OP: the pregnancy has “caused her to gain a bit of weight” …WHERE DID HE THINK SHE WOULD KEEP THE BABY!? Her f*cking mind? and push it out like a concept?! this man is vile i’m praying that confession was fake.
He didn’t even blame the weight gain on the pregnancy. He literally was just upset she gained weight?? Like duh?? You don’t see the correlation?? Idk he’s a walking red flag imo
I know, attributing moodiness to being less active vs hormones in this scenario (or like, I'm sure this isn't the first time he's been inconsiderate or commented on her body changes during pregnancy) is so dense and shallow and selfish. Did he think the stork would drop off the baby?
@@ellec7188It makes me wonder what he will have to say on her body shape if she gets to a full nine months pregnant belly. He sounds like those men on Reddit and Twitter who don't know how women's bodies work AT ALL. Like where does he think the baby will form if not in her belly??? Of course it will expand her size,she likely won't look like Victoria Secret supermodel(there are exceptions of women not showing while pregnant but she is not one). It personally horrifies me that he speaks like that because she might never get back to her original body type,i learned recently that women's skeletons changed after pregnancy(horrifying for me to learn) and their immunity, metabolism just isn't the same as before. He will be like a podcast bros saying "if she doesn't lose the baby weight two weeks after giving birth,i have the right to cheat/leave".
I'm currently 37ish weeks (about 8 months and 3/4) pregnant and I had to laugh at it out of disbelief. Like my belly is huge and I get winded getting out of bed, the poor woman was taken on a however many mile hike and expected to keep up?!? He said SHE LET HERSELF GO? SHES BUILDING A HUMAN BEING WITH HER BODY 24/7 OF COURSE SHE CANT DO A HIKE AT THE PREVIOUS PACE SHE WAS ABLE TO. I'm surprised women don't commit more mu®de® when having to deal with situations like that
Op's pregnant wife isn't "holding a grudge," she's mourning the loss of the man she thought she married and was having a baby with. She's realizing how misguided she was to think he'd be a good father or husband. She's absolutely core shocked. What a simple man.
From now on every bad thing he does is gonna reinforce the idea that he's not the right guy and their marriage is gonna fail years later when she's finally had enough. If that is even a real story, the OP was a little to much of an unaware asshole
I sure hope she's thinking of divorce cause I doubt that man will help her with their future kid...he sounds like he doesn't care about her at all and only thinks about himself...
He also seems like the type that will seek his wife out for every diaper change. "babe, he pooped can you change him?" completely forgetting that he's also a parent
@@TarynRMartinDoesn't mean she should continue like usually, pregnancy is exhausting and stressful. Sure they can do exercises but very limiting ones. It's not like it's advised for you to run a mile on a treadmill or do intense cardio.
The way I first knew something was going on with my body when I was pregnant was that I was too tired to lift my sewing shears when I was trying to make a dress. Too tired to cut something.
On the story about the chicken tender, as an autistic person myself I complitely see the logic behind saving the best part about the meal as last to leave off on a good note. At least that's what I do. If I had been in Jenny's shoes, I would have been upset, and I'm an adult in my 20's. "Must be an autistic thing" is WILD to say. She's coming off super condescenting and I hate it.
I've noticed a thing where in reddit stories if someone they know is autstic, they will bring that up no matter what. It doesn't matter how normal the behavior is, they always mention they're autstic. And I'm sorry, but as an autstic person... you don't always have to say that someone is autstic 😭 saving a bite for last is not an autstic thing, I'm autstic aswell and I don't do that, and plenty of non autstic folks do. It's just a thing. It comes off really ableist if I'm not being too dramatic. Like when the kid seems upset she acts like it's just cause she's autstic and no 'normal' kid would act that way. Like, no? Everyone would be mad if you stole food from them without asking. Just because someone is autstic doesn't mean you have to right off their feelings or call them dramatic when reacting to a completely normal thing with a completely normal reaction. You stole a chicken finger from a six year old, ofcourse she's upset. Her autism has nothing to do with that.
I was gonna say as an autistic person who is now in my 20s as well this is something I’ve done my whole life and something I’ve noticed in some other autistic people as well. For me it’s about having the best taste/texture for last because then it’s the one that stays in my mouth for the longest if that makes sense. I would get very upset if someone took something off my plate without asking because it ruins the entire experience for me. I think the point about change/routines makes sense as well. Saying it’s an “autistic thing” like that feels like it’s meant in a derogatory way, which sucks. Plus while i believe my autism has an influence on how i eat, that’s not the case for every autistic person. We all have different experiences. And even if she weren’t autistic it’s still an asshole thing to do to take something from someone without asking. Period. Full stop. End of discussion.
I don’t think I’m autistic, but I’ve been curating my perfect last bite and putting it off to the side for years now. I saw someone else do it, asked about it, and their explanation made so much sense to me. No more bad last bites for me.
I have always done the same thing with my food, I have to have the 'best bite' last and honestly if someone did that to me a child I would have started crying immediately. I grew up with my autistic brother and am awaiting diagnosis myself and I understand why she says it must be an autistic trait but I don't think SHE understands and I agree with you that it really just comes off bad. I feel like she is trying to brush of her actions as not that bad because its and autistic trait and therefore inherently abnormal and implicitly bad, although that me be the over analytic psych major in me talking.
The way my spiteful autistic self would proceed to demask and throw EVERYTHING I have at him. “You wanna see a meltdown? I’ll fucking show you a melt down.”
NGL made it seem like the OP thinks that "autistic girls" are "girls you don't have to put in as much effort with because they're grateful for the bare minimum" - some cis people do the same thing to trans partners particularly trans women where they have this attitude of "well noone else would want you so you should be grateful for me not even doing the bare minimum" it's a gross attitude to have towards someone you're supposed to love
The pregnant woman should leave her idiot, insensitive partner. I’m currently 7 months and I can’t imagine going on a 3 MILE HIKE. Your uterus expands into your ribs and it causes shortness of breath. You’re not supposed to get overheated or raise your heart rate too much. The baby’s heart rate will raise too 😢 She should’ve been taking breaks as soon as she got out of breath. I really hope that story was fake cause if not she’s going to have an awful time giving birth and raising his children.
😭😭😭 That story made me so upset and angry and sad. I was praying it was parody the whole time because I was like, there’s no way someone is this awful to their pregnant wife 😭
it's so weird how OP mentions autism several times. What OP did was wrong even if Jenny wasn't autistic?? It just seems like she wants to blame Jenny's and Jenny's mom's reaction on them being autistic...
Right?? I'm not autistic and if somebody took my food without asking and gave it to somebody else, I would instantly feel like they're trying to make me feel two inches small and it would be ugly. That's such an unnecessary thing to do and it's so rude that it's ridiculous, autism or no. It actually feels just as irrelevant to the story as if she was a different height or her favorite color was blue or any other thing that could possibly differentiate the child from the rest of the group. The "okayness" of stealing from somebody doesn't depend on their neurodivergence, what a weird weird weird thing for op to imply
Exactly. Like, it would not have killed her to wait five minutes to ask. That's what you do, you ask people and don't just assume they don't want to eat their food anymore.
Honestly! As someone who grew up with a mom that would do similar shit, but in her case it would be randomly taking food off of my plate without asking, OP in that story pisses me off. Shit like that may seem small to some people, but I can tell you with certainty that when you have a parent like that, those "little things" aren't little. Worst thing about it is that even if you mention it to other people, more often than not they'll just think that you're overreacting. Which yeah, if it's one time that they do this then maybe you are. But people who do stuff like that... It's never a one time thing.
im autistic and I just hated that. The way in which OP said it was definitely to invalidate the girl's feelings. As an autistic person, I suspect that Jenny's reaction was due to the unexpected change as well as the parent disrupting her system of eating. Autistic people such as myself rely on predictability and routine so even if it seems like a small issue to the OP. For an autistic person, small things can be big, our brains rely on knowing what to expect. Also based on what OP described, she may have a system to eating (people on the spectrum can like systems b/c of the familiarity). Of course these are all just what I suspect and can't speak to Jenny's experience of autism because I don't know her and everyone experiences the traits differently!
Pregnancy loosens your muscles and joints (makes you weaker) and makes getting enough oxygen / breathing more difficult, even just sitting around can make you light headed (this is all due to hormones). Just for people that are curious.
To add on, once you reach a certain point in pregnancy, the baby/uterus are quite literally pushing up into your lungs (or pushing other organs into your lungs) which definitely make it harder to breath. Even if someone didn't know all of the effects hormones have on the body, how does someone look at a six month pregnant person and go "Yep, they've let themselves go!" Where do they think the baby is forming? Hammer space??? Other organs have got to move for that uterus and fetus.
The man from the hiking story just doesn’t view women as humans. He just sees her as a s*x object and trophy. That’s why he can’t comprehend that his once so perfect girl is now not keeping up to his standards. Like an object that’s now faulty in some way.
The fact that he apologizes to his friends for his wife being embarrassing def means he sees her as a trophy and object. Life is gonna get even tougher for his wife in the future all because of this idiot.
Yeah I realized my ex viewed me that way. He liked showing me off but made sure to talk shit behind my back. When we broke up (after he cheated on me after 8 years) he cried about not wanting to be alone. Bro absolutely hated me yet wanted the status of having me around. And the emotional labor I guess. I’m so lucky we never got married. He literally could not handle me being better than him at anything but if I was bad at something then I embarrassed him. I was meant to be The Girlfriend- be nice to everyone, look nice, be friendly, never bum anyone out, never be cringe, never let them know you’re autistic, all that positive opinions towards him from others was so important. Maintaining the relationship, phew, now that would just piss him off. I was fucking homeless (due to an abuser doing shit) and he wouldn’t tell his parents to help me have a place to stay- UNTIL his friends shamed him. I couldn’t even shower at his house cause it would bring up questions, I used planet fitness. Fucking cringe behavior honestly. Men have an inhuman ability to stick around someone they hate if they think they can leech off of them. And they look down on us for even buying that they might like us.
Dude the hike guy sounds like the type of guy that expects his wife's body to go back to the exact way it was before and on the 6 week mark expect sex right away. He's sounds insane. I'm so glad that my husband treated me so well while I was pregnant and has continued to be amazing 14 years later. I hate people I swear.
This type of person shouldn't be allowed to reproduce. Whether he is driven by his stupidity or superficiality, he seems too ignorant to be a future father and be someone's spouse. Like he chose to die on this hill of "my wife gain weight because she got a pregnant belly. How do i make her lose the weight". Like he seems ahead of those podcast bros. He doesn't even want to wait for her to give birth to lose the weight,he thinks his wife should lose it while pregnant.🤣🤣Imagine that type of person taking care of a child. I can't.💀💀
My teacher back in like…kindergarten or something was trying to console a kid who was last in line by saying something along the lines of save the best for last and I think it permanently altered my brain chemistry
Even as a man myself who doesn't know much about women's bodies, even I have the basic understanding that "maybe pregnant women shouldn't hike" I think the guy in the story is just a moron
i feel like for some of them, they 100% know what they’re doing in situations like this, but they get off on asserting their “physical superiority” over women during a time where they’re physically at their most vulnerable. it’s a power play.
Men when their wife is pregnant: ‘I don’t know why she has gained weight, has been lazy, in a bad mood, and threw up.’ Men when a woman does any one of these things, even once: ‘oh… you must be pregnant.’
For the first one she did supposedly say she wanted a gift and to go to a nice restaurant, but the problem comes when he could have talked to her and maybe said "we don't have a lot of money right now, how about I make you your favorite meal instead?" or something like that. Im sure she would understand if you can't afford it. But he jumped to assuming the worst of her and acting like her asking that was some crazy request. He sounds so pretentious and annoying.
He sounds like someone who acts like his "lack of materialism" is an identity, and uses it to feel morally superior over everyone else. Also, it seems like he has low opinion of women in general ("she's not like all those women who want to be bought stuff all the time and need designer clothes" - pardon me, I'm a 40-year-old woman and I don't think I've met ONE woman in my life that would suit the description. Does his knowledge of women come from cheat reality TV?), and thinks it's a compliment to tell a girl that she's "not like other girls". Then when it turns out that, actually, she's exactly like other girls in some respects (and there's nothing wrong with it!), he interprets it in the worst way possible and guilts her over it.
Also, why does he assume her idea of a nice restaurant is an overpriced steakhouse crowded with people? Is his girlfriend 65 years old? A nice restaurant to me is just a place with a fun ambience and decent food - usually not American cuisine. Doesn’t have to be a $200 meal.
@siribaimusic yeah to me a nice restaurant is any place where they bring a check to your table at the end of the meal and 5hw5 can mean q whole bunch ot stuff. Like if I asked a partner to take me to a nice restaurant and they did a buffet and a stuffed animal I'd be happy
the whole pregnancy hike thing it's so absurd to me bc how men like to act like we are the weak sex and are very fragile but then go on a 180 and act as if we dont suffer pain at all and completely disregard our health particularities its craaaaazy
Couldn’t have said it better. Most of the men saying that stuff are also the ones acting like man babies and expecting their s/o to do everything for them and basically be their mothers
Maybe she could make him wear the same amount of weight she had **healthily** gained at that point (around 14 lbs MINIMUM) on his torso, give him something to induce a little nausea like an acidic or spicy food combo, make him put on a shoe size too small and tightly lace him into a corset. Then make him complete that hike on 2 hours of sleep.
im autistic and often save a piece of my favorite food for last. its not inherently an autism thing but for me it is related, because of my sensory issues. whatever i eat last, is the taste thats going to stay in my mouth until next time i eat or drink something, and i can get really easily overwhelmed if its not the "right" taste
Yeah! I'm also an autistic adult. But my non autistic mother also does this. I mean there's a reason if you eat dessert you eat it last. Because it's one of the best tastes!
The reason doctors recommend waiting two years after birth before getting pregnant again is because it takes that long to build up the bodys stores of vitamins and minerals again, so don't feel bad if you don't "bounce back" in just a few months, most people don't. And some medical issues never completely go away.
I hope the pregnant wife divorces her husband. I'll help pay for the divorce lawyer, heck I'll even help her raise the baby and we'll be two moms rocking parenthood, but my heart and stomach dropped reading HIS post... People naturally paint themselves in a more flattering light to avoid scrutiny and yet this story was from HIS perspective. I'm just absolutely flabbergasted.
hell yeah! you absolutely rock!! as someone who also struggles with addiction, i know how hard it can be to get sober and you're such an incredibly strong person to make it this far! i wish you all the best on your journey of recovery and i appreciate you sharing this, posts and comments like yours always give me hope that i can get sober as well❤
Spun around and tried to downplay what she said… I would say nearing on gaslighting because when she was confronted she only denied with “Idk what you’re talking about.”
The pregnancy story got me fuming! I was an elite athlete when I got pregnant with my first and from the word go my pregnancy was deemed high risk I was told I could go for short walks only! The amount of weight I gained really really sent me in a downward spiral my baby daddy at the time near the end of my pregnancy he told me “you’re not as pretty fat I hope once the baby is out you’ll change that” it was horrible! I lost myself during that pregnancy and I’m still trying to find myself years later. Edit: I left him a long time ago but I took me a while to realise how abusive he was.
It really is astonishing the lack of basic human decency and empathy I’ve seen from guys regarding pregnancy, I think it needs to be compulsory for men to wear pregnancy suits during the entire time their partners are pregnant and give them a good contraction simulator shock every day until baby arrives. I can’t imagine how confusing and stressful it must be to have so many changes to your body all at once and essentially get to know it all over again during and post pregnancy. One of my best friends finds solace in focusing on body neutrality and focusing on functionality. I’m glad you took your exs advice and lost that dead weight that was holding you down (aka him).
That pregnant wife hiking trip was vile. Me and my wife have both been pregnant, I was pregnant first and ended up with not being able to give birth due to complications in my 7th month but within the time I was pregnant. I have always been a very physical person and have always enjoyed sports and physical activities but I DEFINITELY could not do even the simplest of trials and especially at my 6th month!! My wife is also enjoys physical activities and also struggled to even stand up with out getting light headed (which is extremely normal) when she was pregnant. This man is clearly not educated and lacks empathy and he should be ashamed of himself. I hope his wife is doing better.
The hike thing is absolutely freaking insane. I was an active, healthy 21 year old who FOUND OUT I was 2 months pregnant because I was unable to go on my normal run without losing my breath. It was my first indication that something was “off” so I took a pregnancy test. Wild that some people still don’t understand this.
"even post-pregnancy, it takes a while to..." no. I never bounced back. I am the couch now. I'm kidding, obviously. It wasn't my pregnancy. It was the depression that got me in the end. I'll let you guys know if my husband is embarassed by how fat and sad I am. Gonna go ask rn.
Me too. Physical pain for me. Long car rides still aggravate my tailbone, broken during birth, literally years later. I’m back to my previous fitness level, but it’s been years and I don’t think I will ever sit without discomfort again.
I'm autistic and almost in my 30's, I've always saved the best food for last. If someone disappeared my long awaited last piece when I was a child, I'd not have been nearly as gracious as Jenny
Dude. I’m autistic and I’ve freaked the f out when I decide to eat something, and X or Y happens and I can’t eat it. 😭😭😭 For some reason, it affects my mood GREATLY lol
At her age I would of definitely had a meltdown and have never hung out with them again- probably would have developed some sort of resource guarding as well ngl 💀
I’m so weird about food, and i have to eat it in order of taste. for example if i were to eat mac and cheese, cantaloupe, and drink water, the order would go something like this: mac and cheese, cantaloupe, water, etc- so yeah, if that gets messed up i get pretty pissed (i’m picky as hell)
I have heard a lot of stories about like this with their husbands/boyfriends/partners treating their pregnant partner like this. I have heard it from people who wouldn't have expected something like that from their partners. I always get really scared of the idea of having a kid with someone because I get so frightened that a switch will flip and this will be how they see or treat me. It is one of my greatest fears and I feel like that's not something someone should ever have to worry about.
It's a real thing. My ex was the most wonderful partner. Before we had kids. He only let his true colours show after we had kids. They were his leverage to hold me hostage in the relationship. I wanted out for years before I finally got away. If you choose to have kids don't be dependent on the father, keep your options open.
You usually see some warningsigns.. talk about it with them. My ex (who I never had any kids with) felt it was a good idea to train the baby, in the womb, to widthstand any trouble and by that, he meant temperature and conditions. He wanted us to move to Syberia and move into the (supposedly) most depressing town ever. He painted it poetically, having us both stand in front of a windowless wall, staring outside into the snowy wind, seeing people in the distance falling down from the buildings into the snow. And then, us holding hands and whispering; *we* will make it!' over the faint 'AAAAaaAaAAHhhHRggHh!" in the distance from another jumper. He said if the kid in my stomach could overcome such cold, shortage of food, depression and lack of sun, he could deal with everything. I pointed out he'd likely be very weak, but he liked the idea of a...well..like a mini-Putin or something. Like a tiny, hardened and 'made-from-ice-and-snow-kinda person.' He'd mentioned his love for the dictator before, saying; 'I love how he just does what he wants and has everyone intimidated! He listens to nobody! He is a dictator, sure, but he gets what he wants. I want that too!' (funny detail, he cheated on me with a woman from Kiev that he used to date, I bet he didn't tell her what he thought of Putin.) Either way, his plan was to travel to Mexico-desert a few weeks before I was due, to see if the kid could deal with this as well. He figured I could just give birth in the car, in the back of a van and we'd be fine and the baby would have one of the coolest stories to tell his classmates later. He also wanted to take pictures of him during a route-69-trip in the car, while I (took care of him in the back of the van, changed diapers, slept, fed milk etc.) and he said he wanted to take pictures of meth-addicts with the baby, because 'those addicts will do anything for a dollar' and the baby would be 'so funny' on a picture, being held by an addict. I mean, if you know to recognise the signs, you'll likely recognise it before it is too late. Also, once this happens, tell the doctor about it and express your concerns. If the husband is not malicious, but moreso ignorant, maybe a doctor can give you strong advice and speak with the husband about the severity of damages and illnesses caused by 'pushing through this.' Some people have been raised with a 'quit your crying' attitude and you should not let them use it on you, they are not your parent! They cannot decide for you.
Finding out a person has invested their heart and short time on this earth into someone who isn't willing or capable of loving them back is one of my nightmares. There's never a way to get back what was lost, and there's no satisfactory answer as to why. It's an ugly tragedy that could happen to any of us - we just have to hope that we're good enough judges of character and that we keep our eyes open to the warning signs. There's no guarantee that the people we've chosen are good on the inside.
@@33melonpaws77 My grandma and me both made the same mistake. *We mistook 'loving' for 'wanting to care for/help' someone.* You cannot be the light in someones life, if they choose not to let the light in. You cannot be the thing that helps them get rid of addictions, without them going to _therapy._ Grandma got together with a traumatized man, who lost his brother in the war. She came from a humble family (did not have a job, had been told she wasn't bright) and he was a hard worker, she felt very lucky. He was bitter and would never love anyone again after his brother passed at a young age. He humiliated her day after day, despized her for giving him a daughter, when he wanted a son and treated the daughter (my mom) like she was non-existing and a faillure. After his second child, a son was born, he loved him, but hated my grandma and mom even more. The last child, a boy, was bullied too. He got violent, he would provoke, pour salt into my mother's food and make her eat it and sabotage any moment of joy. He was likely also autistic (like coïncidentally me, my sister and my dad are) and he was unable to phrase his feelings or let down a wall for grandma. My dad stood up for my mom, when he (again) poured the salt into her food. My dad said; 'Sir, you will not torment my girlfriend like that!' Grandpa send him out of the house, forever and told him to never return. Mom eventually left and moved in with dad, they got me and my sister. Whenever we visited grandma and grandpa (me and mom and little sister) we were made to say hello to grandpa and goodbye to grandpa. He would growl in response. Whenever he could, he would mess with the biscuits (eat them all) or the lemonade (take it out of the fridge) or he would visibly remove our photographs from the cabinet and shove the ones from his son to the front. After he got Alzheimers, he became friendlier, because he had no clue who we were. It was 40 years later when my dad díd return to the house he was send out of. My grandpa greeted him (perhaps vaguely reminded something) and asked if he could give him some advice on the plants. My dad, who did indeed studied Biology amongst other things, helped him out and they spoke about plants for a while and how to fix dry soil. Right before grandpa died, my grandma spoke to me about relationships, which she normally didn't. She said; 'I heard your boyfriend dumped you.' I said he did. She asked if he'd been nice to me, and said mom had told that he hadn't been nice. I said he hadn't been very nice (which was an understatement, because I'd been thrown against radiators in drunk violence and so on.) She whispered; 'It is a good thing that you didn't get married then. If you are stuck with them in marriage, that is awful. You should be with someone that loves you and is kind to you. Not with someone that could care less if you are there or is just bothered by you and unable to show love." She then left to go home and honestly, I think that's one of the very few moments we had an open conversation like that. She is usually quite reserved (having been told her whole life that her feelings don't matter and her mouth should be shut.) So, for short; 1. Don't confuse loving someone with wanting to care/help someone. In the movies, the love of a woman helps a broken man to climb up. That only can happen when he works hard and goes to therapy and quits his bad habits. She cannot take that away from him. Don't try to fix someone's world like that. Unwilling people stay miserable, with or without you. And they'll only drag you down with them. 2. If someone is in a lot of trouble (addiction, depression) they are very focussed on themselves and not you. And you'll be very focussed on them, not yourself. If they are not independend and they rely on you, that will eventually cause you to burn out. All the time will go to them and it will nót be enough and you'll be to blame. If they are independend, they get help, they get care, etc. then they might be good partners despite their addiction or depression. They are working on it, actively and not leaning on you. They do not depend on you, like a child, to help them and make them food. (can happen once, ofcourse, but not daily.) 3. If a person has not known love, you might feel inclined to give them that love. In movies, as said before, this is a wonderful moment, in which the enemy finally realizes that he is loved and everything will be okay. But if you are a doormat (which I was) and you don't set a boundary, then people that have been raised in a violent home (a.k.a. learned that belittling is normal) will cross boundaries in return to your softness. They'll tell you it is just a prank, it was only a joke and that yóu are overreacting on it. But in reality, they are pushing boundaries, further and further. Those people need therapy. People that think that it is normal to harm eachother, or to 'punish' someone with pain or humiliation (like they were punished in childhood) need to see that this was wrong. If they do not see this, you should not be with them. I hope this helped. Stay believing in love though. It's been 10 years since my relationship ended and about 5 of my therapy-years and for a long time I thought that love did not exist and was awful, but I found it back and I find myself dreaming about sweet men, that come home late from work and then bring me a 2-persons fries and a cheese-soufflé and tell me; 'Let's eat this and watch your favorite movie, lovely one and you can tell me about your day, sorry I'm late." They exist, I know they do. My mom found my dad and he's like that, I've seen the relationship from my caretaker and it's like that and I know we will all find it too, we'll just have to be careful.
As a hiker, it means "a 3mile total out and back type trail" depending on the person. The trail lengths are always measured in totals. 3mi is still a lot firca pregnant woman.
No, it means 3 mile total out-and-back type trail. Half lengths are never the measure. I am also a hiker. It's a total of 3 miles, (1.5 out and 1.5 back).
Having once taken a 14 mile walk completely on impulse on a surprisingly cool July day, years before I got sick with UC, it is completely unreasonable to expect someone who is *growing a smaller human* to be able to *hike* that far just because.
I wouldn’t be surprised if the OP is overcompensating for some insecurity she has by trying to pass herself off as so well read and educated. Clearly it’s done nothing in terms of teaching her how to socialize with other people.
I was JUST saying to my friend. Like it’s not that hard of a book. My only thought was maybe English isn’t OP’s and their friends first language so they’re talking about having a book transcribed in two languages. But if English IS their first language, OP needs to learn the difference between “too” and “to”. Doesn’t sound too smart to me 🤭
I haaaate the chicken tender lady. Giving that preamble at the start clearly trying to imply she does more for Jenny’s family than they do for her and is a more competent parent than Jenny’s mum to try and get people on her side. That screams to me that she knows she’s in the wrong.
"I include her child in activities with my children; her mom only includes one of mine at a time 😢" ma'am why are you seemingly mad Jenny's mom is setting boundaries FOR YOUR CHILDREN'S SAFETY??? Even if Jenny's mom wasn't autistic, taking care of 3-5 extra children is simply a lot. And you're each taking one child off the other's hands for a bit? Stop
For reallll. She doesn't want to be held accountable and wants internet strangers to agree so that she can reassure herself that she didn't just do a shitty thing to a 6 year old because she is entitled. She seems the most self aware out of the others in this post and she even tried to manipulate the Reddit audience by stating that Jenny is autistic because she knows the stigma that is still associated with autism. Very disgusting,you know what,at first i thought it was funny that she ended up on "am i the devil" but now i have to agree with her being placed there. She is working as hard as Satan to be right.
Fun fact: as soon as woman gets pregnant her body releases a hormone in the first trimester that causes her joints to loosen. That’s why pregnant women waddle even before they are heavily pregnant. It’s got literally nothing to do with fitness, in fact his wife is probably pretty fit because a multiple mile steep hike would have been a no-go for a normal woman who is six months pregnant.
And this changes your body for ever. I carried twins and even though I am very athletic slim and muscular now, I still have sciatica and it’s never been the same.
The Great Gatsby being OP's fav book is all I need to know. Especially them thinking the language is too complex for the average person, as if it isn't a commonly assigned reading as _introductory_ literature 😂
There are weighted fake pregnancy bellies. The OP with the wife who is six months pregnant needs to wear one of those "Empathy Belly" pregnancy simulators for a week. Then he needs to do the exact same hike wearing the fake weighted pregnancy belly. He needs to experience firsthand how awful and tiring pregnancy is.
A fake belly isn't going to take priority on nutrients, press into your diaphragm/ribs/lungs, or induce hormonal changes. And he doesn't sound super capable of empathy
Yeah I was just gonna say like the previous commenter. The pressure on my lungs was intense even before I got far along. Not to mention the pressure on your pelvis. I’m planning on trying for a third baby this summer and this is bringing back all the memories I don’t want. 😢
As someone who majored in English, I've met SO MANY people who pretty much read exclusively classic literature and think that they're better than everyone else for it, and the last post gave me flashbacks to all of those people. One of the most wild parts of that last post is, when it comes to the category of classic literature, I would argue that the language in The Great Gatsby is some of the easiest to understand and digest (because 20th century language is going to be a lot easier to digest than a lot of the older works in the classic literature category). The fact that OP said that she frequently tried to get Shelly into reading classics but also thought that the language might be too difficult for her is WILD
I'm not an English major but it's always been my strongest subject. I have no real differing opinion here. I just wanted to share that, while I enjoyed the book, it just felt so wordy, and I'd have to constantly stop, re-read and think about what I just read and imagine it playing out. But I also read and imagine stories in my mind. Idk if that's normal or not but I can relate if someone has difficulty with the book. The language itself isn't difficult, just how wordy it is and at times the metaphors which might be difficult for people with short attention spans. But I was also in Highschool when I read it so idk. I just wanted to share my two cents lol. Also, have you read The Song of Achilles? If so, what did you think about it? Ciao!🎉
@@UnOpEnEdLoVeNoTeSSong of Achilles is one of my favorites! I was just re-reading it today, I definitely recommend it to others. It has Greek mythology, queer romance, action, and drama. It made me cry a couple times throughout. I like the writing style because it's fairly easy to process, but still vivid, with varied vocabulary. It definitely made me want to read more books by Madeline Miller after I was done.
Jfc that pregnancy story made my blood boil. My husband and our two sons went on a hike when I was about 5/6 months pregnant with our daughter. It took a huge toll on me neither of us realized hike was as steep as it was. My husband saw I was not doing well. He made sure we stopped every few minutes on our way back to the car. He did not care if it took us 6 hours to make it back. He was concerned about mine and his daughters wellbeing. I could not imagine him giving me that kind of shit while carrying HIS spawn. That poor woman. I see a divorce in the near future.
Gosh the pregnancy hike story made my BLOOD BOILLLLL😭😭. Like how clueless is the dude??? Bro has NO COMMON SENSE AND A BIGGG EGO. The fact his friends were More considerate than him to his wife, tells U alot☝️. Gosh, I'm so mad rn.
I thought everyone saved their favorite part of the meal for last?? Lady has clearly never heard of that and will blame a child for being upset that her food was taken away? Ridiculous.
i'd be curious about why the kid doesn't want to take his ADHD meds. everyone reacts differently to different meds and the wrong fit can give you really uncomfortable side effects like anxiety and loss of appetite :(
I mean even then, it could be a matter of him being a young kid and simply hating the way that they’re given to him. I mean cold medicine is one of the main things I have to take pills for because otherwise I can’t handle the taste. Honestly it sounds like more communication with the kid might be needed
this is so true dude. adhd kid who tried adderall here- i couldnt stand it for more than a week before mom took me back to the doctor because it made me burst into tears like i was being beaten if you so much as looked at me.
I was diagnosed with ADHD as a kid and my parents had me try so many medications so I could function better. As a kid, if it's not properly explained in a way the kid can understand, they can easily become upset. I thought something was wrong with me for the longest time so I often spat out the pill. It had such a toll on my childhood but I'm doing great now.
@@volcanicoperative8228I remember I also tried Adderall as a kid because the doctor said it'd be a good idea to increase the dosage to see better performance. However it turned out to be the most INTENSE medication I've ever taken and I became violent at times. I cried to my parents I just couldn't control myself and I was taken off within a month.
Yeah.. I treat my ADHD meds like gold lol. I feel so much better on them, perhaps he should try a different med? I was lucky because my first ADHD med was Vyvanse and it has “worked” for me since, other then not lasting very long.. 😅
My wife does a similar thing with her food due to her OCD. Let's say she's eating a bag of chips, she'll analyze each chip and eat them from worst to best. She puts the ones she deems the best aside and leaves them for last. If I want some of her chips I'll ask before she starts eating/analyzing them because once she has started it really throws off her system. (Ive also eaten her saved best on accident before and I feel so bad😅 cause it can sometimes ruin the snack for her)
As a ND person, this comment makes me *so* happy🥹 it may seem like such a small thing, but small things often mean a lot and it warms my heart that you validate your wife’s system and do your best not to negatively impact it❤️
This comment made me happy, seriously it feels so refreshing to see a loving and caring partner unlike the assholes who were in the video. Keep being a good partner and validating your wife!!
I have issues too but aren't you exhausted having to walk on eggshells like this with your mentally deficient partner? I'm the one with mental diagnosis in my relationship and my bf seems to be getting tired of me and has a short fuse. I'm trying so hard to change but it doesn't happen fast at all.
I love how he essentially said "i hate that i have to live the way my wife have been living since we had kids because i don't get to act how i used to before i became a parent." He doesn't even see how unfair and tiring it was before he was in her position. She literally had to make him walk in her shoes. And he is supposed to be a parent.🤦🏽
I read a science essay once that compared pregnancy’s effects on the body to cancer. Obviously there’s a different and happier outcome with pregnancy, but the point of the piece was that something growing inside your body takes an enormous toll on you physically. It’s not just gaining a few pounds. I really hope the horrible hiking hubby learns that.
Okay, so as an autistic person, I'm adding my thoughts here. Every single autistic person I know (~20, so I have a relatively large sample size) has a meticulous method for eating their food. This often has to deal with analyzing textures and whatnot to maximize enjoyment and minimize discomfort. (Ie, you would eat the best thing last, because you want to preserve that taste after the fact, and if you were to eat something you had to eat but hated the texture of for whatever reason, you would eat that first to get it out of the way.) There are other reasons I will spare you. This is EXTREMELY common. I would be furious if someone ruined my routine of eating food. Even using common sense, just don't steal a kid's food without asking, especially because autistic people's body language can be quite different from neurotypical people's, you cannot use the ordinary indicators.
I know that feeling, happen to me in high school the year before I left I was basically taunted by vice principal cause I wasn’t doing anything cause I was going through bit like depression? Basically I didn’t wanna do school I just wanted to think about stuff either story’s or anything that interests me but he was ruining that while being condescending dick which built up until my focus was throwing his desk phone so he couldn’t call me parents and hitting him, luckily I was weak so I did no damage to him but got restrained doubly lucky it was not a ground restraint
I have ADHD (possible autism too) and do this! I have a method to how I eat and best is always for last, or mixing stuff for the perfect bite. It’s also just plain rude to take someone’s food regardless of neurodivergent stuff! Just ask if they’re done with it when they come back, and I totally get the baby germ thing I NEVER touch food a baby/toddler touched
While I happen to have a tolerance for people messing up my food rituals, I do have them. I tend to alternate between different parts of the meal, while making sure the last thing I eat is the tastiest!
What's really a bummer is that mom may have just ruined her kids' friendship with Jenny and doesn't even seem to realize. It may seem like a small thing to an adult but she just broke Jenny's trust. Kids remember stuff like this.
I don't know if McDonalds is difficult about things like that, but I have a feeling she could've just gone to the counter and asked; 'Hey sir, can you take this 2 dollar bill and make 2 nuggets for my girl Jenny there? She is autistic and I gave away hers on accident.' And I bet they would've...right?
Story one = her wanting more than the bare minimum from him, makes him "see her differently". What a crock. He's conditioning her not to expect anything from him. She needs to run. Valentine's Day doesn't have to cost alot money.
Exactly! My favorite Valentine's gift is a stuffed mouse(looks like a bear but she's a mouse) that was $10 at most, probably less since it was back in 2002. She's still my most cherished possession.
@holosniffer7569 who said anything about expensive restaurants? The GF literally said a restaurant. And depending on where you live a cheap one could be less than 40 dollars for two people. Besides, if I remember correctly she said they could go to a restaurant not that he had to pay for everything, they could split the bill
No one is talking about the LAST STORY!! The audacity and entitlement to even tell someone they should “regift” whatever they just got is WILD?? Buy it yourself if you like the hardcover so much. The book is not going to go anywhere, it’s not in a hurry to be read, and it’s okay if it stays unread for years because it can stay on a shelf until she has TIME. That seriously pissed me off. Not to mention that she thinks Shelby is stupid for being a mother like it reeeks of that.
Not only that, but to be acting like The Great Gatsby is some super complicated book that you need to be smart to understand as if it isn’t one of the most common high school reading assignments. Her argument already didn’t hold weight, but that made it even stupider to me
That's a joke I've made to my partner or close family members (because we inevitably end up sharing everything eventually) I'd never say it with any trace of seriousness, though!
In reference to the chicken tender story: honestly even if I *wasn’t* planning to eat the last chicken tender I would still be furious that someone took it upon themselves to make that decision for me while I was away from the table without asking me first. And then having the unmitigated *gall* to not only be upset when confronted about it, but to blame the child’s autism for her rightful frustration rather than, I dunno, taking some accountability for taking someone else’s food without permission?? I don’t blame the girl for not wanting it after a toddler had slobbered all over it, I wouldn’t want it either. That parent is the human embodiment of a musty sponge.
As a woman in my third trimester, the hike story makes me shake with rage. Just climbing upstairs or walking across a parking lot can take a toll on your body when you are pregnant.
"Am I the a-hole for deliberately stealing food from a literal child?" Gee, looks like the world may never know. >_> Also, I really, really hope that story about the guy taking his pregnant wife on a hike is fake and if not, that she runs away from him as fast as possible, because chances are that situation will only get worse.
I’d like to point out that, from a social etiquette perspective, even if we removed all mentions of autism from the story about the chicken tender- it’s still bizarre behavior to fuck around with someone’s food, especially when they aren’t present! DOUBLY SO when they aren’t even related to you! If I (an adult woman) was out with my friend and their family, and heard their family had messed with my food while I was in the restroom, I’d be weirded out and distrustful. That’s a very natural, primal response. Like Annamarie said, kids are people too and deserve respect- a kid is ALSO gonna feel weird when their food is fucked with- even in a minor way. Rant over!! Why can’t ppl be normal!!!!
Truth! This goes beyond autism, (edit: maybe I'm phrasing this weird, but I cant think how else to phrase it --- I'm autistic myself and have food routines but Idk if all autists do); this is a _mammal_ response. Social animals like us judge how trustworthy someone is based on their behavior around food.
Not Jenny's mom just had to apologize! That's literally it! "I'm so sorry, I didn't know you were saving it and I gave it to the baby. How about I get you another one?" Done. Jenny's going to react how she's going to react, but the adult in the situation would have given her the consideration she deserves as a person.
Yeah really just apologize, it was a simple mistake and should be easy to fix (and even if she didn’t want a new chicken tender it would still go a long way to try and show she cared about Jenny’s feelings)
the hiking trip guy just outed himself as being the dumbest POS ever like does he not understand anything about pregnancy..??? or sympathy for his wife??? i feel so bad for that poor mother
For men who want to wonder what feeling pregnant is like - imagine your bladder is 10times the size and pressing on your other organs constantly and you can’t pee to relieve the feeling. (And that’s not mentioning half of it).
I could not be more angry about the pregnant wife one. I am currently 3 months pregnant with my second. And I find that a lot of men just know nothing about pregnancy and the toll it takes. Your body prioritizes the baby in every case, it will take your energy, your nutrients, your blood, everything. I would not be able to hike this far along let alone 6 months. That poor woman, my god.
Right?! I only gained 17 pounds with my first pregnancy and even early on I had shortness of breath with many activities. Despite eating healthy, exercising throughout, and not gaining much weight I still got gestational diabetes in my last trimester and it was a struggle. I had to spread my carbs throughout the day or my blood sugar would spike, but if I didn’t eat enough it would drop and I’d get super sweaty and feel like I was going to faint at work
You are right, men know very little about pregnancy. I'm pregnant with my first and am astounded at how my husband knows nothing lol. But...even with him being clueless to what exactly is happening to me and to our baby he knows it is hard work for my body and is always saying that he appreciates me and is so thankful for me and what I'm going through to grow our baby. You can be clueless and not know the details but you can also have a brain and heart and know that pregnancy is hard despite not knowing the details.
i just wanted to point out AITD isnt like its own subreddit, its like a sub sub of AITA where users compile the most evil AITA posts where they are so blatently the asshole its infuriating how they dont see it, they also repost in case the story gets taken down ^^
@@ezrah6200I haven’t been on Reddit for a bit so I might be wrong, but I thought Am I the Angel was compiled of posts from AITA where the OP is clearly in the wrong but writes as if they’re very much in the right? I might be wrong but that’s what I though?
@@abigailgnome2117 thats what amithedevil is im pretty sure? i also havent been on reddit in a while but from what i saw of amitheangel it was typically the opposite where theyre in the right but write as if theyre in the wrong
As a long time lover of nature and especially trail hiking, that post is terrible. When your six months in it is great to get exercise, especially cardio to combat insomnia, but why would you do it to reduce fat? She’s pregnant. Cisgender women are biologically built to add extra fat during this time. Also, why hiking? When she might have dryer skin than normal especially around the stomach why expose that organ to mosquito and other bug bites? The water needed to hydrate may vary depending on temperature, so unless you’re carrying that around I can imagine she would probably be miserable.
When I was pregnant me and my husband went to hike the Guadalupe Mountains trail. I was a little less than three months at the time. I really wanted to go for my birthday that year, but by my birthday it would have been very hot and I would have been about six months pregnant. So we decide to go early. I was doing pretty good, but once we got a little more that half way up my husband started to complain that his knee hurt and it was too difficult for him to keep going. Obviously, I was pretty upset, but I still went back down with him. He said I could keep going but that seem to dangerous for me, because I was pregnant. I still had a good trip and hope I can go back someday with my son. Anyway, everyones body is different, and that guy is definitely an asshole. Early in my pregnancy I was so energized, but by the end I didn't want to get off the couch.
@@POTUSBrown Thank you for sharing that. I was merely sharing medical data mixed with anecdotal examples from family members, so it's nice to see an additional healthy relationship thrown into the mix.
Her body is working the HARDEST while pregnant. It’s like running a marathon on the body to grow a baby. Men really should take women’s health classes, specifically for pregnancy and post partum
@@ADR-xn6dgI think they should be forced to wear a pregnancy suit that matches the trimester of their pregnant partner and be shocked by those contraction simulators lol
I am six months pregnant and the hiking story triggered me so much. Ughhh the RAGE 😡 what an absolute dingus. He will be horrible during the labor process and post pregnancy stage. I feel so angry for his wife.
I love these stories because sometimes on aita it’s kinda boring because a lot of people aren’t the asshole and I personally read these stories because I love drama filled stories
My OB-GYN told me when I was pregnant the first time that I needed to be mindful of ligaments and tendons stretching and being looser in this condition. They said that I could quite easily sprain an ankle and be laid up for weeks if I wasn't careful and this a**hole from the second story is trying to take his 6 month pregnant wife on a 3 mile hike that he said was quite treacherous and steep in places. Edited to correct it was the third one, not second.
I feel like the only thing keeping Jenny from having a meltdown was the fact OP shifted the blame to her kid, because you can't expect a baby to know better, but an adult you feel safe with betraying your trust? That's a recipe for disaster. And its also important to note that holding in a meltdown like that can physically hurt: for me it manifests in headaches, and that usually means I'll hit my head to make the pressure go away. I really hope her mom was able to make it up to her and she was able to recover in a safe environment, public meltdowns are the worst :(
Book AH: I keep trying to get Shelly to read classical literature, but she says she's too busy and that annoys me. Shelly: (gets a copy of a classical book for her birthday and possibly shows interest in reading it) Book AH: She's too stupid to read that book, she should give it to me!
I physically RECOILED when he said "it must be an autistic thing." I'm autistic and felt disgusted by that comment. It's just a human thing??? Most people don't appreciate their food being taken without their permission. Buy the kid another happy meal, Jenny doesn't deserve to have her food stolen. I totally get why she'd be upset. Sometimes I want to cry when my family steals my food when I'm hungry (my brother has a huge appetite and eats everything in the house) and if I was a kid Jenny's age, I'd be even more upset. The way that OP words their post just screams condescending, like it's a stupid thing to get upset about and that's why it must be an autistic thing. I might be reading too far into that, but that's what it reads like from my personal experience.
I’m not autistic and definitely save the best bite for last, and I’ve also had it stolen before 😅 I’d be upset too. Ppl lack empathy, but being even less empathetic bc the person is autistic is making me so mad.
The pregnant woman needs to get out of that relationship IMMEDIATELY! This is pretty blatant narcissism ("you made ME look bad" with no concern or empathy for her condition at all is pretty telling), he will gaslight you and emotionally manipulate you into staying in this toxic relationship. That's what they do. Leave now!
no, @dovesraven is right. i fucking hate that asshole too, but please dont go around calling egoist, abhorrent behaviour "blatant narcissistic personality disorder" or any personality disorder for that matter. personality disorders are extremely complex and stigmatised and are as painful to live with as they are to witness. you can hate an internet stranger, and i mean shit you can want them dead, but with all due respect its pretty irresponsible to plant little comments in heads that being a terrible person and having npd are interchangeable. cluster b disorders in particular often come from abuse. that guy might be an animal but npd folks arent.
some people (particularly neurodivergent people or people will restless leg syndrome) really struggle to slow down their pace, especially to match others.
The Great Gatsby was written in America in the 20th century, and is very common required reading in high schools. The language is not going to be difficult for anyone lol
Me and my partner are the kind of couple who don’t always observe Valentine’s Day. We’ll usually get each other something small like chocolates or a little patch or pin, but we don’t worry a lot about having to “prove our love” with fancy dinners and expensive gifts (plus the fact that we’re both full-time students). Being able to acknowledge that is perfectly valid, but ONLY if both partners agree on it beforehand… and as long as one party isn’t so cynical and dismissive about it like the first OP.
I don't celebrate Valentine's day as a testament of my love for my partner. But we do go out for the festivities cause it's fun and still makes for a nice date night. It's like atheists celebrating Christmas. It's tradition, it's nice to give gifts to family and friends, the festivities are fun- not because they necessarily believe in Christianity. I've even heard of ppl of other faiths celebrating Christmas. To imply that it should be beneath his girlfriend is why he's definitely TAH
yeah my gf and I often don't buy each other christmas gifts because we spend so much of the year buying things we think the other would like or buying it ourselves that the most we could really get for each other is little knickknack junk we wouldn't keep.
If both parties should agree on it then OP is allowed to say no. I do think tho that if he didn’t wanted to splurge, there were other ways to handle it, like instead of going out he could make her dinner.
Honestly IMO it isn’t even the fact that he doesn’t celebrate Valentine’s Day that’s bad, but the fact that his girlfriend’s opinion of Valentine’s Day is automatically wrong just because he doesn’t agree with it. Like bro didn’t even try to compromise or even explain that money was kinda tight, he just started judging. Bro’s the AH in that one for sure.
I relate a little too much to the kid with autism, I’m undiagnosed as of now but I’m 99% sure I’m on the spectrum, and I have very specific ways of eating food, and if anyone interferes, I am genuinely bothered
I am the same. Pretty sure I am austic too, taken a number of the tests and done lots of research on it already too. I also eat my food in a particular way, eating my least favorite food to favorite for last.
The Valentines Day one really stuck with me. My boyfriend and I aren’t HUGE on the holiday but we still have dinner together, last year we just got chinease takeout and watched a movie. It fun to just show each other how much you love each other’s company ❤
I always saw it as an excuse to go all-out and would present my (now ex) with a lovely handmade card, a papermaché anatomical heart with a treasurehunt leading to it, or a big painting with his favorite moviestar on it. I don't know, I would spend hours and hours on it. And most what I got back, was a tiny piece of paper that had a very, very inapropriate word on it. We were both disappointed that evening.
I’m very much a “time is a social construct” kinda person, but my bf has always made Valentine’s Day so special. He wrote me the sweetest card this year that is my favorite thing he’s ever given me. It’s about the fact that I’m thinking of him and how to show him I love him all the time, and this shows that he does the same about me. It’s human to want to feel loved
Bro I'm neurodivergent & I CONSTANTLY save the best bite for last. Especially with things like chicken tenders & nuggets, I always save at least one to have as the last bite in order to savor it. If I wasn't such a walking doormat, I would absolutely break down if I was in Jenny's shoes. And "it must be an autistic thing" is CRAZY, I had to do a double take when I heard that. The AUDACITY for someone who isn't autistic & likely doesn't know anyone who's autistic other than Jenny & her mom is absolutely wild to me.
the last one is sooo funny to me because op thinks they're so high and mighty and intelligent because they read "classics", then follows it up with atrocious grammar and a lack of empathy for literally anyone around her. The lack of empathy is an important point, mostly because the great gatsby is a story about why you SHOULDNT judge the people around you (among other things obviously), where the main characters are generally awful people who lack empathy and JUDGE EVERYONE AROUND THEM. she doesn't even know how to properly analyze her favorite book.
I have had discussions with people that have looked at my book-cabinet and decided it needed more classics or 'interesting' books, but my books are usually philosophical or about emotion (a depressed hedgehog experiencing a mental breakdown and selfharming when a squirrel comes to the rescue to show kindness) and it is quite poetically written and really good. I notice that most of the 'classics' always involve oldfashioned standards, sexism, gruesome violence or racism or all of the beforementioned and only sometimes they have a good part in between, but I'll have already heard that through tv-shows, movies, etc. In my life, I don't want to know what a maffiaboss feels like when he murders his victims or why a man enjoys revenge or a woman wants to (supposedly, by the male writer) be ravished and emotionally destroyed by a rich and tall man with a big pencilcase. I would rather read about the Germans (I'm Dutch, they're my favorite neighbours) and comedy, wordjokes, word-origins, philosophy (emotional, philosophical stories) and art/craftswork. Torment, abuse, pain and screaming is already happening enough in my nightmares and flashbacks. I feed my mind lovely things, unless they are worth it (like my favorite movie Das Experiment, which involved a shitload of abuse and pain, but that one gets a pass, because it's not a book.)
@@Widdekuu91now you’re being like the Redditer by implying you’re better than people who read classics because you read books that they don’t. You’re not any better and this odd game of one-upping each other in the book community needs to stop. Books are read for entertainment. Sometimes learning. It’s not a morality debate.
@@Ishouldnthavebeensopublic I never told them what to read though. That was my problem with their behaviour..coming into my house and telling me to read more harsh material.
Good gods, I was the one who was miscalculating how far I could go when i was pregnant my partner would have never considered forcing me to hike. Our normal daily walks were cut a lot shorter towards the end because of the back pain, foot pain and the amount of trouble i had breathing. Never once did he insult me for not being at my previous fitness. Honestly that girl needs to run, she'll be raising the child on her own either way.
I'm definitely not autistic but I'd probably have a meltdown if someone just straight up stole my food and then had the audacity to give me back the last tiny bite and be like "Well, here, now that someone else's mouth bacteria is all over it, here's a crumb." OP apparently never learned basic common respect because it's somehow Jinny's difference that makes this situation bad and definitely not OP's assholishness.
As an autistic person- actually i save alot of safe foods for last so I can keep my food down. Otherwise i start getting hyperfixated on textures and I can spit it up without meaning to
That one about the little autistic girl thing just… pissed me off so much. As an autistic person, even if this kid wasn’t autistic, it’s fucking rude to take someone else’s fucking food. What the fuck? It has nothing to do with being autistic. The fuck? It was pointless to even mention that that kid was autistic. The vibe I get is that op wants to seem like such a nice person for taking care of an autistic child, because who else would do that? Oh she’s so caring! Jesus.
The one about the dad complaining about having to be responsible for his children - I, a minor still in school, get up before 6 every day for school and have been for many years now. He needs to start taking care of his kids instead of being one
From the way that story sounded, he does take care of his daughter every morning but his wife was asking him to wake up earlier to also take care of their son. There really isnt enough info provided in that story to make any judgements one way or the other. If his wife was asking him to sacrifice his sleep schedule because she wasnt capable of giving her son medication, then that's her being the asshole. Especially because we really dont know what his work schedule is like. If hes just refusing becuase his idea of taking care of his kids is driving them to school and the wife is doing everything else, then yeah fuck him. The problem is drawing conclusions from a lack of info and inferring the worst from the info provided seems unnecessarily judgy.
@@jjjasperr maybe, but without additional info it's really hard to say, but they're both currently taking care of at least one kid. It's possible the 6:30 kid is more challenging and maybe waking up a bit earlier to assist could be helpful. But if they're both taking care of a child that lines up with their schedule and it's just the medication problem, then finding a way to build the habit for their child to take the medication early seems like the proper way to handle the situation.
@@Tyler.8046 We have enough info. A wife asked her husband to coparent and he’s whining about it. Dad needs to be parenting _both_ of his kids. He’s been sleeping in while his wife is a single parent to *their* son (the kid’s not just “her son” like you phrased it). What makes him an even bigger asshole is that his spouse even had to ask him for help. Dad should have already been awake and parenting at 6:30a from the jump but he _definitely_ should have been doing that the moment he learned his spouse was frustrated and struggling with a parenting task. Instead, dad ignored the needs of his kid and his spouse until his wife had to ask him to actually parent _both_ of his children. Then he had the audacity to tell the internet that he didn’t think it was “fair” that he had to wake up and coparent with his wife. Gimme a break.
@@jjjasperr Nah, you were right with your original post. Dad needs to parent _both_ of his children. He always should have been waking up at 6:30a with his wife and taking care of his kids-plural. Instead, he’s been sleeping in, enjoying an extra 90 minutes to himself in the evening, and skipping out on parenting his son-which is currently a frustrating challenge. Now _that_ arrangement was completely unfair to his spouse, kids, and family as a unit. What’s fair is dad waking up and coparenting with his wife.
That “it’s an autistic thing” line is gross because it feels like OP doesn’t see her as a human being. Like, she can’t understand that Jenny has her own personality and reasons behind her actions like every human does, it must just be because she’s autistic. And to top that off by dismissing their emotions as an overreaction? To be so confused about this situation and so utterly unable to understand why someone would be upset at her doing something so inconsiderate? It’s like she doesn’t view anyone at all as a human being with their own emotions. I don’t know if OP acts that way because Jenny is autistic, because she’s a child, or if OP doesn’t have any empathy and consideration for anyone at all, but either way, it’s bad. And I should go turn off my phone and go outside because I am writing way too many words for a rant about a Reddit post
The comments normally make some of these posts even worse. It tips posts over from 'slightly the AH' to 'definitely the devil'. Have you see the post where a guy is complaining about his pregnant 'roommate'?
@@mrs.w8193Yes! my brain refuses to say it correctly after watching that video with all the variations. Partner and I say "pregananant" and "pregonate" the most lol
About the "Lazy, pregnant wife" story, one of the reasons I broke off my last relationship is because I'm sure this exact same thing would have happened to me. Already had a similar thing happen when I was very sick and my ex wanted to go "for a short walk", and kept asking me to "jusk keep going a little bit more", untill it was around 4km and I broke down crying because I could breathe anymore. Fun memories...
The “Valentines Day is made up” argument always rubbed me the wrong way cause like so was Mothers/Fathers Day and nobody complains about spending money on those days 😂 Also you’re comment on “The most innocent titles are always the most fucked up stories” is bang on. I heard one that was titled “AITA for taking a longer route to spend more time with her?” I assumed the dude took a turn and was in the car with her for like 20 minutes instead of 10. Nope. They were on a hike and he had them going in circles for HOURS. He still doesn’t understand why he was kicked out of the hiking group.
Oh wow, ur right about the different treatment for similar holidays - the romance one isn't as much respected. The story you mentioned almost sounds like he was trying to exhaust his victim so he could attack her, like wtf don't play mind games with people in the wilderness.
mac and cheese but instead it's just rocks
damn girl took you just 1 min to get pinned
Mmm crunchy cheese
Sounds delectable.
yummy choice at thanksgiving
My dream
OP: the pregnancy has “caused her to gain a bit of weight”
…WHERE DID HE THINK SHE WOULD KEEP THE BABY!?
Her f*cking mind? and push it out like a concept?!
this man is vile i’m praying that confession was fake.
Oh is that why they call it conception
He didn’t even blame the weight gain on the pregnancy. He literally was just upset she gained weight?? Like duh?? You don’t see the correlation??
Idk he’s a walking red flag imo
The most sickening story in the vid for sure
Mans really thought she would give birth through her forehead like Zeus
@@Cthulhululu Alright everyone give this person their flowers.
"She gained a bit of weight and has become moody" Gee, it couldn't have had anything to do with the fact that she's 6 months pregnant, could it?!
I know, attributing moodiness to being less active vs hormones in this scenario (or like, I'm sure this isn't the first time he's been inconsiderate or commented on her body changes during pregnancy) is so dense and shallow and selfish. Did he think the stork would drop off the baby?
@@nari5161 None of what you described would shock me (unfortunately)
Also, it takes two to tango. You knew what you were expecting, so stop being an inconsiderate asshole 😭.
"She let herself go"
The actual hell
@@ellec7188It makes me wonder what he will have to say on her body shape if she gets to a full nine months pregnant belly. He sounds like those men on Reddit and Twitter who don't know how women's bodies work AT ALL. Like where does he think the baby will form if not in her belly??? Of course it will expand her size,she likely won't look like Victoria Secret supermodel(there are exceptions of women not showing while pregnant but she is not one). It personally horrifies me that he speaks like that because she might never get back to her original body type,i learned recently that women's skeletons changed after pregnancy(horrifying for me to learn) and their immunity, metabolism just isn't the same as before. He will be like a podcast bros saying "if she doesn't lose the baby weight two weeks after giving birth,i have the right to cheat/leave".
The pregnancy hike thing is the most VILE, DISGUSTING, SHAMEFUL, EVIL, AWFUL story I’ve ever heard.
RIGHT? My heart goes out to the poor woman who is stuck with this piece of sh-t of a husband/future father...
They're f-ing married too 😭
@@GooberGab Not for long I hope, if this keeps up..
Or this whole story could be fake
I'm currently 37ish weeks (about 8 months and 3/4) pregnant and I had to laugh at it out of disbelief. Like my belly is huge and I get winded getting out of bed, the poor woman was taken on a however many mile hike and expected to keep up?!? He said SHE LET HERSELF GO? SHES BUILDING A HUMAN BEING WITH HER BODY 24/7 OF COURSE SHE CANT DO A HIKE AT THE PREVIOUS PACE SHE WAS ABLE TO. I'm surprised women don't commit more mu®de® when having to deal with situations like that
I smell a divorce in that horrible excuse of a Husband’s future
Op's pregnant wife isn't "holding a grudge," she's mourning the loss of the man she thought she married and was having a baby with. She's realizing how misguided she was to think he'd be a good father or husband. She's absolutely core shocked. What a simple man.
Yes. My heart goes out to her. That's gotta be earth shattering and so painful. 💔
From now on every bad thing he does is gonna reinforce the idea that he's not the right guy and their marriage is gonna fail years later when she's finally had enough.
If that is even a real story, the OP was a little to much of an unaware asshole
I sure hope she's thinking of divorce cause I doubt that man will help her with their future kid...he sounds like he doesn't care about her at all and only thinks about himself...
my heart broke for her. i hope she’s ok
And she’s probably blaming herself because society tends to blame women for “not choosing better”
the pregnant hike story - i promise you that the husband is one of these "we all have the same 24 hours" and/or "no excuse to not exercise" guys.
He also seems like the type that will seek his wife out for every diaper change. "babe, he pooped can you change him?" completely forgetting that he's also a parent
If a woman was active before pregnancy, it’s generally safe/healthy for her to exercise during.
@@TarynRMartin a baby presses DIRECTLY ON YOUR LUNGS AND HEART!!!!!
@@TarynRMartinNot all exercises are safe during pregnancy, though.
@@TarynRMartinDoesn't mean she should continue like usually, pregnancy is exhausting and stressful. Sure they can do exercises but very limiting ones. It's not like it's advised for you to run a mile on a treadmill or do intense cardio.
"My wife has become lazy and begun to gain weight. Also she's six months pregnant." I think there might be a correlation between these things...
The way I first knew something was going on with my body when I was pregnant was that I was too tired to lift my sewing shears when I was trying to make a dress. Too tired to cut something.
that man needs to go back to school
Nah, correlation doesn't equal causation. She's just lazy
@@minabrunkhorst9954 So, forcing someone on walk, that made them literally vomit is great?
@@DayDreamingWriters I was being sarcastic
On the story about the chicken tender, as an autistic person myself I complitely see the logic behind saving the best part about the meal as last to leave off on a good note. At least that's what I do. If I had been in Jenny's shoes, I would have been upset, and I'm an adult in my 20's. "Must be an autistic thing" is WILD to say. She's coming off super condescenting and I hate it.
Same like if someone took some of my safe food without asking I would never forgive them 😔
I've noticed a thing where in reddit stories if someone they know is autstic, they will bring that up no matter what. It doesn't matter how normal the behavior is, they always mention they're autstic. And I'm sorry, but as an autstic person... you don't always have to say that someone is autstic 😭 saving a bite for last is not an autstic thing, I'm autstic aswell and I don't do that, and plenty of non autstic folks do. It's just a thing. It comes off really ableist if I'm not being too dramatic. Like when the kid seems upset she acts like it's just cause she's autstic and no 'normal' kid would act that way. Like, no? Everyone would be mad if you stole food from them without asking. Just because someone is autstic doesn't mean you have to right off their feelings or call them dramatic when reacting to a completely normal thing with a completely normal reaction. You stole a chicken finger from a six year old, ofcourse she's upset. Her autism has nothing to do with that.
I was gonna say as an autistic person who is now in my 20s as well this is something I’ve done my whole life and something I’ve noticed in some other autistic people as well. For me it’s about having the best taste/texture for last because then it’s the one that stays in my mouth for the longest if that makes sense. I would get very upset if someone took something off my plate without asking because it ruins the entire experience for me. I think the point about change/routines makes sense as well. Saying it’s an “autistic thing” like that feels like it’s meant in a derogatory way, which sucks. Plus while i believe my autism has an influence on how i eat, that’s not the case for every autistic person. We all have different experiences. And even if she weren’t autistic it’s still an asshole thing to do to take something from someone without asking. Period. Full stop. End of discussion.
I don’t think I’m autistic, but I’ve been curating my perfect last bite and putting it off to the side for years now. I saw someone else do it, asked about it, and their explanation made so much sense to me. No more bad last bites for me.
I have always done the same thing with my food, I have to have the 'best bite' last and honestly if someone did that to me a child I would have started crying immediately. I grew up with my autistic brother and am awaiting diagnosis myself and I understand why she says it must be an autistic trait but I don't think SHE understands and I agree with you that it really just comes off bad. I feel like she is trying to brush of her actions as not that bad because its and autistic trait and therefore inherently abnormal and implicitly bad, although that me be the over analytic psych major in me talking.
"It must be an autistic thing" is a WILD thing to say 😭
nah fr 😨😭
The way my spiteful autistic self would proceed to demask and throw EVERYTHING I have at him.
“You wanna see a meltdown? I’ll fucking show you a melt down.”
NGL made it seem like the OP thinks that "autistic girls" are "girls you don't have to put in as much effort with because they're grateful for the bare minimum" - some cis people do the same thing to trans partners particularly trans women where they have this attitude of "well noone else would want you so you should be grateful for me not even doing the bare minimum" it's a gross attitude to have towards someone you're supposed to love
@@vykcryptid hit the nail right on the head, i wish these people had an ounce of compassion for us
no wonder it's on this subreddit
The pregnant woman should leave her idiot, insensitive partner. I’m currently 7 months and I can’t imagine going on a 3 MILE HIKE. Your uterus expands into your ribs and it causes shortness of breath. You’re not supposed to get overheated or raise your heart rate too much. The baby’s heart rate will raise too 😢 She should’ve been taking breaks as soon as she got out of breath. I really hope that story was fake cause if not she’s going to have an awful time giving birth and raising his children.
😭😭😭 That story made me so upset and angry and sad. I was praying it was parody the whole time because I was like, there’s no way someone is this awful to their pregnant wife 😭
A manufactured holiday implies the existance of organic free range holidays
Funniest thing I’ve read today, thank you
So does the yearly human sacrifice count as an organic holiday
snow days
@@moonembers5559yes
What about countries that never get snow?@@devkergirl2025
it's so weird how OP mentions autism several times. What OP did was wrong even if Jenny wasn't autistic?? It just seems like she wants to blame Jenny's and Jenny's mom's reaction on them being autistic...
Right?? I'm not autistic and if somebody took my food without asking and gave it to somebody else, I would instantly feel like they're trying to make me feel two inches small and it would be ugly. That's such an unnecessary thing to do and it's so rude that it's ridiculous, autism or no.
It actually feels just as irrelevant to the story as if she was a different height or her favorite color was blue or any other thing that could possibly differentiate the child from the rest of the group. The "okayness" of stealing from somebody doesn't depend on their neurodivergence, what a weird weird weird thing for op to imply
THANK YOU! That one and the one where the guy made his pregnant girlfriend take a hike both royally pissed me off!
it rlly gives the vibe of "ugh those sensitive pesky autistic snowflakes can't even handle me taking their food away"
Exactly. Like, it would not have killed her to wait five minutes to ask. That's what you do, you ask people and don't just assume they don't want to eat their food anymore.
Honestly!
As someone who grew up with a mom that would do similar shit, but in her case it would be randomly taking food off of my plate without asking, OP in that story pisses me off.
Shit like that may seem small to some people, but I can tell you with certainty that when you have a parent like that, those "little things" aren't little.
Worst thing about it is that even if you mention it to other people, more often than not they'll just think that you're overreacting.
Which yeah, if it's one time that they do this then maybe you are. But people who do stuff like that... It's never a one time thing.
20:15 Yeah, the way OP said “must be an autistic thing” reminds me of how men say “she must be on her period” in order to disregard their emotions.
It’s so crazy to me bc it should have the opposite. Like you should be MORE empathetic and understanding if she’s autistic or on her period. 😢
@@belovedobserver hard agree. It's wild to use these things to dismiss a person's feelings and opinions.
im autistic and I just hated that. The way in which OP said it was definitely to invalidate the girl's feelings. As an autistic person, I suspect that Jenny's reaction was due to the unexpected change as well as the parent disrupting her system of eating. Autistic people such as myself rely on predictability and routine so even if it seems like a small issue to the OP. For an autistic person, small things can be big, our brains rely on knowing what to expect. Also based on what OP described, she may have a system to eating (people on the spectrum can like systems b/c of the familiarity). Of course these are all just what I suspect and can't speak to Jenny's experience of autism because I don't know her and everyone experiences the traits differently!
OMG YEAH
Pregnancy loosens your muscles and joints (makes you weaker) and makes getting enough oxygen / breathing more difficult, even just sitting around can make you light headed (this is all due to hormones). Just for people that are curious.
Thx for the explanation
There's also less space for your lungs to expand down into.
There's less space for anything at that point. Her pelvis is getting ready to deliver a whole baby. It's hard.
To add on, once you reach a certain point in pregnancy, the baby/uterus are quite literally pushing up into your lungs (or pushing other organs into your lungs) which definitely make it harder to breath. Even if someone didn't know all of the effects hormones have on the body, how does someone look at a six month pregnant person and go "Yep, they've let themselves go!" Where do they think the baby is forming? Hammer space??? Other organs have got to move for that uterus and fetus.
@@NovaZoom mine also dislocated some ribs, so there is that possibility, too.
The man from the hiking story just doesn’t view women as humans. He just sees her as a s*x object and trophy. That’s why he can’t comprehend that his once so perfect girl is now not keeping up to his standards. Like an object that’s now faulty in some way.
THIS.
The story made me so angry and sad and furious. Poor woman, she's married to a self centered moron.
The fact that he apologizes to his friends for his wife being embarrassing def means he sees her as a trophy and object. Life is gonna get even tougher for his wife in the future all because of this idiot.
Yeah I realized my ex viewed me that way. He liked showing me off but made sure to talk shit behind my back. When we broke up (after he cheated on me after 8 years) he cried about not wanting to be alone. Bro absolutely hated me yet wanted the status of having me around. And the emotional labor I guess. I’m so lucky we never got married. He literally could not handle me being better than him at anything but if I was bad at something then I embarrassed him. I was meant to be The Girlfriend- be nice to everyone, look nice, be friendly, never bum anyone out, never be cringe, never let them know you’re autistic, all that positive opinions towards him from others was so important. Maintaining the relationship, phew, now that would just piss him off.
I was fucking homeless (due to an abuser doing shit) and he wouldn’t tell his parents to help me have a place to stay- UNTIL his friends shamed him. I couldn’t even shower at his house cause it would bring up questions, I used planet fitness.
Fucking cringe behavior honestly.
Men have an inhuman ability to stick around someone they hate if they think they can leech off of them. And they look down on us for even buying that they might like us.
Dude the hike guy sounds like the type of guy that expects his wife's body to go back to the exact way it was before and on the 6 week mark expect sex right away. He's sounds insane. I'm so glad that my husband treated me so well while I was pregnant and has continued to be amazing 14 years later. I hate people I swear.
This type of person shouldn't be allowed to reproduce. Whether he is driven by his stupidity or superficiality, he seems too ignorant to be a future father and be someone's spouse. Like he chose to die on this hill of "my wife gain weight because she got a pregnant belly. How do i make her lose the weight". Like he seems ahead of those podcast bros. He doesn't even want to wait for her to give birth to lose the weight,he thinks his wife should lose it while pregnant.🤣🤣Imagine that type of person taking care of a child. I can't.💀💀
If he’d even wait 6 weeks.
if my fucking husband said that to me WHILE I WAS PREGNANT????? im going to federal prison bye
Lol
I save my favorite part of the meal for last, too. It's not an "autistic" thing, it just feels RIGHT.
right??? i like it the most so ill get the stuff i like less out the way first then enjoy my fave part
I feel like it might be more common for neurodivergent people in general, but not specific to autism. It's weird to call it an "autistic thing"
My teacher back in like…kindergarten or something was trying to console a kid who was last in line by saying something along the lines of save the best for last and I think it permanently altered my brain chemistry
I eat my food smallest to biggest lmao
eating my favorite part last feels like a reward after eating all my food, almost like dessert even
That pregnant hike story is actually really scary because it shows how little men know about women’s bodies.
Just another in the horror stories I hear about how men can treat their pregnant partners
Even as a man myself who doesn't know much about women's bodies, even I have the basic understanding that "maybe pregnant women shouldn't hike"
I think the guy in the story is just a moron
Many WOMEN don’t even know about their own bodies. This isn’t a man thing.
Nah, it shows how much they don't give a shit.
i feel like for some of them, they 100% know what they’re doing in situations like this, but they get off on asserting their “physical superiority” over women during a time where they’re physically at their most vulnerable. it’s a power play.
Men when their wife is pregnant: ‘I don’t know why she has gained weight, has been lazy, in a bad mood, and threw up.’
Men when a woman does any one of these things, even once: ‘oh… you must be pregnant.’
Or on period time ☠️
DUDE OH MY GOD
I think its just this guy.
@@alexjewett7455Congrats on being one of those guys that downplays common experiences 😂
@@sourgreendolly7685 I was mainly speaking from ignorance, not malice, but thanks for being an asshat about it.
"Letting her self go" while carrying his child, is wild!!
if i was her i'd be letting go of that marriage that's for sure!
For the first one she did supposedly say she wanted a gift and to go to a nice restaurant, but the problem comes when he could have talked to her and maybe said "we don't have a lot of money right now, how about I make you your favorite meal instead?" or something like that. Im sure she would understand if you can't afford it. But he jumped to assuming the worst of her and acting like her asking that was some crazy request. He sounds so pretentious and annoying.
He sounds like someone who acts like his "lack of materialism" is an identity, and uses it to feel morally superior over everyone else. Also, it seems like he has low opinion of women in general ("she's not like all those women who want to be bought stuff all the time and need designer clothes" - pardon me, I'm a 40-year-old woman and I don't think I've met ONE woman in my life that would suit the description. Does his knowledge of women come from cheat reality TV?), and thinks it's a compliment to tell a girl that she's "not like other girls". Then when it turns out that, actually, she's exactly like other girls in some respects (and there's nothing wrong with it!), he interprets it in the worst way possible and guilts her over it.
@@AW-uv3cb exactly!!
Also, why does he assume her idea of a nice restaurant is an overpriced steakhouse crowded with people? Is his girlfriend 65 years old? A nice restaurant to me is just a place with a fun ambience and decent food - usually not American cuisine. Doesn’t have to be a $200 meal.
@@siribaimusic very true!
@siribaimusic yeah to me a nice restaurant is any place where they bring a check to your table at the end of the meal and 5hw5 can mean q whole bunch ot stuff. Like if I asked a partner to take me to a nice restaurant and they did a buffet and a stuffed animal I'd be happy
the whole pregnancy hike thing it's so absurd to me bc how men like to act like we are the weak sex and are very fragile but then go on a 180 and act as if we dont suffer pain at all and completely disregard our health particularities its craaaaazy
The stupidity and fragility of straight dudes will always astound me.
Couldn’t have said it better. Most of the men saying that stuff are also the ones acting like man babies and expecting their s/o to do everything for them and basically be their mothers
Preach it!!!!
Maybe she could make him wear the same amount of weight she had **healthily** gained at that point (around 14 lbs MINIMUM) on his torso, give him something to induce a little nausea like an acidic or spicy food combo, make him put on a shoe size too small and tightly lace him into a corset. Then make him complete that hike on 2 hours of sleep.
I hope it's fake. It's horrifying if there's actually idiots like that in the wild
im autistic and often save a piece of my favorite food for last. its not inherently an autism thing but for me it is related, because of my sensory issues. whatever i eat last, is the taste thats going to stay in my mouth until next time i eat or drink something, and i can get really easily overwhelmed if its not the "right" taste
That makes a lot of sense!
Yeah! I'm also an autistic adult. But my non autistic mother also does this.
I mean there's a reason if you eat dessert you eat it last.
Because it's one of the best tastes!
EXACTLY I just typed out practically the same thing.
Same! I really would have died right then and there lol also, its so sad she thinks she is correct and Jenny and her mom "overreacted"
im autistic and i was about to come here and comment the same thing as that its also something that i do!!!
The reason doctors recommend waiting two years after birth before getting pregnant again is because it takes that long to build up the bodys stores of vitamins and minerals again, so don't feel bad if you don't "bounce back" in just a few months, most people don't. And some medical issues never completely go away.
I hope the pregnant wife divorces her husband. I'll help pay for the divorce lawyer, heck I'll even help her raise the baby and we'll be two moms rocking parenthood, but my heart and stomach dropped reading HIS post... People naturally paint themselves in a more flattering light to avoid scrutiny and yet this story was from HIS perspective. I'm just absolutely flabbergasted.
Same
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Girllllll the last one. "All I did was call my friend an idiot to her face on her birthday party. Why is everyone so worked up?"
Spun around and tried to downplay what she said… I would say nearing on gaslighting because when she was confronted she only denied with “Idk what you’re talking about.”
Also The Great Gatsby is literally read in high school…
@@miakirkland731 what's funny is that I was never made to read that book in high school. I read it of my own volition bc I was curious
I love the idea of a person who calls someone simple in order to insult them but is somehow too stupid to understand that that's what they did
@@fortunomancy bestie sounds like she peaked in eighth grade
The pregnancy story got me fuming! I was an elite athlete when I got pregnant with my first and from the word go my pregnancy was deemed high risk I was told I could go for short walks only! The amount of weight I gained really really sent me in a downward spiral my baby daddy at the time near the end of my pregnancy he told me “you’re not as pretty fat I hope once the baby is out you’ll change that” it was horrible! I lost myself during that pregnancy and I’m still trying to find myself years later.
Edit: I left him a long time ago but I took me a while to realise how abusive he was.
You deserve better.
The way that men can change/ reveal their true colors during their partners' pregnancy is vile. I see you and I love you
Damn you deserved a partner who valued your amazing abilities. Glad to know you're healing.
omg girl that sounds abseloutley awful im glad you ditched his ass and i hope your doing better now
It really is astonishing the lack of basic human decency and empathy I’ve seen from guys regarding pregnancy, I think it needs to be compulsory for men to wear pregnancy suits during the entire time their partners are pregnant and give them a good contraction simulator shock every day until baby arrives. I can’t imagine how confusing and stressful it must be to have so many changes to your body all at once and essentially get to know it all over again during and post pregnancy. One of my best friends finds solace in focusing on body neutrality and focusing on functionality. I’m glad you took your exs advice and lost that dead weight that was holding you down (aka him).
That pregnant wife hiking trip was vile. Me and my wife have both been pregnant, I was pregnant first and ended up with not being able to give birth due to complications in my 7th month but within the time I was pregnant. I have always been a very physical person and have always enjoyed sports and physical activities but I DEFINITELY could not do even the simplest of trials and especially at my 6th month!! My wife is also enjoys physical activities and also struggled to even stand up with out getting light headed (which is extremely normal) when she was pregnant. This man is clearly not educated and lacks empathy and he should be ashamed of himself. I hope his wife is doing better.
The hike thing is absolutely freaking insane. I was an active, healthy 21 year old who FOUND OUT I was 2 months pregnant because I was unable to go on my normal run without losing my breath. It was my first indication that something was “off” so I took a pregnancy test. Wild that some people still don’t understand this.
"even post-pregnancy, it takes a while to..." no. I never bounced back. I am the couch now. I'm kidding, obviously. It wasn't my pregnancy. It was the depression that got me in the end. I'll let you guys know if my husband is embarassed by how fat and sad I am. Gonna go ask rn.
You're doing great, mama
Me too homie :( good luck, the struggle is so hecking real
Me too. Physical pain for me. Long car rides still aggravate my tailbone, broken during birth, literally years later. I’m back to my previous fitness level, but it’s been years and I don’t think I will ever sit without discomfort again.
My mom still hasn’t recovered from the damage my older sister’s birth did to her bladder and my sister is turning 22 in august. Some shit just stays.
We need to know the answer now lol
If someone took my last chicken finger off my plate, I would absolutely lose my shit.
yeah don't touch my fucking food. I'd be mad if my gf did that, I'd be furious with anyone else.
For me, it's one of those things where I'll likely say yes if they ask, but will be salty if they take it just like that.
I have a fork, and I am not afraid to use it to defend my food! 😂
I'm autistic and almost in my 30's, I've always saved the best food for last. If someone disappeared my long awaited last piece when I was a child, I'd not have been nearly as gracious as Jenny
Dude. I’m autistic and I’ve freaked the f out when I decide to eat something, and X or Y happens and I can’t eat it. 😭😭😭 For some reason, it affects my mood GREATLY lol
I would have cried 😅
At her age I would of definitely had a meltdown and have never hung out with them again- probably would have developed some sort of resource guarding as well ngl 💀
I’m so weird about food, and i have to eat it in order of taste. for example if i were to eat mac and cheese, cantaloupe, and drink water, the order would go something like this: mac and cheese, cantaloupe, water, etc- so yeah, if that gets messed up i get pretty pissed (i’m picky as hell)
I'd freak out and possibly have a meltdown, and then I'd avoid the hell out of the person that took my food
I have heard a lot of stories about like this with their husbands/boyfriends/partners treating their pregnant partner like this. I have heard it from people who wouldn't have expected something like that from their partners. I always get really scared of the idea of having a kid with someone because I get so frightened that a switch will flip and this will be how they see or treat me. It is one of my greatest fears and I feel like that's not something someone should ever have to worry about.
It's a real thing. My ex was the most wonderful partner. Before we had kids. He only let his true colours show after we had kids. They were his leverage to hold me hostage in the relationship. I wanted out for years before I finally got away. If you choose to have kids don't be dependent on the father, keep your options open.
You usually see some warningsigns.. talk about it with them.
My ex (who I never had any kids with) felt it was a good idea to train the baby, in the womb, to widthstand any trouble and by that, he meant temperature and conditions.
He wanted us to move to Syberia and move into the (supposedly) most depressing town ever.
He painted it poetically, having us both stand in front of a windowless wall, staring outside into the snowy wind, seeing people in the distance falling down from the buildings into the snow. And then, us holding hands and whispering; *we* will make it!' over the faint 'AAAAaaAaAAHhhHRggHh!" in the distance from another jumper.
He said if the kid in my stomach could overcome such cold, shortage of food, depression and lack of sun, he could deal with everything.
I pointed out he'd likely be very weak, but he liked the idea of a...well..like a mini-Putin or something. Like a tiny, hardened and 'made-from-ice-and-snow-kinda person.'
He'd mentioned his love for the dictator before, saying; 'I love how he just does what he wants and has everyone intimidated! He listens to nobody! He is a dictator, sure, but he gets what he wants. I want that too!' (funny detail, he cheated on me with a woman from Kiev that he used to date, I bet he didn't tell her what he thought of Putin.)
Either way, his plan was to travel to Mexico-desert a few weeks before I was due, to see if the kid could deal with this as well. He figured I could just give birth in the car, in the back of a van and we'd be fine and the baby would have one of the coolest stories to tell his classmates later.
He also wanted to take pictures of him during a route-69-trip in the car, while I (took care of him in the back of the van, changed diapers, slept, fed milk etc.) and he said he wanted to take pictures of meth-addicts with the baby, because 'those addicts will do anything for a dollar' and the baby would be 'so funny' on a picture, being held by an addict.
I mean, if you know to recognise the signs, you'll likely recognise it before it is too late.
Also, once this happens, tell the doctor about it and express your concerns. If the husband is not malicious, but moreso ignorant, maybe a doctor can give you strong advice and speak with the husband about the severity of damages and illnesses caused by 'pushing through this.'
Some people have been raised with a 'quit your crying' attitude and you should not let them use it on you, they are not your parent! They cannot decide for you.
Finding out a person has invested their heart and short time on this earth into someone who isn't willing or capable of loving them back is one of my nightmares. There's never a way to get back what was lost, and there's no satisfactory answer as to why. It's an ugly tragedy that could happen to any of us - we just have to hope that we're good enough judges of character and that we keep our eyes open to the warning signs. There's no guarantee that the people we've chosen are good on the inside.
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My grandma and me both made the same mistake. *We mistook 'loving' for 'wanting to care for/help' someone.*
You cannot be the light in someones life, if they choose not to let the light in. You cannot be the thing that helps them get rid of addictions, without them going to _therapy._
Grandma got together with a traumatized man, who lost his brother in the war. She came from a humble family (did not have a job, had been told she wasn't bright) and he was a hard worker, she felt very lucky.
He was bitter and would never love anyone again after his brother passed at a young age.
He humiliated her day after day, despized her for giving him a daughter, when he wanted a son and treated the daughter (my mom) like she was non-existing and a faillure.
After his second child, a son was born, he loved him, but hated my grandma and mom even more. The last child, a boy, was bullied too.
He got violent, he would provoke, pour salt into my mother's food and make her eat it and sabotage any moment of joy. He was likely also autistic (like coïncidentally me, my sister and my dad are) and he was unable to phrase his feelings or let down a wall for grandma.
My dad stood up for my mom, when he (again) poured the salt into her food. My dad said; 'Sir, you will not torment my girlfriend like that!'
Grandpa send him out of the house, forever and told him to never return. Mom eventually left and moved in with dad, they got me and my sister.
Whenever we visited grandma and grandpa (me and mom and little sister) we were made to say hello to grandpa and goodbye to grandpa. He would growl in response.
Whenever he could, he would mess with the biscuits (eat them all) or the lemonade (take it out of the fridge) or he would visibly remove our photographs from the cabinet and shove the ones from his son to the front.
After he got Alzheimers, he became friendlier, because he had no clue who we were. It was 40 years later when my dad díd return to the house he was send out of.
My grandpa greeted him (perhaps vaguely reminded something) and asked if he could give him some advice on the plants. My dad, who did indeed studied Biology amongst other things, helped him out and they spoke about plants for a while and how to fix dry soil.
Right before grandpa died, my grandma spoke to me about relationships, which she normally didn't. She said; 'I heard your boyfriend dumped you.' I said he did.
She asked if he'd been nice to me, and said mom had told that he hadn't been nice.
I said he hadn't been very nice (which was an understatement, because I'd been thrown against radiators in drunk violence and so on.)
She whispered; 'It is a good thing that you didn't get married then. If you are stuck with them in marriage, that is awful. You should be with someone that loves you and is kind to you. Not with someone that could care less if you are there or is just bothered by you and unable to show love."
She then left to go home and honestly, I think that's one of the very few moments we had an open conversation like that. She is usually quite reserved (having been told her whole life that her feelings don't matter and her mouth should be shut.)
So, for short;
1. Don't confuse loving someone with wanting to care/help someone. In the movies, the love of a woman helps a broken man to climb up. That only can happen when he works hard and goes to therapy and quits his bad habits. She cannot take that away from him. Don't try to fix someone's world like that. Unwilling people stay miserable, with or without you. And they'll only drag you down with them.
2. If someone is in a lot of trouble (addiction, depression) they are very focussed on themselves and not you. And you'll be very focussed on them, not yourself.
If they are not independend and they rely on you, that will eventually cause you to burn out. All the time will go to them and it will nót be enough and you'll be to blame.
If they are independend, they get help, they get care, etc. then they might be good partners despite their addiction or depression. They are working on it, actively and not leaning on you. They do not depend on you, like a child, to help them and make them food. (can happen once, ofcourse, but not daily.)
3. If a person has not known love, you might feel inclined to give them that love. In movies, as said before, this is a wonderful moment, in which the enemy finally realizes that he is loved and everything will be okay. But if you are a doormat (which I was) and you don't set a boundary, then people that have been raised in a violent home (a.k.a. learned that belittling is normal) will cross boundaries in return to your softness. They'll tell you it is just a prank, it was only a joke and that yóu are overreacting on it. But in reality, they are pushing boundaries, further and further. Those people need therapy. People that think that it is normal to harm eachother, or to 'punish' someone with pain or humiliation (like they were punished in childhood) need to see that this was wrong. If they do not see this, you should not be with them.
I hope this helped. Stay believing in love though. It's been 10 years since my relationship ended and about 5 of my therapy-years and for a long time I thought that love did not exist and was awful, but I found it back and I find myself dreaming about sweet men, that come home late from work and then bring me a 2-persons fries and a cheese-soufflé and tell me; 'Let's eat this and watch your favorite movie, lovely one and you can tell me about your day, sorry I'm late." They exist, I know they do.
My mom found my dad and he's like that, I've seen the relationship from my caretaker and it's like that and I know we will all find it too, we'll just have to be careful.
I am very happy I never wanted kids.
It was a six mile hike, guys. He said "three miles out and back." That is hikerspeak for SIX FUCKING MILES.
As a hiker, it means "a 3mile total out and back type trail" depending on the person. The trail lengths are always measured in totals. 3mi is still a lot firca pregnant woman.
No, it means 3 mile total out-and-back type trail. Half lengths are never the measure. I am also a hiker. It's a total of 3 miles, (1.5 out and 1.5 back).
Having once taken a 14 mile walk completely on impulse on a surprisingly cool July day, years before I got sick with UC, it is completely unreasonable to expect someone who is *growing a smaller human* to be able to *hike* that far just because.
High schoolers read the Great Gatsby like it's not some masterpiece that you need a high IQ for girlie
I wouldn’t be surprised if the OP is overcompensating for some insecurity she has by trying to pass herself off as so well read and educated. Clearly it’s done nothing in terms of teaching her how to socialize with other people.
It's kinda a piece of crap, too. Not a very good book.
ikr and it's literally such a short book. even if you didnt understand it you could easily just power through it idk
fr i read that sophomore yr of hs LMAOOO
I was JUST saying to my friend. Like it’s not that hard of a book. My only thought was maybe English isn’t OP’s and their friends first language so they’re talking about having a book transcribed in two languages. But if English IS their first language, OP needs to learn the difference between “too” and “to”. Doesn’t sound too smart to me 🤭
I haaaate the chicken tender lady. Giving that preamble at the start clearly trying to imply she does more for Jenny’s family than they do for her and is a more competent parent than Jenny’s mum to try and get people on her side. That screams to me that she knows she’s in the wrong.
"I include her child in activities with my children; her mom only includes one of mine at a time 😢" ma'am why are you seemingly mad Jenny's mom is setting boundaries FOR YOUR CHILDREN'S SAFETY??? Even if Jenny's mom wasn't autistic, taking care of 3-5 extra children is simply a lot. And you're each taking one child off the other's hands for a bit? Stop
For reallll. She doesn't want to be held accountable and wants internet strangers to agree so that she can reassure herself that she didn't just do a shitty thing to a 6 year old because she is entitled. She seems the most self aware out of the others in this post and she even tried to manipulate the Reddit audience by stating that Jenny is autistic because she knows the stigma that is still associated with autism. Very disgusting,you know what,at first i thought it was funny that she ended up on "am i the devil" but now i have to agree with her being placed there. She is working as hard as Satan to be right.
@@hiraethey for a parent who only has one child, taking on 3 or 5 extra would be daunting, autistic or not!
Fun fact: as soon as woman gets pregnant her body releases a hormone in the first trimester that causes her joints to loosen. That’s why pregnant women waddle even before they are heavily pregnant. It’s got literally nothing to do with fitness, in fact his wife is probably pretty fit because a multiple mile steep hike would have been a no-go for a normal woman who is six months pregnant.
Yeah me being 6mo pregnant currently....I would not have even entertained the idea of a 3 mile hike 😂
And this changes your body for ever. I carried twins and even though I am very athletic slim and muscular now, I still have sciatica and it’s never been the same.
The Great Gatsby being OP's fav book is all I need to know. Especially them thinking the language is too complex for the average person, as if it isn't a commonly assigned reading as _introductory_ literature 😂
Even if she wasn’t pregnant, if someone is physically struggling to complete a hike, you don’t force them to push themselves
There are weighted fake pregnancy bellies. The OP with the wife who is six months pregnant needs to wear one of those "Empathy Belly" pregnancy simulators for a week. Then he needs to do the exact same hike wearing the fake weighted pregnancy belly. He needs to experience firsthand how awful and tiring pregnancy is.
A fake belly isn't going to take priority on nutrients, press into your diaphragm/ribs/lungs, or induce hormonal changes. And he doesn't sound super capable of empathy
Yeah I was just gonna say like the previous commenter. The pressure on my lungs was intense even before I got far along. Not to mention the pressure on your pelvis. I’m planning on trying for a third baby this summer and this is bringing back all the memories I don’t want. 😢
And he still wouldn’t know sadly. That’s why I’m happy Kentucky is making men pay child support during pregnancy now
Not all pregnancies are awful.
@@beanybabyrabie yeah, says a MAN... 😂
As someone who majored in English, I've met SO MANY people who pretty much read exclusively classic literature and think that they're better than everyone else for it, and the last post gave me flashbacks to all of those people. One of the most wild parts of that last post is, when it comes to the category of classic literature, I would argue that the language in The Great Gatsby is some of the easiest to understand and digest (because 20th century language is going to be a lot easier to digest than a lot of the older works in the classic literature category). The fact that OP said that she frequently tried to get Shelly into reading classics but also thought that the language might be too difficult for her is WILD
Another English major here. I almost laughed at how she presented the great gatsby as some book with super complicated language.
I'm not an English major but it's always been my strongest subject. I have no real differing opinion here. I just wanted to share that, while I enjoyed the book, it just felt so wordy, and I'd have to constantly stop, re-read and think about what I just read and imagine it playing out. But I also read and imagine stories in my mind. Idk if that's normal or not but I can relate if someone has difficulty with the book. The language itself isn't difficult, just how wordy it is and at times the metaphors which might be difficult for people with short attention spans. But I was also in Highschool when I read it so idk. I just wanted to share my two cents lol.
Also, have you read The Song of Achilles? If so, what did you think about it? Ciao!🎉
What we did as a class was listen to someone else reading the book who even gave the characters a personality!
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@@UnOpEnEdLoVeNoTeSSong of Achilles is one of my favorites! I was just re-reading it today, I definitely recommend it to others. It has Greek mythology, queer romance, action, and drama. It made me cry a couple times throughout. I like the writing style because it's fairly easy to process, but still vivid, with varied vocabulary. It definitely made me want to read more books by Madeline Miller after I was done.
Jfc that pregnancy story made my blood boil. My husband and our two sons went on a hike when I was about 5/6 months pregnant with our daughter. It took a huge toll on me neither of us realized hike was as steep as it was. My husband saw I was not doing well. He made sure we stopped every few minutes on our way back to the car. He did not care if it took us 6 hours to make it back. He was concerned about mine and his daughters wellbeing. I could not imagine him giving me that kind of shit while carrying HIS spawn. That poor woman. I see a divorce in the near future.
Gosh the pregnancy hike story made my BLOOD BOILLLLL😭😭. Like how clueless is the dude??? Bro has NO COMMON SENSE AND A BIGGG EGO. The fact his friends were More considerate than him to his wife, tells U alot☝️. Gosh, I'm so mad rn.
pfp is very appropriate
I thought everyone saved their favorite part of the meal for last?? Lady has clearly never heard of that and will blame a child for being upset that her food was taken away? Ridiculous.
Very neurotypical behaviour
i'd be curious about why the kid doesn't want to take his ADHD meds. everyone reacts differently to different meds and the wrong fit can give you really uncomfortable side effects like anxiety and loss of appetite :(
I mean even then, it could be a matter of him being a young kid and simply hating the way that they’re given to him. I mean cold medicine is one of the main things I have to take pills for because otherwise I can’t handle the taste. Honestly it sounds like more communication with the kid might be needed
this is so true dude. adhd kid who tried adderall here- i couldnt stand it for more than a week before mom took me back to the doctor because it made me burst into tears like i was being beaten if you so much as looked at me.
I was diagnosed with ADHD as a kid and my parents had me try so many medications so I could function better. As a kid, if it's not properly explained in a way the kid can understand, they can easily become upset. I thought something was wrong with me for the longest time so I often spat out the pill. It had such a toll on my childhood but I'm doing great now.
@@volcanicoperative8228I remember I also tried Adderall as a kid because the doctor said it'd be a good idea to increase the dosage to see better performance. However it turned out to be the most INTENSE medication I've ever taken and I became violent at times. I cried to my parents I just couldn't control myself and I was taken off within a month.
Yeah.. I treat my ADHD meds like gold lol. I feel so much better on them, perhaps he should try a different med? I was lucky because my first ADHD med was Vyvanse and it has “worked” for me since, other then not lasting very long.. 😅
My wife does a similar thing with her food due to her OCD. Let's say she's eating a bag of chips, she'll analyze each chip and eat them from worst to best. She puts the ones she deems the best aside and leaves them for last. If I want some of her chips I'll ask before she starts eating/analyzing them because once she has started it really throws off her system. (Ive also eaten her saved best on accident before and I feel so bad😅 cause it can sometimes ruin the snack for her)
🥹 After watching this video with such exasperating partners, it’s nice to see a comment about care and mindfulness towards a neurodivergent partner.
As a ND person, this comment makes me *so* happy🥹 it may seem like such a small thing, but small things often mean a lot and it warms my heart that you validate your wife’s system and do your best not to negatively impact it❤️
This comment made me happy, seriously it feels so refreshing to see a loving and caring partner unlike the assholes who were in the video. Keep being a good partner and validating your wife!!
@@Ghost-lt4sfI know I’m sitting here fuming and then I read this guys comment and it genuinely took the edge off lol
I have issues too but aren't you exhausted having to walk on eggshells like this with your mentally deficient partner? I'm the one with mental diagnosis in my relationship and my bf seems to be getting tired of me and has a short fuse. I'm trying so hard to change but it doesn't happen fast at all.
When you have a child you don't help your partner with taking care of it, you do YOUR JOB, that is TAKING CARE OF YOUR CHILD istg 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Right????
I love how he essentially said "i hate that i have to live the way my wife have been living since we had kids because i don't get to act how i used to before i became a parent." He doesn't even see how unfair and tiring it was before he was in her position. She literally had to make him walk in her shoes. And he is supposed to be a parent.🤦🏽
I read a science essay once that compared pregnancy’s effects on the body to cancer. Obviously there’s a different and happier outcome with pregnancy, but the point of the piece was that something growing inside your body takes an enormous toll on you physically. It’s not just gaining a few pounds. I really hope the horrible hiking hubby learns that.
Okay, so as an autistic person, I'm adding my thoughts here. Every single autistic person I know (~20, so I have a relatively large sample size) has a meticulous method for eating their food. This often has to deal with analyzing textures and whatnot to maximize enjoyment and minimize discomfort. (Ie, you would eat the best thing last, because you want to preserve that taste after the fact, and if you were to eat something you had to eat but hated the texture of for whatever reason, you would eat that first to get it out of the way.) There are other reasons I will spare you. This is EXTREMELY common. I would be furious if someone ruined my routine of eating food. Even using common sense, just don't steal a kid's food without asking, especially because autistic people's body language can be quite different from neurotypical people's, you cannot use the ordinary indicators.
I know that feeling, happen to me in high school the year before I left I was basically taunted by vice principal cause I wasn’t doing anything cause I was going through bit like depression? Basically I didn’t wanna do school I just wanted to think about stuff either story’s or anything that interests me but he was ruining that while being condescending dick which built up until my focus was throwing his desk phone so he couldn’t call me parents and hitting him, luckily I was weak so I did no damage to him but got restrained doubly lucky it was not a ground restraint
I have ADHD (possible autism too) and do this! I have a method to how I eat and best is always for last, or mixing stuff for the perfect bite. It’s also just plain rude to take someone’s food regardless of neurodivergent stuff! Just ask if they’re done with it when they come back, and I totally get the baby germ thing I NEVER touch food a baby/toddler touched
While I happen to have a tolerance for people messing up my food rituals, I do have them. I tend to alternate between different parts of the meal, while making sure the last thing I eat is the tastiest!
What's really a bummer is that mom may have just ruined her kids' friendship with Jenny and doesn't even seem to realize. It may seem like a small thing to an adult but she just broke Jenny's trust. Kids remember stuff like this.
I don't know if McDonalds is difficult about things like that, but I have a feeling she could've just gone to the counter and asked; 'Hey sir, can you take this 2 dollar bill and make 2 nuggets for my girl Jenny there? She is autistic and I gave away hers on accident.' And I bet they would've...right?
I was already pissed off when that man complained that his pregnant wife was “gaining weight,” bc OBVIOUSLY, and it just kept GETTING WORSE
“She’s an autistic, kinda quirky girl” tells me everything I need to know about the first guy. Manic Pixie Dream Girl core
I think he wrote artistic but Annemaries accent made it sound like he said "autistic" 😊
Story one = her wanting more than the bare minimum from him, makes him "see her differently". What a crock. He's conditioning her not to expect anything from him. She needs to run. Valentine's Day doesn't have to cost alot money.
Exactly! My favorite Valentine's gift is a stuffed mouse(looks like a bear but she's a mouse) that was $10 at most, probably less since it was back in 2002. She's still my most cherished possession.
Expensive Restaurants is not the bare Minimum, why doesn't she pay for it
@holosniffer7569 who said anything about expensive restaurants? The GF literally said a restaurant. And depending on where you live a cheap one could be less than 40 dollars for two people.
Besides, if I remember correctly she said they could go to a restaurant not that he had to pay for everything, they could split the bill
No one is talking about the LAST STORY!! The audacity and entitlement to even tell someone they should “regift” whatever they just got is WILD?? Buy it yourself if you like the hardcover so much. The book is not going to go anywhere, it’s not in a hurry to be read, and it’s okay if it stays unread for years because it can stay on a shelf until she has TIME. That seriously pissed me off. Not to mention that she thinks Shelby is stupid for being a mother like it reeeks of that.
Also, The Great Gatsby isn’t some difficult book, kids in school read it lol
Also it's THE GREAT GATSBY. Op is telling her friend she's too stupid to understand langauage in a book that's read in high school.
Not only that, but to be acting like The Great Gatsby is some super complicated book that you need to be smart to understand as if it isn’t one of the most common high school reading assignments.
Her argument already didn’t hold weight, but that made it even stupider to me
That's a joke I've made to my partner or close family members (because we inevitably end up sharing everything eventually)
I'd never say it with any trace of seriousness, though!
@@ginarosemontarano2784says a lot about her intelligence though, if she thinks thats an intellectually challenging read...💀💀💀
oh wow the algorithm gave me this one fresh outta the oven
lmao same
Same
i misread this as “oh wow the algorithm gave me a fresh pizza oven”😭
That's what I was thinking too lol
Fr
In reference to the chicken tender story:
honestly even if I *wasn’t* planning to eat the last chicken tender I would still be furious that someone took it upon themselves to make that decision for me while I was away from the table without asking me first. And then having the unmitigated *gall* to not only be upset when confronted about it, but to blame the child’s autism for her rightful frustration rather than, I dunno, taking some accountability for taking someone else’s food without permission?? I don’t blame the girl for not wanting it after a toddler had slobbered all over it, I wouldn’t want it either. That parent is the human embodiment of a musty sponge.
No fr like I'm not autistic and ON PRINCIPLE i will not stand for my shit stolen
As a woman in my third trimester, the hike story makes me shake with rage. Just climbing upstairs or walking across a parking lot can take a toll on your body when you are pregnant.
"Am I the a-hole for deliberately stealing food from a literal child?"
Gee, looks like the world may never know. >_>
Also, I really, really hope that story about the guy taking his pregnant wife on a hike is fake and if not, that she runs away from him as fast as possible, because chances are that situation will only get worse.
I’d like to point out that, from a social etiquette perspective, even if we removed all mentions of autism from the story about the chicken tender- it’s still bizarre behavior to fuck around with someone’s food, especially when they aren’t present! DOUBLY SO when they aren’t even related to you!
If I (an adult woman) was out with my friend and their family, and heard their family had messed with my food while I was in the restroom, I’d be weirded out and distrustful. That’s a very natural, primal response. Like Annamarie said, kids are people too and deserve respect- a kid is ALSO gonna feel weird when their food is fucked with- even in a minor way. Rant over!! Why can’t ppl be normal!!!!
Truth! This goes beyond autism, (edit: maybe I'm phrasing this weird, but I cant think how else to phrase it --- I'm autistic myself and have food routines but Idk if all autists do); this is a _mammal_ response. Social animals like us judge how trustworthy someone is based on their behavior around food.
Not Jenny's mom just had to apologize! That's literally it! "I'm so sorry, I didn't know you were saving it and I gave it to the baby. How about I get you another one?" Done. Jenny's going to react how she's going to react, but the adult in the situation would have given her the consideration she deserves as a person.
Yeah really just apologize, it was a simple mistake and should be easy to fix (and even if she didn’t want a new chicken tender it would still go a long way to try and show she cared about Jenny’s feelings)
the hiking trip guy just outed himself as being the dumbest POS ever like does he not understand anything about pregnancy..??? or sympathy for his wife??? i feel so bad for that poor mother
So basically, she never expects much and is happy to do whatever, but the ONE DAY of the year she wants something, it's a bad thing?
For men who want to wonder what feeling pregnant is like - imagine your bladder is 10times the size and pressing on your other organs constantly and you can’t pee to relieve the feeling. (And that’s not mentioning half of it).
I could not be more angry about the pregnant wife one. I am currently 3 months pregnant with my second. And I find that a lot of men just know nothing about pregnancy and the toll it takes. Your body prioritizes the baby in every case, it will take your energy, your nutrients, your blood, everything. I would not be able to hike this far along let alone 6 months. That poor woman, my god.
Right?! I only gained 17 pounds with my first pregnancy and even early on I had shortness of breath with many activities. Despite eating healthy, exercising throughout, and not gaining much weight I still got gestational diabetes in my last trimester and it was a struggle. I had to spread my carbs throughout the day or my blood sugar would spike, but if I didn’t eat enough it would drop and I’d get super sweaty and feel like I was going to faint at work
You are right, men know very little about pregnancy. I'm pregnant with my first and am astounded at how my husband knows nothing lol. But...even with him being clueless to what exactly is happening to me and to our baby he knows it is hard work for my body and is always saying that he appreciates me and is so thankful for me and what I'm going through to grow our baby. You can be clueless and not know the details but you can also have a brain and heart and know that pregnancy is hard despite not knowing the details.
@@kelseylash23 The Try guys made a video, with men trying it out. Maybe that gives him some insight? (Insight as in...clear info.)
I’m currently 8 months pregnant. I get winded and dizzy from just standing for too long. That story makes my blood boil.
You should make him do some basic research.
i just wanted to point out AITD isnt like its own subreddit, its like a sub sub of AITA where users compile the most evil AITA posts where they are so blatently the asshole its infuriating how they dont see it, they also repost in case the story gets taken down ^^
theres another one about the opposite where the user is so in the right its insane they might even thing theyre an asshole--- amitheangel
@@ezrah6200I haven’t been on Reddit for a bit so I might be wrong, but I thought Am I the Angel was compiled of posts from AITA where the OP is clearly in the wrong but writes as if they’re very much in the right? I might be wrong but that’s what I though?
@@abigailgnome2117 thats what amithedevil is im pretty sure? i also havent been on reddit in a while but from what i saw of amitheangel it was typically the opposite where theyre in the right but write as if theyre in the wrong
That's crazy because the first two certainly aren't the devil, based on the info given there's plenty of room for conversation.
@@ezrah6200isn’t amitheangel usually satire? I honestly don’t know
As a long time lover of nature and especially trail hiking, that post is terrible. When your six months in it is great to get exercise, especially cardio to combat insomnia, but why would you do it to reduce fat? She’s pregnant. Cisgender women are biologically built to add extra fat during this time. Also, why hiking? When she might have dryer skin than normal especially around the stomach why expose that organ to mosquito and other bug bites? The water needed to hydrate may vary depending on temperature, so unless you’re carrying that around I can imagine she would probably be miserable.
When I was pregnant me and my husband went to hike the Guadalupe Mountains trail. I was a little less than three months at the time. I really wanted to go for my birthday that year, but by my birthday it would have been very hot and I would have been about six months pregnant. So we decide to go early. I was doing pretty good, but once we got a little more that half way up my husband started to complain that his knee hurt and it was too difficult for him to keep going. Obviously, I was pretty upset, but I still went back down with him. He said I could keep going but that seem to dangerous for me, because I was pregnant. I still had a good trip and hope I can go back someday with my son. Anyway, everyones body is different, and that guy is definitely an asshole. Early in my pregnancy I was so energized, but by the end I didn't want to get off the couch.
@@POTUSBrown Thank you for sharing that. I was merely sharing medical data mixed with anecdotal examples from family members, so it's nice to see an additional healthy relationship thrown into the mix.
Her body is working the HARDEST while pregnant. It’s like running a marathon on the body to grow a baby. Men really should take women’s health classes, specifically for pregnancy and post partum
@@ADR-xn6dg I agree. It could provide a necessary reality check.
@@ADR-xn6dgI think they should be forced to wear a pregnancy suit that matches the trimester of their pregnant partner and be shocked by those contraction simulators lol
"It must be an autism thing" *_reeks_* of ableism
I am six months pregnant and the hiking story triggered me so much. Ughhh the RAGE 😡 what an absolute dingus. He will be horrible during the labor process and post pregnancy stage. I feel so angry for his wife.
The Great Gatsby is a freshman text. I cannot believe she thinks she's some avid bookie because of it?
“my favorite books? oh uh… the great gatsby, catcher in the rye, uh… the grapes of wrath, of mice and men… to kill a mockingbird… im such a nerd!!!1!”
Wouldn't doubt she shits on modern literature, too. Many, if not most, of those kinds do.
Seems like something this creator would do in high school so like… last year 😂
If it's her favorite book, doesn't she already have a copy? Why the need to claim her friend's copy?
@@beanybabyrabie haha she's young...she knows better than u do tho
I love these stories because sometimes on aita it’s kinda boring because a lot of people aren’t the asshole and I personally read these stories because I love drama filled stories
My OB-GYN told me when I was pregnant the first time that I needed to be mindful of ligaments and tendons stretching and being looser in this condition. They said that I could quite easily sprain an ankle and be laid up for weeks if I wasn't careful and this a**hole from the second story is trying to take his 6 month pregnant wife on a 3 mile hike that he said was quite treacherous and steep in places.
Edited to correct it was the third one, not second.
I feel like the only thing keeping Jenny from having a meltdown was the fact OP shifted the blame to her kid, because you can't expect a baby to know better, but an adult you feel safe with betraying your trust? That's a recipe for disaster. And its also important to note that holding in a meltdown like that can physically hurt: for me it manifests in headaches, and that usually means I'll hit my head to make the pressure go away. I really hope her mom was able to make it up to her and she was able to recover in a safe environment, public meltdowns are the worst :(
Book AH: I keep trying to get Shelly to read classical literature, but she says she's too busy and that annoys me.
Shelly: (gets a copy of a classical book for her birthday and possibly shows interest in reading it)
Book AH: She's too stupid to read that book, she should give it to me!
AITD seems so hillariously victimizing the fact you dont really choose if theyre the "devil" or not like aita 😂😂
😂😂😂
I physically RECOILED when he said "it must be an autistic thing." I'm autistic and felt disgusted by that comment. It's just a human thing??? Most people don't appreciate their food being taken without their permission. Buy the kid another happy meal, Jenny doesn't deserve to have her food stolen. I totally get why she'd be upset. Sometimes I want to cry when my family steals my food when I'm hungry (my brother has a huge appetite and eats everything in the house) and if I was a kid Jenny's age, I'd be even more upset. The way that OP words their post just screams condescending, like it's a stupid thing to get upset about and that's why it must be an autistic thing. I might be reading too far into that, but that's what it reads like from my personal experience.
I’m not autistic and definitely save the best bite for last, and I’ve also had it stolen before 😅 I’d be upset too. Ppl lack empathy, but being even less empathetic bc the person is autistic is making me so mad.
The pregnant woman needs to get out of that relationship IMMEDIATELY! This is pretty blatant narcissism ("you made ME look bad" with no concern or empathy for her condition at all is pretty telling), he will gaslight you and emotionally manipulate you into staying in this toxic relationship. That's what they do. Leave now!
not the armchair diagnosis
@@dovesraven not the pointless comment
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man you can just say hes abusive without further stigmatizing a mental disorder that people have.
no, @dovesraven is right.
i fucking hate that asshole too, but please dont go around calling egoist, abhorrent behaviour "blatant narcissistic personality disorder" or any personality disorder for that matter.
personality disorders are extremely complex and stigmatised and are as painful to live with as they are to witness.
you can hate an internet stranger, and i mean shit you can want them dead, but with all due respect its pretty irresponsible to plant little comments in heads that being a terrible person and having npd are interchangeable. cluster b disorders in particular often come from abuse. that guy might be an animal but npd folks arent.
One of the main things I gauge in a partner is whether they will slow down to walk with me or bitch about my speed. Tells you so much so fast.
some people (particularly neurodivergent people or people will restless leg syndrome) really struggle to slow down their pace, especially to match others.
The Great Gatsby was written in America in the 20th century, and is very common required reading in high schools. The language is not going to be difficult for anyone lol
Me and my partner are the kind of couple who don’t always observe Valentine’s Day. We’ll usually get each other something small like chocolates or a little patch or pin, but we don’t worry a lot about having to “prove our love” with fancy dinners and expensive gifts (plus the fact that we’re both full-time students). Being able to acknowledge that is perfectly valid, but ONLY if both partners agree on it beforehand… and as long as one party isn’t so cynical and dismissive about it like the first OP.
Not only that, she was specific about what she wanted, it wasn't like she hoped he would pick up the hint
I don't celebrate Valentine's day as a testament of my love for my partner.
But we do go out for the festivities cause it's fun and still makes for a nice date night. It's like atheists celebrating Christmas. It's tradition, it's nice to give gifts to family and friends, the festivities are fun- not because they necessarily believe in Christianity. I've even heard of ppl of other faiths celebrating Christmas. To imply that it should be beneath his girlfriend is why he's definitely TAH
yeah my gf and I often don't buy each other christmas gifts because we spend so much of the year buying things we think the other would like or buying it ourselves that the most we could really get for each other is little knickknack junk we wouldn't keep.
If both parties should agree on it then OP is allowed to say no.
I do think tho that if he didn’t wanted to splurge, there were other ways to handle it, like instead of going out he could make her dinner.
Honestly IMO it isn’t even the fact that he doesn’t celebrate Valentine’s Day that’s bad, but the fact that his girlfriend’s opinion of Valentine’s Day is automatically wrong just because he doesn’t agree with it. Like bro didn’t even try to compromise or even explain that money was kinda tight, he just started judging. Bro’s the AH in that one for sure.
I relate a little too much to the kid with autism, I’m undiagnosed as of now but I’m 99% sure I’m on the spectrum, and I have very specific ways of eating food, and if anyone interferes, I am genuinely bothered
I’m also very defensive over my chicken tendies
@@xx_MatteoUwU_xx real
I am the same. Pretty sure I am austic too, taken a number of the tests and done lots of research on it already too. I also eat my food in a particular way, eating my least favorite food to favorite for last.
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@@starkid_rocks Wallace indeed
I imagine people typing these out in hysterical-teary eyed- face red and steam coming out of their ears or as a causual family vlog
The Valentines Day one really stuck with me. My boyfriend and I aren’t HUGE on the holiday but we still have dinner together, last year we just got chinease takeout and watched a movie. It fun to just show each other how much you love each other’s company ❤
I always saw it as an excuse to go all-out and would present my (now ex) with a lovely handmade card, a papermaché anatomical heart with a treasurehunt leading to it, or a big painting with his favorite moviestar on it. I don't know, I would spend hours and hours on it.
And most what I got back, was a tiny piece of paper that had a very, very inapropriate word on it. We were both disappointed that evening.
I’m very much a “time is a social construct” kinda person, but my bf has always made Valentine’s Day so special. He wrote me the sweetest card this year that is my favorite thing he’s ever given me. It’s about the fact that I’m thinking of him and how to show him I love him all the time, and this shows that he does the same about me. It’s human to want to feel loved
Bro I'm neurodivergent & I CONSTANTLY save the best bite for last. Especially with things like chicken tenders & nuggets, I always save at least one to have as the last bite in order to savor it. If I wasn't such a walking doormat, I would absolutely break down if I was in Jenny's shoes. And "it must be an autistic thing" is CRAZY, I had to do a double take when I heard that. The AUDACITY for someone who isn't autistic & likely doesn't know anyone who's autistic other than Jenny & her mom is absolutely wild to me.
I like that you said walking doormat, I've referred to myself as a walking trauma response
the last one is sooo funny to me because op thinks they're so high and mighty and intelligent because they read "classics", then follows it up with atrocious grammar and a lack of empathy for literally anyone around her. The lack of empathy is an important point, mostly because the great gatsby is a story about why you SHOULDNT judge the people around you (among other things obviously), where the main characters are generally awful people who lack empathy and JUDGE EVERYONE AROUND THEM. she doesn't even know how to properly analyze her favorite book.
I have had discussions with people that have looked at my book-cabinet and decided it needed more classics or 'interesting' books, but my books are usually philosophical or about emotion (a depressed hedgehog experiencing a mental breakdown and selfharming when a squirrel comes to the rescue to show kindness) and it is quite poetically written and really good.
I notice that most of the 'classics' always involve oldfashioned standards, sexism, gruesome violence or racism or all of the beforementioned and only sometimes they have a good part in between, but I'll have already heard that through tv-shows, movies, etc.
In my life, I don't want to know what a maffiaboss feels like when he murders his victims or why a man enjoys revenge or a woman wants to (supposedly, by the male writer) be ravished and emotionally destroyed by a rich and tall man with a big pencilcase.
I would rather read about the Germans (I'm Dutch, they're my favorite neighbours) and comedy, wordjokes, word-origins, philosophy (emotional, philosophical stories) and art/craftswork.
Torment, abuse, pain and screaming is already happening enough in my nightmares and flashbacks. I feed my mind lovely things, unless they are worth it (like my favorite movie Das Experiment, which involved a shitload of abuse and pain, but that one gets a pass, because it's not a book.)
@@Widdekuu91now you’re being like the Redditer by implying you’re better than people who read classics because you read books that they don’t. You’re not any better and this odd game of one-upping each other in the book community needs to stop. Books are read for entertainment. Sometimes learning. It’s not a morality debate.
@@Ishouldnthavebeensopublic
I never told them what to read though. That was my problem with their behaviour..coming into my house and telling me to read more harsh material.
Good gods, I was the one who was miscalculating how far I could go when i was pregnant my partner would have never considered forcing me to hike. Our normal daily walks were cut a lot shorter towards the end because of the back pain, foot pain and the amount of trouble i had breathing.
Never once did he insult me for not being at my previous fitness.
Honestly that girl needs to run, she'll be raising the child on her own either way.
Yes. He's using her as a trophy to show off to his friends, he's not good enough to cut it as a father.
I'm definitely not autistic but I'd probably have a meltdown if someone just straight up stole my food and then had the audacity to give me back the last tiny bite and be like "Well, here, now that someone else's mouth bacteria is all over it, here's a crumb." OP apparently never learned basic common respect because it's somehow Jinny's difference that makes this situation bad and definitely not OP's assholishness.
As an autistic person- actually i save alot of safe foods for last so I can keep my food down. Otherwise i start getting hyperfixated on textures and I can spit it up without meaning to
That one about the little autistic girl thing just… pissed me off so much. As an autistic person, even if this kid wasn’t autistic, it’s fucking rude to take someone else’s fucking food. What the fuck? It has nothing to do with being autistic. The fuck? It was pointless to even mention that that kid was autistic. The vibe I get is that op wants to seem like such a nice person for taking care of an autistic child, because who else would do that? Oh she’s so caring! Jesus.
The one about the dad complaining about having to be responsible for his children -
I, a minor still in school, get up before 6 every day for school and have been for many years now.
He needs to start taking care of his kids instead of being one
From the way that story sounded, he does take care of his daughter every morning but his wife was asking him to wake up earlier to also take care of their son. There really isnt enough info provided in that story to make any judgements one way or the other.
If his wife was asking him to sacrifice his sleep schedule because she wasnt capable of giving her son medication, then that's her being the asshole. Especially because we really dont know what his work schedule is like.
If hes just refusing becuase his idea of taking care of his kids is driving them to school and the wife is doing everything else, then yeah fuck him.
The problem is drawing conclusions from a lack of info and inferring the worst from the info provided seems unnecessarily judgy.
@Tyler.8046 yeah u right, just thought it was silly that a grown man was complaining sm about having to wake up at 6 in the morning lol
@@jjjasperr maybe, but without additional info it's really hard to say, but they're both currently taking care of at least one kid. It's possible the 6:30 kid is more challenging and maybe waking up a bit earlier to assist could be helpful.
But if they're both taking care of a child that lines up with their schedule and it's just the medication problem, then finding a way to build the habit for their child to take the medication early seems like the proper way to handle the situation.
@@Tyler.8046 We have enough info. A wife asked her husband to coparent and he’s whining about it. Dad needs to be parenting _both_ of his kids. He’s been sleeping in while his wife is a single parent to *their* son (the kid’s not just “her son” like you phrased it).
What makes him an even bigger asshole is that his spouse even had to ask him for help. Dad should have already been awake and parenting at 6:30a from the jump but he _definitely_ should have been doing that the moment he learned his spouse was frustrated and struggling with a parenting task.
Instead, dad ignored the needs of his kid and his spouse until his wife had to ask him to actually parent _both_ of his children. Then he had the audacity to tell the internet that he didn’t think it was “fair” that he had to wake up and coparent with his wife. Gimme a break.
@@jjjasperr Nah, you were right with your original post. Dad needs to parent _both_ of his children. He always should have been waking up at 6:30a with his wife and taking care of his kids-plural.
Instead, he’s been sleeping in, enjoying an extra 90 minutes to himself in the evening, and skipping out on parenting his son-which is currently a frustrating challenge. Now _that_ arrangement was completely unfair to his spouse, kids, and family as a unit. What’s fair is dad waking up and coparenting with his wife.
I bet the dude that was complaining about his pregnant wife "letting herself go" is the same kind of dude who gets "man colds" lol
That “it’s an autistic thing” line is gross because it feels like OP doesn’t see her as a human being. Like, she can’t understand that Jenny has her own personality and reasons behind her actions like every human does, it must just be because she’s autistic.
And to top that off by dismissing their emotions as an overreaction? To be so confused about this situation and so utterly unable to understand why someone would be upset at her doing something so inconsiderate? It’s like she doesn’t view anyone at all as a human being with their own emotions. I don’t know if OP acts that way because Jenny is autistic, because she’s a child, or if OP doesn’t have any empathy and consideration for anyone at all, but either way, it’s bad.
And I should go turn off my phone and go outside because I am writing way too many words for a rant about a Reddit post
The comments normally make some of these posts even worse. It tips posts over from 'slightly the AH' to 'definitely the devil'. Have you see the post where a guy is complaining about his pregnant 'roommate'?
They're so much more than roomates, aren't they?
Is that the one where the guy called his pregnant wife a "roommate" because she's "not acting like a wife" or am I misremembering things?
@@damos762 that's the one
@@runningdowntherails6398 it was his wife but 'she was acting more like a roommate since she got pregnant'
that hiking story CANNOT be real
I dont believe in violence but that pregananant story has me ON EDGE. 😂
Same, also with the Shelly story
"Preganananant" lol
Lol pregannanant. You remind me of Yahoo answers and those pregnant questions. How they never could spell pregnant right
@@mrs.w8193Yes! my brain refuses to say it correctly after watching that video with all the variations. Partner and I say "pregananant" and "pregonate" the most lol
@@Ghost-lt4sfmy favorite is pregante
About the "Lazy, pregnant wife" story, one of the reasons I broke off my last relationship is because I'm sure this exact same thing would have happened to me. Already had a similar thing happen when I was very sick and my ex wanted to go "for a short walk", and kept asking me to "jusk keep going a little bit more", untill it was around 4km and I broke down crying because I could breathe anymore. Fun memories...
5:13 honestly if you don't even have the money to take your partner out on a picnic in a nice park then you shouldn't be dating imo
The “Valentines Day is made up” argument always rubbed me the wrong way cause like so was Mothers/Fathers Day and nobody complains about spending money on those days 😂
Also you’re comment on “The most innocent titles are always the most fucked up stories” is bang on.
I heard one that was titled “AITA for taking a longer route to spend more time with her?” I assumed the dude took a turn and was in the car with her for like 20 minutes instead of 10.
Nope. They were on a hike and he had them going in circles for HOURS. He still doesn’t understand why he was kicked out of the hiking group.
Oh wow, ur right about the different treatment for similar holidays - the romance one isn't as much respected.
The story you mentioned almost sounds like he was trying to exhaust his victim so he could attack her, like wtf don't play mind games with people in the wilderness.