My grand father was white married coloured...he was disowned by his family but happily accepted by his inlaws.. I look white because both my parents are fair but we happy being coloured..we don't have to pretend we just so confident being just us. It's a pity you have to go through all that nonsense but hey you a very confident woman speaking out. We need more of these truths so to speak . 🙏❤️🌻
Thank you! I am sooo glad that right now I don’t give a shit anymore and I’ll always feel this way. People need to speak out because there is a hidden truth what we experience.The whole accent thing is so obvious,even just watching tv I can tell how people like us hold back but nobody says anything.ai would absolutely love to do pod casts on this subject.,and it will ruffle a few feathers!
This reminds me so much of my own experience, growing up in South Africa. I went to white boarding schools, at various times. When I returned to my old ("coloured") neighborhood during school holidays, my cousins would make fun of my accent and accuse me of trying to act white. When I returned to school the kids (and some teachers) would bully me and make fun of me because I didn't sound white enough. So, I suppose I learned to code-switch very quickly at an early age. I tend to pick up regional accents much too easily. We moved around a lot when I was a child. I live in America now and it infuriates me when people here say that I sound American or I "don't have an accent." It makes me feel like I've lost a part of myself. It always comes back after a week or so, when I visit South Africa. I also find myself feeling unreasonably offended when people think I'm white but I realize that it's because I was bullied and oppressed by white people as a child. I don't want to be associated with that kind of behavior.
Exactly this! I am surprised that certain people (read the latest comment telling me to get over myself) don’t have any compassion.Maybe everything was good for them,you know ..candy floss and rainbows and shit,but what we’ve experienced is real.Hold your head up high my dear,you’ve got this!
My mum is white n my dad black,She abandoned me at 2yrs n I was adopted by a Coloured family.I don't have hangups abt bieng Coloured,in fact I'm proud of who I am despite the hardships I went thru growing up.I can write a book abt my life.Accept people as human beings n not for the colour of their skins ❤
Coloureds make it so hard to be Coloured then get mad when ppl dont want to be classified as it, but honestly the newer generation including me have started to find a pride in our Colouredness despite what ppl say about us, but it's so refreshing to see so many Coloureds redefine the Coloured attitude.
I know ,it’s actually heartbreaking but yes I see how the coloured people are staring to make a stand,although,so many are still prisoners especially in the music industry as far as I aware of!
Reminds of Mariah Carey's interview with Opray; where she was asked to identify herself if she was black or white. Sadly, some coloured brethren are ashamed to be associated with blackness. Colour is nothing but personality/character..I can imagine the torture a minor experiencing discrimination at a tender age. Let us bring our children to be colour blind as a rainball nation.Was fortunate to attend an international college in Canada (UWC) with multiracial to promote international understanding. We're all one creation with different colours like flowers.
@@franciscathomasofficial3392 you are so beautiful, i love your hair. If it means anything to you, I am a white american, and i get discriminated by blacks all over Africa
As a South-African I get you,you are not alone.Continue to be yourself,there really is only one race the human race,be an individual ,in that way you will make the world, a better place.God intended for a great variety, be happy to be a part of that🤗
It's never to late to heal. I caught the same grief growing up here in the states. In my 20's is when I realized this is just who I am. Life has been great ever since.
I born in South Africa ( colored mother/ Portuguese father), but at age of 5, my parents broke up and I moved to Portugal and I grew up there with my father. I only came back to South Africa to visit my mother, at age 27. I have South Africa ID and passport but a foreign accent. In South Africa If I keep my mouth shut, people think I am colored, but the moment I talk they can hear that I have a foreign accent. The way I was raised and the way my mother's family was raised, it's such a huge gap, that I have a hard time to deal with it, when I am with them, because they struggle to make ends meet, and I was always a person who had everything I wanted. Sometimes in South Africa I had to use my ID to run some errands, and people get confused because they can hear that I don't speak any of local languages but have valid documents from there.
@@franciscathomasofficial3392 Aah my friend.. TRUTH! I also had to 'put on' especially coming from a private school.. I sometimes still do. Professional voice (they call it). Remember when we were testing radio ads for Boebie... the different 'european' foreign accents for 'Mehanos' pizza 😂 and others. A melting pot of different accents when recording with 'Deja Vu' (the group's name then) YET we were all coloured 🤣🤣 I'M SO HAPPY THAT YOU'RE DOING YOU.. and so successful.. you always shone in my opinion! You illuminated whatever stage you were on.. and still do! This video caused emotions I had forgotten.. Harsh truth and at the same time was a breath of fresh air. Love you stukkend
@@tracesish oh my goodness!!! Those memories!!!!! Hahaha harsh but good old days!!! Where are you? This whole accent thing sounds so stupid but it’s not and it needs to come to light because it is absolutely kak to be in that position..tug of war with white accent -coloured accent..Im so glad I’m over that and live in the UK where people LOVE my natural accent!
Very interesting. I am interested in how you were treated in Portugal?? It also has to do with the fact that Portuguese society has a significant percentage of African blood due to the influx of slaves to Lisbon in the 15th century. Over the centuries these African blood blended into Portuguese society, assimilated and passed on the Portuguese people its genes.
I lived in Cape Town in 2008, as a mixed Brazilian (German Father/Black Mother) I was quite confuse with the term "coloured" the first time I heard was quite funny, I was at the police station looking for an officer and when I asked about him to a lady she said "Oh he´s not here but you can come back later, he is the only COLOURED in the shift" then I said "What the heck is a coloured? " And she answered "Well, I´m black, the guy over there is white and YOU are coloured" T.I.A This is Africa!
It took me years to find myself. I did a DNA , 12 different nationalities . I'm proud of my heritage and I could not choose my colour . I live abroad and the I'm happy that I belong to the human race. At the end of the day , peace with oneself and my self esteem is not determined by the opinions of others.
I was born and raised in The Gambia and I live in the US. People of mixed race or people of color are not treated any differently than blacks or white people. It is sad to hear your story. But from my experience in West Africa, mixed races are an intricate part of the society, they have assimilated and accepted as part of the community. We don't discriminate against them. I am glad to hear your story you are a great and strong woman. Hang in there
relate so hard to this. My grandfather was a white south african and my gran was black and indian mixed race. My dad is a white man from europe and I have a european passport and now I live in Europe. I was bullied mercilessly by white kids and told I am "nothing but a goffle" growing up and coloured kids called me hoity-toity and "play white". We grew up in SA, Zambia and Zimbabwe. No one in the world is as racist as a white rhodie. It was an awful life. I also used to straighten my hair all the time (sadly still do a lot of the time). I have so much trauma from the way white people treated me. My ex husband was a white rhodie and his family were so racist. He told me not to talk about being mixed and just say I'm white because "a coloured girl is like a scooter, fun to ride but you don't want to be seen on one." I wish I never married him. Since moving to europe I've seen that behaviour is not normal and I don't have to hide or hate myself or be anything different or try to fit in anywhere and I remarried a French man and it's been amazing not to have to deal with racism and be loved and accepted for who I am but people here can't understand what I went through. I have been for years of therapy but it's something I am still struggling to get over. I have severe PTSD from the bullying and also from the abusive relationship and it's worse because I have to co-parent since the divorce because he needed my european passport to get him out of africa and a child so he could manipulate me. What a nightmare.
When i moved to america,being a mixed race coloured person i marked myself down as "other" because by then i realized that i was tired of convincing people what the fuck i was.
@cool 123 It's weird for sure, but overall it's too late. If one counts as biracial, you have to count the rest of them. Theres a lot of us, whether we look like it or not, that would have to be removed from the "black" category in the U.S. if we changed the rules here. From historical figures to celebrities, that would split us in half lol
@cool 123 because thats what they are black lol. only people refer to themselves that way are ashamed that they are black but will never be accepted as white or identified as such which they long so much for. but not surprised they have that mindset when their culture is different due to not experiencing slavery accompanied with jim crow. they never had black power movements to bring them together and eliminate self hate imposed by white oppressors on them like their american counter parts have. black is a term of empowerment used to unify as black people come in many different shades but i wouldnt expect those from africa to know about the history of black americans its much different than the history they learn about colonization.
My story is very similar to yours. My mom was Cape Malay and my dad white. My mom very light skinned but lots of Asian features. Growing up i was fair but very curly hair just a little tighter curl than yours. My father always told me I am white. I always knew I wasn't fully white, I knew my Malay family looked different to me but you don't think of it. Only as adult I fully understand and own who I am. Every part of me and it's set me so free.
Im coloured my husband White..my children came up with a term Hybrid..I taught them to be very confident in who they are..they look coloured with white essence..but i teach them to embrace both sides.
As a proud mixed race Capetonian, I thank you so much for this video! I can relate so much to your experience. I had the same experience. The accent situation, being led to believe I was white, everything! Only at age 16 did I really start to truly understand who I am. For so long I felt alone in this, like nobody else experienced or understood how it feels!
I think you are beautiful and your accent is beaitiful. A true Mzansi girl❤ I am a South African living in Canada for a long time, and this Soweto accent is not going anywhere.. LOL. Canadians better get use to it. So dont worry about them haters and do you. ❤❤❤
Generally racism in South Africa doesn't come from the Africans (who are some of the most passive, peaceful ppl on earth) it generally comes from non black groups.
9:26 i was also put through this trial of identity, constantly being tested on my accents and performances of colouredness from everyone whites,blacks and coloureds themselves.
My dear friend you were made in the image of God.Being coloured or mixed race,all the good characteristics of your mixed ancestry were brought together in you.
Coloureds (Afrikaans: Kleurlinge or Bruinmense, lit. 'Brown people') are a multiracial ethnic group native to Southern Africa who have ancestry from more than one of the various populations inhabiting the region, including Khoisan, Bantu, European, Austronesian, South Asian, or East Asian. Because of the combination of ethnicities, different families and individuals within a family may have a variety of different physical features.
Let's not misinterpret history and redefine race and terminology. Colored are not native to South Africa, native people are people who are fully Africans such as Zulu, Nama, Xhosa, San, Hadza, Lembe, Xoi, Batswana and other tribes. Also, very few colored people have Khoisan blood, those who have San blood is about 5%., compare that with the Xhosa people who most of them have above 25% "Khoisan" blood and look very similar to San, or "Khoisan", look at Nelson Mandela, Nasty and most Ngunu people, not just their phenotype but hair texture and culture. Colored people are our brothers and related to everyone in South Africa and even within colored people look very different from each other.
@@gedenironald8635Preach, Cape Malays want us to forget that they originate from Malaysia and now claim to originate from Cape town. Mixed race is not Cape Malay and Cape Malays are not Khoi or San or any tribe of Africa but from Malaysia. I really love our Indian South Africans cause they never get it twisted they know their origins and still respect their cultures and traditions. This lady is mixed race but she is calling herself colors, it makes no sense.
I was there for the confusion of your childhood and I also though it was unfair to people to put you in a box. You were always so full of life and your mom fought for you guys always. It wasn't fair toward you and your sisters. It's still the norm here in South Africa. Once your category is established in South Africa people think they know how to treat you. Why can I not been seen as human being. Good that you spoke about this Fran
Francisca, I understand this conflict. I hope from the time you spoke in this video that you continued to heal. Thank you. If I was with my college-educated African Americans they mocked my southern accent. And so when I was around them or whites or my professors, I spoke their dialect. If I was with my granny, i returned to my natural born Arkansas Missouri Mississippi. And although I am brown nowhere near looking white, classmates accused me of straightening my hair when they saw my visible hairline at a scarf. More painful was when others were teased for having kinky hair.
Talk how you want to talk, sing how you want to sing. You have a beautiful voice. Just be you. You'll always get the haters. It's sad i know but enjoy your life and don't care who judges you. Love your new music with Splash Blue. Love and well wishes to you and your family.
Don't worry about your accent we are from the UK my children are Brits but, very young when we came to SA it's over forty years we have been here, my son used to switch his accent all the time, my daughter never bothered and even to this day I've still got my East Midlands accent. We've never let it get to us and if we don't fit in we don't. Accents shouldn't have to be a big deal. Keep your original accent
So sorry for the unnecessary racism you have been subjected to. When will this insanity come to an end in South Africa or in the world? Lady, you're beautiful the way you are, your accent, your hair, your parents, just be appreciative and be grateful for them. There are poor kids/people who have no parents and family. So, why worry yourself? Black South African man from East London. ❤❤
Be yourself, do not concern yourself with your accent. Being able to put on different accents is a gift. You're a beautiful woman...go out with confidence as the world is your oyster.
I appreciate your honesty. You are genuine. Its only God who is without any fault and totally blameless. Love your honesty. You're are more than blessed. Good day.
As you speak I can see the pain in your eyes and that time you are 39 but the pain still lingers on your mind. That's why it makes me angry when people say we should move on because Apartheid is a thing of the past whilst the people who are affected by it are still alive and the trauma is still there. Just to add, SA needs a deep self introspection, we need to focus on similar things that we share than our differences. We tend to focus on our differences that's why there's still a race issue. Let's deal with what we share as a people, it could be the ANC that's corrupt, crime that is affecting us, gangsterism, unemployment, religion, I think this way we could see past our differences. You older than me but you look gorgeous and I can't imagine what you went through but with time you will heal Queen. You have beautiful hair, beautiful eyes and a lovely personality. Sending Love 💕
Wow very well said. Pure honesty. There lots of ppl who mite have same stories. Your a beautiful woman, with beautiful accent, beautiful hair , beautiful mind set , only problem I see with u is that I'm alrdy married. No for real, we'll said and point taken. I'm sure this video has a greater impact than u thought it wod.
Francisca you have won your battle with flying colors !!! You are very attractive, you have gorgeous hair and I love your natural home accent ! Now listen ! Whites from all over the world and even in South Africa do not all have the "same white accent" ....so which white accent is the correct one ??? hey ,hey, hey ! Honor God and be greatful and blessed and proud how God made you. You don't have to change a thing...stay as you are. I understand what made you think differently as a child...but I'll tell you what ...I love the Cape accent.
You are so beautiful btw. I personally think the accent thing is part of uniqueness. You literally chanced your accent throughout the video explaining so it's automatic I think. What I learned in this video is that we all given a empty plastic bag the goal is not to break it, put whatever you want inside
Ive been experiencing racism lately from black people, like for example when i walk past a group of black people i will get dirty agressive looks from them and sometimes even they will gossip in their native language.There will be times even when i enter a store employees will stare and eventually when i leave ill hear laughing behind my back Idk is this culture or is it a misunderstanding that i am making ?
Im so glad i came across your video... many coloured families have siblings who passes foe white and had ro disown the rest of their family at that time... Many white people were happily married ro colourrd people and their children had different skin tones. Many with a coloured accent found it easier ro spek Afrikaans to disguise their coloured accent and was easier to then pass for white.
This needs to stop ,but it’s so tricky that if someone said the wrong thing on social media,it would be a huge thing..well, the ‘wrong’ thing..if you get what I mean!
You are beautiful intelligent and talented! A rich famous movie star you are! Many people switch around accents and words in the United States! Write your story! People will surround you with love and kindness!
Your accent just sounds Afrikaans (or Eastern Cape English, even) to me, so I suppose one has to come from the Cape to hear the difference or something. My mom's family were from the Northern Cape, and would've probably been put in the box "Poor Whites" in those times, because that was what the politicians were peddling to the masses back then, but their heavy accent (much heavier than yours to my ears, anyway) wasn't what distinguished them. AFAIK, every English speaker of those regions (regardless of background) spoke basically Eastern Cape English. They moved to Jo'burg, and all the girls changed their accents, eventually, while the boys kept theirs. (Big family.) So today my mom, aunt, and uncle all live together, getting old, and the two sisters speak Natal English, mainly just because that's how people speak here, but my uncle might be able to "pass for Coloured" - to my ears at least, and I'm probably missing all sorts of nuance that make that idea ridiculous. Actually another one of my uncles was in the queue with a very "Coloured-looking" lady (there's no such tidy box, but somewhere right in the middle of everyone pushed or pulled into what's become that culture there's something like that), who had the same surname as him, so is almost certainly related (because it's a very rare surname) to us. So somewhere back in the past, one branch of the family got put in the one box, and the other got put in the other. Actually now I think of it, that very uncle's first ID book had his classification as Cape Malay, and he had to get it changed to avoid discrimination. Like losing his job - although I think the apartheid government allowed Coloureds to be artisans, so maybe he'd have been OK with it, if he didn't mind being forced to divorce his wife? What a bloody mess. Apart from how cruel it was, what a bloody mess. Just at that simple, neutral level it was a bad policy. I suppose it's only a mess if you make the assumption that it was truly intended as a race classification scheme according to some sort of ideology, primarily, and for most perpetrators. Really it was just a kind of "gerrymander", I think. Just a way those politicians used to "cook the books" to have their shot at staying in power forever and ever amen. (So in a sense, nothing's changed as far as that goes. It's still a fantastic way of making intelligent people behave as if they're stupid, for instance.) The Coloureds with the vote almost certainly would've voted SAP, and not Nat, so the minority government that unseated Smuts had to come up with a scheme to eliminate those votes to protect their very thin hold on power. (The racism and discrimination goes deeper than the shenanigans that went on behind apartheid. Before apartheid, the part of our family that ended up being Coloured - culturally, but politically - by being sent to "their part of town", even then? I think? Or were Coloured townships something they came up with only after the black "locations"? I don't know that part of history. It's just that apartheid itself was largely just "politicians being politicians" - trying to make sure the feathers of their nests never got disturbed, ever again.) Hmm ... I think there was a fair amount of intermixing in neighbourhoods before the Nats put up all the walls? I'm thinking of the stories my mom tells of her childhood neighbours, and, for instance, there was one involving a Mary Patel, who is unlikely to have been apartheid-white. And my granny's doctor of choice was a Dr Malema (maybe family of Julius, though I doubt it). Actually there are photos of the young man they called "Johnny K---" (ugly word in our context). Old car, a bunch of young men standing around it in old fashioned suits, all smiling, all looking just like a bunch of brothers, but one of them is "very black". Son of a domestic worker on my great grandpa's farm who died young and left behind a little orphan with no-one to look after him, so they informally adopted him, and kind-of raised him as their own. (Kind-of, because they let the kids call him that name, and I don't think he got to inherit anything - although neither did the girls, for that matter.) There would have been some very South African distortions in the relations, but he grew up with all the other kids in that house, as one of them, until he grew up. My mom doesn't know what became of him. Went away, she thinks, and was never seen again. Ja ... I think I'll stop wondering and think about something else. And today I have nieces who appear to be black on the outside, but at least one of whom is really a little white girl everyone reads wrong because all they see is the outside. Because all we can ever see, really, of most people, is their outside. She's having a hard time dealing with the world outside, growing up. (Seems to have overcome the first big bump in the road, though.) One more thing (I was about to depart): the hair. I'm surprised there are people who've had a go at your hair (on some kind of racist basis) because I knew a blonde girl once who had pretty much exactly the same hair. And she hated it. Would not hear that it was beautiful. Wanted to permanently make it all thin and straight, instead of abundant and wavy. There's definitely no need to put your hair in some "racism box". People making nasty comments about it would more than likely just be jealous. Some of what's been dished out to you as "racism" is nothing more than just plain bitchiness from someone mean enough to be good at figuring out where someone else's "soft spot" is. I'm pretty sure the hair thing is that. So what about identity? Probably best avoided. Insist that you're Human First, even if others try to herd you toward a narrower pen. That's the best start to putting yourself first. But to the extent that it's "compulsory", one way to see it might be quasi-historically - that you're a person of richer heritage. (At least in terms of your DNA - which hasn't directly experienced your life, which is the main thing that forms the cage around your possibilities, not DNA.) Grab a bunch of stupid exaggerations (since this is not something to take too seriously anyway), and own them. For instance, you could say you're a Khoi/Xhosa/Zulu - whatever African tribe grabs your fancy. You "have some of that in you" (as long as you remember that what you actually have is a whole lot of You in you). And then you could "outdo" all the other members of that tribe/ culture you've appropriated by also being "a Viking girl" (why not?) probably a direct descendant of Edmund the Martyr or Ivar the Boneless (why not?). And then you could "double-outdo" all of those yet again, and be Malagassy, with some Spice Islands/ Polynesia sprinkled in. Yes, it's all just fiction (as far as it relates in any truly meaningful way to the exigencies of today), but it's a game available for you to play as a game. (With the serious purpose of having some control over the feelings the terrible history of this country brings on in moments of today's reality. If you can play with things like that, they become your toys. Harmless, or with blunter fangs.) Psychologically, I'm assuming it's a bad strategy (whatever you construct as the true facts of the matter) to make feeling hurt a large part of you. There's pain enough aplenty on its way from just the Earth-anywhere aspects of life to come, so it's better to make room for it later, than to keep any parts of it you can throw out today. (Yes it's a genuine part of your reality, but that water is not going to flow back upriver, and back the other way under this bridge).
You are a very beautiful coloured lady nd be proud of Yourself dont worry about people... its your life nd create your happiness..god bless u dear...nd enjoy being Your Unique self👏🌹❤💃
You are Beautiful ❤️ I am very sorry to hear what happened to you. Come to the USA , you will not be treated bad here, most all people multi culture, multi ethnicity or have extended family that are from different ethnicity, and our different backgrounds are celebrated here. Marriage between different racial backgrounds is also not a big deal here. May GOD Bless you with healing for your heart, spirit and give you peace and protection always 🙏
I get it that people wanna maintain being coloured but in Europe and USA there’s no grey line you have to choose the significant others whether white, Black or Indian. Imagine if Bernard Parker said am not black in America or Europe they will quickly remind him who he is. The system was supposed to be overhauled in 1994.
You don't look out of place in Suwalki Gap region believe me or not. I met a girl from there in UK and asked her if she's Brazilian, it was very funny when she told me we are both Polish but from opposite corners of Poland. (PL has a square shape)
Race race race is a confusing issue in South Africa. I come from Algeria were race is not at all an issue. I arrived here alllll people think am white and treat me so. I do feel 1000000% that i am african. My white skin, blue eyes blonde hair made lot of black, coloured and indians to treat me that i do not belong to them . I grew up colour blind i arrived here to south africa i become colour crazy. I never care of the colour of any HUMAN what cares more for me is the SOUL of the person. Unfortunately in south africa its not the case. I hate it when i talk to black/ coloured/ indian people i will tel them that am african and alwats their answers : but you are white. So we are all suffring from this funny ugly issue of racism.
I can relate fully to what you are saying Francisca...I'm also a product of Interracial union...I'm turning 39 now and also sit with Racial wounds and trying to make sense of it all... there's a book called "The Lie of 1652"..written by Patric Mellet that helped me Alot in my Anger towards White people...I also are seen as White untill I open my mouth😄...but ja...Alot of confusion was created by the Apartheid mindset and Also Colonizing Racists...I still struggle with the Superiority Complex of "White Afrikaners" but ja realised it's a Human issue and that we should Find our true Identity in The Creator through His Son Yahshua...and it's only through Him that we can really be free from THAT prison you were talking about, because it goes much deeper that just the physical...it's Spiritual, but I digress, Stay well and I hope you find the healing you need.
You are not this body! You are a spirit soul inside that mixed body. You are a part and parcel of God. As a spirit soul you are eternal, full of bliss and knowledge. Your original constitutional position is servant of God and not the servant of fallen human beings.
It’s sad that she feels that it was her that put herself through that. If she is saying her environment wasn’t accepting of mixed race ppl then she felt that she had to have a white accent so that she could pass as a white person. That is not her fault but the people who did that’s fault.
When you mentioned that white Children were laughing at your hair becouse it not straight,Im a bit confused because not all white people have straight hair,some have bush curly hair.
I think she is overreacting or something bc white people love curly hair 😅 I think maybe she tried so hard to fit into the white culture when she knew that she was a coloured person but that's what happens to anyone that's not proud of their heritage. 🤷🏽♀
@@missethio7394 🤔 So let me get this straight, YOU have decided that this stranger is overreacting to white children laughing at her hair- a standard micro aggression against women/girls who are mixed with black or who are just black. Has it occurred to you that those white children laughed at her hair, specifically because they knew she wasn’t white and they didn’t want her to feel welcome? This isn’t really about hair texture 🤦🏻♀️
@@Music45387 Everyone knows that white people appreciate curly hair more than any other race 😂😁 Like I said this woman sounds like she been hurt by white kids bc she wanted to be accepted and be one of them but realized the hard way that she wasn’t one of them. It’s not white kids fault for pointing out that she was unique bc ‘she is unique’ and nothing is wrong with being unique. She sounds like she had self hate issues growing up but I hope she accepts who she is now and embrace her biracial heritage bc she is one unique person and that’s what makes her beautiful.
I am a South African living in the US, people like you here in America are considered Black Americans, just look at vice president Kamala Harris, she looks almost white but you can tell by her phenotype that she has African ancestors. By looking at you are can tell that you have African ancestors. I have found it very troubling that during apartheid colored people never wanted to be referred to as Africans and today when people argue and tell colored people that they are not Africans, some from the colored community get upset. I personally think there is a lot of confusion in the colored community. Remember remember, allowing people to divide us has always been a weapon used against people of African ancestry, they tell colored that they don't look Africans, they tell Zulu tribe that they are different to Xhosa tribe, Swati tribe that they are different to Tshonga/Shangani, divide and conquer has always been a strategy.
What a crazy world we live in. If I had met you without knowing you, I might have thought that you were an Afrikaans speaking person, speaking English. Not that it really matters, 30 years after the end of apartheid government and race is still an issue. Look at the Z-83 form for application for employment in a government dept.
Be proud of whom you are and how God created you through your father and your mother. As for colors, are there any colorless people in this universe? Is white not a color? To call spade a spade are there truly white human beings? Where are they? I mean 'WHITE" human!!! The creator of humans loves all. God loves all.
I hate when any other race classify me if you not sure please ask but please leave the spirit of confusion. Once I saw a lady in Pta and I wasn't sure about her race and nicely ask.Her respond was come look me in the eyes and guess she was Asian.So to the world that thinks there's only black and white sorry think again think twice.
You are authentic, this is important.. God created ONLY A RACE of humans.... There are no 2 race of humans, we are all humans, WHITE OR BLACK... Please do some research, you accent is quite interesting for me and it is good that you coming clean with your past... Thanks for sharing... You are a jewel. KR, VG61
No Afrikaans speaking person is not of mixed race origin. I have DNA tested 10 “white” Afrikaans speaking persons. All are of mixed race origin. The majority of us are decedents of white men and imported slave woman from West Africa , india and Malaysians. I am of Indian, Malay, West Africans and European decent. I have very blue eyes, blond hair and western facial futures. My skin is white and I tan a dark bonze colour. Do not judge people by their looks you might be mistaken. Your coloured accent sounds more like a “ white” Afrikaans accent. You are an Afrikaner. The can just as well do the mental shift and embrace your Afrikaner identity. Many English speaking South Africans are more Afrikaner than the Afrikaners in their way of living and thinking and their values. They are experiencing a continuous identity crises because they belong nowhere. Just accept that you have become Afrikaners. Make the mental shift. Tommy worked at RAU. He was Chinese as his mother and farther were born there. She could barley speak a few words of English. Tommy however spoke English and Afrikaans fluently. No accent in Afrikaans. It was an Afrikaans university. Tommy made the mental shift and became Afrikaans. He was absorbed into the community although he look different. He became one of us. No longer an outsider. We need to embrace our mixed heritage and our Afrikaner identity.
you are so beautiful my sister your hair is beautiful I feel your pain royal descendants of Khoisan tribe we are marginalised. its our land. 15 ish years ago, im Capetonian and in Jozi a wit oom told me why do I reply to him in English; want mnr ek can net sjy en jjjou. he replied but that's your royal accent your royal decree and I at age 30ish didn't understand what the heck he meant or whats he on about. well after years of research now 46, I now understand that our identities were stripped and stolen from us and replaced with sub-par vagabond and fugitive ideologies. Curse of Cain's descendants Genesis 4. that's why when the new SA rainbow nation came into being, they fled once again the run as the earth rejected them again; bible calls them vagabonds and fugitives to colonise another land that doesn't belong to them where they cannot grow anything they need a land that's blessed in order to farm in their own lands everything is sub-par. this is the curse of Cain and his seed. until they come to repentance in front of the courts of heaven through the blood of Jesus not by religion but by relationship with Jesus born again a second time first being born into sin second being reconciled to the kingdom of heaven, will the curse be removed and no more hatred in their hearts. amen
Lol call yourself mixed race if that's what you identity as, but you don't have a "mixed race accent". You have a Coloured accent. Stop hiding from yourself.
How could u feel racism when u look maybe southern european. I am from Spain and afrikaneer women tend to love me , lol. And I am white skin with dark eyes and dark hair.
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My son is 40 and can hardly remember those years...i think you are not telling the truth about the pencil test...and you are talking with same acsent as an afrikaans person trying to speak english stop feeling sorry for yourself
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My grand father was white married coloured...he was disowned by his family but happily accepted by his inlaws.. I look white because both my parents are fair but we happy being coloured..we don't have to pretend we just so confident being just us. It's a pity you have to go through all that nonsense but hey you a very confident woman speaking out. We need more of these truths so to speak . 🙏❤️🌻
Thank you! I am sooo glad that right now I don’t give a shit anymore and I’ll always feel this way.
People need to speak out because there is a hidden truth what we experience.The whole accent thing is so obvious,even just watching tv I can tell how people like us hold back but nobody says anything.ai would absolutely love to do pod casts on this subject.,and it will ruffle a few feathers!
This reminds me so much of my own experience, growing up in South Africa. I went to white boarding schools, at various times. When I returned to my old ("coloured") neighborhood during school holidays, my cousins would make fun of my accent and accuse me of trying to act white.
When I returned to school the kids (and some teachers) would bully me and make fun of me because I didn't sound white enough. So, I suppose I learned to code-switch very quickly at an early age. I tend to pick up regional accents much too easily. We moved around a lot when I was a child.
I live in America now and it infuriates me when people here say that I sound American or I "don't have an accent." It makes me feel like I've lost a part of myself. It always comes back after a week or so, when I visit South Africa.
I also find myself feeling unreasonably offended when people think I'm white but I realize that it's because I was bullied and oppressed by white people as a child. I don't want to be associated with that kind of behavior.
Coloured people think they're above blacks but when whites dish out what you give to us, you're suddenly our kin. Fuck outta here with that BS..
Great God bless you
O God tog...rape my eks n poes
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Exactly this! I am surprised that certain people (read the latest comment telling me to get over myself) don’t have any compassion.Maybe everything was good for them,you know ..candy floss and rainbows and shit,but what we’ve experienced is real.Hold your head up high my dear,you’ve got this!
My mum is white n my dad black,She abandoned me at 2yrs n I was adopted by a Coloured family.I don't have hangups abt bieng Coloured,in fact I'm proud of who I am despite the hardships I went thru growing up.I can write a book abt my life.Accept people as human beings n not for the colour of their skins ❤
Damn right!
I personally love mixed race people. I can't wait for them to be the norm in SA. Much love sis 🥰❤️
It won't happen... Blacks have South Africa on its balls❤️❤️❤️
Thank you! Much love ❤
We are 5 Million mixed people, we the second biggest population in South Africa.
Coloureds make it so hard to be Coloured then get mad when ppl dont want to be classified as it, but honestly the newer generation including me have started to find a pride in our Colouredness despite what ppl say about us, but it's so refreshing to see so many Coloureds redefine the Coloured attitude.
I know ,it’s actually heartbreaking but yes I see how the coloured people are staring to make a stand,although,so many are still prisoners especially in the music industry as far as I aware of!
Reminds of Mariah Carey's interview with Opray; where she was asked to identify herself if she was black or white. Sadly, some coloured brethren are ashamed to be associated with blackness. Colour is nothing but personality/character..I can imagine the torture a minor experiencing discrimination at a tender age. Let us bring our children to be colour blind as a rainball nation.Was fortunate to attend an international college in Canada (UWC) with multiracial to promote international understanding. We're all one creation with different colours like flowers.
@@franciscathomasofficial3392 you are so beautiful, i love your hair. If it means anything to you, I am a white american, and i get discriminated by blacks all over Africa
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YES YOU SHOULD BE VERY PROUD OF WHO YOU ARE AND THE AFRIKAANS THAT YOU SPAEAK ALSO 👍.
As a South-African I get you,you are not alone.Continue to be yourself,there really is only one race the human race,be an individual ,in that way you will make the world, a better place.God intended for a great variety, be happy to be a part of that🤗
I hear you and I agree!
It's never to late to heal. I caught the same grief growing up here in the states. In my 20's is when I realized this is just who I am. Life has been great ever since.
I born in South Africa ( colored mother/ Portuguese father), but at age of 5, my parents broke up and I moved to Portugal and I grew up there with my father. I only came back to South Africa to visit my mother, at age 27. I have South Africa ID and passport but a foreign accent. In South Africa If I keep my mouth shut, people think I am colored, but the moment I talk they can hear that I have a foreign accent. The way I was raised and the way my mother's family was raised, it's such a huge gap, that I have a hard time to deal with it, when I am with them, because they struggle to make ends meet, and I was always a person who had everything I wanted. Sometimes in South Africa I had to use my ID to run some errands, and people get confused because they can hear that I don't speak any of local languages but have valid documents from there.
fernando, but what blend of mix is your mother
This is crazy…and very sad.I hope you are ok deep inside ❤
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Aah my friend.. TRUTH! I also had to 'put on' especially coming from a private school.. I sometimes still do. Professional voice (they call it). Remember when we were testing radio ads for Boebie... the different 'european' foreign accents for 'Mehanos' pizza 😂 and others.
A melting pot of different accents when recording with 'Deja Vu' (the group's name then) YET we were all coloured 🤣🤣
I'M SO HAPPY THAT YOU'RE DOING YOU.. and so successful.. you always shone in my opinion! You illuminated whatever stage you were on.. and still do! This video caused emotions I had forgotten.. Harsh truth and at the same time was a breath of fresh air. Love you stukkend
@@tracesish oh my goodness!!! Those memories!!!!! Hahaha harsh but good old days!!! Where are you? This whole accent thing sounds so stupid but it’s not and it needs to come to light because it is absolutely kak to be in that position..tug of war with white accent -coloured accent..Im so glad I’m over that and live in the UK where people LOVE my natural accent!
Very interesting. I am interested in how you were treated in Portugal?? It also has to do with the fact that Portuguese society has a significant percentage of African blood due to the influx of slaves to Lisbon in the 15th century. Over the centuries these African blood blended into Portuguese society, assimilated and passed on the Portuguese people its genes.
I lived in Cape Town in 2008, as a mixed Brazilian (German Father/Black Mother) I was quite confuse with the term "coloured" the first time I heard was quite funny, I was at the police station looking for an officer and when I asked about him to a lady she said "Oh he´s not here but you can come back later, he is the only COLOURED in the shift" then I said "What the heck is a coloured? " And she answered "Well, I´m black, the guy over there is white and YOU are coloured"
T.I.A This is Africa!
Go to Brazil, where the denial is even worse. The censor has perhaps 40+ shades of colour classifications.
This lovely lady is speaking the truth from deep within and that we are greatful for and God bless.
It took me years to find myself. I did a DNA , 12 different nationalities . I'm proud of my heritage and I could not choose my colour . I live abroad and the I'm happy that I belong to the human race. At the end of the day , peace with oneself and my self esteem is not determined by the opinions of others.
there is no such thing as a "human race" talk about "human species"
I was born and raised in The Gambia and I live in the US. People of mixed race or people of color are not treated any differently than blacks or white people. It is sad to hear your story. But from my experience in West Africa, mixed races are an intricate part of the society, they have assimilated and accepted as part of the community. We don't discriminate against them. I am glad to hear your story you are a great and strong woman. Hang in there
relate so hard to this. My grandfather was a white south african and my gran was black and indian mixed race. My dad is a white man from europe and I have a european passport and now I live in Europe. I was bullied mercilessly by white kids and told I am "nothing but a goffle" growing up and coloured kids called me hoity-toity and "play white". We grew up in SA, Zambia and Zimbabwe. No one in the world is as racist as a white rhodie. It was an awful life. I also used to straighten my hair all the time (sadly still do a lot of the time). I have so much trauma from the way white people treated me. My ex husband was a white rhodie and his family were so racist. He told me not to talk about being mixed and just say I'm white because "a coloured girl is like a scooter, fun to ride but you don't want to be seen on one." I wish I never married him. Since moving to europe I've seen that behaviour is not normal and I don't have to hide or hate myself or be anything different or try to fit in anywhere and I remarried a French man and it's been amazing not to have to deal with racism and be loved and accepted for who I am but people here can't understand what I went through. I have been for years of therapy but it's something I am still struggling to get over. I have severe PTSD from the bullying and also from the abusive relationship and it's worse because I have to co-parent since the divorce because he needed my european passport to get him out of africa and a child so he could manipulate me. What a nightmare.
When i moved to america,being a mixed race coloured person i marked myself down as "other" because by then i realized that i was tired of convincing people what the fuck i was.
What did they think you were?
Yep,I get that ..it’s exhausting isn’t it! As long as you’re ok! ❤
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It's weird for sure, but overall it's too late. If one counts as biracial, you have to count the rest of them. Theres a lot of us, whether we look like it or not, that would have to be removed from the "black" category in the U.S. if we changed the rules here.
From historical figures to celebrities, that would split us in half lol
@cool 123 because thats what they are black lol. only people refer to themselves that way are ashamed that they are black but will never be accepted as white or identified as such which they long so much for. but not surprised they have that mindset when their culture is different due to not experiencing slavery accompanied with jim crow. they never had black power movements to bring them together and eliminate self hate imposed by white oppressors on them like their american counter parts have. black is a term of empowerment used to unify as black people come in many different shades but i wouldnt expect those from africa to know about the history of black americans its much different than the history they learn about colonization.
My story is very similar to yours. My mom was Cape Malay and my dad white. My mom very light skinned but lots of Asian features. Growing up i was fair but very curly hair just a little tighter curl than yours. My father always told me I am white. I always knew I wasn't fully white, I knew my Malay family looked different to me but you don't think of it. Only as adult I fully understand and own who I am. Every part of me and it's set me so free.
Thank you so much for this video, completely understand and relate. ❤❤
Im coloured my husband White..my children came up with a term Hybrid..I taught them to be very confident in who they are..they look coloured with white essence..but i teach them to embrace both sides.
Lovely one Hybrid❤
Thank you for being real and sharing your story. You are even more beautiful from the inside 🙏
As a proud mixed race Capetonian, I thank you so much for this video! I can relate so much to your experience. I had the same experience. The accent situation, being led to believe I was white, everything! Only at age 16 did I really start to truly understand who I am. For so long I felt alone in this, like nobody else experienced or understood how it feels!
I think you are beautiful and your accent is beaitiful. A true Mzansi girl❤
I am a South African living in Canada for a long time, and this Soweto accent is not going anywhere.. LOL. Canadians better get use to it. So dont worry about them haters and do you. ❤❤❤
Generally racism in South Africa doesn't come from the Africans (who are some of the most passive, peaceful ppl on earth) it generally comes from non black groups.
Not just SA but all Southern African countries. Minorities are the racists here and they feel superior to us. 😂
Amen
@@joe_lubinda you call us half breeds 🤫
@@imaafrikaaner4669 I don't remember calling you that.
@@joe_lubinda black call coloureds half breeds many more things
Love from Afro Mandingo man from Gambia. 🇬🇲 Francisca hold firm strong 💪 and stay stay true to yourself ✨️ ❤
I was called chocolate face at my model c school. Now I have a profession in England and half those bigots are hustlers in SA
Geez!
Why they call you that if you don't mind me asking
9:26 i was also put through this trial of identity, constantly being tested on my accents and performances of colouredness from everyone whites,blacks and coloureds themselves.
My dear friend you were made in the image of God.Being coloured or mixed race,all the good characteristics of your mixed ancestry were brought together in you.
Coloureds (Afrikaans: Kleurlinge or Bruinmense, lit. 'Brown people') are a multiracial ethnic group native to Southern Africa who have ancestry from more than one of the various populations inhabiting the region, including Khoisan, Bantu, European, Austronesian, South Asian, or East Asian. Because of the combination of ethnicities, different families and individuals within a family may have a variety of different physical features.
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Coloured people are native to Cape Town
Let's not misinterpret history and redefine race and terminology. Colored are not native to South Africa, native people are people who are fully Africans such as Zulu, Nama, Xhosa, San, Hadza, Lembe, Xoi, Batswana and other tribes. Also, very few colored people have Khoisan blood, those who have San blood is about 5%., compare that with the Xhosa people who most of them have above 25% "Khoisan" blood and look very similar to San, or "Khoisan", look at Nelson Mandela, Nasty and most Ngunu people, not just their phenotype but hair texture and culture. Colored people are our brothers and related to everyone in South Africa and even within colored people look very different from each other.
@@gedenironald8635Preach, Cape Malays want us to forget that they originate from Malaysia and now claim to originate from Cape town. Mixed race is not Cape Malay and Cape Malays are not Khoi or San or any tribe of Africa but from Malaysia. I really love our Indian South Africans cause they never get it twisted they know their origins and still respect their cultures and traditions. This lady is mixed race but she is calling herself colors, it makes no sense.
We don’t need to live in the shadow of Eurocentric beauty standards. Everyone is beautiful in their own way.
I was there for the confusion of your childhood and I also though it was unfair to people to put you in a box. You were always so full of life and your mom fought for you guys always. It wasn't fair toward you and your sisters. It's still the norm here in South Africa. Once your category is established in South Africa people think they know how to treat you. Why can I not been seen as human being. Good that you spoke about this Fran
Francisca, I understand this conflict. I hope from the time you spoke in this video that you continued to heal. Thank you.
If I was with my college-educated African Americans they mocked my southern accent. And so when I was around them or whites or my professors, I spoke their dialect. If I was with my granny, i returned to my natural born Arkansas Missouri Mississippi. And although I am brown nowhere near looking white, classmates accused me of straightening my hair when they saw my visible hairline at a scarf. More painful was when others were teased for having kinky hair.
Talk how you want to talk, sing how you want to sing. You have a beautiful voice. Just be you. You'll always get the haters. It's sad i know but enjoy your life and don't care who judges you. Love your new music with Splash Blue. Love and well wishes to you and your family.
Thank you so much! I am happy with who I am 😊
Don't worry about your accent we are from the UK my children are Brits but, very young when we came to SA it's over forty years we have been here, my son used to switch his accent all the time, my daughter never bothered and even to this day I've still got my East Midlands accent. We've never let it get to us and if we don't fit in we don't. Accents shouldn't have to be a big deal. Keep your original accent
Hi girl sing in the glory of GOD and forget this race mix, your voice to GOD is all that matters be blessed.
So sorry for the unnecessary racism you have been subjected to. When will this insanity come to an end in South Africa or in the world? Lady, you're beautiful the way you are, your accent, your hair, your parents, just be appreciative and be grateful for them. There are poor kids/people who have no parents and family. So, why worry yourself? Black South African man from East London. ❤❤
Be yourself, do not concern yourself with your accent. Being able to put on different accents is a gift. You're a beautiful woman...go out with confidence as the world is your oyster.
I appreciate your honesty. You are genuine. Its only God who is without any fault and totally blameless. Love your honesty. You're are more than blessed. Good day.
As you speak I can see the pain in your eyes and that time you are 39 but the pain still lingers on your mind. That's why it makes me angry when people say we should move on because Apartheid is a thing of the past whilst the people who are affected by it are still alive and the trauma is still there. Just to add, SA needs a deep self introspection, we need to focus on similar things that we share than our differences. We tend to focus on our differences that's why there's still a race issue. Let's deal with what we share as a people, it could be the ANC that's corrupt, crime that is affecting us, gangsterism, unemployment, religion, I think this way we could see past our differences. You older than me but you look gorgeous and I can't imagine what you went through but with time you will heal Queen. You have beautiful hair, beautiful eyes and a lovely personality. Sending Love 💕
Aaah thank you so much.It’s really nice to see some support and no hatred here,thank you! ❤
Race is a very complex in South Africa.
find me a place where its not and i'll have a bridge to sell to ya lol!.
Oh my gosh, you are gorgeous!!!! I m sorry to hear things are like that here.
Wow very well said. Pure honesty. There lots of ppl who mite have same stories.
Your a beautiful woman, with beautiful accent, beautiful hair , beautiful mind set , only problem I see with u is that I'm alrdy married.
No for real, we'll said and point taken. I'm sure this video has a greater impact than u thought it wod.
Being free only requires being yourself ,screw the labels ,screw stigmas most importantly forget the past ...and jst be light 💡
We love you south african , from quebec Canada 🇨🇦
Francisca you have won your battle with flying colors !!!
You are very attractive, you have gorgeous hair and I love your natural home accent !
Now listen ! Whites from all over the world and even in South Africa do not all have the "same white accent" ....so which white accent is the correct one ??? hey ,hey, hey !
Honor God and be greatful and blessed and proud how God made you. You don't have to change a thing...stay as you are.
I understand what made you think differently as a child...but I'll tell you what ...I love the Cape accent.
You are so beautiful btw. I personally think the accent thing is part of uniqueness. You literally chanced your accent throughout the video explaining so it's automatic I think. What I learned in this video is that we all given a empty plastic bag the goal is not to break it, put whatever you want inside
Ive been experiencing racism lately from black people, like for example when i walk past a group of black people i will get dirty agressive looks from them and sometimes even they will gossip in their native language.There will be times even when i enter a store employees will stare and eventually when i leave ill hear laughing behind my back
Idk is this culture or is it a misunderstanding that i am making ?
In North America, she would pass for white ( Miami , Montreal,); a heart-wrenching story !
Hey, why highlight those two cities?
It is great that you have spoken out about it. You should not be ashamed. Society is to blame for this horrible nonsense!
You belong where ever you loved and respected.
If someone don't like you for any reason they don't deserve to be part of your life.
😮 It's bad mam but in SA you don't have to worry about those things move on and keep building yourself
Very deep and real subject matter. Thanks for sharing. More power.
It's becoming more normal & not such a big deal in Cape due to the influx of a lot of internationally people moving in.) ❤ 🇿🇦 🇿🇦 🇿🇦
Im so glad i came across your video... many coloured families have siblings who passes foe white and had ro disown the rest of their family at that time... Many white people were happily married ro colourrd people and their children had different skin tones.
Many with a coloured accent found it easier ro spek Afrikaans to disguise their coloured accent and was easier to then pass for white.
Im in the same boat i have Fijian and German Heritage and people in SA want to put you in a box!!!im 41 now and still going through this!!!
This needs to stop ,but it’s so tricky that if someone said the wrong thing on social media,it would be a huge thing..well, the ‘wrong’ thing..if you get what I mean!
You are beautiful intelligent and talented! A rich famous movie star you are! Many people switch around accents and words in the United States! Write your story! People will surround you with love and kindness!
That is so lovely thank you so much 😊 ❤
Much love to you sister ❤️
Your accent just sounds Afrikaans (or Eastern Cape English, even) to me, so I suppose one has to come from the Cape to hear the difference or something. My mom's family were from the Northern Cape, and would've probably been put in the box "Poor Whites" in those times, because that was what the politicians were peddling to the masses back then, but their heavy accent (much heavier than yours to my ears, anyway) wasn't what distinguished them. AFAIK, every English speaker of those regions (regardless of background) spoke basically Eastern Cape English.
They moved to Jo'burg, and all the girls changed their accents, eventually, while the boys kept theirs. (Big family.) So today my mom, aunt, and uncle all live together, getting old, and the two sisters speak Natal English, mainly just because that's how people speak here, but my uncle might be able to "pass for Coloured" - to my ears at least, and I'm probably missing all sorts of nuance that make that idea ridiculous. Actually another one of my uncles was in the queue with a very "Coloured-looking" lady (there's no such tidy box, but somewhere right in the middle of everyone pushed or pulled into what's become that culture there's something like that), who had the same surname as him, so is almost certainly related (because it's a very rare surname) to us. So somewhere back in the past, one branch of the family got put in the one box, and the other got put in the other. Actually now I think of it, that very uncle's first ID book had his classification as Cape Malay, and he had to get it changed to avoid discrimination. Like losing his job - although I think the apartheid government allowed Coloureds to be artisans, so maybe he'd have been OK with it, if he didn't mind being forced to divorce his wife? What a bloody mess. Apart from how cruel it was, what a bloody mess. Just at that simple, neutral level it was a bad policy.
I suppose it's only a mess if you make the assumption that it was truly intended as a race classification scheme according to some sort of ideology, primarily, and for most perpetrators. Really it was just a kind of "gerrymander", I think. Just a way those politicians used to "cook the books" to have their shot at staying in power forever and ever amen. (So in a sense, nothing's changed as far as that goes. It's still a fantastic way of making intelligent people behave as if they're stupid, for instance.) The Coloureds with the vote almost certainly would've voted SAP, and not Nat, so the minority government that unseated Smuts had to come up with a scheme to eliminate those votes to protect their very thin hold on power.
(The racism and discrimination goes deeper than the shenanigans that went on behind apartheid. Before apartheid, the part of our family that ended up being Coloured - culturally, but politically - by being sent to "their part of town", even then? I think? Or were Coloured townships something they came up with only after the black "locations"? I don't know that part of history. It's just that apartheid itself was largely just "politicians being politicians" - trying to make sure the feathers of their nests never got disturbed, ever again.)
Hmm ... I think there was a fair amount of intermixing in neighbourhoods before the Nats put up all the walls? I'm thinking of the stories my mom tells of her childhood neighbours, and, for instance, there was one involving a Mary Patel, who is unlikely to have been apartheid-white. And my granny's doctor of choice was a Dr Malema (maybe family of Julius, though I doubt it).
Actually there are photos of the young man they called "Johnny K---" (ugly word in our context). Old car, a bunch of young men standing around it in old fashioned suits, all smiling, all looking just like a bunch of brothers, but one of them is "very black". Son of a domestic worker on my great grandpa's farm who died young and left behind a little orphan with no-one to look after him, so they informally adopted him, and kind-of raised him as their own. (Kind-of, because they let the kids call him that name, and I don't think he got to inherit anything - although neither did the girls, for that matter.) There would have been some very South African distortions in the relations, but he grew up with all the other kids in that house, as one of them, until he grew up. My mom doesn't know what became of him. Went away, she thinks, and was never seen again. Ja ... I think I'll stop wondering and think about something else.
And today I have nieces who appear to be black on the outside, but at least one of whom is really a little white girl everyone reads wrong because all they see is the outside. Because all we can ever see, really, of most people, is their outside. She's having a hard time dealing with the world outside, growing up. (Seems to have overcome the first big bump in the road, though.)
One more thing (I was about to depart): the hair. I'm surprised there are people who've had a go at your hair (on some kind of racist basis) because I knew a blonde girl once who had pretty much exactly the same hair. And she hated it. Would not hear that it was beautiful. Wanted to permanently make it all thin and straight, instead of abundant and wavy. There's definitely no need to put your hair in some "racism box". People making nasty comments about it would more than likely just be jealous. Some of what's been dished out to you as "racism" is nothing more than just plain bitchiness from someone mean enough to be good at figuring out where someone else's "soft spot" is. I'm pretty sure the hair thing is that.
So what about identity? Probably best avoided. Insist that you're Human First, even if others try to herd you toward a narrower pen. That's the best start to putting yourself first. But to the extent that it's "compulsory", one way to see it might be quasi-historically - that you're a person of richer heritage. (At least in terms of your DNA - which hasn't directly experienced your life, which is the main thing that forms the cage around your possibilities, not DNA.)
Grab a bunch of stupid exaggerations (since this is not something to take too seriously anyway), and own them. For instance, you could say you're a Khoi/Xhosa/Zulu - whatever African tribe grabs your fancy. You "have some of that in you" (as long as you remember that what you actually have is a whole lot of You in you). And then you could "outdo" all the other members of that tribe/ culture you've appropriated by also being "a Viking girl" (why not?) probably a direct descendant of Edmund the Martyr or Ivar the Boneless (why not?). And then you could "double-outdo" all of those yet again, and be Malagassy, with some Spice Islands/ Polynesia sprinkled in. Yes, it's all just fiction (as far as it relates in any truly meaningful way to the exigencies of today), but it's a game available for you to play as a game. (With the serious purpose of having some control over the feelings the terrible history of this country brings on in moments of today's reality. If you can play with things like that, they become your toys. Harmless, or with blunter fangs.) Psychologically, I'm assuming it's a bad strategy (whatever you construct as the true facts of the matter) to make feeling hurt a large part of you. There's pain enough aplenty on its way from just the Earth-anywhere aspects of life to come, so it's better to make room for it later, than to keep any parts of it you can throw out today.
(Yes it's a genuine part of your reality, but that water is not going to flow back upriver, and back the other way under this bridge).
@sicko_the_ew Has anyone told you that you are a talented writer and story teller. I enjoyed reading your comment. I think you have a lot to tell.
@@asherngoma8934 :-) Thanks! Glad you enjoyed reading it.
You are a very beautiful coloured lady nd be proud of Yourself dont worry about people... its your life nd create your happiness..god bless u dear...nd enjoy being Your Unique self👏🌹❤💃
She's black
You are Beautiful ❤️ I am very sorry to hear what happened to you. Come to the USA , you will not be treated bad here, most all people multi culture, multi ethnicity or have extended family that are from different ethnicity, and our different backgrounds are celebrated here. Marriage between different racial backgrounds is also not a big deal here. May GOD Bless you with healing for your heart, spirit and give you peace and protection always 🙏
I like your hair
I get it that people wanna maintain being coloured but in Europe and USA there’s no grey line you have to choose the significant others whether white, Black or Indian. Imagine if Bernard Parker said am not black in America or Europe they will quickly remind him who he is. The system was supposed to be overhauled in 1994.
You are so beautiful inside & out just how God created you!
Thank you so much ..just like God has created everyone the same ❤
You don't look out of place in Suwalki Gap region believe me or not. I met a girl from there in UK and asked her if she's Brazilian, it was very funny when she told me we are both Polish but from opposite corners of Poland. (PL has a square shape)
What did you expect ? Cape Town is one of the most racist cities on earth. It is so harshly segregated on racial and social lines.
I know,but when you’re taught certain things being at such a young age where you can’t think for yourself yet,…that’s the problem!
Capetown needs to account for this.
Nothing is better than being natural we all unique accouding to our creation .
Race race race is a confusing issue in South Africa. I come from Algeria were race is not at all an issue. I arrived here alllll people think am white and treat me so. I do feel 1000000% that i am african. My white skin, blue eyes blonde hair made lot of black, coloured and indians to treat me that i do not belong to them . I grew up colour blind i arrived here to south africa i become colour crazy. I never care of the colour of any HUMAN what cares more for me is the SOUL of the person. Unfortunately in south africa its not the case.
I hate it when i talk to black/ coloured/ indian people i will tel them that am african and alwats their answers : but you are white. So we are all suffring from this funny ugly issue of racism.
I can relate fully to what you are saying Francisca...I'm also a product of Interracial union...I'm turning 39 now and also sit with Racial wounds and trying to make sense of it all... there's a book called "The Lie of 1652"..written by Patric Mellet that helped me Alot in my Anger towards White people...I also are seen as White untill I open my mouth😄...but ja...Alot of confusion was created by the Apartheid mindset and Also Colonizing Racists...I still struggle with the Superiority Complex of "White Afrikaners" but ja realised it's a Human issue and that we should Find our true Identity in The Creator through His Son Yahshua...and it's only through Him that we can really be free from THAT prison you were talking about, because it goes much deeper that just the physical...it's Spiritual, but I digress, Stay well and I hope you find the healing you need.
You are not this body! You are a spirit soul inside that mixed body. You are a part and parcel of God. As a spirit soul you are eternal, full of bliss and knowledge. Your original constitutional position is servant of God and not the servant of fallen human beings.
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This realization is the actual goal of human life
It’s sad that she feels that it was her that put herself through that. If she is saying her environment wasn’t accepting of mixed race ppl then she felt that she had to have a white accent so that she could pass as a white person. That is not her fault but the people who did that’s fault.
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No matter the race, you are a BEAUTIFUL girl .
Felicitations for your courageous act and the way you dealt with this pain.
When you mentioned that white Children were laughing at your hair becouse it not straight,Im a bit confused because not all white people have straight hair,some have bush curly hair.
Our hair texture is different.have u ever heard the term white peoples hair when someone hair was straight vs kroes curly hair before
I think she is overreacting or something bc white people love curly hair 😅
I think maybe she tried so hard to fit into the white culture when she knew that she was a coloured person but that's what happens to anyone that's not proud of their heritage. 🤷🏽♀
@@missethio7394 🤔 So let me get this straight, YOU have decided that this stranger is overreacting to white children laughing at her hair- a standard micro aggression against women/girls who are mixed with black or who are just black. Has it occurred to you that those white children laughed at her hair, specifically because they knew she wasn’t white and they didn’t want her to feel welcome? This isn’t really about hair texture 🤦🏻♀️
@@Music45387 I don’t get what u trying to convey kid 😓
@@Music45387 Everyone knows that white people appreciate curly hair more than any other race 😂😁
Like I said this woman sounds like she been hurt by white kids bc she wanted to be accepted and be one of them but realized the hard way that she wasn’t one of them. It’s not white kids fault for pointing out that she was unique bc ‘she is unique’ and nothing is wrong with being unique. She sounds like she had self hate issues growing up but I hope she accepts who she is now and embrace her biracial heritage bc she is one unique person and that’s what makes her beautiful.
Good job don't let no one judge you by the color of your skin
Seriously how beautiful is this lady wow.
Have you ever watched the old Hollywood movie "Imitation of Life". Your testimony reminds me of that movie. It's a tear jerker.
Nice! You have grown up now. You will start your journey in life now.
Yesss! 😊❤
PLAY YOUR PART ...TO BE ACCEPTED
There's only one race:"humans race " and our blood is red , how's that
I am a South African living in the US, people like you here in America are considered Black Americans, just look at vice president Kamala Harris, she looks almost white but you can tell by her phenotype that she has African ancestors. By looking at you are can tell that you have African ancestors. I have found it very troubling that during apartheid colored people never wanted to be referred to as Africans and today when people argue and tell colored people that they are not Africans, some from the colored community get upset. I personally think there is a lot of confusion in the colored community. Remember remember, allowing people to divide us has always been a weapon used against people of African ancestry, they tell colored that they don't look Africans, they tell Zulu tribe that they are different to Xhosa tribe, Swati tribe that they are different to Tshonga/Shangani, divide and conquer has always been a strategy.
What a crazy world we live in. If I had met you without knowing you, I might have thought that you were an Afrikaans speaking person, speaking English. Not that it really matters, 30 years after the end of apartheid government and race is still an issue. Look at the Z-83 form for application for employment in a government dept.
Good story and encouraging one
I'm a white American , my father was Romanian and Chec technically were all brown
Vote for the PA for a home
Don't worry be happy 😊🎉
Hearing about colored people in South Africa kind of fascinates me…. in America. Y’all are considered black like my kids are mixed they are black
in the US the "one drop rule" makes it simpler ☹
Interestingly, there are hints of an English accent in your speech.
Haha been living in the uk since 2007 😊❤
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Be proud of whom you are and how God created you through your father and your mother. As for colors, are there any colorless people in this universe? Is white not a color? To call spade a spade are there truly white human beings? Where are they? I mean 'WHITE" human!!! The creator of humans loves all. God loves all.
Why are all mixed girls so beautiful? 😍
You're beautiful and your accent in only south African.
Thank you 😊❤
I hate when any other race classify me if you not sure please ask but please leave the spirit of confusion. Once I saw a lady in Pta and I wasn't sure about her race and nicely ask.Her respond was come look me in the eyes and guess she was Asian.So to the world that thinks there's only black and white sorry think again think twice.
I would love to hear your white accent!
You are authentic, this is important.. God created ONLY A RACE of humans....
There are no 2 race of humans, we are all humans, WHITE OR BLACK...
Please do some research, you accent is quite interesting for me and it is good that you coming clean with your past...
Thanks for sharing... You are a jewel.
KR,
VG61
No Afrikaans speaking person is not of mixed race origin. I have DNA tested 10 “white” Afrikaans speaking persons. All are of mixed race origin. The majority of us are decedents of white men and imported slave woman from West Africa , india and Malaysians. I am of Indian, Malay, West Africans and European decent. I have very blue eyes, blond hair and western facial futures. My skin is white and I tan a dark bonze colour. Do not judge people by their looks you might be mistaken. Your coloured accent sounds more like a “ white” Afrikaans accent. You are an Afrikaner. The can just as well do the mental shift and embrace your Afrikaner identity. Many English speaking South Africans are more Afrikaner than the Afrikaners in their way of living and thinking and their values. They are experiencing a continuous identity crises because they belong nowhere. Just accept that you have become Afrikaners. Make the mental shift. Tommy worked at RAU. He was Chinese as his mother and farther were born there. She could barley speak a few words of English. Tommy however spoke English and Afrikaans fluently. No accent in Afrikaans. It was an Afrikaans university. Tommy made the mental shift and became Afrikaans. He was absorbed into the community although he look different. He became one of us. No longer an outsider. We need to embrace our mixed heritage and our Afrikaner identity.
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you are so beautiful my sister your hair is beautiful I feel your pain royal descendants of Khoisan tribe we are marginalised. its our land. 15 ish years ago, im Capetonian and in Jozi a wit oom told me why do I reply to him in English; want mnr ek can net sjy en jjjou. he replied but that's your royal accent your royal decree and I at age 30ish didn't understand what the heck he meant or whats he on about. well after years of research now 46, I now understand that our identities were stripped and stolen from us and replaced with sub-par vagabond and fugitive ideologies. Curse of Cain's descendants Genesis 4. that's why when the new SA rainbow nation came into being, they fled once again the run as the earth rejected them again; bible calls them vagabonds and fugitives to colonise another land that doesn't belong to them where they cannot grow anything they need a land that's blessed in order to farm in their own lands everything is sub-par. this is the curse of Cain and his seed. until they come to repentance in front of the courts of heaven through the blood of Jesus not by religion but by relationship with Jesus born again a second time first being born into sin second being reconciled to the kingdom of heaven, will the curse be removed and no more hatred in their hearts. amen
Which white? British, Dutch? Not all white is the same
Let us connect please. Same experience on my side 😕🤘🏽
Hey,you can find me on ig @franciscathomasuk ..please dm me ❤
Lol call yourself mixed race if that's what you identity as, but you don't have a "mixed race accent". You have a Coloured accent. Stop hiding from yourself.
How could u feel racism when u look maybe southern european.
I am from Spain and afrikaneer women tend to love me , lol.
And I am white skin with dark eyes and dark hair.
My son is 40 and can hardly remember those years...i think you are not telling the truth about the pencil test...and you are talking with same acsent as an afrikaans person trying to speak english stop feeling sorry for yourself
Why are you complaining? During apartheid, you would have been a citizen, where as a black person would not.
Oh, it's victim hour?! Wait, let me get my coffee!