7 Things Confident Men NEVER Do (Make Excuses, Play The Victim & MORE!) | Courtney Ryan
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- Опубликовано: 1 июн 2024
- In this video, I go over 7 things that confident men never do. By avoiding the things on this list, you'll look and feel much more confident. I hope you all find this helpful and let me know in the comments what you think!
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1:00 - seeking validation/ approval
2:06 - fear of failure/ rejection
3:33 - making excuses
5:02 - being judgemental
6:22 - poor communication
7:48 - a keyboard warrior
9:18 - playing the victim
hope this helps:)
Confident men don't watch videos like these. I passed. Keep up the men bashing Courtney
So, basically, don't be a woman :D
@@jasonpauldegraaf Exactly because women always play the victim so they are only projecting those things onto us. Can you imagine if a male dating coach talked to women in this condescending manner, all hell would break loose. But society tolerates disrespect of men by women,
Thank you
Thanks
"Don't attach your happiness to anything you don't control." - Taylor the fiend
So true.
That’s stoicism 101 from two thousand years ago...
I told her about Taylor the Fiend lol. Clearly not mean and awful. BIG FACTS!!
If you follow all the advice she has given, a man will never have a serious long-term relationship. 😂😂😂
@@tomaszsosnowski9279 Too much confidence is called "arrogance".
Arrogance in the western world can easily land you in family court and/or prison.
Go east. Move to a country with non-misandrist courts.
As a 43 year old male who’s learned these lessons the hard way & still managed to get what I want out of life, I approve this message. 👍🏽
And confident men know which battles to fight and which ones to walk away from... a lot of guys think you should always throw hands If another guy picks a fight with you.. a confident man knows to fight for the right reasons and walk away from senseless confrontations with their head up like kings
You are one of the few content creators who make subscribers feel like more than a number.
❤️ I’m so glad!
Is somebody tryin ta get all up in it?
@@slartibartfast2452she’s engaged my boy
Courtney's feminine energy is so encouraging. She's the sister we've always wanted.
Sometimes, we men need a woman like Courtney to say, "Go for it".
"Don't be judgemental" is a real banger.
If they aren't bothering you, don't bother them
paradoxically you have to be judgemental in order to tell someone not to be
Taking responsability for your actions and mistakes is the single most important point in the list.
All other mistakes can easily be avoided if you finally accept who you realy are. It is kinda humiliating at first, but it's an easy path to humility from there on.
Challange your fears. When I was younger I had many insecurities. Speaking in Public, about my looks, Things People sayed about me, I was even afraid of talking to girls. Then I read a book about overcoming your insecurities by actually doing things that makes you unconfortable. So I litterally did everything on a regular basis, were I was afraid of. Public Speeches, Approaching Girls, Changed my looks (clothes, haircut...) If People said negative things about me, I asked myself, are these people important to me? If not, I did not care. I even went Base Jumping, riding horses... This helped me in my Professional Career and with finding a nice girlfriend. Even to this day, I keep on Challaging myself to learn and grow. Everything is possible, you just need to be focussed and go for it for 200% with Passion and a strong belief. Even if you fail in the beginning, learn from it and become better. Regrets are far worse, then not trying because of fair. That's what I have learned in life.
Mustering up the courage to kick-start your dream career is one of the most magical ones I think. Paralysis by analysis, self-doubt and pessimism are powerful roadblocks.
That one little, initially-nerve-wracking step.
Thanks Courtney.
lel, im their atm, once i decide to leave self-doubt, dread, impending disaster.. I'm aware of my feelings. not everybody is willing to and know how to handle it.
Paralysis by analysis is one of the biggest traps I get into both for dating and career. I'm trying a side business and I keep trying to get into my head that done is better than perfect. Besides, there are more opportunities to learn from mistakes. Thank you Courtney and Olly for sharing.
You read the book switch? Analysis paralysis the elephant and the rider? Good book I read and should probably re-read.
@@chandlerbong1776, No I haven't. I'll have to read Switch sometime.
@@chandlerbong1776 I just put it on my Amazon wishlist. I like the concept of using both logic and reasoning as well as emotions in a decision. It's a different balance of the two deciders depending on the situation.
2:02 Something else to add: whilst it's important to ignore the haters and do what comes naturally, it is equally, if not more, important that you should keep interacting with the people who want the best for you so you can gather a reasonable perspective on your attitudes towards others.
I really liked this video! Number 5 sounded to me like "learn to be more assertive", which I've struggled with in the past and I'm still learning and developing that trait now. Courtney, I'm still looking through all of your videos when I have time. But I would love to see a video on conversational communication. I'm not great at it and could use the extra help. Thank you Courtney!!
5:09
The light analogy is the exact one I use at work the most. People always feel they have to make you look worse, rather than just being better themselves.
I've gotten into the habit of helping others brighten their light slightly, anytime I know im going to shine. It hedges against the negativity and makes everyone better along the way!
I am not a confident person but after watching your video you’ve encouraged me to work on these points and hopefully become the best version of myself. Thank you.
I’m so glad you got over your fears and launched your channel. I appreciate your insights.
I think sometimes it is necessary to acknowledge one's victimhood if one is in an abusive or traumatic situation. When i was 19, I had my first sexual experience which was pretty negative. I went a long time thinking that that was how women normally behaved and I was pretty messed up. Once I acknowledged that i had been abused i was able to start my healing journey. I'm in a good place now, but it took a long time to get here.
This video came at the right moment for me. Thank you. 31 years old , still learning and self improving.
Been trying to work on all seven of these things, particularly failure and rejection. Been using this quote at the moment “Action cures fear” . It has helped me a lot. Thanks for this video, it has helped keep me on track.
Love this Woman’s energy for sure, keep it going💯
Hey Courtney thanks for everything you have done. These videos are awesome and helped me in many ways. Continue the hard work!
I love these videos. They edify and encourage aspects i was already raised in, and kept with, even while I'm 32. You were correct about integrity being most important compared to confidence
Thank you Joseph!! ❤️
@@CourtneyRyan Please what's the name of the song in the background 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
@@CourtneyRyan I agree with you about men
@@CourtneyRyan sorry Courtney but rejection is ALWAYS personal. When she rejectes you she is rejecting YOU. she's not rejecting anyone else at that moment so yes it IS personal
Again Courtney thank you so much for your content. I know there are trolls and men that oppose your content, but that’s on them. If a negative person comes on here and bashes you, that’s a reflection on their character not yours. Thanks again 🙏👍🙂
"Pitiful and cowardly" is great to hear regarding keyboard warriors. You are very wise, and have high standards and values Courtney. Thank you for making the world a better place.
Ove learned so much from Courtney..she is so helpful I been working on my self and rewiring my kind ..just want add that tomorrow is not guaranteed..time is short..take action now ..don't wait..you don't have time ..thank courtney..be safe stay well ..❤
I noticed when I had a downfall during the pandemic, a lot of this stuff in me came out but not all of it. I also learned that a negative person often exhibits these traits as well. When I got away from that negative person, a lot of my confidence came back up.
I really appreciate that you don't put yourself above these common human faults, but rather bring them to our attention. You are with out doubt helping me make a better person of myself Thanks Courtney.
Subbed a long time ago and to watch the channel now be at 200K subs is amazing, it went up so fast... shows the quality of your work. Congrats and keep going ! 🤜🤛
' Hi everyone, Welcome back to my channel is my favorite line'. Keep it up Courtney you make amazing videos which really help.
You hit the nail right on the head with the very first point for me. I think the only reason I see the validation from others is because i've spent most of my life, younger, being torn down by those around me for trying to be me. People don't like to raise on another up to be the best, but rather pull them down to the lowest. I've been trying harder this year to break out of that and just be me no matter what.
One thing that helps boost my confidence is cheerfully helping others who need help without expecting praise, compensation, or the favor being returned to me
Ben Cahoon, great point. Also, doing nice things and helping others, when no one is looking, speaks volumes about who you are as a person.
Sod that lol
I liked what you said in number 5.
I am 33 years old and always avoid some kind of conflict with other people. But you are right, tough conversations must be had.
Courtney - I very much appreciate when you mention the areas in which you struggle. It adds a "human" touch to your presentation. Good content; I very much enjoy your positive message.
BTW - I struggle with fear of failure and procrastination.
@Cubing Storm Thank you!
Last vid from Courtney for week,now next one will be in Thursday.Thankyou Courtney for amazing videos for the week
You do a great job with these videos. Speak the truth, real and down to earth. The topics you covered in this one was on point!
"If that person can't change that thing about them in 5 minutes, then don't say it"
This kind of blew my mind. Makes total sense and is so simple. Thanks for the great video!
Huge fan Courtney! You actually seem to care about the struggle young men (and maybe women) face! Thank you for your content!
You are really doing a great job,honsetly!..Thank You for sharing your energy!
Congratulations on reaching 200,000 subscribers. You have provided positive content for the dating niche, which I haven't been able to find anywhere else.
Self awareness is a foundation of all mentioned traits. Thanks for remind us🙏
Great share Courtney. Love all your points. I would say to people don’t be too hard on yourself. If you’re not confident now you can with time and effort.
This was great, thanks for sharing.
Thank you courtney; you always leave us so desperate to see you again.
I really liked this video, it touched on a spectre of different topics but we're all correlated to confidence. I've struggled with confidence all my life, and this videos really opens my eyes for what I need to do. Thanks a lot
You’re smart and elegant Courtney. And so young. Thanks for another great video! I loved what you said about keyboard warriors! There’s something wicked about the internet that makes people super mean. The same with driving cars, it makes people super mean. A lot of people are aggressive and angry behind the wheel, they tailgate and cuss people out
Spot on. Per usual. Thanks, Courtney
Amazing video Courtney! I will show it to my students in class. Hope they can all learn something ^___^
Great video as always, Courtney 🥰
Thanks Courtney! I love your videos! Great advice!
SOOO wise Courtney! Excellent video!
Great channel Courtney. Very uplifting and very pleasant.
People with ADHD fear rejection. It’s like the most painful feeling in the world to them. I can’t even describe it but after i learned that it explained so much about why I struggle with rejection. Moving past it is not easy.
Courtney congrats for 200k subscribers, lot more success to come, wish you good luck alpha girl ❤
Thank you my friend! ❤️
Thanks for these videos! You are amazing!
Courtney you speak truth and reality with passion and insight.
These are things that people really don't think about or us reflection or introspection thank you🙏
As a classical musician and single man, number 1 and number 2 are tough for me and I’m constantly working on them. The peach analogy really hit home for me. Awesome video, Courtney!
I'm wanting to pursue music and I can relate
Me too but you ,,,know ill take the risk than regret on the end
You would better if you were a jazz musician
Respect
Music has proved to be an interesting career choice. It’s not for everyone, but it’s always a good challenge !
Number 1 had me locked in a pattern of self sabotage for almost a whole decade, and it had affected almost every area of my life. Don't let it do that to you. I am so glad to be free.
thank you, i needed this
Great Video . My thoughts are numbers 4,6,and 7 run hand in hand. The great thing about that is if you clean one up I fell the other 2 will be easier to fix thanks for these videos.
This is awesome ! More mindset love you Courtney
Courtney is always kind and thoughtful. That's real, can't fake that.
One of your best vids, Courtney. Well done and thought through.
Avoiding conflict is one of my top bad habits, if not the worse. And it makes life so much harder. I had to deal with a bully at work recently. The fact that I got in conflict with them and talked to my supervisor about the situation I know saved me was so much less emotionally draining than if I avoided the conflict. That bully and I are actually getting along now and they are a little timid of me now. I'm not flipping the tables on them, but I am sticking to my boundaries on this. I'm still friendly, but I think they realize I don't trust them that much. Standing up for yourself can be very hard at times. However, it often makes life a lot easier in the long run.
Thank you Courtney, the clarification you mention, I went with and I'm a much happier me! X
Thank you for this video. Touched alot of topics in my life atm.👍
Good stuff Court, sound advice.
Came across this video at the right time. Good advice!
I'm glad you charged up the necessary amount of confidence you needed to start this channel. It's very helpful and I'm glad to see more women willing to help men in a healthy non-condescending way. You still hold men accountable (and even women) yet aren't so jaded by men like so many other women are these days.
Thank you ❤️
Facts.
Honestly I agree with this so hard it's crazy
Correlation between the polarities
I can relate. I created a channel 10 years ago and when I received criticism from a family member I was too devestated to continue and now the channel is dead.
Hi Courtney 👋
You have nailed with this video.
Excellent video for those people who has no confidence in themselves.
Keep it up girl, I love you !!
🤣🤣🤣🤣
A+ message. I love the positive videos. Great help and thank you
How could anyone not like you. Your so nice and real with really great advise.
Great advice once again, nicely explained and fyi, you really look great in green.
Really matches with your eyes. Thanks again Courtney Ryan
This was extremely helpful thank you so much!
a bonus one:
being overly apologetic. no, apologies aren’t “weak” or lame, but being TOO apologetic is annoying asf. learned this the hard way.
great video btw !!
Very helpful tips Courtney
I’m so glad to hear it!
Interesting perspective I agree with many of the points
These were wonderful. Nothing better then always looking for improvement and growth.
Thank you Mrs. Ryan. I have benefited from your podcasts.
Thank you Courtney
I always feel better about myself after watching her videos x
Love your videos. You're incredible.
I like a lot of Courtney's videos. She has a lot of practicality about her that makes her seem a lot older than she is.
I think that the comment at 8:20 something is slightly off. There is no point in trying to change something about someone that they have no control over. That being said, if there is something that they can't change in "10 minutes" does that mean that you shouldn't try to help them? I think not. Just don't be a jerk about it. There is a right and wrong way to change someone, to help someone.
Thank you Courtney for sharing your knowledge with us. It has changed me.
Excellent life advice as usual. Thank you!
Congratulations on your 200k subs🥰❤️
Your videos are the best and your voice is calming
Very well said!!!!! COMMUNICATION solves a ton of misunderstandings
Really impressive content and video quality! Keep it up!
You were completly right about all points in this video ! especially the 6th point, thats pretty accurate description, of how our current disgusting society works.
You are very wise and mature for 25. Love your content. Your success is well earned.
You found the words that i needed to express how i feel about all this. Thank you.
Wise words. A good blueprint for a positive self and friendships.
WOW!you are very knowledgeable COURTNEY!
Bravo!
Frankly your awesome, love your insight. Thank you.
Thank you for your advice and tips
Liked before watching 👍. Keep it up ma'am.
Thank you so much!
You are gorgeous Courtney. Great video!
Well said sister!!
Good one!
This young woman's emotional intelligence absolutely amazes me. Every video she produces is right on point with zero pretence and "down-to-earth" wisdom. Well done Courtney. I'll be a long time subscriber and looking forward to many more years of viewing.
You are so kind, thank you Justin 🥰
@@CourtneyRyan You're more than welcome and well deserved!
Very Well said..
One thing that immensely bothers me is validation seekers. I learned at a young age with older siblings to kinda be in my own world and there’s a bit of independence that comes with that. You find ways to entertain yourself and find joy in what you’re into and not worry about keeping up with everyone else. I never made a point to show everyone what I was up to. I didn’t care and I naturally didn’t. That’s the independent part of the whole not fitting in or knowing your place. Being the youngest I was always the one left out of most things growing up. So I got into model trains and would set them up in my room and run them under my bed and in the closet out into the hallways. Eventually the older ones took notice in how much fun I was having with it and they wanted to play too. But I didn’t let them touch my trains. They were too busy for me in their worlds so why would I let them in on mine? But here’s the part about validation I wanted to make: you don’t have to show off what you’re doing to get attention. Just be you and do your thing naturally, and naturally people will notice you. They will come to you. I know a guy who puts his whole life on display for the world to see via social media. His Instagram is plastered with everything about him. There’s no mystery to the man. It’s exhausting sometimes to have to keep up with his constant posting numerous times a day about random things happening. I go months without posting and it’s not because I don’t have anything to post but I don’t feel a need to keep people informed about what I’m up to. Naturally people ask what I’m up to. And as a result I’m not stressing over not getting fake attention like this guy does. Literally all he does is give daily/weekly updates on his life and how awesome it is but then he cries about not having a girlfriend. Therein (possibly, most likely) lies his problem.
Another example of this was in college with a roommate I had. He came into my room and got in my face basically tried to intimidate me by showing off his muscles and the guy looked at me straight in the eye and said, “You’re afraid of me. I can tell.” I almost died that day from the laughter from that comment. But this went on for awhile. He would buy expensive things and come in my room to show it off and ask what I thought about it and tell me how expensive it was. He bought a pair of shoes and came in all excited and asked me what I thought about his new, expensive shoes. I just said they were nice…he smiles. Then I said, “But I wouldn’t wear them.” He immediately got defensive and couldn’t understand why I wouldn’t wear them just because he would. Not my style of shoe, not into the colors, too expensive, etc. So what does the guy do? He returned them. All because I gave an honest opinion and he couldn’t handle it. What good did it do him to keep seeking validation? Nothing. I wear my shoes and I get decent compliments on them. But one time my brother’s roommate walked through the door one night when we were all hanging out and he saw my shoes and he said “They were gay.” Oh, really. His opinion. Did I go and return them? Fuck no. I like what I like, so I bought 3 more pairs. That’s true confidence. Just be you. Don’t worry about what others think or feel about what you should like or not like, or what you should or shouldn’t be doing. They’re the ones with confident issues.