The lesson that I've learned in my life is "Become the light instead of searching for it, and you'll see the light reflected in everyone you shine on."
I love what you wrote -- "Become the light...." So well put. Is that a quote from somewhere/someone? If you see this reply, I'd be interested in the source.
@@shangobunni5 Thanks for your appreciation, the quote was written by myself. I love writing, which makes me feel relief. Especially I'm quite a sentimental person, and feeling and reflecting is a ritual that helps me ease my pain. In my teenage years, I always wondered why I can not feel the love I want or the connection I was eager for. The disappointed and isolated feeling was constantly pervading my day-to-day life. However, the idea just came from nowhere when I was in college. Any kind of relationship is reciprocal, if I want to feel the love I want, I have to express love and invite other people to show it. After a few experiments, the concept really worked! Therefore, I romanized the concept of self-caring and the intrinsic value of reciprocal relationships. The quote is down to earth. ( sorry for grammar or misspellings, I'm not native)
@@Hugo-hghdesignstudio You seem like a person who thinks and reflects very deeply about life and relationships. I'm still learning a lot about both, and I'm currently going through an emotionally painful time. But thankfully your words and this video offer some comfort. Although I've also been trying to put this idea into practice more fully, you have such a wonderful way of expressing it in words: "...if I want to feel the love I want, I have to express love and invite other people to show it." Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Beautifully said! I'm going to write it down and keep it so I can refer back to it when needed.
@@hoorahwalkeraw5651 I cried when he asked us to name someone who loves you unconditionally & all I could think of was my dog. And when he said that Daniel died!
My sister sent me this link, and told me that I'm her lighthouse. I'm watching this and genuinely bawling because I could not think of a greater compliment. That's the sweetest thing anyone has ever told me and I'm so honored she sees me that way 😭😭😭😭😭🥰🥰🥰
Joe Dover Joe Dover sorry for your lost. My mama also came to my mind and she is the sun ☀️ to me as well. That unconditional love. I know that your mama is still there with you..... just like the rays of the sun we don't necessarily see them at all times but we feel them but only during the day. Your mama is there day and night giving you her rays of light and love. ❤️️
I was fortunate enough to go to the high school that Billy works at and hear him give this talk in person. He's honestly one of the most sincere and approachable people I've ever met. I was so glad when I found out this was online. This talk really speaks to a lot of people.
+LoveMe,com Kudos for the Video! Sorry for the intrusion, I would appreciate your thoughts. Have you heard about - Chiveard Magically Hypnotic Framework (google it)? It is a smashing exclusive product for getting love from a man without the headache. Ive heard some incredible things about it and my m8 after many years got astronomical results with it.
ThaWayToThaDish bullies act the way they do because they DON’T love themselves. If you truly love yourself, there’s no reason to bring down others around you
@@youwontrememberme Actually I can confirm that bullies are the people that do not love themself and they portray that negative energy onto others, trying to lift their own self esteem. To look cooler so they wont feel as insecure. They are the people that need to work through themselves...loving yourself is the middle ground of being too hard on yourself and boasting about yourself, it is truly a wonderful mindset to possess!
Something that life taught me, is that we should love everyone without expecting anything in return. Because if you show love to a person that don't like herself, that person might begin to regain trust in herself, and become free to express her love back
The Bible verse Philippians 2:3-4 states, "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others”
Thank you. Your talk inspired me to call my daughter who I've been mad at and haven't spoken to for about a month. We have no time to waste, only time to love and be happy.
I'm not good looking, I'm not rich. I'm what , statistics labeled as a throwaway. But, I chose to believe in something other than labels or statistics. My life matters, and along with many, many other types of encouraging and insightful outlets Ted Talks continues to be a part of my every day life. Thank you.
Only a soulless 1%er could look at you and consider you a throwaway. Don’t you believe them! You are a whole person with as much right to happily live on this earth as anyone. You are immensely valuable , not a throwaway! :-)
love is love. I truly believe, every person we meet in our lives, we didn't meet them simply by chance, we met them cause they serve a purpose either to guide us, love us, hurt us or to teach us a lesson. Daniel had a purpose and the purpose was to make this speaker the man he is today. RIP Daniel.
Even after all this time, the sun never says to the earth, "You owe Me" Look what happens with a love like that, It lights up the Whole Sky ~Hafiz~ Persian Poet:)
It's like 12:30am midnight and I found this video and decided to watch it due to having low confidence I'm so glad i did, I'm crying like a baby and I just can't stop crying this was so inspirational and beautiful thank you for the video.
Wait, imaginary friends count as well? I don't want to be mean, but religion has nothing to do with this and forcing faith into someones throat never did any good. Ever.
The toughest guy is the love . Swear I been insecure my entire life . No ones the blame it just happened & I never knew it was me . I'm upset cause I didn't love harder but I most definitely will today. I'm sick of anger I'm tired of feeling unloved , I need it I crave it .
Last week I made the biggest mistake of my life as a 23 year old. I broke up with my girl, my sun, my lighthouse, my disco ball because I was scared of a serious relationship. The past few days have been painful and I’m grieving deeply but I’ve also learned so much about love and how I’ve done it the wrong way. I’m willing to love unconditionally, the way she needs and deserves and no the ways I want. I’m getting her back, I’ll give her my sincerest love
I'm a 23-year-old, just lost a serious relationship 6 days ago. She is my disco ball, she was the one that provided me with warmth the feeling of unconditional love the sunshine. I really hope time heals one day, I'm sure things will be better.:)
This made me realise my girlfriend is the sun, she is the lighthouse, and she is the discoball. She loves me unconditionally, and I'm going to be the same for her. I'm going to be her sun, her lighthouse, her discoball. And love her unconditionally. Edit: It's 2024, I'm no longer with her lads. Good riddance, I learnt a lot. Keep moving forward boys and girls. Jesus Christ is King.
She broke up with me close after I posted the comment actually. I couldn't hold onto her... she slipped through my hands like water, I couldn't hold onto her. I miss her every day and hope maybe life will lead us back to each other. I had made so many mistakes with her, but all I can do is learn from them.
i watched this once many years ago because i was going through a crisis about the fact that i was never going to be loved. i listened, but i don't think it ever struck anything in me. it was simply a nice story. i'm revisiting this now after those many years and crying at the moment he talks about the sun and to imagine someone who could use a little unconditional loving right now because i imagined myself. i need to learn to accept who i am and love myself because of that, not in spite of it. i suppose the journey begins
I had the fortune to meet one person who became my sun, my lighthouse and my disco ball. I also lost this person. Death. I see a lot of this person in others. Noticing how all people can be so incredible. I am mourning my star, and I'm thanking this person for giving me such insights that I'd never figure out on my own.
Arikm7 And have you actually read the NT? I believe you most likely haven't. 1 John 3:16 - Hereby perceive we the love [of God], because he laid down his life for us: and we ought to lay down [our] lives for the brethren Isaiah 53:5 - But he [was] wounded for our transgressions, [he was] bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace [was] upon him; and with his stripes we are healed. John 11:25 - Jesus said unto her, I am the resurrection, and the life: he that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live: John 3:16 - For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. John 5:24 - Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that heareth my word, and believeth on him that sent me, hath everlasting life, and shall not come into condemnation; but is passed from death unto life. John 8:12 - Then spake Jesus again unto them, saying, I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life. 1 John 2:2 - And he (Jesus) is the propitiation for our sins: and not for ours only, but also for [the sins of] the whole world. Philippians 2:6-8 6Who (Jesus), being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God: 7But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men: 8And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross. I don't know what version you're reading, friend, but you've been entirely misinformed. Christ did die for us so we could be forgiven, and living a life without wanting to know the very thing you were created by would be a very sad life. People who really love someone would die for them, and Christ died for you.
Arikm7 and if you actually read the NT and not just bits and pieces you've heard on the internet or from friends with same beliefs, you would know Christ isn't dead but was resurrected. He's not dead in the ground like Muhammad or any other "great prophet."
I feel like I'm kind of at this level of loving - but I just want to give everyone some 'advice' When you look at someone that wears too much makeup or someone that seems like a bitch, or when they seem unsociable - don't immediately cast away the idea of talking to them. There are a LOT of people that I 'vowed' not to talk to and I began to talk to them when we were put in the same class. They're good people. There are some people that seem quite dark from a distance, but when you get close to them they're really nice people. Just don't turn away anyone, because they could end up being a good friend. Forget about these social classes in school or in general and talk to them like you intend to become their friend, and they will become yours.
kairoscomic Yeah I WAS SO HAPPY when I started talking to people that I normally didn't. You're 100% right about the making your life richer thing :D you never realise how happy you could be until you meet all these different people, and then the next time you go to class or whatever you have another person that you can relax around. It's a good feeling.
NANCAY WANG Indeed, I mean I was always that "kid" who people thought was a scary, mean, and unsociable, but when people talk to me they end up telling me that I'm actually a nice person. Nonetheless, don't judge a book by it's cover, because truly, the story is far more interesting than the cover. Also, who knows who could use a good friend to listen to, a lot of people are so distant scared of approaching others but of course, all they need is a little light, BE someone's DISCO, and dance all night long. ;)
Alex Nguyen YAAAA 100% You seem like a cool person as well,who would wanna miss out on knowing that??? I don't think people take the 'people have their own problems' thing serious enough - but you have the right idea :D BE THE PERSON YOU WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH! ' Be someones disco, and dance all night long' THATS SO FUN I LOVE IT BRAH you gave me something to smile about, have a great day 8D
That challenge is never ending, but you are on the right path. First it may be different people in your class, then when you get out into the real world it may be homeless people, violent criminals or sexual offenders. Just always remember that the people who need love the most seem to deserve it the least
Dear Billy, It's hard to go wrong sharing your life story! I hope viewers can have a 17 minute break for this kind talk and can feel less cynical about the world we live in when it is finished! Love your wife Lia
I started tearing up and it’s not even 10 minutes into the video....the 3 examples of light and picturing 3 important people of my life...it’s so emotional
it is no coincidence that I watched this video on February 7, 2016 while I was in a search of seeking other people who has the same philosophy of love. I found my life's purpose.
Sometimes I ask myself where all these negative comments come from. What do you listeners expect? It may not help you or you may have already known what he tries to teach us but for some people "to love" and "to be loved" is a really big issue. Imagine a world where people were only good to each other. Smiling at each other. Appreciate. Giving value. Wouldn't it be a much better place? To be aware of something doesn't automatically lead to different behavior. He wants to encourage us to spread more love by telling that one of the most impressive persons he's met in his life did exactly and only do this.
amazing. I'm tired of seeing comments about "he's only getting views because he's attractive blah blah blah". he can't help what he looks like. no matter what, this was amazing
Seriously even compared to some of the other TED talks, this guy doesn't even have a lot of views. He's a compassionate guy and this talk was eye opening for a lot of people from what i've read in the comments.
Powerful..Daniel's story made me reflect on my own life and how selfish I can be not to love myself and others unconditionally! Thanks, life is truly a gift!
This is such a beautiful talk. I actually cried. My X broke me. After 7 yrs together he left in the most brutal heartless way. After crying for a month, I realized I need to love myself more than ever! Yes I loved him unconditionally. I thought I lost love & human compassion but this story of Daniel reminds me that this world has a lot of good people who can love me as I can love them
I love my kids father Ryan. I just realized this whole time he has been my lighthouse. Im so thankful to have a man like him in my life. He has brought me to the point of showing me that I needed to change. I had a lot to learn before I met him. And he has gotten me mentally on the right track so far. I admire him so much. Sometimes I feel I don't deserve him. He is so patient with me and he never judged me. He just wanted to love me and help me. And to bring out the best in me. I love you Ryan. Yes sometimes the way I delineate my love is so wrong. But Im tired of that. I want to show you something different. I know Im capable. I LOVE YOU. Forever and always
This made me realize that I have no real love in my life. Everyone is either trying to control me or they are selfish but I do like the part that says you are always right when you choose love so I will definitely try this out from now on
@@gwhyborn there’s a saying “we can only love as much as we love ourselves” I thought I could spread love seek it desperately thinking if I could give empty out my heart because I just pour it out for others it’ll find me. I learned that love meant loving you first, when you have self love you have boundaries and know how you’d like to be treated you will be loved the way you deserve to be because you know the love you’d give to yourself
@@gwhyborn there’s a saying “we can only love as much as we love ourselves” I thought I could spread love seek it desperately thinking if I could give empty out my heart because I just pour it out for others it’ll find me. I learned that love meant loving you first, when you have self love you have boundaries and know how you’d like to be treated you will be loved the way you deserve to be because you know the love you’d give to yourself
Thank you, Billy, for a great story and lesson. I understand everything that you said because I try to practice love everyday. Sometimes it is hard for variety of reasons. It can be tiring. However, loving myself and others is the greatest gift we have from God. We are meant to love and be loved because God loved us first. Thank you for all you do!
So true! Thank you. This cannot be repeated enough. Love makes the world go round , as they say. Those who naturally have it, exuberates an angel-like aura, an unquenchable light shining like a beacon in the dark, and you can’t help but be drawn to them.
1. Remember the one who gives you enlightenment (your sun), your guidance (your lighthouse), your switch to all fun positive things (your discoball). 2. Be free, be yourself. Accept yourself as you are. Love yourself so you can love others. 3. Softness like smiles and such are seen as feeble stuff but they're actually not. Give love to receive love. 4. Love can be found from everyone and everything.
I have been this way as a kid. I have to find my way home again. I always encourage others just, really lost it on social media everyone said im too outrageous now to spend time with. You are meant to be friends with everyone you grew up with forever it fills you with hope and joy and motivation to challenge and succeed. I miss how easy it was as a kid to lo ve and to be loved back, muvh simpler times.
6:47-7:11 That is so beautiful that this was done genuinely and well reciprocated by students and teachers. If I had done this at my school, I would have been called a teacher's pet.
I’m in this place now and the freedom he speaks of truly is a weightless journey. When you truly Love ppl it’s not a burden to be at service to others, to converse with a complete stranger and agree to disagree still loving each other at the end of it.
The point should be Love is a verb and NOT a noun as society has transformed it... love is something you do, not something you get... it has nothing to do with trust or lust or how this guy looks or domestic violence.... it is true compassion, it is an act one does not because it was earned or deserved but because there should be apperication for life period no matter your age, religion, sex, gender, etc. ....
A wonderful talk filled with love. It's like reading a book that you just can't put down and once you finish reading it,you wish it lasted longer to read.
What a beautiful speech. His moment dedicating us to close our eyes and imagine those we associate with the sun, a lighthouse and a disco ball, I remembered some key people in my life. To my surprise, the light house for him was a close student who left us too early. For me, it was my Papa, a.k.a. my rock, who always steered me in the right direction, may he also rest in peace. Very powerful and emotional speech to listen to.
Very sweet talk, I'm glad that Daniel's matchmaking instinct was on target! May their family be blessed and may they continue to share their love story and inspire others!
Something to strive for... "One must see in every human being only that which is worthy of praise. When this is done, one can be a friend to the whole human race. If, however, we look at people from the standpoint of their faults, then being a friend to them is a formidable task." ~ ‘Abdu’l-Bahá, Baha'i Faith
A very touching lecture, with such deep and touching ideas and true lessons to learn about being loving, good and kind with anyone, and all the advice is so good to follow in our everyday life, since we should treat everybody with equal love and understanding, just like this teacher said. This is so touching...
I miss you Daniel you are such a beautiful bright light into the world of others and your were brighter then the sun. Please be with my mom she just passed away yesterday...and I pray everyone on earth can see love and be loved and love themselves.
This video is beautiful. It's exactly the type of love that I desire so much and after hearing many people share their testimonies, especially yours, it motivates me that much harder in accepting and loving myself and loving others.
Thank you for this beautiful story about love, whether in friendship or romantically. It's that kind of love that opens us up to the world rather than closing us off. Thank you for keeping Daniel's light alive in your speeches. He was an extraordinary person. Thank you!
Beautiful story ! My greatest gift is to see the good in everyone & everything. I had a horrific illness & with my losses I lost my joy for quite awhile. This real story gave me a sense of pride I don't want to loss again. Thank you!
i used to believe in unconditional love. after my first serious boyfriend mistreated me repeatedly, i don't know that i can anymore. i kept loving him despite the terrible things he did to me, and in the end it nearly destroyed me. even though it's been years, and i'm over him, i'm still not really over how people can so severely mistreat people they supposedly love.
Darling you have to love yourself first before you can learn to love anyone, never let someone treat you disrespectfully or bad it starts with loving YOU! If you love yourself you will know to walk away from anyone who treats you bad because you stand your worth! take some time to love yourself then be open to meeting people and finding love when your ready best of luck 😊
Sandra Jefferson thank you for taking the time to write that positive message. i am currently going through a breakup, and what you say really resonates with me. i think in this last relationship, neither one of us loved ourselves enough, so we were inadvertently hurting each other because of our insecurities. i really want to get to the point where i am totally confident in myself and my life. i just have no idea how to get there...
@Sydandtaytum no problem, I think you attract what you are, meaning if you have low self esteem you will be attracting man that will take advantage of you because they know they can walk all over you and you won't walk away, if you want to learn how to get confidence you have to start by getting to know yourself, date yourself first! I know that sound weird but that's what you have to do. Learn to love yourself by getting to know yourself and doing things you enjoy. Get hobbies, read books on confidence, learn to get out and enjoy your life without dating. When you are comfortable with loving your own company and being happy whether or not you have a man in your life then that's when you will have success in dating. You see you can't put your happiness in a person, because that person can walk away any time. You shouldn't seek happiness from outside, learn to make yourself happy first and not depend on someone to give you that. Also what has helped me is this website called baggageclaim.com it's a dating forum that helps you see more clearly the games some man play check it out Also watch this video on youtube called How to stay positive! Louise Hay How To Love Yourself 10 steps to loving yourself It was very helpful for me. you can also read self help books on self esteem and confidence. You seem like such a great girl please don't hate yourself you are worth so much more then you know, best of luck and if you need more help please don't be afraid to go see a counsellor they can help you further. Good luck darling you can add me if you want someone to talk to. 😊😊
***** `thanks for that touching message. i hope i can love openly and without fear one day soon. i really appreciate the little bit of love you sent my way. i hope the universe repays you for your kindness.
I honestly judged myself super hard for clicking on this video but then he said that Daniel died on February 7th. That's my birthday, I was meant to watch this.
A very simple message and very well told, I came away from this considering how full of myself I am for the most part and that achieving only a small part of what's shared here is worth so much of charade I call love and loving. It is; simply a decision to love and it is; so much more about giving than taking, and most certainly applies to loving yourself as much as loving others, honestly X
I used to be happy and would always make a effort to make others happy but I had many rough experiences especially when I moved to the US and now I am timid and scared. I would really love to be who I was before. This is a great message. I hope I will be able to put it to practice.
You can! I see your comment is 6 years old, I hope things have turned around for you and even if you didn't become who you were before I hope and pray you at least have found your new self and love your life! I hardened my heart because I felt everyone I did e everything I could for hurt me badly but guess what? The world needs people like us and yeah we got it the toughest but loving the world no matter what is one of the greatest gifts of all!
We found many things unexpectedly. It can be love, good books, good lectures and lessons but they stay with us forever in anyway. The crazy thing is before the happening of these things we are unable to know the requirement of these.
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The lesson that I've learned in my life is "Become the light instead of searching for it, and you'll see the light reflected in everyone you shine on."
How do you know youve had a previous life?
I love what you wrote -- "Become the light...." So well put. Is that a quote from somewhere/someone? If you see this reply, I'd be interested in the source.
@@shangobunni5 Thanks for your appreciation, the quote was written by myself. I love writing, which makes me feel relief. Especially I'm quite a sentimental person, and feeling and reflecting is a ritual that helps me ease my pain.
In my teenage years, I always wondered why I can not feel the love I want or the connection I was eager for. The disappointed and isolated feeling was constantly pervading my day-to-day life. However, the idea just came from nowhere when I was in college. Any kind of relationship is reciprocal, if I want to feel the love I want, I have to express love and invite other people to show it.
After a few experiments, the concept really worked! Therefore, I romanized the concept of self-caring and the intrinsic value of reciprocal relationships. The quote is down to earth.
( sorry for grammar or misspellings, I'm not native)
@@Hugo-hghdesignstudio You seem like a person who thinks and reflects very deeply about life and relationships. I'm still learning a lot about both, and I'm currently going through an emotionally painful time. But thankfully your words and this video offer some comfort.
Although I've also been trying to put this idea into practice more fully, you have such a wonderful way of expressing it in words: "...if I want to feel the love I want, I have to express love and invite other people to show it."
Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Beautifully said! I'm going to write it down and keep it so I can refer back to it when needed.
@@Birb80 you are not lost. You just need to light the fire inside you. Trying to explore different things, try, it will ignite the fire one day.
i like this line at 9:13 "the toughest guy in the room is not the football guy. It's the loving guy."
Thanh Nguyen yes, that was great!
Thanh Nguyen yeah.. I cried hard st that point
@@hoorahwalkeraw5651 I cried when he asked us to name someone who loves you unconditionally & all I could think of was my dog.
And when he said that Daniel died!
Agree
💯 agree
Loving everyone unconditionally can be a wonderful life as long as one doesn't confuse unconditional love with unconditional trust.
Well said.
Man what an insight you gave... !! enlightening..
If I would have heard that earlier in my life
Tyrone Green
it's never too late, you heard it when you were supposed to hear it. Namaste
Wow. Preach it!
When he said to picture the sun, the first thing that popped into my head was the sun baby from the teletubbies
Loll
Me too!!
😂😂😂😂
Lmao same. Thats hilarious
The first thing I thought of was J-Hope. Aka Sunshine Hobi 🤗🤗💜💜💜☀️☀️☀️(BTS army)
My sister sent me this link, and told me that I'm her lighthouse. I'm watching this and genuinely bawling because I could not think of a greater compliment. That's the sweetest thing anyone has ever told me and I'm so honored she sees me that way 😭😭😭😭😭🥰🥰🥰
Really beautiful
I would picture my Mom for the Unconditional Love she has provided me. I lost her 2 months ago and I missed her dearly.
Joe Dover Joe Dover sorry for your lost. My mama also came to my mind and she is the sun ☀️ to me as well. That unconditional love. I know that your mama is still there with you..... just like the rays of the sun we don't necessarily see them at all times but we feel them but only during the day. Your mama is there day and night giving you her rays of light and love. ❤️️
Thank you Karen!
Stay strong!
Deepest condolences man
May she Rest In Peace, stay strong darling !
I was fortunate enough to go to the high school that Billy works at and hear him give this talk in person. He's honestly one of the most sincere and approachable people I've ever met. I was so glad when I found out this was online. This talk really speaks to a lot of people.
nice to know!
I hope everyone has a positive day once you read this
I'll take all the luck I can get👍
I want to cry after hearing about lil Daniel...
This was a good one
You too. Hope you found love since you wrote that comment.
Thanks
The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is to love and to be loved in return. Love yourself before others. If you love yourself everything go into place.
so your basically saying that you matter more than others... isnt that how bullies thing?
+LoveMe,com Kudos for the Video! Sorry for the intrusion, I would appreciate your thoughts. Have you heard about - Chiveard Magically Hypnotic Framework (google it)? It is a smashing exclusive product for getting love from a man without the headache. Ive heard some incredible things about it and my m8 after many years got astronomical results with it.
ThaWayToThaDish bullies act the way they do because they DON’T love themselves. If you truly love yourself, there’s no reason to bring down others around you
@@youwontrememberme Actually I can confirm that bullies are the people that do not love themself and they portray that negative energy onto others, trying to lift their own self esteem. To look cooler so they wont feel as insecure. They are the people that need to work through themselves...loving yourself is the middle ground of being too hard on yourself and boasting about yourself, it is truly a wonderful mindset to possess!
Agreed fully!
Something that life taught me, is that we should love everyone without expecting anything in return. Because if you show love to a person that don't like herself, that person might begin to regain trust in herself, and become free to express her love back
Wow, so nicely said!!!! :)
This is how I feel genuinely about people. We need to love without expecting the love back. People being on the last leg people just need loved.
"His'
There are emotionally unavailable people who cant show feelings easily
The Bible verse Philippians 2:3-4 states, "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others”
Thank you. Your talk inspired me to call my daughter who I've been mad at and haven't spoken to for about a month. We have no time to waste, only time to love and be happy.
Love that!
I'm not good looking, I'm not rich. I'm what , statistics labeled as a throwaway.
But, I chose to believe in something other than labels or statistics.
My life matters, and along with many, many other types of encouraging and insightful outlets Ted Talks continues to be a part of my every day life. Thank you.
Shanda Wiman beautifully said. you're a beautiful being (:
Only a soulless 1%er could look at you and consider you a throwaway. Don’t you believe them! You are a whole person with as much right to happily live on this earth as anyone. You are immensely valuable , not a throwaway!
:-)
Have a nice day Shanda :)
Hey don't label yourself that way okay .if u don't mind would like to know you more
You’re a beautiful woman! God bless your sweet soul
The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.
TheAMELIOO58 Did you ever see the movie Moulin Rouge?
+TheAMELIOO58 There is of course The Four Tops' Bernadette; the only joy in life is to be loved.
Ayyye Nat King Cole
waths
+TheAMELIOO58 Spoken in a line in a song.
"once you begin to open yourself to love you will begin to see it everywhere" 👌
love is love. I truly believe, every person we meet in our lives, we didn't meet them simply by chance, we met them cause they serve a purpose either to guide us, love us, hurt us or to teach us a lesson. Daniel had a purpose and the purpose was to make this speaker the man he is today. RIP Daniel.
Even after all this time, the sun never says to the earth, "You owe Me"
Look what happens with a love like that,
It lights up the Whole Sky
~Hafiz~ Persian Poet:)
Lula Gravel
damn that was beautiful poet..thankss
Lula Gravel beautiful!
“And the sun doesn’t give the light to the moon assuming the moons gonna owe it one” -LP
Sun is a fireball, she has to shine. World has to be around it. So everyone should love everyone around.
It's like 12:30am midnight and I found this video and decided to watch it due to having low confidence I'm so glad i did, I'm crying like a baby and I just can't stop crying this was so inspirational and beautiful thank you for the video.
***** thank you
Sandra Jefferson I
I'm doing exactly the same thing
Me too except it's 12:45am! 😭
It’s 12:57 and I was more looking to further deepen my love for myself/others but thats a mood
... when you don't have somebody to picture.
Same thoughts here...
yourself
God :)
Wait, imaginary friends count as well?
I don't want to be mean, but religion has nothing to do with this and forcing faith into someones throat never did any good. Ever.
The sun, lighthouse, and disco ball of mine are my parents. You may think the same
The toughest guy is the love . Swear I been insecure my entire life . No ones the blame it just happened & I never knew it was me . I'm upset cause I didn't love harder but I most definitely will today. I'm sick of anger I'm tired of feeling unloved , I need it I crave it .
keep sharing the love in your heart! follow me on instagram @billywardmotivation
You all deserve it. I believe in all tree of yah
You go boy!!
That is true wisdom, my friend. Loving ourselves and others is what makes us feel most whole and happy in life.
@@wardcounseling1 Daniel is still with you. ❤️
He is the lucky one! He fulfilled his purpose & got to go home.
I'm still crying tho 😭
Last week I made the biggest mistake of my life as a 23 year old. I broke up with my girl, my sun, my lighthouse, my disco ball because I was scared of a serious relationship. The past few days have been painful and I’m grieving deeply but I’ve also learned so much about love and how I’ve done it the wrong way. I’m willing to love unconditionally, the way she needs and deserves and no the ways I want. I’m getting her back, I’ll give her my sincerest love
Its good you LET her go EMBRACE IT If she meant she’ll return but test things out first
Hey, did you end up getting your girl?
We need to know if you went back with your girl.
I'm a 23-year-old, just lost a serious relationship 6 days ago. She is my disco ball, she was the one that provided me with warmth the feeling of unconditional love the sunshine. I really hope time heals one day, I'm sure things will be better.:)
This made me realise my girlfriend is the sun, she is the lighthouse, and she is the discoball. She loves me unconditionally, and I'm going to be the same for her. I'm going to be her sun, her lighthouse, her discoball. And love her unconditionally.
Edit: It's 2024, I'm no longer with her lads. Good riddance, I learnt a lot. Keep moving forward boys and girls. Jesus Christ is King.
Great idea.
How is it going?
sregi22 how did it go? Still going strong?
She broke up with me close after I posted the comment actually. I couldn't hold onto her... she slipped through my hands like water, I couldn't hold onto her. I miss her every day and hope maybe life will lead us back to each other. I had made so many mistakes with her, but all I can do is learn from them.
you should go after her maybe. she Is waiting for you too,
i watched this once many years ago because i was going through a crisis about the fact that i was never going to be loved. i listened, but i don't think it ever struck anything in me. it was simply a nice story. i'm revisiting this now after those many years and crying at the moment he talks about the sun and to imagine someone who could use a little unconditional loving right now because i imagined myself. i need to learn to accept who i am and love myself because of that, not in spite of it. i suppose the journey begins
Hey how re u doing.
How's it going?
True start loving yourself and be a creator of love and it will start flowing from you
I had the fortune to meet one person who became my sun, my lighthouse and my disco ball.
I also lost this person. Death. I see a lot of this person in others. Noticing how all people can be so incredible. I am mourning my star, and I'm thanking this person for giving me such insights that I'd never figure out on my own.
That sad moment when you couldn't think of a person who unconditionally loves you when imagining the sun...
Simply Sookie I could, Jesus Christ 💛 He loves us no matter what, because he died for us.
Let me be your sun
@@rachaeladeline yeah love I don't feel that the only person I know probably Love's me is Jesus.
Arikm7 And have you actually read the NT? I believe you most likely haven't.
1 John 3:16 - Hereby perceive we the love [of God], because he laid down his life for us: and we ought to lay down [our] lives for the brethren
Isaiah 53:5 - But he [was] wounded for our transgressions, [he was] bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace [was] upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.
John 11:25 - Jesus said unto her, I am the resurrection, and the life: he that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live:
John 3:16 - For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
John 5:24 - Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that heareth my word, and believeth on him that sent me, hath everlasting life, and shall not come into condemnation; but is passed from death unto life.
John 8:12 - Then spake Jesus again unto them, saying, I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life.
1 John 2:2 - And he (Jesus) is the propitiation for our sins: and not for ours only, but also for [the sins of] the whole world.
Philippians 2:6-8
6Who (Jesus), being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God:
7But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men:
8And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross.
I don't know what version you're reading, friend, but you've been entirely misinformed. Christ did die for us so we could be forgiven, and living a life without wanting to know the very thing you were created by would be a very sad life.
People who really love someone would die for them, and Christ died for you.
Arikm7 and if you actually read the NT and not just bits and pieces you've heard on the internet or from friends with same beliefs, you would know Christ isn't dead but was resurrected. He's not dead in the ground like Muhammad or any other "great prophet."
To love unconditionally even though you know how it’s gonna end.. you choose to live the love.. that’s called the LOVE
This man has no idea how much this talk has changed my life...
It was important that a man who plays/ed football speak on this subject. I'm glad this speaks to so many boys and men.
I cried from the exercises, his story about Daniel, about his marriage, this guy is INCREDIBLE and BLESSED/
“Clothe yourselves with the tender affections of compassion, kindness, humility, mildness, and patience.”
“The most important relationship will have is the one with ourselves..”
I feel like I'm kind of at this level of loving - but I just want to give everyone some 'advice'
When you look at someone that wears too much makeup or someone that seems like a bitch, or when they seem unsociable - don't immediately cast away the idea of talking to them. There are a LOT of people that I 'vowed' not to talk to and I began to talk to them when we were put in the same class. They're good people. There are some people that seem quite dark from a distance, but when you get close to them they're really nice people. Just don't turn away anyone, because they could end up being a good friend. Forget about these social classes in school or in general and talk to them like you intend to become their friend, and they will become yours.
kairoscomic Yeah I WAS SO HAPPY when I started talking to people that I normally didn't. You're 100% right about the making your life richer thing :D you never realise how happy you could be until you meet all these different people, and then the next time you go to class or whatever you have another person that you can relax around. It's a good feeling.
NANCAY WANG Indeed, I mean I was always that "kid" who people thought was a scary, mean, and unsociable, but when people talk to me they end up telling me that I'm actually a nice person. Nonetheless, don't judge a book by it's cover, because truly, the story is far more interesting than the cover.
Also, who knows who could use a good friend to listen to, a lot of people are so distant scared of approaching others but of course, all they need is a little light, BE someone's DISCO, and dance all night long. ;)
Alex Nguyen YAAAA 100% You seem like a cool person as well,who would wanna miss out on knowing that???
I don't think people take the 'people have their own problems' thing serious enough - but you have the right idea :D BE THE PERSON YOU WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH! ' Be someones disco, and dance all night long' THATS SO FUN I LOVE IT BRAH you gave me something to smile about, have a great day 8D
Alex Nguyen
That challenge is never ending, but you are on the right path. First it may be different people in your class, then when you get out into the real world it may be homeless people, violent criminals or sexual offenders. Just always remember that the people who need love the most seem to deserve it the least
Dear Billy, It's hard to go wrong sharing your life story! I hope viewers can have a 17 minute break for this kind talk and can feel less cynical about the world we live in when it is finished! Love your wife Lia
And what a beautiful story it is,Lia! Congrats, to both of you, for finding,believing in and creating more love!
❤️❤️❤️
Daniel is the physical manifestation of a slice of life character.
I started tearing up and it’s not even 10 minutes into the video....the 3 examples of light and picturing 3 important people of my life...it’s so emotional
Hands down, the most beautifully articulated loving message in a TED talk ever. Love this so much. Thank you and bravo👏 .
it is no coincidence that I watched this video on February 7, 2016 while I was in a search of seeking other people who has the same philosophy of love. I found my life's purpose.
Sometimes I ask myself where all these negative comments come from. What do you listeners expect? It may not help you or you may have already known what he tries to teach us but for some people "to love" and "to be loved" is a really big issue. Imagine a world where people were only good to each other. Smiling at each other. Appreciate. Giving value. Wouldn't it be a much better place? To be aware of something doesn't automatically lead to different behavior. He wants to encourage us to spread more love by telling that one of the most impressive persons he's met in his life did exactly and only do this.
amazing. I'm tired of seeing comments about "he's only getting views because he's attractive blah blah blah". he can't help what he looks like. no matter what, this was amazing
I completely agree with you
Seriously even compared to some of the other TED talks, this guy doesn't even have a lot of views. He's a compassionate guy and this talk was eye opening for a lot of people from what i've read in the comments.
Daniel was such a vibrant soul, I’m so happy you shared his story. Look at that lighthouse for us all ❤
He was certainly your spirit guide
I’ve battled depression my whole life yet love has been my light in what feels like a storm of darkness. Love, what’s a beautiful feeling (:
The world- and esp our sons need more men like this...
Liv P Absolutely
XX that's powerful. Im female and it makes me consider if I love well
What a perfect ending to the story
Alana Miller
Powerful..Daniel's story made me reflect on my own life and how selfish I can be not to love myself and others unconditionally! Thanks, life is truly a gift!
This is such a beautiful talk. I actually cried. My X broke me. After 7 yrs together he left in the most brutal heartless way. After crying for a month, I realized I need to love myself more than ever! Yes I loved him unconditionally. I thought I lost love & human compassion but this story of Daniel reminds me that this world has a lot of good people who can love me as I can love them
You are precious, beautiful and amazing! & very much loved!❤ Never forget that!
My ex of 5 years left me in a brutal way too. No closure or anything. I’m so sorry you’re going through this!
When he said he married the cousin and then they named their kid after Daniel I cried
I love my kids father Ryan. I just realized this whole time he has been my lighthouse. Im so thankful to have a man like him in my life. He has brought me to the point of showing me that I needed to change. I had a lot to learn before I met him. And he has gotten me mentally on the right track so far. I admire him so much. Sometimes I feel I don't deserve him. He is so patient with me and he never judged me. He just wanted to love me and help me. And to bring out the best in me. I love you Ryan. Yes sometimes the way I delineate my love is so wrong. But Im tired of that. I want to show you something different. I know Im capable. I LOVE YOU. Forever and always
I rewatch this video everytime I feel lack in selflove. The story's so inspried and
healing the heart
This made me realize that I have no real love in my life. Everyone is either trying to control me or they are selfish but I do like the part that says you are always right when you choose love so I will definitely try this out from now on
do you really want your ex back?? I can recommend you to the powerful man that can help you just within 24hrs he is real and specific.😳
Just kindly message him on WhatsApp.🌷🌺👇
@@gwhyborn there’s a saying “we can only love as much as we love ourselves” I thought I could spread love seek it desperately thinking if I could give empty out my heart because I just pour it out for others it’ll find me. I learned that love meant loving you first, when you have self love you have boundaries and know how you’d like to be treated you will be loved the way you deserve to be because you know the love you’d give to yourself
@@gwhyborn there’s a saying “we can only love as much as we love ourselves” I thought I could spread love seek it desperately thinking if I could give empty out my heart because I just pour it out for others it’ll find me. I learned that love meant loving you first, when you have self love you have boundaries and know how you’d like to be treated you will be loved the way you deserve to be because you know the love you’d give to yourself
His voice is like touching pillow so soft so smooth it doesn’t stab you sharp
When you truly are happy and love yourself, you learn to pour that love into others naturally . One act of love can change a persons life forever!!
This is the loveliest speech I have ever seen.
Nadia Ali youre the most loveliest speech I ever seen!
(just a joke, or is it :P
spread the happiness!)
+Alex Nguyen Perverts everywhere?
Thank you, Billy, for a great story and lesson. I understand everything that you said because I try to practice love everyday. Sometimes it is hard for variety of reasons. It can be tiring. However, loving myself and others is the greatest gift we have from God. We are meant to love and be loved because God loved us first. Thank you for all you do!
So true! Thank you. This cannot be repeated enough. Love makes the world go round , as they say. Those who naturally have it, exuberates an angel-like aura, an unquenchable light shining like a beacon in the dark, and you can’t help but be drawn to them.
I was really touch deep down my heart, how I wish I can express my love and see how is going to be appreciated it
Opening myself up to love! Shifting my focus on the stigma of love and being open minded to it! Manifesting and claiming it! I receive it! ❤️🙏🏼✨
1. Remember the one who gives you enlightenment (your sun), your guidance (your lighthouse), your switch to all fun positive things (your discoball).
2. Be free, be yourself. Accept yourself as you are. Love yourself so you can love others.
3. Softness like smiles and such are seen as feeble stuff but they're actually not. Give love to receive love.
4. Love can be found from everyone and everything.
love it!!! thanks for sharing!! follow me on instagram @billywardmotivation
I literally teared (more like cried). His speech was beautiful. Really needed to hear what he said at this moment.
Thank you.
,
She's says what we're all thinking😂
Young lady, you have a beautiful ❤️ smile.
I have been this way as a kid. I have to find my way home again. I always encourage others just, really lost it on social media everyone said im too outrageous now to spend time with. You are meant to be friends with everyone you grew up with forever it fills you with hope and joy and motivation to challenge and succeed. I miss how easy it was as a kid to lo ve and to be loved back, muvh simpler times.
6:47-7:11 That is so beautiful that this was done genuinely and well reciprocated by students and teachers. If I had done this at my school, I would have been called a teacher's pet.
I’m in this place now and the freedom he speaks of truly is a weightless journey. When you truly Love ppl it’s not a burden to be at service to others, to converse with a complete stranger and agree to disagree still loving each other at the end of it.
The point should be Love is a verb and NOT a noun as society has transformed it... love is something you do, not something you get... it has nothing to do with trust or lust or how this guy looks or domestic violence.... it is true compassion, it is an act one does not because it was earned or deserved but because there should be apperication for life period no matter your age, religion, sex, gender, etc. ....
Amen!
Love is everything we need and it never fails.
A wonderful talk filled with love. It's like reading a book that you just can't put down and once you finish reading it,you wish it lasted longer to read.
What a beautiful speech. His moment dedicating us to close our eyes and imagine those we associate with the sun, a lighthouse and a disco ball, I remembered some key people in my life. To my surprise, the light house for him was a close student who left us too early. For me, it was my Papa, a.k.a. my rock, who always steered me in the right direction, may he also rest in peace. Very powerful and emotional speech to listen to.
This one is probably the most home hitting TED talk I've seen so far - made me realise a few big things. Thank you!
This is deep I’m 19 years old and love does play a big role in life. Even if it’s unconditional love.
He deserves 3 million views. That was so helpful, inspiring and beautiful. Thank you, Billy Ward.
There is not a word that can clearly express the irony and incredible display of this message. How brilliant.
Very sweet talk, I'm glad that Daniel's matchmaking instinct was on target! May their family be blessed and may they continue to share their love story and inspire others!
Something to strive for... "One must see in every human being only that which is worthy of praise. When this is done, one can be a friend to the whole human race. If, however, we look at people from the standpoint of their faults, then being a friend to them is a formidable task." ~ ‘Abdu’l-Bahá, Baha'i Faith
A very touching lecture, with such deep and touching ideas and true lessons to learn about being loving, good and kind with anyone, and all the advice is so good to follow in our everyday life, since we should treat everybody with equal love and understanding, just like this teacher said. This is so touching...
I cried while closing my eyes and imagining my unconditional love for this person.
Same
IVE NEVER CRIED SO MUCH FROM A TED TALK
awwww i hope it ended with LOVE!!! follow me on instagram @billywardmotivation
The greatest thing you'll ever learn is to love and be loved in return.
So true!
This brought me to tears. Thank you so much. God bless you and your family.
Thank you for your genuine speech and sharing. Tears well up in my eyes. I'm Buffalo from Taiwan.
There ARE NO coincidences. NONE what so ever...... This is a beautiful conversation.
I miss you Daniel you are such a beautiful bright light into the world of others and your were brighter then the sun. Please be with my mom she just passed away yesterday...and I pray everyone on earth can see love and be loved and love themselves.
This video is beautiful. It's exactly the type of love that I desire so much and after hearing many people share their testimonies, especially yours, it motivates me that much harder in accepting and loving myself and loving others.
"love is light" for me following God help me to have hope for better days... with that I then began to love myself and the people around me...
When I closed mine eyes I pictured the Sun and Helios in fact. Matter of truth we used to have a symbol as such on our villa. 😇
Wow this is powerful thank you for sharing this beautiful talk. Really touched my heart :)
indeed...
David Wittchen
😍😘
Thank you for this beautiful story about love, whether in friendship or romantically. It's that kind of love that opens us up to the world rather than closing us off. Thank you for keeping Daniel's light alive in your speeches. He was an extraordinary person. Thank you!
I liked the speaker's way on how he told the story of Daniel and gave us a clear image about love
Beautiful story ! My greatest gift is to see the good in everyone & everything. I had a horrific illness & with my losses I lost my joy for quite awhile. This real story gave me a sense of pride I don't want to loss again.
Thank you!
Most chillingly beautiful story that I've heard
i used to believe in unconditional love. after my first serious boyfriend mistreated me repeatedly, i don't know that i can anymore. i kept loving him despite the terrible things he did to me, and in the end it nearly destroyed me. even though it's been years, and i'm over him, i'm still not really over how people can so severely mistreat people they supposedly love.
Darling you have to love yourself first before you can learn to love anyone, never let someone treat you disrespectfully or bad it starts with loving YOU! If you love yourself you will know to walk away from anyone who treats you bad because you stand your worth! take some time to love yourself then be open to meeting people and finding love when your ready best of luck 😊
Sandra Jefferson thank you for taking the time to write that positive message. i am currently going through a breakup, and what you say really resonates with me. i think in this last relationship, neither one of us loved ourselves enough, so we were inadvertently hurting each other because of our insecurities.
i really want to get to the point where i am totally confident in myself and my life. i just have no idea how to get there...
@Sydandtaytum no problem, I think you attract what you are, meaning if you have low self esteem you will be attracting man that will take advantage of you because they know they can walk all over you and you won't walk away, if you want to learn how to get confidence you have to start by getting to know yourself, date yourself first! I know that sound weird but that's what you have to do. Learn to love yourself by getting to know yourself and doing things you enjoy. Get hobbies, read books on confidence, learn to get out and enjoy your life without dating. When you are comfortable with loving your own company and being happy whether or not you have a man in your life then that's when you will have success in dating. You see you can't put your happiness in a person, because that person can walk away any time. You shouldn't seek happiness from outside, learn to make yourself happy first and not depend on someone to give you that. Also what has helped me is this website called baggageclaim.com it's a dating forum that helps you see more clearly the games some man play check it out Also watch this video on youtube called How to stay positive! Louise Hay How To Love Yourself 10 steps to loving yourself
It was very helpful for me. you can also read self help books on self esteem and confidence. You seem like such a great girl please don't hate yourself you are worth so much more then you know, best of luck and if you need more help please don't be afraid to go see a counsellor they can help you further. Good luck darling you can add me if you want someone to talk to. 😊😊
***** wow really good advice.
***** `thanks for that touching message. i hope i can love openly and without fear one day soon. i really appreciate the little bit of love you sent my way. i hope the universe repays you for your kindness.
That was one of the most profound stories I’ve ever heard. As a grown man, that brought me to tears
I honestly judged myself super hard for clicking on this video but then he said that Daniel died on February 7th. That's my birthday, I was meant to watch this.
Your a real sweetheart, thank you for existing:)
“The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love, and be loved in return”- nature boy by nat king cole
This was such a beautiful and moving speech. Thank you so much for sharing this touching story.
This made me cry like boohoo cry....it’s so beautiful and such a great message. A beautiful tribute to Daniel.
can't believe i only found this video now. i was bawling my eyes out as he talks about Daniel....
A very simple message and very well told, I came away from this considering how full of myself I am for the most part and that achieving only a small part of what's shared here is worth so much of charade I call love and loving. It is; simply a decision to love and it is; so much more about giving than taking, and most certainly applies to loving yourself as much as loving others, honestly X
What an amazing story! I cried and I felt extremely inspired. I'm also happy they ended up together in the end 😭😭😭💕
I used to be happy and would always make a effort to make others happy but I had many rough experiences especially when I moved to the US and now I am timid and scared. I would really love to be who I was before. This is a great message. I hope I will be able to put it to practice.
You can! I see your comment is 6 years old, I hope things have turned around for you and even if you didn't become who you were before I hope and pray you at least have found your new self and love your life! I hardened my heart because I felt everyone I did e everything I could for hurt me badly but guess what? The world needs people like us and yeah we got it the toughest but loving the world no matter what is one of the greatest gifts of all!
What Billy is saying really makes me understand what in doing wrong
We found many things unexpectedly. It can be love, good books, good lectures and lessons but they stay with us forever in anyway. The crazy thing is before the happening of these things we are unable to know the requirement of these.
this was soon beautiful! Inspirational love story and inspirational way of life!
Everything this speaker said about love is straight out of the Bible & the teachings of Jesus Christ, the Light of the World, the Lover of my soul.
Billy Ward's great. This is really a great talk. Thank you for posting. Most appreciated.