I remember being at cheerleading camp in high school and there was a group of yt girls that would sit around and talk about how they can’t wait to have mixed babies and how they just thought they were so cute… they would go and have those mixed babies they doted about… not once did they say they love black ppl or wanted to actually keep the men. 2 of the 3 girls did marry a black man but 1 of the 2 divorced her husband as soon as she got her set. She blamed it on his infidelity from 10 years prior to them even being married or having kids but really its bc she never really wanted him from the beginning. She just wanted the pretty brown babies. They see them as an accessory or a badge of honor.
This is the issue I have with interracial relationships specially between yt and blk ppl. Idc what no one says in 2024 and beyond yt ppl fetishize mixed kids and it’s a problems and these BM just let yt ppl use theirs for their sick fantasies. Let’s talk about. Now they’re trying push interracial couples all on tv. It’s problematic to me. Let’s stop acting like it’s not a problem. Mixed kids should not be “promoted”. It’s not a badge of honor. Nothing wrong with sticking with you culture and race either. It’s all weird ash to me.
Lol yellow 😂😂 we all don’t have yellow under tone sweetheart! My undertone is red ❤️😮💨 people who hate on mixed people are jeloussssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss no matter what ya say
My black friends talk about wanting dark skin black chocolate beautiful babies ALL THE Time!! With out talking about the men Soooooo what!!! 😂😂😂. It goes both ways. This is why I encourage people to get friends from different backgrounds & races because you realise humans are humans! I talk about wanting my baby to have Asian added to the mix! I’m mixed Nigerian & German French! English! So what!! Bring on your preference!! I want Asian in my mix. So what! We all want hot babies what ever that looks like to you! Go with it
My mom is white and my dad is black and my white mom has never done my hair, refuses to , has no black friends, doesn’t like black women OR ME , her half black daughter , and only cares about my black dad !! My dad doesn’t give a shit about my hair either, has no black friends!! The whole situation is fucked up , I’ve felt racism & self hatred & emotionally neglected by my parents for YEARS!! As well as, society treats me like shit too & only likes me if i am doing good things for others!! I HATE my family & have no representation!! And i agree that couples like my parents should not have had biracial children such as me & my brother!! Despite the fact they been together almost 45 years, it is not a good or healthy marriage or parental relationship towards me at ALL !! Please People do NOT have biracial children unless you really love them in a healthy relationship & family unit !! I’m still Reeling & Hurting Decades later !!
THAT'S OK I HEAR YOUR PAIN. I DON'T KNOW HOW IT FEELS TO HAVE A WHITE MOM AND A BLACK DAD. BUT I AM THE PRODUCT OF 2 HALF BRED PARENT'S. MY DAD A MUSLIM SAID WHITE'S WERE THE DEVIL MY MOM SAID BLACKS ARE MEAN. SO I AGREE BUT I LEARNED TO LOVE MY SELF THROUGH ALL I WENT THROUGH BEING BULLIED IN SCHOOL. I LEARNED TO FIGHT BACK SO YOU JUST DO THE SAME AND 💕 YOUR SELF. BUT I CAN AGREE WE SHOULDN'T MIX.
@@rosejames5172 My Mother was a Black Creole. Her complexion was deep chocolate. Her grandmother came from the West Indies. My biological father's Mulatto heritage and South American, and my father who raised me was Kenyan. We're all "Dark". 😂😭💯
@@rosejames5172 Stop making it a competition, looking for validation. This is about a different subject. “I like oranges, the color is nice” “Yes, I like them too.” “But what about apples? You don’t see their color?” Stop. It’s so annoying.
Thank you for making this video. I'm a PhD student that aspires to study Black psychology specifically. Im biracial (half black/half white) and raised by a staunch white supremacist. The abuse I faced as a child almost always had to do with the fact that I was part black. Im so racially confused now and have no place to fit in. I do consider myself Black and biracial because im not white passing, though I am pretty light. The disdain for my existence on both sides is disheartening. No one wants me and no one hears me. I strive to lift Black voices through my research, it'd just be nice if they did the same and acknowledged my voice as part of the Black collective.
"Black and biracial because I'm not white passing". No you choose that because your forced to choose it by the black community. If your head was strong about mulatto history you would know your identity is well documented in this country since the early 1600s. The so called blacks you described above were mainly propelled into the future by mulattos. Blacks benefited greatly from the 1924 racial integrity act aka one drop rule. It forced Mulattos into the black grouping in addition it forced them to share their ADVANTAGES with the black group which was many. This act on lasted a measly 43 years ending in 1967 yet blacks like to weaponize it to benefit them. Case closedb
Same here !! My mom tells me to go “get RAPED” & acts like a KKK bitch towards me most of the times & my dad neglected me for most of my life !! I can’t go to school anymore because i have Post Traumatic Stress from BOTH sides , please PLEASE keep doing your research !!
My mom was a single white mom to me and 2 brothers (we are all mixed with black) and she ALWAYS did our hair and learned to how to care for it I have looser curls and my brothers have 4c hair and she got all of us different hair stuff and she also bought us stuff w biracial characters on it or brown kids so we see ppl who look like us shout out to my mommy she’s the BEST and always explained to us why she’s a different color than us and always let us express our selfs how we chose ! And she NEVER tried to white wash us ! School was where I had all my issues w bullying
I’m so happy to hear that your mother was able to put some of the work in necessary for having biracial children. It’s important for children of all backgrounds to feel accepted and seen
I don't mean this to sound rude but when a non educated white person or an outright racist looks at a darker toned Biracial person (basically a Biracial person who has "Black features" and isn't an "exotic looking" person) and a Black person, they're going to think that we look the same. As a Biracial person who has a darker skin tone and Black features, I am not looked at as Biracial to people. I am seen as Black. So that's what I identify with. I live in a rural midwest area with racists, a lot of people didn't know I was Biracial until I went to the nearest "city" where there's a lot of Black folks and some of them could tell I was Biracial and some of them couldn't. And what's more frustrating is that I was the product of a racial f3tish, although both of my parents deny having one; even though my dad (a Black man) hardly ever dates Black women and only dates certain types of "ghetto" white women and my mom basically preys on Black men and pretends to be ghetto. So my dad was an absent father, and my mom could careless about my actual culture, she just liked Black men but when she would have kids with them she'd get the wrong hair products (hair products for 4c hair, I have different textures in my hair) and she would have her Black friend do our hair in braids so tight that my sisters scalp started to bleed and crack. If you're going to have Biracial kids, don't have them because "ohhh Biracial kids are the cutest!" have them because you want a child!
Oh i feel you I identify definitely as mixed but also Asian and Hispanic. So I guess it's three identities technically and then America is squeezed somewhere in between those. Having a child because of a fetish is so messed up I think some of it though it's not because it's a race thing, it's just a bad parent thing. Girl I look exotic but no one knows what I am. I don't look Asian and I guess I could pass for Hispanic because we come in so many different colors and shades. But I don't know this week's just been like a cultural identity crisis kind of week. My mom is an immigrant straight up from Seoul Korea. I partially grew up there, it was my first language, all my first memories, all my first cultural everything was Korean. So I'm 40 years old but I still have a lot of Korean mannerisms, the way I sit, the way I talk, the way I walk, how I hold my hands. And there are most Korean women who treat me like I'm one of their kids because a lot of them have mixed children. But then there are the ones who treat me like crap because to them I don't look korean. A lot of them don't even think I'm mixed with any kind of Asian. It's always surprise and you can always see it on their face I see no problem with someone saying they are biracial or as either their other cultures. It's the most stupid thing Yes for me it is a huge part of my identity because I lived in it but that's not all I am and some people make that everything Some parents are just bad parents, it's not their race. They're just really bad parents I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I can't say I know the exact experience because my skin tone is light so I guess people don't think I'm Hispanic or whatever, but there is a part definitely culturally that I feel like I don't fit in. It can be painful especially when people of your own racial identities actually brush you off and dismiss you because you're half. I have felt today that I just don't belong. Like I don't belong to the Asian side and I don't belong to the Hispanic side. My dad was in the military. He was always gone so I never learned Spanish. I mean technically I belong as an American but you know we're a melting pot. I know the pain. I don't have the exact experience of everyone else like I said but I do understand I really hope that you're able to heal from all the pain you've had to suffer. And you know what forget other people. You're beautiful the Way you are. And people who neglected you or didn't take care of you or treat you right, it's their loss and not yours❤
See the difference between a biracial and a black person, the biracial can be both whereas the black person can only be black. They are two different experiences because one is mixed with two cultures and the other is just one culture
As Eltheloser stated, No one is really passing for both either because most don’t know WHAT you are as a biracial & will just condemn and conclude i’m Hispanic when i’m NOT & i don’t identify with that culture & every black person thinks we have it easy just because biracial people are LIGHTER, like literally my family was practically homeless a few times in the 80s & 90s because people didn’t want to rent to an interracial couple with biracial kids , no we’re not fully black but my mom (white, german) has had to lie on applications for Housing several times & pretend we were her ADOPTED Spanish kids even though i HATE tacos and spicy food i had to “pretend” that i didn’t straighten my hair every month and that i like food i didn’t like!! To have a home, i know it’s rough for full blacks too, but come on, everyone’s life sucked at some points , unless everybody liked you & you had it made. My ex best friend who was black i had to stop talking to her because she would complain every few minutes how bad she had it, but she won a FREE scholarship for college, (i didn’t get to even finish my education), she was raised in a rich black family, & she got a Phd , & she was ALWAYS getting things her way, talking about complaining constantly that she’s dark skinned black!! Yeah well, i was sexually abused since i was an infant , wasn’t able to finish school, had to serve in the army where i got abused (again)!! & been poor most of my life, most people don’t like me & are racist against me (both black, spanish, asian, AND white) and i get treated like shit while my darker skin black friend (now EX-Friend) coasts right through life with straight A’s and her parents giving her money all the time!! This is what i hate about talking to people who into mono colored stuff , like just because i’m lighter than you doesn’t mean everything about my life was easy because it WAS NOT !! Do not have biracial kids, because if you are already broken in your own race or ethnicity it’s not going to help your kids especially if they’re half of some other ethnicity , my whole life has been a struggle & i HaTED every minute of it, & my interracial parents do NOT help it at all usually!! I’m just lucky i even survived at this point, FOR REAL !!
You just described my whole story… I think if you’re going to have children at all- have them bc you actually want them and want to have them cared for properly..
My beef with Amber Rose is that she will jump in and out of blackness when it's convenient for her. Amber Rose has yelled from the mountain top that she isn't "black", cool stay your butt out of black spaces in order the eat.
I feel you but I also think that by being biracial it’s only natural for her to be able to coexist in both spaces. She shouldn’t have to choose to be one over the other if she’s equally rooted and comfortable in both 🧐
@TandyColada I'm not saying she should pick one over the other, but you don't get to be a blk representative when money is involved ( promotion, hip-hop, or anything else dealing with our spaces).
Amber Roses has even stated that her mother is “mixed race” and not a black woman. Therefore - Amber Rose is a white woman with a small amount of black ad-mixture. This fact can better inform a more contextualized conversation about her interest and experience within the black community.
If people can claim to be a man when they're a woman and vice versa, I think someone can claim a racial group that they are a part of even if it's a little bit I am part taino but it is a very small part of my racial group but I have a lot of features that show I am native. I can still claim it. I have like five different races in my bloodline. And if I want to, I can claim them all If she's black at all, let her fucking claim it
I'm biracial, with a white mom and a black Caribbean father. I love being mixed. My mom took great care of me and my sister's hair. She learned how to braid when we were younger and now she recently learned how to do LoC retwist. My dad taught us about our Caribbean side (Guyana and Trinidad). Both sides of my family adore each other.
@MikhailMuhammad-uy2kd 😂😂 lol you just have zero concept because you’re not mixed! You’ll never understand my experience ! I have always found it an advantage! Always. It helped me with my career, my dating life. Forming friendships, having two parents from different cultures & backgrounds have been a huge advantage over just having 1 ❤️ ! I’m super grateful from the time I’ve been born too. Whoop Whoop! I’m hoping to have mixed/ mixed kids too 😝✌️ Don’t hate ! Embrace your own journey. I’m celebrating mine
Selfish, people who only care about themselves procreate babies knowing their identity will be an issue in a messy world like this. I mean, if you really care about innocent babies you can just enjoy your biracial relationship without bringing kids into the mix.
I have been saying this for a while! So many people say that it's cool to be bi-racial or multi-racial just bc a lot of those people tend to have a lighter complexion or their features are more "acceptable". As someone that has two parents that are mainly mixed with black and Chinese (my dad also has some Indian ancestors) I was struggling a lot. Not only did I feel like I did not belong with my black side growing up, my Chinese grandfather abandoned my dad and I was never thought any of the Chinese traditions bc that side of the family does not speak to my family. People from my parents' home country would point out that I look more Chinese which is true since I could pass for fully asian. I don't have curly hair and I have a very fair skin. Other chinese people I've met so far would not guess I am Chinese but more so other asian ethnicities like Thai, Korean and Viet etc. I also live in a European country so my family from my parents'home country would point out that I was western or have an accent etc. my family did not mean any harm but it still hurt. That being said I still feel black although I don't necessarily look like it, I was still brought up with that culture and that side of my family. My family is very mixed so I did learn to love my mixed background later on but it felt pretty lonely sometimes since I felt like I was never enough. Never asian enough never black enough and all of the above. Conclusion: I am black, asian and proud!! I hope people could relate to this and if they feel the same way that they could feel comfort in know that they're not alone. All love, Abigail💜!
Abigail, thank you so much for sharing your experience 💜 I have heard the blasian (black + Asian) experience is unique and very tough to navigate. It seems that you are a true testament to that! I’m happy to hear that you have found love and appreciation for your diverse background despite the challenge
@@TandyColada Hey Tandy, thank you so much for your response and taking the time to read my very lengthy comment😅. I love that even though you are not bi-racial you still made a video about this topic to spread awareness, it really means a lot! This is what true black love is about. Accepting black people that come in all colours shapes and sizes. I wish you the best and have a nice💜. day
It’s funny some white people mix with black because they think that black features are beautiful. Kylie Jenner literally said that she was insecure about her lips and wanted her daughter to have full lips . I’ve had a white person tell me that they love the golden complexion and didn’t like their pale skin 👀
I think Biracial and light skin people often talk about not feeling accepted for being too light but don't realize very dark skin people often are not accepted and rejected for being too dark. It goes both ways.
Difference is tho in most cases we’re not excepted either on either side. and we don’t have that community of our own because there’s not many of us in our spaces . I used to say I was Puerto Rican when I didn’t know a damn lick of Spanish.
We realized it and hear it all the time while we’re NEVER allowed to publicly say we’re proud of our skin color. So extra dark skin people have privileges that we don’t. Must be nice
Me too babe ❤️ I never question who I am. A good lot of my friends are mixed too & we’ve always loved the experience. It’s the first time I’ve herd this. I always found it hugely beneficial too.
I love being biracial because you have the best of both worlds. I’m blaxican and I wouldn’t have it any other way because I love my hair and my skin. I love how my features are mixed between two types of cultures. Yes you feel ostracized from your community but after you see how people operate your totally fine chillin by ur self.
Mixed with what? 80% of African Americans have at least 20% European dna due to rape from slavery. That means African Africans are all mixed. That means 20% are actually black and the rest aren’t.
Jocelyn is 🎯 Amber uses black culture to her convince and when it gets too deep she switches up. That's not being biracial, that's appropriating, and disrespectful to her black side. She doesn't want to know how it feels to be an actual black woman. She just wants to pose as one every now n then when convenient.
Thank you for saying this. A lot of people are saying how oh I don't like being called mixed or half or whatever. I don't like people asking me what I am or all these different things that really technically are not offensive. And people don't mean it as offensive I can't complain. No one knows what I am. My mom is Korean and Koreans don't think I'm Korean. I think one Korean has looked at me and thought I was Korean. It can be very discouraging but at the same time it's nothing to be ashamed of. It's so much better today. Definitely because especially growing up as what technically has been called mulatto or black and white mixed, I can't imagine the hardship that they dealt with 40 or 50 years ago. I'm very blessed to live in a country who now accepts people of all races including a lot of mixed kids.
@@shadowcollins4589 I also have a Korean mom except I have never been denied of my Asianness and neither have my sisters. Something that is rather funny is that I look very close to a monoracial Asian while my sisters look more obviously white, so whenever they go to the Korean areas in Atlanta the monoracial Korean people don't register them as Korean but when I am there all of a sudden they do.
These are valid problems and hard experiences I just don’t know if I can get behind the idea that people have to stick within their own race to reproduce
I agree. Love who you love and procreate in a healthy environment. I think the biggest takeaway from my friends/family who grew up biracial is that there needs to be an awareness and conversation of what that child may potentially deal with throughout their life when dealing with different cultures/backgrounds
@@TandyColada definitely true and definitely shouldn’t be something people romanticize or go after just because they aspire for their child to look a certain way
Facts! Omg all I can think about is when KimK was on tv boasting about how she thought her first child was going to come out looking. I remember the clip and it was by far one of her most cringe moments 😬
I respect everybody but I’ve never seen anybody with biracial kids take racial pride in their children. I’ve only seen it with people that have monoracial children. The reason why it’s weird is because I think it’s not natural and most people are not used to it. Everybody is a child of God but I just think it’s much easier overall in life when people only marry and breed within their own racial kind. There are white biracial people too. When people do the interracial thing, it makes racial identification for the offspring very hard and it’s really not fair. Biracials are always stuck in the middle and never solidly fit in any racial group. Biracial is not black, white or Asian. If you say biracial black, you have to equally say biracial white or biracial Asian or whatever it is too. 👌🏻
This conversation is quite interesting. Growing up in a rural southern town, light skinned and mixed people were mean and hateful! The bullies were light or mixed with white! They mistreated dark skinned kids horribly and dirty. Yes, other dark skinned kids would follow their lead.
I don't agree you can be black and biracial, its like saying you can be a man or a woman, either you have two black parents or you dont. Its simple! I have no idea how black people feel or how it feels to have two black parents. There are many black women doing videos saying that us identifying as black or black biracial is actually an insult to actual Black women.
I hear you. I do understand where you’re coming from but I don’t agree that it’s similar to gender identity at all. I believe that if a person is multiracial then they should identify as that and not one race over the other. But at the same time race is just a made up social construct so who am I to tell someone else how to identify..Yanno? I feel like right now it’s “trendy” (cringe) to be black so that’s why a lot of ppl want to identify as such. It wasn’t long ago that biracials only wanted to identify as white (if they could pass for such.) Honestly it sounds like it’s mentally exhausting being biracial so I posted this video in order to open the discussion in hopes that ppl will listen to biracial voices. With that being said, I really appreciate you for sharing your thoughts/opinions. I think it’s insightful!
I have only met a couple of bi-racial people who wanted to pass. Maybe because I was raised in a black neighborhood and with all black family and friends. We were enjoying life. My Mom chose my father's family over her racist family. My parents were committed to each other before it was legal to marry. As soon as it was legal, they married in 1967. Back then, we stayed in our own large, mostly black community. No one ever told me I had to embrace a white side. I never contemplated that. Those were people who hated us. They approached us to start shit before they would a darker person. That was a mistake! We weren't raised to be victims. I am who I am, and I don't care what others assume, just don't interfere with my life.
Thank you! Facts are important. If you’re biracial - why proclaim or try to be something that you are not (I.e. black). That would be a lie - to yourself and others. To what end or benefit?
I agree, I completely agree. There’s just one exception: when a biracial has “black” features and darker skin; like when they don’t look biracial. In those instances, since they are seen and treated as black, they can identify as black.
I was knocked off my bike when I was 7 for being biracial. Two darker skinned boy's and one girl were going to jump me. As soon as they knocked me of my bike they said "do you think you are better than us''.
I’m half Nigerian & half English, brought up in North Wales. I can’t BELIEVE!! that people think mixed people have a identity crisis😂😂😂! I won’t speak on behalf of the mixed community but Most of my friends are mixed raced & WE DONT!! If anything I see myself having an advantage as I understand both cultures.humans are humans it’s just cultural backgrounds that differ. Skin colour is nothing to me, as I know black people when visiting Africa who are more light skinned as me! I also see it’s huge advantage as I have always felt accepted by both black & white spaces & been able to flicker between both cultures. I have dated men white & black. I intend to have more mixed babies, I wanna throw some Chinese in there 😂😂❤️
It's good to hear these experiences from both sides. The gas lit people often will develop a superiority complex, and the abused people can develop an inferiority complex. These difficult experiences can make it difficult to sympathize in the moment, and hurt feelings of the people that would otherwise be great friends. I'm REALLY appreciating these videos! 🥰
My mother is white passing mixed race Latina and my dad is Black American. My mother always viewed me as Latina but I didn’t live with her long enough to really learn Spanish. My father who I grew up with and his mother always viewed me as and treated me as Black. In my house. Outside of my house, people always approached the adults I was with and later approached me to ask to touch my hair and express how pretty they thought I was. People of all races. I was born in the 1970’s, so mixed race was not as common in the north east. I was playing in a department store with some Latino kids. When their parents were leaving the store the employee grabbed me and ran after them to say they were leaving their daughter. My grandmother and aunts of course freaked out. It is also not cool for anyone to value me for my appearance. I have always felt out of place and at 50 years old I sometimes still struggle with my identity. It can definitely be sucky.
I'm adopted and I could say very similar things, because a lot of adoptee's are never fully accepted into a family with different DNA. Me included, a white child adopted by white parents. It's a lifelong "you're an outsider" thing, and we get it from everyone, all colors and creeds. Even if we are abused, we are called "lucky", and to stop "complaining" because at least someone adopted us. No one looks like you in your family (regardless of race), you're treated differently, or not at all, and no one wants to address the elephant in the room. I still advocate for adoption because everyone is different and plenty of adoptee's grow up in good homes, and they need and deserve them. When I was married to the father of my children, who's mom is white and father is black, he was filling out the census and chose 'black" as his race. I asked him why because he's mixed, like how do you choose? I genuinely wanted to know. I'm a mixed white person, Irish, Spanish, French, Dutch and Polish, so I just say "other" on the census. It also took 27 years for me to search for and find out what my heritage was. He told me, "because I'm not white." That made sense to me, from his perspective, and I had a much better understanding of being in his shoes, but it also made me sad that he felt he had to choose at all. He is a very successful man and drives nice cars, fast cars, but drives below the speed limit a lot. I asked him why he wasn't putting on the gas in these nice cars. He told me, "because I'm a black man in a nice car". I got that too, unfortunately. BTW I dated men of all races, wasn't looking for skin to marry, just a good man. Kind of missed out on the good part, but that was not a racial issue, just human. Regardless, my ex's answers helped to shape how I raised my own children who some people assume are either white, middle eastern, or Italian. I spoke up for them, and I never ever called them derogatory names or put any part of their heritage down. There are so many times they don't even know about. I wasn't a perfect mom, but who is? Of any color or nationality. We need to support each other and stop making assumptions and generalizations. I have seen black moms with white kids, either with a black father or adopted, and they are proud women (rightfully so) who just love their kids. They get a hard time too, and a lot of the time it's from the black community, as if they are betraying their heritage. Racists are going to be racists, of all colors. We need to learn to live in a world with aholes and keep walking. Lead by example. At the end of the day, as an adoptee and mom of mixed heritage children with African decent, I can see that most families have issues no one discusses, and that's probably the biggest problem for any child. Denial of reality. Gaslighting in general. Lack of healthy communication and understanding. I may have even been complicit at times without knowing it. That needs to change. I'm trying, with my adopted family, and my mixed heritage family. I'd like to just have a family. I hear and respect the struggles and pain associated with being multicultural. I can't relate directly, but have some idea of how it feels to be "different" in a way that society labels you as either, "bad", invisible or "special" (In a condescending way). You can't just be who you are, no matter what color your skin is, or what family you are a part of. As far as Amber Rose, I saw her feelings, words and actions (although not advocating for violence), as the hurt and frustration she wears on her sleeve, for growing up as a light skinned bi-racial person. She hurts, and anger is just hurt's bodyguard. I feel like she was being verbally attacked in a racial way, and probably has had enough of it. Black women cry too when they are hurt or sad. So do mixed people. It isn't specific to white women, or even women. Some people don't cry at all, of every background. As Jerry Garcia put it so perfectly, "Oh oh what I want to know is, are you kind?" Your videos are very insightful and your spirit is beautiful. I'm here to learn. Respect. LOVE to everyone.
I really feel sorry for biracials who cant fit in anywhere. My husband's family is generationally mixed Black family who can pass for white. They don't talk this way because their family is a Black family, who looks white. I see the confusion more with biracials who are Black/white. My sons look biracial but they are Black. I tell them do not mess with biracials who are confused and keep saying I don't belong no where. It comes across as mental issues.
You should have moved, America is a big place, lotsa different kinds of people. But what would I know, I'm a white guy from Houston with a Mixed/Bi-Racial daughter and a half-native grandson (from a white daughter). Neither of which are proud or ashamed, because it is just facts. And neither has ever experienced discrimination from any "color".
I am from Jamaica. I just wanted to let everyone know that in Jamaica their is Irish Jamaicans,German Jamaicans,Jewish Jamaicans,Scottish Jamaicans and many more white Caucasians born and raised in Jamaica. Their are black Jamaicans. Jamaica is a nationality not a race!!!!!🤔🤫
Bredda, it’s good to have another Jamaican who understands our perspective on race and ethnicity. We’re fortunate to be from an island rich in multicultural life. I grew up with family members of different skin tones, eye colors, hair textures, and accents. Our culture values people first, not race or ethnicity as fixed identities. While colorism exists-a softer form of racism where proximity to Indian, Chinese, or European features is often idealized- most people still are of African descent. You'll see someone you consider white or Chinese, and you meet their family, seeing a very black skin grand parent. I often saw this as a child, but didn't question it, because I saw the variations of what different skin colors create. I grew seeing skin color like crayons. I grew up not realizing racism was real. Someone who is mixed doesn't have to develop an identity crisis. I think its the nurturing of the parents who guide the self esteem of the person. The parents a lot of the times can have deep biases which affects the child, or the counties historical relationship with race. Big bredda.
I am multiracial identifying as a Multiracial American and I love who I am. I don't struggle with it at all. My skin color is not black nor white but brown. I love and embrace ALL parts of me. Thing is those who love themselves normally have no issues with loving others. It's not up to anyone else to fix the problems others have with themselves. On another point, ethnic mixing has been going on since the beginning of mankind. Once one carries admixture, it will continue on therefore no one can stop having mixed children. In order for that to happen we'd all have to cease for living. What a ridiculous suggestion but I know, there are those out there who feel this way. How sad is this.
I have met white & black couples who are still together & the parents teach their kids about both sides of their culture Im mixed with Native american & white & Im not going to hate either side cuz hate just brings more hate & yes there are a lot of racist white people out there but the best way to stop hate is be honest but love everyone as your brother & sister becoming racist just make other peoples racism worse & my aunt worked with a black women who said racist things to her even tbough she native & white & she just kept being nice to her & eventually they became best friends learned about Native American Heritage and my Scottish Heritage and I have two cousins that are half black half German and I love them very much and we are all brothers and sisters no matter what our races and I believe it's a test we were all made differently nature creates variances and nature can't exist without variances and yes there are some white parents out there that don't teach their kids their other race Heritage and they should and are not still married my cousins that are half black half German both their parents are still married and they are taught about both their Heritage and I just don't think it's fair to act like all mixed families are bad cuz they're not all bad cuz you teach hate and racism when you do that blacks becoming racist is just going to make the whites that are not racist more likely to become racist towards blacks I've seen that happen not because they're racist but because they're just angry from being picked on by that race and they're making them feel like they can't trust that race to be friends with cuz there's some black folks that pretend to be friends with white folks and then back stab them on purpose and they were never friends with them in the first place and they just did it to pick on them I've seen white people do that to black people too but more often the black folks cuz they're just angry about all the racism they have gone through and it's understandable about all the anger they've been through but it's not okay it's just going to make things worse and there are good white people out there and you want as many good white people on your side as you can and more of them would be nice if they didn't get bullied I mean they should be nice no matter what but that's just how a lot of humans are it's reality on both sides I mean I'm a lesbian and I've had straight people pretend to be my friend and then backstab me later so I got nervous to make friends with straight people again but then I remembered I had straight friends that never backstabbed me so I decided to not hate all straight people and only make friends with lesbians and gays I've had gay guys back stabbed me too and some of them work for a business that did corrupt things and they didn't treat me any different than anybody else even though I'm a lesbian and the you would think that lesbian gay transgender Community would all be nice to each other but if it's their survival most human beings will pick their survival 90% of people are like that in America because I learned the statistics when I worked at the shipyard it's really sad I've seen black politicians backstab other blacks just cuz if they side with the white politicians then they won't get treated badly I've heard black folks mention that and they're angry about it and I don't blame them we all just need to love one another like brothers and sisters and that's the only way Bob Marley I love his music when his people became divided he started singing songs to bring his people together even though they were all Jamaican blacks they had their differences with who they wanted politically to run the country and they started killing each other and same thing happened in Africa the Belgium tricked one tried to think they were better than the other tribe and then that tribe started killing the other tribe over jealousy goes to Belgium's Retreat One Tribe better than the other seal this trick in the book and they fell for it and what I love about Bob Marley is he says one love we are all brothers and sisters we are all spiritually related we need to all love one another as brothers and sisters and stop hating one another just because others are racist doesn't mean we have to be racist cuz that's exactly what the white racist government in America wants they want blocks to become racist and hate white people because then they'll have more white people hate blacks and oppressed blacks even more so you're actually helping the white racist government by hating white people don't get me wrong when black rights are being violated you need to stand up for one another just like Native American protest against the racist white politicians and SeaWorld when the mystery animals were the Native Americans natives are so oppressed on the reservations and treated like crap by the white racist government and I mean not all the government is evil but most of them are whether they're white or not and so you want to be in the middle about it you want to stand up for yourself but don't become racist yourself and cuz you're feeling the test that the great spirit gave us great spirit is just a Native American word for God for anyone that doesn't know and there's Native Americans that hate white people and there's Native Americans that say no hate just brings more hate and they bring white people to the reservations to teach them their culture cuz that helps less white people become racist or reverses the racism or makes them less likely to become races because when one person is racist towards the other and they're more likely to become racist I mean I refuse to become racist even though a huge number of black people have been really mean to me cuz they go to churches that teach them that all white people are the devil there's Native Americans that don't like black people and I tell them not to be racist and it's not because they're racist it's because black folks have been mean to them too and I said there are some nice black folks out there my friend sunny she was so nice to me and her mom was in the Navy so she moved and she her dad left and abandoned them but her mom did not like me because I'm white and she didn't know I was native as well but she believed in not mixing races either I would not have made a difference so she didn't allow us to keep being friends and even though I was bullied by the majority of the kids at the school for being a lesbian she stuck around and was still my friend until her and her mom moved and her mom wouldn't allow her to write to me she was upset about it so was I you know even though I have native in me if a white person says oh I love the native culture I would love to go to the reservation I would ask I don't live on the reservation oh I love the native culture I would love to go to the reservation I would ask I don't live on the reservation my grandmother left because of the oppression from the government it's really bad there the Blackfoot tribe gets oppressed really bad some tribes get treated worse than other times depends on the area you live in and some of the tribe leaders even horde the money and keep most of it for themselves and don't spread it out equally the government money that they're supposed to give out which makes natives even more depressed because we're supposed to be community-based not act like capitalist individualistic but some of them keep acting community-based and they refused to give in to drugs even though the reservations can be hard to live in they keep their spirituality and talk about how many don't it's a test to see if you can be good no matter what happens that's the way life is I mean you can protest and make it better keep it balanced as much as you can I like Martin Luther King cuz he did peaceful protest cuz trust me the racist government wants black folks to attack so they can put them in jail and oppress them and Gandhi successfully got the British out of India through nonviolent protests I remember watching a black live movement meeting outside the White House on RUclips and she said don't start attacking cuz that's what the racist government wants the American government wants us divided don't start hating white folks don't start attacking businesses protest peacefully like Martin Luther King did cuz then you will win more support if you start attacking people you're going to lose support and you're going to get arrested and you're not going to be successful in your movement and they started actually listening and I agree with her on that
so true. I also get told im not biracial cause i look one ethnicity only. (mexican), they go like: "oh i thought you were mexican!" and "be for real your not mixed."
Ugh! All that matters is you know who you are tho! I do believe we don’t get to choose our race but how we choose to identify is completely up to us. Ppl can’t take away how you feel!
In the first clip with the biracial gentleman, his lived experience is one that often gets denied. I've watched a few Black youtubers who seem to believe that biracial peoples do not experience anti-Black racism to the same degree as Black people. I think we forget sometimes that the spaces of Hollywood, and social media can differ from the unique geographies of North America. There are cities and neighbourhoods in North America where biracial people are percieved as Black, and endure anti-Black racism. I witnessed this take place to my biracial family members in school, and the events were traumatic. Today, we don't even speak about it to eachother because it's so painful to remember.
It seems as though everyone has different experiences, some biracial people have said that they had a great experience and never had identity crisises and others have had negative experiences.
I’m biracial black/white and I love dark skin! The darker the berry the sweeter the wine! My mom is super dark and I use to wish I had her skin tone ❤❤❤❤
Yeah I'm not black but I have one friend who has the most beautiful skin and I haven't told anybody this but I have envied it😂 She is so dark but it's just really pretty. she's really beautiful
Although good intentioned - This comment is problematic and harmful to communities of color - and uplifts white proximity. It’s called fetishizing - which is a form of anti-blackness. There is a lot of studies, literature and content available to further educate yourself.
You know what, as a mixed race adult, I kind of feel this. I like seeing mixed couples because personally it feels like another "f u" to anyone who hates different races being together
Yep, in Trini lots of us around.. Douglarize the world. I don’t understand why it would or would not be a flex, it just is. I love me and I exist as I am tri-ethnic.
It's interesting how so many mixed kids have non white dads, but white moms. It seems more common that the dad is black and the mom is white instead of vice versa. I think a lot of issues happen when these men are going after these wyt women or women with proximity to wyt, specifically for their whiteness and not for them as and individual. Some of these men/fathers who choose women based on preference seem to have self-hate for their own ethnicity. If the father doesn't love the blackness or ethnicity of his own women like the woman he came out of at birth, or if he doesn't love his own blackness, then when he has a mixed child, how will he uplift the child? When a mixed child gets bullied, the father should be equipped enough to uplift the child, tell them how beautiful they are, how special they are, how the ethnic part of them is just as special as the white part. But due to the fathers own self-hate, some of these black men won't build the child, or they leave the child, who falls prey to bullying. I think these black men or men of any ethnicity should learn to love themselves and their own race before choosing women outside their race and having kids. The same goes for wyt moms too. They shouldn't choose a man based on ethnicity or because he'll put her on a pedalstal. If they get with a black man or man of any race, it should be based on love. Because if she has racist feelings toward him or his race, that can spill out and affect their mixed child
My issue w/ Amber is that she tries hard to not say she’s Black like once she wasn’t poppin in hip hop anymore she decided to claim everything else first and Black last. You are allowed to live your biracial experience w/o throwing one under the bus. Your identity shouldn’t be thrust on you but it’s just weird I’ve seen a lot of biracial/racial ambiguous ppl fight hard to not be called Black. Blackness is very much an identity and an experience all stories [that aren’t problematic or toxic] should be heard. Also the trauma that creates the issues. When our history isn’t taught we’ll always be confused as to why certain experiences are what they are
Sounds like the same thing all kids go through, kids are mean and they're always bullies. .. they tried to bully me,but since I stood up for myself they picked some one else....
Its not like you celebrate the actual culture anyways. It stems where you are from, not what you adopted, 90% if Americans do not know crap about other cultures so shut it😂
YOU KNOW WHY ITS ROUGH TO BE MIXED!? Because a lot of mixed people got made to feel left out by their OWN FAMILY MEMBERS. I got picked on by my dark skinned cousin since I was 5 years old in front of everyone and nobody every did anything cause *it’s all love??* when I was a kid there were only blond or black dolls. At school, the white kids told me I was adopted when I wasn’t. I could keep going lol mixed people aren’t secure cause security comes from childhood stability and a sense of belonging and nobody around you is mixed and understanding when you’re a kid… (cause they’re either full black or full white)
My child is Afro Latina with my phenotype so she is very embraced by the blk community and she has never met my in-laws because they are white Mexican ppl that don’t except me which is fine we just cut them off. She is being raised to be proud of both sides of her heritage and will not allow anyone to tell her who she is. A proud blk child with Mexican roots.
I don't want to speak as a black person I just want tell speak up for myself and other mixed people who have been harassed and bullied. It doesn't end after school if I'm being honest it got way worse in workplaces and the adult world in general We are often silenced its tiring
When I was younger I was bashed for speaking up about being bullied because everybody would say im better than them and ppl would gaslight me to think that because im not fully black I don’t get discriminated against …. Im not a white passing mixed person fyi because I know there are white passing mixed ppl
Ppl are so damn weird it’s annoying! I hate that you had that experience and hope you are in a better space now that you’re older. Your experiences in life is valid and your voice deserves to be heard. Thank you for sharing 💜
If it is enough to affect you, then it counts. Plus white-passing mixed-race people can still experience racism; it's just different from people who look obviously like a POC. I'm literally the furthest one can get from white-passing, but from what I've heard, it's like being a POC in a white body and then racist white people will be comfortable with saying racist things about their race to them and assume that they think just like them when they actually don't.
I enjoy this series, thank you! I'm a dark skinned pakistani woman married to a ukrainian, i worry about my future baby because i don't know what kind of world is coming in to. A world that will treat the child like an exotic, a “specimen”, only for it being biracial? Or just as a child like any other? Will his community (that he doesn't associate with anyway because they reject me/ pretty much anyone dark skinned) ever welcome our child? I know mine will but there's so much colorism in my community too!!! 😢 i try to make that the least of my worries but it does occur to me occasionally.
Thank you! I can totally understand your feelings given the circumstances. It’s just awful that people are so judgmental! Being a parent is tough as it is without worrying how the world will affect your child 😩
TEA! This entire clip was mad annoying to watch. Like you would think considering Joseline’s upbringing she would be more understanding of how Amber feels but I can’t say that I’m surprised of her ignorance either
Sometimes I feel like it's the more exotic side of you that gets treated differently. Like I'm Asian and hispanic. I don't really look asian. I guess I could pass for Hispanic but we are white Hispanic. So we're light-skinned. Hispanics don't seem to have a lot of a problem with me because there are so many of us that come in so many colors. But asians? I tell people they're the most racist group of people on Earth and no One believes me. The Asian side is what identify with the most but because I'm half and I don't look Asian, people are genuinely surprised when I come in speaking Korean with a perfect Korean accent. Then they start talking about me😂 Not thinking i can understand them. Now for the most part a lot of Korean women in the US have mixed children so there are many times where I get treated like I'm someone's child because I remind a lot of Asian women of their mixed race children. But then I have those who treat me with hatred because I'm half. It's always the more exotic side of you that treat you differently. Like if you're black and white, it seems like the black community has more of a problem with you than the white community for the most part. I was surprised when I read this title but as I'm listening I'm realizing that they're right If you're not going to take care of your kids, if you're not going to love them, you shouldn't have them. Now I feel like some of it doesn't have to do with race but just crappy parents in general. Who neglect their kids 100%.
Thank you for taking the time to not only comment but actually comprehend the message put forth in this video. The title is meant to provide shock value but if one takes the time to actually listen/watch the video, they’d understand that I whole heartedly believe that we should love and be with whoever we choose to. But with that being said, cross culture dating/procreating is difficult if both people in the relationship aren’t willing to do the work necessary to sustain the relationship and raise mentally healthy children. At the end of the day children are a blessing and not one has ever asked to be here so it is up to the parents to actively participate in their child’s life to instill good values and high self esteem 💜 it breaks my heart to read some of the comments from different biracial/mixed experiences because it all starts at home.
I’m mixed, blue eyes with golden skin. My father is dark skin and buff, handsome, Jamaican with German ancestry. My mother is Mixed, English German Father and American Black Mother. I’ve got a pointed sharp jawline, long face with curly soft hair. My siblings come in different colors and we are all tall. As growing up in the Crip neighborhood we grew up in; we are all tall, healthy and growing still. Mom and Dad met at 13 years and 11 years old. They are still together 59, and 57 yrs old. We all play basketball and all siblings have a relationship close together and live no more than 35 mins apart! We aren’t rich, but we love life and can honestly say in this life on Earth, we have been treated decently by people of all races. Remember folks, even with the black spirited deepness we carry and can sense things hypersensitive and soulfully; you, me, I, all of us gotta govern ourselves accordingly and give people the benefit of the doubt. The way you talk, walk, see, and believe it about the problem, is the reciprocation you will get. To my Black people, you know those looks from people non us we get when we enter a room and the silence becomes loud, yeah; well you can change that depending. To my White people, you know that feeling when you don’t fit in; yeah, well thats on you. I am what I am and indifference ain’t gon coward me away. Fuck em all if they don’t like you. Let em look at ya! But Fuck em all if someone is jealous; have compassion and make your life easier. Just be inclusive and not indifferent. As a mixed person, I’ve dealt with some racist folks on both sides and Pookies and Ray Ray’s on both sides. You true and it ain’t no better than that!
I’m not biracial. I am multi generationally mixed. Sometimes biracials over play the tragic mulatto card. Such as Amber Rose and Mariah Carey. Not all biracial women are that dumb though. Halle Berry is much smarter in my opinion.
I hate the term BI-racial , i am a poduct of a mixed race relationship my mother being white british and my father being Caribbean light skinned or mixed race meaning one of his parents was black and one white, or vice versa , i do not know anything about his parents and have never even seen a photograph of them, but the mix between my two parents has made my skin tone almost white, i have olive skin and many people have asked me what are you? meaning what colour are you? I've been asked if i am greek, italian, spanish, lebanese, tunisian, puerto rican, why is it so important for people to put a label on me, but yet i have also suffered racism, i've been called a half breed even though my skin tone is closer to white/caucasion and although i have also suffered from racism from white / british, i was punched in my mouth and had my mouth busted open for no reason whatsoever other than my skin tone and suprisingly the perpetrator was a white irish boy, the reason why i say suprisingly because its a well known fact that the Irish people suffered from racism just like the west indian community that came to britain on the windrush and because of their experience with racism the irish and afro caribbeans became united, i have experienced racism from both black and white and don't seem to fit in anywhere because i'm not black enough for the black community and not white enough for some white people, i was told by the mother of a half-sibling her mother being black and having the same father as me, just remember that although your skin is white you have black in you, i have never forgotten those words and have been scarred by the people i grew up around, i tried to fit in and now i realise in my late 50's that i must learn to love and accept myself and i don't need acceptance or validation from anyone, i just wish mankind could all accept that we all come in different shapes and sizes just as we come in different shades, tones and hues, we are all Gods son's and daughters.
The crazy thing for me is children don't have an idea of systemic anything when they're growing up. Their world is this🤏🏾 big. I totally get it and maybe biracial people need their own space. I appreciate and get worn out by these conversations at the same time. I have a biracial brother and idk his experience, but his other side was racist except one and when that family member passed away he never really saw his family again. Seems like a lot of rejection and outcast syndrome.
Heavy on the I appreciate but still get worn out by these conversations lol I definitely feel like there needs to be space for bi/multiracial ppl to peacefully coexist since their experience is unique. Thank you for your comment!
I grew up in the 70’s and 80’s, born in the mid 60’s. What people don’t understand is that most of us don’t feel safe around our extended families on either side, that includes grandparents, cousins, aunts and uncles. We didn’t feel safe at school, often physically. Girls used to miss there school bus to try to beat me up after school, not to mention the daily verbal harassment from these same girls. Mom was MGM and dropped me off at school. I gave up being around black people as an adult. Too much drama surrounding the whole race, Color, hair thing. We can expect white people to be who they are, but usually they are quiet about it. Just living life with my husband and daughter, being myself in Europe. I don’t blame my parents for having me. I love being mixed. They were loving parents. I never knew I was different in any way from them or anyone else until I came back to the US and met an uncle from the black side who used to try to humiliate me, because he loathes white people. (This is not to say that I wasn’t on the receiving end of comment about staying out of the sun, by my paternal GM.). I have had a lot of positive experiences that I might not have had if I were either White or Black. I have no self loathing, but I do have some emotional scars from the way I was treated by others and it still continues with extended family to this day. Children should at least be safe from emotional abuse around their family members. All that being said, we all have challenges with our identities and peer acceptance no matter where we are or how we look or who our parents are. I put my own challenges into this context and so, I am just like everyone else. Mine has its own twist on the familiar theme. So what? It only becomes a crisis if I choose to make it one. I like a quiet life with no drama. I don’t mind being alone, actually I prefer a lot of solitude, but I have never had a problem making shallow friendships. It takes a quite a bit to be close to me. I am usually pushing advances of friendship away, because they infringe on my need for solitude. I say this only to encourage others who might want friendships to go where you want to be. You will find people who accept you for who you are. Forget about the rest. You are beautiful and just who you were meant to be whatever you look like, wherever you came from. Your humanity is what matters most in this world.
If you are mixed race you could grow up the one cousin who is lighter than all your cousins, but you still grow up with the same family experience. So it may seem weird that they claim a particular race which is incongruent with their appearance, but its because of how you grow up with your cousins, your aunts and uncles.
I am mixed and have had nothing but good relationships with my friends and family. I do not consider interactions with those I do not know as putting a value on who I am. My children by default are also mixed. The black community trying to be more homogenous is a form a self-segregation and Jim Crown imposed on members that disagree with them. Nobody owns blackness and no one can define what it should be. We are free to choose our path in life and use our heritages in the way we choose to live our life. I do not agree with people but do not try to enforce my opinions on them. We should all be able to choose how we live our life and not have to worry if it offends people. Because your right to be offended does not trump my right to be offended by you. We need to learn to let go and worry about how we should live our life to the fullest and not worry how someone else lives.
I have been harping about this for this whole century. These people are the biggest perpetrators of negatively-impacting stereotypical nonsense, and it has only gotten worse.
i’m black and white and grew up on my white side. based on my experiences i’d say i look racially ambiguous but i think i look like exactly what i am. i feel completely accepted in the black community. they usually think im latino but once i say im half black im accepted. despite the differences in cultural upbringing, i relate to experiencing racism and i just feel closer to black people. i don’t feel related to whiteness at all. my white family is my family but i don’t really see them the same as other white ppl because they love me in a way that white society doesn’t, so i do make a distinction.
Thank you for sharing your experience 💜 it’s always interesting for me to hear different perspectives on this topic. When I hear similar experiences as yours from biracials, I wonder if the feeling of closeness to blackness vs whiteness is based upon the phenotype of the individual. Like if a person doesn’t look like they “belong” to a group it’s only natural for them to feel somewhat disconnected from it. Someone else in the comments here brought up how they are adopted and face similar struggles feeling connected to their adopted family. Such a great perspective (IMO) that comment provided! Idk food for thought nonetheless I guess lol
I am mixed. I am black carribean,Irish,Scottish,Portuguese,Indian and Venezuelan. I was born in Jamaica West Indies. Jamaican is a nationality not a race.🤔🤫
It’s important to remember that similar to racism - the biracial plight is not the responsibility of BW to analyze, comfort or resolve. The responsibility and heat should be on the biracial community to discuss - or even more so, the white community who has created this racial system which all Of us have to grapple and suffer within.
While I can respect your opinion I respectfully disagree. The same way the black community appreciates other communities who stand up for them, different communities feel the same way. In the comments there are multiple biracial people who are appreciative of the effort I put in this video just to simply spark a conversation on their experience (the same way I have done for my own on this channel btw). I never once acknowledged being a voice for biracial and multiracial individuals but I do think that the unique intersectionality of the biracial experience is tangible with that of the black experience. So speaking on the topic has potential to uplift our own.
That stereotype is such shit and I will never forgive EurasianTiger for making me go through a phase where I hated being half white (especially because I had zero issues with my race until then). But yeah it doesn't matter if you are attracted to white men as long as you don't think they are superior to everyone else. Personally for me, race doesn't really matter too much but if I ever had biological kids, I would prefer to stick with my races (white and Asian) mostly because I worry about having a kid who feels like they don't fit in anywhere and that is something I have struggled with (albeit completely unrelated to race). But regardless, my hypothetical biological kids would be mixed no matter what.
Yeah, it’s definitely weird. I know the white women the type of white women you’re talking about my mother was white, but she wasn’t that type of white so I always find it weird when people do have biracial children and are that type of white to wear it’s cool. It’s a fetish. My kid has curly hair and big lips like it’s weird. I am definitely glad I had a normal mother and a normal childhood.
It's called white guilt, most people like yourself secretly love it. It comes time where you run into someone like me who has zero white guilt isn't automatically friendly to you because you have darker skin or whatever, your upset😂
Me being multi-generational mixed I've had the same struggles as anyone who is darker than me I've had my head bashed in by cop .I've been shot at ,I've been stabbed and being lighter complected does not stop because I'm definitely not looking white and I'm definitely not looking like someone who's going to easily pass.. The funny thing is people think and assume that you have such a different experience it's not true you're living in the same experiences going through the same struggles I don't understand how people could separate you especially if you have that ancestry
It’s unfortunate that any of us have to go through any discrimination of any kind no matter what your percentage of African is. I think that it’s less than 50 years ago where light skinned Black people did create outside groups that didn’t include Dark and brown skinned fellow Black Americans. We’re now dealing with the residual effects of what happened between various shades of Black Americans not to long ago. Those light skinned groups lost the trust of most of the dark skinned members
most cases we’re not excepted on either side. I used to say I was Puerto Rican or any other Hispanic race because they were the most accepting, but how could I fit in with them if I didn’t know how to speak Spanish. we don’t have that community of our own because there’s not many of us in our spaces . Even if there was, there’s too much divide between us because our other halfs are usually different . But one thing we do have in common is we have black in us . At the end of the day though we just need to be kind and and respect each other no matter the race
My whole life they’ve made fun of me and told me I was too dark. Not the flex you think it is? Lot of people would kill to look mixed race like you and your too caught up in the hype.
I claim all my black people no matter what else they are mixed with. I think when "mixed" people have problems fitting into black communities, it's mostly a social skills issue.
So true I'm a mixed minor black mom white dad I kinda juggle both cause I been with both for an equal amount because I kinda have a hard time with my own identity and my life to I don't have a voice stop have mixed children we have problems to ok we are enot exotic
![Seungmin "그렇게, 천천히, 우리(As we are)" | [Stray Kids : SKZ-PLAYER]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/kAzmhLHePqU/mqdefault.jpg)
I remember being at cheerleading camp in high school and there was a group of yt girls that would sit around and talk about how they can’t wait to have mixed babies and how they just thought they were so cute… they would go and have those mixed babies they doted about… not once did they say they love black ppl or wanted to actually keep the men. 2 of the 3 girls did marry a black man but 1 of the 2 divorced her husband as soon as she got her set. She blamed it on his infidelity from 10 years prior to them even being married or having kids but really its bc she never really wanted him from the beginning. She just wanted the pretty brown babies. They see them as an accessory or a badge of honor.
This is the issue I have with interracial relationships specially between yt and blk ppl. Idc what no one says in 2024 and beyond yt ppl fetishize mixed kids and it’s a problems and these BM just let yt ppl use theirs for their sick fantasies. Let’s talk about. Now they’re trying push interracial couples all on tv. It’s problematic to me. Let’s stop acting like it’s not a problem. Mixed kids should not be “promoted”. It’s not a badge of honor. Nothing wrong with sticking with you culture and race either. It’s all weird ash to me.
Yellow babies
Lol yellow 😂😂 we all don’t have yellow under tone sweetheart! My undertone is red ❤️😮💨 people who hate on mixed people are jeloussssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss no matter what ya say
My black friends talk about wanting dark skin black chocolate beautiful babies ALL THE Time!! With out talking about the men Soooooo what!!! 😂😂😂. It goes both ways. This is why I encourage people to get friends from different backgrounds & races because you realise humans are humans! I talk about wanting my baby to have Asian added to the mix! I’m mixed Nigerian & German French! English! So what!! Bring on your preference!! I want Asian in my mix. So what! We all want hot babies what ever that looks like to you! Go with it
Uh ‘hot bab…’ I don’t even want to retype that out… you seem gross..
My mom is white and my dad is black and my white mom has never done my hair, refuses to , has no black friends, doesn’t like black women OR ME , her half black daughter , and only cares about my black dad !! My dad doesn’t give a shit about my hair either, has no black friends!! The whole situation is fucked up , I’ve felt racism & self hatred & emotionally neglected by my parents for YEARS!! As well as, society treats me like shit too & only likes me if i am doing good things for others!! I HATE my family & have no representation!! And i agree that couples like my parents should not have had biracial children such as me & my brother!! Despite the fact they been together almost 45 years, it is not a good or healthy marriage or parental relationship towards me at ALL !! Please People do NOT have biracial children unless you really love them in a healthy relationship & family unit !! I’m still Reeling & Hurting Decades later !!
Your story is very sad where do you find that you fit in ?
@@blackbutterfly8136 i Don’t!! I pretty much stay to myself !!
Same except my mom is black but she’s a Trump supporter 😭😭😭
@@quincyjones5676 i think if my dad wasn’t around my mom she would be vehemently supporting Trump too!!
THAT'S OK I HEAR YOUR PAIN. I DON'T KNOW HOW IT FEELS TO HAVE A WHITE MOM AND A BLACK DAD. BUT I AM THE PRODUCT OF 2 HALF BRED PARENT'S. MY DAD A MUSLIM SAID WHITE'S WERE THE DEVIL MY MOM SAID BLACKS ARE MEAN. SO I AGREE BUT I LEARNED TO LOVE MY SELF THROUGH ALL I WENT THROUGH BEING BULLIED IN SCHOOL. I LEARNED TO FIGHT BACK SO YOU JUST DO THE SAME AND 💕 YOUR SELF. BUT I CAN AGREE WE SHOULDN'T MIX.
Their not lying im almost 50 & I've seen the hatred mixed kids received.
but you don't see the hatred dark people receive?
@@rosejames5172 My Mother was a Black Creole. Her complexion was deep chocolate. Her grandmother came from the West Indies. My biological father's Mulatto heritage and South American, and my father who raised me was Kenyan. We're all "Dark". 😂😭💯
@@rosejames5172we see that too. And we also get to see how dark skinned people are also celebrated in the same community as well.
That’s because being mixed is about LOOKING mixed and a lot of “mixed” people don’t look mixed
@@rosejames5172 Stop making it a competition, looking for validation. This is about a different subject.
“I like oranges, the color is nice”
“Yes, I like them too.”
“But what about apples? You don’t see their color?”
Stop. It’s so annoying.
As someone biracial I don’t see the hype about being mixed and the desire to pump us out either.
OOP 🫢
Being biracial is cool, I guess your childhood wasn't the best.
@goldenggxolol she’s not full of self hate, she’s just stating facts. She’s not full of colorism like yall are 😂
Traumatic bro.
it's about your spirit, and God created us all equal ❤🎉❤
Thank you for making this video. I'm a PhD student that aspires to study Black psychology specifically. Im biracial (half black/half white) and raised by a staunch white supremacist. The abuse I faced as a child almost always had to do with the fact that I was part black. Im so racially confused now and have no place to fit in. I do consider myself Black and biracial because im not white passing, though I am pretty light. The disdain for my existence on both sides is disheartening. No one wants me and no one hears me. I strive to lift Black voices through my research, it'd just be nice if they did the same and acknowledged my voice as part of the Black collective.
White mother or father?
Wow😢 I thought it was only my mom
I'm sorry babe , being black ain't all that, love jesus.
"Black and biracial because I'm not white passing". No you choose that because your forced to choose it by the black community. If your head was strong about mulatto history you would know your identity is well documented in this country since the early 1600s. The so called blacks you described above were mainly propelled into the future by mulattos. Blacks benefited greatly from the 1924 racial integrity act aka one drop rule. It forced Mulattos into the black grouping in addition it forced them to share their ADVANTAGES with the black group which was many. This act on lasted a measly 43 years ending in 1967 yet blacks like to weaponize it to benefit them. Case closedb
Same here !! My mom tells me to go “get RAPED” & acts like a KKK bitch towards me most of the times & my dad neglected me for most of my life !! I can’t go to school anymore because i have Post Traumatic Stress from BOTH sides , please PLEASE keep doing your research !!
My mom was a single white mom to me and 2 brothers (we are all mixed with black) and she ALWAYS did our hair and learned to how to care for it I have looser curls and my brothers have 4c hair and she got all of us different hair stuff and she also bought us stuff w biracial characters on it or brown kids so we see ppl who look like us shout out to my mommy she’s the BEST and always explained to us why she’s a different color than us and always let us express our selfs how we chose ! And she NEVER tried to white wash us ! School was where I had all my issues w bullying
I’m so happy to hear that your mother was able to put some of the work in necessary for having biracial children. It’s important for children of all backgrounds to feel accepted and seen
I understand that but you’re still not black. To be black, you have to have two black parents.
@@travelingdude1621read the comment again 💀 she said she’s MIXED with black. She clearly knows she’a biracial lol
@user-he3by8ut3mwhen did she say she’s white 💀 you guys are embarrassing
At this point it's a miracle if the black dad sticks around
I don't mean this to sound rude but when a non educated white person or an outright racist looks at a darker toned Biracial person (basically a Biracial person who has "Black features" and isn't an "exotic looking" person) and a Black person, they're going to think that we look the same. As a Biracial person who has a darker skin tone and Black features, I am not looked at as Biracial to people. I am seen as Black. So that's what I identify with. I live in a rural midwest area with racists, a lot of people didn't know I was Biracial until I went to the nearest "city" where there's a lot of Black folks and some of them could tell I was Biracial and some of them couldn't.
And what's more frustrating is that I was the product of a racial f3tish, although both of my parents deny having one; even though my dad (a Black man) hardly ever dates Black women and only dates certain types of "ghetto" white women and my mom basically preys on Black men and pretends to be ghetto. So my dad was an absent father, and my mom could careless about my actual culture, she just liked Black men but when she would have kids with them she'd get the wrong hair products (hair products for 4c hair, I have different textures in my hair) and she would have her Black friend do our hair in braids so tight that my sisters scalp started to bleed and crack. If you're going to have Biracial kids, don't have them because "ohhh Biracial kids are the cutest!" have them because you want a child!
Oh i feel you
I identify definitely as mixed but also Asian and Hispanic. So I guess it's three identities technically and then America is squeezed somewhere in between those.
Having a child because of a fetish is so messed up
I think some of it though it's not because it's a race thing, it's just a bad parent thing.
Girl I look exotic but no one knows what I am. I don't look Asian and I guess I could pass for Hispanic because we come in so many different colors and shades. But I don't know this week's just been like a cultural identity crisis kind of week. My mom is an immigrant straight up from Seoul Korea. I partially grew up there, it was my first language, all my first memories, all my first cultural everything was Korean.
So I'm 40 years old but I still have a lot of Korean mannerisms, the way I sit, the way I talk, the way I walk, how I hold my hands.
And there are most Korean women who treat me like I'm one of their kids because a lot of them have mixed children. But then there are the ones who treat me like crap because to them I don't look korean. A lot of them don't even think I'm mixed with any kind of Asian. It's always surprise and you can always see it on their face
I see no problem with someone saying they are biracial or as either their other cultures. It's the most stupid thing
Yes for me it is a huge part of my identity because I lived in it but that's not all I am and some people make that everything
Some parents are just bad parents, it's not their race. They're just really bad parents
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I can't say I know the exact experience because my skin tone is light so I guess people don't think I'm Hispanic or whatever, but there is a part definitely culturally that I feel like I don't fit in.
It can be painful especially when people of your own racial identities actually brush you off and dismiss you because you're half.
I have felt today that I just don't belong. Like I don't belong to the Asian side and I don't belong to the Hispanic side. My dad was in the military. He was always gone so I never learned Spanish. I mean technically I belong as an American but you know we're a melting pot.
I know the pain. I don't have the exact experience of everyone else like I said but I do understand
I really hope that you're able to heal from all the pain you've had to suffer. And you know what forget other people. You're beautiful the Way you are. And people who neglected you or didn't take care of you or treat you right, it's their loss and not yours❤
See the difference between a biracial and a black person, the biracial can be both whereas the black person can only be black. They are two different experiences because one is mixed with two cultures and the other is just one culture
A lot of self-hatred seeping through this comment. You make a good case against different ethnicities mixing.
As Eltheloser stated, No one is really passing for both either because most don’t know WHAT you are as a biracial & will just condemn and conclude i’m Hispanic when i’m NOT & i don’t identify with that culture & every black person thinks we have it easy just because biracial people are LIGHTER, like literally my family was practically homeless a few times in the 80s & 90s because people didn’t want to rent to an interracial couple with biracial kids , no we’re not fully black but my mom (white, german) has had to lie on applications for Housing several times & pretend we were her ADOPTED Spanish kids even though i HATE tacos and spicy food i had to “pretend” that i didn’t straighten my hair every month and that i like food i didn’t like!! To have a home, i know it’s rough for full blacks too, but come on, everyone’s life sucked at some points , unless everybody liked you & you had it made. My ex best friend who was black i had to stop talking to her because she would complain every few minutes how bad she had it, but she won a FREE scholarship for college, (i didn’t get to even finish my education), she was raised in a rich black family, & she got a Phd , & she was ALWAYS getting things her way, talking about complaining constantly that she’s dark skinned black!! Yeah well, i was sexually abused since i was an infant , wasn’t able to finish school, had to serve in the army where i got abused (again)!! & been poor most of my life, most people don’t like me & are racist against me (both black, spanish, asian, AND white) and i get treated like shit while my darker skin black friend (now EX-Friend) coasts right through life with straight A’s and her parents giving her money all the time!! This is what i hate about talking to people who into mono colored stuff , like just because i’m lighter than you doesn’t mean everything about my life was easy because it WAS NOT !! Do not have biracial kids, because if you are already broken in your own race or ethnicity it’s not going to help your kids especially if they’re half of some other ethnicity , my whole life has been a struggle & i HaTED every minute of it, & my interracial parents do NOT help it at all usually!! I’m just lucky i even survived at this point, FOR REAL !!
You just described my whole story… I think if you’re going to have children at all- have them bc you actually want them and want to have them cared for properly..
My beef with Amber Rose is that she will jump in and out of blackness when it's convenient for her. Amber Rose has yelled from the mountain top that she isn't "black", cool stay your butt out of black spaces in order the eat.
I feel you but I also think that by being biracial it’s only natural for her to be able to coexist in both spaces. She shouldn’t have to choose to be one over the other if she’s equally rooted and comfortable in both 🧐
@TandyColada I'm not saying she should pick one over the other, but you don't get to be a blk representative when money is involved ( promotion, hip-hop, or anything else dealing with our spaces).
Amber Roses has even stated that her mother is “mixed race” and not a black woman. Therefore - Amber Rose is a white woman with a small amount of black ad-mixture. This fact can better inform a more contextualized conversation about her interest and experience within the black community.
If people can claim to be a man when they're a woman and vice versa, I think someone can claim a racial group that they are a part of even if it's a little bit
I am part taino but it is a very small part of my racial group but I have a lot of features that show I am native.
I can still claim it. I have like five different races in my bloodline. And if I want to, I can claim them all
If she's black at all, let her fucking claim it
Facts
I'm biracial, with a white mom and a black Caribbean father. I love being mixed. My mom took great care of me and my sister's hair. She learned how to braid when we were younger and now she recently learned how to do LoC retwist. My dad taught us about our Caribbean side (Guyana and Trinidad). Both sides of my family adore each other.
I love this experience for you 💜
Nice!
Do you have a big butt?
Me too I love being mixed!! Always found it an advantage
@MikhailMuhammad-uy2kd 😂😂 lol you just have zero concept because you’re not mixed! You’ll never understand my experience ! I have always found it an advantage! Always. It helped me with my career, my dating life. Forming friendships, having two parents from different cultures & backgrounds have been a huge advantage over just having 1 ❤️ ! I’m super grateful from the time I’ve been born too. Whoop
Whoop! I’m hoping to have mixed/ mixed kids too 😝✌️ Don’t hate ! Embrace your own journey. I’m celebrating mine
Selfish, people who only care about themselves procreate babies knowing their identity will be an issue in a messy world like this. I mean, if you really care about innocent babies you can just enjoy your biracial relationship without bringing kids into the mix.
I have been saying this for a while! So many people say that it's cool to be bi-racial or multi-racial just bc a lot of those people tend to have a lighter complexion or their features are more "acceptable". As someone that has two parents that are mainly mixed with black and Chinese (my dad also has some Indian ancestors) I was struggling a lot. Not only did I feel like I did not belong with my black side growing up, my Chinese grandfather abandoned my dad and I was never thought any of the Chinese traditions bc that side of the family does not speak to my family. People from my parents' home country would point out that I look more Chinese which is true since I could pass for fully asian. I don't have curly hair and I have a very fair skin. Other chinese people I've met so far would not guess I am Chinese but more so other asian ethnicities like Thai, Korean and Viet etc. I also live in a European country so my family from my parents'home country would point out that I was western or have an accent etc. my family did not mean any harm but it still hurt. That being said I still feel black although I don't necessarily look like it, I was still brought up with that culture and that side of my family. My family is very mixed so I did learn to love my mixed background later on but it felt pretty lonely sometimes since I felt like I was never enough. Never asian enough never black enough and all of the above. Conclusion: I am black, asian and proud!! I hope people could relate to this and if they feel the same way that they could feel comfort in know that they're not alone.
All love,
Abigail💜!
Abigail, thank you so much for sharing your experience 💜 I have heard the blasian (black + Asian) experience is unique and very tough to navigate. It seems that you are a true testament to that! I’m happy to hear that you have found love and appreciation for your diverse background despite the challenge
@@TandyColada Hey Tandy, thank you so much for your response and taking the time to read my very lengthy comment😅. I love that even though you are not bi-racial you still made a video about this topic to spread awareness, it really means a lot! This is what true black love is about. Accepting black people that come in all colours shapes and sizes. I wish you the best and have a nice💜. day
It’s funny some white people mix with black because they think that black features are beautiful. Kylie Jenner literally said that she was insecure about her lips and wanted her daughter to have full lips . I’ve had a white person tell me that they love the golden complexion and didn’t like their pale skin 👀
I think Biracial and light skin people often talk about not feeling accepted for being too light but don't realize very dark skin people often are not accepted and rejected for being too dark. It goes both ways.
Difference is tho in most cases we’re not excepted either on either side. and we don’t have that community of our own because there’s not many of us in our spaces . I used to say I was Puerto Rican when I didn’t know a damn lick of Spanish.
Sad@@pjthornton220
We realized it and hear it all the time while we’re NEVER allowed to publicly say we’re proud of our skin color. So extra dark skin people have privileges that we don’t.
Must be nice
it's the same .-.
Of course biracial or light skinned people realize darker skinned people are discriminated against. We hear about it all the time.
Im mixed with white and black and I get tired of people trying to say im one thing or the other. I just want to be mixed like for fricks sake 😅
Yeah I don’t get it when ppl try to make others choose one over the other 🤷🏽♀️ 🤦🏽♀️
It’s okay you’re an exotical ❤
@@Konfiden644 what 😂 😭?
@@Konfiden644no.
@@KDARZthis person hasn't got a clue. They are trolling .
Im mixed and never questioned who I am.
That’s amazing I wish this were the case for all
Me too babe ❤️ I never question who I am. A good lot of my friends are mixed too & we’ve always loved the experience. It’s the first time I’ve herd this. I always found it hugely beneficial too.
You right❤❤❤
it is just a problem of
Skin obsessed people
Good. Don't. I hope our kids grow up to have your confidence.
@@michelekiyindou agreed ! Total insecurity
I love being biracial because you have the best of both worlds. I’m blaxican and I wouldn’t have it any other way because I love my hair and my skin. I love how my features are mixed between two types of cultures. Yes you feel ostracized from your community but after you see how people operate your totally fine chillin by ur self.
So true
That's beautiful! You're beautiful!🤗
Blaxican!!
Giiiiirl.
Meet Korican 🇰🇷🇵🇷
😂
@@shadowcollins4589 that’s a nice mix 😊
Thank you!! Most humans in general aren’t good, my kids are also blaxican and I pray that they also love their beautiful selves
Exactly
Mixed means mixed for a reason....
Oop! Lol. Accurate representation does matter tho
Mixed with what? 80% of African Americans have at least 20% European dna due to rape from slavery. That means African Africans are all mixed. That means 20% are actually black and the rest aren’t.
God made solid colour mixed is an abomination it is destructive
@@georgeboehringer5530 I think a certain two people might say the same thing about you.
Jocelyn is 🎯
Amber uses black culture to her convince and when it gets too deep she switches up. That's not being biracial, that's appropriating, and disrespectful to her black side. She doesn't want to know how it feels to be an actual black woman. She just wants to pose as one every now n then when convenient.
Try growing up mixed in the 70’s and 80’s! It’s 💯 better these days, although it’s difficult to loose the PTSD!
Thank you for saying this. A lot of people are saying how oh I don't like being called mixed or half or whatever. I don't like people asking me what I am or all these different things that really technically are not offensive.
And people don't mean it as offensive
I can't complain. No one knows what I am. My mom is Korean and Koreans don't think I'm Korean. I think one Korean has looked at me and thought I was Korean.
It can be very discouraging but at the same time it's nothing to be ashamed of.
It's so much better today. Definitely because especially growing up as what technically has been called mulatto or black and white mixed, I can't imagine the hardship that they dealt with 40 or 50 years ago. I'm very blessed to live in a country who now accepts people of all races including a lot of mixed kids.
@@shadowcollins4589 I also have a Korean mom except I have never been denied of my Asianness and neither have my sisters.
Something that is rather funny is that I look very close to a monoracial Asian while my sisters look more obviously white, so whenever they go to the Korean areas in Atlanta the monoracial Korean people don't register them as Korean but when I am there all of a sudden they do.
These are valid problems and hard experiences I just don’t know if I can get behind the idea that people have to stick within their own race to reproduce
I agree. Love who you love and procreate in a healthy environment. I think the biggest takeaway from my friends/family who grew up biracial is that there needs to be an awareness and conversation of what that child may potentially deal with throughout their life when dealing with different cultures/backgrounds
@@TandyColada definitely true and definitely shouldn’t be something people romanticize or go after just because they aspire for their child to look a certain way
Facts! Omg all I can think about is when KimK was on tv boasting about how she thought her first child was going to come out looking. I remember the clip and it was by far one of her most cringe moments 😬
I respect everybody but I’ve never seen anybody with biracial kids take racial pride in their children. I’ve only seen it with people that have monoracial children. The reason why it’s weird is because I think it’s not natural and most people are not used to it. Everybody is a child of God but I just think it’s much easier overall in life when people only marry and breed within their own racial kind. There are white biracial people too. When people do the interracial thing, it makes racial identification for the offspring very hard and it’s really not fair. Biracials are always stuck in the middle and never solidly fit in any racial group. Biracial is not black, white or Asian. If you say biracial black, you have to equally say biracial white or biracial Asian or whatever it is too. 👌🏻
@@travelingdude1621 what’s not natural? Biracial kids?
No one can control the color they are!!!
@Dr.Feelgudd lightskin black people with two darkskin parents cough cough cough
This conversation is quite interesting. Growing up in a rural southern town, light skinned and mixed people were mean and hateful! The bullies were light or mixed with white! They mistreated dark skinned kids horribly and dirty. Yes, other dark skinned kids would follow their lead.
I'm biracial and neither of my parents are American. For me, there's definitely been privilege attached to being both.
I don't agree you can be black and biracial, its like saying you can be a man or a woman, either you have two black parents or you dont. Its simple! I have no idea how black people feel or how it feels to have two black parents. There are many black women doing videos saying that us identifying as black or black biracial is actually an insult to actual Black women.
I hear you. I do understand where you’re coming from but I don’t agree that it’s similar to gender identity at all. I believe that if a person is multiracial then they should identify as that and not one race over the other. But at the same time race is just a made up social construct so who am I to tell someone else how to identify..Yanno? I feel like right now it’s “trendy” (cringe) to be black so that’s why a lot of ppl want to identify as such. It wasn’t long ago that biracials only wanted to identify as white (if they could pass for such.) Honestly it sounds like it’s mentally exhausting being biracial so I posted this video in order to open the discussion in hopes that ppl will listen to biracial voices. With that being said, I really appreciate you for sharing your thoughts/opinions. I think it’s insightful!
I have only met a couple of bi-racial people who wanted to pass. Maybe because I was raised in a black neighborhood and with all black family and friends. We were enjoying life. My Mom chose my father's family over her racist family. My parents were committed to each other before it was legal to marry. As soon as it was legal, they married in 1967. Back then, we stayed in our own large, mostly black community. No one ever told me I had to embrace a white side. I never contemplated that. Those were people who hated us. They approached us to start shit before they would a darker person. That was a mistake! We weren't raised to be victims. I am who I am, and I don't care what others assume, just don't interfere with my life.
Thank you! Facts are important. If you’re biracial - why proclaim or try to be something that you are not (I.e. black). That would be a lie - to yourself and others. To what end or benefit?
I agree, I completely agree. There’s just one exception: when a biracial has “black” features and darker skin; like when they don’t look biracial. In those instances, since they are seen and treated as black, they can identify as black.
I was knocked off my bike when I was 7 for being biracial. Two darker skinned boy's and one girl were going to jump me. As soon as they knocked me of my bike they said "do you think you are better than us''.
Ugh. People can be so insecure. I'm sorry that happened to you. I'm annoyed for you.
Just came across your page and had to share it with people. Look forward to seeing more, thank you for exploring this topic.
People can have mixed kids, teach them to be respectful and not reacist. It sucks what kids go through.
Where has this channel been all my life..love love love ..new subbie
I’m half Nigerian & half English, brought up in North Wales. I can’t BELIEVE!! that people think mixed people have a identity crisis😂😂😂! I won’t speak on behalf of the mixed community but Most of my friends are mixed raced & WE DONT!! If anything I see myself having an advantage as I understand both cultures.humans are humans it’s just cultural backgrounds that differ. Skin colour is nothing to me, as I know black people when visiting Africa who are more light skinned as me! I also see it’s huge advantage as I have always felt accepted by both black & white spaces & been able to flicker between both cultures. I have dated men white & black. I intend to have more mixed babies, I wanna throw some Chinese in there 😂😂❤️
Your makeup is SO BOMB especially the lipstick! ❤
OMG thank you! I’m obsessed with lip products. Especially glosses 🥹
@@TandyColada gurl same !! I buy way too many lmao
Second this! I’m literally mesmerized by the flawless application.❤
@CuteeCupee 🥹 OMG you’re so sweet! Thank you 💜
It's good to hear these experiences from both sides. The gas lit people often will develop a superiority complex, and the abused people can develop an inferiority complex. These difficult experiences can make it difficult to sympathize in the moment, and hurt feelings of the people that would otherwise be great friends. I'm REALLY appreciating these videos! 🥰
Thank you for taking the time to not only watch my video but to comprehend the message and leave a comment. I appreciate you 💜
My mother is white passing mixed race Latina and my dad is Black American. My mother always viewed me as Latina but I didn’t live with her long enough to really learn Spanish. My father who I grew up with and his mother always viewed me as and treated me as Black. In my house. Outside of my house, people always approached the adults I was with and later approached me to ask to touch my hair and express how pretty they thought I was. People of all races. I was born in the 1970’s, so mixed race was not as common in the north east. I was playing in a department store with some Latino kids. When their parents were leaving the store the employee grabbed me and ran after them to say they were leaving their daughter. My grandmother and aunts of course freaked out. It is also not cool for anyone to value me for my appearance. I have always felt out of place and at 50 years old I sometimes still struggle with my identity. It can definitely be sucky.
You can almost always tell if a biracial person has a black mother vs white mother…
Yep.
I'm adopted and I could say very similar things, because a lot of adoptee's are never fully accepted into a family with different DNA. Me included, a white child adopted by white parents. It's a lifelong "you're an outsider" thing, and we get it from everyone, all colors and creeds. Even if we are abused, we are called "lucky", and to stop "complaining" because at least someone adopted us. No one looks like you in your family (regardless of race), you're treated differently, or not at all, and no one wants to address the elephant in the room. I still advocate for adoption because everyone is different and plenty of adoptee's grow up in good homes, and they need and deserve them. When I was married to the father of my children, who's mom is white and father is black, he was filling out the census and chose 'black" as his race. I asked him why because he's mixed, like how do you choose? I genuinely wanted to know. I'm a mixed white person, Irish, Spanish, French, Dutch and Polish, so I just say "other" on the census. It also took 27 years for me to search for and find out what my heritage was. He told me, "because I'm not white." That made sense to me, from his perspective, and I had a much better understanding of being in his shoes, but it also made me sad that he felt he had to choose at all. He is a very successful man and drives nice cars, fast cars, but drives below the speed limit a lot. I asked him why he wasn't putting on the gas in these nice cars. He told me, "because I'm a black man in a nice car". I got that too, unfortunately. BTW I dated men of all races, wasn't looking for skin to marry, just a good man. Kind of missed out on the good part, but that was not a racial issue, just human. Regardless, my ex's answers helped to shape how I raised my own children who some people assume are either white, middle eastern, or Italian. I spoke up for them, and I never ever called them derogatory names or put any part of their heritage down. There are so many times they don't even know about. I wasn't a perfect mom, but who is? Of any color or nationality. We need to support each other and stop making assumptions and generalizations. I have seen black moms with white kids, either with a black father or adopted, and they are proud women (rightfully so) who just love their kids. They get a hard time too, and a lot of the time it's from the black community, as if they are betraying their heritage. Racists are going to be racists, of all colors. We need to learn to live in a world with aholes and keep walking. Lead by example. At the end of the day, as an adoptee and mom of mixed heritage children with African decent, I can see that most families have issues no one discusses, and that's probably the biggest problem for any child. Denial of reality. Gaslighting in general. Lack of healthy communication and understanding. I may have even been complicit at times without knowing it. That needs to change. I'm trying, with my adopted family, and my mixed heritage family. I'd like to just have a family. I hear and respect the struggles and pain associated with being multicultural. I can't relate directly, but have some idea of how it feels to be "different" in a way that society labels you as either, "bad", invisible or "special" (In a condescending way). You can't just be who you are, no matter what color your skin is, or what family you are a part of. As far as Amber Rose, I saw her feelings, words and actions (although not advocating for violence), as the hurt and frustration she wears on her sleeve, for growing up as a light skinned bi-racial person. She hurts, and anger is just hurt's bodyguard. I feel like she was being verbally attacked in a racial way, and probably has had enough of it. Black women cry too when they are hurt or sad. So do mixed people. It isn't specific to white women, or even women. Some people don't cry at all, of every background. As Jerry Garcia put it so perfectly, "Oh oh what I want to know is, are you kind?" Your videos are very insightful and your spirit is beautiful. I'm here to learn. Respect. LOVE to everyone.
Wow! What an interesting perspective. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing 💜
They don’t think they better, the one who said that must feel that the biracial person was better than them
So why aren't there any biracial platforms, groups, etc.etc.etc??? There is a need for the biracial voice to be heard!!!
I really feel sorry for biracials who cant fit in anywhere. My husband's family is generationally mixed Black family who can pass for white. They don't talk this way because their family is a Black family, who looks white. I see the confusion more with biracials who are Black/white. My sons look biracial but they are Black. I tell them do not mess with biracials who are confused and keep saying I don't belong no where. It comes across as mental issues.
THEY ARE HUMANS BEINGS REGARDLESS. WE ARE CHILDREN OF GOD.
Amen 🙏 ❤
Agreed! God said love thy neighbor.
Amen 🤍🤍🤍
God creations…we are not all his children….one have to be born again to be Gods children
Thanks fam 🙏🏽
Im mixed, I grew up hating myself because I couldnt fit in anywhere
Oh no! I’m so sorry to hear that. See, it’s reasons like that why I make videos! I hope you’re in a better space now that you’re older 💜
Man i hope youre doing well and better now. God loves you.
Same
You should have moved, America is a big place, lotsa different kinds of people. But what would I know, I'm a white guy from Houston with a Mixed/Bi-Racial daughter and a half-native grandson (from a white daughter). Neither of which are proud or ashamed, because it is just facts. And neither has ever experienced discrimination from any "color".
@@lessanderfer7195lmao lies
I am from Jamaica. I just wanted to let everyone know that in Jamaica their is Irish Jamaicans,German Jamaicans,Jewish Jamaicans,Scottish Jamaicans and many more white Caucasians born and raised in Jamaica. Their are black Jamaicans. Jamaica is a nationality not a race!!!!!🤔🤫
Yes because Jamaica was made by the British it for slavery but not anymore the real Jamaicans are native Indian looking
Bredda, it’s good to have another Jamaican who understands our perspective on race and ethnicity. We’re fortunate to be from an island rich in multicultural life. I grew up with family members of different skin tones, eye colors, hair textures, and accents. Our culture values people first, not race or ethnicity as fixed identities. While colorism exists-a softer form of racism where proximity to Indian, Chinese, or European features is often idealized- most people still are of African descent. You'll see someone you consider white or Chinese, and you meet their family, seeing a very black skin grand parent. I often saw this as a child, but didn't question it, because I saw the variations of what different skin colors create. I grew seeing skin color like crayons. I grew up not realizing racism was real. Someone who is mixed doesn't have to develop an identity crisis. I think its the nurturing of the parents who guide the self esteem of the person. The parents a lot of the times can have deep biases which affects the child, or the counties historical relationship with race. Big bredda.
They are the responsibility of their fathers’ community, therefore they belong with blacks since black men are the main ones creating them.
I am multiracial identifying as a Multiracial American and I love who I am. I don't struggle with it at all. My skin color is not black nor white but brown. I love and embrace ALL parts of me. Thing is those who love themselves normally have no issues with loving others. It's not up to anyone else to fix the problems others have with themselves. On another point, ethnic mixing has been going on since the beginning of mankind. Once one carries admixture, it will continue on therefore no one can stop having mixed children. In order for that to happen we'd all have to cease for living. What a ridiculous suggestion but I know, there are those out there who feel this way. How sad is this.
No such thing as a “multiracial” American ONLY Black Americans ARE American
Disrespect is disrespect!
I have met white & black couples who are still together & the parents teach their kids about both sides of their culture Im mixed with Native american & white & Im not going to hate either side cuz hate just brings more hate & yes there are a lot of racist white people out there but the best way to stop hate is be honest but love everyone as your brother & sister becoming racist just make other peoples racism worse & my aunt worked with a black women who said racist things to her even tbough she native & white & she just kept being nice to her & eventually they became best friends learned about Native American Heritage and my Scottish Heritage and I have two cousins that are half black half German and I love them very much and we are all brothers and sisters no matter what our races and I believe it's a test we were all made differently nature creates variances and nature can't exist without variances and yes there are some white parents out there that don't teach their kids their other race Heritage and they should and are not still married my cousins that are half black half German both their parents are still married and they are taught about both their Heritage and I just don't think it's fair to act like all mixed families are bad cuz they're not all bad cuz you teach hate and racism when you do that blacks becoming racist is just going to make the whites that are not racist more likely to become racist towards blacks I've seen that happen not because they're racist but because they're just angry from being picked on by that race and they're making them feel like they can't trust that race to be friends with cuz there's some black folks that pretend to be friends with white folks and then back stab them on purpose and they were never friends with them in the first place and they just did it to pick on them I've seen white people do that to black people too but more often the black folks cuz they're just angry about all the racism they have gone through and it's understandable about all the anger they've been through but it's not okay it's just going to make things worse and there are good white people out there and you want as many good white people on your side as you can and more of them would be nice if they didn't get bullied I mean they should be nice no matter what but that's just how a lot of humans are it's reality on both sides I mean I'm a lesbian and I've had straight people pretend to be my friend and then backstab me later so I got nervous to make friends with straight people again but then I remembered I had straight friends that never backstabbed me so I decided to not hate all straight people and only make friends with lesbians and gays I've had gay guys back stabbed me too and some of them work for a business that did corrupt things and they didn't treat me any different than anybody else even though I'm a lesbian and the you would think that lesbian gay transgender Community would all be nice to each other but if it's their survival most human beings will pick their survival 90% of people are like that in America because I learned the statistics when I worked at the shipyard it's really sad I've seen black politicians backstab other blacks just cuz if they side with the white politicians then they won't get treated badly I've heard black folks mention that and they're angry about it and I don't blame them we all just need to love one another like brothers and sisters and that's the only way Bob Marley I love his music when his people became divided he started singing songs to bring his people together even though they were all Jamaican blacks they had their differences with who they wanted politically to run the country and they started killing each other and same thing happened in Africa the Belgium tricked one tried to think they were better than the other tribe and then that tribe started killing the other tribe over jealousy goes to Belgium's Retreat One Tribe better than the other seal this trick in the book and they fell for it and what I love about Bob Marley is he says one love we are all brothers and sisters we are all spiritually related we need to all love one another as brothers and sisters and stop hating one another just because others are racist doesn't mean we have to be racist cuz that's exactly what the white racist government in America wants they want blocks to become racist and hate white people because then they'll have more white people hate blacks and oppressed blacks even more so you're actually helping the white racist government by hating white people don't get me wrong when black rights are being violated you need to stand up for one another just like Native American protest against the racist white politicians and SeaWorld when the mystery animals were the Native Americans natives are so oppressed on the reservations and treated like crap by the white racist government and I mean not all the government is evil but most of them are whether they're white or not and so you want to be in the middle about it you want to stand up for yourself but don't become racist yourself and cuz you're feeling the test that the great spirit gave us great spirit is just a Native American word for God for anyone that doesn't know and there's Native Americans that hate white people and there's Native Americans that say no hate just brings more hate and they bring white people to the reservations to teach them their culture cuz that helps less white people become racist or reverses the racism or makes them less likely to become races because when one person is racist towards the other and they're more likely to become racist I mean I refuse to become racist even though a huge number of black people have been really mean to me cuz they go to churches that teach them that all white people are the devil there's Native Americans that don't like black people and I tell them not to be racist and it's not because they're racist it's because black folks have been mean to them too and I said there are some nice black folks out there my friend sunny she was so nice to me and her mom was in the Navy so she moved and she her dad left and abandoned them but her mom did not like me because I'm white and she didn't know I was native as well but she believed in not mixing races either I would not have made a difference so she didn't allow us to keep being friends and even though I was bullied by the majority of the kids at the school for being a lesbian she stuck around and was still my friend until her and her mom moved and her mom wouldn't allow her to write to me she was upset about it so was I you know even though I have native in me if a white person says oh I love the native culture I would love to go to the reservation I would ask I don't live on the reservation oh I love the native culture I would love to go to the reservation I would ask I don't live on the reservation my grandmother left because of the oppression from the government it's really bad there the Blackfoot tribe gets oppressed really bad some tribes get treated worse than other times depends on the area you live in and some of the tribe leaders even horde the money and keep most of it for themselves and don't spread it out equally the government money that they're supposed to give out which makes natives even more depressed because we're supposed to be community-based not act like capitalist individualistic but some of them keep acting community-based and they refused to give in to drugs even though the reservations can be hard to live in they keep their spirituality and talk about how many don't it's a test to see if you can be good no matter what happens that's the way life is I mean you can protest and make it better keep it balanced as much as you can I like Martin Luther King cuz he did peaceful protest cuz trust me the racist government wants black folks to attack so they can put them in jail and oppress them and Gandhi successfully got the British out of India through nonviolent protests I remember watching a black live movement meeting outside the White House on RUclips and she said don't start attacking cuz that's what the racist government wants the American government wants us divided don't start hating white folks don't start attacking businesses protest peacefully like Martin Luther King did cuz then you will win more support if you start attacking people you're going to lose support and you're going to get arrested and you're not going to be successful in your movement and they started actually listening and I agree with her on that
so true. I also get told im not biracial cause i look one ethnicity only. (mexican), they go like: "oh i thought you were mexican!" and
"be for real your not mixed."
Ugh! All that matters is you know who you are tho! I do believe we don’t get to choose our race but how we choose to identify is completely up to us. Ppl can’t take away how you feel!
Mexican isn't a race it's a nationality.
Amber "Fake'em Tears" Rose tears on that TV show... College Hill Series intentionally clumped up the smooth Buttery Grits!¡!
In the first clip with the biracial gentleman, his lived experience is one that often gets denied. I've watched a few Black youtubers who seem to believe that biracial peoples do not experience anti-Black racism to the same degree as Black people. I think we forget sometimes that the spaces of Hollywood, and social media can differ from the unique geographies of North America. There are cities and neighbourhoods in North America where biracial people are percieved as Black, and endure anti-Black racism. I witnessed this take place to my biracial family members in school, and the events were traumatic. Today, we don't even speak about it to eachother because it's so painful to remember.
A normal black person could be from a decent family, but a mixed person is from Becky
That's what people are saying about Amandla Stenberg. And as stupid as she's acting right now, I don't think that's fair.
It seems as though everyone has different experiences, some biracial people have said that they had a great experience and never had identity crisises and others have had negative experiences.
I’m biracial black/white and I love dark skin! The darker the berry the sweeter the wine! My mom is super dark and I use to wish I had her skin tone ❤❤❤❤
Yeah I'm not black but I have one friend who has the most beautiful skin and I haven't told anybody this but I have envied it😂
She is so dark but it's just really pretty.
she's really beautiful
Lier
I’m sure your just as beautiful as your mother
@@libfuzzy4629 Lucky for them. I didn't inherit my mother's beauty. I was called ugly my whole life by everyone in school.
This youtuber is so sweet and empathetic subbed.
i'm i biracial since i'm 3/4 black and 1/4 white
Oh my! I love interracial couples whether they are parents or not. I love all babies. They are the cutest.
Love is beautiful no matter who is involved! 🥰
@@TandyColadaLove is beautiful indeed
Although good intentioned - This comment is problematic and harmful to communities of color - and uplifts white proximity. It’s called fetishizing - which is a form of anti-blackness. There is a lot of studies, literature and content available to further educate yourself.
You know what, as a mixed race adult, I kind of feel this. I like seeing mixed couples because personally it feels like another "f u" to anyone who hates different races being together
@@shadowcollins4589 I like seeing them unless racial fetishism is involved.
Yep, in Trini lots of us around.. Douglarize the world. I don’t understand why it would or would not be a flex, it just is. I love me and I exist as I am tri-ethnic.
The “Culture” of who is the bigger victim…
Way to miss the whole piont of the video numb nuts. You are case and piont why this is even an issue.
It's interesting how so many mixed kids have non white dads, but white moms. It seems more common that the dad is black and the mom is white instead of vice versa. I think a lot of issues happen when these men are going after these wyt women or women with proximity to wyt, specifically for their whiteness and not for them as and individual. Some of these men/fathers who choose women based on preference seem to have self-hate for their own ethnicity. If the father doesn't love the blackness or ethnicity of his own women like the woman he came out of at birth, or if he doesn't love his own blackness, then when he has a mixed child, how will he uplift the child? When a mixed child gets bullied, the father should be equipped enough to uplift the child, tell them how beautiful they are, how special they are, how the ethnic part of them is just as special as the white part. But due to the fathers own self-hate, some of these black men won't build the child, or they leave the child, who falls prey to bullying. I think these black men or men of any ethnicity should learn to love themselves and their own race before choosing women outside their race and having kids. The same goes for wyt moms too. They shouldn't choose a man based on ethnicity or because he'll put her on a pedalstal. If they get with a black man or man of any race, it should be based on love. Because if she has racist feelings toward him or his race, that can spill out and affect their mixed child
That’s only true for black/white biracials. The others mix are more likely to have a white dad.
💯 👏👏👏
You gave Amber a pass. A very light skinned biracial pass. It sounds more like you’re projecting more than Joseline
While I respect your opinion I disagree. Two truths can coexist at the same time though..
My issue w/ Amber is that she tries hard to not say she’s Black like once she wasn’t poppin in hip hop anymore she decided to claim everything else first and Black last. You are allowed to live your biracial experience w/o throwing one under the bus. Your identity shouldn’t be thrust on you but it’s just weird I’ve seen a lot of biracial/racial ambiguous ppl fight hard to not be called Black. Blackness is very much an identity and an experience all stories [that aren’t problematic or toxic] should be heard. Also the trauma that creates the issues. When our history isn’t taught we’ll always be confused as to why certain experiences are what they are
thats why dont mix, lest confusion in the world
Sounds like the same thing all kids go through, kids are mean and they're always bullies. .. they tried to bully me,but since I stood up for myself they picked some one else....
Yes, but this is already a sore point and a real existential crisis for those suffering from it and it is so much worse when they are bullied for it.
Stay honest Tandy. Thank you.
I'm glad I'm black and not biracial I don't have to worry about fitting in into 2 cultures
It definitely seems like it would be challenging to have to adapt to 2 diff cultures
Amen! It’s a blessing to be fully black thank the Lord lmao
Same! I don’t need those problems. I got enough going on 😅
I don't worry about it and I'm biracial. I don't even think about white culture.
Its not like you celebrate the actual culture anyways. It stems where you are from, not what you adopted, 90% if Americans do not know crap about other cultures so shut it😂
YOU KNOW WHY ITS ROUGH TO BE MIXED!? Because a lot of mixed people got made to feel left out by their OWN FAMILY MEMBERS. I got picked on by my dark skinned cousin since I was 5 years old in front of everyone and nobody every did anything cause *it’s all love??* when I was a kid there were only blond or black dolls. At school, the white kids told me I was adopted when I wasn’t. I could keep going lol mixed people aren’t secure cause security comes from childhood stability and a sense of belonging and nobody around you is mixed and understanding when you’re a kid… (cause they’re either full black or full white)
My child is Afro Latina with my phenotype so she is very embraced by the blk community and she has never met my in-laws because they are white Mexican ppl that don’t except me which is fine we just cut them off. She is being raised to be proud of both sides of her heritage and will not allow anyone to tell her who she is. A proud blk child with Mexican roots.
fighting back is not degenerate behavior, how dare you say it is.
I don't want to speak as a black person I just want tell speak up for myself and other mixed people who have been harassed and bullied.
It doesn't end after school if I'm being honest it got way worse in workplaces and the adult world in general
We are often silenced its tiring
When I was younger I was bashed for speaking up about being bullied because everybody would say im better than them and ppl would gaslight me to think that because im not fully black I don’t get discriminated against …. Im not a white passing mixed person fyi because I know there are white passing mixed ppl
Ppl are so damn weird it’s annoying! I hate that you had that experience and hope you are in a better space now that you’re older. Your experiences in life is valid and your voice deserves to be heard. Thank you for sharing 💜
If it is enough to affect you, then it counts.
Plus white-passing mixed-race people can still experience racism; it's just different from people who look obviously like a POC. I'm literally the furthest one can get from white-passing, but from what I've heard, it's like being a POC in a white body and then racist white people will be comfortable with saying racist things about their race to them and assume that they think just like them when they actually don't.
I enjoy this series, thank you! I'm a dark skinned pakistani woman married to a ukrainian, i worry about my future baby because i don't know what kind of world is coming in to. A world that will treat the child like an exotic, a “specimen”, only for it being biracial? Or just as a child like any other? Will his community (that he doesn't associate with anyway because they reject me/ pretty much anyone dark skinned) ever welcome our child? I know mine will but there's so much colorism in my community too!!! 😢 i try to make that the least of my worries but it does occur to me occasionally.
Thank you! I can totally understand your feelings given the circumstances. It’s just awful that people are so judgmental! Being a parent is tough as it is without worrying how the world will affect your child 😩
😩❤❤❤
Simple, make the Ukrainian a friend or marry him after having Pakinstani children and raising them.
God ain’t happy w brown ppl going w pink, pls don’t risk rejection from Yahweh
@@jays-move8803are you dumb. She's married to the man. Why would she go and have Pakistani kids with another man? That's twisted.
I’m a black women and my daddy is with a racist white women.
🤣
Joseline sounds so ignorant.
TEA! This entire clip was mad annoying to watch. Like you would think considering Joseline’s upbringing she would be more understanding of how Amber feels but I can’t say that I’m surprised of her ignorance either
Sometimes I feel like it's the more exotic side of you that gets treated differently.
Like I'm Asian and hispanic. I don't really look asian. I guess I could pass for Hispanic but we are white Hispanic. So we're light-skinned.
Hispanics don't seem to have a lot of a problem with me because there are so many of us that come in so many colors.
But asians? I tell people they're the most racist group of people on Earth and no One believes me.
The Asian side is what identify with the most but because I'm half and I don't look Asian, people are genuinely surprised when I come in speaking Korean with a perfect Korean accent.
Then they start talking about me😂
Not thinking i can understand them.
Now for the most part a lot of Korean women in the US have mixed children so there are many times where I get treated like I'm someone's child because I remind a lot of Asian women of their mixed race children.
But then I have those who treat me with hatred because I'm half.
It's always the more exotic side of you that treat you differently. Like if you're black and white, it seems like the black community has more of a problem with you than the white community for the most part.
I was surprised when I read this title but as I'm listening I'm realizing that they're right
If you're not going to take care of your kids, if you're not going to love them, you shouldn't have them. Now I feel like some of it doesn't have to do with race but just crappy parents in general. Who neglect their kids 100%.
Thank you for taking the time to not only comment but actually comprehend the message put forth in this video. The title is meant to provide shock value but if one takes the time to actually listen/watch the video, they’d understand that I whole heartedly believe that we should love and be with whoever we choose to. But with that being said, cross culture dating/procreating is difficult if both people in the relationship aren’t willing to do the work necessary to sustain the relationship and raise mentally healthy children. At the end of the day children are a blessing and not one has ever asked to be here so it is up to the parents to actively participate in their child’s life to instill good values and high self esteem 💜 it breaks my heart to read some of the comments from different biracial/mixed experiences because it all starts at home.
I’m mixed, blue eyes with golden skin. My father is dark skin and buff, handsome, Jamaican with German ancestry. My mother is Mixed, English German Father and American Black Mother. I’ve got a pointed sharp jawline, long face with curly soft hair. My siblings come in different colors and we are all tall. As growing up in the Crip neighborhood we grew up in; we are all tall, healthy and growing still. Mom and Dad met at 13 years and 11 years old. They are still together 59, and 57 yrs old. We all play basketball and all siblings have a relationship close together and live no more than 35 mins apart! We aren’t rich, but we love life and can honestly say in this life on Earth, we have been treated decently by people of all races. Remember folks, even with the black spirited deepness we carry and can sense things hypersensitive and soulfully; you, me, I, all of us gotta govern ourselves accordingly and give people the benefit of the doubt. The way you talk, walk, see, and believe it about the problem, is the reciprocation you will get. To my Black people, you know those looks from people non us we get when we enter a room and the silence becomes loud, yeah; well you can change that depending. To my White people, you know that feeling when you don’t fit in; yeah, well thats on you.
I am what I am and indifference ain’t gon coward me away. Fuck em all if they don’t like you. Let em look at ya! But Fuck em all if someone is jealous; have compassion and make your life easier. Just be inclusive and not indifferent. As a mixed person, I’ve dealt with some racist folks on both sides and Pookies and Ray Ray’s on both sides. You true and it ain’t no better than that!
I’m not biracial. I am multi generationally mixed. Sometimes biracials over play the tragic mulatto card. Such as Amber Rose and Mariah Carey. Not all biracial women are that dumb though. Halle Berry is much smarter in my opinion.
Oh my gosh as a mixed person I can't even 😂
There’s a lot to take in here, for sure! 😆
Thank you so much for this video.
💜💜💜
I hate the term BI-racial , i am a poduct of a mixed race relationship my mother being white british and my father being Caribbean light skinned or mixed race meaning one of his parents was black and one white, or vice versa , i do not know anything about his parents and have never even seen a photograph of them, but the mix between my two parents has made my skin tone almost white, i have olive skin and many people have asked me what are you? meaning what colour are you? I've been asked if i am greek, italian, spanish, lebanese, tunisian, puerto rican, why is it so important for people to put a label on me, but yet i have also suffered racism, i've been called a half breed even though my skin tone is closer to white/caucasion and although i have also suffered from racism from white / british, i was punched in my mouth and had my mouth busted open for no reason whatsoever other than my skin tone and suprisingly the perpetrator was a white irish boy, the reason why i say suprisingly because its a well known fact that the Irish people suffered from racism just like the west indian community that came to britain on the windrush and because of their experience with racism the irish and afro caribbeans became united, i have experienced racism from both black and white and don't seem to fit in anywhere because i'm not black enough for the black community and not white enough for some white people, i was told by the mother of a half-sibling her mother being black and having the same father as me, just remember that although your skin is white you have black in you, i have never forgotten those words and have been scarred by the people i grew up around, i tried to fit in and now i realise in my late 50's that i must learn to love and accept myself and i don't need acceptance or validation from anyone, i just wish mankind could all accept that we all come in different shapes and sizes just as we come in different shades, tones and hues, we are all Gods son's and daughters.
You are a snowman 🤮🤮🤮🤮 not mixed
The crazy thing for me is children don't have an idea of systemic anything when they're growing up. Their world is this🤏🏾 big. I totally get it and maybe biracial people need their own space. I appreciate and get worn out by these conversations at the same time. I have a biracial brother and idk his experience, but his other side was racist except one and when that family member passed away he never really saw his family again. Seems like a lot of rejection and outcast syndrome.
Heavy on the I appreciate but still get worn out by these conversations lol I definitely feel like there needs to be space for bi/multiracial ppl to peacefully coexist since their experience is unique. Thank you for your comment!
I grew up in the 70’s and 80’s, born in the mid 60’s. What people don’t understand is that most of us don’t feel safe around our extended families on either side, that includes grandparents, cousins, aunts and uncles. We didn’t feel safe at school, often physically. Girls used to miss there school bus to try to beat me up after school, not to mention the daily verbal harassment from these same girls. Mom was MGM and dropped me off at school. I gave up being around black people as an adult. Too much drama surrounding the whole race, Color, hair thing. We can expect white people to be who they are, but usually they are quiet about it. Just living life with my husband and daughter, being myself in Europe.
I don’t blame my parents for having me. I love being mixed. They were loving parents. I never knew I was different in any way from them or anyone else until I came back to the US and met an uncle from the black side who used to try to humiliate me, because he loathes white people. (This is not to say that I wasn’t on the receiving end of comment about staying out of the sun, by my paternal GM.). I have had a lot of positive experiences that I might not have had if I were either White or Black. I have no self loathing, but I do have some emotional scars from the way I was treated by others and it still continues with extended family to this day. Children should at least be safe from emotional abuse around their family members.
All that being said, we all have challenges with our identities and peer acceptance no matter where we are or how we look or who our parents are. I put my own challenges into this context and so, I am just like everyone else. Mine has its own twist on the familiar theme. So what? It only becomes
a crisis if I choose to make it one. I like a quiet life with no drama. I don’t mind being alone, actually I prefer a lot of solitude, but I have never had a problem making shallow friendships. It takes a quite a bit to be close to me. I am usually pushing advances of friendship away, because they infringe on my need for solitude. I say this only to encourage others who might want friendships to go where you want to be. You will find people who accept you for who you are. Forget about the rest. You are beautiful and just who you were meant to be whatever you look like, wherever you came from. Your humanity is what matters most in this world.
If you are mixed race you could grow up the one cousin who is lighter than all your cousins, but you still grow up with the same family experience. So it may seem weird that they claim a particular race which is incongruent with their appearance, but its because of how you grow up with your cousins, your aunts and uncles.
We will always have this issue, to prevent this it’s best if everyone mates with their own ethnicity! And hush because I’m mixed too
Oh my! 🫢
I am mixed and have had nothing but good relationships with my friends and family. I do not consider interactions with those I do not know as putting a value on who I am. My children by default are also mixed. The black community trying to be more homogenous is a form a self-segregation and Jim Crown imposed on members that disagree with them. Nobody owns blackness and no one can define what it should be. We are free to choose our path in life and use our heritages in the way we choose to live our life. I do not agree with people but do not try to enforce my opinions on them. We should all be able to choose how we live our life and not have to worry if it offends people. Because your right to be offended does not trump my right to be offended by you. We need to learn to let go and worry about how we should live our life to the fullest and not worry how someone else lives.
I have been harping about this for this whole century. These people are the biggest perpetrators of negatively-impacting stereotypical nonsense, and it has only gotten worse.
i’m black and white and grew up on my white side. based on my experiences i’d say i look racially ambiguous but i think i look like exactly what i am. i feel completely accepted in the black community. they usually think im latino but once i say im half black im accepted. despite the differences in cultural upbringing, i relate to experiencing racism and i just feel closer to black people. i don’t feel related to whiteness at all. my white family is my family but i don’t really see them the same as other white ppl because they love me in a way that white society doesn’t, so i do make a distinction.
Thank you for sharing your experience 💜 it’s always interesting for me to hear different perspectives on this topic. When I hear similar experiences as yours from biracials, I wonder if the feeling of closeness to blackness vs whiteness is based upon the phenotype of the individual. Like if a person doesn’t look like they “belong” to a group it’s only natural for them to feel somewhat disconnected from it. Someone else in the comments here brought up how they are adopted and face similar struggles feeling connected to their adopted family. Such a great perspective (IMO) that comment provided! Idk food for thought nonetheless I guess lol
I agree with the title JUST STOOPPPP
my whole life I've been told that I'm whitewashed.😭
Classifying race on chocolate milk versus white milk is strictly ignorant.
I am mixed. I am black carribean,Irish,Scottish,Portuguese,Indian and Venezuelan. I was born in Jamaica West Indies. Jamaican is a nationality not a race.🤔🤫
It’s important to remember that similar to racism - the biracial plight is not the responsibility of BW to analyze, comfort or resolve. The responsibility and heat should be on the biracial community to discuss - or even more so, the white community who has created this racial system which all
Of us have to grapple and suffer within.
While I can respect your opinion I respectfully disagree. The same way the black community appreciates other communities who stand up for them, different communities feel the same way. In the comments there are multiple biracial people who are appreciative of the effort I put in this video just to simply spark a conversation on their experience (the same way I have done for my own on this channel btw). I never once acknowledged being a voice for biracial and multiracial individuals but I do think that the unique intersectionality of the biracial experience is tangible with that of the black experience. So speaking on the topic has potential to uplift our own.
I agree ten fold.
Oh yeah and The stereotype of Asian women liking white men, it's 100% I'm a mixed-race Asian and I'm just naturally more attracted to white guys.
That stereotype is such shit and I will never forgive EurasianTiger for making me go through a phase where I hated being half white (especially because I had zero issues with my race until then).
But yeah it doesn't matter if you are attracted to white men as long as you don't think they are superior to everyone else.
Personally for me, race doesn't really matter too much but if I ever had biological kids, I would prefer to stick with my races (white and Asian) mostly because I worry about having a kid who feels like they don't fit in anywhere and that is something I have struggled with (albeit completely unrelated to race). But regardless, my hypothetical biological kids would be mixed no matter what.
Blaxican forever
Yeah, it’s definitely weird. I know the white women the type of white women you’re talking about my mother was white, but she wasn’t that type of white so I always find it weird when people do have biracial children and are that type of white to wear it’s cool. It’s a fetish. My kid has curly hair and big lips like it’s weird. I am definitely glad I had a normal mother and a normal childhood.
It's called white guilt, most people like yourself secretly love it. It comes time where you run into someone like me who has zero white guilt isn't automatically friendly to you because you have darker skin or whatever, your upset😂
Me being multi-generational mixed I've had the same struggles as anyone who is darker than me I've had my head bashed in by cop .I've been shot at ,I've been stabbed and being lighter complected does not stop because I'm definitely not looking white and I'm definitely not looking like someone who's going to easily pass..
The funny thing is people think and assume that you have such a different experience it's not true you're living in the same experiences going through the same struggles I don't understand how people could separate you especially if you have that ancestry
It’s unfortunate that any of us have to go through any discrimination of any kind no matter what your percentage of African is.
I think that it’s less than 50 years ago where light skinned Black people did create outside groups that didn’t include Dark and brown skinned fellow Black Americans. We’re now dealing with the residual effects of what happened between various shades of Black Americans not to long ago. Those light skinned groups lost the trust of most of the dark skinned members
most cases we’re not excepted on either side. I used to say I was Puerto Rican or any other Hispanic race because they were the most accepting, but how could I fit in with them if I didn’t know how to speak Spanish. we don’t have that community of our own because there’s not many of us in our spaces . Even if there was, there’s too much divide between us because our other halfs are usually different . But one thing we do have in common is we have black in us . At the end of the day though we just need to be kind and and respect each other no matter the race
I must question, who is thinking being multiracial is a fkex? Like who? I'm open to hearing other's thoughts/opinions.
My whole life they’ve made fun of me and told me I was too dark. Not the flex you think it is? Lot of people would kill to look mixed race like you and your too caught up in the hype.
The way I just busted out laughing when he said you don’t mix chocolate milk and get half chocolate milk though
That makes no sense. Chocolate milk is cocoa mixed with milk.
Hey, it's that chick what talks for Biden thinks she knows S but don't know S. 😂
I am trying to have it in my town! We have more biracial kids than Black kids - trying to get thru!
Yeah...mixing is TERRIBLE
you are forcing people to live with bullying.
I claim all my black people no matter what else they are mixed with. I think when "mixed" people have problems fitting into black communities, it's mostly a social skills issue.
What an interesting perspective! Never thought of that 🤔
No Black peoples are mixed, that is an oxymoron 🤮
You should study the Haitian revolution
Half breeds are NOT Black Americans problem 🤷🏾♂️
@@kashtasunborn985listen to your self bro
Your literally giving the hate that you’ve probably recieved
So true I'm a mixed minor black mom white dad I kinda juggle both cause I been with both for an equal amount because I kinda have a hard time with my own identity and my life to I don't have a voice stop have mixed children we have problems to ok we are enot exotic