@Kira-ze1pn I appreciate your response to my post. However, I meant exactly what I wrote. As one is experiencing, and if their completely present during the experience, then they also have the opportunity to extract the LESSONS and move forward with knowledge. There is no need to reflect on what you already know. Make room for the beautiful things that life has to offer. Life is so much better than good, and so is God.😊
@@lbfaith I told him I can't keep filling your cup because mines always empty, and I'm ready for something serious with someone who's serious. He didn't fight back or try to work things out, that's when I knew it was done and no regrets. You got this ❤❤❤
I cried😢 when you were half way through and now I am in prayer....I know, it hurts but I must let go for my sanity. Pray for me this is not easy after 33yrs. Thank you Derrick🎉
When you know somethings not for you it’s painful when you make a decision to move forward, it’s painful neither decision to stay, or leave is easy. It’s all about choosing your pain.
Left him I loved him, but being in the long distance, I lost myself...living in his routine and I was stuck inside all day...his jealousy was giving me anxiety...woke up one morning and booked to come back home. Very painful and miss him but in the end I had to save myself.
Been there, hard to let go after so many years. Always diplomatic without hurting your feelings. There was no disrespect but more distant and change of behavior. Relationships require teamwork, flexibility, compassion and understanding.
Ouch! The truth hurts. He kept circling back to me making me feel something was there. Turns out he was using me as a place holder until someone better came along. Everytime he thought he had another female on the hook he ran to them and didn't look back. He had me so confused. I cut contact and moved to a new city!
I just made that decision after thinking about it for a long time and ended the relationship. And now I'm happier, more peaceful, and loving myself again. I made the right decision and left.
Grief is one of the most difficult emotions to feel. There were times I thought un-aliving would be better. But, feeling the emotion, sitting with it, and reminding yourself that it is a normal process will make you more resilient. And, you will make it through.
This is exactly what happened. I had to set a plan to walk away. It hurted but it's really the best thing I could have done to regain my mental and self-worth. Peace.
Lord have mercy you are absolutely a blessing, those whom doesn't have brother's here he is, with no strings attached thank you derrick you are saving many women integrity 🙏
Why are there so many screwed up men….? THERE are tons of them!!! I wondered and still do if the good men who would have been fathers volunteered and died in wars… It is rampant and we waste so much of our lives trying to figure men out and repair relationships where we did not cause the problems. These videos are honest and outstanding.
The reality is the pain reveals how honest and real a person is. Keep being that, but remember that your gifts, what you offer, is not supposed to be exclusive to one person. A gentlemen should be a gentlemen to everyone around him as a gentlewoman should be. The air should not be dark and thick whenever you are around the person you choose to go through life with.
God protects us. When he remove someone in our life, it's a protection. I'm glad I have finally moved on from my ex. My partner today, we have some issues but I think we still have some hope. I am giving him a chance to make things right🙏
.... sadly, "I".. I'm pretty confident I know what's best and needed, though.. I was just trying to be understanding with all he had going on, but sometimes it's not a matter of that..
Realized we were on two very different paths. Pretty sure he tried to see if the grass was greener. Ghosted me Christmas Day. I walked away , spoke my mind, proceeded to block him
Wow, all of that happened..I fell that you were a fly on the wall seeing this..The pain oh the pain..How long did they not care..Like they never cared..I gave it my best shot and I fell for him..I fell used but I gave myself willingly..Lord help me.
This really resonates with me. Thank you for shedding light on these signs-they’re exactly what I needed to hear. Your insights have clarified so much of what I’ve been struggling with and seeking answers to. Experiencing these signs firsthand has been painful, but I now see clearly that I fell for the wrong person. His actions reveal a deep lack of character and moral integrity. 😔 I’m grateful for your guidance, which has helped me move forward stronger, more self-aware, and healed. 💪🌟 Thank you for bringing this to light. 🙏
Im driving home from work listening to this all these things have been dine to me its time for me to get a game plan to leave i know he dont care about me he argue with me in front of company i know he does not want me.
I’m here now. Deciding whether to file these divorce papers after a year of separation of marriage facing our 20th year anniversary on February 28th. He has started a relationship during this separation time stating I abandoned him & how he has needs. Telling me he’s not happy just surviving & that he really wants to be with his family & wants me to move across states as he has a warrant here. It’s too much!
My heart and my kindness blinded me. But it’s also what got me used. 1:39 I’ve been through decisions many times. I think I’m finally finish after 12 yrs
Thank you for the cold hard truth, it is a very hard decision but it is making it much easier to make the decision watching these videos.❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉😊😊😊😊
When you leave, remember to look straight ahead and DO NOT, LOOK BACK.
@Kira-ze1pn I appreciate your response to my post. However, I meant exactly what I wrote. As one is experiencing, and if their completely present during the experience, then they also have the opportunity to extract the LESSONS and move forward with knowledge. There is no need to reflect on what you already know. Make room for the beautiful things that life has to offer. Life is so much better than good, and so is God.😊
Yes I have
I finally walked away. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. Because it was the first time I was putting myself first, love yourself first ❤️
Wow sis that's lowkey deep when u said " it was hard because it was the first time i was putting myself first" never saw it that was before
I'm dying inside because everything you saying is happening to me right now
Amen❤❤❤
How did that conversation go? I need a push.
@@lbfaith I told him I can't keep filling your cup because mines always empty, and I'm ready for something serious with someone who's serious. He didn't fight back or try to work things out, that's when I knew it was done and no regrets. You got this ❤❤❤
He left me...I would have never left...God is protecting me.
God's Protection
Devine protection
@@kimberlymoss7070 I'm thankful
So lucky ❤I have to walk away and it’s hurting
@@FeliciaStandsit will be okay.
Loving yourself means breaking your own heart and knowing when to withdraw from a relationship that is not prioritizing you.
He just doesn't answer any of the questions I ask like where have you been. He will not admit or deny my accusations. What do you do then?
I'm there now . Tough!
@micheled2235 exactly and it is breaking me down to my smallest element of being a woman
Yup I’m leaving and my hurt is broken he’s clueless 😢
@@claremondeofthedarkhorses6101 His refusal to answer, is your answer!
I cried😢 when you were half way through and now I am in prayer....I know, it hurts but I must let go for my sanity. Pray for me this is not easy after 33yrs. Thank you Derrick🎉
Lz
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🙏 Until U Pray The Pain Away
I know it's not easy but they don't care about us
Sending hugs 🫂
When you know somethings not for you it’s painful when you make a decision to move forward, it’s painful neither decision to stay, or leave is easy. It’s all about choosing your pain.
Well said! ❤❤
Yup pick your pain
When it comes time when you should make a decision,you already know it's time to go.
Left him I loved him, but being in the long distance, I lost myself...living in his routine and I was stuck inside all day...his jealousy was giving me anxiety...woke up one morning and booked to come back home. Very painful and miss him but in the end I had to save myself.
Been there, hard to let go after so many years. Always diplomatic without hurting your feelings. There was no disrespect but more distant and change of behavior.
Relationships require teamwork, flexibility, compassion and understanding.
I left and finslly got my place. Its a good feeling! They don't change.
Ouch! The truth hurts. He kept circling back to me making me feel something was there. Turns out he was using me as a place holder until someone better came along. Everytime he thought he had another female on the hook he ran to them and didn't look back. He had me so confused. I cut contact and moved to a new city!
It will never change these ppl are broken. And u will be broken the longer you stay
I, I stayed too long waiting on a hope that never came. He eventually left and now wants to come back but I don't miss him enough to go back
I walked away after holding on for years and the peace I'm experiencing in my life right now is so unreal
Sounds like the peace that passes all understanding😊
I just made that decision after thinking about it for a long time and ended the relationship. And now I'm happier, more peaceful, and loving myself again. I made the right decision and left.
For me it got to the point where I would cry my heart out and he would mock me. It was a horrible experience.
I had that happen with my ex husband he would MOCK AND LAUGH AT ME WHEN I WOULD CRY.
It’s a feeling that I wouldn’t want anyone to feel ❤❤❤❤
After 13 years of marriage and still love him. I will have to walk away so he can stop using hurting words towards me and checked out.
Hoping for a change will never happen 😢😢
Grief is one of the most difficult emotions to feel. There were times I thought un-aliving would be better. But, feeling the emotion, sitting with it, and reminding yourself that it is a normal process will make you more resilient. And, you will make it through.
I gotta go. I love but I love me more. Nope, I give up, nowadays you can actually get hurt physically if you get in the way.
I feel this😢 22 years and two kids but I struggling to hold onto myself and know he'll never change.
I've been there before,it took God to help me move on thank got I was one who got away, glory to God, amen 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Amen. Thank you. Been there for to long..woke up.and went to God.
that's the way to I did it too🙏🏽
Yeah, me too
Hallelujah. God's got our backs, AMEN!
That Part!
This is exactly what happened. I had to set a plan to walk away. It hurted but it's really the best thing I could have done to regain my mental and self-worth. Peace.
I know I have to leave, as hard as it is
Been there. Kept holding on to hope that he may change. Was hard to let go everytime. Yes it's been several. The healings were even harder. 💯
Do you think such men can change for good ?
@@jaishriiyer1563 If you're asking about my exes no. Same behavior, different women. But some can. ☺️
I have been there! Thank God for strength and guidance to allow me to walk away when I was being taken for granted.
Lord have mercy you are absolutely a blessing, those whom doesn't have brother's here he is, with no strings attached thank you derrick you are saving many women integrity 🙏
Listen carefully, ladies! 💯💯💯
There's lots of grief, and more relief.
Been here. Was hardest thing ever, to leave. I know god has something better for me.
Derrick
You're truly a God sent 🙏🏽
I ,I am at that point ,going through that right now
Why are there so many screwed up men….?
THERE are tons of them!!!
I wondered and still do if the good men who would have been fathers volunteered and died in wars…
It is rampant and we waste so much of our lives trying to figure men out and repair relationships where we did not cause the problems.
These videos are honest and outstanding.
Thank you. Hit every pain point. I turned this up loud so he coukd hear it too. No more denial. Im gone
Derrick this was a very timely message. Thank you
STILL A BIT THERE. I'm beginning to feel some relief in the process too
This just described my soon to be ex husband. I suspected I was just kept around for financial reasons and for someone to pay attention to him.
I let go because I deserve better. Thanks ❤
This message is for me! Thank you, Lord for bringing this video to me 🙏🏼
I never look back,I know my worth,
The reality is the pain reveals how honest and real a person is. Keep being that, but remember that your gifts, what you offer, is not supposed to be exclusive to one person. A gentlemen should be a gentlemen to everyone around him as a gentlewoman should be. The air should not be dark and thick whenever you are around the person you choose to go through life with.
The "final" validation that's probably already come and gone many times before.
I left him. He needs to grow up
I'm going through that now
same here 😔
“I “ yep. More than once. External reason gives me the boost I need.
I've just been there...realising I'm only hurting myself.
God protects us. When he remove someone in our life, it's a protection. I'm glad I have finally moved on from my ex. My partner today, we have some issues but I think we still have some hope. I am giving him a chance to make things right🙏
Leaving is the hardest thing to do
.... sadly, "I".. I'm pretty confident I know what's best and needed, though.. I was just trying to be understanding with all he had going on, but sometimes it's not a matter of that..
I'm crazy, Even CRAZY PEOPLE GO TO HEAVEN.
Realized we were on two very different paths. Pretty sure he tried to see if the grass was greener. Ghosted me Christmas Day. I walked away , spoke my mind, proceeded to block him
Thank you so much for confirming. I need to put effort on me.
Hardest thing I ever did was let him go and regain my power
Wow, all of that happened..I fell that you were a fly on the wall seeing this..The pain oh the pain..How long did they not care..Like they never cared..I gave it my best shot and I fell for him..I fell used but I gave myself willingly..Lord help me.
I Appreciate this Person, but what he doesn't understand about my Situation.."I'm locked up, Can't get me out"
Hurtful to hear these things, but I needed to hear this. Every word you said is so true...
This really resonates with me. Thank you for shedding light on these signs-they’re exactly what I needed to hear. Your insights have clarified so much of what I’ve been struggling with and seeking answers to. Experiencing these signs firsthand has been painful, but I now see clearly that I fell for the wrong person. His actions reveal a deep lack of character and moral integrity. 😔 I’m grateful for your guidance, which has helped me move forward stronger, more self-aware, and healed. 💪🌟 Thank you for bringing this to light. 🙏
Love this video you are so on point ❤
I walked away. It’s been so hard for me to heal. One day at a time I’m going forward
You are incredible. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. You are so clear. Its wonderful. So very helpful. Thank you.
I’m there and it is H A R D.
Harder than anything else.
Thank you for speaking about this.
❤ never as easy as “just leave”
This is a blessing but just need to heal. Before even thinking about something else.
Yea that’s kool sis that’s the right thing to do
I'm here as you speak 😢
Finally pulled enough strength to finally walk away.
Great message praying 🙏
I'm right where you are talking about. I have really listened , and HEARD everything. And i feel the strength now. Thank you!!
“ If you want to leave, then leave.”
If he told me this, it would be easy for me to walk out the door.
I've Been there and God it was the hardest thing to do and let go
This message is sooo powerful. Thank you brother. 😥
I 💁🏾♀️ and I am literally here now 😢
Im driving home from work listening to this all these things have been dine to me its time for me to get a game plan to leave i know he dont care about me he argue with me in front of company i know he does not want me.
I'm in a better place now. Left after 17 yrs
These boots are made for walking.
Thank you for this.
i experienced every single thing that you said!!
❤❤❤❤❤Thank you so much.... sending you love from Luanda Angola Africa
Amen you are telling the truth 💯
I am moving away and going back to college and move on
I wish I had you back in the day. You are an inspiration
Thank you for your wonderful videos 👍💯
I’m here now. Deciding whether to file these divorce papers after a year of separation of marriage facing our 20th year anniversary on February 28th. He has started a relationship during this separation time stating I abandoned him & how he has needs. Telling me he’s not happy just surviving & that he really wants to be with his family & wants me to move across states as he has a warrant here. It’s too much!
Bless you brother
Thanks Jaxon, I thank the Most High for your Obedience with this expose'🎉
Thank you so much for your TRUTHFULNESS of WISDOM. May God continue Blessing you AMEN 😊
This is so true. I've let go.
Great message
Yeah, there’s this time when I should’ve left a many times but I stayed
Ive been there before,GOD helped me after 9 times of being discarded ,i finally walked away.
Oh my gosh, I . Going through this now!
Thank you for being upset instead of me.
I am Healing now.
Yes i absolutely was looking for the last shred of hope to be extinguished so i can move on. Final shred. 😢
My heart and my kindness blinded me. But it’s also what got me used. 1:39 I’ve been through decisions many times. I think I’m finally finish after 12 yrs
Thank you for the cold hard truth, it is a very hard decision but it is making it much easier to make the decision watching these videos.❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉😊😊😊😊
Thank you so much
This is 💯 ladies!
Been there more than once. Slid further into self destruction
It's the hardest thing to walk, your heart says no but your brain says really girl, what's wrong with you.....i walked
I'm there right now and its painful 💔