10 Most Common Mistakes Unfaithful Partners Make
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Its terrible that us a faithful caring people have to go through this. Its torture for the mind and heart. Be strong my suffering people. Things have a way of working itself out, pain is temporary. You'll be okay.
Unfaithful partners are usually very selfish and think first and many times only of themselves.
Soooooo true!
Absolutely. The pain they are about to create by cheating doesn't even occur to them.
They usually think they will get away with it.
@@WisePsychology
Hey man, when you've been married for 31 yrs. + a couple years dating - infidelity is a crushing blow to one's soul and heart - especially if you honestly Love the woman truly... They will rip your heart out and stomp it into the dirt.. with zero remorse.
🙏♥️🙏 God bless
(If they've no God in their lives, you are beat, don't even try to open their eyes, you will loose every time... It will take a traumatic experience that affects them... Then they MAY see.)
Yes correct
@@MrMoparbob498 My situation also. God bless us.
Thank God someone who is helpful to the betrayed spouse! we are usually treated as crazy and get more abuse for the reaction to the pain we are in. THANKYOU!!
Yeah that's exactly what I'm going through. He doesn't understand how I feel when he sees me getting upset he gets upset too. He said let just move on from this
EXACTLY!!!! Llke he's getting mad at me for being hurt!!
Did You Cheat, or is he Just Crazy?
Wow!!! I have experienced all 10
I have told me..why are you attacjing me? ..I'm just asking simple questions
I am not your enemy.
He gets upset and avoids conversations.
Yes..Dr. he has made promises, and has broken then
And of course...I loved what you said about being on stage 👀
Blessings
Yep told we are crazy alright !!!!
1. Not supporting your partner's recovery
2. Leaking out information overtime
3. Being defensive
4. Believing everything the hurt partner says
5. Defend the affair partner
6. Avoiding talking about your partners feelings
7. Point out the flaws of partner
8. Continuing to tell lies
9. Not answering all of your spouse's questions
10. Not keeping your commitment and agreements with your spouse
Your welcome
Amazing
Thank you
Thanks 😊
😅so helpful and I appreciate your help
Thank you
Accountability feels like an attack, especially when you are not ready to accept you were wrong.
The worst is you forgive them then it starts all over again in a few months/years, so selfish and insensitive.
Don't forget lying by omission. Mine never told me any lies, he just left out the parts where he was breaking our wedding vows. You know the part where you Love, Honor, and Cherish ONLY each other. No one hides friendships.
Ha yeah people think omission is not lying or as bad
Forsaking all others ? Exactly
My kid's father still haven't disclose his past relationships since I met him in 2000
Yes, but truth is: omissions are still lies! They are Evasions! Still lies.
Wow it is almost like you're inside of my head I could not find a way to explain how I feel you are 1000% accurate my friend you are good
The “leaking of information” is a critical mistake! He is spot on with his analysis…but he left out a few important components. When the cheating spouse opens up and tells the story (it has to make sense) it gives the betrayed something to start building trust on again. My wife lied and tried to cover up everything while I kept discovering new details. After every new revelation, she swore there was nothing else and I was crazy for thinking there was more. Then, I would find out more and she would start the dance all over again. She actually had the nerve to complain when I didn’t believe her!
ha my ex husband continually told me to just get over it and uggggh you still on that. I'm beyond hurt and want to talk about it. nope he was a jerk about it and just caused me so much pain over a looong period of time. ultimately I gave him ahis divorce papers and he was shocked. He got all defensive and angry. smh. It took me a little while to heal but I don't count all men the same. so I moved on with a healthy relationship. Because I refuse to become bitter.
This is the first time that I've heard a relationship specialist actually make sense.
I pray my spouse hears correct reasoning when they watch this. Recovery is an emotional rollercoaster and these "10 mistakes" are truly do make the low moments extremely low.
I’ve seen different people talking about this but you are the one who nailed it in a organized and coherent way. Thanks
Three minutes in and I love this already. Going through the pain of being cheated on and I agree with everything.
You can forgive a person but that individual will continue cheating.
exactly
Even if you know and see them cheating, they will continue to do it. Cheaters do not care about you or nobody that does not agree with them, they have not done anything wrong in their eyes.
True, I can attest to 31 years of abuse from my wife - plus the couple while we dated (x2 wonderful children) and truly, honestly Love this woman but I fear she's taken it too far, IDGAF anymore -& I feel hollowed out now, heart has hardened - & imagine that.... In the Bible that is.
🙏♥️🙏 God bless
Love is a choice : if after you live it, what you can handle to have that "woman" around is your choice ... There's that Free Will, careful how you use it
Dead on betrayed by a serial emotional cheater for 10 yrs found out it escalated 5 yrs ago and then the lies were found out going back the whole ten yrs..and the puzzle pieces started to fall into place..the trauma of finding out the truth over that period of time when his lies unraveled..and the gaslighting ...almost killed me...I was ripped apart to the extent that I wanted to die rather them having to deal with the overwhelming I formation of the sheer extent of his absolute betrayal..and then covid hit and I was trapped with my enemy...I'm just now starting to find my strength and my rage at his injustice..I will never be able to have another relationship..that is healthy or whole..but I can find a way to be safe and a sense of peace when I can escape..a flicker of hope that I have a future life and I'm planning for a future..instead of praying I die..
I know the feeling
This is THE BEST ADVICE I have seen on this subject.
Some of the most hurtful is when they talk about the other woman like she is a saint and then criticise you - deflect and dismiss it as “nothing” and make out that you are paranoid and crazy
Fun and games
This is actually an amazingly well done and helpful video. COMPLETELY spot-on!
You are the first that truly explains this in a way that makes sense and I appreciate that. Spot on. And not offensive. Some relationship coaches trigger me as much as the actual issue does. But these are really helpful and clear.
You are too good at what you are doing, what you are saying is absolutely true
Tell me truth and lay every thing out on the table and we go from there.
Truth will set them free.
Thank you, someone really knows how hard and long it takes to recover. I love him , but he will not open up to the whole truth.
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My favorite part “you will hear words like Sl7t and Trick and Wh&re (low key chuckle laugh)”. I could tell by that laugh, he’s seen that in action and knows how people lash out.
A lot of great points.. definitely nodded my head throughout the whole video
The truth heals, powerful statement cause that's the beginning of recovery.
What a perfectly stated video, This is the best video I’ve found in this subject!! Great video!!
This is by far the best video of yours and maybe the best I've seen on the topic. Nice job.
Wow, powerful. I will say the point of rationalization depending on your emotional maturity at the time of you finding out will determine whether you are ready for this much needed info. It's taken a lot of time for me to heal and be ready to hear these nuggets of gold that you are laying down here. It puts things in place while also giving myself permission for feeling what I'm (as the cheated partner) feeling and validation. I thank you. This is just my second video from you and you are spot on! Thank you.
Thank you for this. Relationships, emotions, psychology is so complex. Especially when many of us are not really taught or have good examples of it.
Yes! “What else don’t I know here?” What shoe is about to drop next? Why is he so defensive about this? It makes it seem like his true heart loyalty is firmer around protecting that extra relationship than the one with his wife.
This is quite possibly the best video...ever...on this subject. And my situation is a very extreme case, so that's really saying something. This video can help enormously.
Absolutely perfect!
2 is massive for me! Rip the plaster off already!!! Don't constantly re-traumatise!
Beautifully spoken….Thanks for these restoration videos
Thank You Brother, these are exactly what I have been trying to convey to my wife whom has cheated on me for 6 consecutive years physically. I have extra questions multiple times about this man that she has been sleeping with multiple times and she is told me that it was Facebook where they initially met and that was basically it then they hooked up, then I come to find out that this man had been living with her mother and she had been visiting him with my children while I was at work right before the affair physically started. I found out from her mother that the man was living with her I asked my wife if the man knew her mother she said yes but omitted the fact that he was actually living with her and she was visiting her mother in his presence. I've tried to get her to understand that omitting facts it's just as bad as lying yet I still find out more and more facts over time which will not allow me to trust her, at all. Thank you for your input this is something that I need her to see, because coming from someone other than myself may actually get her to understand why I'm questioning her and why I'm going through the emotional roller coaster that I am. Bless you bro and have an abundant and prosperous life.
This. Is so great. This is breaking everything down for me to see better . And now I can look at things on a taller building !
Wow you are so right! Thank you as always! God Bless!
This is hands down the best video I have seen on this topic.
👍👍
I've told my husband everything, everything I can remember. I drank a lot 2 years ago and during that time is when I betrayed my husband twice, emotionally and physically. Then I kept it from him for almost 2 years after I realized what a stupid mistake I made and I mever wanted to lose my husband, I still don't. I pray we can get through this. I'm not who I was during my betrayals. But I've had almost 2 years to process what I did and realize the mistakes
The lying for that long can be even worse. He could view that every moment of the last two years with you was a lie. A "mistake" with an immediate confession and remorse is more workable (IMO). The lies are absolutely brutal. Now they just don't know if anything you tell them is real...or just as little as possible to assuage your guilt.
Lying hurts more than the act. The fact that I can’t get over my girls betrayal is simply because she kept it from me for so long.
Hey guys update, found out she cheated 3 times and now I want to kill myself
@@LordImagawaYoshimoto
Dude No.... I lost count of my wife's transgressions in that department.... Way not worth it, when one door closes a few more open up for you... just need to believe and know that.
Easier said than done, yep .... I'm dealing with that once again my friend and not sure of myself..but it wasn't I who dropped the ball, it was my other 1/2 (again)
God bless 🙏❤️🙏
Blessings to you. Keep up the good work.
Exactly! You are 100% right! My hubby, hopefully soon to be ex is this person who you’ve just described to the T. He to this day can’t be honest and he chose HER when she called and I told him to hang up or I was leaving. He did NOT hang up and let me go. So that proves to me who he chose, and who he really wanted. Then he gave excuses why he didn’t hang up and let me go. He’s full of BS. He has no conscience and remorse.
Wow 3 years ago n this is still hurting
I literally could not love a video more than this one right now. You have helped me in my healing process so much after being cheated on just from watching two of your videos this evening. I am very grateful and if nothing else I feel so validated and heard after watching this video. Thank you Hasani!! -Alex
Well done Sir. You covered it throughly. Very good discussion about the repetition in questioning the unfaithful. We must remember an affair may be due to mental health issues on the part of the cheater. My cheater never offered any avenues to closure so, I quit and divorced her.
This was very very good... right on time.
I forwarded this to my boy. We have been together for 8 years this month, I just recently found out that he has a 4 year old daughter. I am devastated. And still continues to lie to me. His story is never consistent about how the affair started.
Thank you so much! this video was very helpful. What a relief!
Best video on this subject I have ever found. Thsnk you man!!
Thanks for the video. You really touched all the points.
Charmaine Eilers thank you. If there is anyway I can serve you please let me know.
So true what you saying thank u for the video
This is exactly what we all need to hear. It's everything. I wish he knew this before he destroyed me by lying for so many years about the many kinds of betrayal. I wonder if I would be healthier today had i not endured the mind games. I know more than he's admitted. What still causes me to pause is that i know that he knows hes still not 100 . Does that make me the fool, or him? Thank you ❤
You're really good in what you are doing.
thank you so much now i know the truth , you gave me answer to my questions.
Thank you
I cried so much listening to you
You knew exactly how I feel
Something connected me to listening to you
I communicated to my partner I hope we have a better future together
Please keep helping me
Thank you
May God bless you 🙏
Help me, what method did take to communicate this to your partner?
Wonderful topic, very nice message...
Thank you so much ❤️
This video is gold.
Sir you are fantastic!!
Ur right my dear God bless u ur messages is so right
OMG BEST VIDEO AND EDUCATIONAL......WOW WOW 👏😮👏😮👏😮👏😮
THANK YOU SIR!!!
You are a genius.
Lord thank you for this video🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thank you so much for this information that what this narchics woman doing to me right now she even blaming me for her to cheating on me
How can the betrayed recover when she has walked away, filed for divorce, and is already looking at engagement rings??? He cheated on his gf to be with her...what starts in chaos ends in chaos.
And they are surprised you see though them.
I guess I don’t understand why they’re in pain when they caused the pain and the only reason they in pain Is bc they got caught period
She said she was sorry and she need me to forgive her but if try to get rid of the felling she would get so upset with me . like have a sore and some one keep hurting Everytime it getting to heal.
Putting these young men on game. 😤
I recently found out About my wife's infidelities And the shock was almost too much for me to bear with what I saw Every emotion that That a person could have ran through me at the exact same time I didn't know whether to cry or be angry or start destroying shit in our home. Before I found out she told me she thinks we need to take a break. That she her daughter and daughter's boy friend were going to move out and get an apartment.
That was the staw that broke the camels back i through my step daughter's boyfriend out and had him trespassed. Told my wife if we separated that it would be final. Well that next Tuesday i found out everything. I want to try to save my marriage but I feel like she's not even trying she's told me she's sorry and knows she can't expect forgiveness. But I would think if she wanted to save our marriage then she would be willing to change. And at least show that she wants to be forgiven
see, another brotha thats been through the same thing that I have. Mine, did the same thing except mine got pregnant. She got rid of it because Im not taking pf another mans seed, I refuse. have two kids with her though and didn't not want to leave them. I hd ll the feelings that you had and believe me it hurt. to make a long story short, she came crawling back and I excepted because of my small kids at the time. I noticed that you didn't say any of those kids were yours. my advice is to get out while you can before its too late. I have kids with my wife so, it makes it difficult. if you dont have kids with this cheater then get out now before she can take half of everything you own. once a cheater always cheater. it will make it that much easier to cheat again when she gets a change believe me. She will not change no matter what she says, they dont change. if she did this she does not care for you. same with me. my wife dont care about me she just wants everything to go back to normal because I take care of her and she dont want to be alone in her age, this is FEMALE nature. she already told you that you and her should separate right? see? she dont care. so, what happens when it happens again and she finds a guy that is 6ft, 6p pack abs, 6 figure income and blows her back out on the side? she will come to you AGAIN and say those magic words " we need to separate" and you will be crushed again. well, I got to get ready for work. this was very therapeutic to talk to you about this and to share my story, good luck and get out if you can while you can.
Wow. As an unfaithful. Am scared to death. If my hubby is thinking like this. All these videos are scaring me. GOD, I wish I could just take it back. And never ever have done this. I don't want to separate. I thought he didn't love me and am shocked beyond words that I conceived this and hurt him like this. I wish I saw these videos before anything happened.
Anything I do that's seemingly normal looks like I am trying to deceive him. That's how he perceives it, and I caused it. GOD pls help my husband strengthen him. Pls heal him from my stupidity n foolishness. Pls don't let him think about me like this. I really do want him to be fine, the best, and have all the great things in life.
How are you guys with your spouses. Do you still feel this way?
Omg yes yes brother your true
OMG...This!
Omg how I feel
I just find out my husband of15 years marriages cheated on me. The emotion I feel right now I can't even explain.
Haha...very true
All points resonate but I think I m the only one who was/is still looking for expert help
My wife is mad at me because she couldn't end her friendship how she wanted to
Please help I’m in crisis mode ASAP
Glad ur posting videos
Mr Pettiford, will you help us on how to get our spouse to listen to your video ? This is hardest step. Help.
Any advice for when the unfaithful spouse is just wishing and waiting for this to go away without any recovery work? Don't talk about it! Uuhhh we can't just be normal and live one day in peace. What about them being insensitive to the betrayed partner's feelings when they are triggered by actions the unfaithful spouse does? For example being defensive and saying things like "if I want to watch pornography, I can, I'm an adult"..... is it time to give up and leave? I'm exhausted.
nope, its over....if you've been cheated on and your husband is doing this then its time to leave because HE doesn't care, he just wants it to go away and he knows that you wont leave. I don't care what anyone tells you, they can say what ever they want, they don't wear your shoes right? your going through this. This tells me that these people when they make these videos, they have never been married or this has not happened to them so they don't know. Any one can read a book and spew it out on youtube. Yes, Im going through this my self..on the other hand if YOU cheated then YOU get what you deserve.....sorry you get what you get...
Exhaustion ?? It’s abuse and you know it.
I know exactly what you’re going through. It never gets better😤😭
@@anthonyperkins5856 we
if a man is watching porn then the wife is not satisfying his needs, period.
Question. What if the wife is bringing up the infidelity, cheated and have asked her for forgiveness. I’ve asked God to forgive me
How do I sigh up for your program?
How can one narrow down the reason of committing the adultery ? I personally feel like being a dumbass doesn't cut it as far as excuses go. I also believe there is no right answer for why one would cheat. Could use some guidance .
She will not ask to be forgiven or tell truth lies and more lies
In the moment is a dangerous thing
Hello
Wat about a defencive husband who is in the act and lairs in front of his actions and believes his not doing anything wrong Wat do u call that kind of husband a narcissist or sycopath right? Been married to such is drama
Men don't want to be faithful so you need to leave, they're incredibly selfish and when you do it they don't take you back.
Im sure YOU contributed to your husband being that way.
if these are present would that be a valid reason to leave and move on?
Good evening sir can you be more specifi how the brain start break down to you come to this conclusion.How many years you have deals with these types of people sir, what type of step would you take to protect your self.
I am very hurt.....
My husband says the same thing I did nothing wrong how stupid do you think I am I can't understand why why did he do this to me I thought he loved me but I guess not maybe I am stupid I trusted him I believed him he lied he said it was all in my head like I was crazy
Thats exactaly wat he does and yes he gets very defensive when i caught him in pub with her ? Shoyted swear at me all my fault how dare i ? He even said we could live a good life if i was more compelling wats that even mean ?
am going true that process with my husband I would like to talk to you off the air do you have a contact # where I can reach you sir
Because they are empty 🐚 she'll with out ❤️ hearth they are busted and disgusted.
Sir,,it's, so true, there's something, the enemy of the most high God, n of human beings, (the devil), plant ,r put, inside of us, that we like to c others, down, distress, n glad about it, instead of praying,y it's written (galatians 6:1 if a brother, as been, over taken, with a fault, (u) you ,who,is spiritual, restore sush a one, with (meekness) (considering thyself not to be tempted, )we has to be so, from time to now, n down the street path, r lane, blessed love, amen,,
what if the hurt partner abuse the power mess around with different guys without telling ?
Do u mean she was cheated on and now cheating on u instead of working on the situation or taking space ?
Rudy di mo ako kausap di minmin ang kinakausap mo how will i support you?
Unfaithful Wives
This af has been at my spouse for 50 years. Satan personified. A 1st cousin! God help 🙏 me
I just found out that my husband has been unfaith again and asked for a divorce. at first I wanted to stay because he was very remorseful and attentive to my pain but after week 2 of me asking questions and being hurt he quick to anger and defensive which make me think he's still involved with this person. He doesn't want to go counseling because he says it sort money but I think that's a cop out. He want leave but he tell me he doesn't want to stay either. I'm a Christian woman but I don't know what to do. Can you or your wife help me? Should I stay or should I go?
Checkout these groups on Facebook. Wounded Wives to Warrior Wives and Iamawife-Proverbs 31
@@NMOWarrior2019 thank you for responding, Demetria, but my situation has escalated to my husband leaving his family and living with his affair partner. He still hasn't filed for divorce but currently have. I will definitely check out the FB page because right now my healing is priority#1. Thanks again for the advice. Be blessed!
No please leave, he'll do it again and again.
Years of cheating in 15 min. ;)
It is OK for usual faults but not for this. She had not any feeling about other part or marriage. Why is she to do this?
What to do with a trickle truther? A story changer?
He’s made other changes to redevote to our family but won’t be honest - perhaps with himself - about his extramarital relationship.
My wife always cheating on my and ask forgiveness 🙏, so am tayard, so I have made up my mind, I dont want the relationship anymore, but she is asking for last chance, I need your advice please
Pray on it. No one can tell you what to do about this but you
Thank u so much. You said it all. U are correct
Divorce is the only way
No it's not
No not the only answer but often it is
This is the weirdest thing u literally look like the man my wife had an affair with.. my mind is blown his British tho
Yea but u lam whites tell it better than u trying to be white