MY STORY: I learned the power of the kindness strategy back in college. I was working in a donut store and we were opening a new location (Krispy Kreme at the height of its popularity). We had trainers up from the US, and in a 'dry run' opening for friends and family, one of the trainers really snapped at me. I was angry about it. Before I left I realized I could be mad, or I could assume she was trying to be helpful and lacked delivery (it was a stressful day) - so I went and thanked her. Not only did she apologize for her she delivered the feedback, she gave me a ton of positive feedback AND got me the plumb assignments through the opening. It's a lesson I've carried since, and everytime I've used this strategy it has worked famously.
My favorite Way to react is with kindness though more often than not it’s Extremely Difficult. However, I love the reaction every time. Thanks for sharing this video. We need more positivity!
@@andyrobak5879 until what point do you have to let someone know they are being rude? I have worked with nurses and I can honestly say when they are not in the mood or being grumpy everyone knows it and I need to learn how to not let it affect my mood too 😒
Being kind just means being polite. Always remember when you are kind or polite you do it for yourself not the other person. You let the other person know that you won’t join them in the mud.
Avoiding gossip is SO HUGE! This literally causes so many problems in a business. Dave Ramsey talks about this in his business and immediately gets rid of those types of people.
i find success in staying away from gossip, religion, politics, and policies. now if someone asks about my religion, im happy to discuss that but within limits. and for sports its best agree with what people are saying.
Sometimes when I get a bit overwhelmed when a coworker is pressuring me or trying to hurry me up i feel like I need to let my supervisor know, it’s a way to express and vent to.
This is such a huge learning curve for me. Co workers are not friends. I am trying hard to break my habit of over sharing and it is exhausting but critical to my future. Thanks
This is hard to do when you have been like this but your coworkers does not respond in the same way. Even when you are kind, they respond in an unkind way. Even when you are respectful, they respond with disrespect. Even when you have been helpful, they abuse you. Kind of hard to be the ideal employee in a toxic company.
@@suespell2549 Documentation means shit even when the powers of HR are invoked. 24 pages of documented behaviors and breaking of university codes of conduct and behavior and HR does NOTHING except 'investigations' that lead to circular wish-wash.
I was once really mean to a Co-Worker. We were doing old filing and needed to pickup boxes and put the in storage, my coworker tells us she is bad with the knees and couldn't help while we were doing the hard work. I thought it was unfair and so I gossip. She heard me on the bathroom and told my Supervisor. Supervisor told us she didn't have kids of her own to come and deal with us... Later on I was promoted to a different department and got to really learn about this Co-Worker. I gave her my sincere apology after learning what she was going through. We became good friends afterwards.
I've had numerous bad experiences with coworkers over the course of 20+ years. 1 that happened a few yrs ago that I don't think I could've avoided or helped (without being inauthentic) was dealing with a senior coworker who thought everyone should kiss their ass because they had been there for decades. I was kind to her for ages until 1 day yelled at me then did it again. I cut her down - telling no one needs to respect her solely on the basis of seniority. She actually agreed lol I wasn't yelling and got her to side with me, but it was never the same. It was super awkward. I was on my way out for numerous reasons, but I find some people repulsive and some situations unavoidable. Thankfully my current workplace is healthier. It gets exhausting and depressing working at places where toxicity is accepted.
It is difficult to stay positive. I was recently hired just to find out, that the company hired two new workers to compete with each other. My colleague has already made good impression to our boss. Our boss started to dislike me already the first weeks. It is hard to stay positive, when the boss is constantly negative towards me.
Happened to me before I am supper nice, kind, and helpful, but in the mean time I look for another job. My boss was so upset and & like at the same time. Too bad I am leaving her and let her know that she needed me not that I need her.
I noticed that in my company also. I started at the same time as another girl and it still is drama over 2 years later. She started with a bang but then became absent a lot. In that time I was learning. When she started noticing then the name calling, the public bashing of every little mistake I made, getting the newbies to join her in making me feel small and insignificant took its toll on me. Luckily we work in 2 different locations now, but it did make me notice that they tend to hire in pairs which makes things really awkward. For the established employees as well as the new ones. Trying to train 2 people at the same time is hard and it makes it harder if they are obviously competitive, which also causes havoc on one's that had just survived a similar situation because the continued training they should get is put on pause to bring the new ones up to speed that will most likely not survive anyway.
Yes, I try to treat others like how I want to be treated. I think #5 and 6 are big. If you're staying in your own lane and being awesome at what you do, it's easier to get along with difficult people.
I would also add if you have a mid-step or make a mistake just shake it off and learn from it. Don’t try to find blame or get too caught up in it. If you spend too much time ruminating about it you could become resentful towards your colleagues. Acknowledge it, accept it, and learn from it. Then move on and chances are that everyone else will move on too.
YES, THANK YOU JENNIFER, I AM HAPPY TO HAVE YOU ON MY WHAT TO WATCH BEFORE BEDTIME CHANNEL. I HAVE WORKED FOR JUST ABOUT ALL MY 40 OF MY 60 YEARS & I DO REMEMBER A SUPERVISOR TELLING 30 YEARS AGO. JUST BE N TIME, DO YOUR JOB & WHATEVER YOU DO AFTER WORK IS YOUR BUSINESS. I SINCERELY LOVE YOUR CHANNEL, GOD BLESS
Some really good advice. I generally get along with people but have struggled with some negative people and have to remind myself to continue to be positive even if others are negative!
I have finally realized to treat my " sandbox " differently. Not everyone is welcome to come play in it, AND there are now rules. Guess one gets tired of people treating your sandbox like a litter box.
Great advise! It's so important to keep relationships positive as it will help maintain and increase productivity. Not to mention it will make the work day more enjoyable:) Cheers!
Not if the people who are the manipulative types (for example the Ds in the DiSC analysis) who are total assholes in the workplace and emotionally abuse the Cs and Ss...
At my former job at a bank I was a kind as I could be to this one coworker. She was so mean, negative and just a nasty person. I tried everything. She and the boss were friends and they ganged up on me and bullied me. I eventually quit but looking back I know I was the bigger person. They were so nasty to me and I’m convinced their lives were just really miserable and they took pleasure in making my life hell.
I've encountered this personally and many of my clients have as well. It quickly creates a toxic environment... and no one (and no company) can thrive in that.
at one of my favorite jobs (i worked in silicon valley in the '80s and one simply changed jobs about every two years) one of the women just didn't like me at all. lots of people don't like me and i'm ok with it till it affects my paycheck. my sister suggested i have coffee with her and ask how i was annoying her. i did and we got along fine after that. she felt she was working so hard and i seemed to have it easy. it's true that the bulk of my work was the first and last week of each month, but i had work in the mean time and really didn't have to hustle in the middle of the month. i think once she knew that she relaxed.
In my job place it seems like all these "rules" are a recipe to be 100% excluded 😑 You have to gossip that's the only way to talk to each other, if you do your job right then pffff you're being little miss perfect, if you don't curse out then you're the weird one, etc. etc etc..... 😣😣
What a great video employers should share these kind of videos if they are experiencing problems in the work place, Give them some exercises to develpe patience and self control. Work also on being kind and repectful so they will have more people joining their circle verses the one that gets friends through gossip rather then hard work.
I'm struggling at my new job because there are SO many coworkers, maybe 100 and I can't keep track of whose who. I feel so overwhelmed because there are so many different personalities. I tried saying hi just to be ignored on my first day. The second day I was just like fine I won't say hi anymore. Then a guy was rude with me. So I will try again to keep it up.
Just say hi good morning or good afternoon hi and bye .dont wait for a response just make sure you always say it first.just focus on your job do an amazing job at everything you do and go home who.cares if they dont respond but 95 percent of ppl will respond and dont worry about the other 5 percent theyre the one with the problem not you. Show that you have class and respect;) and the rest will follow through eventually
In my situation the more you help, the more people want from you and slack from their duties. I try to keep it positive and help as much as I can but then it becomes some sort of obligation for others. -.-
I was nice and polite. Volunteer to help etc. wanted to get along with them. The nicer or more positive I was, more they tried to make my life harder…please do you have an advice for that? It is getting to me because it is so hard on my mind and also I don’t get why someone has an urge or energy just to take someone down.
That's a them issue, not a you issue. It's time to drop the rope. Do what you can to maintain a positive and productive working relationship, but if they can't get along with others you can't fix them 💜
@@JenniferBrick thank you very much.. I started to doubt myself.. because despite all I mentioned above, one colleague told me I don’t care about the feelings of the team, about the heart of the team and so on. Even stated I am only trying to get to better position. Just because I was helping and being positive even during the hardest days…
People getting along with each other depends upon mutual respect, understanding, and cooperation. You can also throw in good manners, courtesy, and being considerate. Those things must exist, or else you are not going to get along.
the second to the last job i had, i came in the first day and my direct coworker pretty much sneered at me. i should have left right then and there because that place became a nightmare.
I have learned very hard way after four months of work and I about to quit my job but I think everywhere is the same , the differences less complicated or more. I decided to stay with the devil that I knew . New place you will face new devil and you will definitely need time to learn about coworkers, work issues etc...all over again.
9:00 please please please poop 💩 at home, especially in a small office room with attached bathroom 🚽. Every day it smells bad the whole day. Some people only 💩 poop when they are getting paid to do it. 🙏🏻
I have requested access to The Strive Squad and think I may have missed one of the questions. I answered one question then pressed submit and only saw there was a second question just after doing that.
I highly recommend checking out Makeda Andrew's channel for this! She is an ace leadership coach and her videos on this topic are much better than I could ever create ruclips.net/user/MakedaAndrews
I have been too nice to my workers. I have gone above and beyond for the team and now I'm being accused of getting a full time position not based on merit but based on bending over backwards for management and there's so much gossip and animosity towards me. I swear I have covered shifts for everyone on the team. I have been polite to everyone but now they are all against me.
Please note that international colleagues (me) are not always in line with ‘etiquettes’ but we don’t mind if you correct us. We actually appreciate it.
How do you stop the other person from talking about other people to you? I usually plead the 5th and respond with “I don’t know” or “ She’s not been like that to me”. How can I shut it down before it starts?
Typically after a few instances of non-contributing or topic changing, people get the message. If they're still oblivious, and you feel like saying something tactfully would not sour the relationship you can. "I have so much respect for you and for ___. I prefer not to discuss ___'s [personal life / work performance, etc.] just like how I never would yours."
It's crazy that you even have to make a video in the first place, explaining to people how to properly human around others. But i guess its good it exists, maybe we will have more people who figure this out sooner.
Unfortunately I always feel like Im one of those difficult ones because I can't navigate other's needs due to a lack of experience with people in general. Unfortunately I have life dramas that creep into work, not that I know how to navigate that anyways 😣
You acknowledging and accepting your negative side here, itself says there's a lot of positivity buried inside you. Kudos to you! I hope you find a way to navigate through all your problems and shine out like one bright star. Good luck,
I find that the only way to get along with people is to have no opinions about anything ever. People hate other peoples opinions unless it agrees with theirs. I have opinions about things and in conversations I voice them. I’m not rude and I accept everyone’s point of view. They however do not. My husband gets along with everyone and that’s why. He has no opinions about anything.
How do you handle the mean girl group at work? I feel especially not so bright as I ask this question. Lol. Sometimes people just continue what they did in high school after they leave high school. They are ok individually but get em together and they are horrible. As I text this I find it hilarious. I think it helped just texting it. 🤣🤣🤣
I'm kind to people at work but I don't really like sitting with them during lunch or after work "bonding activities ". I only talk about my dog lol! What advice do you have for me?
My mom told me there were 2 coworkers at work that acted like they hate each other and nothing to do with the other Guess their shock When they found out they secretly got married 😊😂
How do you create relationships with coworkers without getting personal... i hate being asked personal questions and people being in my buisness or hearing personal things i dont want to hear... does this mean i have to do small talk otherwise if we just talk about only work related things is that good ? or i have to talk about things that have nothing to do with work dont get me wrong u have good social skills with actual friends or boyfriends but people i have to be fake with while stepping on egg shells because i can lose my house if they fire me ... idk ...
I work with a bunch of gossipers lazy bunch of people that are constantly high. What I hate the most is that I’m a square and we have nothing in common with them but just only work there
I have a question. Does having ASD naturally and generally make you sound like a fool, jerk, or weirdo at work (or anywhere really)? I'm on the spectrum, and with certain coworkers, past or present, I said dumb things, got on their nerves, and sounded foolish. Sometimes I got lectured for merely joking around and having fun. Sometimes I was unfiltered. Is this, in *_fact,_* a thing about autistic people? *_Are_* we freaks and "different different" (when _everybody_ is supposedly different)? Sometimes I just want to be quiet at work, so I don't get on anybody's nerves (not that it's everybody who give me the "I-don't-like-you-John" impression).
I’m dealing with a disrespectful client and my boss, the owner, won’t back me up. I used to respect her but I just don’t anymore. It’s extremely difficult to respect someone who voted for trump and still thinks Obama was born in another country. She uses a lot of racist remarks. I guarantee she doesn’t think or know it’s racist. But I draw a line and will not tolerate racism or homophobia. That’s why I moved out when I was 17. I stayed in school, I just moved
People are allowed to vote for whomever they want. Here's a crazy idea...maybe you need to back off a bit. If your co-worker didn't even realize her comments were racist then I'd have to wonder how racist they really were. Perhaps you need to realize that people aren't going to make allowances for all of your opinions as to what they are supposed/allowed to say. And why be talking politics at the office anyway?...that is not such a good idea.
@@dresser6135 Here is another crazy idea. Don’t talk to me about “black on black” crime. It isn’t a coworker it’s the owner. You just assume I brought it up. Do not make assumptions about me when you don’t know the facts. I was hoping the person making the video would respond to me as they often do. Buenos Tardes
Not good to talk politics at work definitely. I think your client is the one who brings it up. It's definitely difficult to respect someone you think voted for the wrong person. That's your personal opinion. I had the same issue and realized later working with the person that they were actually great at their job. This was a coworker not a client. Say Can we not talk about politics anymore as it makes me feel uncomfortable. If they tell you that you've been talking about it, etc. Admit that yes, it was unfair to you that I've been uncomfortable all this time and never told you. I'm telling you that now. Please respect my wishes. If they bring politics up after just tell them, I'm not talking about that. I think that might ebb the flow a bit. Once you start being assertive, other things will follow
@@minitwink16 I just walked away when they did that. But I worked very hard and now I works with another company that has people of color to work with and the pay is significantly higher. Moral of the story is, if you don’t like the situation you’re in, do something about it. I’m much happier and caught up on my bills
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Have you ever reacted to a difficult coworker with kindness?
MY STORY: I learned the power of the kindness strategy back in college. I was working in a donut store and we were opening a new location (Krispy Kreme at the height of its popularity). We had trainers up from the US, and in a 'dry run' opening for friends and family, one of the trainers really snapped at me. I was angry about it. Before I left I realized I could be mad, or I could assume she was trying to be helpful and lacked delivery (it was a stressful day) - so I went and thanked her. Not only did she apologize for her she delivered the feedback, she gave me a ton of positive feedback AND got me the plumb assignments through the opening. It's a lesson I've carried since, and everytime I've used this strategy it has worked famously.
My favorite Way to react is with kindness though more often than not it’s Extremely Difficult. However, I love the reaction every time. Thanks for sharing this video. We need more positivity!
Yes I have I always have. When I see them again they remain with the same attitude of misery 🤣😏
@@andyrobak5879 until what point do you have to let someone know they are being rude? I have worked with nurses and I can honestly say when they are not in the mood or being grumpy everyone knows it and I need to learn how to not let it affect my mood too 😒
Yes but it didn’t go far.. lol
Being kind just means being polite. Always remember when you are kind or polite you do it for yourself not the other person. You let the other person know that you won’t join them in the mud.
🙌🙌🙌
Wow omg so true :O
RIGHT ON!!!
Avoiding gossip is SO HUGE! This literally causes so many problems in a business. Dave Ramsey talks about this in his business and immediately gets rid of those types of people.
And he knows what he's talking about!
Seriously though, it's a virus and it infects people and takes down teams. Recovering from it takes a long time.
i find success in staying away from gossip, religion, politics, and policies. now if someone asks about my religion, im happy to discuss that but within limits. and for sports its best agree with what people are saying.
Sometimes when I get a bit overwhelmed when a coworker is pressuring me or trying to hurry me up i feel like I need to let my supervisor know, it’s a way to express and vent to.
That's like telling a newlywed couple to not have sex.
This is such a huge learning curve for me. Co workers are not friends. I am trying hard to break my habit of over sharing and it is exhausting but critical to my future. Thanks
I love to talk but Im learning to never over share IT'S HARD
Coworkers are not friends the knife will come out and you will be stabbed in the back especially if they think it makes themselves look better
I do this too :( I get too close to people at work because I don't have any friends outside of work 😔
It's a struggle, I hate that I can talk too much.
Find out why u over share and work on that because your personal life is personal
This is hard to do when you have been like this but your coworkers does not respond in the same way.
Even when you are kind, they respond in an unkind way.
Even when you are respectful, they respond with disrespect.
Even when you have been helpful, they abuse you.
Kind of hard to be the ideal employee in a toxic company.
@@Abhishekyadav-kb3wq maybe it’s (past?) time to put all of your & her emails & conversations into a folder to have as documentation?!
@@suespell2549 Documentation means shit even when the powers of HR are invoked. 24 pages of documented behaviors and breaking of university codes of conduct and behavior and HR does NOTHING except 'investigations' that lead to circular wish-wash.
Avoiding office gossip and having boundaries are very useful tips.Welldone Jennifer
You have no idea just how timely and encouraging these videos are. Thank you!!
True.
Indeed, even in 2023!
I was once really mean to a Co-Worker. We were doing old filing and needed to pickup boxes and put the in storage, my coworker tells us she is bad with the knees and couldn't help while we were doing the hard work. I thought it was unfair and so I gossip. She heard me on the bathroom and told my Supervisor. Supervisor told us she didn't have kids of her own to come and deal with us... Later on I was promoted to a different department and got to really learn about this Co-Worker. I gave her my sincere apology after learning what she was going through. We became good friends afterwards.
I've had numerous bad experiences with coworkers over the course of 20+ years. 1 that happened a few yrs ago that I don't think I could've avoided or helped (without being inauthentic) was dealing with a senior coworker who thought everyone should kiss their ass because they had been there for decades. I was kind to her for ages until 1 day yelled at me then did it again. I cut her down - telling no one needs to respect her solely on the basis of seniority. She actually agreed lol I wasn't yelling and got her to side with me, but it was never the same. It was super awkward. I was on my way out for numerous reasons, but I find some people repulsive and some situations unavoidable. Thankfully my current workplace is healthier. It gets exhausting and depressing working at places where toxicity is accepted.
It is difficult to stay positive. I was recently hired just to find out, that the company hired two new workers to compete with each other. My colleague has already made good impression to our boss. Our boss started to dislike me already the first weeks. It is hard to stay positive, when the boss is constantly negative towards me.
Don't focus on competition... focus on being awesome and putting up results. (and maybe on a job search)
Happened to me before I am supper nice, kind, and helpful, but in the mean time I look for another job. My boss was so upset and & like at the same time. Too bad I am leaving her and let her know that she needed me not that I need her.
Ahh law offices lol
Law office drama the worst
I noticed that in my company also. I started at the same time as another girl and it still is drama over 2 years later. She started with a bang but then became absent a lot. In that time I was learning. When she started noticing then the name calling, the public bashing of every little mistake I made, getting the newbies to join her in making me feel small and insignificant took its toll on me. Luckily we work in 2 different locations now, but it did make me notice that they tend to hire in pairs which makes things really awkward. For the established employees as well as the new ones. Trying to train 2 people at the same time is hard and it makes it harder if they are obviously competitive, which also causes havoc on one's that had just survived a similar situation because the continued training they should get is put on pause to bring the new ones up to speed that will most likely not survive anyway.
Yes, I try to treat others like how I want to be treated. I think #5 and 6 are big. If you're staying in your own lane and being awesome at what you do, it's easier to get along with difficult people.
That's a simple and powerful rule to live by Paigon.
All High School graduates and College graduates should watch this video. I learned these the hard way. Great video!
Yes I'm trying really hard to avoid gossip.
These were some great tips! You're so right about being positive and kind- I can't deal with negative people at work!
Negativity is the source of bad work environment. No one wins from it.
This is an amazing video. I'm going to follow these guidelines every day before work since I struggle with people very much.
I would also add if you have a mid-step or make a mistake just shake it off and learn from it. Don’t try to find blame or get too caught up in it. If you spend too much time ruminating about it you could become resentful towards your colleagues. Acknowledge it, accept it, and learn from it. Then move on and chances are that everyone else will move on too.
Wow jennifer...your justification of "why we should be kind to one another" shows me the deep ditch humanity is stuck in.
YES, THANK YOU JENNIFER, I AM HAPPY TO HAVE YOU ON MY WHAT TO WATCH BEFORE BEDTIME CHANNEL. I HAVE WORKED FOR JUST ABOUT ALL MY 40 OF MY 60 YEARS & I DO REMEMBER A SUPERVISOR TELLING 30 YEARS AGO. JUST BE N TIME, DO YOUR JOB & WHATEVER YOU DO AFTER WORK IS YOUR BUSINESS. I SINCERELY LOVE YOUR CHANNEL, GOD BLESS
Some really good advice. I generally get along with people but have struggled with some negative people and have to remind myself to continue to be positive even if others are negative!
I have finally realized to treat my " sandbox " differently. Not everyone is welcome to come play in it, AND there are now rules. Guess one gets tired of people treating your sandbox like a litter box.
That's a good way of putting it.
Omg I needed to watch this! Been having some hard times this week with a coworker on a project. Thank you for sharing!
I think your videos are very good; especially, for those who come from another country like me. Thank you so much, Jennifer. Keep it up.
Great advise! It's so important to keep relationships positive as it will help maintain and increase productivity. Not to mention it will make the work day more enjoyable:) Cheers!
Not if the people who are the manipulative types (for example the Ds in the DiSC analysis) who are total assholes in the workplace and emotionally abuse the Cs and Ss...
At my former job at a bank I was a kind as I could be to this one coworker. She was so mean, negative and just a nasty person. I tried everything. She and the boss were friends and they ganged up on me and bullied me. I eventually quit but looking back I know I was the bigger person. They were so nasty to me and I’m convinced their lives were just really miserable and they took pleasure in making my life hell.
I’m glad you left
None of this applies if you work for and with covert narcissists. They are not humans, trust me.
Demonic spirit in a human body is what they are. Their purpose is to manipulate, cause destruction and confusion
Coworkers have gotten me in trouble multiple times
Just be 10 steps ahead of them
Leave the job without telling them
Just email HR
Great tips, it’s hard when you see the leader a manager causing drama and is so negative! But I agree with you, stay positive! TY for sharing 😁
I've encountered this personally and many of my clients have as well. It quickly creates a toxic environment... and no one (and no company) can thrive in that.
! yes Keep Killin it ! The fastest way to a pay raise is by making yourself much more valuable vs. complaining & milking the clock.
Such great tips! This is definitely a problem most people deal with at one time or another. These are GREAT ways to handle it!!!
I'm glad you found them useful Jill!
at one of my favorite jobs (i worked in silicon valley in the '80s and one simply changed jobs about every two years) one of the women just didn't like me at all. lots of people don't like me and i'm ok with it till it affects my paycheck. my sister suggested i have coffee with her and ask how i was annoying her. i did and we got along fine after that. she felt she was working so hard and i seemed to have it easy. it's true that the bulk of my work was the first and last week of each month, but i had work in the mean time and really didn't have to hustle in the middle of the month. i think once she knew that she relaxed.
This is a great example of finding a path to a positive and productive relationship! Thank you for sharing, Margaret!
Yeeeessss this is such an important video! Thank you for sharing!
Thanks 😀
If I have a chance to start over, I dun want to have lunch with teammates
You can always reset, either slowly or quickly. "I'm really into this book, I'm going o read at breaktime instead of going out" etc
Really helpful and makes difference thanks
In my job place it seems like all these "rules" are a recipe to be 100% excluded 😑
You have to gossip that's the only way to talk to each other, if you do your job right then pffff you're being little miss perfect, if you don't curse out then you're the weird one, etc. etc etc..... 😣😣
Never vent in the same circle, it’s bound to collide.
I agree and disagree. Kindness is mistaken for weakness often in the workplace
Yay...completely agree with your point of view...Thanks for sharing
Thanks for watching 😀
Yes. Avoid and ignore the ,"They said the this or that about you, the person telling you that is baiting you to get a response, say nothing
What a great video employers should share these kind of videos if they are experiencing problems in the work place, Give them some exercises to develpe patience and self control. Work also on being kind and repectful so they will have more people joining their circle verses the one that gets friends through gossip rather then hard work.
The lead mean girl leaves her S laying around everywhere. On purpose. It’s like she’s marking her territory. 🤣
Being kind leads to being bullied. :(
Are you facing bullying at work Faith? There are different kinds of bullies, kindness can disarm some, but trigger others.
@@JenniferBrickAgree. I've gone out of my way to be super nice to people at work but it only attracts opportunists.
@@JenniferBrick any tips for me how to tell the diff?
Yes, I am totally dealing with this! Kindness triggers them 🤷♀️
Be kind with boundaries
I'm struggling at my new job because there are SO many coworkers, maybe 100 and I can't keep track of whose who. I feel so overwhelmed because there are so many different personalities. I tried saying hi just to be ignored on my first day. The second day I was just like fine I won't say hi anymore. Then a guy was rude with me. So I will try again to keep it up.
Just say hi good morning or good afternoon hi and bye .dont wait for a response just make sure you always say it first.just focus on your job do an amazing job at everything you do and go home who.cares if they dont respond but 95 percent of ppl will respond and dont worry about the other 5 percent theyre the one with the problem not you. Show that you have class and respect;) and the rest will follow through eventually
It takes time. Try to meet two new people a week, and remember their names. In no time, you’ll have friends
I agree with everything you said in this video......been there & done that:))
Thank you”
Anytime!
Omg.... the do not microwave shellfish made my day!
In my situation the more you help, the more people want from you and slack from their duties. I try to keep it positive and help as much as I can but then it becomes some sort of obligation for others. -.-
JUST PLAY THE GAME 😁
*Be nice
*Dont work hard
Like Chad does 😁
Im straggling with people who are very ungrateful
I was nice and polite. Volunteer to help etc. wanted to get along with them. The nicer or more positive I was, more they tried to make my life harder…please do you have an advice for that? It is getting to me because it is so hard on my mind and also I don’t get why someone has an urge or energy just to take someone down.
That's a them issue, not a you issue. It's time to drop the rope. Do what you can to maintain a positive and productive working relationship, but if they can't get along with others you can't fix them 💜
@@JenniferBrick thank you very much.. I started to doubt myself.. because despite all I mentioned above, one colleague told me I don’t care about the feelings of the team, about the heart of the team and so on. Even stated I am only trying to get to better position. Just because I was helping and being positive even during the hardest days…
M simply loving you.
Stumbled upon ur video.
U r just awesome👏👏👏👏👏
I loved your intro! I hate talking about other people!
Thanks John!
Good stuff --would you be open to doing a similar video for remote workers?
That is an awesome suggestion! I'm adding it to my list!
Difficult coworkers -- that is where my NY comes out-Be Positive isa good start ---nice guys do finish last :-(
It's never easy, but you can make your life easier (and maybe create a new fan). 😀
Microwave shellfish! haha. Such great tips Jennifer
I mean... someone had to say it.
Hiii I get anxious whenever I go to work. plus it's hard for me to deal with them
People getting along with each other depends upon mutual respect, understanding, and cooperation. You can also throw in good manners, courtesy, and being considerate. Those things must exist, or else you are not going to get along.
I swore if I reported my work place I would be paid they are break so many rules is incredible
the second to the last job i had, i came in the first day and my direct coworker pretty much sneered at me. i should have left right then and there because that place became a nightmare.
I have learned very hard way after four months of work and I about to quit my job but I think everywhere is the same , the differences less complicated or more. I decided to stay with the devil that I knew . New place you will face new devil and you will definitely need time to learn about coworkers, work issues etc...all over again.
@@ping7364 so very true. Same type of people just a different name & face. 🤷♀️
When my sister gets upset at someone at work....I just let her come home and take it out on me! It's a win-win!
That's not your problem bcz she got bullied
Sge can vent to someone but it's not an obligation for u2b their punching bag.
Heck Yes!
Sometimes it is really difficult to manage !Great info! Thanks for sharing! 💙♫♪♩👍 17/S
#proverbs29 (#avoidgossip)
Great video, this should be played at every workplace as an in-service training video to build that co-worker community!
Thank you
9:00 please please please poop 💩 at home, especially in a small office room with attached bathroom 🚽. Every day it smells bad the whole day. Some people only 💩 poop when they are getting paid to do it. 🙏🏻
I have requested access to The Strive Squad and think I may have missed one of the questions. I answered one question then pressed submit and only saw there was a second question just after doing that.
9:00 ... never microwave seafood of any kind in the lunch room... I live near the ocean so seafood is common but whoa.. it is the worst..
@ Jennifer Brick • Yeah I worked at a place , where my coworkers microwaved freeze dried squid.
Um it was quite an eyewatering experience. ..
Kindly put a video for joining as a lead in an organization, how to manage the team especially with ppl who avoid doing work
I highly recommend checking out Makeda Andrew's channel for this! She is an ace leadership coach and her videos on this topic are much better than I could ever create ruclips.net/user/MakedaAndrews
@@JenniferBrick thank you
I have been too nice to my workers. I have gone above and beyond for the team and now I'm being accused of getting a full time position not based on merit but based on bending over backwards for management and there's so much gossip and animosity towards me. I swear I have covered shifts for everyone on the team. I have been polite to everyone but now they are all against me.
That's bcz it's not them.
Please note that international colleagues (me) are not always in line with ‘etiquettes’ but we don’t mind if you correct us. We actually appreciate it.
I mean leave. Don't stay. Toxic co-workers are dangerous to your mental health.
I’m feeling it and thinking about quitting
The fish thing. Thank you! Why do some people microwave fish, shell fish or any fish type smelly food in the fucking common area. Damn it
Love the Lama drama part !
I'm glad 😂
How do you stop the other person from talking about other people to you? I usually plead the 5th and respond with “I don’t know” or “ She’s not been like that to me”. How can I shut it down before it starts?
Typically after a few instances of non-contributing or topic changing, people get the message. If they're still oblivious, and you feel like saying something tactfully would not sour the relationship you can. "I have so much respect for you and for ___. I prefer not to discuss ___'s [personal life / work performance, etc.] just like how I never would yours."
Keep going:)
Yep. After be positive that's a nope lol
It's crazy that you even have to make a video in the first place, explaining to people how to properly human around others. But i guess its good it exists, maybe we will have more people who figure this out sooner.
My coworkers bf checked me out apparently now she acts like she can’t stand me even tearing down my name off employee board etc
Unfortunately I always feel like Im one of those difficult ones because I can't navigate other's needs due to a lack of experience with people in general. Unfortunately I have life dramas that creep into work, not that I know how to navigate that anyways 😣
You acknowledging and accepting your negative side here, itself says there's a lot of positivity buried inside you. Kudos to you! I hope you find a way to navigate through all your problems and shine out like one bright star. Good luck,
I find that the only way to get along with people is to have no opinions about anything ever. People hate other peoples opinions unless it agrees with theirs. I have opinions about things and in conversations I voice them. I’m not rude and I accept everyone’s point of view. They however do not. My husband gets along with everyone and that’s why. He has no opinions about anything.
How do you handle the mean girl group at work? I feel especially not so bright as I ask this question. Lol. Sometimes people just continue what they did in high school after they leave high school. They are ok individually but get em together and they are horrible. As I text this I find it hilarious. I think it helped just texting it. 🤣🤣🤣
what is shell fish?
Yeah. I made a mistake with microwave a simon belly once at the office. Only once and never again.
I ignore them, a lot of these people aren't worth anything.
Y so negative mike?
I'm learning to change the subject I'm only 24 it's hard
I'm kind to people at work but I don't really like sitting with them during lunch or after work "bonding activities ". I only talk about my dog lol! What advice do you have for me?
You're better off if you ask me.
@@ziggysmom5646 I know lol
@@rocker76m88try to make the first mive?
@@Cheerleader644860 I finally did and it was ok
What is not talking about personal things or being friends is seen as not being a team player and therefore being micromanaged
You don't have to but people have to learn to agree to disagree.
Do u not want to be friends with coworkers it'll only be nasty if you get the wrong ones.
Microwave shellfish in the office xD
Seriously should be outlawed
I just do my job and leave.
Y not ask people though.
You are doing a great job.Please just don't talk that fast, it's stressfull to listen💚
The sad thing is, this is me taking slow 🤷🏼♀️
What happens when you are kind and co workers become lazy and they don’t pull their weight!
It’s difficult very difficult ugh sighs
Please don't just leave. Toxic co-workers could be dangerous to your mental health.
My mom told me there were 2 coworkers at work that acted like they hate each other and nothing to do with the other
Guess their shock
When they found out they secretly got married 😊😂
How do you create relationships with coworkers without getting personal... i hate being asked personal questions and people being in my buisness or hearing personal things i dont want to hear... does this mean i have to do small talk otherwise if we just talk about only work related things is that good ? or i have to talk about things that have nothing to do with work dont get me wrong u have good social skills with actual friends or boyfriends but people i have to be fake with while stepping on egg shells because i can lose my house if they fire me ... idk ...
I don’t look down on anyone.
I did have some cranky people backed in in 2016
I work with a bunch of gossipers lazy bunch of people that are constantly high. What I hate the most is that I’m a square and we have nothing in common with them but just only work there
I have a question. Does having ASD naturally and generally make you sound like a fool, jerk, or weirdo at work (or anywhere really)? I'm on the spectrum, and with certain coworkers, past or present, I said dumb things, got on their nerves, and sounded foolish. Sometimes I got lectured for merely joking around and having fun. Sometimes I was unfiltered. Is this, in *_fact,_* a thing about autistic people? *_Are_* we freaks and "different different" (when _everybody_ is supposedly different)? Sometimes I just want to be quiet at work, so I don't get on anybody's nerves (not that it's everybody who give me the "I-don't-like-you-John" impression).
I’m dealing with a disrespectful client and my boss, the owner, won’t back me up. I used to respect her but I just don’t anymore. It’s extremely difficult to respect someone who voted for trump and still thinks Obama was born in another country. She uses a lot of racist remarks. I guarantee she doesn’t think or know it’s racist. But I draw a line and will not tolerate racism or homophobia. That’s why I moved out when I was 17. I stayed in school, I just moved
People are allowed to vote for whomever they want. Here's a crazy idea...maybe you need to back off a bit. If your co-worker didn't even realize her comments were racist then I'd have to wonder how racist they really were. Perhaps you need to realize that people aren't going to make allowances for all of your opinions as to what they are supposed/allowed to say. And why be talking politics at the office anyway?...that is not such a good idea.
@@dresser6135 Here is another crazy idea. Don’t talk to me about “black on black” crime. It isn’t a coworker it’s the owner. You just assume I brought it up. Do not make assumptions about me when you don’t know the facts. I was hoping the person making the video would respond to me as they often do. Buenos Tardes
Not good to talk politics at work definitely. I think your client is the one who brings it up. It's definitely difficult to respect someone you think voted for the wrong person. That's your personal opinion. I had the same issue and realized later working with the person that they were actually great at their job. This was a coworker not a client. Say Can we not talk about politics anymore as it makes me feel uncomfortable. If they tell you that you've been talking about it, etc. Admit that yes, it was unfair to you that I've been uncomfortable all this time and never told you. I'm telling you that now. Please respect my wishes. If they bring politics up after just tell them, I'm not talking about that.
I think that might ebb the flow a bit. Once you start being assertive, other things will follow
@@minitwink16 I just walked away when they did that. But I worked very hard and now I works with another company that has people of color to work with and the pay is significantly higher. Moral of the story is, if you don’t like the situation you’re in, do something about it. I’m much happier and caught up on my bills
@@kellykerr5225 great. I'm glad you moved on.