Everyday people don't have that kind of money to blow on clothes. Personally, I don't think it's how much you paid for it, but what you do with it. I think you can look just as nice in cheaper clothes. Especially if your body is super fit. A body that's in shape, can look good in anything.
Half of those labels he mentioned well most I have never heard of. A lot of high end labels are UGLY! I think too much pressure is placed on labels and not just looking nice and presentable. Life is stressful enough. How much we pay for what we wear SHOULDNT add to it. I don’t care to spend a lot on clothes. That’s not where my priorities are.
@@pinnakal1 You are too right 🙌...I have looked at so many items of designer clothing and asked myself what they could the designer have been thinking of when they designed that thing cos it is ssso freaking ugly. I think the only things that look good sometimes are the ones people order for themselves that are tailor made for them according to their own personal taste.
I think there’s a deeper meaning behind how we dress, like if we’re confident or insecure. I think women who dress too provocatively or too modesty sometimes struggle with issues of self-worth and self-love. It’s so important to heal so you can be our truest self.
I never was or will be a label person. I dress according to my personality and how the clothes look on my body. I know that sounds weird, but it's true. I present myself well, smell and look good. And I stand out. I don't blend in. I'm very confident in what I wear. I understand the message though.
One of the things a lot of people around me never liked was that I invested into my image. When I changed my wardrobe 3 years ago to a more lady like luxury appearance people and mainly men respond to me differently and gave me a new level of respect. Investing into your wardrobe is very important due to how people treat you based on the room or circles you want to be associated with. I find your best investment is within yourself and if you want to elevate you have to make the change! I am happy I am not the only one who understand this logic!
As you should you go sis!this is how the world we are living in works period!buuut why people around you don’t like it tho it’s none of their business do you do what is good for YOU!
I did this as well and received so much respect even from the hoodlum catcallers. One said to me, 'Well hello to you, miss lady'. When this happens, I do say hello nicely and move along.
My sister is into fashion. She dresses to kill lol. When people see her, they always think she is wearing designer clothes! She looks expensive whenever she dresses up. But she shops at Ross and TJ Maxx so she can buy a $5 blouse and $10 pants and make it look like she spent a lot of money so yeah perception when it comes to clothing is everything
Ladies don’t let this message discourage you from buying clothes from Ross, Charlotte Rouse etc. Buy what you can afford. It’s all about how you put yourself together. I’ve seen women rock an Aldo bag & shoes who look like a million bucks and others in Balenciaga that look like trash ! Class. That’s what matters. Also, do not put yourself in debt trying to get all these name brands. Wealthy, high caliber people don’t give a shit about that. Only the superficial ones do - and we don’t want superficial people in our lives anyway 💕💕
Lol I was crying when you started talking about Rue21 and Charlotte Russe& Claire’s😂 But when Monique started talking about taking pride in yourself by not wearing a bonnet then everyone got mad. She was right. You are treated by the way you look/present yourself.
When I met my husband, he wore a nice button up shirt and blue jeans. He was dressed nice. Shirt tucked in. I thought to myself that's what I like. No pants sagging
I'm not trying to go broke trying to impress people who don't pay my bills. Although I buy affordable clothes I know how to put them together to make them look nice. I can put affordable clothes on and make them look expensive. Just because that piece of clothing is expensive don't make it cute. I've seen alot of ugly expensive clothes and alot of cute affordable clothes.
My mother Always told me to be presentable even if your making a quick run to the grocery store, presentation is everything regardless of what people like to say, everyone judges a book by its cover.. regardless of where its purchased I pair high and low all the time, its about Style and Grace
One of my biggest passions in life is fashion (i also have a small online boutique since 2011) and one of the things that i know is that money don't make you stylish or classy, fashion is not about spending hundreds and thousands of dollars only on the biggest designer brands and throwing them on you thinking now you have style. No matter how much money i would have, i would never spend it on expensive items that look like $5-$10 common average clothing or rags. So it's not about the brand name, it's about how special, high-quality and unique that item is. You can create yourself an entire awesome wardrobe buying online on sale and clearance as i do, you just have to be passionate and patient to keep your eyes out for unique beautiful garments and accessories that will form your own personal style.
I think you should be yourself, whatever or whoever that is. You will attract who you are, no matter what you're wearing. Express your personal style in your own way.
People that have real money...old money, you would never be able to tell by the vehicle or the clothes they wear. It's the new money that floss. People that understand the power of economics, do not put money into materials that depreciate in value. Balance is correct.
I am MOST concerned, about personal HYGIENE do they wash everyday, brush their teeth eat a healthy diet.Had an ex flexin with a Rolex horrible person ,someone who is too flashy is a turn off for me .Yes have Lv if you can afford it now & again but my morals is to invest that money in to property & real estate making worldly designers more rich is not on my agenda personally.
Give me a guy with some khakis and a polo all day long! I never cared about name brands. My best friend & my brother are obsessed with keeping up with name brands. So she always dated dope dealers. She had the latest Louie 💼 , but she was abused. And my brother tried to be Nino Brown. So I’m good on that. I dress comfortably, and have a fashion sense where I can make anything look like a million bucks. I’m starting to be approached by white men more, although that’s not what I’m trying to attract. My only problem is how to step out my comfort zone, and give them a chance.
Yes. I ain't paying for clothes to advertise a billion dollar company...My friend worked as a doorman to this building where super rich people live there. He said many looked like regular folks. They don't have a need to prove themselves.
@@broco6608 I agree with you. The funny thing about this is my step-father is white (RIP). So I know what it’s like to live in a household with, and learn from another culture. We spent holidays with his family. He was honestly one of the nicest men I’ve ever met ♥️ So this should be an easy transition when I do make up my mind.
Give yourself the opportunity to change your mind! In this case, you have to just do it & manage the biases & assumptions we all have so you can see the person beyond that characteristic, i.e race.
Not the you look like you like your auntie Ursula !! Tony got me crying he said we out here looking like our grandmas and grandpas. Thank you for this advice, I definitely needed this information.
I struggle a bit with perception. I love my style but I feel like I dress too young sometimes. I am 30 but I have a younger looking face, and I have a lot of innocence in me. I will wear a bright yellow shirt tucked into a red, flared patterned knee length skirt, with denim tennis shoes. Love comfy, colorful clothing but this specific look can’t be called grown and sophisticated. More like happy, artistic, and energetic. Have never wanted to be a buttoned up professional. I also never wanted to grow up too fast.
I also like the hippy, street style & struggle to make it “grown”. I am more intentional about my style as I care about perception & the opportunities that come with it. I use hood family events to wear these colorful outfits since it’s socially acceptable but I will only take pics on my phone. Don’t want a digital footprint lol.
😂😂😂😂why isn't anyone commenting about the part where Tony speaks about men wearing shorts and he asking himself "where your thing at ". Left me in stitches
The key to clothing is to shop high and low. If you are in a position where you are still building your bank account or can't afford brand name clothing, then by all means utilize places like forever 21 etc, shop basics/classics, not whats in for the moment. Invest in a good pair of heels, jacket, and jewelry to pull your look together. Regardless to if you are natural or not, make sure your hair is pulled together. Use a good whitening tooth paste, and avoid cheap body spray and perfumes, do spend on a quality fragrance. If you are over a certain age avoid large logos, you are not a walking billboard... when have you ever seen execs, doctors, lawyers, etc wearing that type of attire. They may have it on, but its not like hey look at me I got on Gucci. Its usually a very small logo if anything especially anyone over 35, but at the end of the day wear what makes you happy you only have one life to live....
I love my Amazon maxi dresses. I get tuns of compliments and hits ons with my $35. You just have to know how to look amazing on a budget. Lol but I am super appreciative for your message! People perception attract what you want
I feel if a woman where outfits with breast showing, flesh showing everything showing, you will attract what you portray. I do not feel you have to where designer clothes to look like you have alot. I've worn clothes that people thought were designer and it wasn't. It's how you put it together. I personally wouldn't date any man with their pants hanging and mouth full of gold.
I'm sad that most comments here are defensive. Most miss THE point. I'm older, 70, like classic clothes and basically ignored the message he is sharing. UNTIL, when at 55 a real estate board exec who had hired me for a 5 DAY seminar quietly told me my attire was NOT high caliber enough for my attendees. My students were Realtors and attorneys. I was recognized as THE industry's leading foreclosure expert at the time. My fee of $2,500 per day, plus expenses was reflective of the fact that I was THE EXPERT. I was travelling as a national, well paid, well regarded speaker. I wasn't dressing the part. I appreciated her candor. I didn't appreciate THESE people evaluating my KNOWLEDGE based on THEIR standard of what an expert looks like. After considering it prayerfully I decided to upgrade my clothes. I had already upgraded my shoes because you can't stand all day and speak I. 60.00 shoes, (my old standard) like you can in 150-200 shoes. (my new standard) I came from a poor, southern A American background. God made me smart and elevated me but I didn't have life experiences, mentors ( or Tony Gaston) to tell me I was a diamond, in a paper bag. I did learn, I did adapt, jewelry, hair everything. And went on to do well until God gave me a new assignment. Listen to Tony and apply WISDOM, to suit your situation, your goal, your Intent. I had a message to be delivered so I needed to be dressed as a messanger who would be received. Pray. Adjust as needed. In Christian love, Ms. Millie
My husband never has to worry about me spending money on labels. I shop on clearance & out of season. Idk why I'm cheap I don't have kids. I can afford it. Lol. But a $3 dress with some cute shoes & accessories I guarantee you'll look twice. 😜🥰 I put money where it's needed my house & wheels lol
I definitely understand what you mean. We are to representatives of Christ and should be neat. Personally I don’t wear jewelry, pants, or makeup but I dress simple and modesty. I’ve noticed that women can easily make dress a form of idolatry and focus more on outward appearance than the refinement of the inward character.
@@PeaceBeStill- Yes! And you don’t have to worry about pairing them with any bottoms. I love dresses for that reason. They are feminine and pretty and there are so many varieties. I have a closet full of dresses for the summer and spring.
Yeah I believe we should be neat and cleanly but not necessary trendy or fashionable since that is highly determined by entertainment industry, social media and celebrities. It’s ever changing however the principles in God’s word stay ever true.
Lord have mercy! i used to dress like a granny when I was a teenager and in my early 20s. That's what I grew up around, but I have improved my style. Man, I'm embarrassed I dressed like that. Elevation is good. 👏🏽
Me too, it’s ok. I’ve learned now that I can still dress conservative and classy but be fashionable. In a way dressing like a “granny” taught me to respect my body and now I can do so while not being “old fashioned “.
Sadly, it usually doesn't matter what I wear. My figure is too difficult to hide. I got the ghetto chest and the ghetto booty. That's what is noticed first. And that comes with it's own stigma and assumptions, all by itself. It sucks, but that's just the way it is for myself.
I have the big chest but little booty. Thats why I typically wear dresses in the summer and jeans with blazers during colder months. I get complements most times.
@@timetravel151 I know the guys who yell at me think it's a compliment, but I just don't want to hear someone yelling out their car window at me, "hey girl, you got a fat ass, you wanna smoke with me?" No sir. No, I do not.
@@socialdistancingon8333 I’m sure that can be challenging because I’m not super happy about everyone looking at my chest. BUT, I just remind myself that there will be a day when no one will say anything. So, I just let them be themselves without getting too disrespectful and enjoy the “attention” for what its worth at the time.
@@timetravel151 I'm glad you're doing what's working for yourself. Keep at it. I tend to have a...different approach. I gave the guy the finger. I just couldn't be bothered to give him enough energy to turn around to look at him and talk back to him. And the peeling of his tires to get away from me as fast as possible gave me the most immense satisfaction.
GOD BLESS YOU. I am to be married to my handsome fiance this weekend Tony. This video was for him, I've never commented but YES! I work in the retail fashion industry and he is jerseys and baggy 90s jeans
I see so many tweens and teens taking pictures and posting to social media with cleavage, midriff and skin-tight clothes and next thing you know that same person is posting baby shower pictures or “my new Sugar lump” pictures. 🤔
I love the concept of this video and the strong message it carries. I am a black woman in my early twenties and a college student. I’m a little over 5’5 and have quite a slim build - I’ve always been this way. I have what you’d describe a rectangle shaped body. Therefore, I have the ‘straight up and down’ type with a flat chest and bottom. I’ve struggled since my teen years with my body confidence. I’m African and the bodies that are accepted more are curvier ones. Unfortunately do not fit that group. I am a Christian too and I believe that of course I am wonderfully made by God. But it’s truly crushing when I feel I can never look amazing in clothing. I sometimes try to wear clothes and styles that suit my body type but even so those styles sometimes aren’t really ‘my style’. It’s hard to feel good in a body I dislike. I am healthy which I am very grateful for. I rarely show my skin or other body parts such a breasts. If anything my upper chest or arms may be on show. I love fashion and have a good sense of style. It just sucks when other girls can wear the simplest of clothes, I.e skinny jeans and a nice top and look 10/10. I know that most guys in particular do not find my body shape attractive and it’s such a hard pill to swallow. I accept the way I’ve been made and don’t dress provocatively or showing too much, but when other girls get attention and fawned over so much, it’s hard to be on the other side. How do I come to terms with this and not let it get to me so much?
At the end of the day, we have to learn to accept and love ourselves. You have your own unique identity and purpose. God did not make us using a cookie cutter. Who will receive you, let them be attracted to you for being your authentic self. Point blank. Other than that, you'll spend your life chasing an identity that's not yours. I have learned to embrace and be me: my style, my uniqueness, etc. I value a nice presentation for sure and I get the message, but will not allow pop culture to dictate my worth. So be encouraged and embrace the you God created you to be.
Cheer up Queen! Go to Pinterest or Google to style images of the following slim Black/Latina Celebrities - Zendaya, Aaliyah, Zoe Saldana, Jada Pinkett. I am slim too with mini curves but I embrace it. We have miniature model body 😊 because we are short and slim. Quick style tips- high waisted gap jeans with a solid color cropped t shirt or a-lined dresses or Adidas black track joggers with zipper near ankle with white tee & jean jacket. Small women have to accentuated their best features i.e. if you have great legs were shorts or skirts that stop just above your knee ( not too short). Don't worry Sis you will love your body once you're older or have children ❤️
@@profmj7630 Wow thank you so much for your comment also! Embracing can be a journey but I hope I make it all the way. And thanks for the style advice too, I’ll take it on board!👍🏾
We are announcing our standards with our dress code when we are presenting ourselves to others, especially when it comes to the opposite sex. Naomi instructed Ruth to wash, anoint herself and put a cloak around her and to lay at Boaz feet. Esther along with the hundreds of other young virgins had to go through a beauty ritual/spa treatment (cleansing & purification process) for an entire year and they were give the best jewerly and clothing to chose from to put on before each one presented herself befor the king. It's not just about looking good, personal hygiene is very important as well. Men are turned off by offensive odors, and women who dont practice self-care.
I feel that any clothing that is clean and put together nicely can be attractive on a person. It doesn't have to be high end to attract someone of a higher standard. But you should always dress with class regardless to what the cost of the merchandise.
Well I'm my mid 40's n my 17 yr old niece says" I drip"! So I Kno I'm doing alright! I've always liked fashion n clothes! N I love men who can dress n smell good 2! That's a win, win n my book!
I completely understand and agree...I like to dress cute conservative, and I don't mind spicing it up for my man..however, what I have noticed is that if I see he gives low effort then I give low effort too... he has to come in with his masculine energy, looking and being a leader and that makes me feel so much more feminine and inspired to please him with something sexy, from my hair, nails, smell, dress everything...we feed each other.
Man Tony I can barely keep up with you man! 3 videos in a day?!! 🥵 Thank you for blessing us 🥰… And I feel very blessed to not know designer brands. I couldnt tell Gucci from Target. Not my thing. Them designer brands aint charging me 5X more for cotton, spandex, rayon, elastic nor any other material. 😌
I found it very difficult in my 40s to find looks that aren't making me look too old or too young, especially for summer time. Pintrest is a good search tool for looks that are age appropriate, body flattering and classy. I am very short with a nice shape so i have to be very careful with dresses and shorts in the summer. Its a struggle to find the happy medium when its 99 degrees outside. Thanks for the video.
Just because you don't see me wearing it or driving it, doesn't mean I can't afford it, I just have more important priorities. It may not be name brand clothing, shoes, purses etc., but I can look still look nice. Before I pay $200 or more for clothing, purses, shoes, I can put that money towards the principal balance on my home. I've just purchased my second home. I wouldn't be able to do that if I was spending on expensive clothing, purses, etc. Clothes depreciate in value, houses increase in value.
I’m definitely one of those not materialistic type chicks 🤷🏽♀️ I don’t have to spend all my money on no clothes for somebody to take me serious long as I look good , I’m good !! Sounds like wearing all that money might “ just might”attract gold diggers or the wrong type of man for me !! I know how to look good in target or citi trend attire i hate when ppl think clothes and material things make them .. I see it as them not being so secure with who they are out here trying to dress the part to be accepted .. kinda shows ur insecurities in my opinion 😑 because my clothes don’t make me .. but I get what you’re sayin as well
What about that relationship with Christ? Sometimes people dont have money for names. You can dress beautifully without Name brand. Style is everything and dress classy not nasty as a lady. Keep your meat covered
It's true. I tried to have a talk with one of my cousins about this. She's about to go off to college and did not think it's fair that people judge you off of how you look. But it's a common thing. We all do it, even if we don't mean to be rude about it. How we present ourselves say a lot.
Well that common thing will get a lot of people thrown in hell being materialistic, judgmental, and worldly. He say it’s not being materialistic but actually it is in the common eye for most people. It’s not about what you wear. It’s how you wear it. People just need to find what works for their body and know when to dress appropriately. Such as, pool parties etc. that’s when it’s appropriate to show a Lil skin. Social media as if today is pushing name brands. Especially influenced by celebrities. So people will try to keep up to some degree. If you don’t wear name brand and be flashy, then that makes you average. I say dress for the occasion. Most people today gotta have high ranked name brand clothes just to fit in. It’s sad. God talks about this very topic that will ruin the masses eternity. Because they too worried about impressing people just to say they got it like that.
@@faithlagofmustardseed1785 No one is talking about impressing people. A lot of people do struggle with taking this topic too far. But what you wear is a part of your self expression, so it does say something important about you that most people may overlook. Our clothes are part of that representation of us. It also goes back to that line between realistic and materialistic. What you put out, you attract. Some people want someone who dresses nicely and puts more care into their look but won't do it themselves. Or say they want someone to love them for them, but if they don't look the part they don't stand a chance. Is it fair? No, but representing yourself well does make it easier to gravitate towards the right friends, opportunities and maybe even a husband or wife that you may want. Im not saying to go overboard. But it's a fine line for sure. This is why its hard to get into heaven. That line is a straight and narrow path in the midst of many avenues. So how you take that walk is up to you.
I had this conversation with a close relative & she was very resistant. We often go grocery shopping together & she is very critical about me dressing up while she looks bummy (tights, Nike slides, with a messy bun on her head). I realized as I progress in life we will likely become distant since we don’t share the same views, values, or goals.
@@beac8238 Sometimes it happens that way smh. It's hard for people to practice what they preach. Maybe one day you could change her mind and be an example to help her see how she's not seeing the whole picture. At the same time, if you gotta love and pray for her from a distance, I can totally relate to that happening too. I hope it works out for the best for both our family. I love to see success all around.
I always wear my clothes a couple of sizes larger than my natural size. Think of a model run way, you want your clothes to appear as if they’re swaying in the wind even if their is no wind blowing. I always get stopped by gentlemen complimenting me on my galant stride when walking through a mall!
Hi Tony, can you do a video on waiting until marriage & how to go about dating someone who’s not abstaining (like men trying us, etc...).... I think you mentioned a while back but can’t find it
You have to let the Holy Spirit curate your look. It will change depending on the assignment, where you are spiritually and also the physical state. Unfortunately, measurements apply to logic(your physical SIZE play a role in what you should or should not wear). Foundationally, it changes as your mind is transformed and you are aligned more succinctly with God’s plans. But ultimately, adaptability is essentially a strategy that the LORD will use accordingly. Cosmetic consciousness is a powerful thing when uses righteously and peculiar to you.
I'm 25 years old and I observed recently, that when I was going to my workplace ( I'm a PhD student doing research in the field of virology), mostly men in their late 30s were approaching to me. My best friend, who is 30 and also a PhD student (in the field of neurology) had totally other experience. If I was being approached by men who were already post-docs or sometime had their own research-group, she was being approached by other PhD students who were a couple of years younger than her. I complained about it to my stepmom... A couple of months later I was visited by my father and her and they stayed for a while. I took them once in my workplace and had a coffee with them and my best friend. When we went back home my step-mom explained to me that she knows why I attract older man and why my best friend attracts much younger men. I go to work with a blazer, light coloured shirt and jeans or pencil trousers. My best friend on the other side wears colourful dresses, shorts, colourful T-shirts.... I was giving the impression that I am much older than I am, that's why I was attracting much older men, because they were assuming that I was at least in my early 30s... So I did some changes (less make-up) and dress formally only when I have to present my results in a group... otherwise, a simple T-shirt and jeans...
I’m so glad you covered this topic bc one of my friends tried to tell me I was being ridiculous bc I didn’t like how a man dressed. He dressed a little too dated for my liking. Like early 2000’s. I prefer a man that’s a little more current but not trendy if that makes sense. My friend insisted “that’s something I could change” but I’m just not into changing a person.
My boyfriend of over a year loves when I'm professionally dressed in glasses for work, the gym outfits, and when we go out latin dancing. I worried about a dress being too revealing he told me, who cares you look good in it and you're with me. That night nothing happened but had fun. I think it helped me show him I dress fashionably for ocassion and the place. He knew my serious look outfits and when I want to be attractive going out. I am also a mother of a 17yr old and a toddler. My teenage boy respects me when I dress to go out he understands not to judge women based on one outfit and one setting like a party.
How many times I cannot count, how ugly and evil spirited well dressed and well to do folk can be. Character and good spirit is everything and if you can dress well-put together, clean and neat...expensive or not...is priceless.
You are your own marketer. Market yourself well and you will attract good or bad! I’m a Christian WOG who dresses in 2 piece conservative suits with matching scarfs and still get hit on by players! No wonder they hit on me after hearing what you said Tony about conservative women! 😂 They assume way too much.
I support your position. Your message could be titled: dress for success BASED ON THE LEVEL YOU WISH TO BE. or Represent the DEPTH of WHAT YOU HAVE TO OFFER. packaging is EVERYTHING. I dress not for people, actually, but to WELL REPRESENT WHAT God has placed IN me. I WANT be a good piece of EVIDENCE of what GOD has done. Can do, and still be is doing.
I appreciate your videos on how to dress how do you want to be perceived I appreciate your videos on how to do on date 1 to 10, by not letting him come to your home . It really helped a lot I am not dating yet it's been a while my kids are grown ups and out of the house but I wasn't sure on how to go about dating my friends tell me to talk to the guy first come on to him even my grandkids 13 and 14 when I was exercise walking with them they felt that it was their place to tell me to start talking to someone and I said I'm not going to do that I am fine stay out of my love life but people keep feeling the need to volunteer information on me and tell me I should start talking to someone my married friends who are men told me I should come on to the guy first and I said to them that's not what I want to do someone else felt the need to tell me to smile at a guy in public touching with my hand in public to flirt with him to let him know I'm interested I actually started to consider this I said maybe this is something I should be listening to but now I listen to your video and it helped me much more and it felt much more comfortable for me to do I shared it with some friends so they can watch it as well I said to them he's pretty good isn't he and she replied he's good she is years old and I told her that I sent this video to your mom as well so keep doing what you're doing sir today's date is August 13th 2021 and by the way I did subscribe. PS I do have one question I know in the video you said when a guy asked you what you're looking for you said to say I will know it when I see it I heard someone else say that so I like that it feels right but someone else told me that they tried something different when they went on a date this guy asked her what she was looking for and she said to him I want someone that I can be there for that I can help and be a great help mate too and help lift him up she said she made it all about him and he said that answer was different than what he's used to hearing he's used to hearing women say I want a man that has a job a car and so and so she said he was surprised when I said I'm looking for a man that I can be there for. what do you think about this ?
So true people love ❤️ to judge I dress accordingly to what I like…I remember my mom saying to me and my sisters growing up, when my sister wanted name brand clothing..” she would say you make the clothes, the clothes don’t make you…
“Your body is supposed to be left up to the mans imagination”- my grandmother
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! YES INDEED! WORDS OF WISDOM! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! JULY2021
I agree
And even then he shouldn’t be imagining what’s under your clothes with his old lustful self. lol
No lies told here!
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Everyday people don't have that kind of money to blow on clothes. Personally, I don't think it's how much you paid for it, but what you do with it. I think you can look just as nice in cheaper clothes. Especially if your body is super fit. A body that's in shape, can look good in anything.
You nailed it🙌💯
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! YES INDEED! WORDS OF WISDOM! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! JULY2021
Agreed! I get THE MOST compliments on unique dresses I found at the thrift store.
Half of those labels he mentioned well most I have never heard of. A lot of high end labels are UGLY! I think too much pressure is placed on labels and not just looking nice and presentable. Life is stressful enough. How much we pay for what we wear SHOULDNT add to it. I don’t care to spend a lot on clothes. That’s not where my priorities are.
@@pinnakal1 You are too right 🙌...I have looked at so many items of designer clothing and asked myself what they could the designer have been thinking of when they designed that thing cos it is ssso freaking ugly. I think the only things that look good sometimes are the ones people order for themselves that are tailor made for them according to their own personal taste.
If you actually know fashion, you know that’s it’s not about how much the clothes cost but what you do with it. Style can’t be bought..
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well said !!
This is the one ⬆️
Agreed
I think there’s a deeper meaning behind how we dress, like if we’re confident or insecure. I think women who dress too provocatively or too modesty sometimes struggle with issues of self-worth and self-love. It’s so important to heal so you can be our truest self.
I never was or will be a label person. I dress according to my personality and how the clothes look on my body. I know that sounds weird, but it's true. I present myself well, smell and look good. And I stand out. I don't blend in. I'm very confident in what I wear. I understand the message though.
One of the things a lot of people around me never liked was that I invested into my image. When I changed my wardrobe 3 years ago to a more lady like luxury appearance people and mainly men respond to me differently and gave me a new level of respect. Investing into your wardrobe is very important due to how people treat you based on the room or circles you want to be associated with. I find your best investment is within yourself and if you want to elevate you have to make the change! I am happy I am not the only one who understand this logic!
Wow, thanks for sharing.
I subscribe ☺️
I agree keeping and elevated look and looking put together elevates your whole look and the people that approach
As you should you go sis!this is how the world we are living in works period!buuut why people around you don’t like it tho it’s none of their business do you do what is good for YOU!
I did this as well and received so much respect even from the hoodlum catcallers. One said to me,
'Well hello to you, miss lady'.
When this happens, I do say hello nicely and move along.
My sister is into fashion. She dresses to kill lol. When people see her, they always think she is wearing designer clothes! She looks expensive whenever she dresses up. But she shops at Ross and TJ Maxx so she can buy a $5 blouse and $10 pants and make it look like she spent a lot of money so yeah perception when it comes to clothing is everything
Tony gaskins u are something else. U tickle me
I’m into fashion and looking nice but not them high dollar fashion prices so guess what I do?! Thrift store here I come! fashooo 😘
Amen...same😆
A lot of times, you can find those same high price brands in the thrift store as well. But…some people are too good for the thrift store!
Ikr
You can also DIY a lot of those looks pretty easy too. After you get what you need for it from the thrift store, of course!
@@socialdistancingon8333 of course 😍
“$20 bag of thrifted clothes, but I dress better than most( of those) lol!!
~organic brown sugar
I’m a very creative person, so I have great style
Right! My cousin is very artsy and that girl is flyyyyyyyyy!!!!! Dresses out of the thrift store!
Name brand stores donate their clothes and seconds to thrift stores!
Yes Yes I 💕💕 Thrift Shopping creative mind they will never know.
Neat, Clean and great Hygiene regardless of the labels on your back or feet.
Mmmhmmm you can be decked out...but you're hygiene ain't right that negates everything
Ladies don’t let this message discourage you from buying clothes from Ross, Charlotte Rouse etc. Buy what you can afford. It’s all about how you put yourself together. I’ve seen women rock an Aldo bag & shoes who look like a million bucks and others in Balenciaga that look like trash ! Class. That’s what matters. Also, do not put yourself in debt trying to get all these name brands. Wealthy, high caliber people don’t give a shit about that. Only the superficial ones do - and we don’t want superficial people in our lives anyway 💕💕
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Lol I was crying when you started talking about Rue21 and Charlotte Russe& Claire’s😂
But when Monique started talking about taking pride in yourself by not wearing a bonnet then everyone got mad. She was right. You are treated by the way you look/present yourself.
When I met my husband, he wore a nice button up shirt and blue jeans. He was dressed nice. Shirt tucked in. I thought to myself that's what I like. No pants sagging
Yep sagging pants are so unattractive
I'm not trying to go broke trying to impress people who don't pay my bills. Although I buy affordable clothes I know how to put them together to make them look nice. I can put affordable clothes on and make them look expensive. Just because that piece of clothing is expensive don't make it cute. I've seen alot of ugly expensive clothes and alot of cute affordable clothes.
My mother Always told me to be presentable even if your making a quick run to the grocery store, presentation is everything regardless of what people like to say, everyone judges a book by its cover.. regardless of where its purchased I pair high and low all the time, its about Style and Grace
One of my biggest passions in life is fashion (i also have a small online boutique since 2011) and one of the things that i know is that money don't make you stylish or classy, fashion is not about spending hundreds and thousands of dollars only on the biggest designer brands and throwing them on you thinking now you have style. No matter how much money i would have, i would never spend it on expensive items that look like $5-$10 common average clothing or rags. So it's not about the brand name, it's about how special, high-quality and unique that item is. You can create yourself an entire awesome wardrobe buying online on sale and clearance as i do, you just have to be passionate and patient to keep your eyes out for unique beautiful garments and accessories that will form your own personal style.
I think you should be yourself, whatever or whoever that is. You will attract who you are, no matter what you're wearing. Express your personal style in your own way.
Ok, keep the facts coming. 🙋🏽I’m definitely a proud member of the “fashionable, yet conservative” club as well. ☺️
People that have real money...old money, you would never be able to tell by the vehicle or the clothes they wear. It's the new money that floss. People that understand the power of economics, do not put money into materials that depreciate in value. Balance is correct.
Exactly 💯
Thanks….🤔🤔🤔 I have to clean out my CLOSET…..thank you God for the new clothes you’re about to Bless me with to attract my Husband!!!! Thanks TG
Lol.
I am MOST concerned, about personal HYGIENE do they wash everyday, brush their teeth eat a healthy diet.Had an ex flexin with a Rolex horrible person ,someone who is too flashy is a turn off for me .Yes have Lv if you can afford it now & again but my morals is to invest that money in to property & real estate making worldly designers more rich is not on my agenda personally.
Give me a guy with some khakis and a polo all day long! I never cared about name brands. My best friend & my brother are obsessed with keeping up with name brands. So she always dated dope dealers. She had the latest Louie 💼 , but she was abused. And my brother tried to be Nino Brown. So I’m good on that. I dress comfortably, and have a fashion sense where I can make anything look like a million bucks. I’m starting to be approached by white men more, although that’s not what I’m trying to attract. My only problem is how to step out my comfort zone, and give them a chance.
Truth. You don’t have to have name brands to look amazing. Just be confident in rocking your unique personal style.
Yes. I ain't paying for clothes to advertise a billion dollar company...My friend worked as a doorman to this building where super rich people live there. He said many looked like regular folks. They don't have a need to prove themselves.
@@broco6608 I agree with you. The funny thing about this is my step-father is white (RIP). So I know what it’s like to live in a household with, and learn from another culture. We spent holidays with his family. He was honestly one of the nicest men I’ve ever met ♥️ So this should be an easy transition when I do make up my mind.
Give yourself the opportunity to change your mind! In this case, you have to just do it & manage the biases & assumptions we all have so you can see the person beyond that characteristic, i.e race.
I don’t care name brands. I look at quality and material. I drop a lot at Macy’s and TJ max. They have decent prices for quality great material
Lol Tony a fashionista 👌🏼
Exactly “Fashionista” 🤣🤣🤣
🤣You kill me with the “…Send me a check”. I Love It. Blessing to you and your family Tony🖤👑
"All the meat jigging & smacking up against each other" im 💀
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I couldn't stop but notice how gorgeous your home is.
“Claire’s earrings, hope my hole don’t close up.” 😂😂😂😂😂😩
😂😂😂
Not the you look like you like your auntie Ursula !! Tony got me crying he said we out here looking like our grandmas and grandpas. Thank you for this advice, I definitely needed this information.
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I struggle a bit with perception. I love my style but I feel like I dress too young sometimes. I am 30 but I have a younger looking face, and I have a lot of innocence in me. I will wear a bright yellow shirt tucked into a red, flared patterned knee length skirt, with denim tennis shoes. Love comfy, colorful clothing but this specific look can’t be called grown and sophisticated. More like happy, artistic, and energetic. Have never wanted to be a buttoned up professional. I also never wanted to grow up too fast.
I also like the hippy, street style & struggle to make it “grown”. I am more intentional about my style as I care about perception & the opportunities that come with it. I use hood family events to wear these colorful outfits since it’s socially acceptable but I will only take pics on my phone. Don’t want a digital footprint lol.
@@kaleema1987 As long as we are confident we will attract what we will attract and be around people and places that love how we show up in the world.
@@kaleema1987 I love bell bottoms!!! They’re not trending at all. 😆
😂😂😂😂why isn't anyone commenting about the part where Tony speaks about men wearing shorts and he asking himself "where your thing at ". Left me in stitches
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Love this topic. Very important on this journey. Thank you Tony!
The key to clothing is to shop high and low. If you are in a position where you are still building your bank account or can't afford brand name clothing, then by all means utilize places like forever 21 etc, shop basics/classics, not whats in for the moment. Invest in a good pair of heels, jacket, and jewelry to pull your look together. Regardless to if you are natural or not, make sure your hair is pulled together. Use a good whitening tooth paste, and avoid cheap body spray and perfumes, do spend on a quality fragrance. If you are over a certain age avoid large logos, you are not a walking billboard... when have you ever seen execs, doctors, lawyers, etc wearing that type of attire. They may have it on, but its not like hey look at me I got on Gucci. Its usually a very small logo if anything especially anyone over 35, but at the end of the day wear what makes you happy you only have one life to live....
i dont mean to bring up old stuff but......this all Monique was trying to say 😂
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I love my Amazon maxi dresses. I get tuns of compliments and hits ons with my $35. You just have to know how to look amazing on a budget. Lol but I am super appreciative for your message! People perception attract what you want
Girl, I love those Amazon maxi dresses! Just ordered one earlier this afternoon. lol
I feel if a woman where outfits with breast showing, flesh showing everything showing, you will attract what you portray. I do not feel you have to where designer clothes to look like you have alot. I've worn clothes that people thought were designer and it wasn't. It's how you put it together. I personally wouldn't date any man with their pants hanging and mouth full of gold.
I'm sad that most comments here are defensive. Most miss THE point. I'm older, 70, like classic clothes and basically ignored the message he is sharing.
UNTIL, when at 55 a real estate board exec who had hired me for a 5 DAY seminar quietly told me my attire was NOT high caliber enough for my attendees.
My students were Realtors and attorneys. I was recognized as THE industry's leading foreclosure expert at the time. My fee of $2,500 per day, plus expenses was reflective of the fact that I was THE EXPERT. I was travelling as a national, well paid, well regarded speaker. I wasn't dressing the part.
I appreciated her candor. I didn't appreciate THESE people evaluating my KNOWLEDGE based on THEIR standard of what an expert looks like. After considering it prayerfully I decided to upgrade my clothes. I had already upgraded my shoes because you can't stand all day and speak I. 60.00 shoes, (my old standard) like you can in 150-200 shoes. (my new standard)
I came from a poor, southern A American background. God made me smart and elevated me but I didn't have life experiences, mentors ( or Tony Gaston) to tell me I was a diamond, in a paper bag.
I did learn, I did adapt, jewelry, hair everything. And went on to do well until God gave me a new assignment.
Listen to Tony and apply WISDOM, to suit your situation, your goal, your Intent. I had a message to be delivered so I needed to be dressed as a messanger who would be received.
Pray. Adjust as needed.
In Christian love, Ms. Millie
My husband never has to worry about me spending money on labels. I shop on clearance & out of season. Idk why I'm cheap I don't have kids. I can afford it. Lol. But a $3 dress with some cute shoes & accessories I guarantee you'll look twice. 😜🥰 I put money where it's needed my house & wheels lol
@@kaleema1987 same! I go straight there! 😂
Man I can’t watch ONE video with out cracking up!!!! 🤣
😂 Me either! When he said you look like Auntie Ursula I was hollering!
I swear you feel like my LEGIT BIG BROTHER!!! Lol!!! You always have me cracking up….. this is 100% truth
U don’t have to be materialistic but are you REALISTIC?!!
The Best Fashion Advice of All Time!!!
I definitely understand what you mean. We are to representatives of Christ and should be neat. Personally I don’t wear jewelry, pants, or makeup but I dress simple and modesty. I’ve noticed that women can easily make dress a form of idolatry and focus more on outward appearance than the refinement of the inward character.
I've thought about wearing more dresses. They're actually pretty simple to accessorize.
I am the same way. I am plain jane until we step out to go somewhere nice
That is true. We should. But that goes both ways too.
@@PeaceBeStill- Yes! And you don’t have to worry about pairing them with any bottoms. I love dresses for that reason. They are feminine and pretty and there are so many varieties. I have a closet full of dresses for the summer and spring.
Yeah I believe we should be neat and cleanly but not necessary trendy or fashionable since that is highly determined by entertainment industry, social media and celebrities. It’s ever changing however the principles in God’s word stay ever true.
I was in the process this weekend of throwing out 80% of my clothes.... I am looking for what my style is...so the journey begins 😊
Balance and style is the key. Fancy brands are not necessary.
Lord have mercy! i used to dress like a granny when I was a teenager and in my early 20s. That's what I grew up around, but I have improved my style. Man, I'm embarrassed I dressed like that. Elevation is good. 👏🏽
Don’t be embarrassed. You live and you learn.
@@tennesseeminnissi2445 Thank you. ☺️
Me too, it’s ok. I’ve learned now that I can still dress conservative and classy but be fashionable. In a way dressing like a “granny” taught me to respect my body and now I can do so while not being “old fashioned “.
Sadly, it usually doesn't matter what I wear. My figure is too difficult to hide. I got the ghetto chest and the ghetto booty.
That's what is noticed first. And that comes with it's own stigma and assumptions, all by itself. It sucks, but that's just the way it is for myself.
@@ohheynoella I hear you. I've never experienced your end, but I believe you when you say it sucks. I've read some RUclips comments....
I have the big chest but little booty. Thats why I typically wear dresses in the summer and jeans with blazers during colder months. I get complements most times.
@@timetravel151 I know the guys who yell at me think it's a compliment, but I just don't want to hear someone yelling out their car window at me, "hey girl, you got a fat ass, you wanna smoke with me?"
No sir. No, I do not.
@@socialdistancingon8333 I’m sure that can be challenging because I’m not super happy about everyone looking at my chest. BUT, I just remind myself that there will be a day when no one will say anything. So, I just let them be themselves without getting too disrespectful and enjoy the “attention” for what its worth at the time.
@@timetravel151 I'm glad you're doing what's working for yourself. Keep at it. I tend to have a...different approach.
I gave the guy the finger. I just couldn't be bothered to give him enough energy to turn around to look at him and talk back to him. And the peeling of his tires to get away from me as fast as possible gave me the most immense satisfaction.
It seems so simple but it took me forever to learn this. Thanks T.G. Good presentation really matters.
I love when you make reference to RN’s 😂😂😂
Me too
Wow. You are so right. I didnt think it was that important...but it is.
I agree with the nice dressing until Tony added cost of clothes into the discussion.
Those are nice shorts Brother! You are right; balance is key. After doing 10 years! 🤣🤣🤣
GOD BLESS YOU. I am to be married to my handsome fiance this weekend Tony. This video was for him, I've never commented but YES! I work in the retail fashion industry and he is jerseys and baggy 90s jeans
I see so many tweens and teens taking pictures and posting to social media with cleavage, midriff and skin-tight clothes and next thing you know that same person is posting baby shower pictures or “my new Sugar lump” pictures. 🤔
I love the concept of this video and the strong message it carries. I am a black woman in my early twenties and a college student. I’m a little over 5’5 and have quite a slim build - I’ve always been this way. I have what you’d describe a rectangle shaped body. Therefore, I have the ‘straight up and down’ type with a flat chest and bottom. I’ve struggled since my teen years with my body confidence. I’m African and the bodies that are accepted more are curvier ones. Unfortunately do not fit that group. I am a Christian too and I believe that of course I am wonderfully made by God. But it’s truly crushing when I feel I can never look amazing in clothing. I sometimes try to wear clothes and styles that suit my body type but even so those styles sometimes aren’t really ‘my style’. It’s hard to feel good in a body I dislike. I am healthy which I am very grateful for. I rarely show my skin or other body parts such a breasts. If anything my upper chest or arms may be on show. I love fashion and have a good sense of style. It just sucks when other girls can wear the simplest of clothes, I.e skinny jeans and a nice top and look 10/10. I know that most guys in particular do not find my body shape attractive and it’s such a hard pill to swallow. I accept the way I’ve been made and don’t dress provocatively or showing too much, but when other girls get attention and fawned over so much, it’s hard to be on the other side. How do I come to terms with this and not let it get to me so much?
At the end of the day, we have to learn to accept and love ourselves. You have your own unique identity and purpose. God did not make us using a cookie cutter. Who will receive you, let them be attracted to you for being your authentic self. Point blank. Other than that, you'll spend your life chasing an identity that's not yours. I have learned to embrace and be me: my style, my uniqueness, etc. I value a nice presentation for sure and I get the message, but will not allow pop culture to dictate my worth. So be encouraged and embrace the you God created you to be.
Cheer up Queen! Go to Pinterest or Google to style images of the following slim Black/Latina Celebrities - Zendaya, Aaliyah, Zoe Saldana, Jada Pinkett. I am slim too with mini curves but I embrace it. We have miniature model body 😊 because we are short and slim. Quick style tips- high waisted gap jeans with a solid color cropped t shirt or a-lined dresses or Adidas black track joggers with zipper near ankle with white tee & jean jacket. Small women have to accentuated their best features i.e. if you have great legs were shorts or skirts that stop just above your knee ( not too short). Don't worry Sis you will love your body once you're older or have children ❤️
@@sunkist338 Wow thank you so much for your comment and encouragement! I will try to embrace myself more and accept the way God has made me.
@@profmj7630 Wow thank you so much for your comment also! Embracing can be a journey but I hope I make it all the way. And thanks for the style advice too, I’ll take it on board!👍🏾
Men showing they shape lol
Tony hit on all the designer labels!! Shari Gaskins👏👏👏👏
We are announcing our standards with our dress code when we are presenting ourselves to others, especially when it comes to the opposite sex. Naomi instructed Ruth to wash, anoint herself and put a cloak around her and to lay at Boaz feet. Esther along with the hundreds of other young virgins had to go through a beauty ritual/spa treatment (cleansing & purification process) for an entire year and they were give the best jewerly and clothing to chose from to put on before each one presented herself befor the king. It's not just about looking good, personal hygiene is very important as well. Men are turned off by offensive odors, and women who dont practice self-care.
I feel that any clothing that is clean and put together nicely can be attractive on a person. It doesn't have to be high end to attract someone of a higher standard. But you should always dress with class regardless to what the cost of the merchandise.
Well I'm my mid 40's n my 17 yr old niece says" I drip"! So I Kno I'm doing alright! I've always liked fashion n clothes! N I love men who can dress n smell good 2! That's a win, win n my book!
I completely understand and agree...I like to dress cute conservative, and I don't mind spicing it up for my man..however, what I have noticed is that if I see he gives low effort then I give low effort too... he has to come in with his masculine energy, looking and being a leader and that makes me feel so much more feminine and inspired to please him with something sexy, from my hair, nails, smell, dress everything...we feed each other.
Your so funny Tony! 🤣 keep us in check ✅👑
Man Tony I can barely keep up with you man! 3 videos in a day?!! 🥵 Thank you for blessing us 🥰… And I feel very blessed to not know designer brands. I couldnt tell Gucci from Target. Not my thing. Them designer brands aint charging me 5X more for cotton, spandex, rayon, elastic nor any other material. 😌
I found it very difficult in my 40s to find looks that aren't making me look too old or too young, especially for summer time. Pintrest is a good search tool for looks that are age appropriate, body flattering and classy. I am very short with a nice shape so i have to be very careful with dresses and shorts in the summer. Its a struggle to find the happy medium when its 99 degrees outside. Thanks for the video.
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Tony saying a lot of people out here soulful! 😂😂😂
Just because you don't see me wearing it or driving it, doesn't mean I can't afford it, I just have more important priorities. It may not be name brand clothing, shoes, purses etc., but I can look still look nice. Before I pay $200 or more for clothing, purses, shoes, I can put that money towards the principal balance on my home. I've just purchased my second home. I wouldn't be able to do that if I was spending on expensive clothing, purses, etc. Clothes depreciate in value, houses increase in value.
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I’m definitely one of those not materialistic type chicks 🤷🏽♀️ I don’t have to spend all my money on no clothes for somebody to take me serious long as I look good , I’m good !! Sounds like wearing all that money might “ just might”attract gold diggers or the wrong type of man for me !! I know how to look good in target or citi trend attire i hate when ppl think clothes and material things make them .. I see it as them not being so secure with who they are out here trying to dress the part to be accepted .. kinda shows ur insecurities in my opinion 😑 because my clothes don’t make me .. but I get what you’re sayin as well
What about that relationship with Christ? Sometimes people dont have money for names. You can dress beautifully without Name brand. Style is everything and dress classy not nasty as a lady. Keep your meat covered
It's true. I tried to have a talk with one of my cousins about this. She's about to go off to college and did not think it's fair that people judge you off of how you look. But it's a common thing. We all do it, even if we don't mean to be rude about it. How we present ourselves say a lot.
Well that common thing will get a lot of people thrown in hell being materialistic, judgmental, and worldly. He say it’s not being materialistic but actually it is in the common eye for most people. It’s not about what you wear. It’s how you wear it. People just need to find what works for their body and know when to dress appropriately. Such as, pool parties etc. that’s when it’s appropriate to show a Lil skin. Social media as if today is pushing name brands. Especially influenced by celebrities. So people will try to keep up to some degree. If you don’t wear name brand and be flashy, then that makes you average. I say dress for the occasion. Most people today gotta have high ranked name brand clothes just to fit in. It’s sad. God talks about this very topic that will ruin the masses eternity. Because they too worried about impressing people just to say they got it like that.
@@faithlagofmustardseed1785 No one is talking about impressing people. A lot of people do struggle with taking this topic too far. But what you wear is a part of your self expression, so it does say something important about you that most people may overlook. Our clothes are part of that representation of us. It also goes back to that line between realistic and materialistic. What you put out, you attract. Some people want someone who dresses nicely and puts more care into their look but won't do it themselves. Or say they want someone to love them for them, but if they don't look the part they don't stand a chance. Is it fair? No, but representing yourself well does make it easier to gravitate towards the right friends, opportunities and maybe even a husband or wife that you may want. Im not saying to go overboard. But it's a fine line for sure. This is why its hard to get into heaven. That line is a straight and narrow path in the midst of many avenues. So how you take that walk is up to you.
I had this conversation with a close relative & she was very resistant. We often go grocery shopping together & she is very critical about me dressing up while she looks bummy (tights, Nike slides, with a messy bun on her head). I realized as I progress in life we will likely become distant since we don’t share the same views, values, or goals.
@@beac8238 Sometimes it happens that way smh. It's hard for people to practice what they preach. Maybe one day you could change her mind and be an example to help her see how she's not seeing the whole picture. At the same time, if you gotta love and pray for her from a distance, I can totally relate to that happening too. I hope it works out for the best for both our family. I love to see success all around.
@@keed2537 thank you! Same to you. I will continue to do that & adjust the boundaries as necessary.
I love it when he makes reference to RN'S
I always wear my clothes a couple of sizes larger than my natural size. Think of a model run way, you want your clothes to appear as if they’re swaying in the wind even if their is no wind blowing. I always get stopped by gentlemen complimenting me on my galant stride when walking through a mall!
Hi Tony, can you do a video on waiting until marriage & how to go about dating someone who’s not abstaining (like men trying us, etc...).... I think you mentioned a while back but can’t find it
I second that
He has a good amount of abstinence videos already. Just type in "abstinence Tony Gaskins". 🙏🏾
@@PeaceBeStill- thank ya will do!
@@kaleema1987 thank you
Ok thanks y’all 🙏🏾
You’re so funny! I love it when you go into character!! Stating all facts!
The stitching on the back has me rolling and I don’t know why!!🤣😂😂😂 I’ll shop anywhere for clothes though❤️
They won’t say anything but they won’t elevate you either
I have to find balance. He stepped on my toes with the brown floral dresses.😂. I guess they make me appear older to people.
You have to let the Holy Spirit curate your look. It will change depending on the assignment, where you are spiritually and also the physical state. Unfortunately, measurements apply to logic(your physical SIZE play a role in what you should or should not wear).
Foundationally, it changes as your mind is transformed and you are aligned more succinctly with God’s plans. But ultimately, adaptability is essentially a strategy that the LORD will use accordingly.
Cosmetic consciousness is a powerful thing when uses righteously and peculiar to you.
Tony you are out of control. But I love it. Because you're so real.
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Fly flannel shirt. Casual fridays🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂
Not random, much needed topic! Thanks for calling out our target apparel 😂 got me laughing and going shopping after work lol
I'm 25 years old and I observed recently, that when I was going to my workplace ( I'm a PhD student doing research in the field of virology), mostly men in their late 30s were approaching to me. My best friend, who is 30 and also a PhD student (in the field of neurology) had totally other experience. If I was being approached by men who were already post-docs or sometime had their own research-group, she was being approached by other PhD students who were a couple of years younger than her. I complained about it to my stepmom... A couple of months later I was visited by my father and her and they stayed for a while. I took them once in my workplace and had a coffee with them and my best friend. When we went back home my step-mom explained to me that she knows why I attract older man and why my best friend attracts much younger men. I go to work with a blazer, light coloured shirt and jeans or pencil trousers. My best friend on the other side wears colourful dresses, shorts, colourful T-shirts.... I was giving the impression that I am much older than I am, that's why I was attracting much older men, because they were assuming that I was at least in my early 30s... So I did some changes (less make-up) and dress formally only when I have to present my results in a group... otherwise, a simple T-shirt and jeans...
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Hahahahaha making me laugh when Im listening very serious! Unless u go out with Shaq O’Neal and his friends 😂
No flirting. Tony you have lost weight. Looking good. I see you.😁
I’m so glad you covered this topic bc one of my friends tried to tell me I was being ridiculous bc I didn’t like how a man dressed. He dressed a little too dated for my liking. Like early 2000’s. I prefer a man that’s a little more current but not trendy if that makes sense. My friend insisted “that’s something I could change” but I’m just not into changing a person.
Listening
My boyfriend of over a year loves when I'm professionally dressed in glasses for work, the gym outfits, and when we go out latin dancing. I worried about a dress being too revealing he told me, who cares you look good in it and you're with me. That night nothing happened but had fun. I think it helped me show him I dress fashionably for ocassion and the place. He knew my serious look outfits and when I want to be attractive going out. I am also a mother of a 17yr old and a toddler. My teenage boy respects me when I dress to go out he understands not to judge women based on one outfit and one setting like a party.
How many times I cannot count, how ugly and evil spirited well dressed and well to do folk can be. Character and good spirit is everything and if you can dress well-put together, clean and neat...expensive or not...is priceless.
You are your own marketer. Market yourself well and you will attract good or bad! I’m a Christian WOG who dresses in 2 piece conservative suits with matching scarfs and still get hit on by players! No wonder they hit on me after hearing what you said Tony about conservative women! 😂 They assume way too much.
I am taking notes! Thanks Tony
I get tickled every time he says booty meat LOL
"Aunty Ursula" 😂😂😂
I support your position. Your message could be titled: dress for success BASED ON THE LEVEL YOU WISH TO BE. or Represent the DEPTH of WHAT YOU HAVE TO OFFER.
packaging is EVERYTHING. I dress not for people, actually, but to WELL REPRESENT WHAT God has placed IN me. I WANT be a good piece of EVIDENCE of what GOD has done. Can do, and still be is doing.
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I love doing the business casual look with a nice crossbody bag and a piece of jewelry like a mk watch or just my crucifix
#$?!!Right, I respect men who hold out on certain things in order to advance where it's important. Putting up a front is a BIG turn off!!
I really enjoyed this message it was presented Well!!! I will make necessary changes.
I am crying laughing 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I appreciate your videos on how to dress how do you want to be perceived I appreciate your videos on how to do on date 1 to 10, by not letting him come to your home . It really helped a lot I am not dating yet it's been a while my kids are grown ups and out of the house but I wasn't sure on how to go about dating my friends tell me to talk to the guy first come on to him even my grandkids 13 and 14 when I was exercise walking with them they felt that it was their place to tell me to start talking to someone and I said I'm not going to do that I am fine stay out of my love life but people keep feeling the need to volunteer information on me and tell me I should start talking to someone my married friends who are men told me I should come on to the guy first and I said to them that's not what I want to do someone else felt the need to tell me to smile at a guy in public touching with my hand in public to flirt with him to let him know I'm interested I actually started to consider this I said maybe this is something I should be listening to but now I listen to your video and it helped me much more and it felt much more comfortable for me to do I shared it with some friends so they can watch it as well I said to them he's pretty good isn't he and she replied he's good she is years old and I told her that I sent this video to your mom as well so keep doing what you're doing sir today's date is August 13th 2021 and by the way I did subscribe. PS I do have one question I know in the video you said when a guy asked you what you're looking for you said to say I will know it when I see it I heard someone else say that so I like that it feels right but someone else told me that they tried something different when they went on a date this guy asked her what she was looking for and she said to him I want someone that I can be there for that I can help and be a great help mate too and help lift him up she said she made it all about him and he said that answer was different than what he's used to hearing he's used to hearing women say I want a man that has a job a car and so and so she said he was surprised when I said I'm looking for a man that I can be there for. what do you think about this ?
thank you for this tony, i’ve been investing in essentials pieces for my everyday. ladies, quality > quantity.
Love this!!! 🎯
This is hilarious and true!
So true people love ❤️ to judge I dress accordingly to what I like…I remember my mom saying to me and my sisters growing up, when my sister wanted name brand clothing..” she would say you make the clothes, the clothes don’t make you…