Since I've been homeschooling my son I realize that the "weirdness" people perceive in homeschool kids is them being free to be who they are (ie: children) without having to act differently (ie: artificially mature) to be accepted by their classmates without ridicule.
That's what I always said too. Homeschool kids act the way children should behave, but they don't bc their child is too busy pretending just to fit in. And, there were a lot of weird kids in public school.
I was homeschooled until the 9th grade. I graduated high school early by completing my junior and senior year in one year with great grades. Since then at the age of 25 I am a home owner sitting on 7 acres of land while my husband and I own 2 successful businesses. I am not special! There are plenty of other former homeschoolers thriving in the world! Truly wish there was a channel to spread more awareness of successful homeschool stories and where/what they went off to do after school. Akeeba, I admire what you do and your content, keep it up! Thank you! 💕✨
Heck, I was socially awkward IN school! My homeschooled little ones are witty, understand sarcasm, can look you in the eyes and hold intelligent conversations, yet understand stranger danger!
They're also rec centers that do free activities, free movie nights outside all types of things that might cost only one or two dollars and children get to interact. And do arts and crafts.
I was NOT homeschooled and am strange/awkward in society 😂😂 if my mother spent as much time helping me grow as you do with your kids, I would have had a lot more confidence growing up.
I am weird and awkward as well, but what is wrong with that. Society and social media have people thinking they are strange when trying to be like everyone else is the weird thing just to fit in….
As an educator, I witnessed first hand, a kindergartner transitioned from home school to my classroom. He was the most sweetest, jovial and most verbally correct when it came to holding a conversation with. The rest of the class who attended prekindergarten (this a Montessori school) they were really mean and often bullied him.
I recently saw this happen with one of my daughter's playground friends. They had a really cute friendship and when she started preschool, she became so mean. I unfortunately, had to end that friendship because like I mentioned she was becoming so mean and her parents seemed to be totally hands off with her. They were really nice people but, school and the nanny were raising the little girl and it started to show.
@@barbarajacob85 it's possible it's the preschool environment! I have witnessed "Mean Girll" behavior with 4 year-olds in a child development center! There was a leader, a follower, & the one desperate to please. The desperate one is whom they mistreated whenever it suited the leader! If you didn't pay attention to the dynamics of their interactions with each other, you would assume that the three of them were best friends.
Exactly! Remember how much better life was after high school. In real life. When the petty teen drama dissipates. When judgement from other kids over what you are wearing, the music you like, who you are friends with, etc. no longer is being scrutinized by ppl around you.
I use summer camp, dance, and gymnastics. My girl is DEFINITELY a social butterfly. I cannot tell you how many numbers I have in my phone. As an introvert myself, I need a break from all of the play dates she wants to have😅.
This comment is everything!! My daughter has a better social life than me and she's only 4 years old haha 🤣 It's definitely a lot of work but, totally worth it!
Yes, my daughter wakes up every day asking to see her friends! As an introvert, its refreshing to have a daughter like this who constantly pushes me out of my comfort zone. I dont always feel like draining my energy in one single playdate but let's just say I really love her :D
I’m socially awkward and I went to Public school. If anything, I’m socially awkward because of the awful experiences I had in school. School literally broke my spirit as a child. I wish I could homeschool my girls again. I had such a great time with my girls and teaching them during the pandemic.
School was horrible for me as well and I’m still “awkward” because of it. I see my daughter is just like me, and is starting to dislike school. I’m planning on pulling her out by the end of the year.
I think they can also be more willing to converse with any age, rather than thinking people are too old or too young. I think if you only learn how to get along with your peers, you're limiting yourself and the blessing you can bring to others.
Public school is a nest of vipers and wackos. Keep your kids home. Let them grow up being kids doing kid things. You go girl! This lady is a teacher she knows what she is doing!!!
Hey Lois . I read your comment. The choices that you make for your family is your choice. We are all different. I'm not here to judge anyone if they decide to homeschool their kids or public school. My grandson goes to a public school. And because he or others kids attend a public school doesn't mean they are a nest of vipers and wackos. So help me to understand this comment.
I'd have u to know her sister who is a very successful youtuber has children in public school and this can be very offensive. All public schools aren't bad and not all home schools are great.
They are children don't talk about them like that....just like it's not ok to talk about home school CHILDREN like that. They are all JUST KIDS leave them alone.
We need weird free thinking human beings not conformist who all try to do what everyone else is doing. This woman is raising true creators and innovators
Agreed and do Asian and Indian parents get all hot and bothered and throw themselves in any kind of debate on how they’re homeschooling and rearing THEIR OWN kids (I.e., not our kids, not our concern.) It seems their kids have been going on to win every spelling bee, every geography bee, all kinds of college scholarships and public and academic honors and go on to be wildly successful creators and innovators. These kids are outdoing everybody and if they’re weird, they sure are good at weirdness and their parents aren’t caring about anyone’s opinions. Good for them
My kid is exuberant. Hanging out with friends & meeting people is his favorite thing to do. He's an expert mountain biker, has one season of ice skating under his belt, spent this summer in an outdoorsy camp & will be going to work & learn on a farm next month. He's 5. There's no way he'd be able to live such an interesting & SOCIALIZED life going to somebody's school.
I've been a homeschool mom for about 18 years. I think public school is a terrible place for children...all the bullying, rudeness, etc. Anything you want to keep from your children, you can find it in public school. My children (all 7) were reading above grade level. They had no problems having conversations with adults. Ironically, their friends that have been in school since kindergarten are actually the "socially awkward" ones 😊
@@scorpiocara6798 - What plausible reason would be for homeschooled children to be bullied? What behavior and actions on the part of homeschooled children would _cause_ them to be bullied? What is it they are being taught to attract bullies? Why aren't bullies held accountable for their incivility? From whom do bullies inherit their values, principles, and social cues? Let's get to the _root_ of this odd pathology once and for all.
@@sonyacotton4881 this went over your head. I'll start here......throughout life means from birth to death. Throughout life doesn't mean childhood. There
@@scorpiocara6798 Being homeschoolers, they are out in the public & interact with other children in the community. They're on the swim team at the Y, they take boxing, dance & music lessons & they grew up in a house full of siblings. So the opportunity to be bullied has presented itself many, many times. All of them have been hassled by a bully or insulted...it's a part of growing up & they handled themselves well. But while they were little I loved that we could talk about bullying before it actually happened, I'd give my support & encouragement & I was usually present when it happened. I never jumped in because I think I equipped them with what they needed. I would watch to make sure it didn't get violent...but they ALL handled each situation like a champ. What public school teacher is gonna make sure things don't get out of hand? I don't believe there is one that cares for my little people like I (& my husband) do ❤️ I'm grateful that I don't have any rude, nasty, unfriendly bullies for children 💯
My homeschooled daughter got a job for which she had to interview and was told afterwards by her new boss that the interview went extremely well and that she was very composed. She was 16. She’s now 17, still works there, she teaches tennis to younger children, she’s given private tennis lessons, and works with other teenagers her age, and interacts with patrons of the center. She went to public school for 5 months, we took her out and have homeschooled her and her sister ever since.
I work in education and I know this may sound mean but some of the kids that I have come across in my career need to be home schooled. All the weirdos seem to be at school. IJS!!!
I saw a change in my son after homeschooling, he was so worried about what he wore and how he was perceived at school. He was only in 2nd grade. As soon as I started homeschooling, he no longer cared about if his clothes were “cool” if he wanted to wear a dinosaur tee shirt because he likes dinosaurs, he did it. He wouldn’t wear it before for fear of looking less mature to his “school friends”. What you’re saying is definitely true.
I worked in public schools and I would advise ALL parents to homeschool if they can because kids are being indoctrinated and creativity is being stifled!
I find alot of people who ridicule homeschooling parents do it because they're jealous that they or someone else close to them don't have the option to homeschool their kids. Some of my friends make dumb comments to me like this. Then, they test the waters jokingly, wondering if I'd consider homeschooling "other" kids...... NOPE
I often read over the comments and I’m amazed that there is so much judgement. I am not a homeschooler (at least at the moment). I attend a church where 90% of the families do homeschool. What I’ve found is that most parents need a really good support system (whether you homeschool, private school or public school). We should not be beating up on one another but lovingly supporting one another. My son is in college now and I’ve had almost all homeschool parents tell me how he is such a wonderful young man and so respectful. My little one is 4 and she is home with me while I work and she is sassy but sweet. I agree with the video that most of our children’s behavior come from watching the parents. So when you see a child act out ( no matter how they are schooled) pray for them and maybe guide them to be better. They may not have that example at home. Great video and thank you for sharing the multiple ways of how to socialize our children.
I’ve homeschooled for 20 years. The same arguments and comments you’re dealing with I had to deal with 20 years ago. More people are homeschooling but ignorance about education and socialization are still very prevalent. It must be that the few who do research end up homeschooling themselves. Side note: the only person who gave me support from the very start was my aunt who had her Ph.D in education. She was a teacher when I was born, her own father had dedicated a portion of his farm land so their small Arkansas town could have a school. Education is important to us. She supported me openly.
I just have to add that I was in public school my whole life (except I dropped out after freshman year), and my social skills are debilitatingly horrible. Being bullied by other kids and teachers/ daycare had taken its toll on me. I wasn’t able to thrive the way I needed to as a highly sensitive person. I was literally imprisoned for the majority of the day and wasn’t being nurtured. Children need to be nurtured and connected with as individuals.
That stinks, I'm sorry. My own son is very smart and very capable but he's also very hyper and very sensitive. I think he simply inherited it from us because our lives have been hectic and I'm certain that has affected his gene expression. We work on emotional self regulation techniques while we're working on academics. It's important for him to learn resiliency while he's little because he's naturally aversive to anything he perceives as difficult. If would be terrible on him if I went him to school.
Hey Akeeba I enjoy your videos and I learn a lot from watching. I'm not a homeschooler. My sons are grown and did attend public schools. But I do have a six year old grandson in public school. I learned that we are not here to please everyone. That's impossible. Like you said one of the best way to deal with a mean person or even a bully is by ignoring them if we can. We all have different circumstances where some parents are able to stay at home and teach their kids. And there are parents who works and have to send their kids to public school. Whatever choices we make, we feel that it's best for our family. So your girls are awesome. People is going to criticize. This is the world we live in. No matter if kids are homeschool, public school or private school we have to teach our kids the right way to treat others. Akeeba you are doing an amazing job.
I attended public schools from Kindergarten to my senior year in High School. I was always in the top classes, considered a high achiever and one of the "weird ones". I was rather quiet and didn't find my way into the cligues so prevalent in the upper grades. But I had great socialization opportunities by joining art, writing, theatrical and music groups from 6th grade on! I was also a Girl Scout and had a group of friends on my block who I had shared the baby carriage with before we all learned to talk and walk. Kids find a way to socialize no matter the setting. There are pros and cons to public, private and homeschool settings, but interested parents and engaged children make them all work! I went on to a public college and then a private university from which I earned a Master's Degree. I taught in the public schools for 34 years and retired 8 years ago. I consider my life a success and it isn't over yet. There's still a grand adventure ahead of me. Your children will be fine.
Sis I haven’t even listened to the entire video and just want you to know YOU & Your Children are AMAZING!!!!🙌🏾You were the reason I home schooled my 3 daughters during the start of the pandemic! I would still do it if I didn’t run into some health challenges. Anyway, please know we stand with you!❤️🙏🏾
I love me some you lol thats all i wanna say to this. I love me some you. You are a beautiful, wise, care and loving mother and teacher! I can talk to you for hours about this. However since i totally agree with everything you have said in this and the last video.... I love me some you!!! Thank you!
With so many activities and opportunities in our area, I feel like we rarely do a full day of school actually at home 😆 I think the ability of homeschooled kids to talk respectfully to anyone from adults to toddlers is such a strength. To them the world is an interesting and engaging place, whereas their peers in school are fighting for social and academic survival so their motivations are totally different. Love your videos! You are a great ambassador for all of us!
As a homeschooling mama I constitently remind myself a lot of what you're saying, yet it's so nice and refreshing to hear from another homeschooler who gets it
I absolutely love this. I’m a homeschool mom myself and that is the #1 question I get asked when people find out that I homeschool. I’m literally just going to send folks this video so that I don’t have to repeat myself. Thank you so much for explaining this in such a detailed way. 🙌🏼🙌🏼 keep doing what you do!
Me being in public school destroyed me mentally and didn’t help I had undiagnosed schizoaffective disorder either. This time with my kids I’m not letting them go through what I did now that I can stay home and do something about it. Homeschooling and homestead for life now!!
It never seems to amaze me, every video I watched when people are doing wonderful things, there's always that P-PAT, being negative. You are doing a wonderful job with your beautiful daughters🙏❤️
I went to public school and I was weird and anti social... my children are homeschooled and omg let me tell you how well spoken and social they are! And when they play with other kids they know how to take turns, be polite and share. These comments are really ignorant. Every child is different and have there own personality
Hear comes the devil, always got something ignorant to say about homeschooler's 🙄 We all need to be careful with whom we allow our children to socialize with, especially in this world as it is now.
AKEEBA, AKEEBA, AKEEBA!!!!!👏👏👏👏👏 YOU ARE RAISING THE FUTURE'S LEADERS. YOU'RE ON ANOTHER LEVEL DEAR. I UNDERSTAND YOU 100%. CONTINUE TO BE THE BRILLIANT MIND YOU ARE. KEEP ENLIGHTENING YOUR BABY GIRLS. PERSEVERE WITH YOUR DEDICATION TO BE THE BEST MOTHER YOU CAN BE FOR YOUR CHILDREN. I TRULY ENJOY YOUR ABILITY TO STAND FIRMLY WITHOUT OFFENDING THESE DIFFERENT PEOPLE WHO MAY NOT BE QUITE READY FOR THIS TYPE OF DISCUSSION. KUDOS!!!!! 💟💟💟💟💟
My 17 year old daughter was biting her nails last semester and her acne was at it's worst. It took her a while to open up and let me know that her math teacher was yelling at the students every single day. It the beginning she was nicer to the boys in her class but eventually she became mean to all of them. She used to comment on my daughter's hair, she commented if she had box braids and she commented when she had her natural curls. My daughter didn't want me to "tell on the teacher" or "get her in trouble" , she said that the teacher used to brag about how she had been reported many times but no one could get her fired. I eventually asked for an appointment and showed up at school with out telling y daughters and got her moved to another math teacher. A week after a social worker from the Department of Children and Families came and took notes of everything I had to say, the school had her sent to us. Well, after all the questions and after all my venting and my daughters cry's the teacher is still at school yelling and demining students. I guess that unless she sexually or physically abuses a student she will won't be fired. It's very depressing. Be proud to homeschool your kids!
That is so wrong! I feel so sad your daughter felt so intimidated by a teacher...all the parents should get their kids outta her class...she can sit and watch kids for study hall!😂😂😂
@@shadowprovesunshine Apparently her record is getting very thick with all the complains but it's frustrating how they still keep her as a teacher. Teacher's are investigated by people from the district office. The interview other teachers and students. I guess the other teachers are not talking, even though some of them have had to cheer upset students who talk about her terrible behavior. I gave my daughter the option to study from home but she wants to enjoy her Senior year. My daughter has a part time job, she's part of the youth group at church and she has many friends, she could stay home away from the toxic environment but she wants to graduate with her friends. I have total respect for parents who homeschool their kids.
I agree and great points all around. I had friends growing up who were homeschooled all the way up til high school yet we still socialize and played in the neighborhood and they excelled above average academically. Well done video! 👍🏾
Akeeba.. there are no words to describe how much I love and support YOU and the work you do. Thank you 🙌🏾🥰 I hope we can be a source of encouragement to you because you help us out so much!
You are correct everytime I went to parent teacher I was so surprised when the teachers told me the biggest problem with her was she's too shy. She wouldn't speak at all but, at home she's the life at the party.
"Socializing" according to those who think it can only or should mostly happen at school means what forced proximity with 25 or so other kids near your age? I clearly remember being told I talk too much, I ask too many questions and that school isn't for socializing by my teachers. The talks too much\asks too much made it to the report card comments.
*("I clearly remember being told I talk too much, I ask too many questions and that school isn't for socializing by my teachers. The talks too much\asks too much made it to the report card comments.")*
@@sonyacotton4881 The school system is there to keep people from thinking for themselves and wanting the truth. Otherwise we would have an empowered electorate who actually rules themselves instead of needing a ruling class to control them. The school system creates too many mindless sheep who just do what they are told
Great video! You are right, we need "weird" people--different, creative people--in our society. I think the "weirdness" of homeschoolers is one of the best things about them. They typically aren't as concerned about what is trendy, cool, and popular, and have the confidence to do what they love. They make amazing leaders, scholars, and hard workers. I was homeschooled, and now I'm homeschooling my kiddos, and I often find myself wondering when the homeschoolers-aren't-socialized angle is going to finally die.
I love that you brought up how kids learn socialization from their parents, I often find that I am mostly quiet and observant like my father, while when I need to be, or am having a great day I am much like my mother, I was homeschooled for two years and attended public school most of my life, I hated public school it was tough for me lol 😅. This year is my first year homeschooling my children and they enjoy learning and being able to play with the neighborhood kids!
One of the most eloquent persons, that I have had the honor to meet, was homeschooled with Montessori. She came to speak at the college I was getting my bachelors degree in education at. She sparked thoughts about how are we dealing with education, what other models are there? She was just so well spoken and knowledgeable. The next semester, I talked one of my instructors into an independent study to go study different education models, from reservation models, charter, private, catholic, homeschooling you name it...I got to go see it. So, that homeschooling child sparked, my current goal of shifting education, to meet the child's needs, not the child meeting the social constructs needs.
They said that bs to my Mom 26 years ago. My brother and I are fully functioning adults in society with social skills. As kids we interacted with both adults and other children better compared to our peers, we have independence of thought compared to our peers.
A lot of us have been raised with a hive mentality and when they see people who haven't been raised with that mentality to follow the prevailing behaviour, we feel threatened and need to lash out. Hence the audacity. People also seem to forget that there are many kids for whom school is daily torture because they can't assimilate easily because they're very shy or can't socialise easily. Whenever I hear an adult freely call a kid "weird" I pray they haven't procreated coz their kids are usually bullies
Lol my 8 sibling and I were homeschoold + a bunch of our friends . We are all very confident adults who have tons of friends, enjoy being around other people and contribute to society. Ignore all this crap narrow minded people are saying. There are weird/shy kids in school and out.
They actually did research on the life long effects of home Vs public school. The general happiness and success factors of homeschool children to adults was way higher! I'm assuming it's because they can be out and about in society more often and are generally more relaxed without the constant pressure of a 40+ HR work week (plus homework). Homeschool kids are given time to relax, time to do their own projects, time to play...time to think about what natural skills they have and how they can use that to their future advantage. I knowany homeschoolers who have started a business much younger than an average person because they have had the time/passion for it
As usual, I missed whar was so controversial about your content. I was too busy gleaning the jewels of advice you always so graciously give. Thank you for your willingness to share. I have gained a lot of knowledge and new viewpoints from watching your videos. Be blessed, Akeeba!
I attended public schools my entire life, and I am an introvert. I am not very outgoing at all. Though, I grew- up with many cousins. We lived together, played together. I still much prefer to keep my own company most of the time. It's a personality thing. It has nothing to do with children who attended public schools, verses home-schools... I guess, I would be considered " weird" . But I am not! Nothing wrong with being different!! Hi Akeeba! 🙂❤️
I loved this❤ When I pulled my mildly ASD son at 5 years old from school and decided to homeschool, my mother in laws first words were, “Oh no don’t do that to him, he’s going to be weird!” Lol! Well he has Autism, so… The fact is, now at 14, he is one of the most well rounded, kindest, most with it kids that I know. He has surpassed all the schools thought that he would ever accomplish, have a video making/editing job with a musician, and can totally tell some funny jokes. Homeschooling my son is the single best thing that I could have done for him in this life, so more power to all of us! Love your thoughts and can’t wait to watch more.
Honey there is always going to be those that don't agree with others so they try to belittle and bring down anyone who disagrees with them, but I think you are very brave for choosing to make these videos to teach others. Thank you for waking up everyday and choosing to help other people in the most productive way you can. To the comments the people I know who have been homeschoolled are some of the smartest, most well-rounded people I know. I wouldn't have commented but I felt like I should let you know I really appreciate you. 😌
I home schooled my 2 children from birth all the way through high school. My daughter just graduated from college and my son is currently in college. They both still live with us. My son came home from one of his classes the other day and said "when we were waiting for the teacher to come in, I noticed every single kid was staring at their phone except for me." He said they all looked like a bunch of zombies. Talk about NOT knowing how to socialize!
Yesssss!!! Thanks for correcting the negative thoughts 💭 about Homeschooling your children. My daughter excelled more being Homeschooled than she did in Public School. She did not have the pressure of trying to be like someone else because her way of learning was different from everyone else. She’s very out going both my children are and they are Homeschooling their children now!!!❤️❤️❤️
Kudos to you your response was so professional and realistic!! Love what you are doing I have my PhD in early childhood education and I'm thinking of starting my own school soon and I truly enjoy learning from you as well!! Please keep bringing the content sis it's truly truly appreciated... and I just love your girls and I also follow your sister love her family as well!!
Sweet lady, you and your kiddos are doing just amazing. Those babies are going to be wonderful grown-ups one day. People need to let kids be kids. Public schools are indeed a gift BUT they made me grow up waaaay too fast.
I have been homeschooling since 2004. I've graduated four children, I have two more to go. Around here there's all kinds of things homeschooled children can do. There's co-ops, there's different groups, lots of field trips. The field trip we went on yesterday, there were children of all ages there. We are going on another field trip tomorrow and possibly Thursday. We get all our school work done in the morning and then we have the afternoons to go have fun and do whatever we want.
I went to college with people from public and private schools (not sure I've ever met a homeschooled person). Plenty of them were weird, couldn't take a joke or be funny, couldn't hold a conversation, couldn't hold eye contact, or know how to date maturely, etc. A lot also had hangups about their time in school from bullying, peer pressure, or abuse from teachers.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THAT ACTUAL DEFINITION OF WHAT SOCIALIZATION IS 👏👏👏👏👏. People are so smart with so much to say and don't even know the definition of words. Proper socialization is learned from adults NOT immature children often coming from homes where parents have their own issues and aren't themselves teaching their children proper "Socialization skills". Bullies, bad behaving children, and antisocial behavior is rampant in schools, which shows the lack of proper socialization. Public or private school is the last place socialization should be taught. You can converse and PRACTICE your skills with peers, but you don't learn from them, or you shouldn't learn from them even though so many kids in society do which is why we have so many problems. I don't think those school shooters were cool kids with great socialization skills, and I don't think a homeschooled child just decided to go shoot some people because they didn't like being homeschooled, and lacked coping skills...which is part of socialization. 🙄 I can't stand people.
Hello sis, I personally think the way you’re raising your children (what you’re showing us) is amazing. Your children are intelligent and I am proud of them. They calculate things (maths) faster than me. As a mother if you believe you’re doing the right thing then good for you. Thank you for sharing your videos and giving us some advice. Now, comments such as those will always come. You do not know who is behind the screen. Don’t give room for the bad comments on your platform. (But I also understand some things have to be addressed) it is well with you and your children. God Bless you in Jesus name. Read our nice comments and make a video I’m sure you’ll run over 1hour reading them 😁🫡
In the 11th grade, I begged my mother to allow me to become homeschooled, not because of bullying or anything other than the fact that school was a distraction from learning. Yes, I said it, and as a former educator ( I left just before the pandemic began), I still hold this belief. Of course, there are always exceptions to the rule, but in general, so many interruptions and distractions take place in the traditional brick and mortar building called school, that the typical 7-8 hours the students are there ( which is the equivalent of a full-time job, mind you) is really cut down to half that time, or even less, of actual learning time. I believe that more learning can take place in a structured home schooling environment. For the social aspect of school, as Akeba shows, there are so many programs in which children can participate to practice these skills. I realize that not everyone who wants to, is able to homeschool their children, and for those I say; 1. Do the best you can to work towards making it happen, you’ll be amazed at the kind of doors that can open up. 2) If possible, find a trustworthy person who stays home and homeschools their children, there are many state based curriculums out there that can be supplemented with free materials on the internet. 3). Look into private schools, as sometimes they can be a lot better than public. 4).For whatever reason, if you’ve chosen to keep your children in either private or public school, never leave the education up to the teachers. Although most do the best they can, the truth is, some children can easily slip through the cracks. I know the pandemic has caused some parents to have a bad taste in their mouths regarding homeschooling, but it really can be a wonderful experience that benefits your child. Best wishes to all!
I home schooled all my children and grands one of my children who is an adult now she did not like home schooling. The other day she complimented me about homing schooling them and want it for her child.
I just want to say that you are doing great mama 👏🏼 I was homeschooled for a few years and ended up homeschooling my son for 2 years as well. The comments we got were also so judge mental and mostly all had to do with social interactions. Now we are sending our son to a private Christian school this year because they do the same curriculum (Abeka) and his teachers constantly tell me how well behaved he is and he interacts with all the kids just fine. He has learned to interact respectfully to adults AND has shown kindness to his friends. If society deems homeschooling as a ‘social inhibitor’ then I would rather have that stereotype than my kid learning bullying or whatever else. I went to public high school after being homeschooled and my education fell back so much that I ended up graduating with business math. I was bullied so much and that’s when I experienced depression & social anxiety. As a mama, I never want my kid to feel like they need to go through things like that in order for him to just deal with it. I want to raise him as a kind and thoughtful and not self serving human being. Rant over, but just know I think you are doing great! Homeschooling is hard BUT its benefits far outweigh anything else society wants to teach our children.
🙄Rolling my eyes at the questions. These are the typical questions you get when you homeschool. Most people are just unaware and thank God for people like yourself. I appreciate your wealth of information, confidence and articulation. 🙌🏾 I’m not homeschooling now, I did 6/7yrs ago, but it’s on my heart to do.
OMG! It's very scary to me that you receive such comments. I really appreciate how you handle it. I learned long ago some negative views about homeschooling when I took my daughter out for just a year. More recently I have witnessed what a colossal waist of time public school is.
I love you!!!! My daughters are home schooled..they are very outgoing social, observant, and everywhere they go, they attract children like magnets. I always get compliment on their communication skills and intelligence. You are so correct about socializing happening at home. And yes negative socialization does happen at school, I know a child that was assaulted at school by a classmate. quiet=observant and analytical most of the time. my oldest daughter who had been homeschooled throughout her life, would always make jokes, she got scouted 3 times in whole foods by a Talent Agent because she was so funny. My middle daughter has always been home schooled and she loves to teach, she taught me how to swim, how to skate board and has taught and inspired many other children/girls how to skateboard. she also taught herself how to swim and skate and do tricks on her board. my youngest whom is homeschooled, taught her self how to swim and skateboard and do tricks and she has very funny jokes. So glad you made this video, there is allot of ignorance in the world people speak from a space of ignorance. My children are very strong and now how to stand up for themselves and they do not feel like they have to fit in. They are strong and confident in their uniqueness and do not feel like they have to be like others but still have appreciation for the diversity of humanity. they are more well adjusted and accepting of people's differences than those who feel they have to bully. this one girl tried to bully my youngest at the park and she just was not having it whatsoever. but that was a one off situation. I am always happy to see them getting along with children in the community and anywhere we go, and chose to homeschool for the same reasons you did. very proud of you and your Sister. P.S. I met them when they visited the drum circle in los Angeles a few years back :)
I was homeschooled and am now homeschooling my kids. We love to socialize through activities like girl scouts, ice hockey, summer camp, dance class, karate, gymnastics, homeschool co-op, field trips and of course roller skating, ice skating, library and at the playground, of course. We homeschoolers get it in 😉
Usually when people attack others that feel the need to be negative and mean, I just want to say God knows all our homeschool moms hearts and we are definitely not weird but we are rad misfits created under Gods love. Sports extra homeschool groups talking to kids at libraries parks etc. there’s so many places that we socialize our kids with.
Where are they studies on this? Where is their data? Oh that's right, there is none! It's their sad perceptions of home schooling, not the reality. You could say you are sending your child to THE WORST school in THE WORST area and they'd have nothing to say, but state that you're home-schooling and don't the armchair warriors get their pad and pencil out ready to school you on the negative impacts of home school. I do not want my child conforming to fit in and get along with everyone. Suppress his interests because it's not provided for in the school or not what the cool kids are doing.
Frankly Akeeba, your children are sooo intelligent and I'm super impressed by all of you. They are so blessed to have you as both their parent and educator🧡
You are so sweet and patient to respond to such questions in the first place. 😂 We have been blessed to have supportive family but “how will you socialize them” is definitely always the first question. All it took was a simple explanation how we intend to do real life, have experiences, and do activities to help them understand that homeschooling does not have to be sitting alone at home all day.
Since I've been homeschooling my son I realize that the "weirdness" people perceive in homeschool kids is them being free to be who they are (ie: children) without having to act differently (ie: artificially mature) to be accepted by their classmates without ridicule.
This! So much this!
Yup
Precisely!!!!!!!
I didn't even homeschool and I still encourage the "weird" in my kids. It's their birthright and I will NEVER strip it from them! 💯
That's what I always said too. Homeschool kids act the way children should behave, but they don't bc their child is too busy pretending just to fit in. And, there were a lot of weird kids in public school.
I was homeschooled until the 9th grade. I graduated high school early by completing my junior and senior year in one year with great grades. Since then at the age of 25 I am a home owner sitting on 7 acres of land while my husband and I own 2 successful businesses. I am not special! There are plenty of other former homeschoolers thriving in the world! Truly wish there was a channel to spread more awareness of successful homeschool stories and where/what they went off to do after school.
Akeeba, I admire what you do and your content, keep it up! Thank you! 💕✨
Congratulations! Have you considered starting that successful homeschoolers’ channel starting with your own experience? 😊
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Heck, I was socially awkward IN school! My homeschooled little ones are witty, understand sarcasm, can look you in the eyes and hold intelligent conversations, yet understand stranger danger!
Same!
THIS!!
Same!!
Right!!! My homeschooled kids are waaaaaay better in social settings than I was! 😒
They're also rec centers that do free activities, free movie nights outside all types of things that might cost only one or two dollars and children get to interact. And do arts and crafts.
I went to public school my entire life and I'm still an introvert and socially awkward lol.
Yep. Same here lol
Same! 😂
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Same here 😅
Same
I was NOT homeschooled and am strange/awkward in society 😂😂 if my mother spent as much time helping me grow as you do with your kids, I would have had a lot more confidence growing up.
I am weird and awkward as well, but what is wrong with that. Society and social media have people thinking they are strange when trying to be like everyone else is the weird thing just to fit in….
Your comment touched me and made me emotional, I'm going to put more effort in making time for my children
Amen to that...I wish my parents paid that much attention to my schooling!
And opportunity
I agree!
As an educator, I witnessed first hand, a kindergartner transitioned from home school to my classroom. He was the most sweetest, jovial and most verbally correct when it came to holding a conversation with. The rest of the class who attended prekindergarten (this a Montessori school) they were really mean and often bullied him.
I recently saw this happen with one of my daughter's playground friends. They had a really cute friendship and when she started preschool, she became so mean. I unfortunately, had to end that friendship because like I mentioned she was becoming so mean and her parents seemed to be totally hands off with her. They were really nice people but, school and the nanny were raising the little girl and it started to show.
@@barbarajacob85 it's possible it's the preschool environment! I have witnessed "Mean Girll" behavior with 4 year-olds in a child development center!
There was a leader, a follower, & the one desperate to please. The desperate one is whom they mistreated whenever it suited the leader! If you didn't pay attention to the dynamics of their interactions with each other, you would assume that the three of them were best friends.
Because he was probably weird 😕
Homeschool gives children the opportunity to socialize in real life and it’s wonderful.
Exactly! Remember how much better life was after high school. In real life. When the petty teen drama dissipates. When judgement from other kids over what you are wearing, the music you like, who you are friends with, etc. no longer is being scrutinized by ppl around you.
@@rhiannongonzalez1241 wow absolutely.
Agreed ❤❤❤❤
I use summer camp, dance, and gymnastics. My girl is DEFINITELY a social butterfly. I cannot tell you how many numbers I have in my phone. As an introvert myself, I need a break from all of the play dates she wants to have😅.
This comment is everything!! My daughter has a better social life than me and she's only 4 years old haha 🤣 It's definitely a lot of work but, totally worth it!
🤣🤣😂💛. Thats hilarious about being an introvert and your daughter.
This statement sounds like something I wrote, lol.
Yes, my daughter wakes up every day asking to see her friends! As an introvert, its refreshing to have a daughter like this who constantly pushes me out of my comfort zone. I dont always feel like draining my energy in one single playdate but let's just say I really love her :D
This is me totally as well. Lol
They should just say they don't know anything about child development and leave it there. 🙄
I’m socially awkward and I went to Public school. If anything, I’m socially awkward because of the awful experiences I had in school. School literally broke my spirit as a child. I wish I could homeschool my girls again. I had such a great time with my girls and teaching them during the pandemic.
Same. I don’t like going out much because of my experience in school but I’m slowing getting over it.
School was horrible for me as well and I’m still “awkward” because of it. I see my daughter is just like me, and is starting to dislike school. I’m planning on pulling her out by the end of the year.
I wasn't homeschooled and I am a major introvert. My homeschooled son is outgoing and loves to talk and interact with people.
I have to say from my own observation, homeschooled kids are so much more confident especially when conversing with adults
I think they can also be more willing to converse with any age, rather than thinking people are too old or too young. I think if you only learn how to get along with your peers, you're limiting yourself and the blessing you can bring to others.
Some adults have told me that about by then 11/12 year old. He’s turning into a very witty, funny and interesting conversationalist.
My response to those kinds of people is "you need to do what is best for your family" as I walk away! ❤️❤️❤️
Public school is a nest of vipers and wackos. Keep your kids home. Let them grow up being kids doing kid things. You go girl! This lady is a teacher she knows what she is doing!!!
Facts
Hey Lois . I read your comment. The choices that you make for your family is your choice. We are all different. I'm not here to judge anyone if they decide to homeschool their kids or public school. My grandson goes to a public school. And because he or others kids attend a public school doesn't mean they are a nest of vipers and wackos. So help me to understand this comment.
I'd have u to know her sister who is a very successful youtuber has children in public school and this can be very offensive. All public schools aren't bad and not all home schools are great.
@@armetriadboyz this is a guess but she might have meant the teachers/administrators?
They are children don't talk about them like that....just like it's not ok to talk about home school CHILDREN like that. They are all JUST KIDS leave them alone.
We need weird free thinking human beings not conformist who all try to do what everyone else is doing. This woman is raising true creators and innovators
Sayyyyyyyy thatttttt!!!!!!! You betttter say thatttt!!!!!!!!!
Yes!
Yes! Exactly! 🎉🚀
Yes!!! Who says we all need to behave and talk in the same ways, right?
Agreed and do Asian and Indian parents get all hot and bothered and throw themselves in any kind of debate on how they’re homeschooling and rearing THEIR OWN kids (I.e., not our kids, not our concern.) It seems their kids have been going on to win every spelling bee, every geography bee, all kinds of college scholarships and public and academic honors and go on to be wildly successful creators and innovators. These kids are outdoing everybody and if they’re weird, they sure are good at weirdness and their parents aren’t caring about anyone’s opinions. Good for them
My kid is exuberant. Hanging out with friends & meeting people is his favorite thing to do. He's an expert mountain biker, has one season of ice skating under his belt, spent this summer in an outdoorsy camp & will be going to work & learn on a farm next month. He's 5. There's no way he'd be able to live such an interesting & SOCIALIZED life going to somebody's school.
I've been a homeschool mom for about 18 years. I think public school is a terrible place for children...all the bullying, rudeness, etc. Anything you want to keep from your children, you can find it in public school. My children (all 7) were reading above grade level. They had no problems having conversations with adults. Ironically, their friends that have been in school since kindergarten are actually the "socially awkward" ones 😊
They're going to get bullied throughout life n ppl will be rude like they're bosses or the ppl they work with. How r u preparing them for that reality
@@scorpiocara6798 - What plausible reason would be for homeschooled children to be bullied? What behavior and actions on the part of homeschooled children would _cause_ them to be bullied? What is it they are being taught to attract bullies? Why aren't bullies held accountable for their incivility? From whom do bullies inherit their values, principles, and social cues? Let's get to the _root_ of this odd pathology once and for all.
@@sonyacotton4881 this went over your head.
I'll start here......throughout life means from birth to death. Throughout life doesn't mean childhood.
There
@@scorpiocara6798 Being homeschoolers, they are out in the public & interact with other children in the community. They're on the swim team at the Y, they take boxing, dance & music lessons & they grew up in a house full of siblings. So the opportunity to be bullied has presented itself many, many times. All of them have been hassled by a bully or insulted...it's a part of growing up & they handled themselves well.
But while they were little I loved that we could talk about bullying before it actually happened, I'd give my support & encouragement & I was usually present when it happened. I never jumped in because I think I equipped them with what they needed. I would watch to make sure it didn't get violent...but they ALL handled each situation like a champ.
What public school teacher is gonna make sure things don't get out of hand? I don't believe there is one that cares for my little people like I (& my husband) do ❤️
I'm grateful that I don't have any rude, nasty, unfriendly bullies for children 💯
@@aissatamuhammad2581 kudo to you mama. Wish I could but gotta go to work.
My homeschooled daughter got a job for which she had to interview and was told afterwards by her new boss that the interview went extremely well and that she was very composed. She was 16. She’s now 17, still works there, she teaches tennis to younger children, she’s given private tennis lessons, and works with other teenagers her age, and interacts with patrons of the center. She went to public school for 5 months, we took her out and have homeschooled her and her sister ever since.
Girllll... If these people don't mind their damn business!!!
I work in education and I know this may sound mean but some of the kids that I have come across in my career need to be home schooled. All the weirdos seem to be at school. IJS!!!
I saw a change in my son after homeschooling, he was so worried about what he wore and how
he was perceived at school. He was only in 2nd grade. As soon as I started homeschooling, he no longer cared about if his clothes were “cool” if he wanted to wear a dinosaur tee shirt because he likes dinosaurs, he did it. He wouldn’t wear it before for fear of looking less mature to his “school friends”. What you’re saying is definitely true.
Thank you Akeeba. Thank you 🙂
I worked in public schools and I would advise ALL parents to homeschool if they can because kids are being indoctrinated and creativity is being stifled!
I find alot of people who ridicule homeschooling parents do it because they're jealous that they or someone else close to them don't have the option to homeschool their kids. Some of my friends make dumb comments to me like this. Then, they test the waters jokingly, wondering if I'd consider homeschooling "other" kids...... NOPE
I often read over the comments and I’m amazed that there is so much judgement. I am not a homeschooler (at least at the moment). I attend a church where 90% of the families do homeschool. What I’ve found is that most parents need a really good support system (whether you homeschool, private school or public school). We should not be beating up on one another but lovingly supporting one another. My son is in college now and I’ve had almost all homeschool parents tell me how he is such a wonderful young man and so respectful. My little one is 4 and she is home with me while I work and she is sassy but sweet. I agree with the video that most of our children’s behavior come from watching the parents. So when you see a child act out ( no matter how they are schooled) pray for them and maybe guide them to be better. They may not have that example at home. Great video and thank you for sharing the multiple ways of how to socialize our children.
I’ve homeschooled for 20 years. The same arguments and comments you’re dealing with I had to deal with 20 years ago. More people are homeschooling but ignorance about education and socialization are still very prevalent. It must be that the few who do research end up homeschooling themselves.
Side note: the only person who gave me support from the very start was my aunt who had her Ph.D in education. She was a teacher when I was born, her own father had dedicated a portion of his farm land so their small Arkansas town could have a school. Education is important to us. She supported me openly.
So true! My husband was homeschooled 30 years ago and the arguments have not changed. He just rolls his eyes and laughs.
I just have to add that I was in public school my whole life (except I dropped out after freshman year), and my social skills are debilitatingly horrible. Being bullied by other kids and teachers/ daycare had taken its toll on me. I wasn’t able to thrive the way I needed to as a highly sensitive person. I was literally imprisoned for the majority of the day and wasn’t being nurtured. Children need to be nurtured and connected with as individuals.
That stinks, I'm sorry. My own son is very smart and very capable but he's also very hyper and very sensitive. I think he simply inherited it from us because our lives have been hectic and I'm certain that has affected his gene expression. We work on emotional self regulation techniques while we're working on academics. It's important for him to learn resiliency while he's little because he's naturally aversive to anything he perceives as difficult. If would be terrible on him if I went him to school.
Hey Akeeba I enjoy your videos and I learn a lot from watching. I'm not a homeschooler. My sons are grown and did attend public schools. But I do have a six year old grandson in public school. I learned that we are not here to please everyone. That's impossible. Like you said one of the best way to deal with a mean person or even a bully is by ignoring them if we can. We all have different circumstances where some parents are able to stay at home and teach their kids. And there are parents who works and have to send their kids to public school. Whatever choices we make, we feel that it's best for our family. So your girls are awesome. People is going to criticize. This is the world we live in. No matter if kids are homeschool, public school or private school we have to teach our kids the right way to treat others.
Akeeba you are doing an amazing job.
I attended public schools from Kindergarten to my senior year in High School. I was always in the top classes, considered a high achiever and one of the "weird ones". I was rather quiet and didn't find my way into the cligues so prevalent in the upper grades. But I had great socialization opportunities by joining art, writing, theatrical and music groups from 6th grade on! I was also a Girl Scout and had a group of friends on my block who I had shared the baby carriage with before we all learned to talk and walk. Kids find a way to socialize no matter the setting. There are pros and cons to public, private and homeschool settings, but interested parents and engaged children make them all work! I went on to a public college and then a private university from which I earned a Master's Degree. I taught in the public schools for 34 years and retired 8 years ago. I consider my life a success and it isn't over yet. There's still a grand adventure ahead of me. Your children will be fine.
Sis I haven’t even listened to the entire video and just want you to know YOU & Your Children are AMAZING!!!!🙌🏾You were the reason I home schooled my 3 daughters during the start of the pandemic! I would still do it if I didn’t run into some health challenges. Anyway, please know we stand with you!❤️🙏🏾
I love me some you lol thats all i wanna say to this. I love me some you. You are a beautiful, wise, care and loving mother and teacher! I can talk to you for hours about this. However since i totally agree with everything you have said in this and the last video.... I love me some you!!! Thank you!
You are doing a great job homeschooling your children. I know your old students miss you♥️🧡
With so many activities and opportunities in our area, I feel like we rarely do a full day of school actually at home 😆
I think the ability of homeschooled kids to talk respectfully to anyone from adults to toddlers is such a strength. To them the world is an interesting and engaging place, whereas their peers in school are fighting for social and academic survival so their motivations are totally different.
Love your videos! You are a great ambassador for all of us!
I Graduated public high school over 10 years ago and I still can’t look into people’s faces.
As a homeschooling mama I constitently remind myself a lot of what you're saying, yet it's so nice and refreshing to hear from another homeschooler who gets it
I absolutely love this. I’m a homeschool mom myself and that is the #1 question I get asked when people find out that I homeschool. I’m literally just going to send folks this video so that I don’t have to repeat myself. Thank you so much for explaining this in such a detailed way. 🙌🏼🙌🏼 keep doing what you do!
Me being in public school destroyed me mentally and didn’t help I had undiagnosed schizoaffective disorder either. This time with my kids I’m not letting them go through what I did now that I can stay home and do something about it. Homeschooling and homestead for life now!!
It never seems to amaze me, every video I watched when people are doing wonderful things, there's always that P-PAT, being negative. You are doing a wonderful job with your beautiful daughters🙏❤️
Lol...P-Pat...do you watch Lester?
I went to public school and I was weird and anti social... my children are homeschooled and omg let me tell you how well spoken and social they are! And when they play with other kids they know how to take turns, be polite and share.
These comments are really ignorant. Every child is different and have there own personality
I appreciate how kindly and positively you addressed the negative/ignorant comments you received.
Playgroup, Church, library programs, parks, playdates, walks around the neighborhood and the forest preserve, camps, lessons, etc...
Hear comes the devil, always got something ignorant to say about homeschooler's 🙄 We all need to be careful with whom we allow our children to socialize with, especially in this world as it is now.
AKEEBA, AKEEBA, AKEEBA!!!!!👏👏👏👏👏 YOU ARE RAISING THE FUTURE'S LEADERS. YOU'RE ON ANOTHER LEVEL DEAR. I UNDERSTAND YOU 100%. CONTINUE TO BE THE BRILLIANT MIND YOU ARE. KEEP ENLIGHTENING YOUR BABY GIRLS. PERSEVERE WITH YOUR DEDICATION TO BE THE BEST MOTHER YOU CAN BE FOR YOUR CHILDREN. I TRULY ENJOY YOUR ABILITY TO STAND FIRMLY WITHOUT OFFENDING THESE DIFFERENT PEOPLE WHO MAY NOT BE QUITE READY FOR THIS TYPE OF DISCUSSION. KUDOS!!!!! 💟💟💟💟💟
My 17 year old daughter was biting her nails last semester and her acne was at it's worst. It took her a while to open up and let me know that her math teacher was yelling at the students every single day. It the beginning she was nicer to the boys in her class but eventually she became mean to all of them. She used to comment on my daughter's hair, she commented if she had box braids and she commented when she had her natural curls. My daughter didn't want me to "tell on the teacher" or "get her in trouble" , she said that the teacher used to brag about how she had been reported many times but no one could get her fired. I eventually asked for an appointment and showed up at school with out telling y daughters and got her moved to another math teacher. A week after a social worker from the Department of Children and Families came and took notes of everything I had to say, the school had her sent to us. Well, after all the questions and after all my venting and my daughters cry's the teacher is still at school yelling and demining students. I guess that unless she sexually or physically abuses a student she will won't be fired. It's very depressing. Be proud to homeschool your kids!
That is so wrong! I feel so sad your daughter felt so intimidated by a teacher...all the parents should get their kids outta her class...she can sit and watch kids for study hall!😂😂😂
@@shadowprovesunshine Apparently her record is getting very thick with all the complains but it's frustrating how they still keep her as a teacher. Teacher's are investigated by people from the district office. The interview other teachers and students. I guess the other teachers are not talking, even though some of them have had to cheer upset students who talk about her terrible behavior. I gave my daughter the option to study from home but she wants to enjoy her Senior year. My daughter has a part time job, she's part of the youth group at church and she has many friends, she could stay home away from the toxic environment but she wants to graduate with her friends. I have total respect for parents who homeschool their kids.
I agree and great points all around. I had friends growing up who were homeschooled all the way up til high school yet we still socialize and played in the neighborhood and they excelled above average academically. Well done video! 👍🏾
Akeeba.. there are no words to describe how much I love and support YOU and the work you do. Thank you 🙌🏾🥰 I hope we can be a source of encouragement to you because you help us out so much!
You are correct everytime I went to parent teacher I was so surprised when the teachers told me the biggest problem with her was she's too shy. She wouldn't speak at all but, at home she's the life at the party.
Thanks Akeeba! Keep going strong!!! Hugs to you all
"Socializing" according to those who think it can only or should mostly happen at school means what forced proximity with 25 or so other kids near your age?
I clearly remember being told I talk too much, I ask too many questions and that school isn't for socializing by my teachers. The talks too much\asks too much made it to the report card comments.
Ain't that the truth!!
*("I clearly remember being told I talk too much, I ask too many questions and that school isn't for socializing by my teachers. The talks too much\asks too much made it to the report card comments.")*
THIS comment!👏🏼
@@sonyacotton4881 The school system is there to keep people from thinking for themselves and wanting the truth. Otherwise we would have an empowered electorate who actually rules themselves instead of needing a ruling class to control them. The school system creates too many mindless sheep who just do what they are told
Great video! You are right, we need "weird" people--different, creative people--in our society. I think the "weirdness" of homeschoolers is one of the best things about them. They typically aren't as concerned about what is trendy, cool, and popular, and have the confidence to do what they love. They make amazing leaders, scholars, and hard workers. I was homeschooled, and now I'm homeschooling my kiddos, and I often find myself wondering when the homeschoolers-aren't-socialized angle is going to finally die.
You are amazing 🙌🙏❤️ keep shining your light.nnGod bless you as you continue to spread your love. Jah bless
I love that you brought up how kids learn socialization from their parents, I often find that I am mostly quiet and observant like my father, while when I need to be, or am having a great day I am much like my mother, I was homeschooled for two years and attended public school most of my life, I hated public school it was tough for me lol 😅. This year is my first year homeschooling my children and they enjoy learning and being able to play with the neighborhood kids!
One of the most eloquent persons, that I have had the honor to meet, was homeschooled with Montessori. She came to speak at the college I was getting my bachelors degree in education at. She sparked thoughts about how are we dealing with education, what other models are there? She was just so well spoken and knowledgeable. The next semester, I talked one of my instructors into an independent study to go study different education models, from reservation models, charter, private, catholic, homeschooling you name it...I got to go see it. So, that homeschooling child sparked, my current goal of shifting education, to meet the child's needs, not the child meeting the social constructs needs.
Love the teacher in you. Always taking every teaching moments to teach those who need a lesson. ❤❤❤❤
So True! Continue...beautifully done! "KUDOUS" to you! Much love to you all and "TMHYAH" Bless!
They said that bs to my Mom 26 years ago. My brother and I are fully functioning adults in society with social skills. As kids we interacted with both adults and other children better compared to our peers, we have independence of thought compared to our peers.
🤗 Thank you for posting this Akeeba. Love to you and your beautiful family.
People really bug me! It’s the audacity for me! Keep doing you! BTW was it hard cutting your hair or was there a release? Love it! 🌹🦋🌺
A lot of us have been raised with a hive mentality and when they see people who haven't been raised with that mentality to follow the prevailing behaviour, we feel threatened and need to lash out. Hence the audacity.
People also seem to forget that there are many kids for whom school is daily torture because they can't assimilate easily because they're very shy or can't socialise easily. Whenever I hear an adult freely call a kid "weird" I pray they haven't procreated coz their kids are usually bullies
I love your channel! I have been homeschooling my children for the last four years. They are ALL thriving!
Excellent to hear!! Keep it up👏🏽📚❤️
Lol my 8 sibling and I were homeschoold + a bunch of our friends . We are all very confident adults who have tons of friends, enjoy being around other people and contribute to society. Ignore all this crap narrow minded people are saying.
There are weird/shy kids in school and out.
They actually did research on the life long effects of home Vs public school.
The general happiness and success factors of homeschool children to adults was way higher!
I'm assuming it's because they can be out and about in society more often and are generally more relaxed without the constant pressure of a 40+ HR work week (plus homework).
Homeschool kids are given time to relax, time to do their own projects, time to play...time to think about what natural skills they have and how they can use that to their future advantage.
I knowany homeschoolers who have started a business much younger than an average person because they have had the time/passion for it
@@Eternal_Hope_Q you said it ! 👏
As usual, I missed whar was so controversial about your content. I was too busy gleaning the jewels of advice you always so graciously give. Thank you for your willingness to share. I have gained a lot of knowledge and new viewpoints from watching your videos. Be blessed, Akeeba!
The steps of the righteous is ordered by the Lord…we are peculiar people..we are set apart…all those cookie cutter models are not the standard.
Yes thank you Jesus!!?
This is true
I attended public schools my entire life, and I am an introvert. I am not very outgoing at all. Though, I grew- up with many cousins. We lived together, played together. I still much prefer to keep my own company most of the time. It's a personality thing. It has nothing to do with children who attended public schools, verses home-schools... I guess, I would be considered " weird" . But I am not! Nothing wrong with being different!! Hi Akeeba! 🙂❤️
I loved this❤ When I pulled my mildly ASD son at 5 years old from school and decided to homeschool, my mother in laws first words were, “Oh no don’t do that to him, he’s going to be weird!” Lol! Well he has Autism, so… The fact is, now at 14, he is one of the most well rounded, kindest, most with it kids that I know. He has surpassed all the schools thought that he would ever accomplish, have a video making/editing job with a musician, and can totally tell some funny jokes. Homeschooling my son is the single best thing that I could have done for him in this life, so more power to all of us! Love your thoughts and can’t wait to watch more.
What's funny is some of these questions are by people who think that they, are not weird and are well-adjusted and socialized well.
Honey there is always going to be those that don't agree with others so they try to belittle and bring down anyone who disagrees with them, but I think you are very brave for choosing to make these videos to teach others. Thank you for waking up everyday and choosing to help other people in the most productive way you can. To the comments the people I know who have been homeschoolled are some of the smartest, most well-rounded people I know. I wouldn't have commented but I felt like I should let you know I really appreciate you. 😌
I home schooled my 2 children from birth all the way through high school. My daughter just graduated from college and my son is currently in college. They both still live with us. My son came home from one of his classes the other day and said "when we were waiting for the teacher to come in, I noticed every single kid was staring at their phone except for me." He said they all looked like a bunch of zombies. Talk about NOT knowing how to socialize!
Yesssss!!! Thanks for correcting the negative thoughts 💭 about Homeschooling your children. My daughter excelled more being Homeschooled than she did in Public School. She did not have the pressure of trying to be like someone else because her way of learning was different from everyone else. She’s very out going both my children are and they are Homeschooling their children now!!!❤️❤️❤️
It cracks me up because people that have social problems are people that go to regular schooling.
Thank you for the encouragement as always Akeeba. I couldn’t agree more with everything you said and you really make me think!
Kudos to you your response was so professional and realistic!! Love what you are doing I have my PhD in early childhood education and I'm thinking of starting my own school soon and I truly enjoy learning from you as well!! Please keep bringing the content sis it's truly truly appreciated... and I just love your girls and I also follow your sister love her family as well!!
You explained this well. Its sad that people think the norm is what everyone else is doing, and not exploring new avenues. Keep up the great work.
I'm Giving you an, AMEN.
You truly are a teacher who has been around kid's, and Love them to teach them so well. God Bless you.
Sweet lady, you and your kiddos are doing just amazing. Those babies are going to be wonderful grown-ups one day. People need to let kids be kids. Public schools are indeed a gift BUT they made me grow up waaaay too fast.
I have been homeschooling since 2004. I've graduated four children, I have two more to go. Around here there's all kinds of things homeschooled children can do. There's co-ops, there's different groups, lots of field trips. The field trip we went on yesterday, there were children of all ages there. We are going on another field trip tomorrow and possibly Thursday. We get all our school work done in the morning and then we have the afternoons to go have fun and do whatever we want.
I went to college with people from public and private schools (not sure I've ever met a homeschooled person). Plenty of them were weird, couldn't take a joke or be funny, couldn't hold a conversation, couldn't hold eye contact, or know how to date maturely, etc. A lot also had hangups about their time in school from bullying, peer pressure, or abuse from teachers.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THAT ACTUAL DEFINITION OF WHAT SOCIALIZATION IS 👏👏👏👏👏. People are so smart with so much to say and don't even know the definition of words. Proper socialization is learned from adults NOT immature children often coming from homes where parents have their own issues and aren't themselves teaching their children proper "Socialization skills". Bullies, bad behaving children, and antisocial behavior is rampant in schools, which shows the lack of proper socialization. Public or private school is the last place socialization should be taught. You can converse and PRACTICE your skills with peers, but you don't learn from them, or you shouldn't learn from them even though so many kids in society do which is why we have so many problems. I don't think those school shooters were cool kids with great socialization skills, and I don't think a homeschooled child just decided to go shoot some people because they didn't like being homeschooled, and lacked coping skills...which is part of socialization. 🙄 I can't stand people.
All of that!!!
Hello sis, I personally think the way you’re raising your children (what you’re showing us) is amazing. Your children are intelligent and I am proud of them. They calculate things (maths) faster than me. As a mother if you believe you’re doing the right thing then good for you. Thank you for sharing your videos and giving us some advice.
Now, comments such as those will always come. You do not know who is behind the screen. Don’t give room for the bad comments on your platform. (But I also understand some things have to be addressed) it is well with you and your children.
God Bless you in Jesus name.
Read our nice comments and make a video I’m sure you’ll run over 1hour reading them 😁🫡
I went to school and I wasn’t social at all. I ate lunch alone and etc. I decided to homeschool in 11th grade and loved it.
Great presentation! You're very well-spoken.
In the 11th grade, I begged my mother to allow me to become homeschooled, not because of bullying or anything other than the fact that school was a distraction from learning. Yes, I said it, and as a former educator ( I left just before the pandemic began), I still hold this belief.
Of course, there are always exceptions to the rule, but in general, so many interruptions and distractions take place in the traditional brick and mortar building called school, that the typical 7-8 hours the students are there ( which is the equivalent of a full-time job, mind you) is really cut down to half that time, or even less, of actual learning time. I believe that more learning can take place in a structured home schooling environment.
For the social aspect of school, as Akeba shows, there are so many programs in which children can participate to practice these skills.
I realize that not everyone who wants to, is able to homeschool their children, and for those I say; 1. Do the best you can to work towards making it happen, you’ll be amazed at the kind of doors that can open up. 2) If possible, find a trustworthy person who stays home and homeschools their children, there are many state based curriculums out there that can be supplemented with free materials on the internet. 3). Look into private schools, as sometimes they can be a lot better than public. 4).For whatever reason, if you’ve chosen to keep your children in either private or public school, never leave the education up to the teachers. Although most do the best they can, the truth is, some children can easily slip through the cracks.
I know the pandemic has caused some parents to have a bad taste in their mouths regarding homeschooling, but it really can be a wonderful experience that benefits your child.
Best wishes to all!
I home schooled all my children and grands one of my children who is an adult now she did not like home schooling. The other day she complimented me about homing schooling them and want it for her child.
My opinion children are home school are better, thanks for sharing
I just want to say that you are doing great mama 👏🏼 I was homeschooled for a few years and ended up homeschooling my son for 2 years as well. The comments we got were also so judge mental and mostly all had to do with social interactions. Now we are sending our son to a private Christian school this year because they do the same curriculum (Abeka) and his teachers constantly tell me how well behaved he is and he interacts with all the kids just fine. He has learned to interact respectfully to adults AND has shown kindness to his friends. If society deems homeschooling as a ‘social inhibitor’ then I would rather have that stereotype than my kid learning bullying or whatever else.
I went to public high school after being homeschooled and my education fell back so much that I ended up graduating with business math. I was bullied so much and that’s when I experienced depression & social anxiety. As a mama, I never want my kid to feel like they need to go through things like that in order for him to just deal with it. I want to raise him as a kind and thoughtful and not self serving human being.
Rant over, but just know I think you are doing great! Homeschooling is hard BUT its benefits far outweigh anything else society wants to teach our children.
This irks my soul!!!!! I have two homeschoolers and whenever I go to the supermarket they talk to so many people I get tired of waiting for them😆😆
🙄Rolling my eyes at the questions. These are the typical questions you get when you homeschool. Most people are just unaware and thank God for people like yourself. I appreciate your wealth of information, confidence and articulation. 🙌🏾
I’m not homeschooling now, I did 6/7yrs ago, but it’s on my heart to do.
OMG! It's very scary to me that you receive such comments. I really appreciate how you handle it. I learned long ago some negative views about homeschooling when I took my daughter out for just a year. More recently I have witnessed what a colossal waist of time public school is.
I love you!!!! My daughters are home schooled..they are very outgoing social, observant, and everywhere they go, they attract children like magnets. I always get compliment on their communication skills and intelligence. You are so correct about socializing happening at home. And yes negative socialization does happen at school, I know a child that was assaulted at school by a classmate. quiet=observant and analytical most of the time. my oldest daughter who had been homeschooled throughout her life, would always make jokes, she got scouted 3 times in whole foods by a Talent Agent because she was so funny. My middle daughter has always been home schooled and she loves to teach, she taught me how to swim, how to skate board and has taught and inspired many other children/girls how to skateboard. she also taught herself how to swim and skate and do tricks on her board. my youngest whom is homeschooled, taught her self how to swim and skateboard and do tricks and she has very funny jokes. So glad you made this video, there is allot of ignorance in the world people speak from a space of ignorance. My children are very strong and now how to stand up for themselves and they do not feel like they have to fit in. They are strong and confident in their uniqueness and do not feel like they have to be like others but still have appreciation for the diversity of humanity. they are more well adjusted and accepting of people's differences than those who feel they have to bully. this one girl tried to bully my youngest at the park and she just was not having it whatsoever. but that was a one off situation. I am always happy to see them getting along with children in the community and anywhere we go, and chose to homeschool for the same reasons you did. very proud of you and your Sister. P.S. I met them when they visited the drum circle in los Angeles a few years back :)
My second son and second daughter are my quietest children till this day and they are grown.
I was homeschooled and am now homeschooling my kids. We love to socialize through activities like girl scouts, ice hockey, summer camp, dance class, karate, gymnastics, homeschool co-op, field trips and of course roller skating, ice skating, library and at the playground, of course. We homeschoolers get it in 😉
Akeeba you’re doing great with your girl’s, niece’s and nephew. ❤
Usually when people attack others that feel the need to be negative and mean, I just want to say God knows all our homeschool moms hearts and we are definitely not weird but we are rad misfits created under Gods love. Sports extra homeschool groups talking to kids at libraries parks etc. there’s so many places that we socialize our kids with.
Well done you for homeschooling, you're doing the absolute best thing you can for your offspring. Props and kudos.
They are just fine...the children can hang with all people of all ages...
“ people only throw stones at a tree bearing good fruits “ Africa
I like how you informed and educated all those naysayers with a beautiful smile while doing so.
You rock keep up your excellence
Peace&Blessings💕
Where are they studies on this? Where is their data? Oh that's right, there is none! It's their sad perceptions of home schooling, not the reality. You could say you are sending your child to THE WORST school in THE WORST area and they'd have nothing to say, but state that you're home-schooling and don't the armchair warriors get their pad and pencil out ready to school you on the negative impacts of home school. I do not want my child conforming to fit in and get along with everyone. Suppress his interests because it's not provided for in the school or not what the cool kids are doing.
Frankly Akeeba, your children are sooo intelligent and I'm super impressed by all of you. They are so blessed to have you as both their parent and educator🧡
People are always judging. I love the way you handle the comments.
You are so sweet and patient to respond to such questions in the first place. 😂 We have been blessed to have supportive family but “how will you socialize them” is definitely always the first question. All it took was a simple explanation how we intend to do real life, have experiences, and do activities to help them understand that homeschooling does not have to be sitting alone at home all day.