DATING A RWANDESE || 7 THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW

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  • Опубликовано: 25 июн 2024
  • Help me open a gym in Rwanda: www.gofundme.com/theomutesa
    Happy Valentine's Day to all my Rwandaful people. Today, a Valentine's special edition video for everyone who is about date a Rwandese. Don't say I didn't worn you :P LoL
    The 7 things are:
    1) The Rwandese shyness/passive attitude
    2) Traditional Mindset
    3) No Display Public Affection
    4) No Boy/girlfriend in Kinyarwanda
    5) Unwritten gender roles
    6) Her parents play an important role if you want to get married.
    7) Guys must pay dowry
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Комментарии • 204

  • @daromaka3750
    @daromaka3750 5 лет назад +4

    Enlightening intro, Loving Rwanda

  • @dotunn
    @dotunn 3 года назад +10

    Honestly this sounds almost exactly like Nigerian culture, so similar

  • @frankdee5980
    @frankdee5980 3 года назад

    Another v good one, Theo. Very clear, simple and warm narrative; similar to many other places. An interesting topic. Made our Valentine's day meaningful. Good Luck, bro.

  • @tendies
    @tendies 6 лет назад +20

    You made me understand myself better, thanks.

  • @jewel3567
    @jewel3567 5 лет назад +1

    Good video Theo.

  • @nessaduh8033
    @nessaduh8033 6 лет назад +13

    I like the attire Theo. Very dashing 😏

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  6 лет назад

      thank you, its for special occasions, like valentine's day 😁LoL

  • @janinemuhawe3231
    @janinemuhawe3231 5 лет назад +4

    Awesome 👏🏻

  • @tarigelshafie9950
    @tarigelshafie9950 4 года назад +1

    Woo I didn't knew that you got RUclips channel bro keep it up proud of you

  • @jean2706
    @jean2706 11 месяцев назад +2

    I'm rwandan man and all i can tell you is the more you do indirect moves with a rwandan girl/boy the more things will go faster!!! generally rwandans are so passive in all kind of interactions(including dating).it can mislead someone who is not aware thinking that the rwandan girl/boy is not interested. Don't ever try to rush things with a rwandan woman.Just take your time!

  • @hailemelekot328
    @hailemelekot328 3 года назад +9

    That’s crazy I came across a random video a week or so, about Rwanda 🇷🇼 (I knew nothing about Rwanda apart the movie Hotel Rwanda) and I watched it and it’s mind blowing not only the woman looks like where I am from (Eritrea) but also how very similar the culture is to my culture like almost 100% even the character I thought it was only as a bit shy ☺️ well I see why my next holiday destination is Rwanda 🇷🇼 ✌️

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  3 года назад +2

      whoohoo, very nice. 🥳 see you in Rwanda than 😁

    • @rehma5148
      @rehma5148 Год назад

      Welcome

  • @barneystn7521
    @barneystn7521 6 лет назад +2

    Everything you said is 100% accurate

  • @howzany6832
    @howzany6832 5 лет назад +1

    Very nice video, you have a great personality and are well spoken.

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  5 лет назад

      aah, thank you for the kind words

  • @Max-xg9tx
    @Max-xg9tx 5 лет назад +8

    New subscriber from the Caribbean here!

  • @patbo_
    @patbo_ 3 года назад +6

    I'm from DRC but I really love rwandese people. I hope one day I will mary a rwandan

  • @Afroxidental123
    @Afroxidental123 6 лет назад +17

    Wow I really liked this video! I really thought that the shyness/passive attitude, that the "no display of public affection" was for my family only, but now I just get that it's quite impregnated in our Rwandan DNA!!

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  6 лет назад +1

      whahah, nope. its a rwandan thing! lol

    • @gloriamutoni5137
      @gloriamutoni5137 6 лет назад

      Same here..narinzi ko ari ikibazo cyo murugo gusa

  • @martinkaloki2677
    @martinkaloki2677 6 лет назад +18

    Hey, I'm Kenyan. Rwandese folks sound like great people actually

  • @yahiakubara7446
    @yahiakubara7446 4 года назад +3

    I’m from north Khartoum Sudan 🇸🇩 lives in USA 🇺🇸 im really looking forward for Rwanda’s woman

  • @mukamiyouness9299
    @mukamiyouness9299 5 лет назад +32

    Am from Kenya dating a Rwandese guy,this will end up to marriage.

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  5 лет назад +2

      great to hear

    • @Tunawesmake
      @Tunawesmake 5 лет назад +1

      Dada zake wako wapi?

    • @ChrissC0
      @ChrissC0 4 года назад

      YouNess Frank😍😍

    • @Millyosodo
      @Millyosodo 4 года назад

      @@Tunawesmake tuko hapa lol

    • @Tunawesmake
      @Tunawesmake 4 года назад

      @@Millyosodo :-) nice! Uko Kenya ama Rwanda?

  • @anicetndayishimiye5878
    @anicetndayishimiye5878 6 лет назад +10

    I'm sorry for lonelness all Rwandans who are abroad. Hope u'll visit Rwanda one day.I'm luck that I still live in my motherland

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  6 лет назад

      Lol, yeah hope to visit Rwanda soon

  • @07Dieudonne
    @07Dieudonne 6 лет назад

    Leuk gedaan kerel!

  • @rashadnoora9721
    @rashadnoora9721 5 лет назад +2

    Great video

  • @christophergwala5531
    @christophergwala5531 3 года назад +1

    You represent Rwanda exceptionally well. What a bright future you have before you👏🌹💃❤️

  • @nelsonnyangole3922
    @nelsonnyangole3922 4 года назад

    I like your video mate it had an open up opportunity for visiting Rowand

  • @alicesam6467
    @alicesam6467 2 года назад +2

    I love this video so much...am from Kenya and I fell in love with a rwandanese guy and we have been dating for 3months now....and i hope this video will help me much

  • @pearlspeed1731
    @pearlspeed1731 6 лет назад +3

    uve really improved my kinyarwanda

  • @THEOPHILE611
    @THEOPHILE611 6 лет назад +2

    True!

  • @Chilbuli_Baby
    @Chilbuli_Baby 6 лет назад +3

    Heeey , thank you soo much 4 this !!! I loved the unwritten rules, can you do a whole video on it or even a two part extensive video? It can be soo completely confusing and easy too embarrass yourself or offend someone in social functions. And i've felt like they form they're opinion or judgment about you quite fast. And the worst part is that Rwandans are too polite soo no one will correct you or offer any advices because they're extremely polite and shy😅

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  6 лет назад

      whaha, that is very true! Don't worry too much about that, they will eventually come around when they realise that you have good intentions. Just insist on your request for help, in a nice way ;)

  • @amalali8712
    @amalali8712 2 года назад +4

    This is so similar to us Somali’s but a wishy washy man talking to multiple options or being hot/cold with his pursuit sees his stock plummet as it contradicts him being decisive and someone who would care for you. I know it works opposite in many cultures.
    Thank you for the cultural insight. Other elements of your culture would be interesting also.

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  2 года назад

      you are welcome. thank you for your insights

  • @wilfriedanaganze9246
    @wilfriedanaganze9246 5 лет назад +1

    I like your blog 👍🏾

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  5 лет назад

      whahah, it is still coming 🙈

  • @lydian5762
    @lydian5762 5 лет назад +6

    Waaaaayaminute!! did you say house for dowry??? who did that? uh!

  • @iniscrollz3801
    @iniscrollz3801 2 года назад

    I am Nigerian, but I love the Rwandese woman. Cool, calm, & put together...I hope I get married, to one someday💌

  • @rashadnoora9721
    @rashadnoora9721 5 лет назад +1

    Some of rwandan words are very similar to my language, I was really impressed

    • @oooooookay281
      @oooooookay281 3 года назад +1

      @A M probably swahili or Burundais many words in kinyarwanda are similar to Swahili and Burundi its even more similar since Rwanda and Burundi were once one kingdom before the colonisation

  • @ruthnjeri4659
    @ruthnjeri4659 2 года назад +2

    Hi, am from Kenya. I love Rwanda, and i am sure will get married in Rwanda

  • @nadiadushimimana5401
    @nadiadushimimana5401 3 года назад

    The third one tho😁☺️

  • @blessedm58
    @blessedm58 3 года назад +1

    Your research a 💯

  • @DignaK
    @DignaK 6 лет назад +22

    I'm dating a Rwandan. He's amazing...😍😍😍😍

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  6 лет назад +1

      huhuh, lucky guy! :)

    • @benitheisingizwe
      @benitheisingizwe 6 лет назад +2

      tameika cooper it's depends on whom u met , he/she can be either best or worse but as a rwandese we hide our feelings, for example every person here when u ask how are u ? Everybody say I'm fine

    • @ChrissC0
      @ChrissC0 4 года назад

      @tameika cooper inbox me

  • @sheystruggletube8124
    @sheystruggletube8124 4 года назад

    Theo your a great patriot. I admire all your efforts in selling your culture and exposing the Great Rwanda to the world for Tourism. Though this your platform I was able to visit the great Kigali city and I saw thing for myself. Keep it up bro. 💖💖💖 cant wait to be back.

  • @zachandmom23
    @zachandmom23 2 года назад

    Theo knows Rwandans that I do.

  • @davidvavra9113
    @davidvavra9113 Год назад

    Thank you

  • @uwanziga
    @uwanziga 5 лет назад +3

    Super

  • @mamasandy7986
    @mamasandy7986 6 лет назад +1

    Theo where to you live?thanks for ur videos by the way... I will be visiting this coming October,I cannot wait..need some help

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  6 лет назад

      Now im living in the Netherlands. Have fun in Rwanda though

    • @s.p.5213
      @s.p.5213 4 года назад

      @@theoisbackHi... Why did you leave? I was told by a Nigerian, Ghanaian, and a Kenyan that instead of repatriating to The Gambia, that I should check Rwanda first. I also lost 48lbs and am preparing to enter a Wellness fitness competition so finding a country in Africa that will not impede my lifestyle is important. So far I have The Gambia, Tanzania, Rwanda, Kenya, and Ghana in that order. Please give me the 411 on how to find the expats in Rwanda and of those 5 countries, which do you think would be most modernized and compatible with a fitness lifestyle. Thanks in advance.

    • @beeempirestv7025
      @beeempirestv7025 3 года назад

      Hello Sandrine my name is Eric ntuye mu Rwanda ese twaba inshuti byaba tukamenyana nyandikira kuri WhatsApp +250784070081 murakoze cyane

  • @marionjumba4566
    @marionjumba4566 6 лет назад +6

    Thanks your videos are beneficial .Am not rwandan but am dating one. am yet to learn the dance and perfect my kinyarwanda. Keep the videos coming.

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  6 лет назад

      great to hear. i will make more video than :)

    • @uwanziga
      @uwanziga 5 лет назад

      “Manners in Rwanda” book can help you sweetie...learning the language and the culture.

  • @princessshaniah5461
    @princessshaniah5461 5 лет назад +4

    Ok now I want a guy from Rwanda

  • @nitoalbano8371
    @nitoalbano8371 Год назад +1

    Those 7 things are applicable to the entire continent... I'm from Angola.

  • @eonacademy5036
    @eonacademy5036 3 года назад +1

    Marry the whole family is a truth in the whole world and all countries I think... 😺

  • @AHEZA.
    @AHEZA. 2 года назад +1

    I am Rwandan, this is true 😄

  • @elle19ism
    @elle19ism 6 лет назад +6

    Awesome video! I'm a Rwandan living abroad so it's likely that I will marry someone who's not Rwandan. There are very few Rwandan guys here who are my age. But I can relate to all those points you mentioned and I hope that whoever I date in the future will have the same mindset.
    Also, can you please do a part 2 of the traditional dance video?

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  6 лет назад

      Well, i am sure there are some other Rwandans living where you are, even though you haven't met them yet. Rwandans tend to live low key, so keep an eye out.
      I will talk to Bijoux and see how we can do a part 2 of traditional dance. I have gotten many requests now :)

    • @elle19ism
      @elle19ism 6 лет назад

      theoisback yeah I will definitely keep an eye out.
      Hopefully you'll both be able to sort something out for part 2. Even if you can't, I'm enjoying these videos so thank you for your hard work

    • @elle19ism
      @elle19ism 6 лет назад

      Tuza Bona I live close to Manchester. Wbu?

    • @elle19ism
      @elle19ism 6 лет назад

      Tuza Bona there is good number of Rwandans here, but most of them are either children or people over the age of 30. So to find Rwandans like me who are in their 20s is really difficult.
      What about Germany?
      P.S. I just saw you comment below. Happy belated birthday 🎂

    • @elle19ism
      @elle19ism 6 лет назад

      Tuza Bona you're welcome! And thank you for telling me a little about your life in Germany. It's always good to hear about other Rwandan people's experiences

  • @Mmm-ve7hy
    @Mmm-ve7hy 6 лет назад +3

    We have same thing mostly what yuh say , in Somali people 😀😀😀😊

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  6 лет назад +1

      Really? Nice to know
      :)

    • @nujuumarts6307
      @nujuumarts6307 5 лет назад +1

      I thought iam the only somali person here very true they r similar

  • @Moniquemani
    @Moniquemani 4 года назад +9

    Am dating a rwandese guy, and he is the sweetest man i've ever met.. 😜😘

    • @evankirote9952
      @evankirote9952 4 года назад

      Tell him i want his brother lol..i love them all the way from kenya.

    • @dankayonde7749
      @dankayonde7749 3 года назад

      @@evankirote9952 love you kenyans are good people, i am employed by company owned by Kenyans-Rwanda branch but they are good people. Love Nkirote

    • @evankirote9952
      @evankirote9952 3 года назад +1

      @@dankayonde7749 that awesome

    • @dankayonde7749
      @dankayonde7749 3 года назад

      @@evankirote9952 but they like money so much🙆😀. Are you proposing to visit Rwanda??

    • @evankirote9952
      @evankirote9952 3 года назад +2

      @@dankayonde7749 money is very important every one like it who wants poverty 🙄🙄

  • @brianmukose722
    @brianmukose722 3 года назад

    Would settle for one Rwandese.

  • @eunicemugisha4441
    @eunicemugisha4441 3 года назад +2

    🤣🤣 you're so observant

  • @apsmith71
    @apsmith71 5 лет назад +2

    So how does it work when the man assumes a traditional role - protector, provider, paying the bills as you say - and then, like it is here in the west plenty of women can't cook, can't take care of the house and seem more infatuated in IG and YoutTube than taking care of their house. How do Rwandans deal with that?

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  5 лет назад +3

      Hmmn.. interesting. Then you have 2 choices.
      A. You teach her if she wants to learn.
      B. Find another lady.
      If it bothers you that much, she is probably also bothered by the fact that it bothers you. So don''t put a ring on it yet, until you have found the one you match best with.

  • @veedubrep
    @veedubrep 3 года назад

    I'm American and I'd love to date once of these beautiful and intelligent Rwandan women.

  • @storyplace3612
    @storyplace3612 3 года назад +1

    I met a gal from Rwanda and was curious about how much I should expect to pay for a dowry if that happens

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  3 года назад +2

      The best thing is to talk to her and her family. there is no fixed amount

    • @storyplace3612
      @storyplace3612 3 года назад

      @@theoisback Thank you Theo. They said that as well.

  • @aishabigset
    @aishabigset 6 лет назад +6

    Long time no see• Its like dating a burundian

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  6 лет назад +2

      lol, i can imagine 😄

    • @gloriamutoni5137
      @gloriamutoni5137 6 лет назад +2

      Sister countries..you know

    • @mihigojo3095
      @mihigojo3095 4 года назад +3

      Burundi and Rwanda only name of countries differ from each other but people are the same same culture same language same in all kind from same grand grand parent.

  • @nuwaherezajerry119
    @nuwaherezajerry119 3 года назад

    I like Rwandans

  • @amediter5670
    @amediter5670 5 лет назад +1

    How much is the dowry? How is it determined? Who sets the amount? Is it negotiable? (I'm a diaspora African)

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  5 лет назад +2

      its negotiable. it depends on your (family's) wealth at the moment of marriage.

    • @amediter5670
      @amediter5670 5 лет назад

      @@theoisback Thank you so much for the reply

  • @oooooookay281
    @oooooookay281 3 года назад

    It's normal in Rwandan culture it's like taboo if a girl takes the first step, everyone is gonna talk behind her back mostly the aunties

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  3 года назад +3

      yeah, but you don't have to share your business your aunties.

  • @rpvideos8620
    @rpvideos8620 3 года назад

    Good to know Ruwandan culture... but I have a bit difficulty following your English... but ok, I could get the point conveyed.

    • @jesusjesus5376
      @jesusjesus5376 3 года назад +2

      I understand him perfectly. Why is difficult for you to follow him if u don’t mind me asking ?

  • @abdullahihassanibrahim646
    @abdullahihassanibrahim646 6 лет назад +2

    awesome and nice video. my question is if I marry a Rwandan woman can I get Rwandan nationality? if I'm from another African country for example....

    • @mohamudomar9105
      @mohamudomar9105 6 лет назад

      Yaan dadku kula yaabin.... sharci raadis baa lagu moodin ha na ceebeen fadlan... reer magaal iska dhig

    • @abdullahihassanibrahim646
      @abdullahihassanibrahim646 6 лет назад

      M. Omar
      I'm sorry I didn't get you, I speak only English, Arabic, Fulani and Hausa, I live in Nigeria... please explain your answer into English,
      thanks

    • @abdullahihassanibrahim646
      @abdullahihassanibrahim646 6 лет назад

      please I'm waiting for your translation

    • @benitheisingizwe
      @benitheisingizwe 6 лет назад

      Sure yes

    • @abdullahihassanibrahim646
      @abdullahihassanibrahim646 6 лет назад

      Benithe isingizwe thanks please can you translate what m. omar wrote on top in English

  • @beatriceopingo4313
    @beatriceopingo4313 3 года назад +2

    Am a Kenyan and I am dating a Rwandan guy very proud of him❤️❤️

  • @marc8485
    @marc8485 2 года назад

    Rwandese living in Uganda are the opposite they are crazy , i took my Ugandan vibe and craziness to kigali i was disappointed majority of rwandese where so introverted 😂😂 ..in east africa kenyans are more lively ..i love rwandese tho especially their ladies ..thanks for the video mate

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  2 года назад

      haha thanks for sharing indeed

  • @r0sewanjiru928
    @r0sewanjiru928 2 года назад

    Am Kenya dating a rwadese guy hope it will end to marriage

  • @africanlabel4780
    @africanlabel4780 2 года назад

    Can a Rwandese girl get married by an outsider who is not a rwandan by nationality?

  • @melest5645
    @melest5645 6 лет назад +2

    Do u have a facebook account?

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  6 лет назад

      yes, in the video description!

  • @s.konyine1469
    @s.konyine1469 4 года назад

    am rwandan , am sorry but your wrong
    boy friend means lover and
    a lover means umukunzi in kinyarwanda

  • @edgarcassama4149
    @edgarcassama4149 4 года назад

    Hi, I’m from small west African country called Guine Bissau, closed to Senegal, I’m 42 years old man living all my life in Europe, now living in Australia, I’m seriously have interest to find Rwandan women to marry, I impressed about that country as African, I have heard that’s Rwandan women are tallest women in Africa, and I’m tall man too 6,5 please someone connect me with nice women with strong family values thanks 🙏🏽

  • @gbonnita
    @gbonnita 3 года назад +3

    Am Rwandan 😂but this is how true we’re 🇷🇼

  • @AbdulLayaaaa
    @AbdulLayaaaa 4 года назад

    I don't know where y'all living 😀😀😀 haven't met no Rwandess girl yet.

  • @mapulesefara1090
    @mapulesefara1090 5 лет назад +3

    Hey, South African lady here looking for Rwandan man, can you hook sister up?

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  5 лет назад

      whaha of course!

    • @ChrissC0
      @ChrissC0 4 года назад

      Mapure sefata inbox me

    • @PatrickNiyonzima1
      @PatrickNiyonzima1 4 года назад

      Happy new year my dearest,
      I'm Patrick from Rwanda

  • @prettydunn4204
    @prettydunn4204 2 года назад

    I date Rwandan man I don't know his like I feel like he doesn't like me on other side he likes me I don't know him really we broke up and we get back together I don't know I must ask him about us is he interested in me or

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  2 года назад

      yess indeed

    • @vangilynobasan5035
      @vangilynobasan5035 2 года назад +1

      Hi. I'm from Philippines I met a Rwandese man on a dating site and we're having conversations for 6 months now and it's really hard to understand him, like he's totally different from how Filipinos express their feelings to someone they love.
      I really like him, but sometimes we're having some misunderstanding when expressing ourselves.
      Any help?

  • @JohnMcCrimmon-bc4ei
    @JohnMcCrimmon-bc4ei 5 лет назад +1

    I would to meet up so we can talk investment opportunities in Rwanda. I'm coming in March...but for me, an American black and I would be open to dating. So you know, we like women pretty with big backsides...but thru pics and videos, I do not see this type of woman there.

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  5 лет назад +1

      Welcome brother, we can always talk.

    • @JohnMcCrimmon-bc4ei
      @JohnMcCrimmon-bc4ei 5 лет назад +1

      @@theoisback thank you. My email is m1financial@protonmail.com
      I will be there next month. Reach out to me in my inbox so we exchange contact info to chat thru WhatsApp.

  • @ishtank
    @ishtank 4 года назад

    But Rwandan guys these days seem to be OK with a reversal of traditional gender roles. I mean with women taking care of them financially. It's the only country in Africa where unemployment is higher among males than among females.

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  4 года назад +1

      yeah man, it's the future, where women are making more money than men and are providing.

  • @ScorpioTV515
    @ScorpioTV515 5 лет назад +4

    Am dating a rwandan man

  • @trevorweir
    @trevorweir 4 года назад +2

    Couple cows a house or a car?
    The original dowry was paid to the guy as a gift for now taking on the lifelong responsibility of taking care of the girl and taking this fiduciary responsibility off of the parents hands.
    When a man pays 3-4 cows for his wife, he will nearly always look at her and see those 4 cows, especially when they are having an intense disagreement about something. C’mon guys admit it. Ha ha.
    I say that a man should look at his wife and always think in his mind how utterly priceless she is and not whether she was really worth 3 or 4 cows.
    The past practices that reinforced male patriarchy, dominance et al, are the same practices that hold African and many Asian countries subservient to other countries where more women graduate from graduate and post-graduate universities. If you think you belong to this “smarter half” group but you’re still producing copious amounts of testosterone, perhaps just perhaps your perception is just a little skewed by your endocrinology, 😀

  • @sayedfarhan5859
    @sayedfarhan5859 4 года назад +2

    I think Rwanda culture wil be easy for somali people because is almost same

  • @trevorweir
    @trevorweir 4 года назад +1

    Girls -- don't hesitate to ask for your Dowry !!!

  • @theafricanobserver8785
    @theafricanobserver8785 3 года назад

    i am Rwandan and i would not date a Rwandan girl , i prefer foreigners.

  • @adelaidepinchisi437
    @adelaidepinchisi437 2 года назад

    I'm married to a rwandese. Great people l must say

  • @azizaleem7940
    @azizaleem7940 3 года назад

    Do they believe in polygamy?

    • @theoisback
      @theoisback  3 года назад

      not really but there are some exceptions

  • @alikhodajani6075
    @alikhodajani6075 2 года назад

    .... honey and booboo are just fine with me ❤ 💙 💜 💖 !