Trans and Bi people are secretly linked | discover these hidden connections
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- Опубликовано: 9 апр 2023
- Did you know that trans and bi people are secretly linked? Did you know that there are huge hidden connections between trans and bisexual people that not many people know about?
Transgender and bisexual identities are inextricably linked and this video explains how. You won’t believe the number of ways in which we share and relate.
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I’m bi and I’m not trans 😭
Me too ☺️
@@supercharger5727 Why the sad face? You are fabulous.
Hey Dad I hope your doing well thanks for sharing more knowledge with the world!
Hey thanks son. How are ya?
I’m trans, demisexual and polyromantic.
In the description it says this is a safe and non judgmental channel so I’m here.
I found so many queer channels weren’t so I’m definitely wary of them now.
Thank you for being here. You are so warmly welcome. Absolutely zero bigotry or nonsense is tolerated on this channel.
I have dated two bisexual men before and they cheat on me. I have a fear of dating bi men for longest time but after watching some of your video. I realized that not all bi men like that..
Tq for opening my eyes!! you are hero (I proudly no longer biphobic)💗 sending love and virtual hugs (sorry for my bad English)
I am afraid of being dumped in favor for a (cis)man if I dated a bisexual man(who is not a fictional character)
Thank you for learning and for being open. This means an awful lot. I’m so sorry you have had to go through this awful two situations. Thank you for keeping your heart open. We love you.
I avoid non-fiction people where possible. Fictional lovers are always the best for me. They don’t answer back!
@@notdefining 😂😂😂
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Perfect video
Hey thanks so much.
Yes I’m bi+ love this whole thing really resonates and the attraction part especially
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Hurrah. Thanks for saying.
I’m bi and trans. can confirm I have a connection with me
One of the fave comments I’ve seen in a good while. Love this.
Sexual attraction and gender identity are completely different though.
They are different but can intersect in many ways
2:18 just because you're trans doesn't make the fact that sexual orientation exists disappear, lmao. When I was hetero-gay, I couldn't deal with nobody looking like a woman. I loved men all over the spectrum, manly, womanly, feminine, masculine, but if he looks like a girl i'm not attracted. Same for the other trans bros, couldn't have been attracted to a bro if he had female features. It's just sexual attraction.
Hey thanks for sharing this. I appreciate it.
Thank you for your hard work, I appreciate you too 💚💚💚
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My Trans daughter has the same sexual attraction as myself and her younger sister. All three of us are attracted to women and men who were born inside the correct body formation and attracted to women and men who wish they were born inside the correct body formation. My youngest daughter and myself were born inside the correct body formation. I always wish that my oldest daughter was born inside the correct body formation.
Thank you so much for sharing this. Your family just sound so amazing. Love you all.
We have also HSTS .
Dear Mark,
I have a question on my sexuality, because I completely don't understand myself anymore...
When I was 11, I felt attracted to a boy from my class witch turned my whole world upside down. And since then, at the moment I'm 15, I've been attracted to men a lot, so I identify as a gay male, I accepted it, my friends and family did as well and I was totally fine with it.
However, since a few months, I've been hanging out with a girl I like very much. She's funny, got my type of humour and I love to spend time with her. And the last couple of weeks I thought I felt, and still feel attracted to her.
The problem is that I don't see me with a woman, but rather a men in a marriage. And with this feelings my whole world is upside down once again, because of what I've been trough in the last 4 years...
Can you please help me, I can't take it anymore. Sometimes I just wish I never met that guy and I wouldn't have to deal with all this.
Thank you very much ahead!
Much love,
Otto❤
Hey Otto,
Thanks for reaching out. I’m sorry you have had to go through this set of difficult experiences. It can be really confusing and scary so don’t worry, you’re not alone.
It’s perfectly natural for gay men to feel attracted to women sometimes or for hetero men to be attracted to men sometimes. In fact, it’s more common than not. It doesn’t mean you can’t be with a guy long term.
Gender is a spectrum not a binary so a man and a woman are actually just derivations of the same form and some women are very manly / some men are very feminine both in physical features or mannerisms. We are all such a diverse melting pot of traits.
So there is no one definite line between man and woman. We can feel closeness, affection, excitement, intimacy, lust, love, fantasy, affinity etc. with anyone. It’s just a beautiful human connection and it’s there to be enjoyed.
The thing to do is listen to your body. Listen to the sensations that it is feeling in every moment. Listen to what it is asking for. Is it touch, is it softness, is it protection, is it invigoration etc. know that these things have no gender and you can experience them all as a man.
You are you and what you feel for this girl is real and beautiful. She is answering a need and that requires no explanation. Give yourself permission to receive pleasure and beautiful feelings without any need for labels or what it “means” about you.
Does this go some way to answering your question? I’m always here to help. If you’d like to chat more in private and get full mentoring from me to get you feeling your best check out Patreon.com/notdefining. Otherwise let me know on here and I’ll always try to reply.
Wishing you all the very best my friend.
Love Mark x
Makes so much sense to me😮!!
Ah thanks for tuning in. I’m glad it is making sense. X
I am trans and gay
Need support
I think the reason why I feel more secure in potentially dating multisexual people as a nonbinary person is because I think if I felt attracted to a monosexual person I feel like I'm not binary enough for their comfort, especially gay men or straight women. I feel like I'm too female oriented for someone like that to want to be with me. Even though I'm nonbinary and not a cis girl I still feel like it would be disrespectful for them. And with straight men I'm worried they won't understand my gender entirely. It generally feels less complicated to date a multisexual person. I also have a huge preference to date a nuerodivergent trans and/or nonbinary person because I want to feel understood and safe with that person. Being t4t just feels generally safer atm.
Totally get you. I feel 100% the same.
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It feels hard to confess that I are bi😢😢
Hey thanks so much for sharing. How does it feel?
@@notdefining its that if I want to tell your parents it would make u feel stressed
@@Dark_picture36 I hear you. Would you like to tell your parents?
No
I'm still young
I appreciate you! I am on the bi+ spectrum. I prefer the opposite gender, but I am not super straight. I am an enby trans woman dealing with familial transphobia. They don't deserve me and aren't worth my time. I am thinking about cutting my losses. I am asserting my boundaries. No one can speak for who I am but me. I am looking for support and loving-kindness. My sexuality and gender are fluid. I am not strict about any identity. I am moving toward a more self-affirming lifestyle. I am a woman, and I love men and other masculine genders. I am even open to non-binary people. Some days, women are hot. A preference is not stagnant. I accept myself to the best of my ability. Bi the way, lol, I love bisexual, fluid men! I'd love to date one. You confirmed my hunch in this video. I don't want to worry about strict straight-gay boundaries with my man. Thanks for the empowering content!
You are so welcome I’m delighted that you found my content helpful. You are so loved and valid - your community is right behind you and here to support you in whatever decisions you make. Sending so much love, Mark x
@@notdefining Thank you so much! I appreciate you!
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I'm bi, but l never feeled any sexual attration for a trans person.
I can get along well with transmen but I don't get along well with transwomen. I even had a traumatic experience with a transwoman, she defamed me on social media (that was in 2019).
That's sad to hear. But like any LGBT person, not all transwomen engage in public defamation or cancel culture. Many hate it, in fact, for the false perceptions it has created.
I'm so sorry it must have been hard
It sounds like you have had a hard experience with one particular person who happens to be a trans woman. Obviously we can’t categorise all trans women in the same way just as we wouldn’t do that for all women. Imagine a woman defamed you and you started not getting on with all women. Slightly over the top right?
@@notdefining They didn't say nothing 😭 They litteraly just stated their experience
@johnjosephortiz4311 I wish I had more masculine friends. Happily I recruited masc Women(?) in the street for community building, I'm so happy , I never had masc friends 😭 Hopefully there's a guy in the group, or I eventually find one🤞🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I'm a transman who is most comfortable dating bi men. Where are you all hiding? Lol
Same, exept it's bi people in general . I'm here
Omg call me ❤️😍
Bi and trans love
Love this
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