Makes sense, honestly. Many times in the past, I thought he was tripping. Maybe my response to what he did share was perceived (by him) as a justification, a deflection, or like I was more concerned with defending myself then making him feel cared for. Stopping to listen in order to understanding and validate will help improve perception - which is a large portion of communication in any relationship
If it’s that bad that he has to shut down, then what is he preserving? What ever it is it’s not worth having if he can’t speak his mind and instead has to shut down. Emasculated…..that’s what it sounds like to me. JMHO! Blessings 🌸
To go in further on what I just posted, it's not always that women are 'poppin' off' when their men speak up. It's not always what woman is doing; it's what the man is thinking that shuts him down.
THAT'S THE THING....WE WOMEN WOULDN'T HAVE TO POP OFF IF THERE WAS NOTHING TO POP OFF ABOUT! MEN (AND WOMEN) KNOW WHAT THEY'RE DOING AND SAYING! THEY DO DIRTY...SNEAKY STUFF THAT HURTS OUR FEELINGS! MY EX USED TO FLIRT WITH OTHER WOMEN IN MY FACE ...HE ALWAYS HAD TO CLOWN IN FRONT OF OTHER WOMEN TO GET A RESPONSE! WHEN I TRIED TO TALK TO HIM..HE WOULD GET DEFENSIVE AND START ACCUSING ME OF ARGUING AND FIGHTING! THIS HAPPENED THE WHOLE THREE YEARS IN OUR RELATIONSHIP....HE LIED ...HE WOULD TREAT OTHER PEOPLE BETTER THAN ME...HE DIDN'T CARE ABOUT MY FEELINGS....HE NEVER PROTECTED ME FROM OTHER FEMALES DISRESPECTING ME...ITS A LOT OF UGLY THINGS HE DID ..I FOUND HIM BUYING CONDOMS....THE SPIRIT OF GOD WAS SHOWING ME HE WASN'T RIGHT FROM JUMP! HE DIDN'T WANT A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP....HE WANTED A DUMMY TO PLAY WITH UNTIL HE GOT TIRED AND MOVED TO SOMEONE DIFFERENT...HE DID HORRIBLE THINGS TO ME FOR NO REASON! WHEN WE FIRST MET...HE WAS SO NICE AND FUNNY...KIND AND GIVING THEN HE JUST DID A COMPLETE EXORCIST ON ME! I DIDN'T KNOW HE WAS A NARCISSIST! THREE YEARS OF MY LIFE RUINED!
Mine just say it and when I pop off, he act like he didn’t hear a word I said. After that we just go back to doing whatever we were doing before the argument like it never happened. ❤❤❤
I agree, but what about the dude that shuts down because of nothing you've either said or done. These guys come from mothers who have raised them to be afraid.
My new COVERT NARCISSISTIC MAN just text asking for $1,500. He's in DALLAS Texas & I'm in another STATE thankfully. 🏃♀️ 🏃♀️ 🏃♂️ He's alway's hungry & owns a home, fancy car, well groomed & 5 different accounts on social media vibing. 😅😅
My ex went "silent" on me almost everh week every 2 weeks. Never knew what was going . It became normal not to hear from him for days. He said hes ,"going thrhu something ". I ended it after t months. Just no.
Life was so simple when I did not have to watch these relationship videos. I want to go back to 10 years old playing hopscotch and Jack's not thinking about a Man
I can relate to Your sentiment. Some of these videos are so off the wall to Me. Some of them have Me going in a direction that I should not , or have not ever thought about. In actionality, having a sweet wonderful loving Man, I've gotten to the point I don't want to listen to them. In reality, they put thoughts in, Your head that's not true, and You can cause ugly actions, that's no need of.
@@brendah.walker6837 you are so right I get tired of watching them because it makes me feel like what's wrong with me and I just feel like it's not good for my esteem
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They need to grow up and have a conversation.
HAHAHA good one 💜
We can’t because we’re talking to emotional children.
It's called being emotional immature 🤔
Yeah he shutdown and I left. Blocked. We are in our 50's...you can't talk? Yet? Yeah bye bye
Right we should be able to communicate by now
Makes sense, honestly. Many times in the past, I thought he was tripping. Maybe my response to what he did share was perceived (by him) as a justification, a deflection, or like I was more concerned with defending myself then making him feel cared for. Stopping to listen in order to understanding and validate will help improve perception - which is a large portion of communication in any relationship
Got to learn to communicate and listen with the actions it can bring it’s a big key
Great info! My brother helped me with this. Helps with understanding how to communicate. ❤❤❤
If it’s that bad that he has to shut down, then what is he preserving? What ever it is it’s not worth having if he can’t speak his mind and instead has to shut down. Emasculated…..that’s what it sounds like to me. JMHO! Blessings 🌸
Y’all are unaccountable children. Communicate feels pointless.
To go in further on what I just posted, it's not always that women are 'poppin' off' when their men speak up. It's not always what woman is doing; it's what the man is thinking that shuts him down.
THAT'S THE THING....WE WOMEN WOULDN'T HAVE TO POP OFF IF THERE WAS NOTHING TO POP OFF ABOUT! MEN (AND WOMEN) KNOW WHAT THEY'RE DOING AND SAYING! THEY DO DIRTY...SNEAKY STUFF THAT HURTS OUR FEELINGS! MY EX USED TO FLIRT WITH OTHER WOMEN IN MY FACE ...HE ALWAYS HAD TO CLOWN IN FRONT OF OTHER WOMEN TO GET A RESPONSE! WHEN I TRIED TO TALK TO HIM..HE WOULD GET DEFENSIVE AND START ACCUSING ME OF ARGUING AND FIGHTING! THIS HAPPENED THE WHOLE THREE YEARS IN OUR RELATIONSHIP....HE LIED ...HE WOULD TREAT OTHER PEOPLE BETTER THAN ME...HE DIDN'T CARE ABOUT MY FEELINGS....HE NEVER PROTECTED ME FROM OTHER FEMALES DISRESPECTING ME...ITS A LOT OF UGLY THINGS HE DID ..I FOUND HIM BUYING CONDOMS....THE SPIRIT OF GOD WAS SHOWING ME HE WASN'T RIGHT FROM JUMP! HE DIDN'T WANT A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP....HE WANTED A DUMMY TO PLAY WITH UNTIL HE GOT TIRED AND MOVED TO SOMEONE DIFFERENT...HE DID HORRIBLE THINGS TO ME FOR NO REASON! WHEN WE FIRST MET...HE WAS SO NICE AND FUNNY...KIND AND GIVING THEN HE JUST DID A COMPLETE EXORCIST ON ME! I DIDN'T KNOW HE WAS A NARCISSIST! THREE YEARS OF MY LIFE RUINED!
God’s going to restore what you have lost with someone brand new and kind ❤
Mine just say it and when I pop off, he act like he didn’t hear a word I said. After that we just go back to doing whatever we were doing before the argument like it never happened. ❤❤❤
I kno the feeling
I never get the opportunity to pop off, and I need two day to understand.😂😂😂😂😂 4 real
He will.have trouble with her too lf he doesn't 0pen up
I agree, but what about the dude that shuts down because of nothing you've either said or done. These guys come from mothers who have raised them to be afraid.
My new COVERT NARCISSISTIC MAN just text asking for $1,500. He's in DALLAS Texas & I'm in another STATE thankfully. 🏃♀️ 🏃♀️ 🏃♂️
He's alway's hungry & owns a home, fancy car, well groomed & 5 different accounts on social media vibing. 😅😅
There you go. Shaming and avoiding accountability. Prime example.
VERY HELP FULL .GOOD TO KNOW
My ex went "silent" on me almost everh week every 2 weeks. Never knew what was going . It became normal not to hear from him for days. He said hes ,"going thrhu something ". I ended it after t months. Just no.
Thank you. . I understand a little better
Life was so simple when I did not have to watch these relationship videos. I want to go back to 10 years old playing hopscotch and Jack's not thinking about a Man
I can relate to Your sentiment. Some of these videos are so off the wall to Me. Some of them have Me going in a direction that I should not , or have not ever thought about. In actionality, having a sweet wonderful loving Man, I've gotten to the point I don't want to listen to them. In reality, they put thoughts in, Your head that's not true, and You can cause ugly actions, that's no need of.
@@brendah.walker6837 you are so right I get tired of watching them because it makes me feel like what's wrong with me and I just feel like it's not good for my esteem
We need to have good communication skills in a relationship, or else it's not going to last.
I am not at all willing to preserve any relationship that is not good for my health.
Right 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👍🏾 💯 😅facts
Right👍💯
Be a real grown man and communicate
Understood
He seems they need to create a communication class just for men to attend in High School
Should I create one for women as well?
Of course, how to properly respond to a man without disrespecting him!
Yeah men need to learn to communicate with women and children because it’s basically the same thing.
Loving All That ❤for sure.
Usually when they expess and they don't get the response they wanted them they are upset ~. Really
No it’s because you shift blame and shame.
Does this apply to a narcissist relationship?
Beautiful advice 🌺😎
You have Invisalign or 3M? I’m thinking about getting some.
Not the invisalign. I think 3m
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Thanks Coach I’m tryna get my “Glow up” like you. 😎🙏🏽
I do not send nasty stuff to his page I gave him the utmost respect when I should have gave him no respect so it is what it
So how do we get him to open up again? Video please
So what he is trying to say he wants to break up?
He sais too😢 much
He will.have trouble wi
Where is she?