I feel like I'm losing my mind because the first bride's arms look completely normal and healthy to me. The mom's body dysmorphic disorder is outta control.....
Yeah. And she's correct, besides. Depending on what kind of bone structure/proportions you have, sleeves can make the shoulder/arm area look wider. I mean, her arms aren't flabby or anything. There's no reason, why she would need to cover them up. They're smooth and nice looking and match the rest of her body.
It may be true that her mum got her those comments, but it doesn't mean her mother is wrong 🤷🏻♀️ Also, the dress woman is just trying to sell dresses. She doesn't have to live with the pictures!
Not only that, but this is what the mom is willing to in public. Private must be so much worse. My mom can be like that. I'm built thick and strong and tall, (mandolorian chick similar) and my mom looked like twiggy in the 60s and placed those ideals on me. Therapy helps ❤
@deepwaters7242 Oh I didn't even think about that! You are right! Private must be awful! I have a father that required decades of therapy (and still going lol). I'm glad you sought out therapy as an option also! It has really saved me! I hope she was able to rea h out and find a good therapist also :(
@deepwaters7242 that's a good point! It sounds like she had a good therapist or she had a good support system and her self esteem is really good. Or both. I'm glad for her.
The bride and her sister have really put in the work to be body proud and supportive of women. That mother on the other hand is toxic in multitude of ways. I hope she sees herself then gets into therapy
It’s amazing to me that the first girl had such a positive body image with a mother like that. And a grandmother too, from the sound of it. Good for her!
My Bestie and i attend the Opera together on the regular. She's a bit on the large side, and is a hard fit up top. She had a cute little summer dress, with spsghetti straps, and she felt insecure without a shrug or something on top. I ran to my closet, dug around until I found a cute little grey cardi. 3/4 sleeves with ribbed cuffs and a button accent, but no buttons on the front, it was short and a very nice faux cashmere. She didn't think it would fit, but I told her that making slim tops FIT was one of my best fashion things, and I wouldn't have suggested it if weren't certain it could work. She put it on and it fit PERFECTLY. Looked SO cute with the dress, and she said it made her feel SO GOOD in her SKIN that I insisted it was HER sweater now, and she could KEEP it. She told me that it meant a lot more than just a sweater to her, because it would look cute with jeans, formal, etc., and it was SO HARD to find stuff like that. She's got a Golden Ticket pass to borrow ANYTHING from my wardrobe. It's fit me from 135 to 205lbs, so if she's ever in a pinch, I've got her covered!
This, I’ve been a little heavy before, and it can be so hard to find things that fit correctly, even if you are only a 12. Clothing manufacturers just size up clothes designed for women size 0-4 and the result is less than flattering.
My mom said she noticed a self confidence issue with me at a young age. She went on to research and read books about how to help me with it. I didn't find out until I found one of the books in her house as a young adult. That's when she explained it to me... she also had books on how to better understand people with anxiety disorders. Just one of the reasons she is the sweetest Mom ever. I literally couldn't imagine her insulting my body and I can't think of one negative thing she's said about my physical appearance throughout my entire life. She always tells me I'm her beautiful girl even now that I'm in my mid-30s.
Plus sized people are criticized and insulted by people every time they step outside their doorsteps. They shouldn't have to catch strays from the people who claim to and are supposed to love and support them. Generational trauma is not an excuse to perpetuate emotional abuse onto your children. Break the cycle woman and do better!
I'm an old lady from NJ. I've been watching you for a few months now and you're just the most delightful mind candy. I mostly agree with your critiques and I love when I learn something new from you. This mean-mom stuff hits a nerve for me, even in my 60s. (Some things you never let go of). I love the way you're always so loving and supportive about these difficult and unnecessary moments. You truly and honestly celebrate the beauty of the human form and that kind of commentary is so necessary and healing...even to the 20-year old that I haven't been for many decades. You're so appreciated. Kisses 💋
I live on Long Island and have known women like the first mom my whole life. They are the kind of Italian mom who grew up with a mom or grandmother who was off the boat from Italy, would take a wooden spoon or shoe and throw it at them if they said or did something they didn’t like. Good on the daughter for understanding that her mother is clearly unhappy with herself and projecting it out on her. That is a healthy view to have.
Mum is a real example of projection due to insecurities, I’m glad her daughters have learned to brush the comments off but it must not have been fun having to learn how to do that
If there's anything I’ve learned from curvy brides boutique (the only wedding dress programme I watch) it’s that trying to hide your arms with sleeves makes them stick out more. Especially since often those sleeves are mesh which is not good if you're trying to hide arm fat. Which isn’t even something she, or anyone, should have to do. And anyway she looks great in that dress, it really flatters her body and gives her a really lovely shape.
Uncle sal was so nice, never commenting on her body or saying anything harsh, he'd just say "i dont like the way it falls on her" or "i love the back".
I took my fiancé and only my fiancé wedding dress shopping. He was great and loved being pampered by the ladies in the shop while I enjoyed trying on dresses. He was totally supportive which my mother would not have been. We were in our 30s and had been living together for over a decade at that point. We paid for everything ourselves which meant we had less to spend but had the wedding we wanted and avoided any toxic family dynamics. Still happily together after over 40 years. ❤ Ps going wedding dress shopping with him is one of my best memories.
If she’s a bride she’s a winner already, she’s found her significant other who loves her just as she is. Find your dress and be happy girlie - don’t let anyone try to make you feel bad about you. Cheers!
Can I also say.....the dress is for the bride! She gets to wear what she wants! And I hate the wedding culture of "it's your day, you get one day" thing. It's a day. One day. So, don't let people take whatever happiness away from it and wear what you want.
I'm plus size and years ago I found an old wedding dress at a thrift store for $20 that looked better on my body than anything else, ever. It was an ivory mermaid with a center seam on front and back, cinchèd upwards. It was easy and fun to move in, had a v neck with shortish lace bell sleeves, and it made me look so sexy but not immodest. Whoever made that dress (no tags but it had some stretchy factors) really loved and understood the plus sized woman. I've never seen another plus size dress that was so perfect, but the very last dress in the video was approaching that.
Why a mother would go so far out of her way to make her daughter feel bad is beyond me. She stated her unnecessary opinion. She did not need to reiterate it to every person with every dress. She's so gross for deliberately trying to ruin her daughter's confidence.
I feel like it may not always be true (but I have also seen a lot of SYTTD over the years) but alot of the time when Mom says "I want her to be her best she can be" in relation to wedding dress shopping its more like "I want her to be everything I feel I wasn't when I got married"
also can i mention that like when it comes to giving a white lie or not telling truth about someones body... sometimes its not the *truth* but just simply an opinion that doesnt need to be given. I look at that first bride and think shes a perfectly fine weight, one that fits her body and she wears it well. Her arms dont look chubby- they just look like arms. Shes obviously on the bigger curvier side but like thats when you find a dress that works with that instead of hides it. You should never try and hide your body because no matter how much fabric you got on people can still see the insecurity. Learn to work with what you have and after awhile youll find that youll like the way you look.
I wish you could have seen my 39-year-old, plus-size middle daughter at her wedding two years ago. Her arms were right out there since her dress was strapless. She was the most ravishingly beautiful bride I've ever seen, bar none - including her lovely, thin cousin, who was also very beautiful. My daughter's radiance was brighter than the sun. Unforgettable.
I am SO GLAD you call out the codependent couple on that missing tooth because lorddddddd 😂 I really didn’t like a lot of the dresses the red haired bride tried on, they were all very typical of plus size designs - unflattering fabrics and draping, lace and beading that looks like something my nan had hanging over her windows 30 years ago, etc.
That first mum is an utter witch! Testament to the sweetness of the daughter that she remains so calm and considerate under the circumstances. She is obviously used to the mothers abusive comments.
Ii hope ‘say dress to the dress’ paid her well for putting up with the comments from her mother. I took a friend who loves shopping with me when I went to buy a wedding dress.
omg me and my sister still quote Romance's episode to each other from way back when we first saw that episode in like 2010! "That's niiiice. I like dat!"
There's honest and then there's being an @$$hole. Her mom was just being an @$$hole. There's a way to convey any truth. The fact the mother made excuses for her body just shows she's wrong.
Same. I HATE that a size 8-10 is fat! I grew up big-still big- and I heard the saying "covered up" for that reason. Wear what the fuck you want and if you're comfortable, then great! I honestly would love to be as "chubby" as that first bride!
@@mariearteaga3056 I'm in full agreement here, 8-10 in US sizes is about roughly 12-14 in UK/Aus, chubby is absolutely not the word I'd use to describe people typically wearing that size range, that mom would be horrified at the sizes I've bought if she thought that was fat
@@mariearteaga3056it's bonkers that, in my exp sometimes mid sized people get more grief than clearly plus size people. As a mid- large fat, I feel invisible, in person at least. Diff online. As a mid-size to small fat, I got so much pressure to "slim down" and conform. I think my looks and confidence meant I was still "competition" or "an option" for the straight size people who just HAD to remind me that I had just left their range of acceptability. Being larger, those people aren't threatened or attracted and I just don't have to deal with them, unless they're internet bullies. The filter effect makes me not want to lose as much weight as my joints would prefer.
My mom has started making comments and I out a stop to it immediately. I didn’t invite my mother dress shopping. I went with my daughter in law specifically to be able to push back against anyone who was rude to her.
I really hope it was the show's edit that made the first mom like that. Her daughter is gorgeous. She is obviously comfortable in her own skin, and that is priceless. The mother seems like she is doing everything she can to chip away at that. Also, to say those things in front of everyone like that, lacks all class.
The first bride seemed so nice!! I can't believe how her mom was speaking to her. Good on her for recognizing that those comments were more a reflection of her mom's personal problems than anything to do with her!
I can believe it. My mother was going to get me a class ring and she turned and said your not going to get fat are you? Holding that over my head as a stipulation for getting A RING not a dress.
Apart from the actual dress buying, it’s so pathetic that this mother says that her daughters wedding is going to be “the best day of her life” - every day before that and every day after that not so great
I swear I've been curvy since I came out of the womb! My family was so vicious about my curves. They would talk about how fat & indecent I looked all the time. I couldn't wear what other girls wore, I had to be extra modest. In high school, P.E. class was terrible... the short shorts and the fitted t-shirts. Everybody exclaimed how I looked like a video vixen, which made me shrink and become even more self-conscious. I developed an eating disorder. I would go for days and eat nothing. When I finally did eat something, it was just a small fraction of food. I took me a long time to accept myself and become healthier. I just decided: I'm going to Live...FUCK EM! Now, I model and I wear flattering lovely fashions. I'm saying all this, because I wish I could have developed this confidence earlier. Fashion is for everyone! Love Your Body!✨️🩷✨️🩷✨️🩷✨️🩷✨️🩷
Good for you! F em! Your body is none of their business and having an opinion that you value is something other people need to earn through trust and intelligence. Bullies and shallow ignorance have neither.
Hate the mom's behaviour, she sounds like mine. Well, mine's worse but the "I'm fat now because I had all of you! I was skinny (and athletic) when I was your age! It's not comparable" is something she loved to say. It's so disingenuous on top of hurtful, because like. Your kids are their own people, they have different genetics and life circumstances, that's a stupid comparison. The bride has so much patience lmao. Well, I guess she has to because mom's paying, but I would not be as kind and easy going as her.
My mother did this to me, literally my whole life. I had huge confidence issues. She would constantly criticise everything. "You're not an exceptional beauty, but you'll do." "You look like Renee Zellweger as Bridget Jones." "But that's a compliment dear." (You're fat! Is what she meant) From the moment my daughter was born, I told her that she was beautiful. I say everything she wears is great. If I think that her skirt is too short, I tell her to pick stuff up using an Asian squat, rather than a bend. I never say I dislike her clothing or taste, but when she was about 12, I told her that she's responsible for how she looks and if she ever chooses to wear stuff that looks ridiculous, but she loves it, then that's perfectly fine with me. Needless to say she's got great taste in clothes, and she's just gorgeous.
I love these videos, they are so much fun. Thanks for being an ally to plus size women, we should love how we are. The mom hates her body so she tries to body shame her daughter.
That first mother was just horrible. I would have politely told my mother she could not be present with comments like that. With a mother like that who needs enemies. The daughter handled herself great.
Thanks for always being sweet to all body types. I think bridal shopping for plus size people can be especially triggering because there's so much pressure and expectations coming to a head all at once.
The first mom is horrible. She is making such rude comments with a smile on her face. She knows exactly what she is saying and how hurtful it is. Her daughter is beautiful and I would uninvite her to the wedding so quick.
The first bride is not especially fat, she is EU/USA average size and very beautiful. Her biggest problem is her mother. The other brides are beautiful too, I feel bad that they have been made to feel ‘less than’.
Each one of those brides were beautiful! Also seemed to be at least one in every group that pushed their own agenda. Toxic 'out of love' is still toxic
I don’t agree with motherly passive aggressive comments at all, but also I don’t agree with the idea of sleeves to hide arms, it does the exact opposite - it draws the eyes to the shape and highlights/shadows - and adding in the urban myth that white tends to make you look heavier vs black is slimming - sleeves don’t make sense at all. Also I’m prejudice bc I hate lacey mesh sleeves they just feel constricting.
That 'mother' takes so much pride in having been a skinny pride abd then shames her kids for her having gained weight because she gave birth to them (how exactly is having been birn the fault of her kids?) and then tops it off with 'my mother still does it'. Woman, you are old enough to get therapy. Get some... instead of causing your kids to need it.
That first mother was horrid, her love feels extremely conditional just tearing her daughter down because she wasn’t rail thin. The daughter also looked gorgeous in each gown. I hope she buys her own dress and uninvites her mom, you don’t want that kind of negativity around on your wedding day
I love that you got so engaged with the ladies...such a sweetheart you are 🩵 I wanted to see the ending of the princess poof dress - with or without the sleeves, too 😭 hello from Denmark 🌸
That first bride! My Gen X self looks at her and thinks god I am SO GLAD those younger than me are doing better than we were. Bless her! She is beautiful and so, SO tolerant of her mom's nonsense.
At my big age of 32 I have grown to love my body, and when i was younger I was discouraged from becoming a fashion designer because " fat people dont design clothes" So watching the first bride stand up for herself was gratifying.
The mother’s body shaming is awful. She nasty because her mother continues to be nasty. I like the bride to be will actually end the generational body shaming.
I feel like I'm losing my mind because the first bride's arms look completely normal and healthy to me. The mom's body dysmorphic disorder is outta control.....
I know. Plus size where
Yeah. And she's correct, besides. Depending on what kind of bone structure/proportions you have, sleeves can make the shoulder/arm area look wider. I mean, her arms aren't flabby or anything. There's no reason, why she would need to cover them up. They're smooth and nice looking and match the rest of her body.
Nah she looked chubby don’t lie😂
@@jakobrecinaMaybe. But her arms doesn't look bad.
The actresses who were revered(Marilyn Monroe) size 12-14 dresses, outfits that leaned into her curves...Jayne Mansfield hello
It's really sad because the mother clearly got the same comments from her mother, she knows how much it hurts and she says it anyway
Im just really hoping it’s all scripted, otherwise it’s really sad ((
And if she is cooking all that stuff and feeding to her daughter how does she expect her to loose weight?
It may be true that her mum got her those comments, but it doesn't mean her mother is wrong 🤷🏻♀️
Also, the dress woman is just trying to sell dresses. She doesn't have to live with the pictures!
@@blackeyedsusan727 her mom is completely wrong, her arms are just fine.
maybe she actually wanted to hurt, this happens also when mums are obsessed and controlling and feel tehy loose the object.
The fact that the 1st bride doesn't even flinch at her mother comments just tells me that this by far NOT the first time she has heard it.
Not only that, but this is what the mom is willing to in public. Private must be so much worse. My mom can be like that. I'm built thick and strong and tall, (mandolorian chick similar) and my mom looked like twiggy in the 60s and placed those ideals on me. Therapy helps ❤
@deepwaters7242 Oh I didn't even think about that! You are right! Private must be awful! I have a father that required decades of therapy (and still going lol). I'm glad you sought out therapy as an option also! It has really saved me! I hope she was able to rea h out and find a good therapist also :(
@@ChronicLB honestly it sounds like she already has, she responded like someone who's done the work! Impressive, actually
@deepwaters7242 that's a good point! It sounds like she had a good therapist or she had a good support system and her self esteem is really good. Or both. I'm glad for her.
And the daughter is legitimately gorgeous
I hate when people use “telling you the truth so you can improve” as a way to insult you. “Im hurting you to help you” ugh. 😑
Ikr? As if her body shape is gonna magically be like a supper model before the wedding...
Also yes and mom has said this “truth”, no need to incessantly repeat it. Once is rude and after that it’s mean and abusive.
That first mother was exhausting, seems like her daughter has a lot of practice to not let it affect her.
The bride and her sister have really put in the work to be body proud and supportive of women. That mother on the other hand is toxic in multitude of ways. I hope she sees herself then gets into therapy
So my grandma can have some of the same vibes as the mother, and it’s exhausting to constantly have to rebuff her and ignore her comments
All women who wear bridal gowns are gorgeous! Strapless gowns….. not so much.
It’s amazing to me that the first girl had such a positive body image with a mother like that. And a grandmother too, from the sound of it. Good for her!
I bet the grandmother doesn't say anything about her granddaughter. Tends to be a very different relationship
I like to believe that her fiancé tells her that she’s beautiful and sexy the way she is.
That comment "I don't feel plus size in this dress" is what all plus size people are looking for, an outfit that we like and not the one that fits.
My Bestie and i attend the Opera together on the regular. She's a bit on the large side, and is a hard fit up top. She had a cute little summer dress, with spsghetti straps, and she felt insecure without a shrug or something on top.
I ran to my closet, dug around until I found a cute little grey cardi. 3/4 sleeves with ribbed cuffs and a button accent, but no buttons on the front, it was short and a very nice faux cashmere.
She didn't think it would fit, but I told her that making slim tops FIT was one of my best fashion things, and I wouldn't have suggested it if weren't certain it could work.
She put it on and it fit PERFECTLY. Looked SO cute with the dress, and she said it made her feel SO GOOD in her SKIN that I insisted it was HER sweater now, and she could KEEP it.
She told me that it meant a lot more than just a sweater to her, because it would look cute with jeans, formal, etc., and it was SO HARD to find stuff like that.
She's got a Golden Ticket pass to borrow ANYTHING from my wardrobe. It's fit me from 135 to 205lbs, so if she's ever in a pinch, I've got her covered!
This, I’ve been a little heavy before, and it can be so hard to find things that fit correctly, even if you are only a 12. Clothing manufacturers just size up clothes designed for women size 0-4 and the result is less than flattering.
happily flaunting my “chubby arms” in a sleeveless tank top today in honor of that first mom 😘 eat your heart out sis
Chub arms are actually incredibly appealing. There's something beautiful and generous about them.
@@Poputnyk My older brother is in ridiculously fit shape, but all his life has PREFERRED Big girls.
@@Poputnyk Agreed. I’ve gained a bit of weight recently and have some extra chub on my upper arms, but I kinda like it. Makes me feel cute idk why 🥰
the generational trauma reverse uno card , period
Mom said +4, +8
The first mother talking about her daughters arms and size is what leads to some people developing an eating disorder.
I think her daughter did have an eating disorder because it sounds like she used to be super thin.
@@Sharpe1502 Agreed
My mom said she noticed a self confidence issue with me at a young age. She went on to research and read books about how to help me with it. I didn't find out until I found one of the books in her house as a young adult. That's when she explained it to me... she also had books on how to better understand people with anxiety disorders.
Just one of the reasons she is the sweetest Mom ever. I literally couldn't imagine her insulting my body and I can't think of one negative thing she's said about my physical appearance throughout my entire life. She always tells me I'm her beautiful girl even now that I'm in my mid-30s.
Plus sized people are criticized and insulted by people every time they step outside their doorsteps. They shouldn't have to catch strays from the people who claim to and are supposed to love and support them. Generational trauma is not an excuse to perpetuate emotional abuse onto your children. Break the cycle woman and do better!
well said
'You should enjoy the phase you're in'. Wow, as someone who's trying to lose weight after giving birth, this hit. What a gem comment.
I'm an old lady from NJ. I've been watching you for a few months now and you're just the most delightful mind candy. I mostly agree with your critiques and I love when I learn something new from you.
This mean-mom stuff hits a nerve for me, even in my 60s. (Some things you never let go of).
I love the way you're always so loving and supportive about these difficult and unnecessary moments.
You truly and honestly celebrate the beauty of the human form and that kind of commentary is so necessary and healing...even to the 20-year old that I haven't been for many decades.
You're so appreciated.
Kisses 💋
I live on Long Island and have known women like the first mom my whole life. They are the kind of Italian mom who grew up with a mom or grandmother who was off the boat from Italy, would take a wooden spoon or shoe and throw it at them if they said or did something they didn’t like. Good on the daughter for understanding that her mother is clearly unhappy with herself and projecting it out on her. That is a healthy view to have.
If you want to react to more plus size brides, Curvy Brides is a great show and, Jo and Al are amazing and supportive stylists.
I would LOVE a reaction video to Curvy Brides Boutique! Jo and Al are so lovely and supportive.
Yes, yes, please!
yes would love that sm!!
This bride is not plus-size
Ooh, love that
Moms coments are uncalled for. The fact that the daughter is not defensive or sad SHOWS HOW COMFORABLE SHE IS IN HER OWN SKIN!
Mum is a real example of projection due to insecurities, I’m glad her daughters have learned to brush the comments off but it must not have been fun having to learn how to do that
If there's anything I’ve learned from curvy brides boutique (the only wedding dress programme I watch) it’s that trying to hide your arms with sleeves makes them stick out more. Especially since often those sleeves are mesh which is not good if you're trying to hide arm fat. Which isn’t even something she, or anyone, should have to do. And anyway she looks great in that dress, it really flatters her body and gives her a really lovely shape.
Curvy Brides Boutique and SYTTD Lancashire are both by far the best SYTTD spin off shows!
Uncle sal was so nice, never commenting on her body or saying anything harsh, he'd just say "i dont like the way it falls on her" or "i love the back".
I love Romance's gentle and thoughtful vibe. She seems so chill and sweet. The dress she chose was definitely the best.
That first mother would have been uninvited by me IMMEDIATELY, like why is she so heinous
Angelica is SERVING and I love to see it. I think she is so beautiful and sassy to stand up for herself
I took my fiancé and only my fiancé wedding dress shopping. He was great and loved being pampered by the ladies in the shop while I enjoyed trying on dresses. He was totally supportive which my mother would not have been. We were in our 30s and had been living together for over a decade at that point. We paid for everything ourselves which meant we had less to spend but had the wedding we wanted and avoided any toxic family dynamics. Still happily together after over 40 years. ❤
Ps going wedding dress shopping with him is one of my best memories.
What a beautiful story ❤ Congratulations.
me too ;) we've been married almost 30 years
I love that
So cute! ❤
If she’s a bride she’s a winner already, she’s found her significant other who loves her just as she is. Find your dress and be happy girlie - don’t let anyone try to make you feel bad about you. Cheers!
Can I also say.....the dress is for the bride! She gets to wear what she wants! And I hate the wedding culture of "it's your day, you get one day" thing. It's a day. One day. So, don't let people take whatever happiness away from it and wear what you want.
I'm plus size and years ago I found an old wedding dress at a thrift store for $20 that looked better on my body than anything else, ever. It was an ivory mermaid with a center seam on front and back, cinchèd upwards. It was easy and fun to move in, had a v neck with shortish lace bell sleeves, and it made me look so sexy but not immodest. Whoever made that dress (no tags but it had some stretchy factors) really loved and understood the plus sized woman. I've never seen another plus size dress that was so perfect, but the very last dress in the video was approaching that.
Why a mother would go so far out of her way to make her daughter feel bad is beyond me. She stated her unnecessary opinion. She did not need to reiterate it to every person with every dress. She's so gross for deliberately trying to ruin her daughter's confidence.
I feel like it may not always be true (but I have also seen a lot of SYTTD over the years) but alot of the time when Mom says "I want her to be her best she can be" in relation to wedding dress shopping its more like "I want her to be everything I feel I wasn't when I got married"
also can i mention that like when it comes to giving a white lie or not telling truth about someones body... sometimes its not the *truth* but just simply an opinion that doesnt need to be given. I look at that first bride and think shes a perfectly fine weight, one that fits her body and she wears it well. Her arms dont look chubby- they just look like arms. Shes obviously on the bigger curvier side but like thats when you find a dress that works with that instead of hides it. You should never try and hide your body because no matter how much fabric you got on people can still see the insecurity. Learn to work with what you have and after awhile youll find that youll like the way you look.
And she has lovely skin!
I wish you could have seen my 39-year-old, plus-size middle daughter at her wedding two years ago. Her arms were right out there since her dress was strapless.
She was the most ravishingly beautiful bride I've ever seen, bar none - including her lovely, thin cousin, who was also very beautiful. My daughter's radiance was brighter than the sun. Unforgettable.
Man the first bride looked gorgeous in both. Its a pity that her mother did not learn to keep her trap shut.
I am SO GLAD you call out the codependent couple on that missing tooth because lorddddddd 😂
I really didn’t like a lot of the dresses the red haired bride tried on, they were all very typical of plus size designs - unflattering fabrics and draping, lace and beading that looks like something my nan had hanging over her windows 30 years ago, etc.
The second bride’s uncle is what every bride’s family member should be like.
That first mum is an utter witch! Testament to the sweetness of the daughter that she remains so calm and considerate under the circumstances. She is obviously used to the mothers abusive comments.
Ii hope ‘say dress to the dress’ paid her well for putting up with the comments from her mother. I took a friend who loves shopping with me when I went to buy a wedding dress.
omg me and my sister still quote Romance's episode to each other from way back when we first saw that episode in like 2010! "That's niiiice. I like dat!"
Luke 🤣 the Jabs at STEVE sent me over the edge 👏🏼🤣 THANK YOU for yet another one of your captivating videos. LOVE your Channel 🤌🏽
I was looking for this comment 😂👏
There's honest and then there's being an @$$hole. Her mom was just being an @$$hole. There's a way to convey any truth. The fact the mother made excuses for her body just shows she's wrong.
This is why you should pay your own way. If you don't need her money then you don't need her approval.
exactly this
as a plus size woman, i loooooove how you stood up for us baby boy! 😘🥰 much love from argentina!
Immediately hate the mom here
Same. I HATE that a size 8-10 is fat! I grew up big-still big- and I heard the saying "covered up" for that reason. Wear what the fuck you want and if you're comfortable, then great! I honestly would love to be as "chubby" as that first bride!
@@mariearteaga3056 I'm in full agreement here, 8-10 in US sizes is about roughly 12-14 in UK/Aus, chubby is absolutely not the word I'd use to describe people typically wearing that size range, that mom would be horrified at the sizes I've bought if she thought that was fat
@@mariearteaga3056it's bonkers that, in my exp sometimes mid sized people get more grief than clearly plus size people. As a mid- large fat, I feel invisible, in person at least. Diff online. As a mid-size to small fat, I got so much pressure to "slim down" and conform. I think my looks and confidence meant I was still "competition" or "an option" for the straight size people who just HAD to remind me that I had just left their range of acceptability.
Being larger, those people aren't threatened or attracted and I just don't have to deal with them, unless they're internet bullies. The filter effect makes me not want to lose as much weight as my joints would prefer.
True to me the first mom was disgusting
My mom has started making comments and I out a stop to it immediately. I didn’t invite my mother dress shopping. I went with my daughter in law specifically to be able to push back against anyone who was rude to her.
“Boob sleeves, girls sleeves, breast sleeves?”
Ugh Luke a modern day hero 😂💕
I really hope it was the show's edit that made the first mom like that. Her daughter is gorgeous. She is obviously comfortable in her own skin, and that is priceless. The mother seems like she is doing everything she can to chip away at that. Also, to say those things in front of everyone like that, lacks all class.
A size 8 or 10 is not plus size! She’s beautiful. F that mom, seriously.
I would do anything to be an 8 or 10 🤣
Right, that's barely even midsize
Thats literally what I was thinking
The first bride seemed so nice!! I can't believe how her mom was speaking to her. Good on her for recognizing that those comments were more a reflection of her mom's personal problems than anything to do with her!
Brilliant video. If Romance had been in Atlanta, Lori would've been telling her to get the fox out of the henhouse lol.
I can believe it. My mother was going to get me a class ring and she turned and said your not going to get fat are you? Holding that over my head as a stipulation for getting A RING not a dress.
Apart from the actual dress buying, it’s so pathetic that this mother says that her daughters wedding is going to be “the best day of her life” - every day before that and every day after that not so great
I swear I've been curvy since I came out of the womb! My family was so vicious about my curves. They would talk about how fat & indecent I looked all the time. I couldn't wear what other girls wore, I had to be extra modest. In high school, P.E. class was terrible... the short shorts and the fitted t-shirts. Everybody exclaimed how I looked like a video vixen, which made me shrink and become even more self-conscious. I developed an eating disorder. I would go for days and eat nothing. When I finally did eat something, it was just a small fraction of food. I took me a long time to accept myself and become healthier. I just decided: I'm going to Live...FUCK EM! Now, I model and I wear flattering lovely fashions. I'm saying all this, because I wish I could have developed this confidence earlier. Fashion is for everyone! Love Your Body!✨️🩷✨️🩷✨️🩷✨️🩷✨️🩷
Good for you! F em! Your body is none of their business and having an opinion that you value is something other people need to earn through trust and intelligence. Bullies and shallow ignorance have neither.
@@AndromedaChace Thank you! You're an absolute blessing. ✨️✨️✨️🩷🩷🩷
I mean with the sheer paneling. that is a sample dress, so they could probably change the color when she got it made.
Maybe you want to check out TLCs "curvy brides boutique".
I always find it heartwarming how compassionate Al and Jo are☺💜
That is exactly why my wedding budget is so small. The money my family wants to contribute is not worth my peace of mind and happiness on my big day.
That first bride literally looks like a model. Her sister too they're so beautiful. Their mother needs to learn INSIDE THOUGHTS
Hate the mom's behaviour, she sounds like mine. Well, mine's worse but the "I'm fat now because I had all of you! I was skinny (and athletic) when I was your age! It's not comparable" is something she loved to say. It's so disingenuous on top of hurtful, because like. Your kids are their own people, they have different genetics and life circumstances, that's a stupid comparison.
The bride has so much patience lmao. Well, I guess she has to because mom's paying, but I would not be as kind and easy going as her.
Don't hide behind the "I'm going to say the truth" when you know you're tearing someone down. THAT is not a virtue of any kind.
My mother did this to me, literally my whole life. I had huge confidence issues. She would constantly criticise everything. "You're not an exceptional beauty, but you'll do." "You look like Renee Zellweger as Bridget Jones." "But that's a compliment dear." (You're fat! Is what she meant)
From the moment my daughter was born, I told her that she was beautiful. I say everything she wears is great. If I think that her skirt is too short, I tell her to pick stuff up using an Asian squat, rather than a bend. I never say I dislike her clothing or taste, but when she was about 12, I told her that she's responsible for how she looks and if she ever chooses to wear stuff that looks ridiculous, but she loves it, then that's perfectly fine with me. Needless to say she's got great taste in clothes, and she's just gorgeous.
When you mentioned Steve's missing tooth I was like damn gurl 😅😅😅
I love these videos, they are so much fun. Thanks for being an ally to plus size women, we should love how we are. The mom hates her body so she tries to body shame her daughter.
Moms need to remember that it isn't THEIR wedding.
That first mother was just horrible. I would have politely told my mother she could not be present with comments like that. With a mother like that who needs enemies. The daughter handled herself great.
This was fun, what ever the bride loves,that's it...and I love Luke's compassion, he's sweet ❤
My grandmother was like that. It was awful. So glad you have a great attitude.
Thanks for always being sweet to all body types. I think bridal shopping for plus size people can be especially triggering because there's so much pressure and expectations coming to a head all at once.
The first mom is horrible. She is making such rude comments with a smile on her face. She knows exactly what she is saying and how hurtful it is. Her daughter is beautiful and I would uninvite her to the wedding so quick.
The first bride is not especially fat, she is EU/USA average size and very beautiful. Her biggest problem is her mother.
The other brides are beautiful too, I feel bad that they have been made to feel ‘less than’.
USA average size is fat… sorry to say…
Each one of those brides were beautiful! Also seemed to be at least one in every group that pushed their own agenda. Toxic 'out of love' is still toxic
2:14 the dress is made to fit you, not you fit the dress. Be yourself and feel confident
She is gorgeous! Her mother is so insensitive!!!
Luke, such a fun session with you. You should be a therapist.... well, in a way you are and we viewers really appreciate it. xoxo
I LOVE your Say Yes videos!!! “Breast sleeve”!!! Thank you, Luke!
I don’t agree with motherly passive aggressive comments at all, but also I don’t agree with the idea of sleeves to hide arms, it does the exact opposite - it draws the eyes to the shape and highlights/shadows - and adding in the urban myth that white tends to make you look heavier vs black is slimming - sleeves don’t make sense at all. Also I’m prejudice bc I hate lacey mesh sleeves they just feel constricting.
Wait what? We aren't going to follow through with the whole episode? I need to see what she ends up getting (or not)!
I hate this verbal abuse! That bride is amazing with her positive attitude. Horrible to see this.
If that first mother was my mother then she would have gotten a final warning right in front of everyone to stfu or else she is uninvited.
That 'mother' takes so much pride in having been a skinny pride abd then shames her kids for her having gained weight because she gave birth to them (how exactly is having been birn the fault of her kids?) and then tops it off with 'my mother still does it'. Woman, you are old enough to get therapy. Get some... instead of causing your kids to need it.
Love your channel. You tell it how it is with compassion.
That first mother was horrid, her love feels extremely conditional just tearing her daughter down because she wasn’t rail thin. The daughter also looked gorgeous in each gown. I hope she buys her own dress and uninvites her mom, you don’t want that kind of negativity around on your wedding day
As per always, love your commentary!! & appreciate highlighting more plus content.
When the heck did 8-10 become "plus sized"?
I love that you got so engaged with the ladies...such a sweetheart you are 🩵 I wanted to see the ending of the princess poof dress - with or without the sleeves, too 😭
hello from Denmark 🌸
Those arms were NOT chubby. They were beautiful with a glowing skin. Ironically, those sleeves made her look 10 kilos heavier.
I am a bridal seamstress and that mom would be right out with the body shaming she is doing to her daughter, no way.
You should react to Jo & Al's Curvy Brides boutique! Those ladies Rock!
I love it when you do these❤
Her mom sitting there at a smooth size 18 has her nerveeeeee 😂😂😂😂😂
Mom better cut it out or she won’t be seeing the grandkids very much…
That first bride! My Gen X self looks at her and thinks god I am SO GLAD those younger than me are doing better than we were. Bless her! She is beautiful and so, SO tolerant of her mom's nonsense.
Then mom would be throwing tantrums when daughter goes no contact 🙌
This, fr
Thank you for the tooth comment. Really needed that laugh
The first mother is activating my fight or flight response 🥲
Love you and your critique. Looks like you got a tan. Looks good. 😊
You should absolutely watch jo and Al with curvy brides boutique! They are fantastic!
900K. Congrats. Well deserved 👍🏼
At my big age of 32 I have grown to love my body, and when i was younger I was discouraged from becoming a fashion designer because " fat people dont design clothes"
So watching the first bride stand up for herself was gratifying.
I just wanted to say thanks for all the work you have put in. You deserve to be treated like a prince and we could not be there. So, thank you! ❤❤❤❤❤❤
that first mother was VILE. i was totally.. and i hate to use this word but... TRIGGERED by her. that girl was beautiful. shame on her
The mother’s body shaming is awful. She nasty because her mother continues to be nasty. I like the bride to be will actually end the generational body shaming.
I was just listening to your episode on The Cutting Room Floor and then I open yt to an upload 💅🏾
"It's cute and sweet. It's squeet. I just made that up." 😂