@@MrEpz4321 Says you. Nobody is born "high value", it is learned Character. Most men will have 3-4 of these down pat and be a little weak on one or 2. A reminder from a trusted source is always helpful to those of us who are not always on top of their game but seek to be.
@@x-man5056 Actually, if you are born in a wealthy family, you would automatically be of high value given that the family will make education a priority and standards that the opposite sex will find appealing to add to the family dynamics in the future.
I remember many years ago a young boy attempted to evaluate my value by asking me what car I drive!! I replied I don't drive a car...I fly a Helicopter instead!!! lol It is an unfortunate true that many Communities still judge a persons value by the types of lifeless objects they posses!
The term "high value" as it is commonly used online, refers to sexual marketplace value (SMV). The reason for that definition is that the value is determined by what the vast majority of the opposite sex finds attractive in a mate, and is not defined by how I feel about myself. For example, plus size women might feel high value based on their self esteem, education, career or experience, but if they don't meet the criteria that the opposite sex wants in a partner they're not considered high value women because most men want fit healthy women. That doesn't mean there aren't men out there for them, it just means that they're not what the majority of men are looking for in a mate if given a choice. It also doesn't mean that they're not just as valuable as a human being as any other person is, it just means they're SMV is low. In short, the more of the opposite sex there are that desire you, the higher your value is to the opposite sex, it's that simple, there is no self assessment or interpretation necessary.
You've explained it pretty well & the bit modern day strong independent women completely struggle with is that it is completely NOT them who determines their sexual marketplace value (SMV) & so never mind plus size women, more often than not, women of ANY size who are also single parents have a very low sexual marketplace value & similarly so can a 33 year old or 31 year old woman who so mistakenly believe that their education, salary & career actually ADD to their sexual marketplace value when they completely do NOT.
The thing is, some guys can honestly and legitimately be perfectly happy living their life keeping themselves to themselves, they don't want to work like an absolute maniac in their career to make silly money, they don't want to spend big portions of their time working out at the gym because they want to do the things they enjoy like video games, movies and music. This doesn't mean that the guy is lacking in any of the other things you mention, such as emotional intelligence, he'd just rather distance himself from most people because in your own words, it is very rare. Even women are lacking emotional intelligence these days because they're either riddled with trauma or borderline psychopathic narcissists. Guys don't want to risk their comfortable life by attracting these types of women. A guy can still have a lot of purpose in what he does in his career or what values he has and his moral compass is like, even if he lives a simple life, but sadly many women cannot look past the simple life part and wouldn't give most guys like that a second look.
I'd like to add that in my 40's I've become obsessed with self-improvement/building myself up. I'm focused on learning new things, advancing my career, and diet and exercise. An internal switch came on, and now I'm striving for greatness. But, as I said, the switch is internal. I'm not doing it for others, I'm doing it for myself. And like you, I'm comfortable with a simple life, so if I have to be showy to attract women, then that's their loss.
What men think high value is: money, career, purpose, cars, status What women say high value is: purpose, career, emotional intelligence, respect etc Who women settle for when they get old and need a provider: "High value men" Who women actually date in their youth and want to be with but can't: Chad & Tyrone
Yeah, I'm not even sure it pays to be a "high value" man with regards to women. Most women claim they want a high value man, but they only go after those men when they're running out of time or need a bailout. Interestingly, most high value men prefer younger women, so at least there is a counter-balance. But, that means it's a struggle for everyone involved, because they don't want the same thing at the same time.
I notice you said "women say", I'll agree. They say those are the high value things but to them, high value is also about having a man with money, career, purpose, cars, status.
All of this is a non negotiable for a high venue man but Courtney tried to suggest that money and looks aren’t major factor. In a perfect world they wouldn’t be but we don’t live in a perfect world. The men with the most value in our society have those two extra things whether she chooses to admit it or not. Regardless this is one of the best channels on RUclips.
she was talking about looking good and looking your best - not that one had to be good looking. There is a difference between being good looking and looking good. Ashton Kutcher is a a good looking guy but wouldn't look good if he let himself go and didn't groom himself and got all fat and dressed like a slob. An average guy can look very good with proper grooming, styling and dress. Sometimes the work and effort one puts in to looking good can carry more weight than being genetically good looking and letting oneself go.
Perfect world is subjective. "High value" is also subjective. Money and looks play a huge factor in the value of people, objectively. This objective truth value is built from subjective opinions of the majority of people.
courtney ryan is delusional. looks and money are the only things that matter. rule number one: never listen to a woman when it comes to attracting women. they will only tell you lies, that make them look good and not shallow.
I love absolutely everything you said and you dissected this "high value" a million times better than most. What a real yet positive message (hard to find these days), THANK YOU.
Wow! No mention of six figure incomes, "leveling up" or being a high earner. With all this talk of the high value threshold starting at 100K most of us were automatically eliminated from contention, relegated to the lower tier dating pools and doomed to settle for what we could get. This is your fate the gurus say, regardless of how wholesome of a man you deem yourself to be. Courtney providing a ray of light.
Finally we can put this whole high value thing to rest. I think you made it so easy to understand and you gave such healthy ways like creating our purpose and not letting our only source of happiness come from just having women. It's about being confident in who we are, what are strengths are and willing grow to as men. Not being afraid to vulnerable or expressing how we feel is very important. Anyways haha, it's nice to hear you and i wish you a lovely new years week 😁🙌💫🥂
@@CourtneyRyan The thing is Courtney,people put value of a person,but mostly Men,'cause Women got that automatically,in ability to be a potential reproductive partner to women! It's biology,when a girl turns down a Man,it esentially means,like dr.Peterson put it:You're good for a friend,but Your genes shouldnt propagate themselfs into another generation! The problem is that only 0.5% of guys have universal genetic appeal,meaning no woman would refuse to date them or having at least one night stand,even if they are broke,jobless and live with their mom!
I'd like to add one because it took so long for me to learn. Always stay calm with women. They get emotional and try to bait you into fights. A lot. Stay calm and talk to them. Never lose your cool, not for a second. This may seem to frustrate them, but this is what they ultimately want. When the dust settles talk to them. Then talk some more. Women love to talk. It doesn't matter what you say. This mindset will prevent 90% of breakups.
Courtney, it is very encouraging that a well-kept woman like you knows and can articulate what a “high-value man” is. In this day and age of social media that led to entitlement and socially inept behavior, I am not sure where I could meet a “high value woman.” I live my life with purpose each day, giving everything I have for my students. But after working hard for most of my life, I start to wonder if it’ll ever happen for me.
Great vid, on the other side of the spectrum. Some men are very confident, like me, sure of themselves, and very purposeful. You have to be cautious and beware of who you bring into your life. Do not bring in a toxic woman who will treat you like sh*t. Make sure she treats you the way that you deserve to be treated, if she doesn’t and she is continuously bringing you down - you need to know when to walk away.
I love this woman and i love this channel . Much love and respect .. if we have more people in the world think like you do Courtney .. the world would have been a better place
Love your videos Courtney! Especially where you talk about fashion advice. In the future could you possibly do a video on Date Night outfits for men? Or what to wear on a night out? I’m not really a sports coat type of guy or suit but I capsule change!
I found out the hard way that being a man of integrity and being high value has also severe disadvantages. When it comes to love, you will have higher expectations and standards for a partner which in turn dramatically reduces the number of potential mates. In my case, I ran only in few high quality women that would be a fit, and those were all already married. In addition, being a high value man automatically makes you compete with other high value men, turning the dating experience into a nightmare. For me, having a purpose in life and being grounded, fit, stoic, strong, empathic, educated, and successful in my career never provided me with more opportunities on the dating market, quite the opposite. As a result, I never found love in my life, and I fear it will never happen. Being on the top makes you fall harder.
I can relate to this. At the end of the day, having a great spectacular woman in our life is not meant for all, no matter who we are. It is not mathematically possible. Therefore, imo we should live our lives the best we can and work on our priorities and goals improving us along, day by day, either with a woman in our side or alone.
Well this is a rather discouraging analysis and outlook. Since you're at the top of your game and on top of the food chain so to speak, may I suggest possibly finding joy and pleasure in other things and experiences in life such as travelling, checking off a bucket list, etc. I'm no expert, but we can hopefully assume that as you engage in all these activities and experiences you may organically run into a woman that suits you. Instead of always actively pursuing and continuing your "nightmare" dating experience.
As a women, I feel the same. I expect a lot of myself and hold myself to a high standard. I’d love a partner who can do the same for himself. The men I’ve been in a relationship with have ultimately never been able to keep up with me. And as I’m getting older, my tolerance for incompetence gets lower and lower.
@@murielmcgregor4766 Maybe you need to evaluate and do some soul searching on why it is you keep attracting and being in relationships with these "incompetent men". If you ARE everything you want your partner to be then maybe you have some limiting beliefs to work through, something in you that sub consciously makes you settle for less.
" having a purpose in life and being grounded, fit, stoic, strong, empathic, educated, and successful in my career" provided me with a divorce. Count yourself lucky.
Okay this is b.s. first off 1. Woman don't get to decide what is a HVM 2. All women think a HVM is .Six foot .Rich . Natural bodybuilder body . and a rooster that is down near his ankles 3. You must also . Cook . clean . don't judge her . have no expectations for her . Except her no matter what . And not notice when she cheats If you don't meet her Landry list of demands then your not a man to her
"High value" has become buzz words because people just throw it around and not know what it means... Be the creator of your life, your dreams, your life!
even further , remove "high value" as a talking point, period. it sound stupid. like if we (men and women) are vehicles in a car lot. it's complete stupidity to even try to explain "high value" and those terms. if someone is slobby and fatty, cool beans. no problem.
@@LadyFairChildVideo yeah, I don't go for the trendy stuff. Lots of people just can't be grateful for what's in front of them. Again, "high value" are just buzzwords to me
@@tommygunn6901 same man. i love what courtney has to say most of the times. but this is completely falling into the preset traps of what is good or bad that nobody likes. if this video was titled "how to become a better man" maybe i would agree with it. but that whole value concept is complete BS when spoken in the men/women relationship sphere of interest.
Courtney! Thank you for having created your channel and providing a much needed base of clarity and inspiration in this at times, silly and absurd days. Hope you and Teddy had a Wonderful Christmas and may you have a Prosperous New Year Amiga. You are Amazing. Keep on rockin' it!
By far the best advice on being a high value person. Thank you Courtney. Great job. I have saved this talk and will refer back to it and share it, Thank you again.
I think the keys here are to live well, look after yourself don't be too clingy or obsessive and don't make a massive prick of yourself. Its pretty much common sense really.
I do wonder if there is an important distinction that needs to be made between what is considered high value in introspective terms and what others consider high value in extrospective terms such as hypergamous judgments. One is self determined well the other is market driven but each is derived by a totally different level of consideration of what's considered as high value. Of course there would be some overlap but I would hazard a guess that would be by collateral coincidence rather then by calculated efforts to some degree. I guess when we are talking about high value, we need to consider the question high value to whom? I think there is something important and foundational in having a strong sense of self value. You can't be everything to everyone, and nether should you try to be, and having a strong sense of self value will be the rudder that holds true in the turbulence of life.
Ms.Ryan, once again thank you for all you do, so awesome & so helpful. I make it a daily goal of mine to listen to at least one of your videos (it's usually much more) & just wanted to say thank you, I admire your knowledge & content beyond words.
I came across with your channel yesterday and I can't stop watching your videos. so well explained, amazing content, honest opinions and point of view. It's also really good and soothing for us guys to watch a woman help us and create a better version of ourselves. Apart from Alex Costa, you've become my favorite youtuber when it comes to this type of content. thank you so much and keep uploading videos!! greetings from Venezuela!
Initial thought when I saw this video: oh please, not another take on "high value men." After being charmed by Courtney, towards the end - final thought: what a wonderful lady; gotta love how real she is. I'm going to subscribe to this channel ;-) lol. Cheers, J
Being high value is mindset, attitude, place in life where you at anytime can say "fuck you, i can do better" to anyone: employer, women, other people and you actually can do better. It's knowing what you're woth and if some one don't value that you will find some who will.
@5:50 Stop the cap. Most women consider a man 'high value' when he has money. So many women, even well meaning, are in denial about this. Now, if a man is defining 'high value' for himself, that might be different. But in game theory terms, it's what women want that matters. Many women-not all-want access to money. It's tempting for women to then say, "Well, just don't date those women." This is a good example of sophism. Women often lose insight into the fact that men can't be as selective as they can. If a man tries to only date non-hypergamous women, changes are high that he will never marry. The competition for 'high value women' is incredibly high. This leads to the ironic fact that successful men might as well go to foreign countries and select for beauty. Since more and more Western women just want foodie calls anyway. It's less stressful to make it almost fully transactional then to pretend that the Western woman you're with isn't with you just for money. Western women don't yet realizes this. I predict that they'll start shaming wealthy men about going overseas within the next few years. If they don't already do that.
This is great and all, but you are not a high value man unless you make a certain level of income. At least in regards to the dating market. When it comes to being a well balanced person that others want to be around as well as generating happiness and purpose for yourself this list is spot on. But specifically for dating we cannot ignore the income component. Why? Because that's what women value. Women value a man's resources. If the majority of women decided tomorrow that a male's income was no longer a major factor then the script completely changes. But until then, a man's income matters.
I love your videos. I’ve been watching your videos for only 3 days and agree with 90 percent of things you say and even become a subscriber. I look forward to your video
The sad truth is.... All of this does not matter if you are ugly. Sure. You can work out, wear decent clothes and so on but you can't change your physical appearance you were born with. She will take one single look at you and then ignore you forever. Because for someone to see your "high value" she has to put effort in it. No Chance
Being a high value man makes it difficult to connect with most women, in short the dating market is so tiny because we want a woman that feels like our equal or better
I feel like your thinking is backward. You want to be a high quality man because WOMEN want a man that's better than them financially, physically, and at least as smart as them if not smarter. If your looking for a women that's better than you then good luck because that's what a woman wants in a man.
Sure, but if you're a high value man more women want you, making the dating market larger. If you really have difficulty connecting with women consider lowering your standards to more reasonable heights. You're not getting higher value by raising your standards to the point no one meets your criteria anymore. That's just called being a narcissist.
@@liptongtr So it's right for women to want someone better but wrong for men to want someone they see as their equal or better? I'm not into that way of thinking that the man has to be the macho guy, that strong & stoic character who has to be the biggest provider, that way of thinking is so old-school and belongs in the past. If you're a good man, physically attractive, intelligent, make a decent income, have a good sense of humor, have something you're passionate about in life & want to pursue, and take good care of your overall health, then why wouldn't you want a woman that's relatively equal to you, if not more?
Integrity is everything. If you cant say what you mean, you can never mean what you say. When your values, words, and actions align.....it is powerful. It takes discipline. They can't align every so often, or just when you need them to. They also need to align when it isn't convenient....maybe especially then. You might have to say no to something you like or want. Because it isn't the right time, nor the right way. I think this says more than a bank account statement.
Hi Courtney, I have been watching your videos for awhile now. This video is by far the best video I have seen. If you think about, this video sort of sums things up from most of the other videos you have made. When you become a high value man, all the other things you want with a women will fall into place. Good stuff.
Totally agree, although emotional intelligence is based on your personality. Your either very conscientious or not. But if you understand what your temperament is it makes things easier for you and the girl.
Key word is create. There's satisfaction with creating and developing yourself. I learned a lot about myself developing my value. I enjoyed the process and keep challenging myself to become better. It's for me and to set an example for my kids.
Where I am a high value man isn't what you identify with. A high value man in your world only has two things; money, looks. Now, if you're money has no meaning, and your looks aren't what's needed, then how do you define a "high-value" man? Butcher a moose, caribou? Fix a four-wheeler in the tundra? Pilot a boat? Build a cabin? Dry salmon? Drill a well? The life you lead is far different than us. You're provided for, we have to provide. That ain't got nothing to do with looks.
I have nothing to prove to others. I am not emotionally dependent on anyone. I don't need others to validate my thoughts, my looks, my feelings and my actions. I really couldn't care less about being high value to people around me, I just don't want them to feel like low value individuals around me. I'm a warrior, but I have no need to enter unnecessary, unprofitable fights. Especially with people that present no obstacle to me. I am different. I am a man, not a woman. I can't understand how a man would even bother about being high value to women. Because honestly, I have way more women than I desire and I want in my life. I don't want more. I'd be more happy managing less women around me, honestly. I'm not Tambas of Banaras. Thanks for your "advices" though.
It's too easy to get lost without a moral compass. Better to sacrifice in the short term, internalize your own locus of control, make your own choices free of outside influences, and accept people as they are, always remembering that most people do things with the best of intentions in mind. This frame of mind saves wear and tear on the self because you're not always waiting guardedly for someone to stab you in the back.
This high-value nonsense is a matter of perspective, and it doesn't matter how many guys try to do this if women aren't doing the same. They're not perfect angels waiting for the right guy to come along and possibly stoop down to their level. Also anyone offering this kind of advice is really just describing themselves or their ideal partner. Think about it, if you're advising things that you yourself are not doing, that's hypocrisy. If your partner is missing something on the criteria, why list it? There's also some bias with the "dressing well" point. Some women (like the ones I'm going for) don't care much for fanciness and even dressing casually with them is fine unless for certain special occasions. Also about the point about money, you say it doesn't contribute to being high-value and yet you've mentioned before that you want the guy to have enough to feel secure being with him. Sure it's not the most important thing but it's still important, especially in Asian societies. The girl may not care as much about it but her parents certainly will. That's the reason why my best friend in Japan was forced to break up with his ex by her dad.
The relevant question imho is how do we as men qualify women to see if they are high value. We as men, if we consider ourself high value, not cocky but confident etc, need to put ourselves in the drivers seat. Women too often have an entitlement complex if they are very attractive. We need to ask ourself, and them, what else darling do you bring to the table besides your good looks. We as men have to start seeing ourselves as the prize.
Women as well as men need to follow these steps...If you're a "Team" and working together towards a common goal & on the same page with everything, then, it's a 100% effort for each person involved! Everything should put on the table & discussed with the plans & goals...personally & and professionally speaking. Politics, religion & $$$...What's important to each person?...can they compromise?...can they accept each other strengths, faults, weaknesses & shortcomings? One can only accept so much craziness from one another. If a threshold is reached & exceeded then there needs to be a mutual understanding between the two before moving forward with anything ..." serious"...Value is measured according to the perception of what something is "Worth" to that person!
Question: You say women love it when guy’s approach them. But my female friends say talking to a woman is bothering them. They suggest never talk to a woman, never walk up to one, it would be considered harassment. What are your thoughts?
All points were covered well with adequate knowledge, thanks for advice courtney keep it up, you are our favorite girl who sharpen our personality to shine in social life ❤
A man that is well rounded body, soul, and spirit is a high valued man. Only Christ can do this work. A submitted life to Christ, his word, his will and his ways will make you the highest value.
All these points can be umbrellaed over the word “respect”. Respect for yourself and for others. As a women, I want to see a man who respects his body, his time, and his goals. And, in turn, I want to see him respecting my body, my time, and my goals (so then I can do the same to him). In dating, I’ve seen a lot of guys who feel very entitled in their expectations of me, but don’t hold themselves to that same standard.
Shouldn't we as individuals be doing these things already 🙄? We need someone to tell us that. Put it this way , myself I had my hiatus period. I am now pressing forward....sometimes life events happen that will force you to change , adapt out of your complacency. The only thing that comes to mind is this ,not bad advice . I just wonder if males are being taught these things anymore
I would say value for the purposes of dating is tied to Looks, money, status, game, and skills. (I did a 5 part series on that) But quality? That’s lost on people these days and I think that’s more of what you described here. CHARACTER.
Be rich, be tall, be attractive. This isn't hard guys. The rest of this is like fortune cookie stuff. Just take a look at the guys your female friends date and you'll have your answers.
Depends on what kind of woman you’re going for I think. Yeah some will only care about this stuff. Some would prefer a guy who may not be the best in those categories but who would make a better father.
Beautiful, intelligent, great character and class! Always excellent and very helpful content, love the channel! Thank you Courtney for all you do! Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!!❤🌲🎉
1. Create Your Purpose
2. Don't Outsource Your Happiness
3. Have Standards and Values
4. Take Care Of Yourself
5. Emotional Intelligence
Don't waste time on RUclips. No High Value Man will ever watch this video.
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@@MrEpz4321 Says you. Nobody is born "high value", it is learned Character. Most men will have 3-4 of these down pat and be a little weak on one or 2. A reminder from a trusted source is always helpful to those of us who are not always on top of their game but seek to be.
@@x-man5056 Thanks for the comment
@@x-man5056 Actually, if you are born in a wealthy family, you would automatically be of high value given that the family will make education a priority and standards that the opposite sex will find appealing to add to the family dynamics in the future.
It’s kinda sad that most people only think “highly” of you if you have material things.
I know and there is so much more to life than that. It’s silly!
I remember many years ago a young boy attempted to evaluate my value by asking me what car I drive!! I replied I don't drive a car...I fly a Helicopter instead!!! lol
It is an unfortunate true that many Communities still judge a persons value by the types of lifeless objects they posses!
Well, the only reason you're able to post this comment is because of someone's resourcefulness.
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That’s society for ya, which is why the whole “high value man” is just another ploy.
Neediness and insecurity are your enemies.
True validation comes from within. We are all our own ultimate judges.
The term "high value" as it is commonly used online, refers to sexual marketplace value (SMV). The reason for that definition is that the value is determined by what the vast majority of the opposite sex finds attractive in a mate, and is not defined by how I feel about myself. For example, plus size women might feel high value based on their self esteem, education, career or experience, but if they don't meet the criteria that the opposite sex wants in a partner they're not considered high value women because most men want fit healthy women. That doesn't mean there aren't men out there for them, it just means that they're not what the majority of men are looking for in a mate if given a choice. It also doesn't mean that they're not just as valuable as a human being as any other person is, it just means they're SMV is low. In short, the more of the opposite sex there are that desire you, the higher your value is to the opposite sex, it's that simple, there is no self assessment or interpretation necessary.
You've explained it pretty well & the bit modern day strong independent women completely struggle with is that it is completely NOT them who determines their sexual marketplace value (SMV) & so never mind plus size women, more often than not, women of ANY size who are also single parents have a very low sexual marketplace value & similarly so can a 33 year old or 31 year old woman who so mistakenly believe that their education, salary & career actually ADD to their sexual marketplace value when they completely do NOT.
I believe Courtney just found a market and is trying to capitalize on it. The advice is all just red pill coated blue pill.
The thing is, some guys can honestly and legitimately be perfectly happy living their life keeping themselves to themselves, they don't want to work like an absolute maniac in their career to make silly money, they don't want to spend big portions of their time working out at the gym because they want to do the things they enjoy like video games, movies and music.
This doesn't mean that the guy is lacking in any of the other things you mention, such as emotional intelligence, he'd just rather distance himself from most people because in your own words, it is very rare. Even women are lacking emotional intelligence these days because they're either riddled with trauma or borderline psychopathic narcissists. Guys don't want to risk their comfortable life by attracting these types of women.
A guy can still have a lot of purpose in what he does in his career or what values he has and his moral compass is like, even if he lives a simple life, but sadly many women cannot look past the simple life part and wouldn't give most guys like that a second look.
I'd like to add that in my 40's I've become obsessed with self-improvement/building myself up. I'm focused on learning new things, advancing my career, and diet and exercise. An internal switch came on, and now I'm striving for greatness. But, as I said, the switch is internal. I'm not doing it for others, I'm doing it for myself. And like you, I'm comfortable with a simple life, so if I have to be showy to attract women, then that's their loss.
What men think high value is: money, career, purpose, cars, status
What women say high value is: purpose, career, emotional intelligence, respect etc
Who women settle for when they get old and need a provider: "High value men"
Who women actually date in their youth and want to be with but can't: Chad & Tyrone
Yeah, I'm not even sure it pays to be a "high value" man with regards to women. Most women claim they want a high value man, but they only go after those men when they're running out of time or need a bailout. Interestingly, most high value men prefer younger women, so at least there is a counter-balance. But, that means it's a struggle for everyone involved, because they don't want the same thing at the same time.
I notice you said "women say", I'll agree. They say those are the high value things but to them, high value is also about having a man with money, career, purpose, cars, status.
All of this is a non negotiable for a high venue man but Courtney tried to suggest that money and looks aren’t major factor. In a perfect world they wouldn’t be but we don’t live in a perfect world. The men with the most value in our society have those two extra things whether she chooses to admit it or not. Regardless this is one of the best channels on RUclips.
I'd say looks are subjective but not quite neccessary. However, money is most definitely needed as a part of being a high value man.
High venue or high value?
she was talking about looking good and looking your best - not that one had to be good looking. There is a difference between being good looking and looking good. Ashton Kutcher is a a good looking guy but wouldn't look good if he let himself go and didn't groom himself and got all fat and dressed like a slob. An average guy can look very good with proper grooming, styling and dress. Sometimes the work and effort one puts in to looking good can carry more weight than being genetically good looking and letting oneself go.
Perfect world is subjective. "High value" is also subjective. Money and looks play a huge factor in the value of people, objectively. This objective truth value is built from subjective opinions of the majority of people.
courtney ryan is delusional. looks and money are the only things that matter. rule number one: never listen to a woman when it comes to attracting women. they will only tell you lies, that make them look good and not shallow.
I love absolutely everything you said and you dissected this "high value" a million times better than most. What a real yet positive message (hard to find these days), THANK YOU.
Wow! No mention of six figure incomes, "leveling up" or being a high earner. With all this talk of the high value threshold starting at 100K most of us were automatically eliminated from contention, relegated to the lower tier dating pools and doomed to settle for what we could get. This is your fate the gurus say, regardless of how wholesome of a man you deem yourself to be. Courtney providing a ray of light.
Finally we can put this whole high value thing to rest. I think you made it so easy to understand and you gave such healthy ways like creating our purpose and not letting our only source of happiness come from just having women. It's about being confident in who we are, what are strengths are and willing grow to as men. Not being afraid to vulnerable or expressing how we feel is very important. Anyways haha, it's nice to hear you and i wish you a lovely new years week 😁🙌💫🥂
🙌🏼 spot on! Happy new year Georgio!
@@CourtneyRyan The thing is Courtney,people put value of a person,but mostly Men,'cause Women got that automatically,in ability to be a potential reproductive partner to women! It's biology,when a girl turns down a Man,it esentially means,like dr.Peterson put it:You're good for a friend,but Your genes shouldnt propagate themselfs into another generation! The problem is that only 0.5% of guys have universal genetic appeal,meaning no woman would refuse to date them or having at least one night stand,even if they are broke,jobless and live with their mom!
As a 47 year old man …..RIGHT ON
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Well said, Georgio. Cheers ;-)
The problem is most see high value as what you earn, money and resources and age. Not character and values and good behaviour.
Women only see what you earn.
I'd like to add one because it took so long for me to learn. Always stay calm with women. They get emotional and try to bait you into fights. A lot. Stay calm and talk to them. Never lose your cool, not for a second. This may seem to frustrate them, but this is what they ultimately want. When the dust settles talk to them. Then talk some more. Women love to talk. It doesn't matter what you say. This mindset will prevent 90% of breakups.
Courtney, it is very encouraging that a well-kept woman like you knows and can articulate what a “high-value man” is. In this day and age of social media that led to entitlement and socially inept behavior, I am not sure where I could meet a “high value woman.” I live my life with purpose each day, giving everything I have for my students. But after working hard for most of my life, I start to wonder if it’ll ever happen for me.
My purpose: to find and build on that inner source of peace, strength, understanding and then reach out for what we can create together.
Great vid, on the other side of the spectrum. Some men are very confident, like me, sure of themselves, and very purposeful. You have to be cautious and beware of who you bring into your life. Do not bring in a toxic woman who will treat you like sh*t. Make sure she treats you the way that you deserve to be treated, if she doesn’t and she is continuously bringing you down - you need to know when to walk away.
I love this woman and i love this channel . Much love and respect .. if we have more people in the world think like you do Courtney .. the world would have been a better place
You love this grifter when she wouldn’t even spit on you if you were engulfed in flames.
Love your videos Courtney! Especially where you talk about fashion advice. In the future could you possibly do a video on Date Night outfits for men? Or what to wear on a night out? I’m not really a sports coat type of guy or suit but I capsule change!
💡 Ooh, good suggestion!
I found out the hard way that being a man of integrity and being high value has also severe disadvantages. When it comes to love, you will have higher expectations and standards for a partner which in turn dramatically reduces the number of potential mates. In my case, I ran only in few high quality women that would be a fit, and those were all already married. In addition, being a high value man automatically makes you compete with other high value men, turning the dating experience into a nightmare. For me, having a purpose in life and being grounded, fit, stoic, strong, empathic, educated, and successful in my career never provided me with more opportunities on the dating market, quite the opposite. As a result, I never found love in my life, and I fear it will never happen. Being on the top makes you fall harder.
I can relate to this. At the end of the day, having a great spectacular woman in our life is not meant for all, no matter who we are. It is not mathematically possible. Therefore, imo we should live our lives the best we can and work on our priorities and goals improving us along, day by day, either with a woman in our side or alone.
Well this is a rather discouraging analysis and outlook. Since you're at the top of your game and on top of the food chain so to speak, may I suggest possibly finding joy and pleasure in other things and experiences in life such as travelling, checking off a bucket list, etc. I'm no expert, but we can hopefully assume that as you engage in all these activities and experiences you may organically run into a woman that suits you. Instead of always actively pursuing and continuing your "nightmare" dating experience.
As a women, I feel the same. I expect a lot of myself and hold myself to a high standard. I’d love a partner who can do the same for himself. The men I’ve been in a relationship with have ultimately never been able to keep up with me. And as I’m getting older, my tolerance for incompetence gets lower and lower.
@@murielmcgregor4766 Maybe you need to evaluate and do some soul searching on why it is you keep attracting and being in relationships with these "incompetent men". If you ARE everything you want your partner to be then maybe you have some limiting beliefs to work through, something in you that sub consciously makes you settle for less.
" having a purpose in life and being grounded, fit, stoic, strong, empathic, educated, and successful in my career" provided me with a divorce. Count yourself lucky.
About time somebody says that being high value doesn't equate to money! THANK YOU COURTNEY!! Happy Belated Birthday!
Courtney!! Thanks for all of your videos in 2021!
Thanks for being here! 😊
Okay this is b.s. first off
1. Woman don't get to decide what is a HVM
2. All women think a HVM is
.Six foot
.Rich
. Natural bodybuilder body
. and a rooster that is down near his ankles
3. You must also
. Cook
. clean
. don't judge her
. have no expectations for her
. Except her no matter what
. And not notice when she cheats
If you don't meet her Landry list of demands then your not a man to her
"High value" has become buzz words because people just throw it around and not know what it means...
Be the creator of your life, your dreams, your life!
Exactly! I hope people understand that after watching my video lol
@@CourtneyRyan you're wise beyond your years, I'm sure they can understand better now.
even further , remove "high value" as a talking point, period. it sound stupid. like if we (men and women) are vehicles in a car lot. it's complete stupidity to even try to explain "high value" and those terms. if someone is slobby and fatty, cool beans. no problem.
@@LadyFairChildVideo yeah, I don't go for the trendy stuff. Lots of people just can't be grateful for what's in front of them. Again, "high value" are just buzzwords to me
@@tommygunn6901 same man. i love what courtney has to say most of the times. but this is completely falling into the preset traps of what is good or bad that nobody likes. if this video was titled "how to become a better man" maybe i would agree with it. but that whole value concept is complete BS when spoken in the men/women relationship sphere of interest.
I like how you get to the point and don't drag out your videos with unrelated talk ,its easy to get to the end of yours
Courtney!
Thank you for having created your channel and providing a much needed base of clarity and inspiration in this at times, silly and absurd days.
Hope you and Teddy had a Wonderful Christmas and may you have a Prosperous New Year Amiga.
You are Amazing.
Keep on rockin' it!
By far the best advice on being a high value person. Thank you Courtney. Great job. I have saved this talk and will refer back to it and share it, Thank you again.
I think the keys here are to live well, look after yourself don't be too clingy or obsessive and don't make a massive prick of yourself. Its pretty much common sense really.
I do wonder if there is an important distinction that needs to be made between what is considered high value in introspective terms and what others consider high value in extrospective terms such as hypergamous judgments. One is self determined well the other is market driven but each is derived by a totally different level of consideration of what's considered as high value. Of course there would be some overlap but I would hazard a guess that would be by collateral coincidence rather then by calculated efforts to some degree.
I guess when we are talking about high value, we need to consider the question high value to whom?
I think there is something important and foundational in having a strong sense of self value. You can't be everything to everyone, and nether should you try to be, and having a strong sense of self value will be the rudder that holds true in the turbulence of life.
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Your personal self worth and your SMV are separate. Indeed SMV is subjective to the individual doing the evaluation.
Just be happy with yourself love yourself every thing else will fall into place 🙂
Sap
Thanks for your advice Courtney. Also side note, you rock that outfit.
Thank you for explaining it in a way thats not "rich with 6 pack abs".
Just recently found your channel, and I absolutely love it. Keep it up Courtney!
Ms.Ryan, once again thank you for all you do, so awesome & so helpful. I make it a daily goal of mine to listen to at least one of your videos (it's usually much more) & just wanted to say thank you, I admire your knowledge & content beyond words.
I came across with your channel yesterday and I can't stop watching your videos. so well explained, amazing content, honest opinions and point of view. It's also really good and soothing for us guys to watch a woman help us and create a better version of ourselves. Apart from Alex Costa, you've become my favorite youtuber when it comes to this type of content. thank you so much and keep uploading videos!! greetings from Venezuela!
Focus on yourself Kingz. Time is on your side
Initial thought when I saw this video: oh please, not another take on "high value men." After being charmed by Courtney, towards the end - final thought: what a wonderful lady; gotta love how real she is. I'm going to subscribe to this channel ;-) lol. Cheers, J
Thanks for being the sister we all needed.
Being high value is mindset, attitude, place in life where you at anytime can say "fuck you, i can do better" to anyone: employer, women, other people and you actually can do better. It's knowing what you're woth and if some one don't value that you will find some who will.
I hope that you have a Happy New Year Courtney. I look forward to seeing what your channel has to offer for 2022.
@5:50 Stop the cap. Most women consider a man 'high value' when he has money. So many women, even well meaning, are in denial about this. Now, if a man is defining 'high value' for himself, that might be different. But in game theory terms, it's what women want that matters. Many women-not all-want access to money. It's tempting for women to then say, "Well, just don't date those women." This is a good example of sophism. Women often lose insight into the fact that men can't be as selective as they can. If a man tries to only date non-hypergamous women, changes are high that he will never marry. The competition for 'high value women' is incredibly high. This leads to the ironic fact that successful men might as well go to foreign countries and select for beauty. Since more and more Western women just want foodie calls anyway. It's less stressful to make it almost fully transactional then to pretend that the Western woman you're with isn't with you just for money. Western women don't yet realizes this. I predict that they'll start shaming wealthy men about going overseas within the next few years. If they don't already do that.
Thank you Courtney! Your videos help me get back on track after dealing with emotional trauma.
Great stuff. Authentic and genuine.
This is great and all, but you are not a high value man unless you make a certain level of income. At least in regards to the dating market. When it comes to being a well balanced person that others want to be around as well as generating happiness and purpose for yourself this list is spot on. But specifically for dating we cannot ignore the income component. Why? Because that's what women value. Women value a man's resources. If the majority of women decided tomorrow that a male's income was no longer a major factor then the script completely changes. But until then, a man's income matters.
yep
For many women who have their own income, a man's income is not a major factor as not all women seek out a man's money
@@wyleecoyotee4252 sigh. Tell some of these guys that. When I tied the knot my wife was making $20000 more than me. She actually married me for me.
I love your videos. I’ve been watching your videos for only 3 days and agree with 90 percent of things you say and even become a subscriber. I look forward to your video
This is spot on. Reminds me of my walk with Christ and inability to be obedient.
The sad truth is....
All of this does not matter if you are ugly. Sure. You can work out,
wear decent clothes and so on but you can't change your physical appearance
you were born with. She will take one single look at you and then ignore you forever.
Because for someone to see your "high value" she has to put effort in it. No Chance
Not to forget your height
Thank you. Reminders are very useful always and nowadays.
I love this charming face.
Being a high value man makes it difficult to connect with most women, in short the dating market is so tiny because we want a woman that feels like our equal or better
Quality over quantity broski! Don't settle it took me over a year of being single to connect with someone I could see it going long term with
I feel like your thinking is backward. You want to be a high quality man because WOMEN want a man that's better than them financially, physically, and at least as smart as them if not smarter. If your looking for a women that's better than you then good luck because that's what a woman wants in a man.
Sure, but if you're a high value man more women want you, making the dating market larger. If you really have difficulty connecting with women consider lowering your standards to more reasonable heights. You're not getting higher value by raising your standards to the point no one meets your criteria anymore. That's just called being a narcissist.
@@liptongtr 100%.
@@liptongtr So it's right for women to want someone better but wrong for men to want someone they see as their equal or better? I'm not into that way of thinking that the man has to be the macho guy, that strong & stoic character who has to be the biggest provider, that way of thinking is so old-school and belongs in the past. If you're a good man, physically attractive, intelligent, make a decent income, have a good sense of humor, have something you're passionate about in life & want to pursue, and take good care of your overall health, then why wouldn't you want a woman that's relatively equal to you, if not more?
Integrity is everything. If you cant say what you mean, you can never mean what you say. When your values, words, and actions align.....it is powerful. It takes discipline. They can't align every so often, or just when you need them to. They also need to align when it isn't convenient....maybe especially then. You might have to say no to something you like or want. Because it isn't the right time, nor the right way. I think this says more than a bank account statement.
Hi Courtney,
I have been watching your videos for awhile now. This video is by far the best video I have seen. If you think about, this video sort of sums things up from most of the other videos you have made. When you become a high value man, all the other things you want with a women will fall into place. Good stuff.
Totally agree, although emotional intelligence is based on your personality. Your either very conscientious or not. But if you understand what your temperament is it makes things easier for you and the girl.
Key word is create. There's satisfaction with creating and developing yourself. I learned a lot about myself developing my value. I enjoyed the process and keep challenging myself to become better. It's for me and to set an example for my kids.
Happy “early” New Year Courtney! Again want to say thanks to your fragrance video I picked up Layton and love it!
You too, Kevin! Ahh, so glad to hear it. Layton is a gem 🤍
Thanks a lot Courtney. Love you. I need this and how to be gentleman.
i like the new look on the setting. it's darker
Good video! I would like to see a video about curly hairstyles for men
She ain’t yours,it’s just your turn💯
Women come and go but your purpose will never leave!
Live life in abundance’s..........
I love how Courtney Lols every comment
Excellent information and presentation Courtney Ryan. Roy Wade / International Life Academy!
RUclips 100% changes my notification settings. I nearly forgot about your channel it had been so long since I got a notification
Where I am a high value man isn't what you identify with. A high value man in your world only has two things; money, looks.
Now, if you're money has no meaning, and your looks aren't what's needed, then how do you define a "high-value" man?
Butcher a moose, caribou? Fix a four-wheeler in the tundra? Pilot a boat? Build a cabin? Dry salmon? Drill a well?
The life you lead is far different than us. You're provided for, we have to provide.
That ain't got nothing to do with looks.
I just want to add…chasing women. Chasing women is a sign of desperation and a big waste of money, energy, attention, and time.
I have nothing to prove to others. I am not emotionally dependent on anyone. I don't need others to validate my thoughts, my looks, my feelings and my actions. I really couldn't care less about being high value to people around me, I just don't want them to feel like low value individuals around me. I'm a warrior, but I have no need to enter unnecessary, unprofitable fights. Especially with people that present no obstacle to me. I am different. I am a man, not a woman. I can't understand how a man would even bother about being high value to women. Because honestly, I have way more women than I desire and I want in my life. I don't want more. I'd be more happy managing less women around me, honestly. I'm not Tambas of Banaras. Thanks for your "advices" though.
Valuable to WHOM is the biggest thing to ask yourself, as well.
Great video Courtney!!!! I am a work in progress as well. There are areas of improvement in my life that I need to address. Thanks for sharing.
happy new year 😊
thanks courtney. i appreciate these affirmations and having my sentiments as a man of worth confirmed.
I honestly wish that the answer was more than this, but usually a high value man, is simply one who has high income and high net worth.
I think that’s where people get “high value” completely wrong! There’s so much more to it than how much money you’re making!
My purpose I'm a Christian and I'm an artist. I'm very proud of my music. God gave me that gift so I try to glorify him with my music.
It's too easy to get lost without a moral compass.
Better to sacrifice in the short term, internalize your own locus of control, make your own choices free of outside influences, and accept people as they are, always remembering that most people do things with the best of intentions in mind.
This frame of mind saves wear and tear on the self because you're not always waiting guardedly for someone to stab you in the back.
You dont need to save our ‘feelings’ courtney. That 100K/year is not debatable.
Just came here for ryan 😂💯
She is so pretty 💓💓
Thank you for instilling confidence in all of us!
Wonderful points, Courtney! Thanks for sharing in such a clear and concise way.
This high-value nonsense is a matter of perspective, and it doesn't matter how many guys try to do this if women aren't doing the same. They're not perfect angels waiting for the right guy to come along and possibly stoop down to their level. Also anyone offering this kind of advice is really just describing themselves or their ideal partner. Think about it, if you're advising things that you yourself are not doing, that's hypocrisy. If your partner is missing something on the criteria, why list it?
There's also some bias with the "dressing well" point. Some women (like the ones I'm going for) don't care much for fanciness and even dressing casually with them is fine unless for certain special occasions. Also about the point about money, you say it doesn't contribute to being high-value and yet you've mentioned before that you want the guy to have enough to feel secure being with him. Sure it's not the most important thing but it's still important, especially in Asian societies. The girl may not care as much about it but her parents certainly will. That's the reason why my best friend in Japan was forced to break up with his ex by her dad.
Every now and then people are telling men hai to be masculine but not everybody is telling women how to be feminine
The relevant question imho is how do we as men qualify women to see if they are high value. We as men, if we consider ourself high value, not cocky but confident etc, need to put ourselves in the drivers seat. Women too often have an entitlement complex if they are very attractive. We need to ask ourself, and them, what else darling do you bring to the table besides your good looks. We as men have to start seeing ourselves as the prize.
Great video today Courtney. To me, high value is how you present yourself. Happy Holidays 🎄🎅🦌🎁🎄🎆🥂🎉
Awesome Videos Courtney! Happy new year
You too! 🤍
Women as well as men need to follow these steps...If you're a "Team" and working together towards a common goal & on the same page with everything, then, it's a 100% effort for each person involved! Everything should put on the table & discussed with the plans & goals...personally & and professionally speaking. Politics, religion & $$$...What's important to each person?...can they compromise?...can they accept each other strengths, faults, weaknesses & shortcomings? One can only accept so much craziness from one another. If a threshold is reached & exceeded then there needs to be a mutual understanding between the two before moving forward with anything ..." serious"...Value is measured according to the perception of what something is "Worth" to that person!
Thank you Courtney. You’re the Best.
Question: You say women love it when guy’s approach them. But my female friends say talking to a woman is bothering them. They suggest never talk to a woman, never walk up to one, it would be considered harassment. What are your thoughts?
All points were covered well with adequate knowledge, thanks for advice courtney keep it up, you are our favorite girl who sharpen our personality to shine in social life ❤
It is funny that a woman defined this better than many "gurus" of the manosphare
Needed these reminders- thanks Courtney
Happy to help 🤍
A man that is well rounded body, soul, and spirit is a high valued man. Only Christ can do this work. A submitted life to Christ, his word, his will and his ways will make you the highest value.
Great vid, thank you Courtney!!
All these points can be umbrellaed over the word “respect”. Respect for yourself and for others. As a women, I want to see a man who respects his body, his time, and his goals. And, in turn, I want to see him respecting my body, my time, and my goals (so then I can do the same to him). In dating, I’ve seen a lot of guys who feel very entitled in their expectations of me, but don’t hold themselves to that same standard.
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You Could be an Exception 😉
Shouldn't we as individuals be doing these things already 🙄? We need someone to tell us that. Put it this way , myself I had my hiatus period. I am now pressing forward....sometimes life events happen that will force you to change , adapt out of your complacency. The only thing that comes to mind is this ,not bad advice . I just wonder if males are being taught these things anymore
I would say value for the purposes of dating is tied to Looks, money, status, game, and skills. (I did a 5 part series on that)
But quality? That’s lost on people these days and I think that’s more of what you described here. CHARACTER.
Right on, Courtney. I thought this was a great breakdown
Be rich, be tall, be attractive. This isn't hard guys. The rest of this is like fortune cookie stuff. Just take a look at the guys your female friends date and you'll have your answers.
Oh so true. So VERY true.
This is the unfortunately
Be tall? Is there a potion for that? Or what?
Depends on what kind of woman you’re going for I think. Yeah some will only care about this stuff. Some would prefer a guy who may not be the best in those categories but who would make a better father.
If you ask anyone if they consider themselves to be high value, they will answer yes. I mean who is going to admit to being low value?
Good point.
More advice on fishing from a fish. Just what we need.
Your eyes are magical Courtney, I can only focus on your eyes
Beautiful, intelligent, great character and class! Always excellent and very helpful content, love the channel! Thank you Courtney for all you do! Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!!❤🌲🎉
Great advice, as always, Courtney -Thank you! Maybe I can strive for being a high-value goblin.
I just say that any person has the same value no matter what (gender, status, money, race, nationality, etc)
Courtney been meaning to ask for a long time what’s the background song?😭🔥
I like your sweater
I've noticed integrity nowadays is subjective.