Or maybe he was just crazy nervous to realize he was making her uncomfortable. Or mayne you're right. Its hard to judge someone based off of a bad short interaction.
@@nonenone2669 bruh the fact you’re defending him💀💀😂 incel.. even a person with almost 0 social and interaction skills could SEE how uncomfortable she was
@@bluelivesmurder5696 No she won't. Regardless of how protected she is as a white person she is still a woman and still a target. Being protected as a white woman doesn't mean that she's safe. If just means what whoever harms her is not going to just get away with it after the deed is done.
@@bluelivesmurder5696 Unfortunately I couldn't find any data from the FBI website or DOJ to support your claim for USA crime victims, could you please provide one?
As a husband and father I love the way she handled herself, both with the customer and the comments. It’s a shame women feel the need to tolerate men like that, but better SAFE than SORRY. Kudos to her!
@@passiveaggresivesquirrel2052 She could have easily explained that she wasn't interested in furthering the conversation and this whole deal would have very likely been over a lot quicker. She definitely could have handled it better.
any man who starts off the conversation with "are you in high school?" is a predator 💀 every single time a man has asked that question and i said yes they just got creepier
Honestly I would go as far as just saying “this girl is pretty” and then carry on, not act on it. Especially if you’re an adult coming by what looks to be someone very young
Right.. Like if they have to ask that something is VERY wrong. Like they shouldnt have to be worried about it and if they are then they shouldn't asking someone who they think might be in high school questions like that with the intentions he clearly has. She literally looks 16 not even 19 so that's even more terrifying
I like her! I’ve told these type of males that I’m a lesbian, I’m married, I’ve pretended to be deaf, and even once lied and told a man that I have std’s. Nothing stops these people.
Here's some advice about using the "lesbian" excuse. A lot of guys sexualize/fetishize lesbians, and in my experience, as a lesbian, when I say I'm a lesbian as a way to reject unwanted advances from men, most of the time that will not stop them. Because they sexualize lesbians they think it's hot to go after a lesbian, or a challenge to try and "convert" them. If you want to still use that excuse as a way to reject them, I suggest saying "gay" or "homosexual" instead of "lesbian." Because the man's automatic thought (most of the time) wouldn't be girl on girl, it would be guy on guy, and it would disgust him. I've tried it out a few times and so far it seems to work for me.
i was at work during peak covid times, wearing my mask while cleaning machines (I work at a gym) and this guy kept talking to me while I was just trying to get shit done. Finally, he asked me what time I get off work, i said “later”. He said “wanna hang out?” i said no, and that im not interested. He asked why, told him im a lesbian (which i am, i just prefer not to advertise it at work, but was hoping he’d back off) and all he said in response was “what, you can’t have friends?”. Then he kept asking me to pull my mask down so he could see my face. I was so uncomfortable and when I told my coworkers about it they all laughed lmao. We also get a lot of weird older guys that hit on all the female employees, it’s a rough time.
@@miri6220 I'm a lesbian stud sometimes it's straight woman who don't like gays would get an young and older guy to hit on me. They making me feel so uncomfortable 😭 and just learned ever use the word lesbian cause that would make it worst. He wanted to take me some were but say no he kept flirting saying he's gonna washer me with gifts and saying that it's abomination I'm supposed to be with a man trying to use the Bible to change me like that's gonna work. I just had to find his weakness and stab at it before he finally give up. 🏳️🌈♀️♀️ lesbian stud for life
Yes! I take it as a badge of honor when they try to use it as an insult when I've said no or otherwise don't allow my boundaries to be crossed. I've also gotten an "insult" that guys don't want to be with someone who's been to therapy. To me that just meant they wanted someone who they could take advantage of or gaslight, manipulate, etc... It's also kinda funny to me because I haven't been to therapy but have taken the time to learn things and use it to take care of myself, so it's even more clear what part they are not happy with. But hey if it means they will stop trying to pressure me or otherwise harass me, I'll take it.
@@Quirkyalonester No, they want to be the ones to send you to therapy. Just like most single moms started out as trad wives and stay at home mothers. Of course they don't like single mom's - those are their exes and he already ruined her life. It's time to ruin someone else's.
I was raised with all girls. I can't tell you the amount of times my sister's came home with stories of creeps who just don't understand no. I've even had my own encounters. It's not a male or female thing. These people are predators.. Although sadly most the time it is the male who is the aggressor.
You sound like a simp. While yes some are predators. The majority are just inexperienced normies who never learned social cues and how to properly flirt.
@@zammmerjammer Considering the video, I thought it was appropriate to quote de Becker, whose book is a valuable tool that teaches people how to protect themselves from human predators. No disrespect to the brilliant Margaret Atwood was intended.
@@normastone1044 But you quoted Atwood, and not De Becker. At some point, in his book, De Becker may have quoted Atwood, but that doesn't make it "something De Becker said. "The Gift of Fear" is an excellent book, though.
This is coming from personal experience. Some guys are incapable of taking a hint when they're trying to pick up women. As much as we'd like to flat out say no, these same guys are unlikely to handle a rejection and become violent. They'd rather harm and/or kill us than take a rejection.
Being told “no” directly doesn’t always work either and is often met with hostility. My advice is to stop being nice and whoop ass when no doesn’t work. Better for you to beat them than for them to do whatever to you.
I bet this guy was an awkward guy that saw this lady and thought she was cute and not “out of his league” so he was just trying to strike up a conversation. She could’ve shown some sort of confidence and shot him down instead of playing scared victim. If she was really scared she wouldn’t have recorded her reactions to him but would’ve recorded him questioning her. She’s an attention seeker.
@@RadDadisRad It's possible if she had recorded him, he would've noticed and became violent in that situation. She or someone else mentioned that she was alone and was just trying to protect herself. There's numerous times women have rejected a man's advances in different ways only to end up getting harassed, hurt and/or killed. By recording herself, not only is she protecting herself, she's at least providing evidence that she felt uncomfortable around a guy who clearly can't take a hint.
@@RadDadisRad Are you kidding??? She showed plenty of confidence and was not at all "playing scared victim! She gave him false info too which is smart. You read her about as well as El Creepo does... lol
I used to work at burger king and the creeps there never stopped. Ive been asked to take off my mask because "I bet youre beautiful under there." Or this one guy said if he wasnt old he would hit on me. This random guy handed me his number with my tip. One old guy proceeded to take almost fifteen minutes ordering because he wanted to, much like the guy in this video, play twenty questions with no limit. The worst of it all was when I worked night shift once and while I was waiting for this ride this guy in a pickup truck tried to convince me to let him drive me home. If I hadnt stayed right in front of the burger king Im certain I would have been kidnapped. Stay safe out there yall!! ALSO please know that men are victims of this treatment as well, not just woman. Though Im sure theyre much more inclined to stay silent :( Yall are so strong.
I've been touched a few times in a professional setting. Not by customers but by my co workers. I made complaints to HR about it and it stopped for a time before starting again. I actually ghosted a job before over it. Its extremely uncomfortable for a woman, or anyone for that matter, to be in that situation. Learn to take a hint and accept rejection. Learn from it and be a better person in the future.
I've been touched thousand times already by Girls at work. You Women can be creeps too. I know the size of brests of every Girl at work by My eyes closed already. And not by choise mind You. So...cut the crap.
Same I actually sued an employer for it and won. I actually had the police on the phone 6 months later because he’d done it again to my replacement but much worse. All of a sudden the former employer believed me. Did the police do a dam thing about it? Nope. He got to retire and keep his pension. Embarrassing! And ps he was married and she knew..
@@annaelle9004 lol what if i am 😛 😆😅 now that i gotta explain it, i wrote that in a way a guy would reply that after hearing that and be confused as he feel that bcos a gal is single she is obliged. But im with you on that, just cos youre single n im single n we're both single and youre very single and im so single and we are real single that we're not compelled to just be lumped together just for being single. You need to know me better just as i wanna know you, though it helps that your eyes are a sight to see 🙂. Imma shoot my shot. 💦💦💦💦💦
It's crazy that people would critcize her for being calm, collected, and polite. No one in their right mind would take her cues as being interested. She was just professional, and smart.
@@normanhopsonjr7166 she was being as polite as possible considering the situation. Frankly, I admire her because I would never be able to contain myself in a situation like that, she has the patience of a saint
Yeah it was mad nice of her to film and upload this interaction and suggest he's a murderer for being moderately awkward. You know what would've been nicer? 'Hey just to let you know, I'm happily taken, but thanks'.
I like to point out, you can talk to girls, and approach them and ask how they are, and that you are interested in getting their number etc. but if they aren't interested just walk away, and move on to someone else you find attractive. the creepiness of lingering on thinking maybe they'll change their mind if they push it harder. or give them compliments will help. is down right weird get the hint the first time and move on.
Exact. And for a men to be save and not be getting rejected, a woman will always make it clear they are somewhat interested in you, no matter where u are or where u stand, the girl is making the eye contact first, she will talk a lot louder when u are in the space, and when she not getting your attention, she will orbit around, she will make it easy to see her. Its simple.. And keep in mind a girl will spot in most cases an attractive men before u have spotted the woman even at 50 meters. they have also a lot wider view. I am a super attractive men for woman and i know every single signal how they behave at a distance. The most hidden signal most men dont know when a girl has interest, is a movement.. so u walk down the street, in the distance there is a girl coming at u, she alreadu saw u, when she is passing by, she will maybe not look at you (confident level) but she will make a strange movement, in most cases they raise there arm up to her body or hair.. that a sign she noticed an attractive men but is insecure.. more secure woman will look at u when passing by. Also a girl will almost never approach u first, if u had made the eye connection, that the job for the men.. If she is very sure she know u couldnt see her, and she have extreme level of interest and she is secure, she will approach.. then it will be also a very safe approach, asking a lighter or asking for the road
But what if you’re an attractive man and they still reject you? Why would they reject you even if you’re better looking than most guys can you explain why they may reject attractive ones?
@@austinsy8056 Because like it or not not all women simply look for men just by their looks, If he's an asshole or approached her that didn't sit right with them. They would never have a chance. Hot guys aren't a rare commodity they'll be around.
@@austinsy8056 ill respond since im a girl, many of us , like any human being on earth, have many struggles and private problems in our life, and sometimes or many times were just not ready for a relatioship, and besides looking ''atractive'', we actually dont care about that, we first analize the personality and then we decided if you are truly atractive to us based on your manners and mindset and how healthy and clean you look in appearence, its not about a 6 pack abs. hope it helps.
literally! i used to work at a seafood restaurant where we had to wear short shorts (not like hooters, just at the end of the butt cheek) and i’m thick so men would always flirt with me like they had a right to because of what i was required to wear. i couldn’t just quit bc i took care of my sister and am also a mom. it makes you so uncomfortable bc if you just keep a straight face, they won’t tip you. shitty world we live in, truly.
I worked at a grocery store that required us to offer to help them walk to their cars and it was so uncomfortable. One guy asked to hug me out in the parking lot and I didn't know what to do so I said I guess so but it was obvious I didn't want to. I hate when people do this kind of thing.
Gotta watch out for this guy. This is what he does. These women are basically trapped at work. He tries to force them into a non-consentual conversation because they can't just run away. Now he knows where this girl works. Poor excuse for a man and basically a predator.
best (read worst) thing about that is none of the excuses work anymore. The boyfriend thing only has like a 50% chance to work now for me. I will never ever in my life say I'm a lesbian. That will just encourage more gross talk (they wanna convert or some shit) and married men literally try to cheat on their woman with me. so....yea. nothing works. I just want to say I'm not interested fr.
@@mightypotato2576 i mean, in my experience we can just say "not interested" but the reason why this is worded the way it is is because there's been plenty of times where saying "i'm not interested" wasn't enough of a hint that... y'know... I'm not interested. Plenty of guys are persistent and won't take no for an answer, which is terrifying when combined with the fact that some guys are outright mentally unstable.
See, the fact that a man would get angry at this total stranger woman because they didn't like her rejection of some other dude is EXACTLY WHY WOMEN ARE AFRAID OF WEIRDOS.
Truly spoken; why get mad and call someone names because she did the right thing? She said it perfectly, women don’t owe us anything, no matter how we “ think “ they do; cold politeness isn’t interest, guy.........sheesh
Depends on the type of weirdo. I am a weirdo, but this guy gave me the creeps. When I worked at Day's Inn, we had a security guard who gave a lot of people the creeps. I remember one day he was talking to some girls who were checking in, and I interrupted to talk to them. Later, in the hallway, they called me over to talk to me because he was hanging around and giving them the creeps. The next day I was called into the office and given a warning about bothering the guests because he "turned me in". His statement was credible because the department head knew I was a weirdo, and didn't like me. It was after this that the barkeeps revealed to me just how much he weirded out the patrons.
@@danni1993 Nerds are weird. As for myself, I dated a Colombian woman who made the statement, "I'll never date a White man." I replied, "I'm a White man." To which she replied, "You're not normal." Having stated this, I once had a female boss who would regularly ask me to tell her my transformation masturbation fantasies about her, I also had a landlady who would ask me to tell her my fantasies about her. You know, the type in which she is transformed into an inflatable sex doll, or hundreds of condoms.
I have had this situation before when I worked at Old Navy a creepy woman started asking personal questions to me and tried touching me it felt stressful. This young lady did a good job handling this situation
This is infuriating. Can we stop treating women like difficult video game boss battles? You know, the ones where you throw yourself at the boss over and over again only to get defeated each time? If we say no, or obviously show you we are not interested, that doesn't mean you should try harder or use a different strategy, that means go away and leave us alone.
Most men are not treating women like video game boss battles, just this guy, who from the sound of his voice is autistic as he is monotone throughout and displays zero charisma in his conversation and voice tonality.
I once had a funny encounter like this witnessed: There was also an dude flirting with a cashier lady his total was around 5Dollar and he is like "Can I pay you on other ways mayby tonight?" And the Lady replies with "if your performance is worth 5Dollar then it's just a waste of my time"
STOP!!!!! Be careful with that reply! A rapist would see that as a statement of play. Teasing. "Zombolic" in one of the statements is right, "One word answers only."
I once had to blurt out ‘vultures are a bad ice breaker’ to a guy I could tell was trying to pick up a cashier. I still can’t believe I had to say that. He just came up and said ‘ah, you work here? I used to work here and now I study vultures.’ She was like ‘oh... that’s cool, I guess...’ and he kept going with vultures. What they eat. What they do when stressed (vomit). How they mate! When I got to the front, I just had to save her. She looked to be early college age, and he looked to be about 30. He was old enough to know that only people who work with birds and animals want to hear this shit at work, and even then, those folks don’t want it in a pickup attempt.
Actually, I think this is terrifying. She is completely stuck. She has no out. This guy could get even more pushy. People in the service industry deserve so much more respect.
This was my thought, too. I got ‘ambushed’ at a register once. He bought stuff and then wouldn’t step aside for other customers until I gave him my number. Thankfully, I wasn’t alone at the register & he eventually gave up after I told him several times, “I’m not allowed to fraternize with customers” (not sure if that was true). But imagine if I HAD been alone or on the closing shift.
@@adaj472 did u call ur manager- or shift supervisor? cuz technically even if it wasn’t for a “romantic” reason employees r supposed to be protected and cannot give out there personal info without consent
I wish businesses would just let their employees tell creeps to fuck off, instead of putting money before their HUMAN employees. People these days are sick..
@@cajunking5987 you are a 🚩 and I hope all possible romantic partners see it & call you on it. And better yet, although I’m not holding my breath, I hope you take it in and learn from it rather than doubling down. B/c we will all be happier if there’s one less creeper on the streets. Merry Christmas.
I've been followed home, followed to parking lots, trapped in cars with bosses who tell me they love me, it is INSANE. also, I don't have social media at all and it's not even a lie when I reject these losers
There is no right way, really, because you can never predict what will set off a person who doesn’t seem to care if you are uncomfortable. I did this with my stalker at first. It made things worse because he literally decided that a smile (likely out of nervousness) meant I wanted him, and I was leading him on by not smiling again. They can change I an instant and you have to be on your toes, guessing ‘how do I keep them from going into a fit of rage, without letting them think I want sex?’ She really made a great call not giving out her social media! I see an update about him coming into her work to harass her, in the future.
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I could tell she was scared. Her body language and everything just threw me into the whole “what the fuck is this guy gonna do?” Mentality. Like you could tell she was keeping watch in case it turned sour and that’s probably why she’s recording in the first place. Even as a gay man I’ve dealt with this shit too and it can be terrifying.
Unfortunately, I will admit as a women the people that most often relate to my experiences like this are gay men. I think it’s because society has encouraged insults towards and demonized femininity (which is a stereotype for gay men), additionally, we have the same gender of attackers
Recently in my country, a woman’s husband kept threatening to harm her. One time she was in her car with her children, the husband went and attacked her car window. The window got completely shattered and he was yelling and trying to reach in to attack her, she was screaming to try to stop him, the kids were crying and also screaming. She livestreamed the whole thing. Thank god for technology nowadays, it’s important to let people know if you’re in a dangerous situation, especially when people always think women are lying about getting attacked, that they’re “stuck up biches who think every man wants her”, or for money, or they’re just paranoid. What money you’re possibly gonna get from some crazy deadbeat abusive man anyway bruh? THERE’S NO SUCH THING AS PARANOIA WHEN YOU HAVE ALL THESE CRAZY HORNY MEN EVERYWHERE AROUND YOU.
Every woman I know has been through this. One of my male coworkers decided one guy wasn't asking too much, so he gave the guy my real phone number (in the 90s, your home phone number could get someone your address with one call to an operator). I got home to that customer standing on my front porch telling me I couldn't hide from him now. I was 15 and it was my first job.
That is terrifying! I can't believe one man decided to give another man your info, because HE thought you should be willing to give that guy a chance. It isn't bad enough when men act like that, but when other men jump in to help them out, it is even worse. Men are taught that women don't have autonomy or right to say "no" to them, and movies and TV perpetuate being persistent and stalking as romantic, pushing the "playing hard to get" or "she just doesn't know what she wants" mindset.
Omg!!! I hope that coworker was at least fired and slso turned into hamburger by your your Mom or Dad (if you had one and he lived there, I won't assume.)
Fuck, that's one of my worst paranoia, I've resorted to putting fake addresses close in proximity to my real location for my work resume cze of one crazy employer
I really like that this girl added a response about this video. "Women don't owe you shit". When a woman is trying to kill a conversation at every turn, leave it be for all the reasons she cites in her response. Why would you ever want to make someone uncomfortable while they are working?
Rejecting men is a nightmare. You could get murdered if you don’t play it right. It’s absolutely disgusting that these misogynistic men can’t understand that. I’m glad she handled it well and that she’s ok.
It's Lake ERIE; it's a real name. The rest is truly creepy; her age,what school, what city...sounds like he wants her to make it easier to stalk her. I'm glad she did a follow up because I was worried about when her shift ended and she was leaving. It could feel like MILES walking from the store to her car.
To the people arguing for this guy in the comments: employees *do not* owe you any personal information, asking for it while they’re working alone in store is inappropriate, especially if they are very blatantly uncomfortable like she was. The amount of times I’ve had to walk my young (usually afab) coworkers to their cars or their parents cars is way too many. In retail and fast food one of the biggest red flags is when a customer asks you anything even remotely personal, those same people usually end up waiting outside for you. It really doesn’t matter whether this guys intentions were ‘pure’ or not, everything he said just isn’t appropriate for their situation. Edit: glad we’re all collectively angry at @Brandonwings
She handled the situation perfectly. Kudos to you young lady! I hate it when peeps feel entitled to help themselves to the tip jar. That tells you a lot about the person.
"How old are you" is a pretty normal question but like not in that scenario. It's definitely better than "how young are you". That one is really creepy
How young is young? Like 12? That question is rather important, because this girl said she's 19 and I've no idea how old she really is, she could be lying and she's actually 16. Or someone could look 20 but is 17. I'm from Asia though, not gonna lie, it's hard to tell.
I’ve been in these situations and she’s not only uninterested, she’s a little scared but being tough. These are the times you wonder if the dude is gonna be waiting at your car when you leave work or asking g a co-worker to walk with you after your shift. She’s absolutely right, women don’t owe any guy their info, smiles or undue attention 🙌👏🔥
@@ElanaVital83 Bingo. I am a mom of college-age kids. Hubby and I stopped in for an ice cream cone one night to find a young woman working alone in the store. I quietly suggested that she call her manager to bring in a colleague for the rest of the evening. She said it was the manager who was supposed to be her teammate that night, but had called out sick. After we got home, I called the sheriff's non-emergency line to have them go check on the young woman. Then I called the young woman to tell her I'd requested a well-check for her (I didn't want her to be scared by the cops dropping by!) She thanked me. I don't always call the sheriff, but I have waited around an hour for another kid's parent to pick them up after work late at night. Mama Bear.
I had a guy wait for my bar shift to end, middle of the day, and as I pulled out of the parking lot he was suddenly behind me on his motorcycle out of nowhere. Mind you after being very creepy towards me for like an hour he left and waited 30 min outside for me to leave. I was terrified but took some backass dirt roads very fast and lost him. Men can be scary sometimes..
I've always worried about my daughter being in this type of situation and having the awareness that this woman has. I am sure she was scared of where it would go and you almost see her thinking things through as its happening. This guy maybe even knew he was making her nervous. Guys have gotten off on less.
I have autism and often cannot understand when to take a hint, but even with this, I could feel how uncomfortable she was. It was so cringe on his part and super embarrassing.
one time a guy at the bus station was trying to pick me up by literally breathing down my neck, and I felt uncomfortable, but it was really early morning, and there was nobody around. I acted very amicably. Even tough he was creeping me out and feeling up my arm, I smiled, answered his questions (with false info), and nodded along, but when he asked if he could take me out to coffee I said no and lied about a boyfriend to which HE GOT ANGRY ASKING WHY I WAS SO SWEET ON HIM IF I WAS GOING OUT WITH SOMEONE. Sir? I wasn't "sweet on you", I was hoping to ease your rejection so I don't get MURDERED at 5 am. Women seriously cannot win. If we're cold and disinterested we're called a "bitch" who's "playing hard to get" or "full of themselves." However, if we're nice and try to ease a rejection, we're seen as "manipulative" and "leading them on." We just can't. ever. win. That's why we record these experiences and share them with fellow women so we know "heyy maybe I'm being gaslighted and ACTUALLY this guy really IS a creep!" Also, recording for evidence is always good. Better safe than sorry.
The bus is the worst! Someone on the bus was actually trying to feel me up, he touched my arm, then thigh. I got off at the next bus stop, even though it wasn’t my stop. Better to be safe than sorry and touching just crosses boundaries at that point.
Clearly the guy was noticeably older than her and wasn't handsome, hence she got creeped out. If he was her age and hot, she'd be smiling and enthusiastically participating in the conversation.
I feel for her on this one! Just because she was not interested in a full-blown "life story" conversation, doesn't mean she's a "b---h"!! Poor girl was just tryin' to get through the likely soul-sucking shift at her depressing af retail job!! I didn't think she was rude, just trying to get through her day! The dude was cringe af for the 3rd degree interrogation!
That guy was definitely doing too much cause it was obvious she wasn’t interested. But I don’t know, something about that girl gives me a vibe of someone who thinks they’re all that. The dude just seemed like an awkward guy desperately trying to get a conversation going. It didn’t sound like he was dangerous like she was making it out to be. She could have just let him know she’s on the clock and politely ended the conversation, instead she hopped on tik Tok to get a video out of the situation.
Shayla I wasn’t there so I don’t know exactly why she felt so threatened, but since we can’t see the dude ima just give her the benefit of the doubt, I’m just saying she could’ve just let him know that he’s asking personal questions and that she’s not comfortable giving that info out. He wasn’t getting the hint and her one word answers probably just kept him around longer. Her recording this came across more like, a “watch me curve this loser”, more than “she needed proof” but idk
It's especially creepy to harass someone on their job, when it's part of their job description to be minimally civil to you, when outside her job she could rightfully WALK AWAY!!!
Exactly 😭 some especially power hungry and creepy customers have used the fact that i have to be nice to them against me and created really uncomfortable situations
The questions hes asking arent direct either. Hes giving himself enough of an out so she is stuck, she cant just say "Hey dude I'm not interested" or "I have a boyfriend" because he will just say "Woah I wasnt even asking that. Wtf? Youre ugly anyway" and report her, get her in trouble etc or other b.s like that, he knows what hes doing. Hes a complete loser.
Mothers and fathers, teach your sons to read the room, to read body language and handle rejection. Your little sweetheart might not be as nice as you think he is.
@@KurosakiLuvar01 Fr. My neighbors.. Oh my god. I’ve considered calling someone on them a few times.. I’m scared to grow up in these times where so many kids are so sick and improperly raised/cared for.. It’s sad and scary. Like.. I’m going to be an adult when these kids are pretty much gonna be adults..
I've creeped women out before just from being socially inept and not knowing how to talk to people. I feel really bad about it when I look back at it. Respecting people's boundaries and taking hints is not something that is really taught and some people never learn it. I'm grateful that I did eventually get a clue, and it wasn't from watching pick up artists; it was from talking to the women, who did let me in, about their experiences. Many men never consider what it's like to be a woman on a social level. That's what is meant by male privilege.
That's mainly what the conversation is about, learning and listening to women. It's not about being a bitch or being picky, is about safety and boundaries. I appreciate your journey and I hope you're doing well.
@@KurosakiLuvar01 True. That's the other thing about privilege, up until recently no one in the mainstream really talked about it outside of academic circles. At least no one did in my life or anyone I knew growing up. I'm confident that many of them still don't get it. I wish I had been aware of it when I was younger. Don't get me wrong, privilege is useful to have (And I have had pretty much every kind in my life except for wealth) but at the end of the day it's a responsibility to try and use it for change and progress. I didn't even know enough about it to actively use it to my own benefit, and in my experience, blind privilege bred wasteful and ungrateful attitudes in myself and others around me.
A few years ago I worked at a retail store and had a cute girl working on my shift. As she was leaving one day she had her phone in her hand. A customer walks up to her and asks for her phone number. She said “I don’t have a phone.” I busted out laughing right there ticking the customer off
Totally agree with her actions and men being creepy stalkers is never ok! It is weird nowadays (with social media being so prevalent) that it’s become rare to meet someone where there’s a mutual interest in one another just by chance in public. The difference between a normal guy shooting their shot and a creepy fucker is that the normal guy would notice after her first or second response that she’s not at all interested and they’d leave it alone then and there to save everyone the time and her peace of mind!
". The difference between a normal guy shooting their shot and a creepy fucker is that the normal guy would notice after her first or second response that she’s not at all interested and they’d leave it alone " thats alot of assuming there buddy
Not really, whether you leave it alone or don’t is what makes you normal vs creepy. There’s actually no assumption in that, it’s 100% on how you as an individual choose to handle a situation like that which effects how you come off or will be viewed in said situation.
Whenever men get angry that women give them fake numbers or aren't direct on the spot about lack of interest, remember encounters like this and understand that many of us have frequent interactions like this with men from early adolescence onward. We are literally using defensive tactics when men who are strangers approach us because we have no idea who they are, what they are capable of, and have learned from experience that it can go south and get violent quickly. We are forced into these kinds of situations and are left trying to deal with it and walk away unharmed
@@Saif-zf9vb Well then learn social skills. It’s not our job to reassure you and be like “awww look at that cute sad awkward 32 year old giving the 19 year old the creeps”. We’re just people. Just talk like you are a regular human being- Jesus Christ; is it really that difficult? 🤣
@@Saif-zf9vb we don't have the luxury of giving every guy the benefit of the doubt, because even though we know not all men are violent, it only takes *one.* THAT is unfortunate.
In my opinion idk if it's just because I'm a woman but I think women don't need to be so fucking upfront (especially if you're scared or feel threatened by a creepy dude), men should have the basic fucking social skills to notice that. As this guy says in the video "how did he not notice she wasn't interested," and listed off all her behavior that clearly showed she was uncomfortable. If the creepy guy wasn't so fucking socially dense he could easily see it wasn't working!
MY GOD HOW DOES ANYONE ACTUALLY THINK SHE WAS BEING A B*TCH FOR LITERALLY REJECTING A CREEP??? The fact that she had to explain herself to someone else is sickening, my god, why do men indeed
yea i dont get it either, also how do i know if a girl is playing hard to get?, usually if a girl plays games with me i just lose interest because as a straightforward person this is a turnoff
@@nicklopez8004 do not waste your time chasing over a girl playing hard to get. most girls who do that only really like the attention you give them anyways, once you no longer give her 100% every day like you did when you were chasing you'll get thrown out. losing interest is the only way to move forward don't let people waste your time, nobody gets wasted time back no matter how hard they try
@@nicklopez8004 no girl who is worth a relationship will 'play hard to get' that was a stereotype made up by men (and yes, also women sometimes) who wanted to justify their crimes
This happened to a coworker of mine while there was a whole line of people waiting for food. Luckily, two of the men in line quickly called him out and shamed him for harassing her. Men teach other men that this shit ain't okay.
I agree with this 1000%. Right now I'm doing a research paper about sexism in gaming and one of the things I've discovered is that most of the time, men who get called out for their sexisy behavior won't react to it or even listen to a woman standing up for herself and start attacking her. While most of the time, men who stand up for women WILL be heard and taken seriously. (Not always the case, but more often than not.) So sadly a woman's voice and confidence isn't always enough. Sometimes other men need to step up too
It’s not necessarily harassment until you start asking weird ass questions then keep doing it, i don’t think u need to be shamed till tht line is crossed. I’ve been shamed for even trying to talk to women like that and i talk with lots of women i just don’t advance any of them even if they advance me i still say no becuz I’ve been conditioned to believe it’s shameful to even try and talk to women I’m interested in, i feel like i will come off as a creep
and you have to consider why she was uncomfortable enough to have her phone hidden and recording in the first place... either the dude was being weird a few minutes before, or she deals with people acting like that on a regular basis
My guess is that the dude was acting shady and gave her bad vibes. It's called "instinct" or "gut feeling" and it's acquired, most of time by bad experiences. Nowadays, we know if there's no video evidence one can't really prove anything.
I'd say both. The amount of men that hit on you or are creepy towards you in one shift alone is crazy. Sometimes they just show up one after the other in drive-thru.
Absolutely both :/ I always turn my camera on when a guy stops me in the street, if anything happens I don't want to have any regrets, and most of the time though I have no use for the footage I'm glad I did it anyway
Huh... I've had an "instinct" moment without ever having creepy experiences before. I'm quite sheltered tbh, the people I've encountered aren't that bad from what's truly out there. But there was a moment at school with this one dude who I knew was crushing on me and I wasn't interested in. He was chill until AFTER he asked me out and AFTER I didn't give him an answer when he TOLD me to sit next to him in class during our seat change. I knew that was a red flag so out of that mixed feeling of "I want to be polite but still show I'm not interested" I sat at the very end of the table, farthest from him. But still the same table. When his friends came into class, he got up and then I thought he moved to sit with them. NOPE! He sat right next to me and I felt nothing but fear and dread. Literally everything in me said "get tf away". Nothing bad had ever happened to me. Not from him or anybody else. But I still had that instinct feeling. Luckily i chose the seat that was mysteriously marked and meant to "change the seats at randon" to "keep things interesting" in the seating arrangement so I fid get away, but not out of free will like I should have done.
Well said Nikki 👏👏👏👏👏not that you even needed to respond to those comments. I had been a retail worker my entire life and we wouldn’t keep our jobs if we said what was going through our heads when we have to deal with these sorts of customers, I’ve had guys says some really revolting things to me and some women for that matter or a guy accidentally brush over my breast ( like I don’t know they meant it) I even got fired once cause I punched a guy who brushed my nipple and I just got sick of guys like him, I was there to do a job not be man handled, some people seem to think that as a retail worker that we are there to put up with their shit they are vile disgusting pieces of crap
She honestly hit the nail on the head about us girls feeling scared when having to reject a guy. It really isn't something we want to do, we are genuinely worried about the reaction. Most people are total gents and handle it like any normal person would, but you sometimes get those who just kick off and it's terrifying.
THISSSS. most times it was no big deal and you feel like an ass for being anxious. and then it just takes that one guy to react wrong or be persistent or creepy or something, and then it just affirms your fears. it's just not a good experience.
Totally agree. Most guys (or at least from those who have approached me to ask me out) understand that the worst I can say is "no" and even in that case, there's the upside of "at least you tried" so he won't constantly think back to that day and dwell on it. All it takes is that one guy who doesn't take it well and that makes me super afraid to reject someone.
male who looks and sounds female (gender identity issues.).. most my encounters are on internet but- even on the internet you have no idea what they could do to you. human trafficking and location tracking and shit like that.. I'm 16, i'm a teen trying to get through mental issues that have dragged me right out of school, and ive had grown ass men over 21 try to prey on me and manipulate me since i was as young as 13. seriously, people who even remotely look female are constantly scared to say no. including myself.
@@CaydenGrimes. Make sure to keep a list of phone numbers to remember just in case. Gay men and feminine looking men tend to be not taken too seriously in such situations unfortunately.. Must be a different perspective to have as a guy, I can't imagine how much that may feel for you
THIS REMINDS ME OF MY DUMB SELF HAHa, is it really on me tho- welp, it's called an experience for a reason, stay safe out there :] (long words, if you don't like to read just skip.) the first time i talk to one of my classmate was actually a boy that i got teamed up with (for a project) and he constantly ignores my messages or give dry feedbacks (ig it's normal) i was a chill person so i don't mind it, just a little annoyed- few months later he said he likes me, uhh like i said I was dumb, i don't like him the same way but i don't want him to feel hurt or get negative reactions so I accepted, a week or two passed and he didn't even answer my messages anymore. for. two. months. i asked his friends and they said that his number is still active and he use it to message them all the time. then he came back and told me that i'm the kindest girl he ever met and kept complimenting me?? dude where the fuck are you in those 2 months? idk what to do at that point, my friends told me that i should just lose contact because im the one who's chasing him for no reason and that's terribly toxic. (rlly?) and that's the end of our interactions aha
The fact that some people are actually defending HIM And not the girl.. “Why didn’t she just say she wasn’t interested?” Don’t you know her saying that could literally get her attacked or killed ?..
If you're really trying to pick up a girl just be slightly confident, don't play 20 questions, stay positive in the conversation and DO NOT ask them out on their shift!
I would say to be respectful and a great ice breaker for any situation is a really good and intelligent (not long winded!) joke.If he had ANY brains at all, he would have kept the whe time devoted to his purpose down to 3 or 4 minutes,Pay for your stuff say your first name(""my name's ***", tell a GREAT, or really corny knock knock joke, and say " I really love pizza (for example!) "If your not with anyone right now seriously,maybe we could get some sometime or go for a coffee one morning? Give her respect and a comfortable "out" if she has her own reasons for declining...And above all,if you get a "no,thank you" or I'm sorry,I'm not dating at the moment etc etc...be gracious and DONT TAKE IT PERSONALLY! You Never know where someone is "at" in there lives at any point- like she says,put yourself in her shoes.You don't know if she's just had a bad breakup or whatever reason .She may think you are the cutest stud in the stable but if her studies are her priority or she has 2 kids under 5 at home ,don't assume anything...and don't keep approaching her at her job trying to chat her up.Shes there for work and she is not there to entertain you hanging around the store.The worst that could happen if you have introduced yourself with no agenda and are in a position that you frequent that store or whatever is that you can be polite and not pushy and possibly begin a decent and new friendship.
Especially don't ask them questions like "how old are you?" (checking to see if she's jailbait or not), "where do you live/go to school" (hoping to "accidentally" run into her there, aka stalking), or asking her to come somewhere secluded with him. All of these are things that predators ask. They are not innocent questions, and men should stop acting like they are.
How about, "don't try to pick up a girl" and just treat her like a normal person and maybe she might become interested in you if she keeps seeing you and you just keep your cool and don't act like a dork. It's not like those two met up at a party or a club to try to meet someone. Be nice, be yourself, and don't try to pick anyone up while they were trying to work.
@@cmcordoYT in case you're a little confused: 'To Pick Up A Girl' Since at least the 1600s, to pick (someone) up has been used as slang for having a casual sexual encounter with a person. The slang inspired the adjective pick-up, used to describe a line, or rehearsed remark, used to strike up a conversation with a person in order to pursue them romantically or sexually. As long as both people have intentions to continue seeing each other after they meet then there shouldn't be an issue unless one may have malicious intentions but that's also why both should be honest from the jump. Also, that mindset of fear will never last in a long-term relationship/marriage. You'll know if someone sends bad vibes (guy in this video being a mega-creep/women who see wealthy and attractive men as beneath them) and generally avoid at all cost. Thank you for the insight though!
Funny how stereotypically women are 'over emotional' but some men get REALLY defensive when women criticize them for something (and for a good reason). I've seen this happening a lot, even if the women have good points some men will still start complaining, calling them dramatic and blaming feminism or something :"D Honestly it's weird how some take personally, if you're a decent person you're a decent person. I wouldn't blindly support someone just because they happen to be the same gender as me.
exactly, I've always seen men act immature, getting offended over literally anything and complaining but no one calls them out. Male privilege I guess.
@@kavyakrishnan2190 I'm like talking about the inmature and none talking about it because it is always talked about no matter the gender and in social media for me it seems that males are always taking L on twitter or other places posting dumb stuff and being called out everytime
When he says oo can I pay with this? The creep wants her to "fight/play" back, his persistence is known by so many woman and its more than frustrating and uncomfortable. Her response was spot on.
the thing about trying to pick up and employee is to keep in mind they are paid to be nice to you. I'm not saying to never try, but just keep that in mind
As a gay man, there will be times at work where the only cashier left is one of my female colleagues. With this being said, I stick around to make sure that straight men pay for their items and not sit there and try to flirt with my colleague. Not saying that she would be a damsel in distress but, being an extra person to talk and distract. I’ve actually seen some older creepy men make attempts on flirting with my female colleagues. Number 1 it’s disgusting, and 2 they need to leave as soon as their items are paid for. One thing I can appreciate for our small store is that we get busy a lot so I don’t have to feel like I need to be an extra person for the customer to talk to, but still, I hate when certain types of men do this. When are guys going to learn that one word answers mean that they are not interested, or the shortest answer and less in depth answers still mean no????
@@MidwestRainstorms Um so that people don’t accuse him of secretly being into her and playing the “good guy” role so that he feels entitled to date her (which has happened to us too, btw)?
As a gay man... what would you do, hit them with your purse? Nobody cares what u do with your sex organs, so stop announcing it. It's not normal... fudgie.
@@kenpettit3925 The fact that you assume gay men own purses exposes you as blatantly homophobic and trying to hide behind the “it shouldn’t matter!!” Excuse…
I am honestly impressed with her patience, I would have excused myself long before, even if I was the only one there. Also the ceiling looks amazing, I love that collage design surrounding the lights!
Yeah, It just gives men a bad look in general anyways.. one idiot does something like this and it blows up on twitter some people really need to learn common sense..
@@abelis644 Unfortunately assertiveness doesn't always work. I had a guy come into my old store all the time for the 3 years I worked there and would constantly harass me no matter how many times I "asserted" myself and told him no. I even threatened him with mace (it got that bad) and he still continued to beg me to give him a chance. These men doing this are at fault and need to be taught boundaries and how to handle rejection and being told no.
he's gotta learn to read body language. and also wait for a girl to give you indicators of interest before you approach one if you are attracted to one. this woman was really nice to him.
''wait for a girl to give you indicators of interest before you approach one''? Because those are SOOO clear and definitely not easily mistaking for a girl just being nice.
@@noahrodriguez1895 They are the same and very easily mistaken if you aren't a player. Women need to be more clearer, OR.. Approach themselves if they know so well how it should be done. Not every guys is some smooth talking ladies man.
Mad respect for that young woman maintaining her co.posure even when that guy was making her uncomfortable. Because you never know how a person can react when you tell them you're uninterested in them.
I have to disagree. I felt they were at first but very very quickly went from ice breaker to trying to get very personal information which leads right into your point of info for stalking. Also when it was strictly him asking and not giving back that also crosses over from ice breaker to something with bad intent. Not to mention his tone of voice did not come off as ice breaker intentions. I was worried he was going to stalk her and follow her to her car and rape her or something by how he was acting.
I disagree. I've approached girls who looked young and out of nervousness I asked if she's in college or high school. Because of the fear of being arrested for dating an underrated girl. I'd rather know now than later if she's of legal age. Some of these girls look like they're 20 when they're in high school. Hard to tell. A man's life can he ruined in a heartbeat if he dates the wrong girl. So you see, us men have a lot of risk too, not just you women.
I once had a woman in a shop who was working alone slide a piece of paper toward me which read something like. Please don't leave until that guy does. Who knows what type of exchange happened before I went in there, let alone an exchange that made her feel like she had to communicate via note. I browsed around nearby the counter until the guy finally left (without buying anything). She was extremely grateful and I wonder to this day what could have happened had i not been there. I didn't really ask any questions I just said you're welcome didn't really make much conversation other than saying I was happy to help and her saying that he was a creep and she was scared and left the store to make sure the guy was actually leaving the parking lot. Either way I'm glad I was there.
As a retail worker who was asked out multiple times on my shifts: STOP IT. WE ARE NOT INTERESTED IN YOU. IM BEING NICE BECAUSE IM PAID TO. I CONTINUE TO BE POLITE BECAUSE I AM REQUIRED TO BY MY JOB. LEAVE US ALONE. STOP ASKING OUT AND FLIRTING WITH RETAIK WORKERS, WE ARE FORCED TO TALK TO YOU AND HAVE NO INTEREST IN YOU. I was forced to give my phone number so many times that it became creepy. They would not stop, even if I said I could get fired.
yeah so many of my friends who work in retail or fast food say how uncomfortable this is for them. the only instance where I’ve done something like this (asked an employee for the number) is when at my local Starbucks which I was a regular I got to know one of the baristas (he was a year older but we were both in highschool) and I eventually asked for his number cause we’d talk a lot when I was there and he had a shift, we’re still friendly now but the only reason I asked is because I felt it reciprocated at the time.
I've been jumped a few times. Yes men have to worry. Men are more likely to be killed. Shit happens to everyone. We good people just need to help eachother when we see someone in trouble.
And the sad thing is she will be looked at as a bitch by many of those “men” even though she did what she could to protect herself and even more sad she shouldn’t have had to explain her discomfort of the situation:/
A real man won't call her a bitch, the opinions of lesser men don't mean anything. I've always been upfront to men because the weaklings which can't handle it back tf off and the real men respect it. This woman did everything right. Be firm, don't engage, and stand your ground.
I don't necessarily say No. When Men look at me, I look at them right in their eyes and ask them "What the f*** do you want?" I always been a hard woman, my mother was a fighter herself. And yes, she took out bigger opponents than her size. Her Uncle was Military based and taught her self defense. I don't punch physically. But if a Man says anything or tries to start something. I make them run away. They call me crazy all they like. I could care less. I love watching creeps suffer. And now, Costco is going to pay me for the Damages.
@@StephanieLinda_ We shouldn't have to, tbh. And we tend to be at a physical disadvantage, so throwing hands doesn't always work. But picking up some self-defense and being taught to be more assertive would definitely do good. I wish people would stop associating assertiveness in women as us being mean or bitchy. It's on that double standards shit "You should have stood up for yourself" "Why are you so mean, what a bitch". It pisses me off.
Yep Well Hey Rape Is Always Justified As Far As I'm Concerned Because If She Worked At A Certain Camp I Bet She'd Be The Creep Sorry I Ain't Got No Sympathy For Victims Everyone At That Camp Was A Victim ♟
Even on the job, you don't have to engage in a personal relationship with a creep. It doesn't matter if your expression and voice are flat; any engagement to them is encouragement.
@TRIPESKA Music Group But if she said that and he then got upset and hurt her, assaulted her or even killed her then what? was that “gods plan” for her? Get over yourself
@TRIPESKA Music Group so basically you are saying "OH MY GOD I asked a stranger about their personal info in our first meeting, totally not creepy and dangerous, if they lie for their own safety, they are a terrible person HOW DARE THEY!!!!"
@TRIPESKA Music Group Ok so don't be shy, give us your personal info and your address, or not you are going to "Hell" and is automatically a bad person. 😇
@TRIPESKA Music Group she wasnt being "nasty" or mean. If some chick was asking me questions like that and being weird I'd probably say something like "are you ok? Alright, now fucking leave". That would be mean.
It's always uncomfortable to be hit on while working. You are providing customer service and some guys think you're flirting. No! And then, while you are internally cringing and want to tell this person off you can't because he could get violent or report you to your boss for something.
Even in a warehouse, it happens. I'm pretty darn sure. Costco is hitting themselves over my Case. They owe me a lot of money. I was being Sexually Harassed and then threatened to be killed and beaten by several men there. Yet, I was called Crazy. On top, the Managers said, that I was at fault that I shouldn't have reacted how I did. I was defending myself. My sanity. I should post a video, about how bad Costco Depo 960 is. If you're a good Woman, the Men there will treat you like meat.
@@Tinyfurball You're telling me these warehouses do not even have surveillance? My gosh, I hope you figure out something soon because that's dangerous.
@@YouKnowMeDuh I was told by several Managers that Costco does not have Cameras in there. The Distribution Centers. The Stores where people go to buy, some do. Some don't. But the been putting up, because people have stolen from the stores. I worked at the Distribution Center in California.
She answered WAAAAYYYYYY more personal questions than I would have. How does someone just start asking so many random, personal questions, to a complete stranger no less, and when they are just trying to do their job.?! The whole "not interested" thing is written all over her face. I may have my own difficulties in social settings, being on the spectrum and all, but even I know this is too much.
It's so disgusting and demeaning, she's not a sexual object she's just trying to do her job. The worst thing is that a lot of these entitled men would act out and become crazy or violent if Rejected and ironically would be extremely angry and aggressive if another male tried to talk to them like this.
@@findem2168 because he is so determined to have sex with her regardless of whether or not she wants to or has a compatible personality because clearly these men believe that's the only thing women are good for. She is working right now not trying to date
@@findem2168 He (a complete stranger) called her pretty when she was uncomfortable. He tried to slide into her DMs. He tried to find out WHERE SHE LIVES! If you can't see why that is wrong, you are part of the problem
@@findem2168 He’s only interested in her for sex. He has zero care in the world that she’s not interested in him, that she’s clearly uncomfortable. He sees her as an object of desire & nothing more. Men who see women as people accept no & recognize basic universal language of “no thanks.”
@@findem2168 wether you wanna believe it or not men-treat us as objects.. it’s sad to say how the world got this way and it’s sad women struggle with so much way to much
Finding out after the fact that she was alone in the store with that man makes the situation even more uncomfortable. She handled it calmly, plainly, and professionally and still gets called a bitch. My Gad. 🙄
@laze mz or maybe she needs that man to stop being a creep when she's minding her own business. You know what, we just need all creepy men to just stop existing 🤣🤣😬
Professional would have been her saying "Sorry, I don't want to answer that" the first time she didn't want to answer a question. She didn't do that though she started making up lies and started speaking very short and rude. You all justify this behavior because its automatically assumed that the man will do something crazy like attack her if she rejects him directly.
I have a question. Would it be creepy to qpproach a male if he is working. I'm just asking I'm pretty shy. I don't have the guts to do something like that
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This guy doesn't care what she thinks he's only interested in what HE wants.
Yep...he's a real predator!!
@@karenwhinesmore9347
YES...He wasn't trying to get a date, he WAS a predator... a perfect way to describe him.
Like a.... rpist.
Or maybe he was just crazy nervous to realize he was making her uncomfortable. Or mayne you're right.
Its hard to judge someone based off of a bad short interaction.
@@nonenone2669 bruh the fact you’re defending him💀💀😂 incel.. even a person with almost 0 social and interaction skills could SEE how uncomfortable she was
My concern would be her going home and being attacked by one of these weirdos. I hope she stays safe.
White women are the most protected women. She'll be alright.
@@bluelivesmurder5696 No she won't. Regardless of how protected she is as a white person she is still a woman and still a target. Being protected as a white woman doesn't mean that she's safe. If just means what whoever harms her is not going to just get away with it after the deed is done.
@@bluelivesmurder5696 You sound so pathetic and bitter.
@@bluelivesmurder5696 Unfortunately I couldn't find any data from the FBI website or DOJ to support your claim for USA crime victims, could you please provide one?
@@bluelivesmurder5696 figures someone with your handle would say something like that.
As a husband and father I love the way she handled herself, both with the customer and the comments. It’s a shame women feel the need to tolerate men like that, but better SAFE than SORRY. Kudos to her!
Same!
You can be safe while being nice lol. I’ll never get people who try to make this false dichotomy.
@@optricks2469 oh u mean like the woman in this video? Clearly uncomfortable the entire time?
@@passiveaggresivesquirrel2052 She could have easily explained that she wasn't interested in furthering the conversation and this whole deal would have very likely been over a lot quicker. She definitely could have handled it better.
@@optricks2469 so that he can kill her or beat her for rejecting him?
i bet you he walked out of that store and talked to his friends like "she was definitely into me, she's just playing hard to get"
Same!
Bold of you to assume he has friends
@@enigmadrath1780 you right
What if he’s not bad looking though what if he’s attractive why would he be rejected then?
@@austinsy8056 just cuz you look good doesn’t mean everyone wants you. no one likes unwanted advances
any man who starts off the conversation with "are you in high school?" is a predator 💀 every single time a man has asked that question and i said yes they just got creepier
Honestly I would go as far as just saying “this girl is pretty” and then carry on, not act on it.
Especially if you’re an adult coming by what looks to be someone very young
exactly, any older man that comes up to talk to me in a flirtatious or romantic way is a predator because im clearly a minor lmao
lmao how. maybe they didn’t want to be a predator and that’s why they asked.
Right.. Like if they have to ask that something is VERY wrong. Like they shouldnt have to be worried about it and if they are then they shouldn't asking someone who they think might be in high school questions like that with the intentions he clearly has. She literally looks 16 not even 19 so that's even more terrifying
@@xeno2712 lmao u acting like all older men are attracted to you, stop generalizing bc not everyone is
I like her! I’ve told these type of males that I’m a lesbian, I’m married, I’ve pretended to be deaf, and even once lied and told a man that I have std’s. Nothing stops these people.
Not stopping after STDs?? Oh my god...
Here's some advice about using the "lesbian" excuse. A lot of guys sexualize/fetishize lesbians, and in my experience, as a lesbian, when I say I'm a lesbian as a way to reject unwanted advances from men, most of the time that will not stop them. Because they sexualize lesbians they think it's hot to go after a lesbian, or a challenge to try and "convert" them.
If you want to still use that excuse as a way to reject them, I suggest saying "gay" or "homosexual" instead of "lesbian." Because the man's automatic thought (most of the time) wouldn't be girl on girl, it would be guy on guy, and it would disgust him.
I've tried it out a few times and so far it seems to work for me.
When in doubt kick them in the balls, tase it or poke their eyes and run
i was at work during peak covid times, wearing my mask while cleaning machines (I work at a gym) and this guy kept talking to me while I was just trying to get shit done. Finally, he asked me what time I get off work, i said “later”. He said “wanna hang out?” i said no, and that im not interested. He asked why, told him im a lesbian (which i am, i just prefer not to advertise it at work, but was hoping he’d back off) and all he said in response was “what, you can’t have friends?”. Then he kept asking me to pull my mask down so he could see my face. I was so uncomfortable and when I told my coworkers about it they all laughed lmao. We also get a lot of weird older guys that hit on all the female employees, it’s a rough time.
@@miri6220 I'm a lesbian stud sometimes it's straight woman who don't like gays would get an young and older guy to hit on me.
They making me feel so uncomfortable 😭 and just learned ever use the word lesbian cause that would make it worst. He wanted to take me some were but say no he kept flirting saying he's gonna washer me with gifts and saying that it's abomination I'm supposed to be with a man trying to use the Bible to change me like that's gonna work.
I just had to find his weakness and stab at it before he finally give up. 🏳️🌈♀️♀️ lesbian stud for life
My mom told me, "if someone calls you a bitch, take it as a compliment. It means you don't tolerate people's bull💩."
Yes! I take it as a badge of honor when they try to use it as an insult when I've said no or otherwise don't allow my boundaries to be crossed. I've also gotten an "insult" that guys don't want to be with someone who's been to therapy. To me that just meant they wanted someone who they could take advantage of or gaslight, manipulate, etc... It's also kinda funny to me because I haven't been to therapy but have taken the time to learn things and use it to take care of myself, so it's even more clear what part they are not happy with. But hey if it means they will stop trying to pressure me or otherwise harass me, I'll take it.
Yep, I’ll happily be a bitch and maintain my self-respect 🥰
@@Quirkyalonester No, they want to be the ones to send you to therapy. Just like most single moms started out as trad wives and stay at home mothers. Of course they don't like single mom's - those are their exes and he already ruined her life. It's time to ruin someone else's.
There’s a great quote in the book Delores Claiborne “Sometimes being a bitch is all a woman has to hold on to…”
I was raised with all girls. I can't tell you the amount of times my sister's came home with stories of creeps who just don't understand no. I've even had my own encounters. It's not a male or female thing. These people are predators.. Although sadly most the time it is the male who is the aggressor.
You sound like a simp. While yes some are predators. The majority are just inexperienced normies who never learned social cues and how to properly flirt.
KITTY
"At core, men are afraid women will laugh at them. Women are afraid men will kill them." --- Gavin de Becker, author of "The Gift of Fear"
That is a GREAT book!
Um, that was Margaret Atwood.
Did you seriously just poach that quote about women from a woman and pretend a man wrote it?
@@zammmerjammer
Considering the video, I thought it was appropriate to quote de Becker, whose book is a valuable tool that teaches people how to protect themselves from human predators. No disrespect to the brilliant Margaret Atwood was intended.
@@normastone1044 But you quoted Atwood, and not De Becker. At some point, in his book, De Becker may have quoted Atwood, but that doesn't make it "something De Becker said. "The Gift of Fear" is an excellent book, though.
@@ChrisMaxfieldActs
To the best of my recollection, de Becker didn't attribute what he wrote in his book as a quote from Margaret Atwood.
This is coming from personal experience. Some guys are incapable of taking a hint when they're trying to pick up women. As much as we'd like to flat out say no, these same guys are unlikely to handle a rejection and become violent. They'd rather harm and/or kill us than take a rejection.
Right, that's the scary part. Then you get blamed when you get hurt or killed.
Being told “no” directly doesn’t always work either and is often met with hostility. My advice is to stop being nice and whoop ass when no doesn’t work. Better for you to beat them than for them to do whatever to you.
I bet this guy was an awkward guy that saw this lady and thought she was cute and not “out of his league” so he was just trying to strike up a conversation. She could’ve shown some sort of confidence and shot him down instead of playing scared victim. If she was really scared she wouldn’t have recorded her reactions to him but would’ve recorded him questioning her. She’s an attention seeker.
@@RadDadisRad It's possible if she had recorded him, he would've noticed and became violent in that situation. She or someone else mentioned that she was alone and was just trying to protect herself. There's numerous times women have rejected a man's advances in different ways only to end up getting harassed, hurt and/or killed. By recording herself, not only is she protecting herself, she's at least providing evidence that she felt uncomfortable around a guy who clearly can't take a hint.
@@RadDadisRad
Are you kidding???
She showed plenty of confidence and was not at all "playing scared victim!
She gave him false info too which is smart.
You read her about as well as El Creepo does... lol
I used to work at burger king and the creeps there never stopped. Ive been asked to take off my mask because "I bet youre beautiful under there." Or this one guy said if he wasnt old he would hit on me. This random guy handed me his number with my tip. One old guy proceeded to take almost fifteen minutes ordering because he wanted to, much like the guy in this video, play twenty questions with no limit. The worst of it all was when I worked night shift once and while I was waiting for this ride this guy in a pickup truck tried to convince me to let him drive me home. If I hadnt stayed right in front of the burger king Im certain I would have been kidnapped. Stay safe out there yall!! ALSO please know that men are victims of this treatment as well, not just woman. Though Im sure theyre much more inclined to stay silent :( Yall are so strong.
I love when they hit on you the entire Uber ride and then don't even tip at the end. Friggin loser.
I've been touched a few times in a professional setting. Not by customers but by my co workers. I made complaints to HR about it and it stopped for a time before starting again. I actually ghosted a job before over it. Its extremely uncomfortable for a woman, or anyone for that matter, to be in that situation.
Learn to take a hint and accept rejection. Learn from it and be a better person in the future.
I've been touched thousand times already by Girls at work. You Women can be creeps too. I know the size of brests of every Girl at work by My eyes closed already. And not by choise mind You. So...cut the crap.
Same I actually sued an employer for it and won. I actually had the police on the phone 6 months later because he’d done it again to my replacement but much worse. All of a sudden the former employer believed me. Did the police do a dam thing about it? Nope. He got to retire and keep his pension. Embarrassing! And ps he was married and she knew..
What I hate the absolute most is when a man thinks just because I'm single I owe it to him to go out with him. I'm single not desperate.
I'm not desperate enough for you either.
@@MeadeSkeltonMusic cope harder
Yeh but but ..but yeh but...youre single though .....😛
@@nicktubara are you shooting your shot? Lmao jkjk!
@@annaelle9004 lol what if i am 😛
😆😅 now that i gotta explain it, i wrote that in a way a guy would reply that after hearing that and be confused as he feel that bcos a gal is single she is obliged.
But im with you on that, just cos youre single n im single n we're both single and youre very single and im so single and we are real single that we're not compelled to just be lumped together just for being single. You need to know me better just as i wanna know you, though it helps that your eyes are a sight to see 🙂.
Imma shoot my shot. 💦💦💦💦💦
It's crazy that people would critcize her for being calm, collected, and polite. No one in their right mind would take her cues as being interested. She was just professional, and smart.
But she wasn't being polite
@@normanhopsonjr7166 she was being as polite as possible considering the situation. Frankly, I admire her because I would never be able to contain myself in a situation like that, she has the patience of a saint
@@normanhopsonjr7166 she was. He was pushing it.
@@normanhopsonjr7166 sometimes it's really hard to be polite to nosy people. If he wasn't going to buy anything move along.
@@normanhopsonjr7166 like she was not interested in the man
She was actually mad nice to him , she didn’t even have to keep talking to him.
Yeah it was mad nice of her to film and upload this interaction and suggest he's a murderer for being moderately awkward. You know what would've been nicer? 'Hey just to let you know, I'm happily taken, but thanks'.
@@user-li4fd4kj4n When women do this ppl are like: OMG I WASNT EVEN SUGGESTIONING THAT. WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE and stuff.
@@chelseenatalia2271 Even if that sometimes happens it's better than the narrative men are default murderers.
@@chelseenatalia2271 And that's not a win because?... If you're gonna lose no matter what, take the fast, safe L, ok... It's really super simple.
Nice by being abusive
I like to point out, you can talk to girls, and approach them and ask how they are, and that you are interested in getting their number etc. but if they aren't interested just walk away, and move on to someone else you find attractive. the creepiness of lingering on thinking maybe they'll change their mind if they push it harder. or give them compliments will help. is down right weird get the hint the first time and move on.
Exact. And for a men to be save and not be getting rejected, a woman will always make it clear they are somewhat interested in you, no matter where u are or where u stand, the girl is making the eye contact first, she will talk a lot louder when u are in the space, and when she not getting your attention, she will orbit around, she will make it easy to see her. Its simple.. And keep in mind a girl will spot in most cases an attractive men before u have spotted the woman even at 50 meters. they have also a lot wider view. I am a super attractive men for woman and i know every single signal how they behave at a distance. The most hidden signal most men dont know when a girl has interest, is a movement.. so u walk down the street, in the distance there is a girl coming at u, she alreadu saw u, when she is passing by, she will maybe not look at you (confident level) but she will make a strange movement, in most cases they raise there arm up to her body or hair.. that a sign she noticed an attractive men but is insecure.. more secure woman will look at u when passing by. Also a girl will almost never approach u first, if u had made the eye connection, that the job for the men.. If she is very sure she know u couldnt see her, and she have extreme level of interest and she is secure, she will approach.. then it will be also a very safe approach, asking a lighter or asking for the road
Good point!
But what if you’re an attractive man and they still reject you? Why would they reject you even if you’re better looking than most guys can you explain why they may reject attractive ones?
@@austinsy8056 Because like it or not not all women simply look for men just by their looks, If he's an asshole or approached her that didn't sit right with them. They would never have a chance. Hot guys aren't a rare commodity they'll be around.
@@austinsy8056 ill respond since im a girl, many of us , like any human being on earth, have many struggles and private problems in our life, and sometimes or many times were just not ready for a relatioship, and besides looking ''atractive'', we actually dont care about that, we first analize the personality and then we decided if you are truly atractive to us based on your manners and mindset and how healthy and clean you look in appearence, its not about a 6 pack abs. hope it helps.
It feels like being held hostage when people do this at work. Its even worst when they try to follow you to your car or house
Or asks you to take a picture
Exactly why i carry my gun everywhere
literally! i used to work at a seafood restaurant where we had to wear short shorts (not like hooters, just at the end of the butt cheek) and i’m thick so men would always flirt with me like they had a right to because of what i was required to wear. i couldn’t just quit bc i took care of my sister and am also a mom. it makes you so uncomfortable bc if you just keep a straight face, they won’t tip you. shitty world we live in, truly.
I worked at a grocery store that required us to offer to help them walk to their cars and it was so uncomfortable. One guy asked to hug me out in the parking lot and I didn't know what to do so I said I guess so but it was obvious I didn't want to. I hate when people do this kind of thing.
@Alexandria it’s like they get off on making you uncomfortable. fucking SICK
This guy is practically screaming “Hey, help me stalk you”!
Fr.
At least my girl is smart AF and gives fake answers. Dude is creepy.
she says "depends on your credit limit", he says "GTFO you needy whzre, here's another one".
This is why I bought my wife a handgun and got her training to be effective with it.
im not even victim blaming but i got so much anxiety, i started thinking "STOP ANSWERING HIS QUESTIONS OH MY GOD"
Gotta watch out for this guy. This is what he does. These women are basically trapped at work. He tries to force them into a non-consentual conversation because they can't just run away. Now he knows where this girl works. Poor excuse for a man and basically a predator.
I was creeped out when he asked “Are you in high school?”
As women we should be allowed to say "I'm not interested" and be left alone instead of having to lie we are married or we are lesbians.
best (read worst) thing about that is none of the excuses work anymore. The boyfriend thing only has like a 50% chance to work now for me. I will never ever in my life say I'm a lesbian. That will just encourage more gross talk (they wanna convert or some shit) and married men literally try to cheat on their woman with me. so....yea. nothing works. I just want to say I'm not interested fr.
@@ggundercover3681 oh my god. i can already tell that creepy men will say "can i watch" if you say that you're a lesbian...
being lesbian doesn't work, men still hitting on lesbians
That would be amazing, wouldn't it? We shouldn't have to be subjected to this kind of behavior 😩🤦🏽♀️
@@mightypotato2576 i mean, in my experience we can just say "not interested" but the reason why this is worded the way it is is because there's been plenty of times where saying "i'm not interested" wasn't enough of a hint that... y'know... I'm not interested. Plenty of guys are persistent and won't take no for an answer, which is terrifying when combined with the fact that some guys are outright mentally unstable.
See, the fact that a man would get angry at this total stranger woman because they didn't like her rejection of some other dude is EXACTLY WHY WOMEN ARE AFRAID OF WEIRDOS.
Truly spoken; why get mad and call someone names because she did the right thing? She said it perfectly, women don’t owe us anything, no matter how we “ think “ they do; cold politeness isn’t interest, guy.........sheesh
Depends on the type of weirdo.
I am a weirdo, but this guy gave me the creeps.
When I worked at Day's Inn, we had a security guard who gave a lot of people the creeps. I remember one day he was talking to some girls who were checking in, and I interrupted to talk to them. Later, in the hallway, they called me over to talk to me because he was hanging around and giving them the creeps.
The next day I was called into the office and given a warning about bothering the guests because he "turned me in". His statement was credible because the department head knew I was a weirdo, and didn't like me. It was after this that the barkeeps revealed to me just how much he weirded out the patrons.
@@dalesplitstone6276
Are you actually weird, or just a nerd?
How are you weird?
@@danni1993 Nerds are weird.
As for myself, I dated a Colombian woman who made the statement, "I'll never date a White man." I replied, "I'm a White man." To which she replied, "You're not normal."
Having stated this, I once had a female boss who would regularly ask me to tell her my transformation masturbation fantasies about her, I also had a landlady who would ask me to tell her my fantasies about her. You know, the type in which she is transformed into an inflatable sex doll, or hundreds of condoms.
@@dalesplitstone6276
Hahahaha.
Great story...but, that just makes me think you must be 'hot'. LOL
I have had this situation before when I worked at Old Navy a creepy woman started asking personal questions to me and tried touching me it felt stressful. This young lady did a good job handling this situation
Aw you poor snowflake. Was a bad lady harassing you? Grow some balls
This is infuriating. Can we stop treating women like difficult video game boss battles? You know, the ones where you throw yourself at the boss over and over again only to get defeated each time? If we say no, or obviously show you we are not interested, that doesn't mean you should try harder or use a different strategy, that means go away and leave us alone.
yes exactly
THIS!!!
Most men are not treating women like video game boss battles, just this guy, who from the sound of his voice is autistic as he is monotone throughout and displays zero charisma in his conversation and voice tonality.
They think we are here to be conquered. They have slang calling sex, taking her down. Yuckkk
I once had a funny encounter like this witnessed: There was also an dude flirting with a cashier lady his total was around 5Dollar and he is like "Can I pay you on other ways mayby tonight?" And the Lady replies with "if your performance is worth 5Dollar then it's just a waste of my time"
Lol 😂 Priceless!
STOP!!!!! Be careful with that reply! A rapist would see that as a statement of play. Teasing. "Zombolic" in one of the statements is right, "One word answers only."
😂😂😂😂😂😂☠️
I once had to blurt out ‘vultures are a bad ice breaker’ to a guy I could tell was trying to pick up a cashier. I still can’t believe I had to say that. He just came up and said ‘ah, you work here? I used to work here and now I study vultures.’ She was like ‘oh... that’s cool, I guess...’ and he kept going with vultures. What they eat. What they do when stressed (vomit). How they mate! When I got to the front, I just had to save her. She looked to be early college age, and he looked to be about 30. He was old enough to know that only people who work with birds and animals want to hear this shit at work, and even then, those folks don’t want it in a pickup attempt.
That is kind of hilarious actually. Hahaha
Actually, I think this is terrifying. She is completely stuck. She has no out. This guy could get even more pushy. People in the service industry deserve so much more respect.
This was my thought, too. I got ‘ambushed’ at a register once. He bought stuff and then wouldn’t step aside for other customers until I gave him my number. Thankfully, I wasn’t alone at the register & he eventually gave up after I told him several times, “I’m not allowed to fraternize with customers” (not sure if that was true). But imagine if I HAD been alone or on the closing shift.
@@adaj472 did u call ur manager- or shift supervisor? cuz technically even if it wasn’t for a “romantic” reason employees r supposed to be protected and cannot give out there personal info without consent
I wish businesses would just let their employees tell creeps to fuck off, instead of putting money before their HUMAN employees.
People these days are sick..
What’s he gonna do? Nobody would actually want her that much-
@@cajunking5987 you are a 🚩 and I hope all possible romantic partners see it & call you on it. And better yet, although I’m not holding my breath, I hope you take it in and learn from it rather than doubling down. B/c we will all be happier if there’s one less creeper on the streets. Merry Christmas.
I've been followed home, followed to parking lots, trapped in cars with bosses who tell me they love me, it is INSANE. also, I don't have social media at all and it's not even a lie when I reject these losers
He saw "COWGIRL" on her T-shirt, and all his blood rushed to the little head.
This young lady did the right thing. She handled it very well. And she is absolutely right she was alone in store and that guy was creepy.
Holy shit I couldnt finish watching, this is horrible.🤦🏾♂️
There is no right way, really, because you can never predict what will set off a person who doesn’t seem to care if you are uncomfortable. I did this with my stalker at first. It made things worse because he literally decided that a smile (likely out of nervousness) meant I wanted him, and I was leading him on by not smiling again. They can change I an instant and you have to be on your toes, guessing ‘how do I keep them from going into a fit of rage, without letting them think I want sex?’ She really made a great call not giving out her social media! I see an update about him coming into her work to harass her, in the future.
The girl is nervous. She's playing with her earrings. Trying to be pleasant but not lead on.
I hope the manager of this workplace will now make sure there are at least 2 people working at all times.
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I could tell she was scared. Her body language and everything just threw me into the whole “what the fuck is this guy gonna do?” Mentality. Like you could tell she was keeping watch in case it turned sour and that’s probably why she’s recording in the first place. Even as a gay man I’ve dealt with this shit too and it can be terrifying.
Unfortunately, I will admit as a women the people that most often relate to my experiences like this are gay men. I think it’s because society has encouraged insults towards and demonized femininity (which is a stereotype for gay men), additionally, we have the same gender of attackers
Oh fr. As a straight man, this has somethin to do with a woman. (I’m not sexist every one now stay off my nuts)
@@brandonwings541 What are you even f*cking talking about??
Recently in my country, a woman’s husband kept threatening to harm her. One time she was in her car with her children, the husband went and attacked her car window. The window got completely shattered and he was yelling and trying to reach in to attack her, she was screaming to try to stop him, the kids were crying and also screaming. She livestreamed the whole thing. Thank god for technology nowadays, it’s important to let people know if you’re in a dangerous situation, especially when people always think women are lying about getting attacked, that they’re “stuck up biches who think every man wants her”, or for money, or they’re just paranoid. What money you’re possibly gonna get from some crazy deadbeat abusive man anyway bruh? THERE’S NO SUCH THING AS PARANOIA WHEN YOU HAVE ALL THESE CRAZY HORNY MEN EVERYWHERE AROUND YOU.
@@brandonwings541 you don't have any nuts... You are the nutless wonder.
And theirs still men in these comment section calling her a tease and rambling on about how woman are.
Predatory men.
Every woman I know has been through this. One of my male coworkers decided one guy wasn't asking too much, so he gave the guy my real phone number (in the 90s, your home phone number could get someone your address with one call to an operator). I got home to that customer standing on my front porch telling me I couldn't hide from him now. I was 15 and it was my first job.
That is terrifying! I can't believe one man decided to give another man your info, because HE thought you should be willing to give that guy a chance. It isn't bad enough when men act like that, but when other men jump in to help them out, it is even worse. Men are taught that women don't have autonomy or right to say "no" to them, and movies and TV perpetuate being persistent and stalking as romantic, pushing the "playing hard to get" or "she just doesn't know what she wants" mindset.
Omg!!!
I hope that coworker was at least fired and slso turned into hamburger by your your Mom or Dad (if you had one and he lived there, I won't assume.)
That’s why no one has my phone number… it’s so scary.
That's disgusting and infuriating!
Fuck, that's one of my worst paranoia, I've resorted to putting fake addresses close in proximity to my real location for my work resume cze of one crazy employer
I really like that this girl added a response about this video. "Women don't owe you shit". When a woman is trying to kill a conversation at every turn, leave it be for all the reasons she cites in her response. Why would you ever want to make someone uncomfortable while they are working?
She's not even that pretty
@@MeadeSkeltonMusic I wonder what informed me that you're an incel first.... your pic or your comment 🤔 Both are a dead giveaway tho!
@@RoyalRoses it was both for me.
@@JillyBean860 I like your name 😁✌ and I agree!
@@MeadeSkeltonMusic
She's very pretty actually, she is smart and even has beautiful skin.
What the f...k do you know about pretty eh incel?
Rejecting men is a nightmare. You could get murdered if you don’t play it right. It’s absolutely disgusting that these misogynistic men can’t understand that. I’m glad she handled it well and that she’s ok.
One way to make it more obvious? Tell them I am not interested and I am just trying to do my job. It's perfectly fine to stand up for yourself.
He wanted to know EXACTLY where her school was, that's a huge red flag. Also, Lake Eerie is CREEPY.
It's Lake ERIE; it's a real name. The rest is truly creepy; her age,what school, what city...sounds like he wants her to make it easier to stalk her. I'm glad she did a follow up because I was worried about when her shift ended and she was leaving. It could feel like MILES walking from the store to her car.
@D Moreno not really, but go off lol
LAKE Erie isnt Creepy its EERIE ..... lol i mean come on u had that one
@@silverking8742 Dammit you're right 😩😩
@@HappiiWheels 😆😆😆
To the people arguing for this guy in the comments:
employees *do not* owe you any personal information, asking for it while they’re working alone in store is inappropriate, especially if they are very blatantly uncomfortable like she was. The amount of times I’ve had to walk my young (usually afab) coworkers to their cars or their parents cars is way too many.
In retail and fast food one of the biggest red flags is when a customer asks you anything even remotely personal, those same people usually end up waiting outside for you. It really doesn’t matter whether this guys intentions were ‘pure’ or not, everything he said just isn’t appropriate for their situation.
Edit: glad we’re all collectively angry at @Brandonwings
Remember that one thing and the thing and that one time when the thing happened when no one asked? 🤓
@@brandonwings541 k big guy
@@brandonwings541 you are the guy in this video, aren’t you :/
@@brandonwings541 Shut up
@@brandonwings541 damn big fella, are you lost? Cause this ain’t twitter, not a surprise that you are lost tho.
Honestly, this girl reacted how I would have reacted too. She is brave. You go girl.
She handled the situation perfectly. Kudos to you young lady! I hate it when peeps feel entitled to help themselves to the tip jar. That tells you a lot about the person.
“How old are you” is probably the creepiest thing they say. If they look young they are young and you will be detained.
Am I being detained?
Not really but okay you can be 22 and see a 18 or 19 that borderline looks 16-17 so it's okay to ask. But u can tell she isn't into him.
"How old are you" is a pretty normal question but like not in that scenario. It's definitely better than "how young are you". That one is really creepy
You can’t be detained for being with someone who simply just “looks young”
How young is young? Like 12? That question is rather important, because this girl said she's 19 and I've no idea how old she really is, she could be lying and she's actually 16. Or someone could look 20 but is 17.
I'm from Asia though, not gonna lie, it's hard to tell.
I’ve been in these situations and she’s not only uninterested, she’s a little scared but being tough. These are the times you wonder if the dude is gonna be waiting at your car when you leave work or asking g a co-worker to walk with you after your shift. She’s absolutely right, women don’t owe any guy their info, smiles or undue attention 🙌👏🔥
I'll take 100 for things that didn't happen.
She didn't even have a manager or someone who can back her up. My mama bear instinct kicked in with this one.
@@ElanaVital83 Bingo. I am a mom of college-age kids. Hubby and I stopped in for an ice cream cone one night to find a young woman working alone in the store. I quietly suggested that she call her manager to bring in a colleague for the rest of the evening. She said it was the manager who was supposed to be her teammate that night, but had called out sick. After we got home, I called the sheriff's non-emergency line to have them go check on the young woman. Then I called the young woman to tell her I'd requested a well-check for her (I didn't want her to be scared by the cops dropping by!) She thanked me.
I don't always call the sheriff, but I have waited around an hour for another kid's parent to pick them up after work late at night. Mama Bear.
@@HappySunshineDay
You are wonderful! 🌹✨
I had a guy wait for my bar shift to end, middle of the day, and as I pulled out of the parking lot he was suddenly behind me on his motorcycle out of nowhere. Mind you after being very creepy towards me for like an hour he left and waited 30 min outside for me to leave. I was terrified but took some backass dirt roads very fast and lost him. Men can be scary sometimes..
I've always worried about my daughter being in this type of situation and having the awareness that this woman has. I am sure she was scared of where it would go and you almost see her thinking things through as its happening. This guy maybe even knew he was making her nervous. Guys have gotten off on less.
My daughter can hold her own. I taught her self defense. Shes packin too.
lol that guy had zero social skills, really bad.
I have autism and often cannot understand when to take a hint, but even with this, I could feel how uncomfortable she was. It was so cringe on his part and super embarrassing.
right he really thought he was doing smth💀💀
@@swhsxo It was so uncomfortable to watch. I felt so bad for her 😭
I don't think you have Autism if you can figure out how uncomfortable she was...you might have been misdiagnosed somewhere...
@BASSFZz
We can learn....
@@salmav.6630 everyone has to learn…which kinda undermines the idea of Autism. 🤔
one time a guy at the bus station was trying to pick me up by literally breathing down my neck, and I felt uncomfortable, but it was really early morning, and there was nobody around. I acted very amicably. Even tough he was creeping me out and feeling up my arm, I smiled, answered his questions (with false info), and nodded along, but when he asked if he could take me out to coffee I said no and lied about a boyfriend to which HE GOT ANGRY ASKING WHY I WAS SO SWEET ON HIM IF I WAS GOING OUT WITH SOMEONE. Sir? I wasn't "sweet on you", I was hoping to ease your rejection so I don't get MURDERED at 5 am.
Women seriously cannot win. If we're cold and disinterested we're called a "bitch" who's "playing hard to get" or "full of themselves." However, if we're nice and try to ease a rejection, we're seen as "manipulative" and "leading them on." We just can't. ever. win. That's why we record these experiences and share them with fellow women so we know "heyy maybe I'm being gaslighted and ACTUALLY this guy really IS a creep!" Also, recording for evidence is always good. Better safe than sorry.
you're right
👏👏👏 well said
Couldn't have said it better👏🏻
The bus is the worst! Someone on the bus was actually trying to feel me up, he touched my arm, then thigh. I got off at the next bus stop, even though it wasn’t my stop. Better to be safe than sorry and touching just crosses boundaries at that point.
You should have pulled your elbow back hard and turn to say " Sorry i didnt see you there, maybe next time distance yourself? "
It’s more about reading the room. She’s clearly not interested. And she’s not going to be interested if you keep going
Clearly the guy was noticeably older than her and wasn't handsome, hence she got creeped out. If he was her age and hot, she'd be smiling and enthusiastically participating in the conversation.
I feel for her on this one! Just because she was not interested in a full-blown "life story" conversation, doesn't mean she's a "b---h"!! Poor girl was just tryin' to get through the likely soul-sucking shift at her depressing af retail job!! I didn't think she was rude, just trying to get through her day! The dude was cringe af for the 3rd degree interrogation!
SHE wasn't being a bitch. HE was being a weirdo.
That guy was definitely doing too much cause it was obvious she wasn’t interested. But I don’t know, something about that girl gives me a vibe of someone who thinks they’re all that. The dude just seemed like an awkward guy desperately trying to get a conversation going. It didn’t sound like he was dangerous like she was making it out to be. She could have just let him know she’s on the clock and politely ended the conversation, instead she hopped on tik Tok to get a video out of the situation.
@@The1113015 No, she needed proof in case anything happened and if she wants to share her story she can.
Shayla I wasn’t there so I don’t know exactly why she felt so threatened, but since we can’t see the dude ima just give her the benefit of the doubt, I’m just saying she could’ve just let him know that he’s asking personal questions and that
she’s not comfortable giving that info out. He wasn’t getting the hint and her one word answers probably just kept him around longer. Her recording this came across more like, a “watch me curve this loser”, more than “she needed proof” but idk
@@The1113015 Congratulations. You're "that guy".
It's especially creepy to harass someone on their job, when it's part of their job description to be minimally civil to you, when outside her job she could rightfully WALK AWAY!!!
EXACTLY
way to put them at a spot, between the wall and the sword so to speak
Exactly 😭 some especially power hungry and creepy customers have used the fact that i have to be nice to them against me and created really uncomfortable situations
@@KaiWasntHere so sorry about that :((
The questions hes asking arent direct either. Hes giving himself enough of an out so she is stuck, she cant just say "Hey dude I'm not interested" or "I have a boyfriend" because he will just say "Woah I wasnt even asking that. Wtf? Youre ugly anyway" and report her, get her in trouble etc or other b.s like that, he knows what hes doing. Hes a complete loser.
@@uggggggghhhhh indeed! It’s horrible =((
sounds like a moist critikal clone , good work clone trooper soon the world will be filled with charlie's
lol she's so nice she even smiles sometimes when she forgets she's in font of him lmao
Mothers and fathers, teach your sons to read the room, to read body language and handle rejection.
Your little sweetheart might not be as nice as you think he is.
Most of them are rotten af. Since age 6.
@@KurosakiLuvar01 Fr. My neighbors.. Oh my god. I’ve considered calling someone on them a few times.. I’m scared to grow up in these times where so many kids are so sick and improperly raised/cared for.. It’s sad and scary. Like.. I’m going to be an adult when these kids are pretty much gonna be adults..
Then leave the kids alone, simple.
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@@brandonwings541 You suggest not parenting the kids at all?
I've creeped women out before just from being socially inept and not knowing how to talk to people. I feel really bad about it when I look back at it.
Respecting people's boundaries and taking hints is not something that is really taught and some people never learn it.
I'm grateful that I did eventually get a clue, and it wasn't from watching pick up artists; it was from talking to the women, who did let me in, about their experiences. Many men never consider what it's like to be a woman on a social level. That's what is meant by male privilege.
That's mainly what the conversation is about, learning and listening to women. It's not about being a bitch or being picky, is about safety and boundaries. I appreciate your journey and I hope you're doing well.
That’s really nice of you that you acknowledged male privileged. Thanks 🙏🏻
Oh honey it’s taught. They just don’t teach it to people with penises.
@@KurosakiLuvar01 True. That's the other thing about privilege, up until recently no one in the mainstream really talked about it outside of academic circles. At least no one did in my life or anyone I knew growing up. I'm confident that many of them still don't get it.
I wish I had been aware of it when I was younger. Don't get me wrong, privilege is useful to have (And I have had pretty much every kind in my life except for wealth) but at the end of the day it's a responsibility to try and use it for change and progress.
I didn't even know enough about it to actively use it to my own benefit, and in my experience, blind privilege bred wasteful and ungrateful attitudes in myself and others around me.
@@h2hoe625 glad I've learned this.
A few years ago I worked at a retail store and had a cute girl working on my shift. As she was leaving one day she had her phone in her hand. A customer walks up to her and asks for her phone number. She said “I don’t have a phone.” I busted out laughing right there ticking the customer off
Dang lol
Totally agree with her actions and men being creepy stalkers is never ok! It is weird nowadays (with social media being so prevalent) that it’s become rare to meet someone where there’s a mutual interest in one another just by chance in public. The difference between a normal guy shooting their shot and a creepy fucker is that the normal guy would notice after her first or second response that she’s not at all interested and they’d leave it alone then and there to save everyone the time and her peace of mind!
". The difference between a normal guy shooting their shot and a creepy fucker is that the normal guy would notice after her first or second response that she’s not at all interested and they’d leave it alone " thats alot of assuming there buddy
Not really, whether you leave it alone or don’t is what makes you normal vs creepy. There’s actually no assumption in that, it’s 100% on how you as an individual choose to handle a situation like that which effects how you come off or will be viewed in said situation.
Whenever men get angry that women give them fake numbers or aren't direct on the spot about lack of interest, remember encounters like this and understand that many of us have frequent interactions like this with men from early adolescence onward. We are literally using defensive tactics when men who are strangers approach us because we have no idea who they are, what they are capable of, and have learned from experience that it can go south and get violent quickly. We are forced into these kinds of situations and are left trying to deal with it and walk away unharmed
Most of the time we’re just awkward and super nervous. All get painted with the same brush unfortunately.
@@Saif-zf9vb Well then learn social skills. It’s not our job to reassure you and be like “awww look at that cute sad awkward 32 year old giving the 19 year old the creeps”. We’re just people. Just talk like you are a regular human being- Jesus Christ; is it really that difficult? 🤣
@@Saif-zf9vb we don't have the luxury of giving every guy the benefit of the doubt, because even though we know not all men are violent, it only takes *one.* THAT is unfortunate.
@@Saif-zf9vb one look at this girls face should have told him she's not interested. And he kept it going for way too long.
In my opinion idk if it's just because I'm a woman but I think women don't need to be so fucking upfront (especially if you're scared or feel threatened by a creepy dude), men should have the basic fucking social skills to notice that. As this guy says in the video "how did he not notice she wasn't interested," and listed off all her behavior that clearly showed she was uncomfortable. If the creepy guy wasn't so fucking socially dense he could easily see it wasn't working!
MY GOD HOW DOES ANYONE ACTUALLY THINK SHE WAS BEING A B*TCH FOR LITERALLY REJECTING A CREEP??? The fact that she had to explain herself to someone else is sickening, my god, why do men indeed
yeah, as a guy, the guy in the video is creepy af
Not all men but genuinely people like this do exist in all genders
yea i dont get it either, also how do i know if a girl is playing hard to get?, usually if a girl plays games with me i just lose interest because as a straightforward person this is a turnoff
@@nicklopez8004 do not waste your time chasing over a girl playing hard to get. most girls who do that only really like the attention you give them anyways, once you no longer give her 100% every day like you did when you were chasing you'll get thrown out. losing interest is the only way to move forward don't let people waste your time, nobody gets wasted time back no matter how hard they try
@@nicklopez8004 no girl who is worth a relationship will 'play hard to get' that was a stereotype made up by men (and yes, also women sometimes) who wanted to justify their crimes
' before Johnny Bravo stepped in and tried to pick her up ' lol I'm dying
I've seen people working who I thought were cute, but too bad. They are at work. They have to be there. Leave workers alone.
And he was being creepy. "Are u in high-school" was his first pick up line. Like???
This happened to a coworker of mine while there was a whole line of people waiting for food. Luckily, two of the men in line quickly called him out and shamed him for harassing her. Men teach other men that this shit ain't okay.
Preach bro. Men need to preach it too, I agree.
I agree with this 1000%. Right now I'm doing a research paper about sexism in gaming and one of the things I've discovered is that most of the time, men who get called out for their sexisy behavior won't react to it or even listen to a woman standing up for herself and start attacking her. While most of the time, men who stand up for women WILL be heard and taken seriously. (Not always the case, but more often than not.) So sadly a woman's voice and confidence isn't always enough. Sometimes other men need to step up too
men need to preach it the most
when we do it we get ignored and dismissed
@@pharuhs yes i am in gaming and this statement couldn't be more true as a female. Stopped playing mainstream games because of this shit
It’s not necessarily harassment until you start asking weird ass questions then keep doing it, i don’t think u need to be shamed till tht line is crossed. I’ve been shamed for even trying to talk to women like that and i talk with lots of women i just don’t advance any of them even if they advance me i still say no becuz I’ve been conditioned to believe it’s shameful to even try and talk to women I’m interested in, i feel like i will come off as a creep
and you have to consider why she was uncomfortable enough to have her phone hidden and recording in the first place... either the dude was being weird a few minutes before, or she deals with people acting like that on a regular basis
My guess is that the dude was acting shady and gave her bad vibes. It's called "instinct" or "gut feeling" and it's acquired, most of time by bad experiences. Nowadays, we know if there's no video evidence one can't really prove anything.
Both
I'd say both. The amount of men that hit on you or are creepy towards you in one shift alone is crazy. Sometimes they just show up one after the other in drive-thru.
Absolutely both :/ I always turn my camera on when a guy stops me in the street, if anything happens I don't want to have any regrets, and most of the time though I have no use for the footage I'm glad I did it anyway
Huh... I've had an "instinct" moment without ever having creepy experiences before. I'm quite sheltered tbh, the people I've encountered aren't that bad from what's truly out there. But there was a moment at school with this one dude who I knew was crushing on me and I wasn't interested in. He was chill until AFTER he asked me out and AFTER I didn't give him an answer when he TOLD me to sit next to him in class during our seat change. I knew that was a red flag so out of that mixed feeling of "I want to be polite but still show I'm not interested" I sat at the very end of the table, farthest from him. But still the same table. When his friends came into class, he got up and then I thought he moved to sit with them. NOPE! He sat right next to me and I felt nothing but fear and dread. Literally everything in me said "get tf away". Nothing bad had ever happened to me. Not from him or anybody else. But I still had that instinct feeling. Luckily i chose the seat that was mysteriously marked and meant to "change the seats at randon" to "keep things interesting" in the seating arrangement so I fid get away, but not out of free will like I should have done.
This young lady is very sharp and handled this difficult situation well - hats off to her
Well said Nikki 👏👏👏👏👏not that you even needed to respond to those comments. I had been a retail worker my entire life and we wouldn’t keep our jobs if we said what was going through our heads when we have to deal with these sorts of customers, I’ve had guys says some really revolting things to me and some women for that matter or a guy accidentally brush over my breast ( like I don’t know they meant it) I even got fired once cause I punched a guy who brushed my nipple and I just got sick of guys like him, I was there to do a job not be man handled, some people seem to think that as a retail worker that we are there to put up with their shit they are vile disgusting pieces of crap
She honestly hit the nail on the head about us girls feeling scared when having to reject a guy. It really isn't something we want to do, we are genuinely worried about the reaction. Most people are total gents and handle it like any normal person would, but you sometimes get those who just kick off and it's terrifying.
THISSSS. most times it was no big deal and you feel like an ass for being anxious. and then it just takes that one guy to react wrong or be persistent or creepy or something, and then it just affirms your fears. it's just not a good experience.
Totally agree. Most guys (or at least from those who have approached me to ask me out) understand that the worst I can say is "no" and even in that case, there's the upside of "at least you tried" so he won't constantly think back to that day and dwell on it. All it takes is that one guy who doesn't take it well and that makes me super afraid to reject someone.
male who looks and sounds female (gender identity issues.).. most my encounters are on internet but- even on the internet you have no idea what they could do to you. human trafficking and location tracking and shit like that.. I'm 16, i'm a teen trying to get through mental issues that have dragged me right out of school, and ive had grown ass men over 21 try to prey on me and manipulate me since i was as young as 13. seriously, people who even remotely look female are constantly scared to say no. including myself.
@@CaydenGrimes. Make sure to keep a list of phone numbers to remember just in case. Gay men and feminine looking men tend to be not taken too seriously in such situations unfortunately.. Must be a different perspective to have as a guy, I can't imagine how much that may feel for you
THIS REMINDS ME OF MY DUMB SELF HAHa, is it really on me tho- welp, it's called an experience for a reason, stay safe out there :]
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the first time i talk to one of my classmate was actually a boy that i got teamed up with (for a project) and he constantly ignores my messages or give dry feedbacks (ig it's normal)
i was a chill person so i don't mind it, just a little annoyed- few months later he said he likes me, uhh like i said I was dumb, i don't like him the same way but i don't want him to feel hurt or get negative reactions so I accepted, a week or two passed and he didn't even answer my messages anymore. for. two. months.
i asked his friends and they said that his number is still active and he use it to message them all the time.
then he came back and told me that i'm the kindest girl he ever met and kept complimenting me?? dude where the fuck are you in those 2 months? idk what to do at that point, my friends told me that i should just lose contact because im the one who's chasing him for no reason and that's terribly toxic. (rlly?) and that's the end of our interactions aha
The fact that some people are actually defending HIM And not the girl.. “Why didn’t she just say she wasn’t interested?” Don’t you know her saying that could literally get her attacked or killed ?..
Lmao American moment
@@hdhdhdbdn6487 You need to get out more. It happens everywhere, not just America.
@@hdhdhdbdn6487lmao ignorant moment. It happens everywhere.
what? she might get killed for saying she's not interested? the fuck are you on about
@@ethan2123 it’s true fam look at the news dudes can’t take rejection for shit in This coming from a dude
There is an epidemic of down bad men that need to be addressed.
If you're really trying to pick up a girl just be slightly confident, don't play 20 questions, stay positive in the conversation and DO NOT ask them out on their shift!
And pay attention to the reaction of the recipient of your come on.....if you are getting dead panned walk away.
I would say to be respectful and a great ice breaker for any situation is a really good and intelligent (not long winded!) joke.If he had ANY brains at all, he would have kept the whe time devoted to his purpose down to 3 or 4 minutes,Pay for your stuff say your first name(""my name's ***", tell a GREAT, or really corny knock knock joke, and say " I really love pizza (for example!) "If your not with anyone right now seriously,maybe we could get some sometime or go for a coffee one morning? Give her respect and a comfortable "out" if she has her own reasons for declining...And above all,if you get a "no,thank you" or I'm sorry,I'm not dating at the moment etc etc...be gracious and DONT TAKE IT PERSONALLY! You Never know where someone is "at" in there lives at any point- like she says,put yourself in her shoes.You don't know if she's just had a bad breakup or whatever reason .She may think you are the cutest stud in the stable but if her studies are her priority or she has 2 kids under 5 at home ,don't assume anything...and don't keep approaching her at her job trying to chat her up.Shes there for work and she is not there to entertain you hanging around the store.The worst that could happen if you have introduced yourself with no agenda and are in a position that you frequent that store or whatever is that you can be polite and not pushy and possibly begin a decent and new friendship.
Especially don't ask them questions like "how old are you?" (checking to see if she's jailbait or not), "where do you live/go to school" (hoping to "accidentally" run into her there, aka stalking), or asking her to come somewhere secluded with him. All of these are things that predators ask. They are not innocent questions, and men should stop acting like they are.
How about, "don't try to pick up a girl" and just treat her like a normal person and maybe she might become interested in you if she keeps seeing you and you just keep your cool and don't act like a dork.
It's not like those two met up at a party or a club to try to meet someone. Be nice, be yourself, and don't try to pick anyone up while they were trying to work.
@@cmcordoYT in case you're a little confused:
'To Pick Up A Girl'
Since at least the 1600s, to pick (someone) up has been used as slang for having a casual sexual encounter with a person. The slang inspired the adjective pick-up, used to describe a line, or rehearsed remark, used to strike up a conversation with a person in order to pursue them romantically or sexually.
As long as both people have intentions to continue seeing each other after they meet then there shouldn't be an issue unless one may have malicious intentions but that's also why both should be honest from the jump. Also, that mindset of fear will never last in a long-term relationship/marriage. You'll know if someone sends bad vibes (guy in this video being a mega-creep/women who see wealthy and attractive men as beneath them) and generally avoid at all cost. Thank you for the insight though!
Funny how stereotypically women are 'over emotional' but some men get REALLY defensive when women criticize them for something (and for a good reason). I've seen this happening a lot, even if the women have good points some men will still start complaining, calling them dramatic and blaming feminism or something :"D
Honestly it's weird how some take personally, if you're a decent person you're a decent person. I wouldn't blindly support someone just because they happen to be the same gender as me.
exactly, I've always seen men act immature, getting offended over literally anything and complaining but no one calls them out. Male privilege I guess.
Why is it so hard for people to understand genders aside, common sense
@@bruhno1545 how is that male privilege it's just being inmature
@@jgobea0188 they have the privilege to be like that. Women have to grow up real quick to protect themselves
@@kavyakrishnan2190 I'm like talking about the inmature and none talking about it because it is always talked about no matter the gender and in social media for me it seems that males are always taking L on twitter or other places posting dumb stuff and being called out everytime
When he says oo can I pay with this? The creep wants her to "fight/play" back, his persistence is known by so many woman and its more than frustrating and uncomfortable. Her response was spot on.
the thing about trying to pick up and employee is to keep in mind they are paid to be nice to you. I'm not saying to never try, but just keep that in mind
As a gay man, there will be times at work where the only cashier left is one of my female colleagues. With this being said, I stick around to make sure that straight men pay for their items and not sit there and try to flirt with my colleague. Not saying that she would be a damsel in distress but, being an extra person to talk and distract. I’ve actually seen some older creepy men make attempts on flirting with my female colleagues. Number 1 it’s disgusting, and 2 they need to leave as soon as their items are paid for.
One thing I can appreciate for our small store is that we get busy a lot so I don’t have to feel like I need to be an extra person for the customer to talk to, but still, I hate when certain types of men do this.
When are guys going to learn that one word answers mean that they are not interested, or the shortest answer and less in depth answers still mean no????
@@MidwestRainstorms Um so that people don’t accuse him of secretly being into her and playing the “good guy” role so that he feels entitled to date her (which has happened to us too, btw)?
@@MidwestRainstorms it's completely valid to be honest
As a gay man... what would you do, hit them with your purse? Nobody cares what u do with your sex organs, so stop announcing it. It's not normal... fudgie.
@@kenpettit3925 Sure, Lipitor. Maybe go upgrade your AOL account and worry about your prostate. I’m sure it’s as enlarged as a rotting plum.
@@kenpettit3925 The fact that you assume gay men own purses exposes you as blatantly homophobic and trying to hide behind the “it shouldn’t matter!!” Excuse…
I'm so impressed by this girl from her response to the trolls.
People were being mean to her??
What did they say
@@DawnKellyMedia the comment she replied to at the end
Me too!! Almost clapped, unironically.
This girl could not have seemed less interested.
I am honestly impressed with her patience, I would have excused myself long before, even if I was the only one there. Also the ceiling looks amazing, I love that collage design surrounding the lights!
Mad respect to the girl who handled this very well. We men shouldn’t act like this towards women who obviously don’t want anything to do with us.
thank you
Yeah, It just gives men a bad look in general anyways.. one idiot does something like this and it blows up on twitter some people really need to learn common sense..
@Hyacinthium I know, I didn't mean to make it seem like it is extremely rare sorry.. and thank you for understanding that good guys still exist.
Agreed, if girls r not interested in u just work on urself and style instead of being a prick and a creep lmao
@@justrolin2006 To be fair, those that do this are Boys, not Men.
This has happened to me and every woman I know. You can tell these creeps you’re in a relationship, and they STILL don’t care lol. It sucks.
And it never ends. As those men age so do their targets. I'm in my 50s and it happened yesterday.
I wear my wedding band at work and the last guy did take it seriously until my husband came over to my register.
Ive told men Im married and if they still bug me, I just yell at them to leave me alone and they run away embarassed. Lol
@@DawnKellyMedia 👍
Girls should be taught assertiveness and self defense from an early age in school and at home.
@@abelis644 Unfortunately assertiveness doesn't always work. I had a guy come into my old store all the time for the 3 years I worked there and would constantly harass me no matter how many times I "asserted" myself and told him no. I even threatened him with mace (it got that bad) and he still continued to beg me to give him a chance. These men doing this are at fault and need to be taught boundaries and how to handle rejection and being told no.
Dude wants to be moist critical so bad
How is that?
Because the voice is similar?
Other than that I fail to see how?
No hate to Charlie, but he's not original either. How many people make videos like this? Alot
Lmao
he's gotta learn to read body language. and also wait for a girl to give you indicators of interest before you approach one if you are attracted to one. this woman was really nice to him.
Yeah she could’ve cursed his ass out 😂 then he would’ve been ready to shoot up the mall lmao
''wait for a girl to give you indicators of interest before you approach one''? Because those are SOOO clear and definitely not easily mistaking for a girl just being nice.
@@satangavemeataco419 theres a differenc ebetween being nice and being flirty and signs of interest
@@noahrodriguez1895 They are the same and very easily mistaken if you aren't a player. Women need to be more clearer, OR.. Approach themselves if they know so well how it should be done. Not every guys is some smooth talking ladies man.
Mad respect for that young woman maintaining her co.posure even when that guy was making her uncomfortable. Because you never know how a person can react when you tell them you're uninterested in them.
"Composure"
Those weren’t ice breakers, those were invasive questions whose answers could give someone the info they need to stalk you.
looked like she was on trial for some crime. jesus christ dude.
heres a concept. LIE....... its funny the moment i say i have a insideout penis suddenly nobody wants to talk anymore.....
That's what I was thinking too!
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I have to disagree. I felt they were at first but very very quickly went from ice breaker to trying to get very personal information which leads right into your point of info for stalking. Also when it was strictly him asking and not giving back that also crosses over from ice breaker to something with bad intent. Not to mention his tone of voice did not come off as ice breaker intentions. I was worried he was going to stalk her and follow her to her car and rape her or something by how he was acting.
Starting to hit on someone by asking “are you in high school?”… I think THAT was the first bad sign here.
He safe thought (hoped) she's underage. These creeps always look for young girls.
Right?! He didn't seem to be in high school.
I disagree. I've approached girls who looked young and out of nervousness I asked if she's in college or high school. Because of the fear of being arrested for dating an underrated girl. I'd rather know now than later if she's of legal age. Some of these girls look like they're 20 when they're in high school. Hard to tell. A man's life can he ruined in a heartbeat if he dates the wrong girl. So you see, us men have a lot of risk too, not just you women.
@@ShiniGorky187 you re playing the victim, women say "no" and they might get killed. Women dont owe you sh*t
@@ShiniGorky187 then date someone who looks your age tf? Then there’s no way to “risk it”
I once had a woman in a shop who was working alone slide a piece of paper toward me which read something like. Please don't leave until that guy does. Who knows what type of exchange happened before I went in there, let alone an exchange that made her feel like she had to communicate via note. I browsed around nearby the counter until the guy finally left (without buying anything). She was extremely grateful and I wonder to this day what could have happened had i not been there. I didn't really ask any questions I just said you're welcome didn't really make much conversation other than saying I was happy to help and her saying that he was a creep and she was scared and left the store to make sure the guy was actually leaving the parking lot. Either way I'm glad I was there.
Props to her parents for how calm and professional she was at a young age.
As a retail worker who was asked out multiple times on my shifts: STOP IT. WE ARE NOT INTERESTED IN YOU. IM BEING NICE BECAUSE IM PAID TO. I CONTINUE TO BE POLITE BECAUSE I AM REQUIRED TO BY MY JOB. LEAVE US ALONE. STOP ASKING OUT AND FLIRTING WITH RETAIK WORKERS, WE ARE FORCED TO TALK TO YOU AND HAVE NO INTEREST IN YOU. I was forced to give my phone number so many times that it became creepy. They would not stop, even if I said I could get fired.
Don't give your phone number away, tell them to leave. Don't be afraid I'm sure your boss would understand.
you’re not forced to give your number, say no
yeah so many of my friends who work in retail or fast food say how uncomfortable this is for them. the only instance where I’ve done something like this (asked an employee for the number) is when at my local Starbucks which I was a regular I got to know one of the baristas (he was a year older but we were both in highschool) and I eventually asked for his number cause we’d talk a lot when I was there and he had a shift, we’re still friendly now but the only reason I asked is because I felt it reciprocated at the time.
@StinkyDinky Bussy bruh. Stand up for yaself. Carry pepper spray or some shit. There are multiple ways of protecting yourself.
@@jaytera You can’t carry pepper spray (or any weapon) in most countries.
Women have to think constantly about being harassed or worse. We men don't have to live that way. She did the right thing and was perfect.
Not now you dont but when the l.gb.t population goes up to 30 % you might start feeling the heat hehehe😂
amanda sorry-wtf that supposed to mean🦔 like im pan but im not gonna go harrass a random person at their work tf
@@amandaclaireon4065 what
I've been jumped a few times. Yes men have to worry. Men are more likely to be killed. Shit happens to everyone. We good people just need to help eachother when we see someone in trouble.
@@sillyhyenalaughs im straight im not going to harass a random girl at her work place.
Body language. She's not in to you. She how she short answers everything. Like she wants to hurry up and leave. Move on.
If a women is short and emotionless SHE IS NOT INTERESTED
And the sad thing is she will be looked at as a bitch by many of those “men” even though she did what she could to protect herself and even more sad she shouldn’t have had to explain her discomfort of the situation:/
A real man won't call her a bitch, the opinions of lesser men don't mean anything. I've always been upfront to men because the weaklings which can't handle it back tf off and the real men respect it. This woman did everything right. Be firm, don't engage, and stand your ground.
I don't necessarily say No. When Men look at me, I look at them right in their eyes and ask them "What the f*** do you want?" I always been a hard woman, my mother was a fighter herself. And yes, she took out bigger opponents than her size. Her Uncle was Military based and taught her self defense. I don't punch physically. But if a Man says anything or tries to start something. I make them run away. They call me crazy all they like. I could care less. I love watching creeps suffer. And now, Costco is going to pay me for the Damages.
@@Tinyfurball I aspire to be like this. I've been way too nice to creepy men.
@@StephanieLinda_ We shouldn't have to, tbh. And we tend to be at a physical disadvantage, so throwing hands doesn't always work. But picking up some self-defense and being taught to be more assertive would definitely do good. I wish people would stop associating assertiveness in women as us being mean or bitchy. It's on that double standards shit "You should have stood up for yourself" "Why are you so mean, what a bitch". It pisses me off.
@@StephanieLinda_ it’s unrealistic tbh
Her: You’re all set.
Him: Am I though?
Her: Yup
If a girl says that to you, just stop.
Yep Well Hey Rape Is Always Justified As Far As I'm Concerned Because If She Worked At A Certain Camp I Bet She'd Be The Creep Sorry I Ain't Got No Sympathy For Victims Everyone At That Camp Was A Victim ♟
@@rubyruby7573 Lmao you really thought you did something
This is probably random, but the narrator sounds like Optimus and Penguinz at the same time
@@Yourmom_y literally where are they even going with this...
No.... u whip out a knife 😏
This guy had determination but lacked in every other departments. 0 social awareness.
That can be very dangerous. Mall shooter type behavior.
Even on the job, you don't have to engage in a personal relationship with a creep. It doesn't matter if your expression and voice are flat; any engagement to them is encouragement.
"Women dont owe you shit" . Well said. That's a girl you could have a beer with 👍
@TRIPESKA Music Group
She doesnt owe him anything. One can easily Tell what the Guy was Up too.
Also hell is Not real
What a suprise
@TRIPESKA Music Group But if she said that and he then got upset and hurt her, assaulted her or even killed her then what? was that “gods plan” for her? Get over yourself
@TRIPESKA Music Group so basically you are saying "OH MY GOD I asked a stranger about their personal info in our first meeting, totally not creepy and dangerous, if they lie for their own safety, they are a terrible person HOW DARE THEY!!!!"
@TRIPESKA Music Group Ok so don't be shy, give us your personal info and your address, or not you are going to "Hell" and is automatically a bad person. 😇
@TRIPESKA Music Group she wasnt being "nasty" or mean. If some chick was asking me questions like that and being weird I'd probably say something like "are you ok? Alright, now fucking leave". That would be mean.
It's always uncomfortable to be hit on while working. You are providing customer service and some guys think you're flirting. No!
And then, while you are internally cringing and want to tell this person off you can't because he could get violent or report you to your boss for something.
Even in a warehouse, it happens. I'm pretty darn sure. Costco is hitting themselves over my Case. They owe me a lot of money. I was being Sexually Harassed and then threatened to be killed and beaten by several men there. Yet, I was called Crazy. On top, the Managers said, that I was at fault that I shouldn't have reacted how I did. I was defending myself. My sanity. I should post a video, about how bad Costco Depo 960 is. If you're a good Woman, the Men there will treat you like meat.
My boss told me to get rude lmao he doesn't care if they complain
@@heathernikki5734 good boss 👍🏾
@@Tinyfurball You're telling me these warehouses do not even have surveillance? My gosh, I hope you figure out something soon because that's dangerous.
@@YouKnowMeDuh I was told by several Managers that Costco does not have Cameras in there. The Distribution Centers. The Stores where people go to buy, some do. Some don't. But the been putting up, because people have stolen from the stores. I worked at the Distribution Center in California.
Take the rejection and move on dude! He sounded so pathetic
she honestly handled this situation in the best and safest way she could so honestly kudos to uer
She answered WAAAAYYYYYY more personal questions than I would have. How does someone just start asking so many random, personal questions, to a complete stranger no less, and when they are just trying to do their job.?! The whole "not interested" thing is written all over her face.
I may have my own difficulties in social settings, being on the spectrum and all, but even I know this is too much.
Yea like wtf? I didn’t understand that. If I did answer it would have been nothing but lies.
I do think most of her responses were lies, it’s hard in this situation to just say ‘fuck off’ as much as I’m sure she wanted to
@@Poppyskye they're probably lies, yeah
@@KurosakiLuvar01 Yea she clarifies on her tik tok that she lied, thank god
She didn’t actually, watch the whole video (this sounds rude, but I don’t mean It in that way)
It's so disgusting and demeaning, she's not a sexual object she's just trying to do her job. The worst thing is that a lot of these entitled men would act out and become crazy or violent if Rejected and ironically would be extremely angry and aggressive if another male tried to talk to them like this.
How were they treating her as a sexual object? Obviously I don’t support his actions in anyway but I don’t get how he did that
@@findem2168 because he is so determined to have sex with her regardless of whether or not she wants to or has a compatible personality because clearly these men believe that's the only thing women are good for. She is working right now not trying to date
@@findem2168 He (a complete stranger) called her pretty when she was uncomfortable. He tried to slide into her DMs. He tried to find out WHERE SHE LIVES! If you can't see why that is wrong, you are part of the problem
@@findem2168 He’s only interested in her for sex. He has zero care in the world that she’s not interested in him, that she’s clearly uncomfortable. He sees her as an object of desire & nothing more. Men who see women as people accept no & recognize basic universal language of “no thanks.”
@@findem2168 wether you wanna believe it or not men-treat us as objects.. it’s sad to say how the world got this way and it’s sad women struggle with so much way to much
This girl doesn’t owe anybody an explanation.
She’s a lot more polite than I would’ve been so 👏👏👏
Finding out after the fact that she was alone in the store with that man makes the situation even more uncomfortable.
She handled it calmly, plainly, and professionally and still gets called a bitch.
My Gad. 🙄
I know!
@laze mz Not really.
She just needs that man to leave her alone.
@laze mz or maybe she needs that man to stop being a creep when she's minding her own business. You know what, we just need all creepy men to just stop existing 🤣🤣😬
Professional would have been her saying "Sorry, I don't want to answer that" the first time she didn't want to answer a question. She didn't do that though she started making up lies and started speaking very short and rude. You all justify this behavior because its automatically assumed that the man will do something crazy like attack her if she rejects him directly.
I have a question. Would it be creepy to qpproach a male if he is working. I'm just asking I'm pretty shy. I don't have the guts to do something like that