How to Speak like a Gentleman
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- Опубликовано: 1 июл 2024
- Learn to talk like an elegant and sophisticated gentleman.
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Timestamps:
0:00 Intro
0:26 Soft spoken
1:56 Profanity
3:09 Grammar
4:09 Accent
5:14 Listening
6:29 Don't interrupt
7:08 Don't show off
8:00 Conclusion 
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I love that you added "listening" because few people see the value of proper listening.
@jshoover2199 - This could not be any truer !
If men want to level up, this is a fabulous channel to assist them. I am a woman, and I learn too. So greatful for this discussion. Many times, men are super attractive - until they start talking. Worst yet, if they are terrible listeners. Profanity is best completely avoided, but if you must, be very careful with when and what you do say. 😊. Thank you. 🌹♥️
I agree, and do so appreciate his vocabulary
Douglas Murray is a national treasure and one of my very few real-life heroes.
lol
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He’s gay and conservative…. Go figure!! 😮
"A gentleman crafts his sentences with poise, creating a much more engaging experience for his listener... [and] actually prefers to steer the topic of conversation away from himself and onto the other person..."
For some reason - as an example - it makes me think of this precious piece of dialogue from the film "Charade":
Cary Grant: "Oh, you should see your face."
Audrey Hepburn: "What's the matter with it?"
Cary Grant: "It's lovely."
Nuff said... 😊
My uncle had this deep, bold, strong voice. As kids we all listened to him as he spoke. I cannot come close to him but I inherited the loud, strong voice. You learn to develop a strong commanding voice in the military.
I wasn't sure I liked this guy, but the more videos I watch, the more he grows on me. It's like I want to have a single malt and a cigar and chat with the ol' chap. Keep up the solid content. You have a new fan.
Thank you sir, I would love to share a dram and a smoke with all of my audience
I believe one of my generation has to get past his youth and listen to him.
Heck Cary Grant was once his age.
I am glad someone is pointing the way to this younger generation.
Excellent video. You convey a consistent message of understated elegance and grace, a comforting message in this crazy world. Please keep the videos coming. Thank you.
Good video friend. Your channel is rising fast! Glad to see it
Thank you, sir
Today's men need this kind of lesson.
Nice advice today James. I have been trying to tell my 18 year old nephew about these topics for several years. He always thought that it made him look smarter when he corrected others and used words others didn't understand. I always told him, a wiser man speaks to his audience , and nobody and I mean nobody likes a corrector .
Indeed, Roger. Glad you enjoyed the video. At least it sounds like your nephew is an intelligent young man! Arrogance is definitely easier to slip into when you're young
There is a Luke Smith article titled "obscenities are symptoms of weak minds." I agree.
Educational. Thank you. As I do with your videos I take notes to review as needed.
That's very cool to know you are getting so much value from these videos. I'm flattered. Thank you
Think of Sir Winston Churchill's speeches; even his powerful speech about, "we shall fight on the beaches and in the streets....we shall never surrender" was spoken quietly, but his confidence and strength inspired the Nation and helped save Western Civilization. Hitler, on the other hand screamed, and raved, and lost.
Churchill was also a war criminal and massmurder
Oh how wrongly you hade interpreted Mr. Hitler's oratory skills.
He used to begin his speeches with a silence, then softly talking, working up his tempo, and in the ending, in a frantic finale of loud voice, accompanied by the waving arms and all.
It is a form of speech-technuiqe used all the way back to antiquity, used by the romans, to captivate the audience listening and playing on their full feelings during your speech. The bits we learn from history class, is the frantic lunatic screaming and waving exxagerated. Not the part, were he discusses and puts it clear of what he is talking about.
Who would listen to a screaming madman on a stage?
No one then, no one now.
This was an excellent video on a much needed subject. Please keep etiquette content coming! Well done.
well said young man.....
Peter O’Toole - The Last Emperor. A wonderful scene when he speaks of being a gentleman.
Oh !!! Peter O'Toole is THE best example of speaking like and being a gentleman!
One thing I've found helpful when crafting spoken sentences is having a writer background. Visualize what you're about to say like a script. Edit and revise in the pregnant pause as you listen intuitively to the other person.Take a breath, then speak.
As for me, one thing I've found helpful is to have it in my heart, and then speak from the heart and just let it flow from a "flow state" without holding back to analyze or strategize how to say it.
My dad is a jail guard. He is a great example of all the points you made.
I’ve been watching your videos quite regularly and I enjoy your content and presentation. This one is particularly interesting.
I agree with your position on swearing. I used to be in the army and have also had other jobs where swearing was a common and frequent part of the vocabulary. However, I don’t swear often myself and I have found that it’s much more effective when used sparingly. When I do swear, people who know me are aware that what I’m saying has particular significance or passion because of the unexpected strong language. If you swear constantly, it loses impact.
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Twenty years in the military,law enforcement,and the fire service.
You nailed it one hundred percent.
Constant swearing makes you sound intellectually limited,or like you are trying too hard. But when used judiciously,it can silence the room. People know you mean business.
Most people in those professions do swear constantly .
Thank you, sir. I’m glad to get your perspective
@@Gent.Z
Thank you Sir. For hosting such a great channel.
As the saying goes: “Profanity is evidence of a weak mind attempting to appear forceful.”
@@petereastwood7868false profanity is a verbal exclamation point….when used sparingly
I like the point about doing a podcast as a hobby. Whenever I would use the voice recording function on my mobile phone, to 'journal' my thoughts, I would cringe at the use of 'filler' words.
00:27 🗣 A gentleman maintains a soft-spoken demeanor, avoiding shouting matches and speaking over others.
01:09 🎙 Swearing can be acceptable for a gentleman if used sparingly and appropriately, understanding its impact on the audience.
03:16 📚 A gentleman's speech reflects his education, emphasizing proper grammar and structured sentences for clarity and engagement.
05:19 👂 A gentleman distinguishes himself by being a great listener, showing genuine interest in others and making them feel valued.
06:57 ⏳ Patience is crucial; interrupting others shows a lack of respect and attention, contrary to gentlemanly behavior.
07:12 🗣 A gentleman doesn't flaunt his vocabulary or specialized knowledge, instead focusing on clear communication that everyone can understand.
Helps if you have a British accent.
I agree 100% with your point about steering the conversation - that is an art that every gentleman should practice. It is important that everyone get their share of the conversation (if they wish) and that those you know to have something useful to contribute be invited to do so, especially if they are quiet or disinclined to put themselves forward.
I have a couple of "friends" (acquaintances whom I cannot avoid) who are terrible conversationalists and gush endlessly, like a fire hydrant trying to get it all out. I go to those dinners with great trepidation. Equally unpleasant are those who are oblivious to your lack of interest in their favoured topic. I was once compelled to get up and leave my own dinner party because two of the guests were droning on endlessly about Calvinism or something (it was my wife's family, so it was her responsibility to manage them, and she failed to do so. So I just left and did clean up - I could not even excuse myself, as there was no way to get a word in edgewise).
Thank you again. Valuable life coaching.
1. Be Soft spoken, but
2. Speak Boldly
3. Avoid Profanity
4. Use good Grammar
5. Accent
6. Listening
7. Don't interrupt
8. Don't show off
I'm from a northern working class area and work in a warehouse and i do use the more industrial language on an everyday basis as often it's needed to get points across to the people i work with.
But i am gentlemanly when needed, for example, at break times, I'll always stop to let the women up the stairs to the canteen before i do and even once during a fire drill i got a telling off for not leaving the site as i helped a female worker out due to the fact she was pregnant at the time.
I do talk with a bit of a stutter at times, especially when nervous or anxious. Sometimes, i talk softly but sometimes i find my words all trying to get at out at once so this video is a real help.
A prominent individual comes to mind who is clearly not a gentleman.
Excellent video as always.
I knew the advice would be spot on when I saw the thumbnail of Saint-era Roger Moore.
I've been unable to confirm the delightful quotation attributed to Mark Twain that "profanity brings a particular relief unattainable by prayer or by drink."
Thank you for your Videos… im in love with that old „Bauhaus 1923“ pictures.
On the swearing thing, I have always firmly believed that "Curse Words for DIY" should be a book by the till at any home improvement store or Ikea...🤣🤣
Well done, as usual.
To cultivate your ear, listen to audiobooks, radio dramas, etc
narrated by classically trained actors (John Gielgud, Ralph Richardson, Jeremy Irons). Also, listen to interviews of actors who were famous in the 40s and 50s.
A valuable channel. Learning a lot. Thank you.
I try to swear less often, I swore all the time in the army but some civilians are off put by the frequency
Excellent advice for ladies, too!
While watching and listening to your comments regarding speaking as a gentleman, I was reminded of one of my favorite quotes from the late John Wayne on the subject.
"Talk low, talk slow, and don't say too much."
I must say that I agree with him, as nobody wants to be around a man who is overly loud. Also, someone whose vocal cadence resembles a rapid-fire machine gun appears to be afraid that he won't be able to make his point if he doesn't hurry. And of course, nobody enjoys the company of a blabbermouth.
I enjoy your videos and I applaud your efforts to restore a bit of the elegance and charm of being a genuine gentleman, which, sadly, seems to have been lost over recent years.
The content is very interesting. It is also so easy on the eyes. Thank you.
Awesome Educational video!😊👍👍👍😊😊☕
Your video was very informative and helpful. Thanks
Great content! These videos are full of useful information that, unfortunately, we often dont learn from our parents, in school or in the real world.
As a communication professional myself, i can see a lot of the value in these messages. I particularly like the advice about turning the conversation to focus on the other person. One of the key principles from Dale Carnagies masterpiece "How to Win Friends and Influence People".
Keep up the great work!
A good reference regarding conversation is "Skill with People" by Les Giblin.
I am 15 years old and I am currently in year 10 of high school in the UK. Could you perhaps make a video on how to be gentlemanly in school please, Sir? Or perhaps how to style a school uniform? Anything to do with school would be much appreciated. Thank you.
i shall admire the way you kept the point about ascent, asian have a little faster way of speaking and have a good taste in it where as in roman countries people have a much formal way of speech
Absolutely love this!!!🥂✨
Thank you, Devin
Always a pleasure!!🥂
After a few drinks 🍸 people raise their voices. I agree swearing can be okay. Especially if you are being witty.
Practice enunciation and elocution. Read and slowly repeat tongue twisters or poetry out loud, over emphasizing with the mouth muscles. SLOWLY until you get it right, just like practicing scales on a musical instrument...because your speech is your instrument.
I check out when Profanity starts.
It's not how you speak. It's how your wear a retro blue safari suit. But always with a button down collar. Honestly this is the funniest content on you tube.
Thanks!
Thank you very much, sir
If you're having a conversation do your conversational partner the honour of listening to what they have to say, rather than just tolerating their speech while waiting to say your next sentence. Listening is a skill.
It’s 2 oclock in the morning and it’s been almost three hours i Watch your vidéos. Great job ! Keep it up.
You really are a Good speaker and I really need to slow the way I speak, it’s often not Even intelligible.
Excuse my english and greetings from France 🇫🇷 😉
I need to know where is that blazer/suit jacket from. It looks lovely and it also suits you very well
I shall do my very best.
Active listening is so important. It was something I was trained extensively in as a salesman. Perhaps a good topic for a video?
Words and phrases to avoid. Literally, amazing, super, it is what it is, I feel like, I know, right?
I wish that i could gate keep this man.
I agree with the Dowager, Countess of Grantham, who correctly stated that one should not confuse vulgarity with humor.
And Douglas Murray makes an appearance! I have some disagreements here and there as well, but I do like him and I'm pleased to see him here. "A gentleman is aware of his profanity, and only uses it as a tool when appropriate." Here here! And it's good to see charming gentleman, thinker, skilled actor, and atheist Stephen Fry in the mix. This time around, I especially enjoyed the background music. Also, you seem to attracting more views, that's exciting to see! Cheers to your style.
Thanks, Jeremiah. Yes, I thought I would add some variety to my examples this time. I'm quietly hoping for 50,000 subscribers by my birthday, which is on Thursday. We'll see!
Excellent lessons as always, I'd like to request a video about productivity for aspiring gents please, perhaps in a daily routine kind of format, Thank you.
I have a video coming tomorrow on time management. A productivity habits one would be good for the future, too
@@Gent.Z Thank you for your consideration! Can't wait for those to come out.
First of all, I want to thank you for this incredible video !
I have a little question please, what is the name of the music in the end of the video ?
Elocution (the art/skill of speaking distinct and clearly) desperately needs to be ingrained within the education of all people.
Creative profanity is an artform in Scotland and Australia.
Modern RP with good enunciation is what I aim for. Swear words are never necessary in my opinion. The main area I would disagree with you is 'interruption", although this is certainly correct in most cases. I have always found that two people with similar knowledge levels can hold a conversation simultaneously, answering what the other has just asked or stated. That truly does need good listening skills though.
So, when are you going to do a video on how to shave?
While I lack much in the way of measuring up as a gentleman I do not swear. It’s a huge turn off when I hear women swear. It’s the same for me when I hear men swear. Struggling to remember a man I look up to that uses FOUL language. There is nothing edifying or uplifting that couldn’t be said better with a improved vocabulary in my opinion. Love your voice , video content and opinions. 👏
May I kindly ask what is the name of the jacket / the design you are wearing? It looks immensely stylish.
Nice jacket. Where did you get it?
Amazing, do you have any other socials sir?
Nice
It is important to never talk down to people, no one likes pretentious behavior. Treat everyone and speak with them as an equal.
I was in federal law enforcement for 22 years, and communication skills were critical. Treat people with respect, and 99% of the time they will reciprocate.
That ties in with shouting and swearing and speaking softly.
I was taught, and quickly learned, that as soon as you begin shouting and cursing, you have lost the discussion or interview. There were many times i had to get up, leave the room, and compose myself (this technique has other benefits) then return and resume the interview.
Never fake an accent unless it's part of a narrative, anecdote, imitation, etc.
bro has the most soothing voice on youtube
Thank you, sir.
@@Gent.Z well i wasnt respecting a reply, but you do make some great videos. keep up the good work brother.
Do a video on the styles of the Godfather please! Love the videos!!!
Always speak from your lungs as oppose to your down your nose, be in a choir to develop this voice. The whole aim is to have a deep voice like the American actor Sam Elliot, when he speaks people listen. as the deep voice shows confidence and garners respect. Finallty, a gentleman has learnt another language, if there is not one you're fond of there is always our 5 home languages these include Cornish, Manx & Scots Gaelic, Welsh and Irish Gaelic.
Douglas Murray sounds like Nick Foulkes.
It's tough being from North Dublin. No matter how hard we try, we'll always sound like peasants.😅
Awesome , agree with all points, specially on the modesty with wide vocabulary. Very important to speak with simple language.
On the subject of Interruptions:
What about when someone does not hear you out, interrupts and takes the talk off on a tangent?
Refrain from interrupting the interrupter taking things out of context?
You can always find substitutionary words.
It can be helpful to pick "speaking role models". Absolutely do not just try to imitate though. Instead, figure out what it is that you like about the way the person speaks and incorporate a bit of that part into your speech pattern. For example I really like how Morgan Freeman speaks, but why? Well, because he enunciates exceptionally clearly. He does not rush his speech (something I used to do a lot). And his voice stays in a close range, no extreme highs or lows.
Are you are a fan of Roxy Music/Bryan Ferry’s music?🎵
I’ll guess you are. It’s certainly the right genre of style.
Amen
"Mhm" - Gent Z, 2024
Does my Hong Kong accent count as “charming “ too?!
What is the song at 7:14?
Whats the piano track at 06:50 if I may ask? Thanks 🙏
Sort of like Michael Caine in “Dirty Rotten Scoundrels “
Indeed, what a great character
Well done again! Commit to the beard! Do it!
No lie? I work at a steel mill. So you can imagine how me and the boys talk. Even our boss, a hard driving former Navy guy, talks like, well…a sailor. That said, he generally only talks that way when mixing it up with us hardhats: NEVER in office settings. From what I can tell, no one upstairs talks the way we do on the floor. As someone who’s finishing up a degree and gunning for an engineering position upstairs? You’d better believe I’ve learned to follow my bosses lead and watch my filthy fucking mouth when I need to.
Dear Gent,
Did Sean Connery ever have anything other than a Scottish accent?
Frank.
No, but his accent in the Bond movies is a little toned-down and refined compared to his normal accent
What parents allow in moderation children tend to excuse in excess.
Have you ever been in an elementary , middle school or high school especially in a depressed district?
How does a gentleman deal with a situation in which an interlocutor speaks incessantly and at length and doesn't provide a gap for the gentleman to politely end the conversation?
Don't ask this guy. He's a fake without credentials getting rich off suckered.
Ay boy you make cocktails with that shaker back there?
Of course! My favorite is a Manhattan, Old Fashioned, or a Vesper
@@Gent.Z good video idea would be you making drinks. “Top 5 gentleman drams”
@@PalParkTigers sure thing
How are you not boiling wearing that suit in your apartment? I begin to sweat just looking at your jacket
Ironically I do not like the way you communicate. I do not trust your squinty eyes, or your tone of voice. It sounds practiced and condescending, as if you are a salesman, which you are, and not a producer of things. However, the information you convey, I agree with: listening, communicating your ideas and thoughts in such a way that it is communicated i.e. no vernacular. Keep on producing these videos please. I'll be watching with a critical eye.
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Prince Philip was a personal role model. I admired his war service,and how he radiated confident masculinity,while married to a Queen. He was a man's man.
I think a lot of people can agree that a British accent on a man is the sexiest.
...when speaking English, and the reason is because of articulating English words the way they were meant to be.