Let me just say your video really helped me out. I work at Dunkin and my boss is mean and treats me unfairly compared to everyone else. When I make a little mistake he tells me that he won’t give me more hours and that I’m not trying which is really upsetting for me since I’m a sensitive person. He also yells at me sometimes and I cannot take people yelling at me. Of course everyone else who works there are the nice ones and the one who treats me unfairly is the manager. 😔
You pretty much know something is unfair when the general circumstances are unfair. And what I mean by that is when you’re dealing with something of a ‘one-way street.’ So you get some criticism and you respond to it for clarification and then you get no reply. It’s a power-trip manipulation. You got your answer right there.
My brother was the recipient of some criticism im sure if fair or not, i know lots of times... it is unfair, its just wrong person wrong vocation. I know theyre brilliant, but it hurt me, when they said these things
With all due respect asking for clarity about unclear feedback has rarely gone anywhere in my experience. Also building up evidence to support ur claim that they are a bad boss that sounds like a very dangerous game to play. Maybe technically it is ur right to get clear feedback on paper but in reality it seems to be a luxury. The reason I'm disagreeing is because I have a counter proposal. Instead of tryna confirm their unfairness just say "I sorry you feel that blabla" then second step is yes ask for feedback from friends.
So much to unpack here. 1) thank you for this thoughtful response 2) building up evidence to prove their badness isn’t the goal … it’s to expose bad behavior in a systematic, calm, rational way. This only works if you have the support of a high functioning HR dept or some other governing body that can help you. If it’s just you vs a narcissistic gaslighting boss, best to just focus on doing your best while finding a better job! 3) “I’m sorry you feel that way” is kind of a non apology apology. I prefer “thank you for this feedback. I’ll give it some thought .” And 4) YES to then asking people you trust who will tell you the truth even if it’s uncomfortable. 5) thanks for being here and engaging with me!
@@ThisisBronwyn "thank you for this feedback" is a bit too blandly pious and naively optimistic in my opinion but hey I'm still learning. But anyway thank you for this feedback :') !
Let me just say your video really helped me out. I work at Dunkin and my boss is mean and treats me unfairly compared to everyone else. When I make a little mistake he tells me that he won’t give me more hours and that I’m not trying which is really upsetting for me since I’m a sensitive person. He also yells at me sometimes and I cannot take people yelling at me. Of course everyone else who works there are the nice ones and the one who treats me unfairly is the manager. 😔
Same story to me it's hell it's affecting my health 😭
@@brendamoosa2636 you work at Dunkin too?
You pretty much know something is unfair when the general circumstances are unfair. And what I mean by that is when you’re dealing with something of a ‘one-way street.’ So you get some criticism and you respond to it for clarification and then you get no reply. It’s a power-trip manipulation. You got your answer right there.
Our HR is not for the employee at all.
HR is always for the company
Love your advice! Truly helpful!!
So glad you are getting something out it!
Great!
Thank you! For speech is so interesting and heart-warming! I got courage to face it now lol
Yes!!! Go get em!!!! We are cheering for you!
This is really helpfull😊
I could crap a gold bar and my boss would nitpick the shape of it.
Helpful thank you
So glad Chanda!!! Thank you for watching and subscribing!
Happened with me today on class discussion.
Oh no! What went down!
My brother was the recipient of some criticism im sure if fair or not, i know lots of times... it is unfair, its just wrong person wrong vocation.
I know theyre brilliant, but it hurt me, when they said these things
amen!
Office narcissist
This is so helpful！Greetings from China.
Thank you Arwen!!! Sending you greetings from California!
With all due respect asking for clarity about unclear feedback has rarely gone anywhere in my experience. Also building up evidence to support ur claim that they are a bad boss that sounds like a very dangerous game to play. Maybe technically it is ur right to get clear feedback on paper but in reality it seems to be a luxury. The reason I'm disagreeing is because I have a counter proposal. Instead of tryna confirm their unfairness just say "I sorry you feel that blabla" then second step is yes ask for feedback from friends.
So much to unpack here. 1) thank you for this thoughtful response 2) building up evidence to prove their badness isn’t the goal … it’s to expose bad behavior in a systematic, calm, rational way. This only works if you have the support of a high functioning HR dept or some other governing body that can help you. If it’s just you vs a narcissistic gaslighting boss, best to just focus on doing your best while finding a better job! 3) “I’m sorry you feel that way” is kind of a non apology apology. I prefer “thank you for this feedback. I’ll give it some thought .” And 4) YES to then asking people you trust who will tell you the truth even if it’s uncomfortable. 5) thanks for being here and engaging with me!
@@ThisisBronwyn "thank you for this feedback" is a bit too blandly pious and naively optimistic in my opinion but hey I'm still learning. But anyway thank you for this feedback :') !
Right on … do what feels authentic! Shine on and good luck!
@@ThisisBronwyn Well a healthy mix between authentic and pushing ur comfort zone lol
Exactly! 😂
What if that office narcissist is the HR/hiring manager