Doctor Reacts To The Fault In Our Stars
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- Опубликовано: 29 сен 2024
- The Fault In Our Stars was a hit John Green (shout out Hank Green and Vlogbrothers, DFTBA) young adult novel that pretty quickly got turned into a hit film starring Ansel Elgort and Shailene Woodley. It tells the heart aching story of Hazel Grace Lancaster and Augustus Waters as they battle cancer. I've heard you cries for me to react to it, and potentially cry a bit on my own, to see just how accurate the medical side of this story is. Today we talk about various forms of cancer, prosthetic limbs, depression, support groups, mental health, chemotherapy, retinoblastoma, cigarettes, MRI's, hypoxia, sepsis, fentanyl, and the true ending of the story!
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Thanks for making this video; it was interesting to see a medical take on the film. As others have noted in comments, I had a lot of help when it came to the medical parts of the book. (And for the record, I really appreciate you pointing out here how mental health visits should happen in real life; I hope I reflected that well in the book, even if in the film they condensed things.)
One note: There are comments here claiming to reflect my own feelings about what happens after the end of the story. In fact, (I am pretty sure?) that I have never made any comments on that subject. Books belong to their readers, and I don't think it's the place of an author to comment retroactively on matters outside the text, and so I try not to do that. I do not know when or if Hazel dies, and I do not think it is for me to know. (I think Dr. Mike's reading is perfectly reasonable, but so is Sam's reading, and so is yours.)
Thanks again for making the video, and to everyone who read the book or watched the film. -John
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Hey! I was wondering when YOU would pop up! So cool when the author of the book gives his take on it.
I've been following you and your bro and love your commentary.
I always enjoy hearing from the authors themselves!! This book broke me! Loved it!!
Thanks so much for watching my little reaction video. Huge congrats on the success of your work as it’s certainly an enlightening and educational look into life with chronic illness and so much more!
omg john
Mike still the most respectful guy I've ever seen, he tries to applied this stuff to real life or how it should be in real life always showing empathy for people!!! Great video and sad movie was a good one to me !
We never know the ending.
That was the point of this story and a direct connection to An Imperial Affliction.
Sometimes the story just ends, and we don’t know what happens after that.
The character ceases to exist in the space in which we know them.
A metaphor on death.
😌
That is why Hazel has such a connection to that book and why we all ugly cried at the end.
I regret nothing.
Ouch! Only read it once and saw the movie once so I forgot about that metaphor, but oh my goodness yes. She wants for the whole book to figure out the ending which is just symbolic for her desire for death to not be possible to be so sudden as to rip her own life away as quickly as the book ended... ooffff
(The moment of realisation) Omg you are right 😮
I freaking love him
John green is such a brilliant writer
I am gonna read that book again
I watched the movie when it came out. In March of this year, I got diagnosed, at 22 years old, with papillary thyroid cancer which is one the benign cancer Dr Mike mentioned in this video. It wasn’t until I watched this that I realised that Hazel had thyroid cancer. Obviously I cannot compare my story to hers. Also, I do not think I’m ready to watch the movie again. Even though I’ve gained a lot of strength over the past 9 months, I don’t think I’m ready yet and that’s okay.
I’m a papillary thyroid cancer survivor, too. 💕 Six years out. I was 20. Stay strong! It gets better. It took my body years to adjust to my meds. I still haven’t lost all the weight.
Stay strong!
Get well soon♡♡
When I was dealing with depression in my teens, the psychiatrist definitely never talked to me and mum like this. It was always like an interrogation where they talk to the suspects separately. 😄
This movie never fails to make me cry every time I watch it.
As a mental health professional, I am so happy when I see people highlight just how inaccurate a lot of Hollywood depictions of mental health and mental health assessments are. There is a whole process and although it is good to hear what the family members have to add, ultimately we go on what the patient tells us because we are treating them and it is important to hear what they are experiencing and feeling and want over what their family want. Even if that means they don't wish to accept treatment. (Of course there are exceptions based on capacity assessments, etc, but that's a whole other rabbit hole) It doesn't make the family's feelings less valid, but we can't take their perception of someone else's experience as gospel. It is upsetting to think that many people may not seek medical attention due to concerns that these movies present accurate situations.
Thank you for addressing this!
I found it hard to stay still during an MRI a year ago because the screws in the machine above my head looked like a smiley face and I was trying so hard to stifle my laughter.
and that's why after 20ish mris I learned to just keep my eyes shut 😅
The book A Fault In Out Stars broke me, but the movie just made me sad
I currently have 2 close relatives fighting cancer. A 5yo cousin with a brain tumor and a 50 yo uncle with a liver tumor, it's been really hard to keep faith but I know the doctors are doing everything they can to make their lives better. This movie is really sad but also shines a light on what cancer patients go through both physically and mentally.
I feel like Dr.Mike needed to read the book or watch the movie.😂
I had support groups pushed on me so much after being diagnosed with an autoimmune disease. I joined online forums and it would just make it worse for me because all people did was complain and talk about the bad and post suicide notes and it made the disease feel more real for me. I never got to a point where I went to an in person support group because most people who are diagnosed with what I have are significantly older than me and it just felt detached from where I was in life. So I get her reaction when she says that Support groups aren’t for her.
I give my condolences to anyone who lost anyone else to cancer. That includes you, Mike.
#FuckCancer
Such an amazing SAD movie and I cried my eyes out!!!!!
The "cyborg" example shown at 4:03 is actually Luke Skywalker's hand from Star Wars Episode V: The Empire Strikes Back. I was about to call that out when I saw that it was labelled as "Fictional" in the video (lower left corner).
It's great that it was pointed out! :)
Oh, this book broke me!!! I’m crying just watching this react! The pain scale scene… dude… Efff!!! This was a hard one!!
man its like " am I depressed or have people just been telling me I am this whole time" who am I. What IS the truth.
I just realised this is actually a remake of the hindi movie "Dil Bechara" which was actually the last film of the actor "Sushanth Singh Rajputh" before he died
You've got it backwards. This book came out in '12, and the film in '14. Dil Bechara came out in '20.
I had a seizure inside of a MRI machine. One of my more memorable seizures.
Because of COVID-19 and long COVID, a lot of people in their 20s and 30s now have dyspnea and decreased lung function.
The one good thing from COVID-19 has been increased smoking cessation from changing social behaviors, financial strain, and, though small, because of COVID induced disability.
Dr. Niggz! Lol I may go back and watch it now! I was wondering if maybe you could do a review of some doctor seen from Little House on the Prairie I know it’s not modern day medicine but it’s medicine on the list so I may be kind of a cool or different. Take something different to look at on the weather than, medicine is in years ago without the technology compared to now! I always love dark Baker on that show I would love to see! Thank you for your contacts you’re the best!
That “Augustus Waters died 8 days later” still hits hard 😭
Likewise, it still packs a heavy gut punch, all these years later!
The call and her starting crying I can't with it that hit's hard for me
Even though it was kind of ptedictabe, it still stung. I remember feeling so caught off guard with that bec that line is literally the first sentence of that chapter in the book.
@@slizgonskawiedzma5714 😭
@@slizgonskawiedzma5714 The author itself wrote in this post that he never said anything about hazel dying or not
She doesn't succumb to cancer at the end of the movie, but eventually. The point of Hazel's story isn't to give up ever. It's to understand that death is knocking and appreciate the moment you have now.
Well exactly cuz in the book (Yeah im one of those) hazel obsessed over a book and the ending to the book she was reading was just sudden it ended with so many plot lines unfinished and the fault in our stars reflects that. 0 clue as to what happens with hazel she could succumb to depression or die or live happily.
The author actually commented on this video. He said he never states officially what happens to hazel. He said he doesn’t know when or if she dies, and wants it left to the reader. So Dr. Mike’s theory is reasonable just like anyone who says she doesn’t die.
If he doesn't know that, then who will?@@trinitysanabria1350
Plain silly interpretation
Wouldn’t mind Dr. Mike doing movie commentaries/reactions once in a while this was fun and interesting. “5 feet apart” next?
Agreed we need a vid for 5 feet apart
Yes !
yes!!!
Up up!!
yup!!! surprised i havent seen him review it
Fun fact about the book: John Green based Hazel on a real girl named Esther who was a fan of his and actually helped write and publish her memoir. A lot of the cancer stuff is based on Esther and her family’s journey and experiences. John has also admitted he did some medical research of his own before writing this book but made up the drug Phalanxaphor as part of the plot.
That's fascinating, and apparently her middle name was also Grace, and Green named Hazel as a homage to Esther.
An important note that John makes is that he didn't base hazel off of Esther but rather was inspired by her and based a lot of things off of both his and her experience. I just wanted to clarify that extra because a lot of people draw more parallels between hazel and Esther than John seems to be comfortable with. I highly recommend Esther's memoir that she wrote "This Star Won't Go Out"
Bruh someone else literally wrote this exact same comment
@@abhinavdevulapalli1648 This person wrote it first though
@@saeedrazavi4428 This Star Won't Go Out is an excellent book!
“It lit up like a Christmas tree” will always make me sob omg absolutely breaks my heart every time
My mom and doctor said that about my diagnosing scan( bone scan) for my chronic illness… it was nice to have answers finally.
yeah I know
OMG same 🌊 ocean of tears
I actually think about that so much, it's such a simple sentence and it conveys so much, in any other way it would be a cheerful quote but in the context of the book it's just tragic.
Yeah, saying that cancer is horrible is reductive. I was 4yo when I got diagnosed with leukemia, and can't even begin to imagine what my parents must have gone through (I barely understood anything). Happy note though, I did eventually beat the cancer :)
Congratulations! I'm incredibly happy for you & your family! 🥰
Congratulations ...you are so strong , really happy for you ❤️❤️
Congratulations for beating cancer! :DD hope you are doing well now
Congratulations on beating cancer!
Im so glad! ❤️
John Green actually wrote this book after he met a real girl with cancer, who inspired Hazel and, thereby, this story. This girl sadly died before the movie released. ☹
I hope she gets to see it in her next life
Did she read the book atleast?
Wow, what a Chad
I pulled into a store by friend's house and there was a guy overdosing on fentynal and because I bingewatched your videos the night before, I saved the man's life through chest compressions until the ambulance showed up. Just wanted to say thank you for all that you do.
That’s incredible!
*claps*
CHEST COMPRESSIONS, CHEST COMPRESSIONS, CHEST COMPRESSIONS
Thats amazing :)
Just so everyone whose read this knows, once the man was given the narcan by the paramedics and came to, he sat up and shook my hand and told me thank you and I was just thankful that I was there and had just watched Dr Mike the night before. I'll never forget that day. I was just picking up my friend to be in a safer place during the tornados and we stopped just to grab some things and a man flagged us down right next to it and then I saw the other man on the sidewalk. Guess it was fate to binge watch those the night before.
I truthfully can't thank Dr. Mike and all medical care people for this incident and all that they do. It really showed me that this really is beneficial and Dr Mike's videos are hysterical to add to it.
One of the hardest things I've ever had to do was go to the hospital to fill out Do-Not-Resuscitate forms for my son who was 12 years old. Because of covid, I had to go through screening at the front and the lady asked my purpose for being at the children's hospital. I said to visit him but she wanted to know what care he was receiving. It was right in the middle of his cancer care ending and going into palliative care. I couldn't get the words out. And she was looking at me like 'wtf is wrong with this lady?'
No one expects liver cancer in an 11 year old boy. We don't know how long he had it. We were told he had 10-12 months but his aggressive treatment didn't work because he died 2.5 months after he was diagnosed with FLHCC. This idea of people 'fighting cancer' just irritates me. What fight? With our son it was over almost as soon as it started. That wasn't a battle, that was a slaughter.
My dad passed 8 months ago from cancer. I think people say fight because of how brutal it is. I saw my dad slowly get sicker and sicker overtime and he still went through every treatment he could. I would call it a fight though I get why you don't think fo it that way.
@@HawkUnleashed He didn't even finish his immunotherapy treatment. That would have needed to work to try the experimental surgery with radioactive balls being inserted into his liver to shrink the cancer further. There weren't any treatment options available for him. He had tons of medications to treat symptoms. Poor kid spent his last weeks convinced he was trapped on a level in a videogame and pissed off about it.
My god, I don't know what to say....
@@greenapple9477 There's nothing to say. He's gone and I'm never getting him back. Because of COVID we didn't have a real funeral. Children don't give you any closure and COVID restrictions make sure you don't get any closure. The grief boards are packed with spirituality and I don't have anything to say to these people that isn't too harsh or blunt for them. I can't stick my head in the sand to cope. I just have raw facts to contend with.
My heart goes out to you. I've always hated the "fight" terminology too. It's supposed to be inspirational but in fact it puts a stigma on patients who didn't make it, like they didn't try hard enough, or their parents didn't. People want to think there's some way to have control over the outcome, when the truth is that even in the best cases it's still a crapshoot whether you survive and at what cost.
The part that Isaac is reading gus his eulogy for him and says that if in the future scientist present him with robot eyes we would refuse because he doesn’t want to see a world without Gus BROKE ME! This movie is so touching, I loved it and loved the book as well.
Yeah but then he said having made his point he'd take the eyes because he could see through girls shirts and stuff and that would be cool
John Green's books are so underrated.... patiently waiting for a Looking for Alaska movie
@@rachelpatton2876 there's a show you know, I think it's on hulu
@@rachelpatton2876 there's a show on Stan it's beautiful
that part was so sad
Growing up as a kid with a chronic illness when the book came out when I was in high school I had never felt more seen. Everything about Hazel I could relate to with the cynicism and lack of faith in medicine and the isolation. I was obsessed with the book, but when I brought it to my friends they told me it was a book for basic white girls and too dramatic for them. It’s one of the things that ended up being a factor in my breakup at the time hearing how dismissive he was of the importance these things had to me. I was being portrayed accurately in a character for the first time ever and it meant so much to me. I have the soundtrack for the movie on my phone and I only listen to it to fall asleep or when I need a cry.
The same with me
chronic ilness sucks
I hope you're in a good place now ❤
Omg, that movie was so sad. I was sobbing so hard. The actors are incredible😭
Me too, you'd even forget that you were watching actors, it all felt so real.
Everytime, I watch it I weep. They really did the emotional aspect really well. Like was said I forget it's a movie
This movie broke me. I just wish I would’ve read the book beforehand, but I was just never able to. Once I watched the movie, it’s kind of pointless to read the book now, but otherwise I’m happy that I saw it.
I was wondering how dr Mike didn’t cry like a baby (like I did)
Yeah, I always thought the "sHe'S dEpReSsEd' "IM NOT DEPRESSED" was a weird and inaccurate scene, it felt so hollywood.
I wish I could say it’s just Hollywood, but that’s how my mental health was treated when I was growing up. Could be that I’m from a small Bible Belt town. Even though it shouldn’t be treated like this, it definitely is sometimes 😩
well, thats not really true. theres something called "munchausen by proxy" where parents dont know what illness it is or they purposefully try to diagnose their children w a specific illness. its a sad situation to look at and to be in
That was almost exactly how my mental health visits went as a kid. I'm glad things are apparently different now, since people seem to think that was so unrealistic.
I mean, I don’t think that’s usually how it goes but I do think it’s like that for some people. I had really bad chronic pain my senior year of high school. My doctor straight up told me I was depressed and making it up to skip school. I was appalled. I was appalled. If anything, I was depressed because I missed out on so much because of this pain. I missed at least a month of school all together because it would get so bad I couldn’t walk.
So like, it is a very Hollywood scene, but it does happen.
That does actually happen - to me, at least. I’ve had 5+ times where I’ve told doctors I was not traumatized when I had ASD (acute stress disorder)
as a cancer patient it was an awful idea watching this video but i love how serious you treated the subject, i hate how people usually treat the sickness as a taboo
never care about what people say/think... maybe its just easy for me but I have lived my whole life like this since birth.. maybe I'm careless but trust me its better lol... people randomly make conclusions about you, while the once who try to understand you are the ones with yourtime....
and all I can do is wish and say best of luck to deal with what you are facing :).
I'm glad I read your comment before I watched this. I'm putting it on my "watch after my cancer journey is complete" list along with a certain recent horror movie.
Can I ask why it was an awful idea to watch this video as a cancer patient?
@@avalastic4140 because it deals with cancer and dying because of it, which can be depressing for some ppl who’s day to day lives involves cancer.
@@aminajayy thank you for answering this as it popped up for as I am waking up silencing my 6 am alarm for cancer treatment. I fear my answer would have been a bit more sarcastic.
The nonsarcastic answer for me why I was happy to see the comment is I didn't know the movie was specifically about cancer as I have never seen it or read the book and being blindsided by it while mid-treatment may have been difficult for me.
Dr. Mike, I don't know what to do. I have a strong addiction...
to your videos. I can't stop binging them
Ngl, u got me in the first half
I don't believe there's a solution for that. I've experienced the same thing.
@@BuySKZAlbumNowToPayTheirMeals. the solution is to run out of videos, although you might be inclined to rewatch them
Awh man, im glad you have the addiction too so im not alone.
@@peraltiagozq Wanna start a support group?
Fun fact I was diagnosed with leukemia at age 11 months after battling cancer for 3 years it was over and now I’m 10 and a half and a 7 year survivor I’m just glad I’m okay 😊
I hope you’re still doing well
It's been a long time since I saw this movie, but I think my conclusion on the ending was the total opposite of yours! From what I can remember, the way things start out, Hazel is kind of more cynical about things, and the severity of her cancer seems worse than Gus'. Whereas Gus has this carefree, fun-loving personality. And when we're looking at the two of them side by side, we're really expecting that he's the one who's going to have a better chance of surviving. But then things change, and he gets really sick, and ultimately dies, and it's totally shocking. But before his death, some of that fun energy rubs off on Hazel as well and really uplifts her. So the way I saw the ending was, "I'm going to beat this, and I'm going to live my life the way you would have lived yours if cancer hadn't taken it away from you." Like, I thought she would want to honor him by doing her best to survive and to come out of it better and stronger and hold on to some of that joy that he had given her.
Very well put 👏
good rendition
I totally agree! From what I remember, with him in in remission, we as readers never even think it may come back because of how full of life he is. We don’t even stop to think that because he is just living, and I think she’s doing the same now. She’s just living.
That's how I interpreted the ending
Yep I felt the exact same as you!
Doctor Mike making fun of Gus’s “metaphor” really gave me the laugh I needed today
Same here, although I would love to know what pickup lines Mike uses...that work 😉😉
On the smoking note, that really hit hard, after vaping and smoking for 6 years and trying to quit for the last 1-2 years, I finally quit both a month ago and my breathing already feels better... I can walk up 5 flights of stairs in my building now without panting at the top of hair
that's good 💙💙
You did great!!
@@Oli-kg1ct thank you guys! Support means a lot
Keep up the good work! Your lungs will thank you and so will the lungs of people around you :)
I vape and don't feel like it effects my breathing at all. I feel like fast food makes it harder for me to climb stairs if anything lol
I'm a childhood cancer survivor. I had Osteosarcoma in my right shoulder blade. I watched this in the theatre with a friend. At the time I didn't know that gus had Osteosarcoma so with this movie I had a lot of anxiety and flashbacks because I finished treatments only 3 months prior. Come to find out 3 months after the movie came out I was diagnosed with chondroblastic Osteosarcoma. Which came back again. So I had a scapulectomy and had a prosthetic shoulder blade in. Now 7 years cancer free.
I'm asthmatic and got Covid, one of the first people in my country, Doctors really tried hard to figure out what was wrong, but couldn't. I got sepsis. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Between it and brain swelling, I'm lucky to be alive, but so many things changed, that is still shoccks me. I could spell nearly perfectly, not anymore, I was very good at math, not anymore, although the last one comes back periodically. I lost any fitness I had. My left arm sporadically just does whatever it wants, as if it's losing connection to the brain... It was brutal and it is still hard nearly 2 years on. I wouldn't wish it onto anyone.
I wish you a speedy and complete recovery
I’m praying for your healing. May God keep you protected through your fight
May god help you asap with your recovery since your pain is a lot more than I can possibly imagine
Feel well man. 🙏
May you have speedy recovery
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My dad had melanoma that spread to his lungs when I was a kid. Two doctors told him he had six months to live. I like to think he said "fuck that, I have four young kids at home." He's still alive and cured of that cancer.
so happy for all of you!
This made me so happy!!
I like to think my grandpa did something similar. Went in for his first cancer surgery in 1991, 9.5 years before I was born. Passed in 2009 I believe from heart problems unrelated to the cancer
One time I was seeing a doctor for the first time and my partner had come with because she is better at remembering doctor's instructions than I am. And, while my partner was in the room the doctor asked about home life and if I had experienced any domestic violence. Again, WHILE MY PARTNER WAS IN THE ROOM. Thankfully I have a delightful, violence free, relationship with my partner but, if I had been experiencing domestic violence I would have felt very unsafe to express that while she was there.
Watching someone go through cancer, and later succumb to it, is the most awful thing. Cancer does not discriminate, and anyone can be affected.
It is. I still remember the night my mom had gotten way too sick after years of battling cancer. She went to the hospital that night, unable to get out of bed, kinda out of it and then couple of hours later, I got the call from my sis that she had passed.
@@Serenity113 I feel like If I give u a like that would be mean
@@waellafer3039 lol Its okay. No worries, I know what you would mean if you did.
I just lost my mom in June. We all knew she was sick but the last 2 weeks of her life we watched her drastically shrivel up into nothing so fast. She was almost unrecognizable the day she died. Although heartbroken, I was honored to hold her hand and see her through. She was so terrified of death. She held my hand whenever I was scared, so I was so grateful for the moment we had together. I miss her terribly. Cancer is so awful and it ravishes so many. It wounds families, and breaks hearts. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
I lost two grandparents to cancer (my mom’s parents), exactly 9 years apart, seeing them/being told that they were slowly losing health was really hard, with my grandma especially since I was still a child, and with my grandpa especially since I was in the middle of a year abroad when he passed away and couldn’t be there for his funeral and to help support my mom, I do not wish cancer upon anyone, not even my enemies (not that I have any, lol)
Her thyroid cancer was based on the late Esther, a girl close to John Green who had thyroid cancer they thought would be treatable but ended up spreading and taking her
The way you interpreted the ending blew my mind. I never thought about it that way before, now i can’t help but agree. 😳😭
I was diagnosed with Hodgkin's Lymphoma when I was 19 - went through chemo/radiation for 8 months, then a year later it spread below my radiation line. So the next step was more aggressive treatment along with a stem cell transplant of my own cells. Long story, short I'm doing amazing and have been in remission for 7 years now -wonderful family and a child.
Basically this book and movie was my go to in sad times during that because it hit home so much and even now, I'm being told I may have a risk of thyroid cancer now, but all will be good. I relate to Hazel so much.
Dr. Mike thank you for always being a highlight of my day as well! I always enjoy your videos and they make me smile 😊
Can I ask what symptoms you noticed at first?
You know, if this becomes a new series, I highly recommend reacting to My Sister's Keeper. That movie made me bawl my eyes out.
Yes oh my gosh that movie is so sad
I haven't watched the movie, but I read the book about 15 years ago. I cried through the whole thing, too. If I remember correctly, as the book progressed, I cried for each member of the family in turn, because it's a difficult situation for each of them.
I also have chronic illness.
From my Goodreads review:
It was interesting how you see one side of a character, then later in the story another side is revealed--as if you've circled around to the other side & you see them from another perspective--and you come to understand them better.
It made me think about how we treat each other & what we would do for the ones we love.
I watched my grandfather die of throat and lung cancer. Fortunately his doctor allowed him to die at home and it was over the summer while I was out of school. I took care of him until the day he died. It was tough, very tough, but I wouldn't have wanted it any other way. I hated watching him die, but I loved being able to be with him.
Bless you. I’m glad he wasn’t alone and you kept him company and helped him out. You sweet soul 🤍
Good that he passed around those who loved him. That’s rough though man. Wishing you all the best
Massive respect to you for doing that
You are amazing for taking care of your grandfather. I’m sure he’s so proud of you and is grateful for what you did for him. It hurts so bad when a grandparent dies. A year and a half ago, my grandmother died from complications of covid. I didn’t get to see her since right before she got sick, 3 months earlier. She was on a vent for a while and was in and out of rehab and she was in rehab when her body failed her. There were no visitors allowed, especially under 18, so the closest I got to bring with her was a FaceTime call where she couldn’t even talk, just blow an attempted kiss to me and my cousins. When I got the news that she passed, my body just couldn’t handle the news, I lost my ability to breathe normally and I was shaking like a leaf for weeks.
It’s been a year and a half and I still constantly think about her. I wish I could’ve been with her or say goodbye. For 3 months I felt helpless, like I couldn’t do anything to make anything better. She lived with my family, so now the house feels so empty without her. Grief is probably the worst pain I’ve felt in my life.
How does Mike have enough time to make all these awesome vids for us, while being a doctor 😆
He probably will do two or three one day to build up a few in case his practice and real life become busy.
Grub hub!
That and all of the other things he does makes Mike a very busy guy.
Remember that he have a dog as well
because the majority of time in making videos is editing and hes has a personal video editor for that
My 27 year old son was diagnosed with AML in February this year. He's now in remission, but still has his chest port in. He's choosing to keep it in until he at least gets a few more months to a year of continued remission under his belt.
This year was so hard between leukemia and covid restrictions and the side effects and depression and fear and hospital. And the two weeks in icu due to neutropenic fever and sepsis. Cancer is so hard and so terrifying.
We were blessed, and pray that we continue to stay blessed, that he's in remission.
Prayers for you all. ❤️
Take care, you guys❤
I was diagnosed with Thyroid cancer at the age of 18. It had spread around my body to quite a few lymph nodes by the time it was discovered. A year long battle and a combination of surgeries, medications, and radiation treatments eventually lead to remission and now, 7 years later, I am cancer free. I can confirm/empathize with a lot of Hazel’s experiences and really appreciate Dr. Mike’s explanations. Speaking from experience, Cancer is an incredibly difficult thing to have happen to you or a loved one. The physical battle is the part most people see when they think of someone with cancer, but the mental/spiritual/emotional battle is a WHOLE other aspect of it that no one really talks about outside of depression, and yes, I do believe there is a huge taboo/stigma around the subject. When you have cancer, people begin to define you and see you as your diagnosis and your prognosis, instead of as an actual human being with feelings, emotions, hopes, dreams, and fears just like everyone else. People assume the only thing cancer patients feel is depression and that’s not always the case, it’s truly different for everyone. I personally was extremely depressed and had a lot of anxiety during that time of my life, but found that talk therapy, support groups, mindfulness exercises, having the support of my friends and family, and going to church regularly was more helpful to me mentally than any pill they prescribed me for depression (again, that’s just my personal experience and I’m not advocating for one treatment method over another, just stating how I personally dealt with it.) In all health situations, we must respect the autonomy, feelings, and wishes of the patient above all; as Dr. Mike said about August’s stopping Chemo, these discussions and decisions are extremely individual and personal, are made after much consideration with help and advice from family members and doctors, and the decision is sometimes ultimately made to reduce suffering and pain as much as possible. God Bless and thank you to all the medical and mental health professionals and other support professionals, clergy members, spiritual leaders, counselors, social workers, and support groups who help people with Cancer and their families.
Also a cancer survivor (Hodgkin’s at age 19) and I completely agree! TFIOS is one of the most compelling portrayals of the emotional side of having cancer that I have ever seen or read. It doesn’t romanticize having cancer despite having a romantic story. That line about “lit up like a Christmas tree” gets me every time. 😭 It’s one of those things that really only resonates if you’ve ever seen a PET scan of yourself or loved one.
I am so happy you are cancer-free, Anna. Thank you for sharing your experience with us worldwide. Sending you a hug across the miles :)
@@lyzalyza7 True. That part hit me hard because that is exactly how they described my grandpa's PET scan. When I read it on the book, it was like a flashback to that moment. I couldn't hold back the tears. I am glad you're a survivor and I wish for you both a long and healthy (as possible) life
Just because you interpret the end of this movie differently tan someone else doesnt mean you are wrong! Books Belong To Their Readers (and thus by extension, Movies Belong To Their Viewers), so both you and Sam are right!
DFTBA!
What does DFTBA mean?
@@JustAnotherLokiStan "Don't Forget To Be Awesome". Its a thing Nerdfighters (fans of John and Hank Green) say.
@@manyrainbows oooo nice
The two main characters are actually in Divergent siblings. So, watching this made me laugh.
Keep up the great work!!
Right and that’s crazy😂 but hey both are great movies
Lmao same 😂
Really appreciate this analysis Dr Mike. I see cancer patients often, and both the physical and mental effects are really traumatic. For any health condition, but especially cancer, we’ve been taught to use the BIO-PSYCHO-SOCIAL approach - you have to consider the patient’s biological symptoms, the psychological effects, AND the impact on their social circumstances. It’s so important to treat them holistically and with empathy.
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@@REALpets4ever ahh thanks so much I appreciate that!! I'm working on some medical TV reactions myself inspired by Dr Mike - couple of Arcane ones out already, working on Cowboy Bebop, The Witcher, and Hawkeye reactions coming real soon!
OR you could just listen to your patients and treat their disease. At this point, I personally am sick of people playing psychobabble in my head, especially when it comes down (as it often does) to someone telling you how you REALLY feel.
It feels validating to read this. My partner is currently being treated for Acute Leukemia and while the hospital is treating him well medically, I feel like they completely disregard mental troubles caused by the situation hes in, nobody even closely imagines what it might be like to be in his shoes. No empathy at all.
I swear everytime Dr Mike mentions his mum, or he reacts to something related to cancer like this and I feel like it's upsetting him, my hyper-active (non-existent 😂) mum instincts kick in and I wanna jump through the screen and give him a big old hug 😭😂
Another good book and movie dealing with cancer is my sister's keeper. It was the most saddest movie I've ever watched because then every single time I'm watching it I tear up because my own mother had to go through intense sessions of radiation and chemo and the thought of losing her is too hard to bear. So if I'm extremely stressed out and I need an outlet to release my tears I watch that one
Seven years later, and this book and movie break my heart. Shailene Woodley was the perfect choice for Hazel!
I lost my mom to cancer over 20 years ago. I found out 2 days before she passed that I had graduated from University. While she laid still in her bed , from the morphine, I read her the letter from the university while holding her hand. At the end she pinched my finger. That moment will always remain with me, and comes up on holidays and special occasions.
The best of the season to you all!
She was definitely proud of you
Does anyone else want to hear his thoughts on Footless Jo's amputation story? I just watched it and it's so fascinating.
on the note of the doctor visit, after my brother attempted suicide, I had to take that quiz but the doctor allowed my mom to stand over me and watch me fill it out. so I lied on every answer.
This movie makes me cry like a baby every time I watch it. I didn't know it could be even sadder but Dr. Mike's explanation of the ending just made it worst. :(
A family member of mine was a part of this film. The “cancer support group”. John & his team selected kids from the Pittsburgh area when filming this and most were all being treated or were treat at children’s hospital of Pittsburgh. It’s my comfort movie. Thank you for this. When Josh had passed away John wrote the most beautiful Tumblr post about him & his time spent with him on set. It is unfortunately gone from there now, but I wish it was still out there somewhere to read. It’s comforting.
If you haven't already, you can use the wayback machine and put the post address there, you should be able to see the tumblr post again.
It was a beautiful tribute and I hope you'll still find it a comfort!
I read the book. When I got to the end it took me a week or so to finish the end. Every time I would start to read the end I would cry. I never seen the movie because I just can not handle it. I love the added info given during this video. My grandma (mom side) and uncle (dad side) died from cancer. It scares me knowing how close it is. My mom took care of my grandma until she died. I do not remember it much but I can only imagine what she went trough watching her mother die. One of things I am so grateful for is my health. I feel people take it for granted everyday.
As someone who was diagnosed with a life threatening & extremely rare disease. when I was a teenager I hated support groups 😂. I was also on (still am) tons of medications. At 17, I was on 14 different meds
Stay strong❤️
I've never gone to a support group and never liked the idea of them either (age 29, chronic illness since birth). Many think it's because I'm afraid of hearing about patients with my same condition who are in worse shape than me and becoming afraid of that being my case someday, but in reality it's the opposite - I am way too insecure to handle hearing other patients' stories about all of the activities they can manage and how they "don't let it keep them down" and would be constantly comparing it to myself and feeling like a loser, lol.
@@Wawagirl17 yup. He says that hearing other people in your same situation makes you feel better. But what if there isn't anyone? What If you're quiet in the corner listening to stories and you truly don't relate? It feels like I'm wasting the small amount of time I have on this planet in groups like that.
@@arisucheddar3097 I will say, we have someone in our mental health support group who finds themself in that position often. They are so determined to find something that can help their condition that they often go to as many support groups as possible, not necessarily looking for someone in the same position, but instead trying to find people with close enough symptoms who have tried anything that they have not yet tried, to get ideas of something to possibly try next to better manage their condition. And if nothing else, there is still the occasional personal connection that's made within a community of people who have at least a basic understanding, moreso than the general public, that can make people feel a little less alienated and slightly more accepted - at least it can be a place where you don't have to put on a mask and pretend just because it's too much effort to explain everything to people who have zero idea where you're coming from.
There's also the fact that not all support groups are for everyone. If you don't like one after a few tries, ditch it and try another. We say the same about our own group. We may not provide what you're looking for, but another may.
In the end though, it is entirely about what's good for you, so if that is too much work for not enough payoff right now, or whatever reason you have that no one else has the right to, then that's fine too. Do what is best for you, that's what's important. And you know that way better than any random internet commenter!
@@Wawagirl17 For my experience, support groups actually tend to have an attendance drop when people are doing well. More often than not people tend to come in when they are doing so-so or not so well, and skip if they're doing better. Not a hard and fast rule, just something I and a few others in support groups I've been to and had experience with have seen play out pretty consistently.
Absolutely your choice though to attend any groups, and I would never encourage you to do anything that would be harmful for you. You know yourself tons better than I can pretend to through just this comment. I wish you all the best!
This film was heartbreaking but the book was GUT WRENCHING 😭😭😭 John green really did thatttt
Babes. It’s JOHN Green 😒
Tom Green lol 😂
NOT TOM GREEN😭😭
is tom green the secret 4th green brother? 🤔🤔
It’s called the fault in our stars because they are star-crossed lovers like romeo and juliet.
When you discuss the end of the movie being kind of open it’s supposed to be that way: it reflects the ending of the book Hazel was reading where there are so many unanswered questions. We don’t know what happened to Hazel afterwards whether she died or was still alive.
I took that depression test thing before, the doctor told my mom that I scored "dangerously high" on it. Absolutely nothing has been done about it since. I've been this way since middle school, but didn't take one of these tests until just last year. It could've been in my paperwork in older visits, but I never filled it out myself, and I don't recall anyone asking me those questions.
I don't know how old you are or what kind of life you're living, but try to not wait for your mom to do something and seek help yourself in whatever way you can. I hope things get better for you soon!
my university counselor said I scored dangerously high, but my ability to adapt and overcome issues was also really high.....she recommended therapy and was honestly shocked by how functional I was :s
At the very least you should try counseling. If you're still in school, there's counselors that work there. If not, many counselors charge less for patient's with a low income.
I had the same experience. I filled the form and was considered to be depressed but my parents didn't care about following up and it was just forgotten forever. Same thing happened to my best friend. She attempted suicide and so I realized it was my responsibility to tell an adult at this point, so I told our school counselor. Her mom was informed and she did nothing to follow up on it (instead she screamed at her for ruining her day while she was shopping at hobby lobby). The school threatened to expel my friend and she was mad at me for a while after that. No follow up for either of us happened. It's sad how people don't take mental health seriously and those with mental illnesses are already too drained to reach out help for themselves often.
I'm about to ruin the movie so don't read on if it's upsetting.. (This is more for the book but it still can apply to the movie.) In the book, Augustus tells Hazel about his girlfriend, Caroline, that he met years prior. Caroline died less than a year before he met Hazel from a brain tumor. It doesn't say it but it wouldn't surprise me if this was one of the reasons why Gus joined the support group to begin with. After Augustus tells Hazel this, she goes home and looks Caroline up online to see how she slowly deteriorated through pictures/comments. With her last picture, Hazel can't help but think how almost identical they look. She understandably feels self conscious about this and confronts Gus about it. He obviously says that he doesn't see Caroline in Hazel but she still thinks that this was the reason why Gus kept looking at her/talked to her during their first encounter. Caroline was actually casted to be in the movie but the director wanted Hazel and Gus' relationship to be full of genuine love so she was cut last minute. But man.. I can't see the support group scene the same way after this.
what surprised me about this movie is the fact that the actors that played hazel and Gus also played as siblings in divergent and both movies came out in the same year.
Me too. Even more amazing is that no character bleed happened. In this movie they looked like lovers, but in Divergent, they only had sibling energy. Amazing actors.
I recently lost my mother to cancer. It is such a vile disease, as are also the medications for it!
This book (which I read at a time where my mother was not even diagnosed) Made me cry really hard for those children. The film was not nearly as sad or as beautiful as the book, but still one of the best films made imo. I liked that they did not change the story that much.
Yes, that the heath provider's take extreme efforts to not get the chemo drugs on their skin. But that "medicine" is going into the patient
I was so uncomfortable when I went to a therapist and he kept my mom in the room, and I always wondered if it was an acceptable thing to do. Thanks for your videos!
Omg you should react to FIVE FEET APART!!! 😭😭💔💔
It’s similar to TFIOS, except both lovers have cystic fibrosis.
5:20 y’all PLEASE don’t take up smoking. my grandmother smoked for awhile and even after she quit, she was diagnosed with COPD. it’s been brutal. She’s nearly died twice, has been on life support and in a coma, and is currently on oxygen full time and can’t walk up stairs without getting winded and needing to catch her breath. a lung transplant is off the table for her, and she has to live like this for the rest of her life. she’s only in her early 60s. smoking is detrimental for your health and not just for you, but it hurts the other people who have to see the effects of it ravaging your body.
The Fault in Our Stars was a kick to the gut, both the book and the movie. I love the story, it's beautiful, but oh my feels... I was still sobbing when I left the movie theater, and I wasn't alone.
Thank you for reacting to it!
My sis had retinoblastoma and it was a very grueling process, when it was the quemio she would throw up and she was moody cause of the anesthesia. When it came to radiation she was fine but her eye did swell up like a ball and she couldn’t open it for several months. She didn’t want to eat or drink and it was a difficult time in not only her life but mine too. She is my best friend and it affected my mental health because she was suffering and i couldn’t do anything. I had to learn how to survive without my parents for months and i had to grow up and mature. My sis diagnosis was because of a picture and it was hederitary from my dad who was also a patient of retinoblastoma but he had to get his eye removed unfortunately. Cancer is a very difficult process not only for the patient but for the family.
Love your comment because you state what it's like to be a sibling of a serious ill child. My best friend's brother had cancer when we were in elementary school. She practically lived at our house. One day she had to go home sick and my mother had to pick her up (It was a different time then). She had a cold but for some reason I didn't catch it. I was a little envious of the attention my mother gave her (I was an only child). It was then that I could truly sympathize with my friend. It made me be a better friend to her.
Just read this book. It really highlights the struggles of life. Especially for cancer patients.
My son has been paralyzed from the neck down has a trach and is on a ventilator since he was 3. He'll be 13 in January. This would be such an amazing gift from the science world. I still have dreams of him walking, breathing, and talking. He's literally a scientific medical miracle to even be alive.
The book purposefully doesn’t add a period after Hazel says okay for the last time so the end is completely up to the readers interpretation. I did not notice how her arms crossed at the end so I feel Dr Mike’s take is def a solid take on it.
I see it more like a hug to herself, as if Augustus was there with her. I've never interpreted that way and I think Dr. Mike didn't actually seen the entire movie
@@Noelliuss omg I never even thought of that! I read the book and then watched the movie, ugly cried all through the eulogy. I love hearing from fellow readers and their take on it! Everyone comes to their own conclusion and it’s fun to discuss it.
@@ttdub14 yesss I totally agree! We can all share our point of view
Never seen that, I might watch it tho if it's good
I finally watched it a few months ago and it's wonderful! That is if u r someone who likes a love story and u're not ashamed to cry 😭
I encourage you to do so. Or read the book. Or both. DFTBA
ok so im 13 and my father recently died from alcoholism and the green brothers with dear hank and john and vlogbrothers has really helped me, They make me feel comfortable and safe so whenever i feel lonely or sad or like i need someone i put on there podcast and immediately feel safe. Like john feels like he would be a great father figure and hank is the crazy uncle that never fails to make me laugh. So thank you the science brother and the other one
The cigarette quote has helped me battle my chronic illnesses for the past several years. I’ve read this book more than any other. It’s a saving grace for me, it’s such a realistic depiction of illness
Having lost my grandmother to cancer and my dad to sepsis 6 months apart a couple of years ago, this video really hit home for me personally. Thank you for highlighting these illnesses and educating people on their dangers. ❤
Hi Mike! Next, you should react to 5 Feet Apart. It’s an excellent movie!
saw this movie when it first came out. It was to say the least an emotional roller coaster. I knew a co-worker that was going through her own cancer battle. She did watch the movie and loved it. Unfortunately, she lost her battle with the terrible disease but every time you stopped to talk to her. She always had a smile.
2:59 I lost my mother to cancer 3 months ago and the journey was so hard that it was actually a relief when she passed. It was awful. Thank you for sharing about your mother, Mike💚
My mom just passed from colon cancer two weeks ago. I suddenly understand so much more now when someone loses someone to his vile disease. And i understand the relief you feel when they are finally out of pain. The last few weeks of my moms life she was in so much pain, i went into this deep depression just because there was nothing i could do to help her and it just broke my heart. I really hope you're feeling some peace:) wish you the best
I lost my father to lung cancer. Even though i was very young, i remember how that disease transformed him from a strong man to ultimately nothing. Now after 22 years of his passing he only stays in pictures. Its a bad disease.
One of my grandmother's most unique features was her vibrant auburn hair. She lost it while battling ovarian cancer and bought herself a wig of the same color. I always admired that she maintained her sense of humor, even when she knew she didn't have much time left. She was full of love until the very end.
I cried like a baby reading the book. The movie was a great adaption.
When I read this book, i cried so much and laughed and felt hopeful for these characters. Usually the movie leaves a lot of the book out for time but this movie did a great job with the spirit of the book. I'm glad that you reviewed it, Maybe you could do Five feet apart. That premise was very unique and I wonder how accurate it was.
If that was a photo of your mom and dad know that you almost made me cry. Because your father looks almost like a stereotypical Russian man aka very close to my own granddad who indeed was born in northern Russia. Wow what a coincidence.
My mom got diagnosed with ovarian cancer earlier this year. It’s been a hard journey to be a part of . Anyone going through that now . I see you and send love your way . ♥️
As a pharmacy student I love watching your videos Dr. Mike! Thank you for bringing awareness to polypharmacy!
I love how sensitive to the situation Dr. Mike is. Like he understands it, but he's also been through something like it, if not exactly like it, and even through annualizing it, you can still see the solemn/serious understanding that he feels the pain.
I think that's what makes him such a good Dr.
Congrats Dr. Mike you're the first Dr. I actually like to listen to.
Narrative of Self is the result of a feedback loop between “Separate Self” & Cosmos🎈
Yay another dr Mike video!! I learn something every day lol
Bruh, I'm surprised I didn't become dehydrated everytime I watch this. I could build a river with my tears. It pulls at your heartstrings, it was done so well 😭
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I love this book so so much. I’m so excited for you to react to this.