It's Not Weak To Speak! Talking About Addiction And Healing From A Horrible Childhood
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- Опубликовано: 14 июл 2024
- My father died years ago and no one told me. How I stopped drinking. Welcome to another episode of my unnamed podcast
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Wow!!!
88 year old Great-grandfather on the other side of the world (New Zealand).
Been watching Wally on RUclips for years.
Today, bawling his eyes out for Wally.
My father drank himself to death when I was 11.
I nursed Steven, a 32 year old JW as he died from AIDS, as neither his family, nor anyone in his Congregation would physically touch him.
I can only send cyber-hugs.
Be strong, Lovely Man.
Sir, thank you for loving Steven. Thank you for caring for him. That's true love, in every sense of the word love. ❤
Thank you sir for being the type of man that any good heart can feel proud of ❤
You’re a very beautiful man to have cared for Steven , as you did. Truly a labor of love!❤️
Hey dude, been there, done that. When I woke up my wife, and my whole family were in. My brothers 3 elders, sister a pioneer (still are). I hit the bottle to cope. As a JW alcohol was a big part anyways. Escalating after waking up was easy. Always responsible for work, yet after, not good. Glad you are doing well. Its a hard journey, AA wasn't for me as it was a religion on its own. Changing habits, keeping busy in the off hours. I joined a community organization that raises money for those in need in our community. Being able to actually give back to my community, made the biggest difference in my life. Proud of you!!
Same impression, when I tried AA 😂….. It was not bad as a first step of my ‘recovery’, but I do not liked not only similarities to JW meetings (like even structure of it, “thanking” for the previous speaker comment etc, etc) but when I tried to bring latest brain chemistry discoveries about chemical nature of addictions-- I was shut down immediately 😅😂.. I said- no more sectarian life in my life! 😂😂😂…even picture of these two guys, who setup AA movement reminded me Watchtower Governing Body members….. Creepy 😱
Abba the father never left you , , He's been with you the entire time , Having a noble mind . . Solid food , not milk will be given you . The word becomes the force actuating your mind . You have a father who sits on the throne of star's . And your King , who died for you is alive forever . Love is the key to forever. ❤ .
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I totally agree! Very creepy indeed!
I've been learning of J.W.org and the so called Governing Body and they reminded me of the AA founders. My recognition was the other way around, lol.
I grew up in and around AA because my dad was in and out of it.
I went to AA once as an unbeliever and once as a believer and yes in the beginning it's kind of like a scare you straight, not to land up like those lifers. It is a cult because according to them, you need THEM in order to stay sober. Not so, I need God to stay sober.
Wishing you all the best!
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Yes AA is a religion on it's own for sure! Keeping busy is good.
Hi Wally
Here is a gay man in his 60’s who has regrets that I never had children.
“Having said that”, I would have been so proud if I was your Dad.
I have also struggled with addiction to alcohol and pain meds- a great mix.
Stopping is difficult. You do look amazing, sir and if you were actually wearing makeup (although you’re not) - so the fuck what?
You are easy to love - even from as far away as Australia.
I agree with you about our need to “be kind”.
Behind the humour I see a man who is wise and will continue to grow and learn. May you always be that. I have not and hopefully never will be someone who learns and is “kind”.
Keep up your work. You are amazing.
Love you David xxx
Yo Wally... ex Jay Dub here... finally got me & my wife out and we faded. My dog died, the wife left and I hit the bottle. 10mos ago I gave it up. Just here to say that it finally allowed me to start dealing with all the stuff, thought I was just sad because I got divorced. The JW childhood was savage on my mentality, just completely broke my soul. I'm like you trying to find out who I am also. It's a painful journey but it's so beneficial, and you're not alone! Stay strong and take good care, you're looking great homey
I'm in tears. Wally you are a light, you've impacted so many lives in a positive way, and trust you are not only wanted but needed! 💗
Me too 😢❤
Wally is such a beautiful soul 🥰💞
Oh, Wally, you are SUCH a likable and lovable person! Absolutely! It’s a good thing that you are open and authentic in your interactions with people. That’s a GOOD thing! And you have such a huge HEART! I am so sorry about your father! Your videos are a beautiful, amazing service to PIMO Jehovah’s Witnesses and ex-Jehovah’s Witnesses! You are literally a godsend to so many who need what you are offering them with your caring words and wisdom. You are so appreciated! Thank you for all you do!💕
You are the way you are because you are acting normally to the abnormal. It's been nearly 40 years since I left. The impact on a child, later in life, is legitimate. Know that so many of us are saying, "You are not alone." We all have the fallout of various forms. Your story, all of our stories, can now help prevent harm to those who come after us. HUGS.
Alcohol addiction is a bitch. I am alcoholic. My addiction started because it was the only way for me to cope with loneliness.
I feel you 😪 it's been 2 weeks for me no alcohol, trying my very best and taking each day at a time
There's 2 types - instant alcoholic from the first drink (me), and then those that develop over time. You meet both in AA. And a lot of ex JWs.
@lisasweeney8158 geez I'm not surprised, I read that statically JWs, especially those raised in the cult have a 70% chance of developing a mental illness or depression or both throughout their lives..I've heard of many suicidal attempts and actual suicides from ex JWs too - no surprise there either, very sad.
I drank to cope with being a JW. Then I drank to cope with being shunned. It’s a very dark period in my life, and I’m insanely thankful that I don’t feel the need to hit the bottle anymore. It was a damn journey.
Wally, you are loved and not alone, so many people struggle with addiction. A 50 yo that could be your mother sends you a huge hug from Italy ❤🫂🇮🇹
Wally, you are not to blame for other people's ignorance, cruelty and selfishness. You are amazingly strong and resilient. You are bright, articulate and have a wonderful sense of humor. What's not to like? Any time you feel like venting, we're here for you. We care.
I'm proud of you brother, stay strong
thank you
Wally out here baring his soul and his cat is meanwhile causing mischief 😂
I have a sister-in-law who is currently dealing with alcohol and drug addictions, accompanied by many serious mental health issues, all caused by her traumatic experiences with being raised as a JW and being horribly abused by her abusive biological father until my mother-in-law was unfairly disfellowshipped after divorcing her abusive ex-husband when she was only 7 years old. Helping her had not at all been easy, but my family and I REFUSE to give up on her. Please DO NOT apologize for being vulnerable about what you went through. That was one of the bravest things you've done. I wish you well, Wally. 💙
Love and hugs Wally. We are here for you.
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Sending compassion to you and know you are “liked” and loved. I’m an 82 year old Catholic grandma and started watching your channel because I have a sister in law who is a JW. I enjoy your show you have a unique personality which makes watching you very enjoyable. And I learn about the effects that JW has on children. Hoping you come to peace and acceptance of who you are. Catholics teach we are made in the image and likeness of God which means we are perfect just the way we are.
Keep up the good work Wally, you can do it !!!
thanks I will try my best
You can do it Wally! I was in it for 4 decades. When I woke up, my drinking increased, but the joy of freedom from JW cult induced further freedom from alcohol. You sure can do it! Love you.
My father and mother separated after I was born. I was 11 when I met him. He hated that my mom was a JW. It was too late for me and him to ever have any type of relationship with him. It was a total mess growing up no father and sitting at the Kingdom Hall listening to worldly will be destroyed soon in ‘75
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Oh, dude! My heart is breaking for you! While I have no expectations for you to share your life, I appreciate the fact that you did. I hope you take the opportunity to connect with your new found cousin on a more long term basis.
I don't know how you behave with the people in your life. But the version of you that you present to us does seem genuine and authentic, and I like that version. And so, if that's how you are in your real life interactions, I would say you're a very likable person. That voice inside your head that tells you you're unlikable and probably a million other negative thoughts is wrong. I hope you find the other voice inside you that recognizes how great you are.
I have probably mentioned this here before, but I am a widow. My husband died young at 49. He was a terrible alcoholic much of which is thankful to JWs, religious trauma and CSA. Watching your videos has given me the ability to forgive him. You have a powerful message and it has been very meaningful to me. I was never a JW, not even a little. You have helped me understand my in-laws and my husband. In happy to hear you have stepped back from drinking, it's no easy feat. Please give yourself some grace. Idk if you are in a program, but my husband couldn't do AA. A little too culty. There are other ways.
Sometimes, the most broken people are those who you would expect the least.
Be kind to everyone, and don't judge people too much, you don't know what somenoe's going through.
Great talk Wally.
Dude, what are you on about saying that people do not like you very much?
You are greatly liked and appreciated Wally, by both people and animals!
Perhaps you are not liked by the Watchtower people,
but you are not alone in being disliked by those hypocrites!
Your sense of humour is outstanding, and even if you are an introvert who only likes to show up as an extrovert entertainer 2 or 3 times a year, or even once a decade,
then that is also OK!
Not only were you judged by the people in your organization,
because the Watchtower culture is so that everybody judges each other,
but they also managed to put that judging voice inside your own head,
calling it Jehovah or your conscience!
You are trained to make sure that you would continue to put yourself down for whatever insane little detail, even after leaving that terrible organisation. No wonder people turn to alcohol even before they leave the Watchtower, as it is their only 'legal' outlet that can drown out their inner critical lying voice, trained up by Satan's organisation and his minions.
Your cat knows you and loves you for exactly who you are! The patience that you show your cat when she pranks you in every video, potentially stressing you out, but you just calmly and kindly react to her, shows that you are a treasure of a soul!
Take good care of yourself and your beloved animal friends young man!
Blessings to you ❤
"Sorry for what?"- yeah, I've had that conversation.
Relatives living nearby when you thought they were a long way away? Been there too.
Lots of us are in the C-PTSD club. It takes decades Wally, decades to live with the truckloads of shit others shovelled onto us and the family secrets lurking around corners.
Be as kind to yourself as you exhort us to be. Be strong. The couch is somewhere you can talk to us, so do it when you need to. Crying's part of growth, it's the best non-alcoholic heartwash a person can get.
Fam... I'm crying with you. First off I'm really proud of you for realizing the alcohol was taking over you and you got control of it. I knew something changed because you seriously look so much healthier and happier. Despite the pain of everything with your family and your biological father.. you are an amazing person. I have to say this and i hope read this... the reason your biological father didn't have anything to do with you... has nothing to do with you. It's not about you. He was selfish and frankly, i think he did you favor. I think he did you the biggest favor by staying out of your life so he didn't ruin it. He was brainwashed and in a cult and an abusive alcoholic. He was like that before he got your mom pregnant, and even the miracle of life, wasn't enough for him to be a real man and be a father. He protected you from his abusive ways by staying away from you. It's not you. It was never about you. It's always been about him and him alone. When he died, part of you went with him. That tiny part of your heart that's been hurting your entire life, that void, fill it with forgiveness and love. Forgive him. Keep reminding yourself feeling grief for someone who didn't participate in your life, is totally normal. He took to his death things you'll never understand and that's ok. I cried with you throughout this entire video. I am really proud of you and i wish i knew you in real life. I genuinely care about you because you've helped me so much, you have no idea. You are special to all of us... you truly are a gift to this earth. Don't sell yourself short. Feel your feelings. Cry. Grieve. Sobriety brings so much healing. It's intense and you'll heal and be happier because you're allowing yourself to feel and deal and heal. You're not just suffocating your feelings with alcohol. Tea is the best replacement for alcohol. Happiness is the goal in this life. You deserve to be happy and feel whole. ❤
Feel to heal.
@@lovingme_lovingyou amen 😍
I'm going through burnout myself. I'm starting to feel something of a rejuvenation and need to change some things around. We all need support and I hope all will be well for you.
I have also had some recent experiences that triggered those feelings from childhood: why doesn't anyone want to stick around and be my parent? Why wasn't I enough? My therapist responded with, "Do not take responsibility for their choices. They made poor, hurtful decisions; don't take responsibility for them on top of the hurt." Hugs, Wally. ❤
Hi, Wally 👋 its 3 in the morning in Ireland. Im a 70 year old and grandmother, and I feel your pain. Love and best wishes to you, my dear ❤️
I feel pity for your biological father, he lived a life without meaning and missed out on a relationship with the awesome dude we have all come to love. He chose to divide relationships... You are not him, you have chosen to take all the negative experiences and spin them into determination and positivity that, in turn has brought so much healing and progress to so many of us. Keep up the good work pal, you are making a huge difference. Much love from the uk x
We all feel for you because many of us deeply relate to your story. The depression that comes with leaving that cult and losing your family (however difficult they are) can be overwhelming. I can't imagine you not being told of your father's death. That is just unforgivable. On a positive note, I am so happy for you that you have stopped drinking - you will not be sorry! My experience has been that losing weight, looking good and feeling good is a better feeling than drinking. The pain of my childhood doesn't go away, but trying to drink it away didn't work either. You look terrific Wally - we're really proud of you. Oh, and have that coffee if you enjoy it! You have to have things to look forward to! Love from Australia xx
Hello, I’m a fellow ex-Jehovah’s Witness, and I’m glad you did this. I was born in, and married a boy who was also born in, when I was 19, and he was 20. I saw him become an alcoholic, and there wasn’t anything I could do. That’s when I left the Borg, and got divorced. I won’t say his addiction ended his life in 2022, at age 48, it was the fact that not a single adult we went to for help, actually gave him good advice. I was so mad at him for years, until he passed away, and now it’s just tragic. I probably won’t be able to watch this tonight, but I want to thank you. Men need a safe space to talk about the underlying issues of alcoholism, so they can really heal and have a shot at being happy. As far as I’m concerned, my daughter has to deal with that kind of a childhood trauma, and witnessing her father’s struggle, and saw him pass away, .because of the Watchtower, and their followers. I don’t know you, Wally, but you’re my brother ❤️
You can do this Wally! Break the cycle! We love you and thousands of people want Wally in their lives.
I’m honestly a boring ex drunk. No jw background. It started when I was in college and got a lot worse when i joined the police department out of college and my drinking got really bad. I went through rehab but no AA. I’ve been sober for 20 years. Congrats on your sobriety man!
To be so transparent & vulnerable is commendable. You are so strong, yes; but give yourself some grace. YOU ARE HUMAN. I TRULY APPRECIATE THE VIDEO. MUCH LOVE ❤️
You are blessed my brother. Please do not allow any negative thoughts discourage you. You have educated and changed so many lives. ❤❤
It takes a lot to be upfront about this stuff. There are still stigmas surrounding mental health and struggles with addiction, the more that people are brave enough to speak…the easier it will be for the next person struggling to get help.
Who knows the demons people fight in their heads. We didn't know yours till you shared some of them now. Who knows if your dad got to share his with anyone. The more I know about my own father's history, the more compassion and forgiven I feel of all the shit he did. Maybe knowing more about him and his history (he was also someone's child) can help you heal. You did nothing wrong and life is complicated. A tight hug from this stranger.
That is what I was thinking too.
Wally, thanks for sharing. You’re a special and 🌹precious human being.
Hey Man your channel is very meaningful to me as an ex JW. Don’t forget that YOU matter in this world! The fact that you are worried about what others think of you means that you also worry about others. Whish the world was more filled with people like you. In time you’ll be able to manage that better believe me. Takes guts to go on the platform and open up your deepest feelings like this. Complements for sharing your story. Keep it up✌️
Hello Wally🌹Welcome Fellow Traveller 🤗No Worries/Sorries. Hang on Tight to You🌟 Life is SPECTACULAR - Try not to miss a moment
You are Loved & Never Alone❗
Im sure this must have been hard to sit and share such a vulnerable part of yourself with your viewers. I dont think you need to apologize for doing whats best for you. Also you do look great. Keep it up. Mistakes will happen so dont beat yourself up. Keep going.
Wally very brave !!!! I've been watching your videos for years. I woke up about 7 years ago. And fought drinking and beat it and so can you. Keep the faith keep doing what you are doing. We have been dealing with all the pain that JW organization has perpetrated against us. Thank you for your videos. You have made a difference in many ex-JWs lives. Thank you Love you and keep up the good work. I'm here for you Brother.
Awe Wally. I'm sorry to hear that you have been dealing with this, however I am happy that things are starting to look up for you. Remember one day at a time. Big hug!
You got this Wally, wish you nothing but the best and hopefully you will finally get a relationship with your other side of the family
Thanks Wally for sharing this. There are many of us single parent exjws who were rejected by a parent as a child, and then rejected by the other as an adult for leaving the cult. We are orphaned in some respects. Led to fear of abandonment and some unsavory attachment styles, but we persevere ❤
We don't hate you, Wally. Ignore the haters. ❤
Wally i just have so many things to say. First off, your bravery and honesty is so inspiring. The courage that it takes to step back and look at yourself in the face of so much trauma....massive respect to you.
My husband and i have been watching your channel for about 2 years (since i started to fully wake up). I had no idea the family situation you were in and what an impact that must have had. You had me in tears listening to your story.
Thank you for sharing it because even though our traumas aren't the same i always appreciate hearing how people have found ways to overcome their own past and their own pain.
I only know you in the internet world but i hope its ok to send you a giant hug and say: "you got this" ❤
Thanks for this video and for all your videos! We love watching them!
I feel ya Wally. Well done, you never fail when you keep going. We love you. 🇬🇧 Thanks for all you do.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I hope I can be a supportive non judgmental viewer on this channel. Most of us former JW’s have suffered childhood emotional trauma and abuse. It is so hard to recover from that if it really happens at all. Personally, I’m in therapy. I struggle everyday. Just know that you are not alone.
Stay strong brother we all have are demons to fight. It takes courage to talk about them.
Hey Wally! Wishing you peace. I stopped drinking in 2017 to improve my athletic ability and meant to do it temporarily, but noticed how much more stable I felt emotionally, so I never went back.
I was never a JW but I identify with internalizing and emotionally distant parents. But I don’t want to misrepresent myself either. I have a present dad and he supports me in so many ways. But I am estranged from much of my family and had to establish a more surface relationship with my parents. I haven’t been to the home I grew up in (which is about 5 miles from where I live) since 2014. My life has gotten so much better but I still struggle with sorrow, anger, and confusion about my family dynamics. Wishing you less suffering. 🐈🐈⬛🐈🐈⬛🐈🐈⬛🐈
Imma be your internet cousin ❤️ We are all here for you! Keep up the amazing work you do. Love you bro!
💗 me too Wally💗
I love you, Wally! Completely unconditionally 💗 It's a loss, no matter how you slice it. You got this, Lulu & I are here for you 🐄💖
Similar background. Trying to find the new me after years of repression. It’s difficult, but you’re stronger than you think. I appreciate your content because I feel less alone. I’m here for you if you want a new friend that understands. Love when your cat guest stars.
Oh Wally... It really hurt to hear you wonder why people "don't like you" and what is "so fundamentally wrong with you."
I'm sure I'm not alone in this but even though we don't know each other, you've helped me through really hard times. From where I'm sitting you're a very kind, special, rare kind of person with interesting/insightful takes and a good sense of humour.
I agree that we should all try to be kind. Your outro makes even more sense now.
I hope that things will improve for you and you can take some comfort in knowing that so many of us do care and we do value you.
Good for you for getting sober and for your mom for keeping herself and you safe. You are courageous and genuine and will find true friends in time. Just remember, it’s not you, it’s them. But we all can learn to be better people.
Wally, you dear young man.Condolences for the loss of your father. In my opinion, nothing hurts more than loosing a family member you need answers from only to learn they have passed. Its one of many gut renching prices we have to pay as ex jws. I am a throw away child and I understand the hurt that comes with the questions of why me? Everyones answers are different because there is no single answer for everyone.
Every video you put out, you touch my heart with hope and understanding, and your smile melts my hurts and anguished spirit into peace and reverence. If your doing that for this damaged heart, imagine what your bringing to the lives of the silent watchers. The ones who never speak up or out but are being nurtured to help them battle their secret wounds.
You are so brave to talk about yourself and your struggles. We have never met, but I can tell that if you were my son, my heart would be be full of pride and I would cherrish you.
I wish you all the love and peace that you deserve.
Blessings dear Wally, and oh yes, " you better have a good ass day" 😀
A while ago, I posted my first video on another channel. When I woke up the next day, I was SO excited to see that someone had left a comment! I smiled from ear to ear, then clicked it.
Someone commented that no one cares and how much the video sucked. Humbled me real quick. 😅
It stuck with me and I felt sick to my stomach for days.
It's so easy to be mean and say things you wouldn't face-to-face.
It was a reminder for me to be a kinder person. I also learned that I don't have thick enough skin to be on RUclips lol. I
Anyways, thanks for your vulnerability, you're not alone ❤
Hey Wally, me again 😁(I wrote the first msg at the beginning of the video😂). I hope you are getting support for your mental health, that is a lot to carry on your own! Absolutely devastating information to learn, I’m so sorry you’re hurting, I think you will find that you have a lot more support than hate on this channel. I know it’s hard not to take them to heart, but I’m telling you now, if we did a poll, your many supporters here would definitely outweigh the haters.
Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure you are not, in fact, surrounded by assholes.
Sigmund Freud
Wally, you are a truth teller, you call it like you see it and for many people that's a problem to hear. You are not the problem, nor is there anything wrong with you. Surround yourself with people that accept you for who you are and let go of those who's love is conditional. Also much respect for breaking the cycle of drinking and cult mindset and your courage in being vulnerable. Thank you for all that you do! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏🙏🙏🙏✌💜
My heart goes out to you Wally. There is nothing wrong with you. It was not your fault. He was the adult, he should have been there for you. But he had his own demons to contend with, and he just couldn’t do it. Do not be so hard on yourself. Sending love your way.
It's brutal. A childhood of physical, emotional, spiritual, and other forms of abuse, and...there is no one who GETS IT!
I tried therapy, but the therapist said, "I cant believe it was THAT bad! You must be making stuff up, exaggerating, or at least misremembering."
I just gave up on therapy. The Internet ex-JW community is the only thing that keeps me from feeling like I am crazy or broken.
But why are there so many groups, outside of the JWs, who are so eager for "the world to end?!?"
Sometimes I feel like I am inside of a Russian Doll of societal madness, and I escape from one layer only to be imprisoned in a slightly larger version of the same craziness!
I hear ya about those other so called churches who will do anything to help the world to end. They are out of their minds!
Things will happen according to God's time line not theirs and woe to anyone who partakes in ushering it in. Woe to anyone who wishes harm to others.
Woe to those who have such pride as to think only their group will make it.
We will all be judged individually, not by the group we belong to.
They are all wolves that we are warned of in the NT.
Satan has his minions in most of the places that say they are churches, as far as I can see. No thank you, I'll walk alone with my Lord Jesus and his gospel of the new covenant if I have to, which I do for the most part.
I'm in Canada but I have a few American Christian friends on Facebook that are in the same boat.
Wally you touched my heart and made me cry. I feel your pain. I love your personality. You are super funny, kind, empathic, and intelligent. As a person in recovery, 4 years clean and sober, I totally relate. You made the first step toward a better life. Keep it going! ZZ rocks!!! Thank you for sharing. You will help a lot of people, but you must take care of numero uno first!
Wally, my best wishes are with you. It does take a lot of courage to sharing ones story & struggles with others. Thank you for sharing your story & vulnerability with us. I will be praying for you.
Keep on thriving & stay strong. You can do this!
I'm proud at you ❤️
Not everyone can even admit they have that problem. My mother definitely never has.
Hey man don't be ashamed. I was there too. The fact that you knew and were able to stop on your own is proof that you are stronger then you think. I was ashamed for years till a coworker I opened up too praised me for being to stop drinking. Stay strong, brother
You are not alone. There is a lot of us lovable people out here. But know that you and your red lips are valued. Hugs.
Your father not contacting you, after you gave him your number, is definitely rubbing salt in the wound. No provided closure there, whatsoever. JW abandonment is all too common. I can 100% relate, as well as the on and off battle with alcohol. They go hand and hand. Thank-you for speaking about this and being transparent. Im on the path currently, to sobriety, and this video is helpful.
Sending you love and strength Wally. We are the survivors of some terrible things. In some of my darkest moments, your videos have lifted me up. We need you here. Thank you for being you.
I named my first son Walter! ❤️ family can be so cruel! Nothing is wrong with you it’s them! ❤😢 Be kind Amen!🙏🏽
Love and hugs Wally. when i got disfellowshipped few yrs ago, my alcoholism and drug use went through the roof and i almost died several times. now im 15 months sober and im going to NA meetings and i can speak very painful things there and get help and support. sry my english isnt very good :D
Your Plainfield Indiana momma is sending tons of support, the biggest hugs & all the love you can handle❤😘❤️
Wally, you have taken the first step in healing, and that is telling your viewers of your experience with your family while in that cult of the Watchtower Society. I am sorry to hear of the death of your biological father, even when he has walked out on you and your family, and drunk so much alcohol. I hope you found it in your heart to forgive him.
As for any of those people making mean and hateful comments to you, they should quit acting hateful and put themselves in the shoes of others before judging or condemning them. As the late Joe South once said in one of his songs, "Walk a mile in my shoes. Walk a mile in my shoes. Hey, before you abuse, criticize or accuse, walk a mile in my shoes". I don't know if you have ever heard that song, but there is that wise advice. Thank you for sharing your experience with your family in that sham of a religion. God bless you, Wally.
My drinking escalated immensely when i woke up. I knew my marriage would fail (it did), I thought I was gonna be DF'd (i managed to fade, but still soft shunned by my parents). Depression took over me and I drink to cope. I'm definitely known as a beer drinker by everyone. Perhaps seeing a professional could help me deal with the real issues and I can break this habit
That was heavy. Thank you for sharing. I’m a huge fan. Sending good vibes your way. 💚💙💚
Awwwww! Wally! Omg. I want to hug you. I'm so sorry about your dad. My husband never met his dad, he even blocked him on social media, to make sure he never tried to meet him. Some people are just awful, it isn't you. You are an amazing person. We have all gathered around your stories and videos for a while, we appreciate you. It takes braveness to put yourself in front of a camera and out into the Internet. People are a$$holes. We love your gorgeous lips. Wish mine were as gorgeous. You are loved by so many. Take that to heart, you really are, even if it doesn't always feel that way. We are sitting in our own crazy lives looking to you, a comrade, who has been through this same cult and came out alive. You survived it! We love you. Xx
You got this man
Thank you for being vulnerable in the most Wally way. You are loved!
That’s a lot for one child and then adult to deal with. You help a lot of folks and you’re appreciated. Stay strong, brother.
This video truly hit home for me. Thank you for your vulnerability. Be well my brother 🙏🏾🫶🏾
Thank you so much for sharing this. I don’t think you realise just how many people this will help. So proud of you ❤
There are probably many people that like you and care about you. The people that don’t stand out to you because it’s easier to notice. I too have to remind myself to notice and appreciate that there are good people who care about me. It’s just easier to notice when people are jerks. I look forward to your videos and my kids and my woman are always entertained by your commentary. Trust me, you are a very likable person. Your dad stayed away because he didn’t love himself, it wasn’t you.
Transparency is the currency of life. 10y alcohol meth addiction. The last 11 years I am POMO no regrets, no feeling of emptiness, a real relationship with God and a wonderful husband who I prayed for. Please know it gets better!!
Thank you for being vulnerable and telling your truth. It takes a lot to get on a platform like this and share something so deep. You touched me with this one Wally ❤ much love
When I left the organization I also quit drinking at the same time. It was brutal but I managed to use the anger I was feeling to fuel my determination to get my physical, mental and spiritual health back. I started hitting the gym and dropped 75 lbs, went to therapy and went to AA for little over a year and then the similar group thinking dynamics eventually got to me and I stopped going.
I remember hearing people at AA that had been going for 30+ years and thought "wow, he quit 30 years ago and is still coming to meetings and he's still afraid he might drink again, why?".
One night at a meeting it hit me, they all have programmed their thinking that they are an alcoholic and will fail without the program and their big book.
Granted it can be beneficial for people to an extent but again is based in religion and is based on the medical and psychology systems of the 1920's and they tend to ignore there are other ways.
Decompressing from a high control, conditional acceptance group causes great difficulties for individuals. It has been a nearly 3 decade learning experience for me. Reading psyche, history, sharing with others really helped. Putting the Biblical in historical perspective, understanding the cultures (like learning Klingon), seeing how many in history have ran amok and passed their ideas onto others. Understanding how to be human can be difficult.
Wally, you're a good influence - you help folks realize that they're not alone in growing. Growth hurts, but stagnation is worse. You''re a mensch, Wally, good on you!
Life is a learning process. You’re doing great and we are proud of you. 👏🏼 we are here for you
I don't comment often l, but I love you Wally. My wife's parents are still alive but they may as well be dead cause they don't want anything to do with her or our new child. Weak people despise strong and genuine people Wally. Stay strong my friend.
Sir, what a display of courage! Bis bis! 👏
Working out every day? Nice going bro!! Under 200 is nothing to scoff at! I'm at like 245, myself. But I was 255 last week!
It could be that your dad wasnt proud of who he was and he thought non existent memories of him are better than horrible ones of him.
Im glad youre working on yourself. I still work on myself and I enjoy shaping myself into who I want to be.
Sending you love and hugs. This video took an incredible amount of courage to share so much raw vulnerability. I have nothing but respect and admiration for the person you have chosen to be. There is nothing wrong with you. You have done nothing to deserve the neglect and abandonment you have faced from the people who are supposed to love you unconditionally.
3 cheers for you, Wally! You are an intelligent resilient handsome man ❤ and I am inspired by your courage to share your bio.
💕 from 77 yr old exjw free for 25 yrs.
Wally I admire your strength in pushing through your pain to share your difficult and important message. I am hopeful it will make many stop and think about these important subjects. I sincerely hope you get all the love and support you need in return. Wishing you all the best!
I am proud of you brother...I am sending you hugs 🫂 all the way from Africa (Kingdom of Swaziland 🇸🇿)
Thanks for keeping it real brother. There WILL be a day when you won't even think about Alcohol. I promise!!
Thank you for being vulnerable and showing up for yourself dude. Delete all the negativity and focus on the positive. Easier said than done (I’m saying that to myself too). I look forward to all your videos man.
Thank you for being brave enough to share yourself with us❤️
I can relate to your story. I've had a similar family situation and struggled with addiction as well. Yesterday marked my first year clean and sober. I'm rooting for you and am proud that your facing this sober. After 12+ years of being disfellowshipped, I finally feel like I'm healing and addressing all of the generational trauma, JW related and non. Sending all my love and support.
Hey Wally, I don't think I have ever made a comment on your videos before so I guess I can say I'm a longtime listener, first time caller. I just recently found out that we share a mutual friend, in fact I hear her dog is in love with you 😂. Just the other day we were talking about you and I said I wish I was friends with Wally he seems like a very caring person. The way our friend talked about you just proved to me that I couldn't have been more right. I just wanted to let you know that before I got really sick and my body started trying to "unalive" itself, I was an addictions therapist but more importantly, I have struggled with addiction as well. If you need a chat with someone who has been through this and is also trained to help you through this, just get in touch with our friend and she can get us connected. If anything, at least we might walk away with a wonderful friendship. Take care of yourself Wally, ttyl.
I'm so sorry you're going thru this. There's NOTHING wrong with Wally! It was his problem & definitely Not your fault.
His loss not knowing his Son, who is an Amazing person.
God Bless You for all you do & all you are!!!