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I have been working as a teacher and I have to say that it was manageable. Working cooking and cleaning. There is only so much mess 2 adults who are working can make. And I always cooked enough for 2 days. However, now that I have kids it is definitely not manageable without feeling absolutely exhausted. So I have decided to quit. It’s important to remember that your primary role is a wife and mother and make sure that work if (any) is never taking most of your time. I do understand that depending on your husband for many of us is scary however, our provision is with Allah. Make sure you also trust your husband, otherwise this won’t work. My most important advice is to study the deen in the aspects that relate to us. For a man, how to be a good father and husband for a woman what it means to be a good wife and mother. This will align your ideas and also help educate the reasons as to WHY
I totally agree sis, before I had kids I worked a job, cooked and cleaned. It takes organisation but is definitely possible. However it becomes more difficult once kids are in the picture.
It's extremely draining and exhausting working as a woman let alone being a wife and mum. May Allah make it easy for all the working women and grant us a healthy masculine man
In my own experience I need to get married to keep my femininity. Personally tired of working and providing for myself and the family not having a chance to live a slow and feminine life. I still want an education and maybe even a small business but more so to have a plan for an income in case of divorce or my husband returning to Allah. So I guess these are things different for everyone especially when you’re in the west.
I think all this is valid but as a woman a man doing household chores doesn’t make most women less attracted to their husband. Probably a part time job for the wife would be a much easier choice rather than no job cause it will be harder to come to an agreement or they can see how to hire a maid and contribute to that payment if it’s too expensive and how to negotiate on the cooking. But just a thought this problems get complex depending on the couple’s personality
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I have been working as a teacher and I have to say that it was manageable. Working cooking and cleaning. There is only so much mess 2 adults who are working can make. And I always cooked enough for 2 days. However, now that I have kids it is definitely not manageable without feeling absolutely exhausted. So I have decided to quit. It’s important to remember that your primary role is a wife and mother and make sure that work if (any) is never taking most of your time. I do understand that depending on your husband for many of us is scary however, our provision is with Allah. Make sure you also trust your husband, otherwise this won’t work.
My most important advice is to study the deen in the aspects that relate to us. For a man, how to be a good father and husband for a woman what it means to be a good wife and mother. This will align your ideas and also help educate the reasons as to WHY
I totally agree sis, before I had kids I worked a job, cooked and cleaned. It takes organisation but is definitely possible.
However it becomes more difficult once kids are in the picture.
how come people don't discuss those things before marriage ?
What might seem obvious to someone isn’t obvious to another unfortunately
Exactly state clearly from the beginning your non negotiable. Be honest. Don't pretend to be what you are not
It's extremely draining and exhausting working as a woman let alone being a wife and mum. May Allah make it easy for all the working women and grant us a healthy masculine man
Short, sweet and simple! Great Vid 💯
In my own experience I need to get married to keep my femininity. Personally tired of working and providing for myself and the family not having a chance to live a slow and feminine life. I still want an education and maybe even a small business but more so to have a plan for an income in case of divorce or my husband returning to Allah. So I guess these are things different for everyone especially when you’re in the west.
That’s an interesting perspective and you’re right, marriage does allow you to be feminine. Thank you for sharing
@ Thank u akhi. And if u know anyone who is looking for a spouse for marriage, I am interested in sha Allah. For instance I’m almost 21 years old.
I think all this is valid but as a woman a man doing household chores doesn’t make most women less attracted to their husband. Probably a part time job for the wife would be a much easier choice rather than no job cause it will be harder to come to an agreement or they can see how to hire a maid and contribute to that payment if it’s too expensive and how to negotiate on the cooking. But just a thought this problems get complex depending on the couple’s personality
So what I meant was if he does all the household chores and is a stay at home father, but yes him helping around shouldn’t make him less attractive
@@TheMuslimMarriageCoach thanks for the clarification.
can u make a video on the top things that you have seen caused divorce
Have you stopped doing the free 10 minute starter calls?
Yes, unfortunately that boat has sailed 😅