I remember seeing a video that she posted where she said something like "it is impossible for a fish and a bird to live a harmonious life regardless of the love because of their differences " it stuck with me. You can't love another at expense of yourself. That alone is conditional love.
if i may say so, i believe a fish and a bird live in perfect harmony in their particular relationship. and thus, you don't see a bird go looking for a fish when the mating season approaches nor the fish jumps out of the water to get near the bird. they both are aware of their circumstances and of whom they are. the way i see it, only in the human realm, "fishes" and "birds" mingle in the most odd ways until the time they mature enough as to realize who they really are and go on living "fish lives" and "bird lives". sorry for my english. (unconditional) love from portugal :))
"We love, and we love deeply and humanly, but with what clarity do we love?" ~ Alonysius Deeney. We are all individual living beings and yet we are incorporated with each other - in order to truly understand the concept of love there has to be another besides yourself. Who can fully understand Source love in this life with its innate conditions? Nothing is impossible for Source, the Infinite Creator.
Unconditional love is not the same as unconditional relationships. I can love someone unconditionally yet set clear boundaries and conditions for our relationship. My unconditional love is what allows me to still act from love when those boundaries have been crossed and conditions have been broken. It has to do with the way I approach and act towards others, not that I let them run over me.
It is True, unconditional love for me is when you still act decent and respectful towards someone who clearly cross your boundaries and who just deserves a slap. For me when someone disrespect me and that I don't react by disrespecting them back, it is already a sign of unconditional love. I can remove myself from these persons but still wish them all the best
I don't want to believe that. I think the soul, the body knows the way. Maybe it would've taken me longer to understand this stuff and free myself from it. What I also can't deny is that she is a "SAVIOUR". The very amazing, "Teal".💙💛
Teal this is so well put! It’s the biggest mic drop you’ve ever done! I love the little acting moments 😊 and when you’re asking “did you hear what I just said?” Keeps it high energy and kept me alert the whole video 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
@@TealSwanOfficial Great! Getting a breath of fresh air after just moving to Sweden. Especially after spending 6 months in Covid-19 terrified Israel. It feels like something really good is happening to your channel (and you) lately! Very heartwarming to see ❤️
@@ArthurMoore She's amazing!! This topic is so simple yetmost people complicate it with the veil of judgement...she just lifted the veil - so elegantly. 🌻
Wow, this is exactly what I needed. My husband and I are separating. He has said countless times that I don't love him because I don't love him unconditionally. It always confused me because I do love him. I never knew how to respond to this and always felt guilty. Thank you for helping me to release this guilt 🙏🏾
You can unconditionally love someone forever, but have a conditional relationship. If they break a boundary in a social contract, such as cheating, you can end the relationship but still unconditionally love them without being in a relationship with them.
i saw a quote on teals page that said , "if we associate love with loosing ourselves, in relationships we will become avoidant and push our partners away" .....so true 👏🏻👏🏻
I am laughing because I immediately thought the same thing. But I think we all get the general idea Teal was relaying. I personally get so much out of her youtubes talks. It is freeing and helpful with thinking about interactions in a good way.
A therapist love toward his clients might be unconditional, but being a therapist is still his job, so to demand that he's ok without being paid is unfair.
I think we can love unconditionally. We can't have a good relationship without conditions. As miss Swan says, to love unconditionally means to be detached of that human being. You can care for them from afar, without letting them too close, knowing that their behavior can disrupt your life or can make you suffer. That's why I ended up believing "love" and "relationship" are 2 different things. Love is a feeling, relationship is a choice. Even loving someone insanely you might choose not to have a relationship with them, because you can see they aren't compatible to you.
I've always thought this. Unconditional love is unrealistic. But every time I voiced it, I was labeled as the negative person. I'm glad you put this video out. I feel less crazy now. Thank you.
Unconditional love IS realistic. Unconditional relationships - what most people usually mean when they talk about 'unconditional love - is not. You can completely love someone but have conditions around whether or not you want to be in a relationship with them.
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You're right. I've started dating a like minded woman in the past few weeks and we are really focused on being authentic and honest with each other, even if it's difficult. I might bring up the concept of compatibility and conditions further down the line a ways. Thanks!
Makes sense. When I saw the video name I was like I can't unconditionally love my partner. At least not the way he would want. Like I can "love " him..but that doesn't mean I can ignore. Stay silent. Or never leave no matter if he was a murder or just didn't make me happy anymore. I want to be with him no matter how he feels or what he is going through. But that doesn't mean I can overlook conflicts and stuff. Thanks for the info teal
And we're back to authenticity: the more clear we're about what we really are, need and want, the more we can build relationships based on authentic compatibility instead of tons of overlays of illusion... 😁❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️🙏 Thank you, Teal!!! 🥰 Watching this video felt as a great deep relief, like: a relationship actually can be easy if we both are truly compatible.
I agree with 99.9% of what you’ve said here although I think I personally draw a distinction between unconditional love and an unconditional relationship. I love my ex unconditionally and always will however there were conditions for me being able to continue the relationship with him which he chose not to meet - hence he is now my ex. This doesn’t mean I love him any less I just have made the choice not to sacrifice myself in order to continue the relationship with him.
Ya i agree. This is somewhat distorted teaching. You love someone unconditionally by letting them be whoever they want to be and do what makes them happy. Not getting what you want and hving them do what they want to you. In order to love them unconditionally you have to at the same time treat yourself the same way. So when you disagree you disagree. When something isnt how you like it you change it. That has nothing to do with how much you love them though. I think this teaching is conflicted in idea and connects things that arent really connected.
Love is, by its very nature, unconditional. Relationships are not unconditional. You can love someone and want the absolute best for them and never want to see them again because they are utterly toxic for you. Humanity is capable of this love. Relationships need Communication to be able to understand what the other person needs in that relationship. As we grow as individuals, those needs will grow and mature with time. This is why communication is so important to any relationship.
OMG!!! I just realized something while watching this video. TS said true love is taking the other as yourself. This is why LOVE .... true love ... is SO POWERFUL!!! We take the other as our self. Which means we expand. We grow. And the other person expands and grows, too. It's a resonate or symbiotic thing that moves between the two of you and grows and expands life. And we can do this for ALL OF LIFE, too. We can take ALL of life as a part of ourselves. As we grow and expand our love .... it goes far beyond personal love .... it's more like PURE LOVE .... I don't what else to call it .... we have this pure love or pure joy for ALL OF LIFE. ALL of it!!! Everyone and everything. It's not like I have to LIKE everything or everyone. BUT I can still LOVE everyone and everything, regardless. Even the crappy parts, because it's a part of the WHOLE. NOTHING is separate. Nothing stands alone. I feel like this is the end result of shadow work or parts therapy or coming into full awareness of our fractured selves. Again, I don't have to LIKE everything - I certainly DO NOT like some things that have occurred in my life. BUT I do know that I could not have grown without the pain and trauma. And it's that's growth that I can love and therefore love even the shadow parts of life. All of it. Every bit. The good, the bad, the ugly. How do I know my boundaries unless I've had these type of experiences? How do I know growth otherwise? How do I expand? All things become a part of me and I become a part of all things. I feel that this is so very, very, very powerful.
I found nothing but FACTS here!!!! Real love is GIVE AND TAKE, SACRIFICE. It is NOT all about you!!!! In a relationship, two become one. Which means that your two world will collide, and that means that there are some things that you are going to sacrifice for the sake of the other person and vice versa.
Janelle Valentina In one way or another, they will be some sort of sacrifice. But as I mentioned, it is give AND take. Each party will have to sacrifice something. That being said, one must figure out within themselves what is worth sacrificing.
@@narcabusevictimgermany9687 if you're not willing to sacrifice anything for the sake of ur loved other than you are not ready or worthy of true partner yet.remember you attract the person the way you yourself are.
teal can i ask for a huge favor? i need you to make a video about ghosting, i am a ghoster even to my family and my closest friends.. and i tried to do my best i really did , but i cant put my finger on the issue.. until you make the video, can you recommend some of your videos that may come in help? also ghosting is a true trait of this age and NO ONE is talking about it, only blaming the ghoster
@@lazybumtot of course ,but i'm not a native please excuse the language will for me its a sudden act , i tend to experience this need for ghosting when i feel shattered and unstable -mentally- . this may sound weird but my ghosting is very sudden even to me . one day i'm absolutely fine then out of the blue i disappear for weeks and months. i refuse any kind of human interaction, i go into extreme episode of depression and self guilt , and i shut myself completely. i never ghost when my friend and family needs me, but when i am in need for them i vanish. my friend are very supportive and they them self have experienced depression, we had a lot of deep talks about my ghosting and our mental health, and i was doing fine in the past year i worked so hard on my relationships and mental health , i was so proud of the progress i made , it's been 5 months since the last time we spoken, never explain them what happened because i don't know ...i just don't... i did a lot of research but with no deep understanding of my problem , they tend to say that the ghoster don't usually feel guilt or doesn't care but that not the case for me at all. i never reconnected with them because i feel ashamed i made so many promises and i tried everything i know of but i keep hitting dead ends. thanks for asking its means a lot.
@@Ruby-dd3sp thank you so much for sharing. It's very interesting to see your perspective and it definitely gives a lot of insight that someone on the receiving end wouldn't ever think of. I hope you find what you need to obtain peace. Best of wishes. ❤️
This is SO GOOD! 😍 Over the past few years I have been studying and getting clear about my own standards in Life. And have also been learning how to set my boundaries. So much so that I ended up separating from my husband of 25 years 8 months ago as it became clear to me how I’d lost myself in the relationship, and for years I felt my daily mission was just to keep him happy. He had been unhappy with himself for a number of years about not fully pursuing his own dreams, and I finally realised all I did to keep him happy and relaxed on a daily basis only perpetuated his unhappiness and eventually, mine.
The hardest part is realizing you had no idea what the conditions where when you signed up. I've had long terms friends, that despite me only doing right by them, simply can't handle a difference of political opinion. If I had realized that was a condition, ahead of time, I wouldn't have invested. I doubt they realized it was a condition either. But certainly makes these strains less personal.
KAL Well, a lot of people these days are simply "indoctrinated'' by the media, the educational system and the government (without knowing it most of the time), it is almost impossible for them to hear another point of view weither the subject is political, historical or philosophical etc. So these persons realize their own hostility towards different opinions only when they are confronted to them, but wherever they go the majority of people around them has and share the same ideas. This is why sometimes the only one "other point of view'' they hear...is yours. I hope you the best, take care of you.
I absolutely agree with this. After having a few relationships and being long married to the one I thought he was the love of my life, I felt very often uncomfortable with his unmet needs and ideas about what the ideal wife should be. Later, of course, escalation of situations ( phisical violence) led to divorce. But then I searched first to find/define my own Self, needs and values, and moved across the continent, to finally meet the real Love of my life, One who's mostly compatible and loving, as a manifestation to my prayers/clear desires. It's absolutely mandatory to be authentic and honest with yourself and with the possible partners, wherever it's about life partner or anybody else who are playing a role in your everyday life. Teal and her team, big hugs and best wishes!
Wow! This was really necessary. I too felt the need" to be unconditionally loving to everyone. And this is EXACTLY what i struggled with. Loads of love ❤️😍
The most frustrating thing is when people evolve, conditions change, and relationships that were once truly solid and fulfilling no longer work. Then some seemingly shocking and hurtful argument or incident may cause everything to end abruptly, but problems under the surface were actually building up over time. People just didn't want to talk about it because they didn't want to admit where things were going; they didn't want the relationship to end.
"Love" itself is a myth in our current reality, except if we are talking about 2 high-elevated high-vibration awakened compatible souls, but I still have my doubts.. By the way, nice video! Very eye opening
Oh man, this one hit the nail on the head. AND, I will spend some time defining what that "just" is. Really good question. Thank you as always Teal (and team).
One of those things that really drive you mad when you hear it, yet you hear it all the time. Glad that this video shed some crisp-clear light into this so well denied aspect of love. Greatly appreciated. 💎👍🌷
I have felt natural unconditional love for friends a few times in my life. This did actually mean I didnt need anything from them because the love I felt was so big and deep and natural. They weren´t able to hurt me because of this. When one of these friends, with whom I have also been in a short relationship, decided he didn`t want to see me anymore this also didn`t hurt. Though I did`t like it. I truly felt and saw everything with love and loved and understood him naturally and also lovingly accepted my powerlessness in changing his mind about not wanting to see me at this time in his life. It`s a feeling of such deep natural fondness, space for all there is, humanity, freedom and everlasting connection. (ps. these feelings were all appearing totally naturally, I didn`t try to feel anything specifically) (It's also like never really loosing anything I guess..)
@@jarasimonson4040 suffer ha!..."force is a bad joke a trolling mechanism" 😂 I don't have negations or fear of say it out loud now if was for me I would wish not to exist in this universe or in any of the paralel ones anymore. ruclips.net/video/SNI-FicT8js/видео.html Sometimes "power or delusion"(even in a shorterm period of time) are enough to crush many of the things Teal talks about(I don't mean it to be false most of what she shares). Enjoy 2020, "they" have been making good soldiers for 30 years probably, going to be a total circus in the upcoming future the mainstream relationship landscape.
@@locox89 I live in the Netherlands. Things aren't as crazy here. I am working and we don't notice a lot anymore. I wish you all the best of life and love. Take care.
I appreciate all your hard work and amazing free content. I have three sons and I can explain things to them so well after watching Teal. What a wonderful teacher and lady for sharing her knowledge.
Anything that Teal talks about is universal spiritual knowledge that can be understood with enough introspection but the way Teal explains things is just simple, beautiful and eloquent. She is so good at logically explaining the intuitive. Teal is like my sarcastic spiritual Google :)
very powerful theme Teal, what you are saying in its essence is this: if i want a certain traits in a partner, i must first possess those same interests and values. you are what you attract!
I thought about the question and this idea came "i'm already loved for being just me. I'm source and source is choosing to refragment itself through me. I can already find love and validation there. Now, here in the 3D, I gotta worry about the transaction in my relationships. I have come across a beautiful, interesting girl this month and now I'm wondering if I should have a relationship with her. But my single life is giving me so much in return! And single life is a relationship that you have with others and yourself. I gotta be conscious of what this single life relationship is going to provide for me..."
Unconditional love , loving regardless of the conditions , And yet , you are a creator and get to create the conditions you want , And you are loving the whole time , And the true place to find love , is within .
I'm a person who grew up with parents who always promised they loved us children with "unconditional love". This video is revealing what they really meant.
Aghhh! One of my most enlightened videos is: How to overcome The fear of Conflict.. I feel that this one contradicts it. I take great insight from both but a bit confused. I feel im losing critical thinking and that now Teal S has become my coping mechanism ( but i like it 😅) 😕 not given up hope though. Please advise. Best
I was thinking that "I just want to find someone compatible, I don't need to love them or be loved by them", now I realized that if I found that person who is compatible with me, I would had found the perfect relationship... so, I am striving for the best, thinking that I am asking for something simple or being humble... what a strange paradox.
This is the exact problem of my marriage. not the first time Teal opens my eyes... that is just what I needed to hear. I am so sad because this proves that I am not compatible with my wife. 20 years of argument and broken dreams.... still I was hoping for a miracle... I am now slowly slowly waking up ... painful it is...
This hit me like a truck because Teal just confirmed what I learned the hard way. I suffer from a severe trauma since I'm a child and never received any kind of love when I was crying because of it. This always reminds that the first condition to be loved is appearing happy even if you suffer deep down... I might be wrong but I never saw somebody who showed me otherwise. Anyway, thank you Teal Swan for saying the truth because it helps me A LOT during my therapy.
There has to be boundaries I see that now. Your explaination was good and I understand that I perhaps felt the need for value and there has to be consequences even if you love someone. Thank you Teal.
There is truth in what your saying if you define unconditional love that way but for me it just means supporting your partner to be who they want to be and not who you want them to be. My personal example is a mother that has an agenda and will only show love if I’m doing something that helps her with that agenda “conditional love”. Vs my dad that actually loves me and doesn’t not need my decisions to serve him in order for him to be supportive. “Unconditional love”
Unconditional love exists in almost all relationships. It occurs when we open up our hearts and truly give without expectation of receiving. It may just be a moment when we turn to someone and smile, but it's there. However, what often follows is conditional love in all the ways you mentioned, including the standards we have every right to hold our partners to as they pertain to meeting our needs in a compatible relationship. Is it possible to place these standards (our needs) within the larger context of unconditional love----holding a higher love for the other regardless of what they do? Yes, it is. It's not easy, but this is what the great spiritual masters have taught and what our Higher Selves are calling us to do. It's the mountain we are climbing one step at a time.
Teal I cried all day long and prayed to the infinite cosmos to protect all innocent beings. I saw some abhorrent cruelty cases. When I see those cases I become suicidal because I do not know how to deal with this at all.
I love your enthusiasm on this one... very pure and genuine as usual... thank you so much for sharing. no wonder all my relations failed in the past , I need find a compatible soul in my life. thank you Teal you are a gift for this world.
For the sake of being supportive, I want to share something I wrote in Dec. 2019. I was getting to what Teal understands very well. -- In a world where humans would be well adapted to their environment, there would be love everywhere between everybody. Everybody would identify strongly to being part of their group, and they would take care of each other just like love makes us do. So "being with someone" wouldn't be about love, it would be about taste and preferences and practicality. The biggest problem with us today is that love is hard to find, and we are scared of loosing it when we find it.-- I would write it differently now, but all I want to do is share this video. :)
I made a video message several months ago almost identical to this. I got so fed up with this idea of unconditional love. People use this so often from ego and as a way to bypass their actual needs and desires. I love how you articulate. 100% yes!
Omg.... I so rarely comment, but your perspective has unlocked such a treasure in perception and yet I've sometimes in the past I felt honest about my conditions. Honesty does save everyone's time (in my view). I value your work and your team's very much!
You're an incredible teacher I watch you even though I know the lessons you teach I watch to get another view of what I already know to help me teach others around me
Perfect! This is what I've been thinking about when I've thought of having a partner; Compatibility! Once again you brought forth something I couldn't put into words, thank you Teal! I also love your acting moments, brings your videos to life.
You probably could have dropped the mic about 10 times. Exactly what I'm sharing with the Communities I've created of over 150k members on Facebook. One is called unconditional self love twin flame community or Ascension & Philosophy Love all your work We say the exact same things. Love it. Keep it up. We are all with you
Hello Teal. Love your channel. Every time you speak the truth comes out. If most women think like you. The world would move right direction instead we spent our time fighting about Petty stuff. That’s why most people are less ambitious. I’m always grateful for everything you do 💯❤️
There is an old song by the Isley Brothers and part of the song goes something like this: At your best, you are loved, your a positive motivating source within my life , if you ever feel the need to wonder why, let me know. I believe the closest you can get unconditional love is from and towards ones child. Everyone else has to do something to get something. It is what it is 💛💛💛
Contraversial, perhaps, but after seeing this, I still believe that unconditional love is necessary but by no means sufficient for a wonderful inter-becoming relationship. If both know and are aware of what it truly is, there is the perfect foundation.
Thank you for this relationship education. I strongly believe many people lack some fundamental understandings on interactions with all other sentient beings. Keep doing what you are doing! You have an innate understanding and ability to communicate this information. You are humble. You are kind. You are wise. You thrive on helping others. You are a very good person. I am so glad I came across you during an internet search. You are the real deal. Stay just who you are. You are touching so many lives for all to be their greatest potential! Lots of unconditional Love!
My life is separated to before and after seeing this video All my knowledge and studyings and experiences with love came to a clear understanding, after seeing this video. Thanks alot
Many of us fall in love with a fairytale and with that fairy tale we think of unconditional love. But who would want to be with someone or even be someone that has no expectations? from yourself? from others? Where's the growth in that? Where's your life journey becoming a "better" version of yourself? Thanks for another great video
unconditional love does not mean no expectations. unconditional love means supporting each other through the hard times (in sickness). people who refuse to support you when you are suffering dont really love you. if you love someone, you don't abandon them when they get sick. real love is unconditional, not purely based on lust.
Very interesting video, and a lot of good points! Discussing love is always complicated because 'love' is vague and exists in many forms. The Ancient Greeks held several terms for love. The most known ones are: eros, for romantic love, philia, for friendly or familial love, and agape, for unconditional and universal love. Teal Swan seems to be describing romantic love when she talks of identifying the other as part of oneself, in some sense. Agape loves the other (more precisely, all others) unconditionally without identifying the other as self. It is an acceptance and recognition of the other as their own independent self, and then an active concern for the well-being of that other, for their own sake.
Well done Teal. You have matured so much. I could never relate to some of your earlier airy fairy teachings. I found them to be very harmful in a physical reality. I love how you have become grounded and realistic. Many young people, many lost souls follow your guidance and as such, I believe your new found wisdom can go far to assist people in decision making. Wonderful progression. 💜
Hope to one day be as effective on my communication skills as you. This was a concept in my brain, just didnt know how to put it into words. Thank you, Teal!.
I love your humor haha...so moral of the story is find someone as compatible as you and those conditions won't seem as bad cause they're most aligned with who I really am... makes sense. I hate when ppl being up unconditional love... cause it's a very falsified thing to do... puppies & babies might be the only "things" that are loved unconditional
I gotta be honest, I'm glad teal swan exists.
Yeah not like the people who committed suicide because of her
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Jeremiah Larkins nice 👍
I feel that!
Dont you dare be honest again
I remember seeing a video that she posted where she said something like "it is impossible for a fish and a bird to live a harmonious life regardless of the love because of their differences " it stuck with me. You can't love another at expense of yourself. That alone is conditional love.
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if i may say so, i believe a fish and a bird live in perfect harmony in their particular relationship. and thus, you don't see a bird go looking for a fish when the mating season approaches nor the fish jumps out of the water to get near the bird. they both are aware of their circumstances and of whom they are. the way i see it, only in the human realm, "fishes" and "birds" mingle in the most odd ways until the time they mature enough as to realize who they really are and go on living "fish lives" and "bird lives". sorry for my english. (unconditional) love from portugal :))
Camila Cabello started following Teal Swan on Instagram!!
"We love, and we love deeply and humanly, but with what clarity do we love?" ~ Alonysius Deeney. We are all individual living beings and yet we are incorporated with each other - in order to truly understand the concept of love there has to be another besides yourself. Who can fully understand Source love in this life with its innate conditions? Nothing is impossible for Source, the Infinite Creator.
@@bernardbujard9944 good one "source is just trolling" as usual also
Unconditional love is not the same as unconditional relationships.
I can love someone unconditionally yet set clear boundaries and conditions for our relationship.
My unconditional love is what allows me to still act from love when those boundaries have been crossed and conditions have been broken.
It has to do with the way I approach and act towards others, not that I let them run over me.
well said
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Extremely well said! Bravo! Absolutely to the point 🧝🏻♀️✨
It is True, unconditional love for me is when you still act decent and respectful towards someone who clearly cross your boundaries and who just deserves a slap. For me when someone disrespect me and that I don't react by disrespecting them back, it is already a sign of unconditional love. I can remove myself from these persons but still wish them all the best
That's how you end up abused.
“Love is not just looking at each other, it's looking in the same direction”
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And if you don't look in the same direction then you're incompatible and kids need to grow up with consequences of divorce. yay!!!
Naa that just is one of "relantioships pilars"
Thank you.
I wouldn’t be able to survive this life without teal’s videos. Gods gift to us.
I don't want to believe that. I think the soul, the body knows the way. Maybe it would've taken me longer to understand this stuff and free myself from it. What I also can't deny is that she is a "SAVIOUR". The very amazing, "Teal".💙💛
Teal this is so well put! It’s the biggest mic drop you’ve ever done! I love the little acting moments 😊 and when you’re asking “did you hear what I just said?” Keeps it high energy and kept me alert the whole video 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Thank you Arthur. How are you?
@@TealSwanOfficial Great! Getting a breath of fresh air after just moving to Sweden.
Especially after spending 6 months in Covid-19 terrified Israel.
It feels like something really good is happening to your channel (and you) lately!
Very heartwarming to see ❤️
@@ArthurMoore She's amazing!! This topic is so simple yetmost people complicate it with the veil of judgement...she just lifted the veil - so elegantly. 🌻
Take me to Sweden :D
@@ivanaivy6698 same
Wow, this is exactly what I needed. My husband and I are separating. He has said countless times that I don't love him because I don't love him unconditionally. It always confused me because I do love him. I never knew how to respond to this and always felt guilty. Thank you for helping me to release this guilt 🙏🏾
to make a partner feel guilty is a tool of manipulation.
What was he asking you to love about him that made him feel unloved?
You can unconditionally love someone forever, but have a conditional relationship. If they break a boundary in a social contract, such as cheating, you can end the relationship but still unconditionally love them without being in a relationship with them.
@@quorthunsargeras7054 well said
@@lonesmithfilms934 your feelings are also your choice
'when manifesting a soulmate dont ask for a someone that loves you unconditionally, because that is a dog.'
-Vianna Stibal
Wow!!!
Exactly lol
Love those sentient beings!
Words of wisdom
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i saw a quote on teals page that said , "if we associate love with loosing ourselves, in relationships we will become avoidant and push our partners away" .....so true 👏🏻👏🏻
If you think a therapist love is unconditional, try not paying them!
richard xlin That goes for these “life coaches” as well.
Exactly! I need one so much... but I can't have one because I can't pay one.
I am laughing because I immediately thought the same thing. But I think we all get the general idea Teal was relaying. I personally get so much out of her youtubes talks. It is freeing and helpful with thinking about interactions in a good way.
A therapist love toward his clients might be unconditional, but being a therapist is still his job, so to demand that he's ok without being paid is unfair.
Why, you feel like therapists are nice?
I think we can love unconditionally. We can't have a good relationship without conditions. As miss Swan says, to love unconditionally means to be detached of that human being. You can care for them from afar, without letting them too close, knowing that their behavior can disrupt your life or can make you suffer. That's why I ended up believing "love" and "relationship" are 2 different things. Love is a feeling, relationship is a choice. Even loving someone insanely you might choose not to have a relationship with them, because you can see they aren't compatible to you.
True that's what I think too
@@MrGrayanme too
Spot on
How is she so good at timing her topics. It’s spooky lol
Thank you for your work Teal. You are a God sent. I hope one day I can pay it forward.
Very
Nothing is compared as saturday morning breakfast with some Teal ;)
I've always thought this. Unconditional love is unrealistic. But every time I voiced it, I was labeled as the negative person. I'm glad you put this video out. I feel less crazy now. Thank you.
Unconditional love IS realistic. Unconditional relationships - what most people usually mean when they talk about 'unconditional love - is not. You can completely love someone but have conditions around whether or not you want to be in a relationship with them.
@@superbettynow makes no sense,
If I could unconditionally love someone I would want to be around them.
If you are reading this i want you to know that within the next 6 months you will become a millionaire. Keep taking action and believing in yourself, the energy you put out to the universe is being recieved and your time is coming. Keep it up!
@All Day Alchemy Your Welcome
Thank you Luke
Love isn’t just about the good times it’s also about loving them when they are at their worst.. no pressure is a myth..
Most honest and insightful relationship advice EVER! Must heed for success.
You're right. I've started dating a like minded woman in the past few weeks and we are really focused on being authentic and honest with each other, even if it's difficult. I might bring up the concept of compatibility and conditions further down the line a ways. Thanks!
Makes sense. When I saw the video name I was like
I can't unconditionally love my partner.
At least not the way he would want.
Like I can "love " him..but that doesn't mean I can ignore. Stay silent. Or never leave no matter if he was a murder or just didn't make me happy anymore.
I want to be with him no matter how he feels or what he is going through.
But that doesn't mean I can overlook conflicts and stuff. Thanks for the info teal
And we're back to authenticity: the more clear we're about what we really are, need and want, the more we can build relationships based on authentic compatibility instead of tons of overlays of illusion... 😁❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️🙏 Thank you, Teal!!! 🥰 Watching this video felt as a great deep relief, like: a relationship actually can be easy if we both are truly compatible.
I agree with 99.9% of what you’ve said here although I think I personally draw a distinction between unconditional love and an unconditional relationship. I love my ex unconditionally and always will however there were conditions for me being able to continue the relationship with him which he chose not to meet - hence he is now my ex. This doesn’t mean I love him any less I just have made the choice not to sacrifice myself in order to continue the relationship with him.
Ya i agree. This is somewhat distorted teaching. You love someone unconditionally by letting them be whoever they want to be and do what makes them happy. Not getting what you want and hving them do what they want to you. In order to love them unconditionally you have to at the same time treat yourself the same way. So when you disagree you disagree. When something isnt how you like it you change it. That has nothing to do with how much you love them though. I think this teaching is conflicted in idea and connects things that arent really connected.
Very well put! Couldn’t have said it any better
Yess indeed!!
Your choice on higher love is not chosen by your standards"..
@@darenology993 please explain further?
Love is, by its very nature, unconditional. Relationships are not unconditional. You can love someone and want the absolute best for them and never want to see them again because they are utterly toxic for you. Humanity is capable of this love.
Relationships need Communication to be able to understand what the other person needs in that relationship. As we grow as individuals, those needs will grow and mature with time. This is why communication is so important to any relationship.
Yup !
This makes so much sense to why I'm I'm seeking compatibility.
OMG!!! I just realized something while watching this video. TS said true love is taking the other as yourself.
This is why LOVE .... true love ... is SO POWERFUL!!!
We take the other as our self. Which means we expand. We grow. And the other person expands and grows, too. It's a resonate or symbiotic thing that moves between the two of you and grows and expands life.
And we can do this for ALL OF LIFE, too. We can take ALL of life as a part of ourselves. As we grow and expand our love .... it goes far beyond personal love .... it's more like PURE LOVE .... I don't what else to call it .... we have this pure love or pure joy for ALL OF LIFE. ALL of it!!! Everyone and everything.
It's not like I have to LIKE everything or everyone. BUT I can still LOVE everyone and everything, regardless. Even the crappy parts, because it's a part of the WHOLE. NOTHING is separate. Nothing stands alone.
I feel like this is the end result of shadow work or parts therapy or coming into full awareness of our fractured selves. Again, I don't have to LIKE everything - I certainly DO NOT like some things that have occurred in my life. BUT I do know that I could not have grown without the pain and trauma. And it's that's growth that I can love and therefore love even the shadow parts of life. All of it. Every bit. The good, the bad, the ugly.
How do I know my boundaries unless I've had these type of experiences? How do I know growth otherwise? How do I expand?
All things become a part of me and I become a part of all things.
I feel that this is so very, very, very powerful.
Your hair is positively flawless, off topic but had to be said❤️
Ha n
She is beautiful, isn't she? That's 30% the reason I watch her vids. So GORGEOUS!
I found nothing but FACTS here!!!!
Real love is GIVE AND TAKE, SACRIFICE. It is NOT all about you!!!!
In a relationship, two become one. Which means that your two world will collide, and that means that there are some things that you are going to sacrifice for the sake of the other person and vice versa.
im confused, i thought i should not self sacrifice
Janelle Valentina In one way or another, they will be some sort of sacrifice. But as I mentioned, it is give AND take. Each party will have to sacrifice something.
That being said, one must figure out within themselves what is worth sacrificing.
Do not self sacrifice,!thats better
@@narcabusevictimgermany9687 if you're not willing to sacrifice anything for the sake of ur loved other than you are not ready or worthy of true partner yet.remember you attract the person the way you yourself are.
Nataša Smrkolj you are not God to decide whether I am worthy or not.
teal can i ask for a huge favor?
i need you to make a video about ghosting, i am a ghoster even to my family and my closest friends..
and i tried to do my best i really did , but i cant put my finger on the issue..
until you make the video, can you recommend some of your videos that may come in help?
also ghosting is a true trait of this age and NO ONE is talking about it, only blaming the ghoster
great idea
And possibly ghosting vs shunning. They seem to have a different kind of energy even though the outcome seems to be the same.
Would you please describe the process to which you ghost and the thought process?
@@lazybumtot
of course ,but i'm not a native please excuse the language
will for me its a sudden act , i tend to experience this need for ghosting when i feel shattered and unstable -mentally- .
this may sound weird but my ghosting is very sudden even to me .
one day i'm absolutely fine then out of the blue i disappear for weeks and months.
i refuse any kind of human interaction, i go into extreme episode of depression and self guilt , and i shut myself completely.
i never ghost when my friend and family needs me, but when i am in need for them i vanish.
my friend are very supportive and they them self have experienced depression, we had a lot of deep talks about my ghosting and our mental health, and i was doing fine in the past year i worked so hard on my relationships and mental health , i was so proud of the progress i made , it's been 5 months since the last time we spoken, never explain them what happened because i don't know ...i just don't...
i did a lot of research but with no deep understanding of my problem , they tend to say that the ghoster don't usually feel guilt or doesn't care but that not the case for me at all.
i never reconnected with them because i feel ashamed i made so many promises and i tried everything i know of but i keep hitting dead ends.
thanks for asking its means a lot.
@@Ruby-dd3sp thank you so much for sharing. It's very interesting to see your perspective and it definitely gives a lot of insight that someone on the receiving end wouldn't ever think of. I hope you find what you need to obtain peace. Best of wishes. ❤️
This is SO GOOD! 😍 Over the past few years I have been studying and getting clear about my own standards in Life. And have also been learning how to set my boundaries. So much so that I ended up separating from my husband of 25 years 8 months ago as it became clear to me how I’d lost myself in the relationship, and for years I felt my daily mission was just to keep him happy. He had been unhappy with himself for a number of years about not fully pursuing his own dreams, and I finally realised all I did to keep him happy and relaxed on a daily basis only perpetuated his unhappiness and eventually, mine.
The hardest part is realizing you had no idea what the conditions where when you signed up. I've had long terms friends, that despite me only doing right by them, simply can't handle a difference of political opinion. If I had realized that was a condition, ahead of time, I wouldn't have invested. I doubt they realized it was a condition either. But certainly makes these strains less personal.
KAL Well, a lot of people these days are simply "indoctrinated'' by the media, the educational system and the government (without knowing it most of the time), it is almost impossible for them to hear another point of view weither the subject is political, historical or philosophical etc. So these persons realize their own hostility towards different opinions only when they are confronted to them, but wherever they go the majority of people around them has and share the same ideas. This is why sometimes the only one "other point of view'' they hear...is yours.
I hope you the best, take care of you.
I absolutely agree with this. After having a few relationships and being long married to the one I thought he was the love of my life, I felt very often uncomfortable with his unmet needs and ideas about what the ideal wife should be. Later, of course, escalation of situations ( phisical violence) led to divorce. But then I searched first to find/define my own Self, needs and values, and moved across the continent, to finally meet the real Love of my life, One who's mostly compatible and loving, as a manifestation to my prayers/clear desires. It's absolutely mandatory to be authentic and honest with yourself and with the possible partners, wherever it's about life partner or anybody else who are playing a role in your everyday life.
Teal and her team, big hugs and best wishes!
Exactly the video I need to see right now
Same
Same here
Wow! This was really necessary. I too felt the need" to be unconditionally loving to everyone. And this is EXACTLY what i struggled with. Loads of love ❤️😍
The most frustrating thing is when people evolve, conditions change, and relationships that were once truly solid and fulfilling no longer work. Then some seemingly shocking and hurtful argument or incident may cause everything to end abruptly, but problems under the surface were actually building up over time. People just didn't want to talk about it because they didn't want to admit where things were going; they didn't want the relationship to end.
"Love" itself is a myth in our current reality, except if we are talking about 2 high-elevated high-vibration awakened compatible souls, but I still have my doubts..
By the way, nice video! Very eye opening
Oh my god... this video... the timing couldn’t be more perfect
Oh man, this one hit the nail on the head. AND, I will spend some time defining what that "just" is. Really good question. Thank you as always Teal (and team).
One of those things that really drive you mad when you hear it, yet you hear it all the time. Glad that this video shed some crisp-clear light into this so well denied aspect of love. Greatly appreciated. 💎👍🌷
I have felt natural unconditional love for friends a few times in my life. This did actually mean I didnt need anything from them because the love I felt was so big and deep and natural. They weren´t able to hurt me because of this. When one of these friends, with whom I have also been in a short relationship, decided he didn`t want to see me anymore this also didn`t hurt. Though I did`t like it. I truly felt and saw everything with love and loved and understood him naturally and also lovingly accepted my powerlessness in changing his mind about not wanting to see me at this time in his life. It`s a feeling of such deep natural fondness, space for all there is, humanity, freedom and everlasting connection. (ps. these feelings were all appearing totally naturally, I didn`t try to feel anything specifically) (It's also like never really loosing anything I guess..)
Glad now everyone is a Saint, postmodernism suck.
@@locox89 it`s true. You too. But I suffer a lot also still so that still happens 💕
@@jarasimonson4040 suffer ha!..."force is a bad joke a trolling mechanism" 😂 I don't have negations or fear of say it out loud now if was for me I would wish not to exist in this universe or in any of the paralel ones anymore.
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Sometimes "power or delusion"(even in a shorterm period of time) are enough to crush
many of the things Teal talks about(I don't mean it to be false most of what she shares).
Enjoy 2020, "they" have been making good soldiers for 30 years probably, going to be a total circus in the upcoming future the mainstream relationship landscape.
@@locox89 I live in the Netherlands. Things aren't as crazy here. I am working and we don't notice a lot anymore. I wish you all the best of life and love. Take care.
Love how her vibe was so playful at the end! Her little sarcastic giggles made the day. What an inspiration 💕☺️
I appreciate all your hard work and amazing free content. I have three sons and I can explain things to them so well after watching Teal. What a wonderful teacher and lady for sharing her knowledge.
Anything that Teal talks about is universal spiritual knowledge that can be understood with enough introspection but the way Teal explains things is just simple, beautiful and eloquent. She is so good at logically explaining the intuitive. Teal is like my sarcastic spiritual Google :)
I know you’re super aware this is what viewers need currently, but I’m one of them and just want to personally thank you for this one 🙏💖🌀
very powerful theme Teal, what you are saying in its essence is this: if i want a certain traits in a partner, i must first possess those same interests and values. you are what you attract!
I thought about the question and this idea came "i'm already loved for being just me. I'm source and source is choosing to refragment itself through me. I can already find love and validation there. Now, here in the 3D, I gotta worry about the transaction in my relationships. I have come across a beautiful, interesting girl this month and now I'm wondering if I should have a relationship with her. But my single life is giving me so much in return! And single life is a relationship that you have with others and yourself. I gotta be conscious of what this single life relationship is going to provide for me..."
Compatibility. Is Everything.
Compatible love languagea and matching values. 🌻
There’s no such thing as 'compatibility' there is only good communication skills and bad communication skills.
@@laraking804 you are entitled to your opinion...for sure.
Since I started watching your videos, I started accept myself for who I really am. Appreciate it so much
Unconditional love , loving regardless of the conditions ,
And yet , you are a creator and get to create the conditions you want ,
And you are loving the whole time ,
And the true place to find love , is within .
I'm a person who grew up with parents who always promised they loved us children with "unconditional love". This video is revealing what they really meant.
Aghhh! One of my most enlightened videos is: How to overcome The fear of Conflict.. I feel that this one contradicts it. I take great insight from both but a bit confused. I feel im losing critical thinking and that now Teal S has become my coping mechanism ( but i like it 😅) 😕 not given up hope though. Please advise. Best
I PHYSICALLY APPLAUDED at this video 👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿
I was thinking that "I just want to find someone compatible, I don't need to love them or be loved by them", now I realized that if I found that person who is compatible with me, I would had found the perfect relationship... so, I am striving for the best, thinking that I am asking for something simple or being humble... what a strange paradox.
This is the exact problem of my marriage. not the first time Teal opens my eyes... that is just what I needed to hear. I am so sad because this proves that I am not compatible with my wife. 20 years of argument and broken dreams.... still I was hoping for a miracle... I am now slowly slowly waking up ... painful it is...
This hit me like a truck because Teal just confirmed what I learned the hard way. I suffer from a severe trauma since I'm a child and never received any kind of love when I was crying because of it. This always reminds that the first condition to be loved is appearing happy even if you suffer deep down... I might be wrong but I never saw somebody who showed me otherwise. Anyway, thank you Teal Swan for saying the truth because it helps me A LOT during my therapy.
Ma'am according to me unconditional love is having a job and loving your work!!
You're so valuable for humanity as a whole; I feel that every time I'm watching your videos. You really help me understand things.
There has to be boundaries I see that now. Your explaination was good and I understand that I perhaps felt the need for value and there has to be consequences even if you love someone. Thank you Teal.
I needed to understand this so much! Thank you Teal. Now I am crystal clear about why my relationships went the way they went.
This is definitely one of teals best videos, people need to understand this more than ever now
There is truth in what your saying if you define unconditional love that way but for me it just means supporting your partner to be who they want to be and not who you want them to be. My personal example is a mother that has an agenda and will only show love if I’m doing something that helps her with that agenda “conditional love”. Vs my dad that actually loves me and doesn’t not need my decisions to serve him in order for him to be supportive. “Unconditional love”
teal swan always out there to heal us -- amazing tbh
I am open and left pain behind . I don't even have to try. Honesty releases me from all. I only try to help 🙃💖🙏
Unconditional love exists in almost all relationships. It occurs when we open up our hearts and truly give without expectation of receiving. It may just be a moment when we turn to someone and smile, but it's there. However, what often follows is conditional love in all the ways you mentioned, including the standards we have every right to hold our partners to as they pertain to meeting our needs in a compatible relationship. Is it possible to place these standards (our needs) within the larger context of unconditional love----holding a higher love for the other regardless of what they do? Yes, it is. It's not easy, but this is what the great spiritual masters have taught and what our Higher Selves are calling us to do. It's the mountain we are climbing one step at a time.
Teal I cried all day long and prayed to the infinite cosmos to protect all innocent beings. I saw some abhorrent cruelty cases. When I see those cases I become suicidal because I do not know how to deal with this at all.
All I desire is a companion who is on the same vibrational energy/frequency as me,we can grow from there, embracing each other's conditions
I love your enthusiasm on this one... very pure and genuine as usual... thank you so much for sharing. no wonder all my relations failed in the past , I need find a compatible soul in my life. thank you Teal you are a gift for this world.
The bombshell from 6.57 just made so much sense. It’s a hallaleuya moment for me.
I don’t know how I would be in this world without you, Teal. 💙
She has such unique and spot on perspectives
For the sake of being supportive, I want to share something I wrote in Dec. 2019. I was getting to what Teal understands very well. -- In a world where humans would be well adapted to their environment, there would be love everywhere between everybody. Everybody would identify strongly to being part of their group, and they would take care of each other just like love makes us do. So "being with someone" wouldn't be about love, it would be about taste and preferences and practicality. The biggest problem with us today is that love is hard to find, and we are scared of loosing it when we find it.-- I would write it differently now, but all I want to do is share this video. :)
I came to this post through one of your Teal’s IG posts. I clicked teal+truth and I really needed to hear everything she said!
Exactly what I always felt about human relationships and love but could never put in words. Thank you, Teal
"We are One" What a beautiful quote. Also, I love your voice, I find it very soothing :) 🙏 🤗
I made a video message several months ago almost identical to this. I got so fed up with this idea of unconditional love. People use this so often from ego and as a way to bypass their actual needs and desires. I love how you articulate. 100% yes!
How many marriages has teal had now?
I love a lot of what you said. Agree in fact. Disagree with the point that love is taking something. It’s giving
Finally someone telling it how it is no matter what! 🦋💓🦋
Omg.... I so rarely comment, but your perspective has unlocked such a treasure in perception and yet I've sometimes in the past I felt honest about my conditions.
Honesty does save everyone's time (in my view).
I value your work and your team's very much!
O.M.G. When I really need a video of certain topic Teal makes one... Thank you! ❤️
You're an incredible teacher I watch you even though I know the lessons you teach I watch to get another view of what I already know to help me teach others around me
Perfect! This is what I've been thinking about when I've thought of having a partner; Compatibility! Once again you brought forth something I couldn't put into words, thank you Teal! I also love your acting moments, brings your videos to life.
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You probably could have dropped the mic about 10 times. Exactly what I'm sharing with the Communities I've created of over 150k members on Facebook. One is called unconditional self love twin flame community or Ascension & Philosophy
Love all your work
We say the exact same things. Love it. Keep it up. We are all with you
Hello Teal. Love your channel. Every time you speak the truth comes out. If most women think like you. The world would move right direction instead we spent our time fighting about Petty stuff. That’s why most people are less ambitious. I’m always grateful for everything you do 💯❤️
There is an old song by the Isley Brothers and part of the song goes something like this: At your best, you are loved, your a positive motivating source within my life , if you ever feel the need to wonder why, let me know. I believe the closest you can get unconditional love is from and towards ones child. Everyone else has to do something to get something. It is what it is 💛💛💛
Always giving truth bombs Teal, you are appreciated. Speak your truth you powerful being! ❤💫
I'm saving this video for whenever I might be in a relationship again.
Unconditional love starts with self❤
I love how Teal always says it exactly as it is.
I am blessed to have great amounts of love in my life thank you teal🙏🏻
Wow! This has been the most eye-opening thing I've learned all year.
Thanks Teal.
Contraversial, perhaps, but after seeing this, I still believe that unconditional love is necessary but by no means sufficient for a wonderful inter-becoming relationship. If both know and are aware of what it truly is, there is the perfect foundation.
Wow took my breath away ;) this is the most truthful and accurate analysis of relationships I ever came across.
Thank you for this relationship education. I strongly believe many people lack some fundamental understandings on interactions with all other sentient beings. Keep doing what you are doing! You have an innate understanding and ability to communicate this information. You are humble. You are kind. You are wise. You thrive on helping others. You are a very good person. I am so glad I came across you during an internet search. You are the real deal. Stay just who you are. You are touching so many lives for all to be their greatest potential! Lots of unconditional Love!
My life is separated to before and after seeing this video
All my knowledge and studyings and experiences with love came to a clear understanding, after seeing this video.
Thanks alot
Many of us fall in love with a fairytale and with that fairy tale we think of unconditional love. But who would want to be with someone or even be someone that has no expectations? from yourself? from others? Where's the growth in that? Where's your life journey becoming a "better" version of yourself? Thanks for another great video
unconditional love does not mean no expectations. unconditional love means supporting each other through the hard times (in sickness). people who refuse to support you when you are suffering dont really love you. if you love someone, you don't abandon them when they get sick. real love is unconditional, not purely based on lust.
Very interesting video, and a lot of good points!
Discussing love is always complicated because 'love' is vague and exists in many forms. The Ancient Greeks held several terms for love. The most known ones are: eros, for romantic love, philia, for friendly or familial love, and agape, for unconditional and universal love. Teal Swan seems to be describing romantic love when she talks of identifying the other as part of oneself, in some sense. Agape loves the other (more precisely, all others) unconditionally without identifying the other as self. It is an acceptance and recognition of the other as their own independent self, and then an active concern for the well-being of that other, for their own sake.
Well done Teal. You have matured so much. I could never relate to some of your earlier airy fairy teachings. I found them to be very harmful in a physical reality. I love how you have become grounded and realistic. Many young people, many lost souls follow your guidance and as such, I believe your new found wisdom can go far to assist people in decision making. Wonderful progression. 💜
Hope to one day be as effective on my communication skills as you. This was a concept in my brain, just didnt know how to put it into words. Thank you, Teal!.
I love your humor haha...so moral of the story is find someone as compatible as you and those conditions won't seem as bad cause they're most aligned with who I really am... makes sense. I hate when ppl being up unconditional love... cause it's a very falsified thing to do... puppies & babies might be the only "things" that are loved unconditional
What a red pill. I needed that.
I really liked this video. Teal is now like an old friend.
Every single time I watch your videos it always ends up brightening my day. (Thank You)