Because facing the truth is hard to look at. Especially when you have been trying to hide it from yourself and others. People don't like to own up to their hurts and when they hurt others or even heal. They rather continue to ignore it then keep living but eventually you have to
beautifulsoul Lawd 😩😩🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ the girl has an opportunity to c herself on TV & can critique herself but she’s still blind. Yeah, it’s hard for her. She doesn’t seem open for change just proving she’s right.
I think because she gets up close and personal with the root of their issue and they don't like that. I heard her comment once that people don't expect the intensity of what she does for them so it is a shock. Then internally they have to decide to swim or get out of it.
Iyanla said that at the end! People are easily willing to diminish and dismiss women who are well trained and qualified to do what they do, whereas if someone with a different color/gender/training (or lack thereof) does it, no questions are asked. A sad, but very true statement
I love that she never has to raise her voice or cuss or throw a drink. She doesn’t even read people. She says what she needs to say calmly and she stays true to herself. ❤️
Do they question Steve Harvey, or Dr Phil?! Nope! Me Iyanla you said that- we are so quick to question or invalidate women but these men can get on TV and tell us anything & NOBODY says a word.
Oh man what she as about Tamar is classic African wisdom and you never wanna here that "I'm an elder" that means you disrespected them and when they add " what goes around comes around," you better seek her forgiveness cause old people see far and she saw things
She has confirmed by her actions that the REAL did the right thing in letting her go. She is such an embarrassment to women. She is too old to act the way she does. I Tried watching Big Brothers but I couldnt take her AT ALL.
It’s A LOT of pain and disfunction amongst our people due to what we’ve had to endure however I still believe and stand on the truth that WE ARE THE MOST POWERFUL AND BEAUTIFUL CREATURES EVER CREATED and no matter how dysfunctional we appear to be I WILL NEVER give up on us.❤️
I love this woman!!! we all need a mother,grandma,auntie anyone with age and experience to guide us through life like this...whoever has this woman as family is truly blessed !
What she said about Steve Harvey and Dr Phil is so true I never thought about it that way ,but they really do try to discredit women in all fields damn it's sad.
Tamar has childhood trauma and PTSD. Why didn’t Iyanla speak about this without bringing up her being molested 🤔 it doesn’t matter who Tamar disrespects. She’s not a child. She literally said “what about me-what about my feelings. What about how I feel. No one ever cares about how I feel” or something like that. This only shows how mentally unstable and damaged she was. Tamar even apologized to her sisters and Traci thought it wasn’t sincere enough...
@@MarquesTheProducer she did but Tamar did not know she knew this…..so editing cut that part out. Traci said the same thing happened to her…..apparently someone told without Tamar’s permission
Journey you do realize Tarmar has an history of sexual, verbal , emotional, and spiritual abuse. Until you walk a mile in her shoes please be quite. She is a work in progress like us all.
I have the utmost respect for Ms. Vanzant. I first learned of her when she became the 2nd life coach on season 2 of a reality show called Starting Over in 2004, and the couples boot camp 2005. All 3 of the life coaches were amazing. Their expertise and techniques not only helped the women and couples they worked with, but they also helped me. Ms. Vanzant loved working with the men. She had a natural repour with them. I remember Simon in particular from the couples boot camp. He had a lot going on with him. Ms. Vanzant reached him in many ways. The coaches were serious, qualified in their fields and did not play. Learned a lot from that show. Became a follower of Ms. Vanzant. She is the real deal.
As someone going to school to be a therapist,integrating spirituality in her work is mandatory for Black People. I personally have a therapist and it works for me HOWEVER a majority of black folks issues are rooted in confusion of spirituality. This is by no means a racist statement but its easier for White ppl to lack empathy imo. Black ppl are raised and constantly taught to be compassion and empathetic and like family,White ppl can easily separate logic and emotion with no problem and thats a task for us. When Iyanla says she had to make that girl mad,she is right because that baby was denial about her pain. She forced herself to accept being kidnapped and for the greater good suppressed her anger over it. Even on the show,the biological mom wanted it her way but the kidnapped mom was manipulating through jail communication then the day and his way...nobody cared about what she wanted and Iyanla knew that.
I can agree. It’s important that black people have black therapists. Accountability is important and I’m glad Tamar owned up to it, however, people still expect Tamar to be accountable for what WEtv does. Iyanla triggered Tamar by bringing up her molestation. That’s why Tamar went off on Iyanla. She suffers from childhood trauma so it should only make sense 🤷🏽♂️ Iyanla is literally using the fact that she’s an elder against Tamar...being an elder means nothing. I get disrespected by my parents all of the time and they make it seem like because they’re elders, it’s okay. The same applies to Tamar. Tamar was her respectful of Iyanla the first half of the episode. I don’t think I seen her speak about childhood trauma which is one of the leading factors in the relationship of The Braxtons. Tamar is so childish obviously because of the way she was raised. She was abused, molested, spoiled, and mentally broken (because of her mother/father) ...
I ABSOLUTELY ABSOLUTELY LOOOOOOOOOOVE MY SISTER IYANLA VANZANT! I remember praying for someone like her too have a show just like the one she has God answered my prayers. Thank you my sister I know this s____t aint easy!
I love her. She has taught me that people can only do what they know how to do. I had all the expections of how a parent was suppise to be not realizing that The expection is only what they know how to do. As people we can grow and evolve but i had to come to that.
Iyanla is out of this world and is beyond gifted and annointed. Dr. Phil doesn't even compare nor measure up to her in any way, shape or form. He never has and never will... Period. Full stop. End of the story.
She checked that! I think I prejudged her many years ago for spiritualism vs concrete christianity but as a strong, educated, beautiful mind, she definitely has the soul to help others and leaves you you with so much wisdom. God bless the souls who don't take a grain of her advice. She's a treasure in our community versus the vileness we support on reality tv, ratchet advice, and even our own generational curses.
I had a similar question. Has Lady Iyanla ever given a definite answer to what her spiritual path is? As a believer in God I can understand the desire to know whether someone who sounds good is following God or a spirit.
In my heart I opened my spirit to catch Iyanla words when is she coming to Chicago😩. Because this life hurts so many that I just want to be as strong as I can be for myself & 1yr. old daughter.
Thank you for bringing up the fact that they never question the Dr. Phils of the world. I'm sure they just assume he is qualified because he's a man. Stay strong queen!
Ms. Iyanla did her job with them. It was up to them to receive and to finish the process. Ms. Evelyns attitude was nasty as well. Gotta love Ms. Iyanla V.💖
She ... Ms. Iyanla Vansant is needed, thankful she know her purpose, that way there's no one nore nothing that can shake her, she is a huge threat, lm very much am intelligent lady, she is healing what others could not touch, and some have chosen, .. communities of hurt, pain, and disfunction.
Iyanla nailed it with this loving yet toxic family the braxtons were a complicated gang to try to fix and she really called out the issues every single one
I love Ms Iyanla . I think she is operating in her gift. For people who thinks she is too harsh, their simply just not ready for truth . Truth is a hard pill to swallow
I honestly like her show it's meaningful unlike most of these bogus shows I agree with her she's not given her dues it's like the show's that are more entertaining rather than helpful and crazy are given more of a platform ....🤦🤦🤦🤦
You're absolutely right! Black women do this, we tear each other down. We need so much healing, but we're the most resistant to it. When will we learn...
Ending is so true! She never said she was a therapist! Therapy can be a next step. Iyanla experience can be a supplement to therapy if thats where the individual chooses to go.
This has absolutely nothing to do with these life lessons out great elder is handing out but is Iyanla’s hair sister locs or just micro-braids? I’ve been wondering this for awhile.
Iyanla you're the best I wish I could have you to help me but I don't want to come on TV I heard TV can add 25 lbs. I love you I watch your shows alot and they still help me you remind me of my favorite aunt and I was her favorite niece.
Have folks ever seen her show? What do people expect when they call her for help? I’d imagine they don’t even show the real grime of it all. It’s painful for sure, but be ready to be stripped and know the more you resist, the harder it will be. Get well!
I question Dr. Phil and everyone else who I think is off. I don't know what type of feedback you have experienced. You have done some great things in helping people. That does not mean people will always agree. All the education in the World does not mean you cannot say or do something wrong or something which others will not agree. People will always have an opinion about those whose professions put them in the public eye. It is not about you being a woman or a black woman. Use your own advice to others. Do what you do. Most of the time people are helped by you.
Talking about Tamar, Both the Pace sister and Iyanla both said they will pray for her and what goes around comes around...it came around. She disrespected both elders.
So much to learn from Iyanla. Unless you identify and face your demons you will continue on the downward spiral. I like her positive brutality. It humbles you, and only then, can you own up and reinvent yourself.
I will never understand why people come on her show then act like they don’t want her help.
Because facing the truth is hard to look at. Especially when you have been trying to hide it from yourself and others. People don't like to own up to their hurts and when they hurt others or even heal. They rather continue to ignore it then keep living but eventually you have to
beautifulsoul Lawd 😩😩🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ the girl has an opportunity to c herself on TV & can critique herself but she’s still blind. Yeah, it’s hard for her. She doesn’t seem open for change just proving she’s right.
Or act as if she didn’t TRY to help them.
That's cuz she's tough&don't play n most people can't handle that
I think because she gets up close and personal with the root of their issue and they don't like that. I heard her comment once that people don't expect the intensity of what she does for them so it is a shock. Then internally they have to decide to swim or get out of it.
Iyanla said that at the end! People are easily willing to diminish and dismiss women who are well trained and qualified to do what they do, whereas if someone with a different color/gender/training (or lack thereof) does it, no questions are asked. A sad, but very true statement
Sounds like a Dr. Phil diss 🤣
@@unicornmommy1496 Grow up.
@@Glitter359 We will pray for Shawda Davison. That her understanding will mature.
@@MadameNoire Yup! I deal with it in the work place all the time 😑
They do question Dr. Phil all the time tho.
Iyanla is the real deal she is not to be messed with
Fabulous Divo So true, if it’s one thing anyone should never do is disrespect an elder.
Iyanla is so eloquent & informative. I'd love for her to be my therapist.
If Ms. Iyanla don’t teach you anything, she teaches you how to create boundaries!!!!!
@lindsay Can you explain?
She teaches you how to identify your root problems.
It's important 🥂
I love that she never has to raise her voice or cuss or throw a drink. She doesn’t even read people. She says what she needs to say calmly and she stays true to herself. ❤️
Say that!
Iyanla is Real and people can't handle the truth.
The truth hurts they better deal with it lol. Iyanla is THE TRUTH!
That's a fact. Thanks 👍
Do they question Steve Harvey, or Dr Phil?! Nope! Me Iyanla you said that- we are so quick to question or invalidate women but these men can get on TV and tell us anything & NOBODY says a word.
Oh man what she as about Tamar is classic African wisdom and you never wanna here that "I'm an elder" that means you disrespected them and when they add " what goes around comes around," you better seek her forgiveness cause old people see far and she saw things
Judith Jackson I know exactly what she meant by that... what Tamar did is a curse.. she gonna have to touch her feet for it to lift off.
Tamar is currently on Big Brother doing the SAME thing she's done to her family...
@@tbetters2012 yes, I know Tamar is acting for the 📷
Tamar should have never agreed to that. She already had her mind made up about Iyanla. Tamar did what she does best. 📷, lights, Drama.
She has confirmed by her actions that the REAL did the right thing in letting her go. She is such an embarrassment to women. She is too old to act the way she does. I Tried watching Big Brothers but I couldnt take her AT ALL.
Her spirit makes her appear so much more bright and glowy. I pray to have a spirit as graceful and clean as hers.
She's always glowing and smiling. That's the work of the lord.
Miss Iyanla, the Holy Spirit knew what He was doing when He chose to use you as His vessel! Thank you for doing what He asks of you. God bless you
Or she. Everything ain’t masculine energy
Baby the way Eee Yawn Lah spiritually GATHERED TaH Mar 😂😂🤣🤣 .... Baby that's an elder read 🤣🤣🤣😂
Wise woman.
I love you so much.
You are my spiritual grand aunt🙏🏿🧡
She is definitely the type of Auntie we all need.
It’s A LOT of pain and disfunction amongst our people due to what we’ve had to endure however I still believe and stand on the truth that WE ARE THE MOST POWERFUL AND BEAUTIFUL CREATURES EVER CREATED and no matter how dysfunctional we appear to be I WILL NEVER give up on us.❤️
*GET RID OF ALL THE UNDISERABLES 1ST THE WOMEN AND MEN BY 'ALL' MEANS AND STERILIZATION FOR THOSE IN THE MIDDLE GROUND FOR BOTH GENDERS*
Neither will I. Proud AF
✊🏽❤️
Amen, Amen. 👊🏽
Amen to that sister!
Iyanla is our community's Big Momma. She has so much wisdom within her.
I love this woman!!! we all need a mother,grandma,auntie anyone with age and experience to guide us through life like this...whoever has this woman as family is truly blessed !
What she said about Steve Harvey and Dr Phil is so true I never thought about it that way ,but they really do try to discredit women in all fields damn it's sad.
It's very true and sad...
Teach the People Iyanla!!! They come down way to hard on her and that isn't fair!
If that ain't me...y'all tryna diminish my work because I stepped into your world...exits conference room and walks into office
I love Queen Mother she is amazing!
People are willing to diminish and dismiss women!!! *Word*
Amen!
Iyanla’s signature smile after she says something shady. 😂
That part ✔
Who ever is styling her of late and doing hair and makeup is doing a great job.
“What goes around comes around” very prophetic concerning Tamar.
VERY!!!!
Tamar has childhood trauma and PTSD. Why didn’t Iyanla speak about this without bringing up her being molested 🤔 it doesn’t matter who Tamar disrespects. She’s not a child. She literally said “what about me-what about my feelings. What about how I feel. No one ever cares about how I feel” or something like that. This only shows how mentally unstable and damaged she was.
Tamar even apologized to her sisters and Traci thought it wasn’t sincere enough...
@@MarquesTheProducer she did but Tamar did not know she knew this…..so editing cut that part out. Traci said the same thing happened to her…..apparently someone told without Tamar’s permission
Journey you do realize Tarmar has an history of sexual, verbal , emotional, and spiritual abuse. Until you walk a mile in her shoes please be quite. She is a work in progress like us all.
@@MarquesTheProducer Exactly
I have the utmost respect for Ms. Vanzant. I first learned of her when she became the 2nd life coach on season 2 of a reality show called Starting Over in 2004, and the couples boot camp 2005. All 3 of the life coaches were amazing. Their expertise and techniques not only helped the women and couples they worked with, but they also helped me. Ms. Vanzant loved working with the men. She had a natural repour with them. I remember Simon in particular from the couples boot camp. He had a lot going on with him. Ms. Vanzant reached him in many ways. The coaches were serious, qualified in their fields and did not play. Learned a lot from that show. Became a follower of Ms. Vanzant. She is the real deal.
As someone going to school to be a therapist,integrating spirituality in her work is mandatory for Black People. I personally have a therapist and it works for me HOWEVER a majority of black folks issues are rooted in confusion of spirituality. This is by no means a racist statement but its easier for White ppl to lack empathy imo. Black ppl are raised and constantly taught to be compassion and empathetic and like family,White ppl can easily separate logic and emotion with no problem and thats a task for us. When Iyanla says she had to make that girl mad,she is right because that baby was denial about her pain. She forced herself to accept being kidnapped and for the greater good suppressed her anger over it. Even on the show,the biological mom wanted it her way but the kidnapped mom was manipulating through jail communication then the day and his way...nobody cared about what she wanted and Iyanla knew that.
I can agree. It’s important that black people have black therapists. Accountability is important and I’m glad Tamar owned up to it, however, people still expect Tamar to be accountable for what WEtv does. Iyanla triggered Tamar by bringing up her molestation. That’s why Tamar went off on Iyanla. She suffers from childhood trauma so it should only make sense 🤷🏽♂️ Iyanla is literally using the fact that she’s an elder against Tamar...being an elder means nothing. I get disrespected by my parents all of the time and they make it seem like because they’re elders, it’s okay. The same applies to Tamar. Tamar was her respectful of Iyanla the first half of the episode. I don’t think I seen her speak about childhood trauma which is one of the leading factors in the relationship of The Braxtons. Tamar is so childish obviously because of the way she was raised. She was abused, molested, spoiled, and mentally broken (because of her mother/father) ...
So true! So true how people will down play a woman’s ability and never question the man.
She just makes you want to do better.
Don't she though
I LOVE IYANLA!!!! She is powerful just in her silence.
I love her!
Loved the quality of the questions. She answered them and gave us therapy in a short time.
This was everything!! I adore her strength and poise!
You can do NO WRONG in my eyes, Ms. Vanzant! Your confidence is amazing and your unapologetic presence is to be admired!! Keep up the GREAT work!!!
I ABSOLUTELY ABSOLUTELY LOOOOOOOOOOVE MY SISTER IYANLA VANZANT! I remember praying for someone like her too have a show just like the one she has God answered my prayers. Thank you my sister I know this s____t aint easy!
I love Iyanla ❤. I think her methods are necessary
Very necessary. I learn so much watching her. Shit, she is my virtual therapist and she don't even know it. 😃
@@QueenNaestar I definitely agree with you, I think she's absolutely AMAZING ❤
Keep up the good work Miss Iyanla. You know who you are - and you are blessed! We love and support you Sister. God be with you Always.
I love her. She has taught me that people can only do what they know how to do. I had all the expections of how a parent was suppise to be not realizing that The expection is only what they know how to do. As people we can grow and evolve but i had to come to that.
Iyanla is out of this world and is beyond gifted and annointed. Dr. Phil doesn't even compare nor measure up to her in any way, shape or form. He never has and never will... Period. Full stop. End of the story.
Plus Dr Phil guests and topics are beyond crazy a guy thinking he's Batman " ...🤦🤦🤦 come on now ...GET REAL....
Iyanla > Dr. Phil
No comparison
She checked that! I think I prejudged her many years ago for spiritualism vs concrete christianity but as a strong, educated, beautiful mind, she definitely has the soul to help others and leaves you you with so much wisdom. God bless the souls who don't take a grain of her advice. She's a treasure in our community versus the vileness we support on reality tv, ratchet advice, and even our own generational curses.
I love that you owned your slight and growth. Excited for more of this from everybody 🥂
I had a similar question. Has Lady Iyanla ever given a definite answer to what her spiritual path is? As a believer in God I can understand the desire to know whether someone who sounds good is following God or a spirit.
Iyanla, Fix the government, Please! 🤳👏🏿
😂😂😂😂😂😂
What she said!!!!
In my heart I opened my spirit to catch Iyanla words when is she coming to Chicago😩. Because this life hurts so many that I just want to be as strong as I can be for myself & 1yr. old daughter.
She’s so real, honest and authentic 💕I’ve learned so much from just watching her and what she do. 🙏🏾
Lady Iyanla, you are so knowledgeable, clear, concise and intelligent. I am proud to be of the same heritage as you.
Thank you for bringing up the fact that they never question the Dr. Phils of the world. I'm sure they just assume he is qualified because he's a man. Stay strong queen!
Truth spoken....👏👏
Glam squad been bringing it for 3 years strong
Ms. Iyanla did her job with them. It was up to them to receive and to finish the process. Ms. Evelyns attitude was nasty as well. Gotta love Ms. Iyanla V.💖
She ... Ms. Iyanla Vansant is needed, thankful she know her purpose, that way there's no one nore nothing that can shake her, she is a huge threat, lm very much am intelligent lady, she is healing what others could not touch, and some have chosen, .. communities of hurt, pain, and disfunction.
Love her hair
Iyanla I love the show! You have been a blessing in my life
I love this lady.
Remember she was on The Starting Over House.... Towanda & Tamar was on there. Tamar was once very sweet and humbled.
Crystal E. Yooo, I remember that show. Couldn’t remember the name til you said it. Thanks.
@@demim.9203 she been helping people...FOREVER!!! Happy Saturday, D!!!! Enjoy!!🤗
Crystal E. 🤗thanks
I LOVE IT ...
THANKS FOR THE HELPING HAND IYANLA 👏👏👏
I'm slayed everytime I listen to Iyanla.
So awesome !!
Iyanla nailed it with this loving yet toxic family the braxtons were a complicated gang to try to fix and she really called out the issues every single one
Oh she called them all out nobody has ever done that they have yes men we see that on their shows
Amen Iyanla! And so it is.
I love Ms Iyanla . I think she is operating in her gift. For people who thinks she is too harsh, their simply just not ready for truth . Truth is a hard pill to swallow
I honestly like her show it's meaningful unlike most of these bogus shows I agree with her she's not given her dues it's like the show's that are more entertaining rather than helpful and crazy are given more of a platform ....🤦🤦🤦🤦
Well done, Mother! 🕊
The G.O.A.T.!
I freaking love Iyanla!!!
You're absolutely right! Black women do this, we tear each other down. We need so much healing, but we're the most resistant to it. When will we learn...
I love that black woman. I aspire to walk in her light one day!
Ending is so true! She never said she was a therapist! Therapy can be a next step. Iyanla experience can be a supplement to therapy if thats where the individual chooses to go.
Daaaaaayyuuuum!!! Get Miss.Iyanla
People don't want do their work . Iyanla doesn't do the work, she gives you the tools to help fix your life.
I was wondering when did I write this.. and I realise I didnt
She is sooooo awesome period!!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you Iyanla 🙌🏽
And a Black Strong Woman at that.
I learn from just seeing your beautiful smile. Beautiful woman!
SPEAK IT!!!!
Amen!!!!!!!!!!!!💯😍🥰
I just love Iyanla
Love auntie ❤️
Iyanla!!!! Amen!
Well said!! Say that!!
This has absolutely nothing to do with these life lessons out great elder is handing out but is Iyanla’s hair sister locs or just micro-braids? I’ve been wondering this for awhile.
Chim Cham I don’t know, but her hair is absolutely beautiful!
She has well kept sister lock's.
Oh wow Mama is Educated for real ❤❤❤❤❤
She is phenomenal but her outfits STAY on point!!
For real @questioning the other peeps
Iyanla you're the best I wish I could have you to help me but I don't want to come on TV I heard TV can add 25 lbs. I love you I watch your shows alot and they still help me you remind me of my favorite aunt and I was her favorite niece.
I love her
Mrs Iylanya spoke that... what goes around comes around... karma has a good record.
that right there was a whole word!
I love this ♥️
That Part! 100%
Have folks ever seen her show? What do people expect when they call her for help? I’d imagine they don’t even show the real grime of it all. It’s painful for sure, but be ready to be stripped and know the more you resist, the harder it will be. Get well!
Make a bad behavior change request 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 one way of creating your boundaries
Iyanla is THE GOAT!
I love u hunny u always sloved the problem
I question Dr. Phil and everyone else who I think is off. I don't know what type of feedback you have experienced. You have done some great things in helping people. That does not mean people will always agree. All the education in the World does not mean you cannot say or do something wrong or something which others will not agree. People will always have an opinion about those whose professions put them in the public eye. It is not about you being a woman or a black woman. Use your own advice to others. Do what you do. Most of the time people are helped by you.
Iyanla that blouse is beautiful
Preach Iyanla!
Talking about Tamar, Both the Pace sister and Iyanla both said they will pray for her and what goes around comes around...it came around. She disrespected both elders.
Why did they have come on their platform if they were NOT going to listen and take her advice??
❤️
Y’all BETTA stop playing with Auntie Iyanla!!
BOSS!!!
So much to learn from Iyanla. Unless you identify and face your demons you will continue on the downward spiral. I like her positive brutality. It humbles you, and only then, can you own up and reinvent yourself.
You are an instrument for the Lord. Amen
Love you 😍😍😍