6 Signs You Were Never in Love
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- Опубликовано: 12 фев 2019
- Do you wonder if you're still in love with him or her? Unfortunately, love is something that fades. And sometimes, it might be helpful to recognize the signs early than late. If you are no longer in love with someone, you have to let them know.
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Betchen, S. (2018, March 2). 6 Signs of Falling Out of Love with a Partner. Psychology Today. Retrieved November 20, 2018.
Chatel, A. (2018, April 27). The Difference Between Infatuation And Love, According A Relationship Expert. Bustle. Retrieved November 20, 2018.
Wolff, C. (2018, November). 6 Physical Signs You’re Not In Love Anymore. Bustle. Retrieved November 20, 2018.
Young, K. (2018). Vulnerability: The Key to Close Relationships. Hey Sigmund. Retrieved November 20, 2018.
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Most of relationships these days are not born out of love but out of the fear of being alone..
That's true! There's some truth to that! :)
@@Psych2go Ohhh yeah, definitely
Amen!
Very true love doesn't exist that's just in the movies.
Being alone is my middle name. xD
terrible advice, i tried being honest with her and she ran away when i showed her the bodies in the basement smh
Lol. 🖤
OMG😂🤣🤷🏻♂️
You just gotta find the Bonnie to your Clide
Hahaha
JS the Canuck My ex told me I had too many people chained to the wall. She dumped me on the spot! Like wtf?
We were never in love. I was in love with the image of her that I created.
That’s so true ❤️ I did the same thing with my now husband and after we married some guy from where is use to live said they were intimate together… I’m now struggling with it 😞
i say this all the time omg
That’s refreshing to hear. Thankyou for being able to admit that. It takes a strong person to confess something like that especially with such Clarity . My husband (soon to be not but not just for this once reason there has been MANY things happen) finally confessed that I was just suppose to be a quick lay . Nothing more . But instead he made me his wife and mother of his child and I have lived our whole relationship believing a lie ... that he actually loved me .I thought this whole time that he chose me to be his wife not just some random whore to bed and I slept with him because I actually felt love for him but then I got pregnant and we both come from families where you take care of the children you bring into the world so naturally we wedded . but when I didn’t meet his expectations after about the 4 year mark set in for him he realized this whole marriage thing wasn’t for him because a real marriage can be hard at times and we were reaching that point of real marital maturity and he slowly sluffed me off with his unloving demeanor. He would do things that upset me then just roll his eyes when I confronted him and wondered why we had so many problems and was baffled by the fact I was in tears most days because I could just tell he at least didn’t love me anymore if he ever did really though who laughs at their wife’s tears?... he stopped caring once he found out I was just a human being.
unfortunate im too alaways
Sad thing is... I miss that image.
sometimes it's quite hard to convince ourselves that *we were inlove* when we still don't know how to *love ourselves*
I fukin felt this
😭😭
this-
That's what he said I didn't love myself. But he won't let me learn to love myself.
Yesssss
when you watching this to convince yourself that you were not in love, but just realize that you were
Nairobi big mood
I felt this way too hard.
Nairobi I love your name
@@CandiceArceo la casa de papel team 🤣✌
I was the opposite xd
It feels like a stab in the heart when you realize the person you loved and put so much effort into never loved you back.
I feel you
That realization is Devastating...
I've been in a situation where someone loved me so much for a about 6 years and we were friends and I hadn't the same feeling about her but she insisted sm that she loves me that I would found myself guilty like all the time. Finally I decided to see other side of her, trying to find her charm so that I could properly love her in order to give her a chance then I accepted her as my girl after 6 years of pushing and pulling and I tried to be the best I could for her and I had all the 6 signs mentioned throughout our relationship tho I thought I gradually fell in love with her but that was not the case. So after 7 months all my anxiety and depression got worse to the point that I felt sophocated so I tried to explain to her somehow this doesn't work for me and we better call it off before it's too late and I apologized many times tho she kept making me feel guilty for ruining the relationship that only she was enjoying I said all of this to say try to look from the other side it's not always what it seems I still love her as a friend but can't imagine getting back to her or anyone else for years cause I'm so broken and scared of getting intimate with someone again.
Or even tricked you into thinking they did, just so they can use you.
Shit hurts but oh well
This can be tricky to assess since all relationships:
1. Start with some degree of infatuation.
2. Will inevitably involve disappointment from expectations of your partner since you're different people.
3. Involve uncomfortableness around them since everyone has insecurities and fears real (or perceived) ridicule.
4. Include a preference for doing more than hanging out with one's partner as its possible to have other interests/responsibilities - or - to not prefer someone's company when in a mood.
5. Involve avoiding difficult conversations about some topics simply b/c you both will inevitably process and handle various situations differently.
6. Will inevitably hit rough patches that can involve anxiety and/or other difficult emotions.
There are no omens or signs that indicate whether you are in love or should be with a certain person.
Some people who would have had wonderful lives together break up over trivial matters (or never even meet!). Others who find a way to spend their entire lives together would have been happier elsewhere but what's the difference if they feel they're happy and will never know about the better alternatives?
After 17 (or 18?) years of marriage, I try my best to figure out what matters most to me (and us) and keep trying to embrace (or at least accept) the inevitable ebs and flows. My point is, I try not to live as though I am 'meant' to do something based on these ebs and flows.
Seek love, be uncompromising, try to work it out, is it an illusion, obsessive about it, be honest about it, vulnerable to rejection, mind games are concerning, anxiety about the truth🚩🆘💥✅⛔
That’s beautiful dawg this shit honestly made me wanna cry. I forget I’m the one in control
This comment is underrated fr
@@Jackgritty28 can you explain this?
@@TimeForAli Explain what
*1. You moved things fast with your partner - **0:25*
Talking about your future, and lusting over your partner and signs of infatuation if it’s early in the relationship, and if you’ve only known them for a set amount of time.
*2. You expect them to be flawless - **0:54*
When you constantly expect things from your partner, you’re not giving them space to be them honest selves with you.
*3. You’re not comfortable enough around them - **1:27*
Those who are really in love with their partner are more likely to be vulnerable, while those who are not comfortable with their partner yet may still have their walls up.
*4. You become more distant - **2:00*
Wanting time to yourself is normal, but if you find yourself wanting to spend more and more time away from them, something is up.
*5. Your mind is elsewhere - **2:23*
When you avoid important conversations or anything along those lines
*6. You’ve developed anxiety **2:48*
You may be anxious over breaking up with your partner, but forcing love when there is none will only lead to more heartbreak
Thank you for your thoughtful, organized summary!
@@Wittyx ofc!!
People like you are the peak of society
Lust turns into Love, and women lose interest if you dont bring up sex soon enough, too early and it's creepy
1. You moved things fast with your partner
2. You expect them to be flawless
3. You’re not comfortable around them
4. You become more distant
5. Your mind is elsewhere
6. You’ve developed anxiety
ZitaBrigitta me relationship right now, but he won’t let me break up with him.
RNF YaYa You told him you didn’t love him and he did not let you break up with him? :(
@@aeriellllll What do you do in this situation? I'm dealing with this as well...
@@aeriellllll won't let you? It's no one's choice but yours.
Sarah Neels I actually didn’t do anything. Me nor any of his family members have seen or spoke to him in two weeks. I feel like this is my way out so I’m moving to Georgia this Friday but at the same time I’m worried about him. Even tho this has happened before and it turned out he was in jail for a gun and drug charge.
A wise man once told me: I had a lot of difficult relationships when I was your age. It´s hard to make relationships work with others when you don´t have a good relationship with yourself.
Also being said that people who keep looking for relationships don't love themselves much!
Truer words never spoken
Hard to have a good relationship with yourself when you constantly experience rejection though. Yeah, you have to love yourself. I get it. But it's a lot easier to love yourself when someone loves you first and gives you the confidence to love yourself. No matter what anyone says, we all seek approval and when we don't get it, we can't give it to ourselves. We can pretend to, but it's just an act.
@@amazinmets8439 You're right but rejection isn't meant to be taken personally. If the significant other thinks that you two wouldn't match it's okay. The significant other is also on the search for happiness, just like you. All you guys are by far not the first people mourning over rejection. Every Generation goes through the same stuff. Its a constant flow of time, sadness coming and going, love ends, love begins. And when you finally get what you always wanted you will be happy about what you went through. Because without this process, you wouldn't be the person what you would be today. And that's what it's all about.
@@kazze7743 The person I am today is a cold, hardened man. Yes, the other person who rejected you is also looking for something. But the difference is what they want is often based on unrealistic expectations, material shit and fantasies. So it's hard to feel sorry for them. I feel as if what I want is not like that at all. I don't ask for the world, but they do. To me, that's the sad part. And it's not about "settling" either. I feel I actually have more to offer than the average person as I am above average in looks, have a good job and a good heart. Anyone who could end up with me should feel lucky in my mind. But apparently, it's not enough. I try to see the good in everyone, while they only see the bad. I'm in my 40's now and haven't asked a woman out in years. Essentially I have given up, and am just waiting to die at this point.
Many people have disorders, traumas etc...it's hard to find real love. Work on yourself and when you feel ready, you'll attract that same energy. Don't settle❤
I’m 18 and in relationship of almost two years, which had many breaks. This is my first relationship and I always struggled with being in love, because I had so many doubts of what it should feel like and felt guilty for not feeling it. I always openly talked about this with my partner, and he always said that it was okay and that I would feel love if I stopped being anxious about it. I love him and I care about him, I want his best. When things get better for my mental health I feel that I’m happy to be with him and doing things together, but watching videos like "signs you’ve found your soulmate" makes me doubt about our relationship. I really don’t know what to do because I want things to work with him but these doubts continue to follow me.
If you need someone to listen, I feel for you, and will.
I am in the similar situation as yours, first relationship and always struggled with the concept of love and how it feels and always felt guilty of not feeling it ( even for my parents) idk what to do and how to get past this
i was like this. i was always getting anxious because of it. Everything was in my mind, i was constantly thinking like "do I feel things? If I am, is it love? What if it's not love and I am just kidding myself.." All the time, I just cried and felt a lot anxiety. So my point is I really get you. It's important for me the say this because when I was feeling those, people around me was just saying that I was overreacting and also saying that im kinda weird and a lots of judgy things.. Well you have a boyfriend who listens you and patient with you. And you care about him. These are the most important things. Everything is going to be fine
(I'm sorry if there's a lot grammar mistakes I'm from another country:)
@@sh.ge.del.8710Same. I never Had the feeling i really love my parents and I feel Bad for It. I Always has the Hope that with a romantic partner Things would be different but its Not. Do you know why you feel (or dont feel) the way you do?
You are young and this is not end for you.. there are always people around you and definitely you will meet the one who actually accepts you for you and you will never need to ask this question.. rest ease if the person breaks with you often is not the one for you do remember that
I dont need my crush saying "i like you"
I need my parent to say "were proud of you son"
That’s Sad Bro 😭
pain
My heart! 💔 😭
Bloody hell... that’s dark, my guy.
Why do I relate so much :(
Me watching this without ever having a boyfriend 👁👄👁
Same 😂😂😂😂
👁👄👁
Facts
Same
Same.
This just confirmed that my ex never loved me lol
I'm so sorry :(
im so sorry to hear this happened to you
i'm so sorry :(( you deserve sm betterz
Then, you're lucky that it's an 'ex'. ;)
bruh same it’s tufff she showed all that😪
I told my GF “I love you” after 3 days of talking when I was 16. And 8 years later we are still together. Despite all this we work very well together now but now I struggle that our relationship was never meant to be. It’s hard for me to discern wether or not I’m in love or we just best friends. I grew up in a loveless home with bad family relationships. We’ve taken some breaks over the time but I could never quite let her go. I have always been one to over think and second guess myself. Am I doing that now?
It is Love and it has lasted! Its just attraction wanes and ebbs and flows. You were very young, but also very lucky, your simply wondering and taking her for granted.
Just imagine if she got dolled up and went of with a new man how you would feel! 😱
Yeah you are now doing it. Even I have bad relationship with my family especially with dad..which in past literally made prejudice about men that..the men who are outspoken, loud and extrovert are like my papa..but this broked when I got male friends in college who were some introvert as well as extrovert but outspoken and loud...ssly they are the best males ever..and my ex who was introvert and secretive...who gaved me false hope and rushed things to quickly. Even it was my fault at past for giving over attention to him and being over attached just bc of the fear of I had of getting hurt and lonliness. And also expecting him not to turn out like my papa. When were in relationship even though that was LDR but never made me feel save..he was on and off...when I asked him about aren't we too fast to fell into relationship and explained my problems...instead he told me I ssly never treated you like my gf..you were just tp for me and ssly you are too innocent for me...I was ssly naive back then for accepting that he used to sextalk with many girls...and accepted him bc we were very good friends...but thank to him I ssly learn some important lessons about what to look b4 falling into any relationship...so my advice to you is stop over thinking you ssly got a diamond...make sure not to loose her just bc of your over thinking problem.
@@thearodriguez5251*you're simply. You + are = "you're".
That sounds like a great question for a professional. Theres more to unpack there than is possible online
It's just different stages of a relationship. From passionate to family. You're just comfortable, you're not falling out of love.
6 Signs You Were Never in Love
Sign number 1: You never had a relationship. Like me. RIP.
Badass Danny No it can be wrong. You may have been in love with someone, but wasn’t just brave enough to say it to her or him, for example.
Not being in relationship is super cool as long as you love yourself
That is so me, never was loved and never loved anyone, better alone, more money and more time for your hobbies and plenty freetime.
Worth it.
@Cat Lady Lover
My condolations...
@Erika Aleksandra Sometimes? You mean always.
When you're in love with someone who doesn't love you.
Better off being single
I was on love with someone who didn't love me.. started feeling distant and left... 6 months later still in love with him and now miserable alone. He still doesn't love me and is also still alone but he seems to like it that way. Better off alone my ass. At least ONE of us was happy in the relationship..now we're both unhappy. Oh well. Maybe one day I'll be happy being alone
Single Pringle squad
@@tobismashed I'm sorry to hear that. I know I'm a terrible person, I'm trying to change that. I hope you find someone better.
...No shit sherlock !
Facts my true love is Turkey
Coming out of a relationship where i was constantly told by my anxious partner that i didn’t love them enough i am starting to believe that love is all BS perpetuated by videos like this. Everyone love’s different and i think that “true love” is unattainable. I don’t think im capable of loving someone enough to sustain a relationship right now. But my understanding is that love is a choice. If you like some enough to be your best friend and care about them and dont see a reason to stop spending time with them than you put in the work to stay with that person and be happy. Its not a magic feeling you have everyday
Now I realize, I was never in love with my first boyfriend. I don't know if feeling guilty is one of the symptoms, but I've been feeling like that since we broke up. I actually feel a little relieved
How did you guys broke up. what was the reason for breaking up ? I'm dating a guy whom I don't really love. I don't want to keep on hurting him so I decided to break up with him. But idk how to or what to say to him
It's normal, that happen to me too
@@Devananda26 you should break up. Although you think you hurt the person it gets worse over time. I broke his heart 3 times because I didn't want to hurt him. It was way worse this way. Trust your instinct and break up to save yourself too. I know it's really hard but you can do it.
1) you moved things fast with your partner
2) you expect them to be flawless
3) you’re not comfortable enough around them
4) you become more distant
5) your mind is elsewhere
6) you’ve developed anxiety
Thank you
@The Seraphim talk with her about your feelings, tell her exactly what you feel - love? confusion?, communication is the key to every good relationship, don’t be afraid to talk with her! good luck
@@nschief I have been avoiding my GF since year i told her find somone n leave me because i relise i dnt love her and she love me like hell she always call,mad at me ,txt me every seconds but i have try my best to love her and its doesn't work..Now she is with some one i feel jealousy or what it call?love? Because i can sleep properly since i saw her with somone and she is happy...please reply i need help😥😥😥
@@S.nongrang3894 don’t force yourself to love someone, what you’re feeling is most likely jealousy because she’s got someone else, don’t worry that’s not a bad thing! let your emotions come through, think about everything and let go, one day you’ll 100% find someone you’ll truly love! one bad breakup doesn’t mean a bad love life, your soulmate is yet to be found
@@nschief so that's it the fact im forcing my self to love her that's seem so true...Thank you its really help me alot i feel something better with what u said god bless you friend's.💓💓💓💓
she broke up with me and it was actually the best thing that could have happened
@@pugwhisperer6502 sorry for what happened. i wouldve cried lul. if i ever found out i was cheated on....
He has all these signs, but i still love him. Goddamn it, i hope i am as happy as you
Same thoughts. He broke up with me and came to realize i didnt love him at all. I only stayed cos i was used to it. Now he wants me back, but im loving my single life now.
😂😂😂😂😂 idk why this is so funny to me😂😂😂😂😂
it always is
2:24 The animation of the heart running after the brain was SO FREAKING CUTE OMG XD
As my favorite perma fusion garnet once said: "Love at first sight doesn't exist. Love takes time. And love takes work. And at the very least you have to know the other person."
No truer words spoken
I don't love school anymore
Who am I kidding,I never liked school
It scares me that you loved it at one point
Ginger RedGal I’m sure we all don’t
@Claritys yes. The one and only Danyiff Howl
@@toomiesyndrome4838 when I was younger I did lmao
"You're not comfortable enough around them"
I didn't know how to properly use a menstrual cup, so it got stuck inside of me and my boyfriend had to reach in fish it out. That comfortable enough?
Dfuq 🤣 too much Cruella
I ASPIRE to get a bf who would do that for me but all these hs boys scared of me breathing the wrong way so I stay single 💅
Cruella De Vil that’s goals af
Sounds like something my boyfriend would do for me
He's a keeper 😊
Came to decide whether to break up a relationship of 5 years due to some spats and physical distance but turns out it was love after all . Glad that can't relate to any of the points .
Love isnt found.....its created 💯💯💯💯
By God, who is love ❤
haven't had a relationship since kindergarten
Didn’t even have a relationship in kindergarten 🙃
Well theres me, been in a relationship SINCE Kindergarten, broke up yesterday at valentines
@@ziutix3941 lol,how old are you?
Wowww that must suck, sorry. @Leaś !
me too. So sad.
6 Signs You Were Never In Love
1. You move things fast with your partner
2. You expect them to be flawless
3. You're not comfortable enough around them
4. You become more distant
5. Your mind is elsewhere
6. You've developed anxiety
Thank you!
@@nonyabidness5708 Anything else? :)
Omg.... a guy did all 6things with me O.O....
That's just quotation of the video...
You’re an angel
I knew my ex boyfriend never really loved me. I think he has already experienced this before he met me, based on his story. And I think he's doing this again with his new girlfriend. He moved on really fast and jumped to a new relationship as if he didn't give time to process our break up. I think he's just infatuated with his new girl, and will eventually do the same. I want him to be happy, though. Good luck to him.
"Painted a picture, I thought I drew you well" it's always a question of what did you expect from the person and if you put your heart in this relationship of an image of what you wanted. Most of the time there is a difference between what you want and what you want but only with one person because you know it's the right person for you. I truly think that everyone knows from the bottom of their heart when the person is right for them. But sometimes it's a question of time too... you never really know who you have in front of you, you have to learn their goods and their flaws and see if you really accept them in the relationship. If you want to make it works, you have to do sacrifices about your ego and you have to put efforts in the relationship.. but it has to be smooth at the same time.
Love is a battle omg
I ask myself how come he is trying to get my attention during the most difficult time of my life. Is he for real? I had my doubts.
7. You've never been in a relationship.
That doesn't mean that you never loved.
How dare you call me out like this
No this is facts
Well i was never in a relationship but my grandma loves me just the way i am 😤
Lord Odysseus i destroyed the 666 likes
I don’t fear being alone. I only fear that I won’t have the option of receiving just as much love as I could give, whether romantic, platonic, intimate, and mutually.
Lemerapis I couldn’t have said it better.
You took the words out of my mouth...
@J. D.....you seem rather bitter.....don't take our opinions personally....they are simply OUR own opinions....as are yours. I suppose that one can argue that yes, love is unconditional. Like when a dog loves its owner without question even if the owner were to be abusive...but some of us would like that unconditional love to be reciprocated....that is all. Carry on my friend.
star ships awh sorry to hear about that. my situation was different. I felt like I was giving too much love to my partner and not receiving any of it back. kinda like one of those relationships where one person is doing everything because they fear that they would lose the person they love so much.
Yes the fear of love being 'out of balance'
The hardest thing I've ever done was to move on from him because he was no more the man I fell in love with . He was changed Completely .
Don't forget! Love is there when you don't really want it, and NOT there when you need it the most! 💋
7: You recoil at the thought of sacrificing for them, while at the same time being unable to call out their faults.
Great analogy! Does anyone relate?
@@Psych2go Yes I do, but with my "BFF". I don't feel as close to her anymore as I once used too. could you make a video about that, please? :D
...I feel personally attacked 😂
Yeah I can relate. My friend, her whole perception on love and relationship is flawed. I try explaining her and she doesn't seem to care. She doesn't even want to move on from people she got cheated, played. I'm like okay, do whatever you wish. I'm not your emotional garbage holder. Ik it sounds cruel but atleast I try helping and she's just, she just doesn't seem to care much.
I tried calling out for his mistakes. Sadly all he sees are my mistakes and how I should change them. No matter how much effort I put in attempting to change for him, one fight and every effort that I've tried will be gone for him.
A Perfect way to start Valentines day--
Yes it is.
_Osira_ oh yea ;)
Psych2Go thank you I needed this!!
True😂
Oof my relationship ended i rather treat myself
This described me to a T. I was just in something with someone and thought it was love. But every example that was described were the emotions we were exhibiting. Thank you psych 2 go, I feel more informed about my emotions. Keep up the good work. 👍
I realise that I love my partner after this, even though some of the things happened to me too. Anxiety has been there, and things did move a little faster than usual, but nothing uncomfortable yet.
The love is still coming up in the small things that we notice in each other, and there is a certain sense of love with the things that are annoying about her. She isn't perfect, not by any far means, but she is the only person like her and I love her.
Mostly also because, i have learned to love myself by loving her too. Not easy, but also not too tough too.
And I say this with a lot of mental illnesses including overthinking, catastrophizing, relationship OCD, and in general anxiety. Somehow, the love survives even that. She's here, in reality, with me.
I hate it when my spouse transforms from a butterfly into the batman symbol and back again!! So frustrating
Nihilistic Onion am I retarded cause I just noticed that.
Halomaster 213 mi
I love it when she does that 😌😈
What is that mean?
OMG you're funny
Wow right before Valentine’s day. 😂 Are you guys trying to make couples break up 💀
We sure are LOL. We are evil masterminds ;) More available singles in the pool! :)
Isnt Valentine's day today, the 14th?
Chill Ma I live in a different part of the world than you so today is the 13th for me 😂
@@preciousx344 oh I see
Its 14th feb 01:48 here - lovely Internet..
Precious X3 - so you can save the chocolates box...
Love needs to grow
Dont jump in a relationship too quickly
I made that mistake
A lot of unnecesary heartbreak
This is so true... I was in a relationship where I didn’t really like my partner, but I felt so pressured when she confessed that I agreed to date her. I regretted immediately but I couldn’t tell her because I felt guilty for playing with her feelings so I thought I should wait at least a month before breaking up and give it a try while we were at it. I tried my best to be a good girlfriend and make our relationship at least a nice memory but It felt SO bad all the time... I had all the “symptoms” in the video, my anxiety wouldn’t let me sleep or eat, I was constantly stressed for having to talk with her and I’d spend my days counting the seconds to the “break up day”. In the end when we broke up she still hated me so it was all for nothing hsjsjwjsjjsm but at least I learned my lesson, BEING A JERK RIGHT AWAY IS BETTER THEN BEING A JERK AFTER MONTHS OF SELF TORTURE
Bro I'm at your situation right now help😭
I already broke up with her, honestly i feel relieved and free. I didnt feel sadness nor pain, I guess I felt nothing too strong for her.
@@rickymartin8390 dude me too
@@eboy8526 I feel you bruh😭
@@rickymartin8390 dude can I get ur insta I just want to talk with someone who's having same situation as me
Sometimes love is more than a warm fuzzy feeling that’s happy. Sometimes love is a choice - a choice to forgive, a choice to sacrifice what you demand, a choice to bear through hard times, a choice not to abandon and throw your relationship away, a choice to communicate kindly what you need, a choice to respect, and a choice to be the partner you would want for yourself. Sometimes love involves selflessness.
Not sometimes- love is always a choice. You choose to be loyal, honest, and unconditionally love someone when you love them. For some reason there is a misconception that relationships should be easy and if they arent then you dont belong together. Real love is sacrifice and it never ends.
Good stuff. Both of you!
I am currently fighting one hell of a battle for someone right now.
True love always involves selflesness. Bang on with this comment.
Yes it is right. To get a really good relationship you must work for it,the more you work (time together and for each other, kindness, communication,ect) the better your relationship will be.
"Thousands have lived without love, not one without water." -W. H. Auden
I'm not advocating that people should not seek love, but bear in mind that you can love many things in life other than another person. Your pets. A beautiful day with blue skies, lush green trees and a sultry breeze. A task or a feat well performed. YOURSELF!
That said, love to all!!
YES!!! Totally!
That's beautiful.
Lmao, now I’ll try to fell in love with the tree in my backyard
Yes and more yes! I love a partly cloudy ⛅day with a good breeze blowing. The sun peeking from behind the clouds makes me 😄😃😁 happy
And God
I already knew that I never fell in love, but this reminds me how much I wasn't in love at all with my ex partners. But that was a great experience actually because I learned that I'm the type of person that doesn't care about physical attraction but more about the mind in itself. Only sharing love and stuff and not putting my own expectations on the person I'm dating. I don't care if I'm single or not, it's been 1 year actually and I don't really care at all, because I know that I'll know when I'll be truly in love with someone :)
So, if I could give you an advice guys : take your time, take care of yourself, learn how to be more confident and how to really love yourself to know better what you really want in life and also with your future partner. Life will put someone for you I think but it will be in a moment where you wasn't expecting this at all.
When my ex broke up with me all I could think was, I’m supposed to be sad now? But as soon as he did i felt an immense happiness and I didn’t quite understand. Then I realized I never came close to loving him. Or liking him. I just had a soft spot for him and dated him out of pity. And I’ve never been one to look at other people while in a relationship but with him I couldn’t help myself, I never told anybody we were dating and I was still walking around like a single person looking for someone.
I didn't get love. I loved tho. Feeling betrayed and used is the worst
@Damien The GT and your comment means what?
@Damien The GT not every
@Damien The GT Ok, so? Not every single soul is like that. A man or a woman can choose who they marry and or mate with. This isn't an excuse. There are way too many outlets these days, that enables one to find their perfect match, many times over, to be honest with you.
If someone loves you they will work for you. Never put in more than they are giving. Healthy relationships are give and take.
Damien The GT lmao
A lot of people force themselves to believe they're in love because of societal pressure. The idea of being single frightens them and I've seen ppl manifest a few of those traits because they like the idea of being with someone as a part of a couple and it has absolutely nada to do with love.
Sad state of affairs. Introspection is much-needed nowadays.
It doesn't only happen in romantic relationships. Society also teaches us we have to love our family, and that's probably why it takes so long for people in an abusive home to realize the problems of their family.
Blah blah "society." Nah fam. People are scared. Of life. Of death. They dont want to die alone. They want their life to mean something. Many people see having children and a family as the meaning of their life. It's got little to do with "society," whatever that means. It's the most natural thing for every mammal on Earth to think their life is about reproducing. They feel fulfilled when they've raised their children. And raising human children is much easier with a loving partner. Human children take almost two decades to become independant. This is the origin of the monogamous, "loving" partnership. We've been doing it for thousands of years. Long before "society" got involved. The entertainment industry, greeting card industry, flower industry, etc plays upon this existing, fundamental feeling for the money, Lebowski.
@@xXscreamingkoalaXx "Blah blah"?? Do you realize societies were around since the beginning of time? I don't think you grasp what a society is--it's people, groups of individuals with a set standard of morals, goals, etc that live in various areas of the world. Today, society also includes the media--magazines, television, movies, the internet. Magazines geared toward women are typically 80% focused on romantic relationships. On TV, we have reality shows like The Bachelor and The Bachelorette, as well as various others that imply the only way to find happiness is through romantic relationships. Social media is the perfect place to look if what you're trying to find is false idealism placed on romantic relationships.
I didn't claim societal pressure is the only pressure placed on people to force themselves into romantic relationships where they pretend they're in love. Although I realize that you were just being a nasty jerk towards me with your comment, I partially agree with some of what you said. Some ppl have pressure placed on them by their family to be with somebody, anybody, and ppl end up only pretending they're in love. We don't just pressure ourselves into faulty/fake romantic relationships, it DOES come from society and familial pressure and many single ppl feel like losers (unfortunately) when they aren't coupled up. Idk what pissed you off so much about my original comment, but maybe you should read it again and better understand it, or go start an online argument with someone else for whatever reason.
To the other (normal, non-angry) ppl who replied, i just hit the "like" button on their replies because they made good points and i had nothing to add. I don't like particularly like responding to overtly negative ppl, but this felt like a must
@Ocean Blue I actually relate to your comment in a way, only I'm bi, but prefer relationships with men. The people outside of our lives have too much infleunce on some of our most profound choices, esp when it comes to our careers and relationships--the things that tend to matter most and should be our decisions alone. I hate it that I'm rarely able to have a pure platonic relationship with most men b/c so many of them have been taught that they can't be friends with a woman and we have to be sexual conquests or non existent. I know a guy who is going through something very similar to what you did concerning his sexuality and those are definitely the things that should be up to you alone instead of anyone else, but it's hard to ignore those outside opinions.
“You’ve have developed anxiety”
I’ve always had anxiety issues/episodes. They get worse here and there 😮💨
This was very eye opening and educational as well; Reflective to
Guys dont listen to these videos every relationship is extremely unique. There is no set formula for anything intimate. Just focus on u and ur partners growth and everything will come into play
Then u need to adress it, communication is key. Theres a reason its repeated so often. Half the time its just ur brain overcomplicating things
@@wierdohehe7932 your advices really helped me, thank you 🙏
*I feel like though not every relationship works out they make these videos for people that need to understand when something needs to stop. They mean well, but not every relationship works out.*
@@KodaBea0g true some personalities just will never mix but if u just put in effort on both sides itll work
Thanks for saying this. It saved my senses 🖤
Insecurity is the number one relationship sinker , you have to be confident and have faith ! You have to love yourself first !
Sorry, I have to disagree. I love my partner first and she returns my love with love of her own. My understanding of that is give and take respectfully. I mean, shouldn't that be the way it is? Be confident and trust your partner when they say they love you. Dont love yourself and expect them to feel the same way.
faith is not a good method of cognition
Also you can still have issues with self love and be in a relationship. Self love is a process that you go through every day and as long as you don't let your insecurities about yourself negatively affect your relationship all the time then that's okay
The second greatest command: love others as (you would) yourself
OPINION: I don't agree with the concept of loving yourself before loving others. Honestly, I find it kinda toxic. You can love others, and be kind to others, and be generous and be dependent on others even when you're not at your best. I think that by having that sort of dependence on personal connections, you find ways to be confident in yourself and develop self-love and respect.
As someone whos been at the other end of having a long relationship, going through the end of that relationship, and having an honest conversation with your ex partner where they say they were never in love with you all I can say is that it hurts and makes you feel stupid enough to ever be vulnerable enough to be in love with someone and then express it. its a very difficult thing to do and one of the worst things to have unreciprocated, even worse when your partner tells you that they did love you only to find out later that they didn't mean it or meant that they love you as a person but were never in love with you
😍😍😍😍😍😍😍 thanks !!!! That looks amazing . ❤❤❤
She broke up with me and said we could be cousins
In alabama ;)
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Lmao
Can't realize you were never in love
When you never had a relationship
#VirginGang 😎.
Lol! Some people have been in love with fictional characters pshh
@@Psych2go So true! Hahaha it can be a fun fantasy. Real life love is beautiful, but fictional character love can be funny and sweet while it lasts.
I bet 99% of these people never had a relationship
@Neptune High Class of 2007 how so
I’m a Virgin
the filter they had on was so cute!! i love your videos and i hope you keep doing more!!
This definitely tracks with the relationships where I was in love, and where I wasn't.
1:19 Are you trying to tell me that being Batman is a flaw? Nice try.
True
Lol
Tell that to Goose Wayne Batman
i literally was thinking about batman when i saw that
Yeah tell me that
If you're looking at this video you proably have doubts.
You're about as right as the above you.
I’m single so. 😂
I mean I watch most they videos I just think it’s interesting 🤷♀️ i got 0 doubts
That’s why Curtistine said “probably” have doubts. Doesn’t apply to everyone.
I'm single at the moment but you're right. I watched this because I wanted to see how many of these things were present in my last relationship. Turns out she didn't love me.
STRAIGHT UP IM NOT GAY!
But i have just recently found out what love really means and came to the conclusion i had a quite strong love relationship with my best friend even tough I am attracted from women and got a girlfriend.
When time came and our ways kinda went in a different direction i really felt that from my stomach and just generally it felt like something was missing. On that day i learned love is something you dont just feel for your girlfriend but you can feel with anyone. Everything in life is taking and giving but the good ones gave a little more than they took ;)
These videos are helpful however I’ve learned the power of suggestion is stronger than I thought.
_You only know you're in love when it's all over._
God is omnipotent, infinite, omnipresent and omniscient. Good vs. Evil is controlled opposition. Freewill is an illusion. Reality is a simulation.
Continuous sinking feeling always
This lines up with the conclusion I've come to recently.
When you really love someone, it's a lot like being their best friend. The only major difference is that you share the more intimate parts of your life, which often includes sex.
Exactly. Only good relationships would still thrive as a friendship. Hence why it's easier to go from being friends to lovers than it is lovers to friends. No common ground/friendship = no (good) relationship.
@@xXSiKaRiXx Yes, I will restate. “Only good relationships would still thrive as a friendship.” Good for you! That's great. I wish you luck in this world.
but doesn't have to
@@ashleynicoledickerson8844 agreed
My best friend met a girl and after 4 hours they slept with each other and forward 3 years and now they are married
during all my relationships, I felt that. And I finally understood after months of wondering what was the problem with me, that I am aromantic.
I think I may be aromantic... it would be devastating for me, because I've always wanted to be in love. :( I'm going to a psy to know what's going on with me.
@@grenade8572 I understand this feeling.. I really wanted to know what it's like to be in love, but I just can't.. i hope you'll be okay, and if you're aromantic, then don't worry, it's not your fault and you're not alone
Wanting everything perfect is one of the biggest mistakes in which we make. We seem too good to accept things as they are!
facts
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Hello
I really liked your quote
Thanks for checking out this video Susan! You're an amazing life coach for relationships! :)
@@samii5245 Hello
Keep Calm and Nerd On Good bye.
Really? A day before Valentines day? :'/
Oh I forgot tomorrow is Valentines day😂💀💀
Ugh. Dont rmeind me
Valentine's Day is a racket don't get sucked in!
Valentines Day is today in my time zone.
Really? A day before a ridiculous"holiday" whose origin has nothing to do with love besides the fake history people built around a random holiday created based on a pagan fertility day? Lol valentines day is garbageeeeee.
I used to be married to someone for years with children and we both felt all of these signs were present til I decided to get a divorce he of course didn't agreed and fought me.
After being single for six years I met someone i loved him instantly my soul start to sing my spirit dancing I truly could see him the bad, the good still feel exactly the same way about him. It truly changed my believe of the BS. True soul connection is what we need to look for until then stay single.
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6 sings you've NEVER been in love
1. You moved things fast with your partner. "Infactuation lives in illusion, Love can surpass reality "
2. You expect them to be flawless. "Infatuation need perfection in order to survive".
3. Your not confortable arround them.
4. You become more distant.
5. Youre mind is elsewhere. And your hear will follow. "Partners who are in love tend to maintain a focus on thier counterparts"
6. Your develop anxiety. Forcing love when its absent cause body disfunctions.
Send this user upppp
Thanks
Thank you Bravo! 👍 👏 😀
True!
That's what caused problems in my first relationship.
"Infatuation lives in illusion, Love can survive in reality"
There you have it...
Toby Santangelo, beauty is the illusion ... lust for that illusion is the reality.
Makeup is camouflage creating an illusion of beauty ... this creates the lust ... reality kicks in when the facade of illusion is brought to light,
Life is about pain nothing is good about it
@@dane5079 Eh...
News flash:Nobody nowadays live in reality
@@HypocriteHunter666 Reality bites the big banoozle! No need to live in it. Ignore it until.....inevitably...it's cold bony hands drag you into the abyss.💀....cheers!
"Love hurts, love scars
Love wounds and marks any heart
Not tough or strong enough
To take a lot of pain
Love is like a cloud
Holds a lot of rain
Love hurts..,
Some fools think of happiness
Blissfulness, togetherness
Some fools fool themselves, I guess
They're not foolin' me
I know it isn't true
Love is just a lie
Made to make you blue"
~Nazareth..
Edited to cut out all the unimportant crap and get right to the point.
Agreed
It is the Lack of Love that does those things. Not Love itself.
I respect the people who actually have the guts to just leave, I have never seemed to be able to do so.
“You become distant”
ExCuSe Me
*CoViD 19 aHeM aHeM*
(This comment is from a year ago, please don’t reply to me saying snarky remarks)
Lol.. after a couple of months stuck together at home 24/7.. could we get a little distance.. please!!
Ikr! I haven't been able to do anything with my gf because of it, all i've been doing is playing minecraft and talking to her.
Tell me about it😂
It’s a different story when you live 6000 miles apart tho :/
Stop coughing!
0:26 You moved things fast with your partner.
0:54 You expect them to be flawless.
1:27 You're not comfortable enough around them.
2:00 You become more distant.
2:24 Your mind is elsewhere.
2:49 You have developed anxiety.
Excellent video !!!
True love is a choice, a decision, a promise.
Some people feel like they don't deserve love. They walk away quietly into empty spaces, trying to close the gaps of the past.
*raises hand*
That would be me.
This is a accurate & sweet description of my experience. Thx soo much.
@@jacktheIV44 me too
God is omnipotent, infinite, omnipresent and omniscient. Good vs. Evil is controlled opposition. Freewill is an illusion. Reality is a simulation.
That's hell of an insight!
The line's from Into The Wild movie. In case anyone's wondering. 🙂
"Both of you deserve to find love elsewhere". Good job Psych2Go. This is a clever phrase that speaks the truth.
I'd bet that you guys tried to choose the words carefully because some people would get offended. This phrase is perfect to the point where it's impossible to get offended by it because it's a fact, if that makes sense.
Keep up with the good work!
Clayton credit goes to the writer Catherine :)
"Deserve" has always seemed a strong word to use, to me. I thought we were trying to guard against feelings of entitlement, generally. The ethics of dating is messy at the best of times, but "deserve" in particular seems like a way to excuse being selfish. Am I wrong?
Matthew P. But what's the point in staying in a relationship that makes you sad, anxious, miserable? I believe being happy is the best you can do for everyone, it spreads around joy or just peacefulness. I think staying out of fear is more selfish, you dont push yourself out of that comfort zone but in reality both people are being hurt in a fake-happy relationship. Either both are being miserable, or only one is but the other one is not recieving honesty from their partner and living sort of a farse
@@reaverkai MADMerry You're right of course, but I would submit the virtue of self-sacrifice for a greater good. Let me use an example from fiction. We tortured Jesus and he certainly wasn't happy during that. But he did not leave us, because he chose to save us, and he had the power to do that. If you believe that is moral, then, some hypothetical similar situation could happen and be moral.
im like seing you in comment sections across RUclips. guse we like the same kind of videos
Love is indefinable, but love can be shown anywhere. However the truest form of love will always be the love you have for yourself. No one understands you and loves you more than you do. Others can come close, but just know that the love you might be looking for could simply come from yourself too. Knowing how to love yourself and practicing it, can help you find those same aspects in someone else.
This is generalized. Some may fall in love just a seconds and last for a lifetime, some may not. Some may dive in a relationship, then later on will change themselves for the better, they would say they need to be inspired, and all. It all depends if you find someone else for you that easy.
But for me, it's also important that you know how to build scaffolding in relationships, or else it'll be gone for seconds. That's what happened when I get impulsive, and didn't recognized the things that's needed.
I'm in love, but since all I did was for him to be angry at me, I took some space away from him, in order for me to focus on the things which I can improve to myself. I don't want to be codependent, I want to build myself for the one I love, without disturbing him. After all, if someone is for you, they'll come back.
I want to talk to him, but I'm afraid if he's still angry at me.
6: "You've developed anxiety"
_*when you had depression symptoms beforehand and got it devolved to a generalized anxiety disorder_
I hope you are doing well and happier now my support and love are with you, I 🖤u
totally relatable
I AWLAYS had anxiety🥲
THE SAME EXACT THING HAPPENED TO ME!!! I always had some anxiety and depression before but after the relationship: GAD hit me
Yeah, screw off you attention seeker.
My problem was I had anxiety and I needed constant reassurance.
you need to work on that, bc being in a relationship in this state of mind isn’t right. try get better and prepare more or being in a relationship rn isn’t right for you or them. hope that helps
How long have you had anxiety for?
@@Psych2go I have a dear friend doing the same thing! Do you have a video one that?
So, when I got into a relationship that actually is healthy for me, after all sorts of toxic relationships, I found it uncomfortable and I didn't know how to maintain it. The fact that he was so sure about his feelings for me, made me wonder if all that is an illusion. And I sought therapy, because I wanted to be better, and this time, not the toxic one in the relationship. It helped. Don't run away just because a good relationship can sprout up your anxiety. Give it time. Make your partner understand and tell him to be patient with you till you get better. And get better. Things will fall into place and for all I know, I recognized a shadow side to me that I never knew existed. In other words, my anxiety in my relationship helped me be better as a person. Relationships are anyways about being better as individuals and growing together at the same time. So, take a leap of faith in yourself. Hope this helps ❤️
Me too, I constantly think about the future, everyday, multiple times a day and have an intense fear of being abandoned, not being enough or disappointing my loved ones. I always imagine the worst case scenarios and try to plan for what I’d do if I were to encounter them. I always need my husband to validate me and let me know I’m still valuable to him and that I’m doing a good job as a wife. My love language is definitely words of affirmation
Relationships are born out of lust, most of them these days 🙂🙃
From the one side, I can 100% agree with you.
Not mine, bc I'm on the asexual spectrum lol
The worst feeling is someone manipulating you to make you feel like you aren't good to them or show them enough love, when in it's them that constantly put their job, friends and personal life in general in front of you. That kind of manipulation and gaslighting has damaged me to the point I simply cannot trust a woman when she says she "loves me" or "sees a future with me."
I'm at the point of leaving and the sad part is that I don't want to give up, but even sadder then that is the fact that if I stay....... Nothing is going to change and that truly breaks my heart. :((
I feel you, this is exactly what im going through, and what keeps me from breaking up is that i dont know what hurts more...loving him or leaving him...
@@miamercado5168 loving them while leaving them at the same time, listen to second chance by shinedown
Going through the same thing... it sucks
Can we schedule group counseling for all of us 😩 haven't left bed for two days dreading this decision to leave or stay.
Same!! Please have a group chat about it😞
Some I agree with and some I don’t. Who doesn’t lust and fantasize about their partner in the beginning? And if you know what you need, you can screen people pretty quickly and start dating someone you meet pretty soon after you meet them. It’s also normal to start dating and sleeping with someone you’re really into shortly after meeting them. That’s why things like lust and infatuation exist.
Lasting love requires maturity but things not working out doesn’t mean you were NEVER in love.
I totally agree! I believe in love at first sight. Happened to me twice!
I was 22 when I met the 1st. Love of my life, he moved in with me after we dated for 2 weeks, & it lasted 2 years, but, those were some of the best times in my life!
Family & circumstances broke us up, but I still love him.
The 2nd. Love of my life, I fell in love with , before I even knew his name. That lasted almost 30 years, until he passed in 2013. I hope to be reunited with him when I leave this Planet Earth.
@@lanapalij4014 Happened to me three times. First amazing relationship was whilst I was doing my Ph.D., and one of my tutorial students had a desperate crush on me! Turned out I was desperately keen on her too - and we were engaged after 18 months. Two weeks after engagement she was killed in a head-on car accident. Major psychological problems, and I avoided any relationships for another 10 years, but finally met a great lady, and we settled down to a rather torrid relationship :-) Wedding was planned, and she too died - ruptured gallbladder - died in the ambulance en route to hospital. For me that was so devastating that I had to emigrate, and surprisingly I met my Wife within 6 months of arriving in Australia. That was 16 years ago and I think I must be the luckiest man alive for obvious reasons!! :-)
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Phil S Wow!!! So sorry for your losses. But.... I'm so glad that love prevailed in your life, & you're in a loving relationship again!
( I'm almost ready to meet the 3rd., & final love of my life !)
I'm done Never give up! There's always hope!
As much of a reassurance it is to realize I was in love, it also makes the fact they're gone hurt so much more
I know I'm in love because I fall out of infatuation within 3-4 months every time, and I've been adoring this man for almost a year. I can say things to him that I would only otherwise be comfortable saying around my mother or father.
Having anxiety doesn’t mean you were never in love.
Yes. It does. U should feel peace.
11 11 What the heck....? 🤣
I thought about this too. I think you can still be in love but have separation anxiety, or abandonment issues
It's usually a bad sign because you are supposed have positive emotions when in love, not negative ones.
SuperAvocado 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Uh huh?
I was avoiding this video because I was scared that it would tell me something i didn't want to know
I'm so glad I watched it and realised how good my relationship is.
thats a good thing :)
you have to stand for your feelings and accept them as they are, you cant run away from them ^^
SAME omg
Same
T^T sameeee
Ikr
The fact that 6.9 million people has seen this warms my heart thank you ma'am 🧡
Thankfully none of these fall under my category in my current relationship other than not being able to talk about my feelings easily, but the only reason I can’t isn’t because I’m not comfortable or don’t trust them, it’s just because I’ve never been able to do it. My therapist had to work for years to get me to open up and even now I barely say much. He always tells me how he’ll be there for me and death won’t even keep us apart, but talking about my emotions just causes my throat and chest to tighten and feels impossible to describe (only reason I can say anything on here about how I feel is cuz of how anonymous it is)
Edit: I did forget to mention one thing, he’s been helping me work on expressing myself more and having an opinion on things (I pretty much usually go with the flow about things) over the time we’ve been dating. Any time he notices I’m not doing great he’ll keep asking over and over while holding me what’s wrong and to tell him, and I feel bad but hearing it makes me feel like he actually wants to know what I’m feeling. It takes a while for me to say anything, but it’s definitely progress
This really is rubbish. Many long term relationships start in a rush, and many last until they die. People truly in love can experience anxiety because they're afraid of losing each other.
Each thing alone doesn't mean you're in a fake relationship of course, it's just a warning if you have too many of these signs. My relationship started in a rush but having a strong communication is key, the whole video shows lack of it.
Dude you be right. This vid strikes me as also an excuse to cut things off when things just get a little tough.
Micaela Asaff not necessarily true. I know many couples who expect each other to be perfect (by their standards) & whose husbands don't know how to share their emotions very well, and sometimes they like to spend time with friends instead of each other, and the husband avoids arguments by avoiding topics. Yet they're deeply in love and going strong for decades. This video is a load of cliche self entitled millennial rubbish made by a youngster who doesn't have the patience for a real relationship & will stay single a long time until she learns to relax her rules.
@@rollerbladinggeek5507 Don't You also know many people who out of self-hatred (or impatience as you say) will date anyone who comes across? I believe this video is aimed at those who confuse love with a bit of attention and force themselves into random relationships. Not criticizing real couples that match with some of the items shown.
Well there's a difference between getting to know someone quickly and being super compatible vs getting into a relationship based on the idea of someone
Who do you not love anymore, comment below T_T. My is food.
Psych2Go rly I never loved anyone
peepee
What's the definition of love?
Psych2Go my crush
Psych2Go My crush he has a gf now
This was needed. At the right moment
Guys please don’t be stressed out by this, every relationship is unique. Just be aware 😊
This....