GROWING UP MIXED IN AMERICA | My Experience Being Half Black and White Passing | Chit Chat
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- Опубликовано: 31 май 2024
- As a half black kid that’s completely white passing, I’ve experienced a unique view on race and identity growing up. From moderating my blackness to recognizing my white privilege, I will share my personal struggles coping with how I have ethnically identified throughout the years.
✰CHAPTERS✰
2:00 - Youth to Middle School
6:53 - High School and College Applications
10:29 - Black Scholarship Luncheon
12:30 - College
15:52 - Black Lives Matter Movement
19:30 - Current Views
✰ STORY TIMES✰
I Knew a Murderer - • Video
Roller Rink Murder - • Video
Halloween Shooting Horror - • Video
Maid of Honor Nightmare - • BACHELORETTE PARTY NIG...
Hotel Hookup Gone Wrong - • HOTEL HOOKUP GONE WRON...
Craziest Uber Ride- • The BEST Uber Driver I...
My Identity Was Stolen - • MY IDENTITY WAS STOLEN...
I Had A Huge Tumor Removed - • I HAD A HUGE TUMOR ON ...
Weight Loss Boot Camp Horror: • WEIGHT LOSS BOOTCAMP S...
I Got Fired: • I GOT FIRED | Getting ...
✰ SOCIAL JUSTICE & MENTAL HEALTH✰
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stopaapihate.org/
impact.site/#asianamericans
National Suicide Hotline - 1-800-273-8255
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1-800-656-4673
General Mental Health Hotline - 1-877-726-4727
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✰ ABOUT ME ✰
Hi Friends,
My name is Jacy, your resident Curly Hair Extraordinaire! I’m out in Los Angeles living my best life, hanging with family, and being silly in the process. I like to make videos exploring the city, testing out new projects, and telling fun stories about myself along the way. I'd love for you to stick around to share some laughs.
Toodles!
Jacy
✰ LET’S CONNECT ✰
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I’m actually 100% black and I used to get the “You don’t talk black” “act black” called an Oreo
I’m 56 and have times where I still have moments from the past trauma. Stereotypes are horrible. Racism is so ingrained that people don’t realize how much it impacts/limits their lives.
Same with me, Holly - both my parents are black, and I took a lot of crap from other black kids in junior high about being light skinned, not talking black enough, not being black enough, and on and on. We emphasize racism experiences at the hand of white people (and I experienced this too as a very young kid, I'm talking real racism), but in contrast we rarely talk about colorism prejudices within the black community and how we denigrate each other with reverse racist stereotypes.
You're not 100% Black if you and your grandparents are American - Black. You're likely at least 30-40% White. Get real, get a DNA test :P
9 times out of 10 you were doing something off code, or weird. I know my people.
you can be yourself without being called an oreo. you were probably doing the most looking down
or just straight up doing stuff thats off code. like walking around talking like a valley girl listening to smash mouth
and being a teachers pet.
Just a crybaby you will be alright
@@catchwreck928 congratulations, you just made my point.
I’m black and white. I always hear I look Spanish till I say I’m black and white, they look shock and say really. Like I’m proud of what I am. I wouldn’t change it for anything ❤️
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Awesome
I feel u bro I get that all the time!
I won't lie Danny I thought you were either 🇵🇷🇩🇴..but nonetheless bro you have the best of both worlds like you said be super proud of your beautiful 🔙 ground my brotha👊🏿👊🏿
@@mocancer8485 thank you, that means a lot man, and I always will, gotta love ourselves no matter what. Stay true brotha 👊🏼👊🏼
I’m a therapist and I just used some of your video in a presentation for understanding mixed race identity development at Vassar College. Your story really highlighted and made all the academic stuff much more personal and thought provoking. Thank you for being so vulnerable about an important topic!
Damn that was deep to embrace black while realizing that your black experience was different from others,I am black and impressed with your truths
Why? She can always lean on her white side, which keeps a foot in our black ass
Im Afro Caribbean/ Black woman and Ive been taking the time to sit back and listen to experiences of black and white bi-racial/mixed people and Im learning a lot. Thank you for sharing.
Very considerate comment, we are quick to give solutions or make excuses when sometimes the best we can do is just listen and learn. Thank you for sharing.
Interesting!
Cheers for being honest!
I have no need to learn any more about white folks and Bi-racial folks
@@Oldschool504 yet you want others to give 2fs about the plight of your own people? The world is simple, you give compassion you get same, you give grace you get grace.
@@farman96 Others will never give a shyt about Black Folks in this country, especially white folks. Equality, Payment, and being left alone are all Blacks asked for yet it's too much. None of the three will come without fighting for it. It's just how things are. Compassion has "always" been given, along with "forgiveness"
As a father of a bi-racial daughter I wanna give you a huge hug! I sat my 13 y.o. Down to watch your video and it was eye opening for both of us. Bless you for this because it has opened new dialogue between us.❤️
I just want to respectfully say I hope that your daughter represents her blackness more proudly than the mixed up sister in this video bc allowing whites to shame black ppl around you is unacceptable to our lineage
Proud to be Mestizo.
Very well done, Jacy. I’m a 60 yo biracial male and can recall many of the childhood experiences you shared. Thank you for sharing yours. I passed your video along to my sisters and one of my nieces (also “passing”). Thanks. 😌
I like that you embrace that you do not face the same struggles as dark skinned people.
All of this! I’m also half black and half white. Had a total identity crisis during the protests. Have had people tell racist jokes around me because they don’t know I’m black. Found Halsey’s words affirming/clarifying. I found your channel because I’m still trying to process exactly what my identity means to me and looking for more mixed people experiences. Thanks for sharing :)
Thank you for sharing Katie! It's definitely been an interesting year navigating our identities, and it'll be something we'll always have to deal with. But listening to others experiences is helpful, and I'm glad I was able to help you!
From your pic, you look mostly like a black person. You have a ethnic face
Your not black your mixed
@@Blackraregem There is no such thing as mixed, the man carries the seed, so therefore you are what your father is! The term mixed, concept or ideology is a social construct created for political use! The father determines the nation its been this way since ancient times, every thing else is new age established for political use!
if that's the case men should be able to procreate alone. If that was the case we wouldn't have white passing kids with black fathers. If that was the case we wouldn't have unambiguously black looking kids with white fathers. It takes two black parents to make a black child and two white parents to make a white child. The woman's egg carries as much genetic material as the sperm or else you'd able to reproduce with just sperm. Her egg is going to carry genetic material from her lineage rather you like it or not.and not only that but genetically, a person actually carries more of his/her mother's genes than his/her father's. The reason is little organelles that live within cells, the mitochondria, which are only received from a mother. Mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell and is inherited from the mother.
I’m
Black and Persian and most people confuse me with a Hispanic person. It was a very rough and confusing life in my earlier years to say the least. You always feel like you don’t fit in with either side and always looking in from the outside. I’ve been told that I’m not really black also by other black people
Even though the only family I know or had was black. The only way to get through this life when you’re born into these situations is to be your own and love yourself.
Prob'ly because Hispanic is not a race. They are typically mixed(Blk, Southern European, and Indigenous) by default
Hispanic ancestors stem from the Persian empire
@@muiclay8565 Que???? WTF???
@@25oxendine😂😂😂😂 i know right he is ridiculous we all know indians have Asian blood not no persian
@@muiclay8565liar
Girl check BOTH boxes and don’t worry about anything. Black men will LOVE you forever
20:28 I am a Black grandfather of 3 biracial teenagers. I've often wondered what they have gone through and will go through in their lives. Watching your video has been most informative. Thank you for your clear and honest comments and insights.
This is why I dislike mixed/biracial people either categorizing themselves or black people demanding that they are categorized as just black. They are not black. They have a different experience from both black and white people, good and bad. It’s not just that they can’t relate to some of the black experience, I can’t relate to the mixed experience so why would we be considered the same?
We don't get to dictate what people identify as. Interesting folks are quick to claim Mariah Carey, Megan Markel, Katherine Johnson etc. as Black
@@smarie4834 Mariah Carey, Obama, Megan Markel etc are NOT black
If you are mixed and don't pass, you will be considered black by the construct. Lol. Try calling yourself white and walk into a Klan rally mistakenly. Lol. What happens? You will get a wake up call. Police stop? Etc...
You could flip this around and see that it's clear Jacy wouldn't feel comfortable identifying as just "white". And I think that's enough for her to identify as black, because it hints that she is aware that in the racial hierarchy, being white is exclusive - any hint of blackness makes you black. Jacy has experienced discrimination when people find out she's half black, after all. In the fight against racism she clearly sides with her blackness.
I'm mixed, though not white-passing. Sometimes when I tell a white person that I'm mixed - instead of just saying I'm black - it kinda feels like I'm trying to distance myself from blackness and all the negatives associated with that. It's like I'm trying to assure them that I'm not "full black". It feels more respectful to my black heritage to just unashamedly identify as black. I imagine for Jacy being white-passing, that feeling might be even stronger.
On the other hand, if I'm talking to a black person, then I have no problem identifying as mixed, as I feel I can just state it as a matter of fact, without the need to represent my people.
The experience of a biracial person is determined purely by appearance. It doesn't matter anyone's opinion of whether they're black or not. Society will determine how you are treated and whether someone will rent you an apartment, give you a job, etc. That's a fact
I grew up in white communities my whole life. My parents are immigrants. I’ve dealt with racism and xenophobia growing up. I was “the token black guy” around white people and seen as “the whitest black guy” around black people.
Personally, I will always choose black friends over white friends regardless of the “white man with black skin” jokes. I keep my social group very small.
Race was not a big deal for me as a younger adult. As an older adult, I acknowledge race more because of the dehumanizing racism and profiling I have endured.
If I fathered mixed children, I would NEVER raise them in a white community like I was raised within. I would want them to grow up around people of color that look like them.
Another interesting thing is colorism, which is the sister of racism. Within the black community, the lighter you are, the more attractive and better you get treated.
If you’re light-skinned with a pointy small nose and smaller lips, essentially caucasian features, you’re considered more attractive.
I remember my mixed friends being treated better and being considered more attractive because of that. All the black and white girls would flirt with and date them. I was always ignored and treated like I was invisible. I was basically a tall/skinny, dark shadow looming in the background. Getting disgusted, dirty looks because of my complexion and being called “gross and ugly” by these black/white girls. It was savage 💀😂🤣
I met a guy who was treated like garbage because he’s black albino. People called him ugly his whole life. Our stories sounded so similar even though our complexion spectrum was so different. We became good friends because of that. Girls used to dare each other to ask him out. I was like “Oh my God…the same thing happened to me,” and we just started laughing.
I have a masters degree, both of my parents have been married for 40 years. My dad is a retired college professor. I break every stereotype, but I’m still an outcast by both sides. It’s really a matter of picking your poison.
I just don’t care anymore. I’m very quiet and stoic personality wise now. I keep to myself. To hell with everyone else. Most people are so stupid, xenophobic, racist, and ignorant.
Wow Abe, I am sorry to hear this, especially on being rejected for having “blacker features” than your mixed with Black male friends. I had a similar problem growing up with girls too, but not like your story. Thank you for sharing💯
Wow, thanks for sharing your story Abe! I 100% agree that you need to pick your poison, knowing you'll always be deemed the whitest of the black friends or the blackest of the white. It was tough to navigate at first, but I agree that now it's more like "to hell with them" and unapologetically yourself and disregard stereotypes and expectations. I'm so sorry you had to endure that growing up, but colorism is unfortunately very prevalent within the community. Might add it to my video list of topics to discuss. Thanks again for your comment and support
Odd how you didn't talk about how dark skinned people beat and abuse light skinned people for being light skinned and having a proximity to whiteness.
How many dark skinned people do a person need to find attractive in order to find a light skinned person attractive?
How many dark skinned girls do a man need to date in order to not be deemed a colorist if he ends up settling down with a light skinned one?
Some people really like to play mental gymnastics with light skinned people and it's truly sad. If you have some kind of self hate take it up with where it started. And this usually starts at home with your black/African/dark skinned parents made colorist comments to you as a child.
@NothingButTruth first black to own a slave was from Angola. You are full of nothing but untruth. But we'll pretend just mixed folks owned slaves. Don't want to hurt your oppressed feelings.
Hey Abe. I’m half Malawian🇲🇼 & half Nigerian🇳🇬, and I was born and raised in the US. I’m also a dark-skinned black person that has really strong Native-African facial features so I had a similar experience as you when it comes to colorism, featurism and xenophobia especially during my middle school and high school years. I’ve never faced overt racism from non-black people while growing up, but it was obvious that I couldn’t completely fit in with the whites,asians and hispanics at a deeper level since I stood out racially. Also, the people that made fun of me the most were other black people unfortunately. I would get xenophobic comments mostly from some of the Black-American kids that I went to school with just because my black parents were African immigrants. Many girls (mostly black girls) didn’t find me attractive as well just because I was a skinny dark-skinned black dude with strong African features back in the days when being a dark-skinned black person wasn’t cool or trendy. So, I felt like an outcast as well, and I became introverted because I always felt that I was more at peace when I’m not around people. I also have a master’s degree just like you which means that all the negativity we received didn’t stop us from doing something right with our lives! 💪🏿💪🏿
Really appreciate this. Think there is a difference between how a person self identifies and how who world sees them. For me, im mixed but the world often sees me as black. How the world sees you controls how you are treated and opportunties provided. Hence I do understand the response to the black scholarship. Those are usually offered based on social limitations, rather than how you feel inside. Think thats acknowledged in this video which is great.
Very insightful, thanks for sharing. As a black father of three black children who were raised in predominately white environments, I found your perspectives very illuminating. In addition, I remember when I was in business school, I dated a bi-racial woman who could pass for white. She used to say that she always tried to establish the fact that she was half-black very early in interactions with people so that she would not hear the racial biases that she would have access to otherwise.
Very well spoken Jacy. Thanks for being so vulnerable with us.
I’m half Nigerian. After my parents divorced, my father remarried my stepmother who is also Nigerian. I always felt a little empty because I didn’t grow up around the culture like my younger siblings. Finding your identity can be difficult, but once you do, it’s a true blessing. Continue growing. Many blessings 😊
Thanks for sharing that! I feel like it'll always be an ongoing struggle, but that in and of itself is something I've found peace in ❤
You can still learn o!! Nigerians in Nigeria I find are very open to foreign-born Nigerians and they want to invite and teach about the parts of culture that you may have missed. IK there's not a ton of resources outside of Nigeria to learn, but don't feel empty! Your culture is based on the mix, and is just as unique. You do not have to be full anything in order to be valid.
I’m half-Black and half-white myself! 🙂 I appreciate you for making this video because we need to stick together and defy what people think of us. I just subscribed to your channel. Please keep making more videos! 🙂
I agree! I feel that we are our OWN people❤
As a mixed race/bi-racial/multi-ethnic girl i can TOTALLY relate!!! Thank you for making this video and sharing your.....(our) story 💕
Thank you for telling your story. My son is mixed and I remember when he struggled with being mixed. I walked through the fire with him and he knows who he is.
I'm in tears over this video cuz I feel like this is a monologue of my life. I'm mixed (white and black) but I am black passing but the identity crisis part is so on POINT! Never black enough, never white enough. It's a struggle. This is my favorite video you've done!
And I identify as yellow my mom is orange and my dad is purple so I just choose to identify as yellow that’s how dumb y’all sound
Sorry to break the news to you but the parent of yours that is blc got with your other parent as a coping mechanism based on self-hat,whereas the parent of yours that is ₩te got with your other parent as a fet¡sh to fulfill to check off the bucket list.That's just the plain truth
wdym by never black enough. I truly dont understand what that means
@@aidan2849 meaning she didn't hit certain black cultural cues around black people so they ignorantly labeled her "not black enough". It's like a white guy who grew up in the hood. They aren't white enough for suburban white folks
@@aidan2849 they’re not full black they don’t have TWO black parents. What is there to understand
Yes! I'd like a video like this! I am racially mixed and my sisters look different, my little sister was always complemented for her light hair and white passing appearance as a kid, strangers would also stop my mom all the time and compliment my sister, and I was only complimented for my light skin, but I had more native/darker features so I wasn't as complimented or paid attention to, and I didn't know why as a child, but as an adult I now know. Years later as I grew into my skin, and the Kim K look became popular, I started getting a lot of compliments, but it was a 180 for me and I never really felt them, as I had developed this complex that white was beautiful. It's sad that mixed kids are just trends. I now embrace my "unique" look (irregardless of validation from others or not), I just wish I had seen my own worth and beauty through my own eyes and not society's, also doing that in my late 20s though :)
Wow, thanks Mich for your perspective. I couldn't agree more, it feels weird that mixed kids are often complimented based on their proximity to whiteness. And I can absolutely relate to the insecure feelings growing up, only to have your "look" essentially become a trend. The best we can do is be unapologetically ourselves, regardless of validation as you said. Thanks so much again for your comment and support.
@@JacyErin in itself it wouldn't be a problem if colorism didn't exist. some babies are just cute. But we happen to know what types of mixed is generally complimented. I am myself most times but i don't like the roundabout way people ask about ethnicity.
Yes girl❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😊😅😅😢
Jacy, the part in your story where you describe the conscious changing of your personality depending on your social environment is an accurate depiction of what's been termed "code switching." I'm half black as well, and a southerner. I'm more on the 'racially ambiguous' spectrum than white passing, to the point where one time a guy from Pennsylvania thought it was safe to tell a story around me that the reason he moved away from Philly to move down south was to get away from all the black people. There's lots of irony in that one.
I am both Black & White...and I know exactly what and who I am as well as educated on my ethnic backgrounds.... everyone who isn't both say we don't know what we are but we do......we just don't seem to fit with what they'd want us to be. Appreciate you. It's been a great life to date. My Portuguese side of the family showed nothing but love for me and that was in the 70s. My black side of the family also loving ,supportive and present .
I'm Eurasian, and I get the "You don't count as Asian" comments too. My dad didn't raise me so I grew up in an exclusively Asian household. I've learned how to be unashamed and unapologetic about my heritage as an adult. If you don't think I'm Asian, then you don't get to see the tasty lunch I brought to the employee break room! 🤪
It's not the same bc both groups have pale skin
I am half italian and I am more like a mulatto than a white person . Many white people say they have half or less italian and I notice most look English or Irish but not me. I have the stronger gene that comes from Turkey and that does exist in Italian DNA.
I been called an olive nigger, a Mexican by other italians even because of my last name not sounding like theirs even though it was total italian. They called me a Mexican.. I could never win.
And if people weren't being openly racist. They were sure picking on me for that reason but disguise it as something else
It was extremely slow for me to make friends in my suburban high school in Massachusetts. It was either going to take a long long time or never. The older kids were nicer, my class was distant and more cliquish or gangsta cliquish even. Pale white kids acting like gangsta wannabes. How John Cena came off is real life in towns. Those kinda racists all over the place up there.
@@truthteller4659 Not necessarily. There are dark-skinned Asians. Colorism is huge in many Asian countries, and people in the west often only think of China, Japan, and Korea.
It's crazy how different your experience was from mine. I'm a BLACK passing half black/half white person. For me, people don't initially think I'm half white until I tell them because I primarily talk with AAVE, super athletic, wear bandanas, etc. I fit MOST of the black stereotypes despite being half white. When around white people, I tend to cut out the slang. That being said, I have dealt with colorism at earlier parts of my life. Now, most blacks realize that I pretty much get put in the same boat as full blacks 90% of the time.
Your experience being half black/half white in America REALLY DEPENDS ON YOUR COMPLEXION. If you're black passing, your pretty much going to have a more similar experience to someone who is "full black." If you're more white passing, then this video pretty much explains that. Your mileage will vary.
I'm black passing too I agree with you 💯
Not sure how this ended up in my feed today (a year after it was posted), but I’m so glad it did. What a wonderful, honest, sincere, informative, and heartfelt “chit chat”. Thank you so much for posting. I have three nieces and one nephew who are also mixed (white and black). I can only imagine how much of this they would identify with.
I love how postive, vibrant, articulate and selfaware you are. Keep that up and dont let anyone bring you down. You do you and if others have any issues with that then thats their problem, not yours.
Your story again proves that racisim is learned. Kids are not born to see race and racial sterotypes. They are tought that.
I’m not mixed, I’m actually 100%Mexican American but I pass for white. I enjoyed your story because that is exactly how I felt growing up. Not Mexican enough for the Mexican people yet not white enough for the white people. I’ve accepted this situation and I know that my true identity is spirit soul, and I’m not my physical body. As far as getting along in this world, I just act like myself and whoever loves me for being me is my friend.
I thought I was 100 percent Mexican until I took a DNA test. I turned out to be 12 percent Aztec 88 percent European of mostly Spanish with some English, German, Italian and Irish ancestry.
You should do a DNA Test to know your true ethnicity.😌
There's no such thing as 100% Mexican American when it comes to DNA. You are mestiza more than likely. In Mexico you are white but in the USA you would be considered mixed. If you take a DNA test it will tell you what you are. Culturally you are Mexican American of course. Skin color doesn't matter when someone says "I pass for white." Anybody can pass for white really (brunettes, brown hair, black hair.)
Because you’re a white Latino. Latino isn’t a race. You sound like a conquistador descendant
I’m half white and half black, I can’t count the amount of times i’ve been asked “what are you?”. On top of having other black people not believe me when I tell them I am half black because I’m also white passing. When people see my afro they ask me if it’s a perm which is annoying, it’s extremely frustrating that those of us who are biracial, no matter the race, it feels like we can’t be allowed to be proud of both heritages. 😢
Blame your parents for mixing when they weren't supposed to.That'll only make you and those like you a problem to the rest of us.Straight up
So which race do biracials prefer dating? Black or white?
The hair part is the most annoying!. 😔 They always ask me the same thing about my curls.
@@noareynoso97 I feel you on that, I had someone ask me if my Afro was a “perm” as mentioned in my original comment. So I definitely understand how you feel. 😂😂😂😂
On a different note, to add insult to injury someone decided to comment that if someone doesn’t have two black parents you’re not black on a vid called “Biracial vs Black”. Like they have a right to tell us biracial’s what and how we can identify as. Which completely infuriated me. So in a nutshell I can totally understand the frustration.
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I'm black, irish and scottish even though I'm a black passing person I feel happier and comfortable around the white side of my ancestry. I can be my clumsy, nerdy self without dealing with dirty looks and harsh criticism.
I applaud your honesty, understanding and explanation of who you really are. I am very proud of you because I understand through your words how difficult that journey must have been. Thank you my sister for educating me.
Thanks for your honesty about the college apps…I gave up figuring out what to put, I’m Hispanic, Chinese, white..I just check whatever I feel like that day and often I put “other” 💗
You hit the nail with what you said because my father is mixed with Black and French and my mother is Asian so you can only imagine the identity politics where I mostly grew up with black folks but then I got more accepted in the Asian community recently more than the black community even though I grew up with them. It just sucked and that's one of the things we struggle with the most with just being "accepted".
Your mom must be south east Asian and on the darker side. Just checked your channel out and you barely look mix for someone that is only a quarter black. It's not a bad thing but I was expecting you to look fully Asian with your genetics.
How can someone be mixed with black and French? French is not a race.
You are black and Asian, to hell with black acceptance. As a 100% black person I don't even always get accepted so it fuck them
You must live on the west coast cause Asians down here don’t want no parts of being around black people plus I can’t even tell that you’re mixed and with them still accepting you I would assume you’re somewhere on the west where they’re more accepting to being around black people
Thank you for sharing. Im am black 100% & I can honestly say the reason school didnt appeal to me much is because most of the Wealthiest people in America dropped out of school 🤷♀️ however, this video makes me want go back just because
I’m sending this to my mixed daughter. Thank you for sharing! ❤
I went to the premiere of MIXED (a documentary) at the Cleveland Institute of Art recently and actually thought of you while I watched it. I don’t know if it’s available elsewhere now, but it was made by Caty Borum Chattoo and Leena Jayaswal.
Thanks for always being authentic and genuine with us.
I'll for sure be looking this up. Thanks Meriah!
I absolutely love this video. I'm not biracial, but this perspective is so necessary. We all need to do better.
I came across this video randomly, but I'm happy I did. You shared an authentic take on what it's like to be mixed and passing, and as someone who could never be mistaken for anything but black, it was interesting to hear your experience. Thanks for sharing.
I’m in the middle of watching of watching this video and it’s really resonating with what I’ve seen on TikTok in the past year from biracial children with black fathers and white mothers, and it sounds like there was not a lot of talk about race and racism in the household from the black fathers. I am a black woman who is married to a white man, and we talk about identity, how we will identify our children until they can choose how they identify as an individual. The discourse I’ve seen on TikTok specifically talks about black father is not having these conversations and white mothers giving birth to children who have minoritized identities, and not knowing how to immerse them in that culture. The conversation has come up asking what role do these black parents or minoritized parents have in immersing their children in their ethnic culture. It’s unfortunate because the first time you talk about your own race should not be with friends. It should be at home, especially given the world and society that we live in.
Good observations.
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Yesssss we want to hear more 😊 thanks for being so open and honest and real 🙌
Thank you 🙏
Does anyone even realizes that most of us are mixed-up in various ways, some of us have black, brown, white mixture, and aren't even aware of it. It's a big deal, as long as you're healthy.
Yeah the interesting thing is ,if everyone did an ancestory DNA test 🧬 ..they would probably be a mixture of all kinds. As a society we're blending more & more.
Lol! I agree! Honestly if your family has been in America for a century or longer especially in the South your likely to have mixed ancestry. In South Carolina it is estimated that 1/4 of people who identify as White have Black admixture and in Louisiana it is even more mixed. I myself have about a 1/4 Black admixture through my mothers side but I appear White and many people have thought my mom was Hispanic, Italian, Native American, Turkish, Greek, Jewish etc. because she has an olive skin complexion but doesn't really look necessarily Black at all. Also I think the average Black American has on average 24% White admixture but I know many people judge more on superficial appearance rather then DNA but then they freak out when the baby doesn't have their skin color! 😆 🤣
I'm mixed b/w 60 years old, youngest of 3 siblings. You look like my niece and nephew on my brother's side. I'm dark enough to never be confused for white, but I look different enough to keep people guessing. I have been confused for white on the phone only to see the look of shock or confusion when meeting someone in person. There are so many stories. You are doing something important here. Keep it up. ❤
❤️ Thank You for sharing your life experiences as a mixed person. Great video Beautiful.💯
Sweetheart let me say first, my heart broke when you started to cry. I understand how you feel, and I have experienced much of what you have experienced. My family is very racially diverse (black, native American, European, southeast Asian). When I was in school I literally had kids say to me I had to choose which race I would identify as, to which I made a very clear statement that I would not because you can't exclude who God gave you as a family, and I'm not choosing to make you comfortable with me. Either you take me as is or you don't, period. I grew up in the suburbs, went to private schools, and I speak clearly and concisely as I was taught. I have been questioned on so many occasions for who and what I am that I've lost track of how many times it's happened. I have sisters and cousins who look like you, we all identify as black, as well as the rest of our ethnicity. It's ignorance that would make any human being make another human being feel inadequate or less than because of skin color (melanin which is only 1/8 inch deep in our skin), since we all have the same cells, blood running through our veins, and organs. It's just stupid. NO ONE should have to defend who they are, honestly we are failing as a human race with that mindset, it's staggering to me!! I grew up in the 70's and honestly thought by now it would be over, its an archaic way of thinking that should be in the past, yet here we are. It saddens me greatly. Because deep down I know that by the time I have grandchildren they will probably experience this as well. I hope and pray they don't, but more than likely they will. We need to get better at accepting people for who they are and their character, not by what we see. 🙏❤💯
Wow Divan, thank you so so much for sharing your story. You are absolutely right that No One should have to defend who they are or explain to others, yet we’re still judged regardless. You are so right that the ignorance in our society is probably not going away anytime soon, but if we continue to speak up and share our experiences, more people may understand. I sincerely thank you for your perspective, and I too will hope for a more accepting tomorrow!
Very well said.
Jacy yessss so well-spoken on the topic of mixed, you couldn't have said it any better 🌟
Honestly me too. I was going to comment on the Halsey part… Halsey’s dad is biracial while her mom is White, which means she’s not Black nor mixed with Black. She’s a White women with a little bit of blackness. Other then that, I appreciate all of the points Jacy made on being a white-passing biracial women❤️😁
@@JulianSteve I have to disagree with you there...Halsey's definitely a mixed-race woman and it doesn't matter that her father may be half Black, instead of completely Black, because mixedness doesn't begin and end at only being half. If it did, most mixed people here would be disqualified because many African Americans have European ancestry already. For the most part as well, mixed people in America don't make a huge difference between those who are half or a quarter. We just consider people who are recently white and black to be mixed, blood quantum's not really a thing for us.
@@JulianSteve To be white, you need to be 100% Northern European. Are you from America? Having any black ancestry definitely means you are not a white person
@@calicoesblue4703 So you’re saying anyone can be mixed then? That does not make sense at all. DNA does not work like that🤷🏾♂️
@@RETROGEMS There is no such thing as mixed, the man carries the seed, so therefore you are what your father is! The term mixed, concept or ideology is a social construct created for political use! The father determines the nation its been this way since ancient times, everything else is new age established for political use!
Love your energy. Thanks for sharing your experiences . Its crazy how some humans treat people based on their genetics that they are born with and have no control over. People want to categorise those who are mixed yet they aren't mixed themselves. As a mixed person you can identify as how you want to identify. You come across as a polite, honest, strong woman. Continue being you 😊👑😍
3 mins into it and I already LOVE this girl! I prefer the term ‘mixed’ as well.
Thank you for sharing, as a someone who is racially Black and ethnically Somali I can relate a little.
I honestly don’t know much about mixed race people, I learned something. Short story, it is important we all embrace all the parts that comes with us.
Colorism and categorizing Black people came from colonialism and slavery. I hope more of us learn history to understand our own behaviors. We must unlearn.
I love your honesty. This is very refreshing to hear your point of view.
Jacy Erin, this is a beautiful story. Love your personality and I am just finding it a year ago. So surprised..... Great video!😊💛💯👍
Thank you for the thought-provoking video. I got the link by way of the RUclips algorithm. It is
uncanny to hear your story because I can identify with your struggles. I had similar experiences
as you did. I feel a kinship. Keep up the good work. Best wishes.
I am black with 3b or 3c hair texture and straightened my hair as a child, mainly because my mom worked so it made ir easier for me to just put in a ponytail. But as I got older, specifically 18, I decided to stop perming my hair. Then flat ironed until my late 20s.I have been natural. But since then, I have been asked if I was mixed. I have light brown eyes as my grandmother and great grandmother had green eyes. So my dad, an aunt me and an older cousin all have some variations of green eyes. My dad's are hazel, mine are a light brown. My cousin and aunt's are green. So, it wasn't until an adult that I have been asked if I was mixed. When I said no, "but you hair, your eyes." We as black people are a mixed people. We vary in shades, hair textures, political affiliation. We are not a monolith. And like you, before I am black, I am me....
Yes girl
I'm biracial and grew up in the 70s and 80s. so I was certainly mixed back then . I absolutely get that.
Was probably even tougher for you! But I’m glad you can relate to parts of this video 🤗
Great video Jacy....thanks for revealing your personal story. This is so needed and I totally understand you.♌🐆
Jacy, RUclips's algorithms sent one of your video shorts my way, but it's your honesty in sharing of your personal experiences in this video that has inspired me to subscribe. And now I look forward to catching up on several years of your videos.
Keep up the excellent videos! I ❤❤❤ the storytimes, too.🌷🌸🕊
Thank you for telling your story - it was important and very interesting! I love your honesty and love you.. You're one incredible woman..
Love you Lorraine!
Wow love. So admirable of you to speak on this ❤️ your struggle is valid
Thank you so much Kendri!
This women is absolutely beautiful! And I have to admit that the reason I first came to watch this video was because it just popped up on my main youtube page a little while ago and I saw her and didn't really pay any attention to the title. But then when I saw what it was about and then watched it, it was very interesting. I enjoyed it. Being a body builider and songwriter, it's nice to watch different things because what I do is mostly the only things I look for to watch on here, so it's nice to see different interesting subjects and good content like this video here is. And this lady here did one heck of a great job with with it as well. And I liked what you said at the very end about being asked if you could say that word, and then what you answered back. lol That was priceless! Thanks Jacy!
Just came across your video. I found it very fascinating! Thanks for sharing your story Jacy.
Very interesting experiences and outlook on "race" you have. I'm very happy or even glad that you have what I feel is a great connection and bonding with your father.
I truly enjoyed your video. Thanks for sharing your insightful experience!
Interesting view.. I enjoy how you explain your feelings and reasoning. It’s insane… You be the light you choose to see
Thanks so much for sharing this it’s really helping me go through these feels coming up right now
Yes to wanting to hear about those experiences and stories!
Same here. I am intrigued💯
Wow this video spoke to me in so many ways. Thanks so much for sharing!❤️❤️ I've always been the black girl who talks white, or acts white, and such a "valley girl". Never black enough for the "real" blacks and not white enough to be white passing. The struggle is real and it takes many years to figure out where to belong. The judging never seems to stop..
love the commentary. very honest and appreciated.
Most people would not be this honest. It needs to be said.
Love this! Really informative but also positive and inspiring. Thanks so much
Good one. More of the Black with White-passing. My actual situation is this: very fair complexion Coloured in Africa (South Africa). Ideologically I turned Black Conscious in 1976 at high school during a politically conscious period for learners like me. During the last years of the dying Apartheid I finished my teaching degree. I taught at a Coloured High School where Afrikaans was the medium of instruction. And my Coloured learners would not believe that I was Coloured 'like them'.
Hi Jacy, enjoyed your video about growing up mixed, I have cousins who are mixed and they always used to tell me about some of the same challenges and issues that you endured and listening to your experience, I feel that I have a better understanding of what they went through. The one thing that was relatable to me was when you mentioned the fact that when you were speaking to people sometimes that they will say to you " That you don't talk black" or "Don't act black" or my personal favorite "You are too well spoken for a black person" (I actually got told that one yesterday).lol. I actually sent this video to my god daughter who is mixed she is a freshman in high school right now and she has been going through it socially . She has confided in me some things that people have said to her concerning her skin color and ethnicity. Hopefully after seeing your video she will know that it is okay to embrace both sides of who you are. Sorry for the lengthy comment, but thank you for sharing your story. Looking forward to the next story time :-)
I was told in high school how I was an Oreo. And I was the whitest black person my friends knew. Thinking back on those instances makes me sick. It’s disgusting.
Thank you for sharing Samuel. This makes you think🤔💯
I cant thank you enough for your comment and kind words Samuel! I'll never understand why people continue to make those comments, almost as if they're compliments because you're breaking some kind of mold! It's insane black individuals in general still have to endure those blatant microaggressions. I hope my perspective is able to help your god daughter navigate her own ethnicity and self worth, and learn to be unapologetically herself regardless of expected stereotypes. Thanks again for your continued support!
This was a very good video; informative, interesting, and insightful. Thank you very much for that!
Thanks for sharing your experiences, love hearing these nuances. The double code switching actually made me laugh.
Thank you for this video jacy! 🙏
Thank you for sharing this with us...ur beautiful intelligent and funny women...sorry u have had these struggles....being vulnerable reg this subject is awesome and will help others...love from uk 💜💜💜
Thanks Annemarie! I appreciate your kind words :)
❤🎉thank you for your video to shed light on these people who want to call us one color or another... and making us feel excluded. I have ran into a lot of what your talking about.
Nature doesn't make mistakes, and we are all beautiful complex variations of our collective historical ancestors. My family is completely mixed, black, white, native American and Middle Eastern, how beautiful is that. We should never let the ignorance and prejudices of societies insecurities make us who we are and determine who we say we are. Facts 🔥
I can relate to all of this , growing up as a mixed boy in the “hood”. Its always pressure to be a “man” and growing up with no real role models you dont learn what a real man is until its time to be a father.
Whats being A Man gotta do with you being mixed?
@@o0R3stless0o It relates to the mental programming that was done to Black males by the colonizers and enslavers. That madness is still being practiced today. Across the board, the average Black (male and female) are initially thought of as having any smarts and child-like aka ignorant and foolish. In the hood, there's kind of a reversed affect that Black folks whom don't typically look "mixed" and those whom don't look "mixed". We're talking colorism here. Still in our communities nation wide, Black folks with a none Black parent gets discriminated against by those who don't and often discarded and invalidated as human beings and of being of the Black community...usually until he or she can go above and beyond the burden of proof to ignant types of Black folks that he or she can behave in ratchet ways associates with lower income Black folks who fight and struggle with themselves to merely exist. People like this often catch hell from both sides. I've seen it and having been young myself, have also participated in a few taunts until my mother taught me better before I became an adult. I've experienced some of that crap myself having been light enough to actually appear as though one of my parents could be white. That crap was far from cute. But I grew up and learned better and do better.
@@sirharry3051 I agree with you 100 percent. My father was of mixed race and had to deal with that BS. I feel like Willie Lynch is Alive and well unfortunately...
@@o0R3stless0o The thing that baffles me is that more Black folks sit around and keep it alive and well operating within Black society. I honestly feel that folks of mixed Black heritage can better help stomp out the more troublesome ways in which racism towards people with African roots by stop referring to self as a "mixed race" individual and simply identify as Black. One doesn't have to try and disown the fact that he, she or they aren't of any other race. It's a huge step in helping dismantling the racism. Denying one's African roots or putting it in the often madeup laundry list of 900 different races only goes to support what white supremacists have concocted and use as a well oiled machine of death and destruction.
@@sirharry3051 exactly 😎👍
I can sooo relate with everything!! same here called white exotic green eyes curly blonde hair halfcast 😆 As I’ve grown I’ve had to create my own place that’s ok to be mixed neither either or both just uniquely me 😆 straightened my hair for years, the stereotypes from both party’s same as your experience either too white or too brown to fit in🤣 im in my 40s and not much change from others mostly in my own self esteem I guess. So great you are sharing your experiences 🥰 Unapologeticly me is so right! You and your family are so gorgeous 💕
Glad to. Say you’re one of us. And it’s ok to claim who you truly are. ❤😂
Thank you so much. I'm struggling with this and this was very validating
Jacy you're a GIFT from heaven! You're an articulate, smart, Beautiful and wonderful human being. You're a child of LOVE and that's what really matters.
So happy I stumbled upon your channel this week.
And I'm so happy you found me ❤
Thank you for sharing your experience and story. 😊
I am very excited by your expression of your experience. I affirm what you are doing and I wish you the best in your endeavors.
I appreciate you sharing your story. It is unfortunate that people want you to explain (your identity) and is likely stressful. I hope you find peace and love you.
It's GOOD that she's had that experience. A good kick in the ass is what people need to understand the world they live in. The only indentity she should have is Black, but unfortunately, 'mixed people' tend to be poorly prepared for the reality of the world they're born in.
Most times, I think that it is other people having the crisis about our identity.
Yeah especially when a lot of people live in a close bubble
no its you.
Boom!!! Right on
Thank you so very much for sharing your experiences with us. I have a great take away from this i appreciate your insight
Thank you for sharing. While I am not biracial and by no means white passing, I have had to answer the "what are you?" question my entire life and I can totally relate to your experiences in school. And it really does start in middle school as you said. I can see why you laughed it off to get along, especially because you were a kid, but it doesn't feel good. I remember being offended by some of the racism I experienced in middle school. Being called a "sand (n word)" in 8th grade is something I will never forget; and the gag is the white boy who said it thought it was a compliment because of my lighter skin.
You're such a beautiful and transparent woman. I appreciate that in this world of oblivious, fake influencers. Your voice is heard, sis! 💗
Thanks for acknowledging that being bi-racial is not the same as black, even if you identify as black you still benefit from your ambiguity. Everything you said was spot on, great commentary Jacy👏🏽👍🏽
This conversation was 100 percent real. Thanks for being real and honest. This conversation is so needed for a healthy society. First and foremost you are Jacy and the rest are attributes of who, you are.
I shakes tears listening to your story
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Very interesting- thank you for sharing!
As another biracial woman I appreciated you sharing your story😊
Thank you for content.
I found it useful as black father to half white daughters, 1 passing more than the other. The complexity of complexion in American society.
Thank you again for sharing. This has to be helpful to so many other who seek to understand.
Not sure how I ended up here, but I love your content, your energy and your beautiful spirit. Keep on doing what you are doing!
Thank you for sharing this with us 😊🥰🌈🌼🧡
Love your video!!! ❤ the way we address this issues in Latin American countries is by “creating” new races like trigueño, mulato, mulato-claro, mulato-oscuro, jabao’, etc… (there are more lol).
If the society only acknowledges black and white it’s ignoring the whole spectrum created in between. It’s too simplistic to identify with one or another when you are your own unique race 🎉
Can you explain some more?
love every second of the video. from a parent with "mixed kids"
Thank you for making the video, love your perspective