "ought" to be. It's exhausting and leads nowhere - except anxiety and depression. A better question to ponder is.... Which part of you is beating up which another part of you? And the answer is, your inner judge is beating up your inner victim, then your inner pleaser is trying to make everyone happy, which makes your inner rebel really angry - and so it goes on automatically within your subconscious mind until you can see that you are doing this to yourself without releasing! The path to freedom is radical honesty (or silence) and not being horrible to yourself. Winston Churchill famously said "What anyone else thinks of me is none of my business...!" If your friend looks fat, tell her or be silent - but don't lie! If a friend asks you if you are OK (and you are not), say you are not, its just the truth. But if you lie she will think you are OK and then you might be angry that she can't see you are unhappy - but you told her you were OK!!!! I teach people ways to understand themselves and others - so they can find more calmness inside. Much of this was all installed within our brain during childhood - but it can be changed if you put some effort in. John
See the overwhelm as a good thing, like stuck trauma finally being released from the cells of your body after all these years, don't resist your emotions - let them come up. John
What i have noticed more with ocd is that, it can create "puzzles" that have no logic and make no sense, and you feel as if you solve it, then you will feel better or make the anxiety or uncomfortable thoughts go away, for me I have noticed I no longer have anxiety, but my mind still creates these loops, with no real solution, so no matter what you do or say, it will give you a different disturbing thought, making you feel annoyed, inconvenienced, and confused. I finally got tired of wasting so much time trying to think my way out, or come up with a solution, so I simply practice what john teaches, and that is to not give the thoughts any meaning! This seems to be more difficult at first, but eventually when you get the hang of it, starts to get easier to dismiss them! Thanks John!
THANK YOU! I get intrusive thoughts like past few days and now I know how to 'let go' of that thought and not to take my thought personally. THANK YOU VERY MUCH!!!!
Watching these kind of videos is part of my complusions... I feel better when I get informations about my condition, when I know that my thoughts are not true.
I had it a few years ago ( not completely out but a lot lot better now) Books and friends helped me get out of it. Plus I used to do this when experiencing ocd: Ask yourself that what would happen if you didn't respond to this disease( whichever ocd it is). That, would something really bad happen to you? Now pull up yourself and don't do the ocd activity. See? You won't die even if you don't It will take time to get over like this but it worked for me. I hope it does for you too. And always be positive.
I have one problem. While praying I get intrusive thoughts and images about my parents though I never want them to be harmed. I have religious ocd and I try to keep on praying to lessen my anxiety but the moment I start praying in my mind I get unwanted images related to the life of my parents which causes a lot of anxiety and I fear if because of me they are harmed Please help me what to do with this. I also get blasphemous thoughts and i do not want anything to happen to my loved ones because of my harmful thoughts for them which I hate thinking and imagining. I love my family even more than my life but I do not know how I get negative thoughts about my family and God. I feel like killing myself. Please help me!
Hey listen even I get such intrusive thoughts but we all know that we love our loved ones and these are only stupid ocd thoughts.. I would suggest seeing a therapist coz it's a big help and also just know your intrusive thoughts are not real they are just the result of less serotonin.. Pls take care..
@@SoniaChavan99 I thought I was the only one who gets such thoughts and was tensed about it for more than 3 months and could not share it with anyone because of my guilt. That's why I wrote about it on RUclips. Is there any other way to stop worrying about this other than a therapist because there is no therapist in my town?
@@AyushKumar-gk7do Listening to overcome intrusive thoughts subliminal affirmations on RUclips also helped me and as you said there's no therapist in town checkout in practo once .. Also you are not alone in this we all are victims of less serotonin lol.. Sometimes I feel drained too but then im like why even I'm reacting this is so dumb
Hi thank you for this video. I've begun having unwanted intrusive thoughts and images since the quarantine began. I've never had these kind before, and it's been going on basically every minute of every day for a month and a half. I've begun to really feel guilty and shameful for sins and decisions I have made both related to and unrelated to the intrusive thoughts and images that I've done in the past. I know that these thoughts and images aren't me, that I don't believe in them, and that I'll never do them in real life. It goes against who I am as a person and Christian. But there's constant fighting and trying to convince myself that it isn't true, and it only makes it worse. It's been so distressing and horrible. I feel like my relationships with my family members have already taken a hit, and I feel guilty over that too as none of its their fault. Especially since it's the quarantine, I feel like I've had no one to go to. I haven't been diagnosed with ocd, but I'm almost sure it is. I'm scared to get diagnosed because that would mean my whole life is changed. I'm almost done with college, I have my future career soon, and I have my relationships with everyone. I'm so scared and worried that my unwanted intrusive thoughts and images and potential ocd will potentially ruin all of them, everything I've built up and worked on. It's one thing to know that these aren't real and not me, but it gets worse and worse anyway. Just a tiny bit of what I'm going through without going into specifics, thanks. Hope you reply.
@@nonochangbinno thanks. How's it been for you? It's been really difficult for me. Every day is a battle, which is the opposite of what I should do, but it's like I can't control anything
OCD is very common don’t be scared of the label. Because this is so new to you, now is the time to nip it in the bud! Watch videos 1, 2 and 3 in my youtube channel and this will explain the basics of what id happening to you . John
Jason 0001 tbh it’s been really difficult for me too i always try my best to not think those things but sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t. but we are stronger than those thoughts so let’s keep going 🌈☁️
This video made me feel so much better about some things that I experience in my daily life. I was diagnosed with OCD when I was 8 (almost 12 years ago), and although I had a good idea of what having OCD entails, I had no idea that some of my seemingly random (and infuriating) habits could possibly be caused by my OCD. When he said that some people with OCD can be very controlling of other people close to them because they need things to be a certain way, it clicked for me. I feel like I am constantly unsatisfied with the way my partner carries out certain tasks like cleaning, organizing, remembering to do things, etc. I always have to ask him if he did something a certain way if he remembered to do something, or I just end up doing the task for him or redoing it to avoid the anxiety it brings. This makes him feel upset and makes me feel upset too because I cannot help that I need things done a certain way and he feels like when he does things "it's not good enough". I feel guilty a lot and lately, I just do things myself instead of asking him to do things. I never knew that this could possibly be because of my OCD.
Yes, OCD is very sneaky and controlling. Perhaps it is time to begin trusting? John Video 1 ruclips.net/video/nXk75ezkRK4/видео.html Video 2ruclips.net/video/yHejSfrg_iE/видео.html Video 3 ruclips.net/video/zf1J4Vwjg9Y/видео.html
It’s true about the fear. Ocd are just symptoms but I can’t get rid or both. My mind is occupied with ocd and fear. I have to train my brain to think of something or nothing to not to think about the ocd
That why I made my OCD course - to teach people how I learned to do it! John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist PS It is not YOUR mind it isTHE mind, the brain is just pumping out thoughts - YOU are the observer of those thoughts!
If you walk for 45 minutes for 3 months ,this will go . I felt calmer in just 3 days and then everyday you are better and better , half of the disease will go off in a month of consistent effort , just walk and cut completely on sugar ( our body doesn't need sugar ,it creates it from food , insulin changes body harmonal order )
Whoever is strugling with anxiety or ocd needs to watch this video. This is a very helpful therapy program. Whether you suffer from it or you know someone. Please share this video with them. It is a very comprehensive and instrutional course. But over all John shares very effective technics .
I feel so disgusted with myself all the time due to my thoughts. It all started when I was 15 and let's just say life has never been the same ever since because I literally can't look at anyone the same way anymore and it's killing me it makes me feel like I've lost my emotions and I don't love the people around me. My mind feels like a prison
I can totally feel you man. But I can promise you things will get better for sure. I'm not trying to motivate you and all but I'm telling you the truth. Idk how but you'll figure it out just be patient. I'm saying this because intrusive thoughts destroyed my life and I thought I'll never be able to feel myself again but things actually got better.
Sorry to hear this. We can't control our unconscious thoughts, but we can learn to ignore them, not give them meaning and run new conscious thoughts over the top of them that are more positive regardless of whether they are true or not. You can look out of the window and say, what a shit world, or say, wow, what a place of beauty, regardless of the truth (which is just a perspective anyway) one "story" will make you feel bad, the other "good" - it consciously up to you what you choose to think - but you are not responsible for your unconscious thoughts, that is just the conditioning of your brain. Did you watch videos 1,2 and 3 in my youtube channel? John
I have struggled with OCD for 54 years, it used to come and go, blinking of my eyes is what I do, from a trauma when I was 5 years old. Now at 59, it just seems to be getting worse. I loved the video, thank you, I never thought about the things you said. Thank you so much.
Thank you for you feedback - you may like these videos too? Best wishes John OCD in 3 minutes ruclips.net/video/5G16zAxHNbI/видео.html Video 1 ruclips.net/video/nXk75ezkRK4/видео.html Video 2 ruclips.net/video/yHejSfrg_iE/видео.html Video 3 ruclips.net/video/zf1J4Vwjg9Y/видео.html
I want to just be happy and get pleasure in living a normal life with everyday basic things. My mind is constantly processing a thought and it’s been over 12 years now I am 30 and literally sick and tired of this. I end up wasting my time by distracting myself with RUclips videos instead of doing something thoughtful. I checked that low level of Testosterone and vitamin D deficiency can give you symptoms like OCD I am going to join you on Patreon & lots of love for helping people ❤️
Thank you for your comments, OCD is not caused by low testosterone or vitamin D deficiency - those problems may cause certain physical symptoms - and how you respond to those feelings and life may be classed as anxious and how you respond to avoiding the anxiety is what OCD is. Please do join me at patreon where video 5 and video 6 of the calmness in mind OCD recovery program will be launched soon. www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
Seriously self sabotage is the worst thing ever, cause the second you get better in any way you will subconsciously sabotage your own happiness and well being WHAT!
Yes, video 30 in my course goes into a lot of detail about self-sabotage, the need for reassurance and how to overcome it! www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
i think i got OCD from an severe panic attack while smoking weed, i couldnt stop thinking about bad things, and i tried to stop it therefore it became even worse, but i did beat it, i learned to calm myself down, and tell myself that this is not who i truly am, telling myself that all the time programmed my subconcious mind i think and helped me to not have negative thaughts again , hope that helps people, if it just helps one person out there, than this was already worth it, if youre reading this, i sent you blessings and know that god is with you you just need to ask him for help. Thats all it takes.
BRO! i'M GOING THROUGH THE EXACT SAME THING AND IT'S PISSING ME OFFFFFFF! I had a panic attack so severe that I had to go to the ER. It's been playing such a big part in why I have hallucinations and extreme thoughts. I am currently doing the same thing, just trying to keep calm and remind myself that this is all just a phase and it will go away.
I connected to all of the parts of ocd you explained in this video. I never realized how severe it was, it is holding me back from really enjoying life. I spend way too much time worrying and not enough time being calm, I need to act to help improve my life.
Perhaps you can start here? Video 1 ruclips.net/video/nXk75ezkRK4/видео.html Video 2ruclips.net/video/yHejSfrg_iE/видео.html Video 3 ruclips.net/video/zf1J4Vwjg9Y/видео.html
True - but you can look at in two ways. 1. It is horrible. 2. How can I use it as ERP to help me let go and grow? Changing attitude is such a big part of letting go of anxiety and OCD! Best wishes John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
💖PLEASE READ THIS💖 A little over a year ago, (September 20th to be exact,) I had a thought that came to my mind. I was recently going to an event that I went to every year, but the last year was different. I stayed home for a full week, because I was making myself sick from stress, not sleeping much, etc. I was going to ask my mom if it would happen again, because I am a worrier. Asking my mom and having her tell me I wouldn’t, would help me feel less stressed. I never asked her, because I just told myself that I wouldn’t. I kept on thinking about this thing, but not too often. Until I realized, I was getting this weird feeling in my head. If you have OCD, I’m sure you know what I mean. It feels like a large cluster of horribleness, thoughts. The only time you don’t have obsessive thoughts is when you sleep. Your fear may still be in ur dream, but you don’t really think about it while you are asleep. As soon as I wake up, I’ll be lucky if I get 1 hour of no my obsessive fear. Then it just comes to my head immediately. When I get a few days of no obsessive thoughts, or just think about my fear slightly, I feel amazing. Now, about quarantine. I don’t know about you, but I am still in school, and my parents are really concerned, and want to make sure I’m okay, as they should. No one where I live really cares about it, and I am one of the very few kids in my class who are online. (We have a choice to be online or not.) Anyway, quarantine has made my OCD SO bad, and I fear to talk to someone about it. I’ve told my best friend about this, but I am scared to confess my fear. The thing I fear now is completely different than the the fear I once did fear. The one thing that makes me happy, is my friends. Especially my best friend. I trust her with my life. I can’t co one day without talking to her. She is like a sister to me. I miss her so much, even though I talk to her everyday. It is different than seeing her in person, especially if you are used to hanging out everyday, to never hanging out again. This summer, I missed something that made me so upset. Now, just for some information, I go to this Bible camp, with my two best friends in The whole wide word. I begged my mom EVERYDAY that I could go, but of course, I couldn’t. Both of my friends got to go, and I can’t deal w being left out very well. I cried A LOT about not being able to go. Right before camp, I dreamed that I went to camp w my friends, but when I woke, I realized it was just a dream. I started to instantly cry, which had never happened to me before. My thoughts make my fears come to reality. Just like how you can make your mind make us sick if we think we are. Our human brains are powerful! Even to the point where it can be a little too powerful. I also, loved to go to my local Youth Group, which was very sad to me when I couldn’t go anymore because of COVID-19. God is a big part of my life, and so are my friends and family. I have a great relationship w my family, but I feel that I am easily open more to my friends, probably bec they can relate to me more, and are the same age as me, because I am the youngest in my family, and my youngest sibling is 6 1/2 years older than me. God and my friends keep me happiest. I just know he is helping and trying to get me through this! I am planing on telling my friend soon! Thankyou for this video, especially since I really regret not asking my mom that one day, and it really helped me so so much with understanding my problems! (Srry for such a long story, and if you read all of that, I love you 💖) :) (Also, this really proves that the little things, sometimes matter the most, and the littlest change/mistake can change life.)
all I can say is this course made me get on with my live, I'm stil not totally comfortable but I learned a lot and made progress. I'm looking forward to me accepting and leaving the past behind, not getting in to story's and feeling more calm. I'm thankful for you wanting to teach ♡
My friend who is diagnosed with OCD has been fighting with the thoughts since his childhood he's 17 now (will be turning 18 this nov) he's the strongest person I have ever meet, no one in his family believes that OCD is some real condition and they don't understand him at all, I just can't see him suffering like this, most of the time he won't talk to me about how he's really feeling but I could make out by the way he zone out at times. When he opened up to me about this, he told me that i helped him a lot and that I'm still helping him cope up with those thoughts, he says that he is attached to me and that my text messages and calls make his thoughts disappear for that moment. So ever since that day I've been doing such things to help him. But both of us know that he needs to be treated for OCD or its gonna be hard for him as he ages. We are clueless about what to do without his family's support. But He keeps on telling me that my help is enough and he'll cope with it by himself. DO YOU HAVE ANY ADVICE FOR ME?
I would try and get your friend to sign up to my course, it is just £7 per month here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist - everything you will need to know about OCD is in there and what to do. If your friend won't do it, perhaps you can so by understanding what they are going through, you will be able to act in ways that support rather than keep them stuck in OCD?
Try not to offer reassurance or go along with their compulsions. For example if they won't go out - say "OK, I see your OCD is keeping you in, I'll be back later, because I can accept that your OCD makes this hard for you, but I have my life to live."
I just found out I have ocd. Its horrible, I already have hypervigilance and I cant stop thinking about all bad things that could ever happen, Im really stressed out, cant sleep at night scared to go outside. But the worst thing is that whenever I have to make dinner or something when i hold any ,,dangereous,, object im getting horrible thoughts in which im hurting someone that I love with it and I feel like I might lose control and actually do it. It really terrifies me making me not want to stay alive, it really adds to my crippling depression which I've had for like almost 7 years now. Sorry for improper grammar I'm not English and I dont really have time I just felt that I have to finally get this out of my mind.
Sorry you are going through this but it is very common indeed (you won't hurt anyone) it is just a trick from your unconscious mind to scare you into staying at home. I used to have the same thing. My course will teach you how to understand what is happening to you and what how you will need to overcome your underlying anxiety and worry - which is your real problems - OCD is the symptom of the anxiety. You can start today and it the price is stupidly low :-) best wishes for your recovery John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
I’m laying in bed right now and I am doing soooo many different rituals and it’s really annoying me. I did one just now. I’ve suffered from ocd about 3 years now and I’ve been to a therapist, CBT. half a year ago my ocd completely disappeared. I wasn’t diagnosed with ocd anymore and I didn’t do any rituals. But now it’s back. Everything is back except for one thing, I changed nearly all the rituals. I don’t know what to do and I feel like I want to cry all the time... Right now I’m staring at the paper on the window and I feel like I REALLY have to touch it... so I’m having the worst time right now and I need help. thank you doc ❤️ / yuwerly
Hi, sorry to hear you are going through this, although sadly it is very common. Go to my RUclips channel and start watching the numbered recordings- they will give you new perspectives. John
I don’t know what’s wrong. I keep having intrusive self harming thoughts. I’ve never contemplated whatsoever harming myself, only improving myself. But when I was at the beach, I kept having intrusive thoughts of throwing myself off of the balcony and it got so bad I went inside and went to sleep scared, also happened the next day to the point I couldn’t look at the ground. This is however normal, I have horribly violent intrusive thoughts that I’ve been dealing with for months, it’s been accompanied by a bit of depression, but it’s all getting better. Everything gets better. Conquer and overcome. Your thoughts DO NOT manifest in your action, you are sane, you are perfectly normal. How can I stop intrusive violent thoughts though?
It is not about stopping them, it is about realising what they mean. It is your unconscious minds way of scaring you away from interacting with life, because your biology is exhausted from worrying too much. It is what OCD does, for some it hijacks you with scary thoughts and for others compulsions and for others xyz. Your own unconscious mind will scare you with whatever story it knows will consciously get your attention. My course goes into lots of detail about this. John
You just have to belive and have faith that once again you’ll be alright brothers and sisters. Its not easy, its by far the hardest thing i have had to deal with my whole life. Try your best not to engage in the thoughts or analyze what your mind is ”trying to telling you”, they’re are all just lies fueld with fear. Some people probably experience the same things without even knowing or they might even notice but just dont care enough to bother engaging in it. But you’re aware and you have good heart. You just live in a world full of weak minded people. Not the ones who suffer, but the ones who choose to follow evil. No matter how real the situation gets, it cant hurt you. And Even tho it feels like it gets worse every time, it will get better, i promise. The relief will be much greater and You will experience life like you never have before. Just have faith that one day You Will find yourself looking back at this time in your life, and you will be at ease. Keep moving forward and never give up, one day you will be taken care of and you will be rewarded for your patience 💛🙏💛🤲
Wow! Thank you. I have had these recurring thoughts that I've always thought to be bad suddenly, and it made me feel super bad about myself. This video was very beneficial!
You are wonderful! Thank you for your knowledge and passion to help people. Bless you!
We, humans, are braver than we realise - we were just never taught how wonderful we are in school - so that is why I made my course, so people (when they are ready) can learn how to reprogram themselves the way they should have been when they were kids!
It is never too late to find courage, calmness and self-worth! :-)
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I replaced my OCD in thoughts with cognitive awareness.... now I'm an expert at it. I was given a dose of 30mil of escitalopram (dangerous dosage) by a psychiatrist and weaned myself off them completely. Brazilian jiu-jitsu saved my life, now I'm complementing it with yoga, breathwork, walks in the park, eating clean, high water intake, less caffeine. I'm not a master of my own mind yet, but I will be some day. Breathwork (at least) should be a part of every person's daily routine. The mind can be conquered peeps, the intrusive thoughts can be irradicated and mental freedom can easily be enjoyed.
Wise words indeed - and very well done!
You give everyone hope ❤️
Please try daily deep breathing and meditation. It will cure you. It will be hard in start, but Don't give up. There is proof of brain scans that meditation can rewire our brains withing just 6 weeks.
There are many types of meditation. Since you're a beginner, you should do some easy meditation, like transcendental meditation. I started it as a beginner and it was very good for instant focus.
I think this video will change my life, thank you. It’s like someone made a video specifically for me and what I’ve been thinking about
Glad you like it, there are more in my channel. John
Me too
Great!
Thank you so much, sir! 😊
i get you 100% i suffer from intrusive thoughts and i know i will never act upon them but that make me feel scared
I am crying watching this. I am exhausted by all the rituals and covering them up.
I know, it soul destroying and exhausting isn't it? But there is much you can do if you get the right information. Perhaps check these videos out too? Best wishes John
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Anxiety & OCD Discernment thank you. I will definitely check them out.
I literally had a mental breakdown the other day over ocd I feel your pain I don't know how this happened to me but it really sucks I'm trying though
A small tip... "Defy yourself!" Don't do what your brain tells you. "Disobey!"
Show yourself the middle finger and grab a cool drink and chill like a boss...
@@RikthDcruze this sounds like much stress hehehe
As someone who has suffered and currently battling with ocd for 20 solid years there are a few things that have really helped out:
1. Fluoxetine medication
2.Meditation
3.walking/hiking
4.magnesium
5.vitamin D
6.zinc
7.calming Tea
8.this video
Thank you - 26 more videos are here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Please try daily anulom vilom and meditation. It will cure you. It will be hard in start, but Don't give up. There is proof of brain scans that meditation can rewire our brains withing just 6 weeks.
There are many types of meditation. Since you're a beginner, you should do some easy meditation, like transcendental meditation. I started it as a beginner and it was very good for instant focus.
YOU ARE and absolute genius !! YOU...described MY OCD almost to a TEE and...for the FIRST TIME in MY ENTIRE LIFE, gave me a NEW perspective on this miserable condition I have had most of my adult life !! You, are a TRUE GIFT and your pointing out that anxiety IS the ROOT cause and that ADDRESSING anxiety is the BEST way to get this miserable condition O-U-T of ones life is just PRICELESS !! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU !!!!!!!!!!
Thank you Dave. When you separate the underlying anxiety from the OCD, good things happen. You then find the values and beliefs you have that are supported by the OCD and let them go too!
Thank you - more information here, John.
www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
I was going to write exactly this but you were two years earlier. 😅
Yeap. I was AMAZED as I keep feeling like no one gets me and no one can help. I feel trapped and in a loop. I cried so much to this. I wish my partner could understand
same feeling here
God bless those struggling💞✝️
Indeed!
God Bless You! Jesus is with me. I couldn't of done this by myself.
God bless u too
Ty 😊.
Amen
i am so happy to be born in the 21st century, that such wonderful treatment videos r available
Thank you - I have an updated version of this here if you ate still interested? Do I have OCD? ruclips.net/video/2VDA7zAVh-0/видео.html
I have been in John's patreon course for the last 7 months and just have to say how much of a positive change it has made to me, before finding it I really thought that I was stuck with OCD. I am now anxiety free 95% of the day and my obsessive thinking has almost disappeared, they still come up but now with Johns teaching I know I don't have to try and find a solution, the solution is not thinking! I feel like a whole new person, it really is such an in depth and brilliant course and John makes so easy to watch and learn from! If you are feeling stuck and hopeless, give it a go! you really can make the changes you want!
Cheers Chris, I am happy you are doing well mate.
I'am suffering from OCD last 25 years,, now it becomes unbearable,, 😭😭
No medicine is working now,, can u help me anyhow? pls
I'am a Bangladeshi girl
Bless u ❤ I’m still suffering from ocd….seems can’t get rid of my thoughts
I've been living with extreme OCD forever. It is like a bully in your head.
It's only a bully if you listen and believe it.
Canonmentos yup don’t feed the monster!
Me too I swear , i feellike there's somebody inside my head who keeps insulting me all the time
I couldn't have agreed with you more it's like your brain constantly working against you. It's tiring
@@azerty3557 my therapist told me this that it's our own critical voice. You need to stop listening to it and have faith in your own understanding of yourself
I recently went through terrible trauma and have noticed the development of these obsessive thoughts (first intrusive thoughts) in my mind. Initially, I wanted to admit myself to a hospital or something- I thought I was an awful human being for even considering harming someone I care about, even if I would never on my life go through with it. Then, with the help of videos like these, I started to regain a level of control and comfort over my reactions to these thoughts that I cannot control. Thank you for broaching this topic, and to anyone reading, YOU ARE NOT CRAZY! You are simply going through a period of difficulty and it WILL GET BETTER! Sending all the love your way!!
Yes indeed, good advice - I have a video on trauma hereruclips.net/video/MVfCC-3Z9Ss/видео.html John
Without any doubt this is one of the best video's I have ever seen on this subject. Your explanation is accurate and to the point. Really enjoyed watching it.
Thank you, you may like some of other videos in my channel too? John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Same here man
Agree
I cried 3 times while watching this video. It all made complete sense.
There is much you can do to find calmness. John
Video 1 ruclips.net/video/nXk75ezkRK4/видео.html
Video 2ruclips.net/video/yHejSfrg_iE/видео.html
Video 3 ruclips.net/video/zf1J4Vwjg9Y/видео.html
No,you just got fooled!
@@fontofgod lol not really. This vid helped me realize how badly I needed professional help. Now I take 40mg Prozac every day and I feel amazing :)
@@Jherick5954 it's that calming your mind? Where I can get prozac
Brilliant. Best ever explanation of OCD.
Here are some methods that work (long but very useful):
When your own mind, which knows your darkest secrets turns on you, because it forgets to love itself (a basic characteristic of all living beings), it can bring untold misery - an enemy that knows more about you than you. Unconditional self-love works like a charm against OCD. Self-love brings unconditional security, which kills anxiety like light removes darkness. Love yourself unconditionally.
OCD either forces you to a life of suffering or it makes you a liberal saint.
OCD gives you your own deep embedded sociopath self out to sabotage you. But this personal inner sociopath melts at the touch of kindness, security and intimacy.
Every animal, however ferocious with other animals, is always gentle with itself. Then why not you? Love yourself, be secure, and befriend your subconscious scheming sociopath monster with love. Hating him/her will only feed its manipulations and motivations. Embrace thy enemy. Ask "why? and "for whose benefit?" when the monster accuses and suggests crimes. Even the most sociopathic monster child breaks down in the face of unrelenting self-love.
Absence of fear is fearlessness. But the opposite of fear is security and love. Shower yourself with it, all your selves, outer to innermost, innermost first, including the sociopath. Works like magic.
Unconditional self-forgiveness is a major component of unconditional self-love. Digging up the past is repeating the same thought crimes. No human court or logical system does that. Why you? Guilt-tripping is half the disorder. Too much fake accusation and too much forced guilt where you are not guilty. Shaming and making you feel guilty is half the joy of the sociopath inside.
Ask him/her why all the scheming, when everything is otherwise ok? It then boils down to perceiving wrongly pain as joy. Which is the the backbone of the socioapth's motivations. A normal self-loving sociopath does not inflict pain on himself/herself. Tell that to your inner sociopath.
Talk to the inner sociopath every day. He/she can be reformed quickly with security and love.
Thank you - these are all very true.
John
Thank you
The Daves I Know thank you thank you so much for sharing, I really needed this and I’ll try to take into full consideration everything that you’ve written down 😁💯🤗
This is the best short video I have come across on ocd. It explains so much and makes complete sense. It made me think about things I hadn't considered problems before. Excellent!
Thank you for your comments.
John
www.calmnessinmind.com
This is so well made! Finally someone who says something like “Pull yourself together”. I don’t have OCD myself but I’ve dealt with a lot of intrusive thoughts. So thank you!
Glad you like it - thank you! John
Best OCD video I've seen.
Thanks Jason, you might like the other ones in my channel too? John
thank you so much for this, like genuinely this has really given me such a better perspective on OCD and the roots of it, i literally began crying because of how nice it is to just hear someone talk about it who actually understands what it’s like to go through something so tough. thank you so much
You are so very welcome! There are more free videos in my youtube channel and I have a whole OCD course too (should you be interested?). Best wishes John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Are you a lucky guy
I have a lucky and thankful attitude to life - despite what happens to me. John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
This, even though I'm not diagnosed with OCD, was really helpful for dealing with some of my paranoia and vivid intrusive thoughts. Plus, this video calmed me down because you have a really soothing voice. Thank you so much!
Thank you, I have other videos too in my channel you might like. Links are in the notes section. John
One among the best of all the youtube videos I've ever seen on self-rectification.
A million thanks for this upload. :) :)
That is very kind of you to say, thank you. I am working on lots more videos that will be released over the coming months at www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
When I was a kid I was so confused why am I like this. Then I learned about OCD and I realized it's actually a thing and I'm not alone in this journey. There are people who understands me. I'm still going through it but I'm being more kind to myself than before.
Good for you :-) www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
I love you for putting this video up.
I have terrible anxiety and after having children I had horrible thoughts.
I'm exhausted fighting it everyday.
Thank you
Yes, this is common and very scary just before or just after child birth fearing you may harm the child in some way. It's just OCD fear through your exhaustion from worrying too much. Check out my other videos as they will give you ideas to calm your mind. John
@@TheCalmnessinMindProcess thank you so much your video helped me get a therapist at the age of 35.
I googled you but I'm in scotland and your so far away x
I hope they can help, if not, I work via Skype (all over the world) as there are not too many people who specialise in OCD or have overcome it themselves. Glad you are getting help, best wishes John
Thank you so much for this amazing and informative content. I honestly learned more from watching your 18-minute long video than I learnt in 6 years of 'therapy'.
Thank you so much and God bless 🙏
Thank you - there are many more videos in my channel and in my course - ruclips.net/video/2VDA7zAVh-0/видео.html
@@TheCalmnessinMindProcess Will take a look now, thank you 🙏
@@TheCalmnessinMindProcess I wanted to know if my friend can contact you? He had OCD many times and needed help, I think he had already contacted you on this video but he wanted me to try as I guess he didn't receive response. please let me know
@@yashaswikulshreshtha1588 - I try to reply to every response, I am not sure if he contacted me? My email is best john@johnglanvill.com
OCD has ruined my life
Sorry to hear that, did you want my other videos, they may help?
@@TheCalmnessinMindProcess yes, this video gave me hope, i havent felt it in a long time
I feel for you. I have a good life, but OCD ruined a lot of it too.
Same here.i already got this ten years it’s really painful 😥
@@TheCalmnessinMindProcess i have ap severe problem of ocd 😢😢 plz my thoughts reuined my life plz help me thoughts of who i m
For almost three years I've been doing OCD type stuff. I have a hard time believing in myself and my body. I clean everyday and disorder scares me. I hate going out for fear of something bad happening. This video has opened my eyes to the fact that this is not normal. Thank you so much and God bless.
Glad it helped - I have a range of other videos too
Video 1 ruclips.net/video/nXk75ezkRK4/видео.html
Video 2ruclips.net/video/yHejSfrg_iE/видео.html
Video 3 ruclips.net/video/zf1J4Vwjg9Y/видео.html
John
Best explanation of OCD I've ever seen (or read). Thank you!
Thank you - you might like my recovery course here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
John
you're a g for this my guy. suffering from this condition since a young age has taken a tremendous toll on my brain. i've had to learn so much to not live in misery, like i'm sure many people do unknowingly because they don't understand OCD. thank you!
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There is a way to rise above the conditioning of OCD and if you follow the course amazingly positive things can happen - www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
I’ve been so lost and confused for over a year, I finally found so many things I can relate to with ocd, im finally discovering it all
@@sethty It is very understandable and there is much you can do to become a calm person!
I have been dealing with this OCD for awhile now and it's nice to know that I'm not just no matter what a horrific person. These thoughts have tortured me and when I have had them I just break down and it's great that we have people who know about these mental disorders. Thank you!
There are more videos in my channel and a whole course here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist - John
Thank you so much for this video. My whole immediate family deals with OCD and I always told myself I didn't deal with it, but it really effects my day to day life in a way I never realized. So many people joke about it and don't seem to understand that it's more than just wanting things a certain way.This video was very informative and I really truly appriciate it.
Perhaps you and your family might like to watch these other videos together and discuss them?
Video 1 ruclips.net/video/nXk75ezkRK4/видео.html
Video 2 ruclips.net/video/yHejSfrg_iE/видео.html
Video 3 ruclips.net/video/zf1J4Vwjg9Y/видео.html
John
Anxiety & OCD Discernment absolutely! Thank you!
I stumbled across this video while researching something for myself and I am sitting here, jaw hanging slack, absolutely dumbfounded. Over the last 15 years or so I have been gradually losing my younger sister to a cluster of the most perplexing, upsetting, frustrating, hurtful, and bizarre set of behaviors and speech. I feel like she has gradually morphed into something completely unrecognizable from the happy, goofy kid I grew up with. This video just gave me hope that she is not completely lost. Oh my goodness. I can’t believe I never saw it before. It explains EVERYTHING. The grumpy, harsh, worrying, controlling/presumptuous behavior, bizarrely abnormal, religiously influenced stiff and rigid way of talking and thinking, germ, cleanliness, and health obsessions, difficulties with work, difficulties with her husband, myself, and our parents, difficulties making and keeping friends, actual health problems and pain, overthinking, worrying about EVERYTHING.... It’s plain as day to me now that my little sister has OCD. I have taken notes on the video and sent it to my mom and I trepidatiously await morning so that I can approach my sister. Thank you SO MUCH for this practical and clear presentation. I hope and pray that she is receptive. She has been suffering so badly for so long. Thank you again.
I hope your sister can find help as OCD can be managed with the right program, i have other videos in my channel that explain how to understand OCD that she might find useful. Best wishes John.
After going to therapy i realized that since my childhood and early teens i developed ocd, it just wasn't life altering, i though it was normal to be like this, when my dad passed and witnessing him leaving us i went into a deep depression that somehow made my ocd explode, at the time i did not know what was going on and believed everything my ocd told me, i was going crazy, considered ending my life because the thought's where so strong and horrible and i believed i was transforming into this monster so i just could not live with that. After reading a lot on the subject, listening to podcast and most important, going to therapy i feel much better but i still have a long way to go. I love my life, love my wife, pets, job,traveling, surfing, camping,etc and ME and YOU dont deserve this!!!. If you are reading this there is hope, hold on to your life and your freedom, we will get through. There is a line in a song called Brain Damage by Pink Floyd that says "there is someone in my head but its not me" it perfectly describes whats going on but remember its NOT YOU, calm down, let the thought's in, dont give a fuck about them, go to therapy, its hard, some times the anxiety will sky rocket, but its way worth it.
I had ocd few years ago after treatment i was finally able to get rid of it. But during this lockdown its comming back. But your voice is very relaxing.Thank you.
When people get anxious they need to talk softly and calmly to themselves - I explain why in video number 3 in my youtube channel. John
WOW WOW WOW THIS IS THE BEST THING EXPLAINED TO ME EVER! ITS LIKE I WANT TO DO STUFF LIKE TRAVEL WHEN IM OLDER AND I CANT WAIT LIKE I REALLY WANT TO GO PLACES BUT IM TOO SCARED AND ITS ANNOYING BUT OMG THIS HAS HELPED SO MUCH!!! THANK YOU!!!
I have a whole course here for just $30 per year if you are interested? John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
So here’s what I have learned you. Can cope. It is possible. I’ve never had this but after university, holy wow. Did this just ever come about....
I really think it boils down to circumstances of stress... because from what I can understand, stress creates anxiety which creates OCD.
So keep yourself calm know that you will are in charge and will not do anything; because you do not have to believe everything your mind thinks.
Your brain can be rewired - by facing fears (whilst 'consciously' pretending to be calm) repeatedly. You have to (consciously) talk slowly and softly, whilst relaxing your body, whilst facing your fears, repeatedly. Repeatedly. Repeatedly. Repeatedly. Repeatedly. Repeatedly. Repeatedly.
www.johnglanvill.com
Just burst into tears as This. Is. Me. Thank the lord for this video, I’ve finally found a big piece of the puzzle of who I am.
I see you in the comment section about obsession
Good for you - you are just a complex personality and need to understand yourself better - that is what my course teaches if you are interested? John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Very helpful video ! I have been battling with OCD for a while now and been trying to figure out a way to get rid of it , little did I know I was doing everything wrong , this video really helped me a lot ! Thank you so much ! Will keep watching your videos so I can better understand myself and OCD
Glad it helped a little. My whole course can be found here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
Our daughter developed OCD and intrusive thoughts more as she learned things during school. What we learn we can become afraid of and it depends on the person. When you were a toddler you'd walk off the edge of a skyscraper because you weren't aware of the danger. As we mature, what we learn can affect certain people and cause anxiety. That "fear" of certain things eventually causes more anxiety and OCD becomes a way for the brain to try and cope with it. You must understand your fears and work with a therapist to uncover why you have anxiety. Then, the OCD goes away, but it takes time to retrain the way you think. GET HELP as soon as you can because life should be fun! Like he mentioned in this video, find someone understands anxiety/OCD and begin a program. You will have to know your fears and expose those fears and once you know those things will not harm you, the fears will fade and so will the OCD. OCD is basically a common learned behavior that became a conditioned way of life due to fears. You can do this! Conquer your fears and enjoy the world around you. When you were a child you were probably fearless. Find that again. :)
Wise words! - John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Thanks for this video
I’m really REALLY struggling with my ocd during this lockdown - more so than I ever remember before. The same thought keep whirling around in my head and has been for weeks - since lockdown started. I’ve ruminated, I’ve researched, I’ve analysed every freaking detail of it and then analysed it again until I’ve observed the thought from every conceivable angle. Then I’ll think of a NEW angle to analyse it from and it will start all over again. It’s driving me absolutely nuts and it won’t stop. I’m exhausted, and because I’m not working I have nothing to distract myself from the thought and it’s just there. All. The. Time. Then of course the compulsions and rituals arise, which tire me out even more. I’ve never been so tired in my entire life.
So frustrating isn't it? try these videos, they will give you a better idea of where you thoughts are coming from. John
Video 1 ruclips.net/video/nXk75ezkRK4/видео.html
Video 2 ruclips.net/video/yHejSfrg_iE/видео.html
Video 3 ruclips.net/video/zf1J4Vwjg9Y/видео.html
My personal experience tells me that you CAN ABSOLUTELy get over OCD. I expereinced it for 3 years. After that I lived the best 3 years of my whole life. However, after a very stressful year, and breaking up with my girlfriend (well, ex girlfriend), I have relapsed, and as the video says at the end, OCD makes you doubt EVERYTHING, and it will make you doubt about even the things you love the most... At first I experienced fear of being gay (when I was 17)... Now, I am obsessed with my past... The possitive part of this relapse is that I am getting to know myself even more and more. I am doubting things that, of course, are stupid... But my problem has been that my therapists don't adress my anxiety, they refuse to give me medication, which I think is very important: in my case, if there's no anxiety, there are fewer chances for me to start the process of thinking and thinking and thinking. I don't have physical compulsions, they are just mental, cheking if what I remember is actually true. I am obsessed with whether I really loved my ex-gf... And makes me suffer so much. However I want to tell you (and myself) that you can get over this, and when you get over it you will enjoy life more than other people, you will find the value of little thigns, trust me, YOU WILL GET OVER IT, AND IT WILL BE AMAZING!
Hey bro glad I meet u, it's hocd, I'm suffering that too like gay thoughts eventho we truly believe we're not, u mind if u tell me ur Instagram?
Iyan Eki hey bro!! Of course we're not. As I said I got over that. You can get over it. I haven't had a thought like that for almost 4 years now. Now my obsession is different, I doubt of my past... I have to constantly check if what I remember is true.... so what I'm sayisng is that it's all OCD. You will doubt. Just doubt. No matter what. We have to learn to let our thoughts come and go.... thoughts don't mean anything. It seems easy but it's actually very difficult hehe. Sorry but I prefer not to share my insta. Greetings!
Hey bro u can add my insta = dwiyulianto67 (the profile picture is 2 black kids, haha), I really need the details how u did
@@xabier1375 hey bro but when anxietyn is spike, it's just really hard to get rid of
@@xabier1375 hey bro or add my second insta account = business_n_happening
My brain is constantly flooded with negative thoughts... If I'll not touch the switch then maybe the electrical appliance will catch fire... I'm constantly worrying about my loved one's life... That they may get depressed about something I did and they'll die and I'll not be able to get over that (whether it's my mistake or not)... It's just a whole mess in my brain
I need constant reassurance... Help
Classic OCD negative thinking. This scenario usually has associated perspectives such as, feeling excessive responsibility, low self-esteem and co-dependency. Rather than working on the OCD (which is a symptom) you need to be working on those other aspects of your personality if you want real change in your life. John
Will do. Thank you.
Go keto
This man has helped so many people keep up the good work
Thank you - www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
I had OCD from around age 16 making sure everything was turned off in my home when I leave because of the fear of a fire starting and the animals I own burning to death because of actions I didn't take to protect them. Recently I've developed pure o and have been having the most disturbing instrusive thoughts. Thoughts that went against my morals and made me feel depressed and eventually caused a mental breakdown. I've been meditating recently and learning to not believe every thought that occurs in my mind and only choose thoughts that empower me. Once you start living in the present moment life becomes alot clearer.
It does, I talk about that here ruclips.net/video/HLpiQ7dodsU/видео.html John
That is the best video I've ever watched on OCD & Anxiety.
A must watch
Thank you - many more videos in my channel and I have an OCD course too. John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Wow. This whole video is me. Thank you so much. I’m going to try to see someone soon as I can.
Good for you, the quicker you get help the sooner you can get out of this fearful way for thinking and behaving.
John
www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
can you imagine being a child with ocd and in the 50's and 60's no where to get help even though you are smart enough to know what the disease is?
I can as this was me in the 60's and 70's! John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
OMG best video ever on OCD and anxiety!!!! Thank you for doing this video !!!
My pleasure, you may wish to check out my other videos linked in the notes below this video - John
It explains what is OCD, tries to be as broad as possible then points to their patreon if you want to get help. That feels scammy since they are targeting a susceptible group, like a MLM or coaches, if we are sesrching this kind of video it usually means we are easily manipulated people.
Sorry you feel this way. I am trying to provide a resource for $3 per month for people who cant afford professional therapy or help with OCD.
The first three videos are free (links in notes under video) - I would welcome your thoughts on them and on my plan the help people. Thank you, John.
Thank you so much, I am trying to make a living from doing this, but keeping the cost as low as possible so nearly everybody can join. I am also, trying to live my life inline with these videos (as best I can) so my anxiety and OCD never returns - so far, so good!
If a person has OCD it means they are being easily manipulated by their own unconscious thoughts - I find this more scary and the pace to start when you are looking for change. John
I appreciate having stumbled upon this. Having been socialised in religious/spiritual communities, I was taught that "my thoughts manifest my reality" without any real context on my obsessive thoughts reflecting underlying anxiety and unconscious patterns of behaviour. Telling my mind that it is the sole creator of my life resulted in me trying desperately to control my thoughts with other thoughts. It's been exhausting, and I'm grateful for this sort of insight.
Well - sad thoughts generate sad emotions and happy thought generate happy emotions, regardless of the truth of what is happening around you. However, anxious people need the world to be different so they feel good. Happy people have an attitude of happiness, optimism and trust. Did you watch videos 1, 2 and 3 in my youtube channel? They start to explain how this works. Best wishes John.
i’m literally going through the same thing. Learning about law of attraction and manifestation too! glad to hear i’m not the only one
What most people fail to recognise about the law of attraction are... Firstly, the level of consciousness of the person affects how much energy is available for them to collapse the waveform of potentiality into actuality. And secondly, the person needs to be at a corresponding consciousness for what they are asking for. It's no use asking for a confident and funny partner if you are an anxious and nervous person. The best person to explain this is Dr David R Hawkins and his map of consciousness, it is fascinating and explains so much! Best wishes. John
@@TheCalmnessinMindProcess hi again John. I am going through your videos and I've found them super helpful so thank you 🙏 with regards to your response on my earlier comment, I completely hear you. It is only that, when you have anxiety that pops up as obsessive and deeply upsetting thoughts, it's quite disturbing for people to tell you to "quickly switch them off otherwise they will come true". So I totally hear and value your response, and your videos have, in fact, helped me to begin to turn my thoughts around. Baby steps 😅 but knowing, as you put it, that I am not my thoughts (as my thoughts themselves suggest), really puts me at ease. I get a bit panicked when this happens, out of the need to control my thoughts, but I'm quite chuffed to be able to push through those moments! 😊
That is a huge step forward - good for you and very well done! John
I have all of these symptoms. currently trying to make an appointment w a therapist. I can’t live like this anymore, it’s been a decade. thank you for this video. makes me feel less like a freak.
Thank you I am trying to put all of my therapist knowledge into low cost videos. John
So informative,no psychobabble,just straight foreward explanation covering all aspects ,brilliant
Thank you, there are lots of other videos in my RUclips channel you may like. John
Thank you for bringing confidence into my life. Thank you for helping us through your videos. Stay healthy. May your life be filled with peace and happiness. 😊
Thank you very much. Johnwww.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
What a calming voice this man has ✅
I’ve had a lot of therapy and I have learned a lot from this video!
I have had OCD since being a child and I struggle even after therapy - even with the ‘tools’.
Most people aren’t aware that OCD is about intrusive thoughts/compulsions - they assume you have to be cleaning a lot.
I do clean a lot - I always wondered why but it’s just been clarified.
I clean because it keeps my mind busy and therefore free from OCD (that’s the plan), and to take energy up (away from OCD), and lastly because I need (or the OCD does) order.
The question I’ve always had is - why do I have OCD?
I guess it’s different for most people but there must be a general reason. I have a narcissistic mother who has made my life hell and still tries to even though I’m 49, I think this is my reason. I had an unhappy childhood full of anxiety and stress and fear.
I also suffer badly with chronic pain, caused by a dentist 10 years ago and subsequently have fibromyalgia. Any kind of emotional stress makes the pain worse yet I can’t stop the OCD.
This video will help me, thank you very much.
Hi - thanks for you nice words. Here is a video from my OCD course that might interest you? The topic is very contentious (so please keep an open mind) but it may answer some very deep questions, especially with respect to your pain - John
Video 12 from the OCD recovery Course - ruclips.net/video/RTCU-tWcWDM/видео.html
@@TheCalmnessinMindProcess Thank you for your reply 😊
I’ve watched the video it’s very helpful, also I am very empathic!
I didn’t explain - the dentist damaged my jaw, I have a bad case of tmj - extreme head pain, even talking starts it off. The doctors explained that being in severe pain, my brain re-wired itself hence fibromyalgia.
I also have migraine, they’re hell but this head pain leaves them standing and at least they go with the prescriptions.
That aside, I believe and agree with all you say, I think I could somehow help ease the pain - stress makes it worse, but nothing magical happens when I’m calm!!
I appreciate your help very much. I would like my life back so very much, what’s left of it!!
I think fibromyalgia will be detected at some point - diabetes wasn’t detected in Victorian times for example, and fibro was called rheumatism for a long time.
Thank you again, mindset is very important, I’m so pleased I stumbled on you 😊
Glad it makes some sense - nobody has all the answers! My course is only $3 per month and there are 19 videos in there (just writing the 20th one this week) I am trying to make it as affordable as possible as good therapy is so expensive these days! It may give you new ways to ease your anxiety? John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
@@TheCalmnessinMindProcess Hi thank you I will look, I didn’t receive a notification that you had replied.
Thanks again.
Thank you for giving me a new way of thinking, ocd is just so painful and time consuming i cant handle those thoughts, brain is just a thing in your head. Take what is good leave else
Like I replied to someone else on this forum, close your eyes and count how many thoughts happen in your head in 30 seconds. Let's say you count 8. So, who are you? The one making the thoughts or the one counting the thoughts? Of course, you are the observer of the thoughts!
Hi John . Like ur video n guidance . How can anyone contact u in UK for treatment to get rid of ocd ? Kindly reply sir
Thanks John I had OCD as an adolescent but was able to get therapy to help me deal with underlying anxieties and emotional conflict that was giving rise to it. I am now a psychotherapist that helps people with this disorder. You are definitely on the right track here. I saw a video recently that told people that there was nothing they could do to stop OCD thoughts and they just had to live with them and observe them. This was without giving them any advice about anxiety or emotional trauma that would be giving rise to the condition. I thought the video was traumatising. I'm glad your out there.
Thanks Philip - I am trying to put all my knowledge into a very low cost video series to help people who can't afford to pay for therapy. John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
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Please does anyone know where I can get them? I put so much on my plate and it really affects my stress and anxiety level .I would love to try to shrooms.
I live in Michigan….suffering for awhile now but didnt realize how serious I may have it until recently - probably bc of @self medicating” with alcohol
How do I contact him?
Saw some reviews about Myco_louiis checked him out and I must recommend he is good at what he does
I'm glad myco_louiis is mentioned... I've been having severe depression for years now but I had to hit him up and got some of his products...they work like magic.
I'm kind of exhausted of normal people trying to protect the feelings of the mentally ill by saying "oh it's not a disorder its just different", it's a disorder because your brain isnt working the way it should be and it causes you immense discomfort. I'd love to see some healthy guy try out having OCD for a day and then seeing if he still doesnt think it's a disorder.
I had OCD and depression and thought it was a disorder, I was wrong, it is a condition. Until people wake up to this they will always be in a victim perspective and something outside of you will need to be added to fix you! By thinking and reacting to life differently it actually changes your internal chemistry - it is well proven and simple to explain. Check it out www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
Aidan McHendry it’s not a disorder you’re just scared of your thoughts we need to fix that! My husband gets them too and he is not bother by them ! I am because I am a control freak lol
I am an ocd patient. But trying to cope with it. It made me happy to know that i reallh had a problem and my problem is recognised the first time i shared it with my psychiatrist.
Glad it helped a little. I have many many more videos in my course that may help accelerate your recovery - Best wishes John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
This is the most accurate description of OCD I've listened to. Very helpful. Thank you.
Cool! You might also like my other videos, listed in the notes section below the video. John
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. Submit to him and he will make your path straight.”
Plus you can help the Lord by learning more about yourself - so his work can act faster on you :-)
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Anxiety & OCD Discernment I didn’t want to watch those videos because of fear, but I did anyways, Nd it helped me a bit. How can we get more information?
You MUST act. Trust, have faith, yes. It can be tremendously healing to the human soul- but you must do the hard work as well.
I used to have them but it stoped and today it came back
Good for you, that took a lot of faith. I have another 11 videos (plus I add a new one each month) here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist Best wishes John
My own brain is turning against me how could this be 😭😭
It's just an organ in your head, not you. It thinks it is helping you but it is the wrong kind of help. Watch my other numbered videos (links in the notes section under the video) and they will show you what is happening. Best wishes John
@@TheCalmnessinMindProcess thank you my friend
Luke, walk for 45 minutes a day ,don't run ,jog in the start. Just walk(45 minutes and cycle (15 minutes ) ,if yiu don't have have cycle don't worry but just walk for 45 minutes and slowly increase 5 minutes a day
@@Ajayhanand Great advice, I have some pretty bad ocd myself. Exercise is the one thing that has helped me. I find myself calmer and less anxious after exercise.
@@thebagelboyjr9351 try yoga too, cut off sugars , carbs
I have G.A.D ( Generalized ANXIETY Disorder ) I would rather go out than stay home ,. I talk to people ,have coffee ,ect. Getting out of the house actually relieves my ANXIETY, because I'm not constantly thinking...
For a few the role is reversed - normally if at home it is very lonely or abusive / critical in some way.
Your video give me breath and hope. Please never delete this video. it should be forever. I beg you
Thank you - I will keep it here! You might like this video too ruclips.net/video/2VDA7zAVh-0/видео.html John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Hi! This are just a thought. Don't make such such thoughts real. U have identified yourself with such thought. So stop making this type of thought and don't believe in such thought because they are not real. Now whenever such type of thought came then don't do what thought tells u to do. Just observe the thought without reacting to it and u will see that if u dont react to the the thought then after sometime the thought will go away. Just don't believe in the thought and don't make this thought real. Always have positive thinking because what u think that u become so if u want positive changes in your life then think positive thoughts only.
I agree! John
The thing is that u know they’re not real so i dont think somebody can prevent those thoughts by just thunking that they fake
What you need to understand is - the unconscious is trickable, even though the conscious mind knows it is not true, this is how placebo works and it is the route out of OCD. For example, the amygdala in the brain (fear response) has learnt to fear an OCD type thing, it needs to be tricked back into calmness, that is what ERP does. This process really works. John
Anxiety & OCD Discernment exactly. How do u think someone can face it?
They just need to be shown the right techniques - this is what I teach here
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and the whole course is here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
I’ve had OCD, especially intrusive thoughts of harming people when I never would want to for YEARS; I’m not a violent person and have never been in a physical fight or anything like that my whole life. I went to the doctors and was told I have mild OCD, anxiety and depression but I feel like it’s much more since I have really bad thoughts. I’ve thought about just ending it when it gets really bad like tonight, then the possibility of me acting on these thoughts one day are gone but I really don’t want to die either. . .I want no-one to die and I’m 20 years old. Getting help is hard :( and getting accurate help is even harder. It’s currently 5am and I haven’t slept yet due to fear of hurting someone because at my core I’m the complete opposite and never would. I would go to therapy but I’m scared something would happen to me because of my intrusive thoughts, maybe they’d think I was dangerous or crazy? I’d NEVER talk to anyone I know personally about my intrusive thoughts because they’d become scared of me. Reading comments like mine under this video has made me feel less guilty and threatened with my thoughts though. No one I know has OCD and whenever anyone talks about it it’s the cleaning kind which I personally don’t experience, mine are just the very scary thoughts of harming people but also thoughts like if I don’t wash my face 5 times or someone I love will be hurt. There’s even been times I’ve been washing my hands or dishes and my brain will tell me to hold my hand under the hot water for a certain number pf seconds (my go to numbers are normally multiples of 2 or 5) my sister has anxiety and panic attack episodes that my family find hard to ignore and are always aware of but when it comes to me, I’m quite quiet and they think my mental health is fine since my battle is my thoughts and actions I can hide. As for where I think my OCD came from I grew up in a very traumatic household with abuse, moving around to hide from it a lot, my dad cheating and even being kidnapped by him once then divorce when child services finally got involved. Childhood definitely does affect who we become. Thank you for making these videos, you’re giving us information and a community.
Hi Chloe, this is classic OCD and sounds like you are well entrenched within its grasp. But there is much you can do about it when you are ready. My whole course is available for only $3 per month www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist Best wishes John
Anxiety & OCD Discernment I’ll give it a go, thank you!
Hang in there! You're not alone in this!
i legit have the same thing and i cant deal with it anymore but im too scared to tell anyone bc they might think im a physcopath
You might be very surprised that people will understand - everybody is at least to some degree pretty messed up, even if they are acting like they are not!
Really helped a lot in changing my perspective about OCD.
Good, because OCD is really sneaky - John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
This has changed my life. Looking at your website now. Thank you very much.
Glad it makes sense - I have a whole course of videos exploring finding more calmness. John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
If you have OCD (compulsions and/or intrusive thoughts) do these two things consequently and your compulsions and intrusive thoughts WILL 100% get better or maybe even completely vanish if you do it long enough: Meditate daily (ideally 30-60+ minutes, I recommend Vipassana, which is simply putting your Awareness on your breath) and constantly practice Awareness throughout the entire day. Practicing Awareness means simply observing your thoughts and compulsions in a distanced and detached way. You have to realize that you ARE the observer/the Awareness and not the observed thoughts and compulsions. Do not identify with your thoughts and compulsions and simply observe them from a distance. Intrusive thoughts and compulsions are randomly generated and you have absolutely 0 control over them, but you have the power of being able to ignore them and not worry about them. Fully accept and welcome all thoughts and compulsions, no matter how strange or disturbing they may be. Never feel ashamed, disgusted or shocked, this fuels intrusive thoughts and compulsions immensely. Compulsions and intrusive thoughts thrive on the attention and meaning you give to them. Meditating is gonna be extremely hard at first, but don't be discouraged, it will become easier and easier the more you meditate and practice Awareness. The goal would be to remain in Awareness 24/7, which would make you completely invulnerable to all compulsions and intrusive thoughts.
Wishing you all the best 😊❤
Great advice, I did the Vipassana and it was a life changer! John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Bro i have hocd will meditating 1 hr a day for 2 to 3 months help me to get out of this??
@@nazz5315 YES! 😊
@@feelsokayman3959 man thank you so much we ...will fight all the time
And will never give up on this shit
@@nazz5315 it is very hard for me too but yes we will get through this shit man 💪😊
I have Autism.and I think I have OCD I constantly double check things,worry too much,stutter talking to people,always nervous around people.and I tend to be by myself.and don’t like being in pictures.
Yes, did you watch my other video here ruclips.net/video/5G16zAxHNbI/видео.html ?
Due to (or beneath) these conditions are always self-worth or self-confidence issues - learning how to overcome these is key.
There are many people with Autism and Anxiety - who still function well because they are ok with who they are and don't let their own identity define or confine them.
I talk about this in my program www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
John
I agree best explanation I have come across. All of it makes complete sense and I’ve had examples of all of it!!
Thank you, I have a lot more videos on my patreon page that might interest you? John
Thanks, Barbara, although I am not making a video on responsibility OCD (because this is a symptom) my patreon video course does teach you how to work on the causes, which in your case is probably guilt.
Well, guilt is a huge topic. Basically, it is the difference between what you do (or think) compared with what you think (or were trained to think) you "ought" to do in any moment. Then you beat yourself up for not doing what you think you "ought" to do! Which is basically self-abuse because nobody is making that comparison except yourself. Plus, when you are doing the beat yourself up guilt trip, the thing you did (or didn't do) has already been done. So, really it is a self-abusive waste of time trying to live up to somebody else's expectation of who you "ought" to be. It's exhausting and leads nowhere - except anxiety and depression.
A better question to ponder is.... Which part of you is beating up which another part of you? And the answer is, your inner judge is beating up your inner victim, then your inner pleaser is trying to make everyone happy, which makes your inner rebel really angry - and so it goes on automatically within your subconscious mind until you can see that you are doing this to yourself without releasing!
The path to freedom is radical honesty (or silence) and not being horrible to yourself. Winston Churchill famously said "What anyone else thinks of me is none of my business...!" If your friend looks fat, tell her or be silent - but don't lie!
If a friend asks you if you are OK (and you are not), say you are not, its just the truth. But if you lie she will think you are OK and then you might be angry that she can't see you are unhappy - but you told her you were OK!!!!
I teach people ways to understand themselves and others - so they can find more calmness inside.
Much of this was all installed within our brain during childhood - but it can be changed if you put some effort in. John
See the overwhelm as a good thing, like stuck trauma finally being released from the cells of your body after all these years, don't resist your emotions - let them come up. John
l agree, best explanation l have found! Now l know why l act like l have and my healing allready started :)
What i have noticed more with ocd is that, it can create "puzzles" that have no logic and make no sense, and you feel as if you solve it, then you will feel better or make the anxiety or uncomfortable thoughts go away, for me I have noticed I no longer have anxiety, but my mind still creates these loops, with no real solution, so no matter what you do or say, it will give you a different disturbing thought, making you feel annoyed, inconvenienced, and confused. I finally got tired of wasting so much time trying to think my way out, or come up with a solution, so I simply practice what john teaches, and that is to not give the thoughts any meaning! This seems to be more difficult at first, but eventually when you get the hang of it, starts to get easier to dismiss them!
Thanks John!
You are welcomne!
Thanks
That is very much appreciated - thank you.
THANK YOU! I get intrusive thoughts like past few days and now I know how to 'let go' of that thought and not to take my thought personally. THANK YOU VERY MUCH!!!!
You are welcome - lots more video here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
How do u feel?
Such a great course! Loving every minute of it!
Thank you!
Watching these kind of videos is part of my complusions... I feel better when I get informations about my condition, when I know that my thoughts are not true.
Well, it is good to have a compulsion that may guide you to your recovery :-) John ruclips.net/video/L1hctPt4Q8g/видео.html
@@TheCalmnessinMindProcess You are right! Thank you for these videos.
Good stuff - loads more here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
haha agree. And ocd are of many types.
I had it a few years ago ( not completely out but a lot lot better now)
Books and friends helped me get out of it.
Plus I used to do this when experiencing ocd:
Ask yourself that what would happen if you didn't respond to this disease( whichever ocd it is). That, would something really bad happen to you? Now pull up yourself and don't do the ocd activity.
See? You won't die even if you don't
It will take time to get over like this but it worked for me. I hope it does for you too.
And always be positive.
Great advice. John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
@@TheCalmnessinMindProcess Thanks😊
Did you have suicide tbemed ocd? Harm ocd but self harm instead of harm to others?
@@dianaake1991 religious one
I have one problem. While praying I get intrusive thoughts and images about my parents though I never want them to be harmed. I have religious ocd and I try to keep on praying to lessen my anxiety but the moment I start praying in my mind I get unwanted images related to the life of my parents which causes a lot of anxiety and I fear if because of me they are harmed Please help me what to do with this. I also get blasphemous thoughts and i do not want anything to happen to my loved ones because of my harmful thoughts for them which I hate thinking and imagining. I love my family even more than my life but I do not know how I get negative thoughts about my family and God. I feel like killing myself. Please help me!
Hey listen even I get such intrusive thoughts but we all know that we love our loved ones and these are only stupid ocd thoughts.. I would suggest seeing a therapist coz it's a big help and also just know your intrusive thoughts are not real they are just the result of less serotonin.. Pls take care..
@@SoniaChavan99 I thought I was the only one who gets such thoughts and was tensed about it for more than 3 months and could not share it with anyone because of my guilt. That's why I wrote about it on RUclips. Is there any other way to stop worrying about this other than a therapist because there is no therapist in my town?
@@AyushKumar-gk7do Listening to overcome intrusive thoughts subliminal affirmations on RUclips also helped me and as you said there's no therapist in town checkout in practo once .. Also you are not alone in this we all are victims of less serotonin lol.. Sometimes I feel drained too but then im like why even I'm reacting this is so dumb
@@SoniaChavan99 Thanks a lot for for your help and suggestion. May God bless you!
@@AyushKumar-gk7do you too man❤
Hi thank you for this video. I've begun having unwanted intrusive thoughts and images since the quarantine began. I've never had these kind before, and it's been going on basically every minute of every day for a month and a half. I've begun to really feel guilty and shameful for sins and decisions I have made both related to and unrelated to the intrusive thoughts and images that I've done in the past. I know that these thoughts and images aren't me, that I don't believe in them, and that I'll never do them in real life. It goes against who I am as a person and Christian. But there's constant fighting and trying to convince myself that it isn't true, and it only makes it worse. It's been so distressing and horrible. I feel like my relationships with my family members have already taken a hit, and I feel guilty over that too as none of its their fault. Especially since it's the quarantine, I feel like I've had no one to go to. I haven't been diagnosed with ocd, but I'm almost sure it is. I'm scared to get diagnosed because that would mean my whole life is changed. I'm almost done with college, I have my future career soon, and I have my relationships with everyone. I'm so scared and worried that my unwanted intrusive thoughts and images and potential ocd will potentially ruin all of them, everything I've built up and worked on. It's one thing to know that these aren't real and not me, but it gets worse and worse anyway. Just a tiny bit of what I'm going through without going into specifics, thanks. Hope you reply.
im going through the same thing since quarantine started:( you’re not alone ✨
@@nonochangbinno thanks. How's it been for you? It's been really difficult for me. Every day is a battle, which is the opposite of what I should do, but it's like I can't control anything
@Vanessa Macaluso thank you. Have you been through this? Any advice or help?
OCD is very common don’t be scared of the label. Because this is so new to you, now is the time to nip it in the bud! Watch videos 1, 2 and 3 in my youtube channel and this will explain the basics of what id happening to you . John
Jason 0001 tbh it’s been really difficult for me too i always try my best to not think those things but sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t. but we are stronger than those thoughts so let’s keep going 🌈☁️
This video made me feel so much better about some things that I experience in my daily life. I was diagnosed with OCD when I was 8 (almost 12 years ago), and although I had a good idea of what having OCD entails, I had no idea that some of my seemingly random (and infuriating) habits could possibly be caused by my OCD. When he said that some people with OCD can be very controlling of other people close to them because they need things to be a certain way, it clicked for me. I feel like I am constantly unsatisfied with the way my partner carries out certain tasks like cleaning, organizing, remembering to do things, etc. I always have to ask him if he did something a certain way if he remembered to do something, or I just end up doing the task for him or redoing it to avoid the anxiety it brings. This makes him feel upset and makes me feel upset too because I cannot help that I need things done a certain way and he feels like when he does things "it's not good enough". I feel guilty a lot and lately, I just do things myself instead of asking him to do things. I never knew that this could possibly be because of my OCD.
Yes, OCD is very sneaky and controlling. Perhaps it is time to begin trusting? John
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It’s true about the fear. Ocd are just symptoms but I can’t get rid or both. My mind is occupied with ocd and fear. I have to train my brain to think of something or nothing to not to think about the ocd
That why I made my OCD course - to teach people how I learned to do it! John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
PS It is not YOUR mind it isTHE mind, the brain is just pumping out thoughts - YOU are the observer of those thoughts!
This might explain it better - ruclips.net/video/zbq7eFrZi1c/видео.html John
You ask your self whenever you encounter a negative thought... Is this useful to me? If the answer is no then ignore it
Good advice - ruclips.net/video/2VDA7zAVh-0/видео.html
If you walk for 45 minutes for 3 months ,this will go . I felt calmer in just 3 days and then everyday you are better and better , half of the disease will go off in a month of consistent effort , just walk and cut completely on sugar ( our body doesn't need sugar ,it creates it from food , insulin changes body harmonal order )
Exercise is always a good thing :-) Best wishes John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Whoever is strugling with anxiety or ocd needs to watch this video.
This is a very helpful therapy program.
Whether you suffer from it or you know someone.
Please share this video with them.
It is a very comprehensive and instrutional course.
But over all John shares very effective technics .
Thank you :-) - www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Thank you !so satisfied when i read and heart that it is possible to overome and it can be unprogrammed :)
Dimitra Papagianni have u overcome ?
You are welcome. John
I feel so disgusted with myself all the time due to my thoughts. It all started when I was 15 and let's just say life has never been the same ever since because I literally can't look at anyone the same way anymore and it's killing me it makes me feel like I've lost my emotions and I don't love the people around me. My mind feels like a prison
I can totally feel you man. But I can promise you things will get better for sure. I'm not trying to motivate you and all but I'm telling you the truth. Idk how but you'll figure it out just be patient. I'm saying this because intrusive thoughts destroyed my life and I thought I'll never be able to feel myself again but things actually got better.
@@sadhwik4324 hey there,thank you so much your words honestly made me feel so much better
Sorry to hear this. We can't control our unconscious thoughts, but we can learn to ignore them, not give them meaning and run new conscious thoughts over the top of them that are more positive regardless of whether they are true or not. You can look out of the window and say, what a shit world, or say, wow, what a place of beauty, regardless of the truth (which is just a perspective anyway) one "story" will make you feel bad, the other "good" - it consciously up to you what you choose to think - but you are not responsible for your unconscious thoughts, that is just the conditioning of your brain. Did you watch videos 1,2 and 3 in my youtube channel? John
I have struggled with OCD for 54 years, it used to come and go, blinking of my eyes is what I do, from a trauma when I was 5 years old.
Now at 59, it just seems to be getting worse.
I loved the video, thank you, I never thought about the things you said.
Thank you so much.
Thank you for you feedback - you may like these videos too? Best wishes John
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I want to just be happy and get pleasure in living a normal life with everyday basic things. My mind is constantly processing a thought and it’s been over 12 years now I am 30 and literally sick and tired of this. I end up wasting my time by distracting myself with RUclips videos instead of doing something thoughtful.
I checked that low level of Testosterone and vitamin D deficiency can give you symptoms like OCD
I am going to join you on Patreon & lots of love for helping people ❤️
Thank you for your comments, OCD is not caused by low testosterone or vitamin D deficiency - those problems may cause certain physical symptoms - and how you respond to those feelings and life may be classed as anxious and how you respond to avoiding the anxiety is what OCD is.
Please do join me at patreon where video 5 and video 6 of the calmness in mind OCD recovery program will be launched soon. www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
John
I hear you. I’m 32 and have been stuck with this since I was 19.
@@jeremy1069fm same here I've been dealing with this since I was 18 I'm now 40😫 its so annoying good thing it comes and goes.
Seriously self sabotage is the worst thing ever, cause the second you get better in any way you will subconsciously sabotage your own happiness and well being WHAT!
Yes, video 30 in my course goes into a lot of detail about self-sabotage, the need for reassurance and how to overcome it! www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
i think i got OCD from an severe panic attack while smoking weed, i couldnt stop thinking about bad things, and i tried to stop it therefore it became even worse, but i did beat it, i learned to calm myself down, and tell myself that this is not who i truly am, telling myself that all the time programmed my subconcious mind i think and helped me to not have negative thaughts again , hope that helps people, if it just helps one person out there, than this was already worth it, if youre reading this, i sent you blessings and know that god is with you you just need to ask him for help. Thats all it takes.
Well done, you did the right thing.
BRO! i'M GOING THROUGH THE EXACT SAME THING AND IT'S PISSING ME OFFFFFFF! I had a panic attack so severe that I had to go to the ER. It's been playing such a big part in why I have hallucinations and extreme thoughts. I am currently doing the same thing, just trying to keep calm and remind myself that this is all just a phase and it will go away.
Thank you so much for posting this. I have faith now. People don't know how bad weed can really be for you.
I connected to all of the parts of ocd you explained in this video. I never realized how severe it was, it is holding me back from really enjoying life. I spend way too much time worrying and not enough time being calm, I need to act to help improve my life.
Perhaps you can start here?
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This pandemic doesn't help.
True - but you can look at in two ways. 1. It is horrible. 2. How can I use it as ERP to help me let go and grow? Changing attitude is such a big part of letting go of anxiety and OCD! Best wishes John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Wow man bro I love this it seems like u really actually do understand very well what ocd is
Thank you, I do have a lot of experience and education on this subject.
💖PLEASE READ THIS💖
A little over a year ago, (September 20th to be exact,) I had a thought that came to my mind. I was recently going to an event that I went to every year, but the last year was different. I stayed home for a full week, because I was making myself sick from stress, not sleeping much, etc. I was going to ask my mom if it would happen again, because I am a worrier. Asking my mom and having her tell me I wouldn’t, would help me feel less stressed. I never asked her, because I just told myself that I wouldn’t. I kept on thinking about this thing, but not too often. Until I realized, I was getting this weird feeling in my head. If you have OCD, I’m sure you know what I mean. It feels like a large cluster of horribleness, thoughts. The only time you don’t have obsessive thoughts is when you sleep. Your fear may still be in ur dream, but you don’t really think about it while you are asleep. As soon as I wake up, I’ll be lucky if I get 1 hour of no my obsessive fear. Then it just comes to my head immediately. When I get a few days of no obsessive thoughts, or just think about my fear slightly, I feel amazing.
Now, about quarantine. I don’t know about you, but I am still in school, and my parents are really concerned, and want to make sure I’m okay, as they should. No one where I live really cares about it, and I am one of the very few kids in my class who are online. (We have a choice to be online or not.) Anyway, quarantine has made my OCD SO bad, and I fear to talk to someone about it. I’ve told my best friend about this, but I am scared to confess my fear. The thing I fear now is completely different than the the fear I once did fear.
The one thing that makes me happy, is my friends. Especially my best friend. I trust her with my life. I can’t co one day without talking to her. She is like a sister to me. I miss her so much, even though I talk to her everyday. It is different than seeing her in person, especially if you are used to hanging out everyday, to never hanging out again.
This summer, I missed something that made me so upset. Now, just for some information, I go to this Bible camp, with my two best friends in The whole wide word. I begged my mom EVERYDAY that I could go, but of course, I couldn’t. Both of my friends got to go, and I can’t deal w being left out very well. I cried A LOT about not being able to go. Right before camp, I dreamed that I went to camp w my friends, but when I woke, I realized it was just a dream. I started to instantly cry, which had never happened to me before. My thoughts make my fears come to reality. Just like how you can make your mind make us sick if we think we are. Our human brains are powerful! Even to the point where it can be a little too powerful. I also, loved to go to my local Youth Group, which was very sad to me when I couldn’t go anymore because of COVID-19. God is a big part of my life, and so are my friends and family. I have a great relationship w my family, but I feel that I am easily open more to my friends, probably bec they can relate to me more, and are the same age as me, because I am the youngest in my family, and my youngest sibling is 6 1/2 years older than me. God and my friends keep me happiest. I just know he is helping and trying to get me through this!
I am planing on telling my friend soon!
Thankyou for this video, especially since I really regret not asking my mom that one day, and it really helped me so so much with understanding my problems!
(Srry for such a long story, and if you read all of that, I love you 💖) :)
(Also, this really proves that the little things, sometimes matter the most, and the littlest change/mistake can change life.)
Glad the video helped, there are many mote in my channel and I have an OCD recovery course too if you are interested. Best wishes John
all I can say is this course made me get on with my live, I'm stil not totally comfortable but I learned a lot and made progress. I'm looking forward to me accepting and leaving the past behind, not getting in to story's and feeling more calm. I'm thankful for you wanting to teach ♡
Thank you for your kind words - John
My friend who is diagnosed with OCD has been fighting with the thoughts since his childhood he's 17 now (will be turning 18 this nov) he's the strongest person I have ever meet, no one in his family believes that OCD is some real condition and they don't understand him at all, I just can't see him suffering like this, most of the time he won't talk to me about how he's really feeling but I could make out by the way he zone out at times. When he opened up to me about this, he told me that i helped him a lot and that I'm still helping him cope up with those thoughts, he says that he is attached to me and that my text messages and calls make his thoughts disappear for that moment. So ever since that day I've been doing such things to help him. But both of us know that he needs to be treated for OCD or its gonna be hard for him as he ages. We are clueless about what to do without his family's support. But He keeps on telling me that my help is enough and he'll cope with it by himself. DO YOU HAVE ANY ADVICE FOR ME?
I would try and get your friend to sign up to my course, it is just £7 per month here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist - everything you will need to know about OCD is in there and what to do. If your friend won't do it, perhaps you can so by understanding what they are going through, you will be able to act in ways that support rather than keep them stuck in OCD?
Try not to offer reassurance or go along with their compulsions. For example if they won't go out - say "OK, I see your OCD is keeping you in, I'll be back later, because I can accept that your OCD makes this hard for you, but I have my life to live."
@@TheCalmnessinMindProcess I got it! thank you so much for responding. I'll try my best in helping him cope with OCD.
I just found out I have ocd. Its horrible, I already have hypervigilance and I cant stop thinking about all bad things that could ever happen, Im really stressed out, cant sleep at night scared to go outside. But the worst thing is that whenever I have to make dinner or something when i hold any ,,dangereous,, object im getting horrible thoughts in which im hurting someone that I love with it and I feel like I might lose control and actually do it. It really terrifies me making me not want to stay alive, it really adds to my crippling depression which I've had for like almost 7 years now. Sorry for improper grammar I'm not English and I dont really have time I just felt that I have to finally get this out of my mind.
Sorry you are going through this but it is very common indeed (you won't hurt anyone) it is just a trick from your unconscious mind to scare you into staying at home. I used to have the same thing. My course will teach you how to understand what is happening to you and what how you will need to overcome your underlying anxiety and worry - which is your real problems - OCD is the symptom of the anxiety.
You can start today and it the price is stupidly low :-) best wishes for your recovery John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
@@TheCalmnessinMindProcess Thank you for the kind words, means a lot to me
Thank you. This is so comforting and it is exactly me!
You are so welcome!
I am following Johns course and i must say it changed my life with ocd. The insight and knowledge he has is amazing.
Thank you for your kind words. John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
I’m laying in bed right now and I am doing soooo many different rituals and it’s really annoying me. I did one just now.
I’ve suffered from ocd about 3 years now and I’ve been to a therapist, CBT.
half a year ago my ocd completely disappeared. I wasn’t diagnosed with ocd anymore and I didn’t do any rituals.
But now it’s back. Everything is back except for one thing, I changed nearly all the rituals.
I don’t know what to do and I feel like I want to cry all the time...
Right now I’m staring at the paper on the window and I feel like I REALLY have to touch it...
so I’m having the worst time right now and I need help.
thank you doc ❤️
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Hi, sorry to hear you are going through this, although sadly it is very common. Go to my RUclips channel and start watching the numbered recordings- they will give you new perspectives. John
Anxiety & OCD Discernment thank you, really appreciate your concerns. Will do! Thanks again
I don’t know what’s wrong. I keep having intrusive self harming thoughts. I’ve never contemplated whatsoever harming myself, only improving myself. But when I was at the beach, I kept having intrusive thoughts of throwing myself off of the balcony and it got so bad I went inside and went to sleep scared, also happened the next day to the point I couldn’t look at the ground. This is however normal, I have horribly violent intrusive thoughts that I’ve been dealing with for months, it’s been accompanied by a bit of depression, but it’s all getting better. Everything gets better. Conquer and overcome. Your thoughts DO NOT manifest in your action, you are sane, you are perfectly normal. How can I stop intrusive violent thoughts though?
It is not about stopping them, it is about realising what they mean. It is your unconscious minds way of scaring you away from interacting with life, because your biology is exhausted from worrying too much. It is what OCD does, for some it hijacks you with scary thoughts and for others compulsions and for others xyz. Your own unconscious mind will scare you with whatever story it knows will consciously get your attention. My course goes into lots of detail about this. John
You just have to belive and have faith that once again you’ll be alright brothers and sisters. Its not easy, its by far the hardest thing i have had to deal with my whole life. Try your best not to engage in the thoughts or analyze what your mind is ”trying to telling you”, they’re are all just lies fueld with fear. Some people probably experience the same things without even knowing or they might even notice but just dont care enough to bother engaging in it. But you’re aware and you have good heart. You just live in a world full of weak minded people. Not the ones who suffer, but the ones who choose to follow evil. No matter how real the situation gets, it cant hurt you. And Even tho it feels like it gets worse every time, it will get better, i promise. The relief will be much greater and You will experience life like you never have before. Just have faith that one day You Will find yourself looking back at this time in your life, and you will be at ease. Keep moving forward and never give up, one day you will be taken care of and you will be rewarded for your patience 💛🙏💛🤲
Thank you for your input!
Thank you for the encouragement ❤
@@pavithrajanarsan1940 ❤
Wow! Thank you. I have had these recurring thoughts that I've always thought to be bad suddenly, and it made me feel super bad about myself. This video was very beneficial!
Thoughts are not reality! This might help? Video 3 ruclips.net/video/zf1J4Vwjg9Y/видео.html John