thank you. this comment has changed my life. My whole outlook on everything that exists in this world, in fact even in the entire universe. I can never look at anything I know the same way ever again. This comment represents emotions most humans could never comprehend. But I can. Thanks to this comment I have been awakened to many things previously thought unimaginable. Thank you.
She comes off as a person who thinks of non-straight relationships as nothing but a party trick, like a drunk girl who will do anything for attention: "Would you guys dare me to kiss another woman? What if I turned on my bird? What if I ran over a gas pump and drove into a lake, omg I'm so crazy!"
There are a lot of problems with the bird situation, one part in particular that makes me upset is how she conflates "I can sexually arouse my bird" with "My bird is sexually attracted to me" Animals (including human beings!) can have responses to sexual stimulation without WANTING that stimulation. Arousal is not consent, and it is truly disgusting and bizarre that I am making this comment about A BIRD.
Exactly, lots of r4pe v1ctims have orgasms because is a body reaponse to try to cope with that situation, and they feel guilty about it because how society always support abusers
I felt nauseated when she said “he’s sexually attracted to me” and went on to molest her bird in the most sincere meaning of that word. This is so so so bad. She implied that the screaming stopped eventually as well because he’s sexually stimulated. This woman sees sex as something..strange. She sees it as a fun trick. This is so so so weird the way she views men, women, and animals? Sexually? Like? She seems to think everyone wants her sexually and it’s not cute. It’s disgusting and frankly I get some really off vibes from her. Like there’s something wrong there. She doesn’t care.
I agree completely. And as for what ELSE is wrong and off with her, she might be attracted to /sexualizing even more beings that can not give consent to sexual activities. It wouldnt surprise me. That in itself, is one thing, but my gut feeling tells me she would be someone who purchases illegal material made in szenarios that can only be described as torture (and human trafficking, and all sorts of @buse), where you can see the souls of the victims shatter. I had a partner like that once.. I left. I did not tell the police yet because I am scared and need to move first. That person was an absolute psychopath. But I began reading after that, and I realised how important it is to differentiate between someone having disturbed desires and someone acting after them in a way that, directly or indirectly, actively or passively, supports fkcing destroying people for the rest of their life. I was a victim, too, but not in a organized or ritualized setting. Sadly, I was focused on copying the feeling that my violator, sparked in me initially. So I am ashamed to say that, I had a few partners that where kind of like that, anti-social sadists, domestic violence offenders and perpetrators of some type, animal abusers or child molesters.. She seems similarish in her behaviour from what little I got to see today.
@@StandAloneSoulI hope you're able to speak out against your abu$er once you've moved safely away. I know after you've been able to process why you're settling for cruel people you have a chance to choose differently. Best wishes on your path to healing.
my uncle was murdered by a drunk driver and now my mom has lifetime trauma. its so easy to stay where you are and enjoy being drunk, then drive when you’re sober enough. thank you tara
I mean how can that not be seen as bestiality...? I've never had a bird but I believe those saying she is purposefully arousing (sexually interacting) a bird. I've read many stating it can mentally harm the bird as well, poor thing... 💔
As an animal owner, I get extremely anxious if my cats so much as start throwing up (they have stomach sensitivity, and I know that, but still) so if something like THAT were to happen, I would lose my absolute F***ing S*** Like, if my friends found out I did that, I would rather they take them away from me than have them stay in a situation like that.
As a queer girl I can’t watch most lesbian adult films because they feel fake and performative and as you said they feel like they are made for the male gaze
This may be because I'm on the spectrum, but I never even knew until recent years that lesbian porn was catered to straight men. I can only watch lesbian porn because it's got a lot more soft, sensual, safe energy while straight porn is really aggressive and upsetting to me. 💀 Again, it's probably the tism.
@@AsmodeuslvrTbh, lesbian pron that's catered to men is actually stereotyped to be way more aggressive than content made by wlw for wlw, and is heavily focused on penetration and roughness. You've probably been watching the right people, or maybe straight pron is just so aggressive that even lesbian pron can't compete, so it ended up giving you that perception. That, or I find a lot of people are able to stomach man-man violence or woman-woman violence but not woman-man, because they're most familiar or connected to stories of straight male aggression and just don't like seeing men be in powerful positions over women. That's also a thing.
On the bird situation: yes, parrots can be sexually stimulated by petting them anywhere below the neck, especially the back and under the wings. Essentially, only the parrot's mate would touch it below the neck, thus when an owner touches the bird on the back, it begins to see its owner as its sexual mate instead of a friend/flockmate. The bird then expects the owner to do sexual mate things like make a nest, actually mate with them, and have eggs. When these things inevitably don't happen (cuz that would be weird), the animal gets frustrated at the perceived rejection and behavioral problems can begin. Note that the petting below the neck mainly applies to parrots; petting a domestic bird like a chicken or pigeon on the back is okay. Also, African grey parrots are so incredibly intelligent that they quickly begin to show behavior problems (like plucking their feathers or constantly screaming) very quickly if they are not raised properly. To me, it seems she bought this very expensive (thousands of dollars) animal on a whim because it seemed cute or cool. She even admitted she did not do any research before impulse buying an animal as intelligent as a 2 year old human that will live about ~60 years. Its incredibly sad and a reason why so many parrots end up abandoned.
I don't get why it's even allowed to to have just 1 parrot. They are really social and need someone to socialize with properly and humans can't do it 100% (basically a giant language barrier).
@@LordOfElysium in my opinion people talk about the fetishization of gay couple WAY more. also it's not really a competition, the comment was talking about sapphics but both scenarios are wrong and completely inappropriate.
When she said she's ok with hooking up with girls but not guys while in a relationship because "girls are magical and perfect" my eyes rolled so far back into my head that I saw another universe
Okay im a gay dude and im genuinely confused whats wrong with this? I perfectly understand i cannot possible relate, not saying it isn't wrong just saying I don't have the experience yall have and can't but want to understand the issue. To me it sounds like she's saying women are more special then men? Based on everything else she says I wouldn't take it that way, but that sentence alone sounds like a compliment to women? Again purely curious, im guilty of getting myself in trouble just because I want more knowledge so forgive me if this is rude 😅
@@larkasmr1128because it seems like she’s (consciously or not) pushing the idea that sapphic relationships aren’t valid relationships. If she views kissing other men as cheating but not kissing other women, it means she doesn’t view wlw relationships/interactions as valid or “real” in the same way that heterosexual relationships are. It doesn’t count as cheating because it’s not serious like it would be with a man. She may be phrasing it in a way that sounds like a compliment, but that’s the sentiment behind it.
doesn’t she realize that some people work the night shift, which might be why they’re in bed with the shades closed at 11 am? also not everyone works a shift from 9 to 5.
Honestly, the way she was able to s*xually assault her bird ON CAMERA and still has a platform but because I wear a costume and draw anthropomorphic animals I automatically get harassed and accused of assaulting animals enrages me. We need better laws around animal abuse, she should be in prison point blank period.
Fr tho like SHE'S the one LITERALLY sexualizing and harassing _an actual animal_ and no one fucking bats an eye but oh GOD FORBID someone just likes to draw humanized animals. This world is so backwards 🗿
As a polyam person, consent is the most important part of a polyam relationship. And her previous bf wasn't insecure. He didn't want his partner to kiss other people, girls or boys. If you want an open relationship, ASK for it. But don't complain if you ask it and the other person says no. THEN DON'T DATE PEOPLE WHO ARE MONO.
LITERALLYYY and like airing him out like that is so disrespectful like he’s allowed to have his boundaries and it’s just a good sign that he sees women as women not sexual objects
It reads like that what she did do. This other guy who she thought was weird for not getting off on her lesbian kisses didn't develop into a romantic relationship, and that's probably for the best for him!
This. I am Polyam too. Realized it when I was in a relationship with my ex 2 years ago as I started likeing my best friend too. At first I knew it wasn't fine with him that I date both of them so I wanted to break up but I guess he thought I would choose him so he then said I could date both of them but ya it wasn't fine with him so he did some horrible stuff. Communication, honesty and consent are the most important things here.
Same here. My boyfriend is mono- but he’s fine that I’m polyam as long as I communicate and keep him in the discussions. He’ll let me know if anything changes and we go back to just being friends. Communication and Consent are KEY and the difference between cheating and Polyam and Open relationships (I’ve seen opens work but again it’s consent and communication that makes them work along with things like protection and frequent STI tests)
holy shit i did not think she kept fucking doing it after she knew i thought she just treated it nonchalant and making stupid jokes. i seriously grabbed my mouth when she just does it on camera. christ
Hearing you as a lesbian say that being bi with a preference for men is valid makes me want to cry. 😭 I see a good amount of biphobia in the LGBTQ community so when I find people like you on RUclips and in person it makes me feel normal and actually welcome.
@@AleTitan why do I feel like this story is fake? Such a person sounds so absurd that I can't fathom they even really exist. They sound like caricatures.
@@idktbh.2421 I can’t speak for this person but I have met multiple lesbians who would say something like that. It sucks but quite a few lesbians are either terfs or biphobic. (saying this as a lesbian btw)
I think a lot of people online fail to differentiate between understanding that what you do in private isn't necessarily what offends people, but how you present it to your audience. If she and her partner privately explored this with consenting parties then that's their business, but she instead platformed it in a way that made sapphics collateral damage. THAT'S what made people angry and she's acting deliberately obtuse to avoid acknowledging that how she speaks about this issue on her large platform affects others.
As a bird owner, the way she treats marty really pisses me off. birds are extremely sensitive creatures, prone to self harm and self destruction, ESPECIALLY african greys (which is what Marty is). She claims she loves him more than anything, but she pretends to be his mate and then separates herself from him, causing him extreme stress, hence the screaming. Her behavior will encourage bad behavior in him, increase his stress levels, worsen his hormones, and make his mental health absolutely miserable. African greys are very intelligent and long lived birds, prone to depression, boredom, and feather plucking. If Tara continues to treat her bird like this, I'd say the chance of him developing horrible behavioral problems and plucking himself bald is very high. I hope she's stopped tormenting him and that she has a good avian vet. Also not to be biased, but fuck her for getting such a high effort, complex animal as a pet with NO RESEARCH. A grey's average lifespan in captivity is 60 years, some living up to 80. They're basically permanent children. You don't just impulse buy a fucking toddler. Poor Marty. Her love aint worth shit.
I can't believe anyone would get an exotic pet with 0 research, especially when you've never had that animal before. It just seems NATURAL, especially in the 21st century when a Google is fingertips away. Blows my mind. Her brain is really running on low processing power for sure.
Thank you for this info - sexually abusing any living thing is not okay and has a negative impact. Poor Marty. She should not be allowed to have animals. Disgusting. Like being ignorant is one thing, but after being confronted with this information you decide to lean into the abusive behavior? Ugh.
IM SO GLAD YOU SAID THIISSS. People need to be educated on bird before they even go to look for one to adopt. They need to be educated on the erotic zones too.
I don't even have a parrot and I know not to touch their back.. Tho, to be fair, I had a parrot-hyperfocus for a while, was watching parrot RUclipsrs non-stop and memorized as many parrots as I could, cuz I really wanted one.. Was leaning heavy on sun conure, cuz they're little rays of sunshine and seems to be considered chill and novice-friendly.. But I never got one.. Cuz parrots doesn't fit my inconsistent, single, ADHD-life.. Also, I already work at a daycare, I don't need to look after a toddler for the next 30 years at home, as well.. I don't want kids, why would I want a forever-kid with wings? Also, I knew I was gonna get a cat and I'd really rather not take that risk.. (And also, our local vet is already sus as hell, I don't even wanna think about how far away the closest aviarian vet would be..)
She just seems like she’s actually a bad person. Very narcissistic, self centered, and definitely not empathetic to how she can affect others. People who don’t learn/grow in any way really just seem like there’s no hope at all for them. Honestly sickening 🤢
She reeks of “I grew up with rich parents that coddled me and have never had to face the consequences of my actions for that reason” vibes. Money has always fixed all of her problems because she’s always had plenty of it. The worst kind of people.
thank you for spreading awareness about the 50/50 bisexual myth. i'm not by any means saying that people with 50/50 attraction don't exist, that would be absurd, but i know i certainly don't, and my attraction and prefrences have been in flux constantly over the 15 years i've identified as bisexual. i think people need to open their minds to the full spectrum of human sexuality a bit more, there's no way billions of people are going to fit into a few narrow catagories! as always, you're the best. much love ❤
As a black bi person, she frustrates me to no end. She only gets away with soooo much and you know *why* she does. Hate the sexuality discourse around her too and it makes me feel almost terrible to be myself. Anyways, love your accent/videos and hope you’re having a good day ^_^
As another black bi person, I understand and agree with you, biphobia is so common and I can't seem to understand why that is, like, what are we doing to you?
harry styles also disappointed me w digital black face and antisemetic behaviours like really be safe out there bc typically yt ppl let so much shit slide when it comes to celebrities JUST BC HE WORE A DRESS DOESN'T MEAN HES PROGRESSIVE
im SO happy you're holding her accountable at 17! I was so ready to hear "but she was 17 she was a kid" I'm so tired of hearing that as a teenager myself, we're all mentally mature enough to know right from wrong, especially with something as blatantly obvs as black face.
As an older person I think it’s hard to remember what we knew or not at the time. I am 30 now. I ASSUME i knew blackface was wrong when I was 17, I certainly never did it, but I don’t even remember if it was a concept I was fully aware of at the time. You are totally right though, even if she didn’t know it’s up to her to be accountable now.
Tough one, things have changed SO much. When I was in highschool the N word was rampant cause people discovered Rnb and honestly until I was 18 I didn’t hear anything about racism and never saw it openly (my school literally had a few Asian kids and maybe 2 black people out of 400.) When the BLM movement happened it definitely opened my eyes to what happens and how fucked highschool was by people just saying things like that. Plus kids can be raised by racists and so that can be something to consider too. It’s definitely not okay but in 2023 we have more awareness so I hope we all collectively do better.
Love how she tells everyone to "take a joke" when she's molesting her bird but taking a joke suddenly becomes a lot less cool when the joke is at her expense
the fact that had she just said she was heteromantic bisexual (only romantically attracted to men, sexually attracted to everyone.) none of this would've happened. but she made it all about her boyfriend instead.
I agree I had a lesbian Friend who was only sexually attracted to men but romantically and sexually to women, she wanted me to be her first male sexual partner but her gf didn't want me and her involved that way.... I forgot what she called it thank you and others for letting me know what it was called
The comments of a tik tok I saw was FULL of people saying "heteroromatic" is homophobic, fetishizing lesbians and co-opting the ace spectrum. I thought I'd missed some discourse but now I am confused...
@@jadec3959 same I also saw a lot of comments completely missing the point of how she was actually fetishizing lesbians and instead focused on how the problem is actually the "heteroromantic" part lol. some people on twitter were making fun of it and saying it's not a real thing and its just homophobia. it's also not coopting the ace spectrum because it has nothing to do with sexuality, it's to do with the romantic orientation side of things. romantic and sexual orientations are separate for a lot of people and as someone in both aro and ace communities, we of all people should know that, lol.
as someone who nearly died in a car accident in November and was in the trauma unit for a month and am now permanently wheelchair bound cuz of someone under the influence hit my friends car, seeing Tara joke so openly abt what she did rlly angers me cuz wtaf
@@lemonywater2979 I'm recovering well, still some problems with my heart but I'm in rehab and currently trying to walk again without support (walking frame and AFOs) :3
@@theophilusomhurchu4438 So proud of you! I know I'm just a random internet stranger but what you're going through sounds insanely difficult, and you're an absolute badass.
Imagine literally sexually harassing another living being then being like “they’re in love with me” 😳 this girl literally needs to be isolated in prison. Disgusting
I've seen people try to start that conversation but it always seems to end badly into comments like "it's healthy not harmful!" and "it's normal to watch!" and "it's not cheating" and so on and zero problems are talked about. I'm assuming people are too dependent on it, even while in relationships, and rather turn a blind eye to all the horrors and bad effects of it. It doesn't matter do you bring up human trafficking or social effects. It's already too far gone
@SneekySnixx exactly! I saw a docuseries about escorts in Vegas and this lady said she was trafficked into it with the false idea of being a model.... It was really sad to hear her story. She goes into detail about how trafficking isn't a choice but being a sex worker Can be a choice for some girls. She said she's been able to spot girls who have been taken because she knows the game. But the average person wouldn't know. The language and slang she uses reminds me of how secretive drug game is. I'm glad she's free, and is able to tell her story to help others.
@@SneekySnixxWhich is ridiculous because it should not be that hard to have a nuanced conversation. It's healthy to self gratify, and IF you are consuming ethical pornography at a mild-moderate rate then theoretically, that would probably be healthy too. A lot of the problems with pornography come from the industry at large and the way it's produced that encourages people to develop unrealistic ideas about sex and sexual encounters. I personally would say I find it a little ridiculous that people think consuming pornography is cheating, unless it's a specific situation where they're interacting one-on-one in a specific person's content and you've made it clear you're not comfortable with your partner subscribing to a personal onlyfans or whatever. A situation like that I can understand more where your mental track is going. As well that there's nothing that should be more wrong about consuming pornography while in a relationship because realistically, your partner is probably never going to be into all of the things that you are. So if sometimes you are gratifying yourself to a scenario like that for example, I think it should be understandable. There are 100% too many people who are addicted to porn or consume unethically created porn, I think everyone can agree on that. But I have also seen some unreasonable takes from other women specifically that I believe are way too rooted in personal insecurity for them to demand those things from a partner and have that be healthy either.
Her:“People love to sit online and pick sh*t apart and then make up these crazy scenarios, these crazy fu*king narratives about how I’m racist”😢 Also Her: *Does Blackface*
Specifically on the situation regarding her sexuality: She was definitely fetishizing sapphic relationships. That said, a lot of what she said sounded like internalized homophobia to me. Given that she said she HAS had one crush on a girl, I don't think she's fully heteroromantic. I think she's been convinced by society that women aren't an option for her to date. It sounds like she has internalized homophobia regarding romantic queer relationships but not regarding sex. And yes, I think this is probably closely related to the industry she works in. Since that's promoted in that industry. Anyway point of this is I do think it sounds like she's bisexual, and it's important to note that this is internalized homophobia rather than outsider homophobia. That said, it isn't an excuse for fetishizing wlw relationships. Not an excuse- but it is an explanation.
Yes, I'm getting denial from her and it's sad that she seems to only see her own sexuality from the framing of male sexuality. Been there. But she's in deep. The bi erasure make me weep.
I saw people in the comments of a tiktok saying heteroromatic is fetishizing wlw and basically co-opting the ace spectrum. I thought maybe I had just missed out on some discourse but I haven't seen that sentiment here (or maybe I've missed it)..
I used to have a friend that would flirt with me and do couply things towards me all the time. I identified as a queer woman for the first 3 years of our friendship. I now know I'm nonbinary. She would tell me stories about being intimate with women but insisted she was straight. Many of the things she said were very similar to what Tara says in her videos. A lot of internalized homophobia. I ended the friendship last year after we got intimate after a night of drinking and she pretended like it never happened. I tried to talk to her about it multiple times and she would just shut down. In the end our friendship was unhealthy and she wasn't willing to process or address her attraction to me.
yeah i feel like a massive proportion of bi women - and even some women who later come to identify as lesbians - have said exactly the same thing at some point in their lives, and then discovered somewhere down the line that they absolutely can be romantic with women, they just hadn't been fully in touch with that part of themselves. as a young bi woman i definitely went through the crisis phase of "shit i think i only like men romantically and women sexually, my love life is doomed forever," but it wasn't really the case once i started getting to know myself more and actually having romantic experiences. obviously when you have a platform it pays to be more careful with your words, but this is literally what comphet does to queer women so idk why people expect her not to be affected by that.
I agree, I think she only thinks having sex with women is okay because the men in her life think it's okay/like it, and she can make money off of it. Honestly, even without the internalized homophobia, she's still a pretty messed up person.
I’m bisexual and I happened to fall in love with and marry a man. It doesn’t change the fact that I find women attractive. I’ve always been so scared to be “bisexual” because I’ve never really DATED a girl. Me and my husband met at 15 and 17…I’ve had experiences with and without him with other women but still. Thank you for making me feel validated ❤
Thanks for calling out how the term queerbaiting has been (mis)used to describe the behavior of real-life people and explaining why misusing it that way can be harmful. I remember people accusing Kit Connor (of Heartstopper) of queerbaiting for not explicitly coming out himself, as if they're entitled to know that information. Absolutely disgusting behavior from supposed fans.
I remember being so torn about that, I've been outed before and that sucks, but I definitely agreed with the general consesus (just not in this context). I personally came to the conclusion that it's too much trouble to be queer representation for others when you can't be out on your own terms (out to everyone excluding parents, only to strangers, only to teachers, etc.)
that entire situation made me so mad -- I'm unlabeled myself and they should've taken him saying "I'm unlabeled" as enough. because unlabeled IS for queer people!! it's for queer people who can't define their sexuality, or don't want to! my brother is unlabeled and has said before that he finds labels stupid. the thing I'm angry at the MOST is how people began accusing HIM of lying about being bisexual and saying "only women can be bi!" and the fact he had to deactivate his Twitter account because of what people had done pisses me off even more. it's why I hate it when people make videos about him being outed, or articles about it. I hate it even MORE when they use his name as a way to get clicks. Because that's the reality -- a teenager was OUTED. That's a TRAUMATIC situation for anyone! ANYONE! for a teenager being outed is their worst NIGHTMARE. because when you're a teenager you feel like all eyes are on you! when you're an adult you at least get to choose who knows your name. so for him to be outed to the ENTIRE WORLD? I can only guess how awful that was for him -- I was outed myself, twice, and I can only bet that what I felt then is a fraction of what he feels now. In my opinion, given how he's essentially begun to hide from social media and only does interviews now, it's rude to make videos or articles about it. Because his family and friends will see it - and he'll see it. yk how our phones are always listening to our conversations? yeah, their phones will most likely have picked up on the fact they know a famous person and give them more videos or articles about him. My phone was able to pick up on me and my dad talking about Hogwarts Smegacy and gave me ads and articles about it.
goodness, the kit connor situation hurt to watch. as someone who was outed in high school, seeing him be forced to come out publicly (which to me has the same impact as being outed) was absolutely awful. people need to stop feeling entitled to other people's sexualities.
Thank you so much for not stopping at "blackface is wrong," and going forward with *why* it's wrong. The assumption that all folks know the history when so many middle aged people don't seem to makes it important to educate folks.
people who do things like that to animals are predators. They're literally assaulting a being that can not consent. I feel like it's pretty much the same thing as pedophilia, it's absolutely disgusting, and not okay in literally any way. You're literally taking care of this little creature who relies on you for everything, who trusts you, looks to you for help. I've always seen every pet I've had as my children. Wtf is wrong with people?
Im bi and recently had my first real experience with another woman with the intention of long term dating. It was very liberating and genuinly one of the most romantic experience I've ever had. Hearing the way Tara speaks about kissing women reminds me of people in my life who would tell me I was just going through a phase or that I liked girls for male attention, but I'd get over it once I found the right guy.
Happy for you! Insecure men are gonna deny the authenticity of wlw experiences, and internalized homophobics are gonna repeat those sentiments. Love me a fear-based romantic system.
As someone who has had many male “friends” of mine tell me as a lesbian that it’s “extremely attractive when I kiss other women” or even that it “turns them on” I really appreciate this video. It feels nice to know I’m not alone in this sentiment especially when I hear from so many people that men enjoying women kissing each other isn’t fetishizing because “they just like women and so why wouldn’t two women be better than one”. Thanks Anamarie!
I think the term "performative bisexuality", as said by the person that commented on your thread, is perfect for these situations. Sadly I know wayyy too many women that are 100% straight but will kiss other women in order to get validation from men, it's really depressing. Even my ex boyfriend said he wouldn't be mad if I kissed/hooked up with another girl and I had to sit him down and explain to him that, no matter how he feels about it, it would be cheating
@@kphoria1009 honestly you're right, but the bottom of the problem here is that somehow being unloyal with another woman "doesn't count" and it's most likely bc they can fetishise it and don't take wlw relationships seriously
Man, at first I was like “well it’s okay to be sexually attracted to a gender without being romantically attracted to them” but then she just kept going and going and left me feeling sick.
Got this girl that made fun of Sam smith for calling themselves a “fisher-them” in an interview 😟 it was so specific seemed like she was stalking them cuz wtf who cares it DOESNT MATTER WHAT PEOPLE CALL THEMSELVES 😭😭 she was like a daily wire industry plant
"this generation is so fucked up in other ways" I know right, some of them sexually abuse their birds, spend 30k on concerts and see no problem with it! You're so right, Tara
And 10k on makeup, yeah? All of it makes me SICK. There are so many people out there who cant work for whatever reason and are living in poverty, very sad! She hr makes herself look so ignorant of people who are less fortunate. And the whole "I gave away ten Harry tickets" isnt sh¡t to me or others who ACTUALLY want to lift up less fortunate people to the best of their ability. Food for thought, the poor man who gives his last dollar is of higher moral standing, than the rich man who gives $1,000 when the 1k isn't even sh¡t to him. 💁🏼♀️
Marty deserves a better owner. Constant sexual frustration can lead to birds pulling out their feathers and picking at their skin. -someone who works at an animal hospital
The whole "Can real people queer-bait?" thing reminded me of Kit Connor who plays Nick in Heartstopper. He was accused of queer-baiting because he is playing a bisexual character on Heartstopper and was seen with a girl. People took from that that he was straight and thereby queer-baiting by playing a bisexual character. In the end they basically forced him to come out as bisexual even though he didn't want to discuss his sexuality in public but had to because hate comments and stuff wouldn't stop. I think the belief that real people can queer-bait is so extremely harmful. People don't know what's going on in another person. Maybe they are still experimenting with their sexuality, they could be bi, pan or something else completely, you can never know. That being said, I think what Tara did was definitely fetishizing sapphic relationships but maybe she is actually bisexual, we don't know.
Yes! And also, it’s acting after all. Who cares if a characters traits don’t line up with the actors traits, that’s what acting is for! It’s not a reality show is it??
I get that as well but people should also stop assuming someones sexual orientation based on their acting role, like I have not seen such outrage happen bcuz lets say Robert Pattinson is in a movie where he makes out w another man, and Timothee Chalamet has done that too, and they're bot dating women. In the end their sexuality is theirs and their partners business@@Sapphosroommate
@@Sapphosroommate yes! I totally get that, especially for some films about things queer people go through and stuff like that. But it shouldnt matter what an ACTORS sexuality is.
Dude, my first date with a woman was with a girl like this and it sucked. She was super pushy about sex and had some serious internalized homophobia, such as finding out she had a boyfriend afterwards and he "was fine with it cuz it wasn't a boy." Yikes. Definitely put me off trying to date women for a minute unfortunately 🫤 I was scared as it was and that was just too much. Honestly still too nervous now 😓
I have a coworker like this, she knew I was a lesbian and started telling me about a girl she used to mess around with till she found a boyfriend but it wasn't serious because she would never date a woman because women are crazy and too much work.
One of my good friends is lesbian and she tells me stories like this all the time. Honestly it’s hard enough as a straight woman to find someone to date.
Some queer women are like this, and some women from the lgbtq+ community said that sometimers, women like them are way more sexist, rude, horrible and disgusting than straight women. That a girl who is lesbian(4 example) can, or be amazing and the best partner, or be a hellish nightmare. For example, in spain(my country) exists a dating show called first dates, where they hook up people who are single so they can try to get a partner. Obviously, not straight people also go there, and this case was about two girls. a butch big strong girl and a more femme presenting one. In less than an hour, the butch girl escaped to the bathroom an called a friend of hers. She said sth like "Omg, yo, that girl they put me with, she looks more (female "f word" or sth, its exclusively a spanish bad word for lesbians)than me like look at her, like i dont wanna be the woman of the relationship!! i dont want her! I need to be the one sodomizing in the bed, no way she is the indicated! The woman i want must be submissive" the worst is that the femme girl wore jeans, shirt(not even t shirt) and medium long hair(to shoulders), but worked as a mechanic i think. I was like, tf? The girl was kinda femme, the one "looking like a man" was the girl who said those things in the bathrrom in 1st place, so idk why she said that a girl just for working in mechanics was a dude and said such rude homophobic words to her persona!! Plus the buch girl acted as those homophobic sexist straight 60 yo men, but only in this case, she owned a V and tattoos. Wow By just seein the butch girl enter, made me see the toxicity from far, lmfao. the worst is that this girl acted victimist when someone else said bad things to her. Like ma'am, first work on yourself and thennnn! U ask for rights. Like u cant be expecting people to be nice if you are hateful yourself. Having gay card doesnt give u a vip entrance to the community. But the actions you do does.
I was "friends" with a girl like this 😭 She kept complaining to me about her boyfriend and how sucky and boring their relationship was and hinting at doing things with me because women "didn't count" to him. I ended up blocking her and just sorta kept to myself since 🥲
I felt guilty for thinking my cat was really cute while she was in heat because she would roll around cutely and make these cute meow-songs. (She's fixed now, she went into heat the day before her first spay appointment but we just rescheduled.) This lady with her bird is on another level, goddamn.
as a pansexual, it has been hard for me to come out as sapphic in any way because of the fetishization of 2 women together i had an ex back in highschool ( this was when i considered myself bisexual) and he would always talk about only ever having 3somes with women and never with a man he would also show me images of attractive women online (and this was when i had bad body dysmorphia and he knew this) and it just caused me to spiral and i been in the closet after that about being sapphic in any way until recently i really wish that me simply calling myself bisexual back then didnt result in this, he was also not the only cis male who kept showing me images of attractive women, knowing how insecure i am with my own body back then :( it took too long to recover
That's so gross, I'm sorry. I remember coming out as bi to a boy i thought was my best friend in high school, I was really nervous about it, and the first thing he said was "So you've kissed girls? That's so hot" 🤢
dawg the same thing happened to me 💀 he knew i was pansexual and apparently thought that meant i was attracted to every woman on the planet. we only dated for a few months cause he was genuinely an idiot.
This happens too much 😭 we share the same story 🙏 Hope you've recovered and found how valuable you are and surrounded yourself with the best people, wishing you the best
oh also! the strange prevalence of... i guess i'll call it covert zoophilia, is becoming very alarming. i don't know why people need to be told to not sexually harrass or assault their own pets but, uh, don't. animals can and will experience sexual trauma. it's abuse in this instance, and it's abuse every time. what the fuck.
I was gonna comment that sex work is work and has nothing to do with sexual orientation. That I and many of my colleagues are not attracted to men at all but pretend to be for money. But then she said that she'd never sleep with another guy on camera. So for her it's not about "sex work is work". It's about "there is real sex vs sex with women".
Hey, slightly unrelated/related question: is sex work even legal, and if so, where? There’s this whole conversation popping up and it keeps getting more cinematic representation lately, which is good, but I’m so curious cause it’s definitely a controversial topic. I’m also asking you since you commented as a sex worker
@@Overseer2579 But most sex workers live and work in places where it's illegal. Which makes them very vulnerable to abuse, including abuse from cops. I'm lucky it's not that bad in France (the laws are bad and dangerous but at least I don't risk jail).
The fact that she can full-on cheat on her partners and say "most guys love that" is pure evil. I've been through that pain far too many times, I know that excuse and many more. Especially the whole justification of "oh, it's not in THAT way". That's not a valid excuse. If your partner isn't okay with it, DON'T DO IT, YOU WILL CAUSE IRREVERSIBLE DAMAGE.
took the words outta my mouth. you balance you analyses with sharp wit and great observations. i appreciate how elegantly you approached tara’s fetishized look on sapphics. luv ur work!
As a bird owner it makes me so so sad because I made the same mistake early on with my bird, turning them on like that affects their whole mental health, well being and their relationship with you and can take a long time to rectify. She can make jokes about it, I sure did but the way she spoke about it conveyed she didn't really understand the impact she was having on her poor bird.
It can also cause HUGE behavior issues with birds. We had a bird growing up and we truly didn’t know any better (this was back in the late 90s early 00s) my dad would pet him on the back and under the wings constantly. He went from liking everyone to ONLY tolerating my dad. If anyone else came near him he’d lash out and try to hurt them. I feel really bad for the damage we did to that poor bird and all the frustration I felt as a kid who just wanted to hang out with this bird but couldn’t because he’d draw blood.
I was in a poly relationship with a girl once and her boyfriend (now fiance) was like this. He was totally okay with her dating other "girls" (I'm ftm and he knew this but I haven't medically transitioned yet) but not other guys. There were a lot of similar issues with that relationship, which is why it ended, but when I tried to explain this to her she totally didn't get it.
She reminds me so much of my old friends (2 girls) they were almost exactly the same in the sense that they 1 bragged about being straight and 2 talked about wanting to kiss girls and I was heavily sexualized and objectified by one of them for months and it was just so uncomfortable and I hate how people like this exist. As a sapphic asexual girl, I don't feel safe telling my (straight) friends about my sexuality/preferences because of the fear of being objectified.
I don't think she is a hetero romantic bisexual. but I feel like we need to acknowledge hetero romantic people. or people who has a difference between their sexuality and romanticism. (hetero romantic are people who ONLY feel romantic ATTRACTION not desire to the opposite gender )
I think in a case like hers it'd be like, sexually into everyone, romantically only into dudes. I'm not personally like that, I'm into dudes and then everyone outside of the binary, but am t4t when it comes to sexual partners because cis men stink.
Anna did address it, granted only briefly, but even if she is her boyfriend’s fetishization of it is disgusting and she is so excited for his view on it which is also not great. She really sounds bi all around to me, she acknowledged having past crushes on women despite them not going anywhere. She thinks it’s fine to sleep with women while in her straight relationship but not men, maybe she needs an emotional connection with men so it feels more like cheating to her but we’re not in her head and she is not very careful about what she decides to say on the internet nor does she take constructive criticism at all. She’s admitted to not doing her research with her bird, I’m willing to bet that applies to many more aspects of her life.
Sort of how like asexual and aromantic are different things? So an asexual person can still be interested in romantic relationships. But in this case, the person is only interested in a romantic relationship with the opposite sex, but still being interested in a sexual relationship with male and female people. ... Cool.
I just found you recently & I am so glad I did! As a 40 something pansexual woman married to a 50 something pansexual woman, we've had our share of even "friends" who would fetishize our relationships. It's always been so gross but I'm so grated for humans like you who are starting to talk about these things! Thank you for all that you do! 💜🙏🌈
sorry if this is weird, but im a lesbian in my early 20s who just started living with the woman ive been dating for several years and seeing this comment made me so happy. i hope to spend the rest of my life with her and with all the scary shit in the news these days it kinda gives me a lot of hope to see other people living similar dreams to mine. im really happy for yall and i wish yall nothing but happiness and blessings.
@pixelpossum49 not weird at all! It actually made me really smile, so thank you for that. I hope that you & your partner have a long road ahead of you. Just make sure to be honest, even if you think it might hurt their feelings. Always advocate for yourself but be willing to compromise too! And I can't stress communications importance! You cannot communicate too much! 🤗 And I'm on IG at the same name if you ever need to talk. I wish my wife & I had found each other at your age but better late than never! 💜
thank you thank you thank you!!! This section on queerbating is so friggin important! No one owes anyone anything regarding their sexuality regardless of their career choice! U rock
as a bisexual genderqueer trans masc individual it drives me cuckoo bananas when I see people harassing celebrities about publicly declaring their sexualities! It’s a nuanced subject but at the end of the day the point you are making about a right to privacy is what I always end up coming back to
The whole "I wanna hook up with girls but never date them lollollollol" moment sounds EXACTLY like the shit that came out of my mouth when I was deeply closeted and in denial. I was 100% ADAMANT that I was straight for years...until I fell head-over-heels for a good friend and had to confront my own internalized homophobia and shame. I hope that Tara will one day be in a place of self-reflection and growth, but I'm not gonna hold my breath 😳
I'm a bisexual woman. The fetishization of sapphic relationships and bisexuality has always upset me greatly, and impacted my relationships. My first boyfriend was obsessed with the idea of a threesome the moment he found out I'm bi. It made me feel like nothing more than an object that he could project his fantasies upon. It's so damaging and for a long time it made me view myself and my own sexuality as something tainted and gross, something that men can take advantage of. I've never had sex with a woman (I've always been super bad at picking up signals and I have ZERO rizz), and that's always made me feel "invalid" somehow, as if I'm "not a real bisexual". I've been asked multiple times if I really like girls or if I'm just saying that because men think its hot (not in that exact wording but that's the implication and general gist of it). I hate the way Tara's video made me feel. I hate the way most lesbian porn makes me feel. I hate the idea of her making out with her friends for her partner's creepy fantasies. I hate that she is profiting off this exact kind of fetishization. It's part of why people are biphobic, because it reinforces harmful stereotypes and sexualises bisexual people. What she's doing is so harmful and gross, and that's not even mentioning the fact that she absolutely abused that bird.
@ville again, doll with the fishing? Darling you just want to start fights. I mean if you honestly want an original thought articulated in the comments I’m still here to help. This boring fishing is so old
I dont get it if someone is critical of your sexuality its biphobia but everyone can slam this chicks choices and thats just fine?. Ill let you in on a secret hypocrisy and Calling people you disagree with phobic is what harms the entire LGBT community.
@@thumper84you know I have to say I think you have a bit of a point there. This chick clearly handled all of this horribly but she seems to be exploring her sexuality in a sincere way for some of this. But I think the video did a good job in the end of it by addressing how Tara may be sincere in her sexuality but is doing harm (whether or not intentional) by pushing a narrative that upholds regressive ideas about bisexuality.
I'm asexual and panromantic, so when people really really sexualise saphic women I feel really weird cause I love girls so much and my non-asexual saphic friends share that feeling. Like there's so much more to it than that, it's just love. It's so baffling that some people don't understand that
Nobody mentions she didn’t research for Marty the bird AND the minute she got him she would leave for weeks at a time for cruises. The only type of travel where she definitely couldn’t bring him
Is that a thing? Gay people meant to be bad at math? I mean, just FYI, I was doing a PhD once in maths and I think more than 50% of the male postgrads were gay. That was the first time I went to a gay night at a nightclub because everyone else in the department was going and I went with them.
This feels so wrong. I’m personally struggling a bit with bisexuality vs bring a masc sapphic enby. But what she said comes across not as someone exploring themself, especially the way she defended against criticism
If one is non-binary, does that make them inherently bi/pan as neither the terms homo- nor hetero-sexual apply 🤪? Honestly I always feel like I’m wlw or mlm, always queer in one way or another.
@@AnkhAnanku some enbys are exclusively attracted to men/women, so no theyre not inherently bi/pan by being enby. however yes i do agree that the terms "homosexual" and "heterosexual" wouldn't apply in this case. that's why a lot of enbies will instead use labels like "gay" to describe exclusive attraction to men, and "lesbian" to describe exclusive attraction to women ^^
I used to be lesbian but then I started hearing about other sexuality’s then I realized something felt off and when me and my GF started dating we found out I was pansexual!💗💛💙pride to everyone here
Everytime she touched that parrot I had to look away from the screen. I've never wanted to pop someone's skull open like that, but animal abusers aren't exactly "people" themselves.
You could not WATERBOARD that shit about the bird out of me. The fact that she goes online and makes silly little jokes about it is genuinely shocking. And also, as a bi woman, we do not claim her.
As a poor and probably a bit jealous person that lives on benefits alone (because I'm disabled), I hate it when people complain about "having" to spend an enormous amount of money on shit... I mean, enjoy yourself, you do you, but don't complain about it to rub it in our faces... I don't know but it frustrates me. And also, I have a parrot. It's okay to not know everything about the pet, but when you KNOW you make it arouse, why do you continue? Not just is it perverted, but it's mean as well and especially with birds that live alone with humans and cannot do anything with the arousal. It's just mean to them. And of course, disgusting however you look at it. This woman seems to have very little self-awareness.
Also as a queer woman, I think Tara can just enjoy sex with women, but it disgusts me that she contributes to the problem that men fetishize us. Women in a relationship and women having sex are not made for men. I hate the wording of hers when describing her relationships with women in this way! It just enables how men fetishize gay and bi women like our love and sexual relationships are made for them.
I REALLY appreciate you mentioning how heteroromantic bisexual people exist and are valid!! (Plus variations like homoromantic bisexual) I’m not one myself but I am bi and while I have a bit of a preference towards femme folks romantically, I have a HEAVY preference for femme folks “sexually”. (I put sexually in quotes because I’m on the ace spectrum lol) and it can feel really invalidating because people feel like you’re being intolerant or something when I literally just… don’t have those feelings. So I really appreciate you bringing that up! By the way, don’t get me misconstrued: I do NOT think Tara is heteroromantic bisexual, or if she is then she is still queerphobic. The way she explained things was extremely intolerant and fetishistic in nature, no matter what her sexuality is.
I'm bi myself and ngl, i feel a little icky about the whole heteroromantic bisexual thing, especially when it comes to girls identifying this way. (Btw, I'm referring strictly to people who are NOT on the aroace spectrum in any shape or form) Cause they usually fall into 2 categories: girls who engage sexually with other girls mainly for male attention and because it's seen as "cool and hot", and girls who have internalized homophobia and are not ready to accept that they're sapphic. My point is, in both cases the label is just used as an excuse. I think it requires a lot of self reflection for a person to come to the conclusion that yes, they're fully capable of feeling both sexual and romantic attraction, but they lack the romantic attraction towards women. Imo, most people lack that and it's simpler for them to declare "i think i could kiss a girl but never date one" . I also want to point that i've never seen a cis guy who identifies this way, and i tend to believe it's because it's not seen as cool for a straight guy to kiss other guys at parties, but it is if girls do it, because of fetishization
Tara is doing beastiality type things, the random dude was participating in beastiality. Any sane person would see how truly inappropriate and disgusting that is. No one but creepy people would think of their pets in that way. that bird and puppy both deserve way better than some of the most disgusting pet owners
5:32 I love when people are like, "Nobody wants to work anymore." Like it took me 200+ applications, 4 job interviews, and nearly 2 years to get a part-time job. Like, why is the blame always put on unemployed individuals and not the business? In most cases, you need to GET HIRED to get a job. I had one interview I was ecstatic for. I had done my unpaid college internship at a place similar to this and I had experience with the computer program they used. Literally 100% qualified.... Job went to someone who was already in the district and had absolutely zero experience with said program. That broke me, istg. How are you supposed to try anymore when a job you hit 100% qualifications for doesn't want you? I ended up getting hired by a small business.
They literally mean noone wants to slave labor... When Kim said that it was bscause her apprentice wanted to be paid minimum wage or a non paid full time job.... Don't be fooled. You're not lazy. They want free labor. For us to work harder so they don't have to do real work themselves.
No literally. Over 200 job applications and 25 plus job interviews for jobs i was overqualified for. And this was during the time where “no one could find employees” After a few months of that i just started stripping 🥴
14:20 her being like, "because it's funny" even though she just said herself that he would scream because he was frustrated????? the way she's talking about her bird is giving shane dawson talking about his cat
It's like she forgets that shift work, sick days, and days off exist. Or they could also be social media types, maybe people who stream for hours each night, or whatever.All are reasons someone might still be in bed at 2pm. You'd think that as someone who is a self employed social media person she would realise that there are all kinds of work options for people. Sure, there are some who "don't want to work" but most of them are doing other things in the afternoon. It's more likely, I guess you see people doing that who have "rich parents" paying for their lifestyle, who have been partying all night. I'm curious about when that was recorded, too, is it recent or was it during quarantine? Of course, the other possibility is that the minute the alert comes in for the phot people are jumping into bed to make it look like they have a lifestyle they don't. It just annoys me, I guess, because I recently had a similar conversation with someone who said 'people don't want to work hard anymore'...all the young people I know work exceptionally hard, they work long hours and take whatever overtime or extra opportunities to earn more Whereas, I think the thing that many of the problematic social media influencers forget...they're rich because of their fans. That money either came directly from fans paying subscriptions and donations, or indirectly through watching ads on YT or buying from the sponsorship links they post. And while donating money to someone doesn't give you a right to dictate what they do with that money, it does give them a right to be upset if you behave badly or if they donated thinking you were struggling to pay rent but then you spend stupid money on something unnecessary (not talking specifically about Tara there, idk her situation). So if people decide they don't like how you're behaving now & are not going to support you anymore, that's their perogative. So, those same influencers need to remember...alienate your fans and the money goes away. Which means: know when to stop digging! I guess it should be no surprise when people with that kind of ego (outright narcissism in some cases) lack the self-awareness to realise and accept when they are in the wrong. They'd rather go on a press/podcast tour & cry over "being canceled" (honey if you were canceled you'd have no one to listen to you whinging about it) than take ownership of their bad behaviour and apologise for it.
This whole video made me grimace in disgust quite a few times but her expressing she’s “never been emotionally attracted to women” and “would never date a a girl but would fuck a girl” just made me so done! This is exactly what I see happening whenever straight men try to sexualize women and sapphic relationships just like you expressed in this video but I visibly sighed, rolled my eyes and grabbed the bridge of my nose in disappointment 😂
her going to that many concerts in a row is what gets me, like harry styles isn't some improvisational grateful dead or phish or whatever type artist that does a unique hour long solo or whateverat each venue, it's probably going to be about the same rehearsed and choreographed show every single damn time. maybe you can save a few hundred and just spend a night in and watch it on youtube later?
@Sam Antha if you want to spend your money on seeing identical performances fifty times in a row, fuckin be my guest, idc. it's just extremely stupid behavior to complain about the one time you didn't get 100% perfect seating as if it was your one chance in life to go to this specific event while having been to like every other show in the past year
I love the word “acknowledgement” when referring to people like this. There is no apology in saying “well I would NEVER say that, but here’s why I did”
im an addict, and i dont want to be projecting anything onto other ppl, like im not gonna say whether or not other ppl are addicts cuz thats really not my place. what i do want to say tho is that hearing anyone say they "need" or "have" to drink or be high to do something is a big red flag imo. and like its something im working on, im not perfect. but i still feel the need to call it out when i see it in other ppl. idek what the solution is because im still trying to work on it for myself, but with the way tara is throwing away money im sure she could spare some to go to therapy or *something*
I'm bi and I dated a straight dude. He was like supportive of me being bi with joking about how I'd totally get hit on by other women but then once a guy hit on me, he broke up with me. I was already a bit uncomfortable with how he didn't take my attraction to other women seriously. Combining it with breaking up with me after I get hit on by some random guy just makes it a huge red flag.
i’m ashamed to share a fandom with this woman😭 so many people would literally kill for balcony seats and she’s complaining AFTER SHE SAW HIM MULTIPLE TIMES ALREADY
ANNAMARIE AS A HARD OF HEARING PERSON I CANT TELL YOU HOW OVERJOYED I AM TO SEE CAPTIONS ON YOUR VIDEOS!!! been watching for years and fully getting to enjoy your humor is a gift i can't thank you enough for !!! love you smmmm
I love the inclusion of community comments! It allows for a broader perspective and also helps to like frame things to show it isn't just you feeling this way, yknow? Also it just feels nice to feel included in discussions 😌
As a Bi woman, when I saw all her "It's not cheating if it's with a woman" And "My boyfriend thinks it's hot" crap I just had to sigh to myself and shake my head in disappointment. It's bad enough the straight men are saying this shit, but girl not you too?
Mm toe jam
Agreed
..I think
Hey it’s better than whatever Tara is doing
Not you getting pinned 💀
thank you. this comment has changed my life. My whole outlook on everything that exists in this world, in fact even in the entire universe. I can never look at anything I know the same way ever again. This comment represents emotions most humans could never comprehend. But I can. Thanks to this comment I have been awakened to many things previously thought unimaginable. Thank you.
I personally like to eat my toe jam straight from the crusty socks
She comes off as a person who thinks of non-straight relationships as nothing but a party trick, like a drunk girl who will do anything for attention: "Would you guys dare me to kiss another woman? What if I turned on my bird? What if I ran over a gas pump and drove into a lake, omg I'm so crazy!"
You described it perfectly omg
she comes off as those girls that kiss you at a party and then go "oh I'm not gay I'm just really drunk and crazy, I'd never do this sober 🤪"
I mean, she says she mostly kisses girls while she drinks, so yeah
I'm sorry but what does turned on my bird mean exactly?
I NOW KNOW WHAT IT MEANS AND I WISH I DIDN'T KNOW
There are a lot of problems with the bird situation, one part in particular that makes me upset is how she conflates "I can sexually arouse my bird" with "My bird is sexually attracted to me"
Animals (including human beings!) can have responses to sexual stimulation without WANTING that stimulation. Arousal is not consent, and it is truly disgusting and bizarre that I am making this comment about A BIRD.
Exactly, lots of r4pe v1ctims have orgasms because is a body reaponse to try to cope with that situation, and they feel guilty about it because how society always support abusers
She gotta at least get the bird off
Exactly and she was calling the bird '' u sick f*ck'' hmmm projection much!?
A BIRD???
It's sad that we need to explain consent when it comes to people and animals. Wtf🤮🤢
I felt nauseated when she said “he’s sexually attracted to me” and went on to molest her bird in the most sincere meaning of that word. This is so so so bad. She implied that the screaming stopped eventually as well because he’s sexually stimulated. This woman sees sex as something..strange. She sees it as a fun trick. This is so so so weird the way she views men, women, and animals? Sexually? Like? She seems to think everyone wants her sexually and it’s not cute. It’s disgusting and frankly I get some really off vibes from her. Like there’s something wrong there. She doesn’t care.
I agree completely. And as for what ELSE is wrong and off with her, she might be attracted to /sexualizing even more beings that can not give consent to sexual activities. It wouldnt surprise me. That in itself, is one thing, but my gut feeling tells me she would be someone who purchases illegal material made in szenarios that can only be described as torture (and human trafficking, and all sorts of @buse), where you can see the souls of the victims shatter. I had a partner like that once.. I left. I did not tell the police yet because I am scared and need to move first. That person was an absolute psychopath. But I began reading after that, and I realised how important it is to differentiate between someone having disturbed desires and someone acting after them in a way that, directly or indirectly, actively or passively, supports fkcing destroying people for the rest of their life. I was a victim, too, but not in a organized or ritualized setting. Sadly, I was focused on copying the feeling that my violator, sparked in me initially. So I am ashamed to say that, I had a few partners that where kind of like that, anti-social sadists, domestic violence offenders and perpetrators of some type, animal abusers or child molesters.. She seems similarish in her behaviour from what little I got to see today.
that’s freaking sickening. tara seems to be a very sick individual
@@StandAloneSoulI hope you're able to speak out against your abu$er once you've moved safely away. I know after you've been able to process why you're settling for cruel people you have a chance to choose differently. Best wishes on your path to healing.
@@StandAloneSoulI hope wherever you are you are safe now and please stay safe
I read your comment before I watched that part of the video. Holy fucking shit, I want to take a shower after that
my uncle was murdered by a drunk driver and now my mom has lifetime trauma. its so easy to stay where you are and enjoy being drunk, then drive when you’re sober enough. thank you tara
Especially nowadays where Ubers and taxis are very easy to use in most cities.
My condolences to you and your mother ❤️
In the age of Uber and Lyft, there’s really no excuse. I’m so sorry about your uncle.
I legit got nauseated from watch her interact with the bird. That poor baby deserves a better owner that won't violate him "because it's funny." 😠
Yeah. Especially as a bird owner, I makes me want to crawl in a hole and die.
I mean how can that not be seen as bestiality...? I've never had a bird but I believe those saying she is purposefully arousing (sexually interacting) a bird.
I've read many stating it can mentally harm the bird as well, poor thing... 💔
It made me actually vomit it is SICK
Same. I have such a weak stomach when it comes to animal cruelty.
As an animal owner, I get extremely anxious if my cats so much as start throwing up (they have stomach sensitivity, and I know that, but still) so if something like THAT were to happen, I would lose my absolute F***ing S***
Like, if my friends found out I did that, I would rather they take them away from me than have them stay in a situation like that.
As a queer girl I can’t watch most lesbian adult films because they feel fake and performative and as you said they feel like they are made for the male gaze
Yeah. I only watch wlw content made by actual wlw, for wlw specifically. The energy is vastly different and actually hot, speaking as a sapphic lol
I always felt like lesbian stuff was… off on most platforms. I noticed reading that sort of stuff written by queer authors feels so much more real.
@@comicsans3537do you have any reccomendations?
I never find anything good
This may be because I'm on the spectrum, but I never even knew until recent years that lesbian porn was catered to straight men.
I can only watch lesbian porn because it's got a lot more soft, sensual, safe energy while straight porn is really aggressive and upsetting to me. 💀
Again, it's probably the tism.
@@AsmodeuslvrTbh, lesbian pron that's catered to men is actually stereotyped to be way more aggressive than content made by wlw for wlw, and is heavily focused on penetration and roughness. You've probably been watching the right people, or maybe straight pron is just so aggressive that even lesbian pron can't compete, so it ended up giving you that perception. That, or I find a lot of people are able to stomach man-man violence or woman-woman violence but not woman-man, because they're most familiar or connected to stories of straight male aggression and just don't like seeing men be in powerful positions over women. That's also a thing.
On the bird situation: yes, parrots can be sexually stimulated by petting them anywhere below the neck, especially the back and under the wings. Essentially, only the parrot's mate would touch it below the neck, thus when an owner touches the bird on the back, it begins to see its owner as its sexual mate instead of a friend/flockmate. The bird then expects the owner to do sexual mate things like make a nest, actually mate with them, and have eggs. When these things inevitably don't happen (cuz that would be weird), the animal gets frustrated at the perceived rejection and behavioral problems can begin. Note that the petting below the neck mainly applies to parrots; petting a domestic bird like a chicken or pigeon on the back is okay.
Also, African grey parrots are so incredibly intelligent that they quickly begin to show behavior problems (like plucking their feathers or constantly screaming) very quickly if they are not raised properly. To me, it seems she bought this very expensive (thousands of dollars) animal on a whim because it seemed cute or cool. She even admitted she did not do any research before impulse buying an animal as intelligent as a 2 year old human that will live about ~60 years. Its incredibly sad and a reason why so many parrots end up abandoned.
I am sure he will not be in her care long. She will cause behavioral issues in this poor parrot and give him up
marty has already started behavioral problems. this woman is sick
i feel for the poor bird. hope he gets rehomed soon.
I don't get why it's even allowed to to have just 1 parrot.
They are really social and need someone to socialize with properly and humans can't do it 100% (basically a giant language barrier).
He will likely outlive her. I wish he at least had another African Grey as a mate, as he is now he is too imprinted on humans.
man, the fetishization of sapphics is so upsetting, but it seems like nobody's talking about it???? thank you sm annamarie 😊😊
Idc
@@jeremyfuller7730 ok jeremy your mom is worried about you you haven't showered in weeks
@@LordOfElysium it's an issue both ways. Right now the topic in this video is lesbian fetishism, not gay men. ^-^
@@LordOfElysium you'd be suprised the amount of conversations I've seen talking about the issue of gay men being fetishized.
@@LordOfElysium in my opinion people talk about the fetishization of gay couple WAY more.
also it's not really a competition, the comment was talking about sapphics but both scenarios are wrong and completely inappropriate.
When she said she's ok with hooking up with girls but not guys while in a relationship because "girls are magical and perfect" my eyes rolled so far back into my head that I saw another universe
It screams internalised homophobia...
Okay im a gay dude and im genuinely confused whats wrong with this? I perfectly understand i cannot possible relate, not saying it isn't wrong just saying I don't have the experience yall have and can't but want to understand the issue. To me it sounds like she's saying women are more special then men? Based on everything else she says I wouldn't take it that way, but that sentence alone sounds like a compliment to women? Again purely curious, im guilty of getting myself in trouble just because I want more knowledge so forgive me if this is rude 😅
@@larkasmr1128because it seems like she’s (consciously or not) pushing the idea that sapphic relationships aren’t valid relationships. If she views kissing other men as cheating but not kissing other women, it means she doesn’t view wlw relationships/interactions as valid or “real” in the same way that heterosexual relationships are. It doesn’t count as cheating because it’s not serious like it would be with a man. She may be phrasing it in a way that sounds like a compliment, but that’s the sentiment behind it.
@larkasmr1128 it's okay.
"girl are magical and perfect" is cool by itself, nothing very specific in the wording, the frustrating part is the context.
The way she said it was giving "Guys I can't be a misogynist or homophobic! I think girls are perfect in every way."
with the blackface and creepy treatment of animals, she seems like she would be great friends with shane dawson
Yooo
best friends that share a jail cell together ❤❤❤
they look like they could be related
@@MimiUsagichantheyd probably still date 😂
Oh no......
doesn’t she realize that some people work the night shift, which might be why they’re in bed with the shades closed at 11 am? also not everyone works a shift from 9 to 5.
And not to mention, people get days off, or can be sick. Or just in a different time zone.
“mental illness no exist” tara probably
Or working remotely!!! Like we didn’t have an entire two year shut down for a super contagious disease. Or did she miss it ??
@@lovesplus3879 she was probably at those influencer parties the whole time...
Some also come home from work and go to bed straight away because they had a rough week.
Honestly, the way she was able to s*xually assault her bird ON CAMERA and still has a platform but because I wear a costume and draw anthropomorphic animals I automatically get harassed and accused of assaulting animals enrages me. We need better laws around animal abuse, she should be in prison point blank period.
Exactly! We are the bad ones???
BRO FR LIKE DID SHE DOINK THE BIRD WTF
Like furries are bad? And she isnt
Fr tho like SHE'S the one LITERALLY sexualizing and harassing _an actual animal_ and no one fucking bats an eye but oh GOD FORBID someone just likes to draw humanized animals.
This world is so backwards 🗿
agreed! let us make our speedpaints and have fun in a big community without getting harrassed!
As a polyam person, consent is the most important part of a polyam relationship. And her previous bf wasn't insecure. He didn't want his partner to kiss other people, girls or boys. If you want an open relationship, ASK for it. But don't complain if you ask it and the other person says no. THEN DON'T DATE PEOPLE WHO ARE MONO.
If anything, he wasn't sexualising wlw relationships bc he saw any cheating as cheating.
LITERALLYYY and like airing him out like that is so disrespectful like he’s allowed to have his boundaries and it’s just a good sign that he sees women as women not sexual objects
It reads like that what she did do. This other guy who she thought was weird for not getting off on her lesbian kisses didn't develop into a romantic relationship, and that's probably for the best for him!
This. I am Polyam too. Realized it when I was in a relationship with my ex 2 years ago as I started likeing my best friend too. At first I knew it wasn't fine with him that I date both of them so I wanted to break up but I guess he thought I would choose him so he then said I could date both of them but ya it wasn't fine with him so he did some horrible stuff. Communication, honesty and consent are the most important things here.
Same here.
My boyfriend is mono- but he’s fine that I’m polyam as long as I communicate and keep him in the discussions. He’ll let me know if anything changes and we go back to just being friends.
Communication and Consent are KEY and the difference between cheating and Polyam and Open relationships (I’ve seen opens work but again it’s consent and communication that makes them work along with things like protection and frequent STI tests)
As a bird owner, it was SO hard to watch her touch Marty knowing full well she was frustrating him. God help me.
As a pet owner of a dog and 4 birds and a school of fishes I want to kill myself seeing it treat like that
Yeah it's depressing to think of her doing that and seeing it as a funny gag
Yeah, sa-ing animals is not funny at all. It makes me sick that people like this are allowed to own animals
holy shit i did not think she kept fucking doing it after she knew i thought she just treated it nonchalant and making stupid jokes. i seriously grabbed my mouth when she just does it on camera. christ
honestly I skipped past that part of the video, so gross
As a bi woman, we get enough hate already, hypersexualisation and homophomia from in and out of the community, we don't need more, please
absolutely!! some people don’t understand what bi sexual means sometimes istg 😭
Well I'm not a bisexual I do hope they stop being so hateful to you guys just remember you are valid and people who can't understand that are idiots ❤
@@foxy_drago that's really sweet thanks
@@foxy_drago that was really nice man thank you :)
Another bi midnights stan!! Hii💗💗 also i completely agree with you
Hearing you as a lesbian say that being bi with a preference for men is valid makes me want to cry. 😭 I see a good amount of biphobia in the LGBTQ community so when I find people like you on RUclips and in person it makes me feel normal and actually welcome.
Mood. Last time I met a lesbian irl, she tried to "convert me" for weeks and got frustrated when I was still attracted to men
@@AleTitan they’re no better than straight men who try to turn lesbians
You’re not less queer or less worthy of being in the lgbtq community!
@@AleTitan why do I feel like this story is fake? Such a person sounds so absurd that I can't fathom they even really exist. They sound like caricatures.
@@idktbh.2421 I can’t speak for this person but I have met multiple lesbians who would say something like that. It sucks but quite a few lesbians are either terfs or biphobic. (saying this as a lesbian btw)
I think a lot of people online fail to differentiate between understanding that what you do in private isn't necessarily what offends people, but how you present it to your audience. If she and her partner privately explored this with consenting parties then that's their business, but she instead platformed it in a way that made sapphics collateral damage. THAT'S what made people angry and she's acting deliberately obtuse to avoid acknowledging that how she speaks about this issue on her large platform affects others.
Oh hey, it's the better Tara
Does the cow comment on behalf of the channel, or does she just produce & write scripts?
the objectively best tara
I was like what an excellent take and then… oh, it’s Tara 😂
As a bird owner, the way she treats marty really pisses me off. birds are extremely sensitive creatures, prone to self harm and self destruction, ESPECIALLY african greys (which is what Marty is). She claims she loves him more than anything, but she pretends to be his mate and then separates herself from him, causing him extreme stress, hence the screaming. Her behavior will encourage bad behavior in him, increase his stress levels, worsen his hormones, and make his mental health absolutely miserable. African greys are very intelligent and long lived birds, prone to depression, boredom, and feather plucking. If Tara continues to treat her bird like this, I'd say the chance of him developing horrible behavioral problems and plucking himself bald is very high. I hope she's stopped tormenting him and that she has a good avian vet.
Also not to be biased, but fuck her for getting such a high effort, complex animal as a pet with NO RESEARCH. A grey's average lifespan in captivity is 60 years, some living up to 80. They're basically permanent children. You don't just impulse buy a fucking toddler. Poor Marty. Her love aint worth shit.
I can't believe anyone would get an exotic pet with 0 research, especially when you've never had that animal before. It just seems NATURAL, especially in the 21st century when a Google is fingertips away. Blows my mind. Her brain is really running on low processing power for sure.
Thank you for this info - sexually abusing any living thing is not okay and has a negative impact. Poor Marty. She should not be allowed to have animals. Disgusting. Like being ignorant is one thing, but after being confronted with this information you decide to lean into the abusive behavior? Ugh.
What kind of birds do you have :000? I have a budgie
IM SO GLAD YOU SAID THIISSS. People need to be educated on bird before they even go to look for one to adopt. They need to be educated on the erotic zones too.
I don't even have a parrot and I know not to touch their back.. Tho, to be fair, I had a parrot-hyperfocus for a while, was watching parrot RUclipsrs non-stop and memorized as many parrots as I could, cuz I really wanted one.. Was leaning heavy on sun conure, cuz they're little rays of sunshine and seems to be considered chill and novice-friendly.. But I never got one.. Cuz parrots doesn't fit my inconsistent, single, ADHD-life.. Also, I already work at a daycare, I don't need to look after a toddler for the next 30 years at home, as well.. I don't want kids, why would I want a forever-kid with wings? Also, I knew I was gonna get a cat and I'd really rather not take that risk.. (And also, our local vet is already sus as hell, I don't even wanna think about how far away the closest aviarian vet would be..)
She just seems like she’s actually a bad person. Very narcissistic, self centered, and definitely not empathetic to how she can affect others. People who don’t learn/grow in any way really just seem like there’s no hope at all for them. Honestly sickening 🤢
Well, if that’s the case, you can just look down on them with disgust and pride in yourself as you actually learn and grow throughout life
She reeks of “I grew up with rich parents that coddled me and have never had to face the consequences of my actions for that reason” vibes. Money has always fixed all of her problems because she’s always had plenty of it. The worst kind of people.
@@Wraiven22 That is way too accurate 😂
sounds like a neater looking trisha paytas to me honestly
There’s just something off with her.
Ah yes. The opposite of laying in bed. Spending $10,000 at Sephora.
This
This is hilarious. If I had that kinda coin I would be lounging everywhere except my bed
😂 changing the world level productivity.
Laying in bed is much better financial decision.
Thats a pet peeve to see clearly spoiled rich kids flex their $
thank you for spreading awareness about the 50/50 bisexual myth. i'm not by any means saying that people with 50/50 attraction don't exist, that would be absurd, but i know i certainly don't, and my attraction and prefrences have been in flux constantly over the 15 years i've identified as bisexual. i think people need to open their minds to the full spectrum of human sexuality a bit more, there's no way billions of people are going to fit into a few narrow catagories! as always, you're the best. much love ❤
Bro I love the art on ur pfp
As a black bi person, she frustrates me to no end. She only gets away with soooo much and you know *why* she does. Hate the sexuality discourse around her too and it makes me feel almost terrible to be myself. Anyways, love your accent/videos and hope you’re having a good day ^_^
@Ville okay yeah you’re a troll lmao do you get off to doing this just like how tara’s bf gets off to fetishizing lesbians?
As another black bi person, I understand and agree with you, biphobia is so common and I can't seem to understand why that is, like, what are we doing to you?
harry styles also disappointed me w digital black face and antisemetic behaviours like really be safe out there bc typically yt ppl let so much shit slide when it comes to celebrities JUST BC HE WORE A DRESS DOESN'T MEAN HES PROGRESSIVE
@@DabiLOVmember seems like being black has quite literally nothing to do with this conversation
@@sakexw7581 where is racism coming into this this is an lgbt conversation
im SO happy you're holding her accountable at 17! I was so ready to hear "but she was 17 she was a kid" I'm so tired of hearing that as a teenager myself, we're all mentally mature enough to know right from wrong, especially with something as blatantly obvs as black face.
As an older person I think it’s hard to remember what we knew or not at the time. I am 30 now. I ASSUME i knew blackface was wrong when I was 17, I certainly never did it, but I don’t even remember if it was a concept I was fully aware of at the time. You are totally right though, even if she didn’t know it’s up to her to be accountable now.
Tough one, things have changed SO much. When I was in highschool the N word was rampant cause people discovered Rnb and honestly until I was 18 I didn’t hear anything about racism and never saw it openly (my school literally had a few Asian kids and maybe 2 black people out of 400.) When the BLM movement happened it definitely opened my eyes to what happens and how fucked highschool was by people just saying things like that. Plus kids can be raised by racists and so that can be something to consider too. It’s definitely not okay but in 2023 we have more awareness so I hope we all collectively do better.
She's 17?! I literally thought that she's like, 25 or something.
...Goodness. This gIrL is the same age as me.
@@scentist_error she WAS 17 when the blackface thing occurred, im pretty sure she's approaching her mid twenties
@@DelilahBlackk Thank *fuck*
Love how she tells everyone to "take a joke" when she's molesting her bird but taking a joke suddenly becomes a lot less cool when the joke is at her expense
the fact that had she just said she was heteromantic bisexual (only romantically attracted to men, sexually attracted to everyone.) none of this would've happened. but she made it all about her boyfriend instead.
I agree I had a lesbian Friend who was only sexually attracted to men but romantically and sexually to women, she wanted me to be her first male sexual partner but her gf didn't want me and her involved that way....
I forgot what she called it thank you and others for letting me know what it was called
i doubt she even knows these labels exist. if you tried to tell her about these she'd probably roll her eyes or smth.
The comments of a tik tok I saw was FULL of people saying "heteroromatic" is homophobic, fetishizing lesbians and co-opting the ace spectrum. I thought I'd missed some discourse but now I am confused...
@@jadec3959 same I also saw a lot of comments completely missing the point of how she was actually fetishizing lesbians and instead focused on how the problem is actually the "heteroromantic" part lol. some people on twitter were making fun of it and saying it's not a real thing and its just homophobia.
it's also not coopting the ace spectrum because it has nothing to do with sexuality, it's to do with the romantic orientation side of things. romantic and sexual orientations are separate for a lot of people and as someone in both aro and ace communities, we of all people should know that, lol.
@@Chuck_EL As a lesbian that sounds very weird. She just sounds bi without wanting to label herself as bi.
as someone who nearly died in a car accident in November and was in the trauma unit for a month and am now permanently wheelchair bound cuz of someone under the influence hit my friends car, seeing Tara joke so openly abt what she did rlly angers me cuz wtaf
@ville__concern troll
Hope you're doing OK today
@@lemonywater2979 I'm recovering well, still some problems with my heart but I'm in rehab and currently trying to walk again without support (walking frame and AFOs) :3
@@theophilusomhurchu4438 So proud of you! I know I'm just a random internet stranger but what you're going through sounds insanely difficult, and you're an absolute badass.
Im so sorry that happened
Imagine literally sexually harassing another living being then being like “they’re in love with me” 😳 this girl literally needs to be isolated in prison. Disgusting
10:31 It’s definitely giving ‘How some male writers would write a feisty female character’.
Omg I was thinking that too, Sinner!
@@Imscaredofeverything 🙌🏽
She is literally the main character of a terrible romance novel who's only character trait is making her bland boyfriend happy
STOP 😭
The social effects of pornography being majorly catered to straight men is something that needs to be talked about more.
I've seen people try to start that conversation but it always seems to end badly into comments like "it's healthy not harmful!" and "it's normal to watch!" and "it's not cheating" and so on and zero problems are talked about. I'm assuming people are too dependent on it, even while in relationships, and rather turn a blind eye to all the horrors and bad effects of it. It doesn't matter do you bring up human trafficking or social effects. It's already too far gone
@SneekySnixx exactly! I saw a docuseries about escorts in Vegas and this lady said she was trafficked into it with the false idea of being a model....
It was really sad to hear her story. She goes into detail about how trafficking isn't a choice but being a sex worker Can be a choice for some girls. She said she's been able to spot girls who have been taken because she knows the game. But the average person wouldn't know.
The language and slang she uses reminds me of how secretive drug game is.
I'm glad she's free, and is able to tell her story to help others.
@@SneekySnixxWhich is ridiculous because it should not be that hard to have a nuanced conversation. It's healthy to self gratify, and IF you are consuming ethical pornography at a mild-moderate rate then theoretically, that would probably be healthy too. A lot of the problems with pornography come from the industry at large and the way it's produced that encourages people to develop unrealistic ideas about sex and sexual encounters. I personally would say I find it a little ridiculous that people think consuming pornography is cheating, unless it's a specific situation where they're interacting one-on-one in a specific person's content and you've made it clear you're not comfortable with your partner subscribing to a personal onlyfans or whatever. A situation like that I can understand more where your mental track is going. As well that there's nothing that should be more wrong about consuming pornography while in a relationship because realistically, your partner is probably never going to be into all of the things that you are. So if sometimes you are gratifying yourself to a scenario like that for example, I think it should be understandable. There are 100% too many people who are addicted to porn or consume unethically created porn, I think everyone can agree on that. But I have also seen some unreasonable takes from other women specifically that I believe are way too rooted in personal insecurity for them to demand those things from a partner and have that be healthy either.
Her:“People love to sit online and pick sh*t apart and then make up these crazy scenarios, these crazy fu*king narratives about how I’m racist”😢
Also Her: *Does Blackface*
she didn't do the blackface, but she did defend it.
Specifically on the situation regarding her sexuality:
She was definitely fetishizing sapphic relationships. That said, a lot of what she said sounded like internalized homophobia to me. Given that she said she HAS had one crush on a girl, I don't think she's fully heteroromantic. I think she's been convinced by society that women aren't an option for her to date. It sounds like she has internalized homophobia regarding romantic queer relationships but not regarding sex. And yes, I think this is probably closely related to the industry she works in. Since that's promoted in that industry. Anyway point of this is I do think it sounds like she's bisexual, and it's important to note that this is internalized homophobia rather than outsider homophobia. That said, it isn't an excuse for fetishizing wlw relationships. Not an excuse- but it is an explanation.
Yes, I'm getting denial from her and it's sad that she seems to only see her own sexuality from the framing of male sexuality. Been there. But she's in deep. The bi erasure make me weep.
I saw people in the comments of a tiktok saying heteroromatic is fetishizing wlw and basically co-opting the ace spectrum. I thought maybe I had just missed out on some discourse but I haven't seen that sentiment here (or maybe I've missed it)..
I used to have a friend that would flirt with me and do couply things towards me all the time. I identified as a queer woman for the first 3 years of our friendship. I now know I'm nonbinary. She would tell me stories about being intimate with women but insisted she was straight. Many of the things she said were very similar to what Tara says in her videos. A lot of internalized homophobia. I ended the friendship last year after we got intimate after a night of drinking and she pretended like it never happened. I tried to talk to her about it multiple times and she would just shut down. In the end our friendship was unhealthy and she wasn't willing to process or address her attraction to me.
yeah i feel like a massive proportion of bi women - and even some women who later come to identify as lesbians - have said exactly the same thing at some point in their lives, and then discovered somewhere down the line that they absolutely can be romantic with women, they just hadn't been fully in touch with that part of themselves. as a young bi woman i definitely went through the crisis phase of "shit i think i only like men romantically and women sexually, my love life is doomed forever," but it wasn't really the case once i started getting to know myself more and actually having romantic experiences. obviously when you have a platform it pays to be more careful with your words, but this is literally what comphet does to queer women so idk why people expect her not to be affected by that.
I agree, I think she only thinks having sex with women is okay because the men in her life think it's okay/like it, and she can make money off of it. Honestly, even without the internalized homophobia, she's still a pretty messed up person.
I wish people would stop referring to criticism as "cancelling"
same! Also using it when referring to serious stuff like grooming and SA allegations.
I’m bisexual and I happened to fall in love with and marry a man. It doesn’t change the fact that I find women attractive. I’ve always been so scared to be “bisexual” because I’ve never really DATED a girl. Me and my husband met at 15 and 17…I’ve had experiences with and without him with other women but still. Thank you for making me feel validated ❤
Thanks for calling out how the term queerbaiting has been (mis)used to describe the behavior of real-life people and explaining why misusing it that way can be harmful.
I remember people accusing Kit Connor (of Heartstopper) of queerbaiting for not explicitly coming out himself, as if they're entitled to know that information. Absolutely disgusting behavior from supposed fans.
I remember being so torn about that, I've been outed before and that sucks, but I definitely agreed with the general consesus (just not in this context). I personally came to the conclusion that it's too much trouble to be queer representation for others when you can't be out on your own terms (out to everyone excluding parents, only to strangers, only to teachers, etc.)
that entire situation made me so mad -- I'm unlabeled myself and they should've taken him saying "I'm unlabeled" as enough. because unlabeled IS for queer people!! it's for queer people who can't define their sexuality, or don't want to! my brother is unlabeled and has said before that he finds labels stupid.
the thing I'm angry at the MOST is how people began accusing HIM of lying about being bisexual and saying "only women can be bi!"
and the fact he had to deactivate his Twitter account because of what people had done pisses me off even more. it's why I hate it when people make videos about him being outed, or articles about it. I hate it even MORE when they use his name as a way to get clicks.
Because that's the reality -- a teenager was OUTED. That's a TRAUMATIC situation for anyone! ANYONE! for a teenager being outed is their worst NIGHTMARE. because when you're a teenager you feel like all eyes are on you! when you're an adult you at least get to choose who knows your name.
so for him to be outed to the ENTIRE WORLD? I can only guess how awful that was for him -- I was outed myself, twice, and I can only bet that what I felt then is a fraction of what he feels now.
In my opinion, given how he's essentially begun to hide from social media and only does interviews now, it's rude to make videos or articles about it.
Because his family and friends will see it - and he'll see it. yk how our phones are always listening to our conversations? yeah, their phones will most likely have picked up on the fact they know a famous person and give them more videos or articles about him. My phone was able to pick up on me and my dad talking about Hogwarts Smegacy and gave me ads and articles about it.
goodness, the kit connor situation hurt to watch. as someone who was outed in high school, seeing him be forced to come out publicly (which to me has the same impact as being outed) was absolutely awful. people need to stop feeling entitled to other people's sexualities.
Thank you so much for not stopping at "blackface is wrong," and going forward with *why* it's wrong. The assumption that all folks know the history when so many middle aged people don't seem to makes it important to educate folks.
"Most guys love that" yeah ask yourself why. He sees you as a sexual object Tara, stay safe.
people who do things like that to animals are predators. They're literally assaulting a being that can not consent. I feel like it's pretty much the same thing as pedophilia, it's absolutely disgusting, and not okay in literally any way. You're literally taking care of this little creature who relies on you for everything, who trusts you, looks to you for help. I've always seen every pet I've had as my children. Wtf is wrong with people?
Also the fact she kept calling the bird a perv when she was assaulting it like bruh
I swear I was saying the same thing. Isn't what she's doing considered as bestiality?
The Cornell Law definition:
-Bestiality is the performance of any sexual act between a human being and an animal.
@@amandatownsend5132 literally like it makes me think abt how she must talk about people who have been assaulted
@@saturnsings3471 it sounds exactly how an abuser talks about their victims
Im bi and recently had my first real experience with another woman with the intention of long term dating. It was very liberating and genuinly one of the most romantic experience I've ever had. Hearing the way Tara speaks about kissing women reminds me of people in my life who would tell me I was just going through a phase or that I liked girls for male attention, but I'd get over it once I found the right guy.
Happy for you! Insecure men are gonna deny the authenticity of wlw experiences, and internalized homophobics are gonna repeat those sentiments. Love me a fear-based romantic system.
Absolutely disgusting I’m sorry hun
Loove the user btw
The fact she tried to give advice on birds when she is literally abusing hers is killing me 😭
As someone who has had many male “friends” of mine tell me as a lesbian that it’s “extremely attractive when I kiss other women” or even that it “turns them on” I really appreciate this video. It feels nice to know I’m not alone in this sentiment especially when I hear from so many people that men enjoying women kissing each other isn’t fetishizing because “they just like women and so why wouldn’t two women be better than one”. Thanks Anamarie!
Maybe it's like believing that the porn you watch is "real people" and not just performers who have been paid to make something that turns you on?
giving; havent explored their own sexuality vibes
"Thanks for telling me that! I'll make sure to never kiss a woman in front of you ever again."
I think the term "performative bisexuality", as said by the person that commented on your thread, is perfect for these situations. Sadly I know wayyy too many women that are 100% straight but will kiss other women in order to get validation from men, it's really depressing. Even my ex boyfriend said he wouldn't be mad if I kissed/hooked up with another girl and I had to sit him down and explain to him that, no matter how he feels about it, it would be cheating
but if he consented, it wouldn’t be cheating. cheating would imply that he wasn’t okay with it
@@kphoria1009 honestly you're right, but the bottom of the problem here is that somehow being unloyal with another woman "doesn't count" and it's most likely bc they can fetishise it and don't take wlw relationships seriously
Man, at first I was like “well it’s okay to be sexually attracted to a gender without being romantically attracted to them” but then she just kept going and going and left me feeling sick.
I accidentally ended up on the homophobic Christian side of RUclips Shorts. Your video was uploaded at just the right time.
Do you feel like screaming into the void?
@I crave death. It was about a girl being saved from 'being LGBTQ' by God, so I definitely felt the need to.
@@sunnysky96 do it then, you'll feel better afterwards.
I get Jordan Peterson and Joe Rogan no matter how many times I say “not interested” 🙄
Got this girl that made fun of Sam smith for calling themselves a “fisher-them” in an interview 😟 it was so specific seemed like she was stalking them cuz wtf who cares it DOESNT MATTER WHAT PEOPLE CALL THEMSELVES 😭😭 she was like a daily wire industry plant
Honestly Tara is that drunk straight girl who flirts , dates , plays with your heart. Then says oops hehe I’m actually straight.
Haaaaate those!!!!!!!
They are the wooooooooorst
Well, she's flirting with her freaking BIRD, I can't imagine how careless she can be with human strangers
@@farenbrosca9496 true
Lol
"this generation is so fucked up in other ways" I know right, some of them sexually abuse their birds, spend 30k on concerts and see no problem with it! You're so right, Tara
And 10k on makeup, yeah? All of it makes me SICK. There are so many people out there who cant work for whatever reason and are living in poverty, very sad! She hr makes herself look so ignorant of people who are less fortunate. And the whole "I gave away ten Harry tickets" isnt sh¡t to me or others who ACTUALLY want to lift up less fortunate people to the best of their ability. Food for thought, the poor man who gives his last dollar is of higher moral standing, than the rich man who gives $1,000 when the 1k isn't even sh¡t to him. 💁🏼♀️
36:23 i cant believe im being accused of fetishizing lesbians after i fetishized lesbians for my male audience on onlyfans
Marty deserves a better owner. Constant sexual frustration can lead to birds pulling out their feathers and picking at their skin.
-someone who works at an animal hospital
The whole "Can real people queer-bait?" thing reminded me of Kit Connor who plays Nick in Heartstopper. He was accused of queer-baiting because he is playing a bisexual character on Heartstopper and was seen with a girl. People took from that that he was straight and thereby queer-baiting by playing a bisexual character. In the end they basically forced him to come out as bisexual even though he didn't want to discuss his sexuality in public but had to because hate comments and stuff wouldn't stop. I think the belief that real people can queer-bait is so extremely harmful. People don't know what's going on in another person. Maybe they are still experimenting with their sexuality, they could be bi, pan or something else completely, you can never know. That being said, I think what Tara did was definitely fetishizing sapphic relationships but maybe she is actually bisexual, we don't know.
Yes! And also, it’s acting after all. Who cares if a characters traits don’t line up with the actors traits, that’s what acting is for! It’s not a reality show is it??
May I recommend the newest Sarah Z video on this same topic? She also argues that it's harmful and provides explanations as to why!
@@Norah54321I get that but we need queer actors in queer roles
I get that as well but people should also stop assuming someones sexual orientation based on their acting role, like I have not seen such outrage happen bcuz lets say Robert Pattinson is in a movie where he makes out w another man, and Timothee Chalamet has done that too, and they're bot dating women. In the end their sexuality is theirs and their partners business@@Sapphosroommate
@@Sapphosroommate yes! I totally get that, especially for some films about things queer people go through and stuff like that. But it shouldnt matter what an ACTORS sexuality is.
Dude, my first date with a woman was with a girl like this and it sucked. She was super pushy about sex and had some serious internalized homophobia, such as finding out she had a boyfriend afterwards and he "was fine with it cuz it wasn't a boy." Yikes. Definitely put me off trying to date women for a minute unfortunately 🫤 I was scared as it was and that was just too much. Honestly still too nervous now 😓
I have a coworker like this, she knew I was a lesbian and started telling me about a girl she used to mess around with till she found a boyfriend but it wasn't serious because she would never date a woman because women are crazy and too much work.
One of my good friends is lesbian and she tells me stories like this all the time.
Honestly it’s hard enough as a straight woman to find someone to date.
Some queer women are like this, and some women from the lgbtq+ community said that sometimers, women like them are way more sexist, rude, horrible and disgusting than straight women. That a girl who is lesbian(4 example) can, or be amazing and the best partner, or be a hellish nightmare.
For example, in spain(my country) exists a dating show called first dates, where they hook up people who are single so they can try to get a partner. Obviously, not straight people also go there, and this case was about two girls. a butch big strong girl and a more femme presenting one.
In less than an hour, the butch girl escaped to the bathroom an called a friend of hers. She said sth like "Omg, yo, that girl they put me with, she looks more (female "f word" or sth, its exclusively a spanish bad word for lesbians)than me like look at her, like i dont wanna be the woman of the relationship!! i dont want her! I need to be the one sodomizing in the bed, no way she is the indicated! The woman i want must be submissive"
the worst is that the femme girl wore jeans, shirt(not even t shirt) and medium long hair(to shoulders), but worked as a mechanic i think.
I was like, tf? The girl was kinda femme, the one "looking like a man" was the girl who said those things in the bathrrom in 1st place, so idk why she said that a girl just for working in mechanics was a dude and said such rude homophobic words to her persona!! Plus the buch girl acted as those homophobic sexist straight 60 yo men, but only in this case, she owned a V and tattoos. Wow
By just seein the butch girl enter, made me see the toxicity from far, lmfao.
the worst is that this girl acted victimist when someone else said bad things to her. Like ma'am, first work on yourself and thennnn! U ask for rights. Like u cant be expecting people to be nice if you are hateful yourself. Having gay card doesnt give u a vip entrance to the community. But the actions you do does.
I was "friends" with a girl like this 😭 She kept complaining to me about her boyfriend and how sucky and boring their relationship was and hinting at doing things with me because women "didn't count" to him. I ended up blocking her and just sorta kept to myself since 🥲
I felt guilty for thinking my cat was really cute while she was in heat because she would roll around cutely and make these cute meow-songs. (She's fixed now, she went into heat the day before her first spay appointment but we just rescheduled.) This lady with her bird is on another level, goddamn.
as a pansexual, it has been hard for me to come out as sapphic in any way because of the fetishization of 2 women together
i had an ex back in highschool ( this was when i considered myself bisexual) and he would always talk about only ever having 3somes with women and never with a man
he would also show me images of attractive women online (and this was when i had bad body dysmorphia and he knew this) and it just caused me to spiral and i been in the closet after that about being sapphic in any way until recently
i really wish that me simply calling myself bisexual back then didnt result in this, he was also not the only cis male who kept showing me images of attractive women, knowing how insecure i am with my own body back then :( it took too long to recover
I hope you're doing better now. He sounds like a POS
That's so gross, I'm sorry. I remember coming out as bi to a boy i thought was my best friend in high school, I was really nervous about it, and the first thing he said was "So you've kissed girls? That's so hot" 🤢
dawg the same thing happened to me 💀 he knew i was pansexual and apparently thought that meant i was attracted to every woman on the planet. we only dated for a few months cause he was genuinely an idiot.
That really sucks hope you are healing or healed from that experience
This happens too much 😭 we share the same story 🙏 Hope you've recovered and found how valuable you are and surrounded yourself with the best people, wishing you the best
“Finna be in the cl*t” is maybe your best joke Annamarie oh my god 😭😂
Hi Hannah
oh also! the strange prevalence of... i guess i'll call it covert zoophilia, is becoming very alarming. i don't know why people need to be told to not sexually harrass or assault their own pets but, uh, don't. animals can and will experience sexual trauma. it's abuse in this instance, and it's abuse every time. what the fuck.
As a lesbian and a bird owner this woman is my worst nightmare
*waves* hello fellow bird parent lesbian!
I was gonna comment that sex work is work and has nothing to do with sexual orientation. That I and many of my colleagues are not attracted to men at all but pretend to be for money.
But then she said that she'd never sleep with another guy on camera. So for her it's not about "sex work is work". It's about "there is real sex vs sex with women".
Hey, slightly unrelated/related question: is sex work even legal, and if so, where? There’s this whole conversation popping up and it keeps getting more cinematic representation lately, which is good, but I’m so curious cause it’s definitely a controversial topic. I’m also asking you since you commented as a sex worker
@@Overseer2579 I'm in France. It's legal here.
@@celestechantelouve5496 ahh gotcha
@@Overseer2579 But most sex workers live and work in places where it's illegal. Which makes them very vulnerable to abuse, including abuse from cops. I'm lucky it's not that bad in France (the laws are bad and dangerous but at least I don't risk jail).
@@celestechantelouve5496 yes, very lucky (that’s not sarcasm, btw, I’m being completely serious)
The fact that she can full-on cheat on her partners and say "most guys love that" is pure evil.
I've been through that pain far too many times, I know that excuse and many more. Especially the whole justification of "oh, it's not in THAT way". That's not a valid excuse. If your partner isn't okay with it, DON'T DO IT, YOU WILL CAUSE IRREVERSIBLE DAMAGE.
I truly think she's a rich kid who saw Tana Mongeau and decided "that's my personality now!"
pretty sure they were friends at one point
I was just gonna say this is the first I’ve heard of her and my first thought was she was a Tana wannabe
took the words outta my mouth. you balance you analyses with sharp wit and great observations. i appreciate how elegantly you approached tara’s fetishized look on sapphics. luv ur work!
you're too kind, thank you so so much!!!
“I finna be in the pit” really went places on black tik tok I’ve never laughed harder at cultural appropriation it was legitimately funny 💀💀💀
As a bird owner it makes me so so sad because I made the same mistake early on with my bird, turning them on like that affects their whole mental health, well being and their relationship with you and can take a long time to rectify. She can make jokes about it, I sure did but the way she spoke about it conveyed she didn't really understand the impact she was having on her poor bird.
i don't think it's that she doesn't understand, she just doesn't care
It can also cause HUGE behavior issues with birds. We had a bird growing up and we truly didn’t know any better (this was back in the late 90s early 00s) my dad would pet him on the back and under the wings constantly. He went from liking everyone to ONLY tolerating my dad. If anyone else came near him he’d lash out and try to hurt them. I feel really bad for the damage we did to that poor bird and all the frustration I felt as a kid who just wanted to hang out with this bird but couldn’t because he’d draw blood.
I was in a poly relationship with a girl once and her boyfriend (now fiance) was like this. He was totally okay with her dating other "girls" (I'm ftm and he knew this but I haven't medically transitioned yet) but not other guys. There were a lot of similar issues with that relationship, which is why it ended, but when I tried to explain this to her she totally didn't get it.
The oof I oofed. Sorry about the erasure
that’s so shitty, as another trans guy fuck them both💪
She reminds me so much of my old friends (2 girls) they were almost exactly the same in the sense that they 1 bragged about being straight and 2 talked about wanting to kiss girls and I was heavily sexualized and objectified by one of them for months and it was just so uncomfortable and I hate how people like this exist. As a sapphic asexual girl, I don't feel safe telling my (straight) friends about my sexuality/preferences because of the fear of being objectified.
I don't think she is a hetero romantic bisexual. but I feel like we need to acknowledge hetero romantic people. or people who has a difference between their sexuality and romanticism.
(hetero romantic are people who ONLY feel romantic ATTRACTION not desire to the opposite gender )
I think in a case like hers it'd be like, sexually into everyone, romantically only into dudes. I'm not personally like that, I'm into dudes and then everyone outside of the binary, but am t4t when it comes to sexual partners because cis men stink.
Anna did address it, granted only briefly, but even if she is her boyfriend’s fetishization of it is disgusting and she is so excited for his view on it which is also not great. She really sounds bi all around to me, she acknowledged having past crushes on women despite them not going anywhere. She thinks it’s fine to sleep with women while in her straight relationship but not men, maybe she needs an emotional connection with men so it feels more like cheating to her but we’re not in her head and she is not very careful about what she decides to say on the internet nor does she take constructive criticism at all. She’s admitted to not doing her research with her bird, I’m willing to bet that applies to many more aspects of her life.
I kinda think it also doesn't matter? If a bi woman chooses to do this she's just as bad as a straight girl would be
That sounds like actual hell. Like 9/10 Straight men want sex and are pushy
Sort of how like asexual and aromantic are different things? So an asexual person can still be interested in romantic relationships. But in this case, the person is only interested in a romantic relationship with the opposite sex, but still being interested in a sexual relationship with male and female people.
... Cool.
I just found you recently & I am so glad I did! As a 40 something pansexual woman married to a 50 something pansexual woman, we've had our share of even "friends" who would fetishize our relationships. It's always been so gross but I'm so grated for humans like you who are starting to talk about these things! Thank you for all that you do! 💜🙏🌈
sorry if this is weird, but im a lesbian in my early 20s who just started living with the woman ive been dating for several years and seeing this comment made me so happy. i hope to spend the rest of my life with her and with all the scary shit in the news these days it kinda gives me a lot of hope to see other people living similar dreams to mine. im really happy for yall and i wish yall nothing but happiness and blessings.
@pixelpossum49 not weird at all! It actually made me really smile, so thank you for that. I hope that you & your partner have a long road ahead of you. Just make sure to be honest, even if you think it might hurt their feelings. Always advocate for yourself but be willing to compromise too! And I can't stress communications importance! You cannot communicate too much! 🤗 And I'm on IG at the same name if you ever need to talk. I wish my wife & I had found each other at your age but better late than never! 💜
This creater is awesome and Im glad you found her too 😁
thank you thank you thank you!!! This section on queerbating is so friggin important! No one owes anyone anything regarding their sexuality regardless of their career choice! U rock
as a bisexual genderqueer trans masc individual it drives me cuckoo bananas when I see people harassing celebrities about publicly declaring their sexualities! It’s a nuanced subject but at the end of the day the point you are making about a right to privacy is what I always end up coming back to
The whole "I wanna hook up with girls but never date them lollollollol" moment sounds EXACTLY like the shit that came out of my mouth when I was deeply closeted and in denial. I was 100% ADAMANT that I was straight for years...until I fell head-over-heels for a good friend and had to confront my own internalized homophobia and shame. I hope that Tara will one day be in a place of self-reflection and growth, but I'm not gonna hold my breath 😳
I'm a bisexual woman. The fetishization of sapphic relationships and bisexuality has always upset me greatly, and impacted my relationships. My first boyfriend was obsessed with the idea of a threesome the moment he found out I'm bi. It made me feel like nothing more than an object that he could project his fantasies upon. It's so damaging and for a long time it made me view myself and my own sexuality as something tainted and gross, something that men can take advantage of. I've never had sex with a woman (I've always been super bad at picking up signals and I have ZERO rizz), and that's always made me feel "invalid" somehow, as if I'm "not a real bisexual". I've been asked multiple times if I really like girls or if I'm just saying that because men think its hot (not in that exact wording but that's the implication and general gist of it).
I hate the way Tara's video made me feel. I hate the way most lesbian porn makes me feel. I hate the idea of her making out with her friends for her partner's creepy fantasies. I hate that she is profiting off this exact kind of fetishization. It's part of why people are biphobic, because it reinforces harmful stereotypes and sexualises bisexual people. What she's doing is so harmful and gross, and that's not even mentioning the fact that she absolutely abused that bird.
My ex would force me into threesomes...
@Ville if you think that, I don't think this is the channel for you
@ville again, doll with the fishing? Darling you just want to start fights. I mean if you honestly want an original thought articulated in the comments I’m still here to help. This boring fishing is so old
I dont get it if someone is critical of your sexuality its biphobia but everyone can slam this chicks choices and thats just fine?.
Ill let you in on a secret hypocrisy and Calling people you disagree with phobic is what harms the entire LGBT community.
@@thumper84you know I have to say I think you have a bit of a point there. This chick clearly handled all of this horribly but she seems to be exploring her sexuality in a sincere way for some of this. But I think the video did a good job in the end of it by addressing how Tara may be sincere in her sexuality but is doing harm (whether or not intentional) by pushing a narrative that upholds regressive ideas about bisexuality.
As a OF creater that's part of the LGBTQ+ community hearing someone put her in her place is sooo nice to hear
I'm asexual and panromantic, so when people really really sexualise saphic women I feel really weird cause I love girls so much and my non-asexual saphic friends share that feeling. Like there's so much more to it than that, it's just love. It's so baffling that some people don't understand that
@Ville ???
@Ville no, panromantic. I'm not sexually attracted to anyone, but romantically I can fall inlove with anyone. It's as simple as that
Nobody mentions she didn’t research for Marty the bird AND the minute she got him she would leave for weeks at a time for cruises. The only type of travel where she definitely couldn’t bring him
Bird people barely leave the house FR they need you
I want to seriously thank you for taking time to caption your videos and make them accessible to everyone.
"I'm gay so im not the best at math"
Damn I knew being bad wasnt my fault. it was the love of ladies that did it.
My math skills when my egg cracked: "I don't feel so good, [Ms.] Stark..."
Is that a thing? Gay people meant to be bad at math?
I mean, just FYI, I was doing a PhD once in maths and I think more than 50% of the male postgrads were gay. That was the first time I went to a gay night at a nightclub because everyone else in the department was going and I went with them.
@@paulhammond6978 It's a common joke/stereotype, but I do not believe there is any actual evidence it is true.
This feels so wrong. I’m personally struggling a bit with bisexuality vs bring a masc sapphic enby. But what she said comes across not as someone exploring themself, especially the way she defended against criticism
If one is non-binary, does that make them inherently bi/pan as neither the terms homo- nor hetero-sexual apply 🤪?
Honestly I always feel like I’m wlw or mlm, always queer in one way or another.
@@AnkhAnanku it's another term but nb use gendered ones bc it's easier even tho it's not the right term
@@AnkhAnanku some enbys are exclusively attracted to men/women, so no theyre not inherently bi/pan by being enby. however yes i do agree that the terms "homosexual" and "heterosexual" wouldn't apply in this case. that's why a lot of enbies will instead use labels like "gay" to describe exclusive attraction to men, and "lesbian" to describe exclusive attraction to women ^^
Masc sapphic emby?? Wtf is that
@@princessmolskiii google exists, no need to be rude
I used to be lesbian but then I started hearing about other sexuality’s then I realized something felt off and when me and my GF started dating we found out I was pansexual!💗💛💙pride to everyone here
Everytime she touched that parrot I had to look away from the screen. I've never wanted to pop someone's skull open like that, but animal abusers aren't exactly "people" themselves.
same, i had to skip that whole part because i cannot stand animal abuse
I'm not like other gorlz, I'm a driving hazard 💅
LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
You could not WATERBOARD that shit about the bird out of me. The fact that she goes online and makes silly little jokes about it is genuinely shocking. And also, as a bi woman, we do not claim her.
As a poor and probably a bit jealous person that lives on benefits alone (because I'm disabled), I hate it when people complain about "having" to spend an enormous amount of money on shit... I mean, enjoy yourself, you do you, but don't complain about it to rub it in our faces... I don't know but it frustrates me. And also, I have a parrot. It's okay to not know everything about the pet, but when you KNOW you make it arouse, why do you continue? Not just is it perverted, but it's mean as well and especially with birds that live alone with humans and cannot do anything with the arousal. It's just mean to them. And of course, disgusting however you look at it. This woman seems to have very little self-awareness.
Also as a queer woman, I think Tara can just enjoy sex with women, but it disgusts me that she contributes to the problem that men fetishize us. Women in a relationship and women having sex are not made for men. I hate the wording of hers when describing her relationships with women in this way! It just enables how men fetishize gay and bi women like our love and sexual relationships are made for them.
I REALLY appreciate you mentioning how heteroromantic bisexual people exist and are valid!! (Plus variations like homoromantic bisexual) I’m not one myself but I am bi and while I have a bit of a preference towards femme folks romantically, I have a HEAVY preference for femme folks “sexually”. (I put sexually in quotes because I’m on the ace spectrum lol) and it can feel really invalidating because people feel like you’re being intolerant or something when I literally just… don’t have those feelings. So I really appreciate you bringing that up!
By the way, don’t get me misconstrued: I do NOT think Tara is heteroromantic bisexual, or if she is then she is still queerphobic. The way she explained things was extremely intolerant and fetishistic in nature, no matter what her sexuality is.
yeeesss!!! being bi isnt always a 50/50 attraction!!!
I'm bi myself and ngl, i feel a little icky about the whole heteroromantic bisexual thing, especially when it comes to girls identifying this way. (Btw, I'm referring strictly to people who are NOT on the aroace spectrum in any shape or form) Cause they usually fall into 2 categories: girls who engage sexually with other girls mainly for male attention and because it's seen as "cool and hot", and girls who have internalized homophobia and are not ready to accept that they're sapphic. My point is, in both cases the label is just used as an excuse. I think it requires a lot of self reflection for a person to come to the conclusion that yes, they're fully capable of feeling both sexual and romantic attraction, but they lack the romantic attraction towards women. Imo, most people lack that and it's simpler for them to declare "i think i could kiss a girl but never date one" . I also want to point that i've never seen a cis guy who identifies this way, and i tend to believe it's because it's not seen as cool for a straight guy to kiss other guys at parties, but it is if girls do it, because of fetishization
@@axel7541i’ve actually seen guys identify that way
you had me at "I'm gay, so I'm not the greatest at math" lmfao
Tara is doing beastiality type things, the random dude was participating in beastiality. Any sane person would see how truly inappropriate and disgusting that is. No one but creepy people would think of their pets in that way.
that bird and puppy both deserve way better than some of the most disgusting pet owners
5:32 I love when people are like, "Nobody wants to work anymore." Like it took me 200+ applications, 4 job interviews, and nearly 2 years to get a part-time job. Like, why is the blame always put on unemployed individuals and not the business? In most cases, you need to GET HIRED to get a job.
I had one interview I was ecstatic for. I had done my unpaid college internship at a place similar to this and I had experience with the computer program they used. Literally 100% qualified.... Job went to someone who was already in the district and had absolutely zero experience with said program. That broke me, istg. How are you supposed to try anymore when a job you hit 100% qualifications for doesn't want you? I ended up getting hired by a small business.
They literally mean noone wants to slave labor... When Kim said that it was bscause her apprentice wanted to be paid minimum wage or a non paid full time job.... Don't be fooled. You're not lazy. They want free labor. For us to work harder so they don't have to do real work themselves.
No literally. Over 200 job applications and 25 plus job interviews for jobs i was overqualified for. And this was during the time where “no one could find employees”
After a few months of that i just started stripping 🥴
14:20 her being like, "because it's funny" even though she just said herself that he would scream because he was frustrated????? the way she's talking about her bird is giving shane dawson talking about his cat
If she does every add break I would never get mad of seeing them there so calming for some weird reason
I started working as a hairdresser at age 16 from here in south Africa. But yeah, guess no one wants to work. Lol
It's like she forgets that shift work, sick days, and days off exist. Or they could also be social media types, maybe people who stream for hours each night, or whatever.All are reasons someone might still be in bed at 2pm. You'd think that as someone who is a self employed social media person she would realise that there are all kinds of work options for people.
Sure, there are some who "don't want to work" but most of them are doing other things in the afternoon. It's more likely, I guess you see people doing that who have "rich parents" paying for their lifestyle, who have been partying all night.
I'm curious about when that was recorded, too, is it recent or was it during quarantine?
Of course, the other possibility is that the minute the alert comes in for the phot people are jumping into bed to make it look like they have a lifestyle they don't.
It just annoys me, I guess, because I recently had a similar conversation with someone who said 'people don't want to work hard anymore'...all the young people I know work exceptionally hard, they work long hours and take whatever overtime or extra opportunities to earn more
Whereas, I think the thing that many of the problematic social media influencers forget...they're rich because of their fans. That money either came directly from fans paying subscriptions and donations, or indirectly through watching ads on YT or buying from the sponsorship links they post. And while donating money to someone doesn't give you a right to dictate what they do with that money, it does give them a right to be upset if you behave badly
or if they donated thinking you were struggling to pay rent but then you spend stupid money on something unnecessary (not talking specifically about Tara there, idk her situation). So if people decide they don't like how you're behaving now & are not going to support you anymore, that's their perogative.
So, those same influencers need to remember...alienate your fans and the money goes away.
Which means: know when to stop digging! I guess it should be no surprise when people with that kind of ego (outright narcissism in some cases) lack the self-awareness to realise and accept when they are in the wrong. They'd rather go on a press/podcast tour & cry over "being canceled" (honey if you were canceled you'd have no one to listen to you whinging about it) than take ownership of their bad behaviour and apologise for it.
@@hawkeyescoffee6399 yeah. It's so stupid. She really needs to mind her own business
This whole video made me grimace in disgust quite a few times but her expressing she’s “never been emotionally attracted to women” and “would never date a a girl but would fuck a girl” just made me so done! This is exactly what I see happening whenever straight men try to sexualize women and sapphic relationships just like you expressed in this video but I visibly sighed, rolled my eyes and grabbed the bridge of my nose in disappointment 😂
her going to that many concerts in a row is what gets me, like harry styles isn't some improvisational grateful dead or phish or whatever type artist that does a unique hour long solo or whateverat each venue, it's probably going to be about the same rehearsed and choreographed show every single damn time. maybe you can save a few hundred and just spend a night in and watch it on youtube later?
@Sam Antha if you want to spend your money on seeing identical performances fifty times in a row, fuckin be my guest, idc. it's just extremely stupid behavior to complain about the one time you didn't get 100% perfect seating as if it was your one chance in life to go to this specific event while having been to like every other show in the past year
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I love the word “acknowledgement” when referring to people like this. There is no apology in saying “well I would NEVER say that, but here’s why I did”
the reason people didnt like that she said finna Is because its AAVE
That bird should be removed from that house and they should be charged with animal abuse
Agreed. Molesting birds and brushing it off is grounds for animal abuse.
she seems like a super toxic “chill/cool girl” like its actually infuriating hearing her talk
im an addict, and i dont want to be projecting anything onto other ppl, like im not gonna say whether or not other ppl are addicts cuz thats really not my place. what i do want to say tho is that hearing anyone say they "need" or "have" to drink or be high to do something is a big red flag imo. and like its something im working on, im not perfect. but i still feel the need to call it out when i see it in other ppl. idek what the solution is because im still trying to work on it for myself, but with the way tara is throwing away money im sure she could spare some to go to therapy or *something*
Addiction is a bitch. Sending you my positive vibes and encouragement. Keep working on yourself ❤️ staying off is hard
I'm bi and I dated a straight dude. He was like supportive of me being bi with joking about how I'd totally get hit on by other women but then once a guy hit on me, he broke up with me. I was already a bit uncomfortable with how he didn't take my attraction to other women seriously. Combining it with breaking up with me after I get hit on by some random guy just makes it a huge red flag.
i’m ashamed to share a fandom with this woman😭 so many people would literally kill for balcony seats and she’s complaining AFTER SHE SAW HIM MULTIPLE TIMES ALREADY
ANNAMARIE AS A HARD OF HEARING PERSON I CANT TELL YOU HOW OVERJOYED I AM TO SEE CAPTIONS ON YOUR VIDEOS!!! been watching for years and fully getting to enjoy your humor is a gift i can't thank you enough for !!! love you smmmm
love how you’re advertising smut like no sarcasm i love that
I love the inclusion of community comments! It allows for a broader perspective and also helps to like frame things to show it isn't just you feeling this way, yknow? Also it just feels nice to feel included in discussions 😌
agreed! i think i'm gonna do it more often
As a Bi woman, when I saw all her "It's not cheating if it's with a woman" And "My boyfriend thinks it's hot" crap I just had to sigh to myself and shake my head in disappointment. It's bad enough the straight men are saying this shit, but girl not you too?