I’m tired of men saying there aren’t any good women out there when they have a good woman but don’t know how to treat her. Then when that good woman is gone they say I wish I had treated her better.
I agree with “Why but the cow when the milk is free?” You learn a lot more when sex is not on the table. Also, I wholeheartedly agree a mixed signal is a signal. Don’t give access to anyone who hasn’t earned it. Don’t give emotions to anyone who hasn’t proved to you they can appreciate them.
I see so many women today putting in way too much effort way too early on. It's as if you're trying to prove to him just how special you are. Believe me. That never works. Men are Hunters who enjoy the hunt, catching the prize. Start acting like that prize then see what happens.
After dealing with a malignant narcissist who did this, I see men doing this everywhere. Maybe not to the extent that the narcissist did, but I still see it.
Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it
its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.
The person I converse with we are very open with each other and he voiced he didn't want a relationship right now. (He's been single for 8 years) and I told him that's okay just know I will be "dating" other people. I rep the benefits of him I get his time, he gets me whatever I want and supports and invest in my goals and dreams and I definitely have benefits I know others don't. At this time I am okay with how we are, we are both working towards our financial goals and still yet benefit from each other and I'm not speaking sexually!
It sounds like you're confusing yourself. He told you that he doesn't want a one-on-one relationship. Dr Phil used to say to women, " When A Man shows you who he is, believe him. "
I sent him a text saying I'll be moving on because I need more from a man. It was passive reciprocation from him for months. He blocked me on everything the next day and I mirrored him by blocking him back. It's 12 days of no contact since then. I guess time will tell if he ever wanted and valued me. I've completely stopped caring and pulled back. I was tired of the mixed signals and wasting my own energy and time on someone who no longer was prioritizing or investing in me.
@baribach8701 if he comes back, like they usually do, I won't accept him as he is. He will have to earn and win me back all over again with even higher standards and stronger boundaries of mine. "Take it or leave" it for him. He brought this upon himself. No more niceness and easiness. Time and silence will show him what he lost.
Ooooh sooooo sureal!!! I enjoyed it. Coach. Ken!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉we salute you celebrate your giftedness on relationships!! Thank you fir keeping it really real!! Rhonda Prater Merced. California . Happy. New Year's!!!
Great video Coach Ken. I struggle with one of the points you mentioned. I’ve been transparent and vulnerable telling a guy what I want, what behavior I accept and what I don’t. The issue I’ve encountered particularly in my last situation was the guy heard what I was saying and corrected his behavior but only for a while. He went back to the same things he was doing. How can I avoid this pattern going forward?
A man 48 yrs old calling me everyday talks, opens up, but wont go out is a mixed signal? We went on a date 5 times.. never kissed but the attraction was strong
Coach, great video thank you does this apply to dismissive avoidants as well? My guy is a dismissive avoidant and he gives me mix signals. Is this because he doesn’t value me enough?
Thanks for this video I’m going to save it so I can listen to it again. The one part I really like is the part when you said give a man the same amount of energy he gives you.
Mixed signals means he's talking to other girls or may even have a girlfriend on the side you don't know about. I have seen this over and over; especially high school, college. They're still checking out their options. We've seen it twice where a girl is expecting an invite to the prom. The guy asks someone else out of nowhere she never even knew about. She's then upset because of all this "time" they spent together. Amount of time does NOT equal relationship.
Why do they try to come back around after they have been married (2x), not to mention he didn't mention ANYTHING about the last marriage the whole time we were "collecting data" 😂?
I never communicated what I wanted because I felt if I have to ask for something he should naturally want to give me on his own, then what I get as a result of asking for it is not genuine. That's why.
So true I just wrote down what I need to express in a letter to my guy. He is not speaking to me because of a prank he actually took it the wrong way. Right away I confessed and apologized but he hasn't responded so I feel like I need to change up too I haven't text I want to tell him I'll step back but I decided to go less talk and text. And limit access so this video confirms a lot I do the morning text and play by play what I'm doing. Now to see if he values me!
I don't know what you mean by value. I had a guy that I had been broken up with, but whom I had been able to talk into coming by my house to fix my tv set. He didn't want to do it, but he's great with fixing stuff so I asked and asked so he came by just to shut me up, I guess. Turns out, I was given a brand new tv set which took all of thirty minutes to hook up. He was still there ten hours later. He just had to fix everything in my apartment. He even asked me if I could use one of those swivel shelves for my new tv. I said, "Sure" thinking he meant that he'd just drop it off sometime when he's back in the neighborhood. No. The next day is Sunday. I'm sittin' around in my drawers correcting some papers and he calls from his car. Says he's on his way with a shelf. I ask him if he could come another day but he says no 'cause he's aready halfway to my house. Didn't even bother to call to ask if it was okay. He gets there but instead of just handing me the shelf through the door, taking all of sixty seconds, he has to come in and take ANOTHER then hours to fix up whatever he didn't get to fix the day before. THEN, when I call him the next day to thank him and jokingly say, "Dude, if you're even around here again, I could use some expert advice on picking out a new microwave", dude gets mad, says he doesn't have anymore free time, I'm bothering him and refuses to even speak to me over that for months. He valued me enough to fix everything in my house without even being asked, but then went right into not speaking to me for months because I was bothering him when I called to thank him again for his time. Like I said, I don't know what you mean, but I know that this man is not worthy of anybody.
Coach, what about the man that’s always giving to you financially even if he could’ve done something else with it (I don’t ask he just does things for me) he’s said he’s unsure and I told him to figure it out I took sex off the table and he still wants to take care of me and do things for me and take me out but says I’m perfect and feel I’m too good for him .. he wants sex but there’s no title so I don’t give it ..
@@ItsOmi112 May be it's a girlfriend. Nevertheless, when a man is unsure it's not a positive sign. Men will do almost anything to get sex. No matter what, do not give him sex if he is not even making you his. I personally would wait until marriage.
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A therapist once told me and that when someone gives you mixed messages it's because they're confused. I believe it
I take mixed signals as no
I’m tired of men saying there aren’t any good women out there when they have a good woman but don’t know how to treat her. Then when that good woman is gone they say I wish I had treated her better.
They keep messing the good ones too
@@ruel1703 yes. I’m just so tired of the hurt and pain and the heartbreak 💔
Men know a good women, either he isn't ready or you're not the one for him, there is no in between.
@@quatriciajohnson858 true
I agree with “Why but the cow when the milk is free?” You learn a lot more when sex is not on the table. Also, I wholeheartedly agree a mixed signal is a signal. Don’t give access to anyone who hasn’t earned it. Don’t give emotions to anyone who hasn’t proved to you they can appreciate them.
In other words, he wants to use you for his benefit without expectation.
It’s time for men to EVOLVE‼️ Grow up already. All this back and forth and this rule and that rule. Be an adult and be real. Simple 😊
I see so many women today putting in way too much effort way too early on. It's as if you're trying to prove to him just how special you are. Believe me. That never works. Men are Hunters who enjoy the hunt, catching the prize. Start acting like that prize then see what happens.
If a man is unsure, he shouldn't send sh**t signal of anything
After dealing with a malignant narcissist who did this, I see men doing this everywhere. Maybe not to the extent that the narcissist did, but I still see it.
Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it
its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.
If you look up Shelly Renee White online, you will find all the information you need. Thank you.
Wow..that great u guys got bk together stay blessed
Wow I'm tired of the mind games and just the games in general.
Awesome - thank you!! I am hurt (I am owing it), but I have decided that I am not going to be an option 😊
Stay strong ❤ x
If men want to date other women it should be discussed early on in the dating process. This way he doesn't look like a cheater.
The person I converse with we are very open with each other and he voiced he didn't want a relationship right now. (He's been single for 8 years) and I told him that's okay just know I will be "dating" other people. I rep the benefits of him I get his time, he gets me whatever I want and supports and invest in my goals and dreams and I definitely have benefits I know others don't. At this time I am okay with how we are, we are both working towards our financial goals and still yet benefit from each other and I'm not speaking sexually!
It sounds like you're confusing yourself. He told you that he doesn't want a one-on-one relationship. Dr Phil used to say to women, " When A Man shows you who he is, believe him. "
I sent him a text saying I'll be moving on because I need more from a man. It was passive reciprocation from him for months. He blocked me on everything the next day and I mirrored him by blocking him back. It's 12 days of no contact since then. I guess time will tell if he ever wanted and valued me. I've completely stopped caring and pulled back. I was tired of the mixed signals and wasting my own energy and time on someone who no longer was prioritizing or investing in me.
It sounds like you're still hoping that he comes back. Please Place yourself first
Time will not tell you anything more than what you already know. The question is, can you accept him exactly as he question mark
@baribach8701 if he comes back, like they usually do, I won't accept him as he is. He will have to earn and win me back all over again with even higher standards and stronger boundaries of mine. "Take it or leave" it for him. He brought this upon himself. No more niceness and easiness. Time and silence will show him what he lost.
Brilliant, as soft as a dove and shrewd as a serpent!
All you said is just the truth,wish I did all this when I was younger..
My subscription button has been smashed 👍🏾👍🏾😁
I like this coach very much. God bless you.❤
Just came across your channel and the video was so refreshing to hear I had to subscribe. !!! Thank you 🙏🏾
I hate everything abt mind games
Ooooh sooooo sureal!!! I enjoyed it. Coach. Ken!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉we salute you celebrate your giftedness on relationships!! Thank you fir keeping it really real!! Rhonda Prater Merced. California . Happy. New Year's!!!
Thanks so much!!
Facts
Great video Coach Ken. I struggle with one of the points you mentioned. I’ve been transparent and vulnerable telling a guy what I want, what behavior I accept and what I don’t. The issue I’ve encountered particularly in my last situation was the guy heard what I was saying and corrected his behavior but only for a while. He went back to the same things he was doing. How can I avoid this pattern going forward?
Great information. Thanks
I wish I was thought this before getting married 😞
❤ best advice evet. Thanks
You're so welcome!
Thank You I'm going to break up the routine. Then I'm gonna break it off and find someone else. I don't wanna marry him!
A man 48 yrs old calling me everyday talks, opens up, but wont go out is a mixed signal? We went on a date 5 times.. never kissed but the attraction was strong
Coach, great video thank you
does this apply to dismissive avoidants as well? My guy is a dismissive avoidant and he gives me mix signals. Is this because he doesn’t value me enough?
Yes, absolutely
Thanks. It hurts 😢
But at least I got some closure
Mixed signals means he just isn't that into you period
Confusion is from the devil
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you killed it with the video! bless all us here amen.
So tired to play his Games i am a beautiful woman i dont need him
When a man wants a woman, There Is No Mountain High Enough, no River wide enough, no challenge big enough for him to not pursue you.
That's not true everyone man is different
Within bounds
Thanks for this video I’m going to save it so I can listen to it again. The one part I really like is the part when you said give a man the same amount of energy he gives you.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Yes I’ve already listen to it twice
@@CoachKenCanionme too TY 🙏🏽
Mixed signals means he's talking to other girls or may even have a girlfriend on the side you don't know about. I have seen this over and over; especially high school, college. They're still checking out their options. We've seen it twice where a girl is expecting an invite to the prom. The guy asks someone else out of nowhere she never even knew about. She's then upset because of all this "time" they spent together. Amount of time does NOT equal relationship.
"Dating is about collecting data without sx. Dating is about *seeing* who is in alignment with our core values."
Why do they try to come back around after they have been married (2x), not to mention he didn't mention ANYTHING about the last marriage the whole time we were "collecting data" 😂?
Was his name Isaac? Happened to me too! 😂
@@Eva-rq3gl 🤣🤣🤣
@@Eva-rq3gl😂😂😂😂😂😂 I can't with you
To use you again!
attention seeking leave them
I never communicated what I wanted because I felt if I have to ask for something he should naturally want to give me on his own, then what I get as a result of asking for it is not genuine. That's why.
I used to think that, but we all grow up in different cultures and family systems
This is good, i feel like i was getting passive reciprocation😂
I hate dating these days .smh everything is. A Game .and people jst wanna serial date o link up.over it
It sounds like you should focus your healing. You are speaking from a place of pain. I pray you get the help you need
So true I just wrote down what I need to express in a letter to my guy. He is not speaking to me because of a prank he actually took it the wrong way. Right away I confessed and apologized but he hasn't responded so I feel like I need to change up too I haven't text I want to tell him I'll step back but I decided to go less talk and text. And limit access so this video confirms a lot I do the morning text and play by play what I'm doing. Now to see if he values me!
Thank you Coach
My pleasure!
Great advice ❤
Wow this video stepped all over my toes. I’m dealing with someone who sending me huge mixed signals. I’m so over it!
If you were really over it you wouldn't even be considering this video.
@@baribach8701 umm thank you for your comment
I don't know what you mean by value. I had a guy that I had been broken up with, but whom I had been able to talk into coming by my house to fix my tv set. He didn't want to do it, but he's great with fixing stuff so I asked and asked so he came by just to shut me up, I guess. Turns out, I was given a brand new tv set which took all of thirty minutes to hook up. He was still there ten hours later. He just had to fix everything in my apartment. He even asked me if I could use one of those swivel shelves for my new tv. I said, "Sure" thinking he meant that he'd just drop it off sometime when he's back in the neighborhood. No. The next day is Sunday. I'm sittin' around in my drawers correcting some papers and he calls from his car. Says he's on his way with a shelf. I ask him if he could come another day but he says no 'cause he's aready halfway to my house. Didn't even bother to call to ask if it was okay. He gets there but instead of just handing me the shelf through the door, taking all of sixty seconds, he has to come in and take ANOTHER then hours to fix up whatever he didn't get to fix the day before. THEN, when I call him the next day to thank him and jokingly say, "Dude, if you're even around here again, I could use some expert advice on picking out a new microwave", dude gets mad, says he doesn't have anymore free time, I'm bothering him and refuses to even speak to me over that for months. He valued me enough to fix everything in my house without even being asked, but then went right into not speaking to me for months because I was bothering him when I called to thank him again for his time. Like I said, I don't know what you mean, but I know that this man is not worthy of anybody.
Coach, what about the man that’s always giving to you financially even if he could’ve done something else with it (I don’t ask he just does things for me) he’s said he’s unsure and I told him to figure it out I took sex off the table and he still wants to take care of me and do things for me and take me out but says I’m perfect and feel I’m too good for him .. he wants sex but there’s no title so I don’t give it ..
Most likely married.
@@Shortyjored88 at 23?
@@ItsOmi112 May be it's a girlfriend. Nevertheless, when a man is unsure it's not a positive sign. Men will do almost anything to get sex. No matter what, do not give him sex if he is not even making you his. I personally would wait until marriage.
You are most welcome coach thank you
Manipulation coach 😅