Sabotaged at Work | What To Do About Backstabbing Coworkers & Bad Bosses
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- Опубликовано: 24 июл 2024
- Sabotaged at Work | What To Do About Backstabbing Coworkers & Bad Bosses // Are dealing with a sabotaging coworkers or a sabotaging boss? Dealing with company politics and competitive coworkers (and bosses) can be a nightmare - but it’s not impossible to deal with. If you have a toxic manager or undermining boss, toxic coworker, or are just dealing with office politics, in this video we’re diving into sabotaging behavior at how to make it stop - without stooping to their level.
0:27 Assume Ignorance, Not Sabotage
1:21 Damage Assessment (how many damage can they do
2:34 Find Work Arounds
3:34 Amplify Your Awesomeness
4:47 Leave a Paper Trail
5:54 Talk to Them
6:42 Escalate with Caution
7:24 Low Contact
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Bosses don’t like complainers. They like workers that come in do their job. Pick your battles, not everyone is your friend, especially at work.
I agree with you one focusing on you job and choosing your battles. It avoids a lot of drama at work.
The wording is crucial, there isn’t anything wrong with complaining but make it sound like constructive criticism
True through self experience.
Agreed, but there can also be legitimate behavior that they need to address and they just don’t want to deal with it either.
Through experience, this is what we need to do. Stay focused with your work and work harder. You hard work will eventually be acknowledged.
Its a shame that people cant have a peaceful work environment
Yeah by mona noorchaalida
I know, right. 🙏🏼
Does not exist in this day and age
Becsuse those who are guilty and culpable of wrongdoing, choose to promote such a toxic work culture to isolate those they don't like, while simultaneously trying to promote themselves are their victim's expense with no remorse or care inthe world, and when they are confronted with this reality by those who call them out on it, they will try to sustain plausible deniability.
I know, right? It's a wonder that anything gets done.
I believe a lot of sabotaging behaviour is born of jealousy. We have all experienced a toxic co worker of varying degrees. In my experience most people are aware of someone who may be a problem. Things always have a way of getting back to you. Even the people who smile in your face while they stab you in the back. I prefer to be aware of their nature before they know they have been rumbled. Oscar Wilde once said a true friend will always stab you in the front. Great video Jennifer.
Amen to that
Absolutely 💯
I feel that most sabotaging coworkers do it on purpose, they know what they're doing. I have been pushed out of a couple of jobs because of them. They seem to have a knack for manipulating the bosses to believe everything they say. I've learned now just to be cool and polite on the job, and not talk about myself much because they can take something completely innocent that you say and twist it around. I go with my gut now also, if I sense that somebody's toxic I keep my distance. It's so true that one rotten apple spoils the whole bunch!
Yeah bosses are fooled very easily
Exactly. She obviously hasn’t been in the corporate world long. It’s f@#$in toxic and full of psychopaths.
I completely relate :(
I'm so glad u said that..I felt like I must have been losing my mind and never really said anything to anyone for fear they'd think I sounded paranoid or something. But since working In Healthcare, I've seen 'Mean Girl' high school behavior that would RIVAL high school girls lol
I am being forced out of job as we speak but I am not leaving until I want to leave.
I am tired of being pushed out of my job.
Everyone needs to take a course on stuff like this before they go to work because it’s very real and very costly if you’re not aware of it. HR won’t help you so you need to be aware and protect yourself,
I'm heavily biased, but I totally agree.
I agree,
@@JenniferBrick hmm; have you tried to sell your product to HR teams?
I once witnessed two colleagues deliberately going through someone else's work looking for mistakes. They then told the boss their findings.
People like this are sad.
Haters! I'm not a stranger to them LOL
Been there done that. It’s sad
*Grooooan* gross
I know a coworker who has done this to me
I am documenting right now. My coworker is undermining me & it’s stressful. I feel like I literally cannot breathe when dealing with this individual
Because I like interacting with my coworkers, I often times talk too much. The key mistake I keep making. I need to do my best to limit contact with others as much as possible when at work
Same. Even if my intention is to be a proactive team member. I have no idea why they misinterpret everything I do and say. I don't know where to place myself anymore
Same here. I need to learn to keep my mouth shut, and be more private. Just do my work, and leave.
It's more than just sabotage, its theft of work. I've seen so many managers steal the work of people under them, say it's their own and then tell people above them that the person they stole it from does nothing all day. I'm high enough up now to not fall for it.
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This happened to me. Boss took my idea and presented it in a meeting. My jaw was in the floor, cause no credit was given to me. The audacity!
Theft of credit happens so commonly I don't even regard them as sabotaging. But to do damage to my work... That's really a step too far
If your boss is sabotaging you, try to move to another department or another company.
Try to cope with the situation with a fake smile on your face while you can’t find a way out.
This is the best and most realistic advice I've seen on here honestly, Too many toxic positivity people giving people advice about ,"Working hard", and "be nice", and it will eventually get "acknowledged"😂 knowing damn well! That none of those things really matter in these toxic environments, what really matters is getting nasty and mean spirited like those people to get ahead, or getting on this people's level.
@@incognito3599it’s just not in me to stoop to these people level, I get exhausted in negativity that is not how I operate
People sabotage me because I'm a great worker and they are lazy slackers that kiss ass. And I am also blunt and to the point people don't like that.
I’m the same way and they undermine me
And I will absolutely not change a damn thing about myself! They are jealous AF! 😎
Same here with me
That part.....
Me too
There's a quote, I can't attribute, but it goes: Never attribute to malice what stupidity may explain.
Yes!! So perfectly said!
Psychopathic boss? Lying and bullying? Slander? Then you haven’t sent the proper message. Being the nice guy will get you nowhere. Unless you instill fear it won’t stop. It’s toxic everywhere.
Don't get mad; get even. My boss thought he had a good little gopher. He sabotaged my promotion twice! The first time I was hurt and confused. The second time I was pissed; so I transferred departments. I left with my knowledge, my dignity, and a $31,000 per year increase. Aye!!! Twerkin to the bank. 😑
twerk on, Sis!🥰
When you are early every shift, give 110% percent, treat your coworkers with respect, and management sees you working hard, you will be sabotaged.
Document everything.
Be professional in reporting everything.
If they are mistreating you...they are mistreating others.
@QueenLucifer777
Thanks for this interesting advice....But it doesn't always work out this way in reality...Always "being nice", or "working hard", won't get you anywhere if people are going well to ruin your reputation and cause you anxiety and pain, it just doesn't work that way...Thanks for the toxic positivity though✌🏾
@@incognito3599 Your perception is NOT my reality. I never said that if you are nice or work hard, you will not be sabotaged. In fact those are the very reasons why you will be sabotaged.
The place to go when you are mistreated in the workplace is to an attorney.
This is why I have successfully defeated those who set out to destroy me. It is always why I have a positive attitude.🤟
Learned this the hard way.
seeing me mess up and be stressed is their morning dopamine high. Soulless fcks. The worst part is. I'm not a morning person so my mind is barely functioning.
@@TaroLoaf I hope things get better for you. It sucks when miserable idiots want you to be like them. I stopped working so early like 6am shifts as I need my mornings to get my family ready for the day.
Damn this is me...
Don’t you love the workplace? Don’t you love the “human connection” and sense of “community” there? It definitely beats working remotely 😂
I just don’t take it seriously! Sometimes, you just have to laugh at the human experience.
Remember, this isn’t a company, it’s a “family”!😂🤣
@@rockstarofredondo all for profit
Just go to work do your job and don't worry about what everybody else doing focus your goals and don't let nothing or anybody come between you and your paper
and what if their behavior affects your performance? and their behavior jeopardizes your "paper"?
And what if your supervisor does nothing about it?
And what if you've been there 25 years?
You'd think that would be enough, but if your boss doesn't like you, he'll mess with you anyways, trust me.
Same here being mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for 12 years. Top workers for 38 years have never been suspended. Jealousy and misery. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, i dink, i'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. They removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroys my reputation. I will never quit to make these bums ever win and if I transfer to another hospital and mobbing starts again I don't know all the managers ect like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. Never let bullies try to control you from quitting. Never let bums win in life.fg
@@7CFlo If you have two or more enemies at work then it's best to use stealthy methods so they end up attacking each other. The more you learn about them the more opportunities you will find. Just make sure there's no trails which lead back to you.
If you're are being 'backstabbed'( *especially if you are a Black woman* ) I suggest *Self Employment*
? By mona noorchaalida
I agree with You, Black women deal with too much sabotage and gas lighting, Nobody tends to believe us at all. And we are so isolated.
Agreed, self employment is the only answer for us. Great video though.
This is happening to me, at my current place of employment. These women are jealous, envious and pathetic losers.
I’ve only had this issue with really old white women everyone else was decent
I worked in factories my whole life where I got to meet some of the worst bottom dwellers of society. One guy I worked with tried to blame another coworker for his mistakes. He did this partly to sabotage others. We were all in the same manufacturing department and when a job arrived we all worked on the same parts. Consequently it was easy to blame others because you couldn’t tell who worked on which parts. When I first saw this blame game I secretly started to put a small hidden mark on the parts I completed. Sure enough several months later he tried the same thing with me. When the boss came over to yell at me I had him separate which were the bad ones. Then I showed him all the parts I made with my secret mark and then showed him all the bad parts didn’t have my mark on them. I won big time that day. Unfortunately as it always goes when you defeat the workplace assh*les it only puts a bigger target on your back. Some of the stories I could tell you would make your blood boil.
This also happens in retail where they swarm stock or rely on word of mouth to get work done
Such shity people exist. I don't know why people can't work on themselves n their work rather than demeaning others . Agrh.
You are right though.. its a dirty game and it appears they can go down to any level.
Try working for the state government lol
I have to leave very detailed notes because a coworker has the ability to get into the system I use and would change my orders so that it appeared I made mistakes and she did it early on enough that I couldn’t figure out what was going on. She tried to change one after the sale and luckily the one I sold was “read only” (so, frozen in time, proving I ordered the correct one). She kept messing up so much in this order and then moved to a new job without charging the customer for the work, so we had to just give that person the product and take a loss. I think this person was her friend perhaps? She also commented to me once “oh, you have No idea what I’m capable of” indicating to me the depths that she would go to be vengeful. And these people do it for the love of being sadistic and think they’re intelligent. It’s absolutely crazy.
Levana I just dealt with the same issue
1 of my managers tried his best to sabotage me. He more or less bullied me and showed narcissistic qualitys but thank god he got relocated in the end.
I'm so glad he was tranferred away from you!
My co worker complained about me, and I was demoted, I was so annoyed
ATleast he got reallocated .... Lucky you
It was a nightmare i just wanted to be left alone but karmas a bitch. Tnx for the vid =)
Its horrible your just trying best and you get assholes
Really needed to see this. Got into a toxic af workplace 6 weeks ago... Thanks!!
I'm so sorry, Dani, that sucks.
Is it a city job??
Me too, Six weeks ago I started at a new organisation and they are so toxic, I missed all the red flags but they are like a cult and do not like dissent. I called them out for time-wasting and toxic positivity leading to low efficiency and productivity. Now I'm the villain
Good video but I just don't agree with talking to the sabotager. If someone is out to get you, it is pointless even if you are nice to him and trying to de escalate the issue offline. Just minimise contact and have everything in black and white. Most of the time you already feel like throwing up when you see that asshole anyway, let alone talk to him
The first point she made about how my energy dictacts the outcome is garbage. I used to have a postive and neutral, niave outlook at my work and towards my co-workers/work associates and they used that entirely against me. They acted like I was too young, dumb, easy to manipulate and intimidate. Six years later I look and act more mature, discreet, and almost always on high alert, and that approach hasn't failed me.
I agree with You, this lady speaks absolute garbage, She definetly is one of those toxic positivity gas lighting people. So many times I have tried being "positive", or "see the light", in terrible people and it didn't make them any better, it actually made me more of a target for sabotage and bullying. When I became rude back or reported them. That was when they started to back off or "be better". Being nice or positive to those kinds of people, Gets you nowhere....You sometimes have to get on their level to deal with them,unfortunately....
Perfect timing on this one - our corporate office decided to let a toxic manager go late last week. Talked poorly of former employees, insulted others in meetings, took credit for other's accomplishments and was downright chaotic/unorganized. Certainly not a leader and not sorry he's gone, but great advice here, thanks for the vid!
I'm glad your company recognitized the problem and parted ways!
Had a female boss like that. Was sooooo happy when she left
Just stopping by to say thank you. Your channel has been very helpful in my decision to leave a toxic workplace. If anyone reading this is struggling and you've exhausted all efforts for a solution; remember your worth!
My manager sent me a dispatch saying the meeting was canceled, and then tried to write me up for not coming to the meeting. I refused to sign it.
What a dummy 🤣🤣🤣 you got proof if so. Then theres nothing to worry about
Happen too me but with the schedule…switch my days without telling me and then fired me for no call no show…just too not pay unemployment
I had a higher up who once tried to sabotage my accomplished work with my immediate head whose only job is to fabricate issues just to have something to talk to me on, but I argued and took the stand on my ideas, and NEVER did I regret that moment.
Insecure men rule the workplace and teach eachother to gaslight employees.
? By mona noorchaalida
Same here being mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for 12 years. Top workers for 38 years have never been suspended. Jealousy and misery. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, i dink, i'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. They removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroys my reputation. I will never quit to make these bums ever win and if I transfer to another hospital and mobbing starts again I don't know all the managers ect like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. Never let bullies try to control you from quitting. Never let bums win in life.vv
Toxic workplace = toxic customer service = bad company results = FAIL
Yikes, I have a toxic, sabotaging boss and a sabotaging coworker!!!! My other coworker hates office politics, but is also subjected to the same sabotage and toxicity!!
I usually assume the best in people and get the worst.
Oh ya by mona noorchaalida
pretty much.
There are people who are simply Evil....and no matter what....they must have their own way....
Yeah by mona noorchaalida
I removed a coworker from all email threads because she kept stealing my work and using it as her own.
Screwwww that
When you let someone know that they made a mistake or did something wrong, you explain and they try to deflect with things you did wrong that don’t equate. That crap is so annoying.
Me leaving for break early isn’t the same as you sending invoices to the wrong people 🙄
Well me working w/ the elderly is like me using the wrong napkins bc theyre truly short, I couldn't find them, it really doesn't matter, ppl telling me different things, things getting done on time anyways, & then some other stupid ish> vs ppl sitting in their own cuts, blood, blood spread, not having clean things to wear or lay on & in, scabies, other spreading infections, & aggression & cliques is always the answer.
My boss and immediate supervisor are so dumb they know I am high intelligence so they try to sabotage me by messing with my computer and not giving me all of the info to do my job. I just do my best and move on. Its repulsive and draining. Thank goodness for FMLA
Ugh... Too late! But i love the advice.
I've caught on at places at work where the bosses and coworkers sabatage went hand in hand..... Meaning this:
If the boss don't like you, they will send their favored ones after you, You are their target til they find an excuse to get rid of you. They will make sure your job performance lowers by knocking you down, jumping hoops that turns to a never ending story. You still cant make them happy. No point in talking about your needs or concerns cause bossy glossy wants to rid you one way or another. They'll even lower themselves to try to cost you your license or certification for the job. Ruin your ability to find another job cause they defamed you. Destroyed your reputation, your confidence, they now own success while you've become the "street bumb" that nobody wants to hire.
It may sound pathetic, but this does happen alot in the work place.
:( so true if boss doesn't like you they do send this favoured ones behind you..
@Brittanie Shea Nixon
Don't worry, I believe You...This is why I cannot stand toxic positivity people. They always try to find a way to gas light people like You who were genuinely sabotaged, Even when you tried to see the good in people, The good never seemed to pull through...Life can be very dark at time and veryyyyy unfair. It has taught me to stop playing fair in an unfair world. Nice people finish last♥️
This sounds like my manager and his most prized pet (the coworker). They are definitely building a case to perceived incompetence. However, I'm building my own network of supporters and leaders in the organization who want to see me make it. I will succeed with or without these 2 haters.
My coworker is taking all the work, hiding behind the company's lack of structure, and accusing me of doing to her what she's doing to me. (Snapping, ignoring, doing my job). She's gaslighting me and and my boss doesn't do anything about it. In fact, he speaks word salad.
Yes, please create a video about why it might be a bad idea to escalate sabotaging behavioural HR.
Thanks for your thoughts, Sade.
Unfortunately, birds of a feather flock together. So toxic people unite against someone who appears to be a threat by being too professional or productive even if they appear not to like each other they will fake it like crazy to achieve the goal of trying to break you; You would think people would appreciate someone who is productive, and minds their business. Nope they will find a way to make all of your positive traits/actions appear to be negative. If you explain then you're deflecting or defensive. If you keep your personal business to your self then you think that you're better than everyone. If you ignore nonsense and drama then you are childish and passive aggressive. These people know exactly what they are doing. I agree with be awesome every chance you get, they will get worse but at least you can show that you actually do work at work and that is what you are suppose to be doing.
It doesn’t matter if your right. There is no wrong or right. Some people have to have someone to pick on and blame for shortcomings. As a group they bond over talking and bullying you. If you don’t jump on the sheep boat, and have a different idea they don’t like that. There is no communication, in other words the communication is done behind your back about you. It is such a disappointment when someone befriends you to backstab you. Humanity is better than this.
Absolutely.
Ppl of authority need to care less about fitting in. If I was in position I'd front ish like ok, in short :/, I like this in both of yall. But both of yall have troubles in this. (🤷♀️) now get outta my face. Bc kissing my arse isn't helping the whole environment, now is it? K byeee. W/ the extra e's bc I like to be annoying... Nexxxtt? Oh wait,there is no next. 🤗I'm such a genius. Unless there's someone truly intolerable + lazy
This is amazing content and has been really eye opening for me. Thank you!
I'm so glad you found it helpful, Arlo.
Watching this video From UAE.
Will not sell my soul for nothing or No One! Blessing! To God be the Glory! Hallelujah Amen 🙏 ❤
It's called jealousy. That's the root of it.
Having had a very insecure co worker not just happy to sabotage me, but also a project to get to me and undermine me by emailing the client to check up on me, you would expect this person would be fired. They are clearly not acting in the best interests of the company. But no, the director didn't even give him a warning. Well, as of today, got another job, a lot more money and another level higher. Wonder how much longer a company will last when they cover for employees actively sabotaging the company they work for in order to make themselves less insecure!
My boss damaged me so much that I couldn't even do my task, she always made me look the worst she was so good that even I believed it. To the point that I am looking for a therapist. One day I just came to my breaking point and I quit. I am pretty sure that she was very happy.
I started a management job with a company recently only to find out it was rotten and toxic after being hired. Managers quitting and taking stress leave, endless blaming, no co-operation and teamwork, zero responsibility taking.
They hired me to take a management position in their well established service department but didn’t allow me any access to the information and systems or procedures that were in place before me. I was told I was a smart guy, ask a lot of questions and figure it out.
I quickly found out that I was also expected to do the work of several roles, most of which were well beneath what I was hired for (like picking orders as a corporate manager?!? C’mon) I also learned that the people before me left to open their own satellite office and took all of their knowledge and experience with them, leaving the GM a with literally nothing.
The staff are nice people but are so toxic and everyone is overworked and facing burnout.
I resigned this week, after 6 weeks I realized how sadly, I won’t be able to change anything or fix what’s going on. It’s not my problem.
Same here being mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for 12 years. Top workers for 38 years have never been suspended. Jealousy and misery. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, i dink, i'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. They removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroys my reputation. I will never quit to make these bums ever win and if I transfer to another hospital and mobbing starts again I don't know all the managers ect like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. Never let bullies try to control you from quitting. Never let bums win in life.tty
It's important to have teamwork and collaboration at a company or any business. I used to have a landscape business and without everyone contributing to build a sprinkler system or backyard.
Love your videos! What do you think of older women being jealous of younger or more beautiful colleagues, thinking that all younger women are stupid, inexperienced or on the hunt for a sugar daddy and sabotaging careers because of this? I've also had problems wearing designer shoes, handbags etc or being shamed for making an effort with my appearance (I'm not trying to get male attention, I'm just trying to look presentable). I've seen so much bullying that's based on jealousy, or on a perception that younger women are all s**ts and I've seen so many girls bullied out the door while the bully always gets away with it time and time again.
It isnt just beautiful women they're jealous of. I am 20 years younger than my manager, don't have a degree and am wag more experienced with payroll than she is. I've been doing it for over a decade
@@shannamac3974 Oh yes they are jealous of skills too, but it's hardly female empowerment. I truly believe this is part of the reason why women don't climb the ladder- it's not men, but older women who want to tear the younger ones down, often out of jealousy and this then hinders career progression even if the younger woman has a stronger skills set.
@@nmcn8347 This is sooo true unfortunately
There’s an issue at my work with a clique of older women (40 and 50’s) hating on and bullying the younger prettier women, I put in a complaint about them to the management about their bullying behaviour, the women in that group then accused me of hating “strong women”. Since when does being a bully equal being a strong woman?
This group of women still rule the roost at my work and I can’t see things changing anytime soon.
@@John-iq4cj Strong??? Nope! More like insecure and vindictive. I've encountered this a lot in past jobs.. Unfortunately a lot of times the women in HR and Mngt are buddies with the bully...
Women DON'T become mean girls at ages 40 - 50 years old.
Nope! They ALREADY were mean girls that just got older and now they have the "rank & power" on the job to do what they've always done.
In their minds, YOU represent the type of female that they've always envied...
So they make you a "target".
It's horrible & annoying.
BUT I hope your situation changes for the better.
I was a supervisor for UPS. And my boss, a coworker and an employee were besties. And they came in everyday just to torment me. My boss wanted to “tear me down just so he could build me back up” he let his favorite supervisor abandon his station just to bully and annoy me. He told me he knew that he was bullying me. But wanted me to prove him wrong myself. So I tried. But nothing worked. Mostly because he already made up his mind about me. And the guy who worked for me would hide packages under his work station just so I would get in trouble. They wrote me up for everything. And changed the sort chart almost weekly. They doubled my area to twice the size it has ever been. And wouldn’t give me extra people. My boss told me almost daily that he wanted me to quit and resign. And every time I overcame an obstacle he made things even harder and wrote me up for not doing it perfectly. He yelled at me. Cussed at me. And gaslit me over my performance. Insulted my intelligence. And made fun of my mental health. Saying I was the weakest out of all his supervisors and that he didn’t need me. But I was too stubborn to quit. Especially since it’s what he wanted. Until one day I couldn’t take it anymore. I stormed out after he threatened to write me up for printing more labels before we ran out. Saying “I don’t care you weren’t prepared” and if I were you. I’d resign and come work for me as an hourly” so I quit. But not before giving him the bird and storming out. And what’s worse is that after I left. Not even a week afterwards he changed everything back to the way it was for the next guy. And it messed me up. Literally broke my heart because I use to love that job. And I was great at it. I don’t think I will ever recover from that abuse.
I’m so sorry that pathetic person pushed you out of a job you loved. I hope you find a good place!
Woww!! I know you wrote this over a year ago. But I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. That is so disheartening! I pray that things have gotten better for you. I hope you have found your dream job, and if not...I hope one day you are blessed with an abundance of money, so you don't ever have to work again! ❤❤❤
This is the reason why i document what i do at work .
In my work place I have absolutely no support - my most recent manager is a bully and is singling me out. She treats me like trash, yells at me in front of the entire floor almost every week. The entire department is in with her too because they are afraid of her. I am divided because I don’t want to quit just yet.. I need more experience before I do it. All my clients really like me and I get mixed messages from the bully boss since she gave me a good feedback during my end of year review… I am devastated…
As always amazing content!!!!! Thank you 🤗🤗🤗
Thanks, Kay 💜
I'm a type A personality, dynamic charismatic type of person. I'm extremely talented and I master everything I do, but I'm very easy to get along with and I'm a very compassionate person. But, I've lost track of the number of times co-workers have tried to sabotage me at every corporation where I have worked. FUCK these people. Take notes of every time they screw up and DESTROY THEIR LIFE. If you don't destroy their life, they will destroy yours.
This woman in my team just hates me for no reason. She teamed up with another member (male) of the team and just became this power couple. She will do whatever he wants to do. Constantly miserable and doesn't do anything, I ask happily. So 2 against 1.
@@littlehomeforest5972 You'll drive yourself crazy trying to please her. See if you can find some leverage to make it easier for yourself or I would recommend changing jobs.
I take it a step further and make personal statements with their car tires in the parking lot. Office bullies are often afraid of real criminals. My mantra has always been "do what must be done."
Love it! Im on the same wavelength@@benisahengaming.😂😮
I had to deal with this working in the information technology industry but regardless there's too many bad managers anyway too many people get MBA degrees and they suck at management
Very true, having an MBA is very different from leadership training.
I needed this. So much thank you 😊
Glad it was there for you, friend!
This is such a nice channel. Glad I found it.
They are a clique. And they are "important" employees, so this empowers them to be more toxic.
I agree,This lady speaks absolute garbage,in the first points. She definetly is one of those toxic positivity gas lighting people. So many times I have tried being "positive", or "see the light", in terrible people and it didn't make them any better, it actually made me more of a target for sabotage and bullying. When I became rude back or reported them.That was when they started to back off or "be better". Sometimes you have to unfortunately get on those people's level to deal with them. Life isn't a Disney movie hey, sometimes trying to see the light in a terrible person, can cost you your life.....
However, they’re no more important than anybody else. They’re just as replaceable as I am, especially in a corporation. We are ALL employees of said company.
I needed to hear that so much
Jennifer thanks for your videos💕.
Thank you for this video. It gave me a different perspective with great tools!
So glad it helped you, Maureen!
@@JenniferBrick I'm glad I found you and your Channel!!
Thanks! Your video helped me!
Thank you for this wonderful information. I just continue to do my job and keep smiling and redirect that negativity somewhere else
I had a situation where I worked as a passenger transport assistant, I used to help people get on and off the minibus into the day centre. I was called into the office and was told that my job role was changing to just working in the day centre instead. I felt rather deflated, I really enjoyed it and the worst thing of all another co worker got my job and I got there’s, I never asked for this. I don’t know what to do, I don’t like complaining but I don’t work as well this way
Did your coworker request the transfer? Speaking with your leadership about the passion you have for your original role and if there is a roadmap back to it may be helpful.
I documented everything about my arrogant and antagonistic ex-coworker, but I forgot to record about my incompetent ex-boss. I should have done it.
Same here being mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for 12 years. Top workers for 38 years have never been suspended. Jealousy and misery. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, i dink, i'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. They removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroys my reputation. I will never quit to make these bums ever win and if I transfer to another hospital and mobbing starts again I don't know all the managers ect like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. Never let bullies try to control you from quitting. Never let bums win in life.33
I'm literally dealing with this right now at at my new job. I've been there for just a month and I manage a different dept. He has deleted all the company's financial information since I started. Noticed that he stole something the other day. He is a gossiper about me and he is not ignorant. He is trying to sabotage me. Our boss is blind and isn't totally trying to see this because he has 14 years tenure. However other employees have been subject to this as well. I feel like I know how to navigate this. Its just I really want to be believed but I feel like my manager is pushing back on clearly obvious sighs of this sabotage. I'm stuck and if there is anything outside of this video that a viewer can give that would be great
Yeah, we've all been there. All you can do is keep extremely good documentation and probably start looking for another job. So many work places are like this, it's sad.
I agree,This lady speaks absolute garbage,in the first points. She definetly is one of those toxic positivity gas lighting people. So many times I have tried being "positive", or "see the light", in terrible people and it didn't make them any better, it actually made me more of a target for sabotage and bullying. When I became rude back or reported them.That was when they started to back off or "be better". Sometimes you have to unfortunately get on those people's level to deal with them. Life isn't a Disney movie hey, sometimes trying to see the light in a terrible person, can cost you your life.....
Fabulous information. Thanks
It's funny you mention the CC part, I previously got talked to by HR for sending an email to the team that I was leaving after 8 hours instead of 10 and got in trouble for it, my manager said he should just talk with your supervisor about that and don't email the whole team, then I saw a safety concern several months later and since my manager said I'm not allowed to tell people what to do since I not in a leadership position I just took a picture email the team and said please see this picture, realizing that most of the team would understand that it was a slightly unsafe situation. So I guess damned if you do and damned if you don't in a toxic environment with a toxic boss and toxic HR, f*** my life 😭😭😭
One essential thing you MUST do is when you go on vacation have all your bases covered.. They will be digging the dirt in your absence..
I never knew I'm dealing with backstabbing co-worker for 5 years and she thought that I didn't knew she keeps talking to me and always so concern like she's not doing anything 🤔.
Some times passing on a poisoned chalice to the usurper is the best way to better personal health.
And sometimes the hardest way to learn about yourself is through the most challenging moments.
Do not give way to anger, do not forget love and you are allowed to take breaks.
I wish you fulfilment, I wish you strength.
But mostly I wish you well.
Needed this reminder. Thank you 😊
I'm too smart to work for other people. Unfortunately, I'm too stupid to work for myself. I'm screwed.
Love your advice, you mentioned a link “Unique awesomeness quotient ”, can you include in notes, thanks!
Do you assume poorly executed good intentions, or bad intentions when you're dealing with sabotage at work?
I know all decisions are made without the employees in mind
If it happens once, I discreetly highlight it. If it happens the second time in a very short time frame, I assume sabotage. Also, HR is useless most of the times. They are there to protect the company and its interest, not you, so beware to what you confess to HR. If a manager sabotages you, go above him and ask his boss to move you to another project/team. Make sure to phrase it in such a way that has NOTHING to do with your manager. Why? because it will arouse his paranoia and insecurities and now you have an even bigger problem to deal with.
@@ForgottenKnight1 I find if you have an issue with HR or your boss, your screwed
@@matthewsmith2787 This is why to have to avoid it like the plague to blame a boss. Frame it as something that you saw that you can do for him to be a better employee. I've had my fair share of bad bosses from utterly incompetent, to monstruously insecure and controlling, to yes-man snakes. In fact, my current boss is a yes-man like no other and avoids reponsibility like it's the Corona virus.
It doesn't matter the intention. Either way it reflects poor decision making skills.
Thank you!
A trainer sat with me to prepare for teaching a class. I showed her an update to a job aid and asked if we could bring it to a workgroup, she said we would. A few weeks later I see an email about her getting it updated. I had documentation and showed my manager who did not approach that person or their manager. Ugh
I found this really unhelpful..
Hi, I would like you to make a video on how HR can make matters better or worse, and why you would or wouldn’t go to them. Thanks!
Same here being mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for 12 years. Top workers for 38 years have never been suspended. Jealousy and misery. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, i dink, i'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. They removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroys my reputation. I will never quit to make these bums ever win and if I transfer to another hospital and mobbing starts again I don't know all the managers ect like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. Never let bullies try to control you from quitting. Never let bums win in life.llk
OMG I have experienced all of the examples she gave by a crazy person @ work. I just don't think she has the reach to really hurt me though, has she tried? Of course. However, since I am sort of new in my field and this lady has been around for many years more than 10 well no one backs me up. I am just sort of trying to avoid her and taking the necessary steps to choose my next adventure which probably will take me some months. THANK YOU for the video.
Could you do a video on teen jobs? Like people in highschool, etc? Love your vids!
I was almost fired today because I asked my coworkers (guys and girls) instagrams. This is after they showed interest in being friendly at a work related event.
Multiple employees whom don’t normally interact actually complained so I realize my mistake was trying to be friendly. What a world
But also now that I’m not fired, I’m going to definitely transfer to another department to avoid those coworkers and still be employed. My supervisor who’s also male explained to me that working in a 90% female industry will lead to men taking the fall Lol. Imagine that
My poor male co workers. Or *1 nurse aide. I always vent to him... he always hits on me. It's like ugh dude- listen! :/ somexs I think its reverse psychology tho. Like plz shut it. I don't even wanna hear it. Or if he does mean it, I'm not trying to hear that. Somexs I forget he's a dude. Venting to him like another female like xyz really does touch on my boobs & I'm just thinking what really r u doing. Lesbo girl: she's low key a lesbo & doesn't know it yet. Like maybe? Always calling me beewaful & trying to make out w/ me or wever she thinks she's doing. He just laughs & walks off. Till that lady's kissing on him. That lady kisses on everyone
You failed a golden rule. Don’t add coworkers to your social networking sites to showcase your personal life
It's worse when you have a long history of failures and carry insecurities and nasty coworkers attack you on that.
Always lift each other up
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Thank you!!!!!!
I was promoted as a trainer good for up to 6 months. First ever promotion in my life and I'm in my early 30s. What I learned is that people can be cruel for no reason. Everyone collecting negative feedback about me and only negative feedback. I learned that my team is organized in doing so intentionally. I'll take it up as bullying. What they don't know is I have hard evidence of intentional sabotage of my position. What I also learned that some people aren't wise.
My sister was scammed by her co-worker and he offered himself with his debit direct deposit as a trusted co-worker she took his word for it, and he ended up blocking the account with her paycheck and refuses to fix the situation and even threatened to hurt her. Like a good brother I am, I will always stand by her and if there’s anything legally I could do to fix this situation would really help. Any information or any past experience you’ve had would help me right now
No talking! It's point blank period, no explanation! Let it go! Let them figure it out themselves!
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Hi your video has got me interested un your UAQ.... but where is that link?
Why does this same girl at work got things to say about me to others? Zero manners or respect and no one corrects her. I reported her to management. They told her she's not allowed to argue with anyone. Id rather she just fell off a cliff personally. Back like a bad smell she is after a second maternity leave.
“Back like a bad smell….” I’m using that one!! 🤣😅😂
Currently applying for new jobs as my current manager is mentally unstable.. and is not a good boss! I've had enough.. do so much work but never appreciated or noticed.
My mentor says, "Never attribute to malice what can be explained by ignorance."
Assume ignorance and not sabotage! I felt that
Thank you madam. 👏
Tks for this :-)
1) I have 2 supervisors - Dual mgmt structure
2) I talked to the top Supr yesterday about an HR issue, that she obv did not want to discuss
3) I come in today and find she scheduled a Performance Review for this afternoon
4) Then the Sub Supr starts bombarding me with emails (presumably with the Top CCed) dinging all my work ahead of the Review
5) Normally I would not respond to those emails and I am sure she knows that
6) I watched your video, then replied with a smile :-)
Kill em with kindness and hard work. Got it !
Tks again!
I’m 32 and worked multiple jobs since before I was an adult lol. This is the first time I’ve experienced the work environment I’m currently in. Apparently, I just found out that the people I’m having issues with, have gotten people fired or people quitting. I almost quit several times but I’m still here because I refuse to let anyone else dictate my emotions. I’m still planning on quitting but no one knows about it or when 😜
I got moved to a different department very recently and I have a good guess it’s because of certain people who I’ve realized ganged up on me a while ago before the move. I could take the easy road and be mad but I honestly feel pity because I don’t know what it feels like to be envious of my coworkers. I hope they find their confidence so they don’t feel the need to sabotage or gang up on others.
Same here being mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for 12 years. Top workers for 38 years have never been suspended. Jealousy and misery. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, i dink, i'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. They removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroys my reputation. I will never quit to make these bums ever win and if I transfer to another hospital and mobbing starts again I don't know all the managers ect like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. Never let bullies try to control you from quitting. Never let bums win in life.hh
Thanks
Any advice on dealing with a coworker who continuously pushes her work off on you? I get my work area nice and tidy with all my tasks done and 10 minutes before time to leave, she dumps her unfinished assignments off on my desk almost everyday claiming she doesn't have time, I'm over reacting telling her no, or asking how it's different when my team/desk mate leaves assignments for me to finish.
I have the same issue and then my boss gets upset with me for not helping my coworker enough. So I told my boss to discuss time management skills with that coworker. I received zero reply after that! 😂😂😂
Your eyes are so BRIGHT! Do you wear contacts? P.s. Thank you for this. I needed this today.
When I first started working for this accounting firm the boss and his father were happy with my work and knowledge, but the other accountants were not to the point of total of yes, " total SABATOGING"! I could write a book on these mean girls that never grew up and the boss. But now that I'm no longer there I feel when I put them down on my resume, that it's still going on and I feel lost, helpless and even angry! Help?!
Is there any kind of terminology, a buzzphrase or anything like that, for when someone reasonably competent goes to a company that's been going to weeds for a while, the people there realize that the new employee's competence is a threat, and whenever something the new employee is trying to do adjoins in any way with their area of work they get butter-fingers, drop the ball, can't remember how to do anything, etc.? It seems like a kind of swarming antibody thing, where they can all each take one hit with the boss if they drop the ball on something but if the new employee ends up unable to do their job they take the hit from everyone else - the goal of the exercise seems to get that new person run out of the company.
I really think this is a thing, I just wish there was a clear name for it. Maybe it's a kind of sand-bagging?
That's plain and simple sabotage.
@@JenniferBrick I suppose, but I think of what the term 'gas-lighting' has done to expose things that people simply weren't mindful of. This is another place where I still get the impression that too many people are like 'Nah, most people aren't like that'. It probably needs some kind of linguistic hook for that to happen - I say that as someone whose witnessed what it can do to keep A-grade talent out of small companies.
I just want to walk out and they’ll them to shove it...I’m too old to be dealing with a bunch of idiots! How do you go about a team lead and coworkers being buddy-buddy.. but treat you like red headed step child..I’ve never met my manager!!!! I just want to walk out...perioddddd..
I walked out y’all 🤣🤞🏾..So much PEACE!
@@Dreas_Redpumps I'm in this situation now. Had anxiety this weekend over it and called off. So much toxic behaviors from new employee having a connection with big boss, boss don't do nothing but lie and sabotage, coworkers gossip and cause drama, big boss being demanding, mean, messy, throwing shade in front of others. Then giving me supervisor duties and dismissing my boss of any work. Then when I tried to talk to then about it, I was told that the new girl gets paid more than me and she does nothing. I have to fix all her mistakes and she don't listen or take in no training I had to give her because she always on her phone and doing stuff outside of work. I feel like a slave. All they do is give me more work after more work. But I prayed about it and waiting to decide what is best for me to do.
@@Candeegirl77 what did you decide
Why would tht person keeping talking abt me? Cant stand the girl. Im quite happy never to talk or look at her ever agn
I recently had a boss that told me that my face was too expressive and that I needed to make sure that my expression wasn't saying what my mind was thinking. One day she gave me a task to do & took my "I'm thinking about how to to that" expression as something negative, pointed her finger at me and said that I "need to check" my face. I asked her to not do that sort of thing again. that didn't help me at all & i ended up leaving the job just a few days after the incident and i will never ever speak up for myself again.
It your loss always speaks up u will have this witches every where you go