hey girl 💗 I've been doing A LOT of self reflection recently and i wanted to update you all on where my head is actually at right now - not putting on a mask and pretending I'm okay all the time! anyways, enjoy the video - I love you so much!! OH also - as I mentioned in the video, if you are needing someone to speak to about anything my DMs are always open on insta so head over there and give me a message if you ever need me 💌 my insta is @voicenotesfromyourbestie
34. Went to school for child care. Made $25k a year between 2013-2017. Quit and worked retail for a year making like $15k a year. Started 3 youtube channels that never took off. Paid off my car and student loans. Moved to Ireland in December 2019. Pandemic happens. Living with inlaws. No house, no job, no kids and I’m miserable. So. 🤷🏼♀️
This is so real I'm almost 25 and I've been struggling with the weight of feeling behind and stagnant. I try not to let it get to me too much and remind myself that life isn't supposed to be a rat race and that even the people with the biggest accomplishments can feel a sense of emptiness too. I think it's important during this stage to set goals but also have fun and make as many cool memories as you can because I've realized that "having it all figured out" just isn't a real thing especially since anyone can feel that no matter the age. Hope this helps someone 💗
I feel social media has distorted the image of what success is for our generation and that is why we feel like we have never done enough. The only way to heal the wound is to focus on personal, internal goals and learning how Figure out what’s an internal goal and what’s an external one, will help you believe in what you are doing currently is good.
I’m so so happy I’m not the only person feeling this. I always feel as if I’m walking around trying to be everything society sees as an adult but in all honestly I was not raised in an environment that taught me how to be a healthy, self confident human being. Im riddled with anxiety, depression and self doubt. Im so tired and I do not like the world I’m coming into adulthood in. I know nothing is supposed to be perfect but this world is truly horrific sometimes and I feel unprepared to handle it. I wish someone could assure me that things would be okay.
Oh i feel you! It feels so unfair when you are starting out in life unprepared and not knowing how to navigate! I had to teach myself everything I know now about how to be a functioning adult hahah so I feel that deeply!! I hope my videos can provide some support for you ❤️
I suffered from anxiety, depression, sui- ci- dal obsession, and self doubt for 19 years, but now at 31 I am doing much better. Occasionally still suffer, but that is part of life, the point though is that it gets better. Much better. Be kind to yourself and others, go to therapy, try your best, and accept that as enough. Find inner love and healing, and love others despite their shortcomings. I assure you Jess, that one day, things will be okay.💖
@@voicenotesfromyourbestie you are already doing a lot more than most people ever do in their lifetime. Questioning things and leaving your home town. I recently started pillow screaming. I used to think it was stupid. 10/10 I love the question when someone is in need of connection, do you want a listening ear, solutions or comfort?
i have never related more to anything. For days all I have felt are rage and negative feelings, and I am stuck and lost because i have no idea how to express it. I feel like i'm worth nothing despite my nineteen years in this world. I cannot help but regret my college major even though i have a whole year left. Thank you so much for this video: for verbalizing your thoughts and making me feel so seen and understood. I know it'll get better soon girl 💗💗 keep swimming.
It’s so frustrating isn’t it?! Please never think you are worth nothing, hard times can feel like they are everlasting when you are in them but I promise they are not and you are so valuable- I can tell you have a good heart purely from this beautiful comment you have left for me 💗 we’ve got this!! 🫶
Took the words right out of my mouth. This is exactly how I've been feeling for a few years now. I'm turning 25 in a month too. I feel crazy when everything is not okay, but people pretend everything is okay.
Most of us aren't going to be like Andrew Wiles and do something big and recognizable that people thought impossible. Best we can do is follow the recommendation of Ecclesiastes - do our best to make enough money to be somewhat comfortable and enjoy the fruits of our labor. I love to read fiction even if it does nothing to make the world a better place. I am fortunate enough to have worked as an employee in a small business for close to 20 years and feel productive enough there, even if nobody outside the organization sees it.
Totally agree with do our best to make enough money to be comfortable. That’s it for me. Am I eating good? Is my fridge stocked ? Do I even have a fridge ? Good clothes , shoes , place to sleep. I’m content with all that. Everything else is a nice bonus
Yesss I love this!! And ultimately it’s always the small things and moments in life that bring the most joy and satisfaction anyway ❤️ I think it’s a beautiful thing how varied everyone is and how everyone wants different things 🫶
I’m not a young woman, and here’s my small bit of advice: if someone, at any point in their life, decided to take a new path, to have a new goal, to have a change of values, etc., it could turn out that most, if not everything, they’ve done to that point may not be needed or directly helpful for the new path; so, essentially that could happen to most anyone; it’s not freaky. Next, we cannot discount all the value and lessons we’ve learned along the way, and people we’ve met because of the paths we were on. We shouldn’t discount or forget about them. Yes, carve a new path, or continue the same one with more gusto if u want, but life is meant to be a journey and fun too; it’s not to get to a destination! It’s also mainly about love -love of self and others. Keep ur chin up! Good luck ☯☮🕉🫶
Thank s for being so vunerable here, you helped me realize I also feel similar to you and that I should focus on things that make me happy but also take more time to study things that I am interested in and that I am wanting to learn more about, that is a really good quality you have to want to keep learning!
I turn 40 in a couple of weeks. I have an incredible 15 year old son, who I am so grateful for, but if it weren’t for him I know I wouldn’t be here. It hurts my heart to know I wasted so much time due to mental and physical health problems. Seeing all the normies on walks, doing yard work, going on morning runs- makes me feel like a complete failure as a human.
I’m so sorry you feel this way ❤️ i know I don’t know you personally, however, the fact that you’ve raised a human being alone tells me that you are absolutely not a failure and I find that truly inspiring - not everyone has what it takes to raise a child! The past is the past and we can’t dwell on time wasted, because before we know it, we’ll be looking back on this very moment wishing we’d have embraced everything we actually do have rather than live in our past mistakes! I know it’s easier said than done but I hope this serves as some kind of reminder that you are always doing better than you think ❤️ sending you so much love
25 years is way young. You are expecting too much of yourself at this age. And these feelings are actually very normal fir they are a part of the push that needs to happen, to get you motivated, to set your life sails in the right direction. We tend to look at celebrity life as an example of where we should be and a gauge of how much we’ve accomplished…. They are celebrity because they were either exceptional or gifted or even pushed very early (I.e. they had HELP to get there). And yes, in non-celebrity life (normal life) we can see others who are way ahead of the pack too. But none of this means anything. Sometimes it’s the tortoise far back in the race that blooms into a winner later. There are also several well known individuals who have accomplished much in their later years. We grow and accelerate at different times. We also are not guaranteed or promised time. Let that be the main motivation. At 25, you’re only like a 7 year old when it comes to adulting…and that’s just going by the universal but-not-always-accurate age for being considered an adult (18). Adult only means your biological clock, you’re physically matured and able to reproduce, but this says nothing when it comes to mental, spiritual, emotional, financial (etc) maturity. And those things take time. You’re never wasting time unless you are ignoring the calls for personal betterment. But don’t get stressed knowing you have a ton of work still to be done- that’s a lifetime process. Everyone is grappling with growth. We’re all peppered with different challenges. Some things we get easily, while other things we struggle with for a lifetime. Just make sure not to get your life story mixed up with another’s! It’s all too easy to compare when we’re in the ‘race’ of life. (Psssst…it’s not a race. It’s just a forever walk forward, and sometimes you meander!!)
100% we all see the same things you do and have the same feelings. The world is not ok and it's sick and twisted. You're not alone and can say that without hesitation. The ride is about to get rocky for those who are wordly.....
Made it to the end of the video! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and your authentic self. As another 25 year old, it's great to hear your perspective and where you are in your journey.
Girl, I feel the same exact way (especially because I'm the oldest in my family) but from what other people have told me, life is different for everyone. Some people have a job, house, kids by 20 - others may not. We'll get there if we try to make progress and strive to improve. What's most important in life is what you make of it, your goals and dreams. It's not over until life is over! -signed a 21 trying to be positive :)
Hey, I hope you are doing better and found something that is a better fit for you! Your feelings are valid and I know what it feels like to want to just FEEL for a little bit, instead of working on a solution all the time
Im 27 and i feel you %100. Things haven't felt normal since 2019 for me. Its like time is moving in fast forward. And people are pretending everything is fine
25 is still young. I'm 25 too, but still I feel much younger than I am. I think it's because the pandemic knocked most of us back a few years and kind of slowed down everything while time sometimes feels like it's getting faster, if that makes sense. It feels depressing and aimless but I guess it's worth to keep pushing on to see what happens next.
Hello! I´m on the same boat. I related to a lot of what you said. Lately I have been comparing a lot to other, because I feel like I dont have a lot to show. And just thinking about possible conversations that could lead to being ask: what did you study?, where do you live?, what do you do in your free time, etc gives me so much anxiety. Those questions might sound silly, but when you feel like you dont have nothing to show, and you know that other can talk about their lives and all the things that they have done in their life , it feels frustrating Thank you for making this video :)
good for you, i'm 34 and feel similar and sure this will be a reoccurring theme for the rest of my life, that seems to be going by are a far more rapid pace
same girl. I started law school at 18, when I was 20 my dad passed away and my world crashed, it is till now. I'm one of these people where the grades are affected by such events so I quit law school. Then I wasted my time on a nonsense major and now at 24 I switched to social work. Even tho I feel like I couldn't do it but it's literally the only thing I like and have some skills in. But my main reason why studying is hard for me is because I don't have a future perspective. I have lots of bullying experience at workplaces that's why I quit everytime and I just don't desire to be treated like that ever again. But I have to make money so I have no other chance. I don't have a big family so I'm scared I don't have enough support when wanting to have children, or that it's too late when I want children because I don't feel ready yet and don't have my degree yet. Also whenever I imagine myself marrying, I walk down the aisle without my dad and he will never get to know my baby if I'll have one. I try changing circumstances here and there but I feel so behind.
Oh I’m so sorry to hear that, sending so much love to you ❤️ im not surprised that your grades were affected, it’s hard to carry on like normal when your whole world feels like it’s falling apart! I also understand what it feels like with not feeling like you can fully apply yourself to your studies because you don’t know which direction you truly should be taking in life. What helped me with this was looking at things on more of a micro level and focussing on what feels good for me NOW when making decisions - so connecting more with myself to strengthen my intuition really helped me with this! I sometimes think that purpose doesn’t necessarily have to be our career either - spending your free time doing intentional activities that you enjoy doing can give you such a great feeling of purpose, even if you can only do it outside of working hours! But you know what- I love that you are strong enough to not stay in places where you are not being treated correctly! That is so so admirable and so many people would not be able to do that! You’re so much stronger than you think 🫶❤️
@@voicenotesfromyourbestie that's so sweet of you to say I actually never shifted my perspective like that. I always considered leaving or quitting equals failure but since life always changes and everybody aspires to have different goals that might not always be the case. Thank you for your advice with focussing on the "now".❤️ I often live in my head and see the bigger picture but I think we should focus more on babysteps. I hope so much that hustle culture stops and society normalizes not climbing high on the career latter and rather work less therefore spend more time with loved ones and things we love. In my eyes working so much ist not desirable so I give myself a hard time to study🙈 I really want to work part time but not full-time. Tried it and wasn't even able to keep up my household chores because my body always needs so much time to recharge.
I'm 40, it comes out in the wash. You won't realize til later that your 20's teach you more than you see in the moment. Try out different versions of yourself while it's more tolerated. Ofc you can do that anytime, but being messy in your later 30s and 40s pushes people away. So be messy/experimental when you're young. Also, be super care with substance abuse. Love u!♡ 😅
Do we live the same life??? I'm 25. I need to move out of my hometown. Everyone always tries to cheer me up when I'm sad and am okay being sad. I refuse to apply for any job bc I know I won't get it - I don't even have a degree. I can't stand even thinking about working a 9-5, let alone actually do it. Academics is super ableist, I can't stand going back into that kind of place. I love theatre so I tried studying it, but then it took all the fun out of it for me. So I don't even know what to do. I'm not gonna tell you how to feel because I'm the same. My experience has been-.. quite similar to yours. We shouldn't compare ourselves, and as much as I wanna say "at least you have a degree," I need to remind myself that everyone is different. Uni burnt me out. It's so hard to live when the world is not built for you.
Felt the same at 25, then again at 45... it's all part of the life's process. In fact these moments I think are good, they give us something to grow from. Our culture is far too orientated on achievements... toxic really.
Omg 16 🥺 Im so sorry you feel this way ❤️ you have so much life ahead of you, I hope you don’t let this feeling now make you lose faith in all of the amazing things that are to come for you! There is always time to turn your life around, especially while we’re young ❤️
I've screamed in my car MANY MANY times! Beat on the steering wheel, screamed into pillows, but I can't say I've ever screamed in the woods, something I need to try! Just go full-dahmer on a tree! Hit it with a stick until the stick breaks! I seriously need to try that! I've also stood by this beautiful lake up the trail from my house, where I stood there skipping rocks through the water while listening to that reasons song by holloback! Good times! :D But nothing's holding you back from doing stuff like that! It's okay to be a little nuts sometimes! I think being too normal screws people over!
@@circustoonsjokevideos yesss agreed!! I need to take a leaf from your book fr 🙏 I think we’d all feel so much better if we stopped repressing our feelings!!
i'm 21 and i feel exactly like u ,being my own therapist talking about how far i feel behind in life , i moved to another country and it's been so hard and i still don't have my degree, so i get u , i feel scared too
Omg that is such a courageous thing to do, I admire that sooo much!! There’s always a way around everything, us humans are good at figuring things out- I have faith that everything will fall perfectly into place for you 🫶
I'm on the fence on whether or not I am on your boat. On one end I have nothing to show from my undergrad degree in computer science. Back then, I was really not interested in the field, so much so, that my future master's program (which I'm doing now) was very impacted. I am way less confident in programming than my masters peers. I am on track for a six figure+ income at an an age three years after graduating from undergrad. I will graduate next May. I am gunning for a digital forensic analyst role. COVID pandemic was my turning point when it comes to where I am now. Before then I did not try and during that timeframe, I picked up cybersecurity. I've never looked back. I've been told by many people that I am very passionate about what I do. Although I agree, I feel like I have to go at 600 MPH since I truly have not been able to land a job in SWE or cyber in three years. Making presentations about forensics and cyber security is what keeps me going. In conclusion, I genuinely relate to this post and I feel like I am quickly getting out of the hole from this year on! Good look with figuring out your life bestie!
psyche vs. limbic system (understanding emotions vs. experiencing them) ... I get it. Definitely a challenge. Admittedly, I tend to over-cognize feelings, too. Being aware you're doing it and then, piece-by-piece, pulling that energy down into your body... it can be illuminating... Oh, and 25 is YOUNG, I promise (I'm 38). Give yourself credit, time --> you're doing GREAT! ^_^
I taught myself psychology and English I am an engineer I have so much trauma I had good grades till 10th grade Things started going downhill after I turned 17 n went to college
I doubt you truly have nothing to show for it. For real, knowing what you DON'T want out of life can be a powerful lesson and help you find and appreciate what you DO want. Ruminate on your experiences and find meaning in what happened, and discover at the time WHY you chose those things, even if you realized it was wrong. Knowing why can tell you alot about yourself and where you want to go and what to improve on. I didn't truly get on what I felt was for me until 30. I don't regret anything because it all led in someway to where I am now. Not everything of value comes with a paper or salary. I truly do think every experience builds off each other and changes us. I think those experiences for you will contribute to you finding your desired direction and seeing the road you want to travel down. 25 years is nothing. As I said I didn't really START anything real until 30. I know people who went back to school at 50 and became very successful! Life is not a race. Even people you perceive as "being ahead" can be struggling with other aspects of life you take for granted. You get glimpses of people at a surface level. You never really know.
I didnt find out everyone is being controlled till around 29-30. If your 20s are trash its because they were set up to be. Your 30s might be incredible. Your 80s might be the best most seemingly productive decade of your life. Thats just from the reality im being sent tho
I graduated college at 24 With a lot of trauma and abuse and no job Since I graduated college late I taught myself english I can only get jobs that require good English
i’m a whole ten years younger but i don’t think i could relate more than i do to u rn? i’ve been so so depressed because of some bullying at school and i’ve just been lying in bed watching kdramas and teen movies thinking that i don’t have anything to show for my teen years at the moment. like i wish i had more friends that genuinely cared for me but i don’t, because the friends i had i self sabotaged the relationships so much just because i was insecure and now i’m changing schools to get away from the anxiety that i feel each morning and even though i’m technically progressing i feel so trapped i hope you’re feeling better ❤ love this video and good luck with moving to another city i know that’s gonna be a tad scary
Omg i feel you sm, I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with that right now! In relation to not having anything to show for your teen years - i relate sm!! I basically spent all of my teens in my bedroom watching movies and essentially day dreaming my whole life while all of my friends were partying and seemed to be living their best lives- it felt like the end of the world back then and like I was wasting so much time etc but then I left school and created a new life for myself over the years and I barely remember people I went to school with! and now I have been fortunate enough to have the realisation that I’m not reaching my potential at the moment and I realise that I can make moves to change that! I guess this goes to show that feeling behind in life is literally a mindset and if you don’t work on why you feel this way and get to know YOURSELF and how you can create purpose in your life, it doesn’t matter what age we are, we would always feel dissatisfied and behind! not me writing a whole dissertation in one comment lmao - but honestly, for you to have this same realisation now as I am at 25? That’s amazing that you have that awareness so young. You truly have so many blessings on their way to you, even if it doesn’t feel that way and your current friends will be a distant memory because you will have met so many more people who love and care for you 💗 you also always have this channel to come back to for support along the way if you need it - I’ve got your back 💌
I left my job at a TV station when 50 hours a week wouldnt pay the rent the market price doubled for rent in 3 years and all the stations paid garbage. So I just left, why work that many hours a week to be poor? I loved it but not 50 hours a week of it. Now I got my living situation figured and I'm making stuff for me, I'll be broke regardless might as well be happier!
Hey just came across your video and want to add something: a therapist (a good therapist) will never tell you what hat to do or give you advice. They will ask you curious questions to maybe get more information, help you see things from a different perspective but mostly it is about validation and validating clients emotions and experiences
I really don't want to shit on people who don't have it as bad as I do bcs I do sincerely empathize and sympathize, but I feel like my situation is shit enough for people to really judge me thinking I really am lazy so maybe I should express more how I feel about it myself so people know... idk... I want to say... girl... I actually have nothing to show... you worked! You put in effort. I didn't. That's judged, people don't want to understand. But I don't want to be insensitive toward you bcs I feel you about your stuff, more on the side of sympathy for some stuff than empathy, but I feel you. But it's like a gut to the punch sometimes like noone else but other ADHDers who report having huge executive dysfunction issues who relate to me and I feel ashamed even to tell them about everything I go through and just how badly dysfunctional I am. And anger - yeah... same as you, it's not natural to me, I don't surpress anger, I just rarely have anger in me and now that it happens sometimes I think it seems so normal and so mild to other people but to me it's such an alarming thing!
I used to wish I had some kind of soundproof room where I could scream it all out. Yeah I can go to the woods, but the animals there did nothing wrong and don't deserve noise. Even if I had such a room, I'd probably be too cringed to talk about my troubles. I don't speak much and I don't like verbalising what bugs me, even if I imagine what I want to say to someone, in practice I don't actually want to talk and I appear angry. I know letting it all out is healthier but I'm just embarassed
I’m sending you all the hope joy and love in the world. As somebody who did a lot of craziness before I reach this point in my life after giving Jesus everything and serving him, my life has gotten way better, and I realize that life should not be a marker of success, but rather of service. If you were loving people, if you are serving them if you are putting God first, you are living a life worthy of living.
By the time I was 26 my first marriage had been dissolved. You're not supposed to have accomplished anything by your mid twenties. This is when you make your mistakes and figure out who you are and what you want to do. I'm retired now and find myself generally cheerful and optimistic even though I really do think things aren't going well at all. "Normal" is HIGHLY over rated. No such thing.
I see what you mean! And the repression of emotions and the not admitting to how someone truly feels comes from them not wanting to be a burden to others, as ridiculous as that may sound! They want to be around others and feel strong, which is alright! Nothing wrong with that, of course! It's just taken too far, and that's your point! It's taken to a place where, without realizing it, they inadvertently leave people like you struggling in the quicksand! Assuming people like you are doing the same thing, that being wanting to feel strong around others! And while I also see where you're coming from when you said the world is falling apart, I also believe that that's just from the natural conflict which comes from 7 billion people, with tons of different thoughts, feelings, and life styles! But, with those seven billion people comes inner conflicts, sometimes leading to, as much as I don't like this, criminal behavior! Sometimes... Not all the times. But sometimes, inner conflict, especially repressed inner conflict, can lead to someone turning to their careless aggressive side for liberation! Anyways! That stuff is natural though, is my point! Trust me, the animal kingdom isn't any better! So I think we all see the same conflicts going on but, we all see that conflict in different ways! I personally love the world we live in now! :D
@@circustoonsjokevideos this comment is everything, I absolutely love your mindset 🙏 that is such a positive way to look at it, thank you for sharing your joy ❤️
The pressure can feel so real right?! I think it’s amazing that you’ve got this awareness at 20 though, definitely explore this feeling further because you can so easily make significant change in your life before you’re even my age if you wanted to! 💗
You have gained experience and doors not to open. I find it's best to find a successful mentor. I happened to work for a very wealthy family who changed thinking about money and life. They never cared about what people thought and spent much less than you would think. World issues are opportunities to assess the market. Your emotions are yours to manage (not easy, but those are the rules). Walk into an interview as if you have the job. Everything is business.
Just make decisions without being right about it. A life is not a race. The point is to do and try something regardless of the outcome. // Be wary of whatever you deem the "righteous thing". Having a belief, that one thing would be so much better than the other, is a very valuebased view. And if everything is about values, then valueing and devalueing becomes a practice in ones head. Then there is less room for a middle ground and less room to have a life. For example, what is wrong with "mindless consumption"? I can assure you of one thing - it is your head, not the circumstances or hardships you face. It always is the own head, nothing else. The way you think about your life is grounded in your head. The way you think about your feelings is grounded in your head. Heads are very peculiar things - whatever we think might feel like a natural law to us, but it isn't. There are countless ways to think and feel about life, all seeming conclusive in itself. Life is at your fingertips. Your head makes you believe otherwise. Your head keeps you contemplating about nonsense in circles. It might feel important. You may think it is important, but it isn't. You need to test whatever you believe against reality. Be with actual people and find out, which of your beliefs holds up. A good start would be to reduce social media to the bare minimum. Act yourself instead of watching others advocating for a certain way of action or life. Just do it yourself.
what do u think people that actually have stuff to show for their life have? like i feel like most people just have a degree like a job work like u do righttt
I love this comment because it is SUCH a good point - it’s literally just an illusion. I’ve experienced this on a micro level in many ways e.g. in terms of saving all of my money and travelling thinking it would give me some form of accreditation and somehow solve all of my problems, but I was quickly humbled into realising that if your internal world is shit, nothing external that you achieve or have holds any weight whatsoever. I’ve done A LOT of work around my own internal battles and perception - but that doesn’t stop me from wanting more from time to time in a society that is constantly pushing more more more, yano? And tbh I think it’s also good to want to strive for more to an extent, keeps us humans going
some of my friends that have it- have their own home, a stable job that they love to contribute to, a loving spouse and extended family that they vacation and visit multiple times a year n obviously some investments for retirement and they are in their mid-late 30s. a lot is being disciplined and doing the same thing day in n out to get to where they are now n a streak of luck to check all the boxes of job, spouse, home, health, fam etc
meaningless meaningless says the teacher Everything is meaningless ….. Here is the conclusion of the matter Fear god and keep his commandments for this is the whole duty of man For god will bring every deed into judgment. Whether it is good or evil
@@theboombody haha nice. It came to mind for me as well. These type of videos are extremely common and the topic in general. A lot of people have this feeling that they could of done more or should of by now but I stopped caring at about 25. I’m about to be 30 and I’m more at at peace with myself than my 20s
@@justinmclaughlin1953 It helps when you hit a wall you can't climb. This year I turned 42 and spent a whole year studying for the CPA exam and getting nowhere. I realized two things. First I couldn't pass it. Second I didn't really want to. I WANT to make a big mathematical discovery but that's even harder than passing the CPA. So now that I've gone as far as I possibly can, I guess I can be at peace that at least I tried my best and I can be content with pursuing smaller things from now on.
@@theboombody ya just being content. People aren’t created equal but that’s ok. Doing our best is the best. My faith in Jesus certainly has helped with my peace
You are 25 not 45. You are at the age when you are meant to make decisions about university, jobs, etc etc. You are not meant to have achieved anything yet!
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yes you wasted all of your life. what material object would be more fulfilling than a family? that is your purpose. Anyways you gotta get a guy that is the real, then you need to have kids, then you need to not get divorced. if you can do that you will feel accomplished because not many women can do it. your kids will love you and you will die with 50 people who love you around you. your children, their children, and their children. honestly any other path results in dying alone. so im right. give it thought. your car wont hold your hand when ur sick or something. a family is the only purpose, not just for you as a woman but for a man too. there is no situation where you need to be applying for jobs. complete waste of time. doesn't do anything. just takes you one step closer to being childless and dying alone. get a husband and tell him to go apply for the job instead. thats how its supposed to work. you should be applying for husbands not jobs. You choose a degree you have no interest in because you aren't supposed to have interest in a degree, you are supposed to have interest in taking your kids to the park and teaching them to read. you aren't supposed to work 3 jobs to survive, you are supposed to work no jobs to survive, you are supposed to have a husband who works a job or 3 so you can survive. you are trying to find time for all your interests, and you would have it if you had a husband and you could just cook a couple meals for the kids and run a load of laundry and that was all you had to do in the day. you could do your hobby. you are supposed to have no anger because you are supposed to be taken care of not taking care of yourself. Anyways ditch the jobs and just embrace who you are meant to be it is a mother, not a hustler/employee.... you are litterly not supposed to feel alone. you are supposed to have an entire 5 person family by the time you are 25. you are just you tho. im not saying that to diss you but this is legit the problem. its feminism, it tricked you, it tricked your parents to even tell you to go to school to begin with, its not your fault but you been tricked and not just you. Make the next 12 month goal to find a guy who want to take care of you and then get married and then move in with him and have a baby like immediately after that. pick a guy and go all in. thats it
It's totally normal and okay to feel this way! But I think its important not to attach your worth to your achievements, especially as a woman. You are divine and worthy and valuable just for existing! If you've been working very hard, you could be burnt out right now. Maybe take some time off if that's possible? Unwinding and connecting with your inner self when you have little other responsibilities can be truly healing 💗 Usually its exactly what you need to recalibrate and prepare yourself for the beginning of a new cycle.
I know you feel like you’re struggling, but being close to double your age, and life experience to boot, 🥾. You just need to find your purpose, and drive on that. Some us older folks felt the same way when we was your age. From raw unfiltered advice I can tell you to stop what your doing for a few days and chart out where you want to be, what your doing now and focus on only the roadmap in between and then you won’t feel so lost. Our purpose is what gives our lives meaning, without a destination we will simple be lost forever, like a captain at sea with no crew. Anyways hope you find the things to need, some of us learned to late, Oh and watch out for others who will try and capsize your 🚢 ship. 🛳 Hope you have a wonderful weekend and enjoy your day. Ps RUclips must be promoting you, to appear on my Home Screen, Jfyi. cheers.
hey girl 💗 I've been doing A LOT of self reflection recently and i wanted to update you all on where my head is actually at right now - not putting on a mask and pretending I'm okay all the time! anyways, enjoy the video - I love you so much!! OH also - as I mentioned in the video, if you are needing someone to speak to about anything my DMs are always open on insta so head over there and give me a message if you ever need me 💌 my insta is @voicenotesfromyourbestie
the love of my life never made it to 25. don't take where you are for granted. you're doing better than you think. ❤
I’m so sorry to hear this 🥺❤️ thank you for your kind words, I really appreciate it 🫶 Sending you so much love ❤️
Back in my day, that's what your early twenties were for. Don't despair; enjoy being young while you can.
@@Wild-Cyrenity thank you 💗
To be fair, you're still young and the pandemic impacted your generation's most pivotal years, so don't be too hard on yourself :)
That’s such a comforting way of putting it- thank you ☺️❤️
Yeah same age as my nephews and sister in law keep yo head up,millennial hear,we been thru a lot more still recentless
34. Went to school for child care. Made $25k a year between 2013-2017. Quit and worked retail for a year making like $15k a year. Started 3 youtube channels that never took off. Paid off my car and student loans. Moved to Ireland in December 2019. Pandemic happens. Living with inlaws. No house, no job, no kids and I’m miserable. So. 🤷🏼♀️
This is so real I'm almost 25 and I've been struggling with the weight of feeling behind and stagnant. I try not to let it get to me too much and remind myself that life isn't supposed to be a rat race and that even the people with the biggest accomplishments can feel a sense of emptiness too. I think it's important during this stage to set goals but also have fun and make as many cool memories as you can because I've realized that "having it all figured out" just isn't a real thing especially since anyone can feel that no matter the age. Hope this helps someone 💗
I feel social media has distorted the image of what success is for our generation and that is why we feel like we have never done enough. The only way to heal the wound is to focus on personal, internal goals and learning how Figure out what’s an internal goal and what’s an external one, will help you believe in what you are doing currently is good.
I’m so so happy I’m not the only person feeling this. I always feel as if I’m walking around trying to be everything society sees as an adult but in all honestly I was not raised in an environment that taught me how to be a healthy, self confident human being. Im riddled with anxiety, depression and self doubt. Im so tired and I do not like the world I’m coming into adulthood in. I know nothing is supposed to be perfect but this world is truly horrific sometimes and I feel unprepared to handle it. I wish someone could assure me that things would be okay.
Oh i feel you! It feels so unfair when you are starting out in life unprepared and not knowing how to navigate! I had to teach myself everything I know now about how to be a functioning adult hahah so I feel that deeply!! I hope my videos can provide some support for you ❤️
@@voicenotesfromyourbestieHow are you doing?
I suffered from anxiety, depression, sui- ci- dal obsession, and self doubt for 19 years, but now at 31 I am doing much better. Occasionally still suffer, but that is part of life, the point though is that it gets better. Much better. Be kind to yourself and others, go to therapy, try your best, and accept that as enough. Find inner love and healing, and love others despite their shortcomings.
I assure you Jess, that one day, things will be okay.💖
Universe brings you everything when you're ready.
@@mittvarupptaget 🫶✨️
25? You're a baby. You don't need to have something to show yet. Take your time and enjoy your life 💜
@IzzyOnTheMove thank you 🫶❤️
be kind to yourself 25-27 is a funny time between 20s and 30s
love from 32 year old
I love this so much 🥹 thank you ❤️
@@voicenotesfromyourbestie
you are already doing a lot more than most people ever do in their lifetime. Questioning things and leaving your home town.
I recently started pillow screaming.
I used to think it was stupid.
10/10
I love the question when someone is in need of connection,
do you want a listening ear, solutions or comfort?
i can confirm this. i’m 27 and more confused than ever lmao
i have never related more to anything. For days all I have felt are rage and negative feelings, and I am stuck and lost because i have no idea how to express it. I feel like i'm worth nothing despite my nineteen years in this world. I cannot help but regret my college major even though i have a whole year left.
Thank you so much for this video: for verbalizing your thoughts and making me feel so seen and understood. I know it'll get better soon girl 💗💗 keep swimming.
It’s so frustrating isn’t it?! Please never think you are worth nothing, hard times can feel like they are everlasting when you are in them but I promise they are not and you are so valuable- I can tell you have a good heart purely from this beautiful comment you have left for me 💗 we’ve got this!! 🫶
Took the words right out of my mouth. This is exactly how I've been feeling for a few years now. I'm turning 25 in a month too. I feel crazy when everything is not okay, but people pretend everything is okay.
Most of us aren't going to be like Andrew Wiles and do something big and recognizable that people thought impossible. Best we can do is follow the recommendation of Ecclesiastes - do our best to make enough money to be somewhat comfortable and enjoy the fruits of our labor. I love to read fiction even if it does nothing to make the world a better place. I am fortunate enough to have worked as an employee in a small business for close to 20 years and feel productive enough there, even if nobody outside the organization sees it.
Totally agree with do our best to make enough money to be comfortable. That’s it for me. Am I eating good? Is my fridge stocked ? Do I even have a fridge ? Good clothes , shoes , place to sleep. I’m content with all that. Everything else is a nice bonus
Yesss I love this!! And ultimately it’s always the small things and moments in life that bring the most joy and satisfaction anyway ❤️ I think it’s a beautiful thing how varied everyone is and how everyone wants different things 🫶
It’s a beautiful mindset to have ❤️
I’m not a young woman, and here’s my small bit of advice: if someone, at any point in their life, decided to take a new path, to have a new goal, to have a change of values, etc., it could turn out that most, if not everything, they’ve done to that point may not be needed or directly helpful for the new path; so, essentially that could happen to most anyone; it’s not freaky. Next, we cannot discount all the value and lessons we’ve learned along the way, and people we’ve met because of the paths we were on. We shouldn’t discount or forget about them. Yes, carve a new path, or continue the same one with more gusto if u want, but life is meant to be a journey and fun too; it’s not to get to a destination! It’s also mainly about love -love of self and others. Keep ur chin up! Good luck ☯☮🕉🫶
I love this 🥹❤️ thank you 🙌
Girl please don’t stop making these vids! I’m a new sub and you’re speakingggg to me❤️
Omg I’m here for the long run girl dw ❤️ tysm!!
Thank s for being so vunerable here, you helped me realize I also feel similar to you and that I should focus on things that make me happy but also take more time to study things that I am interested in and that I am wanting to learn more about, that is a really good quality you have to want to keep learning!
@@graveraider1029 aww thank you so much ❤️
I turn 40 in a couple of weeks. I have an incredible 15 year old son, who I am so grateful for, but if it weren’t for him I know I wouldn’t be here. It hurts my heart to know I wasted so much time due to mental and physical health problems. Seeing all the normies on walks, doing yard work, going on morning runs- makes me feel like a complete failure as a human.
I’m so sorry you feel this way ❤️ i know I don’t know you personally, however, the fact that you’ve raised a human being alone tells me that you are absolutely not a failure and I find that truly inspiring - not everyone has what it takes to raise a child! The past is the past and we can’t dwell on time wasted, because before we know it, we’ll be looking back on this very moment wishing we’d have embraced everything we actually do have rather than live in our past mistakes! I know it’s easier said than done but I hope this serves as some kind of reminder that you are always doing better than you think ❤️ sending you so much love
25 years is way young. You are expecting too much of yourself at this age. And these feelings are actually very normal fir they are a part of the push that needs to happen, to get you motivated, to set your life sails in the right direction. We tend to look at celebrity life as an example of where we should be and a gauge of how much we’ve accomplished…. They are celebrity because they were either exceptional or gifted or even pushed very early (I.e. they had HELP to get there). And yes, in non-celebrity life (normal life) we can see others who are way ahead of the pack too. But none of this means anything. Sometimes it’s the tortoise far back in the race that blooms into a winner later. There are also several well known individuals who have accomplished much in their later years. We grow and accelerate at different times. We also are not guaranteed or promised time. Let that be the main motivation.
At 25, you’re only like a 7 year old when it comes to adulting…and that’s just going by the universal but-not-always-accurate age for being considered an adult (18). Adult only means your biological clock, you’re physically matured and able to reproduce, but this says nothing when it comes to mental, spiritual, emotional, financial (etc) maturity. And those things take time. You’re never wasting time unless you are ignoring the calls for personal betterment.
But don’t get stressed knowing you have a ton of work still to be done- that’s a lifetime process. Everyone is grappling with growth. We’re all peppered with different challenges. Some things we get easily, while other things we struggle with for a lifetime. Just make sure not to get your life story mixed up with another’s! It’s all too easy to compare when we’re in the ‘race’ of life. (Psssst…it’s not a race. It’s just a forever walk forward, and sometimes you meander!!)
This comment is fantastic, thank you so much 🙌🥹
100% we all see the same things you do and have the same feelings. The world is not ok and it's sick and twisted. You're not alone and can say that without hesitation. The ride is about to get rocky for those who are wordly.....
Made it to the end of the video! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and your authentic self. As another 25 year old, it's great to hear your perspective and where you are in your journey.
Girl, I feel the same exact way (especially because I'm the oldest in my family) but from what other people have told me, life is different for everyone. Some people have a job, house, kids by 20 - others may not. We'll get there if we try to make progress and strive to improve. What's most important in life is what you make of it, your goals and dreams. It's not over until life is over! -signed a 21 trying to be positive :)
@@sweetlime3588 you're so right!! Love this mindset 🥰❤️
Hey, I hope you are doing better and found something that is a better fit for you! Your feelings are valid and I know what it feels like to want to just FEEL for a little bit, instead of working on a solution all the time
Thanks so much 🥹💓
Im 27 and i feel you %100.
Things haven't felt normal since 2019 for me. Its like time is moving in fast forward. And people are pretending everything is fine
25 is still young. I'm 25 too, but still I feel much younger than I am. I think it's because the pandemic knocked most of us back a few years and kind of slowed down everything while time sometimes feels like it's getting faster, if that makes sense. It feels depressing and aimless but I guess it's worth to keep pushing on to see what happens next.
The pandemic really messed a lot of us up fr 🥲🥲
Hello!
I´m on the same boat.
I related to a lot of what you said.
Lately I have been comparing a lot to other, because I feel like I dont have a lot to show. And just thinking about possible conversations that could lead to being ask: what did you study?, where do you live?, what do you do in your free time, etc gives me so much anxiety.
Those questions might sound silly, but when you feel like you dont have nothing to show, and you know that other can talk about their lives and all the things that they have done in their life , it feels frustrating
Thank you for making this video :)
@SummerLake-f7z oh I feel you!! Those questions are sooo anxiety inducing but for what reason haha it so annoying 😂 the girls that get it get it 💅❤️
good for you, i'm 34 and feel similar and sure this will be a reoccurring theme for the rest of my life, that seems to be going by are a far more rapid pace
same girl. I started law school at 18, when I was 20 my dad passed away and my world crashed, it is till now.
I'm one of these people where the grades are affected by such events so I quit law school.
Then I wasted my time on a nonsense major and now at 24 I switched to social work. Even tho I feel like I couldn't do it but it's literally the only thing I like and have some skills in.
But my main reason why studying is hard for me is because I don't have a future perspective. I have lots of bullying experience at workplaces that's why I quit everytime and I just don't desire to be treated like that ever again. But I have to make money so I have no other chance. I don't have a big family so I'm scared I don't have enough support when wanting to have children, or that it's too late when I want children because I don't feel ready yet and don't have my degree yet. Also whenever I imagine myself marrying, I walk down the aisle without my dad and he will never get to know my baby if I'll have one.
I try changing circumstances here and there but I feel so behind.
Oh I’m so sorry to hear that, sending so much love to you ❤️ im not surprised that your grades were affected, it’s hard to carry on like normal when your whole world feels like it’s falling apart! I also understand what it feels like with not feeling like you can fully apply yourself to your studies because you don’t know which direction you truly should be taking in life. What helped me with this was looking at things on more of a micro level and focussing on what feels good for me NOW when making decisions - so connecting more with myself to strengthen my intuition really helped me with this! I sometimes think that purpose doesn’t necessarily have to be our career either - spending your free time doing intentional activities that you enjoy doing can give you such a great feeling of purpose, even if you can only do it outside of working hours! But you know what- I love that you are strong enough to not stay in places where you are not being treated correctly! That is so so admirable and so many people would not be able to do that! You’re so much stronger than you think 🫶❤️
@@voicenotesfromyourbestie that's so sweet of you to say I actually never shifted my perspective like that. I always considered leaving or quitting equals failure but since life always changes and everybody aspires to have different goals that might not always be the case. Thank you for your advice with focussing on the "now".❤️ I often live in my head and see the bigger picture but I think we should focus more on babysteps.
I hope so much that hustle culture stops and society normalizes not climbing high on the career latter and rather work less therefore spend more time with loved ones and things we love. In my eyes working so much ist not desirable so I give myself a hard time to study🙈 I really want to work part time but not full-time. Tried it and wasn't even able to keep up my household chores because my body always needs so much time to recharge.
I'm 40, it comes out in the wash. You won't realize til later that your 20's teach you more than you see in the moment. Try out different versions of yourself while it's more tolerated. Ofc you can do that anytime, but being messy in your later 30s and 40s pushes people away. So be messy/experimental when you're young. Also, be super care with substance abuse. Love u!♡ 😅
That’s so reassuring, thank you so much 🥹❤️ so much love for you girl!! 💗
Do we live the same life??? I'm 25. I need to move out of my hometown. Everyone always tries to cheer me up when I'm sad and am okay being sad. I refuse to apply for any job bc I know I won't get it - I don't even have a degree. I can't stand even thinking about working a 9-5, let alone actually do it.
Academics is super ableist, I can't stand going back into that kind of place. I love theatre so I tried studying it, but then it took all the fun out of it for me. So I don't even know what to do. I'm not gonna tell you how to feel because I'm the same. My experience has been-.. quite similar to yours.
We shouldn't compare ourselves, and as much as I wanna say "at least you have a degree," I need to remind myself that everyone is different. Uni burnt me out. It's so hard to live when the world is not built for you.
I understand you
same
Please girl your life just started
So true! But my life experience is also completely subjective to me and 25 is the oldest I’ve been up to now so lemme have my moment
Felt the same at 25, then again at 45... it's all part of the life's process. In fact these moments I think are good, they give us something to grow from. Our culture is far too orientated on achievements... toxic really.
if anybody catches themselves by 30 not being where they should be, they have been lucky that they caught it on time.
Nobody really figures life out until at least 35
This is extremely relatable
I'm 38 and have nothing to show either
@@renegadeace1735 I’m so sorry to hear that, it’s not a good feeling to have ❤️
I cannot tell you how much I relate to everything you said in this video. so so so so nice to hear that someone else is going through this.
@@madisonmccay1024 I’ve been so shocked how many people can relate! We’re all in this together, community gets us through 🙏❤️
You got a job(s), a place to live, and a boyfriend. You're doing good.
I am 16 and I feel this way too. Thank you for posting this, you’ve expressed what I’ve been feeling into words very clearly. Truly, thank you.
Omg that’s so young :(
Omg 16 🥺 Im so sorry you feel this way ❤️ you have so much life ahead of you, I hope you don’t let this feeling now make you lose faith in all of the amazing things that are to come for you! There is always time to turn your life around, especially while we’re young ❤️
I've screamed in my car MANY MANY times! Beat on the steering wheel, screamed into pillows, but I can't say I've ever screamed in the woods, something I need to try! Just go full-dahmer on a tree! Hit it with a stick until the stick breaks! I seriously need to try that! I've also stood by this beautiful lake up the trail from my house, where I stood there skipping rocks through the water while listening to that reasons song by holloback! Good times! :D But nothing's holding you back from doing stuff like that! It's okay to be a little nuts sometimes! I think being too normal screws people over!
@@circustoonsjokevideos yesss agreed!! I need to take a leaf from your book fr 🙏 I think we’d all feel so much better if we stopped repressing our feelings!!
i'm 21 and i feel exactly like u ,being my own therapist talking about how far i feel behind in life , i moved to another country and it's been so hard and i still don't have my degree, so i get u , i feel scared too
Omg that is such a courageous thing to do, I admire that sooo much!! There’s always a way around everything, us humans are good at figuring things out- I have faith that everything will fall perfectly into place for you 🫶
My parents weren't like that, they'd just tell me to go away
You're still young, you're not 40, so keep living and learning and growing.
I'm on the fence on whether or not I am on your boat. On one end I have nothing to show from my undergrad degree in computer science. Back then, I was really not interested in the field, so much so, that my future master's program (which I'm doing now) was very impacted. I am way less confident in programming than my masters peers. I am on track for a six figure+ income at an an age three years after graduating from undergrad. I will graduate next May. I am gunning for a digital forensic analyst role.
COVID pandemic was my turning point when it comes to where I am now. Before then I did not try and during that timeframe, I picked up cybersecurity. I've never looked back. I've been told by many people that I am very passionate about what I do. Although I agree, I feel like I have to go at 600 MPH since I truly have not been able to land a job in SWE or cyber in three years. Making presentations about forensics and cyber security is what keeps me going.
In conclusion, I genuinely relate to this post and I feel like I am quickly getting out of the hole from this year on!
Good look with figuring out your life bestie!
Oh wow, cyber security- that’s so interesting!! I wish you all the best of luck in your future endeavours!! 🍀 thanks so much for your comment!! 🥰
imagine being 33 and thinking this. Or 50. You haven't seen mid life crisis yet. nowhere close to it. 25 is a baby to me it seems.
You get to explore your vision now and walk away from the absurdity! Imagine having such a realization at age 80.
Such a good way to look at it 🥹🌟
28, same here. life wasted
Thank you so much for sharing! You are so self aware, I‘m in awe ❤️✨🍀
That’s so kind! Thank you 🥰❤️
i watched until the end! i'm learning english. i have dyslexia. thank you for made this video! keep it up!
That’s amazing I love it!! Thanks for your support 🥰
Omg I feel you on the degree part. I majored in fine art which is literally the stupidest thing I could've done 😭 We're gonna figure it out though 💗💗
Omg fine art!! That is so cool though I love that 🖼️ yes we absolutely will!! 💗💗
psyche vs. limbic system (understanding emotions vs. experiencing them) ... I get it. Definitely a challenge. Admittedly, I tend to over-cognize feelings, too. Being aware you're doing it and then, piece-by-piece, pulling that energy down into your body... it can be illuminating... Oh, and 25 is YOUNG, I promise (I'm 38). Give yourself credit, time --> you're doing GREAT! ^_^
Thank you so much ☺️🌟!
I taught myself psychology and English
I am an engineer
I have so much trauma
I had good grades till 10th grade
Things started going downhill after I turned 17 n went to college
I doubt you truly have nothing to show for it. For real, knowing what you DON'T want out of life can be a powerful lesson and help you find and appreciate what you DO want. Ruminate on your experiences and find meaning in what happened, and discover at the time WHY you chose those things, even if you realized it was wrong. Knowing why can tell you alot about yourself and where you want to go and what to improve on. I didn't truly get on what I felt was for me until 30. I don't regret anything because it all led in someway to where I am now.
Not everything of value comes with a paper or salary. I truly do think every experience builds off each other and changes us. I think those experiences for you will contribute to you finding your desired direction and seeing the road you want to travel down.
25 years is nothing. As I said I didn't really START anything real until 30. I know people who went back to school at 50 and became very successful! Life is not a race. Even people you perceive as "being ahead" can be struggling with other aspects of life you take for granted. You get glimpses of people at a surface level. You never really know.
I love this, thank you so much 🫶💗
I didnt find out everyone is being controlled till around 29-30. If your 20s are trash its because they were set up to be. Your 30s might be incredible. Your 80s might be the best most seemingly productive decade of your life. Thats just from the reality im being sent tho
I graduated college at 24
With a lot of trauma and abuse and no job
Since I graduated college late
I taught myself english
I can only get jobs that require good English
I'm almost twice your age and still feel like that sometimes.
i’m a whole ten years younger but i don’t think i could relate more than i do to u rn? i’ve been so so depressed because of some bullying at school and i’ve just been lying in bed watching kdramas and teen movies thinking that i don’t have anything to show for my teen years at the moment. like i wish i had more friends that genuinely cared for me but i don’t, because the friends i had i self sabotaged the relationships so much just because i was insecure and now i’m changing schools to get away from the anxiety that i feel each morning and even though i’m technically progressing i feel so trapped
i hope you’re feeling better ❤ love this video and good luck with moving to another city i know that’s gonna be a tad scary
Omg i feel you sm, I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with that right now! In relation to not having anything to show for your teen years - i relate sm!! I basically spent all of my teens in my bedroom watching movies and essentially day dreaming my whole life while all of my friends were partying and seemed to be living their best lives- it felt like the end of the world back then and like I was wasting so much time etc but then I left school and created a new life for myself over the years and I barely remember people I went to school with! and now I have been fortunate enough to have the realisation that I’m not reaching my potential at the moment and I realise that I can make moves to change that! I guess this goes to show that feeling behind in life is literally a mindset and if you don’t work on why you feel this way and get to know YOURSELF and how you can create purpose in your life, it doesn’t matter what age we are, we would always feel dissatisfied and behind! not me writing a whole dissertation in one comment lmao - but honestly, for you to have this same realisation now as I am at 25? That’s amazing that you have that awareness so young. You truly have so many blessings on their way to you, even if it doesn’t feel that way and your current friends will be a distant memory because you will have met so many more people who love and care for you 💗 you also always have this channel to come back to for support along the way if you need it - I’ve got your back 💌
@@voicenotesfromyourbestie sorry for the late-ish reply but omg thank u so much!! ur so sweet and i rlly needed to hear that today 💕💕 thank you
I left my job at a TV station when 50 hours a week wouldnt pay the rent the market price doubled for rent in 3 years and all the stations paid garbage. So I just left, why work that many hours a week to be poor? I loved it but not 50 hours a week of it. Now I got my living situation figured and I'm making stuff for me, I'll be broke regardless might as well be happier!
@@chrisw443 you’re so right!! Gotta do what’s best for you 🙌
Hey just came across your video and want to add something: a therapist (a good therapist) will never tell you what hat to do or give you advice. They will ask you curious questions to maybe get more information, help you see things from a different perspective but mostly it is about validation and validating clients emotions and experiences
So true ❤️
I really don't want to shit on people who don't have it as bad as I do bcs I do sincerely empathize and sympathize, but I feel like my situation is shit enough for people to really judge me thinking I really am lazy so maybe I should express more how I feel about it myself so people know... idk... I want to say... girl... I actually have nothing to show... you worked! You put in effort. I didn't. That's judged, people don't want to understand. But I don't want to be insensitive toward you bcs I feel you about your stuff, more on the side of sympathy for some stuff than empathy, but I feel you. But it's like a gut to the punch sometimes like noone else but other ADHDers who report having huge executive dysfunction issues who relate to me and I feel ashamed even to tell them about everything I go through and just how badly dysfunctional I am. And anger - yeah... same as you, it's not natural to me, I don't surpress anger, I just rarely have anger in me and now that it happens sometimes I think it seems so normal and so mild to other people but to me it's such an alarming thing!
I used to wish I had some kind of soundproof room where I could scream it all out. Yeah I can go to the woods, but the animals there did nothing wrong and don't deserve noise. Even if I had such a room, I'd probably be too cringed to talk about my troubles. I don't speak much and I don't like verbalising what bugs me, even if I imagine what I want to say to someone, in practice I don't actually want to talk and I appear angry. I know letting it all out is healthier but I'm just embarassed
I’m sending you all the hope joy and love in the world. As somebody who did a lot of craziness before I reach this point in my life after giving Jesus everything and serving him, my life has gotten way better, and I realize that life should not be a marker of success, but rather of service. If you were loving people, if you are serving them if you are putting God first, you are living a life worthy of living.
By the time I was 26 my first marriage had been dissolved.
You're not supposed to have accomplished anything by your mid twenties.
This is when you make your mistakes and figure out who you are and what you want to do.
I'm retired now and find myself generally cheerful and optimistic even though I really do think things aren't going well at all.
"Normal" is HIGHLY over rated. No such thing.
Wait.....! For ex, I've written 20 books( short stories) when did I start? Not til 42. U have time, relatively speaking.
@adamfindlay7091 this is so reassuring 🫶
@@voicenotesfromyourbestie good. I didn't start writing til I was ...36. now it's my fave thing.
I see what you mean! And the repression of emotions and the not admitting to how someone truly feels comes from them not wanting to be a burden to others, as ridiculous as that may sound! They want to be around others and feel strong, which is alright! Nothing wrong with that, of course! It's just taken too far, and that's your point! It's taken to a place where, without realizing it, they inadvertently leave people like you struggling in the quicksand! Assuming people like you are doing the same thing, that being wanting to feel strong around others! And while I also see where you're coming from when you said the world is falling apart, I also believe that that's just from the natural conflict which comes from 7 billion people, with tons of different thoughts, feelings, and life styles! But, with those seven billion people comes inner conflicts, sometimes leading to, as much as I don't like this, criminal behavior! Sometimes... Not all the times. But sometimes, inner conflict, especially repressed inner conflict, can lead to someone turning to their careless aggressive side for liberation! Anyways! That stuff is natural though, is my point! Trust me, the animal kingdom isn't any better! So I think we all see the same conflicts going on but, we all see that conflict in different ways! I personally love the world we live in now! :D
@@circustoonsjokevideos this comment is everything, I absolutely love your mindset 🙏 that is such a positive way to look at it, thank you for sharing your joy ❤️
such a relatable topic, I'll be turning 21 and I feel a lot of this
The pressure can feel so real right?! I think it’s amazing that you’ve got this awareness at 20 though, definitely explore this feeling further because you can so easily make significant change in your life before you’re even my age if you wanted to! 💗
Try feeling this way at 40
You have gained experience and doors not to open. I find it's best to find a successful mentor. I happened to work for a very wealthy family who changed thinking about money and life. They never cared about what people thought and spent much less than you would think. World issues are opportunities to assess the market. Your emotions are yours to manage (not easy, but those are the rules). Walk into an interview as if you have the job. Everything is business.
Just make decisions without being right about it. A life is not a race. The point is to do and try something regardless of the outcome. // Be wary of whatever you deem the "righteous thing". Having a belief, that one thing would be so much better than the other, is a very valuebased view. And if everything is about values, then valueing and devalueing becomes a practice in ones head. Then there is less room for a middle ground and less room to have a life. For example, what is wrong with "mindless consumption"?
I can assure you of one thing - it is your head, not the circumstances or hardships you face. It always is the own head, nothing else. The way you think about your life is grounded in your head. The way you think about your feelings is grounded in your head. Heads are very peculiar things - whatever we think might feel like a natural law to us, but it isn't. There are countless ways to think and feel about life, all seeming conclusive in itself. Life is at your fingertips. Your head makes you believe otherwise.
Your head keeps you contemplating about nonsense in circles. It might feel important. You may think it is important, but it isn't. You need to test whatever you believe against reality. Be with actual people and find out, which of your beliefs holds up.
A good start would be to reduce social media to the bare minimum. Act yourself instead of watching others advocating for a certain way of action or life. Just do it yourself.
Yesssss! This comment is everything, thank you 🙏❤️
what do u think people that actually have stuff to show for their life have? like i feel like most people just have a degree like a job work like u do righttt
I love this comment because it is SUCH a good point - it’s literally just an illusion. I’ve experienced this on a micro level in many ways e.g. in terms of saving all of my money and travelling thinking it would give me some form of accreditation and somehow solve all of my problems, but I was quickly humbled into realising that if your internal world is shit, nothing external that you achieve or have holds any weight whatsoever. I’ve done A LOT of work around my own internal battles and perception - but that doesn’t stop me from wanting more from time to time in a society that is constantly pushing more more more, yano? And tbh I think it’s also good to want to strive for more to an extent, keeps us humans going
thats so true bestie i struggle with the same thinggggg
some of my friends that have it- have their own home, a stable job that they love to contribute to, a loving spouse and extended family that they vacation and visit multiple times a year n obviously some investments for retirement and they are in their mid-late 30s.
a lot is being disciplined and doing the same thing day in n out to get to where they are now n a streak of luck to check all the boxes of job, spouse, home, health, fam etc
Try 39... A wasted degree that I got 10 years ago. Stuck at my uninspiring job at a supermarket for 17 years. My music hobby/dream is going nowhere.
this title is me. like holy shit except im almost 23
everything happens for a reason... thats a bullshit sentence, we dont know
meaningless meaningless says the teacher
Everything is meaningless …..
Here is the conclusion of the matter
Fear god and keep his commandments for this is the whole duty of man For god will bring every deed into judgment. Whether it is good or evil
Hey, I just mentioned Ecclesiastes in my comment before even reading yours. That's interesting.
@@theboombody haha nice. It came to mind for me as well. These type of videos are extremely common and the topic in general. A lot of people have this feeling that they could of done more or should of by now but I stopped caring at about 25. I’m about to be 30 and I’m more at at peace with myself than my 20s
@@justinmclaughlin1953 It helps when you hit a wall you can't climb. This year I turned 42 and spent a whole year studying for the CPA exam and getting nowhere. I realized two things. First I couldn't pass it. Second I didn't really want to. I WANT to make a big mathematical discovery but that's even harder than passing the CPA. So now that I've gone as far as I possibly can, I guess I can be at peace that at least I tried my best and I can be content with pursuing smaller things from now on.
@@theboombody ya just being content. People aren’t created equal but that’s ok. Doing our best is the best. My faith in Jesus certainly has helped with my peace
@@justinmclaughlin1953 I think that helps a lot of people.
Everything doesn’t happen for a reason. Don’t fall for cliches
@diantinatalist6686 each to their own, that's what I choose to believe 🫶
are we the same person
same bro
You are 25 not 45. You are at the age when you are meant to make decisions about university, jobs, etc etc. You are not meant to have achieved anything yet!
lots of people do rip
build up your youtube channel and develop editing skills to support it ... with your background in criminology, you can create videos related to this subject ...
Hmm when i was 25 i was already married with kids on our like 3rd home by then. you're not missing much
Happy Father's Day in advance...😐
You have big eyes at least.
Forever blessed
'Promosm' 🔥
Is your Dad at home? You seem like a typical single mom kid
yes you wasted all of your life. what material object would be more fulfilling than a family? that is your purpose. Anyways you gotta get a guy that is the real, then you need to have kids, then you need to not get divorced. if you can do that you will feel accomplished because not many women can do it. your kids will love you and you will die with 50 people who love you around you. your children, their children, and their children. honestly any other path results in dying alone. so im right. give it thought. your car wont hold your hand when ur sick or something. a family is the only purpose, not just for you as a woman but for a man too. there is no situation where you need to be applying for jobs. complete waste of time. doesn't do anything. just takes you one step closer to being childless and dying alone. get a husband and tell him to go apply for the job instead. thats how its supposed to work. you should be applying for husbands not jobs.
You choose a degree you have no interest in because you aren't supposed to have interest in a degree, you are supposed to have interest in taking your kids to the park and teaching them to read. you aren't supposed to work 3 jobs to survive, you are supposed to work no jobs to survive, you are supposed to have a husband who works a job or 3 so you can survive. you are trying to find time for all your interests, and you would have it if you had a husband and you could just cook a couple meals for the kids and run a load of laundry and that was all you had to do in the day. you could do your hobby. you are supposed to have no anger because you are supposed to be taken care of not taking care of yourself.
Anyways ditch the jobs and just embrace who you are meant to be it is a mother, not a hustler/employee.... you are litterly not supposed to feel alone. you are supposed to have an entire 5 person family by the time you are 25. you are just you tho. im not saying that to diss you but this is legit the problem. its feminism, it tricked you, it tricked your parents to even tell you to go to school to begin with, its not your fault but you been tricked and not just you.
Make the next 12 month goal to find a guy who want to take care of you and then get married and then move in with him and have a baby like immediately after that. pick a guy and go all in. thats it
modern women be like: 'we don't need no man'
boohoo
It's totally normal and okay to feel this way! But I think its important not to attach your worth to your achievements, especially as a woman. You are divine and worthy and valuable just for existing! If you've been working very hard, you could be burnt out right now. Maybe take some time off if that's possible? Unwinding and connecting with your inner self when you have little other responsibilities can be truly healing 💗 Usually its exactly what you need to recalibrate and prepare yourself for the beginning of a new cycle.
This is so sweet 🥹 tysm!! 💗💗
I know you feel like you’re struggling, but being close to double your age, and life experience to boot, 🥾. You just need to find your purpose, and drive on that. Some us older folks felt the same way when we was your age. From raw unfiltered advice I can tell you to stop what your doing for a few days and chart out where you want to be, what your doing now and focus on only the roadmap in between and then you won’t feel so lost. Our purpose is what gives our lives meaning, without a destination we will simple be lost forever, like a captain at sea with no crew. Anyways hope you find the things to need, some of us learned to late, Oh and watch out for others who will try and capsize your 🚢 ship. 🛳 Hope you have a wonderful weekend and enjoy your day. Ps RUclips must be promoting you, to appear on my Home Screen, Jfyi. cheers.
@@ChristiansKindnessKorner this is the best advice, thank you so much 🫶 I hope you have a great day!