The Story of a Child Marriage Survivor

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  • Опубликовано: 24 ноя 2024

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  • @laurenrose3462
    @laurenrose3462 2 года назад +11127

    You know our foster care system is broken when an abused child runs away and goes back to an abusive home.

    • @itss.christelle
      @itss.christelle 2 года назад +202

      Its always been broken

    • @Abdul_Moiz_bin_Muhammad_Y.
      @Abdul_Moiz_bin_Muhammad_Y. 2 года назад +49

      The woman admitted she was westernized. What about women who aren't and are happy to marry young

    • @zoviqi2388
      @zoviqi2388 2 года назад +511

      @@Abdul_Moiz_bin_Muhammad_Y. those women are still forced to it at young age and kept in the dark... they don't know any better

    • @zoviqi2388
      @zoviqi2388 2 года назад +190

      It's sad there is many women who grew up like this and think it's normal... and that's just how life is...

    • @zoviqi2388
      @zoviqi2388 2 года назад +139

      But it's not... it's literally child slavery

  • @abhiranidevi
    @abhiranidevi 2 года назад +15062

    The Indian central government raised the age of women from 18 to 21 to get marry , totally appreciating the new law...A new chapter for women empowerment✨ I hope it's the same for every women in this world ... To all my girls out there, grow peacefully , be fearless and realise your power❤️

    • @ankita722
      @ankita722 2 года назад +724

      @Shubham Kanojia apni desh ki bandi dikhi nhi troll krna chalu.. kyu bhaisahab kyu jalti hai aapki itni zyada

    • @nikitafromuttarakhand6800
      @nikitafromuttarakhand6800 2 года назад +347

      @Shubham Kanojia anpad kahi 12-13 saal ki ladki se shadi to nahi kar liye jo mar rhy ho...... juban itni to tabhi gandi hoti h jab khandan hi Ganda ho ...... gawar sala

    • @Shine-wb6ll
      @Shine-wb6ll 2 года назад +533

      @Shubham Kanojia talk english so we all can understand your intellectual input ? Share your wisdom to all of us, let us hear how cultured you are ?

    • @soumyaverma7567
      @soumyaverma7567 2 года назад +412

      @Shubham Kanojia Aur tumhare jaise Indian ladko ka kya karein....jinko apni gandi nazar aur jubaan se sirf apne Desh ki hi nhi poori duniya ki aurton ki izzat girane me maza aata h????

    • @RakeshSingh-ut9pc
      @RakeshSingh-ut9pc 2 года назад +395

      @Shubham Kanojia it's because of men like you indian men are looked down upon

  • @maemae6312
    @maemae6312 2 года назад +5621

    In every single picture of her as a child you can see the pain and fear behind her eyes it’s really heartbreaking

    • @Abdul_Moiz_bin_Muhammad_Y.
      @Abdul_Moiz_bin_Muhammad_Y. 2 года назад

      What are you supporting - women empowerment? Or do you mean women who are old, unmarried, licentious, and difficult to deal with. Is this empowerment? Is empowerment being told that your body as a woman is gross because it can produce a baby because it needs a man to make that baby? Is empowerment resenting marriage and pushing it higher so women can be raped and intimate with multiple men to the point that they lose their bonding parity which women are born with? You're just a parrot for western values and colonialism - demonizing marital practices and responsible men as misogynistic and backwards

    • @cymbolize2541
      @cymbolize2541 2 года назад +90

      @@Abdul_Moiz_bin_Muhammad_Y. Bro why are u supporting child marraige

    • @Abdul_Moiz_bin_Muhammad_Y.
      @Abdul_Moiz_bin_Muhammad_Y. 2 года назад

      @@cymbolize2541 Child marriage happens in virtually every society historically and to present. Just because someone marries a child, it doesn't mean they are a rapist. See all of human history and the modest respectable and loved women with loving families and huge extended families. In the West, it is a problem because individualism encourages men and women to think for themselves hence promiscuity but to extend western-centric problems to the whole world is inappropriate. Other societies care about having stable healthy families and women and men already develop sexual urges young so we can't they be permitted a life-long partner to channel those feelings rather than only fans, dating apps where men are cheating, lgbtq politics, and etc. So don't make this universalizing argument when you are being tone deaf to other cultures and people

    • @apillowcase7476
      @apillowcase7476 2 года назад +86

      @@Abdul_Moiz_bin_Muhammad_Y. I come from a place that used to allow child marriage. I see your point, but please understand that when you are a child, your brain isn’t developed and you are not mature enough to understand what a relationship is. Children shouldn’t be having a relationship so early in their lives. Please at least try to think about how these children might feel. Forcing children to marry is not ok. Before you say I’m “disrespecting” your culture just know that I also came from a place where child marriage was allowed and I do not support these kind of things because a child should never have to be forced to marry a stranger and be sent away from their family. They need to be mature enough to understand what a relationship is. That is why most people get married in their 20s. It’s because they are mature enough to comprehend what a relationship is. Please don’t defend this kind of behavior.

    • @Abdul_Moiz_bin_Muhammad_Y.
      @Abdul_Moiz_bin_Muhammad_Y. 2 года назад

      ​@@apillowcase7476I responded to those claims. Children have intellectual limitations but you are trying to separate them from their societal context which is impotent. A society that inculcates sexual mores and propagates promiscuities will suffer from those problems you mentioned but not other societies that do not practice these customs. You need to be mature to understand you are creating and forcing a meta-narrative of the "terrible and oppressed child marriage" which in fact never existed except in recent times. Again then you make this statement that is passively aggressive that we should understand but you do not understand that people don't have complete free agency. From the moment you are born, your language determines the extent of reality you can communicate but also the structural limitations of your world paradigm. Liberalism is terrible and I agree but child marriage is not. If you disagree then ban pre-marital relationships and the influx of various sexual mores. Don't make blanket claims and force assimilation. Child marriages are fine but we need societies that aren't disgustingly out of touch with youth and family-bonding

  • @maddyedits01
    @maddyedits01 2 года назад +5510

    This is so disgusting... How can a family do this to their own daughter...

    • @littlesoftiegacha1881
      @littlesoftiegacha1881 2 года назад +318

      they just care about money

    • @ateez81
      @ateez81 2 года назад +522

      some families get disappointed after the mother gives birth to a girl is because they think of dowry and child marriage .. disgusting indeed 💀

    • @arohasxarmy576
      @arohasxarmy576 2 года назад +76

      They all are uneducated jahil people

    • @Yuna-rt1dz
      @Yuna-rt1dz 2 года назад +93

      @mamtahansda 😂😂😂Welcome to Islam!!

    • @arohasxarmy576
      @arohasxarmy576 2 года назад +102

      That’s not about Islam. In Islam, no one says chid marriage. For you ye kind info, this happened in America. Why didn’t the government do anything!? Don’t be a nerd. Aren’t you aware of the fact that child marriages are common everywhere. That’s at places where people are uneducated. Otherwise every country has marriage age of about 18 years by government but people don’t follow. This has nothing to do with Islam so shut spitting nonsense

  • @afri2304
    @afri2304 2 года назад +13707

    This is not just an American problem. This is a world problem.
    More power to you. ❤️

    • @mrarafatnobody5907
      @mrarafatnobody5907 2 года назад +11

      I appreciate that you and you supposed but something is missing B woman is not good because one man army is never left her partner never left her wife this is the reason

    • @manishgirase6130
      @manishgirase6130 2 года назад +8

      I have a doubt plz dont get Offended do girls have to sleep with Their spouse in the nikah ceremony i have this doubt coz also the word nikah means intercourse , do they have too ?

    • @rihana_1604
      @rihana_1604 2 года назад +18

      @@manishgirase6130 no they dont. its just a marriage ceremony

    • @rihana_1604
      @rihana_1604 2 года назад +45

      @@manishgirase6130 nikah does not mean intercourse its the arabic word marriage

    • @arhamshoaib4324
      @arhamshoaib4324 2 года назад

      Shut up

  • @swhedha
    @swhedha 2 года назад +2113

    Child marriage is one of the most sickening things that still occur regularily in this world

    • @karenmurray4608
      @karenmurray4608 2 года назад +19

      Disgusting indeed.

    • @maclaineaugustus8221
      @maclaineaugustus8221 2 года назад +4

      I agree

    • @nuskyahmad6375
      @nuskyahmad6375 2 года назад +8

      no child marriage is not a problem if it was u wouldnt find so many girls that are dating wanting to get married before they turn 18. Its forced marriage that is the problem

    • @nivethas1308
      @nivethas1308 2 года назад +51

      @@nuskyahmad6375 Even a child can date.. but that doesn't mean that they should get married as they wish.. what matters is their life.. a child at that age won't have maturity to choose a lifepartner wit whom she or he is going to share their everything..

    • @nuskyahmad6375
      @nuskyahmad6375 2 года назад +2

      @@nivethas1308 maybe they wont but that doesnt make dating the right choice either. The only right decision here is being patient and improving yourself until you get to an age where u are mentally and physically healthy

  • @Dobbyisfree000
    @Dobbyisfree000 2 года назад +7437

    The fact that this happened in America and not just some rural Indian/Pakistan village is chilling. If this is how it is in a first world country. Imagine our state.

    • @ranjeetamukherjee
      @ranjeetamukherjee 2 года назад +473

      The legal age for marriage in India for girls was 18...and now being increased to 21 yrs... Even the Muslim girls ... Who otherwise had to follow the shariat law are now protects under this law..

    • @hassanaqeel9485
      @hassanaqeel9485 2 года назад +156

      @@ranjeetamukherjee mam you need to educate your self even in pakistan legal age for getting married is 18

    • @sarahmaric4125
      @sarahmaric4125 2 года назад +222

      @@ranjeetamukherjee it's has nothing to do with Muslim and Shariah law..I am Muslim from south india(tamilnadu) child marriage is very rare here..

    • @ranjeetamukherjee
      @ranjeetamukherjee 2 года назад +299

      @@sarahmaric4125 are you ignorant ... South India doesn't end with tamilnadu there are other states also from where many instances of child marriages especially from in Hyderabad... Under age girls married to older men... Especially from middle eastern countries.... And I only mentioned shariat law coz their laws are different from our constitutional law.. Don't communalise my statement.. the marriable age law comes under uniform civil code and many muslim leader had opposed it saying it is against the shariat law...

    • @ranjeetamukherjee
      @ranjeetamukherjee 2 года назад +216

      @@hassanaqeel9485 i only spoke about India.. dint even mention pakistan...and I'm not interested in what's cooking in my neighbour's kitchen.... good for you that your country is progressive

  • @shrishtishukla4149
    @shrishtishukla4149 2 года назад +3000

    This is not just American problem, this is an issue women face across world ,some time I feel you need to be a bad women to deal with this evil world, people think innocence and simplicity as dumb and weakness ...more power to her stay strong ❤️

    • @9elementsofff806
      @9elementsofff806 2 года назад +45

      this even happens to boys in russia and europe also sadly

    • @temarithebadass9276
      @temarithebadass9276 2 года назад +21

      @@9elementsofff806 Yeah they get married to little girls THEIR age or younger lmao

    • @tianaantonie10
      @tianaantonie10 2 года назад +73

      @@temarithebadass9276 Don't put "lmao" in a serious problem.

    • @lucifermorningstar842
      @lucifermorningstar842 2 года назад +13

      It's not easy to survive for any gender in this evil world
      You need power to survive or you would die and let me tell you power is directly proportional to money.

    • @temarithebadass9276
      @temarithebadass9276 2 года назад +7

      @@tianaantonie10 The serious problem here is that hes sorry for the boys not girls.

  • @gellichan09
    @gellichan09 2 года назад +852

    Crazy that you can be married at 14 with "parental consent" only 5 years ago... And some states still have no minimum age limit to this day. So proud she got through it and helped make a change.

    • @adelynnhirst8145
      @adelynnhirst8145 2 года назад +20

      My cousin from Afganistan was married at twelve years old, and she'd never even met the man she married before.

    • @duckeh1952
      @duckeh1952 2 года назад +13

      @@adelynnhirst8145 and isn't it interesting that in Afghanistan men cannot get married before 16 (or was it 18) but for women are not worth setting the limit that high

    • @duckeh1952
      @duckeh1952 2 года назад +5

      @@idontwannabemeanymore men in power. Because daughters were property of fathers. The younger the more fertile. "Girls mature faster" is also one way to try make okay to have sexual relationship with teenage girls (maturity is more individual thing than gender based) and making it ok to marry them.
      It's all about power.

    • @apveening
      @apveening Год назад +3

      @@duckeh1952 Yup, the old "if it can bleed, it can breed" mentality.

  • @zaidsyed8187
    @zaidsyed8187 2 года назад +1841

    It's crazy how these types of issues are not given the coverage and attention they need in mainstream media and politics. My heart breaks for every victim of these cursed traditions/acts.

    • @Angela-sf3nl
      @Angela-sf3nl 2 года назад

      They only tell you what they want to tell you, people rely on the media for real news and think they tell them everything they need to know but no it’s whatever narrative they want to tell you.

    • @thegreatindiancitizen4412
      @thegreatindiancitizen4412 2 года назад +6

      Because they're now busy in hijab issues.

    • @akankshasharma2207
      @akankshasharma2207 2 года назад +3

      BUT THE PROBLEM IS MUSLIM PERSONAL LAW, CONSIDERS A GIRL OF 15 YEARS--- A MAJOR...
      IN INDIA FOR HINDUS', THE GIRL'S MARRIAGEABLE AGE IS --- 18....
      THE GOVT WAS TRYING TO RAISE IT TO 21, ....BUT THE PUBLIC ITSELF OBJECTED, STATING REASON THAT THE GIRLS MEANWHILE WILL FIND ASSOCIATION WITH BOYS

    • @purplelove3666
      @purplelove3666 Год назад

      @@akankshasharma2207 it's not muslim.personal law, it's the stupid culture, if you are going to speak about Islam, AT LEAST LEARN ABOUT IT!, FORCED MARRIAGE IS FORBIDDEN IN ISLAM!

    • @akankshasharma2207
      @akankshasharma2207 Год назад +1

      @@purplelove3666 I AM A LAWYER... WHO HAS STUDIED " MUSLIM LAW"... DON'T TEACH ME..
      GUARDIANS ENTER INTO NIKAH FOR A MINOR GIRL, WHICH SHE CAN REPUDIATE AFTER 15 IF SHE HAS NOT CONSUMMATED .... READ CONDITIONS FOR VALID MUSLIM MARRIAGE

  • @cookiecrumble719
    @cookiecrumble719 2 года назад +2356

    India the legal age has been raised to 21 and it's surprising the legal age in America is a lot younger.

    • @Zrhz1140
      @Zrhz1140 2 года назад +25

      I don't think it practice in today's time I don't about tribal area but even in village it's not a thing anymore , culture Nd social is diff from west

    • @prerna4041
      @prerna4041 2 года назад +178

      absolutely doesn't matter, India's legal age was 18, how many people in the rurals followed that? every yr a huge amount of girls are married of here. according to unicef 1 in 4 women in India get married of before 18 and 1 in 3 childbrides from across the world are Indian, cam you believe that? and this is about pak and USA, don't bring India to that

    • @srijeetasikder2678
      @srijeetasikder2678 2 года назад +53

      @@prerna4041 well, in India, there are still many child marriages going on which go unreported, obviously 🙃. Moreover, it shouldn’t even be surprising considering that India is a third-world country.

    • @prerna4041
      @prerna4041 2 года назад +38

      @@srijeetasikder2678 no not surprising, but we need to stop this

    • @hiddenpearl9677
      @hiddenpearl9677 2 года назад +15

      no use of that...nobody follows it

  • @retroreceptionist7571
    @retroreceptionist7571 2 года назад +420

    This LITERALLY happened to my best friends half sister. Her “father” her mother married and adopted after she was born, sent for her to get married at 14. Raped and abused for years and is now free remarried and doing better than ever, and speaking out to protect girls from the same fate!

    • @cara_lina
      @cara_lina 2 года назад +20

      So so glad she is doing better ♥

  • @suburbanearth9076
    @suburbanearth9076 2 года назад +1236

    This is what happens when a world cares more about the way men feel than whether or not women are seen as human beings.

    • @sponcc7778
      @sponcc7778 2 года назад +15

      what? if u really think blaming men is the solution to this disturbing problem then I see you as a part of the problem

    • @ebonyautumn3738
      @ebonyautumn3738 2 года назад +171

      @@sponcc7778 It may not be a solution, I agree, but you can't bury your head and act like this was a woman's idea. I don't know if it's a cultural thing or not, but men are normally the perpretrators(not that this is normal)

    • @rikakk7707
      @rikakk7707 2 года назад +15

      @@ebonyautumn3738 agreed

    • @thesnowartqueen908
      @thesnowartqueen908 2 года назад +10

      And they say about how man’s feeling are always hidden like what???

    • @sponcc7778
      @sponcc7778 2 года назад +18

      @@ebonyautumn3738 as a person who comes from a country where this practice used to exist I think I know a bit more than you do abt this issue
      The people who decide to marry off their children as a child (a disgusting act) consist of both a male and a female that is a father and a mother
      8 times out of 10 the father faces no opposition from the mother in order to stop this practice from taking place
      So how on earth is this a “male” only problem? In that case everything in this planet should be blamed soulely on men I don’t understand your bigoted thought process in such a vile situation in all honesty
      Instead of spreading awareness and trying to help victims people like you are trying to blame it all on men
      Shows what kind of person you are if that’s what YOU feel

  • @mahiqazi4902
    @mahiqazi4902 2 года назад +1394

    Not only child marriage, but almost everything, happening with women in my country Pakistan, is completely inhuman n cruel. I was forced to get married by my parents. I was physically, mentlly and emotionally abused and raped many times, even during pregnancy. My ex married 4 times. I fled from Pakistan with my 7 years old daughter thankfully. But the traumatic 9 years in Pakistan still give me night mares in USA that I have become a ptsd patient. God bless the women in Pakistan.

    • @Sonataofsadness
      @Sonataofsadness 2 года назад +103

      I hope you are doing better

    • @usriyusra2776
      @usriyusra2776 2 года назад +98

      I hope you and your daughter are living your days peacefully and your thoughts/trauma become gentler with time and therapy. I am so sorry for what you've been through, and I admire that you were able to take charge and get you and your daughter to safety.

    • @yyg4632
      @yyg4632 2 года назад +40

      i am so sory and i am so glad you and your child are safe now. You were brave to leave everything behind.

    • @samiiie1824
      @samiiie1824 2 года назад +31

      I'm sending virtual hugs for you. 🥰

    • @iyanubanks100
      @iyanubanks100 2 года назад +9

      My goodness gracious 💔

  • @zahzo6612
    @zahzo6612 2 года назад +168

    My mom got married at the age of 14, it was not against her will, she was a kid, she just accepted it because she did not know how to live her life in another way that time. She had to face so many troubles, she was always so strong. My dad made her life hard, no one was there to help her, she was so lonely, not knowing the language of the country she had to move to. It was a hard journey for her and still is. After having four kids and after more than 30 years of 'marriage' she is ready to finally get divorced. It's so sad. She is the strongest woman I know, despite all of that she never lost the kid in her heart 🤍

    • @animelvr329
      @animelvr329 2 года назад +7

      blessings to your mother, proud of her for being so strong and hope she finds so much happiness in the future

    • @carolinpurayidom4570
      @carolinpurayidom4570 2 года назад +18

      It was against her will because she was a child and coerced into it

    • @functionatthejunction
      @functionatthejunction 11 месяцев назад +2

      @@carolinpurayidom4570 You know the woman personally and know it was against her will? Not being able to legally enter into a contract does not mean one cannot have a will to do so. Its rude to act like you know what other people want or do not want. Sounds like the dude she married treated her like crap, but thats a whole different issue.

    • @EmyEgy31
      @EmyEgy31 10 месяцев назад +6

      @@functionatthejunction its still against her will, because she teenager and not adult to choose. you are trying to make it like her only problem is how he treated her. child marriage is wrong in general.

  • @shahbazmansahia9253
    @shahbazmansahia9253 2 года назад +1082

    I hope she succeeds in making society better; power to her!

  • @Krissyisawake
    @Krissyisawake 2 года назад +613

    My mom was married to my dad when she was 13 and my dad was like 30 and that marriage happened infront of everyone in the neighborhood and people and the fact no one did anything to stop it makes me sick Even those days child marriage was a serious criminal offence and even dowry happened in that wedding and How these crimes are happening and no one is doing anything to stop it is just so messed up. My mom never wanted to marry my dad she wanted to study and do a job but because she was married off she couldn't anything of that and now she lives through mine and my sister's dream. I wish one day she can happily live her own life without the thought that she do need anyone in her life and i hope one day she feel that she is enough for herself. That day would be the happiest day in my life.

    • @KurtIsFat
      @KurtIsFat 2 года назад +4

      boi wtf

    • @kidwaarif9580
      @kidwaarif9580 2 года назад +56

      Great to see you standing up for your mother, man. Most people act like their pedo fathers are saints.

    • @AllAboutIssie
      @AllAboutIssie 2 года назад +46

      Im 13, I can't even imagine having to get married. That is sick.

    • @joelroman6839
      @joelroman6839 2 года назад +1

      At what age she have you? Just curious.

    • @Krissyisawake
      @Krissyisawake 2 года назад +28

      @@kidwaarif9580 I don't think i am doing anything for her i wish i could actually do something but she won't let me do. I can never act like my dad is a saint cause he ain't and never was. He didn't even let my mom study and achieve her dream

  • @wideawake5630
    @wideawake5630 2 года назад +152

    What a hero. We must stand with her. It wasn't until in the 90s that marital rape became illegal in the US.
    We have to disabuse ourselves of the notion that we are so advanced.

    • @laurameier9825
      @laurameier9825 2 года назад +5

      The same thing goes for Germany where I'm from. It's really scary to think about that and I'm glad it was changed by now. There are many politicians right now who are still active today in high leadership positions who voted against the law to make marital rape equally a crime in the 90's. Also gay marriage was legalized only a few years ago, being gay could be considered a crime until 1994 (even though persecution didn't always happen anymore) and charges for said "crime" were only removed from the victims records in like 2017. We think we're so evolved and advanced but look at how disgracefully some groups of people were treated only a short while ago or are still being treated today.

    • @bmom6738
      @bmom6738 2 года назад

      Wtf! Another reason I’m on strike from the entitled species known as man

  • @Andyyoureastar
    @Andyyoureastar 2 года назад +102

    This woman came to my college and gave a presentation. I was so lucky to have met her. Opened my eyes on how precedent this issue is. So many states allow child marriage. But deny those children the ability to file divorce until they are 18.

    • @functionatthejunction
      @functionatthejunction 11 месяцев назад

      You do not have to be 18 years old to file for a divorce.

  • @saloniagrahari8698
    @saloniagrahari8698 2 года назад +245

    Naila is such an inspiration we girls need...She fought, she fell, she faced but never ever gave up her problem...and finallyyyy She got victory! May you always stay blessed & encouraged Naila! 🙌🏻

  • @zenhasacatandthatsme3298
    @zenhasacatandthatsme3298 2 года назад +136

    My aunt got married when she was 12, and whenever she talked about it she would seem really sad about it I feel so sorry for her

  • @nio731
    @nio731 3 года назад +226

    Terrible terrible parents

    • @dipnaskar5032
      @dipnaskar5032 3 года назад +20

      for real

    • @rj14053
      @rj14053 2 года назад

      It is not terrible parents.. they are just dutiful servants to their religious customs of marrying off their daughter young to their well earning/powerful Cousins in Islamic societies!!

    • @nafischowdhury3116
      @nafischowdhury3116 2 года назад +2

      @@rj14053 yeah totally not what happens in india to hindus

    • @songoku3716
      @songoku3716 2 года назад +3

      @@rj14053 oh yeah it doesn’t happen in hindus right? Indians should stay away from Pakistan or islam related content because all they spew is hate

    • @AS-gp7fk
      @AS-gp7fk 10 месяцев назад +3

      ​@@nafischowdhury3116??? What are you on about?

  • @actuallyhonestly
    @actuallyhonestly 2 года назад +582

    We need more story's of the other person in the marriage.. like WHO is the monster that forced her to marry him.
    Its always "woman this" "girls that" but never "men did this" "boys did that". Instead of just making it seem like "well, its just a thing that happens to girls.." but by WHO. that's what we should talk about more.

    • @user-hb4zz4gh5e
      @user-hb4zz4gh5e 2 года назад +25

      Exactly!

    • @WeaponizeCelibacy
      @WeaponizeCelibacy 2 года назад +3

      Well said 👏👏👏

    • @Waldemarvonanhalt
      @Waldemarvonanhalt 2 года назад +1

      When feminists see a criminal committing a crime, their first thought isn't that that person is a criminal, it's that that's a man.

    • @user-hb4zz4gh5e
      @user-hb4zz4gh5e 2 года назад +43

      @@Waldemarvonanhalt Well, when it’s the kind of crime that primarily affects members of a certain gender, while being primarily perpetrated by members of another gender, then obviously people are going to point that out

    • @juliebella1221
      @juliebella1221 2 года назад +26

      American po po said if they had to arrest all that do this, most boys and men would be in jail around the world. It's a cultural norm to let boys assault and harass girls. Why do you think "boys will be boys" is an actual saying? It's been used in legal cases. "Twenty mins (how long he assaulted a girl as a football player) of his bad behavior shouldn't ruin his promising young life." Girl hung herself after that. No point in telling or looking for justice when there isn't any. I was my attackers 22nd victim at 9 and he had two little girls at home which is how he got me, I was at a playdate at their house. They let him out the next day. Telling means absolutely nothing and MEN created a statute of limitations because they figured out how long it takes most victims to come forward, so even if you have video, po po will tell you, can't touch them, time limit is up. I kid you not. JUST dealt with that in 2017 and that's on po po body cam. "you can show me a video of the assault and we can't touch them, but if you keep seeking justice you will be in trouble." SO many tried shouting from the rooftops in metoo and that didn't matter either. Women keep giving birth to that which enslaves them. Is it no wonder 75 percent of in vitro is now only female baby requests and women who find out they're having a boy is now aborting them, which is probably now why they're challenging roe vs wade they found out baby boys are on the chopping block because women are tired of growing the very weapon that harms them in their wombs. I can tell you oodles of WHO are the monsters doing this. We turn them in and guess what, they are set free and rewarded for being such sickos. There are entire pedo parks all over. Why aren't they all in jail. One man just recently, daycare worker, assaulted two toddlers at work - he got seven years. That's it. This is recent. So, in seven years, he'll be back out to harm more toddlers. Men make the laws and these are the laws they made because MOST MEN are this evil. It's a statistical global fact.
      Look at video games, they make games just to harm girls and say nada about the violence in them. It's the pillars of society doing this. Who purchases most of the trafficked boys and girls - men. Who has strip clubs galore - men. Who watches porn galore - men. Who watches violence and craves it - men. If men actually cared about the daughters of the world there would be NONE OF THIS. You know how many Dads, brothers, uncles and cousins have done this and peeps say, "oh not my Dad." YUP. Yours. There's a whole underworld, "decent, upstanding men" visit when they think no one is looking and MOST have cover families to and live in nice neighborhoods. How many travel to third world countries and abuse there on vaca and teach their sons to abuse. One man I knew looking at colleges in CA, took his son to TJ to "teach" him at 17 how to tip strippers and buy them, use them and then hide what they do from polite society. These poor girls in TJ are enslaved by men there to be used by men all over the world for cheap.
      They had to break up a middle class ring in a condo complex in GA a few years back. White collar men drugging and passing around their own teenage daughters to assault and since it was in the same complex, not hard to hide going from door to door to assault and all looks normal when they went to work in the morning. It is not in some alley far away. These peeps live right next to you and say "hi neighbor."

  • @mariambrown1274
    @mariambrown1274 2 года назад +283

    People who force child marriage must be sent to prison. They are evil people😈. How dare they force a child to become a wife at such an age. Lady I salute you 👏.

    • @ghauswood9594
      @ghauswood9594 2 года назад +9

      very true and I actually know some people who have been. Due to money(company saving), and much more these things happen but still not a valid reason without the consent of the person themselves.

    • @dalaedriajames8684
      @dalaedriajames8684 2 года назад +11

      Please dont use the purple emoji if you’re being serious. It looks like youre joking. 🤬☹️😕 these would probably be better.

    • @ghauswood9594
      @ghauswood9594 2 года назад +3

      @@dalaedriajames8684 Alr but its red on my screen, so maybe on his screen it was something else?

    • @dalaedriajames8684
      @dalaedriajames8684 2 года назад +1

      @@ghauswood9594 maybe, i never thought of that. On my screen it looks like a joking emoji

    • @mariambrown1274
      @mariambrown1274 2 года назад +1

      How does angry emoji look like a joke? I never make jokes about serious things. If you didn't like what I said please could you give me suggestions. Not swearing. Thank you.

  • @Yes-n5f
    @Yes-n5f 2 года назад +396

    Am i the only one who used to think that child marriage can't be a case in America 👀 i don't know why women's are taken for granted we are not objects. It gives me goosebumps whenever i think about rape cases and other harrasment which girls are facing no matter it's a 6 month old baby or 16 or 60. Sometimes i Just feel so bad and unsafe of being a girl. But ya just want to say to all the girls out there stay strong and fight for your rights whenever it's needed. We are together 💪

    • @arpanabinaswar1811
      @arpanabinaswar1811 2 года назад +6

      Lol during my internship in U.S I came to know one of my friend married at the age of 13 to a woman of 29 after both of his parents had divorced and left him alone.

    • @shalinisingh3242
      @shalinisingh3242 2 года назад +4

      Stay strong all my girlee ,fight for your right...

    • @HBEE-vm6bs
      @HBEE-vm6bs 2 года назад +10

      I really love how they use religion to make it look bad .However in actual reality its Asian culture that created this "chikd marriage" concept. Not just india ,not just Pakistan but majority Asian countries did/do this.
      Jewish/islamic religion would never allow stuff like this.women have more rights than we know but EVERY culture and place made women believe we have no rights at all and hid this from us .
      I'm sorry if this happened to anyone

    • @medusawitchful
      @medusawitchful 2 года назад +7

      @@HBEE-vm6bs Islam don’t allow that? Search the internet first. Some of them even married to a 8 years old child.

    • @imwatchingyou7789
      @imwatchingyou7789 2 года назад +1

      im a girl and i dont feel any scared and unsafe with that

  • @livia450
    @livia450 2 года назад +116

    My dad's mom was married at 11 yrs old and my dad's father was about 17 or older which is sick and I want this child marriage to stop. My sister is going through forced marriage and im breaking inside I care for her so much and she's my only sister who cares about me and understands me the most.

    • @somebodythatyouusetoknow
      @somebodythatyouusetoknow 2 года назад +8

      I'm so sorry what's happening to you, best wishes to you. Also, can I get an update on their situation?

    • @nadinkhatib1858
      @nadinkhatib1858 2 года назад +18

      Omg, who's arranging this forced marriage of your sister? Is there anything you can do in your area like calling the police or finding ways to help your sister out of it? Honestly though, worst comes to worst, get out of there. If this can't be stopped then try and get your sister as FAR AWAY AS POSSIBLE. What are the laws in your area concerning non-consensual relations/marriages? If there are any, use them to your advantage as much as possible. Sorry if I seem insensitive, please let me know if i sound rude, i just wanted to help out in any way I can. Too many lives nowadays are getting destroyed by child marriage, and I hate having to just sit by and let it happen.

    • @MrzBadaBing
      @MrzBadaBing 2 года назад +4

      Where are you from you and your sister gotta be strong and look for people like this woman that can help you . If not you could be next . This is not right I know it’s scary but you got your sister please find someone you guys can trust and help you …sending my prays for you and your sister

    • @SL-ze6su
      @SL-ze6su 2 года назад +3

      Do you have a aunt or someone you can trust? Talk to them, make a anonymous call to the police, search if there's any woman spokesperson who works at a organization made to protect woman, any activist so they can advise you on what to do and mediate a real talk to your family

    • @xxxxxxx426
      @xxxxxxx426 2 года назад +1

      Call the police. Please

  • @joonie4885
    @joonie4885 2 года назад +103

    Such a beautiful girl can't believe she had to go through that much love and respect for what she did and how she fights for her freedom ❤

    • @Abdul_Moiz_bin_Muhammad_Y.
      @Abdul_Moiz_bin_Muhammad_Y. 2 года назад

      What are you supporting - women empowerment? Or do you mean women who are old, unmarried, licentious, and difficult to deal with. Is this empowerment? Is empowerment being told that your body as a woman is gross because it can produce a baby because it needs a man to make that baby? Is empowerment resenting marriage and pushing it higher so women can be raped and intimate with multiple men to the point that they lose their bonding parity which women are born with? You're just a parrot for western values and colonialism - demonizing marital practices and responsible men as misogynistic and backwards

    • @cabbage042
      @cabbage042 2 года назад +3

      @@Abdul_Moiz_bin_Muhammad_Y. Made 0 points

    • @Abdul_Moiz_bin_Muhammad_Y.
      @Abdul_Moiz_bin_Muhammad_Y. 2 года назад

      @@cabbage042 Many were made but not for occidental feminists

    • @cabbage042
      @cabbage042 2 года назад +4

      Nah u made none
      All u did was let your anger out on a random stranger bcs ure an incel who cant even handle the word empowerment in the same sentence as girl. Pls you think that divorce is worse than child marriage so im not even gonna take u seriously

  • @malia1287
    @malia1287 2 года назад +95

    I mean she's truly an inspiration.... so proud of her

  • @sunshinecommentswoop4902
    @sunshinecommentswoop4902 2 года назад +129

    I'm so happy she was able to make change, heartbreaking she and so many girls alike have gone through this

  • @MonaAlicia
    @MonaAlicia 2 года назад +173

    Part of me wants to know if she is in contact with her parents at all now. SMH. Lady, thank you. This is something we as people in America need to know about.

    • @shjeula9871
      @shjeula9871 2 года назад +1

      if i were her i would just take them to court....they cannot be parents.....they must be some sort of demented evil lurking around in the murky waters of society, sadly this happened in the US....i would apply for them to be deported right back to their dump of a country where cousin marriage is rampant

  • @dr.pallaviparmar3776
    @dr.pallaviparmar3776 2 года назад +84

    Just love and power to you. You are a real hero. May every country and their provinces get many many Naila's like you.

  • @IshbelSoprano
    @IshbelSoprano 2 года назад +34

    What a poweful woman! I'm glad she was able to escape her horrifying situation and I admire her for working so hard to create change.

  • @shrutiyadav7540
    @shrutiyadav7540 2 года назад +67

    Just yesterday I came accross a video about child marriage and most of the westerns/Americans were saying how "backward india is" and mocking India and saying india isn't as developed as america and now I saw this today. Completely opened my eyes

    • @Meerab_ag123
      @Meerab_ag123 2 года назад +14

      Ofc, Westerns/Americans target the subcontinent the most in such things, without getting to know their own countries

    • @ques3234
      @ques3234 2 года назад +12

      This video is literally a video about people from india/pakistan still forcing child marriages even in America.

    • @vaishnavinaik373
      @vaishnavinaik373 2 года назад +11

      @@ques3234 din't you see the video she said there are laws in some states that allow child marriages why do you think those laws exist in the first place 🤦🏿‍♀️

    • @ZastropollyonZ
      @ZastropollyonZ 2 года назад +1

      @@vaishnavinaik373 not gonna be that type of person but in America, if a 42 year old attempted to marry a 12 year old, the adult would be harassed and have his information leaked online. The average American doesn't care about stuff but if a child is abused, then they'll get angry

    • @vaishnavinaik373
      @vaishnavinaik373 2 года назад +1

      @@ZastropollyonZ That maybe now but back then it may not be the case

  • @shobhachauhan3355
    @shobhachauhan3355 2 года назад +187

    Certainly this new law in India lifting the age of marriage from 18 to 21 is for the good of women and we should all be supporting this decision for all women sake. 🙏

    • @_Chocolate_123
      @_Chocolate_123 2 года назад +7

      Its for the good
      People who think child marriages are okay are f-d up in the head-

    • @ZastropollyonZ
      @ZastropollyonZ 2 года назад +3

      I'm not 100% a fan of the law since 18 year olds can technically pay taxes and are treated like adults but would be second class citizens. Then again, some could lie about being 18 easily compared to lying about being 21

    • @modderbad
      @modderbad 2 года назад +3

      @@ZastropollyonZ I feel like its a good idea. Yes, when 18 you're an adult, but that doesn't mean your brain has stopped developing. Up until 20 your brain is developing. It's a good thing, that way men and women can think about if they truly want to get married with the other. We should apply this rule to every country.

    • @zarmadyl5038
      @zarmadyl5038 2 года назад +1

      @@ZastropollyonZ Well in matter of marriage I'm sure you need paper work. So idk how you lie there.

    • @Sana-ik8fo
      @Sana-ik8fo 2 года назад

      Let me burst the bubble for you and tell you where the real problem lies. And see if you have some lawyer friend. Muslim personal laws in India allow for marriage below 18. Though Muslims can marry under other marriage laws too which allows for marriage at 18 or above. Muslim personal laws are an exception to child marriage; because ofc Islam what can we expect. And that is where, uniform civil code debate comes in. [Just do basic googling, also age of marriage is not yet raised to 21 for girls (& imo, it will never be raised because it is just illogical)....there are other ways to empower women]

  • @juliebirner8249
    @juliebirner8249 2 года назад +43

    What a sad story, beautiful that she’s trying to help fix the problem

  • @conxptexe
    @conxptexe 2 года назад +149

    I don't get why they called it an Islamic tradition when in reality its a culture problem. you realistically shouldn't get married off and forced against your will (even in Islam since Muslims should be given the right to choose their own bride/groom) but these people who follow inhumane traditions and justify it by religion are disgusting. they'll try anything to get away with this stuff in these countries and politicians being religious themselves in countries like Pakistan have kind of come from these traditionalist families who support child marriage and stuff so they really would be going against what they firmly believe in. people really need to be taught to not follow these traditions since it leads to horrible stuff like Amin's case. I hope for some kind of change to this problem and hope people stop using religion to justify their actions since they can get away with it by doing so (like in Pakistan), and that's the harsh reality.

    • @iliketea3444
      @iliketea3444 2 года назад

      I agree with u its not because of islam. İn islam its forbidden to forve your daughter to marry someone they dont want. İts the stupid cultures.

    • @significant_other
      @significant_other 2 года назад +16

      Yup it's a culture thing and people confused it with religion. In my country, arrange marriages happened before 1960's. After that when girls are focused on higher education, families just let their daughters choose her own husband. We're Muslims but our culture has changed 60 years ago. At least in my country.

    • @iliketea3444
      @iliketea3444 2 года назад +3

      @@significant_other yea im muslim too. İn my country it also changed.

    • @iliketea3444
      @iliketea3444 2 года назад +7

      @@significant_other i wish you a happy ramadan. May ramadan bring you closer to allah.

    • @significant_other
      @significant_other 2 года назад +3

      @@iliketea3444 Ameen 🤲 Sane to you ☺️

  • @athensmajnoo3661
    @athensmajnoo3661 2 года назад +199

    I cant believe some states in USA have no age limit for marriage 😱😱
    So, child marriages happen there, in THE SUPPOSED TO BE MOST ADVANCED COUNTRY in the world!!!

    • @neetsuccess2261
      @neetsuccess2261 2 года назад +28

      U know , that's why they are developed countries,coz they have developed the trick to hide their countries's shortcomings 😂😂

    • @younicehakeepgoing1350
      @younicehakeepgoing1350 2 года назад +19

      Advance in terms of technology they are all spoiled people And their rape cases are at absolute high level

    • @aero4089
      @aero4089 2 года назад +11

      I don’t know who told you america is the most advanced country in the world but that is an absolute lie.

    • @havoccodm3818
      @havoccodm3818 2 года назад

      @@aero4089 ikr

    • @52Brickz-278
      @52Brickz-278 2 года назад

      That the price of freedom

  • @overdosedonmelanin
    @overdosedonmelanin 2 года назад +174

    This is so brutal! i hope shes okay,
    his saves the whole world around us that suffer with this

  • @Barkha_Scientist
    @Barkha_Scientist 2 года назад +193

    Thankfully, India is progressing because of real modern women in my nation, focused on technical development to self-growth. A woman has to be independent before she takes this step. My aunts and sisters got married after 25, mostly after 30s, even my parents. It's all depends on mentality of a person which allows him to choose the path, accordingly karma works.

    • @sarthakkk8628
      @sarthakkk8628 2 года назад +6

      Hey I lived for 8-9 years in rural India, in my village, where 2-3/20 people are educated. Situation is worse here. They mary their daughters at 15-16 years. When you guys say India, you mostly mean urban India. Rural India is still infested with the old Practices.

    • @songoku3716
      @songoku3716 2 года назад +4

      What does india has to do with this video? A pakistani woman in America? This whole comment section is filled with indians lol

    • @zarmadyl5038
      @zarmadyl5038 2 года назад

      @@sarthakkk8628 15-16 in marriage is better than an old 30 year old. Who later decides to have a child at 40 and cannot have a second one because she thought it was a mistake and too much annoyance. And a single child with no siblings to protect might get picked on and bullied in school. I know I went extreme. But ratio shouldn't be too far away. Alot of women who get education think their ''career'' is more important than family they think something bad happens if they get married like some of their freedom will be gone. I don't understand that. Why we have so called ''smart'' people accepting to work under a boss and obeying all their orders but a husband seems like a hell to them.
      Education again. Why do people think ''any'' formal education is like an achievement. You need wisdom before intelligence. A mother who takes care of her 1-4+ children, home and husband is by far better than a ''educated'' woman who comes and talks buncha crap or let's say she is a programmer who has done no work.
      It's just a flex life. If you're a mother raising 1-4+ very well smart wise children you should be ashamed because you have no education. And they are proud becuase they studied philosophy. It's just a flex and not much work done for society. Again a mother does more for the future of her society raising good smart children than a 1 woman with 1 job doing nothing except for obeying their boss. Sadly some of these ''modern woman'' are TAKING their society backwards and doing way more damage than a homeless person not attributing to society.
      It's cringe and low iq. 2 types of people I usually see to be very intelligent are literally indians and chinese people. Like usually it's these 2 and that's a result of reproduction. But problem is when you have no wisdom and are selfish that ''intelligence'' is going nowhere. Having so many smart people could probably solve lots of issues in your own society but many of them stay in America or europe and live their lives there working under a boss when they could do so much for their own nation. But ofc biggest problem is government.
      I hope you get my message. These ''modern women'' are really unpleasant to be around.
      In order to solve something like world hunger and starvation is not to tell everyone to get a job and stop being lazy. It's impossible, some have illnesses some don't have limbs, etc, The answer is for everyone to help eachother and donate and be generous.

    • @sarthakkk8628
      @sarthakkk8628 2 года назад +4

      @@zarmadyl5038 as I earlier said in one of my comments to this video... Why would you guys accwpt it? When islam glorifies Marriage with cousins and pre-adult Marriage.

    • @caddieohm7059
      @caddieohm7059 2 года назад +5

      @@zarmadyl5038 your comment was really unpleasant to be around. 🤔😂
      I literally know women who have a degree in philosophy, they run a house and 3 kids. They work in a think tank.
      Actually while I'm thinking.... In my circle of friends any family with three or four kids has got two earning parents... Some working part time both or just one of them.
      You're not too wise yourself aren't you? With all your bad prejudice and bad presumptions.
      Oh and regarding your analogy of boss and husband -
      The thing I actually like about my boss is I don't have to sleep with her. If I'm not in the mood.

  • @bridgetbuchan1786
    @bridgetbuchan1786 2 года назад +8

    I can’t imagine what you’ve been through but you’re doing the right thing by being a voice and helping young girls

  • @Ilikefrogsalot
    @Ilikefrogsalot 2 года назад +16

    In the UK the age of marriage with parental consent is 16, thats still a child who could be forced into marriage. Thank you for raising awareness and changing lives

    • @functionatthejunction
      @functionatthejunction 11 месяцев назад

      Or a young adult who could be making a choice and get their parent's permission. My mom married at 16 and she and my dad had a great marriage that lasted until the day they died.

  • @alil8270
    @alil8270 2 года назад +73

    Pedophilia is common in top tier ranks so it will be hard to get any such law passed easily. Also, child marriage is a problem worldwide. Some religions and traditions even allow it. It is upsetting.

    • @pregret
      @pregret 2 года назад

      That’s true. Pedophilia is actually prevalent in rich and powerful circles

  • @cynthiahaffs88
    @cynthiahaffs88 2 года назад +147

    Great achievement Nalia . We are proud of you. Of how far you have come.💖💖

  • @victoriap1561
    @victoriap1561 2 года назад +39

    Such an admirable woman!!

  • @lafranflash823
    @lafranflash823 2 года назад +69

    i'm not a person who cries easily but when I'm hearing this kind of speech about girls, I just can"t. That"s why I'm a feminist. Women has the right to decide for themselves and stop to be controlled just like dolls. As she said, ''we need to stay strong''.

  • @mongdc
    @mongdc 2 года назад +87

    At any age forcing someone to marry a guy is NOT okay. But whenever I hear stuff like this about little kids my blood just boils. How these parents keep allowing this sh*t?

    • @titandarknight2698
      @titandarknight2698 2 года назад +4

      @Rise Over here305 no duh

    • @tumblrgirl2156
      @tumblrgirl2156 2 года назад +4

      @Rise Over here305 Well that sounds like his fault.....he can't get a woman pregnant and leave her?! It'll be a shame to her and her family as well as a financial problem. His sperm, his child, his responsibility.

    • @tumblrgirl2156
      @tumblrgirl2156 2 года назад +7

      @Rise Over here305 Are you telling me men can go around getting women pregnant without consequences? 😂

    • @sugarpansies
      @sugarpansies 2 года назад +2

      @Rise Over here305 You seem like a very annoying and tiring person. I saw your other comments and I just wanted to tell you that your takes are one of the worst I've seen.

    • @menschlicherroboter6791
      @menschlicherroboter6791 2 года назад +3

      @Rise Over here305 I don't agree with making them marry. If the guy does want to then he shouldn't, but he is as equally responsible for the baby

  • @itsalexcolorburst
    @itsalexcolorburst 2 года назад +15

    What a fantastic woman! This must be so difficult for her, but she's doing to it to save not only this generation, but for all the generations in the future. That's a hero right there

  • @jenniferbhujel2106
    @jenniferbhujel2106 2 года назад +61

    I can't understand parents when they say they want better , happy life for child and do this to children for happiness . Sexually abused and forced without a will where do they see the beautiful life here . We can degrade family status and standards through clothes and lifestyles or being modernized but they don't with works like this I can't even with this type of mentality . Honestly I pray to god new generation is more understanding then older and understands this problem . And education should not be just limited in ur certificate it should make u able to choose what is wrong and what is right .

  • @jannahelchommali5325
    @jannahelchommali5325 2 года назад +102

    I think it's misleading to say that this was a "traditional Islamic marriage".... it's forbidden in Islam and it's a shame that some cultures use Islam as an excuse to force young girls to be married off against their will. People need to understand that culture and religion are separate.

    • @skadi6750
      @skadi6750 2 года назад +10

      So, In Quran, Your prophet didnt actually marry a 6 years old girl when he was 53 years old and didnt have sex with her when she was 9? Stop lying! Your culture is created by your religion, ditch the crap and your culture will eventually change with it! If it was not for the religion, that keeps the outdated traditionalism without reason alive, your countries would a long time ago change and these things would not happen!

    • @rubikaria4390
      @rubikaria4390 2 года назад +7

      Yeah if the girl don't want to get married no one can force her, and if she not satisfied with her husband after marriage just a few days then she can just return the husband gift and off with the wedding

    • @malcolm6618
      @malcolm6618 2 года назад +7

      @@skadi6750 this claim has been refuted what... 87,539,319 times?

    • @jannahelchommali5325
      @jannahelchommali5325 2 года назад +10

      @@skadi6750 Where are you getting this nonsense from? your comment is completely false and inaccurate. I doubt you've even read the Quran or even asked someone who is Muslim. I really have no idea where you got this comment from. If you choose to believe that, that is on you.

    • @caddieohm7059
      @caddieohm7059 2 года назад

      @@rubikaria4390 why does she have to return a 'gift' in case of divorce? That 'gift' is more of a deposit then, isn't it?

  • @LG-lb7sf
    @LG-lb7sf 2 года назад +7

    I love this woman. Thank you for fighting for us!

  • @zjc_tsurkarn08
    @zjc_tsurkarn08 2 года назад +85

    I know a person who made his daughter marry at age of 16. I have many friends (girls) who are 16 and I can't even imagine what that person's daughter has to go through when other girls her age are living their lives. I'm thinking how can parents ruin their child's life like this?

    • @duckeh1952
      @duckeh1952 2 года назад +4

      Narcissism and control.
      That's what it's about.

    • @SL-ze6su
      @SL-ze6su 2 года назад +7

      They see their daughters as property and not humans with dreams and their own life to decide

  • @desertstorm2156
    @desertstorm2156 2 года назад +55

    What a strong strong strong woman 👍👍👍

    • @blackpanther3676
      @blackpanther3676 2 года назад +27

      @Shubham Kanojia she was 15 you incel

    • @user-og3hr4tc5o
      @user-og3hr4tc5o 2 года назад +14

      @@blackpanther3676 8 to be accurate

    • @mcchilde2903
      @mcchilde2903 2 года назад +17

      @Shubham Kanojia she was a child??? Wtf is wrong with you

    • @dreamer9375
      @dreamer9375 2 года назад +8

      @Shubham Kanojia Because she was a kid. It's alright, we all forget things sometimes. She was 8, just to remind you.

    • @whatthehell7975
      @whatthehell7975 2 года назад +1

      @Wheels ho cry somewhere else...kevin...

  • @georginashanti4605
    @georginashanti4605 2 года назад +14

    Give this lady some sort of award. She is a powerful advocate for change! What a fighter. Her sadness and pain runs deep and yet she's fighting for systemic change so that what happened to her, never happens to a young girl in the US again. Amazing.

  • @sarahusman6123
    @sarahusman6123 2 года назад +16

    I feel so sorry for her and all the kids who got ripped off their childhood, their happiness and their innocense.

  • @rajshreerathore3326
    @rajshreerathore3326 2 года назад +37

    I thought this happed only in asia. More power to you lady.

  • @rupsaagoswami5594
    @rupsaagoswami5594 2 года назад +33

    My grandma was 16 when she got married to a 31 year old so it's nice to see someone actually talking about how toxic it can be

  • @Artistic_Psychologist
    @Artistic_Psychologist 2 года назад +168

    My mother was 13 years old when she got married and she gave birth to me at the age of 15 years.

    • @Moments93-
      @Moments93- 2 года назад +71

      Im 28 and first experience of intercourse was really painful for me..I can imagin the pain of labour and god knows how little girls can do it..

    • @ilovebluelockkk
      @ilovebluelockkk 2 года назад +4

      😶😶😶

    • @aditya69106
      @aditya69106 2 года назад +4

      Oh my god😶

    • @Sam-je2xj
      @Sam-je2xj 2 года назад +7

      Same, but my mom gave birth to me in 14

    • @Jia20046
      @Jia20046 2 года назад +2

      My mom was 34😱

  • @marusilda1
    @marusilda1 2 года назад +52

    К сожалению , это не только американская проблема, такое происходит и в России во многих северокавказских республиках , где женщину не считают человеком.
    Сил Вам, смотрела и переживала вместе с Вами.

  • @tinasparkles2434
    @tinasparkles2434 2 года назад +3

    What a lady.. what an incredible person! Thank God for You, Naila!

  • @far-dam7711
    @far-dam7711 2 года назад +53

    So the Indian laws protect child brides better than US laws, despite the social evil being more widespread in rural India.

    • @fozianoreen3495
      @fozianoreen3495 Месяц назад

      She’s Pakistani it has nothing to do with india

  • @utubebeena
    @utubebeena 2 года назад +186

    A nikah (the Islamic solemnisation of husband and wife in marriage) is invalid, or can say null and void, if the GIRL'S consent was not taken. The girl must willingly consent to marry the man.
    The parents who push or threatened their daughter into marriage are committing grave crime and sin.

    • @Runaway991
      @Runaway991 2 года назад +46

      Exactly. It's disgusting how people twist religious teachings for them to fit to their own advantages.

    • @utubebeena
      @utubebeena 2 года назад +25

      @2000s kid correct, it is a cultural thing and not an Islamic thing.🙂

    • @tanzinara4927
      @tanzinara4927 2 года назад +19

      Absolutely! The girl's consent by her own will, matters the most in Islamic marriages. Cultural practices shouldn't be mixed with Islam.

    • @Runaway991
      @Runaway991 2 года назад +18

      @@tanzinara4927 Yeah ikr. The marriage itself is haram if the girl doesn't say yes.

    • @amethyst5823
      @amethyst5823 2 года назад +4

      Yes ...but the family forcing her might count as something.... Islam never agreed on marriage with a woman's consent ...but the pressure and culture and customs might have forced her to say yes

  • @sanjeevani_kumari
    @sanjeevani_kumari 2 года назад +19

    Child marriage is not an American problem, it's a global problem. We need to raise our voice.

  • @not_kixra
    @not_kixra 2 месяца назад +6

    My mom got married to my dad at 14 and my dad was like 19-21 and it was a forced marriage but now I’m thankful there was no beating or abuse in my parents history and now they have had 5 children (including me) and we’re all really happy ☺️😇
    I’m also glad that Amin has recovered from everything ❤

  • @이바다-d1u
    @이바다-d1u 2 года назад +11

    This was heartbreaking. This is a universal problem, and I hope we can stick together to fight. You're so strong Naila.

    • @quickseevee3509
      @quickseevee3509 2 года назад

      Unfortunately, this is more anti islam brainwashing. Here are the google results:
      Can you get married at 14 in West Virginia?
      (a) The age of consent for marriage for both the male and the female is eighteen years of age. A person under the age of eighteen lacks the capacity to contract a marriage without the consent required by this section.

  • @MsLeonor1968
    @MsLeonor1968 2 года назад +123

    It’s an atrocity this is still being practiced EVERYWHERE. Just across the street an Indian family had their son married to a beautiful young Indian girl. The guy’s father bosses her around to do tasks around the house. It is DISGUSTING, stay strong girls.

    • @susie9893
      @susie9893 2 года назад +7

      Have you reported the situation to the authorities tho?

    • @ZastropollyonZ
      @ZastropollyonZ 2 года назад

      @nothing nothing they could be half Indian

    • @rose-rv5yz
      @rose-rv5yz 2 года назад +6

      @nothing nothing Not all Indians that are in the States come from the upper class, most are from the middle class. And this still happens in all class systems.

    • @Gkmla
      @Gkmla 2 года назад +4

      @nothing nothing uh who gave you that piece of information? Also educated high class doesn't mean they don't have a backward mentality. I've seen many educated people here in India itself who are horrible like that..

    • @wolfzmusic9706
      @wolfzmusic9706 2 года назад +4

      @nothing nothing I know an Indian that's being forced into a marriage and I'm from England. They are middle class, but the dad earns a lot of money and the mum doesn't need to work.

  • @kaypz
    @kaypz 2 года назад +4

    Kudos to you Naila! You’re so inspiring! An empowered woman! We all need that!

  • @apurvapatil8086
    @apurvapatil8086 2 года назад +101

    And here in India we have to be atleast 21 for both male and female

    • @diyas2094
      @diyas2094 2 года назад +21

      that law came now.. what was the situation before that? it was like 9,11 yrs

    • @apurvapatil8086
      @apurvapatil8086 2 года назад +67

      @@diyas2094 since 1978, it was 18 and 21 for female and male respectively
      But their is no denying that child marriages still happen in india. I am just appreciating my country for making these law fairly early.

    • @diyas2094
      @diyas2094 2 года назад +11

      @@apurvapatil8086 well i also admire my country.. just that im concerned about the women who was married against their will in the past

    • @zia2328
      @zia2328 2 года назад +38

      But still we have one of the highest rates of child marriage. No law is useful if it isn't put into action

    • @diyas2094
      @diyas2094 2 года назад +6

      @@zia2328 yes..

  • @nadadrozd8882
    @nadadrozd8882 2 года назад +2

    You are a hero and an inspiration to all women. Bless you and thank you for all of the work you do to advocate for those with no voice. ❤️🙏

  • @sakshimalik2m.511
    @sakshimalik2m.511 2 года назад +47

    My aunty married when she was 11 or 12 years old she was in 5th class and that time she have to prepare food for 14 family members and my uncle don't respect her .. 🥺

  • @samanthamitchellprete5646
    @samanthamitchellprete5646 2 года назад +11

    God bless this women and what she is doing to change the world. It's sadly not talked about enough....we still known as second class till these types of things go away and are banned.

  • @tenten0376
    @tenten0376 2 года назад +2

    Thank you Naila. You've been so brave and empathetic. Thank you for doing this. Your scars do not define you. I wish I could hug you right now. Thank you .

  • @sujathaviswanathan7210
    @sujathaviswanathan7210 2 года назад +7

    My maternal grand,other was 8 when she got married and had her first child at 13. When I heard the story for the first time, I felt sick to the stomach. My heart goes out to Naila and many many such girls who have been through child marriage. Let children remain so. Let’s not rob their innocence prematurely. These traditions need to be outed permanently.

  • @user-lt2vx9kv4e
    @user-lt2vx9kv4e 2 года назад +30

    This is amazing, more power to you naila💗

  • @glovefox
    @glovefox 2 года назад +6

    Thank you for sharing this video! I wish all the best for Naila and hope that next bill gets passed.
    She's such a badass and reminds me of a phoenix, rising from the ashes.

  • @MoviesMoveMe
    @MoviesMoveMe 2 года назад +4

    Good for her!!! This is so tragic that what she's doing is even necessary, but it's incredible and wonderful that she is.

  • @saniyashoukat3936
    @saniyashoukat3936 2 года назад +40

    Parents have no right to force their children in Islam so why did they do it? Horrible

    • @youtubeuser9168
      @youtubeuser9168 2 года назад +26

      Because they are illiterate, REAL muslim parents will never force their child, and also gives equal rights to girls

    • @whatthehell7975
      @whatthehell7975 2 года назад +3

      @@youtubeuser9168 what rights?

    • @youtubeuser9168
      @youtubeuser9168 2 года назад +14

      @@whatthehell7975 right to education, right to make self decisions, right to marry by her own choice, right to take divorce and many moree

    • @ques3234
      @ques3234 2 года назад +5

      @@youtubeuser9168 the bare minimum lol

    • @labibahassan5603
      @labibahassan5603 2 года назад +4

      people pick and chose what part of religion they want to follow my parents are strict on in islam you have to obey your parents and never question them even if they are wrong meanwhile nowhere in islam does it say that. and I am 23 but they act like Im an incapable 5 year old

  • @skyblue_jayyy
    @skyblue_jayyy 2 года назад +3

    What a strong women she is. I’m proud of her 👏🏻

  • @fizashaikh4158
    @fizashaikh4158 2 года назад +22

    Good job 👍 every girl is proud of you 💞more power to you

  • @prudence123
    @prudence123 2 года назад +8

    So Proud of you Naila🙌 loads of love from India 🇮🇳💖

  • @Yaraforzure
    @Yaraforzure 18 дней назад +2

    She looked so unhappy in those pictures 🥺 This is so disgusting to let your own child get married before the age of 18.

  • @Avanyas
    @Avanyas 2 года назад +30

    Stay strong and i hope this ends soon..you'll do it..here in india it's done but not implemented yet properly..we hope to do that soon too.

  • @k-truly8512
    @k-truly8512 2 года назад +4

    Thank you for this Naila and I’m so sorry you had to go through all that

  • @Mixoberenian
    @Mixoberenian 2 года назад +12

    My grandparent’s mothers were children when they were married. We all suffered because of the family trauma that was caused of child marriage. I can not imagine how hard that was for my grand-grandmother and her mother as well. Because she couldnt get the motherly love and couldnt give to my mother. My mother than married a narccisist and she and I suffered. Now I have horrible relationships with men. Do not underestimate the wrong doings happening in your family. Every one gets hurt.

  • @amina-ed1nt
    @amina-ed1nt 2 года назад +39

    Why do people feel SO ENTITLED over girls' lives???!!!!! May such people rot in hell

  • @tarabn.6519
    @tarabn.6519 2 года назад +76

    this is actually haram in islam. it’s so sad about how many people don’t know that it’s forbidden in islam

    • @khayra601
      @khayra601 2 года назад +3

      yes very sad...

    • @goldcherries
      @goldcherries 2 года назад

      What are the actual laws in Islam regarding marriage?

    • @2triedforthis830
      @2triedforthis830 2 года назад +2

      @@goldcherries basically you can’t touch or date each other before marriage and you can’t marry your siblings or your first cousins

    • @tarabn.6519
      @tarabn.6519 2 года назад +2

      @@goldcherries are you actually curious or just making fun? anyways here’s an answer.
      if one person ( girl or boy) dosent wanna get married but the parents still make them that is haram (forbidden)
      if they both agree and have no problems it’s okay
      love marriages are DEFINITELY okay . i actually believe they are the best “kind” of marriage

    • @tarabn.6519
      @tarabn.6519 2 года назад

      @@khayra601 are u being sarcastic orrr?

  • @emaanarshad6664
    @emaanarshad6664 2 года назад +68

    In Islam, If you marry someone off without the consent, that is invalid like both the girl and the boy are not married and it would be considered adultery. THEY ARE NOT MARRIED, NOT A COUPLE!

    • @randomuser405
      @randomuser405 2 года назад +3

      Exactly, ppl are just cruel and cowards

    • @sabrinaabdulahi5607
      @sabrinaabdulahi5607 2 года назад +4

      @Christina Sloan becuase they get a husband instead of getting a boyfriend. the culture is different

    • @TheDRAGONSAGE
      @TheDRAGONSAGE 2 года назад +7

      @Christina Sloan Because over there tradition and religion have been mixed up and used to justify these kinds of actions. In fact, many of these people who engage in these acts are most of the times illiterate.

    • @meemzing
      @meemzing 2 года назад

      Adultery (Zina) in Sharia law is punishable by violent means so you may want to retract this statement. This is called r--pe, or "ightisab," not "adultery."

    • @emaanarshad6664
      @emaanarshad6664 2 года назад

      ​@@meemzing Oh right you do make sense but I feel like it would be both because adultery means physical relations between unmarried people

  • @maygodblessus6818
    @maygodblessus6818 2 года назад +32

    Her marriage actually took place in Pakistan . Pakistani law is equally responsible.

    • @dr.maryamabid9371
      @dr.maryamabid9371 2 года назад

      Obviously. And this is what we are pushing here to make marriage age to be at least 21 its 18 now that too approved after alot of struggle.

    • @user-og3hr4tc5o
      @user-og3hr4tc5o 2 года назад

      @@dr.maryamabid9371i hope I'm not being rude, does Pakistan have a legal age of marriage and is it 18?

    • @bushrajafri3571
      @bushrajafri3571 2 года назад

      @@user-og3hr4tc5o its 18.. but here girls usually get married in their 20s or 30s. Child marriages are rare, only seen in villages and small towns

    • @dr.maryamabid9371
      @dr.maryamabid9371 2 года назад +2

      ​@@user-og3hr4tc5o yes its 18 legally. in cities girls get married in 20s and even 30s now. I myself am 29 and focusing on my career. But another dark side to this society is that even educated families seek for a younger daughter in law like around 21 22 years old even if their son is 30. This mindset is so strong that girls like us who don't marry till 20s are considered headstrong n rebellious by society unfortunately!

    • @BuffSoldierWithBigGun
      @BuffSoldierWithBigGun 2 месяца назад

      @@dr.maryamabid9371 just don't marry try your best to go abroad. Please get yourself away from that hellhole.

  • @oranjaglad8648
    @oranjaglad8648 4 месяца назад +5

    And people still downplay how bad women and little girls get treated everywhere… may God have mercy.

  • @SofiPanda-u7w
    @SofiPanda-u7w 2 месяца назад +2

    She’s so strong, God bless her ❤️

  • @Eveygoodinfollowingthesalaf
    @Eveygoodinfollowingthesalaf 2 года назад +18

    Besides, forced marriages are prohibited in islam,
    "O you who believe! *You are forbidden to inherit women against their will* , and you should not treat them with harshness, that you may take away part of the Mahr you have given them, unless they commit open illegal sexual intercourse. And live with them honourably. *If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good* ".(4:19)
    because there's supposed to be love and affection and compassion between spouses,
    "And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect." (Ch 30:21)

    • @jasmine9224
      @jasmine9224 2 года назад +3

      Thank youuu alot of people don't talk about how their prohibited in islam and its haram too

  • @siddoesntknowyou
    @siddoesntknowyou 2 года назад +20

    she looks so sad in those pictures. im glad she escaped that mess.

  • @IndigoEnchantress
    @IndigoEnchantress 2 года назад +2

    Bless this woman's heart. I'm so sorry you went through what you did. Your intentions are pure and you using your past to save many other babies from this abomination act is very empowering. Keep up the awesome work love. We appreciate all you have done and all that you continue to do ❤️ Stay blessed.

  • @TheFloMachine
    @TheFloMachine 2 года назад +10

    this woman is so strong, all the power to her

  • @nerdydrawer7265
    @nerdydrawer7265 2 года назад +13

    I will never understand, and never WISH to understand what goes through these people’s minds where they look at a young innocent CHILD and think “I want to marry them”

  • @gracesonnia
    @gracesonnia 2 года назад +1

    Thank you for fighting for many innocent child future out there. May God bless you!

  • @Icy_Luvvie
    @Icy_Luvvie Год назад +5

    She's not a survivor anymore, she's a hero

  • @NuNu-oo7fp
    @NuNu-oo7fp 2 года назад +4

    Thx for sharing. This was an eye opener

    • @BrutAmerica
      @BrutAmerica  2 года назад +1

      Thanks for watching our story!

  • @HeraKity
    @HeraKity 2 месяца назад +3

    She was and is really pretty. Sorry for what happened to u. I am lucky to have a supportive family.

  • @nabilahafswa007
    @nabilahafswa007 2 года назад +13

    3:17
    She said This is an American problem. But I think that's not the case, child marriage is a world wide problem.

  • @Jalabimjg
    @Jalabimjg 2 года назад +3

    She will win one day
    Respect ✊🏻