Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
@@EdgyMTB My daughter was in a relationship with a narcissist. I went to this scripture and told her to read it aloud. She said he was neither description of love. It's always my go to for reference.
I had this quote framed and hung it on the wall in our house when my ex ans I were together...lets just say it disappeared without an explanation after I hung it up.
They don't love anything they can't control. When they find out that "you" won't allow yourself to be manipulated by them, it's wham bam, thank you mam, and good day to you. Found that out the hard way.
Very much so 💯💯 it’s very sad. Everything they do is conditional and never out of the kindness of their heart. Well there’s a reason for that. They have no heart. They’re selfish beings. Everything they do is calculated and to benefit themselves or for image/reputation
I waisted 5 years of my precious special unconditional love on a psycho narcissist that gave me only conditions manipulation and all types of abuse and domestic violence. I’m just thankful I’m not there anymore 🙏🏻
My exwife told me that she wants unconditional love but she didn't want to give it. When I said that's what I want, she said that was a condition. She is sick. Just won my son in custody case though, so he has a chance now. She remarried her exhusband who she claimed used to abuse her before she divorced him to be with me. Was trying to move our son 3 thousand miles away from me.
@@thisguy8224 Appreciate it. We're all about business over here and I refuse to let him fail. HIs mom was indifferent about his success. He's new to structure but he's getting on board. Thanks
@@gloriouscontent3538 it's retarded but she did. It won't last. She's already posted thirst trap pictures for attention online. He can keep her this time.
I remember telling my ex that his love for me is conditional and that's not acceptable for me - waaaay back I discovered he is a narcissist... He never knew how to respond to this XD Thanks Lee, You're doing amazing job with Your vids about NPD
You should totally make a shirt that says: blah blah blah boop boop boop beep beep beep And then add your RUclips @ or whatever on the back! Lol. I’d buy it!
I love your channel. Sometimes it bothers me though because it actually scares me how accurate you are with everything you say. I keep looking for you to say something my soon to be ex-husband hasn't done.... After watching you for about 6 months... So far everything is spot on. You have helped me understand so much! Thank you!
In a nutshell, I come from a dysfunctional and psychologically abusive relationship with my father who was a covert narcissist and had robbed me of my of my self-worth, I was homeless with him for a very long time during my upbringing, I escaped that and went to go be with extended family that found me on the internet, I genuinely felt that I would belong with them and I thought they felt same way, but unfortunately what seemed like a gift from the universe, just turned into something that only contributed to my mental and emotional wounds, I was only with them for 3 months because of how difficult they were to live with, and how conditional their love and regard was towards me, couldn’t really be loved or accepted for just the way I am and only if I meet certain criteria, and had to constantly jump through hoops in order to be loved. It’s just really unfair to me how my upbringing pretty much got robbed by a narcissist father and is something no kid should ever have to go through, while my fully related brother got to have what they called a ‘privileged life’. Yet, some dumbass on the internet told me “who are you and why should you be loved and cared for” and even a former friend laughs at me and invalidates me saying “well they raised your brother and not you why do you think you deserve everything what he always gotten.” …but to me it’s just really unfair, my aunt didn’t even have any idea why I went to go be with them, even though she invited me and was like “why not come stay here?”. It has put me in a constant endless loop of rumination. I remember I stayed with a friend of mine and his family because his mom couldn’t sleep at night knowing that I was sleeping in a car in a parking lot somewhere. They treated me as equally as their 2 boys… I wanted that with my brother… every other kid gets to have a family home life, the most basic thing in the world… except for me I guess…
Love this intro. Perfect intro. Great video. Helpful info. Love hearing you talk about insights & growth in your parenting. I'm sorry your dad didn't give you the love you needed...thanks for sharing. Altho you're joking about it...I wonder how true that is...that you only knew empathy as an adult
He said I'm his 'crush' and liked me so much that he would wait for me until I say Yes. Even assured me a future with him. But the day I finally reverted back my feelings after being so much love-bombed, he stepped back. Why? CONDITION VIOLATED, as later I came to know he said to one of my friend that "Why would my crush try to be my girlfriend? A crush should always remain just a crush. Besides I said her I liked her, not 'love' her. Her fault she got attached". Another day, as I was leaving his city, I happened to cry infront of him as I was gonna miss him. Since then he disconnected from me emotionally. Again, CONDITION VIOLATED. He again said to one of my friend "Had I known she was so emotional, I would have never liked her. The moment she started crying, I was getting irritated. She should've cried alone at home, not infront of me." Really what kind of weird conditions are these?! We can't even take out our natural emotions :)
Yes! When we met and talked he was like I could love him and that I was the truth. When he started to discard me, I was no longer a gem to him. Maybe to someone else 🤣🤣 Boy bye!
Can you talk in particulary about ''love''of narcissists parents, please ? I had 2! One made as if she was a victim ... But i understood at 45 that she is manipulative/tor (? I don't know how to say it in english) too!!! And she also took me for a narcistic object here for her desires, and destroyed me. I'm rebuilding myself
How do you heal from childhood conditional love? So that I can love myself and then I can love other people, I haven't been able to love anyone or anything. doing inner childhood work I can't love my inner child it just doesn't compute. (narcissistic father) pretty sure he never unconditionally loved me as I gave him post natal depression when I was born and quote "made him feel like he was being boiled alive in the corner" by my presence in his life. Taking attention away from him I can only assume.
My narc left me five years ago he abandoned the marriage and went with other women it's been five years and he says he still has no money for a divorce. Is he really that much of a moocher that can't get $500 dollars. Is is staying married to me while with another woman his version of slow torture. I'm Christian I would like to divorce and remarry. But he says he considers himself to be single even though he's married.
Their love is conditional due to their immaturity. You've stated to question what age is that response referring to silent treatment. It is the same with love. They love like a child that says one moment I love you after you give them a present, and the next moment if you deny them something which is not good for them they would say "I hate you".
Hi Lee 👋🏻 truly God is the only one capable of true unconditional love without any selfishness. But His love can heal us to the point that we are able to mirror His love to those around us. That being said. Narcissistic personality disorder is a result of childhood trauma, wounds, abuse, or neglect that has never fully been healed. When a narcissist receives the unconditional love & healing of God, slowly they are able to walk away from those narcissistic tendencies and their relationships get healed as their heart gets healed. Lee, the fact that you are so self aware and willing to work on yourself. Is firm evidence that you can be fully healed from this personality disorder.
Yea they think they found the sucka to spend their life with… wen they take it away it means you’ve arrived you’ve found yourself again … you lost them and found you 😉
I am reminded of this one guy I dated. I wanted to get to know him better. Apparently I asked wrong questions. 5 months into the relationship I asked the 3rd question and he said "3 strikes you're out!" and hung up on me. I've never gotten a call back. I had no idea what other 2 questions were the wrong ones except that last one. There was no discussion. Oh well. Glad he went away. I guess my way of getting to know him was slow. I thought talking was a good thing. He apparently let me get to know him instantly. He hung up and he showed me who he was.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Corinthians 13:4. I was reading this a few days ago after a friend and I were discussing my ex partner and she suggested I read it. 👍🏻
@@EdgyMTB My daughter was in a relationship with a narcissist. I went to this scripture and told her to read it aloud. She said he was neither description of love. It's always my go to for reference.
I had this quote framed and hung it on the wall in our house when my ex ans I were together...lets just say it disappeared without an explanation after I hung it up.
@@desertsage3811 It revealed to him/her everything he/she wasn't! 😂 The truth hurts!
^^^ BIG FACTS Ms. Taylor
And the conditions are not only kept from you but they are subject to change depending on the latest of the greatest in the narcissist eyes.
like …..Trying to hit a moving target 🎯
@@fitbodybycoco aim ahead
@@jessa555 i’m out of the game boo 😂😂😂💪🏾
@@fitbodybycoco same
They don't love anything they can't control. When they find out that "you" won't allow yourself to be manipulated by them, it's wham bam, thank you mam, and good day to you. Found that out the hard way.
Very much so 💯💯 it’s very sad. Everything they do is conditional and never out of the kindness of their heart. Well there’s a reason for that. They have no heart. They’re selfish beings. Everything they do is calculated and to benefit themselves or for image/reputation
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So true girl!
"We grew up with conditional Love...so that's the only Love we know how to give" - great quote
I waisted 5 years of my precious special unconditional love on a psycho narcissist that gave me only conditions manipulation and all types of abuse and domestic violence. I’m just thankful I’m not there anymore 🙏🏻
🙏🏽🙏🏽
My exwife told me that she wants unconditional love but she didn't want to give it. When I said that's what I want, she said that was a condition. She is sick. Just won my son in custody case though, so he has a chance now. She remarried her exhusband who she claimed used to abuse her before she divorced him to be with me. Was trying to move our son 3 thousand miles away from me.
Good for you on winning your son. Run far away. Heal. Raise a strong and prepared child.
@@thisguy8224 Appreciate it. We're all about business over here and I refuse to let him fail. HIs mom was indifferent about his success. He's new to structure but he's getting on board. Thanks
I don't even see why you're allowed remarry someone you divorced.
@@gloriouscontent3538 it's retarded but she did. It won't last. She's already posted thirst trap pictures for attention online. He can keep her this time.
I remember telling my ex that his love for me is conditional and that's not acceptable for me - waaaay back I discovered he is a narcissist... He never knew how to respond to this XD Thanks Lee, You're doing amazing job with Your vids about NPD
You should totally make a shirt that says:
blah blah blah
boop boop boop
beep beep beep
And then add your RUclips @ or whatever on the back! Lol. I’d buy it!
Lol same!
😂😂😂
Thanks for sharing!
You are absolutely correct! When they do something for you you must do something for them!😡😡👍
👍🏾
I love your channel. Sometimes it bothers me though because it actually scares me how accurate you are with everything you say. I keep looking for you to say something my soon to be ex-husband hasn't done.... After watching you for about 6 months... So far everything is spot on. You have helped me understand so much! Thank you!
Yes...it is. But they want unconditional love from you though!
I love your videos. You are so comical. You make us feel so much better about being abused.
Thank you for explaining "conditional"---as far as the NARC is concerned💎....
you’re welcome
In a nutshell, I come from a dysfunctional and psychologically abusive relationship with my father who was a covert narcissist and had robbed me of my of my self-worth, I was homeless with him for a very long time during my upbringing, I escaped that and went to go be with extended family that found me on the internet, I genuinely felt that I would belong with them and I thought they felt same way, but unfortunately what seemed like a gift from the universe, just turned into something that only contributed to my mental and emotional wounds, I was only with them for 3 months because of how difficult they were to live with, and how conditional their love and regard was towards me, couldn’t really be loved or accepted for just the way I am and only if I meet certain criteria, and had to constantly jump through hoops in order to be loved. It’s just really unfair to me how my upbringing pretty much got robbed by a narcissist father and is something no kid should ever have to go through, while my fully related brother got to have what they called a ‘privileged life’. Yet, some dumbass on the internet told me “who are you and why should you be loved and cared for” and even a former friend laughs at me and invalidates me saying “well they raised your brother and not you why do you think you deserve everything what he always gotten.” …but to me it’s just really unfair, my aunt didn’t even have any idea why I went to go be with them, even though she invited me and was like “why not come stay here?”. It has put me in a constant endless loop of rumination. I remember I stayed with a friend of mine and his family because his mom couldn’t sleep at night knowing that I was sleeping in a car in a parking lot somewhere. They treated me as equally as their 2 boys… I wanted that with my brother… every other kid gets to have a family home life, the most basic thing in the world… except for me I guess…
Love this intro. Perfect intro. Great video. Helpful info. Love hearing you talk about insights & growth in your parenting. I'm sorry your dad didn't give you the love you needed...thanks for sharing. Altho you're joking about it...I wonder how true that is...that you only knew empathy as an adult
Love is..conditional...boundaries..etc..
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Boy did I waste my love on past ppl! I was unconditional with my love while he “loved” me as I was his ATM🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
#neveragain
That part
🙏🏽
You're right.
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He said I'm his 'crush' and liked me so much that he would wait for me until I say Yes. Even assured me a future with him.
But the day I finally reverted back my feelings after being so much love-bombed, he stepped back. Why?
CONDITION VIOLATED, as later I came to know he said to one of my friend that "Why would my crush try to be my girlfriend? A crush should always remain just a crush. Besides I said her I liked her, not 'love' her. Her fault she got attached".
Another day, as I was leaving his city, I happened to cry infront of him as I was gonna miss him. Since then he disconnected from me emotionally. Again, CONDITION VIOLATED. He again said to one of my friend "Had I known she was so emotional, I would have never liked her. The moment she started crying, I was getting irritated. She should've cried alone at home, not infront of me."
Really what kind of weird conditions are these?! We can't even take out our natural emotions :)
Insightful. Thank you 👍
Glad you enjoyed it!
It all balls down to it that they don't love at all!!
Yes! When we met and talked he was like I could love him and that I was the truth. When he started to discard me, I was no longer a gem to him. Maybe to someone else 🤣🤣 Boy bye!
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Can you talk in particulary about ''love''of narcissists parents, please ? I had 2! One made as if she was a victim ... But i understood at 45 that she is manipulative/tor (? I don't know how to say it in english) too!!! And she also took me for a narcistic object here for her desires, and destroyed me. I'm rebuilding myself
Double-standards
Truly
100000000%
Get a dog, only thing that gives unconditional love
Thank You 👑🙏🏽❤️🩹
You are so welcome
lee what? lol i heard mumbling when u were telling ur story lmafo
How do you heal from childhood conditional love? So that I can love myself and then I can love other people, I haven't been able to love anyone or anything. doing inner childhood work I can't love my inner child it just doesn't compute. (narcissistic father) pretty sure he never unconditionally loved me as I gave him post natal depression when I was born and quote "made him feel like he was being boiled alive in the corner" by my presence in his life. Taking attention away from him I can only assume.
My narc left me five years ago he abandoned the marriage and went with other women it's been five years and he says he still has no money for a divorce. Is he really that much of a moocher that can't get $500 dollars. Is is staying married to me while with another woman his version of slow torture. I'm Christian I would like to divorce and remarry. But he says he considers himself to be single even though he's married.
It's called black and white thinking.
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@@MentalHealness 😵😂❤️
Their love is conditional due to their immaturity. You've stated to question what age is that response referring to silent treatment. It is the same with love. They love like a child that says one moment I love you after you give them a present, and the next moment if you deny them something which is not good for them they would say "I hate you".
Hi Lee 👋🏻 truly God is the only one capable of true unconditional love without any selfishness. But His love can heal us to the point that we are able to mirror His love to those around us.
That being said. Narcissistic personality disorder is a result of childhood trauma, wounds, abuse, or neglect that has never fully been healed.
When a narcissist receives the unconditional love & healing of God, slowly they are able to walk away from those narcissistic tendencies and their relationships get healed as their heart gets healed.
Lee, the fact that you are so self aware and willing to work on yourself. Is firm evidence that you can be fully healed from this personality disorder.
Wow this makes so much sense I’m in the process of healing and this is true now I know and why he left me wow it’s sad
Yea they think they found the sucka to spend their life with… wen they take it away it means you’ve arrived you’ve found yourself again … you lost them and found you 😉
🏃🏽♀️
I am reminded of this one guy I dated. I wanted to get to know him better. Apparently I asked wrong questions. 5 months into the relationship I asked the 3rd question and he said "3 strikes you're out!" and hung up on me. I've never gotten a call back. I had no idea what other 2 questions were the wrong ones except that last one. There was no discussion. Oh well. Glad he went away. I guess my way of getting to know him was slow. I thought talking was a good thing. He apparently let me get to know him instantly. He hung up and he showed me who he was.
ya, that one got me/love doesn't remember a wrong done...I no longer follow scripture-it's a death trap
Can a narcissist really change ?
U don’t need to be doin no one on ones… lordt 🤦🏽♀️ lol
ok