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  • @jessicalefay
    @jessicalefay 9 месяцев назад +196

    The love is unconditional, the tolerance is not.

  • @mackib430
    @mackib430 Год назад +1083

    To walk away with love still in your heart is one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do... ❤

    • @MariaGutierrez-cr3sd
      @MariaGutierrez-cr3sd Год назад +44

      I can completely relate and understand I've had to do the same and yes you are absolutely right it is the hardest thing that one will ever have to do because your heart doesn't want to you just know that it's the best thing to do! I too have been there many a day wishing you the best ❣️Mark B

    • @mackib430
      @mackib430 Год назад +6

      @@MariaGutierrez-cr3sd ❤️

    • @gaynetteholsinger2549
      @gaynetteholsinger2549 Год назад +10

      speak that!!!! Exactly 😔😏💔

    • @GodsRoyalRose22
      @GodsRoyalRose22 Год назад +5

      Agreed

    • @yowonderlanddd3033
      @yowonderlanddd3033 Год назад +6

      same here

  • @laurenard9431
    @laurenard9431 9 месяцев назад +165

    Hard to love someone you don't feel safe with and respected by. Wish more men would watch this BEFORE they mess around and find out.

  • @tawneishablackmon6227
    @tawneishablackmon6227 8 месяцев назад +42

    Loving a person and being in love with a person is a big difference ❤

  • @michellefreeman9886
    @michellefreeman9886 Год назад +347

    When we start to feel unsafe with someone, especially expressing our feeling, it's all down hill from there.

  • @missyt03244
    @missyt03244 Год назад +1404

    Truer words were never spoken....'Feeling safe and Peace of mind' are so important to us! Thanks for this! 💛🙏🏽

    • @dutchess5519
      @dutchess5519 Год назад +6

      Amen tell him handsome intelligent brother we’re all the intelligent men with a heart ❤️❤ ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @sarahgimmartino1707
      @sarahgimmartino1707 Год назад +15

      This hits home I don't feel safe communicating with him he doesn't make it safe for me to share my feelings the invalidating me saying I'm negative all the time is draining

    • @ZaharaFatima1111
      @ZaharaFatima1111 Год назад +10

      Wow wow & wow
      You just read me totally

    • @tunahsmith3038
      @tunahsmith3038 Год назад +8

      You're so wise

    • @Elizabeth00488
      @Elizabeth00488 Год назад +7

      Amen!

  • @Zero-rf5vj
    @Zero-rf5vj 9 месяцев назад +41

    Love can’t exist without feeling safe

  • @angel794
    @angel794 10 месяцев назад +29

    Very well said. People need to make themselves accountable for the effects of their decisions on their partners, friends, family. Please keep making these thoughtful, intelligent videos. People need to hear your wisdom.

  • @sylviaobika2915
    @sylviaobika2915 Год назад +1100

    Remember: A woman's behaviour is always a reaction to whatever actions she is receiving.

  • @DianaDeLaRosa1808
    @DianaDeLaRosa1808 Год назад +657

    This is so true! When we let you in and pour out all our love, if you double cross us, we will pack our love and give it to someone whom will cherish or value it.

  • @rebeccabrown251
    @rebeccabrown251 9 месяцев назад +17

    Sir you brought tears to my eyes with this. I have never felt safe in my life because of males so if I come to you with the love that I have and you say that you love me too, I give you the opportunity to stand with me and yes to protect my heart and if you don't protect that heart, then your hurting me like the rest of them did your No different.

  • @dani_California_
    @dani_California_ 8 месяцев назад +15

    Thank you for putting feelings into words that some women have trouble expressing ❤ you're amazing ✨

    • @enuphsayd9746
      @enuphsayd9746 5 месяцев назад +1

      And he said it perfectly. He spoke to what we women go through.

  • @paulatortora-tan4593
    @paulatortora-tan4593 Год назад +103

    It’s a slow demise, by the time we leave we’ve given it everything we have . By the time we leave we’ve been done a long time.
    He’s spot on.

    • @monejohn9973
      @monejohn9973 Год назад +3

      It don't matter Most men just don't take us serious. I mean I straight up told my ex the issue and he didn't change it. They just think you're playing games or that you're dicmitized or stuck until you leave their a**😅

  • @eunicejulius7194
    @eunicejulius7194 Год назад +271

    You hit it straight not missing. She loved like that before she met you, you just got to experience the sincerity of her heart

  • @aliciawinston6507
    @aliciawinston6507 11 месяцев назад +8

    I never stop loving RH. I have to protect my heart. The safe and honest has left.❤🙏

  • @dcocorose
    @dcocorose 10 месяцев назад +8

    Fantastic! This gentleman is an earth Angel. Thank you💐

  • @Khangel
    @Khangel Год назад +283

    She never stopped loving you. She just stopped believing in you.

  • @careythomas2571
    @careythomas2571 Год назад +285

    This! Nailed it! And so eloquently too.

  • @Di-hz2dz
    @Di-hz2dz 9 месяцев назад +5

    Wow he took the words right out of my heart.

  • @julievanzile2482
    @julievanzile2482 8 месяцев назад +9

    Oh this is so true and so timely. Once I started to feel unsafe even though I loved him I had to go. And honestly it'll probably make his life easier

    • @enuphsayd9746
      @enuphsayd9746 5 месяцев назад

      I had to the same. I recognized that he was struggling in ALL levels in the relationship therefore I pulled it. I wish him well nonetheless.

  • @keesha1232
    @keesha1232 Год назад +359

    My goodness he understands a lot more than most!⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

  • @ScorpionMaiden75
    @ScorpionMaiden75 Год назад +290

    Cold hard facts!!! I've been there. Used, abused/mistreated. I loved till it almost killed me Had to walk away to keep my heart safe❤🔥🙏👑🙏🔥❤

    • @chloethemessenger
      @chloethemessenger Год назад +6

      This

    • @sugarzee8845
      @sugarzee8845 Год назад +11

      Me too..... my heart was in so much pain I developed Angina and got on medication. It felt like someone was literally squeezing my heart. People don't understand the damage they cause out here

    • @rosesanchez838
      @rosesanchez838 Год назад +4

      Girl. I feell you !!! Same thing here. We have to stay save and protect ourselves or we will be killed off.

    • @rosejen63
      @rosejen63 Год назад +5

      Word!!!!

    • @KennyBeeez
      @KennyBeeez Год назад +7

      He mistreated, neglected, lied, emotionally, sometimes physically and mentally abused me. He also used me because the woman he wanted didn’t want him back. I began to feel nothing everyday. How can you love someone that doesn’t love you back. It gets old.

  • @ceceliawilson6833
    @ceceliawilson6833 11 месяцев назад +3

    You speak with a lot of wisdom and truth. Don't stop! I ❤ listening. God bless you for what you are doing. 😊

  • @MMGV1992
    @MMGV1992 10 месяцев назад +1

    Its one of the saddest thoughts, knowing that point is around the corner.

  • @1MisterFase
    @1MisterFase Год назад +90

    Taking someone's genuine love for you for granted is the worst mistake you'll ever make

  • @yumiisvelmasghost6786
    @yumiisvelmasghost6786 Год назад +68

    This was actually beautiful. Kinda broke it down to "her love is endless and can be for everyone or anyone *worth it* " no one can take your ability to love and no one can stop you from loving

  • @angelaspringfield5584
    @angelaspringfield5584 Год назад +2

    💯 FACTUAL No truer words have ever been spoken.

  • @448944j
    @448944j 8 месяцев назад +2

    She’s always protected and always will be. AMEN

  • @gloriaohara3213
    @gloriaohara3213 Год назад +344

    The swearing at me..taking my paychecks..throwing things at me....I checked out and was terrified...it took me a long time but I left

  • @debramack7713
    @debramack7713 Год назад +14

    I like the way you explained the way a woman 's love works.

  • @WorldWideWebObserver
    @WorldWideWebObserver 10 месяцев назад +4

    Thanks for speaking truth!

  • @terrijohnson3401
    @terrijohnson3401 11 месяцев назад +1

    Exactly. Peace is priceless😅

  • @mikz33
    @mikz33 Год назад +59

    he came back after pushing me many times, but now, i still love him but already scared enough that i went completely silent and even afraid to get near him 🥺 you are so right ..

  • @maryharris6468
    @maryharris6468 Год назад +65

    I just stumbled across this on RUclips. This brought me to tears. It is my heart song, expressed far better than any words that I could come up with on my own.

    • @esthernyokabi8641
      @esthernyokabi8641 Год назад +8

      I wish I could show my husband this... its too late am in love with someone else but from a distance ...I feel better this way

  • @janjacksonauthor
    @janjacksonauthor 2 месяца назад

    Thank you Jane. Right on point and a real eye opener

  • @lourdes2599
    @lourdes2599 9 месяцев назад +1

    This truth hit brutal..definitely an eye opener

  • @andrea.campana
    @andrea.campana Год назад +16

    This is absolutely Spot-On.

  • @HollyWilliamsgaden
    @HollyWilliamsgaden Год назад +19

    SPOT ON!!! I tell my husband all the time how "SAFE" I feel, I am with him. And i make sure to thank him💕

  • @kathylware3699
    @kathylware3699 10 месяцев назад +1

    Thanks SO VERY MUCH FOR SHARING TRUE/'SPIRITUAL' INTENTS OF THE HEART!❣️😊

  • @nesacodd5092
    @nesacodd5092 9 месяцев назад +1

    You’re amazing and always on point. We appreciate you

  • @conniegreen615
    @conniegreen615 Год назад +31

    Omg. This couldn’t be said any better. Thank u. My heart is broken but praying this pain will pass.Thank u

    • @WorldWideWebObserver
      @WorldWideWebObserver 10 месяцев назад

      I hope your pain will pass quickly.

    • @carolinegeraghty3146
      @carolinegeraghty3146 10 месяцев назад

      It will pass when you stop looking back and start looking forward. Ditch the rose tinted glasses and build a future worth having.

  • @Iamlearningtolove
    @Iamlearningtolove Год назад +44

    Dayum!! Beautifully insightful, sir. God bless everyone going through this. 💖🙏💖

  • @lakshmicosmo9551
    @lakshmicosmo9551 11 месяцев назад

    Thank you Sweetheart. Put so eloquently. Going through that right now

  • @julieanndelvicar8451
    @julieanndelvicar8451 5 месяцев назад

    Amen. God bless you for clearly articulating what I have been feeling and trying to express.

  • @RedButterfly-tk6vo
    @RedButterfly-tk6vo Год назад +198

    Very very true. You didn’t create the love you experienced from me … it’s always been me. No regrets on letting you in ~ but now, I took it all back. ❤❤❤ Just all to myself … and yes! We can do that too 🥰

  • @mariaceaser2956
    @mariaceaser2956 Год назад +98

    You couldn't say it any better exactly how I feel after being in a toxic relationship, I finally broke free.

  • @abigail1783
    @abigail1783 9 месяцев назад +4

    Beautifully said ❤ And we should realize that the love we experience when we are in love is within us. thus we can always experience it whenever we want

  • @judygregg1852
    @judygregg1852 Год назад +1

    Thank you so much!!! You could NOT have said it any better!!! God bless you!!! ❤

  • @leonorpedroso9093
    @leonorpedroso9093 Год назад +172

    Damn!!! This clip hit it right on the nail! I love you for always putting into words what a lot of us women feel and have a hard time expressing. Please keep speaking the truth for both men and women. God bless you 🙏🏽💕

  • @calvinkeisler6702
    @calvinkeisler6702 Год назад +36

    I love hearing something that I been feeling but never had a way of putting it together without sounding disrespectful. Thank you so much for this message!
    God bless you and your family and everyone 🙂

  • @feliciahamilton7450
    @feliciahamilton7450 8 месяцев назад +1

    You said that just right 👍😅💁🏾‍♀️ I appreciate the truth 😊

  • @segullahheuristics
    @segullahheuristics 5 месяцев назад

    Amen. What a great teacher.

  • @TNT1719
    @TNT1719 Год назад +62

    Exactly!! "Once your decision took away her peace of mind"👈🏽 that part!!!

    • @chrysteller7462
      @chrysteller7462 Год назад +2

      Hearts are not just objects to juggle

    • @karen-ck2ph
      @karen-ck2ph 5 месяцев назад +1

      Okay 👌🎉🎉🎉

  • @TheSoulceress
    @TheSoulceress Год назад +144

    Wow, I love the way you’re able to put a woman’s heart into words ❤

  • @valbonagjoligaj
    @valbonagjoligaj 10 месяцев назад +1

    Love how true you are! Thanks for speaking my mind! 🎉

    • @karen-ck2ph
      @karen-ck2ph 5 месяцев назад

      Yes 💯💯 Yes,!

  • @FrancesMendez-oe3vv
    @FrancesMendez-oe3vv 5 месяцев назад +1

    I had the utmost respect he took advantage.😢😢😢😢 plz through this out there.😢😢😢

  • @lissetterivas1192
    @lissetterivas1192 Год назад +6

    Exactly. We hold on until holding on hurts. Then. Then we go numb.

  • @Joyce-hi6lj
    @Joyce-hi6lj Год назад +66

    Well spoken. Once the boundaries of peace and respect has been crossed, this changes the level of respect the other person once had as well!

  • @nishajagadis2880
    @nishajagadis2880 10 месяцев назад

    Thank you for this positive factual msg. brings us back to our centre. Thank u kindly love n light

  • @straightoutofstrat8722
    @straightoutofstrat8722 7 месяцев назад +1

    Amen Amen. Will never make any one take away my confident. Women, men know yourself from the beginning of any relationship. I come from a loving family so I will always be true to myself.

  • @sherylglade5235
    @sherylglade5235 Год назад +22

    Wow you just explained my relationship of 27yrs perfectly. I can't thank you enough to give me the words.🙏🏽❤️

  • @sharonodle-lestage1082
    @sharonodle-lestage1082 Год назад +115

    Yes! Feeling safe and protected is so important...

  • @randycalhoun1628
    @randycalhoun1628 11 месяцев назад

    Absolutely, can't go on much longer. Can't get her back...thanks doc.

  • @jessicalyles337
    @jessicalyles337 9 месяцев назад +1

    I love this! Speaking straight facts! 🎯💯

    • @karen-ck2ph
      @karen-ck2ph 5 месяцев назад

      Yes 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

  • @janicemurphy4373
    @janicemurphy4373 Год назад +3

    NO FINER WORDS COULD HAVE EVER BEEN SAID TO THE DEGREE AND THE PASSION THAT YOU HAVE EXPRESSED, COULD STIR THE EMOTIONS OF SO MANY, THANK YOU 🙏 ☺️!!!!!!!!!!

  • @sammcintyre6976
    @sammcintyre6976 9 месяцев назад +1

    Yes sir. 100%. Lost all respect for that person when respect was not given

  • @josephineoppong79
    @josephineoppong79 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you very much for all that you do. You always say the exact words that i cannot put together to express how I feel.

  • @fpitts8025
    @fpitts8025 Год назад +4

    This is the perfect explanation on a woman's behalf. It truly resonated with me! Thank you for validating so many of us women's position🙏🏽💕

  • @barbarakleinsorge5322
    @barbarakleinsorge5322 Год назад +6

    Exactly… love requires safety and respect. Walking away was the hardest decision, ever

  • @gloriacordell8697
    @gloriacordell8697 7 месяцев назад

    Spoken with the understanding of a wisdom and respect for a woman. Thank you!!!. 👏👍👍⭐️

    • @karen-ck2ph
      @karen-ck2ph 5 месяцев назад

      I agree 💯👍🏾🌾🙏🏾

  • @Verlisa-tc8si
    @Verlisa-tc8si 10 месяцев назад

    That Part ❤️ Now He Mad crazy 🙏🏾

  • @meekashantel5096
    @meekashantel5096 Год назад +27

    Yes this is how I feel that’s exactly what happened. He told me he took my love for granted.

  • @magzdue
    @magzdue Год назад +18

    You always say the right words at the right time. Thank you

  • @zz-t8109
    @zz-t8109 10 месяцев назад

    best text ever. hitting the core of the truth

  • @MissHeatherLeigh
    @MissHeatherLeigh 5 месяцев назад

    The raw truth in this.❤️

  • @jacklineachieng1400
    @jacklineachieng1400 Год назад +58

    That's to the point.
    It's never right to take love extended by a partner for granted.
    Regaining it back might never be the same again.
    Respect really counts.

  • @jamesfrankland38thangs58
    @jamesfrankland38thangs58 Год назад +6

    This maybe the smartest thing you ever said about a real women Brother👏🏿🎤

  • @florencebugembe9232
    @florencebugembe9232 6 месяцев назад

    I really love your thoughtful conversations

  • @helenlicadang
    @helenlicadang 10 месяцев назад

    You said it perfectly sir, thank you sir, God Bless you.

  • @jdfriedland
    @jdfriedland Год назад +3

    This is eloquently spoken. It hurt, but it's true.

  • @ashdee988
    @ashdee988 Год назад +45

    So on point🙌
    Thank you for saying this💟

  • @aniaj-ifashiontv87
    @aniaj-ifashiontv87 10 месяцев назад +1

    You explained it so well that’s exactly what it is thank you for sharing ❤🙏

  • @Bigblessings100
    @Bigblessings100 Год назад +1

    Big Facts! You better tell the truth!

  • @Dawn-cq1rw
    @Dawn-cq1rw Год назад +7

    My Brother you articulated this so beautifully. THANK YOU

  • @blessedapplez864
    @blessedapplez864 Год назад +139

    💥 Explosion. He couldn't have said it any better.

    • @rosesanchez838
      @rosesanchez838 Год назад +5

      I TOTALLY AGREE!!! He Aced it!!!!

    • @Shavier777
      @Shavier777 Год назад +2

      But is he talking about himself? From experience

    • @blessedapplez864
      @blessedapplez864 Год назад +1

      @@Shavier777 think on this..... who would give a better experience, someone reading a book to you about, say example 911.....or someone that was actually in it?

    • @pilarensi
      @pilarensi Год назад

      He really couldn’t

  • @rebeccabrown251
    @rebeccabrown251 9 месяцев назад

    Truth. If I can't feel safe in your presence then I won't stay there.

  • @marshonwhitley2024
    @marshonwhitley2024 10 месяцев назад +8

    Amen true words 💯

  • @librachildintuition4905
    @librachildintuition4905 Год назад +8

    You sharing these videos is truly needed nowadays. Thanks for just putting it all out there and being real about it!

  • @lowcandy8801
    @lowcandy8801 Год назад +26

    So true. He took me for granted. Always threatening me other women. I left him n now he is coming back. No way I m taking him back.

    • @user-eh2nt6iy4r
      @user-eh2nt6iy4r Год назад +2

      Forgive and give second chance. People make mistakes and learn. But also you make some differences in how you express your love, make sure you give enough healthy space that make him wonder about you to not think of others and honors you, be busy enough to not constantly bother by seeking attention,... you may surprise by the out come. Most men loves women makes them work like business. Because they think by their head not by their heart like us

    • @karenjudd5183
      @karenjudd5183 Год назад +2

      Stay strong woman.

    • @karenjudd5183
      @karenjudd5183 Год назад +1

      ​@@user-eh2nt6iy4r you turned my heart.

    • @KennyBeeez
      @KennyBeeez Год назад +2

      Don’t ever go back .. he has and never will change.

  • @valeriemarshall5443
    @valeriemarshall5443 10 месяцев назад

    Derrick, you hit the nail right on head...thanks for keeping it 💯 brother! This is definitely your ministry!

  • @anitamordue310
    @anitamordue310 5 месяцев назад

    Perfectly said. It's like you can read my heart.

  • @evygomez5668
    @evygomez5668 Год назад +39

    Amen!!!!!🎉🎉🎉🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
    Finally someone gets it. 🔥👑🔥

    • @gigiyoung5671
      @gigiyoung5671 Год назад

      Yes. I'm wondering how in the world did he find the answer to how a woman feels after being in a bad relationship.

  • @lyssahamilton7158
    @lyssahamilton7158 Год назад +17

    I JUST LOVE THE POSITIVE WORDS THAT U HAVE TO SAY EVERYTIME THOSE ARE FACTS MAY GOD CONTINUE TO BLESS U EACH DAY

  • @user-zv4pr1go9x
    @user-zv4pr1go9x 5 месяцев назад

    Once you make a woman feel less than you already lost her! Been there broke my heart so deep but I pulled myself together and found someone who lets me shine! 😊

  • @Nyc99
    @Nyc99 11 месяцев назад

    how do men get intelligent like this, true healer of hearts

  • @AngelLove-wm2ik
    @AngelLove-wm2ik Год назад +53

    Thank you for speaking for me. Your understanding is healing.

  • @emmelineg9508
    @emmelineg9508 Год назад +13

    These are the deepest words ever! Blew my mind in many ways because I had this AHA moment

  • @carlyet5909
    @carlyet5909 11 месяцев назад

    Decisions took her way her peace of mind, feeling safe. Thank yoy. Expressed correctly.

  • @HorizonHunter82
    @HorizonHunter82 9 месяцев назад +1

    They say that contempt is the death of a relationship but this is where contempt starts. Where you still think it's all about you and you don't understand that these are just the consequences of your own actions

  • @valpooh7532
    @valpooh7532 Год назад +8

    Facts!!!! Recently lost my peace at mind in my relationship and the love I felt for him hasn’t been the same since….😢