I raise my hand that I have been a complainer. I really have to police myself NOT to do it again. I know this is not right. The worst thing is that I end up attracting complainers too. Then I complain more, and the other complainer is like: 'Wtf!' The one thing I have learned the hard way: do not sympathise with complainers. They may not see they are complaining and think their reasons for doing so are always justified, but they will not see you in the same light, even when you fully agree with them.
It's so easy to fall into, Raquel. I'm a complainer by nature too. Like all things I believe in boundaries like you outlined... like not at work, not to coworkers, and I set rant and dwelling limits for myself too. It's a balance of feeling the feels and processing, but intentionally moving on to more effective ways to process the feels ya know?
@@JenniferBrick I got this now. If they complain about others to me, and I'm not in charge of that problem, I just say: 'I see how you feel.' If they ask my opinion, I just say: 'I don't know yet, I'm still trying to figure this out.' They get the message I don't want to get involved.
Religion, politics, and music haha. I have a Master's in Music and that can get ugly with people's attacking "questions." If you have a high specialization in something, don't talk about it and don't field questions. I also have a seminary graduate degree, so religion is an even bigger no-no for me than normal haha :) I have to daily resist my teaching nature at work.
1. Don't talk about religion or politics. 2. Stop ignoring work life boundaries. Stop Sharing personal information. Going out of work hours. Cutting people out of communications. 3. Stay out of the bad gossip. Good gossip is change of leadership, work stuff. Bad gossip is personal life stuff. 4. Stop being disrespectful at work. Distracted by phones, emails during meetings. Interrupting in a meeting. Being chronically late to meetings. Adhere to workplace etiquette! 5. Stop complaining. Negative all the time people are draining. Complain to a trusted confidant. Cultivate positive attitude.
I find the US workplace to be so positive it is almost cult-like. I've also worked in Europe, and I prefer its more professional, neutral/polite way of being.
The coworkers at my old job came to work treating each other like we were a dysfunctional family. They would insult each other as a way of joking. People would laugh. As someone who was bullied since a young age, I never understood that humor. It's almost like the person is testing the person's boundaries to see what they can get away with. Unsurprisingly, they would also gossip about each other often. A weight was lifted when I resigned. Side note: I noticed when I distanced myself from office gossip, I became a target. People saw my distance as a sign of arrogance. I will never understand.
I just quit my job after 2 months. It was exactly as you described. I refused to be a part of their immaturity, and I ignored them but when the owner of the business made the mistake of disrespecting me, I walked out for the first time in my career. The toxic environment was just too much for my mental health. I have 6 months worth of savings to pay my mortgage and bills, so I'm not worried about leaving like that. I'm sure I will find work without a problem.
Sounds like a very immature work environment. I’m working virtually now at a Fortune 500 company and the difference is such a breath of fresh air. They had me do a Workplace bullying Prevention training which validated everything that I felt was wrong at my previous workplace.
I swear we were working at the exact same place with this description....hope you're doing well, Ruby. I just left a toxic work environment last weekend, and am feeling relief, but also concerned about walking into yet another toxic work environment. My last two were just terrible.
I get called "negative" a lot, when the boss says "can you do this?" and the request is actually impossible, apparently it's "negative" to be truthful.
That is a big annoyance to me -- people interpreting the truth as "negative." However, it's not surprising b/c lying is generally accepted in American culture. :) I'm w/ you on this one.
Great example, is it possible to frame your response differently? Something like, with the current “resources/policies/bandwidth’” etc, I am not able to execute that, having said that, if I were provided the following enablers ( list what is needed to accomplish the task), yes I could deliver. Then follow up, could you champion obtaining the necessary enablers?
“I would love to be able to do that. How can we make that work? Is this the overtime position you’re talking about…” Or just point out the problem and ask him or her how they would like you to overcome that problem.
@@FutureCommentary1 Nothing would make the impossible possible, i'm an engineer, I think shit through, every possible variable and every possible outcome.
Recently had a conversation with my lead and boss and explained my introverted tendencies. Ex: I will be the one observing when teammates are fighting to be the center of attention. Just not style. They must know something about me because they said, “we know and you’re not ‘Un-confident’ but you need to show us more of your greatness”….whatever that means…
Co workers discussing politics in the workplace is one of the worst. When I was in the office, several colleagues and higher ups would engage in partisan discussions. Thankfully I was able to circumnavigate the situation by going to the cafeteria to get coffee (and took my time). Fortunately, I work remote 100% of the time. Possibly, consider a discussion of how to deal with toxic co workers in a remote environment.
Good Morning Jennifer 😃 - I am offended when someone can't put their phone away for a brief conversation & can't focus on what we are discussing. It's common courtesy. I always wear a button up shirt over a 👕 so that I have a semblance of a " Professional " appearance & avoid shorts as well. Thanks , as always 👋
In general I think it's so rude when someone is looking at their phone when you're speaking with them - I find it more prevalent in meetings. Being present is so important. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, David!
I absolutely HATE complainers and office gossipers. I've always made it a rule to be cautious with coworkers. I watch what I say and never discuss religion or politics. Great tips!
Jennifer, I mentioned that I had serious conflicts with 3 coworkers in 14 years in my organization. Let me tell you about one of the 3. I used to have a co-worker who regularly conflated Hillary Clinton with Adolph Hitler. This was a daily occurrence during the 2016 election cycle. Everyday, this guy was complaining about “Hitlery” was up to. I made the mistake of getting to know him better, and found out his father had worked with former Nazi rocket scientists in Huntsville after World War II. I asked about this contradiction. Without any reflection, he responded, “They were good Nazis.” Politics at work is not a good idea.
My last ex-manager would be the poster child of all the mistakes you mentioned in this video. His belief was that it's okay to talk about controversial topics and gossip because "we are family". If you disagreed on something not related to work, he would talk for hours trying to change your mind, so I would always smile and lie. And when someone made a mistake, he would use disrespectful words under the pretext of "giving you tough love".... If your manager is like that, don't wait like me and JUST QUIT on the spot.
I completely agree with you said, my coworkers can be so unprofessional and complain a lot as well as gossip. I have a coworker that talks about how much she hates the job, yet she has been there for years and refuses to leave and find a different one. It's incredibly annoying and unprofessional, it is also mentally draining to hear someone talk negatively. My coworkers also like talking about others, I hear them talking bad behind other people's backs all the time while acting like they're best friends to their face. They also have the tendency to get involved in other people's business and ask personal questions, it's very intrusive and I've learned that anyone of any age can do this since most of my coworkers are anywhere between 35-62 years old.
Hey! Just wanted to say as a younger professional that I really appreciate your videos. I always learn a lot, and I'm sure many of these seem obvious to more seasoned professionals who have been in their industries for some time, but I always feel like there is at least one new piece of advice or word of caution that helps me behave in a more positive and professional way at my job. Thank you very much for taking the time to provide such great informational career content.
I agree with this it’s not talked about but most definitely if you have those types of conversations….. if not open minded it leads to biased opinions and judgment when it has nothing to do with your work ethic.
I had a conversation with someone last year, where I listened for quite a long time, asked questions, let him be the center of the conversation... and then when it was my turn, he pulled out his phone and "listened" while I was talking. Unbelievable. I will say that I've noticed since then that this person actually has an issue paying attention to anything and it may not be rudeness as much as it is a condition of some sort, but at the time it just blew me away because as we all know, most people don't have a special reason why they do this. Even just quickly checking something is rude, much less getting deep into the mobile. I'm just saying what we all know!
This is too common nowadays too! People are addicted to their phones. It's the dopamine hits. Our brains don't know what is happening, and the apps we install are designed to distract us and keep us distracted. We shouldn't prioritize humans over the ether over the humans in front of us IMHO.
Unless you work at a religious or politically affiliated company! An alternative to not speaking about the things you care most about is to align yourself with an organization that supports this.
Yep, totally fair, if you're working for a religious or political institution - it's gonna be a part. I'm a huge fan of finding value aligned organizations... but it's limiting IMHO for professional and company success if ideologies are uniform. I know that everyone has a different opinion on this though, and that these ideologies overlap with values!
Love your video, Jennifer! I was always cautious about people gossiping about others, even when they directly not speaking to a person, others could easily hear. That's why I was wearing headphones 50% of the time until someone higher asked me not to wear it. LOL.
I always avoided politics and religion. There was one employee who threatened to kill everyone of my politics and/or lack of religion. He was considered a great employee, because I avoided the talk I wasn't a team player.
@@JenniferBrick professionalism here now is (so far) 100% top notch. I just have to keep from laughing when they use training to say everything that happened at my prior employer is bad and should be reported. Then follow up with, "hopefully this is an extreme example." 😳 here maybe, but there?
How I love this woman. Thank you so much, dear Jennifer, for providing us with this vital information about how to do it at work, because I'm 24 and I'm so unexperienced about all these things and every time I make a mistake at work I get so stressed and anxious that I just don't want to get up in the morning and I already hate this day when I have to go to work. Please, keep sharing with us this info, it's so helpful I can't describe!
Very good tips Jennifer !! Agreed completely with all the points Workplace etiquette is something that I struggle with and am trying actively to better myself. Alot of the betterment have come from you and other content creators as well, so thank you so much for guiding us regarding these!! ☺️ Cheers!
The sentiment is mutual, fascinating how they'll mirror you but when you mirror your surroundings back suddenly you're subpar and need tips on how to appear more presentable. Beyond this they actively cause conditions to lessen what they've been copying for years: making you downsize or creating conditions such that you'd have to, colluding to make you lose situations, holding your interests beyond what's fair... Truly remarkable. 🤔😑 Stay your distance. Stop telling me what to do. I don't engage.
I find it helpful to watch... say... 4 of Jenn's videos and think through them as a single exercise. My take away from this professionalism one, the one on friends at work and various other videos on HR is this ... Put work into its proper perspective. Do not expect from work those things, relationships, etc, that it cannot deliver. You do not get love from a Keurig coffee pod. What you do get is coffee, and its only the kind of coffee you like if you pick the right pod.
Another good gossip is to know someone is sleeping with someone, and that someone happens to be the boss/manager, and that person suddently gets a promotion.
It's called being social. Nobody expects to change anybody mind. Some people LIKE a good conversation/debate. I have some colleagues I strongly disagree with one some topics but we LOVE learning new things as we debate those differences. Now most people are too emotional about to have a discussion with and I will not even attempt a conversation with them.
I enjoy a conversation but not politics or religion. Too personal for work. For example, Im against harming animals, so if someone argued why they like to hunt or were pro factory farms, I'd be pissed.
I never volunteer my religious or political views, but I am not sure how to professionally respond when someone attempts to draw it out of me or says something and expects me to share their views.
My former boss would ask me about politics and I warned her that I'm an independent..so she wouldn't like some of my views. She would still ask, I'd answer politely...and she would get so upset. And when I pointed out how I said she might not like my answer..she didn't care. And so after that, I would say I didn't think politics should be discussed when she asked...and she exploded. She was an odd duck.
I think there are moral questions that have political consequences and they are often being called "politics" as if they do not impact work. So no I never bring "politics" up but I look listen and watch the ppl around me and it can let me know more about my possible growth within a team or entire organization.
I've been trying to deal with a toxic co-worker and have decided to completely cut them out and keep it super professional. I told my manager about his behaviour and I noticed that there was more frustration with me because I'm bringing up an issue.
Hi Jennifer! Thanks for the great list. I’m backing it up with all my >15 work experience. Every point is so, soooo true. And the delivery is perfect. Some of those points are often mentioned in ´code of conduct’ trainings, but they’re so boring that not many people actually take them seriously. It is too painful to get to the point of understanding these concepts through own experience. I wish more people would watch this video and adopt the information in it. I hope the last couple passages are not going to count as ´bad complaining’. :) Really, I believe your channel should be promoted and listed by more people.
Thank you for the pointing out that some places have only one accepted political ideology. Holy cow the number of places like that is insane. And the one person who disagrees gets slandered behind their back.
Thanks Jennifer. As always, your videos are so helpful and inspiring. Could you please make a video about how HR determine employee salary? For example, I just got a new amazing position. I like it so much for what I can learn and do. I asked the employer (current employer now) to just pay me the same as my previous position, even a bit lower becuase I have more holidays. But then, they pay me 20% higher compare to my previous position, with tons more benefit. Amazing, but I don't understand why.
It can depend on a lot of factors. From my experience, it's how your position fits into their business plan & budget. For instance, at the place which I'm just leaving, our area manager played with the weekly labour hours, i.e. pushing our part-time staff around on an "ad hoc" basis, because he didn't want to hire full-time staff in case the workload is lower -- just to save money to make him look good... The best thing is that my new company offered me more money than discussed, because they thought my current company would try to keep me and wanted to give me an edge in my negotiations to leave. :)
I usually agree with everything you say. But I have to say that in my experience at all of the employers that I've worked at it is "one side doing it." Guess which one...
Always a better workplace insight that is based on a reasonable and rational approach, that's the advantage and clearly Jennifer walks that walk. Just defuse the politics by stating something to the effect of "what does that have to do with accomplishing our immediate mission and goals here?"
If someone is doing bad gossip what is the response? I have a hard time knowing how to respond in a neutral way. Another thing I have a hard time shutting down is someone oversharing and starting to treat you like a therapist. What is the polite response in these cases? Change the subject to work things?
I let them vent about other coworkers/bosses. But I just try to take a neutral empathetic approach. Things to the effect of "yeah, that's a tricky situation." "I'm not sure why [blank] happened." "I'm sorry you feel frustrated" I also ask the venter more questions than i give opinions (so they feel heard with me doing the least gossip-participation). Or I just pay them a compliment in a way related to the gossip. Like if someone says "he's always talking down to me like I'm stupid" I'll say "Work can sometimes be difficult. Anyway,I think you're very smart". That way I'm not really making remarks about the person who is being discussed. And it also doesn't come across like I'm a prude or not part of the "team." I've found disengaging can lead ppl to unfairly distrust you. They may take your silence & avoiding conversations as you being self righteous, taking the other person's side, or cold & uncaring. However, when ppl know they can talk to you, but you don't ever drag others, in addition to being a vault (keeping their secrets) they let their guard down around you, bring you more into the fold, are more likely to champion or stick up for you, and more likely to be understanding when you make a mistake at work. Bc they'll see you as supportive & empathetic, they aren't afraid you'll bad mouth about them behind their backs since you don't do that when they gossip about others, so they generally feel they can trust you, and that you aren't a threat. If you can make them laugh and feel good about themselves, all the more good for you. These are things that make the environment & opportunities more positive for you.
The amount of things I know bc coworkers learned they can talk around me is crazy. I'm not out to weaponize, or use anything against anyone though. It just naturally opens more doors for you & gives you a heads up on info that might affect you, or ways you can contribute work wise that can work in your favor (i.e. solving a productivity/efficiency problem the boss has been venting about on the phone to a friend bc he's not afraid of you overhearing many of his conversations, or getting ahead of a workplace complaint you wouldn't have known existed had it not been for the office manager's big mouth) 🤷♀️ I only indulge in the gossip I hear at work to my immediate family; lol, like who is my mom going to tell? Ngl though, I'm also an inherently nosey person...I like to know EVERYTHING! But I've never been the type to weaponize what I know. I just like knowing it.
Let’s see. I had a job a few years ago where the high school age students would regularly use foul language in the break room and sometimes around patients. They also were horrible tattletales and would go tell the manager everything that they were annoyed with about their coworkers. Worse, the manager just took their word for it and took disciplinary actions without checking out the situation first. Just a couple years ago, I had a job where the boss would close the door and yell at me about things I was doing wrong that she had not actually trained me on. The job after that was a gossip factory, and when I called it out, I got fired. And in my last job, there was paperwork I was required to do before working on a client, and one of the receptionists would not only not give me the paperwork, she yelled at me when I would ask for it. She also told the manager lies about me to try to get me fired.
My biggest mistake one year ago was taking a coworker too far into my private life. We shared our entire private lives from morning till evening for months. Then at once she cut me out, me wondering what happened, i asked, got reported, both got prohibited from communicating to each other. It's really a traumatizing contrast, and due the no contact rule (without ending or solve) it's a never ending situation. I'm currently in the process of applying for another position far away from my current department. A very expensive lesson. Leave colleagues at work, no matter how nice they seem to be.
I really want to thank you for focusing on actions that reveal unprofessionalism rather than appearances. I've always been amused that tidy, button-up, khaki wearing people can have all these abhorrent actions and still be called "professional" based on appearance. I enjoy bucking the system by being a consummate Corporate Goth. Yeah, I wear all black and have visible piercings. But I absolutely do not participate in any of these unprofessional behaviors. I actually feel like I *must* be exceedingly professional *because* I choose not to wear the typical corporate uniform. I've chosen one aspect of my personality expression that I won't give up. And I make sure that my actions convey my professionalism. Could I wear corporate camouflage and make my life easier? Sure. But over the last nearly 2 decades of my career, the dysphoria of trying to subdue my personal style and expression was too much. I'd rather just be the weirdo who ends up being awesome than the Chad who ends up being a jerk.
Jennifer, what do you say when someone is talking poorly about someone or gossiping about others. I get teams messages or people walking up to my desk and they start gossiping. Or even if they talk politics. What do I say to get rid of them and stop them from approaching me again?
7:48 i dont know why, this feels so random, but this was so hilarious to me i laughed out loud, maybe i kinda felt me playing league vibes or something but this was so good, blessed
Your videos, i just discovered, are very helpful and discuss topics that are needed for someone navigating a corporate work environment. Thank you for that. Would you be able to create a video about managing up? Im a professional who is the only one in my field (video) in my department and I'm finding it difficult to share with my leaders why things should be done a certain way without ruffling feathers. Is there a way to present my case while making everyone a winner? I want the projects and our department to succeed but am having trouble making my voice heard.
If everything that you have outlined herein is the accepted standard/normal conduct of management, what are your recommendations for this type of work environment? What you have described in this video was exactly the typical procedures at the last place that I was employed before leaving. I am curious for your feedback and any advice that you could offer. Thanks for the great videos. Cheers!
I was doing my training in a break room that was super cold and was infested with roach and spiders the director said I was unprofessional for bringing a blanket which I can understand but it’s also unprofessional to make someone work in a clearly unclean and nasty cold environment for 8 hours
The odd aspect of the "Do Not Discuss" politics rule is that it is not New yet where I am it's ignored to the point of CEOs openly donating money to a particular party and participating in party events, and in terms of the local newspaper 📰 they paid for a full page ad supporting the gubernatorial candidate for the party. If this isn't bad enough, someone got the bright idea that it's public information so they'd make it easy to search on the internet to find you and your affiliation. This can hurt your job prospects and sometimes a person selects a side yet doesn't know themselves well enough. Definitely have learned why not to discuss politics yet even people who know better are violating this rule.
oh no, we talk about politics all the time at work. it's very difficult not to as a civil engineer. our work almost entirely revolves around elected officials and the opinions of citizens. curious what you think about this.
Many of the suggestions you make are applicable to an American work environment. Cultural differences exist. In some cultures it is considered OK to talk about Religion and Politics. And in others it may be even considered nice if you show your vulnerable side at work. Did you know that gossiping becomes quite necessary to form good bonds with colleagues and also get ahead? It’s not necessary that all gossip is about bad mouthing someone.
Another great video! Like i said before, i am new to working inside. I worked construction and i was a mechanic, so.... These videos really help. I got on youtube and listen to music. Lol!! I will definitely work on that. Lol!! One example why these two work places are COMPLETELY different.
In addition to religion and politics it seems like the covid vaccine is another polarizing (and politicized) topic. Anyone else have experience with this?
Honestly I know it’s unprofessional but I will talk about politics with the people that agree with my politics at work. I just like to talk about politics though
I work in Sweden on jobb where my boss is very insecore about role . It happens that my colleagues do not allow me to take day off or vacation and my boss allows it. How can I stand upp for my self? They are from Sweden but I come from another country...
In a warehouse, too many play their music loud. Its really two issues, playing too loud and offensive content. There is a lot of N-word rap that should not be heard at a work location. Why is it that the rules of being professional don't apply in the warehouse? Management has looked the other way for too long. I don't see a reverence for safety and heavy machinery. Seems like office etiquette flies out the door permanently outside. And the point is that its not just rap but any music too loud. I would prefer silence.
About the last point lmfao!!! People really made fun of me because I was such a positive person. They'd literally tell me to my face. I wouldn't even be loud about it- I'm just naturlaly nice no matter what I'm going through. If I ever did complain, 6 find reasons to put me down for it. People really are just low-life professional haters!
Hi Jennifer In the banking sector, everything you said is a no, is a must do in my workplace. If you don't bring a bunch of complaining about rival groups they think you don't fit in. Gossip is expected. People seem to dress however they want as we never went back to the office. And its par for the course to start fights with everyone. If you are nice they steamroll you. I think your tips are good for non bank and non tech environments.
I want to add, while many are working remotely, if you have a meeting and constantly take your calls from within the car and it clearly sounds like you're in the car, that is totally unprofessional. Understandably, you may have to be away from the desk, but when your role doesn't require you to be away ALL the time, you are NOT working. Totally unprofessional!
Definitely do not discuss politics at work. Never a good idea. Especially when you work somewhere that heavily leans in one direction. Even if you lean in the same direction. Yes, it does happen and it can unfortunately affect their business decisions.
Hi Jennifer, I love your videos, but the parameters of some workplace issues are just impossible to cover. My Team Leader went off ill for a month. I was very concerned as it was so unusual. I had hardly any money, however me being me, I sent her a Get Well Soon card, a 'mixed' Bouquet of beautiful flowers - 6 red Roses, 11 pink Exotic Lilys, Red Berries, Foliage - all in the Bouquet, and a 'Merry Xmas' placard in the flowers too, as well as a teddy bear. In my card, I had printed, "To an awesome Team Leader - you're missed heaps! Get well soon, Merry Xmas! X." I received no reply, no thanks, nothing, until a few days later when her manager dragged me into the office, stating that my card and gifts were 'romantic' and 'unwelcome'. My HR personnel record had a letter added to it stating that I was 'romantic' and that it was all unwelcome', inappropriate and unprofessional too, and that if it happens again, I may be disciplined formally. The upset / grief that I felt cannot be explained in writing. I made 5 informal attempts to get my name cleared. All attempts failed. I therefore had no other option and so I made a claim to the Employment Courts (in the UK, it is called an Employment Tribunal). My employer blatantly lied, stating that I sent 6 red roses to my Team Leader. I was kicked out of her team as a result and my name / reputation trashed. Any job I applied for afterwards internally, I was rejected and a whole load of lies written about my Interview performance. I asked for a copy of all interview notes so that I could make an informed appeal. They denied me my request, stating that they are unable to supply the info, due to other parties being involved in the interview process, and hence they claimed this would breach their confidentiality. I was therefore prevented from making an appeal. This is the badness and the toxicity and corruptness of organisations who will try to protect those on the 'Management' team, (or those with merely 'Team Leader' title, making their way into Management). An absolute abomination was made of me and my reputation in tatters. By the way, I'm gay and my (now former) Team Leader knows this ... What do you think of that?
I'm sorry you got that treatment for just being thoughtful. 😢 As I was reading the first part of your story, I immediately thought, "That's a bit over the top!" It's not unusual for human beings to be sick. Ask yourself a question: Would you do exactly the same things for all of your coworkers? It's not clear if you've communicated to your team lead about your real reason why you've sent the bouquet before going to the tribunal. I'm sure if that was communicated in a "oops, I think there was a confusion there, I regard you as the best team lead I've had and am really worried since you've been sick for so long that I sent you a get well soon bouquet to check how you're doing." I find it really strange, though, that they've reacted to the bouquet like this🤔. Are you and the team lead close at all? If not, that would definitely explain the complaint because doing this kind of gesture to someone you're not close with (even if they're your team lead) is creepy. I regard my supervisors highly, and I respect their expertise in the field. When they get sick, I don't ever send them anything. The respectful thing to do is to just let them recuperate in peace, and when they return to work I let them know that I'm glad they're back and are doing okay. If you must send best wishes, just send them an email or text. The most you can do is give them a short phone call to wish them well if you get too nosy. It will still be intrusive depending on your level of closeness, but at least it's not as creepy if they perceive you as not that close to them.
Hey there’s a point where everything is political. A couple of years ago I chaired a meeting and a woman behind me said she didn’t believe in facts. I just paused and went on chair a meeting. Small talk at lunch was filled with micros aggressive racism and homophobia. At one point I just kind of slammed my stuff in a pile and left the room. I ended up having a recruiter notify me and I left.
people seriously need to leave politics at the doors when at work, I work at a bowling alley as a server and a few years ago a kid came in with a MAGA hat, my coworker who was working as a cook that day saw him and went on a small rant about it, afterwards he told me "if he orders food let me know" and it wasnt in a joking way, I told him to cut it out, I swear he was gonna do something to his food
The politics thing: it's becoming increasingly difficult with companies deciding to take stance on politically sensitive issues, so you'll find yourself having to pretend you support whatever that may be against your own values, I am a bad liar. It's making me very bitter and apathetic.
Asking me to stop talking about religion is like asking me to not use the restroom while at work. I talked about religion at my last job on an almost daily basis, but I also listened to what others would say. We had some very fruitful conversations, but it was also a small firm with about 30 employees including the 5 firm partners. Half of my religion conversations were with the partners themselves. It basically comes down to my priorities in life. God first; family second; work and work relationships next. Whatever happens with my workplace relationships due to talking about religion is inconsequential compared to my relationship to God. Politics… I could take it or leave it. I generally don’t give my opinion unless I feel it would be beneficial to the conversation in some way.
Are there mistakes you would add to the list?
I raise my hand that I have been a complainer. I really have to police myself NOT to do it again. I know this is not right. The worst thing is that I end up attracting complainers too. Then I complain more, and the other complainer is like: 'Wtf!' The one thing I have learned the hard way: do not sympathise with complainers. They may not see they are complaining and think their reasons for doing so are always justified, but they will not see you in the same light, even when you fully agree with them.
It's so easy to fall into, Raquel. I'm a complainer by nature too. Like all things I believe in boundaries like you outlined... like not at work, not to coworkers, and I set rant and dwelling limits for myself too. It's a balance of feeling the feels and processing, but intentionally moving on to more effective ways to process the feels ya know?
@@JenniferBrick I got this now. If they complain about others to me, and I'm not in charge of that problem, I just say: 'I see how you feel.' If they ask my opinion, I just say: 'I don't know yet, I'm still trying to figure this out.' They get the message I don't want to get involved.
Don't use chat boxes to chat. It's all saved on the servers.
Religion, politics, and music haha. I have a Master's in Music and that can get ugly with people's attacking "questions." If you have a high specialization in something, don't talk about it and don't field questions. I also have a seminary graduate degree, so religion is an even bigger no-no for me than normal haha :) I have to daily resist my teaching nature at work.
Some of us just weren't cut out to be 'professional.' I have a compulsion to tell the truth, which never goes over well.
Telling the blunt truth, is not just a bad thing to do at work, but also in life.
The truth is a power entity and should be used carefully.
Ditto
Same😊
@TASconfidential, that's literally the worst advice I've ever read someone give.
Ok, edgelord
1. Don't talk about religion or politics.
2. Stop ignoring work life boundaries. Stop Sharing personal information. Going out of work hours. Cutting people out of communications.
3. Stay out of the bad gossip. Good gossip is change of leadership, work stuff. Bad gossip is personal life stuff.
4. Stop being disrespectful at work. Distracted by phones, emails during meetings. Interrupting in a meeting. Being chronically late to meetings. Adhere to workplace etiquette!
5. Stop complaining. Negative all the time people are draining. Complain to a trusted confidant. Cultivate positive attitude.
Thanks. That saved me several minutes of listening to her annoying voice!
I find the US workplace to be so positive it is almost cult-like. I've also worked in Europe, and I prefer its more professional, neutral/polite way of being.
The coworkers at my old job came to work treating each other like we were a dysfunctional family. They would insult each other as a way of joking. People would laugh. As someone who was bullied since a young age, I never understood that humor. It's almost like the person is testing the person's boundaries to see what they can get away with. Unsurprisingly, they would also gossip about each other often. A weight was lifted when I resigned.
Side note: I noticed when I distanced myself from office gossip, I became a target. People saw my distance as a sign of arrogance. I will never understand.
When you distance yourself it can't show them how immaturity they're being which triggers their sense of inferiority.
Same! I would always get brought into conversations by people joking about me
I just quit my job after 2 months. It was exactly as you described. I refused to be a part of their immaturity, and I ignored them but when the owner of the business made the mistake of disrespecting me, I walked out for the first time in my career. The toxic environment was just too much for my mental health. I have 6 months worth of savings to pay my mortgage and bills, so I'm not worried about leaving like that. I'm sure I will find work without a problem.
Sounds like a very immature work environment. I’m working virtually now at a Fortune 500 company and the difference is such a breath of fresh air.
They had me do a Workplace bullying Prevention training which validated everything that I felt was wrong at my previous workplace.
I swear we were working at the exact same place with this description....hope you're doing well, Ruby. I just left a toxic work environment last weekend, and am feeling relief, but also concerned about walking into yet another toxic work environment. My last two were just terrible.
I get called "negative" a lot, when the boss says "can you do this?" and the request is actually impossible, apparently it's "negative" to be truthful.
That is a big annoyance to me -- people interpreting the truth as "negative." However, it's not surprising b/c lying is generally accepted in American culture. :) I'm w/ you on this one.
Great example, is it possible to frame your response differently? Something like, with the current “resources/policies/bandwidth’” etc, I am not able to execute that, having said that, if I were provided the following enablers ( list what is needed to accomplish the task), yes I could deliver. Then follow up, could you champion obtaining the necessary enablers?
“I would love to be able to do that. How can we make that work? Is this the overtime position you’re talking about…” Or just point out the problem and ask him or her how they would like you to overcome that problem.
Or... The boss... Being THE BOSS... Could ask "why is it impossible" "what would make it possible"
@@FutureCommentary1 Nothing would make the impossible possible, i'm an engineer, I think shit through, every possible variable and every possible outcome.
I'm too introverted to do most of these 😃
I'm super introverted too! Most of these give you reasons not to talk to people 🙃
Recently had a conversation with my lead and boss and explained my introverted tendencies. Ex: I will be the one observing when teammates are fighting to be the center of attention. Just not style.
They must know something about me because they said, “we know and you’re not ‘Un-confident’ but you need to show us more of your greatness”….whatever that means…
Co workers discussing politics in the workplace is one of the worst. When I was in the office, several colleagues and higher ups would engage in partisan discussions. Thankfully I was able to circumnavigate the situation by going to the cafeteria to get coffee (and took my time). Fortunately, I work remote 100% of the time. Possibly, consider a discussion of how to deal with toxic co workers in a remote environment.
One bonus to working remote, definitely
Kudos to finding a consistent out and staying away from it!
Good Morning Jennifer 😃 - I am offended when someone can't put their phone away for a brief conversation & can't focus on what we are discussing. It's common courtesy. I always wear a button up shirt over a 👕 so that I have a semblance of a " Professional " appearance & avoid shorts as well. Thanks , as always 👋
In general I think it's so rude when someone is looking at their phone when you're speaking with them - I find it more prevalent in meetings. Being present is so important. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, David!
I leave my phone behind during meetings.
workplace etiquette is a lost art and I think that is why I just love your videos!
I absolutely HATE complainers and office gossipers. I've always made it a rule to be cautious with coworkers. I watch what I say and never discuss religion or politics. Great tips!
Thanks a bunch!😊
Jennifer, I mentioned that I had serious conflicts with 3 coworkers in 14 years in my organization.
Let me tell you about one of the 3. I used to have a co-worker who regularly conflated Hillary Clinton with Adolph Hitler. This was a daily occurrence during the 2016 election cycle. Everyday, this guy was complaining about “Hitlery” was up to. I made the mistake of getting to know him better, and found out his father had worked with former Nazi rocket scientists in Huntsville after World War II. I asked about this contradiction. Without any reflection, he responded, “They were good Nazis.”
Politics at work is not a good idea.
I just... Can't with that person. I can see why they were one of the very few you had conflict with.
Facepalm!
My last ex-manager would be the poster child of all the mistakes you mentioned in this video. His belief was that it's okay to talk about controversial topics and gossip because "we are family". If you disagreed on something not related to work, he would talk for hours trying to change your mind, so I would always smile and lie. And when someone made a mistake, he would use disrespectful words under the pretext of "giving you tough love".... If your manager is like that, don't wait like me and JUST QUIT on the spot.
"Your co workers are NOT a family". I've heard that a lot, as well as "people don't leave jobs, they leave managers".
I completely agree with you said, my coworkers can be so unprofessional and complain a lot as well as gossip. I have a coworker that talks about how much she hates the job, yet she has been there for years and refuses to leave and find a different one. It's incredibly annoying and unprofessional, it is also mentally draining to hear someone talk negatively. My coworkers also like talking about others, I hear them talking bad behind other people's backs all the time while acting like they're best friends to their face. They also have the tendency to get involved in other people's business and ask personal questions, it's very intrusive and I've learned that anyone of any age can do this since most of my coworkers are anywhere between 35-62 years old.
Hey! Just wanted to say as a younger professional that I really appreciate your videos. I always learn a lot, and I'm sure many of these seem obvious to more seasoned professionals who have been in their industries for some time, but I always feel like there is at least one new piece of advice or word of caution that helps me behave in a more positive and professional way at my job. Thank you very much for taking the time to provide such great informational career content.
Good for you. I learned many of these lessons the hard way.
I agree with this it’s not talked about but most definitely if you have those types of conversations….. if not open minded it leads to biased opinions and judgment when it has nothing to do with your work ethic.
I had a conversation with someone last year, where I listened for quite a long time, asked questions, let him be the center of the conversation... and then when it was my turn, he pulled out his phone and "listened" while I was talking. Unbelievable. I will say that I've noticed since then that this person actually has an issue paying attention to anything and it may not be rudeness as much as it is a condition of some sort, but at the time it just blew me away because as we all know, most people don't have a special reason why they do this. Even just quickly checking something is rude, much less getting deep into the mobile. I'm just saying what we all know!
This is too common nowadays too! People are addicted to their phones. It's the dopamine hits. Our brains don't know what is happening, and the apps we install are designed to distract us and keep us distracted. We shouldn't prioritize humans over the ether over the humans in front of us IMHO.
I didn't watch this yet but I KNOW I need it, so thank you!!!!
You got the first comment tho!!
Unless you work at a religious or politically affiliated company! An alternative to not speaking about the things you care most about is to align yourself with an organization that supports this.
Yep, totally fair, if you're working for a religious or political institution - it's gonna be a part.
I'm a huge fan of finding value aligned organizations... but it's limiting IMHO for professional and company success if ideologies are uniform. I know that everyone has a different opinion on this though, and that these ideologies overlap with values!
Jennifer You Are So Awesome, When You're Videos Pop Up On My Feed, It's Usually Something That I Just Experienced! I Love It!
My boss wants me to be her friend but I don’t trust anyone especially In the work field
Your boss just wants to get the scoop on staff
Love your video, Jennifer! I was always cautious about people gossiping about others, even when they directly not speaking to a person, others could easily hear. That's why I was wearing headphones 50% of the time until someone higher asked me not to wear it. LOL.
🙂👩🏫I kid you not, 30 seconds in and you have a new subbie with pen and paper. I'm ready for this learning lesson.
Welcome!! I hear a lot about people taking notes. Glad you're here 😀
The company culture is what shapes these things…employees are not to blame but the owners and the management
I always avoided politics and religion. There was one employee who threatened to kill everyone of my politics and/or lack of religion. He was considered a great employee, because I avoided the talk I wasn't a team player.
That doesn't surprise me from everything you've told me about your former employer :(
@@JenniferBrick professionalism here now is (so far) 100% top notch. I just have to keep from laughing when they use training to say everything that happened at my prior employer is bad and should be reported. Then follow up with, "hopefully this is an extreme example." 😳 here maybe, but there?
Yet when you engage in the political bs you get fired or your workdays become living hell by getting hours cut
How I love this woman. Thank you so much, dear Jennifer, for providing us with this vital information about how to do it at work, because I'm 24 and I'm so unexperienced about all these things and every time I make a mistake at work I get so stressed and anxious that I just don't want to get up in the morning and I already hate this day when I have to go to work. Please, keep sharing with us this info, it's so helpful I can't describe!
I really love your videos, thank you so much for all your advices.
Thank you CC!
Very good tips Jennifer !!
Agreed completely with all the points
Workplace etiquette is something that I struggle with and am trying actively to better myself. Alot of the betterment have come from you and other content creators as well, so thank you so much for guiding us regarding these!! ☺️
Cheers!
Your commitment to your growth is what will make you excel. Massive kudos for your dedication!
Thanks again for this great content. I appreciate you.
Thanks for hanging with me again, Andre!
I find it ok as long as we both agree, then it’s a bonding experience
The sentiment is mutual, fascinating how they'll mirror you but when you mirror your surroundings back suddenly you're subpar and need tips on how to appear more presentable.
Beyond this they actively cause conditions to lessen what they've been copying for years: making you downsize or creating conditions such that you'd have to, colluding to make you lose situations, holding your interests beyond what's fair... Truly remarkable.
🤔😑 Stay your distance. Stop telling me what to do. I don't engage.
I just started the video. I'm leaving for work in 30min. I'm pretty sure you're going to convince me to change my outfit.
My company feeds on gossip...such a toxic culture
Some workers can be unprofessional, coming in hung over, being childish etc
Oh definitely
I find it helpful to watch... say... 4 of Jenn's videos and think through them as a single exercise. My take away from this professionalism one, the one on friends at work and various other videos on HR is this ... Put work into its proper perspective. Do not expect from work those things, relationships, etc, that it cannot deliver. You do not get love from a Keurig coffee pod. What you do get is coffee, and its only the kind of coffee you like if you pick the right pod.
I don’t even like to talk about politics in the private setting at this point lol 😂 good way to lose friends and family too
Right you are.
Please do a video on how to make people want to listen to you, especially if you are an older worker in the workplace.
Another good gossip is to know someone is sleeping with someone, and that someone happens to be the boss/manager, and that person suddently gets a promotion.
Casual restaurants like my current workplace allow people to decide what to wear as long as you are not too sloppy.
It's called being social. Nobody expects to change anybody mind. Some people LIKE a good conversation/debate. I have some colleagues I strongly disagree with one some topics but we LOVE learning new things as we debate those differences.
Now most people are too emotional about to have a discussion with and I will not even attempt a conversation with them.
I enjoy a conversation but not politics or religion. Too personal for work. For example, Im against harming animals, so if someone argued why they like to hunt or were pro factory farms, I'd be pissed.
@@lvega5606 Yeah true. It IS work. I don't have the same passion or discuss the same subjects with friends as I do with colleagues.
Okay but I need to comment on this thumbnail. LOL. Cracking up !
The left side photo is me 4 days a week. The right is the other one lol
I never volunteer my religious or political views, but I am not sure how to professionally respond when someone attempts to draw it out of me or says something and expects me to share their views.
My former boss would ask me about politics and I warned her that I'm an independent..so she wouldn't like some of my views. She would still ask, I'd answer politely...and she would get so upset. And when I pointed out how I said she might not like my answer..she didn't care. And so after that, I would say I didn't think politics should be discussed when she asked...and she exploded. She was an odd duck.
Most people are incapable of disagreeing or accepting opinions vary. Sounds like she needs the echo chamber to validate herself.
I agree with you. Politics is "out there". Has nothing to do (usually) with the job you are being paid for and that goes for management too.
I think there are moral questions that have political consequences and they are often being called "politics" as if they do not impact work. So no I never bring "politics" up but I look listen and watch the ppl around me and it can let me know more about my possible growth within a team or entire organization.
I've been trying to deal with a toxic co-worker and have decided to completely cut them out and keep it super professional. I told my manager about his behaviour and I noticed that there was more frustration with me because I'm bringing up an issue.
Hi Jennifer!
Thanks for the great list. I’m backing it up with all my >15 work experience. Every point is so, soooo true. And the delivery is perfect. Some of those points are often mentioned in ´code of conduct’ trainings, but they’re so boring that not many people actually take them seriously. It is too painful to get to the point of understanding these concepts through own experience.
I wish more people would watch this video and adopt the information in it.
I hope the last couple passages are not going to count as ´bad complaining’. :)
Really, I believe your channel should be promoted and listed by more people.
Thank you for the pointing out that some places have only one accepted political ideology. Holy cow the number of places like that is insane. And the one person who disagrees gets slandered behind their back.
Thanks Jennifer. As always, your videos are so helpful and inspiring. Could you please make a video about how HR determine employee salary? For example, I just got a new amazing position. I like it so much for what I can learn and do. I asked the employer (current employer now) to just pay me the same as my previous position, even a bit lower becuase I have more holidays. But then, they pay me 20% higher compare to my previous position, with tons more benefit. Amazing, but I don't understand why.
It can depend on a lot of factors. From my experience, it's how your position fits into their business plan & budget.
For instance, at the place which I'm just leaving, our area manager played with the weekly labour hours, i.e. pushing our part-time staff around on an "ad hoc" basis, because he didn't want to hire full-time staff in case the workload is lower -- just to save money to make him look good...
The best thing is that my new company offered me more money than discussed, because they thought my current company would try to keep me and wanted to give me an edge in my negotiations to leave. :)
I usually agree with everything you say. But I have to say that in my experience at all of the employers that I've worked at it is "one side doing it." Guess which one...
Always a better workplace insight that is based on a reasonable and rational approach, that's the advantage and clearly Jennifer walks that walk. Just defuse the politics by stating something to the effect of "what does that have to do with accomplishing our immediate mission and goals here?"
I'm a fan of a classic subject change too. "That's interesting. By the way, have you had a chance to look over the TPS reports?'
@@JenniferBrick "That would be terrific".
What about meeting etiquette and organization? Has that changed too?
If someone is doing bad gossip what is the response? I have a hard time knowing how to respond in a neutral way. Another thing I have a hard time shutting down is someone oversharing and starting to treat you like a therapist. What is the polite response in these cases? Change the subject to work things?
Say something like I’m sorry I’ve got a lot of work to do. I really don’t have time to discuss this.
I let them vent about other coworkers/bosses. But I just try to take a neutral empathetic approach. Things to the effect of "yeah, that's a tricky situation."
"I'm not sure why [blank] happened."
"I'm sorry you feel frustrated"
I also ask the venter more questions than i give opinions (so they feel heard with me doing the least gossip-participation).
Or I just pay them a compliment in a way related to the gossip. Like if someone says "he's always talking down to me like I'm stupid" I'll say "Work can sometimes be difficult. Anyway,I think you're very smart".
That way I'm not really making remarks about the person who is being discussed. And it also doesn't come across like I'm a prude or not part of the "team." I've found disengaging can lead ppl to unfairly distrust you. They may take your silence & avoiding conversations as you being self righteous, taking the other person's side, or cold & uncaring.
However, when ppl know they can talk to you, but you don't ever drag others, in addition to being a vault (keeping their secrets) they let their guard down around you, bring you more into the fold, are more likely to champion or stick up for you, and more likely to be understanding when you make a mistake at work. Bc they'll see you as supportive & empathetic, they aren't afraid you'll bad mouth about them behind their backs since you don't do that when they gossip about others, so they generally feel they can trust you, and that you aren't a threat. If you can make them laugh and feel good about themselves, all the more good for you. These are things that make the environment & opportunities more positive for you.
The amount of things I know bc coworkers learned they can talk around me is crazy. I'm not out to weaponize, or use anything against anyone though. It just naturally opens more doors for you & gives you a heads up on info that might affect you, or ways you can contribute work wise that can work in your favor (i.e. solving a productivity/efficiency problem the boss has been venting about on the phone to a friend bc he's not afraid of you overhearing many of his conversations, or getting ahead of a workplace complaint you wouldn't have known existed had it not been for the office manager's big mouth) 🤷♀️
I only indulge in the gossip I hear at work to my immediate family; lol, like who is my mom going to tell? Ngl though, I'm also an inherently nosey person...I like to know EVERYTHING! But I've never been the type to weaponize what I know. I just like knowing it.
Let’s see. I had a job a few years ago where the high school age students would regularly use foul language in the break room and sometimes around patients. They also were horrible tattletales and would go tell the manager everything that they were annoyed with about their coworkers. Worse, the manager just took their word for it and took disciplinary actions without checking out the situation first.
Just a couple years ago, I had a job where the boss would close the door and yell at me about things I was doing wrong that she had not actually trained me on.
The job after that was a gossip factory, and when I called it out, I got fired.
And in my last job, there was paperwork I was required to do before working on a client, and one of the receptionists would not only not give me the paperwork, she yelled at me when I would ask for it. She also told the manager lies about me to try to get me fired.
My biggest mistake one year ago was taking a coworker too far into my private life. We shared our entire private lives from morning till evening for months. Then at once she cut me out, me wondering what happened, i asked, got reported, both got prohibited from communicating to each other. It's really a traumatizing contrast, and due the no contact rule (without ending or solve) it's a never ending situation. I'm currently in the process of applying for another position far away from my current department. A very expensive lesson. Leave colleagues at work, no matter how nice they seem to be.
I really want to thank you for focusing on actions that reveal unprofessionalism rather than appearances. I've always been amused that tidy, button-up, khaki wearing people can have all these abhorrent actions and still be called "professional" based on appearance.
I enjoy bucking the system by being a consummate Corporate Goth. Yeah, I wear all black and have visible piercings. But I absolutely do not participate in any of these unprofessional behaviors. I actually feel like I *must* be exceedingly professional *because* I choose not to wear the typical corporate uniform.
I've chosen one aspect of my personality expression that I won't give up. And I make sure that my actions convey my professionalism. Could I wear corporate camouflage and make my life easier? Sure. But over the last nearly 2 decades of my career, the dysphoria of trying to subdue my personal style and expression was too much. I'd rather just be the weirdo who ends up being awesome than the Chad who ends up being a jerk.
Jennifer, what do you say when someone is talking poorly about someone or gossiping about others. I get teams messages or people walking up to my desk and they start gossiping. Or even if they talk politics. What do I say to get rid of them and stop them from approaching me again?
Great advice
7:48 i dont know why, this feels so random, but this was so hilarious to me i laughed out loud, maybe i kinda felt me playing league vibes or something but this was so good, blessed
I get the feeling from a lot of these comments that many of us work with and or for psychopaths
Your videos, i just discovered, are very helpful and discuss topics that are needed for someone navigating a corporate work environment. Thank you for that. Would you be able to create a video about managing up? Im a professional who is the only one in my field (video) in my department and I'm finding it difficult to share with my leaders why things should be done a certain way without ruffling feathers. Is there a way to present my case while making everyone a winner? I want the projects and our department to succeed but am having trouble making my voice heard.
Hahaha. Great thumb nail Jennifer! 😆👍🏿
If everything that you have outlined herein is the accepted standard/normal conduct of management, what are your recommendations for this type of work environment?
What you have described in this video was exactly the typical procedures at the last place that I was employed before leaving. I am curious for your feedback and any advice that you could offer. Thanks for the great videos. Cheers!
I was doing my training in a break room that was super cold and was infested with roach and spiders the director said I was unprofessional for bringing a blanket which I can understand but it’s also unprofessional to make someone work in a clearly unclean and nasty cold environment for 8 hours
She gave me the option to do it at home but my laptop at the time was really slow I couldn’t get it done as fast when I was using there computer
is it negative to be excited when you find a new problem?
The odd aspect of the "Do Not Discuss" politics rule is that it is not New yet where I am it's ignored to the point of CEOs openly donating money to a particular party and participating in party events, and in terms of the local newspaper 📰 they paid for a full page ad supporting the gubernatorial candidate for the party. If this isn't bad enough, someone got the bright idea that it's public information so they'd make it easy to search on the internet to find you and your affiliation. This can hurt your job prospects and sometimes a person selects a side yet doesn't know themselves well enough. Definitely have learned why not to discuss politics yet even people who know better are violating this rule.
I did the whole political thing at my last job, trying to stay out of the discussions in my current job
oh no, we talk about politics all the time at work. it's very difficult not to as a civil engineer. our work almost entirely revolves around elected officials and the opinions of citizens. curious what you think about this.
Many of the suggestions you make are applicable to an American work environment. Cultural differences exist. In some cultures it is considered OK to talk about Religion and Politics. And in others it may be even considered nice if you show your vulnerable side at work. Did you know that gossiping becomes quite necessary to form good bonds with colleagues and also get ahead? It’s not necessary that all gossip is about bad mouthing someone.
Interesting perspective. Thank you. I believe the blogger is actually based out of Canada, or are you referencing North American work culture?
Another great video!
Like i said before, i am new to working inside. I worked construction and i was a mechanic, so....
These videos really help.
I got on youtube and listen to music.
Lol!!
I will definitely work on that.
Lol!!
One example why these two work places are COMPLETELY different.
In addition to religion and politics it seems like the covid vaccine is another polarizing (and politicized) topic. Anyone else have experience with this?
All good Jennifer, but, can you tell me what Ashley did last weekend? 🤭 4:44
Edit: I liked the video, I deserve to know lol
Oh I can't rat on Ashley like that.
@@JenniferBrick C’mon Jennifer, 💕we’re fAmiLy 💕 🤣
Honestly I know it’s unprofessional but I will talk about politics with the people that agree with my politics at work. I just like to talk about politics though
I work in Sweden on jobb where my boss is very insecore about role . It happens that my colleagues do not allow me to take day off or vacation and my boss allows it. How can I stand upp for my self? They are from Sweden but I come from another country...
Can you recover from these mistakes?
Listening to this has just depressed me. I will never kiss up or give into the rotten people
In a warehouse, too many play their music loud. Its really two issues, playing too loud and offensive content. There is a lot of N-word rap that should not be heard at a work location. Why is it that the rules of being professional don't apply in the warehouse? Management has looked the other way for too long. I don't see a reverence for safety and heavy machinery. Seems like office etiquette flies out the door permanently outside. And the point is that its not just rap but any music too loud. I would prefer silence.
Or headphones at least
Those loud music people should wear headphone! I. Would want to listen to their shitty music either!
I work in media, dressing like the right hand side of the thumbnail would get you ostracized, while the left hand side would earn trust.
About the last point lmfao!!! People really made fun of me because I was such a positive person. They'd literally tell me to my face. I wouldn't even be loud about it- I'm just naturlaly nice no matter what I'm going through. If I ever did complain, 6 find reasons to put me down for it. People really are just low-life professional haters!
Hi Jennifer
In the banking sector, everything you said is a no, is a must do in my workplace. If you don't bring a bunch of complaining about rival groups they think you don't fit in. Gossip is expected. People seem to dress however they want as we never went back to the office. And its par for the course to start fights with everyone. If you are nice they steamroll you. I think your tips are good for non bank and non tech environments.
I'm mortified that Linkedin postings by some members are political.. it's not the medium for it.
Absolutely.
So many openly weirdo racists on LinkedIn. I was shocked.
@@artisticagi at least they've shown themselves...
I want to add, while many are working remotely, if you have a meeting and constantly take your calls from within the car and it clearly sounds like you're in the car, that is totally unprofessional. Understandably, you may have to be away from the desk, but when your role doesn't require you to be away ALL the time, you are NOT working. Totally unprofessional!
What if your working so much that you’ve lost touch with your family and kids because the company cares more about their interests than
Yours.
Definitely do not discuss politics at work. Never a good idea. Especially when you work somewhere that heavily leans in one direction. Even if you lean in the same direction. Yes, it does happen and it can unfortunately affect their business decisions.
I had a supervisor, that told me, You are not texting, or on a lab top, when I am having a meeting. You are not listening to me. Huh?
Is sleeping with co-workers ok?
I can't remember the last time politics came up at work (at least when I was around) so I must be very luck there.
Hi Jennifer, I love your videos, but the parameters of some workplace issues are just impossible to cover.
My Team Leader went off ill for a month. I was very concerned as it was so unusual. I had hardly any money, however me being me, I sent her a Get Well Soon card, a 'mixed' Bouquet of beautiful flowers - 6 red Roses, 11 pink Exotic Lilys, Red Berries, Foliage - all in the Bouquet, and a 'Merry Xmas' placard in the flowers too, as well as a teddy bear. In my card, I had printed,
"To an awesome Team Leader - you're missed heaps! Get well soon, Merry Xmas! X."
I received no reply, no thanks, nothing, until a few days later when her manager dragged me into the office, stating that my card and gifts were 'romantic' and 'unwelcome'. My HR personnel record had a letter added to it stating that I was 'romantic' and that it was all unwelcome', inappropriate and unprofessional too, and that if it happens again, I may be disciplined formally.
The upset / grief that I felt cannot be explained in writing. I made 5 informal attempts to get my name cleared. All attempts failed. I therefore had no other option and so I made a claim to the Employment Courts (in the UK, it is called an Employment Tribunal). My employer blatantly lied, stating that I sent 6 red roses to my Team Leader. I was kicked out of her team as a result and my name / reputation trashed.
Any job I applied for afterwards internally, I was rejected and a whole load of lies written about my Interview performance. I asked for a copy of all interview notes so that I could make an informed appeal. They denied me my request, stating that they are unable to supply the info, due to other parties being involved in the interview process, and hence they claimed this would breach their confidentiality. I was therefore prevented from making an appeal.
This is the badness and the toxicity and corruptness of organisations who will try to protect those on the 'Management' team, (or those with merely 'Team Leader' title, making their way into Management).
An absolute abomination was made of me and my reputation in tatters. By the way, I'm gay and my (now former) Team Leader knows this ...
What do you think of that?
I'm sorry you got that treatment for just being thoughtful. 😢
As I was reading the first part of your story, I immediately thought, "That's a bit over the top!" It's not unusual for human beings to be
sick.
Ask yourself a question: Would you do exactly the same things for all of your coworkers?
It's not clear if you've communicated to your team lead about your real reason why you've sent the bouquet before going to the tribunal. I'm sure if that was communicated in a "oops, I think there was a confusion there, I regard you as the best team lead I've had and am really worried since you've been sick for so long that I sent you a get well soon bouquet to check how you're doing."
I find it really strange, though, that they've reacted to the bouquet like this🤔. Are you and the team lead close at all? If not, that would definitely explain the complaint because doing this kind of gesture to someone you're not close with (even if they're your team lead) is creepy.
I regard my supervisors highly, and I respect their expertise in the field. When they get sick, I don't ever send them anything.
The respectful thing to do is to just let them recuperate in peace, and when they return to work I let them know that I'm glad they're back and are doing okay.
If you must send best wishes, just send them an email or text. The most you can do is give them a short phone call to wish them well if you get too nosy. It will still be intrusive depending on your level of closeness, but at least it's not as creepy if they perceive you as not that close to them.
If they disrespect me, I'll disrespect them. I'm nobody's doormat.
Sadly standing up for yourself is looked down upon. People never attack the instigator these days
@@feliznavidad6958 That's very true. Regardless, I still stand up for myself. If I don't, no one will. I gave up caring what people think awhile ago.
Hey there’s a point where everything is political. A couple of years ago I chaired a meeting and a woman behind me said she didn’t believe in facts. I just paused and went on chair a meeting.
Small talk at lunch was filled with micros aggressive racism and homophobia. At one point I just kind of slammed my stuff in a pile and left the room. I ended up having a recruiter notify me and I left.
I really don't know how you leave cursing out. Maybe you think it's okay, buy it's definitely not. And it's way too acceptable.
people seriously need to leave politics at the doors when at work, I work at a bowling alley as a server and a few years ago a kid came in with a MAGA hat, my coworker who was working as a cook that day saw him and went on a small rant about it, afterwards he told me "if he orders food let me know" and it wasnt in a joking way, I told him to cut it out, I swear he was gonna do something to his food
The politics thing: it's becoming increasingly difficult with companies deciding to take stance on politically sensitive issues, so you'll find yourself having to pretend you support whatever that may be against your own values, I am a bad liar. It's making me very bitter and apathetic.
Religion and politics is forbidden in my fam .😅
Let’s just say we’re a couple with complete opposite views but happy married for a very long time .
Yeah no politics at work period.
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Yea but I think people shouldn’t just shut up should be able to speak out ur opinions after work
My company pushes the gay agenda and the HR made us watch a RUclips video promoting gay lifestyles as "inclusive". I found that offensive.
These are common sense things.
I thought the old adage was to avoid sex, religion and politics . Did you omit sex on purpose?
Asking me to stop talking about religion is like asking me to not use the restroom while at work. I talked about religion at my last job on an almost daily basis, but I also listened to what others would say. We had some very fruitful conversations, but it was also a small firm with about 30 employees including the 5 firm partners. Half of my religion conversations were with the partners themselves.
It basically comes down to my priorities in life. God first; family second; work and work relationships next. Whatever happens with my workplace relationships due to talking about religion is inconsequential compared to my relationship to God.
Politics… I could take it or leave it. I generally don’t give my opinion unless I feel it would be beneficial to the conversation in some way.