I have been following my boss home from work for the past few weeks. They don't know that I've been doing this, but I have been making it a habit lately after being denied a recent request for a raise. My annual evaluation on my performance was a 4. A 4. After being denied my request, it came out that my boss actually was given a raise himself. He hasn't been doing anything more in the work place and hasn't had a change of title. I wanted to see what was going on behind closed doors. Maybe a life change that would cause the company to allow for more financial compensation since I was denied mine through performance. I couldn't find any notable differences that I could tell. I found this becoming a habitual pattern after a certain point. Just sitting a couple of doors down from his house and brewing on what feels like my own injustices. This video has been extremely helpful and I feel more relieved and haven't followed him home in the past day or two. Thank you for posting these videos. I have subscribed and gone down a rabbit hole of watching the rest on the channel.
Glad the video helped you get to a better place. The working world is definitely not fair. People are not always fair. Plenty of people step on others to get ahead. If the current company/boss doesn't value you for your contribution, you always have the option of moving. I know this is a hassle and can be hard to do - it remains an option. I hope things improve for you!
This is such great advice. After watching I finally made a decision to do nothing, to focus on working on myself and my success. I have fought things in the past with other companies and it usually is futile, especially if you are the one with least seniority.
I have 2 supervisors. The one that is disrespectful I just work at a slightly less than moderate pace. For the other I work twice as hard for, and for the record it didn't start that way. It was actually the opposite. Unfortunately. fear and anxiety can push people, but then you realize no matter how much you do nothing will make that supervisor happy so why try. Then you start rooting for the other and putting your whole passion behind them. Who says nice guys finish last? 😁
A great example of why it is so important in management positions to visibly work to help team members and to demonstrate that you are interested in your team members and that you care about them. Thank you for sharing! J
Someone who didn't meet the company's criteria got promoted ahead of me and outside cycle; the news made me extremely upset; that she got promoted and not me, while she didn't even meet the criteria and it wasn't yet the end of financial year when they do the promotions and pay reviews; I'm struggling a lot to not hate her, or the person/manager who bumped her up...I feel a lot of agner and hate towards her, because I feel it was extremely unfair and unwarranted; almost everyone in the company agree with me, including my immediate line manager...
@samirafriis - I feel for you. A lot of us have experienced similar or seen similar happen in work. Promotions etc in some companies seem to be more about who you know and how well rather how good you are at your job. Your example appears blatantly unfair. If might be worth you looking at this video as promotion - even when fairly done - are not just about working hard and doing a good job - there are a lot of other factors involved too. ruclips.net/video/9LENrC9zFac/видео.html
Bosses should explain why they give different raises to staff doing the same job. Sometimes there is a really good business reason. Other times biases, discrimination etc come into it which is very unfair and incredibly demotivating.
I work for a local health department. Long story short.. I work in a role for o er 20 years and they were underpaying me despite other people in the same role getting paid more. I now 66 years. After a grievance and representation from union. , I assumed another role but I received a settlement pay . I’m trying to receive a pension so I didn’t take this outside the institution. I’m almost retired but they have hired younger people and paying the person in that role more money. Emotionally…Im not doing well but I am single and no children so financially I have no choice but to stay until I can retire with a pension . I need recommendations to rehabilitate myself after this intolerable situation. Thinking of a retirement coach.
Coaching would be a good option. Any friends or councellers with experience in transitioning from employement to retirement would also be good options. The working world is not fair unfortunately and sorry to hear you have not been treated fairly. J
@@Enhancetraining I’m trying to find a good work coach. A former colleague that transitioned from the workplace to a career coach would be great but she is extremely expensive. It might be worth it to ask her how much a few sessions may cost. She generally uses coaching packages. Her hourly rate last time i checked was $275/hr
@Instkarma9765 Good coaches are expensive. Good coaches can also be incredible value for money when you consider what you can acheive with their help. Worth considering both sides of the equation. J
Pretty tough if you are doing your work and fitting in well with the team AND your boss is making things difficult. Some bosses do because of fears, insecurities etc. If you can figure them out and avoid triggering them, that will help.
Hi so my boss treats me like I don't do anything and he always makes faces at me and my colleges don't like him as well for different reasons I'm one of the best employees there like it's him and my social worker like I do everything that I do and I get treated like garbage and the same goes for my colleges and there's not that much places to look for in my town for different reasons I work in retail
Being treated unfairly is pretty horrible at the best of times. Unfair treatment usually arises through fear and insecurity. What can you do reduce your bosses anxiety about you? Taking steps to help them might reduce the poor treatment you get.
I have a question. If my manager has purposefully asked me to resign by setting unrealistic expectations in the form of PIP and if my client is another country is not aware of all these....How will I inform my client about it?
If you have already resigned (forced to or otherwise), then informing your client that you are leaving would be a professional necessity. I would suggest that you don;t drag a client into problems with your manager as this would be unprofessional and likely to cause you further problems. A question for you - can you demonstrate why the expectations are unrealistic? i.e. comparing to the expectations placed on peers, peer performance etc. This would allow you to push back against the PIP and increase the legal risk to the company if they are acting unfairly.
Worked for company, employed by department 1, had to assist department 2 for a few months. First 6 months - worked 50% for department 1 , 50% for department 2. Next 6 months - worked 20% for department 1 , 80% for department 2. Next 12 months - worked 100% for department 2. 3 months before I left company manager of department 2 told head of department I, they want me working for them full-time, I won't be going back to department 1. Shortly thereafter the head of department 1 (Indian) got Indian employees to start harassing me (walk past my chair saying 'head of department 1 said he won't stop harassing you until you leave', head of department 1 wants to get rid of you, you think because you of .... nationality we must be scared of you, etc.). Not to mention on my way out of building (going home) an Indian employee threatening me with a knife and gun. Told HR I'm fed up with the harassment, thinking of going to arbitration association and going to a labor lawyer. Next day called into urgent meeting, suspended for 45 days, then called into disciplinary meeting (accused of fake charges) and dismissed. 4 days later received email stating company received my resignation letter - I never resigned. Prior to above happening to me another white employee (different department) was targeted by same head of department 1, the white employee resigned with Immediate effect. His work was moved over to department 1 (Indian employees). Does that sound like nepotism / racism / discrimination by head of department 1 (Indian) ? Was the intention to replace me with Indian employees of department 1 (just like with other white employee) ? I chose to fight unfair treatment at work (unfair labor practice) by not responding or retaliating (just ignored it), but reported issue to HR. What is the lesson in above scenario, don't ever trust HR (human resources), if you're an employee, they are not your friend. Don't complain, just get another job, then resign.
Your example is pretty horrendous. HR’s first priority is to protect the company, not you (sadly). From experience, you are much better off building support with senior management (depending on the culture). In your case, I agree get a new job as quickly as possible and leave. J
Holy shit you have a racial/nationality discrimination case if I've ever seen one! I'd go for that 1000% cause their ass is grass if you've documented everything. I knew you had to be White once you said they remarked they weren't scared of you (projection). Racism of any kind should never be tolerable.
I'm so sorry you had to experience that, but I agree; it's not worth the emotional energy and stress; just move on to the next job; new people, hopefully better people. What is even the point of fighting, even if you proved your point - to what end and at what cost. Glad you made the decision to move on with your life.
In practice managers and HR care about the business and team as whole before they care about individuals. Telling them what is happening alone is not enough. Demonstrating or proving it is taken a lot more seriously. It can feel like being a single person going up against a crowd ...
My co-ordinator is unfair & harraser & vampire energetically. One thing im a white foreigner from East European. I can't complain about her to line manager , because my coordinator are the best friend of my line managers, so there is no chance she will support me. Bedside all i love my job and i do not to search other place for myself. I am happily want to continues to work in this NHS TRUST. Please give an advise how to build evidences which will support me every single day 😢😢😢😢???
Creating good evidence in my view is demonstrating a clear pattern of persistent behaviour and actions AND highlighting the impact on you, the team and business from their behaviour. I would capture notes of what happened, when and where. Make each note specific. It is horrible to have a boss being the bully and it happens way too much. J
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I have been following my boss home from work for the past few weeks. They don't know that I've been doing this, but I have been making it a habit lately after being denied a recent request for a raise. My annual evaluation on my performance was a 4. A 4. After being denied my request, it came out that my boss actually was given a raise himself. He hasn't been doing anything more in the work place and hasn't had a change of title. I wanted to see what was going on behind closed doors. Maybe a life change that would cause the company to allow for more financial compensation since I was denied mine through performance. I couldn't find any notable differences that I could tell. I found this becoming a habitual pattern after a certain point. Just sitting a couple of doors down from his house and brewing on what feels like my own injustices. This video has been extremely helpful and I feel more relieved and haven't followed him home in the past day or two. Thank you for posting these videos. I have subscribed and gone down a rabbit hole of watching the rest on the channel.
Glad the video helped you get to a better place. The working world is definitely not fair. People are not always fair. Plenty of people step on others to get ahead. If the current company/boss doesn't value you for your contribution, you always have the option of moving. I know this is a hassle and can be hard to do - it remains an option. I hope things improve for you!
This is such great advice. After watching I finally made a decision to do nothing, to focus on working on myself and my success. I have fought things in the past with other companies and it usually is futile, especially if you are the one with least seniority.
Glad you have made a decision that you are happy with. I hope your plan to focus on your success goes really well! J
I have 2 supervisors. The one that is disrespectful I just work at a slightly less than moderate pace. For the other I work twice as hard for, and for the record it didn't start that way. It was actually the opposite. Unfortunately. fear and anxiety can push people, but then you realize no matter how much you do nothing will make that supervisor happy so why try. Then you start rooting for the other and putting your whole passion behind them. Who says nice guys finish last? 😁
A great example of why it is so important in management positions to visibly work to help team members and to demonstrate that you are interested in your team members and that you care about them. Thank you for sharing! J
I found your videos and I really love the way you're explaining and coaching how to address the situations. Thanks ❤❤❤
You are so welcome!
I’ve been fighting for 10 yrs now I’m darn near 50 and I can’t stop
Good for you. I hope your fighting has been successful!
Thank you Sir , l am watching this Video because of my work.
Sorry to here work is not great. Hope your situation gets better as quick as possible. J
Someone who didn't meet the company's criteria got promoted ahead of me and outside cycle; the news made me extremely upset; that she got promoted and not me, while she didn't even meet the criteria and it wasn't yet the end of financial year when they do the promotions and pay reviews; I'm struggling a lot to not hate her, or the person/manager who bumped her up...I feel a lot of agner and hate towards her, because I feel it was extremely unfair and unwarranted; almost everyone in the company agree with me, including my immediate line manager...
@samirafriis - I feel for you. A lot of us have experienced similar or seen similar happen in work. Promotions etc in some companies seem to be more about who you know and how well rather how good you are at your job. Your example appears blatantly unfair. If might be worth you looking at this video as promotion - even when fairly done - are not just about working hard and doing a good job - there are a lot of other factors involved too. ruclips.net/video/9LENrC9zFac/видео.html
Me and my colleagues got promoted for same positions, but he got 20 % increments and i got only 5%. This happened influenced by Nationality
Bosses should explain why they give different raises to staff doing the same job. Sometimes there is a really good business reason. Other times biases, discrimination etc come into it which is very unfair and incredibly demotivating.
I work for a local health department. Long story short.. I work in a role for o er 20 years and they were underpaying me despite other people in the same role getting paid more. I now 66 years. After a grievance and representation from union. , I assumed another role but I received a settlement pay . I’m trying to receive a pension so I didn’t take this outside the institution. I’m almost retired but they have hired younger people and paying the person in that role more money. Emotionally…Im not doing well but I am single and no children so financially I have no choice but to stay until I can retire with a pension . I need recommendations to rehabilitate myself after this intolerable situation. Thinking of a retirement coach.
Coaching would be a good option. Any friends or councellers with experience in transitioning from employement to retirement would also be good options. The working world is not fair unfortunately and sorry to hear you have not been treated fairly. J
@@Enhancetraining I’m trying to find a good work coach. A former colleague that transitioned from the workplace to a career coach would be great but she is extremely expensive. It might be worth it to ask her how much a few sessions may cost. She generally uses coaching packages. Her hourly rate last time i checked was $275/hr
@Instkarma9765 Good coaches are expensive. Good coaches can also be incredible value for money when you consider what you can acheive with their help. Worth considering both sides of the equation. J
Idk why bosses have to be so mean, just let me go in and work, get my paycheck and that’s it, why make things more difficult?
Pretty tough if you are doing your work and fitting in well with the team AND your boss is making things difficult. Some bosses do because of fears, insecurities etc. If you can figure them out and avoid triggering them, that will help.
Hi so my boss treats me like I don't do anything and he always makes faces at me and my colleges don't like him as well for different reasons I'm one of the best employees there like it's him and my social worker like I do everything that I do and I get treated like garbage and the same goes for my colleges and there's not that much places to look for in my town for different reasons I work in retail
Being treated unfairly is pretty horrible at the best of times. Unfair treatment usually arises through fear and insecurity. What can you do reduce your bosses anxiety about you? Taking steps to help them might reduce the poor treatment you get.
Exactly
Thanks
I have a question. If my manager has purposefully asked me to resign by setting unrealistic expectations in the form of PIP and if my client is another country is not aware of all these....How will I inform my client about it?
If you have already resigned (forced to or otherwise), then informing your client that you are leaving would be a professional necessity. I would suggest that you don;t drag a client into problems with your manager as this would be unprofessional and likely to cause you further problems. A question for you - can you demonstrate why the expectations are unrealistic? i.e. comparing to the expectations placed on peers, peer performance etc. This would allow you to push back against the PIP and increase the legal risk to the company if they are acting unfairly.
Worked for company, employed by department 1, had to assist department 2 for a few months.
First 6 months - worked 50% for department 1 , 50% for department 2.
Next 6 months - worked 20% for department 1 , 80% for department 2.
Next 12 months - worked 100% for department 2.
3 months before I left company manager of department 2 told head of department I, they want me working for them full-time,
I won't be going back to department 1.
Shortly thereafter the head of department 1 (Indian) got Indian employees to start harassing me (walk past my chair saying 'head of department 1 said he won't stop harassing you until you leave', head of department 1 wants to get rid of you, you think because you of .... nationality we must be scared of you, etc.). Not to mention on my way out of building (going home) an Indian employee threatening me with a knife and gun. Told HR I'm fed up with the harassment, thinking of going to arbitration association and going to a labor lawyer.
Next day called into urgent meeting, suspended for 45 days, then called into disciplinary meeting (accused of fake charges) and dismissed. 4 days later received email stating company received my resignation letter - I never resigned.
Prior to above happening to me another white employee (different department) was targeted by same head of department 1, the white employee resigned with Immediate effect. His work was moved over to department 1 (Indian employees).
Does that sound like nepotism / racism / discrimination by head of department 1 (Indian) ?
Was the intention to replace me with Indian employees of department 1 (just like with other white employee) ?
I chose to fight unfair treatment at work (unfair labor practice) by not responding or retaliating (just ignored it), but reported issue to HR. What is the lesson in above scenario, don't ever trust HR (human resources), if you're an employee, they are not your friend. Don't complain, just get another job, then resign.
Your example is pretty horrendous. HR’s first priority is to protect the company, not you (sadly). From experience, you are much better off building support with senior management (depending on the culture). In your case, I agree get a new job as quickly as possible and leave. J
Holy shit you have a racial/nationality discrimination case if I've ever seen one! I'd go for that 1000% cause their ass is grass if you've documented everything. I knew you had to be White once you said they remarked they weren't scared of you (projection). Racism of any kind should never be tolerable.
Report them to court
I'm so sorry you had to experience that, but I agree; it's not worth the emotional energy and stress; just move on to the next job; new people, hopefully better people. What is even the point of fighting, even if you proved your point - to what end and at what cost. Glad you made the decision to move on with your life.
agreed.
Just tell your Employer the Situation, its easy for both your co-worker, the fight will stop.
In practice managers and HR care about the business and team as whole before they care about individuals. Telling them what is happening alone is not enough. Demonstrating or proving it is taken a lot more seriously. It can feel like being a single person going up against a crowd ...
My co-ordinator is unfair & harraser & vampire energetically. One thing im a white foreigner from East European. I can't complain about her to line manager , because my coordinator are the best friend of my line managers, so there is no chance she will support me. Bedside all i love my job and i do not to search other place for myself. I am happily want to continues to work in this NHS TRUST.
Please give an advise how to build evidences which will support me every single day 😢😢😢😢???
Creating good evidence in my view is demonstrating a clear pattern of persistent behaviour and actions AND highlighting the impact on you, the team and business from their behaviour. I would capture notes of what happened, when and where. Make each note specific. It is horrible to have a boss being the bully and it happens way too much. J
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None of them have patience either
Bosses are often under a lot of pressure to hit targets etc. Doesn't excuse poor behaviour.