Thank you for the words of wisdom a true blessing Totally resonates, unfortunately for me, but now I've learned a good understanding why thank Thank you best wishes love abundance n light🫠
I'm so with you on this!! It's so heartbreaking to of given fully of your self only to realize you have waisted your time and energy all along 😢. We are worth way more then this!!! Stand Strong and hold yourself worth value!!!
Please consider everything that could possibly be going on in his/her life. People have bills to pay, a full-time job and domestic responsibilities. Not everyone has the time to be dating these days.
He pulls away when I confront him about him lying to me or being deceitful. And he ghosts me to manipulate me and make me feel guilty for things he has done wrong.
You are so right. I've been in a relationship for 5+ years and he started pulling away. I said my peace and left him alone. It was hard, but to keep my sanity, I choose me.
o that is good, valerie. yep. i chose me too, a long time, again, never will be in a situation like that again. 6 to 8 years almost, back and forth him pull away,then try creepin back, done, for good and that was a long time ago. im much happier choosing me, love how i am older, wise now, out of 20s, when that was going on, never ever again. and if EVA still here, i agree, with you. g-night."
I'm no longer interested in a romantic relationship. With anyone. It just costs too much, and too many opportunities for deception. Would destroy my peaceful existence. Destroy my peace. No good will come of it.
Omg right!! I had to get out of a marriage, it almost destroyed me. Still figuring out how to move forward and be the best version of who I was before him
As I’ve come to learn, sometimes communication just doesn’t work and all you get is the cold shoulder. That is the clue to just leave and wrap things up. What else can you do if you’re trying and still get nothing. I don’t have time for anything one sided.
This is a STONE COLD fact! At some point, you'll have to walk away and get what you earn and deserve! Controlling yourself is the most valuable discipline a person can have! ❤❤❤
I was secure before him. He literally turned my mind upside down and my heart inside out. I’m working on finding my way back to myself but I know I won’t be the same again.
No you won't be the same, you will be BETTER. Now you have something to share with others that are going through or will go through what could have broke you. You should not let this define you🙏🏿♥️🙏🏾
You will become stronger & wiser which is better than you were... It is an opportunity for your growth, love... Self reflection & Self-worth... Boundaries..
I noticed his attitude towards me changed. I had approached the subject a couple times, he claimed everything was good between us, but his actions didn't show that- that was my cue to walk away.
I did the same thing in the past. I just walked away, because it drains too much energy. I explained this before walking away, and there was no response. Ridiculous
I can relate. I was doing just fine living and loving my life just to have someone come and disturb my peace and happiness. I’m more mad at myself for allowing said person to even get to me…he likes to take more than he gives and always has an excuse. Why bother me at all then. I was perfectly happy. Time to go back to my normal life before he ever even stepped foot in it.
Me too. I was happy on my own and hadn’t dated for 5 yrs then he pursued me relentlessly, sweet talk, love bomb, and it felt good. Had a fun for a year then pulls away and says he needs to be on his own. I’m heartbroken💔
Wow I am Soo glad came across this video. Especially the part you said " he love bombs you then it's like he pulls a rug out from under you and goes distant.
All I can say we each individually are responsible for our own growth, evolution, and transformation. We either do it together in a relationship, partnership, familyship, friendship, communityship or we do it alone. You gotta know when to throw in the towel of wasting your energy on the growth of other people who clearly cant/wont change and turn INWARD and focus on ourselves. Evolved people are better people. Wasting energy and time especially on the wrong people, places, and things will likely leave you battered, insecure, and drained. ❤
I ask him if everything is ok and he just says he's been busy. But every time we get close he pulls away. We've been friends for a long time and this 'pulling away' behavior has been ongoing for years! However, recently, it seemed like our friendship was getting deeper and going to another level. I think he started feeling something he couldn't handle and didn't know what to do with. So now when he texts, he gives me short questions and responses. Something has definitely changed.
I was single and secure for 3 years before I met him. The honeymoon phase was great then his divorce papers arrived and he changed. He stated he was depressed and had mental health issues. I thought my support patience and love would help him get through this. I was dead wrong. His disrespect was like a hamster wheel. He knew what was going on and felt guilty, so he walked away. I could not let him make me feel insecure any longer. Thank you for this video, it helped me so much✌️
He was one sided with everything from day one. I brought him up time and time again. Then turn around and want to threaten on leaving. Yet for some reason I kept bringing it up and telling him. Well I end up not being happy any more because he's not listening or just don't care. Finally I said what I had to say and walk away. Lord have mercy lesson learned.
I don't think I need to let someone know I'll be talking to other men if he keeps pulling away. I'll just do it and if it works out with someone else I'll be moved on with him. No need to announce it ahead of time.
If he pulls away, is it best to just let him be rather than reaching out? I want to stay in my feminine energy and have heard from other coaches let him pursue you.
You are 100% right. My husband has changed after 16 years of marriage. He doesn't satisfy my emotional needs. Whenever I bring up an issue, I'm told I'm too emotional and dismiss whatever was said. We hardly communicate and He's now interested in polygmy, 🤦🏾♀️. "It's not a sin, it's biblical." he says. Help!
This is what happened to me recently recently the only mistake I did I retaliated due to high emotions I had to yell at him which I wish I wouldn't have done.
I agree with you 2000%. The worst thing you could do is jump the gun start criticizing. Or putting out there what you’re not going to put up with like yeah that would be really bad.
I am with you on this topic. I have been secure and after a while not understood what happened after talking with someone. I do like to engage in things that keep my mind occupied. I will start giving myself all kinds of jobs.
Your a blessing. I pray you continue to be blessed for sharing your gift of knowledge and wisdom to the world and people like myself. I appreciate your post🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thank you, Sir. Very helpful. ... and yes, exited a 6 year narcissistic relationship a year ago. Took 2 years to end. I am now 99.9% healed. So happy this video popped up on my feed.
Развлечения
“NEVER give anyone more of what they are already wasting.” BOOM! Mic drop.
Amen!
Amen
DAYUM!!!!!
Thank you for the words of wisdom a true blessing Totally resonates, unfortunately for me, but now I've learned a good understanding why thank Thank you best wishes love abundance n light🫠
I'm so with you on this!! It's so heartbreaking to of given fully of your self only to realize you have waisted your time and energy all along 😢. We are worth way more then this!!! Stand Strong and hold yourself worth value!!!
Some of them are playing games and want you to chase them! ☝️
We too old to do that. That high school behavior. Not attractive.
Facts!
Please consider everything that could possibly be going on in his/her life. People have bills to pay, a full-time job and domestic responsibilities. Not everyone has the time to be dating these days.
YES!!!!!
I'm not asking nothing. He pull away, I'm pulling myself the hell away too.
Exactly 💯💯 that's the answer 👏👏✅
Yeah girl !! 👏👏👏
Amen!
Exactly
He pulls away when I confront him about him lying to me or being deceitful. And he ghosts me to manipulate me and make me feel guilty for things he has done wrong.
You need to walk.
Let him. Stay ghost not allowing him to. Come back like a ghost: hey Boo? 😮
Same here
You are so right. I've been in a relationship for 5+ years and he started pulling away. I said my peace and left him alone. It was hard, but to keep my sanity, I choose me.
5 years too long....CONGRATS GURL....
o that is good, valerie. yep. i chose me too, a long time, again, never will be in a situation like that again. 6 to 8 years almost, back and forth him pull away,then try creepin back, done, for good and that was a long time ago. im much happier choosing me, love how i am older, wise now, out of 20s, when that was going on, never ever again. and if EVA still here, i agree, with you. g-night."
Amen sister ❤
Same!!
Your views are way up there. Thank you!❤
I'm no longer interested in a romantic relationship. With anyone. It just costs too much, and too many opportunities for deception.
Would destroy my peaceful existence. Destroy my peace.
No good will come of it.
So true
Same
Totally agree 🤦♀️
Went in confident and strong, left insecure!!!
Omg right!! I had to get out of a marriage, it almost destroyed me. Still figuring out how to move forward and be the best version of who I was before him
Me too!
Me too smh
Same
Same, but all the red flags were there and I ignored them. Red flags are red flags for a reason. 🏃🏼♀️
He pulled away after what I thought was a heart felt conversation in which I bought up a concern. It was like a different person jumped in his body.
💯💯💯@SurvivingLifeOTF
@SurvivingLifeOTFyes this is so true💯 I wish us women realized these are the men to leave asap.
As I’ve come to learn, sometimes communication just doesn’t work and all you get is the cold shoulder. That is the clue to just leave and wrap things up. What else can you do if you’re trying and still get nothing. I don’t have time for anything one sided.
Yup and as Adrienne Everheart says, ‘his problems are not your problems’ we can’t lose ourselves
Exactly
Agreed
Agreed
Agreed 👍💯
This is a STONE COLD fact! At some point, you'll have to walk away and get what you earn and deserve! Controlling yourself is the most valuable discipline a person can have! ❤❤❤
True
So true.
Amen!
More than once. When they are insecure and you go in just fine and they try to break you down.
Spot on.
Well he told me he's done. Then he tried to contact me. I'm a business woman and I know my worth. Lesson learned ❤
Men always come back even when They pull away
Same but he blocked me everywhere. I'm doing better off with my business.
He will show you how he feels
His lack of communication is hurtful. I’ve known him for 4 yrs as a friend and now my heart is just crushed
I can relate to u, same thing I experience
Me too
It hurts alot
Just went through that
So sorry for you.
I was secure before him. He literally turned my mind upside down and my heart inside out. I’m working on finding my way back to myself but I know I won’t be the same again.
No you won't be the same, you will be BETTER. Now you have something to share with others that are going through or will go through what could have broke you. You should not let this define you🙏🏿♥️🙏🏾
You will become stronger & wiser which is better than you were...
It is an opportunity for your growth, love...
Self reflection & Self-worth...
Boundaries..
I noticed his attitude towards me changed. I had approached the subject a couple times, he claimed everything was good between us, but his actions didn't show that- that was my cue to walk away.
I did the same thing in the past. I just walked away, because it drains too much energy. I explained this before walking away, and there was no response. Ridiculous
Same
Same
I can relate. I was doing just fine living and loving my life just to have someone come and disturb my peace and happiness. I’m more mad at myself for allowing said person to even get to me…he likes to take more than he gives and always has an excuse. Why bother me at all then. I was perfectly happy. Time to go back to my normal life before he ever even stepped foot in it.
Litterally me. I was living in bliss and now hurt & confused.
Not so easy….. I went no contact and I swear on my life he will never get at me again, but I’m heartbroken!
Me too. I was happy on my own and hadn’t dated for 5 yrs then he pursued me relentlessly, sweet talk, love bomb, and it felt good. Had a fun for a year then pulls away and says he needs to be on his own. I’m heartbroken💔
"Honor your own needs!" 💯💯💯
I won't take what I can get, I will require what I deserve ❤ TY
💛💯🙌🏽
A relationship without conversations the only answer you get is silence year in and year out....shocking
Had to walk away, to much hot &cold
Me too
Me three
I call myself BRAVE for walking, I got standards
I learned that choice of words makes a difference when communicating.
I WAS DOING FINE WHEN I MET YOU AND I'LL BE DOING JUST AS GOOD LONG AFTER YOU'RE GONE💯
True to that
I can absolutely relate to coming into a relationship strong and leaving with all kinds of extras going on! Definitely a sign to leave!! 💯💯
AMEN!!!
Wow I am Soo glad came across this video. Especially the part you said " he love bombs you then it's like he pulls a rug out from under you and goes distant.
1. Capacity
2. Desires
3. Time: spreading to thin
thank you!!
All I can say we each individually are responsible for our own growth, evolution, and transformation. We either do it together in a relationship, partnership, familyship, friendship, communityship or we do it alone. You gotta know when to throw in the towel of wasting your energy on the growth of other people who clearly cant/wont change and turn INWARD and focus on ourselves. Evolved people are better people. Wasting energy and time especially on the wrong people, places, and things will likely leave you battered, insecure, and drained. ❤
Great summary🎉
Yeap
That's how I feel right now after three years .. battered, exhausted, insecure and Confused... Cause I prayed so much. It didn't work...
Very true!
Here 🙋🏼♀️ secure at beginning, insecure anxious at the end. Now back to secure, however it took 1-2 years of healing from a situationship.
I ask him if everything is ok and he just says he's been busy. But every time we get close he pulls away. We've been friends for a long time and this 'pulling away' behavior has been ongoing for years! However, recently, it seemed like our friendship was getting deeper and going to another level. I think he started feeling something he couldn't handle and didn't know what to do with. So now when he texts, he gives me short questions and responses. Something has definitely changed.
Definitely picked up some insecurities Along the way. I don’t recognize mySELF!
I do recognise my former self, the teenage one…he brought it back and I can’t get rid of it. All the good therapy work done shred into pieces.
That's how I felt when I left my childrens' father. Now its this dating scene that got me ...SMH.
Totally went in with serious confidence….left 5 years later trying to “ prove” he could be loved.
Omg I lost myself. Very narcissistic behavior s
I was single and secure for 3 years before I met him. The honeymoon phase was great then his divorce papers arrived and he changed. He stated he was depressed and had mental health issues. I thought my support patience and love would help him get through this. I was dead wrong. His disrespect was like a hamster wheel. He knew what was going on and felt guilty, so he walked away. I could not let him make me feel insecure any longer. Thank you for this video, it helped me so much✌️
Was he married with you?
He was one sided with everything from day one. I brought him up time and time again. Then turn around and want to threaten on leaving. Yet for some reason I kept bringing it up and telling him. Well I end up not being happy any more because he's not listening or just don't care. Finally I said what I had to say and walk away. Lord have mercy lesson learned.
I don't think I need to let someone know I'll be talking to other men if he keeps pulling away. I'll just do it and if it works out with someone else I'll be moved on with him. No need to announce it ahead of time.
Thank you for speaking out honestly about real human nature and relationships.
Thank you for being our "internet bro" and providing this valuable info.
If he pulls away, is it best to just let him be rather than reaching out? I want to stay in my feminine energy and have heard from other coaches let him pursue you.
Good question
Derek, you are truly my big brother. I appreciate everything that you said. And I definitely needed to hear this.
I’m tired of men bs.
Exactly
They need more therapy than us! My female friends are not nearly as Hot & Cold as most of these men are.
Yes I can relate !! Made that mistake and chased after him....one of my biggest regret in life !!
I think almost all women and teens have done that with a bum or two.
I got PTSD from my last long term relationship. 😑😐😔
I can relate
This resonates with me. 👋🏾Trying to heal now.
Yup. I worked HARD with therapy, the gym, etc to be healthy. Now thanks to this man’s insecurities I’m stressed out
You are 100% right. My husband has changed after 16 years of marriage. He doesn't satisfy my emotional needs. Whenever I bring up an issue, I'm told I'm too emotional and dismiss whatever was said. We hardly communicate and He's now interested in polygmy, 🤦🏾♀️. "It's not a sin, it's biblical." he says. Help!
You deserve better than small D energy.
He’s changing, same thing happened to my ex and we’re both young. I blame his dad.. his dad is narcissistic, praying for you 🙏🏾
Divorce
Get out!! Save yourself from further pain and prioritize your feelings
Omg I feel so sorry for you 🥺
Oh wow this really has gave me the information I need to remind myself of my worth and my whet my values and needs stand for..
thank you ❤
This is what happened to me recently recently the only mistake I did I retaliated due to high emotions I had to yell at him which I wish I wouldn't have done.
I’m so glad I stumbled upon this video. Came at a good time, thanks you’re amazing!
This was good Derrick.
Now this was super spot on!!!!!!! 💯 I’m clicking the link!!!
This is so brilliant
I love this mentorship
Thank you for everything you've said it is so true
I was ready to hear this. Thank you.
Derrick we thank you for such insight!
You have been truly missed!
I agree with you 2000%. The worst thing you could do is jump the gun start criticizing. Or putting out there what you’re not going to put up with like yeah that would be really bad.
Great message praying 🙏 ❤
Sooo good, needed to hear this…thankyou.
I needed to hear this today😊
Oh my word... This is SOOO GOOD & TRUE!!!
I just pulled back as he couldn’t be completely opened to me and avoid
Thank you so much 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽. This was so helpful. I’ll check out your masterclass!
So much value here... Thank you my "internet brotha"!!!!
Awesome video. Hadn't seen your videos in a while. This is great. Thank you 😊 ❤
Phenomenal msg and delivery thank you DJ! ❤
Derek, you’re the best thing that ever I came across thank you so much for looking out for women such myself God bless you.
I thank you for the clarity.
Always appreciate your wisdom 🤍
Thank you Derrick ❤️
I appreciate your wise communication telling the honest truth know your worth 😍
I needed this video!!! Thanks big brother!!!
You are so right I been going through this situation
Thank You. I love it that your Straightforward and Direct😊
Keep your shine ladies ❤
Exactly what I needed to hear
Came in warm and fine. Then ghosting and such - yep- naturally left me insecure.
This helped me so much thank you
I really needed to hear this.
I am with you on this topic. I have been secure and after a while not understood what happened after talking with someone. I do like to engage in things that keep my mind occupied. I will start giving myself all kinds of jobs.
I, Thank You for this conversation .
Honor your own needs and let your actions speak
So true. There is no need to retaliate. You waste too much energy. Focus on you.
Fulfilling message thank you so much ❤
I like the use of the word evolved!
Elevating, Progressing,...
Your a blessing. I pray you continue to be blessed for sharing your gift of knowledge and wisdom to the world and people like myself. I appreciate your post🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
My God this is so good!!
Thank you, Sir. Very helpful. ... and yes, exited a 6 year narcissistic relationship a year ago. Took 2 years to end. I am now 99.9% healed. So happy this video popped up on my feed.
Thanks for your input on this subject...❤
I appreciate you so much today! Binging your videos. Much needed!
Once again, you are 100% right
Relationships now and days has become a big joke and quite draining, one is better off single🤸
I love your vibe!
Thank you for this talk!
Thanks alot for sharing needed this
Thank you sooo much for this, this is my sign n answer that I needed to hear.👍👍
wow this is the best video I've seen on this topic, very insightful
Thank you so much! I really needed to hear this today. ❤
Brother! I really enjoy your videos!!❤ thank you!
Your so right what i tell friends know your worth walk away
So appreciate your counsel!