Push Your EX Away and YOU WILL NEVER lose them PERMANENTLY

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  • Опубликовано: 21 окт 2024

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  • @blacademic
    @blacademic  Год назад +9

    Book a 1 on 1 coaching session: calendly.com/breakupcoachtj

    • @reno69rdrr72
      @reno69rdrr72 Год назад

      I broke up with ex who I really love now I’m trying to get her back what should I do?

    • @diannalee5739
      @diannalee5739 16 дней назад

      My ex broke up with me for another girl I walked away without any argument it's had been a month now. last night with his new girlfriend I'm still trying to have a conversation with me. I told I hate him and I don't want to talk to u

  • @Erika-j8f
    @Erika-j8f 6 месяцев назад +65

    He is 100% correct. My ex broke up with me and I didn’t argue or chase. I left him alone and went on with life (went to the gym, out with friends etc) at almost week 3 he called me out of nowhere after telling me that he was done! Keep calm and go NC. Get your power back!

    • @johannesolofsson221
      @johannesolofsson221 3 месяца назад +3

      Done with what?

    • @nicolehageman5978
      @nicolehageman5978 Месяц назад +1

      What if you see them regularly at work?

    • @CatwalkPurz
      @CatwalkPurz Месяц назад

      @@nicolehageman5978 you treat them like any other co-worker. Be cordial and polite as you would anyone but be indifferent. He is. O longer relevant in any other capacity than a co-worker. 🤷🏻‍♀️🥹🤗

    • @ItsInnerBeauty
      @ItsInnerBeauty 14 дней назад

      Did you ignore him at first?
      Did you guys get back together?
      Details details

  • @FreeRepublic2024
    @FreeRepublic2024 Год назад +98

    Ultimately The ex, has to believe that you can change. They have to believe that, there's a future with you.

  • @skinner1790
    @skinner1790 11 месяцев назад +12

    just walk away and move on fuck it if they truly VALUED YOU they wouldn't leave in the first place

  • @shandi4868
    @shandi4868 7 месяцев назад +13

    Your value is not about the money you earn guys. Its about if you are a respectful person with a good heart and if you take good care of the girl you love

    • @creatureofstyle
      @creatureofstyle 7 месяцев назад +2

      Sooooo true! I honestly don't care how much money a guy makes as long as he has a job, works hard at it, respects me and others, and we're a team

    • @babydii3487
      @babydii3487 2 месяца назад +1

      Amen

  • @banelemvelase4842
    @banelemvelase4842 Год назад +120

    Moral of the story? For you: continue to work on yourself and enjoying your life everyday. For them: Your absence and inaccessibility makes the heart grow fonder.
    So continue doing what’s best for you and be patient if her return really matters to you. Stay strong and stay blessed King 👑

    • @stroNg2thaBoNe2thaMax
      @stroNg2thaBoNe2thaMax Год назад +7

      That's the problem, her return shouldn't matter to you because her return isn't guaranteed. She may not want you back. Then what are you going to do? You work on yourself and move on in life.

    • @saydiavila1_
      @saydiavila1_ Месяц назад

      True, so true and only time will tell you. It is okay to have little hope, and we will see it, eventually, we get tired and move with our lives. Sometimes we don’t even see those people again but until we’re truly healed we won’t be able to move pass that because our hurt is also emotionally and mentally and until we are truly really ready and wanting to move pass that previous relationship and want healing we will be able to be okay… until then it is okay to cry, it is okay to want to want them back, it is okay for the pain to be there. Is a process but nothing is impossible, moving forward slowly is better no progress at all and still be leaving in the past and dwelling in the past. It is okay to take our time and to cry when we feel like we need to

    • @saydiavila1_
      @saydiavila1_ Месяц назад

      And it is all’s okay to feel hate toward that person who hurt you and it is also okay to feel so many things, but at the end of that who needs peace and tranquility is ourselves, so yes healing is for ourselves not for the other

  • @patrik-vw4ek
    @patrik-vw4ek 9 месяцев назад +27

    Let them move onto their next victim.

  • @michaeltaylor9096
    @michaeltaylor9096 Год назад +47

    My ex pushed me away. By their actions. Over a period of time. SO I LEFT AND WENT NO CONTACT. My ex went crazy for a couple of weeks. In the beginning. My ex will hoover me every now and then. Also, If my ex sees in passing. I will get a call later. My ex is blocked. I was taken for granted. IM GOOD.

    • @anoopunnikrishan2771
      @anoopunnikrishan2771 Месяц назад +1

      What's the update

    • @michaeltaylor9096
      @michaeltaylor9096 Месяц назад

      @@anoopunnikrishan2771 I got a hoover my bday. A couple weeks ago! Kick Rocks

    • @Allanwere
      @Allanwere Месяц назад

      @@anoopunnikrishan2771 yes we need an update

  • @salparedo
    @salparedo Год назад +126

    Man I dont know if your vids are to get an ex back but you helped me move on and get my mojo back bro. I got no hard feeling towards the one who dumped me. Thats where you win in my personal opinion. It helped learn to love and respect myself and I just started developing myself with a clearer vision of what I need in my life. Did it hurt, damn right but suffer in healthful ways and build up to where you want to be in life.

    • @furahayamoyo9193
      @furahayamoyo9193 Год назад +5

      I wish I was strong like you ❤

    • @MikeGeeezyy
      @MikeGeeezyy 11 месяцев назад

      @@furahayamoyo9193So BECOME that person. Break ups are like fuel to your internal fire if you allow them to be. I haven’t had this type of energy, drive & optimism for what’s in front of me in a couple years! We have multiple choices of who we want to be each day. Make sure the person you’re being is the one that lights your 🔥

    • @CatwalkPurz
      @CatwalkPurz 9 месяцев назад

      THAT is what I was thinking 🤔- when I understood all of this from CoachBlac’s videos, it makes me DEFINITELY NOT want him back! 😅

    • @hollysworldtv5285
      @hollysworldtv5285 Месяц назад +1

      ​@@CatwalkPurzRight! 😂

    • @CatwalkPurz
      @CatwalkPurz Месяц назад

      @@hollysworldtv5285 🙌👏👏👏 I AM IN LOVE with the universe for removing him - I believed I would have died trying to make our marriage work.

  • @Misagonna88
    @Misagonna88 Год назад +48

    I’ve gone completely no contact with him after he dumped me. I only asked for my boundaries to be respected, and he couldn’t-hence the break up. Had a real wobble, but stayed true and will stay in no contact to heal myself. I’m pushing him away and I feel my detachment from him. I said goodbye by text and left it there. Nearly 3 weeks in, and I’m going to work on myself for the next 4 months. I will then be ready to date again.

  • @johnrambot
    @johnrambot Год назад +11

    This is 100% true! And the earlier you do this in the break up the faster, you will get them back

  • @freshtamadrid7
    @freshtamadrid7 Год назад +23

    Best video . Let him worry and regret it and don’t take him back lol

  • @TomAndrews91
    @TomAndrews91 Год назад +41

    I'm deleting her today off everything. It's been over three weeks and I've had enough. I never should have agreed to being friends. I hope she doesn't block me but I'll trust the process if she does. She's with someone else now. I suppose I'll see in time if I really mattered to her or not but I'm moving on and focusing on myself. Best of luck to everyone going through this.

    • @marcc4878
      @marcc4878 Год назад

      how is it going?

    • @TomAndrews91
      @TomAndrews91 Год назад

      @@marcc4878 Well... a lot happened. Firstly, I never ended up deleting her. She came back to me briefly for a week and then went back to the same guy. I sent her a couple of messages and went no contact for nearly three months. Something out of our control made us contact each other again recently and now I'm starting no contact again. We are still good friends, but she is with the same guy and happy. I have started speaking to someone else and hoping it leads somewhere. I still have feelings for her, but it feels like I can definitely try and move on now.

    • @reyelleamilton
      @reyelleamilton 6 месяцев назад

      Did everything work out for you?

    • @TomAndrews91
      @TomAndrews91 6 месяцев назад +7

      @@reyelleamiltonWe stayed in contact for a while. For a year actually. She would reach out now and then but it was messing me up mentally. I finally did delete her (but didn't block) a couple of months ago. I'm pretty sure she is still with the other guy but I'm trying to move forward. I still miss her sometimes but it is what it is.

    • @TomAndrews91
      @TomAndrews91 6 месяцев назад

      @@marcc4878See my previous reply.

  • @robertbaird5247
    @robertbaird5247 4 месяца назад +8

    Mine came back after 5 months gone and 5 weeks of no contract. Tried to crew me out for not calling her. She did zero work on herself. This and several other problems she's refusing to address has made any sort of rebuild with a no. I'm worth far more than she's giving me.

    • @belarte7063
      @belarte7063 Месяц назад

      Dont sell Yourself cheap !!!...

  • @mv3325
    @mv3325 10 месяцев назад +127

    If you’re a dude. Get rich. Get ripped. 99% no matter what your ex will always come back regardless if she’s in a relationship or not.

    • @nieczerwony
      @nieczerwony 8 месяцев назад +33

      I agree, but I would add few things. First: disappear from her radar and her family and common friends radar. Then reveal yourself when you set and ready.
      Don't badmouth her (killem with kindness), and don't have a grudge with her family. Be nice to them.
      When you see her smile, be positive and THANKS her.
      It worked for me, but never wanted her back. 😅

    • @vernondelancy6281
      @vernondelancy6281 8 месяцев назад +3

      I approve this message

    • @vernondelancy6281
      @vernondelancy6281 8 месяцев назад +1

      I approve this message

    • @Sevoflurane2014
      @Sevoflurane2014 7 месяцев назад +6

      Not true. I'm ripped and have 6 fig income.... My ex left me and rebounded with a low value man on every level compared to me..... 32 and still lives with mom and dad, no degree, shit job, bald, skinny, not as good looking as me, etc. She has been with him for 3 months now and talks of getting engaged soon. I make 7x this guy at least.

    • @Croy617
      @Croy617 7 месяцев назад +6

      @@Sevoflurane2014rebound guy, she’s already talking about getting engaged?!? Yeah pal, she’s comparing you, it’s called honeymoon. She’ll be back, just do you, don’t beg or plead. Be you my friend and you’ll be better for you or the next girl

  • @invisibleevidence1970
    @invisibleevidence1970 Год назад +53

    i had a bit of urge to reach out to my ex today , this video is a blessing .

    • @annageorgakopoulou2664
      @annageorgakopoulou2664 Год назад +9

      Same but I wont do it 😢

    • @invisibleevidence1970
      @invisibleevidence1970 Год назад

      @@annageorgakopoulou2664 i am over her and met someone much better.
      trust me if u think she is the perfect person you'd be mistaken

  • @kishageorge7788
    @kishageorge7788 Год назад +13

    This is one of the best relationships coach on RUclips. My partner broke up with me disappeared for a month. It was pretty touch now my partner is the one chasing me. I have all the power now. He realised the grass isn’t greener on the other side.

    • @xannecorinnex
      @xannecorinnex 9 месяцев назад +2

      How long were you NC until he chased after you?

    • @belarte7063
      @belarte7063 Месяц назад

      yessssss !!!!!!!!!!! this guy is gold

  • @abbybritish
    @abbybritish Год назад +31

    Forget about my ex I’ll date coach blac 😍😆

  • @uprightman100
    @uprightman100 Год назад +36

    The hard truth Coach BLAC ...Have a woman in my life that I know made a hasty decision. That is being stubborn trying to save face. .I chased her for 2 months after she broke up with me..,.I've been in no contact since January. It was hard at first. Now I feel like myself again. Got my power back. Know that you ARE a king or queen. Seed ,time, and harvest. I'm going through this with a new woman now. I went through this 5 years ago with my ex-wife... I went no contact and after 2 or 3 months she was begging me to come back. Know that they will come back IF they TRULY LOVE YOU. So be patient. Coach BLAC Thank you. Great info. Extremely Encouraging.

    • @yaab8250
      @yaab8250 7 месяцев назад +3

      It depends, I broke up with my ex because he had no respect and took me for granted so I had no choice but to end it so for me even if he was practicing all these steps on me I would not want him back as Ive rebuilt back my self worth and can't jeopardize it again just because I love him.

    • @Trex7124
      @Trex7124 3 месяца назад

      I walked away from him, dated someone but it didnt work out. Now he is dating someone else. I took back my dignity. (He never apologized for any of the hurt he caused)

  • @jeaneengant6771
    @jeaneengant6771 Год назад +23

    I’ve listened to your videos the last past 4 months since our breakup.. they most definitely helped me in my breakup.. We are now communicating and dating again.. however he stats he don’t want to be in a committed relationship right now.. he have demons he need to work on and seeing his therapist again.. so yup I’ll be dating others 😊

    • @diidilara8475
      @diidilara8475 Год назад +1

      good don’t stay then. itll make things worse.

    • @jeaneengant6771
      @jeaneengant6771 Год назад +2

      @@diidilara8475 indeed.. That's why I decided not to see him.. I realized I have to let go..

  • @creativeoxtailsandmorecate8500
    @creativeoxtailsandmorecate8500 6 месяцев назад +7

    I have been in no contact for about a month with my husband. He finally called asking if I was gonna still do his taxes 🤣🤣 Just wanted to hear my voice lol

  • @lt9717
    @lt9717 11 месяцев назад +4

    Your video has been helping me through my breakup

  • @Binteh
    @Binteh 3 месяца назад +2

    He's broke up with and then removed himself from my social media - I know he did it because after the break up he kept checking my social media to see how I am doing and it was hurting him to see that I just acted like "nothing happened" and then he got angry that I was ignoring him even though he's the one that broke up with me. I've been in no contact thanks to you and other videos who have pushed me to focus on myself and on healing - and this has definitely given me my power back. I cannot tell you how much of a blessing this has been, because my coping mechanism had previously been "Find someone else". but now I'm concentrating on myself and not worrying how he's doing, because I know that he knows he was an idiot for letting go of me in the first place. I'm making new friends and treating myself right, if he wasn't willing. THANK YOU.

  • @macijust6012
    @macijust6012 Год назад +24

    Great advice I tried the no contact within three days she called me twice, once in the morning and the other at 4. I know she loves me but she needs to work on herself, but at the same time I work on me. She knows it. We will be fine but the break is what was needed and I am glad she broke up with me . Stay strong guys and pray and make yourself better regardless

  • @awhittmusic7888
    @awhittmusic7888 Год назад +39

    Your videos have been astounding advice, my man. I'm currently dealing with a breakup and afterwards I was buying her things, planning romantic dates, flowers, etc. etc. etc... She ended up pushing me away.
    Now I am currently taking your advice from this video and it's working. No matter what, I STAY CONFIDENT and keep my emotions in check, making her realize that I am perfectly fine without her. Even if I have a bad day or upset, I keep myself balanced and CONFIDENT. Don't show her any emotions.
    Now, She's the one texting or calling me now, because she sees my progress and happiness. It's that power shift! Even if things don't rekindle, my self-love and work will be loved by someone else.
    Thank you again, my man. I love your videos.
    Stay strong, level-headed, and resilient my people!!

    • @brendajames586
      @brendajames586 Год назад +4

      I love this for you

    • @RobertNephew
      @RobertNephew 6 месяцев назад +1

      I wish I could love myself as everyone here does. I'm feeling like a great pretender pretending to everyone I'm fine while I'm broken inside. I'm "moving on" with my life doing the things I was already doing. Kept studying and working. Just doing NC to see if she'll see that I'm her soulmate. I'm improving myself and hoping for her to realize I'm the one

  • @alyyankee3651
    @alyyankee3651 2 месяца назад +2

    He broke up with me and claimed it was due to financial struggles and pondering the posibility of moving to another state where its cheaper. He wanted to remain friends so for 1 week after the break up he still texted me everyday . I told him I didnt want to be friends and if he truly loved me he would want to stay with me no matter what. He then told me “find someone better, have a good life and goodbye “ then he proceeded to block me everywhere ! I miss him and its been 1 month without contacting him and I am still blocked 😢

  • @jeffreykim8416
    @jeffreykim8416 9 месяцев назад +2

    I have a pretty high success rate when going no contact. This is the first time I’ve gone no contact and haven’t heard back. Her ex bf crawled after her writing multi page letters to her while me and her were together and she has gone back to him. Time will tell but I have a feeling she will come crawling back. 99% of it is how high you build the walls at breakup. Stay strong and battle on!

  • @fitforfreelance
    @fitforfreelance Год назад +11

    Focus on becoming your best self 💯

  • @umeshshetty3834
    @umeshshetty3834 Год назад +45

    Sir, god bless you always. What you have said is the hard truth which people madly in love find difficult to understand and accept. When the separation or breakup happens, we have already lost the person. So when we walk away, we take the power back and put the ball in their court. If they love you, they will come back or else the loss has already happened. So we should accept it and move on. Thank you so much for making me understand and feel better during this shit time.

  • @NewyJon7787
    @NewyJon7787 6 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you man, Just what i needed to hear after 9 days NC. My ex is trying to bait me via her insta stories, so my silence is probably killing her inside by now.

  • @Saltandrpgs
    @Saltandrpgs Год назад +21

    What if you are the one who walked away from all of the disrespect? I broke up with someone and it’s been so so difficult, but I needed to walk away. For my own sanity and self respect. I was being played and that sucked. They treated me like shit, like I was an option. Hence me walking away. I understand the power dynamics and what you were saying. It’s funny I brought it up so many times but I quickly realised I really don’t need that noise in my mind. I value myself so much and I’m working on improving myself. They will remain blocked. No contact.

    • @ntandokazimanqele9462
      @ntandokazimanqele9462 Год назад +2

      Good for you!!!!

    • @Saltandrpgs
      @Saltandrpgs Год назад +5

      @@ntandokazimanqele9462 it’s been 3 weeks now and honestly, I’m feeling a lot lighter as I’ve made peace with everything. I’ve turned inward and doing what coach has suggested, working on myself for myself.

    • @babsfohsho616
      @babsfohsho616 Год назад

      Really love this ❤

    • @babsfohsho616
      @babsfohsho616 Год назад

      Really love this ❤

    • @adigoattah8922
      @adigoattah8922 Год назад +6

      Exactly my story. It gets better with each passing day. Always know your worth. I was not being valued and he became cold and distant so i took a walk. I know he found someone else. Anyway its his loss.

  • @Lsds0581.
    @Lsds0581. 8 месяцев назад +1

    Best coach I ever heard. Your channel is under rated. You are basically talking about "letting go" the core spirituality of the law of attraction.

  • @DrZia-ri4pf
    @DrZia-ri4pf 11 месяцев назад +2

    Brothers! Don’t read the same book twice. Every time i broke up I got someone better

  • @fabmack1961
    @fabmack1961 Год назад +5

    What a beautiful Soul this Man is, the best coach on YT.

  • @gamemixerslol344
    @gamemixerslol344 Год назад +2

    Coach deserve an Oscar for his Job

  • @askamadyan2139
    @askamadyan2139 Год назад +9

    I actual once walked away from a girl after she wanted a break up only to call me few days later and accused me of not fighting for the relationship

    • @seenitalready
      @seenitalready Год назад +2

      Childish asl - Was probably upset because you weren’t & tried to get u

    • @dimitriwhite9150
      @dimitriwhite9150 Год назад +1

      This happened to me so many times!! 😅 chill move on shell come back!

    • @Ericgodisgood
      @Ericgodisgood Год назад +2

      I wish a had a girl like that she loyal

    • @akasickform
      @akasickform 9 месяцев назад

      She sounds immature and insecure AF

  • @margretdawson1011
    @margretdawson1011 Год назад +13

    Hey coach if they not good to u or even for themselves you need to get rid of them for good I love your sessions and I know pple can heal from what u say so God bless you bro!....

  • @bitshous
    @bitshous Год назад +5

    Its kind of happening the same she is in the point of liking and reacting to my post. And no reaction from me. Keep strong on no contact people.

    • @blacademic
      @blacademic  Год назад +1

      Awesome ! Keep going 🤞🏿

  • @hansjusmeus5023
    @hansjusmeus5023 11 месяцев назад +4

    I followed your steps and it work like a charm , she turned back around unblock me and invite to have lunch

    • @Freudster21
      @Freudster21 4 месяца назад

      How long did it take?

    • @hansjusmeus5023
      @hansjusmeus5023 4 месяца назад

      @@Freudster211 month and 2 weeks

    • @Freudster21
      @Freudster21 4 месяца назад

      @@hansjusmeus5023 You went no contact the whole time? I’m at about 2 weeks and just still in the shock phase, came out of nowhere, everything seemed very fine.

  • @nylaspeaks7272
    @nylaspeaks7272 4 месяца назад +2

    My ex just broke up with me and already throwing breadcrumbs after one day...sending money through Zelle...so of course I texted what it was for....he said it was for lunch and I care about your well being...I am like dude you broke my heart and I really don't want anything from you right now...however ,I just responded thank you...although I still love him, but when he dumped me my love is dwindling. I am very annoyed and confused...I know most people will be happy with this gesture but I'm like wth...

  • @linalina22277
    @linalina22277 Год назад +8

    I like listening to you coach,You helped me with my break up but now I do believe my ex is not coming back to work on us. Today marks 6 months that we have broken up sometimes he would text me on Holidays and sometimes he will text to check up to see how I’m doing but he hasn’t made an more attempts to meet up so we can talk. I really believe our 9 year relationship his history now. I do hurt inside still but I know now I that must walk away forever and let him go 😢 no matter how much I miss him and want him back 😢😢😢😢

    • @diidilara8475
      @diidilara8475 Год назад +3

      do no contact for yourself, not to hope they are coming back or as a strategy. they will feel you’re still needy of them once you do talk because you’ll quickly go back to weak behaviours again

    • @creatureofstyle
      @creatureofstyle 7 месяцев назад +1

      How were you responding? I was in your ex's shoes last year and whenever I reached out I would get either silence or 1 short response and nothing more, it never developed into an actual conversation so I finally just assumed he was not interested in getting back together and I gave up

  • @rosalindclemons4529
    @rosalindclemons4529 Год назад +9

    I think this is great information. I'm going to work on being strong enough to do this. I feel like i allowed him to bring down my self esteem but in reality i allowed it to happen to myself. I should've ended it a long long time ago but instead i just kept forgiving and moving forward

    • @brendajames586
      @brendajames586 Год назад

      Me too

    • @НатальяБ-й5х
      @НатальяБ-й5х 11 месяцев назад

      Same

    • @jumpedintheriverwhatdidise5499
      @jumpedintheriverwhatdidise5499 11 месяцев назад +3

      Me too. I often find being a kind and understanding partner has been my downfall and I end up getting taken advantage of for far too long before i finally break and walk away. Am in no contact now and if they tried to reach out I'm pretty confident I wouldn't give then the time of day anymore

  • @Mary-pt8jm
    @Mary-pt8jm Год назад +6

    I was able to do the no contact for 1 week but I ended up texting him yesterday 😢 I regret doing that. He was so blunt with his words. I’m going to try and do this forever until he reach out to me and when he does I’ll still continue until I feel comfortable talking to him again

    • @bristenatertan122
      @bristenatertan122 Год назад

      Hi. Could you tell me what happened after? Did he contact you?

  • @akatukwasaaloysious3441
    @akatukwasaaloysious3441 Год назад +4

    We broke up recently (28/6/2023) and haven't called her since then and neither has she. We had been together for 3 years but she gave reasons that she's tired of me wronging her the same way through my words that according to her always leave her feeling belittled and disrespected. I only discovered your channel recently but it's really giving me the motivation to keep hopeful that I might get back with her or move on gracefully. This is not the first time we've broken up though.Its like the third time

    • @KindTiffany
      @KindTiffany 9 месяцев назад +1

      If you belittle her you don't deserve her, especially if she keeps breaking up with you about it, but you continue belittling her after getting her back. I hope she chose herself this time. Do better sir.

  • @ChadIndianOfficial
    @ChadIndianOfficial Год назад +10

    How would this work in a long distance relationship? Especially when our lives are completely different.

  • @misst3116
    @misst3116 Год назад +3

    I was weak this passed weekend but i decided to go no contact and now he’s calling me…I have my phone on do not disturb so it creates more of a mystery instead of the phone to continue to ring. What if he comes knocking at my door? Last time I didn’t answer it. Thank you for your videos… your helping me find my strength I always had but was afraid to use it. Thank you

  • @ericcoffey4563
    @ericcoffey4563 Год назад +13

    It’s amazing how some of the videos you have are so spot on!!!!! Keep up the great work!

  • @Ihaveeverything90
    @Ihaveeverything90 Год назад +2

    We are on a break right now with no contact. Other than the dog we share and to get some of my stuff. I have not moved out yet completely as this happened 3 days ago. He has taken me for granted. I heard he was miserable and crying non stop. He didn’t realize how I would react so differently. He did not like it. I was short with my text and to the point. I have not asked how he is doing. I am giving us space. I don’t plan to text him anytime soon unless it is something about our dog. I have been staying at a friends right now until things are figured out. I not going to beg for him to change his mind. I know he will be running back I just don’t know how I would feel. I believe I am doing it right. If he does change his mind I will not be running back to him he has to work for it.

  • @scottgilliam9970
    @scottgilliam9970 Год назад +7

    You are awesome!!! This the best talk to date getting your ex back! Thanks so much!!!

  • @felicityayala1624
    @felicityayala1624 Год назад +1

    1.5 months of partial no contact. We would contact each other here and there and told I text her to meet up to fix things and she basically said there was no point in meeting up to fix things I simply reply to this with a okay and deleted the text message thread. Usually I’ll feel regret after I texted her but I didn’t feel that this time I feel like I tried to find a resolution between us but she didn’t want it or care for it. But after that I can officially say I am moving on I know it’s not going to be a easy journey but I’m optimistic about my future ahead of me I know there are happier days ahead of me. God bless anyone else going through the same thing or something similar as well ❤️

  • @carlosperez3738
    @carlosperez3738 Год назад +9

    I've been with her for 13 months. Everything was great. Family get togethers, her and I on vacation, me accepting she has a toddler, I covered all 5"Love Languages." 2 months ago she says we don't connect emotionally. I was dumbfounded. Contacted her 3 times since and she can't tell me yes or no if we'll get back together. Now I'm blocked on social media and the last text was "Happy Easter" and no response. It's been 2 weeks of NC from me.

    • @Mr_Crypt
      @Mr_Crypt Год назад

      We're basically on the same page. My first ever relationship, of almost 4 months, which was toxic due to my BPD, ended because she couldn't take me anymore. She lost feelings. I begged for her to stay but instead got with another guy a day after as a rebound relationship. I begged for her to stay, to no avail. I sent her paragraphs upon paragraphs of love, but at the end, got blocked on everything and was told to move on and that she's moved on. It's day 2 of no contact for me.

    • @DiscLaddie
      @DiscLaddie Год назад +5

      Take it as a very important lesson and never reach out to them again. Your future self will be very grateful.

    • @michaeltolleson2640
      @michaeltolleson2640 11 месяцев назад

      Man, I was about to buy a house...Oooooweee, I'm glad I didn't....She wanted to move in her mom and adult daughters....Hey, Ex....Thanks for the breakup ...You saved me Money and from a bad credit score

  • @kevinumanzor-co5dn
    @kevinumanzor-co5dn 5 месяцев назад

    This man is the goat. 2weeks nc hurts but o hope one day…. Or maybe in another life huh?

  • @Dera_Designs
    @Dera_Designs Год назад +22

    Coach your the best 💯... I really love your words of encouragement 👌🏿

  • @LILPATHEPRINCETV
    @LILPATHEPRINCETV Год назад +1

    Ur channel is dope bro 👏

  • @Layla-hg4ux
    @Layla-hg4ux Год назад

    This popped up because I watched your videos a lot a few weeks bcos I went on NC when he "walked away" out of manipulation. He came back 6 weeks later but nothing much changed with him. Probably came back out of ego, I saw his shit game so now I walked away in silence and blocked him!
    So who cares about ex coming back, no good intention when they come back!

  • @stroNg2thaBoNe2thaMax
    @stroNg2thaBoNe2thaMax Год назад +9

    I left him almost 2 years ago and I DON'T want him back. I would NEVER want him back no matter what he does or how much he's changed. I say this because this is the reality of some of your breakups. It's how the other person feels, and yet you are here looking for ways to get them back. MOVE ON.

    • @prmpatti
      @prmpatti 8 месяцев назад

      Will you say the same thing when YOUR ass gets dumped?

    • @Swiss_Girl
      @Swiss_Girl 6 месяцев назад +6

      so why are you watching this video then?😂

    • @darksideofthebright4284
      @darksideofthebright4284 3 месяца назад +1

      Your words may implies that there's still some affection, maybe feeling deep down, that has not been forgotten. You seem angry or frustrated, people who moved on and dealt with the past don't speak about it, at least accept it. I'm not challenging you, yet reading what you said gave me the impression of missing someone. Hope you're ok and trying to live on. Good luck

  • @hope223an
    @hope223an Год назад +4

    Does this work with fearful avoidants though?

  • @krissyk0126
    @krissyk0126 Год назад +17

    Excellent advice and well said!

  • @saydiavila1_
    @saydiavila1_ Месяц назад

    I just pray to God and tell him what I’m feeling and thoughts… God knows better and he has greater for me! It might hurt right now and it might seem unclear but Gods plans are bigger than mine and what he has for me is better, far beyond my expectations 🙏😊 I know my ex will regret it because I have no doubt of who I am. Yea right now he may be enjoy his “life” and thinking probably how much better his doing ( and maybe he is who knows 💁‍♀️) but at the end of the day they will remember you whether if it’s a little bit they will remember you 💜

  • @ryumura6615
    @ryumura6615 Год назад +3

    I broke no contact after 3 weeks and asked her if she wanna be with me and she said she needs time and isn't interested for now I blocked her and am over her now can't stay with someone who doesn't respect you

  • @2aenthusiastshallnotbeinfr273
    @2aenthusiastshallnotbeinfr273 Год назад +4

    Bro! My ex's broke up with me, so my own listed rules are simple and I live by those Rules. I never look back!, it's always a One Way Street they can't just turn around and head back, it's either they way past it or not to pass. Because I don't play games with women, I never cheated on them I've been so faithful to all of my Ex girlfriends I showed it to them. I got 10 ex girlfriends now 6 of them are bugging me, bothering me, my stupid relatives keeps giving them information about me. They broke up with me and now they want to come back to my life? They already dumped me in the first place, why come back? What the hell for? What's the point? I am Hard but I am Fair and I'm with a new girl now. It's not gonna be fair with my new girl now IF I'm gonna dump her just to get back with one of my ex's. So I'm confused bro! I don't love them anymore I don't have feelings for them either and they want to comeback? Is this some kind of silly games that women are playing?? Because I don't play that games and I'm a serious guy, I takes everything very seriously. All of my Ex Girlfriends asked for a break up, I had given it to them peacefully, no arguments, I accepted it, dealt with it and moved forward and got a new girl, now IF I'm my new girl does the same thing then she will end up like my other Ex girlfriends. I don't play. It's always a One Way Ticket.

  • @JuliusSP1
    @JuliusSP1 Год назад +3

    Why would you even want that person.

  • @selfmade8238
    @selfmade8238 Год назад +5

    Coach great video and your right absent makes the heart grow fonder

  • @spectrumcityfx
    @spectrumcityfx Год назад +2

    Best Coach ever ❤❤❤❤

  • @themreroc1
    @themreroc1 7 дней назад

    Bruh you help me in so many ways i feel like i owe you money lol

  • @nieczerwony
    @nieczerwony 8 месяцев назад

    Man off the topic: what's your jacket? I used to have similar and was wrecked and I can't find similar anywhere😢

  • @vernondelancy6281
    @vernondelancy6281 8 месяцев назад

    I approve this message

  • @libragirl1991
    @libragirl1991 8 месяцев назад +1

    If your ex breaks up with you and you go no contact, can i reach out after a few weeks or just continue with no contact, my ex is so stubborn and doesnt open up emotionally. I dont think he will reach out to me

  • @itamar3800
    @itamar3800 4 месяца назад

    you are the goat fr

  • @shivatecs
    @shivatecs Год назад +11

    Thank you coach, you're the man. I enjoy your unique touch on these popular and effective techniques.

  • @dpwood420
    @dpwood420 Год назад +6

    My Ex and I broke up a year ago, we were together 15yrs. Have a 13yr old daughter. She got into a relationship basically the day after she left. They broke up last week and now she's coming around again. We went out and had drinks one night, she told me all kinda shit, still loves me, kept flirting, she kissed me a couple times, passionately made out with me. Well last night she asked if I wanted to get dinner, stupid me fell for the shit. We talked about all kinda things. She's all messed about up her break up. I told her I can't be friends her that it's not healthy for either or us. Well she just texted me saying, I'm sorry I hurt you so bad that we can't be friends. I'm so F'n confused I don't know if she playing mind games, or what. I don't know what to do.

    • @christophergranados2682
      @christophergranados2682 Год назад

      I was going through such situation but a friend told me about a man on RUclips who helped him out, so I tried him out and hopefully it worked and we are about to marry.
      Check out his RUclips channel on @Dr Smith Reunion

    • @surasmitameher
      @surasmitameher Год назад +2

      Don't let people rreat you that way just because you love them. Love yourself more. It's so difficult for you, I can't even fathom but that lady needs to realise the consequences of her deeds.😊

  • @hisodesu1
    @hisodesu1 Год назад +1

    It doesn’t seem to work. They just seem to move on with some other guy they can use for their new needs. Your no longer needed that they once cherished. It’s very strange. I can’t work it out. Nothing seems to be enough.

  • @TheofficialAtishaReliford
    @TheofficialAtishaReliford 8 месяцев назад

    Your assessment is on point.👌🏽

  • @vitek924
    @vitek924 6 месяцев назад +1

    Hello, I am following all your videos, thank you for so much knowledge! Can this also apply to divorce couples? I just got divorce, I still in love of my ex wife, she is a narcissist unfortunately, big ego and she told me there is no possibilities to be back, but she wanted to be friend, we went out few times after the divorce, but all she does is hurt me, so i told her we no longer are friends, she blocked me and changed her phone number, she went on extreme, what do you recommend me to do? I did email her few times but I will stop emailing her, and see if she has some kind of interest after weeks or even months.

  • @ymnonlawyerservices8414
    @ymnonlawyerservices8414 Год назад +2

    I have 3 weeks going no contact blocking him everywhere but he reach outs every week by email or thru another acct. I feel he just want to make sure that am still available until he realize the grass is not greener on the other side. I just file for divorce i am done, cheater do not change

  • @ritapeters1330
    @ritapeters1330 Месяц назад

    You are a very good coach Bac, thank you for your knowledge ❤

  • @Demtacos4life
    @Demtacos4life Год назад +1

    My unborn child’s father left the day of my sonogram. I caught him hiding posts & stories on fb & ig. He was flirting w/women and talking to his ex. She wanted to be with him and he hide it from me. I later found out he was looking at naked women online in my home. Talked to him a week ago after 40 days no contact. He’s still lying. I ignored 2 texts and 1 call. I was overwhelmed with his lies. He hasn’t reached out again after 5 days. I do love him and want him back especially for our unborn son. But, not at the cost of my self respect. What do I do?

  • @Rare-Lashelle
    @Rare-Lashelle Год назад +7

    Love your channel ❤ thank you Coach

  • @trishfarber7313
    @trishfarber7313 5 месяцев назад

    Love ur videos. Your content and delivery is spot on

  • @richmorelli5950
    @richmorelli5950 Год назад +1

    Great video, thanks!
    Liked and subscribed

  • @johnrevelation37
    @johnrevelation37 Год назад

    Brother, you just keep saying it straight. Time made me realize what you been sayin.

  • @ChrisMonaco2024
    @ChrisMonaco2024 Год назад +1

    You're right, Coach Blac

  • @danasmith8390
    @danasmith8390 Год назад +1

    I look forward to your content every day

  • @niecegreen9359
    @niecegreen9359 Год назад +3

    My ex got a girlfriend 2 weeks after our breakup. I don't see her coming back!

    • @akasickform
      @akasickform 9 месяцев назад +2

      When that burns out, which it will, they'll be back..
      Just make sure that you grow enough before they do so that you can take your power back and teach them that they should have respected you in the first place

  • @Aquascape000
    @Aquascape000 Год назад +4

    Ppl are disgusting with these powerplays. Are there no nornal.ppl.left?

  • @HarrietTembo-l8x
    @HarrietTembo-l8x Год назад +1

    Hi coach, what if your ex is busy watching your stories on WhatsApp, does it mean that he just likes stalking you?

  • @LukeShowBiz
    @LukeShowBiz 9 месяцев назад

    Thanks for all this tips bro 👍👍💯

  • @lastman8090
    @lastman8090 Год назад +1

    Thankyou for your support, greetings from Turkey🎉

  • @Orangesoda87-q6z
    @Orangesoda87-q6z Год назад +1

    Can you please do a video on third party situations 🙏🏽
    I unfortunately am part of a 3rd party 😢

  • @gregmoser4874
    @gregmoser4874 9 месяцев назад

    Perfectly said

  • @VibinWithVeto
    @VibinWithVeto Год назад +1

    What if they never unfollowed you, or blocked you? What if the ex stated she wants to come back to the relationship “whole” and it was just wrong timing? What if she’s talking to someone but thinks you don’t know? What do you do ? Will this work?

    • @mht4908
      @mht4908 11 месяцев назад +1

      First of all don’t ever take their word to heart. Go on with your life with no expectation to ever hear from them again, there are so many occasions where they say it’s not the right time but end up with someone else weeks later. My ex broke up with me a month ago, I’ve said my peace today and I’m now ready to move on with my life

  • @darkchthonian856
    @darkchthonian856 Год назад +5

    I pushed my ex away while we talked the last night that we did. I wont even say her name anymore, I used to however, I made a pact with myself if i say her name i have to do 40 push ups on top of what i do already. I havent said her name because doing over 100 push ups a day in sets only adding to that with more push ups I'll be over doing it which will do harm rather then benefit what I'm doing.
    I am concentrating on my new relationship that I have and have been in for a good few months now, so I dont have time or energy to dwell on my ex there's no reason to.

    • @matthewcollins3204
      @matthewcollins3204 Год назад +4

      Be careful. If you're still in a place of pain and healing from the past, you won't be able to meet the needs of your new partner, and things will inevitably break down.

    • @darkchthonian856
      @darkchthonian856 Год назад

      @@matthewcollins3204 I already did my healing and fixed myself, when my ex and i broke up it was August of last year, so I had about a good three to four months of healing. Because i didnt get with my new girlfriend til the end of January which was almost five months after the break up

    • @roseluz1765
      @roseluz1765 Год назад +1

      I was going to say the same thing …. if your ex didn’t matter, why even bring her up, .. I hope you’re not on the rebound, if so, not fair to your new partner, .. all the best .

  • @aryansarvian3045
    @aryansarvian3045 Месяц назад

    I cut it. She pulled me back in to reconcile, only to break up 1 month later and get the upper hand. I accepted it on the spot. First words were "Well. I'm not gonna try to convince you to stay"
    3-4 weeks, firm no contact. I'm now getting calls from a random number. Girls voice in the distance saying "Hi". And hangs up.
    100% it's her checking in. I have zero inclination to get back together

  • @juanarawal9790
    @juanarawal9790 Год назад +2

    Hey Coach I watch your videos don't miss on any of them...I adhere to what you say ..with the change in pattern he is mellow down a bit ..but I adhere to what you say in your video

  • @andrewssmith3700
    @andrewssmith3700 Год назад +3

    Thanks coach blac

  • @ciarashular1107
    @ciarashular1107 Год назад +1

    But what if my ex is the possible father of my child? I want him back because I still love him and miss him but he still feels he is “ in power” but denys the child is his. I was in no contact and now he reached out last night just to tell me he is not the father, and ask who the other guy is ( other possible father), who im having sex with and why then asks me for sex💀. We talked for a bit but im going back into no contact cause I feel under valued. But I want him in me and my baby’s life.

  • @ahamlee1203
    @ahamlee1203 Год назад +1

    What if she continues to make contact? Is it ok that I’ve blocked her on social media? When the time is truly right she should know how to get ahold of me.

  • @geenethuli8744
    @geenethuli8744 5 месяцев назад

    Absolutely great video couch.... Thank you very much.

  • @ThongNguyen-ro9ul
    @ThongNguyen-ro9ul Год назад +1

    After the breakup, i was begging for days when to her house meet her mom and cry and she said she hate me now, the reason for breakup is she lose feeling. Will no contact work. Still feel like she the one i should fight for

  • @Tluv_1955
    @Tluv_1955 8 месяцев назад

    Omg love this advice 🙏