It's so refreshing to see survivors who were able rebuild their lives after the abuse. I think the hardest part is starting to rebuild your life and personality after you have gone through physical abuse. I believe prayer is a very powerful way of getting strength to face the day. Things are just never the same again are they?
You can't be the same again, but God Is able to heal you and restore you. Kindly join us on our channel. I was abused, twice and now God has called me to share on abusive relationships and trusting God for a spouse
I don't really know? It seems like it's gotten worse , not better. Domestic violence, child abuse , murder DUIs kidnapping held captive. I seen one or two, of two young children abused by family member months of abuse or more, taken away, but foolishly listened to the wrong people, the child taken back to the abuse only to die , there are others,. Buy point is I don't understand why they took them back,. The abuse continued after being taken back to the families. These lost souls will never go to school, never graduate , never anything because of the child service division. Not mentioning any names, but one judge was very, very angry at the parents and child service division. I know these stories are horrific and nightmarish. But it's too l prove a point. Then domestic violence,. Covid , 3 victims of husband murdered, because of the covid. My thinking there could have been better chances of getting away from each other. With one of the sadest domestic violence is the victim recorded or live stream her murder . No matter how bad or how good, staying home, drive each other crazy .y opinion is that maybe they should have went and visited people, problem is lock down social distancing,. Plus not leaving home could have saved them ,. I think two victims, died on social media. You are supposed to love someone. If there was the point of being able to go see other family or relatives, may have saved them. This video, and the one I seen a few days ago? Child abuse , the other was done mostly by the step father. It just disgust me for hearing these violent acts
She is right about the judgement, happened to me. The abuse is bad enough, yet, to have judgement from your own family. Education is the key, victim blaming is wrong. Am glad u are here to tell your story.Stay safe and strong.
It's the reason why I refuse to tell my family about it even though I have had therapy. When they ask me why I say I suffered enough I shouldn't have to put myself in a position that is only going to make my life harder and cause more problems. In some ways I am lucky my family haven't demanded reasons why despite me being housebound agoraphobic, in other ways it isnt helping me being around them it's too much of a crutch and they dont want to let go..... it would be worse if they knew and they would use it as an excuse trying to not let me make my own decisions for my own life despite being in my 30s. Nope not going there, not going to let one abuser be replaced by another imposing their will on me... nope nope nope, I survived too damn much for that
hey, I know this is very weird but im doing a project for school and i was wondering if you're open to talk about your experience. We can blur out your face. (we can do it over zoom)
My sister is currently in a DV situation and I'm trying to figure out how to help her out. I would never say "why did you stay or why'd you take it for so long" (over 20 years). I just need to help her and support her.
How is education the key? I have violent "parents" that i have to deal with because they don't understand that the things they do are illegal. There's no one who can help me in my case.
Leaving is the MOST dangerous time because the abuser needs this person to abuse. A plan must be put in place FIRST and there are facilities that can make this happen and she can then rebuild her life and also undergo a program that takes you step-by-step through recovery which is NOT a magic wand, but time and new thoughts creates a new path.
It's been 2 yrs since your comment. Hope she got out. I'm currently in the same situation with MY sister. I've realised that she's too scared to get out. As her sister, (we also have 3 brothers) WE have to step up and HELP HER! We have to make that decision for her because she won't. Yes, it's going to be hell and allot of drama but if something happened to her and her children, I wouldn't be able to live with myself, knowing we did NOTHING!😪
What I want to know - is what happened to the guy, if anything? There should be a website with these POSs names & pictures to warn other women. They should be shamed & forced to get help or fined or something more.🤬
Thank God you made it through this ..thanks for sharing..I'm a victim of domestic violence it's serious anyone reading this if your going through this tell someone try your best to get away from the abuser if you can't try to get a escape plan..it only gets worst
Thank you for being strong and telling your story. No one deserves abuse. Weather its physical..emotional or verbal. Ladies please 🙏 know your worth..❤💯 BETTER TO HAVE NO COMPANY THAN BAD COMPANY.
Damn I can relate to all of this. So proud of her for speaking out! I wasn’t love bombed like many but looking back he showed intense insecurity but by lying about almost everything. Should have walked away then.
you run and leave in silence !! NEVER GIVE A MAN A SECOND CHANCE TO KILL YOU !!! MY first and last incident was in the 90s I was 19, he choked me with a phone cord ..I left and never looked back.
Now is the time to put this in schools and show girls what can be said and done to you before they get into relationships and boys should be shown this too
I agree with you!! I was 17 being with an abuser he was 21😡😡😡 I’m 57 now I think young people should hear firsthand about domestic violence this is REAL!! Those days way back when we didn’t hear about this sort of thing!!😡😡😡so sad!! I would like to go across the country to each & every high school & speak on it(domestic violence) But we are dealing with so much right now Nationally 😢😢😢Something I have been thinking about 😢😢😢😢😢A Survivors Story 😢😢😢😢😢
We never know because of love. My ex's wife is calling him an angel now that at least he was only using his mouth and not his fist against me. Lord have mercy.
It really truly honestly does aggravate me to the point of where I would love to have answers that I didn't receive but I felt entitled to know . I went through 2 very horrible abusive relationships in my entire life . You probably think how could that happen ? Why ? When I dated them at 2 separate times, 2 differently named men (1 that I knew that I was married to & divorced ) . The other I dated, he died of cancer,by no fault of mine . The men never ever showed signs of being controlling,abusive,hateful during our earlier relationships . Once I was with them for any length of time you could say that they hid it from me . But much later on the controlling,abusiveness,hatefulness started .1 of the men laughed at me when I even tried to tell them to treat me right or they would end up losing me . The police were never ever helpful when I spoke of a crack pipe that he had . Meaning they wouldn't check it out . I had no reason to be a complete liar ! If he would've killed me as I see it they wouldn't have given crap about me !
Hello Coleen. Thankfully, God cares for you, sooo much. You're in our prayers, if you can, kindly join us on our channel. We're called to share on abusive relationships and trusting God for a spouse. I was a victim twice, two different relationships
If you or anyone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, you should REPORT it! It is VERY important that violent treatment of humans not be ignored, nor go unreported. Both the victims and the abusers need help to resolve the issues and change their behavior. In some situations there results a death or a damage that is permanent. There should never be shame in getting help for domestic violence and or reporting it. Without records the abuser may go on to beat on other people and or may kill someone. Report Abuse. It can change a life, it could save a life. It is the right thing to do, always.
hey, I know this is very weird but im doing a project for school and i was wondering if you're open to talk about your experience. We can blur out your face. (we can do it over zoom)
I'm so sorry you went through this. It seems the violence escalated very quickly. My ex was getting verbally abusive. Then he twisted the skin on my arm (like a donkey bite), I left him within 6 months as I caught him with another woman in our home. I guess the things to look out for are red flags like my ex was lying about his own whereabouts and was jealous. I was apparently flirting with his guy friends etc. At least now I know what to look for and hopefully find a genuine nice guy 💚 I hope you have found peace and belonging in the world again. Xxx
I am afraid for some one I knew growning up.. She's with a guy she meet kind of quick and she and he are married.. He appears to be such a stand up guy but he's dangerous.. This young lady is vivacious and friendly ABSOLUTELY beautiful, she's a loving educator and the staff and students love her the same.. She's a shining light.. He has already completely moved her away.. She has gotten involved with someone who is charming on the outside and has the darkest soul on the inside.. God please keep her!! I don't know how or why I can see it and it seems no one else does.. But y'all something is not right!! I just wish I could speak to her but how do I get her to listen.. We are not close friends but our families know each other well and we all love each other.. I just would hate for her to realize the ugliest truth once it's too late... God help me help her!!
I DO NOT BLAME HER. I like what Maya Angelou said..."trust people when they tell you who they are the first time"... as soon as she said he made all the decisions for me....I was......OH NO!
It’s funny because the camera thing happened to me and I just realized now that it was not normal ...he said they were for security yet there were nine outside only one out back and he never cared if that one stopped working but if one fell over or was blocked in the house he would call me to fix it
The first time I called the police they didn't do anything. The second time I called the police they arrested him and me! By the grace of God I got out it's been two years since the divorce almost 2 years and I still don't have my life back yet.
But u do..maybe by the cops arresting not just him but YOU that was God’s way of giving you that chance that not a lot of women & men go through. It’s been 2 yrs now u say..? Now is the time right now’ to move forward and let it go..you will have doubts and fears but that’s normal and we all do have them but u have to pray more and talk about it with God Almighty..he’s ur maker and creator.
@@davisholman8149 Yes. I have seen this myself in someone. I let that person go. I also saw someone's eyes glow like the eyes of the children in "Village of the Damned." It was for just a millisecond. I didn't even process what I had seen until much later. I also let that person go. If we are paying attention and in tune with God, we will see things that He shows us in the Spirit. But it must be things that He show us for the benefit of salvation or deliverance. Otherwise, it is sorcery if we try to enter the spiritual without the Holy Spirit. Once God shows us something, we have to act on what He shows us and tells us.
My girls dad used to beat on her mom, one day her mom told him that she would kill him in his sleep...never happened again. She killed him 50 years later (he got dementia and she put him in a home, the homecare neglected him) when she collected on his life insurance.
That was the Jezebel Spirit!!! As soon as you started praying from your heart and soul Jezebel couldn’t attack you again. I’m absolutely 100% sure because the same happened to me.
The violence usually starts after the abuser has isolated you from other people. People see what's happening but dont want to get involved because it could make it worse for the victim. Everyone judges victims s of abuse and they dont have the right. They dont have the right to say 'why didnt you just'. When you have no one to talk to who can you go to? There is little evidence so you doubt police will do anything... it's just he said she said thing. And when it does get physical you are thinking if he did that over something like reading a book what is he go na do when I kick him out? How will he try to kill me next time he gets angry?
Stumbled upon this video researching for early signs of emotional abuse. Worried about one of my friends. Her boyfriend was apparently upset because she was taking her time deciding on whether or not to move in with him and during an argument over text messages, She apologized for not being good enough for him, he called her an f word lying b word and then told her that if she said whatever she was trying to say one more time that he would shoot himself in the head right in front of her. I know that grown people will do what they want, but I asked my friend to please try to first of all NEVER tell anyone that you are not good enough for them, put some distance between she and the guy and to not put herself into a situation where she could possibly be harmed. I was thinking that if he is serious and not just using emotional manipulation and they are one day in an argument in person, he could possibly pull a gun out and not only harm himself but her as well. I advised her to please slow down, talk to a therapist, be alone for a while and work on building a stronger her. I think my friend feels stuck and is so eager to be in love and have the love that she feels that she needs that although she states the person may be emotionally abusive, she ignores the behavior. I mean in all honesty, I would personally never want to be involved ever again with someone who threatened to kill themselves in front of me. I am sure there have been more instances of this type of talk and demeaning her. Sadly, I believe that she has now moved to the same town where the guy lives and is possibly living with him. I really pray that she will be okay, but I am so afraid for her. Did I give her the wrong advice to not walk but run away from the relationship, to slow down and seek out the right type of guy? I also told her that no matter how angry someone gets with you even during arguments, mentally healthy people would guard her heart and feelings and never threaten to take their lives.
@@davisholman8149 Thanks for replying. Hope that you are well Mr. Holman. I cannot believe that it has been a year since I posted that. My friend is like a sister to me and I was worried about her. She seems to be doing okay, but I make sure to communicate with her several times per week. Hopefully they are both taking measures to have a healthy relationship.
I wish there were more places for victims of partner/spousal abuse to stay. Right now there’s not enough safe spots to sleep or relax in order to get away from abusers for most men. It’s the streets for many males,and abuse shelters are non existent for them. Every single safe house has been quickly erased from the map if it’s for males, and the founders disappear. You couldn’t get me to sponsor one of them houses for a million bucks. I wouldn’t get to spend it. Screw that. That’s financially and spiritually unequivocally lucrative. Go Rocket’s!
It appears everyone is about control these days because of unhappiness or insecurity in their own lives...They will go to great lengths to ruin others in ways they couldn't confess to their gm...They might even have gangs of people supporting them. Dont sabotage yourself. Await justice by responding with happy days and lots of fun recovery and healing. It may or may not come but thats on them if it doesnt.. Leave stressful professions and relationships where people intentionally keep u confused and guessing regarding emotional support. That is what i truly believe now knowing how people intentionally give victims nonanswers in a highly strategic and coordinated way meant to keep you guessing and confused. Until one day PTSD hits and you are out of their control...Switch is off.
I'm not half way through but she thought all his phone calls & text were because he was madly in love with her but he wasn't, he wanted to control was why, then the tracker on her car & being videoed all day at home..... She must've known by then he was more likely mad than madly in love with her
With so much awareness about domestic violence, you'd think that if someone punches a woman in the face, she'd run for the hills and never look back, but Rihanna has taught us that many women will gladly take a guy back even after he punches them in the face. During an Oprah interview, Rihanna cried and said that she wants Chris back even after he punched her in the face. This twisted female behaviour is hard to understand.
Joseph Bishara The abusers groom the Victims before they ever hit them. Leaving is the most dangerous time for a victim to leave as the abuser feels they have nothing left to lose and will stalk or threaten the victim to regain control
so you find the 'twisted female behaviour' of not wanting to leave someone you're emotionally attached to hard to understand but yet the twisted male behaviour of beating the crap out of a woman who loves you is understandable? Interesting.
Did you know that the one thing demons hate the most is the rosary. In every possession that was done by priest they asked the demon what they hated the most and it said the rosary. Mmmm. Im not saying he was possessed but a demon just the same. Evil
Your post shows a complete cognitive dissonance, ignorance, victim shaming, self righteous blaming, lack of compassion, zero emotional intelligence, absolutely NO problem solving skills whatsoever and the putrid need 2 get on a thread as sensitive as this topic is 2 share your useless 2 cents of venom.
Blah, blah he was controlling from the beginning. Gifts to sweeten the meat for the beating. There was signs she ignores them and I'm willing to bet coming from Houston he had a criminal history. She playing it down to look bougee and speaking to the public so she can get away playing victim. B. S I don't feel sorry for them kind of women. He was a narcissist and she gave him the power to be comfortable.
Facts💯. Hell, first question the interviewer asked was foolish and the reason why these females always get played. They shouldn’t be observing how the guy treats THEM during “courtship” (if courting is even still a thing)...of course he’s gonna treat you good, he’s wants something from you, everyone has representation when meeting someone new...meaning they never show who they truly are. What ppl should be looking out for is how their potential mate treats others around them. That’s a great indicator on how he will possibly treat you when the “new car smell” wears off. Like you said ppl miss signs early on because majority of ppl esp nowadays are enamored by the external aesthetics of others and/or how tough or outgoing someone is and then confuse the dopamine spike they get by putting Mr/Ms “10/10” on a pedestal as love and affection when in reality it is......NEWSFLASH, infatuation and codependency. P.S Another tip for you ladies...“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” If he abuses you be it physical, emotional, mental etc....it’s not love. Be safe
These stories are very disturbing, and very upsetting, this man was extremely cruel and Very violent This was absolutely terrible and Very difficult to watch I am Glad this Woman Survived this terrible situation and left this very violent situation Beating up a Woman doesn't make a man tough... Beating up a Woman doesn't make a man strong... Beating up a Woman doesn't make a man cool... Beating up a Woman doesn't make a man a man.... Beating a Woman doesn’t make a man powerful, it instead displays a even Weaker personality of the man. I believe in the Safety and Well-being Women, Children, and Men WOMEN Have the RIGHT to FEEL SAFE and BE SAFE This is a reply post regarding a article on Assault Against Woman: For what is statistically true, or accurate, and even what is not included statistically, and all other crime such as this is what is ( violence against women) Always unacceptable... Women have the Right to Feel SAFE and be Safe... No woman..., or person....child...should ever have to experience this kind heinous personal intrusion in their lifetime, this seems to be occurring at least according to news reports more, and all to often. Actually this activity should be in a stage, or state of Reversal, and NOT Increasing, I am continually upset as well as greatly disturbed in hearing such stories, as I have always have been... My Heart Always... goes out to any person which have experienced any such similar experience of intrusion, attacks, and, or invasion of their personal well-being... due violence, and or violent behavior, I will continue Praying for the Safety and Well-Being of Others... Keep everyone SAFE PLEASE BE SAFE Your Life is important Advocate of Humanity, Author, Writer, Poet, Safety Advocate Jason Sandifer, Michigan MESSAGE REPOSTED 10/12/2021
It's so refreshing to see survivors who were able rebuild their lives after the abuse. I think the hardest part is starting to rebuild your life and personality after you have gone through physical abuse. I believe prayer is a very powerful way of getting strength to face the day. Things are just never the same again are they?
You can't be the same again, but God Is able to heal you and restore you. Kindly join us on our channel. I was abused, twice and now God has called me to share on abusive relationships and trusting God for a spouse
I don't really know? It seems like it's gotten worse , not better. Domestic violence, child abuse , murder DUIs kidnapping held captive. I seen one or two, of two young children abused by family member months of abuse or more, taken away, but foolishly listened to the wrong people, the child taken back to the abuse only to die , there are others,. Buy point is I don't understand why they took them back,. The abuse continued after being taken back to the families. These lost souls will never go to school, never graduate , never anything because of the child service division. Not mentioning any names, but one judge was very, very angry at the parents and child service division. I know these stories are horrific and nightmarish. But it's too l prove a point. Then domestic violence,. Covid , 3 victims of husband murdered, because of the covid. My thinking there could have been better chances of getting away from each other. With one of the sadest domestic violence is the victim recorded or live stream her murder . No matter how bad or how good, staying home, drive each other crazy .y opinion is that maybe they should have went and visited people, problem is lock down social distancing,. Plus not leaving home could have saved them ,. I think two victims, died on social media. You are supposed to love someone. If there was the point of being able to go see other family or relatives, may have saved them. This video, and the one I seen a few days ago? Child abuse , the other was done mostly by the step father. It just disgust me for hearing these violent acts
@@drivenbycuriosity I hope wherever you are, 3 years later after having made this comment, you’re in a better place in your heart.
She is right about the judgement, happened to me. The abuse is bad enough, yet, to have judgement from your own family. Education is the key, victim blaming is wrong. Am glad u are here to tell your story.Stay safe and strong.
It's the reason why I refuse to tell my family about it even though I have had therapy. When they ask me why I say I suffered enough I shouldn't have to put myself in a position that is only going to make my life harder and cause more problems. In some ways I am lucky my family haven't demanded reasons why despite me being housebound agoraphobic, in other ways it isnt helping me being around them it's too much of a crutch and they dont want to let go..... it would be worse if they knew and they would use it as an excuse trying to not let me make my own decisions for my own life despite being in my 30s. Nope not going there, not going to let one abuser be replaced by another imposing their will on me... nope nope nope, I survived too damn much for that
hey, I know this is very weird but im doing a project for school and i was wondering if you're open to talk about your experience. We can blur out your face. (we can do it over zoom)
My sister is currently in a DV situation and I'm trying to figure out how to help her out. I would never say "why did you stay or why'd you take it for so long" (over 20 years). I just need to help her and support her.
How is education the key?
I have violent "parents" that i have to deal with because they don't understand that the things they do are illegal. There's no one who can help me in my case.
Yes the judgement be the worst of it , adds way more stress
My sister is an abusive relationship. I pray she can get out.
Leaving is the MOST dangerous time because the abuser needs this person to abuse. A plan must be put in place FIRST and there are facilities that can make this happen and she can then rebuild her life and also undergo a program that takes you step-by-step through recovery which is NOT a magic wand, but time and new thoughts creates a new path.
She's in our prayer. Kindly find out if she can check out our channel. We share on abusive relationships and Trusting God for a spouse. God bless you
It's been 2 yrs since your comment. Hope she got out. I'm currently in the same situation with MY sister. I've realised that she's too scared to get out. As her sister, (we also have 3 brothers) WE have to step up and HELP HER! We have to make that decision for her because she won't. Yes, it's going to be hell and allot of drama but if something happened to her and her children, I wouldn't be able to live with myself, knowing we did NOTHING!😪
She is amazing and strong! Thank you for sharing your story.
What I want to know - is what happened to the guy, if anything? There should be a website with these POSs names & pictures to warn other women. They should be shamed & forced to get help or fined or something more.🤬
Thank God you made it through this ..thanks for sharing..I'm a victim of domestic violence it's serious anyone reading this if your going through this tell someone try your best to get away from the abuser if you can't try to get a escape plan..it only gets worst
Proud of you for getting away from him
trucker wrecker I
@@wandahardy-cook2571 she made a great choice
Beautiful lady. And Catholic. My daughter is in an abusive relationship. It's been 5 years since we have known .
We're a hated group now Im Roman catholic and I still believe there's good priest and people in the church and this woman Is a good example
We have to realize these guys are insane!
actually its not insanity. its more so that they are entitled and abusive. but I hear you
Thank you for being strong and telling your story. No one deserves abuse. Weather its physical..emotional or verbal. Ladies please 🙏 know your worth..❤💯 BETTER TO HAVE NO COMPANY THAN BAD COMPANY.
I have tears listening to her story. She is beautiful on the inside out. Glad she got away from this demon.
Thank you for sharing 💜 I’m glad you are safe today 🙏
Damn I can relate to all of this. So proud of her for speaking out! I wasn’t love bombed like many but looking back he showed intense insecurity but by lying about almost everything. Should have walked away then.
you run and leave in silence !! NEVER GIVE A MAN A SECOND CHANCE TO KILL YOU !!! MY first and last incident was in the 90s I was 19, he choked me with a phone cord ..I left and never looked back.
Stop IGNORING RED FLAGS...INSECURITIE IS THE NUMBER ONE....
FOR REAL
Now is the time to put this in schools and show girls what can be said and done to you before they get into relationships and boys should be shown this too
I agree with you!! I was 17 being with an abuser he was 21😡😡😡 I’m 57 now I think young people should hear firsthand about domestic violence this is REAL!! Those days way back when we didn’t hear about this sort of thing!!😡😡😡so sad!! I would like to go across the country to each & every high school & speak on it(domestic violence) But we are dealing with so much right now Nationally 😢😢😢Something I have been thinking about 😢😢😢😢😢A Survivors Story 😢😢😢😢😢
His ex wfie warned me i thought she was jealous..5 years later i now realise what an idiot i was.
We never know because of love. My ex's wife is calling him an angel now that at least he was only using his mouth and not his fist against me. Lord have mercy.
That’s exactly what you get
@@eazy-ewifedomestic violence is not the victim fault
Now , equally important question to ask is...
How do we help people avoid developing such violent vicious personalities?
It really truly honestly does aggravate me to the point of where I would love to have answers that I didn't receive but I felt entitled to know . I went through 2 very horrible abusive relationships in my entire life . You probably think how could that happen ? Why ? When I dated them at 2 separate times, 2 differently named men (1 that I knew that I was married to & divorced ) . The other I dated, he died of cancer,by no fault of mine . The men never ever showed signs of being controlling,abusive,hateful during our earlier relationships . Once I was with them for any length of time you could say that they hid it from me . But much later on the controlling,abusiveness,hatefulness started .1 of the men laughed at me when I even tried to tell them to treat me right or they would end up losing me . The police were never ever helpful when I spoke of a crack pipe that he had . Meaning they wouldn't check it out . I had no reason to be a complete liar ! If he would've killed me as I see it they wouldn't have given crap about me !
Hello Coleen. Thankfully, God cares for you, sooo much. You're in our prayers, if you can, kindly join us on our channel. We're called to share on abusive relationships and trusting God for a spouse. I was a victim twice, two different relationships
If you or anyone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, you should REPORT it! It is VERY important that violent treatment of humans not be ignored, nor go unreported. Both the victims and the abusers need help to resolve the issues and change their behavior. In some situations there results a death or a damage that is permanent. There should never be shame in getting help for domestic violence and or reporting it. Without records the abuser may go on to beat on other people and or may kill someone. Report Abuse. It can change a life, it could save a life. It is the right thing to do, always.
wow i never thought about the judgement thing. i can understand that.
5:14 is so real. That's all I remember also.
I hope you are doing well and wish you nothing but happiness and peace in your life. ❤️
hey, I know this is very weird but im doing a project for school and i was wondering if you're open to talk about your experience. We can blur out your face. (we can do it over zoom)
How horrifying for a woman to go through...I once had a patient horrify me with a story of people in authority stalking and threatening her...
Yes rebuild your life...
I'm so sorry you went through this. It seems the violence escalated very quickly. My ex was getting verbally abusive. Then he twisted the skin on my arm (like a donkey bite), I left him within 6 months as I caught him with another woman in our home. I guess the things to look out for are red flags like my ex was lying about his own whereabouts and was jealous. I was apparently flirting with his guy friends etc. At least now I know what to look for and hopefully find a genuine nice guy 💚 I hope you have found peace and belonging in the world again. Xxx
I am afraid for some one I knew growning up.. She's with a guy she meet kind of quick and she and he are married.. He appears to be such a stand up guy but he's dangerous.. This young lady is vivacious and friendly ABSOLUTELY beautiful, she's a loving educator and the staff and students love her the same.. She's a shining light.. He has already completely moved her away.. She has gotten involved with someone who is charming on the outside and has the darkest soul on the inside.. God please keep her!! I don't know how or why I can see it and it seems no one else does.. But y'all something is not right!! I just wish I could speak to her but how do I get her to listen.. We are not close friends but our families know each other well and we all love each other.. I just would hate for her to realize the ugliest truth once it's too late... God help me help her!!
Hi Kesjia, I hope you are well. I am worried about one of my friends too. How is your friend doing? I hope she is okay.
Dang! Core Was Completely
EviL, That's A Sign......
Once. ONE TIME - he was taken out of the house & we never live under the same roof again. NO ONE gets by with that shit with me - no one.😡
I DO NOT BLAME HER. I like what Maya Angelou said..."trust people when they tell you who they are the first time"... as soon as she said he made all the decisions for me....I was......OH NO!
Shes so beautiful 😍😍😍😍💘💘💘
Glad you are safe.
These women put Hugh value on how some one makes them feel. Made me feel like queen. Insecurity
It’s funny because the camera thing happened to me and I just realized now that it was not normal ...he said they were for security yet there were nine outside only one out back and he never cared if that one stopped working but if one fell over or was blocked in the house he would call me to fix it
oh no thats awful
The first time I called the police they didn't do anything. The second time I called the police they arrested him and me! By the grace of God I got out it's been two years since the divorce almost 2 years and I still don't have my life back yet.
But u do..maybe by the cops arresting not just him but YOU that was God’s way of giving you that chance that not a lot of women & men go through. It’s been 2 yrs now u say..? Now is the time right now’ to move forward and let it go..you will have doubts and fears but that’s normal and we all do have them but u have to pray more and talk about it with God Almighty..he’s ur maker and creator.
Amen
Domestic abuse happens to men too
Who said it didn't?
Yes, unfortunately :( Abusers come in all races, sexes and economic standing. It is even harder for men to speak on it.
So avoid "charmers"
She's right. There are spiritual forces involved any time your life is being threatened. Pray and God will make a way of escape for you.
Their eyes turn black - you can see the spirit of Satan take control.👹
@@davisholman8149 Yes. I have seen this myself in someone. I let that person go. I also saw someone's eyes glow like the eyes of the children in "Village of the Damned." It was for just a millisecond. I didn't even process what I had seen until much later. I also let that person go. If we are paying attention and in tune with God, we will see things that He shows us in the Spirit. But it must be things that He show us for the benefit of salvation or deliverance. Otherwise, it is sorcery if we try to enter the spiritual without the Holy Spirit. Once God shows us something, we have to act on what He shows us and tells us.
TRUST YOUR INTUITION!!! Amen. Don't brush it off. It'll get back at you. :/
My girls dad used to beat on her mom, one day her mom told him that she would kill him in his sleep...never happened again. She killed him 50 years later (he got dementia and she put him in a home, the homecare neglected him) when she collected on his life insurance.
That was the Jezebel Spirit!!! As soon as you started praying from your heart and soul Jezebel couldn’t attack you again. I’m absolutely 100% sure because the same happened to me.
My gut tells me not to follow my gut
The violence usually starts after the abuser has isolated you from other people. People see what's happening but dont want to get involved because it could make it worse for the victim. Everyone judges victims s of abuse and they dont have the right. They dont have the right to say 'why didnt you just'. When you have no one to talk to who can you go to? There is little evidence so you doubt police will do anything... it's just he said she said thing. And when it does get physical you are thinking if he did that over something like reading a book what is he go na do when I kick him out? How will he try to kill me next time he gets angry?
Who was the dude/abuser?
Gavin DeBecker “The Gift of Fear” a must read.
Stumbled upon this video researching for early signs of emotional abuse. Worried about one of my friends. Her boyfriend was apparently upset because she was taking her time deciding on whether or not to move in with him and during an argument over text messages, She apologized for not being good enough for him, he called her an f word lying b word and then told her that if she said whatever she was trying to say one more time that he would shoot himself in the head right in front of her.
I know that grown people will do what they want, but I asked my friend to please try to first of all NEVER tell anyone that you are not good enough for them, put some distance between she and the guy and to not put herself into a situation where she could possibly be harmed. I was thinking that if he is serious and not just using emotional manipulation and they are one day in an argument in person, he could possibly pull a gun out and not only harm himself but her as well. I advised her to please slow down, talk to a therapist, be alone for a while and work on building a stronger her.
I think my friend feels stuck and is so eager to be in love and have the love that she feels that she needs that although she states the person may be emotionally abusive, she ignores the behavior. I mean in all honesty, I would personally never want to be involved ever again with someone who threatened to kill themselves in front of me. I am sure there have been more instances of this type of talk and demeaning her.
Sadly, I believe that she has now moved to the same town where the guy lives and is possibly living with him. I really pray that she will be okay, but I am so afraid for her. Did I give her the wrong advice to not walk but run away from the relationship, to slow down and seek out the right type of guy? I also told her that no matter how angry someone gets with you even during arguments, mentally healthy people would guard her heart and feelings and never threaten to take their lives.
She is needy & is in danger. That is never going to end well.🤷🏼♀
@@davisholman8149 Thanks for replying. Hope that you are well Mr. Holman. I cannot believe that it has been a year since I posted that. My friend is like a sister to me and I was worried about her. She seems to be doing okay, but I make sure to communicate with her several times per week. Hopefully they are both taking measures to have a healthy relationship.
He was a narcissist. It sounds like he should be in prison for a good long time.
She was worried about her image, most situations is cuz it’s their lives on the line!!!
Dude was a control freak.
My left ear is dead
Get out! Get out!
I wish there were more places for victims of partner/spousal abuse to stay. Right now there’s not enough safe spots to sleep or relax in order to get away from abusers for most men. It’s the streets for many males,and abuse shelters are non existent for them. Every single safe house has been quickly erased from the map if it’s for males, and the founders disappear. You couldn’t get me to sponsor one of them houses for a million bucks. I wouldn’t get to spend it. Screw that. That’s financially and spiritually unequivocally lucrative. Go Rocket’s!
She looks a bit roughed up
i think she's quite pretty tbh
@@laylaandres5118 I totally agree
Totally get it! Nice on the outside...evil on the inside.
It appears everyone is about control these days because of unhappiness or insecurity in their own lives...They will go to great lengths to ruin others in ways they couldn't confess to their gm...They might even have gangs of people supporting them. Dont sabotage yourself. Await justice by responding with happy days and lots of fun recovery and healing. It may or may not come but thats on them if it doesnt.. Leave stressful professions and relationships where people intentionally keep u confused and guessing regarding emotional support. That is what i truly believe now knowing how people intentionally give victims nonanswers in a highly strategic and coordinated way meant to keep you guessing and confused. Until one day PTSD hits and you are out of their control...Switch is off.
I'm not half way through but she thought all his phone calls & text were because he was madly in love with her but he wasn't, he wanted to control was why, then the tracker on her car & being videoed all day at home..... She must've known by then he was more likely mad than madly in love with her
Wow
With so much awareness about domestic violence, you'd think that if someone punches a woman in the face, she'd run for the hills and never look back, but Rihanna has taught us that many women will gladly take a guy back even after he punches them in the face. During an Oprah interview, Rihanna cried and said that she wants Chris back even after he punched her in the face. This twisted female behaviour is hard to understand.
Joseph Bishara The abusers groom the Victims before they ever hit them. Leaving is the most dangerous time for a victim to leave as the abuser feels they have nothing left to lose and will stalk or threaten the victim to regain control
Really, your ignorance is astounding
so you find the 'twisted female behaviour' of not wanting to leave someone you're emotionally attached to hard to understand but yet the twisted male behaviour of beating the crap out of a woman who loves you is understandable? Interesting.
It’s trauma bonding. It’s hard for the victim to understand as well, not just people on the outside.
Lotta time ppl say... it's ur fault! U stay so u must lime it!!!! Ppl r ignorant, whT stupid comments to make!!!
Please don't stay.
Thank goodness that I will not be in abusive relationship. I have police officers that live in the subdivision and I feel safe
Only one God. Jesus!
Did you know that the one thing demons hate the most is the rosary. In every possession that was done by priest they asked the demon what they hated the most and it said the rosary. Mmmm. Im not saying he was possessed but a demon just the same. Evil
Furthermore sum of the comments made on here ,well let's jyst say....u dnt no ur in one, till ur in one!!!! Again# ignorant
Looks tired she know games she played.
You are out of your damn mind. You're probably a psychopath.
She didn't do anything wrong
Domestic violence victims simply showed extreme stupidity and idiocy to have married their bad, abusive spouses to begin with.
Your post shows a complete cognitive dissonance, ignorance, victim shaming, self righteous blaming, lack of compassion, zero emotional intelligence, absolutely NO problem solving skills whatsoever and the putrid need 2 get on a thread as sensitive as this topic is 2 share your useless 2 cents of venom.
@@robyndismon394 damn girl. I couldn't have said that better😊
She wasn't married dumbass.
Blah, blah he was controlling from the beginning. Gifts to sweeten the meat for the beating. There was signs she ignores them and I'm willing to bet coming from Houston he had a criminal history. She playing it down to look bougee and speaking to the public so she can get away playing victim. B. S I don't feel sorry for them kind of women. He was a narcissist and she gave him the power to be comfortable.
Facts💯. Hell, first question the interviewer asked was foolish and the reason why these females always get played. They shouldn’t be observing how the guy treats THEM during “courtship” (if courting is even still a thing)...of course he’s gonna treat you good, he’s wants something from you, everyone has representation when meeting someone new...meaning they never show who they truly are. What ppl should be looking out for is how their potential mate treats others around them. That’s a great indicator on how he will possibly treat you when the “new car smell” wears off. Like you said ppl miss signs early on because majority of ppl esp nowadays are enamored by the external aesthetics of others and/or how tough or outgoing someone is and then confuse the dopamine spike they get by putting Mr/Ms “10/10” on a pedestal as love and affection when in reality it is......NEWSFLASH, infatuation and codependency.
P.S Another tip for you ladies...“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.”
If he abuses you be it physical, emotional, mental etc....it’s not love.
Be safe
That's that thug luv 😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Domestic violence is not a joke
She is so beautiful I would never abuse a gorgeous diamond like her
Shut up, theres always a simp like you. You dont even know her. B!tch might me crazy and annoying af.
Hey people I just discovered another handzie man 👉 Jay Eimaj
Just abuse the ugly ones huh
@@shelocsher2396 Well, every man must have a code... 😂😂😂
@@JayWerx you shut up. at least he aint calling women bitches cornball
These stories are very disturbing, and very upsetting, this man was extremely cruel and Very violent
This was absolutely terrible and Very difficult to watch
I am Glad this Woman Survived this terrible situation and left this very violent situation
Beating up a Woman doesn't make a man tough...
Beating up a Woman doesn't make a man strong...
Beating up a Woman doesn't make a man cool...
Beating up a Woman doesn't make a man a man....
Beating a Woman doesn’t make a man powerful, it instead displays a even Weaker personality of the man.
I believe in the Safety and Well-being Women, Children, and Men
WOMEN Have the RIGHT to FEEL SAFE and BE SAFE
This is a reply post regarding a article on Assault Against Woman:
For what is statistically true, or accurate, and even what is not included statistically, and all other crime such as this is what is ( violence against women) Always unacceptable...
Women have the Right to Feel SAFE and be Safe...
No woman..., or person....child...should ever have to experience this kind heinous personal intrusion in their lifetime, this seems to be occurring at least according to news reports more, and all to often.
Actually this activity should be in a stage, or state of Reversal, and NOT Increasing, I am continually upset as well as greatly disturbed in hearing such stories, as I have always have been...
My Heart Always... goes out to any person which have experienced any such similar experience of intrusion, attacks, and, or invasion of their personal well-being... due violence, and or violent behavior,
I will continue Praying for the Safety and Well-Being of Others...
Keep everyone SAFE
PLEASE BE SAFE
Your Life is important
Advocate of Humanity, Author, Writer, Poet, Safety Advocate
Jason Sandifer,
Michigan
MESSAGE REPOSTED
10/12/2021
Im an abuser and I give my victims the option 2 leave, I will never change 😀👍🏿